Ranking the six human needs In this section of the book I would like to explain how ranking the six human needs in your life from importance standpoint is key. Now that you know the six human needs and a brief description of each need I would like you to rank the needs from one to six on how you value them in your life and in your relationship. You may be saying to yourself, “Michael I have no idea which one I like the best or the fifth best”. If that is the case I want you to take a few minutes and really think about this because once you put a priority on each one you will then be able to take care not only your needs but your partner's needs. Let me give you an example. Personally I always rank my top three needs and the other three normally are pretty close. Right now here is my ranking: 1. Growth 2 Certainty 3 Significance. I would recommend that you not only do this exercise with yourself but with your partner. I would do it separately and then come together and share your rankings. I am willing to bet that if you guys are having issues in your relationship that you aren’t aligned in the same order with your six human need priorities.
Applying the Six HumanNeeds In Your Relationship Now that we have an understanding of the six human needs and how we should be ranking them in our lives to understand ourselves in a more deep level, I would like to talk about how to apply what we learned to improve your relationship. Assuming you took my advice and did the ranking exercise with your partner now comes the fun part! We get to break down each need and how it applies to areas in our relationships. More importantly the areas that we tend to overlook and aren’t on the same page with our partner. Here is an exercise that I want you and your partner to do separately. I want you to take out a piece of paper and write down the six human needs and leave space in between for notes. I want you to focus on yourself and figure out how you feel each need. Here is exactly how it should look: