410 NOTES 5. See Chapter 21. In this passage, I am most grateful for the kind suggestions of Dr. Gyurme Dorje, whose translation ofTheTibetanBookof the Dead, edited by himself and Graham Coleman, was scheduled to be published by Penguin in 1993. 18. THE BARDO OF BECOMING 1. Kalu Rinpoche, The Dharma (Albany: State Univ. of New York Press, 1986), 18. 2. It is said that there are only two places the mental body cannot go: the womb of its future mother and Vajrasana, the place where all the buddhas become enlightened. These two places represent the entrance to samsata and nirvana. In other words, to be reborn or gain enlightenment would bring an end to its life in this bardo. 3. There exist accounts of masters who were able to perceive bardo beings, or even travel to the bardo realm. 4. Chökyi Nyima Rinpoche, The Bardo Guidebook (Kathmandu: Rangjung Yeshe, 1991), 14. 5. This scene occurs in Tibetan folk dramas and operas, and is also reported by the "déloks" (see Chapter 20, "The Near-Death Experience: A Staircase to Heaven?"). 6. Raymond A. Moody, Jr., Reflections on Life After Life (New York: Bantam, 1977), 32. 7. Kenneth Ring, Heading Towards Omega: In Search of the Meaning of the Near-Death Experience (New York: Quill, 1985), 70. 8. It is said that whenever a couple make love, crowds of bardo beings gather, hoping to have the karmic connection to be reborn. One succeeds and the others die of despair; this can occur as the weekly experience of death in the bardo. 9. Fremantle and Trungpa, TibetanBookof the Dead, 86. 10. Vajrasattva is the central deity of the Hundred Peaceful and Wrathful Deities. See Chapter 19, "Helping after Death." 19. HELPING AFTER DEATH 1. See Appendix 4 for an explanation of this mantra. 2. Yet, in the case of a spiritual practitioner who has died, and who sees friends and relatives grasping and insincere after his death, it is possible that instead of being hurt and angry, he might be able to realize that all their behavior is simply the nature of samsara. From this he might generate a deep sense of renunciation and compassion, which could be of great benefit to him in the bardo of becoming. 3. When we ask a master to practice and pray for a dead person, it is a custom to send a donation of money, however small it might be. The donation establishes a tangible connection between the dead person and the master, who will always use this money exclusively to pay for the rituals for the dead, or make offerings at holy shrines, or dedicate it in their name to his or her work.
NOTES 411 4. An answer given by His Holiness the Dalai Lama to a number of questions on death and dying. See Appendix 2, note 1. 5. Traditional practices such as this require training and cannot be followed simply from this book. Certain practices also require transmission and empowerment from a qualified master. I look forward to organizing training programs in the future on the Buddhist approach to death and caring for the dying that will include some of these methods. A simple ceremony and guidance for the dead will then be available, based on the advice of Dilgo Khyentse Rinpoche. 6. The Hundred Syllable Mantra is OM VAJRA SATTVA SAMAYA MANUPALAYA VAJRA SATTVA TENOPA TISHTHA DRI DHO ME BHAWA SUTOKHAYO ME BHAWA SUPOKHAYO ME BHAWA ANURAKTO ME BHAWA SARWA SIDDHI ME PRAYATSA SARWA KARMA SUTSA ME TSITTAM SHRIYAM KURU HUM HA HA HA HA HO BHAGAWAN SARWA TATHACATA VAJRA MAMEMUNTSA VAJRIBHAWA MAHA SAMAYASATTVA AH. 7. Judy Tatelbaum, The Courage to Grieve: Creative Living, Recovery and Growth through Grief (New York: Harper & Row, 1980). 8. From "Dove that Ventured Outside" in The Selected Poetry of Rainer Maria Rilke, edited and translated by Stephen Mitchell (New York: Vintage Books, 1984), 293. 9. Elisabeth Kübler-Ross in 'The Child Will Always Be There. Real Love Doesn't Die," by Daniel Coleman, Psychology Today (September 1976), 52. 10. Raymond A. Moody, Jr., Reflections on Life After Life (New York: Bantam, 1977), 112. 20. THE NEAR-DEATH EXPERIENCE: A STAIRCASE TO HEAVEN? 1. Bede, A History of the English Church and People, translated by Leo Sherley-Price (Harmondsworth, England: Penguin Books 1968), 420-21. 2. In George Gallup Jr., with William Proctor, Adventures in Immortality: A Lock Beyond the Threshold of Death (London: Souvenir, 1983). 3. Kenneth Ring, Life at Death: A Scientific Investigation of the Near- Death Experience (New York: Quill, 1982), 55. 4. Ring, Life at Death, 63. 5. Margot Grey, Return from Death: An Exploration of the Near-Death Experience (Boston and London: Arkana, 1985), 42. 6. Melvin Morse, Closer to the Light: Learning from Children's Near- Death Experiences (New York: Villard, 1990), 115. 7. Grey, Return from Death, 47. 8. Michael Sabom, Recollections of Death: A Medical Investigation of the Near-Death Experience (London: Corgi, 1982), 66. 9. Ring, Life at Death, 59. 10. Grey, Return from Death, 46. 11. Grey, Return from Death, 33.