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Season’s Readings!

Somebody on your gift list has a sense

of humor. So wrap up “I Told You So” by

Kate Clinton, because you know it will be

a welcome present. This collection of

essays is one of those books that will make

your giftee call you to read passages

aloud. Better yet, just borrow it back in

the New Year.

If you know a child who loves dressup,

then pick up “10,000 Dresses” by

Marcus Ewert, illustrations by Rex Ray. In

this book, a little boy dreams of beautiful

dresses and even though Bailey feels like a

girl, everyone tells her otherwise. This

cute book is perfect for questioning kids

ages 4 to 7.

If you’re looking for something very

unique for someone on your gift list, look

for “In Jupiter’s Shadow” by Gregory

Gerard. This is a true story about secrets,

devoutness, and what happens when

someone pokes them both to learn more

about himself.

The music fan on your gift list will definitely

want to read “Deflowered: My Life

in Pansy Division” by Jon Ginoli. An inside

Gift ideas

for book lovers

story of the first openly gay pop-punk

band in America, it will appeal to anyone

who played air (or real) guitar. Hint: wrap

it up with a new CD or concert tickets.

Do you have a Drama Queen on your

gift list? If so, give him (or her) more

drama by wrapping up “The Collected

Plays of Mart Crowley.” This book contains

six complete plays, including “The Boys in

the Band” and it will make your theater

lover smile.

If your giftee loves a novel experience,

then be sure to give “Lois Lenz, Lesbian

Secretary” by Monica Nolan. This novel is,

well, it’s about a lesbian secretary and the

world of working women with passionate

desires. Do I need to say that it’s humorous?

Do I need to say that this is a book

you give, if nothing but for the hilarious

title and cool cover? More gifts to look for:

“Where the Girls Are”, edited by D.L. King,

(an anthology of lesbian erotica), and

“Verge” by Z Egloff (a quirky story of love,

bad decisions and filmmaking). ◗

read more: q-notes.com/qliving

— by Terri Schlichenmeyer

22 NOVEMBER 28 . 2009 • QNotes

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General Gayety

by Leslie Robinson . Contributing Writer

Waiting on the outcome

My girlfriend Anne and I reached the point

in our relationship where we wanted to make

it official. Also, her employer wanted proof

that she and I are really a couple and she hadn’t

put me on her insurance because I looked

pretty.

Here in the state of Washington, same-sex

marriage is illegal, so making it official means

domestic partnership. We filled out the requisite

forms and had them notarized. I deposited

the envelope with the documents into a

mailbox.

On Election Day. I don’t know if it was an

act of whimsy or masochism.

As you’ve likely heard, Washington was

voting on whether to expand the domestic

partnership law. Anne and I didn’t know, when

we submitted the papers, whether we would

be receiving some of the rights of domestic

partnership or all of them.

It was like buying a grab bag at the dollar

store.

Anne goes crazy when she reads exactly

what I just wrote, that the vote was over

whether to expand the state’s domestic partnership

law. In fact, the legislature had

expanded the law earlier this year; scaredy-cat

religious conservatives responded by getting

Referendum 71 on the ballot, which asked voters

whether to approve or reject the legislature’s

action.

There. I’ve explained that the referendum

was actually about taking away rights we’d

been given. Now Anne will be happy and there

will be peace in my domestically partnered

household.

Washington got the domestic partnership

ball rolling in 2007, allowing same-sex couples

all of 23 rights and responsibilities. In

2008 the legislature added over 170 more. In

2009 it added about 285 rights and responsibilities,

bringing domestic partnership level

with marriage.

What a peculiar mixture of pride and

unease I felt dropping the partnership forms

in the mail. Would Anne

and I have the rights of

2008 or 2009? It wouldn’t

have surprised me if the

cast of “Rocky Horror,”

dressed in postal uniforms,

had jumped out

from behind the mailbox to do the “Time

Warp.”

Our ability to take care of each other was,

in doubt, thanks to a campaign led by a man

on his third marriage and another man with a

history of unpaid taxes who lives in Oregon.

Don’t beam me up, Scotty — beam them up

instead.

With our rights to be decided by the electorate,

all Anne and I could do was wait. And

wait some more, thanks to Washington’s mostly

mail-in ballot system. Finally, it became

clear that our side had won and Anne and I

were about to become industrial-strength

domestic partners.

In signing off on the “everything but marriage”

law, Washington voters became the first

in any state to approve a gay-rights ballot

measure. The evergreen trees in the Evergreen

State should stand a little taller today.

However, we were clearly a state divided.

Every county east of the Cascades rejected

expanding the law. In fact, only the counties

huddled around Puget Sound voted correctly.

Something in the water, indeed.

I don’t know precisely how I would’ve

reacted had the outcome been different. I’m

not the type to do an interpretive dance

around the Space Needle — more likely I’d

have spewed a colorful stream while walking

the dogs.

I’m filled with sympathy for Mainers devastated

by the vote on same-sex marriage in

their state. Like us, their state government had

passed a law and reactionary citizenry had

reacted with a ballot challenge. Unlike us,

they’d achieved the dizzying height of marriage,

so their fall was great.

California, Maine, Washington — each

granted rights, only to see some residents try

to snatch them back. With all this moving forward

and being yanked back, this phase of our

struggle calls for a neck brace. ◗

info: LesRobinsn@aol.com . www.GeneralGayety.com

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