Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes


Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes

Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes

qnotes Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012


Jan. 21-Feb. 3, 2012

Vol 26 No 19


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6 HRC Carolina Gala

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Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes


Friends, this is my last issue as editor

of qnotes, a position I’ve had the honor and

humble privilege to hold now for nearly

four-and-a-half years. As you read, my time

with the paper has already come to an end.

On Jan. 3, we announced my resignation

and planned transition to a new position at

another organization, an announcement you

can read on page 5 of this print edition. My

last official day on the job was Jan. 20.

Transitions are always difficult — at least

for me. I’m a creature of habit and routine.

Uncertainty and the unknown of the future

make me uncomfortable. But, looking back

over these past years of service to this publication

and to this community, my nerves are

calmed. We’ve come a long way and I with it.

In the summer of 2007, I received word

from a dear friend that my predecessor,

David Moore, was stepping down from his

role here. My friend encouraged me to apply,

though I had my doubts. Never in a million

years did I think I’d become your editor.

editor’s note

by matt comer


This is not ‘goodbye’

“I’ll get to meet

the publisher,”

I told myself.

“Perhaps, I’ll get

a regular opinion

column out of it.”

Weeks later, I

sat in qnotes’ office

with our publisher,

Jim Yarbrough, and

associate editor, David Stout. After a bit of

conversation and questioning, Jim and David

left the room. It felt like an eternity, though I

know it was just minutes.

The two came back into the conference


“We’d like to offer you the job,” Jim said.

With that, my life changed forever.

I’ve made a multitude of new friends and

acquaintances over the past four years. I’ve

come to know a great many of our community’s

wonderful, tireless and selfless leaders,

volunteers and activists. I’ve enjoyed each

and every day of my work, its privileges and

challenges equally rewarding. Above all, I’ve

cherished meeting and conversing with this

publication’s loyal readers and supporters.

Your stories, thoughts, opinions and experiences

have helped to shape this publication’s

vision, direction and future and they have

added immeasurable value and lessons to my

own life.

Together, we have accomplished great

things, despite the fate handed down to us.

As I began my work here, the print news

industry began facing some of its most

daunting challenges. LGBT print media,

too, were facing perplexing questions. The

economic collapse — later dubbed the

“Great Recession,” though historians will, no

doubt, have the final word on nomenclature

— wrought a great deal of damage to our

profession. As other mainstream and alternative

news publications folded or became

mired in the complexities of our new media

and economic landscape, qnotes remained

steady. We’ve had our struggles, but, through

sacrifice and risk-taking change, we have

had so many more triumphs.

As I prepare to leave, there are a number

of items upon which I hope posterity will

take favor. I hope qnotes continues to forge

ahead into the future and grow its online

presence and readership, now the largest

local LGBT news source in the Carolinas.

I hope qnotes continues to build on its 25-

year legacy as a strong voice for progressive

and LGBT news and thought. Finally, I

hope the paper comes fully into its own and

successfully traverses the still-rocky road

that is 21st century newsmaking.

Each of our successes is a testament to

this newspaper’s dedicated staff and team

of contributing writers and to our community

and our readers. I cannot be more grateful

and appreciative of my staff’s hard work and

of your loyalty.

I leave the paper in more than capable

hands and am very much excited to witness

the future growth of this publication under

new leadership.

But, I will miss you and I will miss the

daily work to which I’ve grown accustomed

over these past years. The life and times of

QNotes have been part-and-parcel of my own

life in nearly inextricable ways. Here, I have

grown both personally and professionally.

Here, I hope I have left a mark and a legacy.

There’s never any easy or comfortable

way to say, “Goodbye.” That’s why I refuse to

say it. This isn’t a goodbye; to the contrary, it

is merely the beginning of a new chapter in

this paper’s history and in my life as well.

Here’s to the past. Here’s to the future. It’s

been a wild and phenomenal ride. And, I look

forward to seeing what tomorrow has to hold

for you, for me, for this publication and for our

beloved community.

P.S. — I welcome the opportunity to work

with each of you in the future in new and

exciting ways. I hope you’ll follow me in my

new endeavors. You can follow my personal

commentary and other writings at my blog,

InterstateQ.com or contact me via email at

matt@mattcomer.net and by phone at

704-625-6449. : :


general gayety

by leslie robinson

qnotes contributor

Perry and Lawrence v Texas: Oops!

Rick Perry jumped into the Republican presidential race

in August and a spate of verbal blunders followed. The Texas

governor is on gaffe-ing gas.

He flubbed the voting age, the date of the 2012 election,

the number of justices on the Supreme Court and the name

of Justice Sotomayor. Perry infamously blustered during a

Republican debate that he would do away with three cabinet

agencies, then couldn’t remember the third. On that occasion,

Gov. Goodhair, as the late columnist Molly Ivins called the

impeccably coiffed Perry, went flat and lifeless.

Recently, Perry explained to Iowans the need for the

Keystone XI pipeline, saying, “Every barrel of oil that comes out

of those sands in Canada is a barrel of oil we don’t have to buy

from a foreign source.”

I hear a line of beavers has taken up a defensive position on

the Canadian side of the border.

Now we can add to Perry’s record another sinkhole where

knowledge should be, this time

concerning a matter of major

importance to the LGBT community.

In Cedar Rapids, an audience

member at a campaign event

asked Perry about Lawrence v.

Texas, the 2003 landmark Supreme

Court case that struck down the

sodomy law in Texas and nullified

such laws across the U.S.

As far as Perry was concerned, he might as well have been

asked about Ali v. Frazier.

“I wish I could tell you I knew every Supreme Court case. I

don’t. I’m not a lawyer,” Perry responded, according to National

Journal. After the event, Perry told a reporter he didn’t know

what the case was.

That’s incredible. Lawrence v. Texas began shortly before

Perry became Texas’s lieutenant governor and the Supreme

Court heard and decided the case while he was governor.

This case began in Texas, affected Texas law and concerned

his cherished conservative social values. It gave us

gays the right to diddle each other with impunity, for heaven’s

sake. Yet, Perry couldn’t remember it.

What will he forget next? The Alamo?

ABC News blogged that in Perry’s 2010 book, “Fed Up!

Our Fight to Save America from Washington,” he referred

to Lawrence v. Texas as one of the cases in which “Texans

have a different view of the world than do the nine oligarchs

in robes.”

Apparently, at one time, Perry did remember the court case.

And, the number of justices on the Supreme Court. Or, at least

his ghostwriter did.

Maybe he has to learn so much these days — like the name

of North Korea’s late dictator is Kim Jong-Il, not “Kim Jong the

Second” as Perry dubbed him — that facts he previously knew

are falling out of his head to make room. Anybody standing

near him should look out for falling objects.

Back at the Blue Strawberry coffee shop, after being asked

about the Lawrence case, Perry changed the subject: “We

can sit here and, you know, play ‘I gotcha’ questions on what

about this Supreme Court case or whatever, but let me tell you,

you know and I know the problem in this country is spending in

Washington, D.C. — it’s not some court case.”

Actually, we have a number of problems in this country. One

of them is a Texan who believes he should be president even

though his brain shoots blanks.

As it happens, John G. Lawrence, one of the two plaintiffs

in Lawrence v. Texas, passed away in November. I have every

confidence that when someone mentioned to Perry that John

Lawrence died, the governor responded, “Poor Eydie. Now

who will she sing with?” : :

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qnotes Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012


Editor Matt Comer

steps down

Comer leaves to take new position with Campus Pride

by qnotes staff

CHARLOTTE — On Jan. 3, qnotes announced

the resignation of editor Matt Comer,

who stepped down from his position after

more than four years of service on Jan. 20

to pursue new opportunities

with local, statewide and

national LGBT communities.

“As with any transition

in life or business, saying

goodbye can often be bittersweet,”

said Jim Yarbrough,

publisher of qnotes. “While

we are sad to see Matt leave,

we wish him well on his

future endeavors and have

been excited to tackle the

transition to a new editor.”

A native of Winston-

Salem, N.C., Comer was hired

as qnotes’ editor in October

2007. His more than four years

of service at the newspaper

saw a flurry of successes

and innovation. In April 2008,

Comer oversaw the revitalization

of qnotes’ website, shepherding

it into the 21st century

with new content management technologies

that allowed the paper to publish breaking

and regular news reports and features online.

Comer also oversaw the publication’s new

social media strategies, creating qnotes

first social networking profiles on MySpace,

Facebook and Twitter.

Today, qnotes reaches thousands of

readers and community members via social

media and its website, goqnotes.com, which

receives an average of 20,000 unique visitors

each month — making qnotes, by far, the most

read local LGBT arts, entertainment and news

publication in print or online in the Carolinas.

Also during his tenure, Comer’s insight

and experience in local and state community

affairs helped to further establish qnotes as

the primary, go-to source for progressive

advocacy journalism and politics coverage

on behalf of LGBT North Carolinians. He also

aided in the creation of several important

formal and informal partnerships between

the publication and other community institutions,

including qnotes’ recent partnership

with The Charlotte

Observer’s Charlotte

News Alliance.

“More people today

read qnotes than at any

time in its remarkable

25-year history,” said

Comer. “I’m proud to

have helped develop

qnotes’ new media successes

and humbled to

have worked with such

a brilliant team of staff

and contributing writers.

I’ll remember fondly the

memories I’ve made

here and cherish them.”

Comer added,

“Though I am departing

qnotes, I will remain a

committed advocate for

the LGBT communities

of Charlotte and North

Carolina. I’m looking forward to my continued

community involvement in the Queen City and

in this great state, especially as our community

faces the anti-LGBT constitutional

amendment in May.”

Comer is a recipient of the South Carolina

Pride Movement’s 2008 Ed Madden Media

Advocacy Award. In November, he was

named Equality North Carolina’s “Equality

Champion” for the Charlotte region.

Comer began work on Jan. 23 as the new

communications and programs manager

for Campus Pride, a Charlotte-based national

non-profit that works to create safer campus

environments for LGBT college and university


Comer is succeeded by O’Neale Atkinson,

who moved to Charlotte from Columbia, S.C.,

six months ago. Atkinson also serves as administrator

of The LGBT Center of Charlotte. : :

After more than four years of service

as qnotes’ editor, Matt Comer stepped

down from the position on Jan. 20.

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Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes


HRC Gala is around the corner:

Are you on board?

National group, local steering committee to award leaders, organizations

compiled by qnotes staff

The Human Rights Campaign North

Carolina Gala is swinging into town the

weekend of Feb. 23-26. With it comes a variety

of statewide and national leaders, activists,

entertainers, philanthropists and other movers

and shakers. Are you on board?

This year’s Carolina dinner makes a return

from Raleigh, where it was hosted in 2010 and

2011. Slated for the evening of Saturday, Feb.

25, the event will be held at the new Crown

Ballroom at the NASCAR Hall of Fame.

There, the national organization

will present its Visibility Award

to openly gay CNN anchor

Don Lemon.

Local award

winners include

Rev. Debbie Warren,

executive director

of the Regional AIDS

Interfaith Network (RAIN),

who will be receiving HRC’s North Carolina

Legacy Award for her years of devoted service

to RAIN, those affected by HIV/AIDS and

to the LGBT community.

As director of RAIN, the only non-profit

in Charlotte providing direct client services,

Warren has helped to engage more than 100

congregations from 20 different denominations

and faith traditions in working to help

those living with and affected by HIV. She’s

also provided more than 150,000 total hours of

service to the community, served 900 HIV-positive

clients and reached tens of thousands of

community members in education outreach.

“We are thankful and grateful for those individuals

and groups that are creating equality

in our communities,” HRC North Carolina

Gala Steering Committee Awards

and Scholarship Chair Aaron

Parker said in a release. “It is

our pleasure to honor them for their hard work

and dedication.”

Longtime HRC volunteer and HRC Board

of Governors member Scott Bishop will be

honored as Volunteer of the Year. Two organizations

will also share in the spotlight. The

Farewell to Summer Foundation, which presents

Charlotte’s White Party each September

and the LGBT Center of Raleigh will be honored

with the Equality and Trailblazer Awards.

The annual dinner event and its bevy

of weekend activities aren’t all for fun and

games, though. In addition to the parties

and honors, HRC will be reiterating its

mission and commitment to equality and to

North Carolina, which faces an anti-LGBT

constitutional amendment vote in May.

“HRC has contributed $100k to the effort

thus far and will be setting up its own North

Carolina PAC so that HRC supporters can

contribute directly to the effort to defeat the

amendment,” Gala Co-Chair Rich Hurley

said in a recent email to supporters.

The weekend will also give

young people the chance to learn

more about what it means to be a

leader and take action in the LGBT community.

The Charlotte-based national

non-profit Campus Pride has partnered with

HRC to present its two-day “LEADER I AM

— Carolinas Leadership & Action Summit.”

The conference provides students ages 18-25

the opportunity to engage with LGBT and

ally national, statewide and local community

leaders, hone organizational, leadership and

advocacy skills as well as develop strategic

partnerships across the Carolinas.

“Campus Pride is proud to partner with

HRC on this state-wide leadership summit to

support LGBT and ally youth in the Carolinas,”

says Shane Windmeyer, Campus Pride executive

director. “Understanding social justice,

Debbie Warren Photo Credit: RAIN

activism and leadership are key to educating

a generation of new leaders for equality

— and the summit will do just that.”

Youth applications for the summit are still

available and include acceptance to the summit

and a free ticket to the HRC Gala. Learn

more online and download application forms

at hrccarolina.org.

Other details about the event, including

its weekend-long slate of day- and night-time

activities have yet to be announced. For more

information, visit hrccarolina.org. : :

qnotes Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012


news notes:

from the carolinas, nation and world

compiled by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com | David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com | Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Project to tour state

RALEIGH — The Vote Against Project will

be taking to the super slab during the next

few months

to photograph


who wish to

defeat the antigay


on the May 8


Outraged by

the harm that

the passage

of the amendment


create, Raleigh


Curtis Brown

began the initiative with a host of volunteers.

The project aims to “create a portrait of North

Carolina unity — connected by a common

bond to defeat discrimination.”

Participants will be decked out in shirts that

say “Vote Against!” Brown and his team will

choose one image per person or group to post

to the website to share with the community.

Free photo shoots will take place in the

following cities through February: Jan. 24,

Raleigh, Talley Student Center, North Carolina

State University, 11:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m., 4:30-7:30

p.m.; Jan. 26, Raleigh, Busy Bee & The Hive,

225 S. Wilmington St., 4-9 p.m.; and Jan.

28, Raleigh, Pullen Memorial Church, 1801

Hillsborough St., 12-6 p.m. Other cities which

are on the tour, but which have locations left

to be determined are: Feb. 17, Durham; Feb.

11, Wilmington; Feb. 23, Greenville; and sometime

in March, Charlotte. Other venues will be

announced when they are added to the list

during the campaign period.

The team consists of Brown, project

managers Shannon Ritchie and Ryan Smith,

graphic designer Carl Broaddus, recruitment

coordinator Lydia Kinton, web developer

Rishish Pandey, stylist Dustin Slemp and online

community coordinator Jeffrey Vizcaino.

To make contributions to the project or for

more information, visit voteagainst.org.

— L.M.


Center to present film series

CHARLOTTE — The GayCharlotte Film

Series has announced its upcoming threepart

“Breaking In: The Business of Movies”

schedule. It is a project of The LGBT Center

of Charlotte.

On Jan. 28 at the Actor’s Theatre, 650 E.

Stonewall St., enjoy the road-trip documentary

and civil rights odyssey, “Hollywood to

Dollywood,” with Goldsboro filmmakers Gary

and Larry Lane. The twins will host a Q&A

after the screening. Admission is $10 at the

door, $8 for students. Everyone who comes

dressed as Dolly Parton gets in free. A lookalike

contest will be held both before and after

the movie showing with prizes. Doors open at

6:45 p.m., and the show starts at 7:30 p.m.

“Meet Ben Zook” will be screened on

Feb. 18 at a location to be announced. Partner

and director Joe Dietl will explain how Zook

broke into the Hollywood screenwriter major

leagues by selling the screenplay “Jack and

Jill” to Adam Sandler. This film made Logo’s

“Click List, Best of LGBT Shorts.”

On Feb. 21, the Charlotte Business Guild will

partner with the film series to present “Home

Grown,” a conversation with local LGBT filmmakers.

The location will be forthcoming.

Oscar Night at the center will round out

the events on Feb. 26. More details will be

made available later.

For more information, visit


— L.M.

Community training slated

CHARLOTTE — The Communicable

Disease Branch of the N.C. Division of Public

Health and other community partners present

the first Minority AIDS Initiative/Men Who

Have Sex With Men (MAI/MSM) Community

and Provider Training Conference, Feb. 5-7,

at the Charlotte City Center Marriott, 100 W.

Trade St. It brings together representatives

from HIV care, treatment and providers, along

with members of the community that are affected

by HIV disease.

Registration is free but required and covers

all training conference meals. Seating and

attendance is limited.

For more information, visit northwestahec.


— M.C.

Foundation extends deadline

CHARLOTTE — The Wesley Mancini

Foundation has extended its deadline for

application submissions for the 2012 grant

season until April 2 so that organizations that

are interested can have more time to develop

their proposals.

Only federally-tax exempt organizations

or those with tax-qualified sponsors will be


Interested parties who wish to receive a

grant application should contact Bob Scheer

at 704-335-5404, ext. 402, or by email to


— L.M.


Film addresses HIV heartbreak

RALEIGH — “Absolutely Positive,” a

dramatic short film that follows four characters

from different walks of life as they get

tested for HIV, will be premiered at red carpet

screenings at Club 313, 313 W. Hargett St. on

two dates, Jan. 25, 8 p.m., and Jan. 29, 5 p.m.

The film is a project of Second Glance

Productions and it received assistance from

the Human Rights Campaign, The Alliance

of AIDS Services-Carolina and Healing with

CAARE of Durham.

Writer/director Anthony Williams was inspired

to create this work from his own personal

experiences revolving around HIV. He hopes

that it will bring awareness and humanity to the

important worldwide health issue of HIV. He

sees the film as one that breaks preconceived

stereotypes, reaches beyond the boundaries of

sexuality, gender and race and one that shows

the real effects of HIV on real people.

Guests will be treated like movie stars

with candid paparazzi and giveaways

throughout the evening. Tickets are $5, cash

only, and will be available at the door. All ages

are welcome. Cash bar available for those 21

years old or older.

For more information, visit secondglance


— L.M.

Chorus heads west

RALEIGH — The Triangle Gay Men’s Chorus

has announced its plans to attend the GALA

Choruses International Festival in Denver, Colo.,

in July. In order to get ready, it has extended an

invitation for those who sing first and second

tenor, baritone and bass to join them.

Open rehearsals will take place in

February. One must be 18 and over and both

gay and straight men may apply

For more information or to express interest,

email membership@tmchorus.org.

— L.M.


Foundation nears goal


Foundation has reached approximately 70

percent of its $50,000 2011-12 spring grant

fundraising cycle goal and are asking the

community to help them raise the additional

$15,000 it needs to sustain its work.

This January’s Jumpstart Challenge ends

Jan. 31. The foundation board hopes that a

significant number of people will contribute

$15 to make their mark.

“Allies and Friends” window decals will

be sent to every donor during the challenge if

address is provided.

For more information, visit


— L.M.


Hazing death may be bias-based

TALLAHASSEE, Fla. — On Nov. 19, 2011,

Florida A&M University student Robert

Champion Jr. (pictured) was found unresponsive

aboard a band bus after the school’s biggest

game of the year. Police ruled the death

a homicide from hazing. However, the recent

revelation by the parents of the victim, a 26-

year-old drum major in the university’s famed


band, that

their son

was gay has

added a new



response to

the news,

the National

Black Justice Coalition, the nation’s largest

Black LGBT civil rights organization, has

called on the U.S. Department of Justice’s

Community Relations Service and Civil Rights

Division as well as the U.S. Department of

Education’s Office for Civil Rights to launch

an investigation into the slaying as a potential

anti-gay hate crime.

Sharon Lettman-Hicks, the head of the

NBJC, said, “Anti-gay violence is not only

a civil rights issue; it is a Black issue. It is a

Black issue because violence against gay and

transgender individuals is disproportionately

affecting our Black youth. The civil rights

community can no longer stand on the sidelines

while our sons and daughters continue

to suffer in silence. Mr. Champion is one of our

own and his death will not be in vain.”

— D.S.

Rep. wants state DADT law

OKLAHOMA CITY, Okla. — Rep. Mike

Reynolds (R-Oklahoma City) says he will push

for a state law that is a more extreme version

of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” when the state

government’s new legislative session begins

Feb. 6. The proposed measure would bar gay,

lesbian and bisexual individuals from serving

in the Oklahoma National Guard. The bill goes

beyond the bias of the now-repealed federal

statute by allowing officials to directly question

someone about their sexual orientation.

Laura Belmonte, chair of the state LGBT

rights group The Equality Network, said,

“Mike Reynolds has a long-standing history of

representing fringe views that rarely have the

best interests of all Oklahomans at heart. This

legislation is demoralizing to Oklahoma’s LGBT

community and our supporters, and it sends a

message that it is acceptable to discriminate

against people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual

or transgender.”

— D.S.

Stonewall Dems name new E,D.

WASHINGTON, D.C. — Jerame Davis has

been selected as the new executive director

of National Stonewall Democrats. He had

been serving as the group’s interim director

since late 2011. Before joining the staff, he

was vice president of the Indiana Stonewall

Democrats affiliate and was actively involved

in Democratic politics in the Hoosier state.

In addition to serving in the leadership

of many Indiana LGBT organizations, Davis

has consulted for a variety of clients on using

technology for better organizing and messaging.

He is also the co-founder of a popular

national LGBT politics and culture website,

The Bilerico Project.

— D.S.

Employers ranked for gay support

LONDON, England — Equality group

Stonewall has published its Top 100 Employers

2012 ranking, showcasing Britain’s best

employers for lesbian, gay and bisexual staff.

Ernst & Young tops the list. In second place

is the Home Office and Barclays comes third.

British national security agency MI5 secures

a position on the Top 100 for the first time, and

is one of 25 new entries.

According to reports, the 2012 Index was

compiled using the most demanding criteria to

date, introducing new weighting for global employers

that support LGB equality worldwide.

Accenture claimed the award for

Employee Network Group of the Year and the

Department of Energy and Climate Change

was named Most Improved Employer.

— D.S.

Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes


Winter Wonderland

Events, activities and travel opportunities to

brush off the winter blues

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

The cold, dreary winter keeps pushing on.

It’s time for spring, you exclaim. Too bad winter

still has weeks left to go. True, we’ve had a

pretty mild winter so far, but that doesn’t mean

some of us aren’t still yearning for the return

of those bright, warm and cheery spring

and summer days. Luckily for us, Charlotte

and the rest of the Carolinas is just a stone’s

throw away from some of the hottest and best

winter getaway locations in the southeast.

And, if you’re the kind who enjoys the cold

winter weather, there’s still plenty of options

for you, too.

—————— • ——————

Soaking up the sun

If you’re a lover of summer and just can’t

wait ‘till May, June or July for all the hot

beach action, head down south to Miami

Beach. Each year, the National Gay and

Lesbian Task Force hosts its Winter Party,

where over 10,000 people flock for good

music, good drink and beach dance party fun.

The event, featuring a wide array of parties

and receptions, includes international DJ

entertainers and more. What’s better is that

the event began as a fundraiser and charity

dance in 1994 and continues to this day

to provide much-needed funds for The Task

Force and a variety of South Florida LGBT and

HIV/AIDS non-profits.

This year’s Winter Party kicks off on Feb.

29 and runs through March 5. DJ entertainers

include Montreal’s Alain Jackinsky, Denver’s

Alyson Calagna, New York’s Billy Lace and

Brett Henrichsen, Brazil’s Felipe Lira and a veritable

who’s who of others, including gay party

faves Hector Fonseca and Joe Gauthreaux.

Activities include dance parties each night

of the event, pool parties and special events

for women and art and shopping events. The

event’s host hotel is Miami and South Beach’s

Surfcomber. Event passes range from $75

for women’s events and $125 for the “New

Generation Pass” for youth ages 21-25 to the

all-inclusive “Titanium VIP Pass” for $590.

For more information, visit winterparty.com.

—————— • ——————

Sunny days

If you’re looking for sun, but want to avoid

the large-party atmosphere of Winter Party,

you’re in luck. qnotes took a look at the warmest

locales that offer up some of the best gaygetaway

experiences. Take a gander at any of

these cities — the 10 warmest in the U.S. during

January — and what they offer if you’re

looking for a few-day escape this winter.

City (Average Monthly Temp. (°F), January)

New Orleans, La. (52.6)

Jacksonville, Fla. (53.1)

Phoenix, Ariz. (54.2)

Long Beach, Calif. (57)

Los Angeles, Calif. (57.1)

San Diego, Calif. (57.8)

Tampa, Fla. (61.3)

Vero Beach, Fla. (63)

Miami, Fla. (68.1)

Honolulu, Hawaii (73)

—————— • ——————

Frigid frivolity

Not everyone is a lover of summer. In fact,

there’s quite a few of us who are just fine with

the cold. Whether you like skiing, ice skating

or just cozying up in a warm room with a

roaring fire, you’ve got plenty of options this

winter. Below, the list of the 10 coldest, major

cities in the U.S.


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Timberfell Lodge offers camping and lodging

for men seeking solitude or camaraderie.

Hiking and other activities, including dining

and regularly-planned activities can keep

you busy, or, if you choose, you can do nothing

at all!

In Georgia, the Carolinas’ neighbor to

the south, getaway-goers have two options.

The Parliament Resort and Social Club in

Augusta offers gay men the opportunity to

steal away while meeting new friends. The

resort includes 70 rooms with selections of

one or two queen, one king or two full beds.

In rural Dewy Rose, Ga., River’s Edge is a

private, membership-only camping facility

which offers free-range camping sites,

lodges and cabins.

Starlite Trailer Lodge

5955 Globe Rd. Lenoir, NC



The annual Winter Party in Miami Beach brings together some of the hottest guys and DJs to South

Beach’s hottest hotels, pools, bars and clubs.

Photo Credit: Elvert Barnes, via Flickr. Creative Commons.

City (Average Monthly Temp. (°F), January)

Minneapolis-St. Paul, Minn. (13.1)

Des Moines, Iowa (20.4)

Chicago, Ill. (22)

Albany, N.Y. (22.2)

Cleveland, Ohio (25.7)

Pittsburgh, Pa. (27.5)

Columbus, Ohio (28.3)

Providence, R.I. (28.7)

Salt Lake City, Utah (29.2)

Boston, Mass. (29.3)

—————— • ——————

Kickin’ it ‘round the


If you don’t want freezing and you don’t

want hot, your best best will be to stay

home. The greater Carolinas region has

plenty of mountain getaways for gay and

gar-friendly campers.

Tucked in the Globe Valley near the

Pisgah National Forest south of Blowing

Rock, N.C., Starlite Trailer Lodge covers 75

acres and offers riverside campsites and

bathhouse facilities.

To the west, the Greenville, Tenn.,

The River’s Edge

2311 Pulliam Mill Rd., Dewy Rose, GA



Parliament Resort

1250 Gordon Hwy., Augusta, GA



Timberfell Lodge

2240 Van Hill Rd., Greeneville, TN



— Mark Smith contributed

Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes


Dearest Trinity,

Why do gay people and straight people think about monogamy

so differently?

Monogamy Dilemma, Las Vegas, NV

Dearest Monogamy Dilemma,

Monogamy means different things at

different times to different people. Ever

since Stonewall the gay community has

been forced into re-evaluating monogamy

morally, politically, culturally and spiritually.

And, baby, since gay people are different

than straights, monogamy will have a different

meaning. That’s one of the beauties of

being gay. Just saying!

Hello Trinity,

I really don’t believe in voting. It’s minorities

being controlled by the majority.

There’s so much corruption anyway. Voting

doesn’t help!

Taking A Stand, Columbia, SC

tell trinity

by trinity

qnotes contributor

Is there more than

one rule?

Hello Taking A Stand,

Long ago, before voting, one group would

go to war with another and whomever had the most soldiers

left alive would take power. Some countries never change

governments without bloodshed, and America is not one of

them — so be proud. And, yes, darling, all governments have

corruption, but voting makes it possible to have some balance

or control over the corruption. Voting has made being gay

in 2012 very different than in 1972! Please vote! (My cartoon

shows you how to join up!)

Dear Trinity,

On TV the other night Jennifer Lopez was wearing a

shirt exposing everything but her nipples. When is too

much enough?

Too Much La Clivage, Spokane, WA

Dear La Clivage,

Topless women are very normal in Europe and quickly

undressing our American shores. Although Women’s Lib

may seem historic, it’s still going strong. In New York City

they passed a law, “If

men can go topless

in public then so can

women.” Pumpkin,

the best thing to do

with change is try to

accept it as quickly as

possible! Ah, the joys

of growing older.

Hey Trinity,

Recently, while at a

party, I met this couple

who talked excessively

about Republicans

and Jesus. Eventually,

I had to be rude and

walk away. They were

appalled! When is it

the right time to walk


Not Wrong But Rude, Peoria, IL

Hey Not Wrong But Rude,

Being a big party go-er, I can sympathize. In my life, honey,

I’ve found there are times when being polite means pulling

your hands off their throat and walking away.

Here are some examples.

Trinity’s Wise Tips For Knowing

When To Walk Away

1. You’re finally found a parking spot when suddenly a 300

lb., truck-driving redneck, displaying a shotgun in the back

window, takes your spot!

2. As a waiter you’re taking an order from a couple who

begins verbally fighting with each other, when one grabs a

steak knife.

3. On the celebration of your first year with sobriety, your new

roommate throws you a booze and bong party.

4. You find the man you’re about to marry is in bed with the

man you just divorced. Put the gun down and walk away.

5. Refusing to eat the gourmet dinner you spent all day preparing

specifically for her, your mother-in-law says, “This meal

isn’t fit for humans, sweetie!”

6. Your straight friend, whom you keep telling you’re gay, sets

you up on a blind date with the opposite sex!

7. On the first day of Chanukah, sweet, innocent carolers

come a knockin’ at your door singin’, “Jesus is the way!

Praise Jesus with us!” Shut, don’t slam, the door!

8. The really cute guy, who’s been buying you drinks all night,

returns from barfing in the bathroom and now wants to

French kiss!

9. As you’re sitting in front of the pizza parlor, late at night,

alone, six punk teenagers start harassing you about the

Jewish star on your neck and the rainbow flag on your hat.

10. Lastly, it’s 2 a.m. and you just finished singing a two-hour

jazz set, when someone sneaks backstage to endlessly express

a problem they had with one of your advice columns

they recently read! : :

— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was

host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,

and now performs globally.

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out in the stars

by charlene lichtenstein

qnotes contributor

January 21 - February 3

The Sun sparks a change as it moves into

rebellious Aqueerius. Our hopes and dreams

catch fire. But, don’t sit around and wait for a hot

delivery. Don your asbestos gloves and grab the

glowing coals.

AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) The joint is jumping

and so are you. The cosmos casts you as the

new shooting star in the immediate universe.

Aqueerians have some great ideas and must

express them at every opportunity. Some of your

gems will do more than just sparkle — they will

radiate. However, your idea for a nude aquatic

rodeo is perhaps a bit before its time.

PISCES (02.20-03.20) Happy is the Guppie who

can tap into their sixth sense. Rub a crystal ball

(anyone we know?) and see what you divine during

this particularly prescient and intuitive phase.

If you can conjure a few new moves, you can

advance your personal agenda to new celestial

heights. Don’t bump your head on the ceiling of

limited imagination. How high is up? You tell me.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) Friends seem to crawl out of

the woodwork, attracted by your great ideas for

a full range of wild and intense adventures. You

become awash with invitations and trawl with a

large prideful posse. How will you maximize and

maintain your sudden surge in popularity? Let

your actions provide the grease. Rubadub proud

Ram. Don’t slide off your perch.

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls are entrenched

careerists, but sometimes make

foolishly naive political decisions that can

derail or detour their professional success.

Thank goodness you now gain greater strategic

insights and an iron gut. You become the shark

rather than the bait. Concentrate and contemplate

the corporate corpus. Then make your

move. Shark attack!

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) The world beckons, pink

Twin. Plan the perfect getaway. Your ideas can

lead to a fabulous adventure. If your budget or

vacation time is tight, you might try to expand

and enrich your immediate surrounding to make

it more exotic and interesting. You think that

staying close to home is a blessing in disguise.

Heck, why not get a new disguise?

CANCER (06.22-07.23) Your mind turns to sex and

more sex. Gay Crabs know exactly what they

want and who they want it from. And, they sit

around. And, they think about it. And, they talk

about it — the assorted angles, the machinations,

the wherefores, whys and hows. Enough

already! Now, go out and get ’em! Or, are you all

thought and no action? Let’s hope not.

LEO (07.24-08.23) Proud Lions hanker for connection.

Relationships enter a new, more intense

phase where the right words can be spoken and

passions ignite. But, don’t waste this energy on

light, flirty banter. It is time to speak from the heart

and soul. Get to the core. Looking for a connection?

Strike a match and see who becomes

inflamed. Then bring it to a rapid boil, lover.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) What is it about the job that

suddenly seems so riveting and interesting? It

is politics, not projects. Queer Virgins think that

they are very clever and adroit and can adeptly

maneuver through the daily morass. Will you

delegate your more distasteful projects onto

unsuspecting drones? Try not to. Those who

pass the hot potato today eat it in the lunchroom


LIBRA (009.24-10.23) There is a burning, churning

energy inside of you. Proud Libras become

creative savants or the ultimate party hearty

hounds. Will you dip into your paintbox or your

party favor kit? Ideas and opportunities are

plentiful and your juices are flowing. So, ply

whatever your trade is and make some masterpieces.

Er, make ‘em do what?

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) There are several domestic

scenarios that are in dire need of a change of

direction or even a complete upheaval. Change

is apace. Plan your new landscape from the

comfort of your living room Lazy Boy. But, are

you lounging alone, queer Scorp? Hire a nubile

gardner to help you plant a few seeds. Do I see

something sprouting?

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Gay Archers are

goaded into expressing their opinion across

a variety of subjects. Anything you say now is

brimming with passion and who can resist? But,

don’t just go out and blow around the hot air. Be

sure that you have an agenda and a plan of action.

You only have a short window to move the

masses. Occupy anything.

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps are usually

fairly acquisitive. They love to surround

themselves with objects of beauty. Now, your

greedy need for stuff borders on obsession. Lock

up your credit card and hold off on any major

purchases, pardner. Before you know it, you are

surrounded by a carnival of camp and a truckload

of trash. Hmmm, on second thought. : :

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Reserved. Entertainment.

info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for

e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My

book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For

Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is

available at bookstores and major booksites.

Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes 11


drag rag

by miss della

qnotes contributor

Lawzie mercy, I’m here,

there, everwhere!

Well, Happy New Year, kiddies. My, my, my — 2012 is off

to a great start. Life is truly great and I’m ready for some good

drag and some good pageantry as well. Please forgive me for

not having a picture this time, as I wanted to have a promo of

Chelsea Pearl and/or Daesha Richards, our Continental PLUS

and Elite divas. I’m trying to do it in order of having won national

contests, so that of course means coming up will be Luscious

and Kirby Kolby. I was asked earlier why I had not already done

an interview with both ladies and you know, that’s a great question

— I have to get on that. Miss Lulu is half-way through her

reign, damn! And, doing a fine job, I’m told. She was just in New

Hope, PA for Miss Pennsylvania, where they always put on a

great show. Former Miss Continental Domanique Shappelle

won and Tiffany Richards was her runner-up. Luscious appeared

locally at Miss South Carolina U.S.ofA. on Thursday

evening, Jan. 19 at Scorpio. Hope you came on out and

supported “our girl.” I thought her comments in the most

recent Integrity newsletter about being a good bit taller

than her king, Mr. U.S.ofA. GQ, were hilarious. He’s a tiny

little fella, but so damned finger-lickin’ good.

Tickets have just gone on sale for the national contests

of Miss Gay U.S.ofA. and Gay U.S.ofA. Classic. Let’s do

plan on going out to see Luscious and Catia Lee Love give

up their respective titles. Talk about two good queens.


A former Miss U.S.ofA. at Large, Stacey Holiday (or should

I say her creator Chad?) is up to creating other stuff. Many

know that he has his own baking business with his life partner

Edward and Chad is now being featured on the TV show,

“America’s Next Great Baker.” I have to tune into that soon,

as we go waaaaaaaaay back. Seems they’re always winning

“Best of” in the Dallas area for the gorgeous and mouthwatering

work they do. Send me some cookies, sugar!

Imagine the fun London Dior and I had early last month

when we attended a Cajun Country Christmas at the shops at

1111 Central. London got all dolled up and had her picture made

as Ms. Claus (maybe a granddaughter?) with the party attendees.

We enjoyed gumbo with the folks from Paragon Salon and

shopped at Green With Envy — what sights and smells! It’s just

candle heaven, hunny! A lovely contribution was made to my

charity, Children International, that I support my two Honduran

sons through. I can assure you, both of them had a fabulous

Christmas thanks to these folks.

I’m told by my good sis Alyson Thomas that the date is set

for another Carolina Continental (yes, in Miami again — that

is where the owner lives) for Feb. 20 and the night before in Ft.

Lauderdale they’ll have Miss State of Florida. Can’t wait! I’m

sure our Miss Continental Alexis Gabrielle Sherrington is still

beaming over her Labor Day win. I know her first prelim was

Ohio and Kiarra Fontaine won with RU Genesis.

I hear a special Christmas show took place several weeks

ago in Houston, TX at the F Bar. One of my favorite icons, Hot

Chocolate, was the guest entertainer and just like around these

parts for a pageant, the queens came out of the woodwork

to see her. Jerry Bird, Tasha Kohl, Bubba McNeely and Dina

Jacobs were among the luminaries, along with former Miss

America Coco Montrese who works with Proud Larry out in

Vegas. This is what you call legendary, folks.

I wanted to mention the Don’t H8 contests that are quickly

approaching in Winston-Salem at CO2. I ran up to see the Mr.

on Jan. 15 as Tucker Wood gave up his title. Then they’re doing

see Drag Rag on 15

12 qnotes Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012


on being a

gay parent

by brett webb-mitchell

qnotes contributor

The Test Ahead

I am bewildered already by the blizzard of emails I receive

daily about the upcoming vote (May 8, 2012) on a constitutional

amendment in North Carolina that would further restrict and

solidify what it means to be married in this state. I’ve been talking

about the vote since both houses of the General Assembly

voted upon its passage in September 2011. It is an amendment

that would not only outlaw marriage among LGBTQ people,

but civil unions among LGBTQ and straight couples alike.

Meanwhile, non-profit organizations waited until a few months

after the vote to get the ball rolling in terms of publicizing the

harms of this amendment. Perhaps, this was because it would

be hard to sustain an eight-month long campaign or that the

electorate’s attention span is so short that starting any earlier

would reap little in terms of benefits. I was all for a statewide

educational campaign right after the General Assembly’s vote.

Educating people in small-town North-Carolina, visiting

churches, schools and town hall meetings as an out gay

Presbyterian pastor, dad and partner was what I offered.

But, I found no venue or interest among other activists to

make this happen.

It is now 2012, and the emails and mailings are offering

opportunities to attend rallies, be part of dinner events and

have photos taken of people proud to identify with the LGBTQ

community. These events serve a purpose as they are meant

to raise funds, passion and interest in defeating the amendment

vote. However, my concern is not with the number of

people attending the rallies, dinners, and photo sessions per se,

but in two other areas: education and registering people to vote

on May 8, 2012.

Educationally, outside the metropolitan areas (which will

more than likely defeat this bill, albeit it by various margins),

the people of this State tend to be social conservatives.

This has been highlighted by people like Raleigh News and

Observer’s Rob Christensen who point out the many ways

that North Carolinians tend to be more conservative when it

comes to the social issues of the day, like drinking alcohol, the

lottery and the equality of women and African-Americans. The

way real change comes about is through educating people

as to what are the issues before all of us, both pro- and con.

One way to educate straight people as to what it is like to be

an LGBTQ person in North Carolina is to ask straight people

to take this test, designed by columnist and blogger Andrew

Sullivan. Try living one day without tipping anyone to the

fact that you might be a heterosexual person or couple. You

can’t mention your husband, wife, boyfriend, girlfriend, kids,

anything to do with them. No pronouns used, no social-life

discussed that could reveal anything about your heterosexual

orientation. Try it for a day or two. “And you’ll see what it feels

like to be an LGBTQ person, and the psychological energy

required to do that for a lifetime,” writes Andrew Sullivan.

After taking this test, along with grabbing or creating

any other educational moments, it is imperative that we get

people out to vote against the amendment. I, for one, am

hoping that former Massachusetts Gov. Mitt Romney will

have already be voted upon as the Republican nominee for

president by May 8. This will help depress the vote of some in

North Carolina. But, it is important to not only be registered,

but to get out the vote. The lives of many LGBTQ and straight

couples in North Carolina are depending upon a “no” vote on

this amendment. The test ahead is a matter of life out of the

closet for many LGBTQ parents, couples, or individuals, or

pushing more people deeper into the unhealthy environs of

closet living. : :

qomunity qonexions u

Jan. 21-Feb. 3 . 2012 qnotes 13

Ask Dr. C…HIV and healthcare advice

Helping to keep you in the know with up-to-date information

by Frederick Cruickshank ~ Medical Director

After many installments of “Ask Dr.C,” this

is yet another opportunity to offer our readers

information about HIV from basic questions to

in-depth explanations. We are still receiving

many of your questions and are working hard

to provide responses to as many questions as

possible to provide information for you and the

community. The questions have provided us a

forum to debunk myths and remove stigma from

those living with HIV and AIDS. It is important

to educate yourself, get tested, and protect yourself.

We appreciate every question we receive!

Dr. C looks forward to responding to as many

emails as possible.

I have heard that men who are circumcised

do not get HIV. Is it true that

circumcised men are protected against

getting HIV?

— Matt from Rock Hill

Matt, this is absolutely not true. While there

has been medical research that has suggested

circumcised men may have a lower rate of

HIV transmission through heterosexual sex, it

has not been proven. Even so, it would only

show that they have a slightly lower rate of

infection. Men who are circumcised still are at

risk for contracting HIV and STDs. It is always

important for all men, whether circumcised

or uncircumcised, to engage in preventative

measures to ensure they have a healthy life.

This includes wearing protection during sex

and getting tested regularly for STDs/HIV at a

local clinic. Rosedale does provide both HIV

and STD testing! Please feel comfortable to set

up an appointment at our office by calling us at

704-948-8582. It is also important to keep an

open dialogue with all of your sexual partners

to discuss any concerns you have.

I have received several emails lately

with a warning that people are putting

HIV infected needles in movie seats

and infecting others. Is this true and

should I avoid going to the movie


— Whitney from Charlotte

Whitney, I have heard of this rumor circulating

lately. According to the CDC, the rumors

are false and to date no one has been infected

with HIV from a needle in a movie theater seat.

For HIV infection to take place this way, the

needle would have to contain infected blood

with a high level of infectious virus. If a person

was then pricked with the infected needle, they

could become infected. But, there is less than a

1% chance of this happening, according to the

CDC website. It is important to note that sharing

needles while participating in injection drug

use is a leading cause of HIV infection in the

U.S. We encourage all of our readers to protect

themselves and refrain from illegal drug use

and sharing needles. Programs have been set

up to provide communities with clean needles

by exchanging in old used ones. However,

Whitney, I think it is safe to say you are going

to be fine visiting any of your local theaters.

Please do not let this rumor keep you from seeing

a new movie!

I have heard that there is such a thing

as feline HIV. Can I become infected

with HIV/AIDS from contact with an

animal such as a dog or cat?

— Kortni from Concord

Kortni, the answer to your question is, no.

You cannot become infected with HIV or AIDS

from contact with animals including pets. HIV

stands for Human Immunodeficiency Virus and

as the name implies it only affects humans.

HIV cannot be transferred from a human to

pet or vice versa. There is such thing as Feline

Immunodeficiency Virus (FIV) which affects cats

in a similar way that HIV affects humans. Yet, it

is a different virus and cannot be spread from

cat to human. If you are concerned your cat

may have FIV or want to know how to protect

your pet from the virus you should talk to your

local vet. Your pets do not put you at greater

risk for contracting HIV or AIDS, so it is fine to

spend time with them as many of us do.

Always remember that this is an advice

column based on your questions and the best

possible knowledge out there. We need your

questions to help educate the community, so

email them to info@rosedaleid.com and be

sure to include a first name and location. All

respondents will remain anonymous. We will try

to do our best to answer, educate and inform

from your responses to this column.

Don’t forget to visit our website

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Don’t stop!

Musical comedy hits the Queen City

Amy Steinberg

Bombastic singer-songwriter Amy Steinberg brings her one-of-a-kind brand of musical comedy to Petra’s in several performances over the

next several weeks, including a Jan. 27 performance night and a three-night run of her one-woman show, “Oh My God Don’t Stop” on Feb.

4, Feb. 11 and Feb. 25. In the show, Steinberg plays several characters, including a Jewish grandmother exploring her sexuality, a reverend

with a penchant for innuendos and the Lord herself, who sings songs celebrating the holy gift of homosexuality. Both sacred and profane,

Amy explores the topics of spirituality and sexuality, exploring the many connections that exist between the two. Jan. 27, 8 p.m.; Feb. 4, 11

and 25, 7 p.m. doors/8 p.m. show. Petra’s Piano Bar, 1919 Commonwealth Ave.

For more information visit petraspianobar.com or amysteinberg.net.

Jan. 21 • Salisbury

Brent Childers

Brent Childers, executive director of Faith in

America, will speak at a regular meeting of

the Salisbury-Rowan PFLAG. Haven Lutheran

Church, 207 W. Harrison St. 10 a.m.-noon.

Free. salisbury-pflag.org.

Jan. 22 • Charlotte

Speakeasy Sundays

Come and join us for Charlotte’s newest Jazz

experience. Speakeasy Sunday’s at Petra’s

Piano Bar features Leah Palmer-Licht (Vocals)

and Harvey Cummings II (Piano). A mix of

jazz standards and new favorites! Every

other Sunday; upcoming performances on

Jan. 22 and Feb. 5. Petra’s Piano Bar, 1919

Commonwealth Ave. 704-332-6608.


Jan. 24 • Greensboro


GSAFE presents a special screening of the

documentary “Straightlaced: How Gender’s

Got us all Tied Up,” a fearless look at a highlycharged

subject unearthing how popular

pressures around gender and sexuality are

confining American teens. Carousel Luxury

Cinemas, 1305 Battleground Ave. 7 p.m.

336-327-7499. contact@gsafe.org.


Jan. 27-March 24 • Charlotte


“Converge” features renowned artists

Quisqueya Henriquez and Sonya Clark and the

pieces they created while in residence at the

Center. Exploring themes of identity and inclusion,

the work showcased in the exhibition

will represent a convergence of art, history

and diverse cultures. McColl Center for Visual

Art, 721 N. Tryon St. Hours vary by day. 704-

332-5535. mccollcenter.org.

Jan. 28 • Charlotte

Breaking In: The Business of Movies

The LGBT Community Center’s GayCharlotte

Film Series presents a special screening of

the documentary, “Hollywood to Dollywood,”

followed by a Q&A with twin filmmakers and

Goldsboro, N.C.-natives Gary and Larry Lane.

A Dolly Parton look-alike contest will take

place before and after the movie showing.

Actor’s Theatre of Charlotte, 650 E. Stonewall

St. 6:45 p.m. $10/general. $8/students. Free/

Anyone dressed like Dolly Parton.


Jan. 28 • Charlotte

LGBT prayer

The LGBT-inclusive Bridge Initiative of

Charlotte 24-7 begins a special prayer meeting,

“SOAK,” for LGBT community members of

faith, to be held on the fourth Saturday of each

month. First meeting on Jan. 28. 512 E. 15th St.

7 p.m. Free. charlotte24-7.com.

Feb. 2-18 • Charlotte

‘Most Fabulous Story’

Queen City Theatre Company presents Paul

Rudnick’s reinterpretation of the creation

story featuring an Adam and Steve and Jane

and Mabel. A percentage of proceeds will

benefit the 2012 Human Rights Campaign

North Carolina Gala. Duke Energy Theatre at

Spirit Square, 345 N. College St. Various times.

$16-24. 704-372-1000.


Feb. 4 • Charlotte

Rugby 101

The Charlotte Royals are looking for players

and supporters as we kick off our 2012

Spring Season with Rugby 101! Join us at

Cordelia Park as we engage in some fitness

and rugby fundamentals. What? You haven’t

played rugby before? That’s OK because we

will teach you the game. We welcome all

men regardless of skill level. We just ask that

you bring an open mind and a willingness to

be taught the game. Water will be provided.

Cordelia Park, 2100 N. Davidson St. 1-4 p.m.

Free. charlotteroyals.org.

Feb. 5-7 • Charlotte

Community HIV training

The Communicable Disease Branch of the

N.C. Division of Public Health and other community

partners present the first MAI/MSM

Community and Provider Training Conference,

bringing together representatives from HIV

care, treatment and providers, along with

members of the community that are affected

by HIV disease. Registration is free but

required and covers all training conference

meals. Seating and attendance is limited.

Charlotte City Center Marriott, 100 W. Trade

St. Register online at northwestahec.wfubmc.


Feb. 9 • Charlotte

‘Legalize Gay’

Campus Pride and a host of sponsoring organizations

present the Charlotte film premiere

of “Legalize Gay,” a new documentary that

captures the courage and conviction of a new

generation of activists — gay and straight

— as they campaign, often in parts of the

country hostile to gay and lesbian rights, for

LGBT equality in marriage, non-discrimination

in sports and at work, same-sex sex education,

standing up to bullying and forging inclusive

college campuses. Petra’s Piano Bar,

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1919 Commonwealth Ave. 7 p.m., reception.

7:30 p.m., showtime. Free. campuspride.org.

Feb. 10 • Charlotte

Bishop Gene Robinson

The Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN)

kicks off its 20th anniversary celebration with

a special night with former New Hampshire

Episcopal Bishop V. Gene Robinson. Location

TBA. 7-10 p.m. $30, including beer, wine and

light hors d’oeuvres. carolinarain.org/bishop.

Drag Rag

continued from page 12

a Miss (for “real” girls) on Feb. 5, then the drag

one, DIVA, on Feb. 19. I know a few celebrities

are appearing at these contests, like the

Britney impersonator Derrick Barry and Jason

Dottley from “Sordid Lives.”

In closing, I dedicate this column to

two dear queens who passed around the

holidays. First of all, Ms. Robin Dupree,

whom I met and judged at Continental PLUS

years ago, then saw her again at EOY a few

years later. This was a sweet person, and

she could work a stage, baby — especially

a dramatic number. Her “All By Myself” by

Eartha Kitt had me in tears. It just tore me up.

If she was the Queen of Drama, then surely

the “Queen-in-Training” was that little baby

Sasha Valentino. Sasha passed the day after

Christmas and the news just broke my heart.

This diva who would give you clothes every

year at Continental will be sorely missed in

her adopted home of Chicago and all around

the country. Ladies, serve it up at the big

show in the sky like I know you can. : :

info: Drop me a line, OK?


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