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Utreach - OutreachNC Magazine

Aging Outreach Services


Vol. 3 Issue 11


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utreach NC

Navigating all your lifestyle choices

Thankfulness for

family caregivers

North Carolina

Best Dish Winners

Gravy & Rhett's

At home with

bestselling author

Margaret Maron


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Happy November!

This has to be

the most beautiful month of fall

color to drive around the region distributing

all of the magazines. I try to make sure

I take it all in before I have to wait for

another year. It is amazing that the last two

months of 2012 are already upon us. We

have many reasons to be thankful.

In the spirit of Thanksgiving, November

is National Family Caregivers Month, and

it would be hard to think of anyone more

deserving of thanks than the caregivers

among us. Three organizations in our

area are honoring caregivers with

recognition and awards. The Potters

Hands, Family Caregiver Award in Lee

County and the 2012 Caregiver Awards of

Moore County each pay tribute to some

special caregivers. With OutreachNC as a

sponsor of the Moore County event, I had

the opportunity and honor to meet and

interview three amazing and dedicated

individuals. I hope the stories of all those

recognized might prompt you to take the

time to say a special thank you this month

to any caregivers you know.

If the farm-fresh pumpkin pictured above

has you thinking of Thanksgiving Day, you

are not alone. We go down on the farm

to David's Produce in Ellerbe. Growing

produce practically year-round, this couple

always has the best of what's in season.

Using the freshest, local ingredients

is what the Best Dish in North Carolina

restaurant competition is all about. The

first place honors for both casual and

fine dining are restaurants right here in

our region, Gravy in Raleigh and our very

own "Cooking Simple" columnist Rhett's

in Southern Pines. We got to see and

taste how these winners incorporate the

best of what local farmers have to offer

into their menus.

If you are up for a holiday treat, the

Apex Historical Society is ready with their

From the Editor

annual Holiday Home Tour.

We meet one couple whose

renovated historic farmhouse is among

the tour stops that are filled with ornate

decorations and holiday goodies.

Another holiday favorite is Carolina

Ballet's "The Nutcracker." We sit down for

a Carolina Conversation with the ballet's

founding artistic director Robert Weiss for

an insider's look into this classic and learn

how he fell in love with the performing arts.

Moving to the literary arts, we meet

North Carolina's own bestselling author

Margaret Maron. If you haven't read one

of her books, they are hard-to-put-down,

whodunit mystery novels with her popular

character Deborah Knott with settings in

our state. Maron shares why Johnston

County is her home sweet home.

Two veterans, one from World War I and

the other from World War II, called Moore

County their home. Two dedicated men

have been instrumental in memorials at the

Gilliam-McConnell Airfield in Carthage and

are now working on a museum to preserve

the stories of these local heroes.

And in honor of Veterans Day this month,

observed Monday, Nov. 12, we cannot

say thank you enough to all veterans for

their service to our country. We meet the

Veterans Services director in Cumberland

County, whose goal is to help veterans

receive the benefits they so deserve.

With old rivalries like Army vs. Navy, N.C.

State vs. Carolina, or my Florida State vs.

Florida games, this is football weather.

"Game On" remembers the great Demon

Deacon Brian Piccolo, and we even talk

fight songs in "Sentimental Journey."

I hope you enjoy reading this and every

issue as much as we enjoy bringing it

to you. Thanks to all of our readers and

advertisers, and we wish you all a very

Happy Thanksgiving! Until next month...


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Inside this issue

Ask the Expert..........................6

Belle Weather

by Celia Rivenbark..................7

N.C. author

Margaret Maron

page 22

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Honoring Caregivers

page 28

Consumer Beware.................48

Cooking Simple.....................21


Game On!...............................18

Grey Matter Games................46

Literary Circle..........................8

Medicare Update......................9

Money Matters.......................26

Over My Shoulder..................50

Carolina Ballet's

Robert Weiss

page 36

Veteran Benefits

page 44

Planning Ahead.....................10

Ragan Writers Series

at Weymouth Center.............47

Senior Moments....................12

Senior Shorts Guest Writer

Margaret Maron excerpt from

"The Buzzard Table"


Sentimental Journey.............13

Spirituality & Aging...............20


Cover Photography by Rebecca Heeley

©English Rose Photography

David's Produce

page 14

Apex Holiday

Home Tour

page 38

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Best Dish Winners

page 40

War Memorials

page 32

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Q: My mother has

been living with

us for over a year.

When she first moved in, she

was fairly independent and

was able to help me with the

kids after school. She had a

stroke three months ago and

now needs assistance with

daily care as well as meals.

I do not know how long I

can continue to balance work

and care for my mom, and I

feel my stress level mounting.

What can I do to cut down on

my level of stress and still care for my mom?

A: One of the most important aspects of caregiving

is knowing when you need a break, when you

are overwhelmed and when more resources are

needed. Your ability to recognize your increased stress

is a great first step. Some things that a caregiver should

monitor are:

• Physical signs – changes in sleep patterns, digestive

problems, changes in appetite, dry mouth and racing

heart beat;

• Emotional signs – being tearful without an apparent

Ask the Expert


Our experts

will answer any

aging questions

you might have.

Fax your questions

to (910) 695-0766 or

e-mail them to


Amy Natt, MS, CCM, CSA

Geriatric Care Manager

919-535-8713 • 910-692-0683


cause, anger, agitation,

irritability, anxiety, apathy,

fatigue and laughing at

inappropriate times or


• Behavioral signs –

neglect of personal care

or grooming, neglect of

family relationships or

responsibilities and changes

in routine habits, interests or

activity level.

Managing stress and

burnout is what enables

you to sustain your role as

a caregiver and provide the best care possible for your

mom. If your health deteriorates, you will be of little

assistance to your mom or your children. It will no doubt

impact your work performance as well. Caregivers,

who feel they have to choose between caregiving and

employment or the ability to care for their own nuclear

family, often experience increased stress and guilt. The

change in your mom’s medical condition has triggered

a need for increased care and assistance. This is a

time to bring in reinforcements and implement a plan

for increased support. If you have not already gathered

information on community resources, start by finding

out what type of respite care services are available. You

can talk to neighbors or church members as well as a

professional such as a care manager. Check out adult

day programs and in-home care support services. Talk

to your local department of aging about transportation

or meal services. There are also emergency response

systems that allow your mom to call for help when you

are not home.

Ultimately, you need more support for yourself and the

ability to make informed decisions about how to provide

the care your mom now needs. Set some guidelines for

yourself, outlining what you realistically can and cannot

do, then start to fill in the gaps with the combination of

family, volunteer and paid services that will meet her

additional needs. Make sure your family and your medical

provider know how you are feeling. Seek out a support

group to find other adult children who are facing similar

situations, “sandwiched” between care for a parent and

care for children. Lastly, talk to your employer and find out

if you have any flexible options for your work schedule and

responsibilities. Actively identify and manage the stress

you are experiencing, and you will be on the right path. It

can be a difficult process and emotional roller coaster, but

getting the support and additional resources in place will

give you and your mom that safety net you need.

Of women and whales

The first sentence in a recent news story made

me want to wash my eyes out with vodka.

"Scientists have been hard pressed to

explain why menopause happens so early in humans;

there's no obvious evolutionary advantage to having

your reproductive system shut down decades before

the rest of your body."

Well, sure there is. I would "evolve" into a complete

lunatic if I had to shop for diapers in wildly different

sizes every week, churning out babies well into my


Yes, in all of the animal kingdom, it turns out that

only killer whales and human females lose their

ability to reproduce decades before they die.

I did not know this.

When I read it, I let out a long, low whistle, which

is the sound my sistah whales make all the time now

that I think about it.

Researchers think whale menopause evolved to

reduce competition between different generations of

reproducing women in one family.

But more interesting than that is this little nugget:

Killer whale moms care for their sons well past the

male whale's 30th birthday, and data proves that if

the mom isn't around, Sonny Boy whale is 14 times

more likely to die within a year.

I suppose living in the whale family basement

playing Resident Evil 6 loses its appeal after mom

stops bringing the bacon sandwiches downstairs.

Oh, wait. That doesn't make any sense. Whales

don't eat bacon.

Turns out, male whales "struggle to survive" without

their mama's help.

I suppose this is because, without her, there is

no one around to remind him that no one he dates

is good enough for him and, really, must he hang

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around those sperm

whales all the time?

They're a bad influence.

Research suggests

that the mama whale

is so protective of her

son because she "wants

him to give her lots of Belle Weather

grand-whales." Yes.

That's exactly what the

scientists said: grand-whales.

Strangely, girl whales' survival isn't affected by the

mama whale dying.

Scientists have an answer for that, too. They think

it's because once the daughter whale grows up, she

leaves home and goes on the road with a band and

forgets everything her mother ever tried to teach her

about how "nothing good can come from staying out

past midnight."

Well, not in so many words but the idea is that girl

whales take up with their partner's family and pretty

much do their own thing. Even then, it's hard to be

in a whale relationship because his mama is always

sitting on the metaphorical couch between them.

If the daughter-in-law whale tries to bring home

a nice piece of urchin, or whatever, the mama

probably shrieks at her: "You know he's allergic to

starfish! You could've KILLED him."

There's still no word on how menopause affects

the health of the whale moms but, from my own

experience, I'm guessing more blubber around the

middle. Oh, and a crabby attitude.

Rivenbark is the New York Times bestselling author of "You

Don't Sweat Much for a Fat Girl." Visit www.celiarivenbark.

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Book Reviews: The Cove

& Paul Newman, A Life


friend and fellow book club

member hails from the

North Carolina mountains.

She recommended Ron Rash's

new book, "The Cove." I am glad

I read this one because Rash is

poetic, and his writing gets right

to the heart of the matter.

A native of Appalachia who

teaches at Western Carolina

University, he weaves a tale of

a lonely brother and sister, Hank

and Laurel Shelton, who live in a lonely, isolated valley

homestead that their parents toiled over for years and

where light rarely enters.

Laurel is considered a witch and is shunned by

classmates and townspeople alike because of a prominent

birthmark. Hank sacrificed an arm to service in World War

I, but he attempts to get the home in order for his sister as

he intends to marry and live outside the area.

A stranger enters the picture. Laurel nurses him from

multiple yellow jacket stings. He romances her with beautiful

music he plays on a silver flute. The stranger gives Laurel

hope of a life outside the cove, but many developments

hinder this. Read the book. Rash is a writing genius.

“Paul Newman, A Life” by Shawn Levy made me realize

why I have always been a fan of the blue-eyed movie

star. I loved the author’s meticulous depiction of him as a

young man. His dreamy blue eyes were discovered to be

color-blind when he went in service. He wore a rumpled

white seersucker suit while peddling encyclopedias

when he was a struggling young actor. He became part

of “New York in the 50s,” when he moved with his first

wife to Staten Island in 1954. He met his second wife,

Joanne Woodward, while rehearsing “Picnic” and with

her created a marriage that spanned decades.

Definitive about his work, he achieved a separation of

his public life from his private one. He never abandoned

his family although he knew he was not cut out for the

family business. His philanthropy is well known as is his

interest in racing.

I found it

interesting that Levy

never met Newman

but painstaking

research produced

his rendition of a

favorite of Tinsel


Literary Circle


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Medicare Update

Medicare information.

That’s why they worked

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By its simplest definition, the fiscal

cliff refers to the potential abrupt

slowdown in the U.S. economy

that could occur in 2013 if taxes rise and

government spending falls, as is currently

scheduled. According to the Committee for

a Responsible Federal Budget, the magnitude

of the pending tax increases combined with the

spending cuts that will start to hit the economy

on Jan. 1, 2013 equates to a $6.8 trillion federal deficit

reduction over the next 10 years. The complication arises

when the trade-off becomes dampened economic growth

over the short term, leading to a further drag on a weak

economic recovery.

The fiscal cliff has a number of complicated and

controversial economic topics. Here is an overview:

The Bush tax cuts—the lower tax rates in effect

• for the past decade—are scheduled to expire at

the end of 2012. Republicans believe the Bush tax cuts

should be extended for all taxpayers. Democrats believe

they should be extended only for middle- and lowerincome

families. President Obama reportedly has said

he will veto any further extension of the Bush tax cuts

for upper-income families. Expiration of these tax cuts

would increase the top tax rate on ordinary income from

35 percent to 39.6 percent, increase the tax on dividends

from 15 percent to 39.6 percent, and increase tax on

long-term capital gains from 15 percent to 20 percent. In

addition, the current top estate tax rate of 35 percent with

a $5.12 million per person exemption would be replaced

with a top rate of 55 percent and a $1 million exemption

(www.irs.gov - Pub. L. 107-16).

The employee portion of the Social Security tax

• rates that were lowered to 4.2 percent in 2011 will

To help finance 2010 health care legislation, Congress

• approved a new 3.8 percent Medicare contribution

return back to the prior 6.2 percent at the end of 2012.

tax on unearned (investment) income to take effect in

January 2013. To the extent a married couple's (filing

joint) modified-adjusted gross income is above $250,000,

(or $200,000 for individual taxpayers), taxable investment

income such as interest, dividends, capital gains, rents

and royalties will be subject to an additional tax of 3.8

percent. This additional tax will not apply to non-taxable

What is a fiscal cliff anyway?

income such as tax-exempt

municipal bond interest or

to amounts withdrawn from

qualified retirement plans and

IRAs. This unearned income

Medicare contribution tax is

intended to raise revenue for

the pending health

care reform.

Planning Ahead

To help further

• offset the cost of

providing health insurance to millions of Americans, this

new law imposes an additional 0.9 percent Medicare

tax for upper-income households. Under current law,

wages are subject to a 2.9 percent Medicare tax with

employees and employers each paying 1.45 percent. But

effective 2013, employees with wages above $200,000

for individuals and $250,000 for married couples filing

jointly will be taxed an additional 0.9 percent, bringing

their total Medicare tax to 2.35 percent.

The compromise reached last August to increase

• the national debt ceiling (thereby allowing the United

States to avoid defaulting on Treasury securities) calls for

cuts in discretionary government spending of $2.1 trillion

over ten years, including about $1 trillion of defense cuts.

The bulk of these cuts is slated to begin in 2013.

No legislation needs to be passed in 2012 for these

tax increases and spending cuts to take effect in 2013. If

Congress fails to stop the implementation of the current

legislation, the higher taxes and lower spending are likely

to cause a significant slowdown in the economy, at least

the first half of 2013, as projected by the Congressional

Budget Office report; (Source: Economic Effects of

Reducing the Fiscal Restraint That Is Scheduled to Occur

in 2013, Congressional Budget Office, May 2012).

Regardless of who wins the presidential election, let’s

hope both parties are willing to negotiate a compromise

before the end of the year.

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Visit Southern Pines

Nov. 19 - Dec. 31

Parade of Christmas Trees

Decorated Christmas trees light up

downtown Broad Street for a festive

ambience for the holiday season.

Saturday, Dec. 1

Annual Christmas Parade

10 a.m. Downtown Southern Pines

Six marching bands, loads of floats,

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Saturday, Nov. 24

Christmas Tree Lighting

4:30 p.m., Southern Pines Train Station

The annual lighting of the Holly tree

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This is a lesson for us all: go to the

doctor one problem at a time.

Years ago, I got into the habit of

saving up my maladies and going for one

big bang visit of 20 minutes! This was

because, No. 1. I had no health insurance.,

No. 2. I had no health insurance and No. 3. I

had no health insurance.

Going to the doctor once every 100 years

means your file is kept in the archives where the

papyrus documents and the Dead Sea scrolls are

stored. You want an appointment? Be prepared to

wait while they find it, blow the dust off and carefully

unwrap the parchment.

Doc Frank's office doesn’t bother to ask why I’m

coming in any more; they’re too afraid.

“Will Madam be having the usual?," they say marking

me down for 20 minutes.

I actually categorize my ailments now to avoid covering

the foot booboo, the suspicious butt mole and my eye’s

staph infection at the same time. It got too confusing.

Doc Frank would be looking for the mole in my eye, the

booboo on my butt...you get the idea. But when you’re

self-pay, you got to do what you got to do.

I explained to Doc Frank that my left palm between

the index and middle fingers had an old piece of glass

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shard trying to escape through

a nerve ending and my skin;

that my middle finger on my

right hand had an aching joint

seriously prohibiting my ability

to flip someone the “bird;" and

my left thumb did nothing unless

pain was involved.

Doc Frank is efficient. He

was feeling my painful glass

shard before I was even

done telling him the rest.

Senior Moments

“Not glass, scar tissue, X-ray,” he said. Doc Frank is

so efficient he doesn’t waste time speaking in complete


“Non-functioning 'bird' finger, arthritis. Painful thumb,

arthritis. X-rays,” he told the nurse and was gone.

When he returned with the X-rays, we discovered he’d

been right on all three counts. I was impressed, right up

until he said, “Syringes, cortisone, three," to the nurse.

Gone again, he timed his return to the exact milli-second

when the needles were ready.

“Now I’m going to put a dab of cortisone on each spot.”

Doc Frank was clearly not new to inserting sharp-pointy

metallic objects into people’s tender spots; nor was he

new to lying. Speaking, complete sentences, highly


I, too, have been around the block more than once

so I asked, “Would that involve the use of sharp, pointy

metallic objects?”

I swallowed as how I’d heard about cortisone shots.

“You want me to make it feel better or not?”

Doc Frank is a man of few words because he sees 55

patients a day, which is like one every five minutes.

The first shot was excruciatingly, horrifyingly, stunningly

painful. No. 2 left me breathless and I suggested I could

come back to get one shot a day.

“Yeah, but you’re here now,” Doc said.

This was payback.

At No. 3, I covered my mouth to muffle the screams,

thumped my feet on the floor and was hollering

spontaneous utterances like “HOLY MOTHER OF GOD!”


I was getting ready with “merciful Allah” when it ended.

Slumped over the exam table, I wondered how the heck

Doc had even speared me. I’d been jumping like a bean.

“We get that a lot,” he said. “Got anything else that


Yeah, each of my wrists. I’ll be damned if I tell him that.

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Three cheers for a good fight song


The air is crisp and cool, leaves are changing their

colors, the days are shorter and I want nothing

more than to keep a pot of soup or chili going in

the kitchen. These kind of days are the perfect backdrop

for my favorite fall pastime, football. Fall and football

are the perfect combination. Allegiance to college alma

maters run deep, and so do

the rivalries. The easiest way

to get the loyal fans riled up

is for the band to start playing

the fight song. Each team has

one. We all have a personal

bias that our team’s fight song

Sentimental Journey

is the best.

The other day I was

at a client’s home and

the husband started

talking about football.

Now this I can relate to. He’s an alumnus of Purdue

University. I asked him to describe his favorite memories

from attending football games while in college. He erupted

into his school fight song, word for word.

“To your call once more we rally; alma mater hear our

praise; where the Wabash spreads its valley; filled with

joy our voices raise. Form the skies in swelling echoes

come the cheers that tell the tale of your vict'ries and

your heroes, hail Purdue! We sing all hail! Hail, hail to old

Purdue! All hail to our old gold and black! Hail, hail to old

Purdue! Our friendship may she never lack. Ever grateful,

ever true, thus we raise our song anew of the days we've

spent with you, all hail our own Purdue!”

I love the energy a marching band brings to a football

game, especially when they play the college fight song.

Recently, I was at my alma mater, Florida State University,

for a football game. Since it was an away game for my

beloved Seminoles, the band did not travel with the team.

Without the Marching Chiefs to play our war chant and

fight song, the atmosphere was lacking and so was the

energy of the team evident, in their lackluster performance

on the gridiron.

Music has such an important role in many of our favorite

activities. I often focus on the soothing and calming effects

music offers to clients and its power to unlock memories.

Music can also stir and energize us to lift our mood. What

is your college team’s fight song? Do you remember the

lyrics? Is there a famous rivalry like Michigan vs. Ohio

State, Boston College vs. Notre Dame, Army vs. Navy

in your family? Write to me and share. Enjoy fall and

football; I know I will.

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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

David and Jackie Sherrill have operated their produce stand, David's Produce, off U.S. 220 in Ellerbe since 1982. After 30 years, they still

have a love for the family land and what it provides for their community. Sweet potatoes, collards (above) and acorn squash (below) are

just a few of their crops ready for the fall harvest. For more information, call (910) 652-6413 or visit www.davidsproduce.com.

Homegrown and farm fresh

Fields of green abound for a fall harvest for this

Thanksgiving. Family, too, runs deep in the soil in

Richmond County, deep in the fertile land of the

Sandhills and base of the Piedmont spanning 400 acres.

Here on his grandfather’s land in Ellerbe, farming is all

David Sherrill has ever wanted to do.

“I always wanted it,” recalls David. “I knew when I was

10 years old. It was driving the tractor, working in the dirt

and watching something grow. It’s a thrill.”

That thrill and passion led to David and Jackie making

a plan to share their lives, raise a family and build a

produce stand on the property off U.S. 220 in 1982.

“We drew a stand on the back of a pack of cigarettes,”

remembers David with a nostalgic smile.

The couple married a year later and hasn’t looked back

except to take in the view

of the family’s acreage that

produces a multitude of fresh

produce, flowers and meats.

From 1977 to 2004, the Sherrills grew tobacco.

“I quit growing it and smoking, and I haven’t missed it yet,”

David says. “We transitioned to other crops and started

growing more sweet potatoes, cantaloupes and corn.”

The produce stand grew from a mere drawing into an

agritourism destination named simply David’s Produce.

From mid to late March through Dec. 31, the stand is

open seven days a week with the harvest of what the

land provides.

“He should have named it ‘The Meeting Place,’” says

Lillian Sherrill, David’s mom, who still helps at the

produce stand. “People do love to come out and visit.”

The plethora of fresh-picked produce draws a crowd. A

cornucopia of fall crops currently fill the stand from acorn

and butternut squash to pumpkins, Indian corn, gourds,

sweet potatoes, beans and more. Surprisingly

enough, the Sherrills don’t actually grow peanuts

or apples on the farm, but they bring in both as

an extra value for their customers.

When the road was set to bypass the produce

stand a few years ago, the Sherrills kept going

and growing. With the loss of direct traffic

driving by, signs off the new Interstate 73/74

now lead those hungry for what’s in season to

alternate U.S. 220 to David’s Produce.

continued page 16


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Staff Writer


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To make sure they stay in the minds and

stomachs of their loyal customers and to

cultivate new ones, the Sherrills take part

in the farmers markets in Rockingham,

Pinehurst and Southern Pines.

Not only were the Sherrills able to sell

more produce through the markets but

also sprout new friendships. Restaurants

like Elliott’s and Rhett’s in Moore County

now call upon the Sherrills for fresh

vegetables to tempt the taste buds of

their diners. Jackie has even taken on

growing a variety of fresh lettuces when

Rhett’s inquired.

“They are easy to work with, and if we

don’t have something, we meet in the

middle,” says Jackie. “We started growing

basil for Rhett’s, and now we grow it for

the Sandhills Farm to Table boxes, too.

You can make everybody happy with a

little fresh basil pesto and bread.”

When the community-owned enterprise

of Sandhills Farm to Table Cooperative

began offering fresh produce boxes to

its subscribers, it was a natural fit for the


“I wasn’t sure what the response would

be when the co-op began, but the interest

now is more than just the subscribers.

People are interested and seeking out

fresh, local food,” says Jackie amidst a

field of collards ready for the picking. “We

provide enough collards for the boxes

to smell up plenty of homes,” she adds,

laughing. “It is really too much to tell about

what goes into the boxes every week…

cabbage, acorn squash, kale, a lot of basil,

shelled peas, beets, carrots, cucumbers…”

The Sherrills take what the land gives.

Two years ago when they knew they had

pasture available, they added grass-fed

beef cows to the farm in addition to their

four Perdue chicken houses.

With so many fields, pastures and

crops, planning keeps the couple busy.

“Here it is, me and David,” says Jackie.

“David keeps it all in his head. You have

to have so many acres to be able to

rotate the fields. Sweet potato fields have

years in-between planting.”

continued page 17

Photos by Rebecca Heeley,


© English Rose Photography

Pumpkin Risotto

1 onion, diced

2 cloves garlic

1 cup diced pumpkin

or winter squash

¼ cup olive oil

1 cup arborio rice

½ cup white wine

3 cups vegetable stock

1 tablespoon fresh rosemary

2 tablespoons fresh sage

salt and pepper to taste

¼ cup goat cheese

2 tablespoons butter

Sauté the first three items in pan on medium heat

with the olive oil until softened.Then add rice and

stir until toasted. Add wine cook until liquid is

gone, then add stock a half cup at a time until all

stock is gone, stirring constantly. Add fresh herbs,

butter and goat cheese until blended in rice.

Recipe courtesy of Rhett's Restaurant in Southern Pines

using David's Produce's pumpkins.

A picturesque rustic barn at the edge of the sweet

potato field still stands where David’s grandfather would

cure his sweet potato crop so many years ago.

“That was back in the good ol’ days before my time,”

David says grinning. “They would keep them in there all

winter to cure.”

Now, the potato digger brings the sweet potatoes, both

red and white, to the top where they are gathered and

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placed into bins for curing.

“The red and white are really good together roasted,”

Jackie adds.

With Thanksgiving this month, sweet potatoes are

in harvest and demand, but hold a special meaning

for David.

“Sweet potatoes are one of my favorites, growing -wise.

My daddy grew them, and my granddaddy grew them.”

Family remains at the heart of the farm where

Thanksgiving traditions would not be complete without a

bounty of homegrown vegetables.

“It’s an all family Thanksgiving. I make a seven-layer

salad and Mexican cornbread, but there is always sweet

potato pudding, corn, butter beans and a pan of turnips.”

‘Tis the season for pumpkins as well with varieties like

fairytale, which has thicker meat, to sweet potato, which

came up from seed given to the Sherrills by a customer.

David and Jackie take great pride in growing their

Southern crops.

“We’ve been doing it so long. It is important to us that

people get something good and fresh,” explains Jackie.

“Most of the time what they are buying at the stand has

been picked either that day or the one before.”

David adds, “The farm used to mean fun, and now

it means work. What gives me a thrill now is a happy


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The 1971 film “Brian’s Song” is a familiar story.

Lacquered with pathos for the viewing audience,

the made-for-TV movie was accurate for the

most part. But Brian Piccolo’s athletic life was much

more accomplished than depicted on the screen.

Piccolo, in the movie and in real life, was a fullback for

the Chicago Bears. His pro stats were meager because

he was not the team’s featured ball carrier. He mostly

blocked for roommate Gale Sayers, whose exploits

earned him a plaque in the NFL Hall of Fame.

Piccolo was a never-quit kind of guy on the football

field and in his battle with cancer. The disease claimed

him in 1970 at the age of 26. His courage and sense

of humor as he faced death were inspirational and


Even before the Bears, Piccolo was a star, THE star,

actually, of the Wake Forest Demon Deacons. He was

so good that he was voted the Atlantic Coast Conference

Player of the Year in 1964.

Piccolo led the nation in rushing that season. In 10

games, he carried the ball 252 times for 1,044 yards and

15 touchdowns. He caught five passes for another 122

yards and two touchdowns. He also kicked nine extra

points. His 111 points were tops in the country.

So, here was this running back who was not particularly

fast or big—5 feet 11 inches tall and 198 pounds—playing

for a 5-5 team, which was certainly not loaded with

talent. As the season progressed, Wake opponents all


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One great Demon Deacon...

knew who would get the football

in a short-yardage situation.

Yet, he cranked out one tough

yard after another. He did it in

workhorse fashion, averaging

25 carries and over 100 yards

per game in an era when 100

rushing yards were a whole

Game On

lot for a back to get in one


And, despite playing for

little old Wake Forest, Piccolo led all collegiate players

in rushing yards and scoring.

Although his senior season was a study in consistency,

one game stood out. That was the Deacons’ win over

Duke, their first over the Blue Devils in 13 years.

Wake won, 20-7, with Piccolo scoring every Deacon

point. He ran 36 times—a yeoman-like effort—and

gained 115 yards, scoring three touchdowns and kicking

two extra points.

When the game was over, according to Wake Forest

lore, Piccolo’s teammates hoisted him onto their

shoulders and toted him from the field.

Part of the reason was that the Deacons wanted to

reward him for his heroic deeds. Part of the reason was

that Piccolo might not have made it to the locker room

otherwise. He was beyond exhaustion. His uniform was

caked with mud even though the sun was shining and

the field was dry. His uniform was soaked with sweat,

turning dust and dirt into mud.

Following the season, Piccolo was named a first-team

All-American in addition to earning the Atlantic Coast

Conference's top individual honor. He set six conference

records and nine school records.

Piccolo’s jersey, No. 31, has been retired. A dormitory

on the Wake Forest campus has been named for him.

And every fall, Wake students gather to watch “Brian’s

Song," which is a nice tradition and tribute to a great

person who happened to be a great football player.

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Think and thank again

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Many have said, and I have as well, that

Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday for many

reasons. Some like the food and family time

together. Some like that there is no expectation of

exchanging presents or putting up trees or decorating

anything at all. We simply get to be together, eat together,

play together and are thankful that we do.

Bible scripture states in many places in one way or

another that we may "in everything, give thanks." In

eveything, really? I must confess that there are times I am

not thankful, nor is being thankful something I have even

given any thought about in the moment, like the times

when living gets difficult and the best I think I can do is to

barely get by and deal with the moment.

As Thanksgiving Day approaches, I would like to

believe that I really do want to be a person giving thanks

in everything, all the time. For when I do take this time to

think about it, I realize that everything in this world is a gift

I am given, and that most things are actually something

with which I had nothing to do with. I have not created

the days and nights. I have not formed the earth and

the things thereof. I have not even had any direct hand

in how it is that I am here. All are a gift given for me to

acknowledge or not, to receive or not, and even for me to

reject or not. So it follows then that the choice is up to me

whether I am thankful or not.

Now that I do think about

everything in this way, I want to

give my thanks. There are two

prayers I remember from my

mother and father. My mother

always prayed, “Dear Lord,

give us hearts that are

thankful for these and

all our blessings that we

daily receive.” Similarly,

my father always ended

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his prayers with, “Dear God, most of all, we thank You for

You, for without You, there truly is nothing.”

As I remember them with thanksgiving this year, I,

too, will think about giving thanks for everything. I will

welcome this Thanksgiving as a way of thinking thanks

through—to actually stop in the middle of everything and

give thanks, and most of all remembering to thank God.

What will you think about and give thanks for this


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1 large Granny Smith apple, diced

1 head of Green Haven Plant Farm Bibb

lettuce or any hydroponic Bibb lettuce

¼ cup roasted pecans

¼ cup smoked pork belly or thick cut bacon, diced

salt and pepper to taste

half juice of lemon

⅓ cup blue cheese dressing (recipe at right)

Cook pork belly in pan on

medium heat until brown

and crispy. Take out and put to

side. Sauté apples in pan until

warm. Set apples aside with

pork belly. Put half of the head

of lettuce in bowl and top with

apples, pecans and pork

Cooking Simple belly. Add salt and pepper

to taste. Top with blue

cheese dressing.

Photo by

Rebecca Heeley,

© English Rose Photography

Blue Cheese Dressing

½ cup blue cheese crumbles ½ cup mayonnaise

½ cup sour cream ¼ cup buttermilk

¼ cup chopped chives salt and pepper to taste

Mix ingredients together in bowl and serve atop salad.

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At home with bestselling author Margaret Maron

With her laptop in hand, New

York Times bestselling author

Margaret Maron escapes to the

serenity of her rural Johnston County backyard gazebo

to conjure up the next chapter of a novel or maybe a

short story. She needs a place outside of her home office

where she can focus on writing.

“It is nice to be away from the house, so I can resist

checking emails,” says Maron, the author of the popular

Deborah Knott Series set in North Carolina. “I love

watching the hawks and seeing a fox go trotting by or a

deer. I can waste a lot of time watching nature,” she adds

with a quick grin.

Maron wasted no time finishing up her latest novel,

“The Buzzard Table,” available this month.

“You’re going to learn more about buzzards than you

might want to,” says Maron.

Area readers can meet Maron at her signings Thursday,

Nov. 15 at 7:30 p.m. at Quail Ridge Books in Raleigh and

Tuesday, Nov. 27 at 7 p.m. at Barnes and Noble in Cary.

Writing has always been where Maron’s passion lies.

“I knew from the age of 10 that writing was what I

wanted to do,” she says. “Art for art’s sake is all well and

good, but I wanted to make a living.”

With two collections of short stories and 28

mystery novels, she has accomplished her

goal and picked up the Sir Walter Raleigh

Award for best North Carolina novel of the

year in 2004 and the North Carolina Award

for Literature in 2008 among others along

the way. However, that wasn’t necessarily

her plan.

“I knew I wasn’t going to write comingof-age

books. I always say, I don’t take my

clothes off in public,” she says smiling. So

mysteries were perfect. I wrote short stories,

and I had no intention of writing a book. The

short story market began drying up though.

By Carrie Frye

Staff Writer

I submitted a novelette, and the agent liked

it, and asked if I could just write some more.

When I finally backed into writing my first

novel, it got published in 1981, and here we are, 30 years

and 30 books later.”

Her mysteries feature a murder that keeps the reader

guessing just who the culprit may be, and sometimes, even

she doesn’t know herself until the story presents itself.

“I write closed-circle fair play, murder that is more

domestic,” explains Maron. “I just put the characters in

the setting and see where it goes.”

And where it goes keeps her readers turning pages in

inviting titles like “Shooting at Loons,” “Three-Day Town,”

“Southern Discomfort” and “Bootlegger’s Daughter,”

which was named one of the 100 Favorite Mysteries

of the Century by the Independent Mystery Booksellers


The Durham County Public Library invited Maron to

take part in their Durham Reads Together 2012 program

for the month of September. The program encourages

readers to read the works of selected North Carolina

authors and gives them the opportunity to discuss the

books directly with the writer.

continued page 23

Bestselling author Margaret Maron is content to be

home on her family farmland in Johnston County.

Her latest novel, “The Buzzard Table,” hits bookstore

shelves and e-readers this month. Maron has signings

set for Thursday, Nov. 15 at 7:30 p.m. at Quail Ridge

Books, 3522 Wade Avenue in Raleigh, and Tuesday,

Nov. 27 at 7 p.m. at Barnes and Noble, 760 Southeast

Maynard Road in Cary. For more information on her

books and events, visit www.margaretmaron.com.

Photo by Rebecca Heeley

© English Rose Photography


OutreachNC • November 2012 23

“It was a great program. I gave a talk and signed books.

There was something every weekend,” says Maron.

Writing is a labor of love for Maron. She doesn’t believe

in writer’s block or muses that visit to help with the

process, just the hard work, creativity and effort she puts

into it.

“I don’t wait for inspiration. Here is where the inspiration

is, when I am pounding on the keyboard,” she says

pointing to her laptop.

Twice a year, she joins her writer’s group for a weeklong

stay at the Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities

in Southern Pines.

“We set our goals and go

off to find a quiet place to

work. Anytime I can write

1,500 words, I think that is

a good day.”

Although she was

born and raised in North

Carolina, it was when she

was living in her husband’s

native New York that she

developed the character

police Lt. Sigrid Harald for

her first series of mysteries.

“I worked in the art

department at Brooklyn

College when I got the idea

for my first book,” recalls

Maron of her novel, “One

Coffee With.”

Harald was on the case

for eight more of Maron’s

mysteries. However,

Maron’s desire to be back

home in North Carolina

on her family’s farm led

to the creation of her next

protagonist, district court

Judge Deborah Knott and

moving back.

“I brought a Yankee home

with me,” says Maron of her


Married for 53 years, the

couple has a son, daughterin-law,

and two beautiful

granddaughters close by

with whom they love to

spend quality time with.

“The farm was originally 90 acres, and we have about

35 of it left now. I have worked tobacco and picked cotton.

I am very glad to have done it, and I’m very glad I don’t

have to do it anymore,” she recalls, laughing.

Her family’s farm is certainly where Maron’s heart is.

“I’m in love with this state and Johnston County. People

often ask me, 'Why would you want to write about it?,' and

all I have to do is look out these windows…I can see my

grandfather plowing the fields. As scruffy and nondescript

as it is, it’s mine. It’s home.”


24 OutreachNC • November 2012

In this excerpt from The Buzzard Table (Grand

Central Publishing. ISBN 978-0-446-55582-1. 320

pages. $25.99), Judge Deborah Knott drives out to

the Colleton County farmhouse where she was born.

(Dwight Bryant is her husband, and Cal is his son.)

Shrimp-and-grits is such an iconic Southern dish that

surely is in Deborah’s repertoire.

Maidie Holt, Daddy’s longtime housekeeper,

had asked me to pick up a couple of bags

of stone-ground yellow grits from the only

store in Dobbs that carries

them. The local grist mill has

been in operation since the

1830s and no commercial

grits taste as flavorful. As long

as I was getting them for her, I

bought a bag for myself. There

was a package of shrimp in the

freezer that we had brought

home from Harkers Island in

the fall. They needed to be

eaten before they got freezer

burn, and shrimp-and-grits

is an easy dish that doesn’t take too much

preparation. I knew I had onions, a green pepper,

and half-and-half on hand, so I wouldn’t have to stop

at a grocery store.

The version I make calls for some sort of fancy

Italian ham, but my brother Robert cures out a mean

country ham with a smoky, salty flavor that can’t be

matched by anything from Italy and he always gives

us five or six pounds of it for Christmas every year,

each slice individually wrapped for the freezer.

According to him and Daddy, our winters used to

be cold enough to let the legs and shoulders hang in

the smokehouse all winter without spoiling. No more.

A quarter-cup of Robert’s ham diced and sautéed

would easily substitute for pancetta, but no other

brand of grits could substitute for the bags on the car

seat beside me.

Daddy’s old truck was parked at the back door

and without knocking, I opened the squeaky screen

door, then the heavy wooden one and walked into

the kitchen where he and Maidie were. Both sat at

the kitchen table and both were in their stocking feet.

Maidie was taking the meat off a roasted chicken,

Senior Shorts

Margaret Maron

Maron is the author of 28 novels

and two collections of short stories.

Winner of several major American

awards for mysteries, she lives on

her family's century farm a few miles

southeast of Raleigh. For information,

visit www.margaretmaron.com.

carefully putting the skin and bones into a pot with

chopped onions to make broth for pot pies. Daddy

had spread a newspaper over his end of the table,

and several pairs of shoes, including Maidie’s, waited

his attention. Despite the pungent onions, I could

smell the shoe polish he had spread on the leather,

a familiar homely aroma.

I hugged them both and snitched a bit of chicken

while Daddy reached in his pocket to pay me for the

grits. Maidie fumbled in her own pocket and came up

with only two quarters.

“Don’t worry about a bag of grits,” he told her. “I

didn’t give you no birthday present yet.”

“Ain’t my birthday,” Maidie said, her gold tooth


“Then it must be Cletus’s. Tell him happy birthday

from me.”

“You mean you ain’t gonna get him that white

Cadillac he’s been wanting?”

“What’d he do with the red one I give him for

Christmas?” Daddy asked in mock indignation.

I laughed. Those two have been teasing each other

for most of my lifetime, long before Mother died. They

tried to get me to sit down and visit, but I told them

Dwight and Cal would be wanting their supper soon.

“Y’all gonna be home this evening?” Daddy asked.

“Dwight’s probably already there and I’ll be there

myself in a few minutes. Why?”

“Nothing really. Just ain’t seen Dwight to talk to

this week.”

“Then come on over for supper. I’m fixing shrimpand-grits.”

He looked at Maidie, who gave a dismissive wave

of her hand. “Go on. You’ll not be getting anything

that good here. I was only gonna warm you up some

stuff from last night.”

“Well, if you’re sure,” he said, speaking to both of us.

“Come!” I said.

“Go!” said Maidie.


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When a loved one dies

When someone we care

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of the loss can send our lives reeling.

This profound change can also

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have a to-do

list before

us, and the


of it can

make us feel

p r e s s u r e d .

With that

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as a kind

a checklist—a list of some of the

key financial matters to address

following the death of a loved one.

The first steps:

• Notify family members and

friends. Arrange payment for funeral


• Gather/request as many records,

as you can to document their life

and passing—birth and death

certificates, a marriage certificate

or divorce decree (if applicable),

military service records, investment,

insurance and tax records, and

employee benefit information

The next steps: It is time to talk

with the legal, tax, insurance and

financial professionals you trust.

• Consult your attorney. Assuming

your loved one left a will, it will

be looked at as a prelude to the

distribution of any assets and the

settlement of the estate.

• Locate your loved one's

insurance policy and talk to the

insurance agent.

• Notify their financial advisor,

who must be notified so that these

funds may be properly distributed

according to the beneficiary forms

for these accounts. If there is no

beneficiary form on file with the

account custodian, the assets will

be distributed according to the

custodian's default policy, which

often directs assets either to a

surviving spouse or the deceased

spouse's estate.

Survivor/spousal benefits:

• Contact your local Social Security

office regarding Social Security

spousal and/or survivor benefits.

• If a spouse worked in a civil

service job or was in the armed

forces, contact the state or federal

government branch or armed

services branch about how to file for

survivor benefits.

The estate: To settle an estate,

several orderly steps should be


• You and/or the deceased's

attorney needs to contact the

executor, trustee(s), guardians

and heirs relevant to the estate

and access the appropriate estate

planning documents.

• Your attorney can also let

you know about the possibility of

probate. A revocable living trust (or

other estate planning mechanisms)

may allow you to avoid this process.

Joint tenancy can also help.

• The executor for the estate should

obtain an Employer Identification

Number (EIN) from the IRS.

• The person’s creditors will also

need to be informed. Any debts will

need to be addressed.

Next month, I will review a few

simple steps to prepare your own

finances to simplify this process for

your survivors.

Clement is a Financial Planner

practicing at Clement Capital

Group in Southern Pines and an

investment advisor representative of

Commonwealth Financial Network®,

a member firm of FINRA/SIPC, a

Registered Investment Advisor. She

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Road racers stick it to their bibs

OutreachNC • November 2012 27

With sweaty chests shimmering under the

shining sun, they are the shirtless men who

run on the region’s roadside, sometimes

enraging judgmental drivers

who cannot quite understand

why their stride is not on the

area track that does not exist

or on the root-ridden trail that

invites twisted ankles and knees.

They are also the fast-moving

females with headphones in their


ears, sometimes singing

while training for hours

on treadmills, prompting

waiting gym members to

wonder why they have to “hog the machines” for so long.

These are the faces of the almost 14 million who

complete road race events each year, but they are not

the only faces. Many road race participants are friends

who cross the finish line walking with one another for fun

or in support of a cause close to heart. Sometimes, the

faces are those of children accompanying their parents

on foot or snuggly nestled in three-wheeled running

strollers while the wind cools their skin along the mileslong

course. Incredibly, sometimes spectators can even

witness wounded athletes whisking their way to the finish

in wheelchairs.

Road race finishers have their own story, unique journey

and moving memories. With many road race events now

supplying standard event shirts for participation and

awards for wins, finishers can often compile memorabilia

as well. Regardless of whether one wins or even finishes,

all participants usually walk away with one common

keepsake that serves as their identity for the day, the road

race bib.

The road race bib for road race participants is like

the score card for golfers or the concert ticket stub for

music lovers. It allows access to the venue and, with

technological advances tagging the back of the bibs with

chip-timing devices, it records the time it takes to travel

to the clock at the route’s conclusion. Bibs are likely

to be stored in a bureau’s bottom drawer or perhaps,

positioned in a scrapbook for a future stroll down memory

lane. However, race bibs are rarely noted with relative

race day details like the time, place, price or distance.

Sometimes runners try to scratch down their times on

the blended-textured surface of the bibs so that they can

later compare their performance with something similar

in the future.

I recently met a gentleman who had collected his bibs

from events since the 70s. Some showed attempts at

written times randomly recorded on the reverse side

of the boldly printed bibs. Some were even still legible.

Most, however, had morphed into meaningless numbers

of unclear clock times and distances that had disappeared

in the decades departed.

“Was that 38:30 for a five mile or a 10K?” he asked

himself. “If I knew the year I ran it, I’d have a better idea.”

Today, those memories that transform into our road

race history can be neatly documented in an organized

fashion on fun products

like the die-cut decals at

Bib Stickers.

Each of my road race

bibs is now embellished

with these handy fact

holders. As the holidays

hover over the weeks

ahead and you find

yourself scrambling for

unique gifts for the many

triathletes, cyclists and runners around, remember the

road racing bib stickers. They’ll make the memories last.

Brown, a personal trainer, competitive runner and writer, can

be reached at marymarciabrown@yahoo.com. Find more of

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for caregivers among us

By Carrie Frye

Staff Writer

No one word

seems to

a d e q u a t e l y

define what caregivers do,

provide and mean to the

ones receiving their care.

During this season of

Thanksgiving, November

also recognizes National

Family Caregivers Month

as first proclaimed in

1997. According to

the National Family

Caregivers Association,

“more than 65 million

family caregivers in this

country fulfill a vital role

on the care team. No one

else is in a better position

to ensure continuity of care. Family caregivers are the

most familiar with their care recipients’ medicine regimen;

they are the most knowledgeable about the treatment

regimen; and they understand best the dietary and

exercise regimen.”

Because caregivers are unsung heroes in the

community, three organizations have taken on providing

recognition to the caregivers, family, volunteer and

professionals, within their respective communities with

the Potter’s Hands awards, Family Caregiver Award and

the Caregiver Awards of Moore County.

Heritage of Raleigh, a Brookdale Senior Living

retirement community in Raleigh, hosted its fourth annual

Potter’s Hands event Sept. 19. The event honors those

who serve seniors in the Triangle area. Out of the 16

award nominees, Melanie Bunn, Peggy Smith, Sofia

Hernandez and Ruth Efrid were highlighted for going

above and beyond in their service to seniors.

Bunn, a dynamic lecturer and skillful clinician in the

areas of nursing gerontology and Alzheimer's disease,

presents over 150 sessions each year at local, statewide

and national conferences.

Smith, executive director for the North Carolina Assisted

The four senior living professionals highlighted at the Potter's Hands

event, Peggy Smith, Melanie Bunn, Sofia Hernandez and Ruth Efrid

display the pottery they received as a thank you for their service.


Living Association, has

spent her entire career

serving others. She works

endlessly to advocate for

North Carolina’s seniors,

helping to ensure they

are receiving the best

care and services.

Hernandez has

been an instructor of

ballroom dance for many

years. After spending

considerable time with

seniors, she refocused

her talents on older

adults and those with

neurological diseases.

Sofia is also the cofounder

of STAVE, (Stability,

Therapy, Agility, Vitality,

Exercise), a nonprofit organization focusing on movement

and increasing quality of life through dance.

Efrid, a parish nurse with Holy Trinity Lutheran Church

in Chapel Hill, implemented classes to create a senior

care Sunday school program to help caregivers and

seniors with their many questions. She has created a

resource guide in the parish office during her free time to

help all the seniors and their families.

Each of the 16 nominees received a handmade piece of

pottery, while the four highlighted individuals received larger

pieces of handcrafted pottery along with a framed copy of

the poem, “Potter’s Hands,” written by Rebecca A. Smith,

senior regional sales director for Brookdale Senior Living.

The poem compares senior living professionals to potters,

whose work is rarely complete. The poem ends with a

thank you to those serving in the senior living industry.

The Enrichment Center of Lee County in Sanford

pays tribute annually with its Family Caregiver Award.

It recognizes an individual or family who embodies

the courage to face the challenges of caregiving, the

compassion to ensure dignity for their loved one and the

wisdom to reach out for support.

continued page 29

“This is our 10th year celebrating our everyday heroes.

This event is a wonderful time to thank, support, educate

and empower family caregivers. This year’s theme is

'Family Caregivers Matter,' and that is so true, not only

in November but always,” says Judi Womack, caregiver

specialist at the enrichment center.

The center’s 2012 event luncheon is set for Wednesday,


OutreachNC • November 2012 29

Patricia M. Gregory, right, took home the Family Caregiver Award

2011honors last year, seen here with her husband and daughter.

This year marks the 10th year for the Lee County Senior Enrichment

Center to pay tribute to the caregivers in their community.

Nov. 7 at Carolina Trace Country Club in Sanford where

the 2012 Family Caregiver of the Year will be named. Last

year’s honoree was Patricia Gregory, a caregiver for her

husband, since he was injured in a hunting accident and

paralyzed from the chest down 16 years ago.

Gregory is not only a family caregiver but also a

professional caregiver. She maintains a full-time job as a

registered nurse as well as balances being a mother and

a grandmother while meeting her husband’s needs. Her

mission has always been to encourage her husband to

be as independent as he can while maintaining his safety.

Gregory humbly accepted the award, and like so

many other family caregivers, says, “I don’t do anything

extraordinary; I just do what seems like the right thing to do.”

The 2012 Caregiver Awards of Moore County

recognizes those caregivers nominated from throughout

the community. A selection committee reviews all of the

nominations to determine two finalists and the Caregiver

of the Year, all of whom were honored in a private

ceremony Oct. 26 at Sandhills Community College.

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The 2012 Caregiver Awards of Moore County honored nearly 50 nominees this year at a ceremony held Oct. 26 at Sandhills Community

College. Frank Smither Jr. of Pinehurst and Donna Brock of Raeford, center, are award finalists with Mary Fowler of Aberdeen, right, named

the Caregiver of the Year. The event is in its third year and hopes to bring recognition to the caregivers of seniors in the community.

continued from page 29

Now in its third year, the awards were the idea of Amy

Natt, chief executive officer of Aging Outreach Services, a

full-service elder care firm based in Southern Pines.

“Caregivers come in many forms, some are family,

others are volunteers, and then there are those who

choose it as a profession, but they all share a heart

for giving,” says Natt. "The little things they do make a

big difference in another’s life. They work hard, not for

what they will gain, but because it is who they are. The

Caregiver Awards is one way that our community can

come together and recognize the importance of their

work and thank these caregivers for the compassion and

dedication they give to others. It is our way to let them

know that it does not go unnoticed.”

Frank Smither Jr. of Pinehurst is a finalist for the

2012 award. Smither, nominated by his sister Susan

Holmes, was instrumental in caring for their mother,

and most recently, for their 83-year-old father for the

past eight years.

“Frank took care of all of our father’s personal care needs

including feeding, giving medications and positioning

while always wanting to make him comfortable. He was

also our father’s hands and eyes,” explains Holmes.

Regardless of his disabilities and own diagnosis

with myotonic muscular dystrophy, characterized by a

wasting of the muscles, Smither continued his caregiving

role for his father.

“Frank never complains and never asks for anything

for himself. He is a very loyal and dedicated son and

brother. He always has a smile and nice thing to say to

everyone every day,” says Holmes. “Even through his

health difficulties, Frank continued to keep our father’s

needs at the forefront. No matter how he was feeling, he

woke up every day with his routine beginning with caring

for our father.”

Sadly, Smither’s father passed away last month.

“If you knew how unselfish Frank was to do everything...

He never volunteered but because of his situation, it

evolved. Every time I would lose my patience with the

minutia of the things our father needed, he would just say,

‘Dad can’t help it,’ to bring me back,” Holmes says with

tears in her eyes. “He took on that burden with constant


Smither modestly says, ”I just did what needed to be


Providing care when needs arise seems to be part of

the job description and also true of the second finalist in

this year’s Caregiver Awards of Moore County, Donna

Brock of Raeford. Brock, a geriatric care manager in

Moore County, works with her senior clients and their

families to deal with all the aspects of aging. Laurie Lutz

of Pinehurst nominated Brock for her care of her mother.

continued page 31


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“Donna immediately joined our family as a care manager

to my mom and as lifesaver to me and my husband,” says

Lutz. “She became our advisor, counselor and essential

guide through the ever-shifting world of dementia. When

it became clear that the best option for my mom was

assisted living, Donna helped us through navigating

doctors’ diagnoses, insurance requirements, researching,

choosing and dealing with paperwork and standing

shoulder-to-shoulder with us through transitioning my

mother into the assisted living community while allowing

her to take this journey with dignity and grace.”

Brock attributes her care for seniors to the fact that

she didn’t get to know her own grandmother and has

been told how much like her she is and describes her

profession as her “niche.” In her own life, she balances

being a single mother with caring for her own mother, who

sadly passed away last month without the opportunity to

celebrate this honor with Brock.

“I like the fact they can put their trust in me and feel like

I’ve helped them. It makes it all worthwhile,” explains Brock.

Lutz concludes, “I can’t imagine how we could have

made it through these difficult months without her.

She possesses a perfect blend of compassion, humor,

wisdom, experience and professionalism. I sometimes

tease Donna that I’m convinced she really is an angel,

but I cannot figure out how she gets her clothes to fit so

well over those wings. She truly has been a God-send

to our family.”

This year’s Caregiver of the Year of Moore County

as chosen by the selection committee is Mary Fowler

of Aberdeen. Fowler, nominated by Sharon and Craig

Fogleman of West End, served as live-in caregiver for

almost seven years, five days a week, 24 hours a day

for their mother, who suffered from Alzheimer’s disease.

Fowler simply says,” It’s important to go and be with

people that want you, and you need to feel like you’re

contributing. It wasn’t like a job; it was like staying with

family. It was fulfilling and rewarding. After working 34

years in textiles, this surpassed it all.”

“The last year was rough,” says Sharon. “Mom didn’t

know us most of the time, but she knew her Mary. When a

stroke left Mom unable to swallow in January, Mary asked

us to move the recliner into the bedroom so she could be

there with Mom during the night. Hospice came in, but Mary

did not want to leave Mom’s side and seldom did. She was

with her until the end, holding her hand. At mom’s funeral,

we had a beautiful finish to the service at the cemetery with

the releasing of doves. Mom’s oldest son placed one hand

on the coffin and the family joined hands in a big circle with

Mary completing the circle. Mary did complete our family

circle. Our mom’s last years on earth were made more

comfortable and peaceful because of Mary.”


32 OutreachNC • November 2012

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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Zeb D. Harrington, left, and Roland Gilliam stand at the World War I and World War II monuments honoring James Rogers McConnell and

Robert Hoyle Upchurch placed at the Gilliam-McConnell Airfield in Carthage to bring remembrance for their sacrifices for their country.

Two Moore County men who fought in consecutive

wars are currently memorialized at the Gilliam-

McConnell International Airfield in Carthage.

Soon there will be a full-fledged James Rogers McConnell

Museum at the airfield and will contain artifacts and

information about McConnell,who fought in World War

I, and Hoyle Upchurch, who was killed in World War II.

The moving force behind the new museum is Roland

Gilliam. In addition to being a pilot and owner of the

airfield, Gilliam is a history buff, particularly of WWI and

WWII history.

“There are many American heroes who none of us

know about,” Gilliam notes. “Within two generations, their

history will be lost unless we find and tell their stories.”

Gilliam began with the

monument to McConnell,

which stood for many years

in downtown Carthage.

By Ann Robson

Special to OutreachNC

“No one knew it was there or why it was important," he


After he built the airfield, he asked the town of Carthage

if he could move the monument to the airfield. His first

few requests were turned down due to some objections

from Carthage people. Eventually, he won the day and

arranged to have the McConnell monument moved to the

airfield located at 194 Gilliam-McConnell Road.

continued page 33


OutreachNC • November 2012 33

McConnell was born in Chicago but moved to Carthage

with his family. He served as the land and industrial agent

for the Seaboard Air Line Railway and secretary of the

Carthage Board of Trade. He also wrote promotional

pamphlets for the Sandhills area of North Carolina.

In January 1915, McConnell sailed from New York

to join the American Ambulance Corps in France. He

performed many brave acts, including rescuing French

soldiers under fire. The French government awarded him

the Croix de Guerre for “conspicuous bravery.” Flying was

McConnell’s true passion. On May 23, 1916, he flew his

first patrol with the Lafayette

Escadrille. He received a

back injury during a rough

landing and spent some

time in the hospital. While

recuperating, he wrote

“Flying for France.” When

he was back with the air

patrol, he found himself

in battle with two German

planes and was shot down.

The French Government

presented a plaque to the

American people which

is also at the airfield. The

original plaque is on a

marble monument and a

translation stands nearby

stating: “To the American

Sergeant Pilot Aviator,

voluntarily enlisted in

French Aviation, Dec. 27,

1915, killed in action in

aerial combat on March

19, 1917. The Country

of France will forever be

grateful for your ultimate


A friend told Gilliam

about a man in Chatham

County who had built a

replica of the Curtis P-40

Warhawk, the kind of plane

Lt. Hoyle Upchurch flew

on his last mission for the

Flying Tigers. Named the

“Junkyard Dog” for all its

various parts that SFC

Zeb D. Harrington patched

together to make the plane, it was three years in the

making. Harrington started it in his garage, then had to

move it to his backyard for space. The replica is about 90

percent the size of the original. It was not built to fly but

looks exactly like the P-40 and seems ready to take off at

moment’s notice.

Harrington agreed to have his plane displayed at the

airfield, and both Gilliam and Harrington say that getting

the plane from where it was built to where it is displayed

was “an interesting story.”

continued page 34


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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Harrington, left, and Gilliam stand beside Harrington's replica plane now at the Gilliam-McConnell International Airfield in Carthage on

display with the monuments in honor of McConnell and Upchurch, two Moore County veterans.

continued from page 33

Next came the memorial monument to Upchurch which

has a plaque presented by the Chinese government.

Upchurch was shot down over China during a battle with

the Japanese Air Force. He was considered missing

for 64 years until a 10-year-old Chinese boy found the

ruins of his plane. DNA evidence proved that the skeletal

remains were those of Lt. Upchurch. In April this year,

a delegation from China brought the remains to the

airfield and presented the urn to remaining members of

Upchurch’s family in a ceremony at the airfield.

The international aspect of the airfield began when a

Canadian flying an ultra-light teaching Canada geese how

to fly and migrate set down in the fog on the airfield’s just

completed paved airstrip. This has been followed by the

French and Chinese plaques. Pilots from Canada have

landed there, and Gilliam hears from pilots around the world.

When the museum is completed —it’s still in the early

stages—the Gilliam-McConnell International Airfield will

welcome visitors from far and wide.

Writer's note: Visiting with Gilliam and Harrington

on a dreary Sunday afternoon was one of the best two

hours I’ve spent as a journalist. The above story barely

scratches the surface of the stories these men have to

tell. They are delightful conversationalists.


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Carolina Ballet's

Robert Weiss

By Heather Green

Special to OutreachNC

Nothing short of a prodigy in the world of

performing arts, Robert Weiss took on the

role of founding artisitc director of the Carolina

Ballet in 1997 and hasn't looked back since.

Carolina Ballet began the 2012-13 season in

September. This month, "The Nutcracker" takes the

stage Nov. 23 through Dec. 23 at Raleigh Memorial

Auditorium, followed by performances at UNC Memorial

Hall in Chapel Hill Dec. 1-2 and wraps up with Durham

Performing Arts Center performances Dec. 29-30.

Never losing the thrill of the curtain rising, Weiss

continues to impress audiences and raise the bar in the

timeless art of ballet.

Influenced tremendously at a young age when his

parents took him to see the ballet, this magical moment

helped to transform Weiss from a boy with a dream into

a man with a vision.

Born and raised in New York City, the only child of

Jesse and Sally Weiss, Weiss was 8 years old when

he began taking ballet at the School of American Ballet.

He went from there to the Professional Children’s School

and the High School for Performing Arts before joining the

New York City Ballet at age 17.

Sadly, Weiss' father passed away a few years before

he came to North Carolina to found Carolina Ballet. His

mother still lives in Manhattan, and he returns often to

visit her and to see the ballet there.

ONC: How did you discover and develop your love for

the ballet?

RW: When I was 5 years old, my parents took me to

see New York City Ballet’s "The Nutcracker," and I knew

Photos courtesy Carolina Ballet

Robert Weiss, Carolina Ballet's artistic director, takes pride in bringing

the highest quality ballets and performances to Triangle audiences.


right then that I wanted to be up there on that stage

in "The Nutcracker." When the curtain went up, I was

transported to a magical world, and I never lost that thrill

of when I hear the music, the lights go down and the

curtain rises. I asked my parents what I had to do to get

in the show, and they said I had to wait until I was eight

to enroll at the School of American Ballet. I think they

thought I would forget, but when I turned eight, I said,

'Now, I can be in Nutcracker.' And I was. I have danced

every role for a boy and young man in the ballet except

the role of Drosselmeyer.

ONC: What brought you to North Carolina?

continued page 37

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RW: After dancing with New York City Ballet for 17

years, I became the Artistic Director at Pennsylvania

Ballet in Philadelphia and was there for nine seasons.

When I left Philadelphia, I returned to New York City

and freelanced as a choreographer for companies in

the States and abroad, but I knew I wanted eventually

to be an artistic director of another company one day. I

responded to an ad in "Dance Magazine" for a person

with "vision" to help found a new ballet company in

Raleigh. I sent my resume and met with Raleigh resident

Ward Purrington to discuss the founding of the company.

I was hired and moved to Raleigh with my wife,

ballerina Melissa Podcasy in 1997. We are

now in our 15th season, so we must be

doing something right.

ONC: Who are a few of your

mentors and people you admire in

the industry?

RW: Looking back over my

career, the people who influenced

me the most are the great George

Balanchine, who was the founder

and artistic director of New York

City Ballet, and his associate Jerome

Robbins. Then there are three truly

great teachers: the Russian dancer Andre

Eglevsky, Stanley Williams and David Howard,

who is still working in New York and has come on several

occasions to be a guest teacher at Carolina Ballet’s

summer intensive.

ONC: Can you describe "The Nutcracker" experience?

RW: "The Nutcracker" really changed my life from the

time I was a very young boy and still means a lot to me.

Performing in it was probably one of the yearly highlights

of my childhood.

It still is a very significant part of our season from year

to year but for different reasons. All ballet companies

across the country count on "The Nutcracker" to bring

in enough revenue on an annual basis to allow them to

do other things during the remainder of the season that

there wouldn’t be the funds for. We audition the children

in early September, and they rehearse on the weekends

throughout the fall until we get to the tech rehearsals at

the theater. It is a long process to get the children ready

for the stage, but they learn their counts, steps and their

places, and in the end, they do a very good job.

ONC: What makes this ballet so special for audiences?

RW: It is the magic of "The Nutcracker" that makes it so

special. The lights go down, the curtain rises and the audience

is transported to a magical world where a little girl falls asleep

on Christmas Eve and has the most amazing dream.

In our production, we have replaced the parlor games

and tricks in the Party Scene of Act I with grand illusions

that leave one wondering, "How did they do that?" We

hired Rick Thomas, a top Las Vegas magician, to build

and teach the dancers of the Drosselmeyer role a number

of very sophisticated illusions, which they were able to

pull off seamlessly last season. I do not think any other

company in the country has "The Nutcracker"

with a party scene on quite the same scale

as we do.

ONC: What are some of your

other goals and plans for the future

at Carolina Ballet?

RW: Since I have been here from

the beginning, I plan to stay for as

long as I am able. My goal moving

forward would be to continue to

work to make Carolina Ballet the

best company it can possibly be, and

I want to continue to create new work.

ONC: What's coming up at Carolina Ballet?

RW: The second half of our 15th anniversary

season offers a wide range of productions—four programs

in four months starting in February with "An Evening of

Lynne Taylor-Corbett," Feb. 7-24. Lynne has been our

principal guest choreographer since 2000 and has created

many wonderful ballets at Carolina Ballet. Two ballets on the

upcoming program are December Songs with Broadway’s

Lauren Kennedy singing on stage with the dancers and

Code of Silence. We are presenting "The Rite of Spring,"

March 7-24, choreographed by Christopher Stowell, artistic

director of Oregon Ballet Theatre, to coincide with the

100th anniversary of Stravinsky’s groundbreaking score.

I am excited about introducing this ballet and music to

the Triangle area audiences. The last two programs of

our season are polar opposites. "Fancy Free & Carolina

Jamboree" pairs The Red Clay Ramblers of Chapel Hill,

with Jerome Robbins' wonderful Fancy Free April 18-21,.

It's definitely a mix of blue grass and Broadway and sure

to be a crowd pleaser.

The final program of the season is a new "Giselle," the

greatest of all the romantic ballets. I will adapt the ballet

for the size of the company with Olga Kostritsky, the

renowned Russian teacher and Ballet Master.


38 OutreachNC • November 2012

OutreachNC • November 2012

Decking the halls for

holiday home tour

By Christine Lakhani

Special to OutreachNC

Christmas is just around the corner—

how did it get here so fast? One minute

you’re carving a pumpkin, then a turkey and

before you know it, baking cookies and wrapping

presents. Traditions are a magical part of the holiday

season, and the Apex Historical Society is celebrating

26 years of their Historic Home Tour.

This year, the tour is on Sunday, Dec. 2. Always the

same weekend as the Apex Christmas Tree Lighting

(Friday, November 30) and Parade (Saturday, December

1), it allows tour-goers a chance to glimpse into

Christmases past.

“It’s the start of the Christmas season,” notes Mary

Peterson, president of the Apex Historical Society.

“I love going around and seeing the homes,” Peterson

says. “You see familiar faces that come year after year.

You really get a chance to get out there and meet Apex.

Each house has something special.”

The Maynard-Pearson House circa 1870 is on the tour

every year, and is where the Society’s Old Fashioned

Sweet Shoppe is located. Peterson runs the Sweet

Shoppe while the tour is operating. Society members

make a variety of treats from peppermint bark to sea

foam to caramel corn.

Photos by Frank Green,

© Green Street Studios Photography

Joe and Lise Zublena's 1893 farmhouse is on the Apex Historical

Society's Holiday Home Tour, Sunday, Dec. 2. The Zublenas are

getting in the Christmas spirit by preparing the house for winter and

the home tour. The couple always wanted to own an older home and

has enjoyed the challenges and rewards of renovating.

If the weather cooperates, visitors can park and walk

to each of the homes on the tour. The tour is self-guided,

so visitors can start and finish whenever they like. The

homes are also close enough to downtown Apex that you

can have lunch, see the homes and then finish the tour

with dinner, all without ever getting back into their car.

“If there is a house you really want to see, come see

it because you might not get a chance to see it again for

years,” notes Peterson.

One of the homes on the tour this year, Joe and Lise

Zublena’s 1893 farm house at 317 North Salem Street,

was last featured on the tour in 1999. At the time, the

Zublenas had just moved into their new home and

begun renovations on the house, which had sat empty

for nine years. continued page 39


OutreachNC • November 2012 39

Visitors can expect elaborate, ornate holiday displays. For information on the Apex Historical Society, visit www.apexhistoricalsociety.com

“People will get to see how it all turned out,” laughs

Lise. “The tour also gives you the incentive to spruce

up and do all the things you’ve been thinking about

doing but haven’t done.”

The Zublenas always longed to own an older home.

“We always had that old house love,” says Lise.

All the moldings and floors in the Zublena's home

are original, as are the fireplaces, fixtures and the door

knobs and windows.

“We tried not to change anything because it would

change the character of the place,” remarks Lise.

During the tour, the Zublenas decorate with greenery

from the property, which Joe has landscaped beautifully.

Lise and Joe look forward to the tour and meeting the

people who come through the house. Friends and

family will be standing by in each room to answer

questions and point out interesting details.

“People who knew the original owners of our home

tell us stories about the house and the people that lived

here. And visitors appreciate the work that you’ve done,”

remarks Lise. “It’s a whole weekend of holiday cheer.”

Apex’s Halle Cultural Center, also on the tour, is

celebrating 100 years this Christmas, and will have

its traditional Christmas wreath and decorated tree

auction, benefiting a local charity. In addition to the

Halle Cultural Center, the Zublena’s, the Maynard-

Pearson house, the Historic Downtown Depot and

there are three other houses on the tour: the homes

of Don and Laura Grimes at 210 South Salem Street,

Billy and Susan Mills at 107 South Salem, and Richard

and Monica Derrenbacher at 212 Center Street.

Tickets are available in advance at the Apex Chamber

of Commerce at 220 North Salem Sreet, or at The

Rusty Bucket, 104 North Salem Street. On the day of

the tour, tickets can be purchased at the Depot or at

any of the houses on the tour.

Other local historic home tours include Historic

Oakwood in Raleigh (Date TBD) and the Wake Forest

Christmas Home Tour, on Saturday, Dec. 1. The

Preservation Society of Chapel Hill plans a home tour

for the weekend of Dec. 10.

Lakhani, a freelance writer and editor based in Raleigh,

can be reached at christine.lakhani@gmail.com.


40 OutreachNC • November 2012

Cooking up

N.C.'s Best Dish

Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Restaurants from around the state vied for honors in the Best Dish in North Carolina competition. In our region, first place honors went to

Gravy in Raleigh for Casual Dining and Rhett's in Southern Pines for Fine Dining. Gravy's Executive Chef Brent Hopkins, left, works with beets

fresh from a local farm. Rhett Morris stands amidst a field of fresh collards, which he used to make his winning collard green spring rolls

appetizer. Hopkins' winning entree, a local pork chop on local grits polenta with a fresh squash ragu (below),became popular with patrons.

Foodies and food lovers alike can appreciate

the winners in the Best Dish in North Carolina

competition, which showcases restaurants using

local ingredients and following the “eat local” and “farm

to table” ideals. N.C. Department of Agriculture and

Consumer Services organizers say 2012 was one of the

most competitive years yet.

For the competition in our area of the

state, restaurants competed in the

Eastern Piedmont/Coastal

Region, which stretches from

Chatham and Alamance

counties east. The

competition includes

fine and casual dining


Bringing home

first-place honors


are Gravy in Raleigh for

casual dining and Rhett’s in

Southern Pines for fine dining.

By Carrie Frye

Staff Writer

“The bar has been raised over the years, and this

year’s results show just how difficult it can be to place in

this competition,” says Agriculture Commissioner Steve

Troxler. “The difference between first and second

place was three points or less in several


Gravy owner Greg

Hatem appreciates the

relationships restaurants

can cultivate with local

farmers and the effect

it can have on the



page 41

OutreachNC • November 2012 41

The award is a huge honor,” says Hatem, the founder

of Empire Eats, which also owns and operates Sitti, The

Pit, Raleigh Times and Morning Times restaurants in

downtown Raleigh. “We believe that this is the future of

restaurants and the economy of North Carolina. We’ve

been big supporters of local, and we’ve worked especially

hard over the last few years in our restaurants to be a part

of this movement.”

Since coming to the Italian-American eatery of Gravy

on South Wilmington Street in Raleigh, Executive Chef

Brent Hopkins has made quite an impact, both in and out

of the kitchen.

“Brent came on in January," says, Joanie Wilson,

general manager at Gravy. “There’s always a transitional

period. In the first quarter, we didn’t make any changes

to the menu, just got acclimated and began using fresh,

local food as nightly features. We did a spring menu

change and began listing our sources and farms for local

ingredients and adding more descriptions to our menu.”

“It is not just about the food, it is about educating,” adds

Hatem. “It is sad that we went so long without doing this.

It is what is best for our guests, best for our chef, best for

our economy, and agriculture is so important to our state.

We can make sure that the farmers earn a livelihood and

are there for us for years to come.”

Hopkins created an appetizer and an entrée for the


“I love whatever is special that Brent makes,” says

Hatem, “whatever is in season. That is always my favorite

dish and what I’m ordering.”

“Obviously, we wanted to win and put our best foot

forward,” says Hopkins, who learned to embrace the

farm to table movement during the 10 years he lived

in Portland, Ore. “The competition wanted you to have

your menu items submitted by March and have it on the

menu for a month, so I had to forecast in March what

would be available in June. So, I got ahold of our farmer

connections to make a determination. We decided to go

with two entries.”

The appetizer was a North Carolina yellowfin tuna

crudo, which is a raw, sushi-style tuna diced and mixed

with local herbs, tomatoes and a long, thin slice of

cucumber mandolin, with a lemon vinaigrette.

“When we conceived the dishes, we wanted to have it

as local as possible,” says Hopkins. “Everything is local

except the salt, pepper, lemon and olive oil.”

The entrée Hopkins entered was a pork chop, which

may sound simple until the chef offers what’s involved in

making sure the pork is high quality, flavorful and local.

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“The pork is from MAE Farm Meats

in Louisburg, where the farmer decided

he wanted to go into selective breeding

and sustainable hog production. It is

about four breeds of pork that he has it

down to a science. We buy pork loin from

him and cut it into chops. We grill it up with

local grits polenta made with local butter and

creamy Asiago cheese. Then on top of the pork

chop, we do a squash ragű with local tomatoes, basil

and oregano.”

The pork chop was such a popular choice with patrons

that it remained on the menu through October. Hopkins

intends to replace with it another special pork shank

entrée original creation with fresh fall vegetables for the

this season’s menu.

“I look at it as food being in the moment, and things are

only good when they are in season. I get excited about

things coming in and having to conceive dishes within

boundaries, to see and make the dishes with what’s fresh

and available,” explains Hopkins.

There are also plenty of choices at Gravy like the house

made pasta and sausages, fresh grass-fed beef specials,

eggplant pie, fresh North Carolina shrimp and angel hair

pasta, or lasagna, which is Wilson’s favorite, and Family

Gravy, which is Hopkins’ favorite.

“We put a lot of work into that dish,” says Hopkins.

“The craftier chef you are, the more you can get out of

each individual product and the better the dish. It is a

‘meatapalooza’ on a plate."

Diners who are fans of eating local ingredients can also

appreciate the character of the 100-year-old building that

houses the restaurant, a former furniture store.

“The brickwork, hardwood floors, eclectic art and the

front windows overlooking Wilmington

Street make Gravy feel like a little

New York Italian place, where

it is loud, and everyone is

having a good time,” says

Wilson. ”

Once a month on

the third Wednesday

by reservation, Gravy

hosts a farmhouse

dinner, which

features an all-local

menu in their wine

cellar dining room.

“I have learned

so much about local

food,” says Wilson. “It

is exciting to see North

Rhett's winning

chicken cordon bleu

with sweet potato

mash and sautéed


Carolina turn into

a multicultural

place where people

can get fresh, quality,

local food.”

“We need that education

to be passed on so we have a

younger generation growing our food

and supporting local farms,” adds Hopkins. “I’m very

passionate about what I do. I’m always asking myself how

can I make a difference as a chef and translate that into

supporting the community and have food with purpose.”

Rhett Morris, owner of Rhett’s Restaurant, Personal

Chef and Catering in downtown Southern Pines uses

those same ideals in his kitchen.

"We are very proud to be acknowledged for our work

with local farmers,” says Morris. “Our menu features

primarily North Carolina products and changes seasonally

to reflect growing seasons. We strive to make simple,

creative dishes that offer the freshest products possible.

Building relationships with local farmers has enabled us

to truly offer a farm-to-fork approach that our customers

have come to appreciate."

Morris worked as an engineer in a machine shop for 16

years, but always enjoyed cooking.

“It all started when a doctor friend of mine asked me to

prepare some meals for him,” says Morris.

A few dinner parties turned into personal chef and

catering services that just began to grow into a full-time

business five years ago. However, owning a restaurant

wasn’t his initial plan.

“We did a lot of private events

and catering, and when the

economy worsened and

catering declined, we

opened the restaurant

for lunch. After a year

or so, we decided to

add dinner,” says


With the

restaurant growing,

Morris has became

a regular at the

farmers markets

or drives out to the

farms for what's


continued page 43


OutreachNC • November 2012 43

“I asked different farmers if they could grow this or that

for the restaurant, and I would have enough that there

was no reason to buy from anywhere else,” he says.

With that premise in mind, Morris began asking all of

his vendors for North Carolina products instead of just

focusing on fresh produce. With products like flour from

the Old Mill of Guilford in Oak Ridge, country ham from

Goodnight Brothers in Boone, all-natural chicken from

Ashley Farms in Winston-Salem, cheeses from Ashe

County Cheese in West Jefferson combined with fresh

fruit and vegetables from David’s Produce in Ellerbe,

Millstone Farm & Gardens in Cameron, Better Be Ellerbe

Peaches also in Ellerbe, Pressley Farms in Cameron,

honey from Moore County beekeepers to name just a

few that make for the freshest offerings.

“It’s our community, and the whole farm-to-table effort

started with folks wanting to know where their food

comes from and to support our local farmers, so I am

never dependent on the weather in California, just the

weather here in our state," says Morris.

For his entries into the competition, Morris came up

with a collard green spring roll appetizer, which has

collard greens and roasted pork belly stuffed into a spring

roll, wrapped and fried to a golden brown, served with the

house-made creamy mustard dipping sauce.

His soup entry was Southern Gazpacho made with

local cucumber, tomato, zucchini, bell pepper, yellow

squash and onion with chopped garlic blended with a

zippy tomato juice blend.

The salad entry, a spring vegetable ribbon salad

combined local zucchini, squash, carrots, jicama on a

bed of hydroponic bibb lettuce topped with a housemade

strawberry balsamic vinaigrette sorbet.

A menu staple is Rhett’s Southern-style chicken cordon

bleu, which is a cornmeal crusted airline chicken breast

stuffed with garlic, parsley and chive cheese and country

Prosciutto topped with a light honey gravy and served

with roasted sweet potato mash and sautéed greens.

For dessert, the judges were treated to a corn meal cake

topped with fresh local strawberries and whipped cream.

Morris incorporated N.C. products into all the courses.

Located in the historic Belvedere Plaza Courtyard

off West Pennsylvania Avenue in downtown Southern

Pines, Rhett’s serves lunch and dinner with dining room,

bar and outdoor courtyard seating.

Morris is honored to be in the company of previous

Moore County winners, Ashten’s in downtown Southern

Pines and Elliott’s in Pinehurst.

“Preparing local food and eating locally supports our

local economy," Morris says, "and I believe you should

do all you can for your state and your local community.”


44 OutreachNC • November 2012

Helping veterans get

most out of benefits

By Thad Mumau

Special to OutreachNC

Sharon Sanders is a self-proclaimed

Army brat and is one of those persons

who plunges heart-first into her job. She

is also one of those dedicated folks who does

not do what she does just for the paycheck.

Sanders’ job is to help military veterans

receive their much deserved benefits. All of

their benefits. She even refers to whatever

project is current as “my baby”.

Sanders, you see, is extremely involved —

longer than 40 hours a week, deeper than a

bank deposit slip. She really cares. Anyone

can tell by talking to her. It shows on her face

and in her voice after only a few minutes.

“My baby at the present time,” she says, “is

Basic Pension. Lots of veterans are eligible,

but many do not know about it.”

continued page 45

Photo by Dahlia Mumau, Special to OutreachNC

Sharon Sanders, director of Cumberland County Veterans

Services, stands in front of the Iron Mike statue at the

Airborne and Special Operations Museum in Fayetteville

with Todd Shockley, a member of her staff and an Army

veteran of 22 years.

Veterans can contact their county's Veterans Services office for help:


1225 Ramsey St.




615 S. Third St.




203 N. Main St.




125 S. Hancock St.




311 Yadkin Rd.




129 W. Elwood Ave.



Lumbee Tribe

707 Union Chapel Rd.




302 Monroe St.




113 W. Eighth St.,




567 East Hargett St.

Suite 124B, Raleigh



OutreachNC • November 2012 45

For clarification, this program does NOT refer to a

pension as most of us know it. It has nothing to do with

Webster’s definition, which is, “a fixed amount paid at

regular intervals; i.e., a retirement pension.”

Basic Pension is for veterans and their widows

with low incomes and with non-service connected


“What this means is,” Sanders explains, “if a veteran

or veteran’s widow is found to be in need of aid and

attendance – assistance with daily living activities – he

or she can deduct these fees as a recurring monthly


“These fees include the cost of home health care,

assisted living or a nursing home. They can count

Medicare premiums, health insurance premiums as

well as actual costs of nursing homes, assisted living

and home health care.”

These facts are not always known by those who may


“I am emphasizing this,” Sanders says, “because

people are not aware of this program. This became my

baby when I realized how many people do not know

about the help that’s there for them.

“A whole lot of people thought this was a welfare

program. It’s not. It is a benefit they have earned

because of their military service.”

Sanders also wants to warn veterans and their

widows of people who seek money to represent them

in their quest for benefits.

“Veterans and widows should never – I emphasize

NEVER – pay to have a benefits claim of any kind filed.

See a veterans service officer. That is what we are

here for. We want to help you.”

That is particularly true in Sanders’ case.

She grew up in Texas, the daughter of a country

doctor who was often paid for his services with

chickens and vegetables. After becoming an Army

doctor, he was stationed at Fort Bragg. Sanders has

been in Fayetteville since 1965.

“I love people,” she says, “and I really love working

with veterans. They are close to my heart. We, as

veterans service officers, want to see that vets and

their widows receive all the benefits to which they are


“My dad was a wonderful man who helped others.

That’s what I want to do.”

There are seven people in Sanders’ office, five

of whom are veterans. All are state-certified to

handle claims with the Veterans Administration. The

Fayetteville office assists from 800 to 950 clients

per month. Because of Fort Bragg, it is probably the

busiest veterans services office in North Carolina.

Sometimes we hear of complaints from veterans of

delays in getting a response from claims for benefits.

“The problem we’re having with veterans receiving

their benefits,” Sanders says, “is that there is a backup

at the regional main office in Winston-Salem. A lot of it

is occurring because of the number of new veterans.

So many people are getting out of the military.

“Many national guard members and reservists have

been deployed and are now eligible for benefits. These

are people who were not eligible for benefits before the

immense deployments.”

Sanders stresses that veterans services officers are

on the side of the veterans and their widows and that

there are numerous benefits.

“There are benefits for education, disability and home

loans, among others,” she says. “We in the veterans

services offices want to help those who deserve

benefits to get what they have coming to them.

“Vets and their widows should take advantage of our

services. They should come and see us at our offices

and find out what they are eligible for.”


46 OutreachNC • November 2012

Grey Matter

See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 48


1. Rhyming word


7. Christmas song


14. Lamenters

15. Cupidity

16. Producing a

photochemical effect

17. Seasonal wind in

southern Asia

18. Backstabber

19. Church official

21. “___ bitten, twice


22. Pinocchio, at


24. Gift tag word

25. Butt

26. ___ tube

28. Barber’s motion

30. “How ___!”

31. Fit together

33. A late riser

35. Kind of triangle

37. More flashy, as in


40. Bundle

44. Coastal raptor

45. Excursion

47. Harder to find

48. Dumfries denial

49. “Beowulf,” e.g.

51. Harp’s cousin

52. Gossip, slangily

54. Bag

56. A.T.M. need


57. Iridaceous plant

with fragrant one-sided

clusters of flowers

59. Turned away

61. South American,

dark, nocturnal bird

62. Teapot covering

(2 wds)

63. Sports official

64. Off the mark


1. Addictive narcotic

2. Canes made from

palm stems

3. “Gimme ___!”

(start of an Iowa State

cheer) (2 wds)

4. Darn, as socks

5. Succinct

6. Academy Awards

7. Daisy-like plant

8. Shakespeare, the

Bard of ___

9. Amscrayed

10. About (2 wds)

11. Young Simba (2


12. Destruction of the


13. Backed out of a


14. Nemo’s dad

20. Draftee

23. Stop working

27. Medical advice,


29. Soft, moist part

of fruit

30. ___ Flatts

32. “Go ahead!” (2


34. Reverse, e.g.

36. A musical

composition in


someone’s honor

37. Summon (2 wds)

38. “Little House on

the ___”

39. Alone, used with


41. Atomic number 36

42. Supremely


43. Chic

46. Plagiarist

50. Speleologist

53. Daughter of Zeus

54. Cork’s country

55. Brandy flavor

58. “Dear” one

60. ___ Victor


Writers series welcomes playwright

Kicking off the 2012-13 Ragan Writers Series at

Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities

is Gary Carden. Carden, 77, is a playwright

and recent recipient

of the 2012 North

Carolina Award

for Literature, the

highest civilian

award given by the


Carden, a former

English and

drama teacher

who segued into

an award-winning

playwright performs

scenes from his

plays on Sunday,

Nov. 18 at 3 p.m. at

Weymouth Center,

555 E. Connecticut

Avenue in Southern


Carden, who lives

OutreachNC • November 2012 47

in Sylva in the western North Carolina mountains,

came up the hard way. Raised by his grandparents,

he had polio as a child but that enabled him to receive

a college education through Vocational Rehabilitation.

He attended Western Carolina Teachers College—

now Western Carolina University (WCU)—graduating

in 1958, and later earned his Master’s degree in


Hearing problems cut short his career as a teacher

and play director, but he had already started writing

plays, starting with “The Uktena” based on a Cherokee

legend. It won the New Plays Festival in Atlanta in

1982. He proceeded to write more plays, including

the autobiographical “The Raindrop Waltz” which has

been performed over 300 times.

Carden has a storytelling/drama/music program

called “The Liars Bench,” at the Mountain Heritage

Center at WCU. His play, “Signs and Wonders” will

be produced at the White Horse Saloon in Black

Mountain next month.

Seating is limited for Carden's performance, so

advance tickets are recommended, but may be

purchased at the door. For more information, call 910-




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Many of you recall the days when renting a car

was a simple business transaction. Those

days are long gone, and the process of renting

a vehicle has become as complicated as a real estate

transaction. We have all been there, standing in line

waiting for our turn to approach

the counter. It’s overwhelming

when you are hurried to “sign

here” or “initial there” in an

attempt to hurry the process up

so the remaining customers can

be taken care of in a timely

Consumer Beware

manner. While I cannot

break down the complexity

of a rental agreement, I can

offer you a few tips to enhance your rental experience

and perhaps save some money.

When renting a car, those so-called “additional fees”

(fine print fees) and taxes can raise the rate you were

quoted by as much as 50 percent. Let’s take a look at a

few of these add-ons:

• Satellite Radio – Many of the newer vehicles

today are equipped with radios that are capable of

receiving not only the traditional AM/FM signals but also

satellite radio which often adds an additional $5 a day to

the quoted cost of the rental. Be specific when making your

reservation if you do not want the satellite radio option.

• GPS Navigation – Global Positioning Systems

(GPS), both “factory installed” and portable units, are

another popular option. While these navigation systems

can be extremely helpful, the additional cost is about $50

a week. Again, be specific when making your reservation

if you do not want the GPS navigation system.

• Toll Transponder – Another popular add-on

item is the toll device (EZ-Pass, Quick Pass, etc.) for the

local area where you are renting the vehicle. In addition to

Steer clear of car rental add-ons

the cost of renting the transponder

and the cost of the tolls you pass

through, some agencies charge

a service fee for processing

your toll charges. Check

ahead of time to see if your

current transponder (if portable)

can be used in the area you will be traveling. Many

transponders are accepted in multiple states. Check with

your toll pass provider as to their specific restrictions.

• Additional Drivers – When renting a vehicle,

ask ahead of time before indicating there will be an

additional driver other than the renter. The policy for

additional drivers varies from agency to agency. Adding

an additional driver often will cost you an additional $10

a day. However, companions to disabled renters are

exempt from additional authorized driver charges.

• Fuel Option – When given the opportunity consider

not accepting the fuel option where you pay for a full tank

of gas upfront and are allowed to return the vehicle with

less than a full tank with no additional charge. Unless you

return the vehicle running on fumes, you will be on the

losing end every time.

When making a reservation for a rental vehicle, your

best defense is to ask about every possible cost and

make it known specifically which options you want and

specifically don’t want. Repeat these assertions at the

rental counter. Ask about any additional fees that could

be looming such as late fees, mileage restrictions and

roadside service.

Prior to renting, check with your auto insurance provider for

guidance. You'll be pleasantly surprised at the money-saving

advice your insurance professional can provide.

For more information, contact the Community Services Unit

of the Southern Pines Police Dept. at 910-692-2732, ext. 2852.

Grey Matter Answers


Stay on the ball with stretching

You wake up ready to start your day and take on

the world, only to find that you have an ache in

your neck or back. Maybe you slept on it wrong,

or maybe it's time for a new mattress. The pain doesn't

have to ruin what a day of golf, shopping or running

errands. You can help to alleviate the pain from those

areas by doing a few easy movements and stretches.

The first movement used to stretch the neck is lateral

flexion. Starting with good posture, sit or stand up

straight, then slowly bring right ear to right shoulder.

Move head back to neutral position. Repeat with left ear

to left shoulder. Take your time and hold each position

for 10-15 seconds.

For the second movement

to relax muscles around

the neck, you will need

a tennis or lacrosse ball.

Stand about three to

four inches away from

the wall with your back

to it. Place the ball on

your trapezius muscle, just

to the right or left of the

OutreachNC • November 2012 49

posterior part of your neck. Use your

body weight to start lightly pressing

back into the ball. Slowly slide your

body, so that the ball rolls away from

your neck toward your shoulder. Start

with light pressure, then gradually

increase the pressure on the ball. If


the pain is too great with increased

pressure, listen to your body and

decrease the pressure. Roll each

side of your trapezius for approximately two to three

minutes each.

The lacrosse or tennis ball can also be used to

massage your lower back by using the same technique

of standing in front of a wall and leaning back in to ball.

This can also be accomplished by lying on the ground

with the ball under the problem area of your back.

Always check with your doctor before starting new


Weiss, a registered nurse, certified Level 1 CrossFit

trainer and manager at East Coast CrossFit, can be reached

at (910) 986-2625 or eastcoastcrossfit@gmail.com.


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Each new day worthy of our thanks

The season is upon us. We’ve been

bombarded with Halloween, Thanksgiving

and Christmas commerce for what seems

like months. I realize that these are the days when

many businesses make it or break it for the year,

and given the economy, everyone is trying to get our

money early.

Traditionally we express our gratitude at this time of

year and put friends and family at the top of our lists.

For some people, friends and family may not be part

of the equation, whether by choice or circumstances.

We could help by including them in our festivities.

It’s wonderful to be grateful for what you have, both

materially and in your hearts. It’s more wonderful to

share with someone who needs the milk of human

kindness this year.

I am particularly grateful for my family this year.

We live a thousand miles apart so getting together is

always a treat. We had a week with my brother and

sister-in-law in February. For the July Fourth week,

we had my nephews from Canada, one who teaches

in Kuwait and his twin brother and his wife with their

2-year-old. What a great time we had just being

together. In September, we surprised my brother in

Ottawa for a birthday. It’s very gratifying that nieces

and nephews still want to visit.

One of the things I shall be most grateful for is

the end of the election season. All I ask of those

elected is that they puh-lease get along with each

other. It’s time to stop bickering like small children

and step up to do the country’s business. No matter

how annoyed I get with the political system, I’m still


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A close second for my

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know which direction they

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I’m not a mind reader yet,

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Hmmm, must be going to turn that way. Welllll,

maybe not.

Each new day is worth gratitude. That may sound

like a trite saying, but it’s true. Ask anyone who’s

been close to not seeing a new day, and they’ll tell

you how grateful they are. Today may not turn out

to not be the greatest day in your life, but tomorrow

just might be.

If we have been lucky enough to enjoy life, then it’s

time to share that joy with others who may be down

on their luck, depressed, unhappy or alone. The milk

of human kindness is ours to share. Be glad that you

can help another. That’s “paying it forward,” and if

you find yourself in need some day, help will come

from unexpected sources.

As I sit at my cluttered desk, I’m grateful for every

small note, important mail and unimportant trivial

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