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Navigating all your lifestyle choices
Best Dish Winners
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This has to be
the most beautiful month of fall
color to drive around the region distributing
all of the magazines. I try to make sure
I take it all in before I have to wait for
another year. It is amazing that the last two
months of 2012 are already upon us. We
have many reasons to be thankful.
In the spirit of Thanksgiving, November
is National Family Caregivers Month, and
it would be hard to think of anyone more
deserving of thanks than the caregivers
among us. Three organizations in our
area are honoring caregivers with
recognition and awards. The Potters
Hands, Family Caregiver Award in Lee
County and the 2012 Caregiver Awards of
Moore County each pay tribute to some
special caregivers. With OutreachNC as a
sponsor of the Moore County event, I had
the opportunity and honor to meet and
interview three amazing and dedicated
individuals. I hope the stories of all those
recognized might prompt you to take the
time to say a special thank you this month
to any caregivers you know.
If the farm-fresh pumpkin pictured above
has you thinking of Thanksgiving Day, you
are not alone. We go down on the farm
to David's Produce in Ellerbe. Growing
produce practically year-round, this couple
always has the best of what's in season.
Using the freshest, local ingredients
is what the Best Dish in North Carolina
restaurant competition is all about. The
first place honors for both casual and
fine dining are restaurants right here in
our region, Gravy in Raleigh and our very
own "Cooking Simple" columnist Rhett's
in Southern Pines. We got to see and
taste how these winners incorporate the
best of what local farmers have to offer
into their menus.
If you are up for a holiday treat, the
Apex Historical Society is ready with their
From the Editor
annual Holiday Home Tour.
We meet one couple whose
renovated historic farmhouse is among
the tour stops that are filled with ornate
decorations and holiday goodies.
Another holiday favorite is Carolina
Ballet's "The Nutcracker." We sit down for
a Carolina Conversation with the ballet's
founding artistic director Robert Weiss for
an insider's look into this classic and learn
how he fell in love with the performing arts.
Moving to the literary arts, we meet
North Carolina's own bestselling author
Margaret Maron. If you haven't read one
of her books, they are hard-to-put-down,
whodunit mystery novels with her popular
character Deborah Knott with settings in
our state. Maron shares why Johnston
County is her home sweet home.
Two veterans, one from World War I and
the other from World War II, called Moore
County their home. Two dedicated men
have been instrumental in memorials at the
Gilliam-McConnell Airfield in Carthage and
are now working on a museum to preserve
the stories of these local heroes.
And in honor of Veterans Day this month,
observed Monday, Nov. 12, we cannot
say thank you enough to all veterans for
their service to our country. We meet the
Veterans Services director in Cumberland
County, whose goal is to help veterans
receive the benefits they so deserve.
With old rivalries like Army vs. Navy, N.C.
State vs. Carolina, or my Florida State vs.
Florida games, this is football weather.
"Game On" remembers the great Demon
Deacon Brian Piccolo, and we even talk
fight songs in "Sentimental Journey."
I hope you enjoy reading this and every
issue as much as we enjoy bringing it
to you. Thanks to all of our readers and
advertisers, and we wish you all a very
Happy Thanksgiving! Until next month...
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Q: My mother has
been living with
us for over a year.
When she first moved in, she
was fairly independent and
was able to help me with the
kids after school. She had a
stroke three months ago and
now needs assistance with
daily care as well as meals.
I do not know how long I
can continue to balance work
and care for my mom, and I
feel my stress level mounting.
What can I do to cut down on
my level of stress and still care for my mom?
A: One of the most important aspects of caregiving
is knowing when you need a break, when you
are overwhelmed and when more resources are
needed. Your ability to recognize your increased stress
is a great first step. Some things that a caregiver should
• Physical signs – changes in sleep patterns, digestive
problems, changes in appetite, dry mouth and racing
• Emotional signs – being tearful without an apparent
Ask the Expert
will answer any
you might have.
Fax your questions
to (910) 695-0766 or
e-mail them to
Amy Natt, MS, CCM, CSA
Geriatric Care Manager
919-535-8713 • 910-692-0683
cause, anger, agitation,
irritability, anxiety, apathy,
fatigue and laughing at
inappropriate times or
• Behavioral signs –
neglect of personal care
or grooming, neglect of
family relationships or
responsibilities and changes
in routine habits, interests or
Managing stress and
burnout is what enables
you to sustain your role as
a caregiver and provide the best care possible for your
mom. If your health deteriorates, you will be of little
assistance to your mom or your children. It will no doubt
impact your work performance as well. Caregivers,
who feel they have to choose between caregiving and
employment or the ability to care for their own nuclear
family, often experience increased stress and guilt. The
change in your mom’s medical condition has triggered
a need for increased care and assistance. This is a
time to bring in reinforcements and implement a plan
for increased support. If you have not already gathered
information on community resources, start by finding
out what type of respite care services are available. You
can talk to neighbors or church members as well as a
professional such as a care manager. Check out adult
day programs and in-home care support services. Talk
to your local department of aging about transportation
or meal services. There are also emergency response
systems that allow your mom to call for help when you
are not home.
Ultimately, you need more support for yourself and the
ability to make informed decisions about how to provide
the care your mom now needs. Set some guidelines for
yourself, outlining what you realistically can and cannot
do, then start to fill in the gaps with the combination of
family, volunteer and paid services that will meet her
additional needs. Make sure your family and your medical
provider know how you are feeling. Seek out a support
group to find other adult children who are facing similar
situations, “sandwiched” between care for a parent and
care for children. Lastly, talk to your employer and find out
if you have any flexible options for your work schedule and
responsibilities. Actively identify and manage the stress
you are experiencing, and you will be on the right path. It
can be a difficult process and emotional roller coaster, but
getting the support and additional resources in place will
give you and your mom that safety net you need.
Of women and whales
The first sentence in a recent news story made
me want to wash my eyes out with vodka.
"Scientists have been hard pressed to
explain why menopause happens so early in humans;
there's no obvious evolutionary advantage to having
your reproductive system shut down decades before
the rest of your body."
Well, sure there is. I would "evolve" into a complete
lunatic if I had to shop for diapers in wildly different
sizes every week, churning out babies well into my
Yes, in all of the animal kingdom, it turns out that
only killer whales and human females lose their
ability to reproduce decades before they die.
I did not know this.
When I read it, I let out a long, low whistle, which
is the sound my sistah whales make all the time now
that I think about it.
Researchers think whale menopause evolved to
reduce competition between different generations of
reproducing women in one family.
But more interesting than that is this little nugget:
Killer whale moms care for their sons well past the
male whale's 30th birthday, and data proves that if
the mom isn't around, Sonny Boy whale is 14 times
more likely to die within a year.
I suppose living in the whale family basement
playing Resident Evil 6 loses its appeal after mom
stops bringing the bacon sandwiches downstairs.
Oh, wait. That doesn't make any sense. Whales
don't eat bacon.
Turns out, male whales "struggle to survive" without
their mama's help.
I suppose this is because, without her, there is
no one around to remind him that no one he dates
is good enough for him and, really, must he hang
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around those sperm
whales all the time?
They're a bad influence.
that the mama whale
is so protective of her
son because she "wants
him to give her lots of Belle Weather
That's exactly what the
scientists said: grand-whales.
Strangely, girl whales' survival isn't affected by the
mama whale dying.
Scientists have an answer for that, too. They think
it's because once the daughter whale grows up, she
leaves home and goes on the road with a band and
forgets everything her mother ever tried to teach her
about how "nothing good can come from staying out
Well, not in so many words but the idea is that girl
whales take up with their partner's family and pretty
much do their own thing. Even then, it's hard to be
in a whale relationship because his mama is always
sitting on the metaphorical couch between them.
If the daughter-in-law whale tries to bring home
a nice piece of urchin, or whatever, the mama
probably shrieks at her: "You know he's allergic to
starfish! You could've KILLED him."
There's still no word on how menopause affects
the health of the whale moms but, from my own
experience, I'm guessing more blubber around the
middle. Oh, and a crabby attitude.
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Book Reviews: The Cove
& Paul Newman, A Life
friend and fellow book club
member hails from the
North Carolina mountains.
She recommended Ron Rash's
new book, "The Cove." I am glad
I read this one because Rash is
poetic, and his writing gets right
to the heart of the matter.
A native of Appalachia who
teaches at Western Carolina
University, he weaves a tale of
a lonely brother and sister, Hank
and Laurel Shelton, who live in a lonely, isolated valley
homestead that their parents toiled over for years and
where light rarely enters.
Laurel is considered a witch and is shunned by
classmates and townspeople alike because of a prominent
birthmark. Hank sacrificed an arm to service in World War
I, but he attempts to get the home in order for his sister as
he intends to marry and live outside the area.
A stranger enters the picture. Laurel nurses him from
multiple yellow jacket stings. He romances her with beautiful
music he plays on a silver flute. The stranger gives Laurel
hope of a life outside the cove, but many developments
hinder this. Read the book. Rash is a writing genius.
“Paul Newman, A Life” by Shawn Levy made me realize
why I have always been a fan of the blue-eyed movie
star. I loved the author’s meticulous depiction of him as a
young man. His dreamy blue eyes were discovered to be
color-blind when he went in service. He wore a rumpled
white seersucker suit while peddling encyclopedias
when he was a struggling young actor. He became part
of “New York in the 50s,” when he moved with his first
wife to Staten Island in 1954. He met his second wife,
Joanne Woodward, while rehearsing “Picnic” and with
her created a marriage that spanned decades.
Definitive about his work, he achieved a separation of
his public life from his private one. He never abandoned
his family although he knew he was not cut out for the
family business. His philanthropy is well known as is his
interest in racing.
I found it
interesting that Levy
never met Newman
his rendition of a
favorite of Tinsel
Medicare.gov made simpler
Have you noticed something new on the
Medicare website, www. Medicare.gov? It
has a new design that makes it faster and
easier for you to answer your Medicare questions.
They know Medicare.gov is a trusted source of online
That’s why they worked
more than two years
improving the things
you use most. They did
interviews and focus
groups with people
like you and the people
who help you with your
Medicare questions to
help them find out what
matters most to you. We used that feedback to make
the website more user-friendly.
The new Medicare.gov website includes features not
available before such as:
Many ways for you to do the most common tasks,
like finding out about costs, coverage and plans
through several paths — right from the homepage;
Action-oriented labels to help you get the
information you want faster;
Design that works on mobile devices, like tablets
and smartphones, so you can get information
anytime, anywhere, and in the most convenient format
The new Medicare.gov is just one of the efforts over
the past year to make it easier for you to understand
your Medicare. Whether it’s putting our information
in straightforward language so you can understand
it the first time you read it or improving the design
of the “Medicare Summary Notice" so you can better
understand your Medicare claims, we’re committed to
making Medicare information clearer and simpler.
If you have any additional questions, call SHIIP at
1-800-443-9354. A SHIIP counselor will be happy to
meet with you to discuss Medicare and the Extra Help/
Low Income Subsidy program.
Don't forget that Open Enrollment for Medicare
continues through Dec. 7.
Peterson, A SHIIP Medicare Counselor at the Moore
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By its simplest definition, the fiscal
cliff refers to the potential abrupt
slowdown in the U.S. economy
that could occur in 2013 if taxes rise and
government spending falls, as is currently
scheduled. According to the Committee for
a Responsible Federal Budget, the magnitude
of the pending tax increases combined with the
spending cuts that will start to hit the economy
on Jan. 1, 2013 equates to a $6.8 trillion federal deficit
reduction over the next 10 years. The complication arises
when the trade-off becomes dampened economic growth
over the short term, leading to a further drag on a weak
The fiscal cliff has a number of complicated and
controversial economic topics. Here is an overview:
The Bush tax cuts—the lower tax rates in effect
• for the past decade—are scheduled to expire at
the end of 2012. Republicans believe the Bush tax cuts
should be extended for all taxpayers. Democrats believe
they should be extended only for middle- and lowerincome
families. President Obama reportedly has said
he will veto any further extension of the Bush tax cuts
for upper-income families. Expiration of these tax cuts
would increase the top tax rate on ordinary income from
35 percent to 39.6 percent, increase the tax on dividends
from 15 percent to 39.6 percent, and increase tax on
long-term capital gains from 15 percent to 20 percent. In
addition, the current top estate tax rate of 35 percent with
a $5.12 million per person exemption would be replaced
with a top rate of 55 percent and a $1 million exemption
(www.irs.gov - Pub. L. 107-16).
The employee portion of the Social Security tax
• rates that were lowered to 4.2 percent in 2011 will
To help finance 2010 health care legislation, Congress
• approved a new 3.8 percent Medicare contribution
return back to the prior 6.2 percent at the end of 2012.
tax on unearned (investment) income to take effect in
January 2013. To the extent a married couple's (filing
joint) modified-adjusted gross income is above $250,000,
(or $200,000 for individual taxpayers), taxable investment
income such as interest, dividends, capital gains, rents
and royalties will be subject to an additional tax of 3.8
percent. This additional tax will not apply to non-taxable
What is a fiscal cliff anyway?
income such as tax-exempt
municipal bond interest or
to amounts withdrawn from
qualified retirement plans and
IRAs. This unearned income
Medicare contribution tax is
intended to raise revenue for
the pending health
To help further
• offset the cost of
providing health insurance to millions of Americans, this
new law imposes an additional 0.9 percent Medicare
tax for upper-income households. Under current law,
wages are subject to a 2.9 percent Medicare tax with
employees and employers each paying 1.45 percent. But
effective 2013, employees with wages above $200,000
for individuals and $250,000 for married couples filing
jointly will be taxed an additional 0.9 percent, bringing
their total Medicare tax to 2.35 percent.
The compromise reached last August to increase
• the national debt ceiling (thereby allowing the United
States to avoid defaulting on Treasury securities) calls for
cuts in discretionary government spending of $2.1 trillion
over ten years, including about $1 trillion of defense cuts.
The bulk of these cuts is slated to begin in 2013.
No legislation needs to be passed in 2012 for these
tax increases and spending cuts to take effect in 2013. If
Congress fails to stop the implementation of the current
legislation, the higher taxes and lower spending are likely
to cause a significant slowdown in the economy, at least
the first half of 2013, as projected by the Congressional
Budget Office report; (Source: Economic Effects of
Reducing the Fiscal Restraint That Is Scheduled to Occur
in 2013, Congressional Budget Office, May 2012).
Regardless of who wins the presidential election, let’s
hope both parties are willing to negotiate a compromise
before the end of the year.
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Visit Southern Pines
Nov. 19 - Dec. 31
Parade of Christmas Trees
Decorated Christmas trees light up
downtown Broad Street for a festive
ambience for the holiday season.
Saturday, Dec. 1
Annual Christmas Parade
10 a.m. Downtown Southern Pines
Six marching bands, loads of floats,
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Saturday, Nov. 24
Christmas Tree Lighting
4:30 p.m., Southern Pines Train Station
The annual lighting of the Holly tree
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This is a lesson for us all: go to the
doctor one problem at a time.
Years ago, I got into the habit of
saving up my maladies and going for one
big bang visit of 20 minutes! This was
because, No. 1. I had no health insurance.,
No. 2. I had no health insurance and No. 3. I
had no health insurance.
Going to the doctor once every 100 years
means your file is kept in the archives where the
papyrus documents and the Dead Sea scrolls are
stored. You want an appointment? Be prepared to
wait while they find it, blow the dust off and carefully
unwrap the parchment.
Doc Frank's office doesn’t bother to ask why I’m
coming in any more; they’re too afraid.
“Will Madam be having the usual?," they say marking
me down for 20 minutes.
I actually categorize my ailments now to avoid covering
the foot booboo, the suspicious butt mole and my eye’s
staph infection at the same time. It got too confusing.
Doc Frank would be looking for the mole in my eye, the
booboo on my butt...you get the idea. But when you’re
self-pay, you got to do what you got to do.
I explained to Doc Frank that my left palm between
the index and middle fingers had an old piece of glass
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shard trying to escape through
a nerve ending and my skin;
that my middle finger on my
right hand had an aching joint
seriously prohibiting my ability
to flip someone the “bird;" and
my left thumb did nothing unless
pain was involved.
Doc Frank is efficient. He
was feeling my painful glass
shard before I was even
done telling him the rest.
“Not glass, scar tissue, X-ray,” he said. Doc Frank is
so efficient he doesn’t waste time speaking in complete
“Non-functioning 'bird' finger, arthritis. Painful thumb,
arthritis. X-rays,” he told the nurse and was gone.
When he returned with the X-rays, we discovered he’d
been right on all three counts. I was impressed, right up
until he said, “Syringes, cortisone, three," to the nurse.
Gone again, he timed his return to the exact milli-second
when the needles were ready.
“Now I’m going to put a dab of cortisone on each spot.”
Doc Frank was clearly not new to inserting sharp-pointy
metallic objects into people’s tender spots; nor was he
new to lying. Speaking, complete sentences, highly
I, too, have been around the block more than once
so I asked, “Would that involve the use of sharp, pointy
I swallowed as how I’d heard about cortisone shots.
“You want me to make it feel better or not?”
Doc Frank is a man of few words because he sees 55
patients a day, which is like one every five minutes.
The first shot was excruciatingly, horrifyingly, stunningly
painful. No. 2 left me breathless and I suggested I could
come back to get one shot a day.
“Yeah, but you’re here now,” Doc said.
This was payback.
At No. 3, I covered my mouth to muffle the screams,
thumped my feet on the floor and was hollering
spontaneous utterances like “HOLY MOTHER OF GOD!”
“JEESUS!” and “PEACEFUL LOVE OF THE BUDDHA!”.
I was getting ready with “merciful Allah” when it ended.
Slumped over the exam table, I wondered how the heck
Doc had even speared me. I’d been jumping like a bean.
“We get that a lot,” he said. “Got anything else that
Yeah, each of my wrists. I’ll be damned if I tell him that.
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Three cheers for a good fight song
The air is crisp and cool, leaves are changing their
colors, the days are shorter and I want nothing
more than to keep a pot of soup or chili going in
the kitchen. These kind of days are the perfect backdrop
for my favorite fall pastime, football. Fall and football
are the perfect combination. Allegiance to college alma
maters run deep, and so do
the rivalries. The easiest way
to get the loyal fans riled up
is for the band to start playing
the fight song. Each team has
one. We all have a personal
bias that our team’s fight song
is the best.
The other day I was
at a client’s home and
the husband started
talking about football.
Now this I can relate to. He’s an alumnus of Purdue
University. I asked him to describe his favorite memories
from attending football games while in college. He erupted
into his school fight song, word for word.
“To your call once more we rally; alma mater hear our
praise; where the Wabash spreads its valley; filled with
joy our voices raise. Form the skies in swelling echoes
come the cheers that tell the tale of your vict'ries and
your heroes, hail Purdue! We sing all hail! Hail, hail to old
Purdue! All hail to our old gold and black! Hail, hail to old
Purdue! Our friendship may she never lack. Ever grateful,
ever true, thus we raise our song anew of the days we've
spent with you, all hail our own Purdue!”
I love the energy a marching band brings to a football
game, especially when they play the college fight song.
Recently, I was at my alma mater, Florida State University,
for a football game. Since it was an away game for my
beloved Seminoles, the band did not travel with the team.
Without the Marching Chiefs to play our war chant and
fight song, the atmosphere was lacking and so was the
energy of the team evident, in their lackluster performance
on the gridiron.
Music has such an important role in many of our favorite
activities. I often focus on the soothing and calming effects
music offers to clients and its power to unlock memories.
Music can also stir and energize us to lift our mood. What
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David and Jackie Sherrill have operated their produce stand, David's Produce, off U.S. 220 in Ellerbe since 1982. After 30 years, they still
have a love for the family land and what it provides for their community. Sweet potatoes, collards (above) and acorn squash (below) are
just a few of their crops ready for the fall harvest. For more information, call (910) 652-6413 or visit www.davidsproduce.com.
Homegrown and farm fresh
Fields of green abound for a fall harvest for this
Thanksgiving. Family, too, runs deep in the soil in
Richmond County, deep in the fertile land of the
Sandhills and base of the Piedmont spanning 400 acres.
Here on his grandfather’s land in Ellerbe, farming is all
David Sherrill has ever wanted to do.
“I always wanted it,” recalls David. “I knew when I was
10 years old. It was driving the tractor, working in the dirt
and watching something grow. It’s a thrill.”
That thrill and passion led to David and Jackie making
a plan to share their lives, raise a family and build a
produce stand on the property off U.S. 220 in 1982.
“We drew a stand on the back of a pack of cigarettes,”
remembers David with a nostalgic smile.
The couple married a year later and hasn’t looked back
except to take in the view
of the family’s acreage that
produces a multitude of fresh
produce, flowers and meats.
From 1977 to 2004, the Sherrills grew tobacco.
“I quit growing it and smoking, and I haven’t missed it yet,”
David says. “We transitioned to other crops and started
growing more sweet potatoes, cantaloupes and corn.”
The produce stand grew from a mere drawing into an
agritourism destination named simply David’s Produce.
From mid to late March through Dec. 31, the stand is
open seven days a week with the harvest of what the
“He should have named it ‘The Meeting Place,’” says
Lillian Sherrill, David’s mom, who still helps at the
produce stand. “People do love to come out and visit.”
The plethora of fresh-picked produce draws a crowd. A
cornucopia of fall crops currently fill the stand from acorn
and butternut squash to pumpkins, Indian corn, gourds,
sweet potatoes, beans and more. Surprisingly
enough, the Sherrills don’t actually grow peanuts
or apples on the farm, but they bring in both as
an extra value for their customers.
When the road was set to bypass the produce
stand a few years ago, the Sherrills kept going
and growing. With the loss of direct traffic
driving by, signs off the new Interstate 73/74
now lead those hungry for what’s in season to
alternate U.S. 220 to David’s Produce.
continued page 16
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continued from page 14
To make sure they stay in the minds and
stomachs of their loyal customers and to
cultivate new ones, the Sherrills take part
in the farmers markets in Rockingham,
Pinehurst and Southern Pines.
Not only were the Sherrills able to sell
more produce through the markets but
also sprout new friendships. Restaurants
like Elliott’s and Rhett’s in Moore County
now call upon the Sherrills for fresh
vegetables to tempt the taste buds of
their diners. Jackie has even taken on
growing a variety of fresh lettuces when
“They are easy to work with, and if we
don’t have something, we meet in the
middle,” says Jackie. “We started growing
basil for Rhett’s, and now we grow it for
the Sandhills Farm to Table boxes, too.
You can make everybody happy with a
little fresh basil pesto and bread.”
When the community-owned enterprise
of Sandhills Farm to Table Cooperative
began offering fresh produce boxes to
its subscribers, it was a natural fit for the
“I wasn’t sure what the response would
be when the co-op began, but the interest
now is more than just the subscribers.
People are interested and seeking out
fresh, local food,” says Jackie amidst a
field of collards ready for the picking. “We
provide enough collards for the boxes
to smell up plenty of homes,” she adds,
laughing. “It is really too much to tell about
what goes into the boxes every week…
cabbage, acorn squash, kale, a lot of basil,
shelled peas, beets, carrots, cucumbers…”
The Sherrills take what the land gives.
Two years ago when they knew they had
pasture available, they added grass-fed
beef cows to the farm in addition to their
four Perdue chicken houses.
With so many fields, pastures and
crops, planning keeps the couple busy.
“Here it is, me and David,” says Jackie.
“David keeps it all in his head. You have
to have so many acres to be able to
rotate the fields. Sweet potato fields have
years in-between planting.”
continued page 17
Photos by Rebecca Heeley,
© English Rose Photography
1 onion, diced
2 cloves garlic
1 cup diced pumpkin
or winter squash
¼ cup olive oil
1 cup arborio rice
½ cup white wine
3 cups vegetable stock
1 tablespoon fresh rosemary
2 tablespoons fresh sage
salt and pepper to taste
¼ cup goat cheese
2 tablespoons butter
Sauté the first three items in pan on medium heat
with the olive oil until softened.Then add rice and
stir until toasted. Add wine cook until liquid is
gone, then add stock a half cup at a time until all
stock is gone, stirring constantly. Add fresh herbs,
butter and goat cheese until blended in rice.
Recipe courtesy of Rhett's Restaurant in Southern Pines
using David's Produce's pumpkins.
A picturesque rustic barn at the edge of the sweet
potato field still stands where David’s grandfather would
cure his sweet potato crop so many years ago.
“That was back in the good ol’ days before my time,”
David says grinning. “They would keep them in there all
winter to cure.”
Now, the potato digger brings the sweet potatoes, both
red and white, to the top where they are gathered and
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placed into bins for curing.
“The red and white are really good together roasted,”
With Thanksgiving this month, sweet potatoes are
in harvest and demand, but hold a special meaning
“Sweet potatoes are one of my favorites, growing -wise.
My daddy grew them, and my granddaddy grew them.”
Family remains at the heart of the farm where
Thanksgiving traditions would not be complete without a
bounty of homegrown vegetables.
“It’s an all family Thanksgiving. I make a seven-layer
salad and Mexican cornbread, but there is always sweet
potato pudding, corn, butter beans and a pan of turnips.”
‘Tis the season for pumpkins as well with varieties like
fairytale, which has thicker meat, to sweet potato, which
came up from seed given to the Sherrills by a customer.
David and Jackie take great pride in growing their
“We’ve been doing it so long. It is important to us that
people get something good and fresh,” explains Jackie.
“Most of the time what they are buying at the stand has
been picked either that day or the one before.”
David adds, “The farm used to mean fun, and now
it means work. What gives me a thrill now is a happy
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The 1971 film “Brian’s Song” is a familiar story.
Lacquered with pathos for the viewing audience,
the made-for-TV movie was accurate for the
most part. But Brian Piccolo’s athletic life was much
more accomplished than depicted on the screen.
Piccolo, in the movie and in real life, was a fullback for
the Chicago Bears. His pro stats were meager because
he was not the team’s featured ball carrier. He mostly
blocked for roommate Gale Sayers, whose exploits
earned him a plaque in the NFL Hall of Fame.
Piccolo was a never-quit kind of guy on the football
field and in his battle with cancer. The disease claimed
him in 1970 at the age of 26. His courage and sense
of humor as he faced death were inspirational and
Even before the Bears, Piccolo was a star, THE star,
actually, of the Wake Forest Demon Deacons. He was
so good that he was voted the Atlantic Coast Conference
Player of the Year in 1964.
Piccolo led the nation in rushing that season. In 10
games, he carried the ball 252 times for 1,044 yards and
15 touchdowns. He caught five passes for another 122
yards and two touchdowns. He also kicked nine extra
points. His 111 points were tops in the country.
So, here was this running back who was not particularly
fast or big—5 feet 11 inches tall and 198 pounds—playing
for a 5-5 team, which was certainly not loaded with
talent. As the season progressed, Wake opponents all
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One great Demon Deacon...
knew who would get the football
in a short-yardage situation.
Yet, he cranked out one tough
yard after another. He did it in
workhorse fashion, averaging
25 carries and over 100 yards
per game in an era when 100
rushing yards were a whole
lot for a back to get in one
And, despite playing for
little old Wake Forest, Piccolo led all collegiate players
in rushing yards and scoring.
Although his senior season was a study in consistency,
one game stood out. That was the Deacons’ win over
Duke, their first over the Blue Devils in 13 years.
Wake won, 20-7, with Piccolo scoring every Deacon
point. He ran 36 times—a yeoman-like effort—and
gained 115 yards, scoring three touchdowns and kicking
two extra points.
When the game was over, according to Wake Forest
lore, Piccolo’s teammates hoisted him onto their
shoulders and toted him from the field.
Part of the reason was that the Deacons wanted to
reward him for his heroic deeds. Part of the reason was
that Piccolo might not have made it to the locker room
otherwise. He was beyond exhaustion. His uniform was
caked with mud even though the sun was shining and
the field was dry. His uniform was soaked with sweat,
turning dust and dirt into mud.
Following the season, Piccolo was named a first-team
All-American in addition to earning the Atlantic Coast
Conference's top individual honor. He set six conference
records and nine school records.
Piccolo’s jersey, No. 31, has been retired. A dormitory
on the Wake Forest campus has been named for him.
And every fall, Wake students gather to watch “Brian’s
Song," which is a nice tradition and tribute to a great
person who happened to be a great football player.
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Think and thank again
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Many have said, and I have as well, that
Thanksgiving is their favorite holiday for many
reasons. Some like the food and family time
together. Some like that there is no expectation of
exchanging presents or putting up trees or decorating
anything at all. We simply get to be together, eat together,
play together and are thankful that we do.
Bible scripture states in many places in one way or
another that we may "in everything, give thanks." In
eveything, really? I must confess that there are times I am
not thankful, nor is being thankful something I have even
given any thought about in the moment, like the times
when living gets difficult and the best I think I can do is to
barely get by and deal with the moment.
As Thanksgiving Day approaches, I would like to
believe that I really do want to be a person giving thanks
in everything, all the time. For when I do take this time to
think about it, I realize that everything in this world is a gift
I am given, and that most things are actually something
with which I had nothing to do with. I have not created
the days and nights. I have not formed the earth and
the things thereof. I have not even had any direct hand
in how it is that I am here. All are a gift given for me to
acknowledge or not, to receive or not, and even for me to
reject or not. So it follows then that the choice is up to me
whether I am thankful or not.
Now that I do think about
everything in this way, I want to
give my thanks. There are two
prayers I remember from my
mother and father. My mother
always prayed, “Dear Lord,
give us hearts that are
thankful for these and
all our blessings that we
daily receive.” Similarly,
my father always ended
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his prayers with, “Dear God, most of all, we thank You for
You, for without You, there truly is nothing.”
As I remember them with thanksgiving this year, I,
too, will think about giving thanks for everything. I will
welcome this Thanksgiving as a way of thinking thanks
through—to actually stop in the middle of everything and
give thanks, and most of all remembering to thank God.
What will you think about and give thanks for this
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Apple & Pecan
1 large Granny Smith apple, diced
1 head of Green Haven Plant Farm Bibb
lettuce or any hydroponic Bibb lettuce
¼ cup roasted pecans
¼ cup smoked pork belly or thick cut bacon, diced
salt and pepper to taste
half juice of lemon
⅓ cup blue cheese dressing (recipe at right)
Cook pork belly in pan on
medium heat until brown
and crispy. Take out and put to
side. Sauté apples in pan until
warm. Set apples aside with
pork belly. Put half of the head
of lettuce in bowl and top with
apples, pecans and pork
Cooking Simple belly. Add salt and pepper
to taste. Top with blue
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Blue Cheese Dressing
½ cup blue cheese crumbles ½ cup mayonnaise
½ cup sour cream ¼ cup buttermilk
¼ cup chopped chives salt and pepper to taste
Mix ingredients together in bowl and serve atop salad.
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At home with bestselling author Margaret Maron
With her laptop in hand, New
York Times bestselling author
Margaret Maron escapes to the
serenity of her rural Johnston County backyard gazebo
to conjure up the next chapter of a novel or maybe a
short story. She needs a place outside of her home office
where she can focus on writing.
“It is nice to be away from the house, so I can resist
checking emails,” says Maron, the author of the popular
Deborah Knott Series set in North Carolina. “I love
watching the hawks and seeing a fox go trotting by or a
deer. I can waste a lot of time watching nature,” she adds
with a quick grin.
Maron wasted no time finishing up her latest novel,
“The Buzzard Table,” available this month.
“You’re going to learn more about buzzards than you
might want to,” says Maron.
Area readers can meet Maron at her signings Thursday,
Nov. 15 at 7:30 p.m. at Quail Ridge Books in Raleigh and
Tuesday, Nov. 27 at 7 p.m. at Barnes and Noble in Cary.
Writing has always been where Maron’s passion lies.
“I knew from the age of 10 that writing was what I
wanted to do,” she says. “Art for art’s sake is all well and
good, but I wanted to make a living.”
With two collections of short stories and 28
mystery novels, she has accomplished her
goal and picked up the Sir Walter Raleigh
Award for best North Carolina novel of the
year in 2004 and the North Carolina Award
for Literature in 2008 among others along
the way. However, that wasn’t necessarily
“I knew I wasn’t going to write comingof-age
books. I always say, I don’t take my
clothes off in public,” she says smiling. So
mysteries were perfect. I wrote short stories,
and I had no intention of writing a book. The
short story market began drying up though.
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I submitted a novelette, and the agent liked
it, and asked if I could just write some more.
When I finally backed into writing my first
novel, it got published in 1981, and here we are, 30 years
and 30 books later.”
Her mysteries feature a murder that keeps the reader
guessing just who the culprit may be, and sometimes, even
she doesn’t know herself until the story presents itself.
“I write closed-circle fair play, murder that is more
domestic,” explains Maron. “I just put the characters in
the setting and see where it goes.”
And where it goes keeps her readers turning pages in
inviting titles like “Shooting at Loons,” “Three-Day Town,”
“Southern Discomfort” and “Bootlegger’s Daughter,”
which was named one of the 100 Favorite Mysteries
of the Century by the Independent Mystery Booksellers
The Durham County Public Library invited Maron to
take part in their Durham Reads Together 2012 program
for the month of September. The program encourages
readers to read the works of selected North Carolina
authors and gives them the opportunity to discuss the
books directly with the writer.
continued page 23
Bestselling author Margaret Maron is content to be
home on her family farmland in Johnston County.
Her latest novel, “The Buzzard Table,” hits bookstore
shelves and e-readers this month. Maron has signings
set for Thursday, Nov. 15 at 7:30 p.m. at Quail Ridge
Books, 3522 Wade Avenue in Raleigh, and Tuesday,
Nov. 27 at 7 p.m. at Barnes and Noble, 760 Southeast
Maynard Road in Cary. For more information on her
books and events, visit www.margaretmaron.com.
Photo by Rebecca Heeley
© English Rose Photography
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“It was a great program. I gave a talk and signed books.
There was something every weekend,” says Maron.
Writing is a labor of love for Maron. She doesn’t believe
in writer’s block or muses that visit to help with the
process, just the hard work, creativity and effort she puts
“I don’t wait for inspiration. Here is where the inspiration
is, when I am pounding on the keyboard,” she says
pointing to her laptop.
Twice a year, she joins her writer’s group for a weeklong
stay at the Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities
in Southern Pines.
“We set our goals and go
off to find a quiet place to
work. Anytime I can write
1,500 words, I think that is
a good day.”
Although she was
born and raised in North
Carolina, it was when she
was living in her husband’s
native New York that she
developed the character
police Lt. Sigrid Harald for
her first series of mysteries.
“I worked in the art
department at Brooklyn
College when I got the idea
for my first book,” recalls
Maron of her novel, “One
Harald was on the case
for eight more of Maron’s
Maron’s desire to be back
home in North Carolina
on her family’s farm led
to the creation of her next
protagonist, district court
Judge Deborah Knott and
“I brought a Yankee home
with me,” says Maron of her
Married for 53 years, the
couple has a son, daughterin-law,
and two beautiful
granddaughters close by
with whom they love to
spend quality time with.
“The farm was originally 90 acres, and we have about
35 of it left now. I have worked tobacco and picked cotton.
I am very glad to have done it, and I’m very glad I don’t
have to do it anymore,” she recalls, laughing.
Her family’s farm is certainly where Maron’s heart is.
“I’m in love with this state and Johnston County. People
often ask me, 'Why would you want to write about it?,' and
all I have to do is look out these windows…I can see my
grandfather plowing the fields. As scruffy and nondescript
as it is, it’s mine. It’s home.”
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In this excerpt from The Buzzard Table (Grand
Central Publishing. ISBN 978-0-446-55582-1. 320
pages. $25.99), Judge Deborah Knott drives out to
the Colleton County farmhouse where she was born.
(Dwight Bryant is her husband, and Cal is his son.)
Shrimp-and-grits is such an iconic Southern dish that
surely is in Deborah’s repertoire.
Maidie Holt, Daddy’s longtime housekeeper,
had asked me to pick up a couple of bags
of stone-ground yellow grits from the only
store in Dobbs that carries
them. The local grist mill has
been in operation since the
1830s and no commercial
grits taste as flavorful. As long
as I was getting them for her, I
bought a bag for myself. There
was a package of shrimp in the
freezer that we had brought
home from Harkers Island in
the fall. They needed to be
eaten before they got freezer
burn, and shrimp-and-grits
is an easy dish that doesn’t take too much
preparation. I knew I had onions, a green pepper,
and half-and-half on hand, so I wouldn’t have to stop
at a grocery store.
The version I make calls for some sort of fancy
Italian ham, but my brother Robert cures out a mean
country ham with a smoky, salty flavor that can’t be
matched by anything from Italy and he always gives
us five or six pounds of it for Christmas every year,
each slice individually wrapped for the freezer.
According to him and Daddy, our winters used to
be cold enough to let the legs and shoulders hang in
the smokehouse all winter without spoiling. No more.
A quarter-cup of Robert’s ham diced and sautéed
would easily substitute for pancetta, but no other
brand of grits could substitute for the bags on the car
seat beside me.
Daddy’s old truck was parked at the back door
and without knocking, I opened the squeaky screen
door, then the heavy wooden one and walked into
the kitchen where he and Maidie were. Both sat at
the kitchen table and both were in their stocking feet.
Maidie was taking the meat off a roasted chicken,
Maron is the author of 28 novels
and two collections of short stories.
Winner of several major American
awards for mysteries, she lives on
her family's century farm a few miles
southeast of Raleigh. For information,
carefully putting the skin and bones into a pot with
chopped onions to make broth for pot pies. Daddy
had spread a newspaper over his end of the table,
and several pairs of shoes, including Maidie’s, waited
his attention. Despite the pungent onions, I could
smell the shoe polish he had spread on the leather,
a familiar homely aroma.
I hugged them both and snitched a bit of chicken
while Daddy reached in his pocket to pay me for the
grits. Maidie fumbled in her own pocket and came up
with only two quarters.
“Don’t worry about a bag of grits,” he told her. “I
didn’t give you no birthday present yet.”
“Ain’t my birthday,” Maidie said, her gold tooth
“Then it must be Cletus’s. Tell him happy birthday
“You mean you ain’t gonna get him that white
Cadillac he’s been wanting?”
“What’d he do with the red one I give him for
Christmas?” Daddy asked in mock indignation.
I laughed. Those two have been teasing each other
for most of my lifetime, long before Mother died. They
tried to get me to sit down and visit, but I told them
Dwight and Cal would be wanting their supper soon.
“Y’all gonna be home this evening?” Daddy asked.
“Dwight’s probably already there and I’ll be there
myself in a few minutes. Why?”
“Nothing really. Just ain’t seen Dwight to talk to
“Then come on over for supper. I’m fixing shrimpand-grits.”
He looked at Maidie, who gave a dismissive wave
of her hand. “Go on. You’ll not be getting anything
that good here. I was only gonna warm you up some
stuff from last night.”
“Well, if you’re sure,” he said, speaking to both of us.
“Come!” I said.
“Go!” said Maidie.
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When a loved one dies
When someone we care
for passes away, the
emotion and magnitude
of the loss can send our lives reeling.
This profound change can also
affect our finances. All at once, we
have a to-do
us, and the
of it can
make us feel
p r e s s u r e d .
as a kind
a checklist—a list of some of the
key financial matters to address
following the death of a loved one.
The first steps:
• Notify family members and
friends. Arrange payment for funeral
• Gather/request as many records,
as you can to document their life
and passing—birth and death
certificates, a marriage certificate
or divorce decree (if applicable),
military service records, investment,
insurance and tax records, and
employee benefit information
The next steps: It is time to talk
with the legal, tax, insurance and
financial professionals you trust.
• Consult your attorney. Assuming
your loved one left a will, it will
be looked at as a prelude to the
distribution of any assets and the
settlement of the estate.
• Locate your loved one's
insurance policy and talk to the
• Notify their financial advisor,
who must be notified so that these
funds may be properly distributed
according to the beneficiary forms
for these accounts. If there is no
beneficiary form on file with the
account custodian, the assets will
be distributed according to the
custodian's default policy, which
often directs assets either to a
surviving spouse or the deceased
• Contact your local Social Security
office regarding Social Security
spousal and/or survivor benefits.
• If a spouse worked in a civil
service job or was in the armed
forces, contact the state or federal
government branch or armed
services branch about how to file for
The estate: To settle an estate,
several orderly steps should be
• You and/or the deceased's
attorney needs to contact the
executor, trustee(s), guardians
and heirs relevant to the estate
and access the appropriate estate
• Your attorney can also let
you know about the possibility of
probate. A revocable living trust (or
other estate planning mechanisms)
may allow you to avoid this process.
Joint tenancy can also help.
• The executor for the estate should
obtain an Employer Identification
Number (EIN) from the IRS.
• The person’s creditors will also
need to be informed. Any debts will
need to be addressed.
Next month, I will review a few
simple steps to prepare your own
finances to simplify this process for
Clement is a Financial Planner
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Road racers stick it to their bibs
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With sweaty chests shimmering under the
shining sun, they are the shirtless men who
run on the region’s roadside, sometimes
enraging judgmental drivers
who cannot quite understand
why their stride is not on the
area track that does not exist
or on the root-ridden trail that
invites twisted ankles and knees.
They are also the fast-moving
females with headphones in their
ears, sometimes singing
while training for hours
on treadmills, prompting
waiting gym members to
wonder why they have to “hog the machines” for so long.
These are the faces of the almost 14 million who
complete road race events each year, but they are not
the only faces. Many road race participants are friends
who cross the finish line walking with one another for fun
or in support of a cause close to heart. Sometimes, the
faces are those of children accompanying their parents
on foot or snuggly nestled in three-wheeled running
strollers while the wind cools their skin along the mileslong
course. Incredibly, sometimes spectators can even
witness wounded athletes whisking their way to the finish
Road race finishers have their own story, unique journey
and moving memories. With many road race events now
supplying standard event shirts for participation and
awards for wins, finishers can often compile memorabilia
as well. Regardless of whether one wins or even finishes,
all participants usually walk away with one common
keepsake that serves as their identity for the day, the road
The road race bib for road race participants is like
the score card for golfers or the concert ticket stub for
music lovers. It allows access to the venue and, with
technological advances tagging the back of the bibs with
chip-timing devices, it records the time it takes to travel
to the clock at the route’s conclusion. Bibs are likely
to be stored in a bureau’s bottom drawer or perhaps,
positioned in a scrapbook for a future stroll down memory
lane. However, race bibs are rarely noted with relative
race day details like the time, place, price or distance.
Sometimes runners try to scratch down their times on
the blended-textured surface of the bibs so that they can
later compare their performance with something similar
in the future.
I recently met a gentleman who had collected his bibs
from events since the 70s. Some showed attempts at
written times randomly recorded on the reverse side
of the boldly printed bibs. Some were even still legible.
Most, however, had morphed into meaningless numbers
of unclear clock times and distances that had disappeared
in the decades departed.
“Was that 38:30 for a five mile or a 10K?” he asked
himself. “If I knew the year I ran it, I’d have a better idea.”
Today, those memories that transform into our road
race history can be neatly documented in an organized
fashion on fun products
like the die-cut decals at
Each of my road race
bibs is now embellished
with these handy fact
holders. As the holidays
hover over the weeks
ahead and you find
yourself scrambling for
unique gifts for the many
triathletes, cyclists and runners around, remember the
road racing bib stickers. They’ll make the memories last.
Brown, a personal trainer, competitive runner and writer, can
be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org. Find more of
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for caregivers among us
By Carrie Frye
No one word
a d e q u a t e l y
define what caregivers do,
provide and mean to the
ones receiving their care.
During this season of
also recognizes National
Family Caregivers Month
as first proclaimed in
1997. According to
the National Family
“more than 65 million
family caregivers in this
country fulfill a vital role
on the care team. No one
else is in a better position
to ensure continuity of care. Family caregivers are the
most familiar with their care recipients’ medicine regimen;
they are the most knowledgeable about the treatment
regimen; and they understand best the dietary and
Because caregivers are unsung heroes in the
community, three organizations have taken on providing
recognition to the caregivers, family, volunteer and
professionals, within their respective communities with
the Potter’s Hands awards, Family Caregiver Award and
the Caregiver Awards of Moore County.
Heritage of Raleigh, a Brookdale Senior Living
retirement community in Raleigh, hosted its fourth annual
Potter’s Hands event Sept. 19. The event honors those
who serve seniors in the Triangle area. Out of the 16
award nominees, Melanie Bunn, Peggy Smith, Sofia
Hernandez and Ruth Efrid were highlighted for going
above and beyond in their service to seniors.
Bunn, a dynamic lecturer and skillful clinician in the
areas of nursing gerontology and Alzheimer's disease,
presents over 150 sessions each year at local, statewide
and national conferences.
Smith, executive director for the North Carolina Assisted
The four senior living professionals highlighted at the Potter's Hands
event, Peggy Smith, Melanie Bunn, Sofia Hernandez and Ruth Efrid
display the pottery they received as a thank you for their service.
Living Association, has
spent her entire career
serving others. She works
endlessly to advocate for
North Carolina’s seniors,
helping to ensure they
are receiving the best
care and services.
been an instructor of
ballroom dance for many
years. After spending
considerable time with
seniors, she refocused
her talents on older
adults and those with
Sofia is also the cofounder
of STAVE, (Stability,
Therapy, Agility, Vitality,
Exercise), a nonprofit organization focusing on movement
and increasing quality of life through dance.
Efrid, a parish nurse with Holy Trinity Lutheran Church
in Chapel Hill, implemented classes to create a senior
care Sunday school program to help caregivers and
seniors with their many questions. She has created a
resource guide in the parish office during her free time to
help all the seniors and their families.
Each of the 16 nominees received a handmade piece of
pottery, while the four highlighted individuals received larger
pieces of handcrafted pottery along with a framed copy of
the poem, “Potter’s Hands,” written by Rebecca A. Smith,
senior regional sales director for Brookdale Senior Living.
The poem compares senior living professionals to potters,
whose work is rarely complete. The poem ends with a
thank you to those serving in the senior living industry.
The Enrichment Center of Lee County in Sanford
pays tribute annually with its Family Caregiver Award.
It recognizes an individual or family who embodies
the courage to face the challenges of caregiving, the
compassion to ensure dignity for their loved one and the
wisdom to reach out for support.
continued page 29
“This is our 10th year celebrating our everyday heroes.
This event is a wonderful time to thank, support, educate
and empower family caregivers. This year’s theme is
'Family Caregivers Matter,' and that is so true, not only
in November but always,” says Judi Womack, caregiver
specialist at the enrichment center.
The center’s 2012 event luncheon is set for Wednesday,
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Patricia M. Gregory, right, took home the Family Caregiver Award
2011honors last year, seen here with her husband and daughter.
This year marks the 10th year for the Lee County Senior Enrichment
Center to pay tribute to the caregivers in their community.
Nov. 7 at Carolina Trace Country Club in Sanford where
the 2012 Family Caregiver of the Year will be named. Last
year’s honoree was Patricia Gregory, a caregiver for her
husband, since he was injured in a hunting accident and
paralyzed from the chest down 16 years ago.
Gregory is not only a family caregiver but also a
professional caregiver. She maintains a full-time job as a
registered nurse as well as balances being a mother and
a grandmother while meeting her husband’s needs. Her
mission has always been to encourage her husband to
be as independent as he can while maintaining his safety.
Gregory humbly accepted the award, and like so
many other family caregivers, says, “I don’t do anything
extraordinary; I just do what seems like the right thing to do.”
The 2012 Caregiver Awards of Moore County
recognizes those caregivers nominated from throughout
the community. A selection committee reviews all of the
nominations to determine two finalists and the Caregiver
of the Year, all of whom were honored in a private
ceremony Oct. 26 at Sandhills Community College.
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The 2012 Caregiver Awards of Moore County honored nearly 50 nominees this year at a ceremony held Oct. 26 at Sandhills Community
College. Frank Smither Jr. of Pinehurst and Donna Brock of Raeford, center, are award finalists with Mary Fowler of Aberdeen, right, named
the Caregiver of the Year. The event is in its third year and hopes to bring recognition to the caregivers of seniors in the community.
continued from page 29
Now in its third year, the awards were the idea of Amy
Natt, chief executive officer of Aging Outreach Services, a
full-service elder care firm based in Southern Pines.
“Caregivers come in many forms, some are family,
others are volunteers, and then there are those who
choose it as a profession, but they all share a heart
for giving,” says Natt. "The little things they do make a
big difference in another’s life. They work hard, not for
what they will gain, but because it is who they are. The
Caregiver Awards is one way that our community can
come together and recognize the importance of their
work and thank these caregivers for the compassion and
dedication they give to others. It is our way to let them
know that it does not go unnoticed.”
Frank Smither Jr. of Pinehurst is a finalist for the
2012 award. Smither, nominated by his sister Susan
Holmes, was instrumental in caring for their mother,
and most recently, for their 83-year-old father for the
past eight years.
“Frank took care of all of our father’s personal care needs
including feeding, giving medications and positioning
while always wanting to make him comfortable. He was
also our father’s hands and eyes,” explains Holmes.
Regardless of his disabilities and own diagnosis
with myotonic muscular dystrophy, characterized by a
wasting of the muscles, Smither continued his caregiving
role for his father.
“Frank never complains and never asks for anything
for himself. He is a very loyal and dedicated son and
brother. He always has a smile and nice thing to say to
everyone every day,” says Holmes. “Even through his
health difficulties, Frank continued to keep our father’s
needs at the forefront. No matter how he was feeling, he
woke up every day with his routine beginning with caring
for our father.”
Sadly, Smither’s father passed away last month.
“If you knew how unselfish Frank was to do everything...
He never volunteered but because of his situation, it
evolved. Every time I would lose my patience with the
minutia of the things our father needed, he would just say,
‘Dad can’t help it,’ to bring me back,” Holmes says with
tears in her eyes. “He took on that burden with constant
Smither modestly says, ”I just did what needed to be
Providing care when needs arise seems to be part of
the job description and also true of the second finalist in
this year’s Caregiver Awards of Moore County, Donna
Brock of Raeford. Brock, a geriatric care manager in
Moore County, works with her senior clients and their
families to deal with all the aspects of aging. Laurie Lutz
of Pinehurst nominated Brock for her care of her mother.
continued page 31
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“Donna immediately joined our family as a care manager
to my mom and as lifesaver to me and my husband,” says
Lutz. “She became our advisor, counselor and essential
guide through the ever-shifting world of dementia. When
it became clear that the best option for my mom was
assisted living, Donna helped us through navigating
doctors’ diagnoses, insurance requirements, researching,
choosing and dealing with paperwork and standing
shoulder-to-shoulder with us through transitioning my
mother into the assisted living community while allowing
her to take this journey with dignity and grace.”
Brock attributes her care for seniors to the fact that
she didn’t get to know her own grandmother and has
been told how much like her she is and describes her
profession as her “niche.” In her own life, she balances
being a single mother with caring for her own mother, who
sadly passed away last month without the opportunity to
celebrate this honor with Brock.
“I like the fact they can put their trust in me and feel like
I’ve helped them. It makes it all worthwhile,” explains Brock.
Lutz concludes, “I can’t imagine how we could have
made it through these difficult months without her.
She possesses a perfect blend of compassion, humor,
wisdom, experience and professionalism. I sometimes
tease Donna that I’m convinced she really is an angel,
but I cannot figure out how she gets her clothes to fit so
well over those wings. She truly has been a God-send
to our family.”
This year’s Caregiver of the Year of Moore County
as chosen by the selection committee is Mary Fowler
of Aberdeen. Fowler, nominated by Sharon and Craig
Fogleman of West End, served as live-in caregiver for
almost seven years, five days a week, 24 hours a day
for their mother, who suffered from Alzheimer’s disease.
Fowler simply says,” It’s important to go and be with
people that want you, and you need to feel like you’re
contributing. It wasn’t like a job; it was like staying with
family. It was fulfilling and rewarding. After working 34
years in textiles, this surpassed it all.”
“The last year was rough,” says Sharon. “Mom didn’t
know us most of the time, but she knew her Mary. When a
stroke left Mom unable to swallow in January, Mary asked
us to move the recliner into the bedroom so she could be
there with Mom during the night. Hospice came in, but Mary
did not want to leave Mom’s side and seldom did. She was
with her until the end, holding her hand. At mom’s funeral,
we had a beautiful finish to the service at the cemetery with
the releasing of doves. Mom’s oldest son placed one hand
on the coffin and the family joined hands in a big circle with
Mary completing the circle. Mary did complete our family
circle. Our mom’s last years on earth were made more
comfortable and peaceful because of Mary.”
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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
Zeb D. Harrington, left, and Roland Gilliam stand at the World War I and World War II monuments honoring James Rogers McConnell and
Robert Hoyle Upchurch placed at the Gilliam-McConnell Airfield in Carthage to bring remembrance for their sacrifices for their country.
Two Moore County men who fought in consecutive
wars are currently memorialized at the Gilliam-
McConnell International Airfield in Carthage.
Soon there will be a full-fledged James Rogers McConnell
Museum at the airfield and will contain artifacts and
information about McConnell,who fought in World War
I, and Hoyle Upchurch, who was killed in World War II.
The moving force behind the new museum is Roland
Gilliam. In addition to being a pilot and owner of the
airfield, Gilliam is a history buff, particularly of WWI and
“There are many American heroes who none of us
know about,” Gilliam notes. “Within two generations, their
history will be lost unless we find and tell their stories.”
Gilliam began with the
monument to McConnell,
which stood for many years
in downtown Carthage.
By Ann Robson
Special to OutreachNC
“No one knew it was there or why it was important," he
After he built the airfield, he asked the town of Carthage
if he could move the monument to the airfield. His first
few requests were turned down due to some objections
from Carthage people. Eventually, he won the day and
arranged to have the McConnell monument moved to the
airfield located at 194 Gilliam-McConnell Road.
continued page 33
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McConnell was born in Chicago but moved to Carthage
with his family. He served as the land and industrial agent
for the Seaboard Air Line Railway and secretary of the
Carthage Board of Trade. He also wrote promotional
pamphlets for the Sandhills area of North Carolina.
In January 1915, McConnell sailed from New York
to join the American Ambulance Corps in France. He
performed many brave acts, including rescuing French
soldiers under fire. The French government awarded him
the Croix de Guerre for “conspicuous bravery.” Flying was
McConnell’s true passion. On May 23, 1916, he flew his
first patrol with the Lafayette
Escadrille. He received a
back injury during a rough
landing and spent some
time in the hospital. While
recuperating, he wrote
“Flying for France.” When
he was back with the air
patrol, he found himself
in battle with two German
planes and was shot down.
The French Government
presented a plaque to the
American people which
is also at the airfield. The
original plaque is on a
marble monument and a
translation stands nearby
stating: “To the American
Sergeant Pilot Aviator,
voluntarily enlisted in
French Aviation, Dec. 27,
1915, killed in action in
aerial combat on March
19, 1917. The Country
of France will forever be
grateful for your ultimate
A friend told Gilliam
about a man in Chatham
County who had built a
replica of the Curtis P-40
Warhawk, the kind of plane
Lt. Hoyle Upchurch flew
on his last mission for the
Flying Tigers. Named the
“Junkyard Dog” for all its
various parts that SFC
Zeb D. Harrington patched
together to make the plane, it was three years in the
making. Harrington started it in his garage, then had to
move it to his backyard for space. The replica is about 90
percent the size of the original. It was not built to fly but
looks exactly like the P-40 and seems ready to take off at
Harrington agreed to have his plane displayed at the
airfield, and both Gilliam and Harrington say that getting
the plane from where it was built to where it is displayed
was “an interesting story.”
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Harrington, left, and Gilliam stand beside Harrington's replica plane now at the Gilliam-McConnell International Airfield in Carthage on
display with the monuments in honor of McConnell and Upchurch, two Moore County veterans.
continued from page 33
Next came the memorial monument to Upchurch which
has a plaque presented by the Chinese government.
Upchurch was shot down over China during a battle with
the Japanese Air Force. He was considered missing
for 64 years until a 10-year-old Chinese boy found the
ruins of his plane. DNA evidence proved that the skeletal
remains were those of Lt. Upchurch. In April this year,
a delegation from China brought the remains to the
airfield and presented the urn to remaining members of
Upchurch’s family in a ceremony at the airfield.
The international aspect of the airfield began when a
Canadian flying an ultra-light teaching Canada geese how
to fly and migrate set down in the fog on the airfield’s just
completed paved airstrip. This has been followed by the
French and Chinese plaques. Pilots from Canada have
landed there, and Gilliam hears from pilots around the world.
When the museum is completed —it’s still in the early
stages—the Gilliam-McConnell International Airfield will
welcome visitors from far and wide.
Writer's note: Visiting with Gilliam and Harrington
on a dreary Sunday afternoon was one of the best two
hours I’ve spent as a journalist. The above story barely
scratches the surface of the stories these men have to
tell. They are delightful conversationalists.
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By Heather Green
Special to OutreachNC
Nothing short of a prodigy in the world of
performing arts, Robert Weiss took on the
role of founding artisitc director of the Carolina
Ballet in 1997 and hasn't looked back since.
Carolina Ballet began the 2012-13 season in
September. This month, "The Nutcracker" takes the
stage Nov. 23 through Dec. 23 at Raleigh Memorial
Auditorium, followed by performances at UNC Memorial
Hall in Chapel Hill Dec. 1-2 and wraps up with Durham
Performing Arts Center performances Dec. 29-30.
Never losing the thrill of the curtain rising, Weiss
continues to impress audiences and raise the bar in the
timeless art of ballet.
Influenced tremendously at a young age when his
parents took him to see the ballet, this magical moment
helped to transform Weiss from a boy with a dream into
a man with a vision.
Born and raised in New York City, the only child of
Jesse and Sally Weiss, Weiss was 8 years old when
he began taking ballet at the School of American Ballet.
He went from there to the Professional Children’s School
and the High School for Performing Arts before joining the
New York City Ballet at age 17.
Sadly, Weiss' father passed away a few years before
he came to North Carolina to found Carolina Ballet. His
mother still lives in Manhattan, and he returns often to
visit her and to see the ballet there.
ONC: How did you discover and develop your love for
RW: When I was 5 years old, my parents took me to
see New York City Ballet’s "The Nutcracker," and I knew
Photos courtesy Carolina Ballet
Robert Weiss, Carolina Ballet's artistic director, takes pride in bringing
the highest quality ballets and performances to Triangle audiences.
right then that I wanted to be up there on that stage
in "The Nutcracker." When the curtain went up, I was
transported to a magical world, and I never lost that thrill
of when I hear the music, the lights go down and the
curtain rises. I asked my parents what I had to do to get
in the show, and they said I had to wait until I was eight
to enroll at the School of American Ballet. I think they
thought I would forget, but when I turned eight, I said,
'Now, I can be in Nutcracker.' And I was. I have danced
every role for a boy and young man in the ballet except
the role of Drosselmeyer.
ONC: What brought you to North Carolina?
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RW: After dancing with New York City Ballet for 17
years, I became the Artistic Director at Pennsylvania
Ballet in Philadelphia and was there for nine seasons.
When I left Philadelphia, I returned to New York City
and freelanced as a choreographer for companies in
the States and abroad, but I knew I wanted eventually
to be an artistic director of another company one day. I
responded to an ad in "Dance Magazine" for a person
with "vision" to help found a new ballet company in
Raleigh. I sent my resume and met with Raleigh resident
Ward Purrington to discuss the founding of the company.
I was hired and moved to Raleigh with my wife,
ballerina Melissa Podcasy in 1997. We are
now in our 15th season, so we must be
doing something right.
ONC: Who are a few of your
mentors and people you admire in
RW: Looking back over my
career, the people who influenced
me the most are the great George
Balanchine, who was the founder
and artistic director of New York
City Ballet, and his associate Jerome
Robbins. Then there are three truly
great teachers: the Russian dancer Andre
Eglevsky, Stanley Williams and David Howard,
who is still working in New York and has come on several
occasions to be a guest teacher at Carolina Ballet’s
ONC: Can you describe "The Nutcracker" experience?
RW: "The Nutcracker" really changed my life from the
time I was a very young boy and still means a lot to me.
Performing in it was probably one of the yearly highlights
of my childhood.
It still is a very significant part of our season from year
to year but for different reasons. All ballet companies
across the country count on "The Nutcracker" to bring
in enough revenue on an annual basis to allow them to
do other things during the remainder of the season that
there wouldn’t be the funds for. We audition the children
in early September, and they rehearse on the weekends
throughout the fall until we get to the tech rehearsals at
the theater. It is a long process to get the children ready
for the stage, but they learn their counts, steps and their
places, and in the end, they do a very good job.
ONC: What makes this ballet so special for audiences?
RW: It is the magic of "The Nutcracker" that makes it so
special. The lights go down, the curtain rises and the audience
is transported to a magical world where a little girl falls asleep
on Christmas Eve and has the most amazing dream.
In our production, we have replaced the parlor games
and tricks in the Party Scene of Act I with grand illusions
that leave one wondering, "How did they do that?" We
hired Rick Thomas, a top Las Vegas magician, to build
and teach the dancers of the Drosselmeyer role a number
of very sophisticated illusions, which they were able to
pull off seamlessly last season. I do not think any other
company in the country has "The Nutcracker"
with a party scene on quite the same scale
as we do.
ONC: What are some of your
other goals and plans for the future
at Carolina Ballet?
RW: Since I have been here from
the beginning, I plan to stay for as
long as I am able. My goal moving
forward would be to continue to
work to make Carolina Ballet the
best company it can possibly be, and
I want to continue to create new work.
ONC: What's coming up at Carolina Ballet?
RW: The second half of our 15th anniversary
season offers a wide range of productions—four programs
in four months starting in February with "An Evening of
Lynne Taylor-Corbett," Feb. 7-24. Lynne has been our
principal guest choreographer since 2000 and has created
many wonderful ballets at Carolina Ballet. Two ballets on the
upcoming program are December Songs with Broadway’s
Lauren Kennedy singing on stage with the dancers and
Code of Silence. We are presenting "The Rite of Spring,"
March 7-24, choreographed by Christopher Stowell, artistic
director of Oregon Ballet Theatre, to coincide with the
100th anniversary of Stravinsky’s groundbreaking score.
I am excited about introducing this ballet and music to
the Triangle area audiences. The last two programs of
our season are polar opposites. "Fancy Free & Carolina
Jamboree" pairs The Red Clay Ramblers of Chapel Hill,
with Jerome Robbins' wonderful Fancy Free April 18-21,.
It's definitely a mix of blue grass and Broadway and sure
to be a crowd pleaser.
The final program of the season is a new "Giselle," the
greatest of all the romantic ballets. I will adapt the ballet
for the size of the company with Olga Kostritsky, the
renowned Russian teacher and Ballet Master.
38 OutreachNC • November 2012
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Decking the halls for
holiday home tour
By Christine Lakhani
Special to OutreachNC
Christmas is just around the corner—
how did it get here so fast? One minute
you’re carving a pumpkin, then a turkey and
before you know it, baking cookies and wrapping
presents. Traditions are a magical part of the holiday
season, and the Apex Historical Society is celebrating
26 years of their Historic Home Tour.
This year, the tour is on Sunday, Dec. 2. Always the
same weekend as the Apex Christmas Tree Lighting
(Friday, November 30) and Parade (Saturday, December
1), it allows tour-goers a chance to glimpse into
“It’s the start of the Christmas season,” notes Mary
Peterson, president of the Apex Historical Society.
“I love going around and seeing the homes,” Peterson
says. “You see familiar faces that come year after year.
You really get a chance to get out there and meet Apex.
Each house has something special.”
The Maynard-Pearson House circa 1870 is on the tour
every year, and is where the Society’s Old Fashioned
Sweet Shoppe is located. Peterson runs the Sweet
Shoppe while the tour is operating. Society members
make a variety of treats from peppermint bark to sea
foam to caramel corn.
Photos by Frank Green,
© Green Street Studios Photography
Joe and Lise Zublena's 1893 farmhouse is on the Apex Historical
Society's Holiday Home Tour, Sunday, Dec. 2. The Zublenas are
getting in the Christmas spirit by preparing the house for winter and
the home tour. The couple always wanted to own an older home and
has enjoyed the challenges and rewards of renovating.
If the weather cooperates, visitors can park and walk
to each of the homes on the tour. The tour is self-guided,
so visitors can start and finish whenever they like. The
homes are also close enough to downtown Apex that you
can have lunch, see the homes and then finish the tour
with dinner, all without ever getting back into their car.
“If there is a house you really want to see, come see
it because you might not get a chance to see it again for
years,” notes Peterson.
One of the homes on the tour this year, Joe and Lise
Zublena’s 1893 farm house at 317 North Salem Street,
was last featured on the tour in 1999. At the time, the
Zublenas had just moved into their new home and
begun renovations on the house, which had sat empty
for nine years. continued page 39
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Visitors can expect elaborate, ornate holiday displays. For information on the Apex Historical Society, visit www.apexhistoricalsociety.com
“People will get to see how it all turned out,” laughs
Lise. “The tour also gives you the incentive to spruce
up and do all the things you’ve been thinking about
doing but haven’t done.”
The Zublenas always longed to own an older home.
“We always had that old house love,” says Lise.
All the moldings and floors in the Zublena's home
are original, as are the fireplaces, fixtures and the door
knobs and windows.
“We tried not to change anything because it would
change the character of the place,” remarks Lise.
During the tour, the Zublenas decorate with greenery
from the property, which Joe has landscaped beautifully.
Lise and Joe look forward to the tour and meeting the
people who come through the house. Friends and
family will be standing by in each room to answer
questions and point out interesting details.
“People who knew the original owners of our home
tell us stories about the house and the people that lived
here. And visitors appreciate the work that you’ve done,”
remarks Lise. “It’s a whole weekend of holiday cheer.”
Apex’s Halle Cultural Center, also on the tour, is
celebrating 100 years this Christmas, and will have
its traditional Christmas wreath and decorated tree
auction, benefiting a local charity. In addition to the
Halle Cultural Center, the Zublena’s, the Maynard-
Pearson house, the Historic Downtown Depot and
there are three other houses on the tour: the homes
of Don and Laura Grimes at 210 South Salem Street,
Billy and Susan Mills at 107 South Salem, and Richard
and Monica Derrenbacher at 212 Center Street.
Tickets are available in advance at the Apex Chamber
of Commerce at 220 North Salem Sreet, or at The
Rusty Bucket, 104 North Salem Street. On the day of
the tour, tickets can be purchased at the Depot or at
any of the houses on the tour.
Other local historic home tours include Historic
Oakwood in Raleigh (Date TBD) and the Wake Forest
Christmas Home Tour, on Saturday, Dec. 1. The
Preservation Society of Chapel Hill plans a home tour
for the weekend of Dec. 10.
Lakhani, a freelance writer and editor based in Raleigh,
can be reached at email@example.com.
40 OutreachNC • November 2012
N.C.'s Best Dish
Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
Restaurants from around the state vied for honors in the Best Dish in North Carolina competition. In our region, first place honors went to
Gravy in Raleigh for Casual Dining and Rhett's in Southern Pines for Fine Dining. Gravy's Executive Chef Brent Hopkins, left, works with beets
fresh from a local farm. Rhett Morris stands amidst a field of fresh collards, which he used to make his winning collard green spring rolls
appetizer. Hopkins' winning entree, a local pork chop on local grits polenta with a fresh squash ragu (below),became popular with patrons.
Foodies and food lovers alike can appreciate
the winners in the Best Dish in North Carolina
competition, which showcases restaurants using
local ingredients and following the “eat local” and “farm
to table” ideals. N.C. Department of Agriculture and
Consumer Services organizers say 2012 was one of the
most competitive years yet.
For the competition in our area of the
state, restaurants competed in the
Region, which stretches from
Chatham and Alamance
counties east. The
fine and casual dining
are Gravy in Raleigh for
casual dining and Rhett’s in
Southern Pines for fine dining.
By Carrie Frye
“The bar has been raised over the years, and this
year’s results show just how difficult it can be to place in
this competition,” says Agriculture Commissioner Steve
Troxler. “The difference between first and second
place was three points or less in several
Gravy owner Greg
Hatem appreciates the
can cultivate with local
farmers and the effect
it can have on the
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The award is a huge honor,” says Hatem, the founder
of Empire Eats, which also owns and operates Sitti, The
Pit, Raleigh Times and Morning Times restaurants in
downtown Raleigh. “We believe that this is the future of
restaurants and the economy of North Carolina. We’ve
been big supporters of local, and we’ve worked especially
hard over the last few years in our restaurants to be a part
of this movement.”
Since coming to the Italian-American eatery of Gravy
on South Wilmington Street in Raleigh, Executive Chef
Brent Hopkins has made quite an impact, both in and out
of the kitchen.
“Brent came on in January," says, Joanie Wilson,
general manager at Gravy. “There’s always a transitional
period. In the first quarter, we didn’t make any changes
to the menu, just got acclimated and began using fresh,
local food as nightly features. We did a spring menu
change and began listing our sources and farms for local
ingredients and adding more descriptions to our menu.”
“It is not just about the food, it is about educating,” adds
Hatem. “It is sad that we went so long without doing this.
It is what is best for our guests, best for our chef, best for
our economy, and agriculture is so important to our state.
We can make sure that the farmers earn a livelihood and
are there for us for years to come.”
Hopkins created an appetizer and an entrée for the
“I love whatever is special that Brent makes,” says
Hatem, “whatever is in season. That is always my favorite
dish and what I’m ordering.”
“Obviously, we wanted to win and put our best foot
forward,” says Hopkins, who learned to embrace the
farm to table movement during the 10 years he lived
in Portland, Ore. “The competition wanted you to have
your menu items submitted by March and have it on the
menu for a month, so I had to forecast in March what
would be available in June. So, I got ahold of our farmer
connections to make a determination. We decided to go
with two entries.”
The appetizer was a North Carolina yellowfin tuna
crudo, which is a raw, sushi-style tuna diced and mixed
with local herbs, tomatoes and a long, thin slice of
cucumber mandolin, with a lemon vinaigrette.
“When we conceived the dishes, we wanted to have it
as local as possible,” says Hopkins. “Everything is local
except the salt, pepper, lemon and olive oil.”
The entrée Hopkins entered was a pork chop, which
may sound simple until the chef offers what’s involved in
making sure the pork is high quality, flavorful and local.
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“The pork is from MAE Farm Meats
in Louisburg, where the farmer decided
he wanted to go into selective breeding
and sustainable hog production. It is
about four breeds of pork that he has it
down to a science. We buy pork loin from
him and cut it into chops. We grill it up with
local grits polenta made with local butter and
creamy Asiago cheese. Then on top of the pork
chop, we do a squash ragű with local tomatoes, basil
The pork chop was such a popular choice with patrons
that it remained on the menu through October. Hopkins
intends to replace with it another special pork shank
entrée original creation with fresh fall vegetables for the
this season’s menu.
“I look at it as food being in the moment, and things are
only good when they are in season. I get excited about
things coming in and having to conceive dishes within
boundaries, to see and make the dishes with what’s fresh
and available,” explains Hopkins.
There are also plenty of choices at Gravy like the house
made pasta and sausages, fresh grass-fed beef specials,
eggplant pie, fresh North Carolina shrimp and angel hair
pasta, or lasagna, which is Wilson’s favorite, and Family
Gravy, which is Hopkins’ favorite.
“We put a lot of work into that dish,” says Hopkins.
“The craftier chef you are, the more you can get out of
each individual product and the better the dish. It is a
‘meatapalooza’ on a plate."
Diners who are fans of eating local ingredients can also
appreciate the character of the 100-year-old building that
houses the restaurant, a former furniture store.
“The brickwork, hardwood floors, eclectic art and the
front windows overlooking Wilmington
Street make Gravy feel like a little
New York Italian place, where
it is loud, and everyone is
having a good time,” says
Once a month on
the third Wednesday
by reservation, Gravy
hosts a farmhouse
features an all-local
menu in their wine
cellar dining room.
“I have learned
so much about local
food,” says Wilson. “It
is exciting to see North
chicken cordon bleu
with sweet potato
mash and sautéed
Carolina turn into
place where people
can get fresh, quality,
“We need that education
to be passed on so we have a
younger generation growing our food
and supporting local farms,” adds Hopkins. “I’m very
passionate about what I do. I’m always asking myself how
can I make a difference as a chef and translate that into
supporting the community and have food with purpose.”
Rhett Morris, owner of Rhett’s Restaurant, Personal
Chef and Catering in downtown Southern Pines uses
those same ideals in his kitchen.
"We are very proud to be acknowledged for our work
with local farmers,” says Morris. “Our menu features
primarily North Carolina products and changes seasonally
to reflect growing seasons. We strive to make simple,
creative dishes that offer the freshest products possible.
Building relationships with local farmers has enabled us
to truly offer a farm-to-fork approach that our customers
have come to appreciate."
Morris worked as an engineer in a machine shop for 16
years, but always enjoyed cooking.
“It all started when a doctor friend of mine asked me to
prepare some meals for him,” says Morris.
A few dinner parties turned into personal chef and
catering services that just began to grow into a full-time
business five years ago. However, owning a restaurant
wasn’t his initial plan.
“We did a lot of private events
and catering, and when the
economy worsened and
catering declined, we
opened the restaurant
for lunch. After a year
or so, we decided to
add dinner,” says
Morris has became
a regular at the
or drives out to the
farms for what's
continued page 43
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“I asked different farmers if they could grow this or that
for the restaurant, and I would have enough that there
was no reason to buy from anywhere else,” he says.
With that premise in mind, Morris began asking all of
his vendors for North Carolina products instead of just
focusing on fresh produce. With products like flour from
the Old Mill of Guilford in Oak Ridge, country ham from
Goodnight Brothers in Boone, all-natural chicken from
Ashley Farms in Winston-Salem, cheeses from Ashe
County Cheese in West Jefferson combined with fresh
fruit and vegetables from David’s Produce in Ellerbe,
Millstone Farm & Gardens in Cameron, Better Be Ellerbe
Peaches also in Ellerbe, Pressley Farms in Cameron,
honey from Moore County beekeepers to name just a
few that make for the freshest offerings.
“It’s our community, and the whole farm-to-table effort
started with folks wanting to know where their food
comes from and to support our local farmers, so I am
never dependent on the weather in California, just the
weather here in our state," says Morris.
For his entries into the competition, Morris came up
with a collard green spring roll appetizer, which has
collard greens and roasted pork belly stuffed into a spring
roll, wrapped and fried to a golden brown, served with the
house-made creamy mustard dipping sauce.
His soup entry was Southern Gazpacho made with
local cucumber, tomato, zucchini, bell pepper, yellow
squash and onion with chopped garlic blended with a
zippy tomato juice blend.
The salad entry, a spring vegetable ribbon salad
combined local zucchini, squash, carrots, jicama on a
bed of hydroponic bibb lettuce topped with a housemade
strawberry balsamic vinaigrette sorbet.
A menu staple is Rhett’s Southern-style chicken cordon
bleu, which is a cornmeal crusted airline chicken breast
stuffed with garlic, parsley and chive cheese and country
Prosciutto topped with a light honey gravy and served
with roasted sweet potato mash and sautéed greens.
For dessert, the judges were treated to a corn meal cake
topped with fresh local strawberries and whipped cream.
Morris incorporated N.C. products into all the courses.
Located in the historic Belvedere Plaza Courtyard
off West Pennsylvania Avenue in downtown Southern
Pines, Rhett’s serves lunch and dinner with dining room,
bar and outdoor courtyard seating.
Morris is honored to be in the company of previous
Moore County winners, Ashten’s in downtown Southern
Pines and Elliott’s in Pinehurst.
“Preparing local food and eating locally supports our
local economy," Morris says, "and I believe you should
do all you can for your state and your local community.”
44 OutreachNC • November 2012
Helping veterans get
most out of benefits
By Thad Mumau
Special to OutreachNC
Sharon Sanders is a self-proclaimed
Army brat and is one of those persons
who plunges heart-first into her job. She
is also one of those dedicated folks who does
not do what she does just for the paycheck.
Sanders’ job is to help military veterans
receive their much deserved benefits. All of
their benefits. She even refers to whatever
project is current as “my baby”.
Sanders, you see, is extremely involved —
longer than 40 hours a week, deeper than a
bank deposit slip. She really cares. Anyone
can tell by talking to her. It shows on her face
and in her voice after only a few minutes.
“My baby at the present time,” she says, “is
Basic Pension. Lots of veterans are eligible,
but many do not know about it.”
continued page 45
Photo by Dahlia Mumau, Special to OutreachNC
Sharon Sanders, director of Cumberland County Veterans
Services, stands in front of the Iron Mike statue at the
Airborne and Special Operations Museum in Fayetteville
with Todd Shockley, a member of her staff and an Army
veteran of 22 years.
Veterans can contact their county's Veterans Services office for help:
1225 Ramsey St.
615 S. Third St.
203 N. Main St.
125 S. Hancock St.
311 Yadkin Rd.
129 W. Elwood Ave.
707 Union Chapel Rd.
302 Monroe St.
113 W. Eighth St.,
567 East Hargett St.
Suite 124B, Raleigh
OutreachNC • November 2012 45
For clarification, this program does NOT refer to a
pension as most of us know it. It has nothing to do with
Webster’s definition, which is, “a fixed amount paid at
regular intervals; i.e., a retirement pension.”
Basic Pension is for veterans and their widows
with low incomes and with non-service connected
“What this means is,” Sanders explains, “if a veteran
or veteran’s widow is found to be in need of aid and
attendance – assistance with daily living activities – he
or she can deduct these fees as a recurring monthly
“These fees include the cost of home health care,
assisted living or a nursing home. They can count
Medicare premiums, health insurance premiums as
well as actual costs of nursing homes, assisted living
and home health care.”
These facts are not always known by those who may
“I am emphasizing this,” Sanders says, “because
people are not aware of this program. This became my
baby when I realized how many people do not know
about the help that’s there for them.
“A whole lot of people thought this was a welfare
program. It’s not. It is a benefit they have earned
because of their military service.”
Sanders also wants to warn veterans and their
widows of people who seek money to represent them
in their quest for benefits.
“Veterans and widows should never – I emphasize
NEVER – pay to have a benefits claim of any kind filed.
See a veterans service officer. That is what we are
here for. We want to help you.”
That is particularly true in Sanders’ case.
She grew up in Texas, the daughter of a country
doctor who was often paid for his services with
chickens and vegetables. After becoming an Army
doctor, he was stationed at Fort Bragg. Sanders has
been in Fayetteville since 1965.
“I love people,” she says, “and I really love working
with veterans. They are close to my heart. We, as
veterans service officers, want to see that vets and
their widows receive all the benefits to which they are
“My dad was a wonderful man who helped others.
That’s what I want to do.”
There are seven people in Sanders’ office, five
of whom are veterans. All are state-certified to
handle claims with the Veterans Administration. The
Fayetteville office assists from 800 to 950 clients
per month. Because of Fort Bragg, it is probably the
busiest veterans services office in North Carolina.
Sometimes we hear of complaints from veterans of
delays in getting a response from claims for benefits.
“The problem we’re having with veterans receiving
their benefits,” Sanders says, “is that there is a backup
at the regional main office in Winston-Salem. A lot of it
is occurring because of the number of new veterans.
So many people are getting out of the military.
“Many national guard members and reservists have
been deployed and are now eligible for benefits. These
are people who were not eligible for benefits before the
Sanders stresses that veterans services officers are
on the side of the veterans and their widows and that
there are numerous benefits.
“There are benefits for education, disability and home
loans, among others,” she says. “We in the veterans
services offices want to help those who deserve
benefits to get what they have coming to them.
“Vets and their widows should take advantage of our
services. They should come and see us at our offices
and find out what they are eligible for.”
46 OutreachNC • November 2012
See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 48
1. Rhyming word
7. Christmas song
16. Producing a
17. Seasonal wind in
19. Church official
21. “___ bitten, twice
22. Pinocchio, at
24. Gift tag word
26. ___ tube
28. Barber’s motion
30. “How ___!”
31. Fit together
33. A late riser
35. Kind of triangle
37. More flashy, as in
44. Coastal raptor
47. Harder to find
48. Dumfries denial
49. “Beowulf,” e.g.
51. Harp’s cousin
52. Gossip, slangily
56. A.T.M. need
57. Iridaceous plant
with fragrant one-sided
clusters of flowers
59. Turned away
61. South American,
dark, nocturnal bird
62. Teapot covering
63. Sports official
64. Off the mark
1. Addictive narcotic
2. Canes made from
3. “Gimme ___!”
(start of an Iowa State
cheer) (2 wds)
4. Darn, as socks
6. Academy Awards
7. Daisy-like plant
8. Shakespeare, the
Bard of ___
10. About (2 wds)
11. Young Simba (2
12. Destruction of the
13. Backed out of a
14. Nemo’s dad
23. Stop working
27. Medical advice,
29. Soft, moist part
30. ___ Flatts
32. “Go ahead!” (2
34. Reverse, e.g.
36. A musical
37. Summon (2 wds)
38. “Little House on
39. Alone, used with
41. Atomic number 36
53. Daughter of Zeus
54. Cork’s country
55. Brandy flavor
58. “Dear” one
60. ___ Victor
Writers series welcomes playwright
Kicking off the 2012-13 Ragan Writers Series at
Weymouth Center for the Arts and Humanities
is Gary Carden. Carden, 77, is a playwright
and recent recipient
of the 2012 North
for Literature, the
award given by the
Carden, a former
who segued into
scenes from his
plays on Sunday,
Nov. 18 at 3 p.m. at
555 E. Connecticut
Avenue in Southern
Carden, who lives
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in Sylva in the western North Carolina mountains,
came up the hard way. Raised by his grandparents,
he had polio as a child but that enabled him to receive
a college education through Vocational Rehabilitation.
He attended Western Carolina Teachers College—
now Western Carolina University (WCU)—graduating
in 1958, and later earned his Master’s degree in
Hearing problems cut short his career as a teacher
and play director, but he had already started writing
plays, starting with “The Uktena” based on a Cherokee
legend. It won the New Plays Festival in Atlanta in
1982. He proceeded to write more plays, including
the autobiographical “The Raindrop Waltz” which has
been performed over 300 times.
Carden has a storytelling/drama/music program
called “The Liars Bench,” at the Mountain Heritage
Center at WCU. His play, “Signs and Wonders” will
be produced at the White Horse Saloon in Black
Mountain next month.
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advance tickets are recommended, but may be
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Many of you recall the days when renting a car
was a simple business transaction. Those
days are long gone, and the process of renting
a vehicle has become as complicated as a real estate
transaction. We have all been there, standing in line
waiting for our turn to approach
the counter. It’s overwhelming
when you are hurried to “sign
here” or “initial there” in an
attempt to hurry the process up
so the remaining customers can
be taken care of in a timely
manner. While I cannot
break down the complexity
of a rental agreement, I can
offer you a few tips to enhance your rental experience
and perhaps save some money.
When renting a car, those so-called “additional fees”
(fine print fees) and taxes can raise the rate you were
quoted by as much as 50 percent. Let’s take a look at a
few of these add-ons:
• Satellite Radio – Many of the newer vehicles
today are equipped with radios that are capable of
receiving not only the traditional AM/FM signals but also
satellite radio which often adds an additional $5 a day to
the quoted cost of the rental. Be specific when making your
reservation if you do not want the satellite radio option.
• GPS Navigation – Global Positioning Systems
(GPS), both “factory installed” and portable units, are
another popular option. While these navigation systems
can be extremely helpful, the additional cost is about $50
a week. Again, be specific when making your reservation
if you do not want the GPS navigation system.
• Toll Transponder – Another popular add-on
item is the toll device (EZ-Pass, Quick Pass, etc.) for the
local area where you are renting the vehicle. In addition to
Steer clear of car rental add-ons
the cost of renting the transponder
and the cost of the tolls you pass
through, some agencies charge
a service fee for processing
your toll charges. Check
ahead of time to see if your
current transponder (if portable)
can be used in the area you will be traveling. Many
transponders are accepted in multiple states. Check with
your toll pass provider as to their specific restrictions.
• Additional Drivers – When renting a vehicle,
ask ahead of time before indicating there will be an
additional driver other than the renter. The policy for
additional drivers varies from agency to agency. Adding
an additional driver often will cost you an additional $10
a day. However, companions to disabled renters are
exempt from additional authorized driver charges.
• Fuel Option – When given the opportunity consider
not accepting the fuel option where you pay for a full tank
of gas upfront and are allowed to return the vehicle with
less than a full tank with no additional charge. Unless you
return the vehicle running on fumes, you will be on the
losing end every time.
When making a reservation for a rental vehicle, your
best defense is to ask about every possible cost and
make it known specifically which options you want and
specifically don’t want. Repeat these assertions at the
rental counter. Ask about any additional fees that could
be looming such as late fees, mileage restrictions and
Prior to renting, check with your auto insurance provider for
guidance. You'll be pleasantly surprised at the money-saving
advice your insurance professional can provide.
For more information, contact the Community Services Unit
of the Southern Pines Police Dept. at 910-692-2732, ext. 2852.
Grey Matter Answers
Stay on the ball with stretching
You wake up ready to start your day and take on
the world, only to find that you have an ache in
your neck or back. Maybe you slept on it wrong,
or maybe it's time for a new mattress. The pain doesn't
have to ruin what a day of golf, shopping or running
errands. You can help to alleviate the pain from those
areas by doing a few easy movements and stretches.
The first movement used to stretch the neck is lateral
flexion. Starting with good posture, sit or stand up
straight, then slowly bring right ear to right shoulder.
Move head back to neutral position. Repeat with left ear
to left shoulder. Take your time and hold each position
for 10-15 seconds.
For the second movement
to relax muscles around
the neck, you will need
a tennis or lacrosse ball.
Stand about three to
four inches away from
the wall with your back
to it. Place the ball on
your trapezius muscle, just
to the right or left of the
OutreachNC • November 2012 49
posterior part of your neck. Use your
body weight to start lightly pressing
back into the ball. Slowly slide your
body, so that the ball rolls away from
your neck toward your shoulder. Start
with light pressure, then gradually
increase the pressure on the ball. If
the pain is too great with increased
pressure, listen to your body and
decrease the pressure. Roll each
side of your trapezius for approximately two to three
The lacrosse or tennis ball can also be used to
massage your lower back by using the same technique
of standing in front of a wall and leaning back in to ball.
This can also be accomplished by lying on the ground
with the ball under the problem area of your back.
Always check with your doctor before starting new
Weiss, a registered nurse, certified Level 1 CrossFit
trainer and manager at East Coast CrossFit, can be reached
at (910) 986-2625 or firstname.lastname@example.org.
50 OutreachNC • November 2012
Each new day worthy of our thanks
The season is upon us. We’ve been
bombarded with Halloween, Thanksgiving
and Christmas commerce for what seems
like months. I realize that these are the days when
many businesses make it or break it for the year,
and given the economy, everyone is trying to get our
Traditionally we express our gratitude at this time of
year and put friends and family at the top of our lists.
For some people, friends and family may not be part
of the equation, whether by choice or circumstances.
We could help by including them in our festivities.
It’s wonderful to be grateful for what you have, both
materially and in your hearts. It’s more wonderful to
share with someone who needs the milk of human
kindness this year.
I am particularly grateful for my family this year.
We live a thousand miles apart so getting together is
always a treat. We had a week with my brother and
sister-in-law in February. For the July Fourth week,
we had my nephews from Canada, one who teaches
in Kuwait and his twin brother and his wife with their
2-year-old. What a great time we had just being
together. In September, we surprised my brother in
Ottawa for a birthday. It’s very gratifying that nieces
and nephews still want to visit.
One of the things I shall be most grateful for is
the end of the election season. All I ask of those
elected is that they puh-lease get along with each
other. It’s time to stop bickering like small children
and step up to do the country’s business. No matter
how annoyed I get with the political system, I’m still
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A close second for my
gratitude are those who
actually use their turn
signals to let the rest of us
Over My Shoulder
know which direction they
may be planning to turn.
I’m not a mind reader yet,
but I’m working on it—is the driver looking left?
Hmmm, must be going to turn that way. Welllll,
Each new day is worth gratitude. That may sound
like a trite saying, but it’s true. Ask anyone who’s
been close to not seeing a new day, and they’ll tell
you how grateful they are. Today may not turn out
to not be the greatest day in your life, but tomorrow
just might be.
If we have been lucky enough to enjoy life, then it’s
time to share that joy with others who may be down
on their luck, depressed, unhappy or alone. The milk
of human kindness is ours to share. Be glad that you
can help another. That’s “paying it forward,” and if
you find yourself in need some day, help will come
from unexpected sources.
As I sit at my cluttered desk, I’m grateful for every
small note, important mail and unimportant trivial
things like post-it notes reminding me of some
urgent task, some being so urgent that dust has now
settled on them.
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