Aging Outreach Services
Vol. 1 ISSUe 7
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Navigating all your aging needs
Pilot finds clear skies
tee up course stories
History comes alive at
House in the Horseshoe
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2 OutreachNC • April 2010
Carrie Frye, Editor
Aging Outreach Services
From the Editor
August has the heat of summer
bearing down upon the Sandhills
reminding us to keep our skin and
eyes in good health as well as to keep
a sense of adventure by recognizing
aviation, golf and national parks.
This month, we’ll introduce you to
the pilot behind the Carthage airfield,
two long-time caddies at Pinehurst
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Resort, legendary broadcaster and author John Derr
and Suzanne Lafollette Black who keeps her American
Indian heritage close in mind and heart. We also go back
to school with some ’third age’ students at Sandhills
Community College, step back in time with the
reenactment of the Revolutionary War battle at House
in the Horseshoe, shop with some consigning women
and beat these dog days with a visit to the Pooch Park
in the Pines. Until next month...
On the Cover
Airfield of dreams...............................................16
Consigning women shop Moore...........................14
Legendary caddies tee up course stories.............36
House in the Horseshoe Reenactment..................8
COVER PHOTOGRAPHY BY MOLLIE TOBIAS
Inside this Issue...
Aging in Place.........................NEW!.......................29
Ask the Expert............................................................4
Continuum of Care.................................................13
FEATURE: Back to school at Sandhills CC...........40
FEATURE: Dog Days at Pooch Park...................24
FEATURE: John Derr releases new book..........38
FEATURE: Keeping Indian heritage at heart......22
FEATURE: Planning for Moore water...................30
FEATURE: Simplifying Your Life...........................30
Gadgets & Good Finds............................................5
Grey Matter Games.................................................26
Mental Health Minute..............................................15
N.C. Gallery of Communities....................................33
Over My Shoulder.....................................................12
Spirituality & Caregiving......................................42
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Q: My family always takes a summer beach
trip to South Carolina. Typically my mother
has gone with us, but last year I noticed that
it was a lot harder for her to keep up with us. She is
88 years old, has significant arthritis in her right hip
and dementia. What would you recommend?
A: That’s a great question for summer time when
many families take trips. It also becomes a
frequent topic of discussion during the holidays.
There are several factors that l would recommend you
consider as you try to decide if you should bring your
mom along. First I would ask if your mother wants to
go on the trip or if it is the family feeling guilty about
the thought of not including her? Often decisions are
made based on guilt or other strong emotions, without
practically considering how the trip might impact your
mom. Individuals with dementia tend to find security in
familiar environments and routines that they can easily
navigate. Many times they do not wish to be removed
from those and experience greater disorientation and
agitation when that happens. Much of this depends
on the type of dementia and progression. If she was
having difficulties last year, it may be a sign that the trip
is simply too much for her at this point.
If you do decide to make the trip with your mother I
would make a few suggestions:
1. Take familiar items from home and use them to set
up her room.
2. Modify the day so that you can try to maintain a
routine and pace that would be typical for her. Perhaps
each member of the family can take a different day they
adapt to your mom’s schedule so that one person does
not feel overwhelmed.
3. Be prepared to cut your trip short if things do not
seem to be working out.
If you decide that the trip has become too difficult for
your mother to manage, it is probably the right decision
based on solid reasons. Allow yourself to accept that
and find a way to enjoy your vacation; knowing mom
is safe at home in familiar surroundings. Plan for what
Ask the Expert
Jennifer George, MSW
Amy Natt, MS
Geriatric Care Manager
Geriatric Care Manager
Wayne Davies, MA, MS
Geriatric Care Manager
Our experts will answer any aging questions you
might have. Fax your questions to (910) 695-0766
or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org.
supervision and care she will need and put together a
schedule of who will be helping her. You can always
supplement with a private duty caregiver if necessary.
Leave all instructions in writing, and post important
contact information. You can plan a special day with her
before you, go so that she knows how much the family
There is rarely a cut and dry answer. Typically if you
really look at how she manages situations outside of her
normal routine and environment, it will offer you some
direction. You might also check out travel related tips
and general guidelines when caring for a loved one with
dementia at www.alzheimers.org.
Natt, a certified geriatric care manager with AOS Care
Management in Southern Pines, can be reached at (910)
692-0683 or email@example.com.
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Gadgets can prevent failure to communicate
was in a home
I recently, finishing a
Gadgets & Good Finds
for a person who had
suffered a stroke 1 . A side
effect of this stroke was
which is defined loosely
as difficulty with speaking
due to brain damage.
Watching the family
and grandmother struggle to communicate, I asked
them what they knew about alternate methods of
communication. The rest of my visit included teaching
the family about resources for better communication.
I kept thinking about that visit. I have seen many
people for whom communication is difficult at best,
with daily interactions made almost impossible. Why?
Alternative methods exist, and vary
from quite basic (communication
boards) to advanced (Ipods,
electronic boards shown at left,
computers, etc.). For aphasic
patients, some physicians
will specify speech services;
others leave it to the rehab
facility or home health
agency to determine. If a
loved one has suffered a stroke
or other problem that has led to aphasia,
then you should ask to have a speech assessment.
Additionally, North Carolina has an excellent program
of Assistive Technology to assist residents in determining
which communication method might be best for them.
They have centers located across the state; and at
these centers people can try out different methods of
communication. There is even a “loan program” that
allows an state resident to take the equipment home for
a real trial. Our local center is in Sanford, but additional
centers can be found on the website: www.ncatp.org. Or
you can contact the Sanford Center at (919) 775-3439, or
the director, Tammy Koger, at (919) 850-2787.
But why wait? You may be able to start communicating
right away with just a little ingenuity. Picture boards are
available on the Internet (search term: “communication
board”). You can make one with very few materials. A
communication board is simply a firm board on which
various pictures, with or without words, are placed; many
people laminate the board to keep it clean, but it isn’t
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necessary. Others use small scrapbooks, photo books,
etc. Whatever method that works is fine. Fill the board
or book with simple, easy-to-see pictures. A general
board may contain a pictures of a glass (representing “I
want a drink”), food, bed, bathroom, TV, etc. It may have
happy and sad faces to express emotion; and it may
have other symbols or pictures your loved one needs.
Remember that you can make the board as personal or
as general as you want; to, and start communicating!
1 As per HIPAA, all particulars have been altered.
Hess, a certified Assistive Technology Professional at Health
Innovations Pharmacy in Southern Pines, can be reached at
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Psoriasis is a persistent,
inflammatory skin condition.
Some cases of psoriasis are so mild
that people don’t know they have it.
Alternatively, severe psoriasis may
cover large areas of the body. Dermatologists can now
help even the most severe cases.
Psoriasis is not contagious, so it cannot be passed
from one person to another. Psoriasis does, however,
have a tendency to run in families, meaning it can be
an inherited condition. Normally, the skin replaces itself
about every 30 days. When the process speeds up and
the skin replaces itself in three to four days, psoriasis
A “trigger” is usually needed to make psoriasis appear,
whether for the first time or the twentieth. Psoriasis can
be triggered by stress; an infection, such as strep throat;
and by taking certain medicines, such as interferon and
lithium. Cold, dry winter weather and lack of sunlight
can also trigger psoriasis. Others see psoriasis flare 10
to 14 days after their skin is injured, such as by a cut,
scratch, or severe sunburn.
There are five major types of psoriasis, each with
unique signs and symptoms. The most common type,
plaque psoriasis appears as patches of raised, reddish
skin covered by silverywhite
frequently form on the
elbows, knees, lower
back, and scalp, but can
occur anywhere on the
The second type,
appears as small, red
spots, usually affecting
children and young
adults. It often starts
after a sore throat, and
frequently clears up by
itself in a few weeks or
The third type,
pustular psoriasis, is
characterized by white
by red skin. Pustular
psoriasis tends to
confine itself to certain
Psoriasis may lead to arthritis
David I. Klumpar, MD
areas of the body, usually the palms
and soles. Dermatologists call this
“localized pustular psoriasis.” When
widespread, the condition is known as
“generalized pustular psoriasis,” which
is a rare and severe form of psoriasis that can be life
Another type, inverse psoriasis, occurs when smooth,
red lesions form in the skin folds. Lesions can appear
in the armpit, under the breasts, around the groin,
buttocks and genitals.
Finally, erythrodermic psoriasis, is characterized by
widespread redness with severe itching and pain,
erythrodermic psoriasis can be life threatening.
Psoriasis frequently develops on the scalp and the
nails. When it occurs on the scalp, psoriasis often causes
silvery-white scale, which may be misdiagnosed as
dandruff. Psoriatic nails frequently have tiny pits. The
nails may loosen, thicken or crumble. These signs may
be misdiagnosed as a nail infection. Both scalp psoriasis
and nail psoriasis can be difficult to treat.
Between 10 percent and 30 percent of people who
develop psoriasis get a related form of arthritis called
“psoriatic arthritis,” which causes inflammation of the
joints. Psoriatic arthritis is a lifelong condition that
pain and stiffness in the
While psoriasis cannot
be cured, a number of
treatment options can
help control psoriasis.
A patient’s health,
age, lifestyle and the
severity of the psoriasis
treatment options are
control over the psoriasis
may require different
types of treatment and
several visits to your
Dr. David Klumpar, a
dermatologist and medical
director at Carolina Skin
Care in Pinehurst, can be
reached at (910) 277-7546.
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battle to life
By Carrie Frye
Photos by Mollie Tobias
Terry Mathis, a veteran reenactor, has played a role in the reenactment of the July 29, 1781 Revolutionary War skirmish at the House in
the Horseshoe for 30 years. He portrays the Whig Col. Philip Alston, who is forced to defend his home from a Loyalist attack. This year’s
reenactment will take place on the weekend of August 7-8 at the historic site in Moore County.
The pages of Revolutionary War history books will
come to life in full color with the reenactment of
the July 29, 1781 battle between Patriots and Loyalists at
the House in the Horseshoe historic site near Carthage in
Moore County. Replica cannons, rifles and muskets will
fire Saturday, Aug. 7 at 4 p.m. and again Sunday, Aug. 8
at 2 p.m. as Col. David Fanning leads his Tory Loyalists on
a raid of Whig Col. Philip Alston’s homestead.
The site is authentic. The white, two story plantation
home amidst fields of what once were thousands of
acres of cotton stands on a hill above the Deep River,
whose horseshoe bend it was named.
Veteran reenactors will continue their 30 plus year
tenure in the battle. Terry Mathis, 67, of Locust, N.C. will
make his last defense as the patriot Col. Alston opposite
Pat Montgomery, 62, of Rockingham as the muchfeared
Col. Fanning. Each leader holds a long resume of
reenactments under their leather belts, always keeping
authenticity in mind.
“I make all of my own clothing from historical patterns.
They just fit better if you make them yourself,” says
Mathis, a cordwainer by trade of handmade leather
products, of which includes a 18th century style sword
holder, pouch, drinking cup, satchel and shoes for his
Col. Alston outfit.
In character, Mathis settled into his chair in the parlor
to tell the story of the skirmish against his home, an
easy task for this long-time reenactor who has had
minor roles in over 17 colonial movies including The
Patriot. Actual bullet holes from the battle remain in the
house from the exchange of gunfire that began over the
beating death of a well-known Loyalist Kenneth Black,
which was blamed upon Col. Alston and his militia.
“I had an idea that something was going to happen,”
says Mathis in character as Col. Alston.
“Col. Fanning hit the house from three sides. Reenactors
will argue whether or not the riflemen were together
or not. It even took five years to settle on the uniform
colors for Fanning,” says Montgomery. “We have a battle
plan, attacking the house from below on the riverside.
A bagpipe, whistle or horn will signal the beginning of
the attack, except for one year when I couldn’t muster
enough pucker to blow the horn,” he adds laughing.
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Photos by Mollie Tobias
Left: The House in the Horseshoe historic site is located at 288 Alston House Road near Carthage off State Road
1006. Right: Mathis makes his own leather goods like this satchel and drinking cup for his Col. Alston outfit.
And although staying true to the period and story is
important, there has been plenty of fun over the years.
Mathis remembers his second year at the battle when
he wore a kilt and was out in the field as a Loyalist
attacking the house.
“I came over the fence and the kilt came up over
my head as a TV crew was filming,” he says with a
But since then he moved up to the lead role of Col.
“I just pushed my way in. I know what Col. Alston
is supposed to do,” declares Mathis. “Every year, I lose
this house. For 25 years, I’ve lost this battle.”
The battle culminates when Tory forces attempt
to burn the house down. To stop them, Mrs. Alston
negotiates a surrender of Col. Alston and his men to
Col. Fanning, thus ending the heated battle that left
both sides with casualties.
The reenactors are a unique group of dedicated
people who come back year after year. Many still
camp out on the site Saturday evening with period
tents, cookware and weaponry.
“It’s kind of like a reunion. We have been doing
battle for years together,” says Mathis.
“This particular reenactment is special. I love it. I
have been doing it a long time. You can walk right up
to the house and put your finger in the bullet holes.
It’s a real gem. Only a few battle sites can make you
feel like you are there. It’s a real gut, visceral feeling,”
Aside from the reenactments, the site will be open
from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m. on Saturday and 12 to 4 p.m.
on Sunday with militia demonstrations and 18th
century period crafts including blacksmithing, gun
engraving and weaving.
“Periodic firings of a replica 18th century cannon
program,” says site
will even have
a chance to
For more information on the House in the Horseshoe
Reenactments, call (910) 947-2051.
10 OutreachNC • August 2010
Cataracts are universal with
increasing age. The lens
of the eye gradually turns a
yellowish brown and develops
varieties of opacities; these
changes diminish visual acuity, affect color vision,
decrease contrast sensitivity and increase
glare. At some point these symptoms
begin to interfere with lifestyle:
reading, driving, sports, and
work. Cataract surgery with
lens implantation then
becomes an option, and at
some point, a necessity.
I began my surgical
training during a period
of great transition in
cataract surgery. My
first cataract cases
involved a hospital
stay of some days,
restricted physical activity,
and required removal of
the entire cataract through
a large incision closed by
multiple stitches. Slow recovery of
vision was the rule, and either thick
“cataract glasses” or a contact lens was
required to correct vision. Surgical complications
were more frequent, and surgery simply wasn’t offered
until there was a significant reduction of vision,
usually in both eyes. Three years later in my residency,
1982, my cataract technique resembled very much
our present approach, a precipitous change. Cataract
surgery has become the most common surgery in
the United States and perhaps the most successful.
Certainly from a surgeon’s perspective, the restoration
of a patient’s most important sense is rewarding.
The transition to modern cataract surgery was swift and
also required significantly different surgical skills with
the technology changing exponentially throughout the
1980s. Many older surgeons faced with the prospect
of learning a completely new surgical technique
simply stopped operating. Historically there were three
pivotal events in the development of modern cataract
surgery. First was the development of the intraocular
lens implant, pioneered by English surgeon Sir Harold
Ridley. Dr. Ridley observed that injured RAF pilots
Cataracts don’t mean blindness
Gregory J. Mincey, MD, MBA, FACS
tolerated pieces of shattered
plexiglass cockpits imbedded
deeply within the eye. Ridley
fashioned the first crude lens
implant using a similar plastic.
The evolving lens implant eliminated the
need for thick glasses or a contact lens
to correct vision after surgery. The second
critical event was the development of
phacoemulsification, a technique that
permits removal of the cataract by
ultrasonic fragmentation through
a very small incision. The third
event was the development
of outpatient surgery. When I
joined Carolina Eye Associates
in 1983, Drs.Gale Martin and
George Tate had just developed
one of the first Medicare
surgical facilities on the
east coast, a new and at
the time a controversial
i d e a . Now outpatient surgery is
standard, not only for ophthalmology,
but for most other surgical disciplines.
The last few decades have seen further
refinement in cataract surgery: topical
anesthesia, smaller incisions, faster
operating times and the ability to more
accurately predict the power of the lens implant
through sophisticated measurements of the corneal
surface and computer algorithms. More recently
“premium” intraocular lenses permit a close
approximation of the youthful eye, allowing good
vision at distance and near, often reducing the need
for glasses following cataract surgery. These premium
lenses offer advantages, but they are not suited for
everyone, and require a more detailed evaluation and
discussion with the surgeon.
In the U.S., cataracts are no longer a significant
cause of blindness. Clinical trials investigating new
implants, surgical devices and lasers, are continuously
improving outcomes for patients.
Dr. Mincey is a senior partner and president of Carolina
Eye Associates and as a retina specialist doesn’t routinely
perform cataract surgery. He can be reached at (910) 295-
Book Review: What Bluebirds Do
Nothing is more fun
than reading to
children. I can remember
reading to my son and trying
to cover two pages at once.
He was too smart for me to
do that. He had memorized
the picture, the page and
A wonderful book to read
to your grandchildren is
What Bluebirds Do. Written
by Pamela F. Kirby of nearby
Gibsonville. It is full of her spectacular photographs which
were taken in her backyard. When she was here for a
program at Weymouth in the spring, along with bluebird
guru Frances Outhwaite, she read the entire book aloud to
the audience which was composed of many more adults
than children. They were mesmerized by the soothing
cadence of the words and the glorious shots of the
The book details how they
build their nests, how many
eggs the mother lays, how
long the sky-blue eggs must
be incubated, how the birds’
color changes, the father
bird’s role in raising the
young and how they are
eventually encouraged to
fly off and leave home.
She explains that bluebirds
were once in danger of disappearing with the advent of
the house sparrow and birds from other countries, so
concerned bluebird lovers set up and monitored bluebird
nest boxes all across the continent and set up trails.
They designed nest boxes and fought off insects. The
book is not only pretty to look at and entertaining, it is
also scientifically accurate. At the end is a glossary that
defines words that might be unfamiliar to readers.
The last chapter lists instructions for attracting bluebirds.
I was especially interested in this as many years ago my
husband built bluebird boxes for me and all our grown
children. He followed the instructions to a T. Bluebirds
are a persnickity lot. We sat hardly breathing late one
afternoon as a father bluebird inspected our house, flew
in and out, brought back his mate, then they flew away
never to be seen again. They evidently did not like the
neighborhood. I myself am content with reading What
Bluebirds Do to my four and five-year-old girls.
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12 OutreachNC • August 2010
More than 40 years ago one of my favorite
poets, Judith Viorst, wrote “Married is Better.”
At the time I totally agreed with her, and still do.
Late last month, my husband and I celebrated
our 50th wedding
anniversary. Fifty years
with the same person!!!
It’s truly hard to imagine
where those five decades
have gone. After all we’re
still basically the same
fun-loving kids we were
Over My Shoulder
in 1960, aren’t we?
Who knew then that we
would leave our native
land, legally live in five
states and become U.S. citizens? Who knew that he
would have to travel a great deal, and I would often
get to go along to foreign lands?
We’ve learned a lot in 50 years. As the oldest
children in both our families, we’ve learned the need
to do what we can for our parents, grandparents,
aunts and uncles. Family comes first. Running a very
close second are friends. When you move away from
where you grew up, friends quickly become your social
glue. We have been
exceptionally lucky and
still have good friends
both in Canada and the
states where we lived.
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Married is better...
Retirement has enlarged
and enhanced our circle
of friends --- most of us
don’t have our families
just down the road a bit,
or in the next town, not
even in the next state, so
116 Westgate Dr.
(Hwy 211 West)
we fill those
I’m not sure
that you’d consider us a “perfect match.” Nothing is
perfect. But somehow we muddled through and got
to this landmark anniversary.
He’s a right-handed engineer, born under the
orderly sign of Virgo. I’m a left-handed klutz, born
under Leo’s more flamboyant sign. Married is better.
He’s an outdoorsman who likes almost any sport
out there, whether as a player or spectator. I’m more
of the indoor type. He brings home the news from the
golf course. I bring the gossip from the bridge table.
Married is better.
When he mangled his shoulder and several
adjoining parts in a ski accident, I quickly learned
to be a caregiver, and depending on the day, a
drill sergeant, more of a nag, or a compassionate
companion. When I broke my left arm, was casted
from shoulder to fingertips and was helpless, our
roles were reversed. Married is better.
I cry at sad movies. I cry at happy movies. I can
even shed a few tears at a commercial. He hands me
his handkerchief. Married is better.
As we age and have annoying things like doctors’
appointments, ‘procedures’, therapy with aches and
pains, it’s so good to have someone to lean on, to
do the driving, to talk back to the medical profession
when needed. Married is better.
With very little guidance, he can shop for groceries
and then cook them. Married is better.
We have one daughter who has brought much joy
and happiness, tears and laughter, adventure and
bravado, surprises and challenges to 40 of these 50
years. Married is better.
When we got married,
we never thought about
a 50th anniversary. In
those days, people who
made it to 25 years
were special --- and old,
like our parents. Now
we read about lots of
50s, several 60s, and
even a few 70s in years
together. Married is
...Generating peace of mind
Pinehurst (910) 295-3188
Celebrate Senior Citizens Day, Aug. 21
older people have
achieved much for our
families, our communities
and our country. That
remains true today and
gives us ample reason this
month to reserve a special
day in honor of the senior
citizens who mean so much
to our land.
Seniors are living longer with improved health care
Continuum of Care
and more years of productivity They are reinforcing their
historical roles as leaders and feeling a sense of purpose.
Seniors are embarking on second careers, giving younger
Americans an example of responsibility, resourcefulness,
and determination. More than 4.5 million senior citizens
are serving as volunteers in various programs and projects
that benefit every sector of our society. We can all learn
from the selfless ways of older citizens.
In senior living facilities, residents are still creating
memories of their own by participating and volunteering.
They might be part of a drama club, gardening club or they
might even be the musical entertainment themselves!
A resident who is involved, active and cheerful has less
depression, is healthier and tends to live longer. It’s like
anything else, if you surround yourself with positive, good
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things are sure to happen.
For all they have achieved throughout life and for all
they continue to accomplish, we owe our seniors thanks
and a heartfelt salute. That’s
why President Ronald Regan
designated August 21, as
``National Senior Citizens
Day’’ in 1988, stating, “I call
upon the people of the
United States to observe
this day with appropriate
ceremonies and activities”.
With that being said, what
are you going to do for
your favorite senior? Maybe
try an interview, come up
with a list of questions and
ask away. You will not only
learn something about that
individual, but it would be a
memorable token for their
family to have.
director at Fox Hollow
Senior Living in Pinehurst,
can be reached at (910)
Join us for
8am to 5pm
21 Chinquapin Rd
Village of Pinehurst
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14 OutreachNC • August 2010
Kim Gavrelis dresses
well. At 50, she looks
hip and fashionable and
By Melanie Coughlin
Special to OutreachNC
keeps a wardrobe any woman would admire. Her secret is
to stick with classic lines and shapes, then pep it up with
chic and up-to-the-minute accents.
Her other secret? At least 40 percent of Gavrelis’ wardrobe
comes from consignment stores.
Today’s consignment stores are not the thrift stores
of yore. You won’t find a single threadbare, tattered, or
even unfashionable item in them. Instead, you’ll find
current styles in like-new condition. It’s not uncommon for
consignment stores to carry clothes with their original tags.
You may even find a prize like a major designer label.
It’s that treasure hunt that has many women turning to
consignment stores to enhance their wardrobes.
“For me, it’s the thrill of the hunt,” said Gavrelis.
It’s also the thrill of the deal. In this economic slump,
people who wouldn’t ordinarily seek out a bargain are
looking for creative ways to stretch their dollars.
According to the National Association of Resale
Professionals, the consignment industry has experienced
a 7 percent growth in the number of new stores over the
past three years.* Between 12 to 15 percent of Americans
shop in consignment stores compared to the 21 percent
who shop in major department stores.
These statistics show that the stigma of buying resale has
lessened, but it certainly hasn’t disappeared. One frequent
seller spoke only on the condition of anonymity. She said
consigning gives her extra cash for small indulgences,
what she calls “Starbucks money.”
“Who doesn’t like to have a little extra cash?” asks
Alice Remble who owns Tina’s Turn on Broad Street in
downtown Southern Pines.
Consignment stores offer a win-win for buyers and
sellers. Sellers bring their items to the store, and the owner
markets the store and displays the wares. When someone
buys the item, the seller takes home 40-60 percent of the
selling price (percentages vary from store to store). The
seller earns money, and the buyer saves money.
Remble said she sees consigners and buyers from every
income level and social strata. They scope out the deals
on everyday wear, but cocktail parties and formal balls
are a specialty area that motivates Remble’s customers.
Shoppers pay a fraction of the price for a piece of clothing
Photos by Mollie Tobias
Kim Gavrelis, foreground, shops at Tina’s Turn in downtown
Southern Pines with her long-time friend Kim Mason. Both are
wearing outfits purchased from area consignment shops.
they’ll wear just once or twice.
That’s what piqued 51-year-old Kim Mason’s interest in
consignment stores when her daughters were small.
“There were some things they wouldn’t be wearing much,”
she says, “and it just didn’t make sense to buy it new.”
Mason needed snow bibs for her daughter one year
and found a reasonably priced, like-new pair. After her
daughter used the bibs a couple of times, Mason resold
them at a consignment store.
Mason’s experience hits at the heart of another reason
consigning is gaining popularity. It’s a way of recycling.
The green movement sweeping the country has made
recycling a higher priority for many people. Whether they
sell or donate their clothing, people are trying more and
more to keep their unwanted items out of landfills.
That makes buyers and sellers environmentally-friendly.
Add to the fact that they are dressed to the nines and
clever with their money. The result is consigning women,
who are hip, green, and smart.
Storytelling holds value for teller
There have been times when I have thought if I
have to hear that story about his life one more
time I’m going to explode. What I’ve learned is that
I was seeing the value of “life storytelling” (stories of
life events and experiences in one’s own life) from my
perspective as opposed to that of the elderly person
sharing the story. As a result, my view of the value
of the life storytelling, which was sharing information
and general socializing, is not the same as that of an
older person, even if they don’t recognize it.
B. Hagberg from the Institutionen för Psykologi at
Lunds University, Sweden indicates this in his article
on the Psychological Aspects of Aging from the
Swedish journal Lakartidningen:
Identifying the importance of coping in old age
has brought about a change in perspective in
caring for the elderly in which the psychological
aspects become more important as a complement
to the medical model. Increasingly, autobiographical
reflections or life storytelling, also when used in
group sessions, is shown to be one way of increasing
well-being and life satisfaction among the elderly.
When I think of this, I am reminded of my
dearly departed father-in-law, who would repeat
the same stories to anyone willing, or sometimes
unwilling, to listen. Prior to understanding the
value of life storytelling,
I was not always ready
to hear the same story
again. As I gained a
better understanding, I
would not only listen to
the stories but actually
encourage them. What
I saw was a man who
had come to grips with
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the trials and tribulations of his difficult life and
was very satisfied with his life in general. He was
a happy man.
While Hagberg refers to formal group sessions,
I think that the impact of life storytelling can
also be positive in informal groups. I now have a
greater appreciation for those early morning “coffee
groups” at local restaurants. It is not just about
socialization. It is also about enhancing one’s health
and happiness. Even though I don’t understand all
the particulars of how life storytelling increases life
satisfaction in the elderly, I know that it does.
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Photos by Mollie Tobias
Long-time pilots and friends Ken Thompson, left, and Roland Gilliam, owner of Gilliam-McConnell Airfield in Carthage prepare for takeoff.
Wearing aviator sunglasses, a denim shirt and
khakis, Roland Gilliam, owner of the Gilliam-
McConnell Airfield, climbs into the plane to take on
the co-pilot’s role for a change. Headsets on, seatbelts
buckled and the twin engines come alive with a roar
as pilot Ken Thompson announces that his 1958 Piper
Apache “63Pops” is preparing for takeoff from the
Carthage airfield at 7:51 a.m. The flight plan is set for
the First Flight Airstrip at the Wright Brothers National
Memorial in Kill Devil Hills. In honor of Aviation Week,
Aug. 15-21, and the observance of National Parks Month,
these two pilots are about to embark on a journey or
aviator’s right of passage to the place where Orville and
Wilbur Wright achieved the miracle of powered flight in
1903, forever changing the world and making flying a
part of everyday life for these two men.
With a slow climb into the Carolina blue sky, the
landscape and life below grow smaller until the plane
levels out above the clouds that are spread out like a
sheet of soft white cotton.
“We’ll just cruise along at this level,” says Thompson
referring to the 3,500 feet ceiling. “They say, ‘if you have
time to spare, go by air.’ I just like to go someplace in a
This ride calculated by the navigational equipment
is scheduled to last one hour and 27 minutes, but
the real journey began for Gilliam, 70, with a love for
flying 54 years ago in Virginia Beach, Va.
“ F l y i n g
Airfield of dreams takes flight
This 1958 Piper Apache made the trip to Kill
Devil Hills. Owned by Ken Thompson since
1991, he flies it back and forth between his
homes in Carthage and Canada regularly.
do, and you had to be 16 to solo,” says Gilliam.
So at age 16 while still in high school, Gilliam took
private flying lessons. After only five hours of flying time
instruction, a young man took to the air in a Piper J-3
Cub on his own after his instructor insisted that he was
ready. A young man went up on his first solo and landed
as a pilot forever fueled with a passion for aviation.
“You never forget your first airplane ride or your first
solo,” recalls Gilliam. “It’s a different feeling like being free.”
Gilliam bought his first plane from his high school
“It was a World War II observation plane and not much
of a plane. It flew...barely,” he says with a wistful smile.”
“Wish I had it back now though.”
Gilliam has a small collection of World War I replica
planes. His most well known plane being a SE5A, a British
biplane fighter aircraft replica built and used in the 2004
movie, The Aviator. He does his own mechanical work
on it and will be flying it soon to Virginia Beach to be on
display at the Military Aviation Museum.
“It’s harder to fly than your normal airplane, because
it’s a tail dragger,” he says pointing to the design of the
back end of the aircraft. continued page 17
Gilliam considered making a living of flying, but
was too young to be a pilot or co-pilot with Piedmont
Airlines when he applied. His determination kept him in
the air doing crop dusting, banner towing and even air
“I used to be a lot more reckless than I am now,” he
admits. “It was thrill then.”
But safety and know-how were always important as
well. Gilliam, the oldest of seven children, took his father
up for his first airplane ride in 1960, which is to this day,
the only time he ever encountered a mechanical issue
“We had total engine failure. I put it down in a field,” he
remembers. “The carburetor iced up. It thawed out and
started right up, and we flew back home.”
And Gilliam’s dad still flew with him after the incident
and would still now if his health was not an issue at age 92.
Gilliam’s main occupation is construction, which
ultimately led him to Moore County and the opportunity
to form his own business. Carthage is the destination
where he found clear skies and fertile ground to
cultivate his idea for building an airfield. He and his wife
Nancy purchased 120 acres off Dowd Road in 1989 and
has been developing the project ever since. And this
pastime has launched a business for his retirement.
“Everyone thinks you’re crazy if you say you want to
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build an airport, including my wife and kids,“ he laughs.
“I have a great wife to put up with me and my projects. I
started out building the airfield for me and just wanted
a grass strip, but then I paved it.”
Gilliam then learned of James Rogers McConnell, a
young man that lived in Carthage before joining the
American Ambulance Corps to serve in France in WWI.
After completing aviation training, McConnell was one
of the famous Lafayette Escadrille, or squadron of
America’s first seven fighter pilots. McConnell was later
shot down in France in 1917, leaving no heirs behind.
Honoring the memory and service of the WWI aviator,
Gilliam named his facility the Gilliam-McConnell Airfield.
He also purchased the 10 acres of land where McConnell
had lived and used gravel from there at the airfield.
“Unless you’re well-known, history forgets you,” he
says, knowing the name will be carried on radios of all
who now takeoff and land in Carthage.
And the airfield has made Gilliam a number of new
pilot friends as well. Thompson, a pilot for 39 years
who splits his time flying his Piper between his homes
in Carthage and Belleville, Ontario, Canada bought the
third lot on the property and had Gilliam build a small
house facing the airfield complete with a large hangar
attached for his airplanes.
continued page 18
18 OutreachNC • August 2010
Photos by Mollie Tobias
Pilots Roland Gilliam and Ken Thompson stand atop Kill Devil Hill at
the Wright Brothers National Memorial. The national park is one of
only 12 in North Carolina and is open seven days a week, year round.
continued from page 17
And Thompson was not the only happy aviator to find
the airfield. Just a week after the runway was paved, Bill
Lishman, known from the movie, Fly Away Home, and his
experiences on his ultralight aircraft teaching Canada
geese new migration patterns was fogged in, saw the
airfield and landed with 37 geese in tow.
“After that, we decided to call it the Gilliam-McConnell
International Airport,” jokes Gilliam.
Other residential houses including Gilliam’s, aviation
businesses and the Pik-N-Pig barbeque restaurant now
call the airfield home.
“The airport didn’t have lots of traffic until the restaurant
opened. Our best day was in January when we had 53 planes
on the field at one time,” says Gilliam. “The ideal situation
for a fly-in restaurant is to have good local support to
supplement it, because fly-in traffic is weather dependent.”
The airfield offers airplane or glider rides as well as a
driving range for pilots who bring their clubs. Gilliam
is almost finished adding a 15-space RV park with city
water, sewer and 50-30-20 electric. And who can forget
about that good barbeque?
“I’m hooked on this place,” says Cecil Edgerton, 60, a
flying instructor who makes regular trips from Harnett
County and a fan of the spicy grilled chicken. “This type of
field teaches you the discipline you need as a pilot.”
“On Sunday afternoons, it’s hard to find a place to park
the airplane,” adds Edgerton’s student Sam Laskey, 20,
who is working on his commercial pilot’s license.
And the airfield is not only a hit with flight instructors
and their students; Gilliam and some of his fellow
pilots, Dennis (Denny) Smith, Bob Kroll and Jim Murray,
organized the James Rogers McConnell chapter 1220 of
the Experimental Aircraft Association (EAA). One of the
group’s main projects is the Young Eagles Ride, which
organizes free airplane rides for children from eight to
17 years old at semi-annual events at the airfield. Gilliam
has taken up over 120 kids himself since they started the
program, making sure that his grandson was his 100th
flight. To date, the group has flown over 2,400 kids.
“I get a lot of satisfaction out of flying,” says Kroll, 86, the
secretary treasurer of the EAA chapter.” Aviation is a very
stimulating experience. I get to associate with people
my age and younger and from all kinds of different
backgrounds. The Young Eagles is a popular event. It’s
amazing there at the airfield. Roland is a very inventive,
“I try my hardest to make a difference,” adds Gilliam.
“If I have been able to pass flying on, that thrills me.
Taking time to make a difference in someone’s life is what
matters. You just don’t know what you might inspire.”
Gilliam shared his love for flying with both of his
daughters by teaching them the basics. Now flying
for recreation, he and Nancy will fly for vacations to
the beach or to West Jefferson, N.C. to see their three
grandchildren. He hopes that one of them might be
interested in carrying on the family aviation tradition
with a passion for flying.
That passion for flying leads back to the journey and
flight to the Wright Brothers National Memorial. Through
scattered clouds against azure blue, the Piper flies across
the Intracoastal Waterway, the Outer Banks and circles
around over the Atlantic Ocean to land on runway 20 at
the national park. For a moment, as the plane lines up
with the runway, sunlight beams down onto the 60-foot
monument atop Kill Devil Hill that marks the site where
hundreds of glider flights preceded that first powered
flight as if the brothers themselves are providing the fair
weather and clearance to land on aviation’s hallowed
ground onto the First Flight Airstrip.
Editor’s note: Long-time pilots Roland Gilliam and Ken Thompson
obliged OutreachNC by making this journey to the Wright Brothers
National Memorial. It was our honor to make it with them and learn how
aviation took flight alongside two accomplished aviators. We cannot thank
them enough for their time, generosity, the flight and an experience to
remember always. View more photos at www.OutreachNC.com.
Director last one you want at table
Let’s talk briefly about the director at the bridge game.
The director is in charge of the game, but even
though the director has greeted you in a friendly manner
when you arrived at the game, this is the last person
you want to have called to your table. This great game
that we all love to play
has some rules that you
once learned. It also has
some laws that need to
be followed. The director’s
job is to make sure the
laws are not broken and
the game is fair to all.
This is your only friend
in the room. Your partner
might also be a friend,
but sometimes we are not
really sure about that.
Bridge should always be fun to play whether you are
at the local club, with a small group of friends, or just a
table of bridge at home. As you settle in and start to play,
the bidding goes,1C by you, the dealer, Pass,1 Spade
by partner, and 1 heart by your Right Hand Opponent
(RHO). You hear your partner say “INSUFFIICENT!”.
RHO now starts to correct the bid. Wrong!!! This is when
the director should be called to the table. An irregularity
has occurred and the director should always be called.
It is not a good idea to make your own rulings especially
when you are paying this person big bucks to play in the
game or if you have a slight wager on the outcome. You
might be hurting yourself. Remember your opponents
are not the pair at the table with you but all of the players
sitting in your direction. They are the ones you want to
beat, so don’t allow irregularities at your table!
If you are at home, this law still apples (Law27) , but do
not let the offender automatically take action. The director
will ask you for a review of the bidding or if you have bid
boxes, you will be asked if you really intended to take that
card our of the box. Sometimes, you grab the wrong one
and that is easily corrected. Most often the answer will be
something like, “I didn’t see that bid” or “I had planned
to make that bid and was not paying attention” Don’t be
upset, this is not a first, but do be honest about why you
made the bid. The police will not arrive to take you off
to jail. The director will then ask the next person who is
to bid to either accept or reject the insufficient bid. You
will also be told that if you accept the bid, bidding will
proceed naturally. If you choose not to accept the bid, it
will go back to the player who made the insufficient bid.
While that player can bid whatever he wants, if he bids
the lowest sufficient bid in the same denomination and
not artificial, bidding will then proceed normally. If he bids
anything else, his partner will be barred for life or until the
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end of the bidding, whichever comes first!
If the insufficient bid is conventional, it may be corrected
to the proper level as long as it conveys the same
meaning. Ex. 2NT -P - 2C (Stayman) maybe corrected
to 3 C 4NT -P - 4D showing 1 Ace maybe corrected to
5D which still shows 1 Ace. You cannot change the silt. If
you do, it bars your partner.
Look at your hand and decide what is best for you. You
now have a golden opportunity to have a round of bidding
at a lower level. Will that help you? Chances are, you
were going to bid after your partner has said something,
so it probably would be a good idea to accept the bid
and you can now bid. For example, 1 Spade which would
suggest support for your partner or make any other bid
that would help your side. However, if you have decided
that you will pass, then do not accept the insufficient bid
and force the opponent to bid at a higher lever. It is all in
your court so do what is best for you.
This is such a common bidding error, you should know
this ruling. It should apply at home as well as at the club,
but the current laws do not allow for the correction of
conventional bids. I would recommend you follow the
duplicate laws. If you don’t enforce it, you are helping the
other pair at the table, and that is not part of the game.
It is legal to take advantage of the opponent’s mistakes.
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Turn summer vegetables into panini...
As summer reaches it hottest point, there are several
topics related to cooking and nutrition that we can
discuss. One of the most important things to remember
in the hot weather is to hydrate. Remember over half of your body
is made up of water and you must replace what goes out on a daily
basis. By the time you feel thirsty you are probably already dehydrated
to some extent. Each person should drink approximately eight cups
of fluid each day. However, this does not include beverages such as
coffee, tea, milk and soft drinks. Water is best, but as an alternative
you could also drink fruit juices, sports drinks or even eat fruits high in
water content, such as melons. This time of year you can easily pick up
watermelon, cantaloupe, honeydew and peaches at the local farmers
market or grocery store.
August is National Panini Month, perfect timing with all the fresh
veggies available. Someone recently asked me why I always smell
everything first. The answer
4 pieces of bread
2 slices of fresh Mozzarella
Pesto (store bought or homemade)
Salt and Pepper to taste
is simple, one of the best ways to choose a fruit or vegetable is to smell it.
Does it smell like what it is supposed to be? If it has no smell, it is probably
not ripe enough. And if it smells rotten or moldy, it probably is! Soft spots
can also be a sign of overripe food. One of the advantages to buying from
a local grower is that you know where the food came from and typically
it is picked within a day or two of when you purchase it. This will create a
much fresher taste when cooking and require much less seasoning and
cooking time in general. One of my favorite sandwiches to serve in the
summer is a grilled vegetarian; here is the recipe, so ya’ll can enjoy it too!
Directions: Wash and slice vegetables thinly.
Coat them lightly with olive oil, salt and pepper
to taste. Grill on each side for 2 to 3 minutes max and set aside. On
each slice of bread spread 1tablespoon of pesto. Then layer the grilled
vegetables (divide between the 4 pieces). Add one slice of Mozzarella
to two of the slices of bread, and broil open faced (or toaster oven) until
cheese is melted (approximately 2 minutes). Once out of the oven,
assemble into two sandwiches and enjoy.
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Community Enrichment offers variety
Teresa Reynolds is the Senior
Director of Community
Education at Sandhills Community
College in the Division of Continuing
Teresa Reynolds, Director of
Community Education at Sandhills
Community College is passionate
about the programs offered and the
center’s impact in the community.
took on the role of an
administrator in 2000 when
she became coordinator of
the Community Enrichment
program and the Center for
Creative Retirement. She
holds a B.A. in English and
an M.A. in Liberal Studies.
“In my opinion, an effective
leader not only leads by
example but also must
exude passion and energy
for their work, creating
an environment in which
others want to be involved
and are excited about their
work and contributions,”
Reynolds explains that
Community Enrichment offerings are for those who
have specific hobbies or interests, such as watercolor
or oil painting, learning a foreign language or learning
to create culinary specialties such
as artisan breads or hors d’oeuvres
for easy entertaining.
“We can offer practically any
course as long as we have an
instructor,” says Reynolds.
Community Enrichment also
offers Alive @ 25, a course in
driving and traffic safety, as well
as community awareness events
such as the annual Green Summit
and College for Caregivers.
“The Center for Creative
Retirement is directed toward a
retired audience and most classes
are free to those 65 years or older.
Most semesters offer courses in
the areas of foreign policy, financial
management, healthy living, art,
literature or music enrichment.
Many of the course facilitators
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and instructors are members of our
retirement community who graciously
volunteer their time and expertise,”
also offers special
events such as its annual
“We’d like to broaden
the age of which we
serve by providing both
domestic and travel
and quality children’s
programs during the
summer months,” she
says when asked about
her vision for community
education in general.
For information about
or if you would like to
serve as a facilitator or
instructor for a class,
contact Teresa Reynolds
at (910) 695-3775 or
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If you call Suzanne Lafollette Black and get her
answering machine, she concludes by saying
“Have a blessed day.” This is not a flip “Have a nice
day” substitute. Suzanne really does want you to have
a blessed day.
She has a strong belief in the connection we each
have to the other, rooted in her childhood on two
Indian reservations. She is one-quarter American
Indian, specifically Delaware, the Plains Indians.
Asked when she left the reservation, she quickly
replied, “You never leave the reservation. It stays
Living on a Papago reservation for a few years and
then on a Navajo reservation, Suzanne learned at an
early age the significance of Father Sky, Mother Earth
and how all things in nature have important roles. She
loved the Ponderosa Pine and while the Longleaf Pine
is different, she found herself drawn to Moore County
because of the pines.
Another important part of the Navajo culture she
brought with her to Moore County is her respect for
elders. When she chose gerontology as her career and
served as director of the Moore County Department of
Aging, that respect came with her.
“My grandmother, a full-blooded Delaware Indian
was my best friend,” she points out.
This sense of caring is something she learned not
only from her grandmother, but also from her father.
Suzanne’s father is one-half Delaware Indian, and
he wanted to give back to the
Indian community, so he joined
the Bureau of Indian Affairs as
a teacher and coach. Later, he
became the agent for the Navajo
reservation in southwest Arizona.
As a child, Suzanne lived with
her parents in a Hogan, usually
an octagon-shaped dwelling. She
loved the freedom of growing up
on a reservation and still has a
love for horses, which were part
of her childhood.
To this day she is in regular
contact with childhood friends
and schoolmates. Her high
Suzanne Lafollette Black holds
a Pendleton wool jacket, which
features a traditional Navajo
design. The jacket was made from
wool produced by the Navajos.
American Indian heritage shapes life
school class has a website
where she can check daily
on the lives of her friends,
By Ann Robson
Special to OutreachNC
their families and can keep them updated on her life.
She also believes strongly in connecting people of
like minds to each other and has a knack for doing
it. It’s a skill she has continued to perfect in her role
now as Associate State Director for NC-AARP. She
is a strong advocate for all things having to do with
aging. Her gift and ability to connect people is part
of her Indian heritage. She learned that being part of
something larger than oneself is very important.
Art is another important part of her heritage Suzanne
embraces. Special works for which the Navajo are
known universally include turquoise and silver jewelry,
basket weaving and rug-making. They are particularly
famous for their wedding baskets, which contain a
small hole that, by tradition, allows evil spirits to leave
and good ones to flow in. Not quite as well known is
the wool, which the Navajo cultivate for the Pendleton
clothing company in Oregon. Pendleton produces
some items using traditional Navajo patterns and
themes, as well as an extensive line of classic clothing.
Suzanne has deep-seated feelings about respect
for each culture and understanding of other beliefs
and ways of life. Myths about Indians that have been
perpetuated by Western movies annoy her. Very little
that is seen on the screen comes close to the actual
picture, such as the “code talkers” of World War
II, one of the major Navajo
contributions to American life.
They communicated important
information for the Army without
the fear of being decoded. The
enemy did not understand the
In 1969, the tribal elders
realized their native tongue
was quickly disappearing
and introduced classes in
the Navajo tongue so that
their historic language will
be passed on to succeeding
There are many traditions
from each of the tribes of the
various groups of American
Indians. People like Suzanne
help us recognize their
Learn facts about long-term care
The need for long-term care may happen to
anyone… at any time. It could be you, your spouse,
a parent, or even a sibling. Normally, the need for longterm
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for long-term care health needs in a home or community
based setting or in an assisted living or nursing home
facility, depending on type of policy purchased.
Long-term care insurance may relieve the emotional
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and financial strains your family may experience while
caring for you. It may give you peace of mind knowing
that you have a plan in place to help protect your assets,
preserve your estate, and retain more control and
choice over your future care. And generally speaking,
the younger you are when you purchase long-term care
insurance, the less expensive it is.
An estimated 70 percent of people who reach age 65
will need some form of long-term care before they die.
Godwin, of MassMutual Financial Group in Cary, can be
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Dog Days at Pooch Park
Photos by Mollie Tobias
Pooch Park Partners gathered for some afternoon playtime at the dog park off Airport Road in Southern Pines. From left, Wheaton Terrier
Ben with his owner Sue Kress, John Hubbard with “Queen” Charles Gennie, Border Collie mix Birdie beside owner Linda Hubbard, Golden
Retriever Tess with owner Kathy Constantino, Golden Retriever Luke with owner Barb Ross, and Joanie Bowden (right of sign) with Lab mix
Snoopy. All of the dogs in the photo were adopted from Solutions for Animals.
Dogs in Moore County have their very own park
where they are free to play and exercise. Pooch
Park in the Pines is a joint venture of Moore County
Humane Society and Pooch Park Partners in the Pines.
Linda Hubbard is the driving force behind the project,
which now has 374 human members and 458 dogs
of all shapes and sizes. The park opened last October
and membership has been “steadily growing,” reports
“This is a self-regulated dog park,” Hubbard notes.
There are no rangers or park police. While the park
is open for members’ use, as often and as long as a
member wishes, from dawn to dusk, there are a number
or rules that are to be followed so that both animals and
humans can enjoy the park experience.
The Moore County Humane Society donated three
and one half acres of land for the park. Early volunteers
cleared the land by hand turning it into an attractive
place for dogs to use. There are ‘large dog’ and ‘small
dog’ sections. Fencing provides safety and security, and
a double gate at the entry prevents unplanned escapes.
By Ann Robson
Special to OutreachNC
The park is located opposite the hangars at the
airport, accessible from the airport entry road. The sign
and fencing are about the only indication there is a
spacious park among the trees. Southern Middle School
International Baccalaureate students provided some of
the manual labor to transform the land into the dog park.
“Last August, it was just a path. It was solid woods. We
started clearing it Labor Day weekend, and we opened
Oct. 10,” says Kathy Constantino, one of the many
dedicated volunteers and champions of the park.
“We sold sections of fence for $100 each to help raise
funds for the park,” adds Barb Ross, a volunteer and
visitor to the park with her golden retriever Luke.
The park is now equipped with running water so
that owners have an easy way to help their pets stay
hydrated during these dog days of summer. And new
“poop stations” are another new addition equipped
with cleanup materials and built by Trevor Owen as an
Eagle Scout project.
“You are totally responsible for your dog,” Hubbard
tells owners. continued page 25
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Snoopy is a regular at the
Pooch Park in the Pines.
The material received by
owners clearly states rules of
conduct for both dogs and
owners. Before a dog can enter
the park, several documents
have to be completed,
including veterinarian records,
a signed set of rules sheet and
a liability form. Safety for all
two-legged and four-legged
park participants is of utmost
importance,” Hubbard adds.
Among the safety tips given
to each new member is the
suggestion that owners “have
realistic expectations about
your dog’s suitability for going to a dog park. If he isn’t
polite or friendly with others, get help to change his
behavior before you take him to a dog park. Dog parks
are not a place to rehabilitate fearful or aggressive dogs
or those that just don’t play well with others.”
Before taking your dog to the park, Hubbard
recommends that owners spend a few minutes
watching the other dogs and how they are playing and
interacting with others.
“If the dogs seem too rough in their play or are
intimidating other dogs, come back some other time,”
she adds and also points out that if your dog has never
been around other dogs, you should not take him to
a dog park until he’s been around other dogs so you’ll
have a better idea how he will react at the park.
Personal responsibility is stressed in the information
that owners are given.
“The dogs love it. Sometimes when we are here, the
dogs are running wild, and then they just flop down,”
Constantino says of her golden retriever Tess and her
playmate of Luke.
For those interested in becoming a member of the
Pooch Park in the Pines, forms may be downloaded from
www.moorehumane.org or packets may be taken from
the Member Info Box at the park. Saturday orientations
are scheduled for Aug. 14 and Sat. Aug. 28 at 9 a.m.
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If so, there are a few things
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Inpatient rehabilitation in a hospital is different from
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provides 24-hour care from physicians and specially trained
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If you or a loved one will need inpatient rehabilitation
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26 OutreachNC • August 2010
There are a few things you can do specifically to ward off
memory loss. Most importantly EXERCISE YOUR BRAIN!
HOW TO PLAY
• Every row of
9 numbers must
include all digits
1 through 9
• Every column
of 9 numbers
must include all
digits 1 through 9
• Every 3 by 3
subsection of the
9 by 9 square
must include all
digits 1 through 9
See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 32
Rearrange the letters in each word
below to spell something pertaining to the
National Dog Day!
SMNA STBE DFREIN
1. “The Sound of Music”
10. Bring (out)
14. Bed board
16. An angel has one
17. Au ___
23. Cousin of a raccoon
24. Summer footwear
28. Indian state
32. Heavy, yellowishwhite
41. Surrounding glows
43. Small, tube-bosed
46. ___ sauce
47. Lingerie item
48. Sin city
50. Villain, at times
53. Address abbr.
57. Treatment of disease
61. Kosher ___
64. Block house?
65. Biblical shepherd
67. Gathers into rope
70. Rainbow ___
1. Jellied garnish
2. Grassy plain
3. Monetary unit of
5. Abominable Snowman
7. Deep sleep
8. Comb stoppers
9. Aleppo’s land
13. “___ bad!”
21. Not yet final, at law
22. “___ bitten, twice
25. Astrological ram
26. Fast talk
29. Become unhinged
33. Intentional periods of
34. “Come here ___?”
35. Chip away at
37. Hawaiian tuber
44. “___ Breckinridge”
55. “La Boheme,” e.g.
56. Plant tissue
59. ___ balsam
61. Commonly rented item
62. Ring bearer, maybe
No winners in lottery scam
Congratulations, you have won
the lottery! At least that’s what
the letter says, and they have even
enclosed a cashier’s check made out
to you. All you need to do now is cash the check and
send some money back to them to pay the taxes on the
million dollars you have won.
Does this sound familiar? If so you have either been the
victim of a lottery scam letter or a potential victim who
was astute enough to recognize this crime in progress.
These fraudulent letters are sent to you using not
only e-mail, but Federal Express, United Parcel Service
(UPS), Airborne Express, United States Postal Service
and other carriers. Every year, thousands of individuals
fall for what appears on the surface to be a legitimate
prize award notification. The cashier’s check that was
enclosed is worthless, and you are now responsible for
paying back the bank, along with additional fees. So
how can you be sure you received a lottery scam letter?
It’s a safe bet that if any one of the following is true, the
letter is probably a scam:
1. You did not even buy a ticket!
2. You never lived in, or are not a citizen of, the lottery
3. You have never heard of a lottery by that name.
4. The letter is grammatically incorrect and contains
There are additional red flags in the lottery scam letter
that are tell tale signs that an attempt is being made to
defraud you. The largest red flag is the request for money.
Lottery scam letters are known in law enforcement
circles as “Advance Fee Fraud” scams. If you have won a
legitimate lottery you will never be asked to pay any fees
upfront. With a few exceptions, you traditionally pay
income taxes only by filling out your annual income tax
returns and sending the money directly to the Internal
Southern Pines Police Dept.
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R e v e n u e
S e r v i c e
yourself. If, by
win a foreign
lottery, the taxes would be removed directly from the
winnings before the payout. The request from the
scammer for money usually comes in the second or
third letter you receive.
If you have already become the victim of an “Advance
Fee Lottery Scam,” contact your local law enforcement
agency. If you suspect that you have received a
fraudulent lottery scam letter, but have not responded
in any way, contact the Attorney General’s Office for
your state. In North Carolina, the Attorney General is Roy
Cooper, whose office can be reached at (919) 832-4312.
For additional information, contact the Community
Services Unit of the Southern Pines Police Department
at (910) 692-2732, ext.2852.
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For more than two years, community leaders in
Moore County have been working together to
ensure we have adequate water for the next 100 years. A
major step was funding a countywide water source study
by McGill Associates in 2007.
The Moore County Chamber of Commerce has taken
a leadership role in creating a collaborative environment
to secure adequate water for our community. We have
advocated two critical positions relative to the McGill Study:
1) The study’s recommendations are not intended
to be cherry-picked. All the recommendations must be
implemented in order for Moore County to have the best
chance at adequate water.
2) Because in-county sources of water are relatively
small, the solution for adequate water requires a regional
approach, involving sources from outside the county.
The Chamber formed the Moore County Summit Water
Task Force with the expressed purpose to act as an
advisor, mediator and communicator in implementing the
recommendations in the study. The goals of the Water
Task Force are to:
• Assist prioritizing McGill recommendations;
• Facilitate and mediate discussions around priorities
and implementation of recommended actions; and
• Communicate progress and status to Moore County
governments and the public.
Many of the recommendations are already in process
or in the planning stages. Two, which play a significant
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• And much more!
Planning for Moore water
role in the future of our
water sources, require
regional collaboration. These
recommendations are to
return the Robbins water
treatment plant to service so
water lines can be extended
from Robbins to the west
side of the county and to
monitor the intake on the
Lumber River in Wagram,
Here’s where it begins to get a bit complicated because
there are several options for implementing these
recommendations. For example, Robbins can return its
plant to full service, treating 1.5 million gallons per day.
Another alternative is to slowly ramp up service starting
at 500,000 gallons per day, adding capacity as needed.
Robbins can build a new plant with larger capacity, or it
can even sell its treatment plant to another operator.
Clearly, the Town of Robbins has a lot of choices, and
it’s working with other governments through the task force
to determine what is in the best interest of the county as
a whole. Also, a complete engineering distribution study
for the Wagram treatment plant is ready to launch. These
are the next and necessary phases in implementing the
McGill study recommendations.
Concurrently, the task force has enlisted the advice
and guidance of experts throughout the state: NC State
University, UNC’s School of Government, McKim & Creed
Engineers, City of Kinston, and the Neuse River Water
and Sewer Authority. As the McGill recommendations are
implemented, we need to think long-term about how to
manage our water sources, treatment, and wastewater.
The primary goal is to ensure Moore County controls an
adequate water supply to support residents, agriculture,
healthcare, and businesses for the next 100 years.
Coughlin, president and CEO of the Moore County
Chamber of Commerce, can be reached at (910) 692-3926
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Make living at home easier
Aging in Place
These days more
seniors are planning
on staying in their homes
longer. With the cost of
assisted living skyrocketing,
the strategy is to make
the home safer and more
comfortable to avoid
moving. Small changes can
make a big difference.
The key to making this happen seamlessly is to
start planning now, even if you’re in your fifties. If
you wait until you’re sick or disabled, it will be a big
undertaking. Every time you update is an opportunity
to make those changes.
Because more accidents and injuries happen in the
bathroom than any other room in the house, this is a
great place to start seniorizing. Let’s start with some
simple tips and a few low-cost add-ons that can make
a big difference in making your bathroom safer and
easier to maneuver.
• Floor: To avoid slipping and tripping, get nonskid
bath rugs for the floors or secure existing floor mats or
rugs with double-sided rug tape.
• Lights: The older we get the more light we need,
so install the highest wattage bulbs allowed for your
fixtures, and get a plug in nightlight that automatically
turns on when the room gets dark.
• Entrance: If the doorway into the bathroom is
not wide enough to accommodate a wheelchair or
walker, you can easily widen your doorways (up to
two inches) with inexpensive offset door hinges.
• Bath/Shower: Buy a nonslip rubber mat or put
down self-stick strips on the tub/shower floor, and
install grab bars for support. If you use the shower, it’s
a good idea to put in a shower curtain rod that screws
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since 1957 and been in funeral service since 1952.
For over 50 years, he has owned Fry & Prickett
Funeral Home in Carthage. In recent years, he has
acquired Kennedy Funeral Home in Robbins as
well as Powell Funeral Home and Pines Cremation
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or bolts into the wall (versus a tension-mounted rod),
so that if you lose your balance and grab the shower
curtain, the rod won’t spring loose. Another safety
precaution is to put in a water-resistant, wall-mounted
phone in or near the bath/shower in case of a fall.
Lastly, a shower chair is helpful for those with mobility
or balance problems who need to shower sitting down.
• Toilet: Install grab bars next to the toilet too if
possible, or purchase a toilet seat riser. This adds 2 to
4 inches of height, making it easier to sit and rise.
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Medicare-approved advanced treatments including hyperbaric
oxygen therapy, which is proven to increase healing success.
Get back to doing the things you love. If you have a wound that
has not healed, we have solutions. Our state-of-the-art wound
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30 OutreachNC • August 2010
The first week of August is
set aside as “Simplify Your
Life” week. Ask anyone what would
make life simpler for them and the
first words you hear may be: ‘25
hours in a day’, ‘organize my
‘some time for ME.’
There’s little doubt that as a
society we are over-booked,
over-stressed, over-extended, overburdened,
and more and more exhausted.
In searching for information on
simplifying life, I found a website (www.
There are 72 ideas!
I decided to check with some real life
people in a casual, informal survey to
see whether they had things in their
lives they’d like simplified, and if they
had any hints for others.
“This not the first time I’ve contemplated
this,” said one friend. “It is my house
that overwhelms and stresses me. I clean
but it doesn’t stay clean. I could use some
organization and decluttering. I have a fulfilling
career, two kids and a husband with active lives.”
For the present, she is living with the “chaos”
because she sees the importance of time spent with
her girls. “One day when I have time to organize, I’ll
miss the chaos,” she says.
For another friend, “finding a handyman service
for household chores at a reasonable price,” was
something she’d like to bring simplicity to her life.
“Meal planning and preparation” was the major
item complicating another’s life. A recent change
in diet has necessitated removing “white” food thus
invalidating most of her cookbooks and taking away
some favorite meals. Where once she could do dinner
for a group of friends, she now finds it a major chore
to plan and prepare a meal for even four people.
“My instincts at whipping up a meal have gone to
zero,” she says.
This was a common complaint for many women,
most of whom have been cooking for years.
Taking a different approach to the question of
simplifying life caused another friend to give serious
Simplifying life step by step
By Ann Robson
Special to OutreachNC
thought to her life and its
demands. She found she was
deeply involved with some “groups
that seem to have no purpose” and
decided that eliminating such activity
would simplify her life tremendously.
Some suggestions from the survey
include: “Learn to say ‘no’ and don’t be
wishy- washy about it. Don’t think you
have to do it all and all at once. Accept
that you’ve done what you can, and no
one will know or notice that you wanted
to do just one more thing. It is what
it is and your friends will love you
Saying ‘no’ was a common theme.
One woman suggests, “Learn to say
no firmly but with a devastating smile.
Seldom has anyone pressed me from that
As for the meal-planning, the owner of
that problem has discovered that buying fresh
from farmers’ markets has been a big help. The
produce available in any given week is what
inspires her to cook. She also recommends
the Farm-to-Table cooperative that will deliver
weekly and simplify getting the freshest ingredients.
For many who often say that organizing their houses
is a chore, one of our participants had some excellent
Write it down: activities and appointments on
a calendar; recipes that are favorites on a card;
birthdays and anniversaries either on the calendar or
on a separate list.
Have a ‘home’ for things you use regularly -- keys,
remotes. Small baskets or trays are helpful when
keeping track of things you often spend too much time
Choose to do what you enjoy. Set a timer for an
activity you may not like to do (ironing, dusting,
vacuuming, etc.) and when the time’s up, it’s up. You
can always finish another time.
Words of wisdom from the website:
There are really only two steps to simplifying:
identify what’s important to you; eliminate everything
else. That sounds almost too simple, but step by step
moving toward the goal of what’s important can get
you there. Even if it takes 72 steps!
Aug. 6, 1910
Harriet Winston Breeden Charles Fairfield
was born in Bennettsville, S.C. After graduating from
Converse College, Harriet taught school in Lowndesville
and Marion. She has two sons, Randolph and Winston,
both of whom became
Episcopal priests. Harriet has
10 grandchildren and six greatgrandchildren.
Harriet was active in church and
community activities throughout
her life in Bennettsville. When the
children went away to college,
she began to paint, taking
lessons in art and watercolors.
Her beautiful watercolors grace
the homes of many friends,
family and strangers. Painting
was her passion.
In December 1985, Harriet
began a new life at Penick
Village in Southern Pines. She
has enjoyed and appreciated the
friendships during her almost 25 years at Penick.
Aug. 6, 1910
Memory Walk is the nation's largest event to raise awareness and
funds for Alzheimer care, support and research — and it calls on
people of all ages to take action in the fight. Visit our Web site and
start a team today! Day-of-event registration begins at 9 a.m.
September 18, 2010
Southern Pines Park
Caregiver Education Forum
Learn about Alzheimer’s disease, practical tips for providing care,
and available resources for caregivers. We welcome family and
professional caregivers. CEU’s will be provided for professionals.
9 a.m. - 4 p.m.
October 21, 2010
Our Saviour Lutheran Church
For more information, contact the Alzheimer’s Association,
Western Carolina Chapter, at 1.800.272.3900 or visit our
Web site at www.alz.org/northcarolina.
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was born in Lando,
S.C. Flora grew up
and walking 3 miles
to and from school.
She met her
husband on a blind
date, and says she
doesn’t know what
“I thought he was
They were married in 1931 and had two sons, Harry,
an artist well-known in this area, and George, a chemist.
Flora was 90 when she took up watercolors.
“I don’t want to just sit. It’s wonderful to have something
to do. I’m looking for something to paint now.”
Quick with a laugh, Flora is a favorite resident at
“I’m turning 100 on August 6 th , but I don’t feel 100. I’m
just me. And I have the Lord above to thank.”
32 OutreachNC • August 2010
“Gonna take a Sentimental Journey,
Gonna set my heart at ease.
Gonna make a Sentimental Journey,
to renew old memories.”
The lyrics and tune have the ability to turn back time
and take you to a place you remember so well. I
asked my father to close his eyes and imagine with me
as I sang the familiar tune I grew up listening to. I asked
him to describe to me a memory of that song. He spoke
in vivid detail, As if it happened yesterday.
It was the Fall of 1945 and he was at the Nebraska
State Fair in Lincoln, NE. He was stationed in Lincoln
during World War II and was receiving training in air and
sea rescues. He and friends were excited to take their
dates to the State Fair to see Doris Day perform with the
Les Brown Band. There was a large dance floor and they
got to dance close to their dates as Doris Day crooned
the recent number 1 hit.
I never knew my father was stationed in Nebraska, let
alone had the opportunity to see Doris Day perform
her famous song with the Les Brown Band. There’s a
lot I never knew about my father. Maybe he thought I
wasn’t interested, maybe I never asked or maybe with
the many years between us there was never enough in
common. The song opened a door to a memory and
the opportunity to learn a little more about my father
and our mutual love of music.
I always enjoyed leading groups in adult day centers
and retirement communities in sing-alongs for the sheer
pleasure of getting a chance to sing the songs I knew. I
Music makes memories
had never thought about
it from the perspective
of the participant, and
experience of re-living
memories. I decided the
idea had worked so well
with my father, I’d try it
again. So recently while
waiting in a doctor’s office
with a client, as we so often
do, I thought some music
reminiscing would help pass the time. As if by magic,
we unlocked the door to another wonderful memory. I
asked my client to close her eyes and tell me where she
was as I sang the familiar tune. She was 16 and at a local
dance with her boyfriend. She loved dancing with him
but they always looked like a mismatched pair. He was
6’4” and she was 5’4”. She said she fit perfectly under his
arm as they danced. She said it took him 2 years to give
her the ‘first kiss’ and we jokingly mused it took him that
long to find a way for them to both be at eye level. The
reminiscing continued from one memory to the next,
unlocked by the same Sentimental Journey tune.
So where does the song take you? I’d love to know
where your musical memory took you.
“Never thought my heart could be so yearny. Why did
I decide to roam? Gotta take a Sentimental Journey,
Sentimental Journey home.”
Share your favorite music memories with Jennifer by
e-mailing firstname.lastname@example.org or calling
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Southern charm resides at The Arboretum
One of the most
that I play as a builder is
the role of brainstorming
with a developer and their team to help establish the
vision for a new community. Coffee brewing, maps
spread out on tables, stacks of house plan books
tabbed to several favorites scattered around, sample
boards of brick and stone lining the edges of the
walls, color palettes for siding joined to roof shingle
samples... This best describes early meetings with
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broker for The Arboretum, an 80 acre, new residential
neighborhood in Southern Pines. Blessed with beautiful
land full of tall Longleaf pine trees located near the
corner of Midland and Knoll roads, The Arboretum
offers residents short drives, walks or bike rides to area
shops, parks and more.
Southern Pines offers a unique combination of smalltown
ambience and big-city attractions. Working families,
active duty military personnel, singles and retirees
make for a diverse population. Early feedback for The
Arboretum suggested offering two distinctive lifestyle
options. Custom home sites along with Maintenance
Free Cottage sections, all tucked around wonderful open
spaces and joined by welcoming sidewalks. All residents
will soon enjoy an expansive community clubhouse,
which will feature a fully equipped exercise facility,
men’s and women’s changing and shower rooms,
and gathering facility with an outdoor fireplace and
world-class swimming pool as well as a state-of-the-art
children’s playground overlooking a picturesque pond.
The Arboretum has partnered with a custom home
builders in the Sandhills area to offer a wide selection
of one and two-level homes in the 2,000-3,000 sq. ft.
range. Varieties of pre-designed homes are available
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for review and modification, as well as the ability for
customers to share their own plan ideas.
The Maintenance Free Cottage section will feature 77
home sites, all one or two level single family plans, with
a variety of elevations and floor plans to choose from.
Each home in this section will be beautifully landscaped
and maintained by the Association.
With front porches, winding sidewalks and community
gathering places, The Arboretum in Southern Pines
provides the southern charm that harkens back to days
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Nominate caregivers for first annual Caregiver Awards
The 1st Annual
honors those that give so
much of themselves in
order to care for others
within our community and
are brought to you by
FirstHealth Home Care
Network, Moore Registry,
Elmcroft, Fox Hollow Senior
Living, Penick Village,
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will accept caregiver
nominations from the
Moore County community
now through Sept. 15.
Use the nomination form
at right or online at www.
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form to (910) 692-4436,
e-mail to mooreregistry@
connectnc.net, or mail to
Caregiver Awards c/o
Moore Registry, PO Box
2478, Southern Pines, NC
A selection committee of
community peers will review
all nominees and announce
the three finalists during an
Oct. 1. The finalists will
receive a makeover, photo
shoot, prizes and appear
in the November issue of
For more information,
contact (910) 692-2434
or e-mail mooreregistry@
Help make fidget aprons
Fidget aprons are used for dementia
and stroke patients with decreased
cognitive functioning. They can be
used as tactile stimulation or as a fine
motor skill activity. They are a great
way to engage patients with a decrease
in cognitive skills safely while keeping
Fidgets, fabric and friends needed! We
are looking for volunteers to help make
New Medicare Plan N takes off
As of June 2010 there are two new Medicare
supplement plans M and N. But it’s the Plan N that
is quickly filling a void in the senior insurance market.
Plan N is becoming one of the most attractive products
primarily because of its affordability. It requires clients
to share the cost of their Medicare Part B doctors’
office and emergency room visits – a familiar feature to
Medicare Advantage plan members.
But, unlike a Medicare Advantage Plan, Plan N has
no network restrictions, doesn’t require referrals and
has lower out-of-pocket cost-sharing. These features
make it more appealing to those who are healthy and
wouldn’t otherwise see the need for health insurance.
As with any new product, we’re all adapting to the
change. Based on common questions about Plan N,
we’ve compiled the following information to help you
understand what it covers.
Plan N covers: Medicare Basic Benefits, all of the
Medicare Part A deductible, Skilled Nursing Facility
coinsurance and Foreign travel emergency care (same
benefits as Plans C, D, E, G).
However, Plan N does not pay the Part B Medicare
deductible or the Part B
Plan N requires
policyholders to pay up
to $20 for Medicare Part
B doctors’ office visits and
$50 for Part B emergency
Plan N has limited
underwriting in the 29
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aprons and sew on the “fidgets.” We are
also in need of supplies including, but not
limited to: fabric, yarn, ribbons, buttons,
beads, thread, needles, lace, zippers,
Velcro, scarves, shoelaces, gloves, balls,
spoons and whisks.
To volunteer your sewing skills or items,
to obtain an apron or for more information,
please contact Jennifer Tyner at (910) 639-
9964 or Tracy Gibson at (910) 315-3269.
Terri Powell Herlica
states that don’t require medical underwriting, which
includes North Carolina. It is not guaranteed issue
(except during open enrollment).
No health questions will be asked for Plan N in North
Carolina. A tobacco-usage question will be asked but
only for calculating rate, it isn’t used to deny coverage.
Now Plan J clients may convert to Plan N without
underwriting (no health questions).
Herlica of the Professional Service Group, LLC can be reached
at email@example.com or (336) 987-2372
Information used in this article was taken from the July 2010 issued of “mutual matters” a Mutual
of Omaha Publication. Neither Herlica nor Mutual of Omaha is an employee or affiliate of the Federal
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Caddies tee up
By Carrie Frye
Photo by Mollie Tobias
Legendary caddies, Eddie MacKenzie, left, and Willie McRae stand with the statues of Donald Ross and Richard Tufts near the 18th green
of the famous Pinehurst No. 2 golf course at Pinehurst Resort.
Pinehurst No. 2 holds a storied golf history of
legends and championships that began in 1907
with the course’s completion by Donald Ross. There are
strategically placed bunkers, hard-to-read greens and
long fairways as just a few of its obstacles to challenge a
player’s long and short game. Golfers who come to play
have one more important decision to make; Caddie or
golf cart: that is the question?
And this question can easily be answered upon
meeting two of the resort’s long-time caddies. Caddie
Hall of Famer Willie McRae, 77, was born and raised in
Taylortown, now resides in Carthage and has been a
regular on the courses of Pinehurst for 68 years. Eddie
MacKenzie a.k.a. Eddie Mac, 67, of Pinehurst, came to
the resort from the LPGA Tour and has been walking the
course for 20 years.
McRae is a second generation caddie, following his
father’s path, who started caddying in the 1920s and
remained at Pinehurst for 45 years, not only teaching
Willie the game of golf but also the fine art of caddying.
Back in the day when Willie and his father were caddying
together, they were just two of over 500 caddies.
“We had to walk it then. There weren’t any carts, and
there were only three courses,” recalls Willie. “For awhile,
we had five courses. The 18th hole on No. 5 used to be
the 9th hole on No. 3. The 18th hole on No. 4 is now the
18th hole on No. 5. And now there are eight courses,”
expressing his knowledge of all the courses’ changes.
However Willie’s best golf story was caddying for Tommy
“Thunder” Bolt in a North and South Championship
in the 1940s when he was paired with Sam Snead.
Going up to the 11th hole and leading by 3 shots,
an exchange with Snead brought out Bolt’s wellknown
“He told me to ‘pick that ball up.’ And I
didn’t want to because I knew if I did it
would be over. He said, ‘You get paid by
the week.’ Man, I was crying when I got home that day,”
remembers Willie. But I never did think about quitting.
There’s only about five people I wouldn’t want to caddie
for now,” he says with a mischievous grin. “You have to
take the good with the bad.”
Willie has also passed down his love for golf, caddying
and hopefully, his sense of humor to his son Paul and
grandson Derek, who both now work at the resort.
“I had a guy on the course ask me what Arnold Palmer
would hit. I told him he would hit a 2-iron. So he did, and
it went in the lake. He was mad and said, ‘I thought you
said Arnold Palmer would hit a 2-iron. I told him Arnold
Palmer did hit a 2-iron, and he was in the lake, too,” he
Although Willie now rides in a cart and is allowed
anywhere on the course, even in the fairways, Eddie still
walks and carries two bags. And he, too, agrees that the
most important tool a caddie brings is a sense of humor.
“You can change a player’s mood,” says Eddie. “But
don’t be in a hurry to tell the player how to read the
putt, because if it goes the wrong way, you’ve blown
your tip,” he adds with a quick grin.
Reading the greens and knowing the course are the
true tests of a caddie.
“There are no easy holes, but Ross wanted an errant
shot to make the ball run into a native environment,
which in the Sandhills means pine straw and pine trees.
The greens here have a lot of subtle breaks and what
your eyes might see might not be how it plays. When
you have been here a long time, you have the benefit of
your memory,” explains Eddie.
“The best way to read a green is from memory, and
you’ve got to know east from west,” adds Willie.
And should one like to play with either of
these caddies; just ask.
“What makes you feel good is when they ask
for you,” says Willie.
Swan’s day goes awry...
love nature stories
I so when I saw the
headline, “Man Uses Live
Swan to Beat Up Victim,”
I had to pursue it. Seems
this unassuming, your
bird was minding
its own business by the
bank of the river, Isar, in
Said swan is not
bothering anyone when along come two very drunken
men (yes, men again, but these things just don’t happen
with women involved). The drunkards take exception to
another German man’s accent. You see, the drunkards
are from the area previously known as West Germany
and the other fella, Steven, is from the old East Germany.
What makes me scratch my head is, this was a cultural
clash, based on accent. How ridiculous is . . . oh, wait
a minute that would be like Southerners and Yankees
getting riled up over how each other talks. Uhmmmmm.
Back to the story . . . The two drunkards, Sebastian
and his friend, are really angry and the fact that Steven
is a tourist does not help. I think we can all relate to that.
Not that I have anything against tourists, but...
Back to the story . . . It is reported Sebastian and
friend spew vitriolic abuse at Steven. I want to say that
the Germans must be a pretty polite society, because
our standards for nasty speech are so not the same.
After all, they called Steven a pig. Yep, a pig. If this is
the best they could do to blow off steam I can see how
this escalated into a swan fight.
Sebastian becomes so exercised, probably from not
having any good old American-style curse words to
hurl, that he picks up the first weapon that wanders into
his vicinity. We do not know yet the name of the swan.
And I think since “the swan” plays a pivotal role here,
we should. We know Steven, Sebastian, okay we don’t
know Sebastian’s friend, but are they trying to protect
the swan’s privacy? I’m calling “the swan,” Judy.
Sebastian is big. Judy’s a petite, 2’10”, weighing in at
less than 30 lbs. Sebastian grabs Judy by the neck. He
commences to swinging Judy around his head like a
club. Judy, she’s going, “what the ?” And then it’s wallop,
wallop, and wallop. Sebastian is beating the crapola out
of Steven using Judy’s feathery behind. The two of them,
Sebastian and Steven, are running down the river bank,
and Judy’s flopping along, still in Sebastian’s grasp.
We aren’t sure what Sebastian’s frame of mind was,
but somehow he next encounters a barbecue grill. Thank
goodness, because Judy was about at her wit’s end
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with this guy. Maybe Steven was outrunning him. At
any rate, Sebastian picks up the grill and pitches that at
Steven. In case you are
wondering, the report says
the grill was “filled with redhot
coals.” Some bottle
throwing occurs, the police
are called, and Sebastian
admits he has a tad bit of
an anger management
problem and Sebastian’s
friend vows never to drink, at
least with Sebastian, again.
Sebastian also gets a twoyear
from the local judge.
Steven and Judy escape
with minor injuries. Judy
gets herself a good lawyer
and hits the old Jerry
Springer show circuit. And
remember. Never ever use
a swan as a club . . . at
least in Germany.
Cohea, a freelance writer,
can be reached by email at
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Pinehurst, NC 28374
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Legendary sports commentator and Pinehurst resident John Derr releases
his latest book this month. In August, Old Sport Gallery & Bookshop in the
Village of Pinehurst will host book signings of My Place at the Table: Stories
of Golf and Life. Call (910) 295-9775 for details.
Bing Crosby, Red Barber, By Jessica Bricker
Ben Hogan, Arthur Godfrey, Byron Nelson, Dwight
Eisenhower, Grace Kelly...and the list goes on. What
do all of these people have in common? They all know
broadcaster, author, reporter John Derr.
Derr, 92 of Pinehurst, just released his most recent
book My Place at the Table: Stories of Golf and Life. The
book is a collection of vignettes of his storied life.
Derr was born in 1917 and raised in Dallas, N.C. on a
farm. His career, which began in high school, is one to
be admired. Not only did he report on 62 Masters Golf
Tournaments, he was awarded the Order of the Long Leaf
Pine and the Masters Major Achievement Award. The
Order of the Long Leaf Pine is the highest civilian honor
granted in the state. The Order is awarded to individuals
who have given extraordinary contributions to their
community, have shown excellence in their career and
have countless years of service to their organization. He
received the Masters Major Achievement Award from the
Golf Writers Association of America for covering more
any other writer or broadcaster.
Writing was not Derr’s first
chosen profession. He had hoped
to be a professional athlete, but
had a bad knee as a child.
“If you can’t run to first base,
you can almost guarantee that
you won’t get picked for the
team,” says Derr. “So that is
why I became a writer and
a scorekeeper. If the bloody
knee worked I would probably
have never ended up writing.”
Derr’s reporting led him to The Gastonia
Gazette, Asheville Citizen Times, Greensboro
Daily News, military service, golf announcer for CBS
Sports, administrative head of CBS radio and television
networks and more. While working at CBS, Derr met his
wife Peggy and they were married in 1945 just before he
left for the war. While in the military he served on Gen.
Joseph W. Stillwell’s personal staff.
In 1944, Gen. Stillwell sent him home, but not because
of reasons one may believe. He was sent home to cover
the World Series. TIME Magazine called it the “longest
sports assignment in history.” Derr traveled 32,000 miles
to cover the series. This is one of the many stories that
Derr recalls in his new book.
Local writer Jim Dodson, editor of PineStraw magazine,
believes that Derr is “a natural resource.”
“Derr has been around since the golden days of radio
to the computer days of today,” he says. “He is what I
think of when I think of the newsmen of the twentieth
Derr’s daughter Cricket Gentry, of Pinehurst,
remembers her father’s friends as family.
“To me Sam Snead was Uncle Sam and Arthur
Godfrey was Uncle Arthur,” recalls Gentry. “My parents
taught me that everyone puts their pants on one leg at
“The famous people she met were no heroes to her,
they were just daddy’s friends,” says Derr.
While the people featured in the book are simply
Derr’s friends, the stories he tells represent famous
Americans throughout the twentieth century.
“This book is not just about sports people, but is a
picture of America in the golden age,” says Dodson, who
wrote the book’s introduction.
TeleHealth keeps patients home
Carthage resident James W. Taylor has used a
variety of FirstHealth Home Care services, but
he experienced an increased level of comfort and
assurance about his health after TeleHealth monitoring
was added to his care.
“TeleHealth monitoring is added security,” says his
wife, Robbie. “As the caregiver, it was reassuring to hear
the friendly voice of the nurse from FirstHealth who
monitored my husband’s vital signs daily.”
With state-of-the-art TeleHealth technology, patient data
is sent over a simple phone line from the patient’s home to
a central home care monitoring station. If the information
indicates a variation in the patient’s regular readings, the
nurse can call the patient to discuss the results, consult a
physician about a change in medication, send a FirstHealth
Home Care nurse to the patient’s home, encourage the
patient to go to the emergency room or plan another
course of action.
“TeleHealth enables us to provide better care for more
patients,” says Patricia Upham, director of FirstHealth
Home Care Services.
According to current data, patients on TeleHealth end
up at the hospital or in the emergency room 75 percent
less often because the monitors catch symptoms before
they spiral out of control.
“The most rewarding part of my job is the teaching
moment, the instant when a patient makes an immediate
connection between his behavior (medicines, diet and
exercise) and his vital signs,” says Michelle Greene, R.N.,
TeleHealth coordinator for FirstHealth Home Care, who
monitors more than 100 patients daily.
The TeleHealth service, which is available to
FirstHealth Home Care patients in Moore, Lee,
Richmond, Montgomery, Hoke and Scotland counties
at no additional charge, monitors blood pressure,
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temperature, blood sugar, pulse, weight and blood
Upham and her staff began to consider incorporating
TeleHealth technology in 2004. After only three months,
the results were compelling. A grant from The Duke
Endowment allowed the program to expand to 90 units
In 2009, a grant from the federal Office for the
Advancement of Telehealth again increased the number
of units – this time to 130 with 200 monitors scheduled
to be deployed by the end of the three-year grant.
of The Pines
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235 E. Pennsylvania Ave.
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Bright yellow No. 2 pencils,
sturdy backpacks, and
blank composition books...These
items are stocked to the brim in
stores every August, reminding us
of the 69 million students aged
five through 24* are heading
back to school this month.
Increasingly, though, it’s not
just kids going back to school. It’s
women like Dianne Schumacher,
a 55-year-old working toward a bachelor’s degree
in business management at the University of North
Carolina at Pembroke. Schumacher started her degree
more than 30 years ago, but relocations and raising
four children made her studies impractical. She has
always hoped to complete the degree and is finding it
even more fulfilling than she expected.
“The good part is that at this age, you’ve sort of done
your career,” says Schumacher. “But now it’s not just
what will fit into the family. This is mine. I’m thrilled
about the journey.”
Schumacher is part of a growing trend of adults 50
and older who capitalize on the “third age” of life, a
stage marked by personal achievement and learning
for the sake of self-development.
That’s exactly what 75-year-old Aliceann (Ally) Vogel
By Melanie Coughlin
Special to OutreachNC
Photos by Mollie Tobias
Dianne Schumacher, left, and Ally Vogel have both gone back to school, having taken classes at
Sandhills Community College to work on degree programs offered through the college.
is doing. Over the course of her career, she worked
at IBM, was a flight attendant for Eastern Airlines and
ran her own specialty sewing business. She did it all
while raising her children and playing competitive
She has decided to use this “third age” for education.
“I needed to do something that would fill my mind
and challenge me,” Vogel says.
She received an associate’s degree from Sandhills
Community College then graduated summa cum
laude from St. Andrews Presbyterian College in 2007
with a bachelor’s in liberal arts.
Like Vogel, most older students take their education
seriously. A 2004 study conducted by AARP showed
that 15 percent of baby boomers plan to start a new
business, and 7 percent are pursuing a new career.
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Donna Stephens-Johnson is doing both. After a
35-year career in financial services, she became
passionate about self health care because of her
own illness. Stephens-Johnson suffered through six
months of intestinal pain plus a battery of tests before
stumbling on a holistic solution, igniting a desire to
help and educate others.
She completed the Therapeutic Massage program
at Sandhills Community College last May at the age
of 56 and is planning to launch her own business.
Stephens-Johnson wants to work with people in lower
incomes and teach them the benefits of caring for
“Rural America is where we need the most
education,” says Stephens-Johnson. “I want to reach
people who wouldn’t dream of going to a spa.”
Yet even the most determined older adults sometimes
find the idea of hitting a college campus intimidating.
Schumacher said she was frightened of the
technology aspects of returning to school. She wasn’t
accustomed to using current technology, and her fiveyear-old
granddaughter used to help Schumacher on
the computer. Today, Schumacher communicates with
her instructors via Skype, takes classes online and has
mastered a Blackberry.
Schumacher said the younger students helped her
along the way, striking at another hesitation older
adults sometimes feel when considering a return to
school. “Third age” students worry about studying
Schumacher finds the
interaction with young
while Vogel calls them
“gracious and respectful.”
“I socialize with them,
take breaks with them and
have study groups with
them,” Schumacher says.
“I put on my backpack
just like they do.”
These “third age”
students prove that shiny
No. 2 pencils, backpacks
and composition books
aren’t just for kids
* Source: U.S. Census Bureau, Oct. 2008,
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Donna Stephens-Johnson, right, practices her massage techniques
on her fellow Sandhills Community College Therapeutic Massage
program student Dixie Canady.
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Called to serve...
was employed by a local doctor when a speaker at church suggested, some
may need to leave their job to have better opportunities to witness. God
used the speaker as a messenger. I knew he was talking to me. Sometime later, I
was told that I audibly made that statement. God wanted me to resign because
He had other plans for me. I trained my replacement and was unemployed for
the first time, but I had faith God would provide.
On the second day of unemployment, I met a caregiver, who God also used as
a messenger. She told me about her work as a private-duty caregiver. Caregiving
did not sound like a job to me. It would give me a chance to meet diverse people
with diverse needs and interesting life experiences. I was a caregiver to my great
grandmother. I knew some of the challenges and rewards of caregiving. This
was exactly what God wanted me to do, and I had no doubt.
I was ready to face new adventures, and now four years after my first client,
I continue to strive to meet the individual and unique needs of each one. Life
would be much easier if I would always follow where God leads me.
-Theresa Sanderson, Moore Registry
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As the prostate gland increases in size it causes the
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