Aging Outreach Services
Vol. 4 Issue 1
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Navigating all your lifestyle choices
Cameo, Sunrise & Rialto
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From the Editor
January and the New Year are here.
Winter has North Carolina in its
grasp, so we'll just have to wait and
see how much we have to bundle up.
As the thermostat falls, we meet one
decorated lineman with a local electric
cooperative in Sanford. He braves all
weather to keep the power on, most
recently after Hurricane Sandy, and is still
standing by for any winter storms.
Regardless of the weather, movie
showings go on every day at some
theatrical gems across the region. In
order to keep the popcorn popping and
patrons passing through the turnstiles,
all must make the digital transition from
film this year (seen above). As part of
our new series for 2013, we'll visit some
historical or iconic places to hear the
stories behind them. Rolling into the
digital world, we'll learn the plights of the
Cameo in Fayetteville, Rialto in Raleigh
and Sunrise in Southern Pines, all theater
icons of yesterday and today.
Another icon held near and dear to
some beautiful English ladies is the Union
Jack, the flag of their home country,Great
Britain. We meet a dedicated group who
now make their homes in Moore County
and still love all things British after years
of adapting to life across the pond.
We also have a yearlong series on aging
in place that kicks off this month with an
overview of the hot topic. We meet two
families who are planning ahead and
incorporating universal design into their
current and new homes. In the months
ahead, we'll take a look at the many
aspects of aging in place like planning,
home design and remodeling, health care
Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
and much more that can keep you in the
place you love to call home.
Homes are also what Habitat for
Humanity is all about. We meet Wake
County's vibrant volunteer coordinator
whose heart goes into every building
project. Her dedicated pursuit of
volunteers to become a part of the impact
Habitat makes in the lives of the families
who purchase these affordable homes is
Habitats of another kind is something
the North Carolina Zoo's Rod Hackney
knows well. We sit down for a Carolina
Conversation with him to talk about what's
new at the zoo for 2013 with the polar
bears, gorillas and chimpanzees, oh my!
This month we share a special
"Senior Shorts" contribution from singer,
songwriter and author Amy Grant's book,
"Mosaic." We first met Grant back in July
2010 for her concert in Cary. This month,
she returns to our region with a concert as
part of the DeWitt Performing Arts Series
at Richmond Community College's Cole
Auditorium in Hamlet, Friday, Jan. 18, that
will no doubt bring the crowd to its feet.
Cheering crowds were always a part
of David Thompson's basketball days at
N.C. State University, which is the topic
of this month's "Game On."
Also new this month are the columns
"Nutrition" on foods for alertness and "Law
Review," which takes on those important
and tough legal matters, focusing this
time on power of attorney documentation.
I hope you'll enjoy the whole issue,
cover to cover, as we celebrate another
year of OutreachNC. Until next month...
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Ask the Expert..........................6
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Foods for alertness... NEW!..14
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Q: How do you tell a senior lady for whom
you care very much that you will never be
able to give her the physical expression
of your feelings for her? It is awkward and
embarrassing, and there seems to be no easy solution.
A: This is a great question. Many men face
issues with the ability to show physical sexual
expression as they age. There are a variety
of reasons that might impact someone’s
ability to get an erection. As men age, testosterone
levels decline, it takes more stimulation to achieve an
erection and orgasms are generally shorter. Adjusting to
these changes can cause anxiety that may complicate
performance. Heart disease, arthritis and other medical
conditions can also have a significant impact.
Some of the medications prescribed to treat blood
pressure and cardiac problems can have a side effect
of erectile dysfunction (ED). Typically, a starting point
would be a discussion of side effects with your physician
to determine if there is an alternate medication available.
In your specific case, having had this discussion with
your physician and been told that it is permanent and
that there is nothing that can be done from a medical
perspective, if you have not had this discussion with a
urologist, that may be one option.
Permanent ED is without doubt a difficult prospect
for any man to process. It is a lifestyle change
that can lead to awkward moments compounded by
trying to cultivate a new relationship. It is easy to
understand your frustration. A positive change is that
in today's society, there are more open discussions
about sexuality and aging as well as tips and resources
available. The Mayo Clinic lists many “Senior Sex Tips”
emphasizing, that while the sex may not be the same,
certainly intimacy can still be a very rewarding part of
your relationship. They suggest a few things that might
be applicable for you:
Talk with your partner. It may be difficult to talk about
• sex if you grew up viewing it as a taboo subject.
Openly talking with your partner about your needs,
desires and concerns can help you both enjoy sex and
Expand your definition of sex. Intercourse is only
• one way to have fulfilling sex. Touching, kissing and
other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding
for both you and your partner. Realize that as you age,
it's normal for you and your partner to have different
sexual abilities and needs. Be open to finding new ways
to enjoy sexual contact and intimacy.
Don't give up on romance. If you've lost your
partner, it can be difficult to imagine starting another
relationship, but socializing is well worth the effort for
many single seniors. No one outgrows the need for
emotional closeness and intimacy.
As you continue to grow your relationship with
your lady friend, I would agree that having an open
conversation is a great starting point. While this may
seem awkward at first, it may be the one thing that
brings you closer. Communication and openness are
very endearing qualities. It is likely that she has her
own anxieties or fears about a physical relationship,
and this may be a big relief to both of you. Once you
get past that initial conversation, you have opened the
door to exploring other ways to achieve sexual intimacy
with your partner. It can be a new chapter in sexual
exploration and intimacy. The Global Action on Aging
suggests the following:
Slow down: Realize that sexual arousal often takes
• longer and requires more stimulation.
Make the most of foreplay: Take all the time that you
• often didn’t have in your younger days.
Communicate: Share what makes you feel good
• with your partner.
Use sensory skill: Take time to explore the tactile,
• visual, auditory and olfactory aspects of being intimate.
Improve the mood: Take time to set the stage for
Ask the Expert
will answer any
you might have.
Fax your questions
to (910) 695-0766 or
e-mail them to
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Geriatric Care Manager
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candles, oils, perfumes and incense or try a new place.
At any age, we must keep an open mind and be flexible
to new options. Having open communication allows you
both to share needs and set boundaries as you embark
on a new journey. Use this opportunity to indulge your
romantic side and make her feel extra special.
Most importantly, have confidence in yourself and
know that even if your ED is permanent, you still have
a great deal to offer. Do not let a physical, medicallybased
problem deter you from the benefits of being in
an intimate relationship.
Living the Pottery Barn life… in her mind
Lately I've become obsessed with making my
living room look like the ones in Pottery Barn.
Or rather the HomeGoods, Tuesday Morning,
Target version of Pottery Barn because, let's face it,
I ain't paying $50 for a pillow COVER. You have to
buy your own pillow insert in the PB world, which is
goofy since you can get the whole thing put together
everywhere else on Earth.
I realized things might be getting out of control when
I compiled a "look book" of pictures ripped from the
roughly 4,067 Pottery Barn catalogs that come to me
in the course of a fortnight. (OK, I don't know what that
is either but it sounds like something you'd say if you
actually owned a nail-studded velvet sofa from youknow-where.)
I find it oddly comforting to clip pictures of favorite
table settings and candle configurations and stash
them in my album. Duh Hubby just finds it odd. Correct
conversational candle height is all that separates us
from the savages I tell him, but he doesn't understand.
I find myself irrationally jealous of the PB families
whose faces are never shown in the catalog but whose
full lives require heavy molding-trimmed blackboard
organizers with festively chalked reminders such as
"Don't forget passport!" or "Harvest Ball tonight!"
or "Regatta with Leslie & Paul!" They lead such
glamorous lives, these imaginary families. Just once I'd
like to see a chalkboard in the PB catalog with a barely
legible reminder to "DVR 'The Bachelor'" or, better still,
a grocery list without "Brie, artichokes, fennel..." but
rather "Mushroom soup, tots, lice shampoo."
Duh, as you've probably guessed, has no interest
whatsoever in home decorating. True story. We
recently visited an old college friend of his who had
gotten a divorce. In the living room of his bachelor
"pad" were two items: a director's chair, circa 1982, and
the cardboard box his big-screen TV had come in that
functioned as dining table, coffee table and ottoman.
"Wow, it's tough having to buy new stuff when you
split up, isn't it?"
I asked college buddy.
He looked at me and shook his head. "What? I've
been divorced for nine years."
"At least this house has great bones," I said, mentally
picturing the fabulous weathered wood triptych of a
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vintage airplane from PB over
his new tufted Chesterfield
couch, also from PB.
"Huh?" he said.
I get it. Duh also doesn't Belle Weather
clock faces that don't
actually tell time or the
charming topiary in whimsical pots to flank the mantel
and collect really high-quality dust.
One day, Duh arrived home to discover a bowl had
been filled with wicker balls of varying sizes and colors.
"What do they do?" he asked, picking one up and
eyeing it curiously.
"They don't DO anything," I huffed. "They just ARE.
And put that down! It took me 45 minutes to get them
arranged like the catalog picture."
Yeah, that's not crazy.
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It has been estimated that over 90 percent of
people who find themselves involved in a pyramid
scheme will wind up in the victim category and will
inevitably lose their money. Recognizing and having a
basic knowledge of how these illegal investment frauds
are structured will prevent you from parting with your hard
A pyramid scheme is nothing more than a business
model that is blatantly not sustainable. This business
model promises the scheme participants will receive a
substantial return on their investment for enrolling other
individuals into the scheme, which is obviously void of
any real investment or involved in the sale of any product
or services. Make no mistake about it: A pyramid scheme
is a fraudulent investment plan. Part of the problem
individuals face lies in the fact that most pyramid schemes
are disguised and have taken on many different styles.
As the name indicates, the organizational design of
pyramid scheme is depicted and structured in the shape
of a pyramid. The initial investor, who is also known as the
initial recruiter, is placed at the top of the pyramid. This
recruiter recruits a second person under him/her who, in
this example pays the initial recruiter $100. This second
recruiter is now obligated to recruit an additional 10 people
(at the cost of $100 each) who “buy into” the pyramid. The
second recruiter stands to make $900 profit on his initial
$100 investment if he can persuade 10 people to join him.
Each one of these investors (now considered recruiters)
is then obligated to recruit 10 additional investors each of
whom will build the pyramid higher.
The obvious, or apparently not so obvious, problem
with this scheme is, as the pyramid builds it becomes
unsustainable. The investment fraud falls apart because
at any given point, no more recruits can be found to invest.
The larger the pyramid is, the greater the chance of the
bottom falling out. It is the initial recruiters at the top of the
pyramid’s organizational structure who statistically make
the profit and exit quickly. It is a textbook fraud in light of
the fact that no product has been sold, no real investment
has been made, no services have been provided and no
legitimate organizational wealth has been created.
With an increasingly educated public, pulling off a
pyramid scheme has become a bit more challenging and
Pyramids not only in Egypt
has forced scammers to mask
these schemes and create an
illusion of legality. Despite this
attempt, these schemes are still
illegal. One such hybrid pyramid
is to operate under a cloak
of investing in the form of
“gift giving” or “loans” that
take place as part of an
investment club. This is
nothing more than a pyramid scheme in disguise and
should be avoided at all costs.
An additional hidden pyramid scheme can be found in
multi-level marketing (MLM). In a legitimate MLM, you
can be recruited to sell a product that has some form of
monetary value. As you recruit other people below you
in the organizational structure, you in turn would receive
monies from the sales conducted by those you recruited.
What makes this legal is you are not required to recruit
new participants to make a profit, and you are selling a
product that has an intrinsic value. In a legal MLM you
can simply sell your product and participate no further
unless you choose to. What makes an MLM model illegal
is when the product that is being sold has no tangible
value such as a mailing list, and there is a requirement
that participants recruit new members.
Chain letters are also a popular method to perpetrate a
hidden pyramid scheme (both traditional mail and email).
If a chain letter asks you to donate any amount of money
to individuals listed on the letter, then delete the name of
the first person on the list while adding your name and
forwarding the letter, it is a pyramid scheme.
It’s easy to see why people may fall victim to these
schemes and often are willing to take the risk if the
amount of money they stand to lose is minimal.
Keep in mind the individuals starting these investment
frauds are often organized crime syndicates, drug
smugglers, human trafficking perpetrators and even
terrorist organizations. For those reasons alone, you
should steer clear of these schemes.
For additional information, contact the Community
Services Unit of the Southern Pines Police Department
at 910-692-2732, ext.2852.
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If losing weight
healthier are among
your New Year's resolutions,
make it easier on yourself.
Make a decision to order
something healthy before
you walk into a restaurant.
Try not to salivate and cave
in to high fat and calorieladen
items on the menu.
Instead, zero in on the items
that are typically marked
heart healthy. You can always
ask your server about healthy
menu options. A safe bet in
most restaurants is a grilled
entree of meat or fish with a
plain baked potato and a small
dinner salad with the dressing
on the side.
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Tips for healthier eating out
Ask the server to bring a takeout
box with your meal. Put half of
your entree into the box, and
set it aside to take home for
the following day. You may also
choose to split an entree with
your dinner companion.
Ask the server to hold the
bread basket. When your meal
does arrive, eat slowly and
enjoy every bite. Drinking water
instead of sweet tea or soda is a great calorie saver.
Opt out for dessert unless you split one with your
dinner companion. Enjoy a few small bites. You’ll
walk out satisfied and proud of yourself for making
Remember, it's a new year, and it's your choice.
Jones, a certified personal trainer at The Fitness
Studio, can be reached at 910-445-1842 or by email at
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By Mary Elle Hunter
Special to OutreachNC
If ever there was someone
who has put to rest the
myths about not being
able to participate in a chosen
field because of age and
gender, look no further than the
staff of Habitat for Humanity
of Wake County. This month,
Norma Smith is celebrating
her 16th year as an employee
at the Wake County affiliate
of the well-known ecumenical
housing organization, first as a
construction superintendent and
more recently as the volunteer
“Norma personifies grace and
wisdom," says Kerry Celestini,
media and marketing manager
for Habitat for Humanity of
Wake County as well as a
co-worker and friend to Smith.
"She demonstrates the beauty
of serving others, and I consider
her a role model."
Smith is a true Tar Heel native,
born and raised in Greenville
and a graduate of University of
North Carolina at Greensboro.
She is a longtime resident of
Sanford and has taught in the
public school system and also
at the community college level.
Although her occupational
path subsequently led her away
from the classroom, Smith
has retained her devotion to
teaching. continued page 12
Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
Norma Smith celebrates her 16th anniversary at Habitat for Humanity
of Wake County, where she believes in its mission: "Seeking to put God’s
love into action. Habitat for Humanity brings people together to build
homes, communities and hope." Smith knows firsthand the impact the
houses provide for the families who purchase them. "It is about hope,"
she says. For more information or to volunteer, visit www.habitat.org or
contact your local Habitat for Humanity:
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Norma Smith, center, stands with a dedicated group of Habitat for Humanity of Wake County volunteers at a home site in Raleigh.
continued from page 10
“The teacher in me was always challenged to help
the volunteers at the Habitat work sites learn the skills
of construction," explains Smith. “A rewarding factor
in working with Habitat is the countless number of
dedicated people I have met over the last 15 years,
some of whom know a lot about construction and have
taught me the finer points of home building, and some of
whom are novices when it comes to holding a hammer.
We are, in reality, a teaching organization that can take
unskilled volunteers and, by tapping their enthusiasm,
turn them into accomplished workers to be of service to
those in need.”
Smith believes an individual should never stop learning.
She took a position as curator and research librarian for
Pinehurst’s World Golf Hall of Fame when it first opened
and before it was moved to Florida. She has always
embraced opportunities to learn about a new aspect of
the world in which we live, and although at the time she
was a recreational golfer, her knowledge of the game was
considerably heightened during this period.
Working for a developer for several years provided her
with knowledge of construction in general, the language
used in the trade, the various elements of building a
house and interacting with contractors. Smith says all of
that experience was honed during her first two years on
the job with Habitat.
All is not work in Smith’s life. Her daughter, son-in-law
and two grandchildren live in Virginia, and her off-duty
passion is music. She has sung in the Moore County
Choral Society as well as directed choirs and choral
groups over the years. Her interest in and love for music
has been enhanced by her active participation in her
church, where she is a lay reader.
In the years Smith has been with Habitat, she oversaw
the building of hundreds of homes and only made
the transition to volunteer services coordinator several
years ago when knee problems limited her ability to
climb ladders and do the necessary supervision of the
construction sites. Her present duties call for her to work
with corporations, local businesses, church groups and
other professional organizations to attract and schedule
“Everyone from university students to retirees,” says
Smith, “is encouraged to give of their time and energy
whether or not they have held a hammer previously. We
can walk them step by step into the routine of becoming
a proficient home builder. First-time volunteers are urged
to bring a friend with them the next time they come, and
by doing so, we have built up a significant database of
willing volunteers. It isn’t unusual to have several dozen
workers commit to work on a given Saturday. However,
more volunteers are always needed and are always
welcome, especially on weekdays.”
Smith's most satisfying part of working for Habitat is
maintaining a connection with the homeowners.
“I appreciate the positive impact they and their families
have in their neighborhoods. It’s like the ripple effect that
is caused by tossing a pebble into the water and watching
the growing result of how an initial gesture widens to
encompass a much larger area," says Smith.
Kevin Campbell, president and chief executive officer
of Habitat for Humanity of Wake County, sums up the
contributions that Smith has made and continues to
make, to the organization.
“She has served in many different roles since joining us
in 1997. Norma understands that making a difference in
a community is all about relationships," says Campbell.
"From Habitat’s homebuyers to our construction
volunteers to the college students who come to Raleigh
to work with us on spring break, they all know Norma and
her gracious hospitality.” φ
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Veronese Atkins of Southern Pines celebrated
her 103rd birthday Nov. 29, 2012, surrounded
by her family and friends. Her chocolate
birthday cake, her favorite, was prepared by Rachel
Lincoln of Sweet Feed Catering.
Atkins spends her days with dedicated caregivers,
(pictured from left to right) Estella Lawson, her
life care manager Beth Dowd, Dahlia Singletary,
Madelyn Gilchrist. Not pictured are caregivers Pamela
Bethea, Linda Smith and Angela Dunston. Sharing
great conversation and homemade meals with her
caregivers, Atkins also enjoys reading scriptures and
When the last of Atkins’
passed away, Lawson
brought her own
chihuahua, Chester, to
stay with Atkins during
their visits. Now Chester,
too, has become a faithful
companion to Atkins.
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High protein breakfast good way to start the day
Is it important to you that you stay alert and work
at full throttle at work and play? Do you want to
eliminate the morning blahs and the afternoon
doze from your life?
The cause of the midmorning slump differs in
different people. Research has indicated that a lowcalorie,
low-protein breakfast or a high-fat or highcarbohydrate
breakfast causes it.
A high-carbohydrate breakfast produces short-lived
alertness as the food raises the level of glucose or
sugar in your blood. This increase in glucose triggers
an insulin flood into the bloodstream causing glucose
levels to fall precipitously, and your alertness drops.
About an hour to two after you eat a high carbohydrate
breakfast, your blood glucose drops so low that you
probably feel irritable, and your midmorning slump
sets in. To counteract this slump, many people take a
break, drink a cup of coffee and eat a danish or even
a candy bar.
This starts the up-and-down alertness cycle again.
Thus, most mornings start with you feeling good,
followed by a crash in blood glucose levels, with a
consequent decrease in your alertness and work
Experiment with a high-protein breakfast containing
at least 25 to 30 grams of protein to see if this helps
your alertness and decreases your midmorning slump.
Here are some sources of protein for your breakfast:
1 glass skim milk (8 grams protein)
8 oz low-calorie yogurt (8 grams protein)
2 eggs (12 grams protein)
4 tablespoons low-fat cottage cheese (7 grams protein)
1 tablespoon tuna fish (7 grams protein)
1 skinless chicken thigh (15 grams protein)
3 oz lean steak (15-20 grams protein)
1 oz 100 percent whey protein powder (15 grams protein)
½ cup soybeans (10 grams protein)
2 tablespoons wheat germ (9
Other high-protein foods include
fish and shrimp. Sounds like
too much effort? Not convinced?
Almost everyone I know,
including myself, who has
tried a high-protein breakfast
reports greater alertness and
increased work effectiveness.
The midmorning slump and the
hunger disappear. Try it and see.
The cause of drowsiness after lunch differs among
people and at different times in the same person.
Experiment with different foods to find out what
affects you. Most people report the following foods
as the most frequent causes of lower alertness after
• Too much fat (butter, hamburger, meat, gravy,
salad dressing, etc.)
• Too much sugar (desserts, cakes, ice cream,
cookies, candy, etc.)
• Not enough protein
• Not enough or too many calories
Most people report that a lunch of a salad (with little
or no dressing), skim milk and a piece of fruit followed
with a mid-afternoon snack of skim milk and an apple
or a pear does not cause drowsiness and increases
Good fortune in discovering your key foods that help
you eliminate the morning blahs and the afternoon
doze from your work and play
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pioneer in the development and use of spine
navigation technology has joined FirstHealth of
the Carolinas’ neurosurgery and spine program,
bringing the total number of board-certified neurosurgeons
affiliated with the specialty practice to four.
Charles S. Haworth, M.D., began seeing patients in
the Pinehurst office of FirstHealth UNC Neurosurgery in
September. He joins a practice that includes Carol M.
Wadon, M.D.; Bruce P. Jaufmann, M.D.; and Larry Van
Neurosurgery has an office
on Cape Center Drive in
Fayetteville in addition to
the Pinehurst office that
is located in the Pinehurst
Surgical building at 5 First
Dr. Haworth, who has
performed more than 1,000
navigational spine cases, was
involved in the development
and introduction of the
Stryker Spine Navigation
Software program. In a
minimally invasive spine
navigation procedure, a 3D
image is matched with a
computed tomography (CT)
to produce a CT-quality
image of the operation site
with less than 10 percent of
the radiation exposure of a
standard CT to the patient.
Because the precision of the
surgical approach also results
in minimal harm to surrounding
muscle and tissue, the
procedure is effective in the
surgical treatment of spinal
stenosis and spinal slippage
(spondylolisthesis) and the
surgical repair of ruptured
A native of High Point, Dr.
Haworth earned his medical
degree from the Duke
University School of Medicine.
The FirstHealth UNC
neurosurgery team specializes in
the treatment of diseases/disorders
of the brain, spinal cord and spinal
column and peripheral nerves.
The office accepts appointment
referrals from physicians/health
care providers and can be reached
at 910-295-0215 in Pinehurst or
910-484-9802 in Fayetteville.
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When POAs go wrong
Sadly, the number of calls I receive about
a named agent under a power of attorney
(POA) taking advantage of the individual
who named him or her has been increasing rapidly
of late. A power of attorney is a signed and notarized
document that gives another person the legal
authority to act for another, mostly regarding financial
affairs such as bank accounts and investments.
When you name the right person your agent, a
power of attorney can be helpful when you need
assistance handling your financial affairs. However,
what happens if that agent takes advantage of his
or her position?
Under North Carolina law, when you name an
individual your agent under a power of attorney,
a “fiduciary relationship” is created. The individual
giving the power of attorney is known as the “principal”
and the person you name to act on your behalf is the
“agent.” Within this fiduciary relationship, the agent
owes the principal a duty to act with the utmost good
faith, loyalty and honesty toward the principal when
acting upon his or her behalf.
Therefore, when you sign a power of attorney,
you are creating the fiduciary relationship and duty
between you and your named agent. If the agent
fails to act with good faith, the agent may be liable
for breaching or breaking that fiduciary duty. Under
North Carolina law, it is presumed that an agent
acts in good faith; therefore, in a claim for breach
of fiduciary duty, one must have evidence that the
agent did not act in good faith.
Another possible claim where an agent acts
against the interests of the principal is for conversion.
Conversion is a voluntary act by one person
inconsistent with the ownership
rights of another.
If you suspect that your agent
is taking advantage of you, the
very first thing you should do
is contact the police to file a
report. Then you should
contact an attorney to sign
a revocation of power of
attorney. This is a notarized
document that states you
are taking back the power you had previously given
your agent. As part of the revocation, your agent
should be notified by certified mail that you have
revoked their power of attorney. If you still need the
assistance of an agent, you can sign a new power
of attorney at the same time. You should also notify
your financial institutions by certified mail that you
have revoked your power of attorney.
Ultimately, whenever you are signing a power of
attorney, it is best to keep the following in mind:
• Do not name an individual as your agent unless
you completely trust him or her.
• Keep your signed power of attorney in a safe
place, such as your attorney’s office, until it is needed.
• Consider naming two agents so that both have to
act, creating a checks and balances system.
If you have additional questions about this subject,
contact an elder law attorney near you.
Zager is an associate attorney with Senter, Stephenson,
Johnson, P.A., practicing primarily in the areas of elder
law and estate planning. She can be reached at
AOS Hospitality House
Marketing strategy unpeeled
Breaking news reports the Germans are at it again.
Their PEP (pampered employees productivity)
makes Germany the economic powerhouse of
Europe. According to the CIA (THE CIA), they are eighth
in the world for GDP (Great Darn Products). Innovation
is their middle name. So the people who gave us seasick
outer space-flying fishes, swan clubs (am NOT talking
about social bars for single swans) and the infamous
Christmas 2011 must-have gift, Cow Flatulence in a
Can, have once more triumphed, giving us...the alreadypeeled
banana encased in shrink-wrap plastic because
they already peeled it.
Thinking too hard about this one will only give you a
headache. The Germans will market anything. We were
once that way; no matter how stupid an idea, Americans
embraced it and made it profitable. Aren’t we the ones
who invented ready-made cut and assembled salad-in-abag?
How about fruit paste rolling-pinned into a garishcolored
strip of thick jerky goop and then sealed between
plastic laminate? Why didn’t we come up with the banana
breakthrough? Clearly, we’ve dropped in more than just
international math scores.
The German supermarket chain Billa was the first, and
last, to carry these naked bananas. Sensing this product
could either go through the roof or into the toilet, they
wisely sent the cold, exposed bananas to their Austrian
stores. I, too, subscribe to the belief that potential
personal humiliation should never be exhibited in front of
people you know; try it out in front of strangers first.
And so “the common sense supermarket” (Billa’s motto)
proved they were not, as within nano-seconds of stocking
these pitiably undisguised, unadorned, stark, stripped,
barren, denuded, raw, in the buff and birthday-suited bananas,
a category five hurricane of ridicule broke over them...
like a big angry wave. Nothing screams environmentally
unfriendly stupidity like your product becoming “the ultimate
symbol of waste and the throw-away society” in the time it
takes Donald Trump to twitter a tweet.
This criticism, however, may be too harsh. There are
some important considerations we
haven’t explored. Like job creation.
These bananas didn’t just peel
themselves. Someone had to be
involved. Could have been human
or could have been primate. I’m
betting on chimpanzees. First,
chimps love bananas;
second, they have opposable
thumbs ergo they CAN peel
bananas; and third, they eat
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bananas meaning they know HOW to peel bananas. The
perfect assembly line banana-peeling workforce. Plus they
don’t smoke or drink coffee. Therefore they don’t take
breaks; they are always producing naked bananas.
There probably is some banana damage due to overly
excited handling. A banana piece breaks off and, like
my co-workers diving for the last chocolate in the box,
the chimps doubtless do the same, hopefully with a lot
less cursing and wrestling. I imagine some loss is due
to eatage. A banana to a chimp is almost certainly like a
Lays potato chip to me, very hard to eat just one.
All the old chimps eventually develop carpal tunnel
syndrome. But they’re replaced by younger chimps who
work for fewer bananas. Consequently, management
discovers they’re less skilled, and they all want off early
on Tuesdays to make their afternoon Pilates class.
Enter the engineers. They get jobs developing
automated banana peelers. Chimps besiege the
unemployment office. Humans keep their jobs shrinkwrapping
banana trays for minimum wage. Nude
bananas are recalled due to cross-contamination from
Old-fashioned, unpeeled bananas’ popularity surges.
Their price soars. All things old become new again, they
just cost more.
Cohea, a freelance writer, can be reached by emailing
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What to expect for 2013 Medicare costs
For 2013, you can
A (Hospital Insurance)
Part A Monthly Premium
Most people don’t pay a
Part A premium because
they paid Medicare taxes
while working. If you don’t
get premium-free Part A, you
pay up to $441 each month.
In 2013, you pay:
■ $1,184 deductible per benefit period
■ $0 for the first 60 days of each benefit period
■ $296 per day for days 61–90 of each benefit period
■ $592 per “lifetime reserve day” after day 90 of
each benefit period (up to a maximum of 60 days
over your lifetime)
Skilled Nursing Facility Stay
In 2013, you pay:
■ $0 for the first 20 days of each benefit period
■ $148 per day for days 21–100 of each benefit period
■ All costs for each day after day 100 of the benefit period
Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance) Costs:
Part B Monthly Premium
You pay a Part B premium each month. Most
people will pay the standard premium amount.
However, if your modified adjusted gross income as
reported on your IRS tax return from 2 years ago is
above a certain amount, you may pay more.
If you have questions about your Part B premium,
call Social Security at 1‐800‐772‐1213. TTY users
should call 1-800-325-0778. If you pay a late
enrollment penalty, these amounts may be higher.
Part B Deductible - $147 per year
Medicare Advantage Plans
(Part C) and Medicare
Prescription Drug Plans
(Part D) Premiums
gov/find-a-plan to get plan
premiums. You can also
call 1‐800‐MEDICARE Medicare Update
( 1 - 8 0 0 - 6 3 3 - 4 2 2 7 ) .
TTY users should call
You can also call the plan or your State Health
Insurance Assistance Program.
Part D Monthly Premium
The chart below shows your estimated prescription
drug plan monthly premium based on your income.
If your income is above a certain limit, you will pay
an income-related monthly adjustment amount in
addition to your plan premium.
2013 Part D National Base Beneficiary
Premium - $31.17
This figure is used to estimate the Part D lateenrollment
penalty and the income-related monthly
adjustment amounts listed in the table above. The
national base beneficiary premium amount can
change each year. See your "Medicare & You"
handbook or visit www.medicare.gov for more
For more information about Medicare costs, visit
Sherman, program coordinator at the Moore County Senior
Enrichment Center, can be reached at 910-215-0900 or
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20 OutreachNC • January 2013
Dorothy and Roger McFeeter of Raleigh
made the decision to remodel their
home with the goal of aging in place
and worked with Lewis Sadler of Sadler
Construction to make the plan a reality,
and it has already been beneficial.
Aging in place brings focus back to living
Editor’s note: For 2013, we are featuring an Aging
in Place series with a piece each month to take a serious
look at all the aspects of creating a plan to age in place,
which is the ability to live in one's own home safely,
independently and comfortably regardless of age, income
or ability level. We'll share some real-life experiences of
residents in our region as they formulate their plans.
Over the next 18 years, 8,000 baby boomers are
going to be blowing out 65 candles every day.
The statistics are staggering and undoubtedly
making an impact on the way aging is defined or how it
typically defines a person. One such growing trend is the
idea of aging in place. Although that name may evoke
a negative connotation, there are many other ways to
define it. The bottom line describes how an individual or
couple wants to continue to live independently and safely
in their own home.
“We are all aging; it is beyond our power to stop.
However, we do have a choice in the decisions we make
as we age,” says Amy Natt, a certified geriatric care
manager with AOS Care Management. “Many older adults
express a desire to age in place, and the key to doing
this successfully is creating a plan that outlines what your
goals are and identifying resources to implement those.
The time to plan is now, and the place to start is with those
decisions tied to the values most important to your quality
of life. For one person, this
might be having a desire for
natural death drafted to direct
health care providers on treatment; for others, it might be
securing a long-term care policy to fund future home care
needs that will allow you to remain in your home longer.
Professionals can help you navigate this process and
determine the key pieces to a successful plan.”
There may be no perfect order to formulating a plan,
just a starting point on the topic most important to you.
Attorneys, financial planners, long-term care insurance
agents, geriatric care managers and other professionals
can aid in the process. From finances, legal documentation
such as wills and powers of attorney, health care in and
outside the home, to leisure activities and funeral planning,
the main factor in being able to stay in one’s home often
begins with accessibility within that home.
“We tend to shy away from the term 'aging in place,'”
explains Lewis Sadler, owner of Sadler Construction and
LifeStage Home Designs in Cary as well as a certified
aging-in-place specialist (CAPS) homebuilder with 35
years experience in the industry. “As my wife says, it
sounds like something you do to cheese, not to people.
We are not just trying to provide people with something
to age at home but instead a better built home or ageless
construction that is efficient for any stage of life. It is not
about aging, it is about life.”
Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
By Carrie Frye
continued page 21
Roger McFeeter stands inside the elevator
he and his wife added to their home to
make their two-story home more accessible.
Upgrades to their master bathroom include
a barrier-free shower and toilet/bidet easily
operated with a handy remote control.
Photo by Rebecca Heeley,
© English Rose Photography
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Sadler is one of the professionals
who can provide assistance in
planning for the future when it comes
to making a home accessible from
the ground up with new construction
or remodeling an existing home.
"Becoming CAPS certified wasn’t
always in my plan,” says Sadler.
“As I got different building license
classifications, more testing was
required. I did a lot of residential
work and got to know some clients
and gained referrals from them and
from doctors. I began to realize that,
as an industry, we were not doing
customers a service by building
homes that they think they are going
to stay in forever when they are
really age-restricted. People can
spend their life savings to stay in
a home and only be able to access
50 percent of the home. I started
working on design, tinkering and
going to classes to learn more. My
wife and I would go to a restaurant
for dinner, and I would see somebody
in a wheelchair, and I would go talk
to the person and ask about what
was needed in a house. No home
plan was 100-percent accessible,
and I wanted to design 100-percent
accessible homes now. This is not
just a market niche, it is a better way
of building homes and should be the
way we all build homes.”
Sadler’s passion for helping clients
begins with an initial meeting to
discuss what their immediate needs
are as well as anticipating future
needs. Mobility may not be an issue
at all for someone, but a simple fall
that requires the use of a walker or
wheelchair might make a secondfloor
bedroom suddenly unavailable.
continued page 22
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continued from page 21
“People don’t like to think of
themselves being limited,” says Sadler,
“no one does. Sometimes we get calls
and someone is in a wheelchair that
day and can’t get in their home, and
unfortunately, I can’t do anything that
day. Planning ahead is the best cure
for maintaining stability in your life. It is
never too early to be prepared for the
One Raleigh couple, Roger and
Dorothy McFeeter, began thinking about
aging in place in 2008. They had many
options to choose from. Their two-story
home was built in the early 1970s when
universal design and accessibility were
not at the forefront.
“We looked around to move,” says
Roger, a retired food chemist, “but the
prices were higher on a downtown
condo. We moved here in 1977, so this
is home. We finally decided to remodel
and make it handicapped accessible.”
The remodeling job was going to
be a major undertaking and one the
McFeeters didn’t enter into without
thoughtful consideration. They chose
Sadler to help make the transition.
“Lewis spent hours with us,
answering every question we asked, and nothing was too
insignificant,” says Dorothy, a devoted volunteer with the
Flower Shuttle, Red Cross and Triangle Radio Reading
Service. “We made a good design. All the doorways are
three feet wide and wide enough to turn around. There are
levered door handles and rocker switches, both of which
are good for arthritic hands, but just easier to use, not just
for old people,” she says smiling.
“We put in an elevator, all hickory hardwood floors,
which are easy to move on and easier to clean, but in
doing that, we destroyed two bathrooms so we had to
build an addition to add another bathroom,” adds Roger.
Among Dorothy’s favorite items is her wall-mounted,
fold-down ironing board.
“Not that it is particularly handicapped designed, but it is
handy. It makes ironing easier, and I hate ironing," she says.
Details are what stand out most at the McFeeters' home.
The grading in the driveway is sloped ever so slightly and
leads up to the double-doored, completely handicapped
accessible entryway. The lower counter height in their eatin
kitchen is where Dorothy finds it easier to knead her
homemade bread. Controls on the stove are at the front,
and levered handles on the faucet make them easier to turn.
“We use the elevator for moving things,” says Dorothy,
Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
Alan Rich stands in front of his new home in Cary built by Sadler Construction. Using many
universal design aspects upon completion, the home will provide two downstairs master
suites as well as barrier-free showers (inset), hardwood floors, wider doors and entryways
as just a few of its accessible features.
laughing, “like laundry or card tables for entertaining. Our
grandson just loves the elevator. It’s a novelty, and he
thoroughly enjoys it.”
Upstairs, the master bathroom is all about accessibility
with its barrier-free shower with controls for the hot
water to prevent scalding, lower counter height making it
possible to wheel up and under if ever necessary and a
special toilet/bidet complete with its own remote control
bringing new meaning and ease to personal care.
The renovation was a seven-month process that required
the couple to move out for the last three months before
completion in early 2009, but they have no regrets.
“It has certainly made the house more usable and
efficient, and Lewis came in exactly on time,” says Dorothy.
Although the McFeeters didn’t need all accessibility
aspects at the time, they have already come into play
when Roger slipped off the front porch and tore his
quadriceps tendon. Going up the stairs would have been
impossible, but all of the renovations made his healing
process easier and their home completely accessible.
Remodeling their existing home made perfect sense
for the McFeeters, whereas building a new home quickly
became the most viable option for another of Sadler’s
clients, Alan and Lisa Rich of Cary.
continued page 23
“My mom died last year, and my dad moved in with us.
We looked for houses, but we just didn’t find anything with
two master suites on the first floor that would give us the
space we needed. So we decided, if we couldn’t find what
we wanted, to build it,” says Alan.
The Riches’ future home, complete on its exterior, is truly
unique and designed by Alan, a former spacecraft engineer.
It is a multi-generational house with a one-bedroom living
space on the second floor for the couple’s son and daughterin-law
and two master suites on the first floor, one for
Alan’s father and one for Alan and Lisa. The two suites are
separated by the living area and kitchen in the middle.
Their house, too, will feature bamboo hardwood floors,
barrier-free showers in both master bathrooms and one
lower counter in case the need ever arises.
“It does have most of the accessibility features, just not
the elevator. There is space, but we just didn’t need to put
it in. The apartment is accessible from a private upstairs
entrance and through the garage stairs. Aging in place
is inevitable, but we hope it’s so far down the road that it
won’t be a factor. And if we were to ever sell, the re-sale
value is good,” explains Alan.
Building a house does come with added decision-making.
“There is stress in trying to keep up with everything, but
it is a custom house. You’re going to have a house that’s
exactly what you want,” adds Alan.
The Riches are also making an effort to built their house
with green aspects in mind such as a tankless water
heater and Bosch appliances for their energy efficiency,
like an additional compact, stackable washer and dryer
unit in the master suite closet.
Technology, too, is one aspect of home design that is
always evolving for Sadler.
“The latest technology is the curbless shower (barrierfree)
which almost guarantees that they won’t leak
for a lifetime. Technology in faucets, touch- and preprogrammed
for water temperature, shower faucets that
are strong enough to be grab bars, ovens that have side
opening doors…these types of products are becoming
more and more prominent.”
Somehow through all the construction, it is simply more
about making houses homes.
“Giving people the ability to stay in their home is a pretty
big gift,” says Sadler, “and one where they’ll never have
to renovate based on needs. It gives them that freedom to
physically stay in the house as long as they want to.”
Having accessibility was a key aspect for both these
families that, now complete, gives them the ability to move
on as their lives and their aging in place plan evolves.
Natt concludes, “Seek out people you trust and
professionals that are credentialed in the area of planning
you are focused on. A plan is a step-by-step process. Take
the first step, and do not let the thought of the process as
a whole overwhelm you. Taking that first step is a step
toward having control over your future choices and aging
the way you want to age.” φ
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Planning today for tomorrow keeps You in control
People are living longer than ever before, and
that’s good news because it means we can
look forward to many more years of doing what
we enjoy during retirement—if we plan for the future.
Planning for the future should include planning for late-inlife
health care. Here’s why.
According to the Department of Health and Human
Services (DHHS), about 70 percent of people over age
65 will require some type of long-term care (LTC) services
during their lifetime, and more than 40 percent will need
care in a nursing home. On average, someone age 65
today will need some type of long-term care services for
three years—men are currently averaging 2.2 years and
for women it averages about 3.7 years.
DHHS has also identified some things that increase the
risk or make it more likely that someone would need longterm
care. Factors that put someone at higher risk include:
age: the older you get, the more likely it is that you’ll need
help with things like dressing or bathing; living alone: if
you live alone, you’re more likely to need paid care, than
if you’re married or living with a partner who could provide
assistance; gender: women are more likely to need longterm
care than men because women statistically live
longer; and personal history: health and family history
can increase the chances
you’ll need long-term care
as many health conditions
Many people strongly
prefer to stay in their own
homes as they age and for
good reason due to all
the support services Planning Ahead
available today. Some
services that are
expected to show exponential industry growth over the
next couple of decades include companion personnel,
home health care, adult daycare, geriatric care managers,
chore providers, home modification construction, meal
delivery programs, respite care, faith-based support
programs, transportation services and senior centers.
Long-term care is expensive; therefore, understanding
long-term care services and the possible need for longterm
care insurance can maximize your independence.
Considering whether or not it’s appropriate for you to
purchase long-term care insurance should always be
part of late-in-life and retirement health care planning.
Potentially the biggest myth regarding LTC is that Medicare
will pay LTC expenses. While it is true that Medicare will
pay a portion of the first 100 days in a skilled nursing
facility, those first 100 days will still cost you $11,840 in
2013. After the first 100 days, you are responsible for
paying all costs beginning on day 101 and forward.
According to CareScout, which has a national database
of more than 90,000 nursing home, assisted living and
home health providers, the average cost in North Carolina
in 2012 for one year of home care (44 hours per week
from a home health aide) was $40,040. The average cost
for one year of care in a nursing home was $69,350 (semiprivate)
and $76,650 (private), and the average cost of an
assisted living facility was $34,800.
Thinking about LTC planning is difficult at best. However,
paying for LTC services out of your personal income and
resources may be even more difficult. The number of adult
children providing personal care and financial assistance
to a parent has more than tripled over the past 15 years.
Nationally, about 25 percent of baby boomers provide care to
an aging parent, and the need will continue to rise. Planning
ahead can make the golden years the best they can be.
Donner, a CRPC®, Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor,
can be reached at 919-460-6076 or Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.
com. Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, holds
NASD Securities Licenses 6, 63 & 65, has a Bachelor of Science
in Nursing, is licensed in LTC and is NAIC Partnership Certified.
Investing in uncertain times
Last month I went through some of the details
regarding the fiscal cliff and what it means for your
investments. I hope by the time this magazine
reaches you, Congress will have made some decisions
on how to address the economic downturn resulting from
necessary policy changes. A few important points are to:
manage risk, invest with a timeline to fit your needs and
plan for taxes.
When choosing investments, there is almost always
some risk and return trade-off. Stocks will fluctuate more
with the market and if we have a recession similar to
2008, the value could see significant drops. The investors
who lost money during the recession of 2008 were the
ones who chose to sell during the downturn or didn’t
adequately diversify. A portfolio made up of a variety of
stocks dropped, but then the value returned.
Even better is a portfolio made up of fixed investments
(such as CDs or bonds) and stock. As the fixed income
investments come due, it can allow an investor to have
cash available to add to the stock market. In March of
2009, no one wanted to put money into the stock market
because it was so low, but if you had cash available and
stuck to a habit of reinvesting or rebalancing a portfolio,
you would have earned 40 percent or more on those
investments over the remaining part of 2009. Moving
forward, regardless of expected increases or drops in the
market, create a plan and stick to it. When it’s hardest is
when you can benefit the most.
Similar to managing risk is using investments that fit
your personal needs and your financial timeline. The
investments that fluctuate the most require a longer
timeline. By knowing they are long-term investments,
you can weather the storm and end up ahead. If you
have specific cash or income needs, make sure that the
investments are moving to less volatile investments as
the income needs are nearing rather than waiting until
the last minute.
The goal is to avoid selling when investments are down.
If you’ve planned according to your income needs, there
will be money available as needed, and you can minimize
loss due to market fluctuations while still taking advantage
of being invested. Dividend-paying stocks, mutual funds
or a variety of income-producing investments can create
an income stream. In addition, a small emergency fund is
key. You should always have three to six months of living
expenses accessible to avoid selling investments at low
points in the market.
Everyone wants their investment
portfolio to perform well, but it
is your after-tax return that really
matters. If your portfolio earns you
double-digit returns aren't so great
if you end up losing 20 percent or
30 percent of them to taxes.
In periods when the return
on your investments is low,
tax efficiency takes on even
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Ways to plan for taxes include tax-harvesting (paying
taxes now to avoid higher taxes later), holding long term
(to avoid capital gains) and moving money to tax-favored
investments. A good financial advisor can look at your
current taxes and help you compare investments based
on their taxability.
Clement is a financial planner with Clement Capital Group.
She offers securities and advisory services as an investment
adviser representative of Commonwealth Financial Network®,
a member firm of FINRA/SIPC a Registered Investment
Advisor. She can be reached at 910-693-0032 or at taylor@
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How Thompson heated up the court
David Thompson is the best college basketball
player I have ever seen.
Michael Jordan is the best basketball player
I have ever seen. But he didn‘t become THE Michael
Jordan until he reached the NBA. Sure, he hit the
national championship game-winning shot for North
Carolina as a freshman. And, yes, he threw down
some spectacular dunks and gave a hint of what was
to come with some hair-raising end-of-game magic.
M.J., however, did not define or dominate the college
scene like Thompson did during his three years at N.C.
State. The Wolfpack went undefeated when D.T. was
a sophomore and won a national championship when
he was a junior.
Thompson scored 2,309 points in his career, placing
him second on the all-time N.C. State points list. That
was in just three years, as freshmen were not eligible
for varsity competition in those days. The Pack’s top
M o n r o e ,
in four years.
s o p h o m o r e ,
l e a d i n g
State to an
u n d e f e a t e d
0) in 1973.
h o w e v e r ,
b e c a u s e
in a junior
that saw State
win the 1974 national title in
Greensboro after knocking
off perennial champ UCLA in
the semifinals and handling
Marquette with relative ease in
His 838-point (29.9) senior season (22-6) ended
in disappointment when North Carolina upset the
Pack in the ACC tournament final. (Back then, only
the conference tourney winner played in the NCAA
Thompson owns the school single-game scoring
record of 57 points (vs. Buffalo State). He threw in 40
or more six times during his college career and scored
at least 30 on 25 other occasions.
In leading the Wolfpack to a 79-7 record, he was
a three-time All-American and twice was named the
national player of the year.
It is said that records speak for themselves, but they
don’t always tell the whole story. Certainly not in the
case of David Thompson.
He was simply amazing, using a gravity-defying
42-inch vertical jump to leap over tall buildings and
defenders. That enabled him to get a shot whenever
he wanted, helping him toss in short- to medium-range
jump shots and to also score around the basket.
He made the alley-oop famous, frequently slipping
behind defenses on the baseline to receive high
passes – often from Tim Stoddard or Monte Towe –
above the rim and drop the ball through the nets while
still in the air.
Drop is the operative word because dunks were not
allowed at the time Thompson played, or else his alleyoop
baskets would have been thrilling throwdowns.
D.T. seemed to score almost at will as he flew through
the air with the greatest of ease. Every time he got his
hands on the ball, the crowd held its collective breath
in anticipation of something sensational. He frequently
delivered just that.
Number 44 was electrifying. He was dynamic. In
college hoops, David Thompson was simply the
Greatest Show on Earth.
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Editor's note: We had the honor of interviewing
Amy Grant in July 2010 when she made a trip to Cary
for a concert at Booth Amphitheatre. This month, she
returns to the region as part of the DeWitt Performing
Arts Series at Richmond Community College's Cole
Auditorium in Hamlet, Friday, Jan. 18.
IT HAD BEEN A LONG, EXHAUSTING DAY. Our
new house was filled with boxes and piles of all
kinds, but the movers had left, and it was quiet now.
Vince (Gill) was sleeping on the red sofa a few feet away
from me, and I was sitting at the kitchen counter. The sun
was setting. A calm stillness lay on the place.
For no reason at all I started shuffling through a messy
stack of unfiled papers and letters on the kitchen counter.
A letter in a scribbled blue marker caught my attention
from the top of the pile. It was a request for Vince to send
a birthday greeting to a woman turning 89 years old. The
note was written by a grown daughter.
I didn’t know how old the letter was. I hadn’t seen it at
the old house, but it must have been there. I wondered
if Vince had seen it and set it aside. What was the birth
date again? I scanned the page. Today. The woman’s
mother turned 89 today.
I stuffed the note in my back pocket. Eventually I woke
Vince up, and we went to meet some friends. Later that
evening, while we were driving around town with some
unexpected time on our hands, I remembered the letter.
I took it out of my pocket and read it aloud to Vince. It
was news to him. He was as intrigued as I was by the
timing of it all – that this letter, mailed to our address, got
unearthed in the move and made it to the top of a pile just
in time for him to make the call.
Busy signal. So we decided to drive around. He kept
calling. Still busy. We kept driving. Busy. Still driving. Still
busy. This was crazy. Who doesn’t have call waiting in the
Finally, Vince said, ”Hey, where does this woman live?
Let’s just drive by her house." We found her address.
This was getting interesting. This birthday girl didn’t even
know about the letter, so the last thing she expected was
for Vince to show up at her front door. Just as we were
turning onto her street, Vince finally got a ringing line.
He said, “Hey, I understand somebody in this house is
having a birthday. This is Vince Gill, and I just called to
say hi…No, really, it is me…Yes, it is…That’s right. And
if you’re not too busy, my wife and I thought we’d stop by
to say hello.” He hung up with a big smile, and we were
there, in front of a little white box of a house surrounded
by other small houses in a neighborhood crisscrossed
with chain-link fences.
Dorothy Lee was a tall woman, though slightly stooped.
She was made of old stock, sturdy and angular. A
wheelchair was in the middle of the front room, but she
was not in it. She was greeting us like old friends at the
When the initial shock of our arrival had passed,
Dorothy Lee showed us around her home. The front door
opened into the living room, bedroom to the left, dining
room and kitchen a straight shot from the front room.
Pictures of Vince were everywhere - a magnet on the
refrigerator, a cardboard stand-up Vince in the front room,
framed clippings on a wall. Dorothy didn’t act gooey or
silly toward Vince, but one look at her house and you
could tell that she was a true fan.
Everybody’s got a story and Dorothy Lee had a wealth
of them: Stories about her early childhood lived on a
farm in Kentucky, too rural to have a “proper” address.
Stories about the children she had raised—hers, her
grandchildren, even some great-grandchildren. Stories
about the husband she had buried 30 years ago.
Dorothy was born in 1911 and had lived in this house
most of her adult life. The neighborhood had seen a lot
of change. She grew up in a world that was completely
segregated, and she would have been in her mid-50s
during the legendary civil-rights sit-ins in Nashville.
“I’m the oldest person in this neighborhood,” she said.
“When I moved here, it was all white. Now I’m the last
one on the block.”
She told us that people had asked her if she wanted to
move. Seeming tickled to talk about it, she said, “You know,
I’m just an old woman. I don’t care what color a person’s
skin is.” We asked her if she was afraid to live alone.
“What would I be afraid of?” she replied.
Dorothy had a sharp mind and a quick wit. The time
The conversation turned, and she began to talk about
her mother. Her love was still immediate and powerful,
even though death had separated them decades before.
As Dorothy spoke, I thought about her daughter, the one
who had written the letter to Vince. I thought about the
children that I had birthed. I thought about the threads of
need and love and care that tie us to mothers and then
continued page 29
Excerpt from her book
“Mosaic: Pieces of My Life So Far”
A collection of her
favorite memories from
her life and career.
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Dorothy had been closer to her mother than her other
siblings had been, not because she was the favorite,
but because of unfortunate events that happened in
her childhood. For instance, one winter day while she
was playing near the hearth, she rolled too close to the
coals, and her clothes caught on fire. She was in bed for
months, her mother by her side.
A few years later, Dorothy Lee was playing with some
children in the loft of their barn, when she lost her
footing, fell to the ground, and broke her back. The long
road to recovery strengthened the special closeness
they shared, and as the years rolled by, the bond
between them held steady.
On the day her mother died, Dorothy recalled, her
world ground to a halt. She couldn’t find the energy
to do much of anything. Some days she could hardly
eat. Most days she never got out of her night clothes.
She remembered hearing bits and pieces of one-sided
conversations her husband spoke to concerned callers
from the phone in the hall: “No, this isn’t a good day.”
he would say, or, “She seems to be feeling a little better
Then one day, she said, she got up, put her clothes on,
and went about the business of living.
“How long were you in bed?” I asked, remembering an
acquaintance of mine who once stayed in bed over two
weeks because of depression.
“Oh,” she said, “I’d say two or three years, as best I
Two or three years! I was dumbfounded. Had her
husband ever wondered if she had lost her mind? I
asked her as much. She said, “He was a good man. You
know, you cannot rush grief.”
Really? I thought. You can on the surface. We do it
every day. Someone dies. Friends and family gather at
the graveside. Flowers are sent. Prayers are prayed.
Handwritten notes or Hallmark sympathy cards are sent.
But these days no one is allowed to check out of life for
two years. Instead, we prod and push the bereaved to
move on, to go through the motions of living. Grief has
its own timetable. What a concept. The time is takes to
heal is the time it takes.
My thoughts drifted away to a train station in Africa,
back to a time when I was visiting my friend, Jeannie,
who was teaching school in the western province of
Kenya. It was January of 1985, and we were standing on
the platform, wishing we had time to grab a warm Coke
(the only kind there was in Kenya) before our trip. No
schedules were posted we could see, and we wanted to
be on the next train.
Finding an attendant, we asked, “Can you tell us when
the train will be leaving the station?”
The tall African man in uniform said, “De train will
come up dis track. De peoples will get off de train. You
will get on. Den de train will leave.”
“I understand the process. What I need to know is the
time frame. My friend and I want to leave the station for
a few minutes. Can you tell me approximately when the
train is expected?”
Once again he explained. “See dis track? De train will
come up dis track and stop at dis station. De peoples will
get off de train. You will get on. Den de train will leave.”
We nodded and smiled. Point taken. When it happens
is when it happens.
We continued to talk with Dorothy about her life now,
what it was like, who comes by, how she spends her
time. She told us that at night when she lays her head
on her pillow, she looks back over the details of the day,
and every night she asks herself the same question: Did
I live this day in a way that honored the One who gave
me this day?
Then she turned to Vince, who was kneeling on the
floor beside her chair. Her face was so full of love and
kindness towards him (she had told him earlier in the
evening that her friends and family always called her
anytime he was on television, knowing she cared about
him like a son).
“You know why I pray that prayer, don’t you, Vince? It’s
because one day every knee will bow, and every tongue
will confess that Jesus is Lord. You know that, don’t you,
Stillness, Dorothy Lee, 89 years of life on her face,
watched Vince intently.
“Yes ma’am, I know that.” My husband wrapped his
arms around Dorothy with a strong hug. She said, “That
was nice. Could we do that one more time?”
As we prepared to leave, we told her we were
expecting a baby. She was, in fact, the first person who
heard our news. Speaking of babies made her think of
her own daughter. She explained, “Years ago, my sister,
who worked at the Department of Human Services,
called me on the phone and said, 'You’ve just got to
come down here. A family of children was dropped off
today. You’ve just got to come see then.' When I walked
in, I saw a little girl about seven months old. Do you
know, that child just raised her arms to me, just like that.
Well, I looked at my sister and I said, ‘I guess this one’s
mine.’ I brought her home and raised her.”
That rescued child was the one who had written the
letter that brought us here all these years later. φ
30 OutreachNC • January 2013
Prepare to be unprepared
The tides have shifted and we have sailed into a
new phase of the sandwich era. It is a phase you
can intellectually prepare for but for which you
CANNOT ever possibly be ready.
I have found through all the trials and tribulations you
endure as a sandwicher, you can never plan for all that is
in store for you.
Managing work, children and aging parents is difficult at
best. It is as much a blessing as a test of perseverance.
When the time comes for that parent to pass on, the
feelings, emotions and anguish are something I thought I
was prepared for, but how naive could I be?
After caring for my mother for the last few years and
having all her legal and financial matters in order, there
were things I encountered that were still unexpected. I am
writing from that perspective in hopes some of my fellow
sandwichers will be prepared to be unprepared.
The day my mother died was a normal day. I stopped
by to check on her early after my father said she wasn't
doing well. Soon, I was on my way to a work appointment
with a client. Within two hours, I had arranged for our
caregiver to help my mother to the emergency room (ER)
for what we thought was a bladder infection. I arrived at
the ER at noon, and my mother passed at 5:30 p.m.
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My first unprepared moment was
what we thought was a routine ER
visit for antibiotics and IV hydration
was all but routine. My mother
declined so rapidly that denial kicked
in. I could not seem to fathom what
went wrong, and "she is very
sick," was all I heard.
A few hours later, questions
about central lines, ventilators
and dialysis were asked. All alone at
the time and knowing my mother's final wishes, it was still
my decision to make, and I had a very limited amount of
time to make it. I didn't plan for denial. Surely, I would know
when that time was staring me in the face, but that wasn't
the case at all.
My second unprepared moment then came. Knowing
my mother's end of life wishes helped at the time but did
not make it easier for me to make those decisions. The
fleeting thought that I could buy more time or postpone
this awful event even crossed my mind. Ultimately, I did
as my mother told me in all those awkward conversations
we had previously had late at night. The flooding guilt
was not something I planned for either, and again, I was
All this (and more than I can write here) is to say that in that
moment, all else goes away. All the planning and preparedness
become moot points. While I watched my mother gracefully
pass away, I was so utterly unprepared. Nothing anyone had
ever told me before or since could have prepared me for the
heartache and changes that were coming.
It is absolutely best to prepare for the logistics in the
sandwich position. It is my hope that you can in some
way prepare yourself for the time to come even when it is
least expected and you are alone. Emotions grasp every
part of you, and you will feel things never felt before. You
will discover logistics you missed, and all the worries of
work and child rearing will fade into your subconscious.
Sadness, guilt and confusion will take over, and at some
point, grief will kick in. That has not happened for me as I
still have an another aging parent to focus on.
I truly hope all can prepare as best they can for such an
experience. Get the advanced directives like a living will,
power of attorney, etc. in place, and be sure there is life
insurance. Pre-arrange the funeral and burial if possible.
But most of all, spend all the time possible with your loved
ones, and be sure they know you love them.
Brock, a geriatric care manager with AOS Care Management,
can be reached at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Book Review: Code of the Forest
Jon Buchan's "Code of
the Forest" is one of the
most intriguing books I
have read in a long time. It
deals with the question of a
newspaper reporter's obligation
to reveal his source, and it
develops the family background
of newspaper owner Wade
McNabb and that of his
attorney, Katie Stewart.
OutreachNC • January 2013 31
a former political reporter. Also
a lawyer, he has represented
numerous newspapers and
broadcasters in courtroom
battles, and in 2000, the N.C.
Press Association awarded him
the William C. Lassiter First
Amendment Award for his
"tireless efforts to defend the
First Amendment and protect
the public's right to know."
Set in picturesque and
South Carolina, the
book's plot evolves around
a chemical plant on the
coast and the power
and influence exerted by
insider politicians who are
accustomed to getting
It is a book in which you
cheer for the underdog
and hope he has the
stamina to survive what
is thrown his way by the
good ole boys of his day.
McNabb publishes an
article about the chemical
plant which tarnishes the
images of his opponents,
and they take him to
court. McNabb's father,
the editor before him,
had stood by his guns on
racial issues in the 1970s
and paid the price with
his life. Heartbreak had
characterized the young
Katie's life, also making
her a stronger, yet more
vulnerable, individual. The
book has romance, history
and political undertones.
with the law and with
journalism, the author is
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Rain, sleet or snow,
lineman powers on
Harris Morrison, a lineman with Central
Electric Membership Corporation in
Sanford, has been climbing poles for 36
years to keep power service to thousands
and recently traveled to aid other electric
entities after Hurricane Sandy.
Photos by Carol Wilson, © Carol Wilson Photography
Whenever winter weather or Mother
"As far as winter weather, Central Electric
Nature pay a visit leaving power By Thad Mumau has not been affected by any major storms
Special to OutreachNC
outages in her wake, there are
since 2002," says Heather Vaughan, Central
dedicated line workers who get the call and brave the Electric's communications specialist. "That winter, there
weather to restore the power to thousands.
was a massive ice storm that took out most of our
One of these unsung heroes is Harris Morrison. The system, 17,000 members at that time. In 2000, nearby
62-year-old lineman with Central Electric Membership areas endured 23 inches of snow, which brought down
Corporation, a Touchstone Energy co-operative in the majority of our system again. Now we have 21,000
Sanford, is happy and content because of his faith, members and, hopefully, no problems ahead."
family and friends. Not coincidentally, those are also Should the need arise, Morrison and his fellow line
workers are standing by.
Morrison is a rarity in today’s me-first society. His focus Line workers also practice a rescue operation in case a
is on helping others and in making the best of whatever fellow worker gets hurt while atop a power pole. Required
comes his way. It’s the way he lives his life.
drills include radioing for help, strapping on full climbing
Morrison was a carpenter by trade in his younger years. gear, climbing 20 feet up a utility pole, rigging a pulley,
He built houses; in fact, he built the house he and his wife lowering a mannequin to the ground and starting CPR, all
have lived in for 27 years.
in five minutes or less.
“I enjoyed carpentry work,” he says. “Then, one day, a Electric cooperatives all over North Carolina turn
friend talked to me about working at Central Electric. He rescue practice into competition among their linemen.
was a general foreman here, and he liked it. That was 36 The lineman with the best time at each cooperative
years ago, and I’ve been here all that time.”
participates in a state contest in Raleigh.
Morrison works with hot power lines out of a bucket Morrison was there in November, having posted the
truck; the danger of high voltage is a constant companion. best Central Electric time for the rescue drill for 18 of the
Like many physicians, he is on call 24 hours a day. last 19 years.
“It has always been that way,” he says. “It’s the same “I can’t run all that fast anymore; I just kind of trot,” he
for all of us linemen. That’s what we do. The emergencies says, laughing. “I guess I just try real hard.”
we sometimes are called to during the night might involve “Everything Harris does is 110 percent,” adds Vaughan.
a car crashing into a pole or wind from a storm blowing a “He takes pride in doing his best.”
tree onto a power line.”
continued page 33
Morrison has met challenges head-on
all his life. Both of his parents, Mack
and Inona, were deaf mutes who met at
the North Carolina School for the Deaf.
Harris was born with a hearing loss.
“But it hasn’t held me back,” he says,
“not at all. It has made me try a little harder
and has made me a better listener. I want
to understand what people are telling me,
and then I want to do the right thing.”
“He gets it all and then some,” Vaughan
says. “There is no problem with Harris
following instructions. He listens closely
to hear what people say. It makes him a
Morrison and his wife Debbie have
been married 32 years. Their daughters,
Christie and Amy, are graduates of
Campbell University where both were
Morrison has proven to be quite a
student himself. He took advantage of a
program instituted by the North Carolina
Electric Membership and became the
third person to earn an associate’s
degree of applied science in electric
lineman technology. He graduated with a
Helping others gives him great joy. It is
something he does through his church
and through his job.
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Morrison has frequently joined in that
effort. He spent 21 days in eastern
North Carolina after Hurricane Hugo
struck. He was in Mississippi
for 15 days as a result of
Hurricane Katrina. Recently,
Hurricane Sandy sent him
to Jacksonville, N.C., and
then to Charlottesville,
Va. In addition, he did
volunteer line work as
part of mission teams
in Honduras and
He also has gone to
Juarez, Mexico the past
four years. He and others
from several churches
raised money for the
mission trips and have built
“I love being able to help
others,” Morrison says. “So many
people have helped me and my
parents. I have been blessed. The Lord
has blessed me beyond measure.
“I love my job, too. We’re a family here.
When we have storms and some tough
times, we all work together."
Ansel Williams, who is in his third
year at Central Electric, says Morrison is
highly respected by his fellow workers.
“Harris is well liked by everyone here.
He is one you can look up to. He has
knowledge, and he has experience. He’s
one you can trust to pass on the correct
information," says Williams. “You can
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34 OutreachNC • January 2013
North Carolina Zoo's
By Jennifer Kirby
Special to OutreachNC
For two decades, Rod Hackney
has been the public face of the
North Carolina Zoo, spreading his
passion for its mission throughout the
state. In addition to writing news releases
and magazine articles, conducting media
tours, arranging interviews and creating TV
and radio scripts, he writes, co-produces
and hosts the syndicated “The Zoo FileZ”
TV series, which is seen by more than
500,000 people each week. In 2012 the
program was selected from among more
than 6,000 international entries to win a
gold medal in the prestigious MarCom
Here, he gives us the inside scoop on the
return of the dinosaurs, the expansion of
the Rocky Coast habitat and his personal
New Year’s resolution.
ONC: As public relations manager for
the North Carolina Zoo, you have a broad
range of responsibilities. What is your
favorite part of your job?
RH: I think working with reporters and
media and convincing them that the North
Carolina Zoo is a great place to do stories
ONC: You worked for the "Greensboro
News and Record" for 10 years, correct?
RH: That’s right. I started out in sports
and then was a general assignment
reporter and then was a copy editor and
then wound up writing for the business
page my last year and a half.
ONC: How did you go from being a
newspaper journalist to being on staff with
RH: I actually had covered the zoo for
a period of about four years. One of my
assignments during my general assignment
career was working in their Randolph
County bureau—they have a bureau
in Asheboro—and it just so happened
that I wound up having the zoo as one
of the beats that I regularly covered.
continued page 36
Photo by John Gessner,
© John Gessner Photography
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36 OutreachNC • January 2013
Photos by John Gessner, © John Gessner Photography
continued from page 34
So I knew quite a bit about the zoo by the time they
offered me the opportunity here, and of course I
jumped at it because by that time I had pretty much
fallen in love with the place and the people and what
they were trying to accomplish.
ONC: Two gorillas were born at the North Carolina
Zoo in 2012. Who got to name them?
RH: The keepers get that honor because they are
the ones that are responsible for the day-to-day care
and have so much personally invested. That’s kind of
a reward to them for all they do to take care of them.
ONC: How did “The Zoo FileZ” come into being?
RH: Actually, that was an evolution that started
about, I think, my second year here. Initially we were
doing segments with WFMY-TV in Greensboro and
the former anchor of their morning news program,
Lee Kinard, who was there I guess for 30, 40 years,
was a big zoo fan and he approached us sometime
in my second year here about the opportunity to do a
series of segments on the zoo and asked me if I could
do them. In about 1998 or 1999, Lee Kinard retired
from the morning show, and they stopped carrying the
zoo segment. At that point, I came up with the idea
of producing our own segments with Terry Shiels [of
Sheils Productions in Charlotte] and trying to syndicate
them to stations in every market. That was really the
start of “The Zoo FileZ.”
ONC: After 15 years of weekly installments, do you
ever worry you’re going to run out of material?
RH: It’s been close a few times. Over the years, we’ve
come up with about 428 two-minute segments. But the
great thing is there’s always something happening
here, something going on.
ONC: You graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill. Are
you a North Carolina native?
RH: Yes, I actually grew up in Chatham County
right next door to Randolph County, and I still live in
Chatham. I’ve lived in Greenville, N.C., in Southern
Pines...I’ve always lived in the state.
ONC: Dinosaurs debuted at the North Carolina Zoo
last year and were such a hit. Are they scheduled to
return this year?
RH: Yes, they’ll be returning in April with a completely
different set of species that we hope people will be just
as excited about seeing.
ONC: Is there any chance they could become a
permanent fixture at the zoo?
RH: I don’t think so. These exhibits of this nature,
after the public has seen them for several years, they
tend to lose their luster as opposed to a live animal
exhibit. So I would say maybe two to three years, and
we haven’t even at this point discussed the possibility
of three years.
ONC: The zoo’s Rocky Coast habitat is undergoing
a $7.8 million renovation and expansion. When will the
polar bears return?
RH: What we’re hoping to do, at this point, we’re
going to bring back one of the two polar bears that
we own. We sent both of them away in the summer of
2011 to other zoos while construction was under way
and we’re hoping that by spring 2013 we can bring
one of the bears back and put him back in the older
part of the exhibit while construction continues on the
newer part. That being said, we’re probably not going
to complete the entire exhibit until—we’re hoping for
summer or early fall of 2014 right now.
continued page 37
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ONC: Was that a major factor in the zoo’s decision
to expand and improve the Rocky Coast habitat?
RH: There were a variety of reasons for that. For
one, we’re hoping to become very much involved in
conservation of polar bears in the wild. … But one
of the major reasons for this expansion is to be able
to bring in a breeding collection of animals so we
could actually have baby polar bears. The long-term
conservation and breeding of polar bears in captivity
is one of the goals here. While the exhibit we currently
have was wonderful for visitors, it did not provide the
facilities needed to set up a breeding program.
ONC: Is there any official way to gauge zoo visitors’
RH: Based on some surveys we’ve done, the polar
bears is the most popular exhibit at the zoo. I don’t
know if that’s a result of all the wonderful Coca-Cola
commercials, but they tend to be the most popular.
ONC: Did you have any New Year’s resolutions?
RH: That we do an even better job of getting people
to come to the zoo in 2013 because it’s going to be
just an outstanding year. We have just an extraordinary
number of youngsters that will be the focus of our
exhibits this year. Of course, we’ve had two baby
gorillas born, we’ve got two young chimpanzees and
expect to add two more to the collection in the spring,
and a young – not a baby any longer, but certainly very
young – giraffe, and just a number of young animals.
People that love babies are going to love coming to the
zoo in 2013. φ
38 OutreachNC • January 2013
Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
These brilliant British ladies celebrate their heritage at monthly group gatherings at
each others' homes and decorate with the Union Jack, the national flag of the United
Kingdom, for the occasion. The flag is made up of the individual flags of three of the
Kingdom's countries: England, Scotland and Northern Ireland.
Life across the pond
There is a small group of women
living in Moore County who
celebrated New Year’s Eve at 5
By Ann Robson
Special to OutreachNC
p.m. and then again at midnight. The early celebration coincides with
midnight in their home country of England. It’s one of the few obvious
things that reveal how much they sometimes miss “home.”
Most of the women have lived in several places around the world
as well as different states in America. They range in age from
20-something to 70-something. Most of them have come here
because of their husband’s job, and some ended up retiring here.
Others are likely to move again, perhaps several more times. While
they are here, they are making the very best of it. All of them say they
thoroughly enjoy the Sandhills.
It’s an informal group of kindred souls. They act as friends,
companions, sounding boards, counselors and substitute families
for each other. When they are together, they know they will be
understood if they occasionally slip back into some phrases for which
most Americans may need an explanation.
continued page 39
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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
Maggie Langley, one of the British ladies, shared a pot of hot tea at Lady
Bedford's Tea Parlour in Pinehurst in honor of January as National Hot Tea
Month. Tea, of course, is a staple for all of the ladies. PG Tips is Langley's
favorite brand. "I'm a bit traditional,' she says. "I like English breakfast tea
with milk. It's all we really drink at home." Born and raised in suburban
London, Langley enjoys the gatherings with the group. "It's like a visit home."
As with any country, even with parts of the same country,
there are different customs, slight nuances in language,
and various ways of doing things. All of the women have
adopted the “when in Rome, do as the Romans” attitude and
are enjoying getting to know some of the quirks of Southern
culture. For them, the most important thing they’ve discovered,
so far, is the warm hospitality of everyone they meet.
Americans tend to lump most of the English as being from
London, and that is one hurdle this group of women has to
overcome. It would be like English people assuming that all
Americans come from New York City.
continued page 40
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They recognize the assumption and usually gently
point out that they have come from places like
Lachlade in Gloucester, Portslade in Sussex, York,
Clacton-on-Sea in Essex, Abergavenny in Wales,
Waddington in Yorkshire, Virginia Water in Surrey,
Coventry, Bradford-on-Avon, Tovgnay in Dover,
Derbyshire and even a few from London.
Asked what food they missed most the unanimous
response is “a good English breakfast!” To them,
what constitutes such a breakfast is “real English
sausages, bacon, eggs, fried tomatoes, toast usually
from homemade bread, real English butter and
homemade jam.” Occasionally oatmeal made the list
as a cold weather, breakfast food.
Their choice for a perfect English dinner is either
cottage or shepherd's pie, the difference being that
cottage pie is made with beef, and shepherd’s pie
with lamb. Side dishes vary, but trifle is the choice
for dessert. That meal was served to the group when
they met at Pat Day’s home. They take turns hosting
The ladies admit that they are surprised how the
traditional American Thanksgiving dinner was very
much like the traditional English Christmas dinner.
(There is a historical theory that when the first English
settlers moved here, they rejected all things English,
yet clung to some customs such as the Christmas
feast and opted to make it their Thanksgiving feast.)
Turkey is a relative newcomer to the meal. Goose was
usually the preferred fowl. Christmas pudding with
warm custard sauce or a brandy sauce is an English
Christmas favorite. The pudding often contains a
sixpence, and the person who finds it is said to have
good luck for the coming year.
This group is also unanimous in their disgust of how
the English tabloids treat the Royal family. They feel
Rupert Murdoch has a vendetta against the Royals.
There were hints of Margaret Thatcher and the Queen at
loggerheads on several occasions but nothing definitive.
Most realize that the outgoing year was outstanding
for their country with the Diamond Jubilee of Queen
Elizabeth II and the Olympics. Some of them were
children when the young Princess Elizabeth assumed
the throne after her father’s death. Pride in hosting
a successful Olympics is expressed by all. Prince
William and Kate's baby news provides "an heir and
a spare" as well.
We wish all of them a wonderful year ahead here in
their adopted land. φ
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See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 48
1. Pan, e.g.
4. Baked, in Bologna
9. Poison plant
14. Prefix with acetylene
16. Be bombastic
17. Sound familiar
19. Lowest female
20. Involving two
21. “At Seventeen”
23. Dash lengths
24. Rent payer
28. Act of
32. Verse in which
certain letters such as the
first in each line form a
word or message
35. “La BohËme,” e.g.
47. Resort town in
northeast Florida on the
50. Appetizer consisting
of a thin slice of bread
spread with caviar or
55. “Is that ___?”
58. Add up
65. Confidence game
66. Decorative jugs
67. Ed.’s request
68. Club publication
69. Prone to friendly
70. “For ___ a jolly ...”
1. Small goat†antelope
with small conical horns
2. Heavy water, for one
3. Force units
4. People who
try to persuade by
5. Sun, e.g.
6. 20-20, e.g.
7. ___ el Amarna, Egypt
8. Large genus of
perennial and biennial
10. www.yahoo.com, e.g.
11. Military equipment
13. British tax
22. “Aladdin” prince
25. Beanery sign
27. Clairvoyance, e.g.
29. Barely beat
30. Sundae topper,
31. Indian bread
32. Blown away
joint between the head
of the femur and the
34. Using again after
38. Charlotte-to-Raleigh dir.
39. Biblical birthright
42. In-flight info, for short
43. British unit of weight
equivalent to 2240 pounds
46. Up, in a way
48. Dundee denial
49. Cave dwellers
52. Soft tissue of the body
53. Arm bones
54. Recuperation in
which the symptoms of an
acute disease gradually
55. Early pulpit
56. Set lower
60. Calypso offshoot
63. “What’s ___?”
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Ginger Brant, right, shares her quilting knowledge with SUCCEED students, and the finished quilt now hangs in Van Dusen Hall.
Quilter shares talents with SUCCEED
SUCCEED is a
The Sandhills Community College
Learning Changes Everything
campus community has also
program designed to
offered numerous educational and
service opportunities for SUCCEED
adults necessary academic and life skills at Sandhills students. The English as a Second Language students
Community College.Instructors admit they could not have been teaming up with SUCCEED students to
do it alone. Parents like Ginger Brant are committed to teach Spanish while strengthening their own Englishspeaking
enriching the lives of the SUCCEED students.
Brant recently spent several days with SUCCEED If you would live to volunteer your services or
students demonstrating how to transfer their drawings to talents, contact Nicole Worley at 910-695-3772, email
individual squares of fabric. These pieces of fabric were email@example.com or visit www.sandhills.edu/coned
then crafted into a beautiful quilt. This collective art is now and click on the College and Career Readiness tab and
exhibited in the lobby of Van Dusen Hall.
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Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
The Cameo Art House Theater, built in 1914 and located at 225 Hay Street in
Fayetteville, plans its digital transition for 2013.
Go digital or go dark...
Many people enjoy the
convenience of digital
photography. The format
is relatively inexpensive when compared with oldfashioned,
35mm film cameras. It is sometimes hard
to remember the days when we sent our film out to be
developed and had to wait to see how many pictures
came out. The big movie studios want to take advantage
of the same cost-saving technology and are telling movie
theater owners that they must either convert to digital
cinema or stop running first-run movies. While this is not
a big deal for the large multiplexes, it is a serious issue
for local independent theaters.
These days, movies are often shot and edited in digital
format. Approximately 50 to 75 percent of theaters have
made the switch, but the studios have continued to print
the films to celluloid stock to ship to the 25 to 50 percent
of theaters that have not.
According to Wikipedia, to make one print
copy of an 80-minute feature film costs the
studios from $1,500-$2,500. Multiply that
by a normal 4,000-theater runs, and it is no
small charge. Even with the large number
of theaters which have converted to digital
cinema and receive the films either on hard
drives or through a secure digital line, the
cost is one that the studios no longer wish
to cover, especially when you consider that
it costs them approximately $150 per film
to produce a digital version. The studios
stand to save millions by requiring theaters
to move to a purely digital format, and the
industry expects it to be standard practice as
early as 2014.
The theaters struggling with this decision
the most are the small, local, independent
movie houses. These theaters chug along,
often operating on a very tight budget and
only running a few shows a week. Most
have only one or two screens. They are also
usually historic buildings with a great amount
of charm and appeal.
Regionally, we have a few great theaters
that fit this description—the Cameo Art House
in Fayetteville, the Sunrise in Southern Pines
and the Ambassador family of theaters in
Raleigh. In order to keep up with the times,
they have to raise $100,000 per screen to
make the conversion. Both the Cameo and
the Sunrise have turned to their dedicated
patrons to make this a reality.
The Cameo Art House Theater building
By Michelle Goetzl
has a long history in downtown Fayetteville.
Special to OutreachNC The building was home to the New Dixie, one
of Fayetteville's first motion picture theaters
which opened in 1914.
In 1998, Chris and Nasim Kuenzel and Eric Lindstrom
purchased the space and re-opened it to the public in
October 2000. The theater has 125 velvet-covered cast
iron opera-style chairs, Dolby digital sound and offers
patrons a lovely lobby lounge where they can enjoy a
glass of wine, imported beer, coffee or cappuccino.
In 2003, the Cameo added an intimate second screen
to allow the theater to show an even wider variety of films
over an extended period of time. That second screen
is making this transition to digital cinema extra hard for
them, as even though it seats only 38 people, it brings
their total cost of conversion to $198,000.
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Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography
The Rialto, built in 1936 and converted to a theater in 1940 and located at 1620 Glenwood Avenue in
Raleigh., is the oldest among the Ambassador family of theaters.
According to Nasim Kuenzel, there is
a loyal group of patrons who have been
very supportive of the effort. As a theater,
their financial numbers have been steadily
increasing as people become aware that
they exist. The Cameo gets to the heart of
what a small theater is all about.
As Kuenzel explains, “We try to offer a
completely different experience than the
multiplexes based on customer service
and satisfaction. We try to show the best
Hollywood has to offer, exhibit artistic
films and not cater to the mainstream
blockbusters. The theater, however, is
being forced to keep up with the times.”
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Raising the initial $99,000 is vital for the Cameo. As
of the beginning of December, they are nearly two thirds
of the way to their initial goal of $99,000. For Kuenzel,
hitting that goal will be an indication that “there is
indeed strong enough support to continue to show art,
independent, and award-winning films downtown.” If the
goal is not reached by December 31, they “will return
all documented donations and close sometime in 2013
when 35mm film becomes unavailable.”
The Sunrise theater in Southern Pines has a similar
problem of needing to raise capital funds, but with only
one screen, the total is a more manageable $100,000.
The building that houses the historic movie theater was
built in 1898 and converted into a movie theater in 1939.
Although it closed its doors in the 1980s, people in
the community did not want to see it go, and concerned
citizens raised $150,000 to purchase the building. For a
decade, The Arts Council of Moore County operated the
space as a performing arts center. When the building
was threatened again, a group of citizens concerned with
keeping the theater alive for the community launched
another campaign to save the space. Once again the
little theater that could kept running, this time being
operated by the Sunrise Preservation Group
(SPG). The SPG turned the Sunrise into a
non-profit organization and has managed
to keep it running as a vital part of
the community, showing first-run films,
and the Metropolitan Opera Live in
HD as well as being a performance
space for local organizations. They
keep costs down by showing movies
on a limited schedule and by being
primarily staffed by volunteers.
continued page 47
Photos by Rebecca Heeley,
© English Rose Photography
Sunrise Theatre's historic building was built
in 1898 and is located at 250 Northwest Broad
Street in Southern Pines. Below: Ginny Trigg signs
for the theater's UPS delivery of a 35mm film.
The Sunrise plans its digital transition this year.
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Like the Cameo, the Sunrise has turned to its patrons
to help finance the project of converting to digital
cinema as they have turned to them in other times of
need. Former SPG President Ron Sutton has faith in
the community coming out for the theater.
"The Sunrise was saved twice by the concern
and generosity of a thoughtful and forward-thinking
community," says Sutton. "It emanates the spirit
of the South and the Sandhills, hospitality, art and
In October, the Sunrise got a boost by receiving
a $25,000 grant from the Eugene McDermott
Foundation, but they are still working
hard to gather funds. One way that
they are achieving this is by placing
an optional $1 donation on every
$7 movie ticket sold.
"Getting the funds is imperative,"
says Loretta Aldridge, current
president of the SPG. "Without
the upgrade, the theater would
be reduced to being a secondrun,
old film movie theater.”
In Raleigh, the Ambassador
family of theaters is halfway
through the switch to digital. Owner
Bill Peeples knew that the conversion
was going to happen and started saving
for it more than a year ago.
The Ambassador theaters are the Rialto, Colony,
Mission Valley Cinema and Six Forks Cinemas and
have a total of 14 screens. The theaters are all vintage
spaces that have made modern improvements while
managing to keep their old charm. The oldest of the
group is the Rialto which was built in 1936 as a grocery
store and was converted to a movie theater in 1940.
Peeples has converted the Mission Valley and Six Forks
theaters to digital and is in the process of figuring out all
of the bugs before converting the Colony and the Rialto
The patrons don't see a difference, but Peeples and
his staff have been frustrated by the process. Aside
from the large cost of converting classic movie theaters,
there is the loss of perfectly good projectors that are
now going to collect dust.
As Kuenzel says, “The equipment we have now works
flawlessly and has been the standard of the industry for
a hundred years."
Regardless, the change is coming quickly, and it is
coming to a theater near you. φ
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with apricots and cashews
1 cup butter, softened
1 cup packed brown sugar
½ cup granulated sugar
1 teaspoon vanilla
½ teaspoon almond extract
1 ½ cup flour
1 teaspoon baking soda
½ teaspoon salt
½ teaspoon cinnamon, ground
1/8 teaspoon clove, ground
3 cups oatmeal
1 cup dried apricots, cut into small pieces
1 cup cashews, chopped
Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Cream butter and
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Add eggs and extracts, and beat until smooth.
Beat in all the dry ingredients, until just combined and stir
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10 minutes or up to six hours. Drop dough by the heaping
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about two inches between each cookie. Bake cookies
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Grey Matter Answers
A new year, a new beginning
There’s something about starting a new year that
makes you feel like you get a second chance.
There is no point considering the rate at which
New Year’s resolutions begin and are often soon forgotten,
but I’m going to offer one
Young at Heart
Fairy tales can come true,
it can happen to you
If you're young at heart.
For it's hard, you will find,
to be narrow of mind
If you're young at heart.
You can go to extremes
with impossible schemes.
You can laugh when your dreams
fall apart at the seams.
And life gets more exciting
with each passing day
And love is either in your heart,
or on its way.
Don't you know that it's
worth every treasure on earth
To be young at heart.
For as rich as you are,
it's much better by far
To be young at heart.
And if you should survive to 105,
Look at all you'll derive
out of being alive!
And here is the best part,
you have a head start
If you are among
the very young at heart.
through the lyrics of a popular
song that I think we can all
do. It’s about perspective and
being young at heart. I have
not found the fountain of
youth. We all know we can’t
turn back the hands of time
and be any younger than our
actual age. But that doesn’t
mean we need to give in and
act our age.
When I was a young girl
in Tampa, there was a very
active group at my church
called Young at Heart. This
fun group planned monthly
dances with elaborate
decorations, food and
themes and held them in
the parish hall. There was
singing, dancing, laughing
and an overall zest for life in
Even though I was only
6 or 7 years old at the
time, I would never have
considered these people
old. Most participants were
50-70 years my senior, but I
only thought they were fun.
I loved going to their socials
with my mom.
What made the difference
for this group of senior
citizens to become the Young
at Heart group? Perspective.
None of them seemed to take
themselves too seriously. I
recall on Valentine’s Day that
they even crowned a king and
queen of the night. They were
a wonderful group of
people who did not
act their age, but were
very young at heart.
As I’ve grown up, I’ve
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realized that people who have a good sense of humor, ones
that don’t take themselves too seriously, are quick with a
kind word, are not afraid to try new things, don’t spend
much time complaining or gossiping, seem to be very happy
and youthful. Sometimes with age comes permission to be
authentic and be comfortable in your own skin. I promised
myself last year when I turned 40 that I wasn’t going to wait
until I was 80 to say how I felt or act the way I wanted.
Last month, a beloved client of mine passed away after
a long and courageous battle with Parkinson’s disease.
She lived out the sentiments of being young at heart.
Instead of focusing on her own condition and complaining,
she sought out social activities, brought a laugh and smile
to many a doctor’s waiting room, was quick with a song or
a joke and always wanted to know how you were doing. I
recall with great happiness singing "Three Little Fishies"
in her hospital room once, her belting out the Christmas
song, "Up on the Rooftop," in September and giggling.
It’s hard to be sad when my thoughts of her bring a
constant smile. Thanks, Bette, for being young at heart
and allowing me to be with you on the last three years of
your journey. You are a true role model.
As you begin your journey into 2013, I hope you'll
consider adding a resolution to become young at heart.
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No resolutions, just dreams
It’s 2013! How did that happen? Seems that we
were celebrating the new year only a
few months ago. So that means it’s time Over My Shoulder
to trot out timeworn resolutions once again.
You know the ones: to lose weight, exercise
more and quit smoking, all good things to try
to do. But if we’ve been making them for years and keep repeating the
same ones, perhaps we’re not really keeping them.
This year, I’m going to work on my bucket list instead. (No, as far as I
know, I don’t have limited time.) Things you put in your bucket list are things
you want to do but never quite get around to it. Bucket list items should
be fun, even nonsensical. They should complete a dream you’ve had for
years, or just a few days.
I don’t plan to do any of these things in an irresponsible way, but I don‘t
rule out whimsical, spontaneous or just because I want to.
At the top of my list is visiting the state of Kansas. Kansas? Yep. It would be
the 50th state that I’ve been to, and I feel my list isn’t quite complete until I get
there. I’ve been north, east, south and west of the state but never crossed
into it. I’ve flown over it. I even have some Kansas wheat grown on the farm
of a good friend’s family. I may never get there, but it’s a goal worth pursuing.
The idea came to me in 2004 as I was returning from a trip to Newfoundland
with my niece Megan. Our birthdays are two days apart, and we’ve often
celebrated together. That year was one of those significant “0” or “5”
birthdays for both of us. As we were landing in Toronto, I blurted out, “OK,
now I’ve done all 10 provinces in Canada!” Megan wondered how many
states I’d been to, and I began to count. No matter which direction I followed,
Kansas and Oregon were never in my path. Thus was born my bucket list.
I checked off Oregon in 2009 when we went to British Columbia for a
family wedding. As it happened, it was another of those big birthdays for
me. After all the festivities were over, we drove through Washington and
crossed over to Oregon, looked around and turned to come back. The
weather was dreadful; the unbelievably long wait to cross the Canada-USA
border near Bellingham conspired to dampen my nature. My husband, who
recognizes a train wreck as it’s coming at him, pulled into one of the nicest
places we’ve ever stayed and booked us for two nights. I’m sure he was
hoping I’d be rehabilitated quickly as we still had a week to visit with his
brother and sister-in-law. It worked. Some pampering in a luxurious resort
casino can do wonders.
I’ve been very lucky and have traveled to many interesting places, but not
yet to Kansas. There are still many places to see and things to do: the Rock
of Gibraltar, Monaco, Glacier National Park, Yosemite National Park, the
Great Wall of China, riverboat on the Mississippi, take a train trip through the
Canadian Rockies, presidential libraries starting with JFK’s and some places
I haven’t even thought of yet. I’d be ecstatic if asked to drive the lead car at
the Indianapolis 500. A hot air balloon ride would be wonderful.
Most of the rest of my bucket list involves meeting special people: Willie
Nelson, Pete Seeger, Hillary Clinton, Maya Angelou, James Patterson,
Queen Elizabeth II, Michelle Obama and anyone who has tried to make
this world a better place.
Give it a try: no resolutions this year, just things you’ve always wanted to
do. Make your own bucket list.
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