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Vol. 4 Issue 1

OutreachNC • January 2013 1

utreach NC

Navigating all your lifestyle choices


Theater Icons:

Cameo, Sunrise & Rialto


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From the Editor

January and the New Year are here.

Winter has North Carolina in its

grasp, so we'll just have to wait and

see how much we have to bundle up.

As the thermostat falls, we meet one

decorated lineman with a local electric

cooperative in Sanford. He braves all

weather to keep the power on, most

recently after Hurricane Sandy, and is still

standing by for any winter storms.

Regardless of the weather, movie

showings go on every day at some

theatrical gems across the region. In

order to keep the popcorn popping and

patrons passing through the turnstiles,

all must make the digital transition from

film this year (seen above). As part of

our new series for 2013, we'll visit some

historical or iconic places to hear the

stories behind them. Rolling into the

digital world, we'll learn the plights of the

Cameo in Fayetteville, Rialto in Raleigh

and Sunrise in Southern Pines, all theater

icons of yesterday and today.

Another icon held near and dear to

some beautiful English ladies is the Union

Jack, the flag of their home country,Great

Britain. We meet a dedicated group who

now make their homes in Moore County

and still love all things British after years

of adapting to life across the pond.

We also have a yearlong series on aging

in place that kicks off this month with an

overview of the hot topic. We meet two

families who are planning ahead and

incorporating universal design into their

current and new homes. In the months

ahead, we'll take a look at the many

aspects of aging in place like planning,

home design and remodeling, health care

Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

and much more that can keep you in the

place you love to call home.

Homes are also what Habitat for

Humanity is all about. We meet Wake

County's vibrant volunteer coordinator

whose heart goes into every building

project. Her dedicated pursuit of

volunteers to become a part of the impact

Habitat makes in the lives of the families

who purchase these affordable homes is


Habitats of another kind is something

the North Carolina Zoo's Rod Hackney

knows well. We sit down for a Carolina

Conversation with him to talk about what's

new at the zoo for 2013 with the polar

bears, gorillas and chimpanzees, oh my!

This month we share a special

"Senior Shorts" contribution from singer,

songwriter and author Amy Grant's book,

"Mosaic." We first met Grant back in July

2010 for her concert in Cary. This month,

she returns to our region with a concert as

part of the DeWitt Performing Arts Series

at Richmond Community College's Cole

Auditorium in Hamlet, Friday, Jan. 18, that

will no doubt bring the crowd to its feet.

Cheering crowds were always a part

of David Thompson's basketball days at

N.C. State University, which is the topic

of this month's "Game On."

Also new this month are the columns

"Nutrition" on foods for alertness and "Law

Review," which takes on those important

and tough legal matters, focusing this

time on power of attorney documentation.

I hope you'll enjoy the whole issue,

cover to cover, as we celebrate another

year of OutreachNC. Until next month...


—Carrie Frye

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Inside this issue OutreachNC • January 2013 5

Ask the Expert..........................6

Belle Weather

by Celia Rivenbark...................7

Centenarian Club..................13

Consumer Beware...................8

Cooking Simple.....................48

Game On................................26

Grey Matter Games................42

Hospital Health......................15

Iconic theaters

go digital

page 44


powers on

page 32

Law Review........ NEW!..........16

Learning Changes


Literary Circle........................31

Medicare Update....................18

Money Matters.......................25


Foods for alertness... NEW!..14

Over My Shoulder..................50

Planning Ahead.....................24


Senior Moments....................17

Senior Shorts Guest Writer

Amy Grant's "Dorothy Lee"

from her book, "Mosaic"


Sentimental Journey.............49

N.C. Zoo's

Rod Hackney

page 34

Habitat for


Norma Smith

page 10

British Ladies

page 38

Aging in Place

page 20


Cover Photography by Rebecca Heeley,

English Rose Photography

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Q: How do you tell a senior lady for whom

you care very much that you will never be

able to give her the physical expression

of your feelings for her? It is awkward and

embarrassing, and there seems to be no easy solution.

A: This is a great question. Many men face

issues with the ability to show physical sexual

expression as they age. There are a variety

of reasons that might impact someone’s

ability to get an erection. As men age, testosterone

levels decline, it takes more stimulation to achieve an

erection and orgasms are generally shorter. Adjusting to

these changes can cause anxiety that may complicate

performance. Heart disease, arthritis and other medical

conditions can also have a significant impact.

Some of the medications prescribed to treat blood

pressure and cardiac problems can have a side effect

of erectile dysfunction (ED). Typically, a starting point

would be a discussion of side effects with your physician

to determine if there is an alternate medication available.

In your specific case, having had this discussion with

your physician and been told that it is permanent and

that there is nothing that can be done from a medical

perspective, if you have not had this discussion with a

urologist, that may be one option.

Permanent ED is without doubt a difficult prospect

for any man to process. It is a lifestyle change

that can lead to awkward moments compounded by

trying to cultivate a new relationship. It is easy to

understand your frustration. A positive change is that

in today's society, there are more open discussions

about sexuality and aging as well as tips and resources

available. The Mayo Clinic lists many “Senior Sex Tips”

emphasizing, that while the sex may not be the same,

certainly intimacy can still be a very rewarding part of

your relationship. They suggest a few things that might

be applicable for you:

Talk with your partner. It may be difficult to talk about

• sex if you grew up viewing it as a taboo subject.

Openly talking with your partner about your needs,

desires and concerns can help you both enjoy sex and

intimacy more.

Expand your definition of sex. Intercourse is only

• one way to have fulfilling sex. Touching, kissing and

other intimate sexual contact can be just as rewarding

for both you and your partner. Realize that as you age,

it's normal for you and your partner to have different

sexual abilities and needs. Be open to finding new ways

to enjoy sexual contact and intimacy.

Don't give up on romance. If you've lost your

partner, it can be difficult to imagine starting another

relationship, but socializing is well worth the effort for

many single seniors. No one outgrows the need for

emotional closeness and intimacy.

As you continue to grow your relationship with

your lady friend, I would agree that having an open

conversation is a great starting point. While this may

seem awkward at first, it may be the one thing that

brings you closer. Communication and openness are

very endearing qualities. It is likely that she has her

own anxieties or fears about a physical relationship,

and this may be a big relief to both of you. Once you

get past that initial conversation, you have opened the

door to exploring other ways to achieve sexual intimacy

with your partner. It can be a new chapter in sexual

exploration and intimacy. The Global Action on Aging

suggests the following:

Slow down: Realize that sexual arousal often takes

• longer and requires more stimulation.

Make the most of foreplay: Take all the time that you

• often didn’t have in your younger days.

Communicate: Share what makes you feel good

• with your partner.

Use sensory skill: Take time to explore the tactile,

• visual, auditory and olfactory aspects of being intimate.

Improve the mood: Take time to set the stage for


Ask the Expert

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will answer any

aging questions

you might have.

Fax your questions

to (910) 695-0766 or

e-mail them to


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• a special experience – adjust lighting, add music,

candles, oils, perfumes and incense or try a new place.

At any age, we must keep an open mind and be flexible

to new options. Having open communication allows you

both to share needs and set boundaries as you embark

on a new journey. Use this opportunity to indulge your

romantic side and make her feel extra special.

Most importantly, have confidence in yourself and

know that even if your ED is permanent, you still have

a great deal to offer. Do not let a physical, medicallybased

problem deter you from the benefits of being in

an intimate relationship.

Living the Pottery Barn life… in her mind

Lately I've become obsessed with making my

living room look like the ones in Pottery Barn.

Or rather the HomeGoods, Tuesday Morning,

Target version of Pottery Barn because, let's face it,

I ain't paying $50 for a pillow COVER. You have to

buy your own pillow insert in the PB world, which is

goofy since you can get the whole thing put together

everywhere else on Earth.

I realized things might be getting out of control when

I compiled a "look book" of pictures ripped from the

roughly 4,067 Pottery Barn catalogs that come to me

in the course of a fortnight. (OK, I don't know what that

is either but it sounds like something you'd say if you

actually owned a nail-studded velvet sofa from youknow-where.)

I find it oddly comforting to clip pictures of favorite

table settings and candle configurations and stash

them in my album. Duh Hubby just finds it odd. Correct

conversational candle height is all that separates us

from the savages I tell him, but he doesn't understand.

I find myself irrationally jealous of the PB families

whose faces are never shown in the catalog but whose

full lives require heavy molding-trimmed blackboard

organizers with festively chalked reminders such as

"Don't forget passport!" or "Harvest Ball tonight!"

or "Regatta with Leslie & Paul!" They lead such

glamorous lives, these imaginary families. Just once I'd

like to see a chalkboard in the PB catalog with a barely

legible reminder to "DVR 'The Bachelor'" or, better still,

a grocery list without "Brie, artichokes, fennel..." but

rather "Mushroom soup, tots, lice shampoo."

Duh, as you've probably guessed, has no interest

whatsoever in home decorating. True story. We

recently visited an old college friend of his who had

gotten a divorce. In the living room of his bachelor

"pad" were two items: a director's chair, circa 1982, and

the cardboard box his big-screen TV had come in that

functioned as dining table, coffee table and ottoman.

"Wow, it's tough having to buy new stuff when you

split up, isn't it?"

I asked college buddy.

He looked at me and shook his head. "What? I've

been divorced for nine years."

"At least this house has great bones," I said, mentally

picturing the fabulous weathered wood triptych of a

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vintage airplane from PB over

his new tufted Chesterfield

couch, also from PB.

"Huh?" he said.

I get it. Duh also doesn't Belle Weather

understand oversized

clock faces that don't

actually tell time or the

charming topiary in whimsical pots to flank the mantel

and collect really high-quality dust.

One day, Duh arrived home to discover a bowl had

been filled with wicker balls of varying sizes and colors.

"What do they do?" he asked, picking one up and

eyeing it curiously.

"They don't DO anything," I huffed. "They just ARE.

And put that down! It took me 45 minutes to get them

arranged like the catalog picture."

Yeah, that's not crazy.

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It has been estimated that over 90 percent of

people who find themselves involved in a pyramid

scheme will wind up in the victim category and will

inevitably lose their money. Recognizing and having a

basic knowledge of how these illegal investment frauds

are structured will prevent you from parting with your hard

earned money.

A pyramid scheme is nothing more than a business

model that is blatantly not sustainable. This business

model promises the scheme participants will receive a

substantial return on their investment for enrolling other

individuals into the scheme, which is obviously void of

any real investment or involved in the sale of any product

or services. Make no mistake about it: A pyramid scheme

is a fraudulent investment plan. Part of the problem

individuals face lies in the fact that most pyramid schemes

are disguised and have taken on many different styles.

As the name indicates, the organizational design of

pyramid scheme is depicted and structured in the shape

of a pyramid. The initial investor, who is also known as the

initial recruiter, is placed at the top of the pyramid. This

recruiter recruits a second person under him/her who, in

this example pays the initial recruiter $100. This second

recruiter is now obligated to recruit an additional 10 people

(at the cost of $100 each) who “buy into” the pyramid. The

second recruiter stands to make $900 profit on his initial

$100 investment if he can persuade 10 people to join him.

Each one of these investors (now considered recruiters)

is then obligated to recruit 10 additional investors each of

whom will build the pyramid higher.

The obvious, or apparently not so obvious, problem

with this scheme is, as the pyramid builds it becomes

unsustainable. The investment fraud falls apart because

at any given point, no more recruits can be found to invest.

The larger the pyramid is, the greater the chance of the

bottom falling out. It is the initial recruiters at the top of the

pyramid’s organizational structure who statistically make

the profit and exit quickly. It is a textbook fraud in light of

the fact that no product has been sold, no real investment

has been made, no services have been provided and no

legitimate organizational wealth has been created.

With an increasingly educated public, pulling off a

pyramid scheme has become a bit more challenging and

Pyramids not only in Egypt

has forced scammers to mask

these schemes and create an

illusion of legality. Despite this

attempt, these schemes are still

illegal. One such hybrid pyramid

is to operate under a cloak

of investing in the form of

“gift giving” or “loans” that

take place as part of an

investment club. This is

Consumer Beware

nothing more than a pyramid scheme in disguise and

should be avoided at all costs.

An additional hidden pyramid scheme can be found in

multi-level marketing (MLM). In a legitimate MLM, you

can be recruited to sell a product that has some form of

monetary value. As you recruit other people below you

in the organizational structure, you in turn would receive

monies from the sales conducted by those you recruited.

What makes this legal is you are not required to recruit

new participants to make a profit, and you are selling a

product that has an intrinsic value. In a legal MLM you

can simply sell your product and participate no further

unless you choose to. What makes an MLM model illegal

is when the product that is being sold has no tangible

value such as a mailing list, and there is a requirement

that participants recruit new members.

Chain letters are also a popular method to perpetrate a

hidden pyramid scheme (both traditional mail and email).

If a chain letter asks you to donate any amount of money

to individuals listed on the letter, then delete the name of

the first person on the list while adding your name and

forwarding the letter, it is a pyramid scheme.

It’s easy to see why people may fall victim to these

schemes and often are willing to take the risk if the

amount of money they stand to lose is minimal.

Keep in mind the individuals starting these investment

frauds are often organized crime syndicates, drug

smugglers, human trafficking perpetrators and even

terrorist organizations. For those reasons alone, you

should steer clear of these schemes.

For additional information, contact the Community

Services Unit of the Southern Pines Police Department

at 910-692-2732, ext.2852.


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If losing weight

and eating

healthier are among

your New Year's resolutions,

make it easier on yourself.

Make a decision to order

something healthy before

you walk into a restaurant.

Try not to salivate and cave

in to high fat and calorieladen

items on the menu.

Instead, zero in on the items

that are typically marked

heart healthy. You can always

ask your server about healthy

menu options. A safe bet in

most restaurants is a grilled

entree of meat or fish with a

plain baked potato and a small

dinner salad with the dressing

on the side.

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Tips for healthier eating out

Ask the server to bring a takeout

box with your meal. Put half of

your entree into the box, and

set it aside to take home for

the following day. You may also

choose to split an entree with

your dinner companion.

Ask the server to hold the


bread basket. When your meal

does arrive, eat slowly and

enjoy every bite. Drinking water

instead of sweet tea or soda is a great calorie saver.

Opt out for dessert unless you split one with your

dinner companion. Enjoy a few small bites. You’ll

walk out satisfied and proud of yourself for making

healthier choices.

Remember, it's a new year, and it's your choice.

Jones, a certified personal trainer at The Fitness

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of hope

By Mary Elle Hunter

Special to OutreachNC

If ever there was someone

who has put to rest the

myths about not being

able to participate in a chosen

field because of age and

gender, look no further than the

staff of Habitat for Humanity

of Wake County. This month,

Norma Smith is celebrating

her 16th year as an employee

at the Wake County affiliate

of the well-known ecumenical

housing organization, first as a

construction superintendent and

more recently as the volunteer

services coordinator.

“Norma personifies grace and

wisdom," says Kerry Celestini,

media and marketing manager

for Habitat for Humanity of

Wake County as well as a

co-worker and friend to Smith.

"She demonstrates the beauty

of serving others, and I consider

her a role model."

Smith is a true Tar Heel native,

born and raised in Greenville

and a graduate of University of

North Carolina at Greensboro.

She is a longtime resident of

Sanford and has taught in the

public school system and also

at the community college level.

Although her occupational

path subsequently led her away

from the classroom, Smith

has retained her devotion to

teaching. continued page 12

Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Norma Smith celebrates her 16th anniversary at Habitat for Humanity

of Wake County, where she believes in its mission: "Seeking to put God’s

love into action. Habitat for Humanity brings people together to build

homes, communities and hope." Smith knows firsthand the impact the

houses provide for the families who purchase them. "It is about hope,"

she says. For more information or to volunteer, visit www.habitat.org or

contact your local Habitat for Humanity:

Fayetteville Area











(919) 774-7779


Scotland County



Wake County



OutreachNC • January 2013 11

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Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Norma Smith, center, stands with a dedicated group of Habitat for Humanity of Wake County volunteers at a home site in Raleigh.

continued from page 10

“The teacher in me was always challenged to help

the volunteers at the Habitat work sites learn the skills

of construction," explains Smith. “A rewarding factor

in working with Habitat is the countless number of

dedicated people I have met over the last 15 years,

some of whom know a lot about construction and have

taught me the finer points of home building, and some of

whom are novices when it comes to holding a hammer.

We are, in reality, a teaching organization that can take

unskilled volunteers and, by tapping their enthusiasm,

turn them into accomplished workers to be of service to

those in need.”

Smith believes an individual should never stop learning.

She took a position as curator and research librarian for

Pinehurst’s World Golf Hall of Fame when it first opened

and before it was moved to Florida. She has always

embraced opportunities to learn about a new aspect of

the world in which we live, and although at the time she

was a recreational golfer, her knowledge of the game was

considerably heightened during this period.

Working for a developer for several years provided her

with knowledge of construction in general, the language

used in the trade, the various elements of building a

house and interacting with contractors. Smith says all of

that experience was honed during her first two years on

the job with Habitat.

All is not work in Smith’s life. Her daughter, son-in-law

and two grandchildren live in Virginia, and her off-duty

passion is music. She has sung in the Moore County

Choral Society as well as directed choirs and choral

groups over the years. Her interest in and love for music

has been enhanced by her active participation in her

church, where she is a lay reader.

In the years Smith has been with Habitat, she oversaw

the building of hundreds of homes and only made

the transition to volunteer services coordinator several

years ago when knee problems limited her ability to

climb ladders and do the necessary supervision of the

construction sites. Her present duties call for her to work

with corporations, local businesses, church groups and

other professional organizations to attract and schedule


“Everyone from university students to retirees,” says

Smith, “is encouraged to give of their time and energy

whether or not they have held a hammer previously. We

can walk them step by step into the routine of becoming

a proficient home builder. First-time volunteers are urged

to bring a friend with them the next time they come, and

by doing so, we have built up a significant database of

willing volunteers. It isn’t unusual to have several dozen

workers commit to work on a given Saturday. However,

more volunteers are always needed and are always

welcome, especially on weekdays.”

Smith's most satisfying part of working for Habitat is

maintaining a connection with the homeowners.

“I appreciate the positive impact they and their families

have in their neighborhoods. It’s like the ripple effect that

is caused by tossing a pebble into the water and watching

the growing result of how an initial gesture widens to

encompass a much larger area," says Smith.

Kevin Campbell, president and chief executive officer

of Habitat for Humanity of Wake County, sums up the

contributions that Smith has made and continues to

make, to the organization.

“She has served in many different roles since joining us

in 1997. Norma understands that making a difference in

a community is all about relationships," says Campbell.

"From Habitat’s homebuyers to our construction

volunteers to the college students who come to Raleigh

to work with us on spring break, they all know Norma and

her gracious hospitality.” φ


Centenarian Club

OutreachNC • January 2013 13

Veronese Atkins of Southern Pines celebrated

her 103rd birthday Nov. 29, 2012, surrounded

by her family and friends. Her chocolate

birthday cake, her favorite, was prepared by Rachel

Lincoln of Sweet Feed Catering.

Atkins spends her days with dedicated caregivers,

(pictured from left to right) Estella Lawson, her

life care manager Beth Dowd, Dahlia Singletary,

Madelyn Gilchrist. Not pictured are caregivers Pamela

Bethea, Linda Smith and Angela Dunston. Sharing

great conversation and homemade meals with her

caregivers, Atkins also enjoys reading scriptures and

Bible stories.

When the last of Atkins’

wire-haired dachshunds

passed away, Lawson

brought her own

chihuahua, Chester, to

stay with Atkins during

their visits. Now Chester,

too, has become a faithful

companion to Atkins.

Happy Birthday, Mrs. Atkins, from OutreachNC!

Share centenarian birthdays with us by emailing

info@outreachnc.com, or submit online at




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High protein breakfast good way to start the day

Is it important to you that you stay alert and work

at full throttle at work and play? Do you want to

eliminate the morning blahs and the afternoon

doze from your life?

The cause of the midmorning slump differs in

different people. Research has indicated that a lowcalorie,

low-protein breakfast or a high-fat or highcarbohydrate

breakfast causes it.

A high-carbohydrate breakfast produces short-lived

alertness as the food raises the level of glucose or

sugar in your blood. This increase in glucose triggers

an insulin flood into the bloodstream causing glucose

levels to fall precipitously, and your alertness drops.

About an hour to two after you eat a high carbohydrate

breakfast, your blood glucose drops so low that you

probably feel irritable, and your midmorning slump

sets in. To counteract this slump, many people take a

break, drink a cup of coffee and eat a danish or even

a candy bar.

This starts the up-and-down alertness cycle again.

Thus, most mornings start with you feeling good,

followed by a crash in blood glucose levels, with a

consequent decrease in your alertness and work


Experiment with a high-protein breakfast containing

at least 25 to 30 grams of protein to see if this helps

your alertness and decreases your midmorning slump.

Here are some sources of protein for your breakfast:

1 glass skim milk (8 grams protein)

8 oz low-calorie yogurt (8 grams protein)

2 eggs (12 grams protein)

4 tablespoons low-fat cottage cheese (7 grams protein)

1 tablespoon tuna fish (7 grams protein)

1 skinless chicken thigh (15 grams protein)

3 oz lean steak (15-20 grams protein)

1 oz 100 percent whey protein powder (15 grams protein)

½ cup soybeans (10 grams protein)

2 tablespoons wheat germ (9

grams protein)

Other high-protein foods include

fish and shrimp. Sounds like

too much effort? Not convinced?

Almost everyone I know,

including myself, who has

tried a high-protein breakfast

reports greater alertness and

increased work effectiveness.

The midmorning slump and the

hunger disappear. Try it and see.


The cause of drowsiness after lunch differs among

people and at different times in the same person.

Experiment with different foods to find out what

affects you. Most people report the following foods

as the most frequent causes of lower alertness after


• Too much fat (butter, hamburger, meat, gravy,

salad dressing, etc.)

• Too much sugar (desserts, cakes, ice cream,

cookies, candy, etc.)

• Not enough protein

• Not enough or too many calories

Most people report that a lunch of a salad (with little

or no dressing), skim milk and a piece of fruit followed

with a mid-afternoon snack of skim milk and an apple

or a pear does not cause drowsiness and increases

work effectiveness.

Good fortune in discovering your key foods that help

you eliminate the morning blahs and the afternoon

doze from your work and play

Glassman, Ph.D., professor emeritus of the University

of North Carolina at Chapel Hill and author of “Weight

Loss Simplified: You Do Want To Lose Weight, Don’t

You?,” can be reached by emailing 2glsmn@gmail.com.

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bringing the total number of board-certified neurosurgeons

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Charles S. Haworth, M.D., began seeing patients in

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on Cape Center Drive in

Fayetteville in addition to

the Pinehurst office that

is located in the Pinehurst

Surgical building at 5 First

Village Drive.

Dr. Haworth, who has

performed more than 1,000

navigational spine cases, was

involved in the development

and introduction of the

Stryker Spine Navigation

Software program. In a

minimally invasive spine

navigation procedure, a 3D

image is matched with a

high-resolution pre-operative

computed tomography (CT)

to produce a CT-quality

image of the operation site

with less than 10 percent of

the radiation exposure of a

standard CT to the patient.

Because the precision of the

surgical approach also results

in minimal harm to surrounding

muscle and tissue, the

procedure is effective in the

surgical treatment of spinal

stenosis and spinal slippage

(spondylolisthesis) and the

surgical repair of ruptured


A native of High Point, Dr.

Haworth earned his medical

degree from the Duke

University School of Medicine.


The FirstHealth UNC

neurosurgery team specializes in

the treatment of diseases/disorders

of the brain, spinal cord and spinal

column and peripheral nerves.

The office accepts appointment

referrals from physicians/health

care providers and can be reached

at 910-295-0215 in Pinehurst or

910-484-9802 in Fayetteville.

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OutreachNC • January 2013

When POAs go wrong

Sadly, the number of calls I receive about

a named agent under a power of attorney

(POA) taking advantage of the individual

who named him or her has been increasing rapidly

of late. A power of attorney is a signed and notarized

document that gives another person the legal

authority to act for another, mostly regarding financial

affairs such as bank accounts and investments.

When you name the right person your agent, a

power of attorney can be helpful when you need

assistance handling your financial affairs. However,

what happens if that agent takes advantage of his

or her position?

Under North Carolina law, when you name an

individual your agent under a power of attorney,

a “fiduciary relationship” is created. The individual

giving the power of attorney is known as the “principal”

and the person you name to act on your behalf is the

“agent.” Within this fiduciary relationship, the agent

owes the principal a duty to act with the utmost good

faith, loyalty and honesty toward the principal when

acting upon his or her behalf.

Therefore, when you sign a power of attorney,

you are creating the fiduciary relationship and duty

between you and your named agent. If the agent

fails to act with good faith, the agent may be liable

for breaching or breaking that fiduciary duty. Under

North Carolina law, it is presumed that an agent

acts in good faith; therefore, in a claim for breach

of fiduciary duty, one must have evidence that the

agent did not act in good faith.

Another possible claim where an agent acts

against the interests of the principal is for conversion.

Conversion is a voluntary act by one person

inconsistent with the ownership

rights of another.

If you suspect that your agent

is taking advantage of you, the

very first thing you should do

is contact the police to file a

report. Then you should

contact an attorney to sign

a revocation of power of

attorney. This is a notarized

document that states you

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are taking back the power you had previously given

your agent. As part of the revocation, your agent

should be notified by certified mail that you have

revoked their power of attorney. If you still need the

assistance of an agent, you can sign a new power

of attorney at the same time. You should also notify

your financial institutions by certified mail that you

have revoked your power of attorney.

Ultimately, whenever you are signing a power of

attorney, it is best to keep the following in mind:

• Do not name an individual as your agent unless

you completely trust him or her.

• Keep your signed power of attorney in a safe

place, such as your attorney’s office, until it is needed.

• Consider naming two agents so that both have to

act, creating a checks and balances system.

If you have additional questions about this subject,

contact an elder law attorney near you.

Zager is an associate attorney with Senter, Stephenson,

Johnson, P.A., practicing primarily in the areas of elder

law and estate planning. She can be reached at


AOS Hospitality House




Marketing strategy unpeeled

Breaking news reports the Germans are at it again.

Their PEP (pampered employees productivity)

makes Germany the economic powerhouse of

Europe. According to the CIA (THE CIA), they are eighth

in the world for GDP (Great Darn Products). Innovation

is their middle name. So the people who gave us seasick

outer space-flying fishes, swan clubs (am NOT talking

about social bars for single swans) and the infamous

Christmas 2011 must-have gift, Cow Flatulence in a

Can, have once more triumphed, giving us...the alreadypeeled

banana encased in shrink-wrap plastic because

they already peeled it.

Thinking too hard about this one will only give you a

headache. The Germans will market anything. We were

once that way; no matter how stupid an idea, Americans

embraced it and made it profitable. Aren’t we the ones

who invented ready-made cut and assembled salad-in-abag?

How about fruit paste rolling-pinned into a garishcolored

strip of thick jerky goop and then sealed between

plastic laminate? Why didn’t we come up with the banana

breakthrough? Clearly, we’ve dropped in more than just

international math scores.

The German supermarket chain Billa was the first, and

last, to carry these naked bananas. Sensing this product

could either go through the roof or into the toilet, they

wisely sent the cold, exposed bananas to their Austrian

stores. I, too, subscribe to the belief that potential

personal humiliation should never be exhibited in front of

people you know; try it out in front of strangers first.

And so “the common sense supermarket” (Billa’s motto)

proved they were not, as within nano-seconds of stocking

these pitiably undisguised, unadorned, stark, stripped,

barren, denuded, raw, in the buff and birthday-suited bananas,

a category five hurricane of ridicule broke over them...

like a big angry wave. Nothing screams environmentally

unfriendly stupidity like your product becoming “the ultimate

symbol of waste and the throw-away society” in the time it

takes Donald Trump to twitter a tweet.

This criticism, however, may be too harsh. There are

some important considerations we

haven’t explored. Like job creation.

These bananas didn’t just peel

themselves. Someone had to be

involved. Could have been human

or could have been primate. I’m

betting on chimpanzees. First,

chimps love bananas;

second, they have opposable

thumbs ergo they CAN peel

bananas; and third, they eat

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Senior Moments

bananas meaning they know HOW to peel bananas. The

perfect assembly line banana-peeling workforce. Plus they

don’t smoke or drink coffee. Therefore they don’t take

breaks; they are always producing naked bananas.

There probably is some banana damage due to overly

excited handling. A banana piece breaks off and, like

my co-workers diving for the last chocolate in the box,

the chimps doubtless do the same, hopefully with a lot

less cursing and wrestling. I imagine some loss is due

to eatage. A banana to a chimp is almost certainly like a

Lays potato chip to me, very hard to eat just one.

All the old chimps eventually develop carpal tunnel

syndrome. But they’re replaced by younger chimps who

work for fewer bananas. Consequently, management

discovers they’re less skilled, and they all want off early

on Tuesdays to make their afternoon Pilates class.

Enter the engineers. They get jobs developing

automated banana peelers. Chimps besiege the

unemployment office. Humans keep their jobs shrinkwrapping

banana trays for minimum wage. Nude

bananas are recalled due to cross-contamination from

e-coli bacteria.

Old-fashioned, unpeeled bananas’ popularity surges.

Their price soars. All things old become new again, they

just cost more.

Cohea, a freelance writer, can be reached by emailing



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What to expect for 2013 Medicare costs

For 2013, you can

expect these

Medicare Part

A (Hospital Insurance)


Part A Monthly Premium

Most people don’t pay a

Part A premium because

they paid Medicare taxes

while working. If you don’t

get premium-free Part A, you

pay up to $441 each month.

Hospital Stay

In 2013, you pay:

■ $1,184 deductible per benefit period

■ $0 for the first 60 days of each benefit period

■ $296 per day for days 61–90 of each benefit period

■ $592 per “lifetime reserve day” after day 90 of

each benefit period (up to a maximum of 60 days

over your lifetime)

Skilled Nursing Facility Stay

In 2013, you pay:

■ $0 for the first 20 days of each benefit period

■ $148 per day for days 21–100 of each benefit period

■ All costs for each day after day 100 of the benefit period

Medicare Part B (Medical Insurance) Costs:

Part B Monthly Premium

You pay a Part B premium each month. Most

people will pay the standard premium amount.

However, if your modified adjusted gross income as

reported on your IRS tax return from 2 years ago is

above a certain amount, you may pay more.

If you have questions about your Part B premium,

call Social Security at 1‐800‐772‐1213. TTY users

should call 1-800-325-0778. If you pay a late

enrollment penalty, these amounts may be higher.

Part B Deductible - $147 per year

Medicare Advantage Plans

(Part C) and Medicare

Prescription Drug Plans

(Part D) Premiums

Visit www.medicare.

gov/find-a-plan to get plan

premiums. You can also

call 1‐800‐MEDICARE Medicare Update

( 1 - 8 0 0 - 6 3 3 - 4 2 2 7 ) .

TTY users should call


You can also call the plan or your State Health

Insurance Assistance Program.

Part D Monthly Premium

The chart below shows your estimated prescription

drug plan monthly premium based on your income.

If your income is above a certain limit, you will pay

an income-related monthly adjustment amount in

addition to your plan premium.

2013 Part D National Base Beneficiary

Premium - $31.17

This figure is used to estimate the Part D lateenrollment

penalty and the income-related monthly

adjustment amounts listed in the table above. The

national base beneficiary premium amount can

change each year. See your "Medicare & You"

handbook or visit www.medicare.gov for more


For more information about Medicare costs, visit


Sherman, program coordinator at the Moore County Senior

Enrichment Center, can be reached at 910-215-0900 or




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Dorothy and Roger McFeeter of Raleigh

made the decision to remodel their

home with the goal of aging in place

and worked with Lewis Sadler of Sadler

Construction to make the plan a reality,

and it has already been beneficial.

Aging in place brings focus back to living

Editor’s note: For 2013, we are featuring an Aging

in Place series with a piece each month to take a serious

look at all the aspects of creating a plan to age in place,

which is the ability to live in one's own home safely,

independently and comfortably regardless of age, income

or ability level. We'll share some real-life experiences of

residents in our region as they formulate their plans.

Over the next 18 years, 8,000 baby boomers are

going to be blowing out 65 candles every day.

The statistics are staggering and undoubtedly

making an impact on the way aging is defined or how it

typically defines a person. One such growing trend is the

idea of aging in place. Although that name may evoke

a negative connotation, there are many other ways to

define it. The bottom line describes how an individual or

couple wants to continue to live independently and safely

in their own home.

“We are all aging; it is beyond our power to stop.

However, we do have a choice in the decisions we make

as we age,” says Amy Natt, a certified geriatric care

manager with AOS Care Management. “Many older adults

express a desire to age in place, and the key to doing

this successfully is creating a plan that outlines what your

goals are and identifying resources to implement those.

The time to plan is now, and the place to start is with those

decisions tied to the values most important to your quality

of life. For one person, this

might be having a desire for

natural death drafted to direct

health care providers on treatment; for others, it might be

securing a long-term care policy to fund future home care

needs that will allow you to remain in your home longer.

Professionals can help you navigate this process and

determine the key pieces to a successful plan.”

There may be no perfect order to formulating a plan,

just a starting point on the topic most important to you.

Attorneys, financial planners, long-term care insurance

agents, geriatric care managers and other professionals

can aid in the process. From finances, legal documentation

such as wills and powers of attorney, health care in and

outside the home, to leisure activities and funeral planning,

the main factor in being able to stay in one’s home often

begins with accessibility within that home.

“We tend to shy away from the term 'aging in place,'”

explains Lewis Sadler, owner of Sadler Construction and

LifeStage Home Designs in Cary as well as a certified

aging-in-place specialist (CAPS) homebuilder with 35

years experience in the industry. “As my wife says, it

sounds like something you do to cheese, not to people.

We are not just trying to provide people with something

to age at home but instead a better built home or ageless

construction that is efficient for any stage of life. It is not

about aging, it is about life.”


Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

By Carrie Frye

Staff Writer

continued page 21

Roger McFeeter stands inside the elevator

he and his wife added to their home to

make their two-story home more accessible.

Upgrades to their master bathroom include

a barrier-free shower and toilet/bidet easily

operated with a handy remote control.

Photo by Rebecca Heeley,

© English Rose Photography

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Sadler is one of the professionals

who can provide assistance in

planning for the future when it comes

to making a home accessible from

the ground up with new construction

or remodeling an existing home.

"Becoming CAPS certified wasn’t

always in my plan,” says Sadler.

“As I got different building license

classifications, more testing was

required. I did a lot of residential

work and got to know some clients

and gained referrals from them and

from doctors. I began to realize that,

as an industry, we were not doing

customers a service by building

homes that they think they are going

to stay in forever when they are

really age-restricted. People can

spend their life savings to stay in

a home and only be able to access

50 percent of the home. I started

working on design, tinkering and

going to classes to learn more. My

wife and I would go to a restaurant

for dinner, and I would see somebody

in a wheelchair, and I would go talk

to the person and ask about what

was needed in a house. No home

plan was 100-percent accessible,

and I wanted to design 100-percent

accessible homes now. This is not

just a market niche, it is a better way

of building homes and should be the

way we all build homes.”

Sadler’s passion for helping clients

begins with an initial meeting to

discuss what their immediate needs

are as well as anticipating future

needs. Mobility may not be an issue

at all for someone, but a simple fall

that requires the use of a walker or

wheelchair might make a secondfloor

bedroom suddenly unavailable.

continued page 22


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continued from page 21

“People don’t like to think of

themselves being limited,” says Sadler,

“no one does. Sometimes we get calls

and someone is in a wheelchair that

day and can’t get in their home, and

unfortunately, I can’t do anything that

day. Planning ahead is the best cure

for maintaining stability in your life. It is

never too early to be prepared for the

'what ifs.'”

One Raleigh couple, Roger and

Dorothy McFeeter, began thinking about

aging in place in 2008. They had many

options to choose from. Their two-story

home was built in the early 1970s when

universal design and accessibility were

not at the forefront.

“We looked around to move,” says

Roger, a retired food chemist, “but the

prices were higher on a downtown

condo. We moved here in 1977, so this

is home. We finally decided to remodel

and make it handicapped accessible.”

The remodeling job was going to

be a major undertaking and one the

McFeeters didn’t enter into without

thoughtful consideration. They chose

Sadler to help make the transition.

“Lewis spent hours with us,

answering every question we asked, and nothing was too

insignificant,” says Dorothy, a devoted volunteer with the

Flower Shuttle, Red Cross and Triangle Radio Reading

Service. “We made a good design. All the doorways are

three feet wide and wide enough to turn around. There are

levered door handles and rocker switches, both of which

are good for arthritic hands, but just easier to use, not just

for old people,” she says smiling.

“We put in an elevator, all hickory hardwood floors,

which are easy to move on and easier to clean, but in

doing that, we destroyed two bathrooms so we had to

build an addition to add another bathroom,” adds Roger.

Among Dorothy’s favorite items is her wall-mounted,

fold-down ironing board.

“Not that it is particularly handicapped designed, but it is

handy. It makes ironing easier, and I hate ironing," she says.

Details are what stand out most at the McFeeters' home.

The grading in the driveway is sloped ever so slightly and

leads up to the double-doored, completely handicapped

accessible entryway. The lower counter height in their eatin

kitchen is where Dorothy finds it easier to knead her

homemade bread. Controls on the stove are at the front,

and levered handles on the faucet make them easier to turn.

“We use the elevator for moving things,” says Dorothy,

Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Alan Rich stands in front of his new home in Cary built by Sadler Construction. Using many

universal design aspects upon completion, the home will provide two downstairs master

suites as well as barrier-free showers (inset), hardwood floors, wider doors and entryways

as just a few of its accessible features.


laughing, “like laundry or card tables for entertaining. Our

grandson just loves the elevator. It’s a novelty, and he

thoroughly enjoys it.”

Upstairs, the master bathroom is all about accessibility

with its barrier-free shower with controls for the hot

water to prevent scalding, lower counter height making it

possible to wheel up and under if ever necessary and a

special toilet/bidet complete with its own remote control

bringing new meaning and ease to personal care.

The renovation was a seven-month process that required

the couple to move out for the last three months before

completion in early 2009, but they have no regrets.

“It has certainly made the house more usable and

efficient, and Lewis came in exactly on time,” says Dorothy.

Although the McFeeters didn’t need all accessibility

aspects at the time, they have already come into play

when Roger slipped off the front porch and tore his

quadriceps tendon. Going up the stairs would have been

impossible, but all of the renovations made his healing

process easier and their home completely accessible.

Remodeling their existing home made perfect sense

for the McFeeters, whereas building a new home quickly

became the most viable option for another of Sadler’s

clients, Alan and Lisa Rich of Cary.

continued page 23

“My mom died last year, and my dad moved in with us.

We looked for houses, but we just didn’t find anything with

two master suites on the first floor that would give us the

space we needed. So we decided, if we couldn’t find what

we wanted, to build it,” says Alan.

The Riches’ future home, complete on its exterior, is truly

unique and designed by Alan, a former spacecraft engineer.

It is a multi-generational house with a one-bedroom living

space on the second floor for the couple’s son and daughterin-law

and two master suites on the first floor, one for

Alan’s father and one for Alan and Lisa. The two suites are

separated by the living area and kitchen in the middle.

Their house, too, will feature bamboo hardwood floors,

barrier-free showers in both master bathrooms and one

lower counter in case the need ever arises.

“It does have most of the accessibility features, just not

the elevator. There is space, but we just didn’t need to put

it in. The apartment is accessible from a private upstairs

entrance and through the garage stairs. Aging in place

is inevitable, but we hope it’s so far down the road that it

won’t be a factor. And if we were to ever sell, the re-sale

value is good,” explains Alan.

Building a house does come with added decision-making.

“There is stress in trying to keep up with everything, but

it is a custom house. You’re going to have a house that’s

exactly what you want,” adds Alan.

The Riches are also making an effort to built their house

with green aspects in mind such as a tankless water

heater and Bosch appliances for their energy efficiency,

like an additional compact, stackable washer and dryer

unit in the master suite closet.

Technology, too, is one aspect of home design that is

always evolving for Sadler.

“The latest technology is the curbless shower (barrierfree)

which almost guarantees that they won’t leak

for a lifetime. Technology in faucets, touch- and preprogrammed

for water temperature, shower faucets that

are strong enough to be grab bars, ovens that have side

opening doors…these types of products are becoming

more and more prominent.”

Somehow through all the construction, it is simply more

about making houses homes.

“Giving people the ability to stay in their home is a pretty

big gift,” says Sadler, “and one where they’ll never have

to renovate based on needs. It gives them that freedom to

physically stay in the house as long as they want to.”

Having accessibility was a key aspect for both these

families that, now complete, gives them the ability to move

on as their lives and their aging in place plan evolves.

Natt concludes, “Seek out people you trust and

professionals that are credentialed in the area of planning

you are focused on. A plan is a step-by-step process. Take

the first step, and do not let the thought of the process as

a whole overwhelm you. Taking that first step is a step

toward having control over your future choices and aging

the way you want to age.” φ


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Planning today for tomorrow keeps You in control

People are living longer than ever before, and

that’s good news because it means we can

look forward to many more years of doing what

we enjoy during retirement—if we plan for the future.

Planning for the future should include planning for late-inlife

health care. Here’s why.

According to the Department of Health and Human

Services (DHHS), about 70 percent of people over age

65 will require some type of long-term care (LTC) services

during their lifetime, and more than 40 percent will need

care in a nursing home. On average, someone age 65

today will need some type of long-term care services for

three years—men are currently averaging 2.2 years and

for women it averages about 3.7 years.

DHHS has also identified some things that increase the

risk or make it more likely that someone would need longterm

care. Factors that put someone at higher risk include:

age: the older you get, the more likely it is that you’ll need

help with things like dressing or bathing; living alone: if

you live alone, you’re more likely to need paid care, than

if you’re married or living with a partner who could provide

assistance; gender: women are more likely to need longterm

care than men because women statistically live

longer; and personal history: health and family history

can increase the chances

you’ll need long-term care

as many health conditions

are hereditary.

Many people strongly

prefer to stay in their own

homes as they age and for

good reason due to all

the support services Planning Ahead

available today. Some

services that are

expected to show exponential industry growth over the

next couple of decades include companion personnel,

home health care, adult daycare, geriatric care managers,

chore providers, home modification construction, meal

delivery programs, respite care, faith-based support

programs, transportation services and senior centers.

Long-term care is expensive; therefore, understanding

long-term care services and the possible need for longterm

care insurance can maximize your independence.

Considering whether or not it’s appropriate for you to

purchase long-term care insurance should always be

part of late-in-life and retirement health care planning.

Potentially the biggest myth regarding LTC is that Medicare

will pay LTC expenses. While it is true that Medicare will

pay a portion of the first 100 days in a skilled nursing

facility, those first 100 days will still cost you $11,840 in

2013. After the first 100 days, you are responsible for

paying all costs beginning on day 101 and forward.

According to CareScout, which has a national database

of more than 90,000 nursing home, assisted living and

home health providers, the average cost in North Carolina

in 2012 for one year of home care (44 hours per week

from a home health aide) was $40,040. The average cost

for one year of care in a nursing home was $69,350 (semiprivate)

and $76,650 (private), and the average cost of an

assisted living facility was $34,800.

Thinking about LTC planning is difficult at best. However,

paying for LTC services out of your personal income and

resources may be even more difficult. The number of adult

children providing personal care and financial assistance

to a parent has more than tripled over the past 15 years.

Nationally, about 25 percent of baby boomers provide care to

an aging parent, and the need will continue to rise. Planning

ahead can make the golden years the best they can be.


Donner, a CRPC®, Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor,

can be reached at 919-460-6076 or Beth@DiversifiedPlanning.

com. Donner is a Chartered Retirement Planning Counselor, holds

NASD Securities Licenses 6, 63 & 65, has a Bachelor of Science

in Nursing, is licensed in LTC and is NAIC Partnership Certified.

Investing in uncertain times

Last month I went through some of the details

regarding the fiscal cliff and what it means for your

investments. I hope by the time this magazine

reaches you, Congress will have made some decisions

on how to address the economic downturn resulting from

necessary policy changes. A few important points are to:

manage risk, invest with a timeline to fit your needs and

plan for taxes.


When choosing investments, there is almost always

some risk and return trade-off. Stocks will fluctuate more

with the market and if we have a recession similar to

2008, the value could see significant drops. The investors

who lost money during the recession of 2008 were the

ones who chose to sell during the downturn or didn’t

adequately diversify. A portfolio made up of a variety of

stocks dropped, but then the value returned.

Even better is a portfolio made up of fixed investments

(such as CDs or bonds) and stock. As the fixed income

investments come due, it can allow an investor to have

cash available to add to the stock market. In March of

2009, no one wanted to put money into the stock market

because it was so low, but if you had cash available and

stuck to a habit of reinvesting or rebalancing a portfolio,

you would have earned 40 percent or more on those

investments over the remaining part of 2009. Moving

forward, regardless of expected increases or drops in the

market, create a plan and stick to it. When it’s hardest is

when you can benefit the most.


Similar to managing risk is using investments that fit

your personal needs and your financial timeline. The

investments that fluctuate the most require a longer

timeline. By knowing they are long-term investments,

you can weather the storm and end up ahead. If you

have specific cash or income needs, make sure that the

investments are moving to less volatile investments as

the income needs are nearing rather than waiting until

the last minute.

The goal is to avoid selling when investments are down.

If you’ve planned according to your income needs, there

will be money available as needed, and you can minimize

loss due to market fluctuations while still taking advantage

of being invested. Dividend-paying stocks, mutual funds

or a variety of income-producing investments can create

an income stream. In addition, a small emergency fund is

key. You should always have three to six months of living

expenses accessible to avoid selling investments at low

points in the market.



Everyone wants their investment

portfolio to perform well, but it

is your after-tax return that really

matters. If your portfolio earns you

double-digit returns aren't so great

if you end up losing 20 percent or

30 percent of them to taxes.

In periods when the return

on your investments is low,

tax efficiency takes on even

greater importance.

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Money Matters

Ways to plan for taxes include tax-harvesting (paying

taxes now to avoid higher taxes later), holding long term

(to avoid capital gains) and moving money to tax-favored

investments. A good financial advisor can look at your

current taxes and help you compare investments based

on their taxability.

Clement is a financial planner with Clement Capital Group.

She offers securities and advisory services as an investment

adviser representative of Commonwealth Financial Network®,

a member firm of FINRA/SIPC a Registered Investment

Advisor. She can be reached at 910-693-0032 or at taylor@


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How Thompson heated up the court

David Thompson is the best college basketball

player I have ever seen.

Michael Jordan is the best basketball player

I have ever seen. But he didn‘t become THE Michael

Jordan until he reached the NBA. Sure, he hit the

national championship game-winning shot for North

Carolina as a freshman. And, yes, he threw down

some spectacular dunks and gave a hint of what was

to come with some hair-raising end-of-game magic.

M.J., however, did not define or dominate the college

scene like Thompson did during his three years at N.C.

State. The Wolfpack went undefeated when D.T. was

a sophomore and won a national championship when

he was a junior.

Thompson scored 2,309 points in his career, placing

him second on the all-time N.C. State points list. That

was in just three years, as freshmen were not eligible

for varsity competition in those days. The Pack’s top

scorer, Rodney

M o n r o e ,

scored 2,551

in four years.

As a

s o p h o m o r e ,

D.T. scored

805 points

(24.7 per

game) in

l e a d i n g

State to an

u n d e f e a t e d

season (27-

0) in 1973.

The Wolfpack

went nowhere,

h o w e v e r ,

b e c a u s e



He scored

836 (26.0)

in a junior

season (30-1)

that saw State


win the 1974 national title in

Greensboro after knocking

off perennial champ UCLA in

the semifinals and handling

Marquette with relative ease in

the final.

His 838-point (29.9) senior season (22-6) ended

in disappointment when North Carolina upset the

Pack in the ACC tournament final. (Back then, only

the conference tourney winner played in the NCAA


Thompson owns the school single-game scoring

record of 57 points (vs. Buffalo State). He threw in 40

or more six times during his college career and scored

at least 30 on 25 other occasions.

In leading the Wolfpack to a 79-7 record, he was

a three-time All-American and twice was named the

national player of the year.

It is said that records speak for themselves, but they

don’t always tell the whole story. Certainly not in the

case of David Thompson.

He was simply amazing, using a gravity-defying

42-inch vertical jump to leap over tall buildings and

defenders. That enabled him to get a shot whenever

he wanted, helping him toss in short- to medium-range

jump shots and to also score around the basket.

He made the alley-oop famous, frequently slipping

behind defenses on the baseline to receive high

passes – often from Tim Stoddard or Monte Towe –

above the rim and drop the ball through the nets while

still in the air.

Drop is the operative word because dunks were not

allowed at the time Thompson played, or else his alleyoop

baskets would have been thrilling throwdowns.

D.T. seemed to score almost at will as he flew through

the air with the greatest of ease. Every time he got his

hands on the ball, the crowd held its collective breath

in anticipation of something sensational. He frequently

delivered just that.

Number 44 was electrifying. He was dynamic. In

college hoops, David Thompson was simply the

Greatest Show on Earth.

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Dorothy Lee

Editor's note: We had the honor of interviewing

Amy Grant in July 2010 when she made a trip to Cary

for a concert at Booth Amphitheatre. This month, she

returns to the region as part of the DeWitt Performing

Arts Series at Richmond Community College's Cole

Auditorium in Hamlet, Friday, Jan. 18.


new house was filled with boxes and piles of all

kinds, but the movers had left, and it was quiet now.

Vince (Gill) was sleeping on the red sofa a few feet away

from me, and I was sitting at the kitchen counter. The sun

was setting. A calm stillness lay on the place.

For no reason at all I started shuffling through a messy

stack of unfiled papers and letters on the kitchen counter.

A letter in a scribbled blue marker caught my attention

from the top of the pile. It was a request for Vince to send

a birthday greeting to a woman turning 89 years old. The

note was written by a grown daughter.

I didn’t know how old the letter was. I hadn’t seen it at

the old house, but it must have been there. I wondered

if Vince had seen it and set it aside. What was the birth

date again? I scanned the page. Today. The woman’s

mother turned 89 today.

I stuffed the note in my back pocket. Eventually I woke

Vince up, and we went to meet some friends. Later that

evening, while we were driving around town with some

unexpected time on our hands, I remembered the letter.

I took it out of my pocket and read it aloud to Vince. It

was news to him. He was as intrigued as I was by the

timing of it all – that this letter, mailed to our address, got

unearthed in the move and made it to the top of a pile just

in time for him to make the call.

Busy signal. So we decided to drive around. He kept

calling. Still busy. We kept driving. Busy. Still driving. Still

busy. This was crazy. Who doesn’t have call waiting in the

21st century?

Finally, Vince said, ”Hey, where does this woman live?

Let’s just drive by her house." We found her address.

This was getting interesting. This birthday girl didn’t even

know about the letter, so the last thing she expected was

for Vince to show up at her front door. Just as we were

turning onto her street, Vince finally got a ringing line.

He said, “Hey, I understand somebody in this house is

having a birthday. This is Vince Gill, and I just called to

say hi…No, really, it is me…Yes, it is…That’s right. And

if you’re not too busy, my wife and I thought we’d stop by

to say hello.” He hung up with a big smile, and we were

there, in front of a little white box of a house surrounded

by other small houses in a neighborhood crisscrossed

with chain-link fences.

Dorothy Lee was a tall woman, though slightly stooped.

She was made of old stock, sturdy and angular. A

wheelchair was in the middle of the front room, but she

was not in it. She was greeting us like old friends at the

front door.

When the initial shock of our arrival had passed,

Dorothy Lee showed us around her home. The front door

opened into the living room, bedroom to the left, dining

room and kitchen a straight shot from the front room.

Pictures of Vince were everywhere - a magnet on the

refrigerator, a cardboard stand-up Vince in the front room,

framed clippings on a wall. Dorothy didn’t act gooey or

silly toward Vince, but one look at her house and you

could tell that she was a true fan.

Everybody’s got a story and Dorothy Lee had a wealth

of them: Stories about her early childhood lived on a

farm in Kentucky, too rural to have a “proper” address.

Stories about the children she had raised—hers, her

grandchildren, even some great-grandchildren. Stories

about the husband she had buried 30 years ago.

Dorothy was born in 1911 and had lived in this house

most of her adult life. The neighborhood had seen a lot

of change. She grew up in a world that was completely

segregated, and she would have been in her mid-50s

during the legendary civil-rights sit-ins in Nashville.

“I’m the oldest person in this neighborhood,” she said.

“When I moved here, it was all white. Now I’m the last

one on the block.”

She told us that people had asked her if she wanted to

move. Seeming tickled to talk about it, she said, “You know,

I’m just an old woman. I don’t care what color a person’s

skin is.” We asked her if she was afraid to live alone.

“What would I be afraid of?” she replied.

Dorothy had a sharp mind and a quick wit. The time

flew by.

The conversation turned, and she began to talk about

her mother. Her love was still immediate and powerful,

even though death had separated them decades before.

As Dorothy spoke, I thought about her daughter, the one

who had written the letter to Vince. I thought about the

children that I had birthed. I thought about the threads of

need and love and care that tie us to mothers and then

I listened.

continued page 29


Senior Shorts

Amy Grant

Excerpt from her book

“Mosaic: Pieces of My Life So Far”

A collection of her

favorite memories from

her life and career.

OutreachNC • January 2013 29

Dorothy had been closer to her mother than her other

siblings had been, not because she was the favorite,

but because of unfortunate events that happened in

her childhood. For instance, one winter day while she

was playing near the hearth, she rolled too close to the

coals, and her clothes caught on fire. She was in bed for

months, her mother by her side.

A few years later, Dorothy Lee was playing with some

children in the loft of their barn, when she lost her

footing, fell to the ground, and broke her back. The long

road to recovery strengthened the special closeness

they shared, and as the years rolled by, the bond

between them held steady.

On the day her mother died, Dorothy recalled, her

world ground to a halt. She couldn’t find the energy

to do much of anything. Some days she could hardly

eat. Most days she never got out of her night clothes.

She remembered hearing bits and pieces of one-sided

conversations her husband spoke to concerned callers

from the phone in the hall: “No, this isn’t a good day.”

he would say, or, “She seems to be feeling a little better


Then one day, she said, she got up, put her clothes on,

and went about the business of living.

“How long were you in bed?” I asked, remembering an

acquaintance of mine who once stayed in bed over two

weeks because of depression.

“Oh,” she said, “I’d say two or three years, as best I

can remember.”

Two or three years! I was dumbfounded. Had her

husband ever wondered if she had lost her mind? I

asked her as much. She said, “He was a good man. You

know, you cannot rush grief.”

Really? I thought. You can on the surface. We do it

every day. Someone dies. Friends and family gather at

the graveside. Flowers are sent. Prayers are prayed.

Handwritten notes or Hallmark sympathy cards are sent.

But these days no one is allowed to check out of life for

two years. Instead, we prod and push the bereaved to

move on, to go through the motions of living. Grief has

its own timetable. What a concept. The time is takes to

heal is the time it takes.

My thoughts drifted away to a train station in Africa,

back to a time when I was visiting my friend, Jeannie,

who was teaching school in the western province of

Kenya. It was January of 1985, and we were standing on

the platform, wishing we had time to grab a warm Coke

(the only kind there was in Kenya) before our trip. No

schedules were posted we could see, and we wanted to

be on the next train.

Finding an attendant, we asked, “Can you tell us when

the train will be leaving the station?”

The tall African man in uniform said, “De train will

come up dis track. De peoples will get off de train. You

will get on. Den de train will leave.”

“I understand the process. What I need to know is the

time frame. My friend and I want to leave the station for

a few minutes. Can you tell me approximately when the

train is expected?”

Once again he explained. “See dis track? De train will

come up dis track and stop at dis station. De peoples will

get off de train. You will get on. Den de train will leave.”

We nodded and smiled. Point taken. When it happens

is when it happens.

We continued to talk with Dorothy about her life now,

what it was like, who comes by, how she spends her

time. She told us that at night when she lays her head

on her pillow, she looks back over the details of the day,

and every night she asks herself the same question: Did

I live this day in a way that honored the One who gave

me this day?

Then she turned to Vince, who was kneeling on the

floor beside her chair. Her face was so full of love and

kindness towards him (she had told him earlier in the

evening that her friends and family always called her

anytime he was on television, knowing she cared about

him like a son).

“You know why I pray that prayer, don’t you, Vince? It’s

because one day every knee will bow, and every tongue

will confess that Jesus is Lord. You know that, don’t you,


Stillness, Dorothy Lee, 89 years of life on her face,

watched Vince intently.

“Yes ma’am, I know that.” My husband wrapped his

arms around Dorothy with a strong hug. She said, “That

was nice. Could we do that one more time?”

As we prepared to leave, we told her we were

expecting a baby. She was, in fact, the first person who

heard our news. Speaking of babies made her think of

her own daughter. She explained, “Years ago, my sister,

who worked at the Department of Human Services,

called me on the phone and said, 'You’ve just got to

come down here. A family of children was dropped off

today. You’ve just got to come see then.' When I walked

in, I saw a little girl about seven months old. Do you

know, that child just raised her arms to me, just like that.

Well, I looked at my sister and I said, ‘I guess this one’s

mine.’ I brought her home and raised her.”

That rescued child was the one who had written the

letter that brought us here all these years later. φ


30 OutreachNC • January 2013

Prepare to be unprepared

The tides have shifted and we have sailed into a

new phase of the sandwich era. It is a phase you

can intellectually prepare for but for which you

CANNOT ever possibly be ready.

I have found through all the trials and tribulations you

endure as a sandwicher, you can never plan for all that is

in store for you.

Managing work, children and aging parents is difficult at

best. It is as much a blessing as a test of perseverance.

When the time comes for that parent to pass on, the

feelings, emotions and anguish are something I thought I

was prepared for, but how naive could I be?

After caring for my mother for the last few years and

having all her legal and financial matters in order, there

were things I encountered that were still unexpected. I am

writing from that perspective in hopes some of my fellow

sandwichers will be prepared to be unprepared.

The day my mother died was a normal day. I stopped

by to check on her early after my father said she wasn't

doing well. Soon, I was on my way to a work appointment

with a client. Within two hours, I had arranged for our

caregiver to help my mother to the emergency room (ER)

for what we thought was a bladder infection. I arrived at

the ER at noon, and my mother passed at 5:30 p.m.

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My first unprepared moment was

what we thought was a routine ER

visit for antibiotics and IV hydration

was all but routine. My mother

declined so rapidly that denial kicked

in. I could not seem to fathom what

went wrong, and "she is very

sick," was all I heard.


A few hours later, questions

about central lines, ventilators

and dialysis were asked. All alone at

the time and knowing my mother's final wishes, it was still

my decision to make, and I had a very limited amount of

time to make it. I didn't plan for denial. Surely, I would know

when that time was staring me in the face, but that wasn't

the case at all.

My second unprepared moment then came. Knowing

my mother's end of life wishes helped at the time but did

not make it easier for me to make those decisions. The

fleeting thought that I could buy more time or postpone

this awful event even crossed my mind. Ultimately, I did

as my mother told me in all those awkward conversations

we had previously had late at night. The flooding guilt

was not something I planned for either, and again, I was

completely unprepared.

All this (and more than I can write here) is to say that in that

moment, all else goes away. All the planning and preparedness

become moot points. While I watched my mother gracefully

pass away, I was so utterly unprepared. Nothing anyone had

ever told me before or since could have prepared me for the

heartache and changes that were coming.

It is absolutely best to prepare for the logistics in the

sandwich position. It is my hope that you can in some

way prepare yourself for the time to come even when it is

least expected and you are alone. Emotions grasp every

part of you, and you will feel things never felt before. You

will discover logistics you missed, and all the worries of

work and child rearing will fade into your subconscious.

Sadness, guilt and confusion will take over, and at some

point, grief will kick in. That has not happened for me as I

still have an another aging parent to focus on.

I truly hope all can prepare as best they can for such an

experience. Get the advanced directives like a living will,

power of attorney, etc. in place, and be sure there is life

insurance. Pre-arrange the funeral and burial if possible.

But most of all, spend all the time possible with your loved

ones, and be sure they know you love them.


Brock, a geriatric care manager with AOS Care Management,

can be reached at donnab@aoscaremanagement.com.


Book Review: Code of the Forest

Jon Buchan's "Code of

the Forest" is one of the

most intriguing books I

have read in a long time. It

deals with the question of a

newspaper reporter's obligation

to reveal his source, and it

develops the family background

of newspaper owner Wade

McNabb and that of his

attorney, Katie Stewart.

OutreachNC • January 2013 31

a former political reporter. Also

a lawyer, he has represented

numerous newspapers and

broadcasters in courtroom

battles, and in 2000, the N.C.

Press Association awarded him

the William C. Lassiter First

Amendment Award for his

"tireless efforts to defend the

Literary Circle

First Amendment and protect

the public's right to know."

Set in picturesque and

historic Georgetown,

South Carolina, the

book's plot evolves around

a chemical plant on the

coast and the power

and influence exerted by

insider politicians who are

accustomed to getting

their way.

It is a book in which you

cheer for the underdog

and hope he has the

stamina to survive what

is thrown his way by the

good ole boys of his day.

McNabb publishes an

article about the chemical

plant which tarnishes the

images of his opponents,

and they take him to

court. McNabb's father,

the editor before him,

had stood by his guns on

racial issues in the 1970s

and paid the price with

his life. Heartbreak had

characterized the young

Katie's life, also making

her a stronger, yet more

vulnerable, individual. The

book has romance, history

and political undertones.

Well acquainted

with the law and with

journalism, the author is


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OutreachNC • January 2013

Rain, sleet or snow,

lineman powers on

Harris Morrison, a lineman with Central

Electric Membership Corporation in

Sanford, has been climbing poles for 36

years to keep power service to thousands

and recently traveled to aid other electric

entities after Hurricane Sandy.


Photos by Carol Wilson, © Carol Wilson Photography

Whenever winter weather or Mother

"As far as winter weather, Central Electric

Nature pay a visit leaving power By Thad Mumau has not been affected by any major storms

Special to OutreachNC

outages in her wake, there are

since 2002," says Heather Vaughan, Central

dedicated line workers who get the call and brave the Electric's communications specialist. "That winter, there

weather to restore the power to thousands.

was a massive ice storm that took out most of our

One of these unsung heroes is Harris Morrison. The system, 17,000 members at that time. In 2000, nearby

62-year-old lineman with Central Electric Membership areas endured 23 inches of snow, which brought down

Corporation, a Touchstone Energy co-operative in the majority of our system again. Now we have 21,000

Sanford, is happy and content because of his faith, members and, hopefully, no problems ahead."

family and friends. Not coincidentally, those are also Should the need arise, Morrison and his fellow line

his priorities.

workers are standing by.

Morrison is a rarity in today’s me-first society. His focus Line workers also practice a rescue operation in case a

is on helping others and in making the best of whatever fellow worker gets hurt while atop a power pole. Required

comes his way. It’s the way he lives his life.

drills include radioing for help, strapping on full climbing

Morrison was a carpenter by trade in his younger years. gear, climbing 20 feet up a utility pole, rigging a pulley,

He built houses; in fact, he built the house he and his wife lowering a mannequin to the ground and starting CPR, all

have lived in for 27 years.

in five minutes or less.

“I enjoyed carpentry work,” he says. “Then, one day, a Electric cooperatives all over North Carolina turn

friend talked to me about working at Central Electric. He rescue practice into competition among their linemen.

was a general foreman here, and he liked it. That was 36 The lineman with the best time at each cooperative

years ago, and I’ve been here all that time.”

participates in a state contest in Raleigh.

Morrison works with hot power lines out of a bucket Morrison was there in November, having posted the

truck; the danger of high voltage is a constant companion. best Central Electric time for the rescue drill for 18 of the

Like many physicians, he is on call 24 hours a day. last 19 years.

“It has always been that way,” he says. “It’s the same “I can’t run all that fast anymore; I just kind of trot,” he

for all of us linemen. That’s what we do. The emergencies says, laughing. “I guess I just try real hard.”

we sometimes are called to during the night might involve “Everything Harris does is 110 percent,” adds Vaughan.

a car crashing into a pole or wind from a storm blowing a “He takes pride in doing his best.”

tree onto a power line.”

continued page 33

Morrison has met challenges head-on

all his life. Both of his parents, Mack

and Inona, were deaf mutes who met at

the North Carolina School for the Deaf.

Harris was born with a hearing loss.

“But it hasn’t held me back,” he says,

“not at all. It has made me try a little harder

and has made me a better listener. I want

to understand what people are telling me,

and then I want to do the right thing.”

“He gets it all and then some,” Vaughan

says. “There is no problem with Harris

following instructions. He listens closely

to hear what people say. It makes him a

better employee.”

Morrison and his wife Debbie have

been married 32 years. Their daughters,

Christie and Amy, are graduates of

Campbell University where both were

outstanding students.

Morrison has proven to be quite a

student himself. He took advantage of a

program instituted by the North Carolina

Electric Membership and became the

third person to earn an associate’s

degree of applied science in electric

lineman technology. He graduated with a

4.0 average.

Helping others gives him great joy. It is

something he does through his church

and through his job.

The deployment of crews to help in

times of emergency is part of a mutual

aid agreement shared among the

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Morrison has frequently joined in that

effort. He spent 21 days in eastern

North Carolina after Hurricane Hugo

struck. He was in Mississippi

for 15 days as a result of

Hurricane Katrina. Recently,

Hurricane Sandy sent him

to Jacksonville, N.C., and

then to Charlottesville,

Va. In addition, he did

volunteer line work as

part of mission teams

in Honduras and


He also has gone to

Juarez, Mexico the past

four years. He and others

from several churches

raised money for the

mission trips and have built

nine houses.

“I love being able to help

others,” Morrison says. “So many

people have helped me and my

parents. I have been blessed. The Lord

has blessed me beyond measure.

“I love my job, too. We’re a family here.

When we have storms and some tough

times, we all work together."

Ansel Williams, who is in his third

year at Central Electric, says Morrison is

highly respected by his fellow workers.

“Harris is well liked by everyone here.

He is one you can look up to. He has

knowledge, and he has experience. He’s

one you can trust to pass on the correct

information," says Williams. “You can

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34 OutreachNC • January 2013

Carolina Conversations

with the

North Carolina Zoo's

Rod Hackney

By Jennifer Kirby

Special to OutreachNC

For two decades, Rod Hackney

has been the public face of the

North Carolina Zoo, spreading his

passion for its mission throughout the

state. In addition to writing news releases

and magazine articles, conducting media

tours, arranging interviews and creating TV

and radio scripts, he writes, co-produces

and hosts the syndicated “The Zoo FileZ”

TV series, which is seen by more than

500,000 people each week. In 2012 the

program was selected from among more

than 6,000 international entries to win a

gold medal in the prestigious MarCom


Here, he gives us the inside scoop on the

return of the dinosaurs, the expansion of

the Rocky Coast habitat and his personal

New Year’s resolution.

ONC: As public relations manager for

the North Carolina Zoo, you have a broad

range of responsibilities. What is your

favorite part of your job?

RH: I think working with reporters and

media and convincing them that the North

Carolina Zoo is a great place to do stories


ONC: You worked for the "Greensboro

News and Record" for 10 years, correct?

RH: That’s right. I started out in sports

and then was a general assignment

reporter and then was a copy editor and

then wound up writing for the business

page my last year and a half.


ONC: How did you go from being a

newspaper journalist to being on staff with

the zoo?

RH: I actually had covered the zoo for

a period of about four years. One of my

assignments during my general assignment

career was working in their Randolph

County bureau—they have a bureau

in Asheboro—and it just so happened

that I wound up having the zoo as one

of the beats that I regularly covered.

continued page 36

Photo by John Gessner,

© John Gessner Photography


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36 OutreachNC • January 2013

Photos by John Gessner, © John Gessner Photography

continued from page 34

So I knew quite a bit about the zoo by the time they

offered me the opportunity here, and of course I

jumped at it because by that time I had pretty much

fallen in love with the place and the people and what

they were trying to accomplish.

ONC: Two gorillas were born at the North Carolina

Zoo in 2012. Who got to name them?

RH: The keepers get that honor because they are

the ones that are responsible for the day-to-day care

and have so much personally invested. That’s kind of

a reward to them for all they do to take care of them.

ONC: How did “The Zoo FileZ” come into being?

RH: Actually, that was an evolution that started

about, I think, my second year here. Initially we were

doing segments with WFMY-TV in Greensboro and

the former anchor of their morning news program,

Lee Kinard, who was there I guess for 30, 40 years,

was a big zoo fan and he approached us sometime

in my second year here about the opportunity to do a

series of segments on the zoo and asked me if I could

do them. In about 1998 or 1999, Lee Kinard retired

from the morning show, and they stopped carrying the

zoo segment. At that point, I came up with the idea

of producing our own segments with Terry Shiels [of

Sheils Productions in Charlotte] and trying to syndicate

them to stations in every market. That was really the

start of “The Zoo FileZ.”

ONC: After 15 years of weekly installments, do you

ever worry you’re going to run out of material?

RH: It’s been close a few times. Over the years, we’ve

come up with about 428 two-minute segments. But the

great thing is there’s always something happening

here, something going on.

ONC: You graduated from UNC-Chapel Hill. Are

you a North Carolina native?

RH: Yes, I actually grew up in Chatham County

right next door to Randolph County, and I still live in

Chatham. I’ve lived in Greenville, N.C., in Southern

Pines...I’ve always lived in the state.


ONC: Dinosaurs debuted at the North Carolina Zoo

last year and were such a hit. Are they scheduled to

return this year?

RH: Yes, they’ll be returning in April with a completely

different set of species that we hope people will be just

as excited about seeing.

ONC: Is there any chance they could become a

permanent fixture at the zoo?

RH: I don’t think so. These exhibits of this nature,

after the public has seen them for several years, they

tend to lose their luster as opposed to a live animal

exhibit. So I would say maybe two to three years, and

we haven’t even at this point discussed the possibility

of three years.

ONC: The zoo’s Rocky Coast habitat is undergoing

a $7.8 million renovation and expansion. When will the

polar bears return?

RH: What we’re hoping to do, at this point, we’re

going to bring back one of the two polar bears that

we own. We sent both of them away in the summer of

2011 to other zoos while construction was under way

and we’re hoping that by spring 2013 we can bring

one of the bears back and put him back in the older

part of the exhibit while construction continues on the

newer part. That being said, we’re probably not going

to complete the entire exhibit until—we’re hoping for

summer or early fall of 2014 right now.

continued page 37

OutreachNC • January 2013 37

ONC: Was that a major factor in the zoo’s decision

to expand and improve the Rocky Coast habitat?

RH: There were a variety of reasons for that. For

one, we’re hoping to become very much involved in

conservation of polar bears in the wild. … But one

of the major reasons for this expansion is to be able

to bring in a breeding collection of animals so we

could actually have baby polar bears. The long-term

conservation and breeding of polar bears in captivity

is one of the goals here. While the exhibit we currently

have was wonderful for visitors, it did not provide the

facilities needed to set up a breeding program.

ONC: Is there any official way to gauge zoo visitors’

favorite exhibit?

RH: Based on some surveys we’ve done, the polar

bears is the most popular exhibit at the zoo. I don’t

know if that’s a result of all the wonderful Coca-Cola

commercials, but they tend to be the most popular.

ONC: Did you have any New Year’s resolutions?

RH: That we do an even better job of getting people

to come to the zoo in 2013 because it’s going to be

just an outstanding year. We have just an extraordinary

number of youngsters that will be the focus of our

exhibits this year. Of course, we’ve had two baby

gorillas born, we’ve got two young chimpanzees and

expect to add two more to the collection in the spring,

and a young – not a baby any longer, but certainly very

young – giraffe, and just a number of young animals.

People that love babies are going to love coming to the

zoo in 2013. φ


38 OutreachNC • January 2013

Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

These brilliant British ladies celebrate their heritage at monthly group gatherings at

each others' homes and decorate with the Union Jack, the national flag of the United

Kingdom, for the occasion. The flag is made up of the individual flags of three of the

Kingdom's countries: England, Scotland and Northern Ireland.

Life across the pond

There is a small group of women

living in Moore County who

celebrated New Year’s Eve at 5

By Ann Robson

Special to OutreachNC

p.m. and then again at midnight. The early celebration coincides with

midnight in their home country of England. It’s one of the few obvious

things that reveal how much they sometimes miss “home.”

Most of the women have lived in several places around the world

as well as different states in America. They range in age from

20-something to 70-something. Most of them have come here

because of their husband’s job, and some ended up retiring here.

Others are likely to move again, perhaps several more times. While

they are here, they are making the very best of it. All of them say they

thoroughly enjoy the Sandhills.

It’s an informal group of kindred souls. They act as friends,

companions, sounding boards, counselors and substitute families

for each other. When they are together, they know they will be

understood if they occasionally slip back into some phrases for which

most Americans may need an explanation.

continued page 39


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Photos by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

Maggie Langley, one of the British ladies, shared a pot of hot tea at Lady

Bedford's Tea Parlour in Pinehurst in honor of January as National Hot Tea

Month. Tea, of course, is a staple for all of the ladies. PG Tips is Langley's

favorite brand. "I'm a bit traditional,' she says. "I like English breakfast tea

with milk. It's all we really drink at home." Born and raised in suburban

London, Langley enjoys the gatherings with the group. "It's like a visit home."

As with any country, even with parts of the same country,

there are different customs, slight nuances in language,

and various ways of doing things. All of the women have

adopted the “when in Rome, do as the Romans” attitude and

are enjoying getting to know some of the quirks of Southern

culture. For them, the most important thing they’ve discovered,

so far, is the warm hospitality of everyone they meet.

Americans tend to lump most of the English as being from

London, and that is one hurdle this group of women has to

overcome. It would be like English people assuming that all

Americans come from New York City.

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They recognize the assumption and usually gently

point out that they have come from places like

Lachlade in Gloucester, Portslade in Sussex, York,

Clacton-on-Sea in Essex, Abergavenny in Wales,

Waddington in Yorkshire, Virginia Water in Surrey,

Coventry, Bradford-on-Avon, Tovgnay in Dover,

Derbyshire and even a few from London.

Asked what food they missed most the unanimous

response is “a good English breakfast!” To them,

what constitutes such a breakfast is “real English

sausages, bacon, eggs, fried tomatoes, toast usually

from homemade bread, real English butter and

homemade jam.” Occasionally oatmeal made the list

as a cold weather, breakfast food.

Their choice for a perfect English dinner is either

cottage or shepherd's pie, the difference being that

cottage pie is made with beef, and shepherd’s pie

with lamb. Side dishes vary, but trifle is the choice

for dessert. That meal was served to the group when

they met at Pat Day’s home. They take turns hosting

monthly lunches.

The ladies admit that they are surprised how the

traditional American Thanksgiving dinner was very

much like the traditional English Christmas dinner.

(There is a historical theory that when the first English

settlers moved here, they rejected all things English,

yet clung to some customs such as the Christmas

feast and opted to make it their Thanksgiving feast.)

Turkey is a relative newcomer to the meal. Goose was

usually the preferred fowl. Christmas pudding with

warm custard sauce or a brandy sauce is an English

Christmas favorite. The pudding often contains a

sixpence, and the person who finds it is said to have

good luck for the coming year.

This group is also unanimous in their disgust of how

the English tabloids treat the Royal family. They feel

Rupert Murdoch has a vendetta against the Royals.

There were hints of Margaret Thatcher and the Queen at

loggerheads on several occasions but nothing definitive.

Most realize that the outgoing year was outstanding

for their country with the Diamond Jubilee of Queen

Elizabeth II and the Olympics. Some of them were

children when the young Princess Elizabeth assumed

the throne after her father’s death. Pride in hosting

a successful Olympics is expressed by all. Prince

William and Kate's baby news provides "an heir and

a spare" as well.

We wish all of them a wonderful year ahead here in

their adopted land. φ

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Grey Matter

See Grey Matter Puzzle Answers on Page 48


1. Pan, e.g.

4. Baked, in Bologna

9. Poison plant

14. Prefix with acetylene

15. Architectural


16. Be bombastic

17. Sound familiar

19. Lowest female


20. Involving two

21. “At Seventeen”

singer Janis

23. Dash lengths

24. Rent payer

26. Older

28. Act of


32. Verse in which

certain letters such as the

first in each line form a

word or message

35. “La BohËme,” e.g.

36. Anguish

37. Bender

40. Grassland

41. Shine

44. Available

47. Resort town in

northeast Florida on the

Atlantic coast

50. Appetizer consisting

of a thin slice of bread

spread with caviar or


51. Beneficial

55. “Is that ___?”

57. “Gosh!”

58. Add up

59. Tearful

61. Shad-like

North†American marine


65. Confidence game

66. Decorative jugs

67. Ed.’s request

68. Club publication

69. Prone to friendly

informal communication

70. “For ___ a jolly ...”


1. Small goat†antelope

with small conical horns

2. Heavy water, for one

3. Force units

4. People who

try to persuade by


5. Sun, e.g.

6. 20-20, e.g.

7. ___ el Amarna, Egypt

8. Large genus of

perennial and biennial

pungent bulbous†plants

9. No-goodnik

10. www.yahoo.com, e.g.

11. Military equipment

and supplies

12. Bit

13. British tax

18. Enthusiasm

22. “Aladdin” prince

25. Beanery sign

26. Attribute

27. Clairvoyance, e.g.

29. Barely beat

30. Sundae topper,


31. Indian bread

32. Blown away

33. Ball-and-socket

joint between the head

of the femur and the


34. Using again after


38. Charlotte-to-Raleigh dir.

39. Biblical birthright

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43. British unit of weight

equivalent to 2240 pounds

45. Bliss

46. Up, in a way

48. Dundee denial

49. Cave dwellers

52. Soft tissue of the body

53. Arm bones

54. Recuperation in

which the symptoms of an

acute disease gradually


55. Early pulpit

56. Set lower

60. Calypso offshoot

62. “Concentration”


63. “What’s ___?”

64. “48___”

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Ginger Brant, right, shares her quilting knowledge with SUCCEED students, and the finished quilt now hangs in Van Dusen Hall.

Quilter shares talents with SUCCEED


The Sandhills Community College

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service opportunities for SUCCEED

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Community College.Instructors admit they could not have been teaming up with SUCCEED students to

do it alone. Parents like Ginger Brant are committed to teach Spanish while strengthening their own Englishspeaking


enriching the lives of the SUCCEED students.

Brant recently spent several days with SUCCEED If you would live to volunteer your services or

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Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

The Cameo Art House Theater, built in 1914 and located at 225 Hay Street in

Fayetteville, plans its digital transition for 2013.

Go digital or go dark...

Many people enjoy the

convenience of digital

photography. The format

is relatively inexpensive when compared with oldfashioned,

35mm film cameras. It is sometimes hard

to remember the days when we sent our film out to be

developed and had to wait to see how many pictures

came out. The big movie studios want to take advantage

of the same cost-saving technology and are telling movie

theater owners that they must either convert to digital

cinema or stop running first-run movies. While this is not

a big deal for the large multiplexes, it is a serious issue

for local independent theaters.

These days, movies are often shot and edited in digital

format. Approximately 50 to 75 percent of theaters have

made the switch, but the studios have continued to print

the films to celluloid stock to ship to the 25 to 50 percent

of theaters that have not.

According to Wikipedia, to make one print

copy of an 80-minute feature film costs the

studios from $1,500-$2,500. Multiply that

by a normal 4,000-theater runs, and it is no

small charge. Even with the large number

of theaters which have converted to digital

cinema and receive the films either on hard

drives or through a secure digital line, the

cost is one that the studios no longer wish

to cover, especially when you consider that

it costs them approximately $150 per film

to produce a digital version. The studios

stand to save millions by requiring theaters

to move to a purely digital format, and the

industry expects it to be standard practice as

early as 2014.

The theaters struggling with this decision

the most are the small, local, independent

movie houses. These theaters chug along,

often operating on a very tight budget and

only running a few shows a week. Most

have only one or two screens. They are also

usually historic buildings with a great amount

of charm and appeal.

Regionally, we have a few great theaters

that fit this description—the Cameo Art House

in Fayetteville, the Sunrise in Southern Pines

and the Ambassador family of theaters in

Raleigh. In order to keep up with the times,

they have to raise $100,000 per screen to

make the conversion. Both the Cameo and

the Sunrise have turned to their dedicated

patrons to make this a reality.

The Cameo Art House Theater building

By Michelle Goetzl

has a long history in downtown Fayetteville.

Special to OutreachNC The building was home to the New Dixie, one

of Fayetteville's first motion picture theaters

which opened in 1914.

In 1998, Chris and Nasim Kuenzel and Eric Lindstrom

purchased the space and re-opened it to the public in

October 2000. The theater has 125 velvet-covered cast

iron opera-style chairs, Dolby digital sound and offers

patrons a lovely lobby lounge where they can enjoy a

glass of wine, imported beer, coffee or cappuccino.

In 2003, the Cameo added an intimate second screen

to allow the theater to show an even wider variety of films

over an extended period of time. That second screen

is making this transition to digital cinema extra hard for

them, as even though it seats only 38 people, it brings

their total cost of conversion to $198,000.

continued page 45


OutreachNC • January 2013 OutreachNC • January 2013 45

Photo by Rebecca Heeley, © English Rose Photography

The Rialto, built in 1936 and converted to a theater in 1940 and located at 1620 Glenwood Avenue in

Raleigh., is the oldest among the Ambassador family of theaters.

According to Nasim Kuenzel, there is

a loyal group of patrons who have been

very supportive of the effort. As a theater,

their financial numbers have been steadily

increasing as people become aware that

they exist. The Cameo gets to the heart of

what a small theater is all about.

As Kuenzel explains, “We try to offer a

completely different experience than the

multiplexes based on customer service

and satisfaction. We try to show the best

Hollywood has to offer, exhibit artistic

films and not cater to the mainstream

blockbusters. The theater, however, is

being forced to keep up with the times.”

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Raising the initial $99,000 is vital for the Cameo. As

of the beginning of December, they are nearly two thirds

of the way to their initial goal of $99,000. For Kuenzel,

hitting that goal will be an indication that “there is

indeed strong enough support to continue to show art,

independent, and award-winning films downtown.” If the

goal is not reached by December 31, they “will return

all documented donations and close sometime in 2013

when 35mm film becomes unavailable.”

The Sunrise theater in Southern Pines has a similar

problem of needing to raise capital funds, but with only

one screen, the total is a more manageable $100,000.

The building that houses the historic movie theater was

built in 1898 and converted into a movie theater in 1939.

Although it closed its doors in the 1980s, people in

the community did not want to see it go, and concerned

citizens raised $150,000 to purchase the building. For a

decade, The Arts Council of Moore County operated the

space as a performing arts center. When the building

was threatened again, a group of citizens concerned with

keeping the theater alive for the community launched

another campaign to save the space. Once again the

little theater that could kept running, this time being

operated by the Sunrise Preservation Group

(SPG). The SPG turned the Sunrise into a

non-profit organization and has managed

to keep it running as a vital part of

the community, showing first-run films,

and the Metropolitan Opera Live in

HD as well as being a performance

space for local organizations. They

keep costs down by showing movies

on a limited schedule and by being

primarily staffed by volunteers.

continued page 47

Photos by Rebecca Heeley,

© English Rose Photography

Sunrise Theatre's historic building was built

in 1898 and is located at 250 Northwest Broad

Street in Southern Pines. Below: Ginny Trigg signs

for the theater's UPS delivery of a 35mm film.

The Sunrise plans its digital transition this year.


OutreachNC • January 2013 47

Like the Cameo, the Sunrise has turned to its patrons

to help finance the project of converting to digital

cinema as they have turned to them in other times of

need. Former SPG President Ron Sutton has faith in

the community coming out for the theater.

"The Sunrise was saved twice by the concern

and generosity of a thoughtful and forward-thinking

community," says Sutton. "It emanates the spirit

of the South and the Sandhills, hospitality, art and


In October, the Sunrise got a boost by receiving

a $25,000 grant from the Eugene McDermott

Foundation, but they are still working

hard to gather funds. One way that

they are achieving this is by placing

an optional $1 donation on every

$7 movie ticket sold.

"Getting the funds is imperative,"

says Loretta Aldridge, current

president of the SPG. "Without

the upgrade, the theater would

be reduced to being a secondrun,

old film movie theater.”

In Raleigh, the Ambassador

family of theaters is halfway

through the switch to digital. Owner

Bill Peeples knew that the conversion

was going to happen and started saving

for it more than a year ago.

The Ambassador theaters are the Rialto, Colony,

Mission Valley Cinema and Six Forks Cinemas and

have a total of 14 screens. The theaters are all vintage

spaces that have made modern improvements while

managing to keep their old charm. The oldest of the

group is the Rialto which was built in 1936 as a grocery

store and was converted to a movie theater in 1940.

Peeples has converted the Mission Valley and Six Forks

theaters to digital and is in the process of figuring out all

of the bugs before converting the Colony and the Rialto

in April.

The patrons don't see a difference, but Peeples and

his staff have been frustrated by the process. Aside

from the large cost of converting classic movie theaters,

there is the loss of perfectly good projectors that are

now going to collect dust.

As Kuenzel says, “The equipment we have now works

flawlessly and has been the standard of the industry for

a hundred years."

Regardless, the change is coming quickly, and it is

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Oatmeal cookies

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1 cup butter, softened

1 cup packed brown sugar

½ cup granulated sugar

2 eggs

1 teaspoon vanilla

½ teaspoon almond extract

1 ½ cup flour

1 teaspoon baking soda

½ teaspoon salt

½ teaspoon cinnamon, ground

1/8 teaspoon clove, ground

3 cups oatmeal

1 cup dried apricots, cut into small pieces

1 cup cashews, chopped

Cooking Simple

Preheat oven to 350 degrees. Cream butter and

sugars in a large bowl. Beat on medium speed.

Add eggs and extracts, and beat until smooth.

Beat in all the dry ingredients, until just combined and stir

in the oats, dried apricots and nuts. Refrigerate dough for

10 minutes or up to six hours. Drop dough by the heaping

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about two inches between each cookie. Bake cookies

about 15-17 minutes until

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baking sheets for at least five minutes.

You can always substitute the dried fruit and nuts to

something more to your liking. Enjoy!

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Grey Matter Answers


A new year, a new beginning

There’s something about starting a new year that

makes you feel like you get a second chance.

There is no point considering the rate at which

New Year’s resolutions begin and are often soon forgotten,

but I’m going to offer one

Young at Heart

Fairy tales can come true,

it can happen to you

If you're young at heart.

For it's hard, you will find,

to be narrow of mind

If you're young at heart.

You can go to extremes

with impossible schemes.

You can laugh when your dreams

fall apart at the seams.

And life gets more exciting

with each passing day

And love is either in your heart,

or on its way.

Don't you know that it's

worth every treasure on earth

To be young at heart.

For as rich as you are,

it's much better by far

To be young at heart.

And if you should survive to 105,

Look at all you'll derive

out of being alive!

And here is the best part,

you have a head start

If you are among

the very young at heart.

through the lyrics of a popular

song that I think we can all

do. It’s about perspective and

being young at heart. I have

not found the fountain of

youth. We all know we can’t

turn back the hands of time

and be any younger than our

actual age. But that doesn’t

mean we need to give in and

act our age.

When I was a young girl

in Tampa, there was a very

active group at my church

called Young at Heart. This

fun group planned monthly

dances with elaborate

decorations, food and

themes and held them in

the parish hall. There was

singing, dancing, laughing

and an overall zest for life in

these gatherings.

Even though I was only

6 or 7 years old at the

time, I would never have

considered these people

old. Most participants were

50-70 years my senior, but I

only thought they were fun.

I loved going to their socials

with my mom.

What made the difference

for this group of senior

citizens to become the Young

at Heart group? Perspective.

None of them seemed to take

themselves too seriously. I

recall on Valentine’s Day that

they even crowned a king and

queen of the night. They were

a wonderful group of

people who did not

act their age, but were

very young at heart.

As I’ve grown up, I’ve

OutreachNC • January 2013 49

Sentimental Journey

realized that people who have a good sense of humor, ones

that don’t take themselves too seriously, are quick with a

kind word, are not afraid to try new things, don’t spend

much time complaining or gossiping, seem to be very happy

and youthful. Sometimes with age comes permission to be

authentic and be comfortable in your own skin. I promised

myself last year when I turned 40 that I wasn’t going to wait

until I was 80 to say how I felt or act the way I wanted.

Last month, a beloved client of mine passed away after

a long and courageous battle with Parkinson’s disease.

She lived out the sentiments of being young at heart.

Instead of focusing on her own condition and complaining,

she sought out social activities, brought a laugh and smile

to many a doctor’s waiting room, was quick with a song or

a joke and always wanted to know how you were doing. I

recall with great happiness singing "Three Little Fishies"

in her hospital room once, her belting out the Christmas

song, "Up on the Rooftop," in September and giggling.

It’s hard to be sad when my thoughts of her bring a

constant smile. Thanks, Bette, for being young at heart

and allowing me to be with you on the last three years of

your journey. You are a true role model.

As you begin your journey into 2013, I hope you'll

consider adding a resolution to become young at heart.

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It’s 2013! How did that happen? Seems that we

were celebrating the new year only a

few months ago. So that means it’s time Over My Shoulder

to trot out timeworn resolutions once again.

You know the ones: to lose weight, exercise

more and quit smoking, all good things to try

to do. But if we’ve been making them for years and keep repeating the

same ones, perhaps we’re not really keeping them.

This year, I’m going to work on my bucket list instead. (No, as far as I

know, I don’t have limited time.) Things you put in your bucket list are things

you want to do but never quite get around to it. Bucket list items should

be fun, even nonsensical. They should complete a dream you’ve had for

years, or just a few days.

I don’t plan to do any of these things in an irresponsible way, but I don‘t

rule out whimsical, spontaneous or just because I want to.

At the top of my list is visiting the state of Kansas. Kansas? Yep. It would be

the 50th state that I’ve been to, and I feel my list isn’t quite complete until I get

there. I’ve been north, east, south and west of the state but never crossed

into it. I’ve flown over it. I even have some Kansas wheat grown on the farm

of a good friend’s family. I may never get there, but it’s a goal worth pursuing.

The idea came to me in 2004 as I was returning from a trip to Newfoundland

with my niece Megan. Our birthdays are two days apart, and we’ve often

celebrated together. That year was one of those significant “0” or “5”

birthdays for both of us. As we were landing in Toronto, I blurted out, “OK,

now I’ve done all 10 provinces in Canada!” Megan wondered how many

states I’d been to, and I began to count. No matter which direction I followed,

Kansas and Oregon were never in my path. Thus was born my bucket list.

I checked off Oregon in 2009 when we went to British Columbia for a

family wedding. As it happened, it was another of those big birthdays for

me. After all the festivities were over, we drove through Washington and

crossed over to Oregon, looked around and turned to come back. The

weather was dreadful; the unbelievably long wait to cross the Canada-USA

border near Bellingham conspired to dampen my nature. My husband, who

recognizes a train wreck as it’s coming at him, pulled into one of the nicest

places we’ve ever stayed and booked us for two nights. I’m sure he was

hoping I’d be rehabilitated quickly as we still had a week to visit with his

brother and sister-in-law. It worked. Some pampering in a luxurious resort

casino can do wonders.

I’ve been very lucky and have traveled to many interesting places, but not

yet to Kansas. There are still many places to see and things to do: the Rock

of Gibraltar, Monaco, Glacier National Park, Yosemite National Park, the

Great Wall of China, riverboat on the Mississippi, take a train trip through the

Canadian Rockies, presidential libraries starting with JFK’s and some places

I haven’t even thought of yet. I’d be ecstatic if asked to drive the lead car at

the Indianapolis 500. A hot air balloon ride would be wonderful.

Most of the rest of my bucket list involves meeting special people: Willie

Nelson, Pete Seeger, Hillary Clinton, Maya Angelou, James Patterson,

Queen Elizabeth II, Michelle Obama and anyone who has tried to make

this world a better place.

Give it a try: no resolutions this year, just things you’ve always wanted to

do. Make your own bucket list.



Da Vinci Precise

Robotic Surgery

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The da Vinci system is state-of-the-art

robotic technology that gives the surgeon

precise hand movement with small surgical

incisions. The system has revolutionized

treatment for both men with early prostate

cancer and women needing a hysterectomy

or other gynecologic procedures.

Moore Regional Hospital in Pinehurst

has four board certified Gynecologists and

three board certified Urologists who have

performed more than 800 surgeries in the past

six years.

Moore Regional Hospital – precise and experienced in Robotic Surgery.

Visit www.firsthealth.org/robotics to learn more.

www.firsthealth.org/robotics www.OutreachNC.com

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