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<strong>The</strong> <strong>Winners</strong> <strong>Manual</strong>:<br />

<strong>For</strong> <strong>the</strong> <strong>Game</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong><br />

Jim Tressel with Chris Fabry

Tressel, J. (2008). <strong>The</strong><br />

<strong>Winners</strong> <strong>Manual</strong>: <strong>For</strong> <strong>the</strong><br />

<strong>Game</strong> <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong>. Carol<br />

Stream: Tyndale House.

Book Premise<br />

• Tressel shares fundamentals for success: Attitude, Discipline, Faith,<br />

Handling Adversity & Success, Excellence, Love, Toughness,<br />

Responsibility, Team, and Hope.<br />

• Peppered with personal stories from Coach Tressel’s storied coaching<br />

career, this book shares <strong>the</strong> fundamental lessons that he has been<br />

imparting to his players and coaching staffs for <strong>the</strong> past 20 years. A<br />

perfect blend <strong>of</strong> football stories, spiritual insights, motivational reading,<br />

and practical application, <strong>The</strong> <strong>Winners</strong> <strong>Manual</strong> provides an inside look at<br />

<strong>the</strong> core philosophy that has positively impacted <strong>the</strong> lives <strong>of</strong> thousands <strong>of</strong><br />

student athletes and served as <strong>the</strong> foundation for two <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> most<br />

successful college football programs <strong>of</strong> all time.<br />

• O<strong>the</strong>r features:<br />

– Each chapter closes with a practical application section, where readers will be<br />

“coached” on how <strong>the</strong>y can apply <strong>the</strong> lessons imparted throughout <strong>the</strong> book to<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir own lives, via <strong>the</strong> establishment <strong>of</strong> measurable goals.<br />

– Provides a rare inside glimpse into <strong>the</strong> mind <strong>of</strong> one <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> most respected<br />

coaches in college football history and into <strong>the</strong> huddle <strong>of</strong> one <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> most<br />

successful football programs <strong>of</strong> all time.<br />

– Filled with hundreds <strong>of</strong> inspirational stories, quotes and anecdotes.

Part I: <strong>The</strong> <strong>Game</strong> Plan<br />

Pages 3-35

Chapter 1:<br />

<strong>The</strong> Journey <strong>of</strong> Success<br />

Pages 3-15

Chapter 1: <strong>The</strong> Journey <strong>of</strong> Success<br />

• Know your Goal— “in order to thrive during that<br />

journey, we have to have a clear view <strong>of</strong> what<br />

success is, what it isn’t, and what it will take to<br />

achieve it?<br />

• It is important to keep an emphasis on <strong>the</strong><br />

journey to success that we work on each day,<br />

step by step.<br />

– <strong>The</strong> thing we should most enjoy about any endeavor<br />

is <strong>the</strong> road we travel toge<strong>the</strong>r to get <strong>the</strong>re.

Define Success<br />

• Specific long-term success goals (make<br />

millions <strong>of</strong> dollars, be CEO <strong>of</strong> a company,<br />

win a championship) are great—but its<br />

important to understand that you are not<br />

defined your goals.<br />

• Example: Dan Marino was amazingly<br />

talented and set a lot <strong>of</strong> records at this<br />

position, yet he never won a Super Bowl.<br />

However—he didn’t let his lack <strong>of</strong> a ring<br />

define himself nor did he sit back on all<br />

his records.

Define Success<br />

• SUCCESS: <strong>The</strong> inner satisfaction and peace <strong>of</strong><br />

mind that comes from knowing you did your<br />

best to become <strong>the</strong> best you are capable <strong>of</strong><br />

becoming.<br />

– This definition takes away external characterization<br />

<strong>of</strong> success.<br />

– Success is found in “peace <strong>of</strong> mind”; only you can tell<br />

yourself if you have peace <strong>of</strong> mind—have you done<br />

everything possible to achieve your best for yourself<br />

and for <strong>the</strong> good <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> team.<br />

– <strong>Life</strong> Lesson: teaches <strong>the</strong>m that through <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

performance connects directly with <strong>the</strong>ir goals, <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

purpose is tied to who <strong>the</strong>y are.

Group Success<br />

• People tend to worry more about how<br />

something affects “me,” as opposed to<br />

how it affects “us”—so it is important to<br />

focus on US!<br />

• SUCCESS: <strong>The</strong> inner satisfaction and<br />

peace <strong>of</strong> mind that comes from knowing<br />

you did <strong>the</strong> best you were capable <strong>of</strong><br />

doing for <strong>the</strong> group.<br />

– Adding FOR THE GROUP: forces us to define<br />

success in terms <strong>of</strong> what <strong>the</strong> group needs,<br />

what our team needs, what our family needs,<br />

and/or what our society or country needs!

Goal Sheet<br />

• Goals make us think: what we want and how<br />

we plan to get <strong>the</strong>re!<br />

• Goals must be specific and measurable!<br />

• It is important to let our goals spring from our<br />

purpose<br />

– out <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> purpose will flow <strong>the</strong> goals, dreams, and<br />

desires you want to accomplish!<br />

• Purpose comprises those aspects <strong>of</strong> life that<br />

define who we are as individuals and <strong>the</strong> kind<br />

<strong>of</strong> people we want to become

Chapter 1: MISCELOUNOUS<br />

• You should never be about something, it<br />

must always be for <strong>the</strong> purpose <strong>of</strong><br />

something.<br />

• It is essential to understand <strong>the</strong><br />

difference between purpose and goals in<br />

order to understanding <strong>the</strong> true definition<br />

<strong>of</strong> success.

Chapter 1: QUOTES<br />

• If <strong>the</strong> game <strong>of</strong> life ended tonight, would you be a<br />

winner?<br />


– If you do <strong>the</strong> things you need to do<br />

– When you need to do <strong>the</strong>m,<br />

– Someday you can do <strong>the</strong> things you want to do<br />

– When you want to do <strong>the</strong>m!<br />


– <strong>The</strong> first step in creating an improved future is developing <strong>the</strong><br />

ability to envision it.<br />

• Vision will ignite <strong>the</strong> fire <strong>of</strong> passion, which feels our commitment to<br />

do whatever it takes to achieve excellence.<br />

• Vision allows us to transform dreams <strong>of</strong> greatness into <strong>the</strong> reality <strong>of</strong><br />

achievement through human action.<br />

• Vision has no boundaries and knows no limits. Our vision is what<br />

we become in life.<br />

• Fame usually comes to those who are thinking about<br />

something else—Oliver Wendell Holmes

Chapter 1: QUESTIONS

Chapter 2:<br />

<strong>The</strong> Block O <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong><br />

Pages 17-35

<strong>The</strong> Block O <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong><br />

• <strong>The</strong> Block O represents a graphic organizer to<br />

help crystallize our thinking.<br />

• <strong>The</strong> O is divided into two halves:<br />

– <strong>the</strong> top is <strong>the</strong> part <strong>of</strong> our lives we consider our<br />

purpose—comprises those aspects <strong>of</strong> life that define<br />

who we are as individuals and <strong>the</strong> kind <strong>of</strong> people we<br />

want to become<br />

– <strong>the</strong> bottom half represents our goals—this is what we<br />

do, as opposed to who we are.

<strong>The</strong> Block O <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong><br />

• Top <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> Block O— define who we are as<br />

individuals and <strong>the</strong> kind <strong>of</strong> people we want to<br />

become<br />

– Personal/Family<br />

• Include family members in all that we do!<br />

• Be a positive influence on siblings!<br />

– Spiritual/Moral<br />

• Explore <strong>the</strong> aspect <strong>of</strong> faith in your life if that’s<br />

what you desire!<br />

• <strong>The</strong>re will be opportunities for you to grow<br />

spiritually if you desire to do so!<br />

– Care/Giving<br />

• With great blessing comes great responsibility to<br />

reach out and connect with o<strong>the</strong>r people!<br />

• Make a difference to o<strong>the</strong>rs!

<strong>The</strong> Block O <strong>of</strong> <strong>Life</strong><br />

• Bottom <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> Block O—this is what we do, as opposed to<br />

who we are.<br />

– Athletic/Family<br />

• What do you want to achieve as a team?<br />

• What do you want to achieve as an individual?<br />

• What is it going to take to achieve <strong>the</strong>se goals?<br />

– Strength/Fitness<br />

• Helps you to practice and participate at a high level!<br />

• Injuries and time spent rehabbing from injuries may be<br />

reduced!<br />

– Academics<br />

• Use every resources available to be your best academically!<br />

• Set a team G.P.A. goal?<br />

– Dreams<br />

• As you identify your dream, write it down!<br />

• After you write it down, make it a goal!

Chapter 2: MISCELOUNOUS<br />

• Don’t get stuck on <strong>the</strong> “PURPOSE”—focus on<br />

what you do know ra<strong>the</strong>r than what you don’t<br />

know.<br />

• Some people will default to <strong>the</strong> doing ra<strong>the</strong>r<br />

than focusing on being—too many will define<br />

<strong>the</strong>mselves by what <strong>the</strong>y do ra<strong>the</strong>r than who<br />

<strong>the</strong>y are.<br />

• <strong>The</strong> goal <strong>of</strong> community outreach is not to get<br />

good public relations for <strong>the</strong> team but to<br />

expand and enrich out players’ loves by<br />

expanding and enriching <strong>the</strong> lives <strong>of</strong> o<strong>the</strong>rs.<br />

– Entering into someone else’s pain and being able to<br />

help that person gives perspective<br />

• Writing things down—when we write things<br />

down, we begin <strong>the</strong> process <strong>of</strong> activating <strong>the</strong><br />

fundamentals in our lives.

Chapter 2: MISCELOUNOUS<br />

• MOTIVATION—urges you to think, take action,<br />

and make changes.<br />

1. FEAR motivation: says if you don’t do<br />

something, you’re going to be grounded or<br />

benched or cut or fired!<br />

2. REWARD motivation: <strong>the</strong> promise <strong>of</strong> a lollipop<br />

for obedience or pay increase for<br />

performance.<br />

3. PURPOSE motivation: provides by example,<br />


NOTE: <strong>The</strong> first two types eventually run out <strong>of</strong><br />

steam—if a player runs laps long enough, he’ll<br />

know he can run <strong>the</strong>m but will eventually ask,<br />

“What <strong>the</strong> point <strong>of</strong> all this running?”

Chapter 2: QUOTES<br />

• Nurture your mind with great thoughts, for you<br />

will never go any higher than you think.—<br />

Benjamin Disraeli<br />

• <strong>The</strong> greater danger for most <strong>of</strong> us lies not in<br />

setting our aim too high and falling short; but in<br />

setting our aim to low, and achieving our<br />

mark.—Michelangelo<br />

• Excellence is <strong>the</strong> gradual result <strong>of</strong> always<br />

wanting to do better.—Pat Riley<br />

• To be what we are, and to become what we are<br />

capable <strong>of</strong> becoming, is <strong>the</strong> only end <strong>of</strong> life.—<br />

Robert Louis Stevenson

Part II: <strong>The</strong> Big Ten<br />

Fundamentals<br />

Pages 39-241

Chapter 3:<br />

Attitude<br />

Pages 39-68


• Voltaire once said, “Paradise is where I<br />

am.”<br />

• He hit in on <strong>the</strong> head—focus and have<br />

passion about where you are at <strong>the</strong><br />

moment.<br />

– If you’re in paradise where you are—not<br />

wishing you were someone or<br />

somewhere else—that’s <strong>the</strong> right<br />



• Attitude is not a formula we can put<br />

under a microscope and make it work<br />

every time to help us win every game—<br />

we are still going to lose and still going to<br />

get upset!<br />

• <strong>The</strong> older you get, <strong>the</strong> more you’ll realize<br />

that its <strong>the</strong>ir choice what <strong>the</strong>y’re feeling,<br />

what <strong>the</strong>y’re thinking, and what approach<br />

<strong>the</strong>y’re going to take to life.<br />

• We have to chose to have a good attitude!


• <strong>The</strong>re is so much that we all have to be thankful for—we each need to be<br />

reminded <strong>of</strong> how fortunate we are!<br />

– It is a privilege to play at <strong>Revere</strong>! It is a privilege to be a student at <strong>Revere</strong>!<br />

• “It is impossible to be grateful and unhappy at <strong>the</strong> same time.”<br />

– You’re ei<strong>the</strong>r going to be grateful or unhappy. That is your choice!<br />

• Bottom <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> Block O—this is what we do, as opposed to who we are.<br />

– Athletic/Family<br />

• What do you want to achieve as a team?<br />

• What do you want to achieve as an individual?<br />

• What is it going to take to achieve <strong>the</strong>se goals?<br />

– Strength/Fitness<br />

• Helps you to practice and participate at a high level!<br />

• Injuries and time spent rehabbing from injuries may be reduced!<br />

– Academics<br />

• Use every resources available to be your best academically!<br />

• Set a team G.P.A. goal?<br />

– Dreams<br />

• As you identify your dream, write it down!<br />

• After you write it down, make it a goal!

Promise Yourself . . .<br />

To be so strong that nothing can disturb your<br />

peace <strong>of</strong> mind<br />

To look at <strong>the</strong> sunny side <strong>of</strong> everything and make<br />

your optimism come true<br />

To think only <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> best<br />

To be just as enthusiastic about <strong>the</strong> success <strong>of</strong><br />

o<strong>the</strong>rs as you are about your own<br />

To forget <strong>the</strong> mistakes <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> past and press on<br />

<strong>the</strong> great achievements <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> future<br />

To share <strong>the</strong> great achievements <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> future<br />

To give so much time to <strong>the</strong> improvement <strong>of</strong><br />

yourself that you have no time to criticize<br />

o<strong>the</strong>rs<br />

To be too large for worry, too strong for fear, and<br />

too happy to permit <strong>the</strong> presence <strong>of</strong> trouble


• “I marvel at some people in our country<br />

and around <strong>the</strong> world who possess so<br />

little compared with what we have, and<br />

yet <strong>the</strong>ir perspective is one <strong>of</strong><br />

thankfulness. <strong>The</strong>y’re grateful for<br />

something as simple as clean water or a<br />

full stomach. That tells me that whe<strong>the</strong>r<br />

we have little or much, we need to find a<br />

way to be grateful for what we do have!”

<strong>The</strong> Global Village<br />

If we could shrink <strong>the</strong> earth’s population to a village <strong>of</strong> precisely one hundred<br />

people, with all <strong>the</strong> existing human ratios remaining <strong>the</strong> same, <strong>the</strong> village<br />

would include. . .<br />

60 Asians, 13 Africans, 12 Europeans, and 15 from <strong>the</strong> Western Hemisphere,<br />

(9 Latin Americans, 5 North Americans, and 1 Oceania).<br />

50 would be female<br />

50 would be male<br />

80 would be nonwhite<br />

20 would be white<br />

67 would be non-Christian<br />

33 would be Christian<br />

20 would earn 89% <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> wealth<br />

25 would live in substandard housing<br />

67 would be unable to read<br />

13 would suffer from malnutrition<br />

33 would be without access to a safe water supply<br />

1 would die within <strong>the</strong> year<br />

2 would give birth within <strong>the</strong> year<br />

2 would have a college education<br />

24 would not have any electricity (76 that do, most use only for light at night.)<br />

4 would own a computer


• It’s one thing to say, “Year, thanks, I’m grateful<br />

and fortunate,” but its something else entirely<br />

to live gratefully.<br />

• In this age <strong>of</strong> e-mails and text messages and<br />

voice mails—a good old-fashioned hand written<br />

note speaks volumes to people!<br />

• To determine whe<strong>the</strong>r people are living a<br />

grateful life, we can look into how <strong>the</strong>y spend<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir time:<br />

– Are <strong>the</strong>y <strong>the</strong> best student <strong>the</strong>y can be?<br />

– Are <strong>the</strong>y <strong>the</strong> best son <strong>the</strong>y can be?<br />

– Are <strong>the</strong> best bro<strong>the</strong>r <strong>the</strong>y can be?<br />

– Are <strong>the</strong>y <strong>the</strong> best football player <strong>the</strong>y can be?


1. More athletes fail thorugh falty mental attitudes than in any o<strong>the</strong>r<br />

way.<br />

2. Attitudes are habits <strong>of</strong> thinking. You have it within your power to<br />

develop <strong>the</strong> habit <strong>of</strong> thinking thoughts that will result in a<br />

winning attitude.<br />

3. <strong>The</strong> foundation for <strong>the</strong> proper attitude consists <strong>of</strong> devloping <strong>the</strong><br />

habit <strong>of</strong> thinking positive thoughts.<br />

4. Tell yourself constantly that you can do something, and you will.<br />

Tell yourself you can’t, and your subconscious mind will find a<br />

way for you not to do it.<br />

5. A desire to win and a desire to prepare to win are important<br />

ingredients <strong>of</strong> winning attitude.<br />

6. Before you can scale <strong>the</strong> heights <strong>of</strong> athletic greatness, you must<br />

first learn to control yourself from within. Be your own master.<br />

Control your emotions.<br />

7. An athlete with a good attitude is coachable. He welcomes<br />

criticism, constantly seeks to learn, and avoids criticizing his<br />

coach or teamates.<br />

8. True success depends on homework, and <strong>the</strong> winning attidue<br />

puts <strong>the</strong> good <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> team ahead <strong>of</strong> anything else.<br />

9. Whe<strong>the</strong>r or not you create a winning attitude is entirely up to<br />

you—but nothing is more improtant to you on your road to <strong>the</strong><br />

winner’s circle.


• DI Athletes—ever since <strong>the</strong> 5 th grade <strong>the</strong>y<br />

have been told <strong>the</strong>y are <strong>the</strong> best.<br />

– All <strong>of</strong> that can be confusing for young people,<br />

especially if <strong>the</strong>y want to be part <strong>of</strong> a team.<br />

– With a team, now <strong>the</strong>y are told <strong>the</strong>y have to<br />

give <strong>the</strong>mselves up for o<strong>the</strong>rs<br />

• Without humility, you are left only with<br />

pride. With humility, you also have<br />



1. It ain’t as bad as you think. It will look better in <strong>the</strong><br />

morning.<br />

2. Get mad, <strong>the</strong>n get over it.<br />

3. Avoid having your ego so close to your position that<br />

when your position falls, your ego goes with it.<br />

4. It can be done!<br />

5. Be careful what you choose. You may get it!<br />

6. Don’t let adverse facts stand in <strong>the</strong> way <strong>of</strong> a good<br />

decision.<br />

7. You can’t make someone else’s choices. You<br />

shouldn’t let someone else make yours.<br />

8. Check small things.<br />

9. Share credit.<br />

10.Remain calm. Be kind.<br />

11.Have a vision. Be demanding.<br />

12.Don’t take <strong>the</strong> counsel <strong>of</strong> your fears or naysers.<br />

13.Perpetual optimism is a force multiplier.


• <strong>The</strong>re are two things that give us a<br />

chance to have a positive impact on those<br />

who agree with us and those who don’t.<br />

– First is happiness or joy—if we consistently<br />

demonstrate that we’re happy or joyful, its<br />

inviting to opel on <strong>the</strong> outside looking in.<br />

– Second is we can earn a hearing from o<strong>the</strong>r<br />

people by respecting where <strong>the</strong>y come from<br />

and listening to <strong>the</strong>ir perspective on life.


• Enthusiams is a derivative <strong>of</strong> <strong>the</strong> Greek word en<strong>the</strong>os,<br />

which means “full <strong>of</strong> spirit.”<br />

• It is through <strong>the</strong> tough times—two-a-days, losing<br />

streak, etc.—that you have to have enthusiams.<br />

• <strong>The</strong>re are three types <strong>of</strong> people, which one are you:<br />

– Those who make things happen,<br />

– Those who watch things happen,<br />

– And those who say, “What happened?”<br />

• People who get enthused have no problem humbling<br />

<strong>the</strong>mselves to become part <strong>of</strong> a team.<br />

• And <strong>the</strong>re are times when you have to lie to yourself<br />

and show a little more enthusiams than you feel—that<br />

is human nature.<br />


Chapter 3: QUOTES<br />

• Most people are about as happy as <strong>the</strong>y make<br />

up <strong>the</strong>ir minds to be.—Abraham Lincoln<br />

• If you see no reason for gicving thanks, <strong>the</strong><br />

fault lies within yourself.—Tecumseh<br />

• Earth produces nothing worse than an<br />

ungrateful man.—Ausonius<br />

• We each have a choice: to approach life as a<br />

creator or a critic, a lover or a hater, a giver or a<br />

taker.—Unknown Author<br />

• Your life is ei<strong>the</strong>r a celbration or a chore. <strong>The</strong><br />

choice is yours.—Unknown Author

Chapter 3: QUOTES<br />

• If we were humble, nothing would change us—<br />

nei<strong>the</strong>r praise nor discouragment.—Mo<strong>the</strong>r<br />

Teresa<br />

• Flaming enthusiams, backed by horse sense and<br />

persistence, is <strong>the</strong> quality that most frequently<br />

makes for success.—Dale Carnegie<br />

• I AM ONLY ONE —Edward Everett Hale<br />

– I am only one, but I am one.<br />

– I can’t do everything, but I can do something.<br />

– And what I can do, I ought to do.<br />

– And what I ought to do, by <strong>the</strong> grace <strong>of</strong> God, I shall<br />



1. Do you think it’s really true that we can alter<br />

our lives by altering our attitude? How might<br />

this happen in your life?<br />

2. What’s it like being around people who are<br />

grateful? What about people who aren’t<br />

grateful? How do <strong>the</strong>y make you feel?<br />

3. Who is <strong>the</strong> most humble person you know?<br />

What aspects <strong>of</strong> that person’s life do you want<br />

to emulate today?<br />

4. Do you feel a lack <strong>of</strong> enthusiasm for some part<br />

<strong>of</strong> your work? Whey do you feel that way, and<br />

how can you remedy <strong>the</strong> situation?


1. Personal/Family: Think <strong>of</strong> someone in your immediate family<br />

with whom you have a difficult time relating. How could a<br />

change <strong>of</strong> your attitude toward this person help change <strong>the</strong><br />

climate in your home? What specific thing can you do to help<br />

achieve that today?<br />

2. Spiritual/Moral: Cultivate your gratitude to God today by<br />

making a list <strong>of</strong> things you’re thankful for that you would not<br />

have if it were not for God’s presence in your life. Share <strong>the</strong> list<br />

with someone you love.<br />

3. Caring/Giving: Who in your life has been your greatest “sideline<br />

encourager”? Encourage that person with a note or a phone call<br />

today.<br />

4. Health/Fitness: How might a change <strong>of</strong> attitude attract <strong>the</strong> way<br />

you care for your body? Put that into practice today by doing<br />

something new, or continue doing something to which you’ve<br />

committed.<br />

5. Your Team: Is <strong>the</strong>re someone on your team who needs a sideline<br />

that’s alive? How can you show you’re full <strong>of</strong> spirit for that<br />

person today?<br />

6. Academics/Career: If an attitude <strong>of</strong> gratitude takes practice,<br />

how can you practice that fundamental with those in your school<br />

or work life? Consider keeping a “gratitude notebook” that you<br />

can refer to <strong>of</strong>ten to help you focus on this discipline.

Chapter 4:<br />

Discipline<br />

Pages 69-88


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