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<strong>November</strong> 2006 • www.staugcatholic.org<br />

<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

ASK FATHER JOE p.8<br />

is cremation okay?<br />


MATTERS p.12<br />

how to make blende<br />

families work<br />

WORK LIFE p.28<br />

knowing when to<br />

switch jobs<br />


overcoming<br />

addiction to<br />

pornography p. 6<br />


restoring hope for<br />

grieving youth p. 16<br />


the pigskin<br />

pastor p. 24<br />

At the Hour of<br />

Our Death<br />


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their parish on the feast<br />

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original contributions stay<br />

invested and grow to help<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Catherine’s continue<br />

Christ’s work forever.<br />

Today’s small sacrifices<br />

can fulfill great future<br />

dreams.<br />

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<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

contents<br />

<strong>November</strong> 2006 Volume XVI Issue 4<br />

The <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> <strong>Catholic</strong> is the official magazine of the Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>,<br />

which embraces 17 counties spanning northeast and north central Florida from the<br />

Gulf of Mexico to the Atlantic Ocean. The diocese covers 11,032 square miles and<br />

serves about 164,000 registered <strong>Catholic</strong>s.<br />


features<br />

18<br />

Cover <strong>St</strong>ory: At<br />

the Hour of Our<br />

Death The <strong>Catholic</strong> funeral<br />

ritual is one of the church’s<br />

greatest gifts, celebrating<br />

our belief in forgiveness and<br />

resurrection. The church<br />

lovingly opens its doors<br />

to the departed and their<br />

family and friends. Discover<br />

why it is so important to<br />

plan now rather than later<br />

for the hour of our death.<br />

– Julie Conrey<br />

16<br />

Restoring Hope to<br />

Grieving Youth There is<br />

hope for youth who suffer the loss<br />

of a parent or loved one. Read about<br />

one ministry that provides a bridge<br />

to emotional healing for children,<br />

adolescents and adults confronting<br />

death, divorce or other painful family<br />

transition. – Tom Tracy<br />


Profile: Father<br />

24 Tom Willis<br />

Ordained in 1984, read<br />

how Father Tom Willis<br />

discerned his call to the<br />

priesthood and what<br />

keeps him grounded as<br />

he tends to the needs of<br />

his parish, the diocese<br />

and the Jacksonville<br />

Jaguars. – Kathleen Bagg-Morgan<br />

what you’ll get<br />

out of this issue<br />

4 editor’s notes<br />

Remembering Our Deceased Loved Ones<br />

– Kathleen Bagg-Morgan<br />

5 saint of the month<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Peter Wu Gousheng – Elizabeth Johnson<br />

6 bishop’s message<br />

Breaking the Shackles of Pornography<br />

Addiction – Bishop Victor Galeone<br />

7 from the archives From Potano to<br />

Pluto – Michael Gannon, Ph.D.<br />

8 in the know with Father Joe<br />

Is Cremation Okay? – Father Joseph Krupp<br />

9 this month in history When was<br />

the Sistine Chapel ceiling revealed to the<br />

public?<br />

10 theology 101 Funeral Liturgies<br />

– Elizabeth Solsburg<br />

12 your marriage matters Making<br />

blended families work – Deb McCormack<br />

13 parenting journey Coping with the<br />

loss of a baby – Dr. Cathleen McGreal<br />

14 spiritual fitness The Death of Grief<br />

– Father Bill Ashbaugh<br />

22 parish profile Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> – Shannon Scruby-Henderson<br />

26 around the diocese<br />

28 work life Knowing when to switch<br />

jobs – Tim Ryan<br />

29 last word Heaven, Hell and<br />

Purgatory – Father Charles Irvin<br />

30 calendar of events<br />

14<br />

<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> <strong>Catholic</strong> <strong>November</strong> 2006 3<br />

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<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

The Magazine of the Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

Most Rev. Victor Galeone<br />


Kathleen Bagg-Morgan<br />

EDITOR<br />

Susie Nguyen<br />


Patrick McKinney<br />


Father Bill Ashbaugh<br />

Julie Conrey<br />

Michael Gannon, Ph.D.<br />

Father Charles Irvin<br />

Elizabeth Johnson<br />

Father Joseph Krupp<br />

Deb McCormack<br />

Dr. Cathleen McGreal<br />

Tim Ryan<br />

Shannon Scruby Henderson<br />

Elizabeth Solsburg<br />

Tom Tracy<br />


Tom Gennara<br />

Scott Smith<br />


Jonathan Sion<br />


InnerWorkings<br />


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editor’s notes<br />

remembering our loved ones<br />

who are deceased<br />

by Kathleen Bagg-Morgan<br />

On Nov. 1 and 2, the <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Church celebrates All Saints Day<br />

and All Souls Day respectively.<br />

The purpose of these feasts is to<br />

remember those who have died, whether the<br />

church officially recognizes them as saints or<br />

not. It is a celebration of the “communion of<br />

saints,” which reminds us that the church is<br />

not bound by space or time.<br />

The Catechism of the <strong>Catholic</strong> Church says<br />

that through the communion of saints “a<br />

perennial link of charity exists between<br />

the faithful who have already reached their<br />

heavenly home, those who are expiating<br />

their sins in purgatory and those who are<br />

still pilgrims on earth. Between them there<br />

is, too, an abundant exchange of<br />

all good things.” (#1475)<br />

Our cover story, At the Hour<br />

of Our Death, provides readers<br />

a guide to planning a <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

funeral. Granted it is a subject<br />

that no one wants to talk<br />

about, but like taxes<br />

– death is inevitable.<br />

Most people are<br />

unsure of how to<br />

go about planning<br />

a funeral that<br />

will honor both the<br />

deceased and the living,<br />

and their faith as <strong>Catholic</strong>s.<br />

Planning a funeral for a<br />

loved one who has just died<br />

can be very stressful and full<br />

of anxiety. And it is especially<br />

difficult to pay attention to all<br />

the tasks at hand when you are<br />

vulnerable and grieving.<br />

As <strong>Catholic</strong>s we are blessed to<br />

have a funeral liturgy that is full<br />

of symbol and ritual that provides<br />

comfort for the families and friends of<br />

the deceased. The Order of Christian<br />

Funerals reminds us that, “At the<br />

death of a Christian, whose life of<br />

faith was begun in the waters of baptism and<br />

strengthened at the Eucharistic table, the<br />

Church intercedes on behalf of the deceased<br />

because of its confident belief that death<br />

is not the end nor does it break the bonds<br />

forged in life. The Church also ministers<br />

to the sorrowing and consoles them in the<br />

funeral rites with the comforting word of God<br />

and the sacrament of the Eucharist.”<br />

This issue of the magazine also addresses<br />

the question of cremation for <strong>Catholic</strong>s.<br />

Father Joseph Krupp in his column on page<br />

8 talks about the teachings of the church<br />

on cremation and three things to avoid<br />

with Christian burial. Cremation and the<br />

funeral liturgy are discussed further in our<br />

cover story on page 18.<br />

Father Bill Ashbaugh in his column,<br />

Spiritual Fitness, provides consolation for<br />

those who are grieving. He provides<br />

concrete ways for overcoming grief. And<br />

on page 16, writer Tom Tracy introduces<br />

readers to the Rainbows Ministry that<br />

reaches out to children and teens<br />

who are suffering the loss of a<br />

parent due to divorce or death.<br />

There are several parish-based<br />

Rainbows support groups for<br />

youth, including a ministry at<br />

Bishop Kenny High School in<br />

Jacksonville.<br />

<strong>November</strong> 5 is <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Cemetery Sunday. The <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Cemeteries Office of the Diocese<br />

of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>, invites all<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong>s to profess their faith<br />

that death is not the end and<br />

that the body will be raised by<br />

visiting a <strong>Catholic</strong> cemetery<br />

during the month of <strong>November</strong>.<br />

Visit your family, friends,<br />

neighbors and fellow <strong>Catholic</strong>s<br />

with whom you were united in<br />

life. Pray for them, talk with them<br />

and celebrate that Jesus is the<br />

resurrection and the life.<br />

– Kathleen Bagg-Morgan, editor<br />

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saint<br />

saint of the month<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Peter Wu Gousheng by Elizabeth Johnson<br />

a catechist in China<br />

A Family Funeral Home &<br />

Cremation Centre<br />

Born: 1768<br />

Died: Nov. 7, 1814<br />

Feast Day: Nov. 7 (also Sept. 28 as one<br />

of the Martyrs of China)<br />

Claim to Fame: One of the<br />

“Martyrs of China,” a large group<br />

of Chinese natives and European<br />

missionaries who died for their faith<br />

over a three-century period, Peter Wu<br />

Gousheng was a lay catechist in the<br />

Szechuan region of China. He taught<br />

Christianity to more than 600 converts,<br />

including many visitors to the inn he<br />

operated.<br />

Little-known fact: Even before Peter<br />

Wu converted to Christianity when he was<br />

28, he was known in his community for<br />

his sense of justice, his care of the poor<br />

and his enthusiastic and outspoken nature.<br />

When he embraced <strong>Catholic</strong>ism, he<br />

approached his faith as enthusiastically as<br />

he did everything else in his life, throwing<br />

away his household idols and preaching to<br />

anyone who would listen.<br />

What made him a saint: Peter<br />

was baptized in 1796 and spent the<br />

next 18 years teaching others about<br />

Christ. Even when a new emperor who<br />

was unfriendly to Christianity<br />

took over as ruler of China,<br />

Peter Wu did not back down<br />

from teaching and preaching.<br />

When he was tortured, he<br />

refused to renounce his faith;<br />

instead, he encouraged and<br />

inspired his fellow prisoners. He<br />

continued to proclaim his belief<br />

in Jesus Christ even as he was<br />

martyred.<br />

Lowest/scariest moment:<br />

In 1813, Emperor Kia-Kin<br />

published a decree forbidding<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong>ism, but offered pardons<br />

to anyone who would renounce the<br />

faith. Those who would not commit<br />

apostasy, however, would be<br />

tortured and killed. Under this law,<br />

Peter Wu was arrested and imprisoned<br />

on April 3, 1814, and tortured<br />

repeatedly to persuade him to renounce<br />

Christianity. Instead of breaking his will,<br />

Peter Wu used his time in prison to lead<br />

prayer services for other prisoners.<br />

Best quote: “Be loyal to the Lord,<br />

and accept his will.”<br />

How he died: One of the Martyrs<br />

of China, Peter Wu was condemned to<br />

death for refusing to step on a crucifix. He<br />

was executed by strangulation on Nov. 7,<br />

1814. In his dying words, he proclaimed,<br />

“Heaven, heaven, my true home! I see my<br />

heavenly mother and my guardian angel<br />

coming to take me home.”<br />

Prayer: <strong>St</strong>. Peter Wu, you held<br />

steadfast to your faith even though you<br />

knew that you would die for your beliefs.<br />

Help us to find the courage to boldly<br />

proclaim our commitment to Christ Jesus<br />

and to share his message with others as<br />

you did. Help us to generously support<br />

the work of missionaries who preach the<br />

Gospel in lands hostile to Christianity, so<br />

that more souls will be brought to God<br />

through his Son, Jesus Christ. Amen.<br />




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from the bishop<br />

Breaking the Shackles of Pornography<br />

Addiction<br />

by Bishop Victor Galeone<br />

This past Sept. 19th, I flew to Saginaw, Mich. to attend a two-day<br />

workshop dealing with pornography, hosted by the local bishop, Robert<br />

Carlson. The issue is so critical that I feel the need to share some of my<br />

concerns with you.<br />

First, permit me to list some cold statistics:<br />

•<br />

•<br />

•<br />

•<br />

•<br />

Sex is the #1 search topic on the Internet.<br />

4.5 million pornographic websites are available today (1.3 million<br />

in 2003).<br />

More than 68 million persons, mostly men, have accessed a<br />

pornographic site so far in 2006.<br />

Boys, ages 12-17, are among the largest consumers of<br />

pornography (90% view online porn while doing their<br />

homework).<br />

Rape statistics are proportionately higher in those states with<br />

higher pornography sales.<br />

Why this recent explosion of accessing pornography on the Internet?<br />

In 1995, Philip Elmer Dewitt wrote an article for Time magazine where<br />

he described the allure of online porn:<br />

“… pornography is different on the computer networks. You can<br />

obtain it in the privacy of your home – without having to walk into a<br />

seedy bookstore or movie house. You can download only those things<br />

that turn you on, rather than buy an entire magazine or video. You can<br />

explore different aspects of your sexuality without exposing yourself to<br />

communicable diseases or public ridicule.”<br />

In short, easy access, anonymity and affordability have made Internet<br />

porn more popular and seemingly less dangerous than previous means of<br />

sexual experimentation.<br />

I stress “seemingly” because the reality is far otherwise. Recent<br />

psychological studies have shown that as little as a dozen combined<br />

hours of surfing pornographic sites on the Internet can lead to addiction:<br />

•<br />

•<br />

•<br />

This addictive disorder closely resembles pathological gambling.<br />

Pornographic images viewed online cause the release of<br />

epinephrine into the brain that chemically burns the pictures into<br />

one’s permanent memory.<br />

This chemical change in the brain is more difficult to eradicate<br />

than a cocaine addiction.<br />

The New York Times of May 15, 2000, carried the story of a 34-yearold<br />

woman who discovered that her husband, a minister, had an online<br />

porn habit. “How can I compete with hundreds of anonymous others<br />

who are now in our bed, in his head? Our bed is crowded with countless<br />

faceless strangers, where once we were intimate.”<br />

On Jan. 24, 1989, Ted Bundy, the infamous serial killer, was executed<br />

in Florida <strong>St</strong>ate Prison. Before being apprehended, Bundy had killed at<br />

least 28 young women and girls in ways too horrible to contemplate.<br />

The day before he was executed, Bundy granted an interview to Dr.<br />

James Dobson, a professional psychologist, who founded the Focus on<br />

the Family ministry. This is a segment from that interview, where Bundy<br />

describes for Dr. Dobson how his criminal behavior began:<br />

Ted: “I grew up in a wonderful home with two dedicated and loving<br />

parents, as one of five brothers and sisters. We, as children, were the<br />

focus of our parents’ lives. We regularly attended church. My parents did<br />

not drink or smoke or gamble. There was no physical abuse or fighting<br />

in the home…<br />

“As a young boy of 12 or 13, I encountered…in the local grocery and<br />

drug stores, soft-core pornography…From time to time, I would come<br />

across books of a harder nature – more graphic…The most damaging<br />

kind of pornography is that which involves violence and sexual violence.<br />

The wedding of these two forces – as I know only too well – brings about<br />

behavior that is too terrible to describe.”<br />

The full transcript of this interview may be found on www.<br />

pureintimacy.org. This site, by the way, has some outstanding articles<br />

dealing with pornographic addiction.<br />

There are a number of criteria for Internet addiction. The addict:<br />

1.<br />

2.<br />

3.<br />

4.<br />

5.<br />

6.<br />

Is preoccupied with the Internet (eagerly anticipating the next<br />

online session).<br />

Has attempted to control Internet use – to no avail.<br />

Uses the Internet to escape problems, depression, anxiety or guilt.<br />

Repeatedly stays online longer than originally intended.<br />

Has lied to family members or others about the extent of<br />

Internet use.<br />

Has risked the loss of a significant relationship, job or educational<br />

opportunity because of Internet use.<br />

Some years ago, a public service ad aired on many TV stations after<br />

10 p.m. on weekends. It simply asked, “Parents, do you know where<br />

you son or daughter is right now?” It might be good if parents would ask<br />

themselves periodically, “Do I know where my son is right now while<br />

he’s doing his homework on the computer?”<br />

I would like to close with two quotes from Holy Scripture. The first<br />

is from the letter of James, 1:13-15: “When tempted, no one should say,<br />

‘God is tempting me.’ For God cannot be tempted nor does he tempt<br />

anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is<br />

dragged away and enticed. Then, after desire has conceived, it gives birth<br />

to sin; and sin, when it is full-grown, gives birth to death.”<br />

And the second quote is from the Sermon on the Mount. It indicates<br />

one of the ways to find true happiness. “Blessed (= happy) are the pure of<br />

heart, for they shall see God.” (Mt. 5:8)<br />

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ac archives<br />

The Franciscan ministry to the interior<br />

Apalachee tribes of Florida was effectively<br />

destroyed by the English assault from<br />

Carolina in 1704. Two years later, Englishsponsored<br />

Creek Indian raiders swept<br />

through the western Timucuan missions<br />

farther south, including San Francisco de<br />

Potano, near present-day Gainesville, where<br />

for a full 100 years the gospel of the Prince<br />

of Peace had been proclaimed.<br />

In 1704, 400 <strong>Catholic</strong> refugees from<br />

the Apalachee mission town of San Lorenzo<br />

(<strong>St</strong>. Lawrence) de Ivitachuco had fled<br />

south with their leader Don Patricio (Patrick)<br />

Hinachuba to seek shelter near San<br />

Francisco, where the resident Potano tribe<br />

belonged to the Timucua nation.<br />

But Potano remained secure for fewer<br />

than two years. During the winter of 1705-<br />

1706 the Ivitachuco Apalachees were<br />

besieged by Creeks, mission San Francisco<br />

was laid waste, and Don Patricio was forced<br />

to take his people east to <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>,<br />

where they settled within a musket shot of<br />

the Spanish coquina rock castle Castillo de<br />

San Marcos.<br />

At <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> the refugees received<br />

the consolations of religion from Franciscan<br />

friars resident in the city. But over time their<br />

identities as Apalachees diminished. This<br />

was owed to the fact that their band included<br />

disproportionately more men than women.<br />

The Apalachee sons were forced to seek<br />

wives among the Timucua. By 1763, when<br />

Florida was ceded by treaty to Great Britain,<br />

of the 89 surviving Christian Indians at <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> who elected to sail for Cuba with<br />

the Spaniards, only five were identified as<br />

Apalachee. In Cuba the Christian converts<br />

were settled in the Havana suburb of<br />

Guanabacoa. Within a year many were<br />

dead, possibly from communicable diseases<br />

to which they had no acquired immunities.<br />

Returning attention to Potano, the<br />

Florida Indian province where Mission<br />

San Francisco once stood: The mission’s<br />

location eight miles northwest of today’s<br />

Gainesville was first suggested in the 1950s<br />

by archaeologists at the University of Florida.<br />

from the archives<br />

From Potano to Pluto<br />

by Michael Gannon, Ph.D.<br />

A Timucuan Eagle War Chief<br />

painted by Theodore Morris of <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong>, Fla. His distinctive eagle<br />

headdress, brutal war club, pearl<br />

beads and shiny copper ornaments<br />

indicate his status as a war leader.<br />

Early this year, with funding from the <strong>St</strong>ate of<br />

Florida, UF archaeologist Kathleen Deagan,<br />

Ph.D. and her assistant Gifford Waters,<br />

Ph.D., undertook an intense subsurface<br />

survey of the site – I am the historian on<br />

the team. On last January 19th Dr. Deagan<br />

called me with the exciting news that Dr.<br />

Waters had unearthed a shard from a<br />

Spanish olive jar – first confirmation (among<br />

many more confirmations to follow) that we<br />

were on the mission grounds.<br />

I drove to the survey site where Dr.<br />

Deagan examined the shard closely, and<br />

then placed it in my right hand. The time<br />

was 2 p.m. While I turned the shard over<br />

and around with my fi ngers, I chanced to<br />

look up at the southeast horizon where a<br />

thin white contrail marked the ascending<br />

path of a rocket from Cape Canaveral. Dr.<br />

Waters observed, “That’s the rocket that’s<br />

going to Pluto.”<br />

After a moment’s silence Dr. Deagan said,<br />

“From Potano to Pluto – in<br />

400 years.”<br />

The emotions we three<br />

shared were those of<br />

wonder and awe.<br />

Michael Gannon, Ph.D.<br />


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fr. joe<br />

in the know with Fr. Joe<br />

Dear Father Joe: Is cremation<br />

OK? Why is it a teaching to keep<br />

bodily remains together, unless you<br />

are a potential saint and then they<br />

divide you up?<br />

In order to hit this question rightly, we<br />

need to start with what the catechism<br />

says about cremation, “The church<br />

permits cremation, provided that it<br />

does not demonstrate a denial of faith in the<br />

resurrection of the body.” (CCC 2301)<br />

So, the church accepts cremation. Why? To<br />

put it bluntly, when we die, our bodies become<br />

subject to the laws of nature. The results of the<br />

process of cremation are the same result that<br />

time will basically have on us. With cremation,<br />

the primary concern is that our faith in the<br />

resurrection of the body is maintained.<br />

How do we know that faith in the<br />

resurrection is maintained? This one is hard to<br />

judge in others; we can usually only tell about<br />

our own belief. A key is that we avoid saying<br />

or doing things that indicate that the deceased<br />

body is “just a shell.” We treat that body as<br />

sacred. Let’s look at some things to avoid,<br />

then, if we are going to go with cremation for<br />

our burial or the burial of a loved one:<br />

3 things to avoid with Christian<br />

burial:<br />

1 “It’s just a shell.” I hear this a lot, but<br />

as <strong>Catholic</strong>s, we have to remember that<br />

it is not true. Our bodies are destined for<br />

great things in the kingdom of heaven<br />

– God made them sacred. Treat them<br />

that way.<br />

2 Scattering of ashes: We need to<br />

avoid this. We must treat the deceased<br />

body as we would a non-cremated body.<br />

The ashes must be placed in a single<br />

container and buried in a columbarium or<br />

graveyard.<br />

3 Wearing of the ashes: I know that some<br />

have taken the ashes of their beloved dead<br />

and placed them in amulets that they wear.<br />

Again, this is not the way we would treat<br />

the body of one who was not cremated, so<br />

we don’t do it to one who is.<br />

So, what if we have done one or more of<br />

these things already? Keep in mind a really<br />

simple premise – God does not judge us<br />

for what we do not know. All of us have<br />

made mistakes in ignorance and without<br />

My buddy Will and I were<br />

discussing what we wanted<br />

done when we died. I want an<br />

inscription on my tombstone that<br />

reads, “Pardon me for not getting<br />

up.” I thought that was pretty<br />

funny until Will told me he wants<br />

T-shirts distributed at his funeral<br />

that say, “Will died and all I got<br />

was this lousy T-shirt.”<br />

Somehow, I don’t see either of<br />

those things actually happening.<br />

evil intent. I truly can’t imagine anyone,<br />

out of malice, treating the dead in a way<br />

the church tells us we shouldn’t. So, as<br />

God asks us to do every day of our lives,<br />

we learn from our errors and accept God’s<br />

wonderful, loving and freely given mercy.<br />

In light of all this, then, how do we as a<br />

church justify “dividing up” the bodies of<br />

saints and sending them out as relics?<br />

The first place to look is the Bible: There<br />

are a few references to God granting miracles<br />

through the relics of holy people. (cf II Kings<br />

13:10-21; Acts 19:11-12) In II Kings, we hear about<br />

the bones of Elisha bringing a dead man to life<br />

and in Acts, a touch of Paul’s handkerchiefs<br />

healed the sick and drove out demons.<br />

With that history, early Christians were<br />

quite fond of relics from the saints being<br />

held up to veneration. How did they justify<br />

what appeared to be the mutilation of a<br />

corpse? The idea is similar to that of organ<br />

donation, which the catechism praises<br />

– “Organ donation after death is a noble and<br />

meritorious act and is to be encouraged as an<br />

expression of generous solidarity.” (CCC 2296)<br />

As long as the sacredness of the body<br />

is preserved, we are allowed – and even<br />

encouraged – to give up our organs to save<br />

people’s lives.<br />

In the same way, the bones of saints have<br />

many potential benefits for us – they link us<br />

to the church<br />

of all ages and<br />

the veneration<br />

of relics has the<br />

potential to draw us closer to Christ. Because<br />

of these benefits, and with a strong belief in<br />

the resurrection of the body, the church does<br />

allow us to “divide up” our beloved saints to<br />

help us grow in holiness.<br />

I will close with a quote from <strong>St</strong>. Jerome:<br />

“We do not worship, we do not adore, for<br />

fear that we should bow down to the creature<br />

rather than to the Creator, but we venerate<br />

the relics of the martyrs in order the better to<br />

adore him whose martyrs they are.” (<strong>St</strong>. Jerome,<br />

Letter to Riparius)<br />

Enjoy another day in God’s presence!<br />

– Father Joseph Krupp<br />

Send your questions to:<br />

“In the Know with Father Joe”<br />

<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

11625 <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> Road<br />

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ynotes<br />

history<br />

this month in<br />

history:<br />

the Sistine Chapel<br />

ceiling was first<br />

revealed to the public<br />

in what year?<br />

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Michelangelo’s breathtaking artwork<br />

on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel in<br />

Rome was first exhibited to the public<br />

on Nov. 1, WHAT YEAR? The artwork<br />

consists of nine panels, each depicting a<br />

different milestone in biblical history.<br />

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He may not be as fast as Speedy<br />

Gonzalez, but he is certainly just as wellloved!<br />

Walt Disney debuted his soon<br />

to be internationally beloved cartoon<br />

icon, Mickey Mouse, on Nov. 3, WHAT<br />

YEAR?<br />

Marking the beginning of the United<br />

<strong>St</strong>ates’ commitment to fundamental<br />

rights, the Articles of Confederation were<br />

drafted on Nov. 17, WHAT YEAR?<br />

Developed by the mere 13 states<br />

in existence at the time, the articles<br />

became the basis for the United <strong>St</strong>ates<br />

Constitution.<br />

“Four score and seven years ago”<br />

… Abraham Lincoln delivered the oftenquoted<br />

Gettysburg Address on Nov. 19,<br />

WHAT YEAR? Lincoln dedicated the<br />

site of one of the most noted battles of<br />

the Civil War, the Battle of Gettysburg,<br />

as a national cemetery in his famous<br />

two-minute speech.<br />

Answers: 1512, 1928, 1777, 1863<br />

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theology<br />

theology 101<br />

funeral liturgies<br />

a step-by-step guide through the church’s liturgies by Elizabeth Solsburg<br />

The death of someone we love is one<br />

of life’s most heart-rending moments.<br />

We are often numb with shock and<br />

filled with grief. The <strong>Catholic</strong> Church’s<br />

funeral liturgies offer mourners consolation, hope<br />

and faith in the resurrection. They usually occur in<br />

three parts: the vigil, the Mass of Christian Burial,<br />

and the rite of committal or graveside service.<br />

who’s in the sanctuary?<br />

Cantor: The cantor is the liturgy’s chief singer. In monastic<br />

choirs, this was an offi ce of high honor and the cantor often carried<br />

a staff to indicate rank. The cantor leads the congregation in song,<br />

frequently proclaiming the verses of the responsorial psalm. You may<br />

see the cantor move to the ambo for the proclamation of this psalm.<br />

Singing:<br />

“Make a joyful noise<br />

unto the Lord!” You’ll<br />

notice that the Scripture<br />

mentions joy, not pitch or<br />

key. Singing is an important<br />

part of worship and some<br />

elements of the Mass are<br />

specifi cally designed to be<br />

sung. Examples are the<br />

Sanctus (“Holy, holy, holy”<br />

prayer) and the great Amen. Singing is a wonderful way<br />

for a congregation to express unity, since they are singing<br />

the same words at the same time and in approximately the<br />

same tone. The General Instruction of the Roman Missal<br />

(GIRM) extols the importance of congregational singing<br />

and stresses its necessity at Sunday and holy day Masses.<br />

Everyone present is urged to sing out with great joy, not just<br />

those who can carry a tune!<br />

The vigil takes place for one or more days prior to the funeral. It used<br />

to be the custom for the vigil, or wake, to be held in the home of the<br />

deceased. Now, it is more customarily held in a funeral<br />

home. Recently, there has also been a growing trend<br />

to celebrate the vigil in the parish church or hall – it is<br />

very moving to receive the condolences of friends and<br />

family in the presence of the Blessed Sacrament and<br />

in a place where the deceased person worshipped<br />

in community. It is common for the evenings<br />

of the wake to close with the recitation of the<br />

rosary or a Scripture service. The vigil is also<br />

the most appropriate place for eulogies, in<br />

which stories and memories of the dead<br />

person are shared.<br />

The Mass of Christian Burial is the<br />

fulcrum of the funeral liturgies. At the<br />

beginning of the Mass, the priest welcomes<br />

the body at the entrance to the church. Family<br />

members place a white pall over the casket,<br />

representing the white garment in which the<br />

person was clothed at his or her baptism. The<br />

body is carried to the front of the church, where<br />

members of the family place a crucifix and a<br />

Bible on it, symbolizing the person’s Christian<br />

faith.<br />

Changes in the funeral rites since<br />

Vatican II mean that we focus on the joy of<br />

resurrection rather than the sorrow of loss.<br />

The vestments are white, symbolizing<br />

joy, rather than their former black. The<br />

Elizabeth Solsburg<br />

esolsburg@faithpublishingservice.com<br />

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ible quiz<br />

tell me a story! a parable quiz<br />

what’s he wearing?<br />

1 Upsets our expectations of strict fairness at<br />

the fi nal judgment. All who respond to the<br />

call of Jesus, whether early in life or late,<br />

will inherit the kingdom. It is a pure gift and<br />

cannot be earned.<br />

2 Probably Jesus’ fi rst parable and the central<br />

thought on which the Sermon on the Mount<br />

was based. Infl exibility of traditional systems<br />

can’t adapt to the freedom of Jesus’ new way.<br />

3 Dangers of putting our trust in possessions,<br />

instead of recognizing our dependence on<br />

God.<br />

4 Refers to the reception given to God’s<br />

revelation. Some accept it; others do not.<br />

5 Union with Jesus is necessary for fruitfulness.<br />

a. The Rich Fool<br />

(Luke 12: 16-21)<br />

b. Workers in<br />

the Vineyard<br />

(Matt 20: 1-6)<br />

c. The Sower<br />

and the Seed<br />

(Matt 13: 1-13)<br />

d. I am the Vine<br />

(John: 15: 1-8)<br />

e. New Wine in<br />

Old Wineskins<br />

(Mark 2: 21-22)<br />

Answers: 1:b; 2:e; 3: a; 4:c; 5:d<br />

emphasis is on eternity, not on our present grief.<br />

The Liturgy of the Word comprises readings chosen by the family<br />

– they are selected for their consolation and hope of eternal life. The<br />

priest or deacon preaches on the readings – offering a homily, not a<br />

eulogy.<br />

The Liturgy of the Eucharist follows, reminding us of Christ’s passion,<br />

death and resurrection. We are offered the hope of eternal life – for<br />

our loved one and for ourselves. Members of the family may serve as<br />

extraordinary ministers of Communion, readers and altar servers. After<br />

Communion, a friend or family member may be invited to share a brief<br />

reflection on the life of the departed.<br />

There is a final procession to the place of committal, the cemetery.<br />

At the graveside, the priest or deacon offers a final commendation and<br />

prayers of farewell are said. If there has not been a eulogy, one may be<br />

offered at this point.<br />

Occasionally, the family may have chosen to cremate the body.<br />

The <strong>Catholic</strong> Church permits cremation and, since 1997, it has been<br />

permissible in the United <strong>St</strong>ates to have the cremated remains present<br />

for a funeral liturgy. Afterward, the remains should be treated with the<br />

same respect as a body would be – not kept in the home, but interred in<br />

a cemetery or entombed in a columbarium.<br />

The <strong>Catholic</strong> celebration of a person’s life, coupled with the<br />

community’s consolation to that person’s loved ones, is one of the most<br />

profound ways the church acts as Christ in the world.<br />

What is Advent?<br />

what’s the season?<br />

Advent is the beginning of the church’s year – occurring not<br />

in January, but during the four weeks prior to Christmas. Advent<br />

begins on the Sunday closest to Nov. 30, the Feast of <strong>St</strong>. Andrew. We prepare<br />

for the coming of Christ in joyful anticipation. In the earliest days of the<br />

church, Advent lasted six weeks, until <strong>St</strong>. Gregory the Great, of calendar<br />

fame, fixed the season at four weeks and composed prayers and antiphons<br />

to celebrate it. The liturgical color for Advent is purple.<br />

Crosier:<br />

The bishop carries a tall hooked staff called<br />

a crosier. In the Western church, it is shaped like a<br />

shepherd’s crook to symbolize the bishop’s role as the<br />

shepherd of his flock. Crosiers dating from as early as<br />

the fourth century have been found in catacombs. By<br />

the Council of Toledo in 633, the crosier is mentioned<br />

as a liturgical implement.<br />

what’s in the church?<br />

Sacred vessels:<br />

The chalice is the cup<br />

in which the wine that<br />

becomes the blood of<br />

Christ is contained.<br />

The ciborium is the container for<br />

the hosts that will be consecrated<br />

at Mass and reserved in the<br />

tabernacle – it may be shaped<br />

somewhat like the chalice, but has<br />

a fi tted lid. In medieval times, the<br />

word ciborium also referred to a canopy over the tabernacle,<br />

but that is no longer the case. The pyx is a small container<br />

that holds a few consecrated hosts – extraordinary ministers<br />

of holy Communion use a pyx to take Communion to the<br />

sick and homebound. All of these vessels are to be made of<br />

a material of value that is not easily broken. They should be<br />

treated with reverence due to their sacred functions.<br />

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marriage<br />

your marriage matters<br />

he says... she says what should they do? by Deb McCormack<br />

romance<br />

Be playful<br />

and laugh<br />

together (not<br />

at each other).<br />

Enjoy yourself,<br />

but not at the<br />

other’s expense.<br />

Know where to<br />

draw the line.<br />

Be sensitive to<br />

taboo subjects<br />

or issues, and<br />

always be<br />

respectful of one<br />

another.<br />

Jill and <strong>St</strong>eve have been married for two years. They<br />

were both married before and each has children<br />

from the previous marriage.<br />

money<br />

his kids<br />

get more<br />

than mine<br />

my kids<br />

don’t get<br />

enough<br />

Deb McCormack<br />

Do you<br />

want to be<br />

able to stay<br />

home with<br />

your children,<br />

at least until<br />

school age?<br />

Consider<br />

where that extra<br />

income goes, to<br />

necessities or<br />

niceties? Maybe<br />

it’s just a matter<br />

of considering<br />

balancing work<br />

vs. over-work,<br />

and what you lose<br />

in the process.<br />

Jill says: My daughters, who are<br />

11 and 13, live with us, except<br />

when they visit their father every<br />

other weekend. <strong>St</strong>eve’s two kids live<br />

with their mother and come here<br />

on alternate weekends – the same<br />

weekends my kids are here. <strong>St</strong>eve<br />

spoils his children rotten – you’d<br />

think they were guests. They never<br />

clean their rooms or help out. But<br />

my children have regular chores and<br />

<strong>St</strong>eve expects them to be done. Also,<br />

even though he pays child support,<br />

<strong>St</strong>eve buys his boys anything they<br />

want when they’re here. My children<br />

are feeling resentful that they’re not<br />

treated equally, and I guess I am too.<br />

<strong>St</strong>eve says: My two boys, who<br />

are 11 and 10, don’t get to spend<br />

time with me as much as I’d like.<br />

Their mother has custody. So,<br />

when I do get to see them, I don’t<br />

want to spend my time nagging<br />

them about cleaning or chores.<br />

And why shouldn’t I spend a little<br />

on fun gifts for them? I want them<br />

to see me as a generous parent.<br />

Jill’s kids are with us all the time<br />

– they should have more chores,<br />

they live here. I’m sure my kids<br />

do chores at their mother’s house.<br />

And, we spend a lot on day-to-day<br />

expenses for Jill’s children; she<br />

seems to be forgetting that.<br />

T. Gennara<br />

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The counselor says:<br />

Blended families always<br />

require special concern and<br />

care by the marital couple.<br />

When you think of all the family members that<br />

are thrown into the mix of relationships, it can<br />

seem overwhelming. I know I started to feel<br />

overwhelmed when I heard Jill and <strong>St</strong>eve’s story. I<br />

am sure they feel that at times it seems hopeless.<br />

So where to begin?<br />

The basis of all relationships is communication.<br />

The best communication starts when we are not<br />

in the middle of a crisis. The couple should begin<br />

talking calmly about their hopes and dreams for<br />

their children. Chances are high that those goals<br />

are similar: good educations, good jobs, loving<br />

families. After agreeing on goals, they should<br />

talk about how to achieve them. Discussion<br />

topics should include discipline, household<br />

rules, chores for family members, fun activities,<br />

allowances, etc. Make determinations for the<br />

children who live in the household and for those<br />

who live there on weekends.<br />

Communicating the rules and consistency<br />

are critical for <strong>St</strong>eve and Jill. It’s not so much<br />

what you say, but how you say it. Jill and <strong>St</strong>eve<br />

really need to agree on issues and not allow the<br />

children to drive a wedge between them.<br />

Regarding the issue of kids being treated<br />

fairly, this is always tricky. Again the best way<br />

to handle this is to be<br />

very open and honest<br />

Kids need to as parents. What seems<br />

feel valued fair to all? What are the<br />

and loved. fears of the non-custodial<br />

parent? Realistically, does<br />

Money has spending more money<br />

little to do with on kids ensure their love?<br />

those feelings. We know that is not the<br />

case. Kids need to feel<br />

Spending time valued and loved. Money<br />

with kids is has little to do with those<br />

most valued by feelings. Spending time<br />

with kids is most valued<br />

them.<br />

by them. That works for<br />

all kids of all sizes.<br />

Blended families are very common in our<br />

communities. They take very special parents<br />

who are even willing to try to make these<br />

families work. Laying the groundwork before<br />

the marriage begins can help the transition go<br />

more smoothly. Counseling is often necessary<br />

as parents try to make the difficult decisions<br />

for their families. Please know that the <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Charities agencies stand ready to support families<br />

through this process.<br />

Email questions and comments to: marriage@faithmag.com<br />

communication<br />

Great<br />

marriages are<br />

built on trust.<br />

Trust is essential<br />

to longevity<br />

in a marriage.<br />

Trust that I love<br />

you and will<br />

care for you<br />

till death do us<br />

part. Trust that<br />

you love me<br />

and will care for<br />

me even when I<br />

least deserve it.<br />

time<br />

Pause<br />

and probe together.<br />

Jump<br />

off the merrygo-round<br />

of life<br />

together<br />

and<br />

pause<br />

for a<br />

moment.<br />

Probe<br />

your minds<br />

and ask, “Is<br />

what we are<br />

doing drawing<br />

us closer<br />

together or<br />

pulling us<br />

apart? “ If the<br />

former – jump<br />

back on and enjoy!<br />

If the latter<br />

– stay off and<br />

pick something<br />

more suited to<br />

strengthening<br />

your marriage.<br />

parenti<br />

parenting journey<br />

grieving parenthood<br />

coping with the loss of a baby<br />

by Dr. Cathleen McGrea<br />

T<br />

he twilight glow of light in the hospital room was dim, but<br />

I could see the ink drawing on the bed sheet. Throughout<br />

the night, the heart-shaped form captured my attention,<br />

despite my efforts to ignore its presence. A physician,<br />

frustrated by the lack of paper at his ready disposal, had drawn the shape<br />

of my uterus on the sheet while explaining why we had lost our first baby.<br />

Instead of the typical shape, there was a small division of tissue. As our<br />

baby grew, the placenta detached at this division. The prognosis for future<br />

pregnancies was not good. The heart beside me represented heartbreak.<br />

Empty time – responses in solitude<br />

It is normal to be at a loss when deciding how to fill the time that<br />

would have been spent caring for your baby. Dr. Andreas Teuber<br />

of Brandeis University writes that Mary Shelley may have written<br />

Frankenstein while grieving the death of her 11-day-old daughter. A<br />

dream recorded in Shelley’s journal foreshadowed plot lines in the tale of<br />

horror she penned: “Dream that my little baby came to life again – that<br />

it had only been cold and that we rubbed it before the fire and it lived.”<br />

Research conducted by James Pennebaker shows that writing about<br />

one’s emotions can be effective in coping, showing a beneficial impact in<br />

immune system functioning.<br />

Empty time – sharing with others<br />

Thirty years ago, Franciscan Sister Janie Marie Lamb,<br />

founded Share (www.nationalshareoffice.com) to meet the needs of<br />

those experiencing miscarriage or infant death. Parents help<br />

one another heal; the group engages in supportive outreach.<br />

Members promoted hospital policies to place symbols<br />

outside rooms alerting staff to the loss. Share<br />

advocated a halt to the flow of advertisements for<br />

infant products mailed to the homes of bereaved<br />

parents. Sister Jane Marie’s book, Bittersweet<br />

... Hellogoodbye, helps parents explore ways to<br />

say goodbye through rituals.<br />

Bring your anguish to the Lord<br />

All our human emotions are appropriate to<br />

share in prayer, including anger. “In bitterness<br />

of soul Hannah wept much and prayed to the<br />

Lord.” She was so distraught that Eli first attributed<br />

her behavior to drunkenness instead of anguish.<br />

Eventually, the desire of Hannah’s heart was fulfilled<br />

and she conceived. “She named him Samuel<br />

(heard of God), saying, ‘Because I asked the Lord<br />

for him.’” (1 Samuel 1:10, 20)<br />

When offering consolation, remember that the<br />

parents are mourning this baby, a unique individual<br />

loved by God from conception. Listen with<br />

compassion and offer support as parents mourn the<br />

child that cannot nestle in their arms and grieve the<br />

anticipated milestones that will never be experienced.<br />

T. Gennara<br />

Email questions and comments to: mcgreal@msu.edu<br />

Dr. Cathleen McGreal<br />

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spiritual<br />

spiritual fitness<br />

The death of grief those who sow in<br />

tears will reap with joy by Father Bill Ashbaugh<br />

Her silent tears fell down her cheeks. She had lost<br />

her child in early pregnancy a few months ago, and<br />

she was trying to be strong. She had come into the<br />

church that Sunday morning to celebrate the death<br />

and resurrection of Jesus Christ, but in the pew in front of her,<br />

she saw a mother holding a newborn child. She could not<br />

hold back the tears.<br />

She looked up at the cross. Jesus was there in his agony and it seemed to her that he<br />

was looking at her. She too was sharing in his suffering. If she could somehow let<br />

go and surrender this to the Father, she knew God’s loving hand would wipe the<br />

tears from her eyes.<br />

She understood that Jesus knows the pain of grief. When he came to the<br />

tomb of his friend, Lazarus, Scripture records simply that “Jesus wept.” (John<br />

11:35) He wept in grief, even though he knew that in a few moments he would<br />

bring Lazarus back to physical life and restore him to his family. By his tears,<br />

Jesus showed us that grief is not a sign of a lack of faith or trust in God. It is a<br />

normal part of what it means to be human. It is a sign that we love.<br />

But how do we deal with it? If you are going through grief, be patient with<br />

yourself. Acknowledge it. Accept it. Turn over the pain and hurt to God the<br />

Father. Jesus turned to his heavenly Father and “offered prayers and supplications<br />

with loud cries and tears to the one who was able to save him from death, and he<br />

was heard because of his reverence.” (Heb 5:7-9)<br />

Jesus teaches us how to go through grief. We accept it and surrender ourselves<br />

in trust to the loving care of God our Father. God is doing a work in us through<br />

the grief. Indeed, like Christ, we are being “made perfect” by what we are suffering.<br />

There will be resurrection – through death to life! Through sorrow and pain to<br />

acceptance and peace. From tears of sorrow to tears of joy.<br />

God hears the cry of our hearts and sees the tears that we shed. “My wanderings<br />

you have noted; are not my tears stored in your vial, recorded in your book?” (Ps 56:8) It<br />

was a custom in Jesus’ day to store the tears one shed in a jar or vial, called a “tear jar.”<br />

It was a way of “letting go” by expressing the pain and loss of a loved one and turning<br />

to God in the hope God would see. Imagine God collecting your tears!<br />

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Helping people through grief<br />

Today, Jesus continues to minister to<br />

us through his body, the church. I have<br />

seen so many people grieve deeply and<br />

witnessed the church or family or network<br />

of friends be the “hand of God” that wipes<br />

the tears from sorrow-fi lled eyes. A person<br />

who is bereft needs support and love. Love<br />

heals us all.<br />

Don’t try to rush things<br />

We need to remember that each<br />

person experiences loss uniquely. Some<br />

people are affected more profoundly than<br />

others. There is no “time table” for fi nishing<br />

grief. Be patient and help the bereaved<br />

person to be patient with the healing<br />

process. Remembering and cherishing a<br />

lost loved one is very important at this time.<br />

I remember one elderly man who had<br />

lost his wife. He wanted to speak to me<br />

about it. We went together to her grave and<br />

he asked me to kneel down with him to say<br />

a prayer. We did. There were many tears.<br />

He wanted to know if it was OK that he still<br />

spoke to her from time to time inside his<br />

heart, or even out loud. He was worried<br />

that he was doing something wrong. He<br />

thought getting over his grief meant he had<br />

to forget her. I assured him he was doing<br />

nothing wrong, and suggested that he give<br />

himself some time each day to pray to the<br />

Lord for her and to speak with her in his<br />

own heart. She was alive! As Jesus said,<br />

“God is a God of the living, not of the<br />

dead!” She is still joined to him and<br />

the whole church in Christ. That<br />

is what we mean when we pray<br />

“I believe in the communion<br />

of the saints.” He did so<br />

and was grateful for this<br />

help in working through his<br />

grief. Healing does not mean<br />

forgetting, but remembering<br />

with hope and trust in<br />

our hearts.<br />

Be a good<br />

listener<br />

Don’t be afraid<br />

of tears. Sometimes<br />

we want to jump in<br />

and try to make things<br />

all better by offering<br />

advice, or pointing out<br />

the positive. Remember that<br />

T. GENNARA<br />

Father Bill Ashbaugh<br />

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working through grief takes time. When<br />

we tell someone to “let go” and “get<br />

over it” and “move on,” we can hinder<br />

the process. Be present. Being a good<br />

listener enables someone else to move<br />

on. He or she knows that someone cares.<br />

Let the tears fl ow. Tears can help the<br />

person express and release the sorrow<br />

within them.<br />

Encourage attendance<br />

at a bereavement<br />

support group<br />

The loss of loved ones can be<br />

so devastating that a person may not<br />

know where to turn or what to do. Many<br />

churches have bereavement support<br />

groups to help. Two people shared with<br />

me how God helped them fi nd healing<br />

and much more through such a group.<br />

They had both lost their spouses and it<br />

seemed as if their lives too had come to<br />

an end. It was hard for them to function.<br />

“Letting go” seemed impossible. The one<br />

spouse recognized this by her diffi culty<br />

in moving her deceased husband’s<br />

shoes. She just could not do it for a long<br />

time. But each one knew God wanted<br />

them to live and move on. As Jesus<br />

said, “I have come that you might have<br />

life in abundance.” The local church<br />

bereavement support group gave them<br />

a place where they could come together<br />

and openly talk about what was going<br />

on inside. It was comforting to know that<br />

others understood and that they were<br />

not going crazy. They were able to work<br />

through their grief with the prayer and the<br />

help of their supportive community. While<br />

sorrow and grief are not completely<br />

dispelled, the pain becomes more<br />

bearable when a person feels loved and<br />

supported. For these two people, an even<br />

more wonderful thing happened. In time,<br />

they discovered they loved each other<br />

and were married. They were able to let<br />

go of their emotional pain and say “yes”<br />

to the new life that was right before them.<br />

Pray for those in grief<br />

We all experience little losses and<br />

disappointments frequently, and at times<br />

we must mourn the death of loved ones. In<br />

the beautiful prayer and hymn called Salve<br />

Regina, we pray “Hail Holy Queen… to<br />

thee do we send up our sighs, mourning<br />

and weeping in this valley of tears.” Mary<br />

is often hailed as Our Lady of Sorrows.<br />

She knows how sorrow can literally pierce<br />

the human heart. She endured the brutal<br />

crucifi xion of her own beloved son before<br />

her eyes. Mary can bring comfort and<br />

help as only a mother can. Pray the Salve<br />

Regina and the Memorare for anyone<br />

going through grief.<br />

Like all things on this earth, grief<br />

will have its own end. Mother Teresa<br />

had a beautiful saying as she helped<br />

many people die with dignity and love.<br />

“Never have so much sorrow that you<br />

forget the joy of the resurrection!” As<br />

we help others through grief, may God<br />

help us always to carry the hope of the<br />

resurrection in our hearts.<br />

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; and<br />

those who are crushed in spirit he saves.”<br />

(Ps 34:19)<br />

Email your questions and comments to:<br />

frbillashbaugh@mac.com<br />

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Restoring Hope to<br />

Grieving Youth<br />


Gloria Alford was ending a long-term relationship,<br />

her second, as a young single mom in the early<br />

1990s when she realized the trauma of another<br />

breakup was having on her 8-year-old, Matthew.<br />

The youngster had become attached to Gloria’s<br />

longtime boyfriend, and Gloria could see the<br />

prospect of loosing contact with the older male was upsetting her son.<br />

“The break up of the long-term relationship was like a second divorce<br />

and exacerbated everything,” Gloria said. “His school work and pictures<br />

were reflecting depressive issues and I was concerned.”<br />

According to the National Center for Health <strong>St</strong>atistics, one out of five<br />

children suffer learning, emotional or behavioral problems following<br />

significant changes in the family system and the bereavement that follows<br />

divorce or the death of a parent. It is estimated that 75 percent of children<br />

and adolescents in chemical dependency hospitals are from single-parent<br />

families, with some seven out of 10, or 68 percent, of American youth are<br />

living in nontraditional families.<br />

On the advice of a parish priest in Orlando, Fla., Gloria enrolled herself<br />

and Matthew in a local chapter of Rainbows, a Chicago-based program<br />

bringing together children of similar ages to share a meal, talk about<br />

their family situations and their feelings in a confidential setting – under<br />

the supervision of trained coordinators. At the same time, parents meet<br />

separately in groups to do much the same.<br />

What is shared in the meetings stays there, even between parents<br />

and children. But Gloria noticed an almost immediate improvement<br />

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in Matthew as he started to realize that<br />

there are other normal kids who don’t live<br />

with both their parents. The goal is to help<br />

children come to terms with their new family<br />

structure, and not blame themselves for a<br />

marriage breakup or death of a loved one.<br />

“Throughout the Rainbows process,<br />

Matthew stopped being so depressive;<br />

things that were scarring me weren’t<br />

scaring me any longer,” said Gloria, who<br />

is a Rainbows coordinator for some 25<br />

children this year at <strong>St</strong>. Joseph Parish in<br />

Jacksonville.<br />

Carole Ginzl, who worked for 17 years<br />

as a parish director of religious education<br />

at <strong>St</strong>. Joseph Parish, brought the Rainbows<br />

program to the Jacksonville area after<br />

hearing about the program and realizing<br />

the impact of divorce on several close<br />

friends and their families.<br />

Every few years, Carole travels to Chicago<br />

to attend Rainbow enrichment programs to<br />

stay up to date and help her facilitate the<br />

programs in Northeast Florida. Rainbows<br />

groups are currently held at nine parishes in<br />

the diocese and a Beaches Resource Center<br />

serving three to four public elementary<br />

schools in the Neptune Beach area. Carole<br />

is also working with Community Hospice<br />

to develop a pilot program to help schools<br />

identify kids who have unresolved issues<br />

resulting from family breakup.<br />

“The overall need is phenomenal,” she<br />

said. “The problem for a child is that<br />

they are taken care of when the divorce<br />

first happens, but the problems arise a<br />

year later after everyone forgets about<br />

the divorce. That is when they have the<br />

unresolved grief. At first they go through<br />

denial where they look like they are fine<br />

but they’re really not.”<br />

Carole said parents could help their teens<br />

prevent a lot of the negative promiscuity,<br />

drug use, suicidal thoughts and other bad<br />

behavior that can happen following the<br />

loss of a two-parent household. In terms of<br />

volunteer facilitators, Carole said she needs<br />

compassionate, caring adults who love<br />

children, but who also do not themselves have<br />

an unresolved divorce or bereavement issues.<br />

“Every time you talk to a family who<br />

participates in Rainbows, they are so<br />

grateful because their whole life experience,<br />

communications and behavior at home and<br />

school improve. So many of the parents tell<br />

me that before the program their child wasn’t<br />

talking to them and they were sullen.”<br />

One of the key messages that Rainbows<br />

attempts to instill in kids is that they are<br />

not responsible for their parents’ divorce.<br />

Rainbow facilitators sometimes pray with<br />

the youngsters when words alone won’t<br />

satisfy the pain of the situation. They also<br />

incorporate ritual into the final sessions,<br />

including a kind of letting-go exercise in<br />

which they write their hurts on pieces of<br />

paper, and then burn them as a gesture of<br />

letting God deal with it. They read prescripted<br />

letters to each other, expressing<br />

the forgiveness that they want to hear – but<br />

often don’t – from parents who were not<br />

there for them.<br />

“I appreciate that we are in a <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

school, and I can pray because sometimes<br />

there is nothing else to do but pray,” said<br />

Susan Woods, a campus minister who<br />

facilitates Rainbows at Bishop Kenny High<br />

School in Jacksonville. “The students may<br />

act embarrassed, but I can tell they really<br />

love it because prayer takes care of so<br />

many hurts that talking alone can’t. In the<br />

final session I do a little prayer ritual with<br />

them in the chapel and it is very powerful;<br />

ritual says so much in our faith.”<br />

Each year, there are two groups of four<br />

or five students at Bishop Kenny who<br />

anonymously attend the Rainbows sessions<br />

every other week during their regularly<br />

scheduled religion class. This year, there is<br />

a separate group for boys and girls so that<br />

students feel more comfortable sharing<br />

feelings, no matter what they are.<br />

Susan says that after 10 years of working<br />

with Rainbows, she knows the only way<br />

through a hurtful situation is to simply<br />

go through it; the group gives them a safe<br />

place to express emotions at that time.<br />

“Some feel they have to protect their<br />

parents and don’t tell them how bad they<br />

are feeling,” she said. “Through the process<br />

of sharing and expressing feelings, healing<br />

happens and with someone who knows<br />

what they are going through. I view my job<br />

as creating that safe place where they feel<br />

comfortable sharing what is really going on<br />

with them. They know that what gets said<br />

in the session, stays in the session. The<br />

students really minister to each other – it’s<br />

kind of a peer ministry. There is power in<br />

sharing what is really in your heart when it<br />

happens in a prayerful environment.”<br />

For more information about Rainbows and the<br />

parishes that are participating in the program,<br />

call Carole Ginzl at (904) 363-9628 or visit<br />

www.rainbowsjax.org or www.rainbows.org.<br />

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at the hour of<br />

It was not supposed to turn out this way. My mother<br />

was not supposed to die.<br />

When she was diagnosed with metastatic colon<br />

cancer in March 2004, the doctors said the state-ofthe-art<br />

chemotherapy that had just been introduced<br />

into treatment modalities could possibly manage the<br />

tumors that littered her liver. And so, a month later,<br />

she and our family began what I can only now call a<br />

grueling eight-month purgatory, of sorts, with a variety<br />

of medications that among other things sapped her<br />

energy, turned her complexion ashen gray, thinned her<br />

hair and without reason caused the skin on her hands<br />

to split wide open and bleed.<br />

A year later, and the week before Easter, all of us,<br />

including my now shell of a mother, knew she was going<br />

to die very soon. And so, the woman who could never<br />

turn down a trip to the mall, or a lunch outing, struggled<br />

out of bed with a lot of help, signed herself into hospice<br />

care and wrote her obituary.<br />

And, with the help of her parish’s director of<br />

ministries, my father and I helped her plan her<br />

own funeral.<br />

The business of life stands eerily still when a loved<br />

one is near death or dies. There are all sorts of decisions<br />

to be made, and they need to be looked at both from<br />

an emotional, religious and unfortunately, an economic<br />

standpoint. Our family was blessed, I guess, in that my<br />

mother chose the funeral home in which she wanted<br />

to be laid out, the lavender dress in which she wanted<br />

to be buried in, and even the songs she wanted sung at<br />

her funeral. All ten of her grandchildren took part in the<br />

funeral liturgy. Several years before, in what I thought<br />

of as a macabre moment for the pair, she and my father<br />

had chosen a plot behind a Carmelite Monastery on<br />

which to be buried. They had even chosen a monument<br />

for the grave.<br />

Many, many times that is not the case, and individuals<br />

and families are thrust into a world very few of us want<br />

to face: planning at the time of death while in the midst<br />

of grief. It’s a world that all-too-often forces us to make<br />

decisions when we are at our most vulnerable.<br />

Sister of <strong>St</strong>. Joseph Nicole Cayer, the director of Family<br />

Services for the <strong>Catholic</strong> Cemeteries Office of the Diocese<br />

of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>, and Father Tim Lindenfelser, judicial<br />

vicar and director of <strong>Catholic</strong> Cemeteries, do the dayto-day<br />

nuts and bolts work of making funerals happen.<br />

They also help educate <strong>Catholic</strong>s on the advantages of<br />

planning ahead for death, about the various choices<br />

families have in transitioning from this life to the next,<br />

and the costs involved.<br />

“I encourage pre-planning,” said Sister Nicole. “It is a<br />

great help to the family. Sometimes one spouse pushes the<br />

other, which causes both to reflect upon the meaning<br />

of their life and death. It’s harder on everyone when<br />

the death has already occurred.”<br />

Pre-planning can guarantee that one gets<br />

what one wants, and, as prices increase,<br />

can afford. San Lorenzo Cemetery in <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> and <strong>St</strong>. Mary’s Cemetery in<br />

Korona, Fla., are the two <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

cemeteries owned and operated by<br />

the diocese. Individuals and families<br />

can purchase plots beginning<br />

at $1,113. A cremation plot is<br />

$557. That’s not a misprint. To<br />

the surprise of many, cremation<br />

has been allowed in the <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Church since 1963.<br />

“Cremation is an option for<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong>s, but full body burial is<br />

preferred because of our belief in the<br />

bodily resurrection,” Sister Nicole said.<br />

And while the deceased may want his or her ashes<br />

scattered on a favorite plot of land or a peaceful lake,<br />

or even mixed with another’s ashes, it is not allowed.<br />

“Each individual in their body is a gift from God whose<br />

dignity must be respected and protected in both life and<br />

death,” she said. The church mandates the ashes remain<br />


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intact and be buried in a grave or entombed<br />

in a mausoleum or columbarium. <strong>Catholic</strong>s<br />

can be buried in any cemetery or at sea, but<br />

the church prefers <strong>Catholic</strong>s be buried in a<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> cemetery. Father Lindenfelser explains,<br />

“as members of the Body of Christ, <strong>Catholic</strong>s<br />

gather as a family around the altar every week<br />

and so as a family we sleep together awaiting the<br />

trumpet to sound awakening us to eternal life.”<br />

The diocese will only sell a right to burial<br />

to a <strong>Catholic</strong>, but once it’s purchased, any<br />

family member can be buried in it. So, say that<br />

a father purchases a plot for his family and<br />

one or several of the members of the family<br />

aren’t <strong>Catholic</strong>. They can be buried in the plot.<br />

“The <strong>Catholic</strong> Church wants to keep families<br />

together,” Sister Nicole said.<br />

Monuments can also be purchased through<br />

the diocese. They range in price from $300 to<br />

the thousands of dollars, depending on what<br />

you want, she said.<br />

Just how does one go about planning for a<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> funeral? Consulting with a parish priest<br />

is the first step to take. “A priest can help you<br />

to hear Jesus’ comforting words and to see your<br />

death and burial in the context of the victory<br />

won through his death and resurrection,” said<br />

Father Tim. Open communication with loved<br />

ones is essential. A careful overview of just how<br />

much money you want to spend, who you want<br />

involved, the religious music you prefer and<br />

where you want your funeral liturgies and burial<br />

to take place are also key areas to address.<br />

All parishes have a booklet that outlines<br />

funeral services. Individuals can choose from<br />

scriptural readings and prayers that appeal to<br />

them. Working closely with a priest or other<br />

parish staff member familiar with <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

funeral liturgies helps this process evolve, Sister<br />

Nicole said. “Funeral directors should also be a<br />

part of this planning process, as they will carry<br />

out the wishes of the deceased. It is important<br />

that families know what to expect during the<br />

process of burying a loved one.”<br />

The ‘process’ of burying a loved one is<br />

technically called ‘The Rite of Christian Burial.’ It<br />

includes three parts: the vigil, the funeral liturgy<br />

and committal. The vigil typically occurs the<br />

evening prior to the funeral. During this time<br />

the church accompanies the mourners in their<br />

initial adjustment to the death of a loved one<br />

and the sorrow it entails. Mourners express their<br />

sorrow through sharing and are encouraged to<br />

find strength and consolation through faith in<br />

Christ and his resurrection. The vigil may take<br />

place in a church or a funeral home.<br />

The second part of The Rite of Christian<br />

Burial is the funeral liturgy itself where the<br />

community gathers with the family of the<br />

On Holy Ground<br />

The Franciscan Missionaries<br />

established the fi rst <strong>Catholic</strong> cemetery<br />

in <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> in the 1600s. Their<br />

burial ground was located next to the<br />

monastery – the current site of the<br />

National Guard headquarters.<br />

In 1702, a new cemetery was<br />

erected in <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> for the<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> Guale and Timucuan Indians<br />

at the Tolomoto Indian Mission. An<br />

outbreak of yellow fever caused city<br />

offi cials to close the cemetery in<br />

1884. A new cemetery was opened<br />

at the Mission Nombre de Dios next to<br />

the Chapel of Our Lady of La Leche.<br />

However, it was not considered an<br />

ideal burial location due to its proximity<br />

to the water’s edge.<br />

The Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong> was<br />

established in 1870 and for the next<br />

43 years, ten cemeteries were opened<br />

throughout northeast Florida. Many of<br />

these cemeteries are open today and<br />

are operated by parishes.<br />

The oldest cemetery still operated by<br />

the diocese is San Lorenzo Cemetery<br />

in <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>. Bishop John Moore<br />

opened the cemetery in 1892. Mary<br />

Murray was the fi rst <strong>Catholic</strong> to be<br />

buried there on May 24, 1892. In<br />

1913, the diocese opened <strong>St</strong>. Mary<br />

Cemetery in Korona, serving the<br />

Polish <strong>Catholic</strong>s of Flagler and Volusia<br />

Counties. It too is open today and<br />

operated by the diocese.<br />

In the early 1900s, families, not<br />

San Lorenzo Cemetery, <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>, Fla.<br />

wanting to be separated in death,<br />

began moving their loved ones from<br />

the cemetery at Mission Nombre de<br />

Dios to San Lorenzo. A mortuary<br />

chapel was built in 1924 and today<br />

is a central feature of the cemetery<br />

located on U.S. Highway 1. Interred in<br />

the chapel are Bishops John Moore,<br />

William Kenny, Patrick Barry and<br />

Archbishop Joseph Hurley. Surrounding<br />

the chapel are the resting places of<br />

several of our diocesan priests and<br />

the Sisters of <strong>St</strong>. Joseph who have<br />

served in Florida since 1866. Many<br />

of the people who rest in San Lorenzo<br />

Cemetery are descendants of the 600<br />

Minorcan refugees who arrived in <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> in 1777.<br />

For more than 100 years, families<br />

have come to San Lorenzo to celebrate<br />

Mass, offer novenas and pray for their<br />

deceased relatives and friends. With the<br />

legitimate rise in <strong>Catholic</strong>s choosing to<br />

be cremated, San Lorenzo Cemetery<br />

offers traditional family plots, cremation<br />

gardens, columbarium niches and family<br />

mausoleums. They also sell monuments<br />

and offer a flower service for those<br />

unable to visit their loved ones.<br />

For a list of all <strong>Catholic</strong> cemeteries in<br />

the diocese, visit www.dosafl .com and<br />

click on the ministries tab.<br />

To donate to the renovation projects<br />

of San Lorenzo and <strong>St</strong>. Mary’s, and to<br />

help them maintain the grounds, please<br />

call (904) 824-6680.<br />


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deceased to give praise and thanks to God for<br />

Christ’s victory over sin and death, to commend<br />

the deceased to God’s tender mercy and to seek<br />

strength in Christ.<br />

The third part is the Rite of Committal, which<br />

takes place at the gravesite. In committing the<br />

deceased to their resting place, the community<br />

expresses hope that the deceased awaits the glory<br />

of the resurrection. The deceased passes with the<br />

farewell prayers of the community of believers<br />

into the welcoming company of those who see<br />

God face to face and the family and friends<br />

embark on a life without a loved one with the<br />

sure and certain hope that one day we shall be<br />

together again.<br />

The Rite of Christian Burial can be a little<br />

different from church to church. One priest may<br />

allow a sharing of memories or a eulogy at a<br />

funeral Mass, and another may not. The vigil is<br />

typically the place in which friends and families<br />

are invited to share memories of the deceased.<br />

Sister Nicole is seeing a trend where more and<br />

more parishes are coordinating committees to<br />

help families with needs during this time, such<br />

as helping write thank you cards and planning<br />

The Casket <strong>St</strong>ore sells funeral and cemetery products<br />

direct to the public including caskets, urns, bronze<br />

markers plaques, monuments, benches, silk fl owers, and<br />

a burial vault. When you have a need for a casket or<br />

near need such as hospice, come see us before you visit<br />

the funeral home. We deliver to area funeral homes free<br />

of charge. When you are ready for a grave marker/<br />

headstone/monument, we can help you select and<br />

design the memorial that is just right for your loved one.<br />

The Casket <strong>St</strong>ore is located at 4555 San Juan Avenue, two doors east of the Krystal restaurant<br />

between Roosevelt Blvd (SR 17) and Blanding Blvd (SR 21). Hours of operation are Mon–Fri<br />

9:30 – 5:30, Sat 10:00 – 3:00 and Sun by appointment (call any time). 904.695.9155<br />


As Director of Family Services for the<br />

diocesan <strong>Catholic</strong> Cemeteries Offi ce, Sister<br />

of <strong>St</strong>. Joseph Nicole Cayer, helps families<br />

through the funeral planning process.<br />

a meal for family members after the funeral.<br />

“Burying the dead is a corporal work of mercy,”<br />

she said. “The grief and bereavement ministry is<br />

wonderful.”<br />

We buried my mother two days after Easter,<br />

in Calvary Cemetery, in Louisville, Ky. It was an<br />

early spring day, the kind of day where the sun<br />

kisses the earth and coaxes the robins to nest and<br />

the tulips and poppies to parade their colors.<br />

The wind blew warm on my face and I smiled<br />

through my tears.<br />

I think she had it all planned out.<br />

For additional resources, turn to A <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Funeral, a 64-page booklet published by Liguori<br />

Publications, $3.95. The booklet is a hands-on<br />

practical guide to planning a funeral for families.<br />

Order online at www.liguori.org or call (800)<br />

325-9521.<br />

Jerry Nackashi, owner and funeral<br />

director of Corey-Kerlin Funeral<br />

Homes and Crematory, is a longtime<br />

member of the Jacksonville<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> community. He attended<br />

Assumption <strong>Catholic</strong> Elementary<br />

School and Bishop Kenny High<br />

School. Jerry is a member of San<br />

Jose Parish, where his four sons<br />

attended school. Two of his sons<br />

have since graduated from Bishop<br />

Kenny and two are still attending,<br />

one as a freshman and the other<br />

a sophomore. Jerry is a third<br />

degree Knights of Columbus. In<br />

his 30 years in the funeral services<br />

industry, Jerry has catered to the<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> community and is well<br />

versed in the <strong>Catholic</strong> rites and<br />

traditions, especially as they relate<br />

to cremation. He has a strong<br />

working relationship with most of<br />

the priests and administrators of<br />

area <strong>Catholic</strong> churches.<br />

940 Cesery Blvd.<br />

Jacksonville, Florida 32211<br />

(904) 744-8422<br />

ckcesery@corey-kerlin.com<br />

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parish<br />

parish profile<br />

Three Churches – One Parish<br />

The Historic Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> by Shannon Scruby Henderson<br />


The Cathedral-Basilica<br />

of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> is a parish<br />

without parallel in America.<br />

It is the oldest continuously<br />

active <strong>Catholic</strong> faith<br />

community in the continental<br />

United <strong>St</strong>ates founded on<br />

Sept. 8, 1565.<br />


The sanctuary of the<br />

historical Cathedral-Basilica<br />

includes murals by Hugo Ohlms.<br />

To the right of the altar the<br />

murals depict important religious<br />

and philosophical thinkers and<br />

leaders of Europe. To the left the<br />

murals depict scenes that relate<br />

to early Florida history.<br />

As you might expect of a parish located at the heart of<br />

the most historic <strong>Catholic</strong> city in the United <strong>St</strong>ates,<br />

Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> is unique among faith<br />

communities in the Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>.<br />

Its members are a cross-section of <strong>Catholic</strong> families with deep<br />

roots in the area – as well as newcomers from across the country.<br />

The parish celebrates Mass at two churches, the imposing<br />

Cathedral-Basilica at the center of town and <strong>St</strong>. Benedict the Moor<br />

in Lincolnville. Prince of Peace votive church at the Mission of<br />

Nombre de Dios is used weekdays for Adoration of the Blessed<br />

Sacrament. “We have three locations, but we think and act like one<br />

parish,” says Pastor Tim Lozier. “There’s a lot to do, and we do it<br />

together.”<br />

Evangelizing in the nation’s oldest city<br />

Its role as a <strong>Catholic</strong> landmark provides the Cathedral-Basilica<br />

of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> with special opportunities to evangelize. Bob<br />

Moore, director of Music, seeks to spread the faith by reclaiming<br />

the Cathedral’s status as a center for the arts. “If people see this as<br />

a place where the arts are alive,” he says, “there’s a good chance<br />

they’ll decide it’s a good place to worship.” To that end, Bob has<br />

spearheaded an ambitious schedule of concerts open to the public,<br />

among them: Jazz Vespers; the “Big Prelude” concerts presented<br />

at 10:30 a.m. on the first and third Sundays of the month; and<br />

First Friday organ recitals. The <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> community orchestra<br />

practices at the Cathedral-Basilica; next year, the community chorus<br />

will return for a series of concerts.<br />

At the Bell Tower Gift Shop, in a space that includes what was<br />

once the Baptistry of the Cathedral, Marge Fischer directs a staff<br />

of four employees and 14 volunteers. “The gift shop workers and<br />

our Cathedral docents (trained volunteers from<br />

the parish who conduct afternoon tours) are<br />

the people visitors meet,” explains Father Tim.<br />

“Their role is significant.” The Cathedral-Basilica<br />

is a favorite stop on the popular <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

city tours. Weekend crowds number more than<br />

1,000 visitors a day, not including those who<br />

come for Mass.<br />

“For a small shop, we do a big business,”<br />

notes Marge. The shop trades in religious gifts,<br />

including one of the largest collection of patron<br />

saint medals in the country and an extensive<br />

collection of <strong>Catholic</strong> books. Several booklets,<br />

brochures and a self-directed guide to the Cathedral-Basilica are<br />

available for visitors. “I see my job as interpreting the church for our<br />

visitors,’ she notes. “This is a chance to communicate the faith.”<br />

Putting children first<br />

Cathedral Parish School (CPS) principal Janet Morton, who<br />

came out of retirement as principal of Christ the King <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

School in Jacksonville, says she was “surprised and delighted” to<br />

find that many parents stay involved in the school long after their<br />

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cathedral-basilica of st. augustine at a glance<br />

Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong><br />

38 Cathedral Place<br />

<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>, FL 32084<br />

(904) 824-2806<br />

Email: cathparish@gmail.com<br />

Website: www.thefirstparish.org<br />

Churches: Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>, <strong>St</strong>. Benedict<br />

the Moor Mission in Lincolnville and Prince of Peace Votive<br />

Church on the grounds of the Mission of Nombre de Dios<br />

Parishioners: 1,969 registered<br />

Pastor:<br />

Rev. Timothy Lozier<br />

Parochial Vicar: Rev. Christopher Liguori<br />

Priests in Residence: Msgr. Harold Jordan<br />

and Rev. Frank Haryasz<br />

Cathedral Parish School (est. 1916)<br />

Principal:<br />

Janet Morton<br />

<strong>St</strong>udents: 385 in grades K-8<br />

Cathedral Early Education School (est. 1988)<br />

Director:<br />

Jill Valley<br />

<strong>St</strong>udents: 100, ages 3-5<br />

The oldest <strong>Catholic</strong> parish in America dates to Sept. 8,<br />

1565, the year Father Francisco Lopez, a member of an<br />

expedition led by Pedro Menendez, celebrated the fi rst Mass<br />

in the New World. The parish is 300 years older than the<br />

diocese, which was not offi cially declared until 1870. Parish<br />

baptisms, marriages and burials recorded in 15 volumes are<br />

the oldest written records of American origin preserved in the<br />

United <strong>St</strong>ates.<br />

Elevated to a Minor Basilica in 1976, the present-day the<br />

Cathedral-Basilica of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> has a fascinating story<br />

of its own. It retains elements of the 1797 Moorish-style<br />

<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> Parish church that became the cathedral for<br />

the newly declared diocese in 1870. This structure was the<br />

most splendid church in Florida in its day. But in 1887, it was<br />

destroyed in a massive fi re. Three coquina rock walls and the<br />

façade were all that remained.<br />

James Renwick, architect of <strong>St</strong>. Patrick’s Cathedral in New<br />

York City and a winter resident of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> designed<br />

the restoration. Henry Flagler helped fi nance a majestic bell<br />

tower. The new cathedral, 12 feet longer than the original,<br />

incorporated the ruins of the original structure and its Moorish<br />

architectural style.<br />

Thirteen stained-glass windows from Germany were<br />

installed in 1909. In conjunction with the 400th anniversary<br />

of the parish, the cathedral underwent extensive renovations in<br />

1965. A new tabernacle, ceiling decorations, the Eucharistic<br />

Chapel, artist Hugo Ohlms’ colorful sanctuary murals of <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> history, and exterior details were added at this time.<br />

children graduate. “It’s an extremely close-knit community, where<br />

people take ownership in the school. Children are really valued<br />

here,” she says.<br />

CPS parent Mary Catherine Ward, who moved to the area last year,<br />

comments that she loves both the small-town atmosphere and the<br />

school’s urban setting on cobblestone paved <strong>St</strong>. George <strong>St</strong>reet. “The<br />

children walk four blocks through town to Mass every week. They help<br />

serve meals at nearby <strong>St</strong>. Francis Soup Kitchen. We come as a family<br />

from the suburbs to the Cathedral on Sundays. It’s an experience most<br />

grade schools just can’t offer,” she says. CPS serves students from four<br />

other area parishes: <strong>St</strong>. Anastasia, San Sebastian, Corpus Christi and<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Ambrose and Our Lady of Good Counsel Mission.<br />

Since 1988, the parish has also offered a comprehensive<br />

education and day care program for pre-school children at a<br />

separate campus on Sebastian <strong>St</strong>reet. Led by Principal Jill Valley,<br />

Cathedral Early Education Center is a diocesan pioneer in this<br />

critical learning arena.<br />

Committed to outreach<br />

Concern for social justice is the driving force behind several<br />

active parish ministries. Ron Zamora, director of the Social Justice<br />

Committee, describes his group’s mission as an effort “to educate<br />

the person in the pew that social justice is one of Jesus’ directives.”<br />

The Respect Life Ministry, led by May Oliver, also seeks to raise<br />

awareness of important social issues. In addition, they are active<br />

at <strong>St</strong>. Gerard Campus, a residence for unwed mothers that offers<br />

crisis pregnancy services, a fully accredited high school program,<br />

and a licensed day care.<br />

Mission Honduras<br />

June 2006 marked the third annual parish mission trip to<br />

Honduras. Sue Brunson, group leader, “caught the bug” in 2004<br />

when she and her husband accompanied former Pastor Terry<br />

Morgan and a group of volunteers on an exploratory journey.<br />

“We helped build the foundation for the Muchilena church.<br />

When the villagers saw what we were up to, many of them joined<br />

in. The next year, when we went back, we attended Mass there.<br />

It’s an experience you don’t forget,” she says emphatically. Father<br />

Tim, an enthusiastic supporter of the Mission Honduras efforts,<br />

has signed up to accompany the group on next summer’s trip. For<br />

the past two winters, the parish has also helped sponsor a medical<br />

mission trip to Honduras.<br />

Setting priorities<br />

A willingness to help is the first step toward changing society;<br />

the ability to help is just as important. Father Tim describes Crown<br />

Financial Ministries, a ten-week, Bible-based program now offered<br />

at Cathedral-Basilica Parish, as a tool that teaches participants to<br />

enjoy their money more by managing it better. “People who are good<br />

stewards of their money tend to be generous with it. They learn that<br />

giving brings joy,” he says. In a historic parish with a proud tradition<br />

of service to others, the program is a natural complement to the faith<br />

community’s many ambitious outreach efforts.<br />

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Whether it’s administering the sacraments, celebrating<br />

Mass in his parish, planning diocesan liturgical celebrations,<br />

or providing spiritual support to the Jacksonville Jaguars<br />

– Father Tom Willis couldn’t be happier with his decision<br />

to become a priest<br />


Father Tom began<br />

discerning a call to the<br />

priesthood while still<br />

in high school at <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong>’s <strong>St</strong>. Joseph Academy.<br />

It was the 1970s – a time when<br />

drug use amongst teenagers was<br />

considered normal and choosing<br />

to become a priest or religious<br />

sister was seen as countercultural.<br />

Father Tom recalls a<br />

conversation he had over<br />

breakfast one Sunday morning<br />

with Msgr. James Heslin, pastor of<br />

the Cathedral-Basilica at the time.<br />

Msgr. Heslin told him, “Why don’t<br />

you give priesthood a try, because<br />

there you can affect more people.”<br />

From an early age, Father Tom<br />

was active in the church. His<br />

parents, now deceased, made<br />

sure Father Tom and his younger<br />

sister Tina received a <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

education. According to Father<br />

Tom, he comes from a nontraditional<br />

family. “My mother<br />

was a <strong>Catholic</strong> from Pittsburgh<br />

and my father, a non-<strong>Catholic</strong><br />

Christian from <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>,”<br />

he explained. Both his parents<br />

were previously married and they<br />

didn’t practice their faith much.<br />

Father Tom said, “It took mom<br />

three years and a second child<br />

to finally convince the pastor to<br />

baptize us.”<br />

In the fourth grade, Father<br />

Tom became an altar server. By<br />

the time he received his First<br />

Communion, his mother had<br />

stopped attending church with<br />

him. “If I wanted to go to church,<br />

I had to get on my bike and go,”<br />

Father Tom said.<br />

Rain or shine, Father Tom made<br />

sure he got to Mass and by the<br />

time he was in high school he was<br />

hired by Msgr. Heslin as a sacristan<br />

where he would set up for Mass<br />

and other liturgies. He even served<br />

at Masses for the late Bishop Paul<br />

Tanner. These experiences, he said,<br />

put him in the right frame of mind<br />

to consider the priesthood. He<br />

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Last non-religious book read:<br />

Favorite film:<br />

Favorite TV show:<br />

Favorite musical group:<br />

Favorite leisure time activity:<br />

Hobbies:<br />

Persons you most admire:<br />

Why My Wife Thinks I’m an Idiot<br />

by Mike Greenburg<br />

The Hunt for Red October<br />

NCIS<br />

The Corrs or Phil Collins<br />

A game of golf with good friends<br />

Reading<br />

Blessed John XXIII and Pope Paul VI<br />

also credits his vocation to the caring<br />

support he received from the Sisters of<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Joseph.<br />

Father Tom remembers the night<br />

he told his parents that he wanted to<br />

become a priest. He sat down with<br />

them in their living room and broke<br />

the news. His mother’s reaction, he<br />

said, wasn’t all that favorable and his<br />

father didn’t have much to say – so he<br />

returned to his bedroom. His father<br />

came in a few minutes later and said,<br />

“I know your mom wasn’t necessarily<br />

in favor of what you told us, but I<br />

want you to know that whatever you<br />

decide to do, your mother and I will<br />

support you.”<br />

After graduation in 1975, Father<br />

Tom met with the vocations director<br />

for the Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>,<br />

and began making plans to attend<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Meinrad Seminary in Indiana.<br />

He studied there for four years<br />

and graduated in Dec. 1979 with a<br />

bachelor’s in history.<br />

The following fall he entered <strong>St</strong>.<br />

Vincent de Paul Seminary in Boynton<br />

Beach, Fla., where he studied theology<br />

for another four years.<br />

In 1983, just two nights before his<br />

ordination to the diaconate, and after<br />

seven years of study and discernment,<br />

Father Tom said he fully decided to<br />

go into ordained ministry. Up until<br />

this point he believed that he was in<br />

control of his call to the priesthood.<br />

“It’s amazing. You don’t see how it’s all<br />

planned out, but God is in so much<br />

more control and is doing more to<br />

walk with you than you realize.”<br />

Father Tom was ordained to the<br />

priesthood by Bishop John J. Snyder<br />

on May 26, 1984.<br />

Since his ordination, Father Tom<br />

has been called to serve in many roles<br />

in the diocese, including: associate<br />

pastor of five parishes, pastor of his<br />

current parish, Most Holy Redeemer,<br />

chair of the Liturgical Commission for<br />

the diocese and <strong>Catholic</strong> Chaplain of<br />

the Jacksonville Jaguars football team<br />

– to name a few.<br />

Father Tom has served as the<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> Chaplain since the Jaguars<br />

first draft in April 1995. He celebrates<br />

Mass the night before each home<br />

game for the <strong>Catholic</strong> players, coaches<br />

and their families, and on game day,<br />

you can see him on the sidelines<br />

cheering for the team.<br />

During training camp in the<br />

summer, Father Tom said he makes<br />

himself more available to the players<br />

because many of them are living out<br />

of a hotel far from home, and they<br />

literally have nobody available to them.<br />

“I have become one friendly face that<br />

they know they can pull aside and talk<br />

to,” said Father Tom. “I have also had<br />

the pleasure of preparing a number<br />

of them along with their fiancée<br />

for marriage, and presiding at the<br />

marriages of a few of them.”<br />

So what gives him strength to<br />

minister to the people and affect lives?<br />

Father Tom will tell you the highpoint<br />

of his priesthood is when he is the<br />

celebrant at Eucharist, especially on<br />

Sunday. “You draw so much of your<br />

spirituality as well as your strength in<br />

ministry from the Eucharist,” Father<br />

Tom said. He also values his time in<br />

the confessional.<br />

“I’m amazed at how much influence<br />

you have over people’s spiritual<br />

lives by being a good confessor,”<br />

he said. “When I’m going into the<br />

confessional, my first prayer is, ‘Lord<br />

don’t let me get in the way.”<br />

Finding the time to fulfill the<br />

expectations people have of you is one<br />

of the biggest challenges he faces as a<br />

priest. A self-proclaimed perfectionist,<br />

Father Tom said he has learned that<br />

“when you don’t have time to minister<br />

it’s because you haven’t made enough<br />

time to pray.” He said it’s critical that<br />

he maintains a routine that includes<br />

daily prayer.<br />

“I know the life that I live right now,<br />

the vocation I’ve answered, is fulfilling<br />

in so many ways,” said Father Tom.<br />

“There is a satisfaction in knowing<br />

that what Msgr. Heslin said to me that<br />

one Sunday morning – consider the<br />

priesthood because you can influence<br />

people more than you will ever know<br />

– is absolutely right.”<br />

If you know someone that would<br />

make a good priest – tell him. If you are<br />

thinking about the priesthood, call the<br />

Vocations Office at (904) 262-3200, ext.<br />

101 or email vocations@dosafl.com.<br />

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around<br />

around the diocese<br />


Sister Thérése Marie Iglesias<br />

Takes Final Vows<br />

Sister Thérèse Marie (Diane) Iglesias, daughter<br />

of William and Blanche Iglesias of Christ the King<br />

Parish in Jacksonville, is now a lifetime member of the<br />

Franciscan Sisters, Third Order Regular of Penance of<br />

the Sorrowful Mother. She pronounced her perpetual<br />

vows August 6 in Christ the King Chapel at Franciscan<br />

University in <strong>St</strong>eubenville, Ohio.<br />

It was at a retreat conducted by the Brotherhood of<br />

Hope at Florida <strong>St</strong>ate University that she fi rst considered<br />

becoming a nun. She had been struggling with the idea<br />

for a while, but by the end of the retreat she knew God<br />

was calling her to religious life. Sister Thérèse Marie<br />

currently serves her community as director of vocations.<br />

Franciscan Sister Thérése Marie, along with members of her<br />

order, professed her solemn vows on August 6 at Franciscan<br />

University in <strong>St</strong>eubenville, Ohio. Bishop Daniel Conlon of the<br />

Diocese of <strong>St</strong>eubenville presided.<br />

From left, Keynote Speaker Claretian Sister Regina Tutzó of SEPI in Miami and<br />

Alba Orozco, coordinator of the diocesan Multi-Cultural Ministry.<br />

spanish encuentro<br />

mission evangelization and formation<br />

Nearly 400 men, women and children attended a Spanish<br />

Encuentro Sept. 23, at Sacred Heart Parish in Green Cove<br />

Springs. The Multi-Cultural Ministry of the Diocese of Saint<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> organized the daylong gathering that included a<br />

talk by Claretian Sister Regina Tutzó of the Southeast Pastoral Institute<br />

(SEPI) in Miami.<br />

An encuentro, which means, “encounter” in Spanish, is designed to<br />

encourage Hispanic <strong>Catholic</strong>s to become more involved in the life and<br />

mission of the church.<br />

“There is a great need for Hispanic <strong>Catholic</strong>s to know their faith so<br />

they can minister effectively as leaders of the church,” said Alba Orozco,<br />

coordinator of the Multi-Cultural Ministry of the diocese.<br />

With Hispanic <strong>Catholic</strong>s making up more than 45 percent of the<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> population in the United <strong>St</strong>ates, the diocese has developed a<br />

four-part pastoral plan to identify, train and form lay leaders for pastoral<br />

work in various ministries of the diocese.<br />

founder’s day 2006 st. augustine celebrates 441st birthday<br />


<strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> City Commissioner, Don Crichlow, left, portrays Don Pedro<br />

Menendez de Aviles, the city’s founder, as part of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>’s 441st birthday<br />

on Sept. 2. Joining Crichlow in the reenactment is Scott Brewer.<br />

While the City of <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> celebrated its 441st<br />

birthday on Sept. 2, the <strong>Catholic</strong> community<br />

joined the festivities by commemorating its early<br />

beginnings. The <strong>Catholic</strong> faith was brought to the<br />

shores of present-day Florida on Sept. 8, 1565. Father Francisco<br />

Lopez celebrated the first Mass of Thanksgiving that day in<br />

preparation for starting a settlement there. They named their new<br />

home <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> in honor of the saint on whose feast day they<br />

sighted land – August 28.<br />

Father Tim Lozier, pastor of the Cathedral-Basilica, celebrated<br />

Mass at the rustic altar at Mission Nombre de Dios, a Founder’s Day<br />

tradition. <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong> is the site of the first permanent parish church<br />

in the continental United <strong>St</strong>ates – now the Cathedral Basilica.<br />

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st. vincent de paul society<br />

seeing the face of God in the poor<br />

The Feast of <strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul, Sept. 27, brought together members of the<br />

Vincentian family for their third annual celebration Mass with Bishop Victor<br />

Galeone at Christ the King Parish in Jacksonville. The Daughters of Charity,<br />

Vincentian Father Edward McQuillan, and representatives of 13 conferences<br />

of the <strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul Society, make up the<br />

Vincentian family in the Diocese of Saint <strong>Augustine</strong>.<br />

Like that of its founder, Blessed Frédéric Ozanam,<br />

the vision of the <strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul Society is to<br />

“embrace the world in a network of charity.” Father<br />

Joseph McDonnell, diocesan moderator and spiritual<br />

advisor of the society, said his goal is to organize a<br />

conference in each of the 51 parishes of the diocese.<br />

Youth conferences are now being formed at Bishop<br />

Kenny and Bishop John Snyder High Schools in<br />

Jacksonville. There are more than 40,000 conferences<br />

in 130 countries.<br />

To find out more about the <strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul<br />

Society or to establish a conference in your parish,<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul call Michael Barton, society president in the diocese at<br />

(904) 308-7519 or email: mjbarto@aol.com.<br />

religious retirement fund<br />

share in the care<br />

The appeal for the Retirement Fund<br />

for Religious (RFR) has generated<br />

a greater response than any annual<br />

appeal in the U.S. <strong>Catholic</strong> Church<br />

history. Almost $500 million has been<br />

raised through this appeal to help ensure<br />

appropriate care and handicapped accessible<br />

housing for more than 37,000 <strong>Catholic</strong><br />

sisters, brothers and religious order priests<br />

who are now past age 70.<br />

The crisis in unfunded retirement became<br />

evident in the early 1970s. <strong>Catholic</strong> schools,<br />

operated primarily by religious orders,<br />

were educating more than 10 percent of<br />

the student population in the United <strong>St</strong>ates.<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> hospitals were becoming the largest<br />

group of not-for-profit hospitals in the nation.<br />

But the salaries and stipends to religious were<br />

earmarked primarily for good works, new<br />

ministries, and training and education that<br />

prepared religious for ministries.<br />

For generations, those entering<br />

religious life had carried out the care of<br />

elderly members. Today, however, elderly<br />

religious far outnumber wage-earning<br />

religious. Retired religious today receive<br />

on average one-third of the benefit paid to<br />

the average Social Security recipient.<br />

Nearly 95 percent of donations are<br />

returned as grants to religious institutes<br />

– far exceeding the average nonprofit in the<br />

percentage of donations applied directly<br />

to mission. Since its establishment, the<br />

national office has expanded its services to<br />

assist strategic planning for retirement; and<br />

track emerging trends in elder care, property<br />

utilization and publicly funded programs.<br />

Please give generously to the collection for<br />

our retired religious in December. For more<br />

information visit www.usccb.org/nrro.<br />


around<br />

around the diocese<br />


Celebrate Mass<br />

and lunch with our<br />

seminarians<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul Regional<br />

Seminary is once again inviting<br />

the <strong>Catholic</strong> community to attend<br />

“Wednesday Mass for Vocations”<br />

on campus followed by lunch with<br />

seminarians. The invitation is open<br />

through May 2007.<br />

<strong>St</strong>. Vincent de Paul Regional Seminary<br />

was opened in 1963 and serves, not<br />

only the North American communities,<br />

but also the Caribbean, South and<br />

Central Americas. Today, it is the only<br />

bilingual and multicultural theologate in<br />

the United <strong>St</strong>ates.<br />

“For more than four decades<br />

we have focused on seminarian<br />

education,” noted Seminary<br />

President and Rector Msgr. Keith<br />

Brennan. “We hope that through<br />

initiatives such as the Wednesday<br />

Mass, <strong>Catholic</strong>s will come to<br />

recognize and appreciate the<br />

tremendous asset they have at the<br />

seminary and join us as we pray<br />

for an increase of vocations to the<br />

priesthood, diaconate and ministry in<br />

the church.”<br />

The Wednesday Mass begins at<br />

12:15 p.m. followed by lunch. Seating<br />

is limited so please call (561) 732-<br />

4424 for reservations. The seminary<br />

is located at 10701 South Military<br />

Trail, Boynton Beach, Fla.<br />

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life<br />

work life<br />

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end to poverty across the nation.<br />

Please give to the<br />

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For more information call<br />

800-944-4CHD or visit<br />

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should I stay or should I go?<br />

how do I know if it’s the right time<br />

to switch jobs?<br />

by Tim Ryan<br />

Ted says: I’ve been in the same job now for about fi ve years. I like<br />

the company OK, but I’m not sure where I stand; I don’t think I’m<br />

appreciated. After a few months of searching, I fi nally received an offer<br />

for a new position. It wasn’t anything special, but it was a little more<br />

money and a good chance to make a change. I went to my boss, expecting to give<br />

him notice and arrange a transition plan. To my surprise, he strongly encouraged<br />

me to stay. He asked if I could hold the new company off for a couple of days<br />

while he put an offer together. I said I would, but when the new company started<br />

pressuring me for a decision, I got nervous. Although this was<br />

basically a no-lose situation, I was afraid I might screw it up<br />

by not handling it correctly. I can’t believe how much anxiety it<br />

caused. How do we deal with life decisions like this?<br />

The expert says: Father Richard<br />

Rohr is the founder of the Center for Action<br />

and Contemplation and is a respected<br />

spiritual director. In his book, Everything<br />

Belongs, he addresses the spiritual<br />

dilemma that comes from our<br />

need to control. He says: “Our<br />

culture teaches us we have to Although this wa<br />

compare, dominate, control and basically a no-lo<br />

insure. In brief, we have to be in situation, I was<br />

charge. That need to be in charge afraid I might sc<br />

moves us deeper and deeper into it up by not handling<br />

it correctly.<br />

a world of anxiety.” So how do we<br />

avoid this anxiety? Father Rohr can’t believe how<br />

goes on to say that the fi rst thing much anxiety it<br />

we need to do is to realize that, caused. How do<br />

“Life is not about me; it’s about we deal with life<br />

God, and God is about love.” So, decisions like th<br />

it’s not about what I want, it’s<br />

about how God asks me to serve.<br />

Ted responds: I kept playing out all the scenarios in m<br />

head trying to sort out the “right” answer. Finally, I couldn’t<br />

take the stress anymore and concluded that I didn’t know –<br />

not up to me! The one thing I did decide was to let go and<br />

let God put the pieces of the puzzle together for me. It turne<br />

out to be an easy decision to stay when my company came<br />

back with a surprisingly good offer. I realized that maybe this<br />

is where God wants me to be, and that instead of worrying<br />

about being in control, I just need to focus on how I’m calle<br />

to serve the people around me, and let God take care<br />

Tim Ryan<br />

Email questions and comments to:<br />

tryan@faithmag.com<br />

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last word<br />

last word<br />

heaven, purgatory, hell<br />

where are we going? Father Charles Irvin<br />

God did not<br />

create us for hell<br />

nor does he predestine<br />

anyone to<br />

live in that state<br />

of being. Those<br />

who live in hell<br />

have persistently<br />

and deliberately<br />

chosen to live<br />

apart from God’s<br />

love.<br />

Heaven is that ecstatic communion of all who<br />

are perfectly incorporated into Christ. To be<br />

immeasurably loved by God and by others is to live<br />

in heaven. It’s not a place, it’s a state of being. Some<br />

live heavenly lives right here on earth.<br />

Hell is also a state of being. Some live hellish lives here on<br />

earth. Hell is to live in a definitive rejection and self-exclusion from<br />

communion with God and all of those who live in blessed union<br />

with him. God did not create us for hell nor does he predestine<br />

anyone to live in that state of being. Those who live in hell have<br />

persistently and deliberately chosen to live apart from God’s love.<br />

The <strong>Catholic</strong> Church has never declared that any one particular<br />

human being is living in hell. Only those who refuse to believe and<br />

who definitively refused God’s love are in hell. This means that<br />

God does not put them there, they put themselves there – and<br />

God must allow them the results of their choices.<br />

“The church can do no more than trust in the mercy of God,<br />

who desires that all people be saved,” says the catechism. God<br />

“wants everyone to be saved and reach full knowledge of the<br />

truth.” (1 Timothy 2:5) It is not God who rejects us and throws us into<br />

hell – we reject God and forever live in that rejection. Decisions<br />

have consequences!<br />

And purgatory – what’s that? There are some who quite<br />

obviously have lived and died without being perfectly incorporated<br />

into Christ. They need to purge away those elements within their<br />

hearts and souls that obscure his light and block his love. They are<br />

among God’s elect but are God’s “unfinished business.”<br />

Could it be that many of us are in purgatory here<br />

on earth? I believe that to be the case. I know from my<br />

own experience the cleansing fire of God’s love. I know<br />

God loves me and I know I could better love God. I strive<br />

to purge away all within me that detracts from God’s<br />

presence, power and love.<br />

Limbo? That is no longer a part of the church’s<br />

teachings on life after death. It was, at<br />

most, only a theological speculation that<br />

never became an official doctrine that<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong>s were required to accept.<br />

God always offers us his love;<br />

he will never withdraw his offer of<br />

love or turn his back on us. God<br />

offers – we respond. The thing<br />

to be concerned about is not<br />

what God will do, it’s what we<br />

choose to do. We may reject<br />

God; he will never reject us.<br />

Email questions and comments to:<br />

cirvan@faithmag.com<br />

Father Charles Irvin<br />

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calendar<br />

<strong>November</strong> 2006<br />

Nov. 3<br />

Festival D’Vine – Friday, 6:30-<br />

9:30 p.m. at Balis Park of San Marco<br />

Square, Jacksonville. An outdoor winetasting<br />

event with live music, food and<br />

more. Benefits <strong>Catholic</strong> Charities and<br />

its mission to help families in need. Call<br />

(904) 354-4846, ext. 227 or visit<br />

www.ccbjax.org.<br />

Nov. 3-4<br />

Sisters: A Life of Love – Join the<br />

Sisters of <strong>St</strong>. Joseph for a retreat for<br />

single <strong>Catholic</strong> women 18-45. Friday<br />

and Saturday at the Sisters of <strong>St</strong>. Joseph<br />

Convent in <strong>St</strong>. <strong>Augustine</strong>. Cost: $20. Call<br />

Sister Kathleen Power at (904) 829-3735<br />

or email: ssjflvocations@bellsouth.net.<br />

Nov. 4<br />

14th Annual Black and White Ball –<br />

Sponsored by Jacksonville Regional Office<br />

of <strong>Catholic</strong> Charities to help families in<br />

need. Saturday 6:30 p.m.- midnight, Hyatt<br />

Regency Hotel, Jacksonville. For ticket<br />

information, call (904) 354-4846, ext. 227<br />

or visit www.ccbjax.org.<br />

Nov. 4<br />

2006 Anniversary Celebration – All<br />

couples celebrating their 25, 30, 35, 40,<br />

45, 50, or more wedding anniversary in<br />

2006 are invited to renew their wedding<br />

vows with Bishop Victor Galeone on<br />

Saturday, 2 p.m., Holy Faith Parish,<br />

Gainesville. Call (904) 308-7474.<br />

Pre-registration is required.<br />

Nov. 5<br />

Presentation – Why Do <strong>Catholic</strong>s<br />

Read the Bible? Speaker: Sister Carolyn<br />

Osiek, RSCJ, <strong>Catholic</strong> professor of New<br />

Testament at Brite Divinity School of Texas<br />

Christian University. Sunday, 3 p.m., <strong>St</strong>.<br />

<strong>Augustine</strong> Church and <strong>St</strong>udent Center,<br />

Gainesville. Open to all.<br />

Nov. 5<br />

<strong>Catholic</strong> Cemetery Sunday<br />

Nov. 8<br />

Afternoon of Reflection: Something<br />

for the Elderly – Leader: Msgr. John<br />

Lenihan. Wednesday, 11:30 a.m.-3 p.m.<br />

at Marywood Retreat Center, Jacksonville.<br />

Cost: $12. Call (904) 287-2525 or visit<br />

www.marywoodcenter.org.<br />

Nov. 10-12<br />

Weekend Retreat – Coloring Outside<br />

the Lines - Leader: Marie Cistrelli.<br />

Friday-Sunday, Marywood Retreat Center,<br />

Jacksonville. Cost: $118-$198.<br />

Call (904) 287-2525 or visit www.<br />

marywoodcenter.org.<br />

Nov. 10-12<br />

Engaged Encounter – A marriage<br />

preparation program open to all couples of<br />

faith. Begins Friday, 7:30 p.m., Marywood<br />

Retreat Center, Jacksonville. Cost: $280<br />

per couple. Call (904) 308-7474 or<br />

register online: wwwdcfl.org.<br />

Nov. 10-12<br />

Diocesan Marriage Renewal – A<br />

retreat weekend for couples that want to<br />

enrich their marriage. Friday to Sunday,<br />

Marywood Retreat Center, Jacksonville. To<br />

register, call John or Tina Morrissey at<br />

(904) 744-6843.<br />

Nov. 17-19<br />

Weekend Advent Retreat – Leader:<br />

Father John Tetlow. Friday-Sunday,<br />

Marywood Retreat Center, Jacksonville.<br />

Cost: $118-$195. Call (904) 287-2525 or<br />

visit www.marywoodcenter.org.<br />

Nov. 18<br />

Day of Reflection: Slow Me Down,<br />

Lord – Leader: Father Anthony Sebra.<br />

Saturday, 9:30 a.m.-2:30 p.m., Marywood<br />

Retreat Center, Jacksonville. Cost: $25.<br />

Call (904) 287-2525 or visit www.<br />

marywoodcenter.org.<br />

Nov. 29<br />

Christmas Cards and Coffee<br />

Leader: Cenacle Sister Judith Osterburg.<br />

Wednesday, 9 a.m.-2 p.m., Marywood<br />

Retreat Center, Jacksonville. Cost: $10.<br />

Call (904) 287-2525 or visit www.<br />

marywoodcenter.org.<br />

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no o n e is bOr n a priest<br />

It takes a community to raise a priest; from families who talk about vocations, to parishioners who<br />

pray for and champion religious life, to priests themselves, who through their lives of compassion and<br />

sacrifi ce, reveal Christ’s abundant love. If you know someone who would make a good priest, tell him.<br />

And ask him to call our Vocations Offi ce. Your encouragement could make all the difference.<br />

(904) 262-3200, ext. 101<br />

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