The Biblical Role of the Pastor's wife - South African Theological ...

whether leading a Bible study or assisting in a counselling session may leave
her feeling vulnerable, fearing criticism because of her lack of training.
Assumptions or expectations of the pastor’s wife often arise because of
the work their husbands do or training their husbands have had, thinking the
wife has had a similar training or background. Often wives are seen as ‘more
spiritual’ than other ladies and are called upon to pray for meetings or events
simply because being married to a pastor may indicate a higher level of
spirituality. Wives who felt inadequate often mentioned a lack of time to retain
a consistent devotional life. Dobson (2004:95) indicates that guilt sometimes
sets in and feelings of failure or hypocrisy are experienced due to a lack of
devotional life. Some of the wives interviewed indicated that they would have
benefited by some education or assistance regarding their role.
2.4.5 What are some of the most rewarding aspects of being a pastor’s
wife?
22B5q: Seeing growth and change in people’s lives.
23B3w: I enjoy getting to know people and being involved in the women’s
ministry. It is a privilege to have people (women) share with me, they place
their trust in me and I honour that.
34D5p: It pleases me when congregants recognise my husband’s value. It is
rewarding for me to be able to support my husband in his life’s work. Hearing
of people come to know Christ and being a part of others coming to know
Christ as Saviour is very rewarding. Being available to help and encourage
others.
12B1s: At this point in time, I do not feel much reward with regard to being a
pastor’s wife. It is difficult for me and I am frustrated at times. I find comfort in
knowing that I am fulfilling God’s purpose and plan for my life right now.
22B3q: I love seeing believers being saved, especially the young people. I
love people and love to see God at working in their lives.
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