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VIEWS

editor’s note

by matt comer

matt@goqnotes.com

Highs and Lows

VIEWS

general gayety

by leslie robinson

qnotes contributor

Iowa teen argues the good argument

It’s a sometimes dreaded, but always

rewarding task that comes around annually

for journalists and newspaper editors the

world over — the year-end review of the

preceding 52 weeks’ worth of top stories and

shenanigans. Dreaded because it’s a large,

complex and time-consuming undertaking.

Rewarding, of course, because of all the

great stories once reported and discovered

again since being long forgotten. Obviously,

no one forgets the really big news, but

there’s often a warm and fuzzy feeling when

you read back over a smaller, less-noticed

piece reported sometime in the year.

So it is with this issue — our annual yearin-review

tracks our community’s biggest

breakthroughs, losses, accomplishments and

defeats. You might remember some of the

more high-profile stories, too. We hope you

also get that nostalgic feeling for some of the

stories you might have put out of your mind.

Our community had plenty to rejoice over

this year. On a national level, state level and

here at home in Charlotte, LGBT citizens

and residents shaped their own world. On a

national level, the community celebrated the

full repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’ Tell” policy.

Statewide, we banded together to challenge

efforts to write discrimination into our

constitution. On a local level, we celebrated

our largest Pride Charlotte Festival ever and

the election of Charlotte’s first openly gay or

lesbian officeholder.

Despite the litany of successes, our

community experienced loss. No year-end

wrap up would be complete without pausing

in remembrance of those friends, family and

loved ones who passed this year.

Among them was Pamela Jones, a former

member of the LGBT Community Center of

Charlotte Board of Directors and a co-founder

of the Charlotte Gender Alliance. Pamela’s

efforts to work for equality and inclusion

were chronicled here in qnotes on several

occasions. We enjoyed talking to her and

we’ll always hold a special place in our heart

for her and the good work she did for others.

The same is true for Ted Messner, a

longtime community leader and treasurer

for the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action

Committee (MeckPAC). Often working in the

background, Ted helped to shape and mold

MeckPAC’s mission and message, ensuring

that pro-LGBT candidates for city council

and county commission made their way into

elected office. The hard work he engaged in

certainly helped pave the way for people like

newly-elected City Councilmember LaWana

Mayfield and efforts by citizens and activists

to make Charlotte the truly world-class and

inclusive city we all know it should be.

Last, but not least, we remember Nan

Robinson, a dedicated supporter and

volunteer of the LGBT Community Center.

She worked diligently with the group’s programs

committee and helped produce their

GayCharlotte Film Festival, helping to make

a place for LGBT-friendly film and arts in the

Queen City.

The passing of these leaders leaves

a hole in our community. Each made their

mark. Each made a difference. And, all of us

have been made better by their passion and

zeal for life and liberty.

It is sad that life must include so many

highs and so many lows. But, in pausing to

reflect on their work and their lives, we feel

love and remembrance, gratitude and humility.

Should old acquaintance be forgot? No.

Never. Pamela, Ted and Nan will live on in

each of the lives they touched. As this year

ends and this chapter of our own lives comes

to an end, we look back and wish them luck

and grace in whatever next steps await them

in their journey into eternity. : :

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raves and news tidbits from qnotes staff and local

and national voices from around the web.

I give Jane Schmidt a world of credit.

The Iowa high school student held her own

in an exchange with Republican presidential

candidate Michele Bachmann. At

Schmidt’s age, shaking a candidate’s hand

was enough to make me forget my name.

I grew up in New Hampshire, where,

due to the state’s first-in-the-nation primary,

presidential candidates are as abundant

as black flies. I assume the Iowa caucuses

mean the Hawkeye State is likewise swarming

with presidential wannabes.

These Famous and Important People

are intimidating when you’re young and I

couldn’t have managed more than reading a

question aloud before losing the use of my

vocal cords.

Not so for Jane Schmidt on a recent day

in the Pizza Ranch restaurant in Waverly,

Iowa. The Des Moines Register, which carried

an account of the back-and-forth with

Bachmann, didn’t give Schmidt’s age or her

year in school, but did say she’s the president

of Waverly High School’s Gay-Straight

Alliance, so I’ll think of her as a senior.

I’ll also take a moment to drop my jaw

that Waverly High even has a Gay-Straight

Alliance.

Standing amidst a supportive crowd

of about 65 people, mostly middle-aged

and elderly, Michele Bachmann might’ve

thought she was home free. Then, as a CNN

video showed, she and her microphone

headed toward the student in the red plaid

trooper hat.

Schmidt told Bachmann she was

concerned about the lack of government

support for the LGBT community. Bachmann

replied that the government’s job is to protect

civil rights. “We all have the same civil

rights,” she concluded.

That would’ve been the moment where

I’d have thought to myself, “There’s something

wrong with that statement and my God

everyone is staring at me.”

Not Schmidt. She responded, “Then,

why can’t same-sex couples get married?”

The candidate answered, “They can get

married, but they abide by the same law

as everyone else. They can marry a man

if they’re a woman. Or, they can marry a

woman if they’re a man.”

Now that the country has gotten a peek

at Michele Bachmann’s husband Marcus,

a sizable number of people believe that the

woman is speaking from experience here.

Schmidt asked why two men can’t

marry, and Bachmann answered that’s

the law. “So heterosexual couples have a

privilege,” responded Schmidt.

She was still being logical, while I’d

have long since been carried away on

a stretcher.

Straight couples have the same legal

opportunity, said Bachmann. “There is no

right to same-sex marriage.”

Except for where she was standing. It

escaped Bachmann’s notice that same-sex

marriage is legal in Iowa.

“So you won’t support the LGBT community?”

asked the student.

“No, I said that there are no special

rights for people based upon your sex

practices,” said the congresswoman, who

must’ve been annoyed at God for forcing

her to talk about sex with a high school

student in front of scads of Iowa senior

citizens.

Ella Newell, a junior at the high school,

tried to advance the point about privilege

before the debate ended with Bachmann

repeating that every American can marry,

just someone of the opposite sex.

Most of Bachmann’s statements

received applause, probably as much an

attempt to silence the girls as to indicate

support. But, Schmidt carried on, doggedly

and civilly, despite the disapproval of her

neighbors and despite the presence of

reporters and cameras.

I hope someone bought her a pizza

afterwards. Unless she felt like throwing up.

After the exchange between the high

school students and the congresswoman,

a young man told Schmidt and Newell that

they should “emulate” Bachmann.

Yes, if Schmidt conforms and turns into

an always-feminine Christian soldier she

could land a guy like him.

Now I’m sure she felt like throwing up. : :

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NEWS

Person of the Year: Roberta Dunn

Passionate advocate has love for community and equality

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

For a relatively new Charlotte-area

resident, Roberta Dunn has become an

amazingly well-connected advocate for LGBT

equality. She serves on the LGBT Community

Center of Charlotte Board of Directors and on

the steering committee for the Mecklenburg

LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC).

This year, she also served on an advisory

committee for Mayor Anthony Foxx’s re-election

campaign.

Previously a resident of Northern Virginia,

Dunn moved to Charlotte six years ago. She’d

always been passionate about community

and worked with children, sports activities

and in other areas. Not until her retirement

and introduction to the Queen City, however,

did she get her first inkling toward activism.

“I was going to Charlotte Gender Alliance

meetings and one of the people there asked

what we were doing for outreach,” Dunn

says. “We were coming to meetings and

learning about being trans and those issues

but what were we doing to educate the community

and work with the community?”

The question prompted Dunn to ask more.

She contacted the police department to

inquire about laws and the legal treatment of

transgender people. She started attending

classroom meetings and panel discussions

at local universities. When she noticed other

cities across the country moving forward on

gay and transgender equality initiatives she

reached out with a desire for Charlotte to do

the same.

“I was introduced to MeckPAC and

[former chair] Phil Hargett,” Dunn says. “He

asked me to join MeckPAC and that’s when I

started to get to know elected officials here.”

That moment, Dunn says, became the

catalyst for her current involvement.

Since then, Dunn has taken the lead on

several issues. After the murder of transgender

Charlottean Toni Alston in April 2010, Dunn

reconnected with the police department and

engaged officials there in conversation on

their relationship to the broader LGBT community.

Her initial chats grew and resulted in

a town hall meeting at the LGBT Community

Center with Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police

Chief Rodney Monroe, efforts that won her

recognition as Equality North Carolina’s 2010

Equality Champion for the Charlotte region.

This year, Dunn has worked closely with a

large group of community members in efforts to

increase Charlotte’s official LGBT protections.

“The issue really was to move forward

to get the city, which has been dragging its

feet, to pass employment non-discrimination

based on gender identity and to get the city

to vote on their policy on sexual orientation,”

Dunn says.

With the Democratic National Convention

coming to town next September, Dunn says

progressive movement on the part of the city

is more important than

ever.

Her goal, she says, is

to let the nation and world

know that Charlotte is an

LGBT-welcoming city.

In a world where

transgender people are

often the target of some

of the most daunting

challenges and outright

prejudice (both within

and outside of the LGBT

community), Dunn has

overcome and risen to the

top to become one of the

city’s most outspoken and

well-trusted politicos.

Anyone who knows

Dunn is likely to give

a one-word answer:

Cookies. She’s famous

for them. Peanut butter

cookies. Sugar cookies.

Chocolate chip cookies.

So good they might be considered bribery.

But, underneath Dunn’s smile and her

natural, old-fashioned humility, grace and

friendliness is a more apt explanation of her

rise to “insider” status: Dunn is passionate

and committed beyond measure, willing to

take chances and has the kind of knack and

Activist and qnotes2011 Person of the Year Roberta Dunn at the annual

White House holiday reception in December.

tenacity that’s required in the often roughand-tumble

world of politics.

For her persistent commitment, intelligence,

zeal and passion for this city’s LGBT

community, its equality and the welfare of the

city at large, qnotes is proud to name LGBT

activist and civic leader Roberta Dunn our

2011 Person of the Year. : :

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BRIEFS

news notes:

from the carolinas, nation and world

compiled by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com | David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com | Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Film company fights amendment

WILMINGTON — Working Films has joined the battle against the North Carolina anti-gay

amendment on the ballot on May 8, 2012, with its addition of Reel Equality.

This initiative hopes to bring about awareness about the travails and issues surrounding

passage of any legislation against recognition of gay marriage. It is

comprised of a collection of six documentary films that help to tell

the story. The organizers’ goal is to “turn audiences into supporters

of statewide efforts of Equality NC and national efforts of the Human

Rights Campaign.”

Working Films’ co-founders are Robert West (executive director)

and Judith Helfand (development strategist and field explorer).

West is no stranger to North Carolina social justice projects.

In Charlotte, he was part of the OutCharlotte Film Festival for many

years. Helfand is a Peabody Award-winning filmmaker.

It’s website says, “This amendment is bad for all families, hurts the economy as many

large national employers support their LGBT colleagues, and sends a terrible message to

vulnerable LGBT youth that their state considers them to be second class citizens. It will be

an uphill battle, as the timing of the vote will turn out a base that supports this amendment,

but the fight is just getting started!”

They have launched a Facebook page and have listed online resources where one can

pledge to vote, learn about the repeal of Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), find out how the

Human Rights Campaign is championing the charge and more. They hope that visitors will use

the films for community-based activism. The Facebook page comes with a toolkit, as well.

Currently, a short video is available for viewing.

Working Films also has offices in London, England.

For more information, visit workingfilms.org or facebook.com/reelequality.

— L.M.

Charlotte

Grievance filed against Cogdell

CHARLOTTE — A former Mecklenburg

commissioner has filed a grievance against

fellow Democrat Harold Cogdell (pictured),

saying he should

be stripped of

any position in

the party after

working with

Republicans

to be elected

chairman of the

county board.

Lloyd Scher,

who served on

the Board of

Commissioners from 1992 to 2000, says he

also thinks Cogdell should be barred from

participating in any activities related to the

Democratic National Convention, which will

be held in Charlotte next September.

“It would be inappropriate for someone

who doesn’t support Democrats to stand there

next to the president of the United States,”

said Scher, a member of the Mecklenburg

Democratic Party’s Executive Committee.

Cogdell, reached at his home late Monday,

said, “It’s a nonissue that doesn’t deserve

me commenting.”

Cogdell ousted Jennifer Roberts in last

week’s county commissioners meeting. In a

5-4 vote that fell almost entirely along party

lines, Cogdell won over objections from other

Democrats who portrayed him as a traitor

and opportunist.

Cogdell won by securing support from the

panel’s four Republicans. Board Democrats,

except Cogdell, chose Roberts.

Commissioners traditionally have elected

the top vote-getter as chair. Roberts has

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served as chair since 2006. She did not

return a call seeking comment late Monday

[Dec. 12].

Scher’s letter to the state Democratic

Party says Cogdell met secretly with

other Republicans for weeks. It also asserts

that Cogdell shouldn’t be classified as a

“Democrat in good standing.”

— Steve Wootson, Jr.,

The Charlotte Observer via

Charlotte News Alliance

‘Ex-gay’ leader named person

of the year

CHARLOTTE — WORLD, a Christian

magazine based in the Queen City, has named

Alan Chambers, the leader of the “ex-gay”

Exodus International organization, its “Daniel

of the Year,” a reference to the Hebrew

prophet Daniel known to Jews, Christians and

Muslims alike for his imprisonment and later

safe delivery from a lions’ den.

Chambers appears on the cover of the

publication’s Dec. 17 issue.

He has become a lightening rod among

LGBT people and activists for his work with

Exodus International, a group that supports

so-called reparative therapies and leads

gay people to believe that they can become

heterosexual.

The group’s track record of gay-to-straight

conversion is unknown and activists have

accused the group of lying to and misleading

vulnerable LGBT people. Chambers himself

has admitted that “ex-gay” conversion isn’t

always likely.

Chambers’ ministry has previously partnered

with the anti-gay Focus on the Family.

In 2009, Exodus and Focus on the Family

hosted one of their several “Love Won Out”

conferences in Charlotte.

— M.C.

Group criticizes rehiring of

anti-gay activist

CHARLOTTE — North Carolina-based

LGBT advocacy group Faith in America is

criticizing Cisco Systems and Charlotte-based

Bank of America for their decision to rehire an

anti-gay activist known for his extremist views

on LGBT people.

Earlier this year, Christian author and

apologist Frank Turek received notice that his

contract with the two companies would not

be renewed after the companies received

complaints from employees regarding Turek’s

anti-gay views and activism. Turek had

worked to coordinate the companies’ leadership

and team-building programs.

Turek later teamed up with the anti-gay

National Organization for Marriage (NOM)

and their new Marriage Anti-Defamation

Alliance. In videos posted to NOM’s site and

in action alerts emailed to supporters, Turek

claimed he had been discriminated against

solely because of his views on marriage.

The two companies finally gave way to

Turek and NOM last month.

Faith in America Executive Director Brent

Childers has petitioned the companies to

reconsider and denounce Turek’s brand of

anti-LGBT bigotry.

The group said it is ironic that Bank of

America continues to employ Turek despite

its LGBT-friendly reputation. Additionally,

according to the group, the bank was

chosen to host the memorial account for

18-year-old Tennessean Jacob Rogers, who

committed suicide last week after years of

anti-gay bullying.

— M.C.

Triangle

Funds sought for campaign

DURHAM — The Coalition to Protect

NC Families’ Campaign Manager Jeremy

Kennedy is asking supporters to contribute

monies toward its efforts to defeat the antigay

marriage amendment which will appear

on the ballot on May 8, 2012.

In fact, he has gone so far as to request

that his loved ones forgo personal gifts or

reduce their cost so that contributions can be

given to the campaign. He’s suggesting others

to consider this as well.

The coalition has received a offer from

a donor who will match every gift received

between now and the end of 2011 up to

$25,000. At press time, they had raided close

to $17,500.

Funds will be used to hire staff to battle opposition

forces between now and late spring.

To make a contribution or for more information,

visit protectncfamilies.org.

In other news, the organization is also

seeking photographs of couples and families

for its website. They are going to use three

different kinds of photographs of three different

kinds of families. Kennedy said, “I am

looking for images that reflect the values of

our group, … diversity — not just in color, but

in gender, and in orientation.”

Email jeremy@protectncfamilies.org to

learn more or to submit images.

— L.M.

Triad

Foundation acknowledges heroes

GREENSBORO — The Guilford Green

Foundation has launched its first-ever

Leadership Awards, designed to recognize

the courage and generosity of selfless “unsung

heroes” from the LGBT and straight ally

communities.

This special presentation will be awarded

at their Gala celebration on March 31, 2012.

Currently, they are seeking names for

worthy recipients to begin their selection

process. Often great candidates are overlooked,

executive director Shane Burton said.

The Foundation does not want to miss the

opportunity of recognizing laudable achievements.

Deadline is Jan. 17, 2012.

The following are nomination categories:

GGF Visionary Award, given to one who has

championed the vision of a better world for the

LGBT community; GGF Distinguished Service

Award, given to an individual who has provided

years of outstanding service to the Piedmont

Triad LGBT community; and GFF Distinguished

Leadership Award, presented to an individual

who has demonstrated outstanding leadership

for a specific event, project or situation.

For nomination forms or for more information,

visit ggfnc.org.

— L.M.

Shooting range draws fire

RURAL HALL — ProShots Range, 1013

Bethania Rural Hall Rd., has received a

plethora of flack over its “Pansies Converted

Daily” billboard on display just outside

Winston-Salem.

According to the Gay & Lesbian Alliance

Against Defamation (GLAAD) website who

cited a Towleroad report, Kathy Clark alerted

Equality North Carolina (ENC) about her

disdain over the billboard. She indicated

that her sister reached out to the National

Shooting Sports Foundation (NSSF) to remove

it. They had given the shooting range a grant

for advertising. The foundation was unaware

of the billboard.

The scuttlebutt prompted ENC, GLAAD

and the NSSF to demand for its removal.

“Words and images have a powerful effect on

all people, including the LGBT community, and

it is important that companies using homophobic

euphemisms in their advertisements are

held accountable,” a GLAAD statement reads.

Officials at ProShots said they never

meant to offend anyone and that their

management had already decided to take the

billboard down once they realized how the

“potential offensive implications” were. They

shared their views on their Facebook page

which fielded a cross-range of comments

from its friends.

— L.M.


National/Global

Openly gay sailor reinstated

SAN DIEGO, Calif. — Petty Officer 2nd

class Jase Daniels (pictured), discharged

from the U.S. Navy in April 2005 and again in

March 2007 under “Don’t

Ask, Don’t Tell,” has been

reinstated and returned to

active duty. He was sworn

in on Dec. 12. Daniels is believed

to be the first openly

gay former military member

to be reinstated to service

since the repeal of DADT

this past September.

Daniels, 29, entered

the military in the spring of

2001. He completed Hebrew linguist training

and was stationed at Fort Gordon, Ga., where

he came to terms with his sexual orientation

and outed himself to his commander. He was

discharged in 2005. Nonetheless, in 2006, he

received a letter recalling him to service and

served in Kuwait for a year with the U.S. Navy

Customs Battalion Romeo. He served for a

year before he was discharged a second time

under DADT.

Daniels is one of three plaintiffs in an ongoing

lawsuit challenging the constitutionality

of discharges under DADT and seeking reinstatement

to active duty. Resolutions for the

other plaintiffs, former Air Force Major Mike

Almy and former Air Force Staff Sergeant

Anthony Loverde, are expected soon.

— D.S.

Court sides with trans plaintiff

ATLANTA, Ga. — Earlier this month

the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a

lower court ruling that the Georgia General

Assembly discriminated against Vandy Beth

Glenn, a transgender woman who was fired

from her job as Legislative Editor after she told

her supervisor that she planned to transition

from male to female.

Writing for the unanimous

three-judge panel, Judge Rosemary

Barkett stated, “An individual cannot

be punished because of his or her

perceived gender-nonconformity.

Because these protections are afforded

to everyone, they cannot be

denied to a transgender individual.

… A person is defined as transgender

precisely because of the perception

that his or her behavior transgresses

gender stereotypes. … We

conclude that a government agent

violates the Equal Protection Clause’s

prohibition on sex-based discrimination

when he or she fires a transgender or

transsexual employee because of his or

her gender non-conformity.”

The decision was hailed by LGBT advocates.

“The court could not have been more

clear: It is unfair and illegal to fire transgender

employees because their appearance or behavior

transgress gender stereotypes,” said

Greg Nevins, supervising senior staff attorney

in Lambda Legal’s Southern Regional Office in

Atlanta. “Employers should take note of this

important ruling.”

— D.S.

21 years for middle school killing

OXNARD, Calif. — On Nov. 21, Brandon

McInerney, 17, pleaded guilty to second degree

murder and voluntary manslaughter with

use of a weapon for the death of 15-year-old

Lawrence “Larry” King at E.O. Green Junior

High School on Feb 12, 2008. McInerney, who

was 14 at the time of the middle school slaying,

will serve his 21-year sentence in both

juvenile facilities and prison.

The plea agreement avoids a planned retrial

necessitated by the declaration of a mistrial

in the first proceeding stemming from the jury’s

inability to reach an agreement on whether to

find McInerney guilty of first-degree murder,

second-degree murder or manslaughter.

GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard

said, “The plea deal announced today ends

a tragic chapter in Ventura County. Holding

Brandon McInerney accountable for his actions

is necessary and right, but putting him

behind bars does not solve the problems that

led a boy to become a bully, and then a murderer.

… As adults and as a society, we must

find the resolve to fix the broken systems that

lost two young lives to hate and fear.”

— D.S.

Mayor comes out amid scandal

SOUTHAVEN, Miss. — The mayor of

Southaven, Mississippi’s third-largest city, has

come out in the wake of an examination of

receipts uncovered as part of an investigation

of his alleged expense account malfeasance.

According to state auditors, Mayor Greg Davis

fleeced the city for $170,000 while spending

thousands on liquor and expensive dinners

and even charging his account for $67 spent at

Priape, a shop for gay men in Toronto, Canada.

It was the discovery of the latter receipt

that led Davis, who is married with children,

to come out in a Dec. 15 interview with The

Commercial Appeal (Memphis, Tenn.).

“At this point in my life and in my career,

while I have tried to maintain separation

between my personal and public life, it is obvious

that this can no longer remain the case.

… I think that it is important that I discuss the

struggles I have had over the last few years

when I came to the realization that I am gay.”

Davis told the newspaper he planned to

spend the holidays with his family then return

to his mayoral duties in the new year.

— D.S.

U.S. stands up for gay rights

GENEVA, Switzerland — U.S. Secretary

of State Hillary Rodham Clinton delivered a

stirring speech Dec. 6 at the United Nations

on the inalienable rights of LGBT people. She

made a powerful case for the full inclusion of

LGBT people in human rights protections and

pledged that securing those rights is a priority

of the Obama administration’s foreign policy. In

her remarks, Secretary Clinton said: “To LGBT

men and women worldwide, wherever you

live and whatever the circumstances of your

life, whether you are connected to networks of

support or feel isolated and vulnerable, please

know that you are not alone. … You have an

ally in the United States of America.”

The speech was backed by a White House

memorandum directing all federal agencies

engaged abroad to use U.S. diplomacy and

foreign assistance to promote and protect the

human rights of LGBT persons.

Kate Kendell, executive director of the

National Center for Lesbian Rights, commented,

“Hearing the United States Secretary

of State speak passionately about ending violence

and discrimination against LGBT people

throughout the world left me with a lump in my

throat and tears in my eyes. To imagine what

the world would be like if the vision Secretary

Clinton laid out were to come to pass, is to

imagine a world of such deep and enduring

humanity that any dream can be realized.”

— D.S.

Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes


Positive Profile

People who are taking the negative out of being positive

by Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager

In this installment of our patient profile

series I am choosing to talk about many stories

I have heard this year, not just to narrow in on

one person in particular. Why? Well, with the

holidays here, I feel it is necessary that every

voice is heard, every story told, and no one is

forgotten. It is obvious that in this half of a page

I can’t tell the story of every individual infected

with HIV in our area, but here are a few

encounters along the way this year that stick in

my memory.

As the Practice Manager and Ryan White

Program Director at Rosedale Infectious

Diseases, I see quite a few people from

different walks of life all traveling the same

road. Being HIV positive myself for the last 15

years, I understand and can truly empathize

with their plight, but value the individuality

of difficulties that each of us encounter along

our journey. Let’s face it; it is exactly that, a

journey, no longer a destination when battling

this disease.

I remember early in the year, a young

gay male, some 19- or 20-years-old, was

sitting across my desk telling me that he had

just learned of his diagnosis. At first, as an

advocate in the field, my immediate response to

myself was “where did we as a community fail

this young man?” Is it the lack of public awareness

in the area and all around our country

today? Is it that this new generation of young

men and women has become complacent with

the treatments that are available for this disease

now? Is it the stigma that still exists in the South?

I never got a straight answer as to why, but that

night I prayed, not only for that young man, but

for all our youth, and for society as a whole that

we do a better job at intervention and education

with our youth. It is appalling to me that

young people are still contracting a disease that

is 100 percent preventable.

A wife came to me and needed to be

tested because she thought she may have been

infected by her husband. You see her husband

had died suddenly and she found out after his

death that he had been carrying on multiple

affairs. Here was a woman that not only just

lost her husband, but was now faced with years

of infidelity and no one left to confront the issue

or get answers. She knew she had to be tested

because she could possibly be at risk. Before I

go any further, let me tell you this woman was

not positive and remains negative and healthy

to this day. I sat back and wondered as she

cried in my office what she must be going

through and to this day I can still not imagine

those feelings.

Another story was not a new diagnosis,

but a related story. A patient I had personally

known for years and had been positive for over

25 years had lost his job and insurance. After

years, no decades, of battling this disease with

great success, this man was facing the reality

of where his medications would come from

next month and if he would remain healthy

and even risk resistance. Fortunately for him,

Rosedale Infectious Diseases has a full-time

benefits advocate in the form of Laurie Youron.

I watched and listened as Laurie calmly, but

without judgment or without making light of his

concern, helped him file for patient assistance

from a major drug company. Within 48 hours

the patient had his medications.

I am proud to manage a facility that puts

patients first. We listen to their concerns and do

our best to meet them where they are in their

journey. It always amazes me the compliments

that we get about our staff and facility. Not that

I don’t believe I have the best staff in Charlotte,

because I know (in my opinion, at least) that I

do. What amazes me is that what we consider

our mission and commitment to care appears

“unusual” to so many. We just believe we are

doing what we are called to do. That being

said, I make sure that I remind my staff at every

turn of the charge we have been given and to

make sure that we never take our role in this

epidemic lightly.

What bothers me the most is that there still

is a sense of “competition” among agencies

and individuals in our field. Are we not all fighting

the same battle? Do we not all see the same

consequences of stigma, isolation, and lack of

education and funding?

It is my fervent wish this holiday season that

all agencies, providers, activists, and patients

unite to a stronger collective force in 2012.

I truly believe that this is a battle that can be

won, or at least, we can be making strides to

that end. So, if it is in your holiday or daily

routine to send up a prayer, pray for the unity of

the forces in our community that can make sure

stories like you have read earlier in this article,

don’t have to happen.

Don’t forget to visit our website at

rosedaleid.com and friend us on

Facebook for community and clinical

updates.

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NEWS

The year in retrospect

The top stories of 2011

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

Bells will ring, candles will be lighted and champagne

will be toasted and plenty of folks will wish they

could forget many of the days gone by this year. Yes, the

economy still sucks. Yes, politicians still have no answers.

Yes, Congress is still deadlocked. But, don’t be fooled:

Lots of good things happened this year, too. With the

good comes the bad and, often, the sad and bittersweet.

Such is life and despite the every-increasing go-go-go of

the modern world, it’s healthy to stop and take a moment

to think and reflect on what was. Hopefully, such meditation

triggers inspiration on what can be as our local,

statewide and national community continues to make

brave and historic strides forward in our march of liberty,

equality and justice.

Here now, qnotes’ top stories of 2011

The email heard ‘round the world

Just days shy of New Year 2011, anti-gay Republican

Mecklenburg County Commissioner Bill James fired off

an email that sparked the ire of the local, statewide and

national LGBT communities. The email, in which he called

gay people “sexual predators,” became the focus of a

national petition campaign through Change.org. Just

over a week later more than 10,000 people had signed the

petition calling upon the county commission to censure

James. The censure would never come, though the board

did consider a resolution on equality and respect — a

document so mild and tame that James himself voted

for it. James’ diarrhea of the mouth was how Charlotte’s

LGBT community was welcomed into the New Year. And,

as always, James never failed to disappoint, making

plenty more hay throughout the year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/9615/

u Fresh face

In January, the North Carolina General Assembly

opened its new legislative session with a new member,

one who made history in the state becoming our first

openly gay, African-American state lawmaker. Freshman

Democratic House Rep. Marcus Brandon, who represents

portions of Guilford County, followed in the footsteps of the

state’s first openly gay legislator, New Hanover County’s

Sen. Julia Boseman. In her time in office, Boseman took

courageous stands for the LGBT community. Brandon has,

too. In his case, however, Brandon has faced down some

of the meanest and most extreme anti-gay hatred and

malice the state has ever seen, playing a crucial role in the

legislative fight to keep an anti-LGBT constitutional amendment

on marriage and civil unions off the ballot. For his

brave leadership in the face of a Republican majority hellbent

on discrimination, Brandon was honored near year’s

end as Equality North Carolina’s Legislator of the Year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/9952/

Sensationalistic tabloidism

Mecklenburg County’s Bill James wasn’t the only

person kicking up dust in the early part of the year. News

channel WBTV’s Steve Crump also took a turn, airing

what was eventually proven a trumped-up story on alleged

gay sexual encounters in one Mecklenburg County

park. qnotes went to work immediately to counter the

damaging and sensationalistic news report though the

damage was already done and the door to bigotry already

swung wide open as James used the opportunity to bring

up old horror stories about an “infestation” of gay men

in the local parks. Ultimately, facts and real journalism

won the day. Despite claims to the contrary, illegal public

sexual encounters among local gay men was near nothing

when compared to the heterosexual or drug-related

crimes against nature charges and arrests, according to

data collected from Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police.

As we reported then, “So, let the myth be quashed.

There is no “infestation” of gay men in Mecklenburg

County parks. There is no overwhelming problem — that

is, except for heterosexual prostitution. The evidence

points Charlotte — and, in particular, County Commissioner

Bill James and WBTV — in one clear direction: stop

scapegoating gay men and start looking in the mirror.

1 — Democrat Marcus Brandon is embarking upon his first term in the North Carolina General Assembly. He’ll represent a portion of

southwest Guilford County in the North Carolina House.

2 — In May 2011, qnotes celebrated it’s silver anniversary serving the LGBT community throughout the Carolinas.

3 — Out-going Equality North Carolina Executive Director Ian Palmquist speaks to a crowd of hundreds gathered for a pro-LGBT faith

rally in Charlotte on June 24.

4 — Organizers said 5,000 people attended the local Winston-Salem

Pride parade and festival.

Misbehaving heterosexuals are your problem. Leave us

gay folk alone.”

Look back: goqnotes.com/10621/

v Celebrate good times…

In May, qnotes celebrated its 25th anniversary, a feat

given the rocky roads experienced by the news industry

in recent years. LGBT news-media, including qnotes,

was never immune to those industry troubles. Some

LGBT newspapers closed shop. Others were reborn.

But, qnotes, is still alive and kicking. The future is bright,

though its many challenges are daunting, and we’re looking

forward to many more years ahead.

Look back: goqnotes.com/in/25years/

Make it rain

The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund pulled off a stunner

in May. The annual luncheon event, “The Happening,”

featured emcee Maureen O’Boyle and keynote speaker

Mitchell Gold. The group also doled out a record $85,000

to local LGBT organizations. The event was already going

well and a surprise — an additional $25,000 and another

$25,000 matching challenge — from new Charlotte

corporate citizen Wells Fargo made it that much better.

Money, money everywhere and lots of folks in need get a

much-deserved boost.

Celebrate, part two

qnotes wasn’t the only local LGBT institution

celebrating and chronicling their years of growth and

successes. In June, Time Out Youth feted 20 years of

service to local LGBT teens and young adults. The anniversary

events, spread out over three days included

the group’s 20th anniversary gala, an annual fundraising

event they hope to continue each year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/11195/

Financial closet

While Time Out Youth was spending June celebrating,

North Carolina non-profit NC Pride was busy

fending off allegations of mismanagement. The group’s

federal tax-exempt status was revoked early that

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Top stories of 2011

continued from page 9

month after years of failure to report their

annual finances to the Internal Revenue

Service. The group, which produces the annual

NC Pride Festival and Parade in Durham

each September, and its director, John Short,

has yet to speak publicly about the situation.

qnotes plans an in-depth follow-up in the

new year.

Look back: goqnotes.com/11697/

pavement to beat incumbent Democratic

District 3 Councilmember Warren Turner.

The September primary victory set her on

a nearly-guaranteed path to success — a

path ultimately proven when she won the

November election by a landslide to become

Charlotte’s first openly gay or lesbian elected

official.

Look back: goqnotes.com/13721/

of her fellow Tar Heels. Madison’s co-chairmanship

of HRC’s national search committee

charged with finding a replacement for outgoing

President Joe Solmonese was announced

in September. Madison is sure to represent her

home state well in what we’re sure is a daunting

task in choosing the next executive for the

nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization.

Look back: goqnotes.com/12495/

• End of an era

In July, Ian Palmquist stepped down as

executive director of Equality North Carolina.

The move came after 11 years working for

the organization — the last five years at the

group’s helm. Palmquist’s departure — he

is currently pursuing a graduate degree

at Harvard University’s Kennedy School of

Government — marked an important turning

point for the statewide LGBT advocacy and

education organization. In the midst of a

legislative campaign to defeat an anti-LGBT

constitutional amendment, the group dove

head-first into the mirky executive search

waters. Palmquist’s interim replacement,

Alex Miller, led the group with courage and

grace until a new executive director, Stuart

Campbell, was announced this fall.

Look back: goqnotes.com/11719/

Mayfield makes history

Long known for her neighborhood and

community advocacy, organizer LaWana

Mayfield announced her candidacy for the

Charlotte City Council in May. By August,

she had racked up a mammoth election

war chest and was out pounding the

Make it rain, part 2

The annual Pride Charlotte Festival got a

major boost this year. A new location right in

the middle of Uptown Charlotte’s arts district

set it on a path for success. And, success

it was. Organizers say some 27,000 people

attended the event, making it the largest

LGBT Pride festival between Atlanta and

Washington, D.C. Additionally, the 2011 event

raised some $60,000 or more — the most its

raised for the LGBT Community Center since

its inception in 2006. An audit of the group’s

expenses and income is expected to be made

public at some point in the new year. [Ed. Note

— This writer served on Pride Charlotte’s

organizing committee.]

Look back: goqnotes.com/12508/

King-maker

Longtime advocate for change and Human

Rights Campaign Board of Governors member

Joni Madison might not like the attention, but

she’s sure to have a lot of influence on behalf

Online Only:

Stabbing shakes

community

CHARLOTTE — A brutal early morning

fight and stabbing at Uptown’s Hartigan’s Irish

Pub in early December left one woman dead,

another jailed on murder charges and a community

left scrambling for answers.

Police say a fight on Dec. 4 between a

group of women at the iconic gay and lesbian

restaurant and bar began in the establishment’s

bathroom. It continued outside where

the victim, 30-year-old Antoinette Latoya

Baker, was stabbed with a broken beer bottle

in the neck and abdomen. Baker was later

transported to Carolinas Medical Center

where she died.

The suspect, 32-year-old Katie Nicole

x Small-town Pride

While Charlotte celebrated the successes

of their Pride festival, Winston-Salem was

embarking on a home-grown challenge to

host their first locally-produced Pride event

following NC Pride’s hosting of their annual

event in the Twin City years ago. The event

attracted at least 5,000 people for a street fair

and evening parade. Organizers say it will

become an annual event.

Look back: goqnotes.com/12961/

Ding dong the witch is…

On Oct. 31, anti-gay state Sen. James

Forrester, a Republican from Gaston County,

passed away. His death followed years of

anti-gay political activity and this year’s

introduction and eventual successful passage

of his anti-LGBT state constitutional

amendment. It’s such a shame his legacy will

be shaped by the last hate-filled action of his

life.

Look back: goqnotes.com/13109/

Robinson, was arrested

and charged

with murder later

that day. As of press time she remained without

bond in the Mecklenburg County jail.

Robinson has several prior arrests for

charges ranging from breaking and entering

to communicating threats and assault.

Police have not released more information

about what triggered the fight and an investigation

is still ongoing.

In response, the community has rallied

around the bar and the victim’s family.

more: Read this full story online at

goqnotes.com/13970/.

Meetings: Third Tuesday of every month, except when

there is specialized programming, plus monthly socials to

promote networking and friendship

Program: A wide variety of topics of interest to appeal to the

diverse LGBT community

Time: After work with a cash bar social and heavy hor d’oeuvres

with dinner and program following

Membership: Visit the website for application options and benefits.

Information: Call 704.565.5075

or email businessguild@yahoo.com

for more details or write to

The Charlotte Business Guild

P.O. Box 33371 | Charlotte, NC 28233

www.charlottebusinessguild.org

10 qnotes Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012


NEWS

Amendment made for rollercoaster year

The sausage-making that is legislating kept activists busy from day one

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

LGBT advocates and grassroots activists

knew they were up for a challenge the

moment election results started rolling in

November 2010’s midterm elections. Control

of the state legislature had been returned to

Republican hands for the first time in over a

century. It was time for the longtime minority

to have its way on Jones St. and Republican

leadership wasted no time getting to their

decades-long pent-up agenda.

It was a foregone conclusion that North

Carolina would, at least, consider an anti-

LGBT constitutional amendment, a measure

that would ban recognition of marriage, civil

unions and domestic partnerships for samesex

couples. Republican legislators like the

late state Sen. James Forrester had worked

to convince the previously Democratic-led

leadership to take up his discriminatory

measure for the past seven years in a row.

He never had any luck and the bill never

moved. But, anti-gay sympathies among the

new Republican majority and its leadership

all but guaranteed the amendment’s hearing

in House and Senate chambers.

Forrester immediately jumped on his to-do

list soon after the General Assembly opened

for this year’s session. He filed his bill and

began pushing for the amendment. A month

later, the amendment was filed in the House.

The weeks went by with very little word

on the amendment’s progress. It hadn’t been

scheduled for a hearing and legislative leaders

like Senate President Pro Tempore Phil

Berger and House Speaker Thom Tillis were

staying quiet on the issue.

The silence was broken in May at a proamendment

rally staged on the grounds

of the legislature. In June, an open mic

(whether it was planned or mistakenly

left on, no one knows) caught Republican

House members discussing the proposed

amendment.

“It’s important to the conservative groups

that we get this passed this year because

they need that to be able to get their ground

game working to get the maximum effect

to get out the vote,” Catawba County

Republican Mark Hilton said.

Hilton also thanked Tillis for his support

of the amendment, one of the first public

indications that the speaker would, in fact,

favor the measure.

“Speaker Tillis has assured us it will

happen this year,” Hilton said. “It may be in

a special session for constitutional amendments

but it will happen this year.”

Tillis’ support for the amendment was

confirmed a month later when the leader told

Asheville’s Citizen-Times that the measure

would “definitely be brought up in a special

fall session.”

Advocates and grassroots activists and

volunteers with Equality North Carolina

paid close attention

throughout the

year as the legislative

process crept

along. In July, former

Executive Director

Ian Palmquist stepped

down from his role.

In his place, Interim

Executive Director

Alex Miller stood

in as an outspoken

advocate, challenging

leaders like Forsyth

County Republican

and House Speaker

Pro Tempore Dale

Folwell.

In September,

the gauntlet was laid

down. The amendment

passed the House

75-42 on Sept. 12. One day later, the Senate

passed the measure 30-16, the slimmest of

necessary margins.

The fight to keep discrimination out

of the state constitution was on. Equality

North Carolina and its members didn’t

hesitate. Fundraising challenges were

made and met, even before an official antiamendment

referendum committee was

announced in November.

Organizing against the impending anti-LGBT amendment spread across the

state like wildfire soon after the measure’s legislative approval.

Pictured, an Oct. 15 rally in Uptown Charlotte.

This year wasn’t the best for the LGBT

community. However, despite the challenges

faced by the amendment, community leaders

and members pulled together and united like

never before. It’s a trend organizers against

the amendment hope continues in the new

year, where the amendment’s ultimate fate

will be decided by voters on May 8, 2012. : :

more: Want more of our past and continuing

coverage of the amendment? Visit our

Legislative Watch at goqnotes.com/in/ncga/.

Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 11


LIFE

Centers serve as rock-solid resource

Although diverse, each brings stability to communities they serve

by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.com

Across the Carolinas, gay, lesbian, bisexual

and transgender individuals constantly

search for options for support and socializing.

Some enjoy the bar scene, while others would

prefer gathering together to do social action

projects. But, the one consistent theme that

they all share is a need for connecting with

like-minded people.

Many of the smaller towns and hamlets

do not have a regular, growing meeting spot

that is specifically targeted to house the LGBT

community’s resources and more.

However, in places like Charlotte, Raleigh

and Columbia, as well as a unique option

in Wilmington, volunteers and paid staff

are working constantly on providing LGBT

seekers meeting rooms, classes, exhibits, resources

and a myriad of other items to satisfy

even the most demanding palette.

Of course, each of these resources

always welcome contributions to help them

sustain their work with the community. And,

when applicable, sponsorships are obtained

to assist in their selected efforts to champion

LGBT causes and more.

Coastal organization sets

new direction

Off with the old, on with the new. And, that’s

just what has happened. Out Wilmington has

a new name and a new direction. It is called

New Out Wilmington (NOW). It has set a new

course in working with the LGBT community

along the southern North Carolina coast. And,

more importantly, it’s the only center in the

Carolinas that operates totally virtually.

The non-profit’s new leadership says

it will play a more active role, supporting

Bowling is a favorite event for New Out

Wilmington participants.

Photo Credit: OutWilmington

issues that go outside those concerning

LGBT initiatives. They target fundraising

events to support local and national charities,

as well as scholarship opportunities

for LGBT students enrolled at Cape Fear

Community College and the University of

North Carolina-Wilmington.

Membership is available at three levels:

Gold, Silver and Bronze. Gold and Silver receive

a free Frank Card (a local discount card)

and discounts on events.

NOW is in the planning stages of implementing

a toll-free gay crisis helpline for

Southeastern North Carolina. According to

Tracy Holbrook, they are “in negotiations with

various groups such as [The] Trevor Project

and local businesses that are interested in

supporting this initiative. We definitely plan to

have a physical location for the Helpline when

it is implemented and this introduction will

also quickly allow our organization to have a

physical presence in our community.” The target

date to go live is in early 2012. According

to NOW, there are only around 50 across the

nation, surveys report. Contact Ben Rose,

organizer, at dover30@ec.rr.com to volunteer

or for more information.

On Oct. 21-23, NOW welcomed the

Leather History Conference 2011. The conference

is a project of the Carter/Johnson

Leather Library which is based out of Willow

Grove, Penn.

Current activities include a bowling league,

wine tastings, film screenings and more. Family

Fest 2011 was held from Sept. 30-Oct. 2 with a

health fair, screening of “Gen Silent,” dinner

cruise, worship service and tea dance.

NOW held its Winter Ball on Dec. 10 at

Cameron Art Museum, 3201 S. 17th St. This

charity event supported the work of Good

Shepherd Center.

On the horizon are a photo opportunity

with a male adult entertainment star to raise

money for scholarships for LGBT students, a

charity event fundraiser to support the local

homeless shelter and soup kitchen, monthly

film screenings and more.

The organization is always on the lookout

for committee members and volunteers.

Additionally, they are are open to working with

neighboring cities to strengthen their work and

that of other centers and initiatives.

info: outwilmington.com

Capital city heads call

To the northwest is the LGBT Center of

Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St.. This brickand-mortar

facility has established itself

in its brief history as a strong resource for

the Triangle area.

Its mission is to provide a safe, caring

place for all members of the LGBT community

and to provide services to it, as well,

said Linda Snyder, executive assistant.

Over its short history, the center has

grown from a single idea into a broad

organization that provides a rash of services.

It has not strayed from its original

direction, however, it may have had to

alter some things due to financial needs or

availability of funds.

“The LGBT Center of Raleigh was only an

idea three years ago, when two interested

groups [the center and Triangle Community

Works] came together and put their joint efforts

into making a physical center happen. Sharing

funds and plans, the groups merged into one

non-profit and took the step of renting a space,

hanging out our sign and sending emails all

over the area to friends and business friends,

seeking their input and financial help. We created

the Founders Triangle and have continued

to fundraise and provide events that have

drawn positive results. In one year we went

from an 800 square foot meeting space with a

small office, to a 1,700 square foot facility that

has meeting space, offices and a library that is

the largest LGBT library in the state outside of

the universities. Our calendar is continuously

full of events, meetings, and gatherings of outside

groups interested in the LGBT community

and we are a part of the larger community

through participation in such events as the First

Friday Art Walk run by the city of Raleigh. We

have also been approached this year by two

universities wishing to partner with us to have

their students intern at the Center, so we are

making an impact and becoming known for

the work we do and the people we support,”

Snyder shared.

Membership is not a function of the center.

It is open to the public.

It hosts the OutRaleigh Festival and

became the home to the M Club for young

gay and bisexual men. It also provides meeting

space and/or support for Silver Roses,

No Accidents in Life!, HIV testing, open

The LGBT Center of Raleigh constantly expands its

services on a community needs basis. Seen here is

a gathering of the Trans Initiative which started out

with 12 attendees and now boasts about 50.

Photo Credit: Center Archives

mic events, Transgender & Allies Support,

Primetimers and Gay and Gray, Rainbow

Reading Groups, game nights, potluck socials,

drag brunches, lesbian book club and more.

Additionally, it offers fitness-related activities

through Healthworks, which was originally a

Triangle Community Works program.

The center relies on contributions from

individual donors, plus several corporate

sponsors, such as Duke Medical, Workplace

Options and others, Synder added. It also

reaches out via its website to people all over

the country. And, it holds a variety of activities

across the Triangle to ensure inclusivity.

info: lgbtcenterofraleigh.com

Queen City center

continues to grow

Moving to the southwest is the LGBT Center

of Charlotte at 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11.

Its basic mission of serving the LGBT community

through programs, services, events and

collaboration hasn’t changed over the years.

John Stotler, board chair, said that they

listen to the community. “We’ve asked the

community to tell us what they want from the

center. Some of this, we’ve been able to do.

But, every event requires resources and sometimes

those are scarce, whether that is money

or volunteers. We’ve worked hard this past

year to recognize the importance of both and

to make better efforts to recognize donors and

volunteers for their extraordinary contributions.

We need to continue to cultivate both to meet

the needs of the community,” he continued.

When the facility was on Central Ave.,

it ran a full-time schedule. Because of a

shortfall in monetary resources over recent

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The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte host a

number of special events during the year, such

as gallery exhibits.

Photo Credit: Center Archives

years, the center was forced to downsize its

staff and volunteer hours. Stotler shared that

they hope to one day be able to be a full-time

center againand have increased their hours.

“In three years time, we fully expect that

the center will be hosting multiple events every

night of the week and be ‘the center’ of the

LGBT community in the region,” he said. He

indicated that the board even wants to expand

staff. They have one part-time employee now

and hope within the next few years to add a

full-time executive director. They would like

to occupy a larger space with the projected

growth for more events. On their wish list is to

see Pride Charlotte host 100,000 attendees In

five years. “The Pride Committee may laugh

about that, but Charlotte is a top 20 city. We can

host 100,000 people at Pride!” he concluded.

The center currently hosts free HIV/syphilis

testing, knitting classes, P90X shape up sessions,

art exhibits, men’s and women’s support

group, LezView Live (a radio show) and more.

Its website offers a comprehensive community

directory of goods and services across

a broad spectrum.

Of course, contributions are always

welcome to help sustain the center’s work, as

well as volunteers.

info: gaycharlotte.com

Palmetto State’s center

hangs tight

The Harriet Hancock Center for Gay,

Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Community

of South Carolina, 1180 Woodrow St. in

Columbia, is the only one in the state.

Ryan Wilson, the foundation chair, said

that this center “has continued steadfastly

since opening its door in 1994.” Growth has

necessitated its expansion to meet the needs

of those it serves.

Unlike the other two facilities in North

Carolina, this center is an actual home. Under

its umbrella is SC Pride, which has netted

over 10,000 attendees in recent years.

Organizations, such as SC Black Pride,

the SC Gay + Lesbian Business Guild and the

Palmetto Transgender Association, make use

of the free meeting space. “Countless educational

forums, support groups, book clubs,

religious study groups and social events” take

place there, as well, Wilson continued.

He also said, “Our other project that gives

us a lot of Pride is the grant funded Youth

Empowered Against HIV! (YEAH!) — a project

that trains young, self-identified gay, bisexual

and queer males between the ages of 18-24

to be peer leaders and educators about HIV

risk and ways to protect yourself. The peers

of YEAH! have provided over 40,000 condoms

to the local community through free condom

dispensers. South Carolina and Columbia in

particular rank tragically high for new cases

of AIDS and HIV infections, so this project is a

direct response to local community’s need for

services that address HIV in a GLBT-affirming

project that boost’s the peers’ pride in who

they are while giving them skills to protect

themselves and teach others. YEAH! has been

funded for two years by the Central Carolina

AIDS Partnership, AIDS United and the AIDS

Benefit Foundation of South Carolina.”

In 2009, the center conducted an assessment

and found that there were a number of

programs that needed to be addressed in the

area of health. Lesbian health concerns will

be reviewed and expanded

services will be

made available once the

requirements are identified.

Additionally, they

will focus on smoking

and substance abuse

and same-sex relationship

violence and need

volunteers to work on

these initiatives. They

are currently working

with local law enforcement

and emergency

services and will have

information available in

the near future.

Anyone can use the

services of the center

for free. No memberships

are available.

Funds are always needed

to cover the cost

Celebrations are part of the normal

fare at The Harriet Hancock Center

for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, &

Transgender Community of South

Carolina. Seen here is center president

Ryan Wilson enjoying his birthday

party with other participants.

Photo Credit: Brock Henderson

of running ads in newspapers and online,

as well as on the radio. “We rely heavily on

email, Facebook and Google searches that

bring people to us when they are in need of

resources or support,” Wilson commented.

Partnerships are important to the

center. One major one is South Carolina

Pride Movement, which provides constant

and daily support and helps fund some

of the operations with monies from Pride

Festivals. Some of the Guild members

donate to the center, too. SC Equality and

South Carolina Black Pride are valuable

allies. Grant funding comes from the City of

Columbia Community Promotions.

“Thankfully, we also have a good relationship

with the GLBT students and staff at the

University of South Carolina.

We also work with Elke

Kennedy and the folks at Sean’s

Last Wish,” Wilson added.

He also said that they have

garnered great success from

their growth and financial

stability during the recent economic

downturn. Conversely,

he shared that they should

have made moves that would

have enabled them to hire paid

staff. Over the next few years,

their strategic plan is to hire

a director.

The Harriet Hancock Center

Foundation plans to launch

a new website with updated

logos and graphics, as well as

publish an annual report and

the South Carolina LGBT Needs

Assessment in early 2012.

info: scpride.org/the_center

Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 13


LIFE

on being a

gay parent

by brett webb-mitchell

qnotes contributor

An Unexpected Homecoming

College changes a person. I was an undergraduate and

graduate student for 13 years and I’ve been a faculty member

in colleges, universities and seminaries for over 17 years and

I’m not sure what it is that brings about the change. I’d like to

say the change occurs is the mysterious alchemy that takes

place between teacher and student in the classroom over a

semester. But, perhaps, transformations happen in the dorm

room, fraternity or sorority, in the middle of the hallways and

kitchens where people gather informally to discuss the “buzz”

about a class or issue on campus. Then again, it could be at

a big sports event, musical performance or off-campus party

that the real magic takes place and lives are forever changed.

Somewhere, somehow, with someone, the change occurs, in

which a new perception of life appears over the horizon and

the person is never the same.

This is what happened to my son after his first semester

in college. He is a changed person. And, I’m

not the only one who observed it. So did his

girlfriend, his mom, my partner and his sister.

The community of love noticed it. Note of the

change came when my partner and I picked

my son up from college. We drove all the way

to Miami, Fla., on a Saturday in mid-December

to gather my son and his belongings as he

makes a move to a new school in the spring.

On the way back home on Sunday, with a

12-hour ride before us, there was time for us to talk about his

first semester experience, otherwise known as “the good, the

bad, and the ugly” (with apologies to Clint Eastwood). It was

during one of the lulls of traveling that we talked about the

changes in his life, from his perspective. He said that having

a gay dad wasn’t that big a deal anymore. I was driving at the

time and about slammed on the brakes or drove off the road in

amazement. This from the young man who, during high school,

made it very clear that he didn’t want anyone knowing that he

had a gay dad with a partner. It was because of Parker’s vote

of “no” that I did not run for a place on the Chapel Hill-Carrboro

Community School board. It was because of his desire to keep

knowledge of my being gay hidden that I tried to keep a low

profile when it came to his school events, usually sitting in the

back row of sporting events or other ceremonies.

In hindsight, the change was evident when he introduced

us to his college friends around the dorm when he was moving

out. He hugged me openly, in public, when he came out of the

dorm. We met his roommate, his friends across the hall, and

the Resident Assistant, without him blinking an eye. “This is my

dad, Brett. This is his partner, Dean.” He said it just that easily

and naturally. We piled his stuff into the rented SUV for our long

excursion back and waved goodbye to his friends. And, off we

went, homeward bound to North Carolina. But, the young man

who left us four months earlier was not the same. Something

happened. Someone changed.

In the Christian scriptures, there is the story of the Prodigal

or Lost Son. It is a family system story of reconciliation among

many conflicting parties. In a nut shell, a parent celebrates the

return of the young child who went his own way, sowing his

“wild oats,” coming home finally, seeking reconciliation with

those who stayed home, namely the other child and parent

(Luke 15:11-32). While my daughter found it easier to acknowledge

that she had a gay dad, my son’s journey in conceding that

his dad is gay has been longer and far more, well, interesting.

I can empathize with my biblical forbear, who rejoiced at this

unexpected homecoming. I shall savor the day I could hear and

see the simple, public recognition of father and son, parent and

child, with “Yeah, that’s my dad and his partner, Brett and Dean.”

Such sweet words are truly a gift in this holiday season. : :

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LIFE

Holiday Cooking

Black-Eyed Pea Cakes and Garlic-Chive Sour Cream

by Robert Penry :: guest contributor

It’s that time of year — friends and family gather for reunions, dinners

and parties. And, no get-together is complete without a great dish. Robert

Penry is an admissions classroom presenter for the College of Culinary Arts at

Johnson & Wales University in Charlotte. He’s providing some great culinary

inspirations for your holiday gatherings this year. Log on to goqnotes.com/to/

arts-entertainment/cooking/ if you missed Robert’s holiday-inspired creations

in November and December.

Black-Eyed Pea Cakes

Ingredients:

2 15 oz. cans Black-Eyed Peas, drained

& rinsed

1 T. Butter

1/2 Onion, minced

1/4 C. Green Pepper, minced

1/2 Jalapeño, seeds removed, minced

3 Cloves Garlic, minced

1 C. Coarse Breadcrumbs (Panko)

2 Eggs

2 T. Parsley, chopped

1 t. Cumin, ground

1/2 t. Salt

1/2 t. Black Pepper

1/3 C. Cornmeal

Vegetable Oil for Frying

Method of Preparation:

1. In a medium bowl, mash half of the

peas with a sturdy spoon. Gently fold

in other half of the peas.

2. In a medium skillet, melt butter over

medium heat. Sauté onion, bell pepper,

jalapeño and garlic until softened,

about 7-8 minutes. Allow to cool.

3. Add breadcrumbs, eggs, parsley,

cumin, salt and pepper into pea

mixture.

4. Fold in sautéed vegetable mixture.

5. If the mixture is too wet, add additional

breadcrumbs. If too dry, add 1

additional egg. Chill mixture for 20-30

minutes.

6. Form pea mixture into cakes about 1/2

inch thick

7. Heat a medium skillet over medium

heat. Add enough vegetable oil to

coat the pan.

8. Dredge each cake in cornmeal. Fry on

each side until golden brown, about

5-6 minutes.

9. Serve with garlic-chive sour cream.

Garlic-Chive

Sour Cream

Ingredients:

8 oz. Sour Cream

1/2 Lemon, juiced

1/4 C. Chives, chopped

3 Cloves Garlic, minced

1 t. Salt

1 t. Black Pepper

Method of Preparation:

1. In a small bowl, mix sour cream and lemon juice.

2. Add chives, garlic, salt and pepper. Stir well to

combine.

3. Serve with black-eyed pea cakes.

qomunity qonexions u









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A&E

Dear Trinity,

I seem to be on an unlucky streak. I lost my job, my lover and

now I’m being evicted. The only thing good in my life is my

health and my cat. What do you do in times like these?

Dreading Tomorrow, Tulsa, OK

Dear Dreading Tomorrow,

Sleep lots, have faith and keep busy.

These three things always get me

through those awful trials. Everyone has

incredible highs and devastating lows,

how we deal with these lows are what

separates the enlightened ones from the

rest. In the book “Jonathan Livingston

Seagull,” Jonathan asks God, “Why are

there so few seagulls up here?” and God

replies, “Because you are but one in

a million!”

tell trinity

by trinity

qnotes contributor

You are one in a million

Hey Trinity,

My lover and I of 13 years have never

cheated on each other. Although, occasionally

we enjoy having a third person

enter our lovemaking. No one gets jealous

and it works for us. But, some of our

friends think that we are compromising

our relationship. What’s your position?

Three’s Company, New York City, NY

Hey Three’s Company,

Every household, every couple and every relationship has its

“crazy, unbelievable” and even “scandalous” activities

that make it a one-of-a-kind relationship. Now, if you

must stuff yourself with a third entree that your friends

disapprove of, then why not just keep it to yourselves.

And, if you all end up in a “threesome relationship,”

then you may have to find more “compromising”

friends. (My cartoon sure shares how to accomplish

this with little drama.)

Trinity Dear,

Why do you think you are such a fashion consultant? You never

worked at “Vogue!”

Fashion Alerter, Providence, RI

Dear Fashion Alerter,

Well! I never, I mean, I never worked at “Vogue” or any other

fashion house, but for years

I’ve stolen, I mean, snooped

around, I mean I’ve seen

some of the most glamorous

closets, from some of the

most notorious celebrities.

And, I’ve seen, felt and even

worn what does and does not

work! So, if I know too much

for you then, don’t wear what

I wear, but do look your best

and up-to-date always.

Hello Trinity,

I have been working and

traveling so much the last

few years that I haven’t had

time or the desire to date.

Now, I have relocated and am

working a steady nine to five

job. For the first time in years I am able to date again. I have

no trouble meeting people, but getting through the first date is

where I realized I have gotten rusty. Any ideas?

Free At Last, Reno, NV

Hello Free At Last,

After a few years I’d get a little rusty, too, but there are ways to

restart your dating engine so that you can survive every, well,

almost every, first date, such as memorizing:

Trinity’s Poetic Tips For Surviving

A First Date

1. Good first impressions and a healthy drive makes any first

date flourish and thrive.

2. Putting too much energy into “this being the one” creates

unnecessary pressure and a night of no fun.

3. An early dinner, movie or even a show promises less

chance of you becoming a midnight ho!

4. Boasting, exaggerating or playing it way too cool makes you

look pretentious, with the nickname, “A Fool!”

5. Practice chivalry, charm or what some call grace, by

being present, disconnecting the cellphone and looking

face to face.

6. Integrity, wit, and keeping your calm means canceling or

being late may set off a bomb.

7. Club dancing, big parties or a crowded event makes for a

difficult first date and is not time well spent.

8. Waiting, before giving a dog it’s bone, keeps the dog eager

to call you on the phone.

9. Enjoy the date, have fun, be playful and at ease, but never

be so relaxed as to contact genital herpes!

10. And, lastly, remember a word from the wise: expectation is

disappointment, hidden in disguise. : :

— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was

host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,

and now performs globally.

info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com

Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild

800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org

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A&E

out in the stars

by charlene lichtenstein

qnotes contributor

December 24 - January 6

The Sun enters Capricorn and conjuncts Pluto.

Ignite your engines and set off into outer space.

Whoosh! Keep an eye out for any heavenly body.

Anyone we know? Uh, Santa?

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) You are a powerful

source of energy. Even shy and retiring types

are pushed into the epicenter of action. You

may find that your mere presence creates great

excitement. Your passing glance penetrates into

the very essence of others. Fan clubs sprout and

explode. You create havoc. Good. Things need to

be shaken up once in a while.

AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Don’t even try to keep

things under wraps. There is nothing you can

do to prevent your most sensitive secrets from

being revealed in very public ways. Don’t worry

— there is nothing to be embarrassed about.

Enjoy the liberation and freedom, Aqueerius. You

have been living in a prison of your own design.

It is high time to break out!

PISCES (02.20-03.20) You are apt to make some

startling and memorable impressions on friends

and certain acquaintances. If you are aching to

make a big splash, this is the time to dive into the

pool. But, you may displace more water than you

expect. Guppies are unusual and opinionated

most of the time. Now, you are the big mouth on

the front page. Okay, enjoy it.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) There is something exciting

in the air. Gay Rams are packed with confidence,

spit and fire. (What else is new?) What

are you waiting for? Use this jolt to push ahead

in your career. You have worked too hard and

too long not to take advantage of this newly

discovered power. So, get ready to enjoy your

just desserts, comrade. Hmm, is that a cherry

on top?

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Cross all obligations

off your calendar and set a new course for

yourself. Expand your horizon through any

means possible: the internet, travel, education

or even just a new route home. You can make

your dreams come true queer Bull and become

a centrifugal force that emanates power and

allure. All orbs gravitate to you. Rubadub, you

lucky thing.

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) It comes to me on good

authority that there are a number of folks who

desire you from afar. They notice your walk, your

talk and even every nuanced reaction. Do you

even notice, pink Twin? Well, you certainly will

right now. Your stock rises, among other things.

Strut it like you mean it. Order back-up security in

case the crowd becomes unruly.

CANCER (06.22-07.23) Don’t go it alone. You think

that every relationship requires compromise.

Gay Crabs foolishly try to maintain their independence,

but those who aspire for a merger and

acquisition have other ideas. Thank goodness.

Just like that, you are captured and caged. Don’t

struggle too hard, lover. Deep down you are

perfectly happy being a kept crab.

LEO (07.24-08.23) As you glance at yourself

sideways in the mirror there comes a moment of

truth. You sort of like what you see. Granted, you

may be a work in progress, but there appears

to be enough good raw material to work with.

Okay, so now what? This time period provides

the much needed energy you require to perfect

upon perfection. Release your inner deity as you

diet, proud Lion.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) What is it about, queer

Virgins, that give them such magnetism now?

You are aching to be shaking, socializing and

shagging. You may not realize your limitations

now. So, pace yourself lest you dissipate and

dissolve in the sparkling scenes. Remember — a

drooping wallflower was never a favorite bloom

in your personal bouquet.

LIBRA (09.24-10.23) How long will it take you to

get to the bottom of things in any family matter?

Not too long. Proud Libras feel the rumblings

of discontent among the malcontents. Things

may just pop and good thing, too. Clear away

the barriers and use the rest of the time to enjoy

each others’ company. Okay, just be content to

not argue.

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) If there is something on

your mind, it may just find itself posited smack

in the middle of your conversation. This is not

a bad thing. These deeply felt words will move

mountains … and even level them. But, think and

weigh your words before you blurt them out. You

wear your heart on your sleeve now. Yuck. Take

it to the laundry, proud Scorp.

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) You are apt to desire

more than just the basic elements of life. You

need glory, grandeur and some very expensive

accessories to feed your inner soul. Luckily there

is a possibility that you will come into a bit of extra

cash, especially if you have invested wisely.

Spend like there is no tomorrow, gay Archer. The

way you are going there won’t be. : :

© 2011 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights

Reserved. Entertainment.

info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for

e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My

book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For

Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is

available at bookstores and major booksites.

Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 17


A&E

drag rag

by miss della

qnotes contributor

Season’s greetings, boys and girls! Where

has the time gone? Here we are at the end of

another year of shows and pageants. What

will 2012 hold? Who’s to say? I think it will be a

fierce year of comebacks and maybe a good

new queen or two. Let’s hope for the best!

This one will be short and sweet as Miss

Della has had a lot of excitement going on

lately (for a change!) It’s all good!

I’ll start off by mentioning the next

state-level pageant I know about — Miss SC

U.S.ofA., taking place at Scorpio on Thursday,

Jan. 20. If memory serves me correctly, this

will be Luscious’ 4th prelim to the pageant

she won in Dallas back in May and we are

so proud of our girl. Come out and see who

will compete for this open regional. There are

always surprises, it seems.

Congrats are going out to Neely O’Hara

who recently won Miss CO2 in Winston-

Salem. The ole girl’s still got it! Also, congrats

are going out to the winners of the Miss and

Mr. Renaissance pageants just held in Atlanta

— Sunny Dee Lite of NYC won the Miss

and the new Mr. is Darryl Kent, formerly of

Asheville and now calling Atlanta home. Darryl

is also on staff with national U.S.ofA. pageants.

Last time, I was all about the Miss NC

All-American Goddess and At Large contests

that just took place here. What a fun time we

had, everyone meeting out to eat at places

Pageants and shows bring out the

best, past, present and future!

like Lupie’s, Mert’s, Azteca and then after the

shows, either IHOP or Skyland. Oh, and let’s

not forget the trip to Twin Tops with Dena Cass

then going to look at the lights in McAdenville!

Dena was in the show on Saturday night

down at the Hide-A-Way in Rock Thrill along

with India Ferrah and Alana Steele. They

were joined by our Miss NC America Jessica

Raynes Starr, Miss Hide-A-Way London Dior

and the hostess with the mostest, Makaylah

DuShot. Kelexis Davenport was at Scorpio

that same evening, hosted by Elaine Davis.

As you may know, the pageant was over

two nights. Other than being joined by Candi

Stratton and Lauren LaMoore, there was a

star-studded show to beat the band, including

Brooke Divine, Jessica Raynes Starr, Arionne

DeCardaza, Jennifer Warner, Chip Matthews,

Miss Tri-States America Tanisha Starr and Miss

U.S.ofA. Classic Catia Lee Love. I’m sure I’ve left

someone out — just write me then read me, ok?

The winner of the Miss was Asia O’Hara;

her runners-up are Arabia Knight-Addams

and Paris Cartier. For the At Large contest,

the amazing Alexis Nicole Whitney won and

her RUs were Extasy Grey and JoAnna Blue.

What’s this I hear about whispers of doing a

guy contest and calling it All-American God? I

wanna judge, I wanna judge!

Oh, where are my notes when I need

them? I do know the EOY calendar is filling

up for that gorgeous Aurora Sexton, Miss Gay

America Kirby Kolby has been to visit with her

bosses near Memphis for her workshop and

they have a new Mr. Gay USA and At Large,

GQ and Felix Correa. Keeping it national here,

okay? I just broke one of my own rules — do

you remember?

It is with much regret that I mention a

show that I missed recently. They did an

Oleens reunion at Divas at Scorpio back

on Dec. 4. Brittany Gwynne (Miss Charlotte

U.S.ofA. 1997) hosted, and she and David

Moore, the former editor of qnotes, made

sure to invite me out. Too damned bad duty

called and I could not make it, as one of my

favorite queens of all times, Kelly Raye, made

an appearance. With her were legends of that

South Blvd. stage including Kasey King, Kerri

Nichols, Boom Boom LaTour, Tina Terrell, Linda

Locklear, Sasha Tate, Lady Day 2000, Gypsy

Starr, Tiffany Storm and Veronica Leigh. Some

of these were winners of the bar title, Miss

Oleens. Sounds like I missed one hell of an old

school show! At the end, I’m told they had a

memorial by placing ornaments on a tree to

honor great memories of our fallen sisters. I

know in my heart (surely), at least, one was

placed to honor one of the greatest queens

ever, Toni Lenoir.

In closing, it is with heavy heart that I

dedicate this column to Thom Guinn, a former

performer and mentor/pageant coach to

many a diva. Thom and I were from the same

hometown and I met him early in the days

after coming out. He was brilliant, talented

and had a wicked sense of humor. He was an

aficionado of the artform of female impersonation

and classic films/music. At one time, he

had a collection of movies and CDs that would

rival any retail specialty store. After performing

himself as Beehive back in the day, he

began designing talents for competitors in the

EOY, U.S.ofA. and Miss Gay America systems

and actually helped produce pageants and

pageant winners, including several Misses NC

and even a Miss Gay America or two. Thom

was the first person I ever knew from here

to go to Miss Continental (the year Chanel

Dupree won). I remember well the trip he

made with Renee Rollins and myself to Dayton,

Ohio, the year Maya Douglas won Miss Gay

U.S.of.A. For a time, he was show director at

Scorpio and once brought in his dear friend,

the late, great Tandi Andrews. Those were

the days. Thom also managed Elgin Kenna,

Charlotte’s famous Cher impersonator who

travelled with her doing her illusion. Thom was

influential in so many careers and lives…he

will be terribly missed. : :

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Dec. 25 • Charlotte

Boom Boom’s Christmas Carol

Scorpio hosts a special Christmas

night event featuring Boom Boom

LaTour, Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Luscious,

Big Shirli Stevens and hostess

Gypsy Starr. The Scorpio, 2301

Freedom Dr. 11:30 p.m.

scorpios.com.

Jan. 6 • Winston-Salem

TV Land Bingo

She’s back! Bebe Tea will be bringing

cash to gay bingo’s bank as

Equality Winston-Salem presents

TVLAND Bingo. Adult tickets $20

and $10 with student I.D. Available

at Camino Bakery, Whole Foods

Market, Washington Perk and

Provisions, The Screaming Rooster,

Caffe Prada and Pet Supplies Plus.

Online at equalitywinstonsalem.org.

Benton Convention Center, 301 W.

5th St. 7:30-10 p.m.

Jan. 8 • Winston-Salem

First Sunday Tea Dance

Winston-Salem’s montly Sunday

Tea Dance will be held on a

special New Year date on Jan.

8. No cover, free food, drink

specials and music by DJ Clash. A

percentage of the drink sales will

benefit Equality Winston-Salem.

Blue, 271 W. 4th St. 5-8 p.m.

336-918-0902.

outatthemovieswinston.org.

Jan. 11-15 • Chapel Hill

‘No Child...’

Nilaja Sun brings her exuberant,

insightful, critically acclaimed

portrait of life at fictional Malcolm

X High School to the PRC2 stage.

“No Child…” has been showered

with awards, including the

Obie Award, Outer Critics Circle

Awards for Best New American

Play and Best Solo Performance

and the US Comedy Arts Festival

Award for Best Solo Show.

Elizabeth Price Kenan Theatre,

Center for Dramatic Art, 150

Country Club Rd.

Various times.

playmakersrep.org/nochild/.

Goodbye, 2011

Get your New Year’s Eve groove on at these local party spots

Bar at 316 • Charlotte

316 Rensselaer Ave. 8 p.m.

$15/members. $20/non-members

(includes new membership).

Complimentary glass

of champagne at arrival and

at midnight. Tickets can be

purchased in advance at

thebarat316.com.

CO2 • Winston-Salem

4019 Country Club Rd. 9 p.m.

New Year’s Eve party and 1st

Anniversary Party.

clubco2online.com

First Night Charlotte

Uptown at the Green, 8 p.m.

Alcohol-free and family-friendly

events including countdown

to midnight.

firstnightcharlotte.com.

Hartigan’s Irish Pub • Charlotte

601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m.

$10. Free champagne toast

at midnight with balloon drop

with $250 cash and prizes.

hartigans.com.

Hide-A-Way • Rock Hill

405 E. Baskins Rd. 8 p.m.

Two shows at 11:15 p.m. and

12:30 a.m. with midnight champagne

toast, party favors and

balloon drop. Midnight buffet

with black-eyed peas, collard

greens and more.

facebook.com/hideaway.

Jan. 14 • Winston-Salem

Film screening

OUT at the Movies Winston-

Salem screens “Goind Down in

La-La Land” on the campus of the

University of North Carolina School

of the Arts, 1533 S. Main St. 7-8:45

p.m. Ticket information call

336-918-0902.

outatthemovieswinston.org.

Jan. 15 • Winston-Salem

Mr. Don’t H8

Celebrity Jason Dottley of “Sordid

Lives” will appear at the first national

Don’t H8 pageant. Featuring

Mr. Don’t H8 2011 Stone Parque and

Mr. Don’t H8 2010 Chip Matthews.

Club CO2, 4019 Country Club

Rd. 9 p.m. facebook.com/event.

php?eid=203536659715229.

Jan. 17 • Charlotte

Meet the Dunns

The Charlotte Business Guild

hosts a special monthly

meeting with local transgender

activist and civic leader

Rainbow In • Lake Wylie

4376 Charlotte Hwy. 8 p.m.

Featuring the Atlanta, Ga.,

Camp Drag troupe The

Armorettes, champagne toast

and party favors.

therainbowin.com.

Sophisticated Lyfe • Charlotte

Ciroc LGBT New Years Eve

Extravaganza

Toxic, 616 N. Tryon St.

Limited advance tickets for

$10. Event includes drink

specials, champagne toast,

balloon drop, breakfast buffet.

VIP tables available. For more

information, call 704-286-6SLE

or email sophisticatedlyfe@

gmail.com.

Roberta Dunn and her wife,

Jay. LGBT Community Center

of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton

St., Suite B11. 5:30-8 p.m. $20

admission includes dinner.

Cash bar available.

charlottebusinessguild.org.

gaycharlotte.com.

Jan. 19 • Charlotte

Miss Gay South Carolina

The Miss Gay South Carolina

U.S.ofA. Pageant, themed

“Year of the Drag-On,” will be

held at Scorpio, 2301 Freedom

Dr. 6 p.m. 704-517-4009. info@

scusofa.com. scusofa.com.

Jan. 19-22 • Blowing Rock

Gay Ski Weekend

The 4th Annual NC Gay Ski

Weekend takes over Blowing Rock.

Organizers say the event will be

bigger and better than ever with

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Fortune Feimster from “Chelsea

Lately.” ncgayskiweekend.com.

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