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Dec. 24, 2011 - Jan. 6, 2012
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9 2011: Year in Retrospect
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14 On Being a Gay Parent
15 Holiday Cooking
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17 Out in the Stars
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by matt comer
Highs and Lows
by leslie robinson
Iowa teen argues the good argument
It’s a sometimes dreaded, but always
rewarding task that comes around annually
for journalists and newspaper editors the
world over — the year-end review of the
preceding 52 weeks’ worth of top stories and
shenanigans. Dreaded because it’s a large,
complex and time-consuming undertaking.
Rewarding, of course, because of all the
great stories once reported and discovered
again since being long forgotten. Obviously,
no one forgets the really big news, but
there’s often a warm and fuzzy feeling when
you read back over a smaller, less-noticed
piece reported sometime in the year.
So it is with this issue — our annual yearin-review
tracks our community’s biggest
breakthroughs, losses, accomplishments and
defeats. You might remember some of the
more high-profile stories, too. We hope you
also get that nostalgic feeling for some of the
stories you might have put out of your mind.
Our community had plenty to rejoice over
this year. On a national level, state level and
here at home in Charlotte, LGBT citizens
and residents shaped their own world. On a
national level, the community celebrated the
full repeal of the “Don’t Ask, Don’ Tell” policy.
Statewide, we banded together to challenge
efforts to write discrimination into our
constitution. On a local level, we celebrated
our largest Pride Charlotte Festival ever and
the election of Charlotte’s first openly gay or
Despite the litany of successes, our
community experienced loss. No year-end
wrap up would be complete without pausing
in remembrance of those friends, family and
loved ones who passed this year.
Among them was Pamela Jones, a former
member of the LGBT Community Center of
Charlotte Board of Directors and a co-founder
of the Charlotte Gender Alliance. Pamela’s
efforts to work for equality and inclusion
were chronicled here in qnotes on several
occasions. We enjoyed talking to her and
we’ll always hold a special place in our heart
for her and the good work she did for others.
The same is true for Ted Messner, a
longtime community leader and treasurer
for the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Action
Committee (MeckPAC). Often working in the
background, Ted helped to shape and mold
MeckPAC’s mission and message, ensuring
that pro-LGBT candidates for city council
and county commission made their way into
elected office. The hard work he engaged in
certainly helped pave the way for people like
newly-elected City Councilmember LaWana
Mayfield and efforts by citizens and activists
to make Charlotte the truly world-class and
inclusive city we all know it should be.
Last, but not least, we remember Nan
Robinson, a dedicated supporter and
volunteer of the LGBT Community Center.
She worked diligently with the group’s programs
committee and helped produce their
GayCharlotte Film Festival, helping to make
a place for LGBT-friendly film and arts in the
The passing of these leaders leaves
a hole in our community. Each made their
mark. Each made a difference. And, all of us
have been made better by their passion and
zeal for life and liberty.
It is sad that life must include so many
highs and so many lows. But, in pausing to
reflect on their work and their lives, we feel
love and remembrance, gratitude and humility.
Should old acquaintance be forgot? No.
Never. Pamela, Ted and Nan will live on in
each of the lives they touched. As this year
ends and this chapter of our own lives comes
to an end, we look back and wish them luck
and grace in whatever next steps await them
in their journey into eternity. : :
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I give Jane Schmidt a world of credit.
The Iowa high school student held her own
in an exchange with Republican presidential
candidate Michele Bachmann. At
Schmidt’s age, shaking a candidate’s hand
was enough to make me forget my name.
I grew up in New Hampshire, where,
due to the state’s first-in-the-nation primary,
presidential candidates are as abundant
as black flies. I assume the Iowa caucuses
mean the Hawkeye State is likewise swarming
with presidential wannabes.
These Famous and Important People
are intimidating when you’re young and I
couldn’t have managed more than reading a
question aloud before losing the use of my
Not so for Jane Schmidt on a recent day
in the Pizza Ranch restaurant in Waverly,
Iowa. The Des Moines Register, which carried
an account of the back-and-forth with
Bachmann, didn’t give Schmidt’s age or her
year in school, but did say she’s the president
of Waverly High School’s Gay-Straight
Alliance, so I’ll think of her as a senior.
I’ll also take a moment to drop my jaw
that Waverly High even has a Gay-Straight
Standing amidst a supportive crowd
of about 65 people, mostly middle-aged
and elderly, Michele Bachmann might’ve
thought she was home free. Then, as a CNN
video showed, she and her microphone
headed toward the student in the red plaid
Schmidt told Bachmann she was
concerned about the lack of government
support for the LGBT community. Bachmann
replied that the government’s job is to protect
civil rights. “We all have the same civil
rights,” she concluded.
That would’ve been the moment where
I’d have thought to myself, “There’s something
wrong with that statement and my God
everyone is staring at me.”
Not Schmidt. She responded, “Then,
why can’t same-sex couples get married?”
The candidate answered, “They can get
married, but they abide by the same law
as everyone else. They can marry a man
if they’re a woman. Or, they can marry a
woman if they’re a man.”
Now that the country has gotten a peek
at Michele Bachmann’s husband Marcus,
a sizable number of people believe that the
woman is speaking from experience here.
Schmidt asked why two men can’t
marry, and Bachmann answered that’s
the law. “So heterosexual couples have a
privilege,” responded Schmidt.
She was still being logical, while I’d
have long since been carried away on
Straight couples have the same legal
opportunity, said Bachmann. “There is no
right to same-sex marriage.”
Except for where she was standing. It
escaped Bachmann’s notice that same-sex
marriage is legal in Iowa.
“So you won’t support the LGBT community?”
asked the student.
“No, I said that there are no special
rights for people based upon your sex
practices,” said the congresswoman, who
must’ve been annoyed at God for forcing
her to talk about sex with a high school
student in front of scads of Iowa senior
Ella Newell, a junior at the high school,
tried to advance the point about privilege
before the debate ended with Bachmann
repeating that every American can marry,
just someone of the opposite sex.
Most of Bachmann’s statements
received applause, probably as much an
attempt to silence the girls as to indicate
support. But, Schmidt carried on, doggedly
and civilly, despite the disapproval of her
neighbors and despite the presence of
reporters and cameras.
I hope someone bought her a pizza
afterwards. Unless she felt like throwing up.
After the exchange between the high
school students and the congresswoman,
a young man told Schmidt and Newell that
they should “emulate” Bachmann.
Yes, if Schmidt conforms and turns into
an always-feminine Christian soldier she
could land a guy like him.
Now I’m sure she felt like throwing up. : :
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Person of the Year: Roberta Dunn
Passionate advocate has love for community and equality
by Matt Comer :: email@example.com
For a relatively new Charlotte-area
resident, Roberta Dunn has become an
amazingly well-connected advocate for LGBT
equality. She serves on the LGBT Community
Center of Charlotte Board of Directors and on
the steering committee for the Mecklenburg
LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC).
This year, she also served on an advisory
committee for Mayor Anthony Foxx’s re-election
Previously a resident of Northern Virginia,
Dunn moved to Charlotte six years ago. She’d
always been passionate about community
and worked with children, sports activities
and in other areas. Not until her retirement
and introduction to the Queen City, however,
did she get her first inkling toward activism.
“I was going to Charlotte Gender Alliance
meetings and one of the people there asked
what we were doing for outreach,” Dunn
says. “We were coming to meetings and
learning about being trans and those issues
but what were we doing to educate the community
and work with the community?”
The question prompted Dunn to ask more.
She contacted the police department to
inquire about laws and the legal treatment of
transgender people. She started attending
classroom meetings and panel discussions
at local universities. When she noticed other
cities across the country moving forward on
gay and transgender equality initiatives she
reached out with a desire for Charlotte to do
“I was introduced to MeckPAC and
[former chair] Phil Hargett,” Dunn says. “He
asked me to join MeckPAC and that’s when I
started to get to know elected officials here.”
That moment, Dunn says, became the
catalyst for her current involvement.
Since then, Dunn has taken the lead on
several issues. After the murder of transgender
Charlottean Toni Alston in April 2010, Dunn
reconnected with the police department and
engaged officials there in conversation on
their relationship to the broader LGBT community.
Her initial chats grew and resulted in
a town hall meeting at the LGBT Community
Center with Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police
Chief Rodney Monroe, efforts that won her
recognition as Equality North Carolina’s 2010
Equality Champion for the Charlotte region.
This year, Dunn has worked closely with a
large group of community members in efforts to
increase Charlotte’s official LGBT protections.
“The issue really was to move forward
to get the city, which has been dragging its
feet, to pass employment non-discrimination
based on gender identity and to get the city
to vote on their policy on sexual orientation,”
With the Democratic National Convention
coming to town next September, Dunn says
progressive movement on the part of the city
is more important than
Her goal, she says, is
to let the nation and world
know that Charlotte is an
In a world where
transgender people are
often the target of some
of the most daunting
challenges and outright
prejudice (both within
and outside of the LGBT
community), Dunn has
overcome and risen to the
top to become one of the
city’s most outspoken and
Anyone who knows
Dunn is likely to give
a one-word answer:
Cookies. She’s famous
for them. Peanut butter
cookies. Sugar cookies.
Chocolate chip cookies.
So good they might be considered bribery.
But, underneath Dunn’s smile and her
natural, old-fashioned humility, grace and
friendliness is a more apt explanation of her
rise to “insider” status: Dunn is passionate
and committed beyond measure, willing to
take chances and has the kind of knack and
Activist and qnotes’ 2011 Person of the Year Roberta Dunn at the annual
White House holiday reception in December.
tenacity that’s required in the often roughand-tumble
world of politics.
For her persistent commitment, intelligence,
zeal and passion for this city’s LGBT
community, its equality and the welfare of the
city at large, qnotes is proud to name LGBT
activist and civic leader Roberta Dunn our
2011 Person of the Year. : :
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Film company fights amendment
WILMINGTON — Working Films has joined the battle against the North Carolina anti-gay
amendment on the ballot on May 8, 2012, with its addition of Reel Equality.
This initiative hopes to bring about awareness about the travails and issues surrounding
passage of any legislation against recognition of gay marriage. It is
comprised of a collection of six documentary films that help to tell
the story. The organizers’ goal is to “turn audiences into supporters
of statewide efforts of Equality NC and national efforts of the Human
Working Films’ co-founders are Robert West (executive director)
and Judith Helfand (development strategist and field explorer).
West is no stranger to North Carolina social justice projects.
In Charlotte, he was part of the OutCharlotte Film Festival for many
years. Helfand is a Peabody Award-winning filmmaker.
It’s website says, “This amendment is bad for all families, hurts the economy as many
large national employers support their LGBT colleagues, and sends a terrible message to
vulnerable LGBT youth that their state considers them to be second class citizens. It will be
an uphill battle, as the timing of the vote will turn out a base that supports this amendment,
but the fight is just getting started!”
They have launched a Facebook page and have listed online resources where one can
pledge to vote, learn about the repeal of Defense of Marriage Act (DOMA), find out how the
Human Rights Campaign is championing the charge and more. They hope that visitors will use
the films for community-based activism. The Facebook page comes with a toolkit, as well.
Currently, a short video is available for viewing.
Working Films also has offices in London, England.
For more information, visit workingfilms.org or facebook.com/reelequality.
Grievance filed against Cogdell
CHARLOTTE — A former Mecklenburg
commissioner has filed a grievance against
fellow Democrat Harold Cogdell (pictured),
saying he should
be stripped of
any position in
the party after
to be elected
chairman of the
who served on
the Board of
Commissioners from 1992 to 2000, says he
also thinks Cogdell should be barred from
participating in any activities related to the
Democratic National Convention, which will
be held in Charlotte next September.
“It would be inappropriate for someone
who doesn’t support Democrats to stand there
next to the president of the United States,”
said Scher, a member of the Mecklenburg
Democratic Party’s Executive Committee.
Cogdell, reached at his home late Monday,
said, “It’s a nonissue that doesn’t deserve
Cogdell ousted Jennifer Roberts in last
week’s county commissioners meeting. In a
5-4 vote that fell almost entirely along party
lines, Cogdell won over objections from other
Democrats who portrayed him as a traitor
Cogdell won by securing support from the
panel’s four Republicans. Board Democrats,
except Cogdell, chose Roberts.
Commissioners traditionally have elected
the top vote-getter as chair. Roberts has
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served as chair since 2006. She did not
return a call seeking comment late Monday
Scher’s letter to the state Democratic
Party says Cogdell met secretly with
other Republicans for weeks. It also asserts
that Cogdell shouldn’t be classified as a
“Democrat in good standing.”
— Steve Wootson, Jr.,
The Charlotte Observer via
Charlotte News Alliance
‘Ex-gay’ leader named person
of the year
CHARLOTTE — WORLD, a Christian
magazine based in the Queen City, has named
Alan Chambers, the leader of the “ex-gay”
Exodus International organization, its “Daniel
of the Year,” a reference to the Hebrew
prophet Daniel known to Jews, Christians and
Muslims alike for his imprisonment and later
safe delivery from a lions’ den.
Chambers appears on the cover of the
publication’s Dec. 17 issue.
He has become a lightening rod among
LGBT people and activists for his work with
Exodus International, a group that supports
so-called reparative therapies and leads
gay people to believe that they can become
The group’s track record of gay-to-straight
conversion is unknown and activists have
accused the group of lying to and misleading
vulnerable LGBT people. Chambers himself
has admitted that “ex-gay” conversion isn’t
Chambers’ ministry has previously partnered
with the anti-gay Focus on the Family.
In 2009, Exodus and Focus on the Family
hosted one of their several “Love Won Out”
conferences in Charlotte.
Group criticizes rehiring of
CHARLOTTE — North Carolina-based
LGBT advocacy group Faith in America is
criticizing Cisco Systems and Charlotte-based
Bank of America for their decision to rehire an
anti-gay activist known for his extremist views
on LGBT people.
Earlier this year, Christian author and
apologist Frank Turek received notice that his
contract with the two companies would not
be renewed after the companies received
complaints from employees regarding Turek’s
anti-gay views and activism. Turek had
worked to coordinate the companies’ leadership
and team-building programs.
Turek later teamed up with the anti-gay
National Organization for Marriage (NOM)
and their new Marriage Anti-Defamation
Alliance. In videos posted to NOM’s site and
in action alerts emailed to supporters, Turek
claimed he had been discriminated against
solely because of his views on marriage.
The two companies finally gave way to
Turek and NOM last month.
Faith in America Executive Director Brent
Childers has petitioned the companies to
reconsider and denounce Turek’s brand of
The group said it is ironic that Bank of
America continues to employ Turek despite
its LGBT-friendly reputation. Additionally,
according to the group, the bank was
chosen to host the memorial account for
18-year-old Tennessean Jacob Rogers, who
committed suicide last week after years of
Funds sought for campaign
DURHAM — The Coalition to Protect
NC Families’ Campaign Manager Jeremy
Kennedy is asking supporters to contribute
monies toward its efforts to defeat the antigay
marriage amendment which will appear
on the ballot on May 8, 2012.
In fact, he has gone so far as to request
that his loved ones forgo personal gifts or
reduce their cost so that contributions can be
given to the campaign. He’s suggesting others
to consider this as well.
The coalition has received a offer from
a donor who will match every gift received
between now and the end of 2011 up to
$25,000. At press time, they had raided close
Funds will be used to hire staff to battle opposition
forces between now and late spring.
To make a contribution or for more information,
In other news, the organization is also
seeking photographs of couples and families
for its website. They are going to use three
different kinds of photographs of three different
kinds of families. Kennedy said, “I am
looking for images that reflect the values of
our group, … diversity — not just in color, but
in gender, and in orientation.”
Email email@example.com to
learn more or to submit images.
Foundation acknowledges heroes
GREENSBORO — The Guilford Green
Foundation has launched its first-ever
Leadership Awards, designed to recognize
the courage and generosity of selfless “unsung
heroes” from the LGBT and straight ally
This special presentation will be awarded
at their Gala celebration on March 31, 2012.
Currently, they are seeking names for
worthy recipients to begin their selection
process. Often great candidates are overlooked,
executive director Shane Burton said.
The Foundation does not want to miss the
opportunity of recognizing laudable achievements.
Deadline is Jan. 17, 2012.
The following are nomination categories:
GGF Visionary Award, given to one who has
championed the vision of a better world for the
LGBT community; GGF Distinguished Service
Award, given to an individual who has provided
years of outstanding service to the Piedmont
Triad LGBT community; and GFF Distinguished
Leadership Award, presented to an individual
who has demonstrated outstanding leadership
for a specific event, project or situation.
For nomination forms or for more information,
Shooting range draws fire
RURAL HALL — ProShots Range, 1013
Bethania Rural Hall Rd., has received a
plethora of flack over its “Pansies Converted
Daily” billboard on display just outside
According to the Gay & Lesbian Alliance
Against Defamation (GLAAD) website who
cited a Towleroad report, Kathy Clark alerted
Equality North Carolina (ENC) about her
disdain over the billboard. She indicated
that her sister reached out to the National
Shooting Sports Foundation (NSSF) to remove
it. They had given the shooting range a grant
for advertising. The foundation was unaware
of the billboard.
The scuttlebutt prompted ENC, GLAAD
and the NSSF to demand for its removal.
“Words and images have a powerful effect on
all people, including the LGBT community, and
it is important that companies using homophobic
euphemisms in their advertisements are
held accountable,” a GLAAD statement reads.
Officials at ProShots said they never
meant to offend anyone and that their
management had already decided to take the
billboard down once they realized how the
“potential offensive implications” were. They
shared their views on their Facebook page
which fielded a cross-range of comments
from its friends.
Openly gay sailor reinstated
SAN DIEGO, Calif. — Petty Officer 2nd
class Jase Daniels (pictured), discharged
from the U.S. Navy in April 2005 and again in
March 2007 under “Don’t
Ask, Don’t Tell,” has been
reinstated and returned to
active duty. He was sworn
in on Dec. 12. Daniels is believed
to be the first openly
gay former military member
to be reinstated to service
since the repeal of DADT
this past September.
Daniels, 29, entered
the military in the spring of
2001. He completed Hebrew linguist training
and was stationed at Fort Gordon, Ga., where
he came to terms with his sexual orientation
and outed himself to his commander. He was
discharged in 2005. Nonetheless, in 2006, he
received a letter recalling him to service and
served in Kuwait for a year with the U.S. Navy
Customs Battalion Romeo. He served for a
year before he was discharged a second time
Daniels is one of three plaintiffs in an ongoing
lawsuit challenging the constitutionality
of discharges under DADT and seeking reinstatement
to active duty. Resolutions for the
other plaintiffs, former Air Force Major Mike
Almy and former Air Force Staff Sergeant
Anthony Loverde, are expected soon.
Court sides with trans plaintiff
ATLANTA, Ga. — Earlier this month
the 11th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a
lower court ruling that the Georgia General
Assembly discriminated against Vandy Beth
Glenn, a transgender woman who was fired
from her job as Legislative Editor after she told
her supervisor that she planned to transition
from male to female.
Writing for the unanimous
three-judge panel, Judge Rosemary
Barkett stated, “An individual cannot
be punished because of his or her
Because these protections are afforded
to everyone, they cannot be
denied to a transgender individual.
… A person is defined as transgender
precisely because of the perception
that his or her behavior transgresses
gender stereotypes. … We
conclude that a government agent
violates the Equal Protection Clause’s
prohibition on sex-based discrimination
when he or she fires a transgender or
transsexual employee because of his or
her gender non-conformity.”
The decision was hailed by LGBT advocates.
“The court could not have been more
clear: It is unfair and illegal to fire transgender
employees because their appearance or behavior
transgress gender stereotypes,” said
Greg Nevins, supervising senior staff attorney
in Lambda Legal’s Southern Regional Office in
Atlanta. “Employers should take note of this
21 years for middle school killing
OXNARD, Calif. — On Nov. 21, Brandon
McInerney, 17, pleaded guilty to second degree
murder and voluntary manslaughter with
use of a weapon for the death of 15-year-old
Lawrence “Larry” King at E.O. Green Junior
High School on Feb 12, 2008. McInerney, who
was 14 at the time of the middle school slaying,
will serve his 21-year sentence in both
juvenile facilities and prison.
The plea agreement avoids a planned retrial
necessitated by the declaration of a mistrial
in the first proceeding stemming from the jury’s
inability to reach an agreement on whether to
find McInerney guilty of first-degree murder,
second-degree murder or manslaughter.
GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byard
said, “The plea deal announced today ends
a tragic chapter in Ventura County. Holding
Brandon McInerney accountable for his actions
is necessary and right, but putting him
behind bars does not solve the problems that
led a boy to become a bully, and then a murderer.
… As adults and as a society, we must
find the resolve to fix the broken systems that
lost two young lives to hate and fear.”
Mayor comes out amid scandal
SOUTHAVEN, Miss. — The mayor of
Southaven, Mississippi’s third-largest city, has
come out in the wake of an examination of
receipts uncovered as part of an investigation
of his alleged expense account malfeasance.
According to state auditors, Mayor Greg Davis
fleeced the city for $170,000 while spending
thousands on liquor and expensive dinners
and even charging his account for $67 spent at
Priape, a shop for gay men in Toronto, Canada.
It was the discovery of the latter receipt
that led Davis, who is married with children,
to come out in a Dec. 15 interview with The
Commercial Appeal (Memphis, Tenn.).
“At this point in my life and in my career,
while I have tried to maintain separation
between my personal and public life, it is obvious
that this can no longer remain the case.
… I think that it is important that I discuss the
struggles I have had over the last few years
when I came to the realization that I am gay.”
Davis told the newspaper he planned to
spend the holidays with his family then return
to his mayoral duties in the new year.
U.S. stands up for gay rights
GENEVA, Switzerland — U.S. Secretary
of State Hillary Rodham Clinton delivered a
stirring speech Dec. 6 at the United Nations
on the inalienable rights of LGBT people. She
made a powerful case for the full inclusion of
LGBT people in human rights protections and
pledged that securing those rights is a priority
of the Obama administration’s foreign policy. In
her remarks, Secretary Clinton said: “To LGBT
men and women worldwide, wherever you
live and whatever the circumstances of your
life, whether you are connected to networks of
support or feel isolated and vulnerable, please
know that you are not alone. … You have an
ally in the United States of America.”
The speech was backed by a White House
memorandum directing all federal agencies
engaged abroad to use U.S. diplomacy and
foreign assistance to promote and protect the
human rights of LGBT persons.
Kate Kendell, executive director of the
National Center for Lesbian Rights, commented,
“Hearing the United States Secretary
of State speak passionately about ending violence
and discrimination against LGBT people
throughout the world left me with a lump in my
throat and tears in my eyes. To imagine what
the world would be like if the vision Secretary
Clinton laid out were to come to pass, is to
imagine a world of such deep and enduring
humanity that any dream can be realized.”
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People who are taking the negative out of being positive
by Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager
In this installment of our patient profile
series I am choosing to talk about many stories
I have heard this year, not just to narrow in on
one person in particular. Why? Well, with the
holidays here, I feel it is necessary that every
voice is heard, every story told, and no one is
forgotten. It is obvious that in this half of a page
I can’t tell the story of every individual infected
with HIV in our area, but here are a few
encounters along the way this year that stick in
As the Practice Manager and Ryan White
Program Director at Rosedale Infectious
Diseases, I see quite a few people from
different walks of life all traveling the same
road. Being HIV positive myself for the last 15
years, I understand and can truly empathize
with their plight, but value the individuality
of difficulties that each of us encounter along
our journey. Let’s face it; it is exactly that, a
journey, no longer a destination when battling
I remember early in the year, a young
gay male, some 19- or 20-years-old, was
sitting across my desk telling me that he had
just learned of his diagnosis. At first, as an
advocate in the field, my immediate response to
myself was “where did we as a community fail
this young man?” Is it the lack of public awareness
in the area and all around our country
today? Is it that this new generation of young
men and women has become complacent with
the treatments that are available for this disease
now? Is it the stigma that still exists in the South?
I never got a straight answer as to why, but that
night I prayed, not only for that young man, but
for all our youth, and for society as a whole that
we do a better job at intervention and education
with our youth. It is appalling to me that
young people are still contracting a disease that
is 100 percent preventable.
A wife came to me and needed to be
tested because she thought she may have been
infected by her husband. You see her husband
had died suddenly and she found out after his
death that he had been carrying on multiple
affairs. Here was a woman that not only just
lost her husband, but was now faced with years
of infidelity and no one left to confront the issue
or get answers. She knew she had to be tested
because she could possibly be at risk. Before I
go any further, let me tell you this woman was
not positive and remains negative and healthy
to this day. I sat back and wondered as she
cried in my office what she must be going
through and to this day I can still not imagine
Another story was not a new diagnosis,
but a related story. A patient I had personally
known for years and had been positive for over
25 years had lost his job and insurance. After
years, no decades, of battling this disease with
great success, this man was facing the reality
of where his medications would come from
next month and if he would remain healthy
and even risk resistance. Fortunately for him,
Rosedale Infectious Diseases has a full-time
benefits advocate in the form of Laurie Youron.
I watched and listened as Laurie calmly, but
without judgment or without making light of his
concern, helped him file for patient assistance
from a major drug company. Within 48 hours
the patient had his medications.
I am proud to manage a facility that puts
patients first. We listen to their concerns and do
our best to meet them where they are in their
journey. It always amazes me the compliments
that we get about our staff and facility. Not that
I don’t believe I have the best staff in Charlotte,
because I know (in my opinion, at least) that I
do. What amazes me is that what we consider
our mission and commitment to care appears
“unusual” to so many. We just believe we are
doing what we are called to do. That being
said, I make sure that I remind my staff at every
turn of the charge we have been given and to
make sure that we never take our role in this
What bothers me the most is that there still
is a sense of “competition” among agencies
and individuals in our field. Are we not all fighting
the same battle? Do we not all see the same
consequences of stigma, isolation, and lack of
education and funding?
It is my fervent wish this holiday season that
all agencies, providers, activists, and patients
unite to a stronger collective force in 2012.
I truly believe that this is a battle that can be
won, or at least, we can be making strides to
that end. So, if it is in your holiday or daily
routine to send up a prayer, pray for the unity of
the forces in our community that can make sure
stories like you have read earlier in this article,
don’t have to happen.
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qnotes Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012
The year in retrospect
The top stories of 2011
by Matt Comer :: firstname.lastname@example.org
Bells will ring, candles will be lighted and champagne
will be toasted and plenty of folks will wish they
could forget many of the days gone by this year. Yes, the
economy still sucks. Yes, politicians still have no answers.
Yes, Congress is still deadlocked. But, don’t be fooled:
Lots of good things happened this year, too. With the
good comes the bad and, often, the sad and bittersweet.
Such is life and despite the every-increasing go-go-go of
the modern world, it’s healthy to stop and take a moment
to think and reflect on what was. Hopefully, such meditation
triggers inspiration on what can be as our local,
statewide and national community continues to make
brave and historic strides forward in our march of liberty,
equality and justice.
Here now, qnotes’ top stories of 2011…
The email heard ‘round the world
Just days shy of New Year 2011, anti-gay Republican
Mecklenburg County Commissioner Bill James fired off
an email that sparked the ire of the local, statewide and
national LGBT communities. The email, in which he called
gay people “sexual predators,” became the focus of a
national petition campaign through Change.org. Just
over a week later more than 10,000 people had signed the
petition calling upon the county commission to censure
James. The censure would never come, though the board
did consider a resolution on equality and respect — a
document so mild and tame that James himself voted
for it. James’ diarrhea of the mouth was how Charlotte’s
LGBT community was welcomed into the New Year. And,
as always, James never failed to disappoint, making
plenty more hay throughout the year.
Look back: goqnotes.com/9615/
u Fresh face
In January, the North Carolina General Assembly
opened its new legislative session with a new member,
one who made history in the state becoming our first
openly gay, African-American state lawmaker. Freshman
Democratic House Rep. Marcus Brandon, who represents
portions of Guilford County, followed in the footsteps of the
state’s first openly gay legislator, New Hanover County’s
Sen. Julia Boseman. In her time in office, Boseman took
courageous stands for the LGBT community. Brandon has,
too. In his case, however, Brandon has faced down some
of the meanest and most extreme anti-gay hatred and
malice the state has ever seen, playing a crucial role in the
legislative fight to keep an anti-LGBT constitutional amendment
on marriage and civil unions off the ballot. For his
brave leadership in the face of a Republican majority hellbent
on discrimination, Brandon was honored near year’s
end as Equality North Carolina’s Legislator of the Year.
Look back: goqnotes.com/9952/
Mecklenburg County’s Bill James wasn’t the only
person kicking up dust in the early part of the year. News
channel WBTV’s Steve Crump also took a turn, airing
what was eventually proven a trumped-up story on alleged
gay sexual encounters in one Mecklenburg County
park. qnotes went to work immediately to counter the
damaging and sensationalistic news report though the
damage was already done and the door to bigotry already
swung wide open as James used the opportunity to bring
up old horror stories about an “infestation” of gay men
in the local parks. Ultimately, facts and real journalism
won the day. Despite claims to the contrary, illegal public
sexual encounters among local gay men was near nothing
when compared to the heterosexual or drug-related
crimes against nature charges and arrests, according to
data collected from Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police.
As we reported then, “So, let the myth be quashed.
There is no “infestation” of gay men in Mecklenburg
County parks. There is no overwhelming problem — that
is, except for heterosexual prostitution. The evidence
points Charlotte — and, in particular, County Commissioner
Bill James and WBTV — in one clear direction: stop
scapegoating gay men and start looking in the mirror.
1 — Democrat Marcus Brandon is embarking upon his first term in the North Carolina General Assembly. He’ll represent a portion of
southwest Guilford County in the North Carolina House.
2 — In May 2011, qnotes celebrated it’s silver anniversary serving the LGBT community throughout the Carolinas.
3 — Out-going Equality North Carolina Executive Director Ian Palmquist speaks to a crowd of hundreds gathered for a pro-LGBT faith
rally in Charlotte on June 24.
4 — Organizers said 5,000 people attended the local Winston-Salem
Pride parade and festival.
Misbehaving heterosexuals are your problem. Leave us
gay folk alone.”
Look back: goqnotes.com/10621/
v Celebrate good times…
In May, qnotes celebrated its 25th anniversary, a feat
given the rocky roads experienced by the news industry
in recent years. LGBT news-media, including qnotes,
was never immune to those industry troubles. Some
LGBT newspapers closed shop. Others were reborn.
But, qnotes, is still alive and kicking. The future is bright,
though its many challenges are daunting, and we’re looking
forward to many more years ahead.
Look back: goqnotes.com/in/25years/
Make it rain
The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund pulled off a stunner
in May. The annual luncheon event, “The Happening,”
featured emcee Maureen O’Boyle and keynote speaker
Mitchell Gold. The group also doled out a record $85,000
to local LGBT organizations. The event was already going
well and a surprise — an additional $25,000 and another
$25,000 matching challenge — from new Charlotte
corporate citizen Wells Fargo made it that much better.
Money, money everywhere and lots of folks in need get a
Celebrate, part two
qnotes wasn’t the only local LGBT institution
celebrating and chronicling their years of growth and
successes. In June, Time Out Youth feted 20 years of
service to local LGBT teens and young adults. The anniversary
events, spread out over three days included
the group’s 20th anniversary gala, an annual fundraising
event they hope to continue each year.
Look back: goqnotes.com/11195/
While Time Out Youth was spending June celebrating,
North Carolina non-profit NC Pride was busy
fending off allegations of mismanagement. The group’s
federal tax-exempt status was revoked early that
see Top on 10
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Top stories of 2011
continued from page 9
month after years of failure to report their
annual finances to the Internal Revenue
Service. The group, which produces the annual
NC Pride Festival and Parade in Durham
each September, and its director, John Short,
has yet to speak publicly about the situation.
qnotes plans an in-depth follow-up in the
Look back: goqnotes.com/11697/
pavement to beat incumbent Democratic
District 3 Councilmember Warren Turner.
The September primary victory set her on
a nearly-guaranteed path to success — a
path ultimately proven when she won the
November election by a landslide to become
Charlotte’s first openly gay or lesbian elected
Look back: goqnotes.com/13721/
of her fellow Tar Heels. Madison’s co-chairmanship
of HRC’s national search committee
charged with finding a replacement for outgoing
President Joe Solmonese was announced
in September. Madison is sure to represent her
home state well in what we’re sure is a daunting
task in choosing the next executive for the
nation’s largest LGBT civil rights organization.
Look back: goqnotes.com/12495/
• End of an era
In July, Ian Palmquist stepped down as
executive director of Equality North Carolina.
The move came after 11 years working for
the organization — the last five years at the
group’s helm. Palmquist’s departure — he
is currently pursuing a graduate degree
at Harvard University’s Kennedy School of
Government — marked an important turning
point for the statewide LGBT advocacy and
education organization. In the midst of a
legislative campaign to defeat an anti-LGBT
constitutional amendment, the group dove
head-first into the mirky executive search
waters. Palmquist’s interim replacement,
Alex Miller, led the group with courage and
grace until a new executive director, Stuart
Campbell, was announced this fall.
Look back: goqnotes.com/11719/
Mayfield makes history
Long known for her neighborhood and
community advocacy, organizer LaWana
Mayfield announced her candidacy for the
Charlotte City Council in May. By August,
she had racked up a mammoth election
war chest and was out pounding the
Make it rain, part 2
The annual Pride Charlotte Festival got a
major boost this year. A new location right in
the middle of Uptown Charlotte’s arts district
set it on a path for success. And, success
it was. Organizers say some 27,000 people
attended the event, making it the largest
LGBT Pride festival between Atlanta and
Washington, D.C. Additionally, the 2011 event
raised some $60,000 or more — the most its
raised for the LGBT Community Center since
its inception in 2006. An audit of the group’s
expenses and income is expected to be made
public at some point in the new year. [Ed. Note
— This writer served on Pride Charlotte’s
Look back: goqnotes.com/12508/
Longtime advocate for change and Human
Rights Campaign Board of Governors member
Joni Madison might not like the attention, but
she’s sure to have a lot of influence on behalf
CHARLOTTE — A brutal early morning
fight and stabbing at Uptown’s Hartigan’s Irish
Pub in early December left one woman dead,
another jailed on murder charges and a community
left scrambling for answers.
Police say a fight on Dec. 4 between a
group of women at the iconic gay and lesbian
restaurant and bar began in the establishment’s
bathroom. It continued outside where
the victim, 30-year-old Antoinette Latoya
Baker, was stabbed with a broken beer bottle
in the neck and abdomen. Baker was later
transported to Carolinas Medical Center
where she died.
The suspect, 32-year-old Katie Nicole
x Small-town Pride
While Charlotte celebrated the successes
of their Pride festival, Winston-Salem was
embarking on a home-grown challenge to
host their first locally-produced Pride event
following NC Pride’s hosting of their annual
event in the Twin City years ago. The event
attracted at least 5,000 people for a street fair
and evening parade. Organizers say it will
become an annual event.
Look back: goqnotes.com/12961/
Ding dong the witch is…
On Oct. 31, anti-gay state Sen. James
Forrester, a Republican from Gaston County,
passed away. His death followed years of
anti-gay political activity and this year’s
introduction and eventual successful passage
of his anti-LGBT state constitutional
amendment. It’s such a shame his legacy will
be shaped by the last hate-filled action of his
Look back: goqnotes.com/13109/
Robinson, was arrested
with murder later
that day. As of press time she remained without
bond in the Mecklenburg County jail.
Robinson has several prior arrests for
charges ranging from breaking and entering
to communicating threats and assault.
Police have not released more information
about what triggered the fight and an investigation
is still ongoing.
In response, the community has rallied
around the bar and the victim’s family.
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Amendment made for rollercoaster year
The sausage-making that is legislating kept activists busy from day one
by Matt Comer :: firstname.lastname@example.org
LGBT advocates and grassroots activists
knew they were up for a challenge the
moment election results started rolling in
November 2010’s midterm elections. Control
of the state legislature had been returned to
Republican hands for the first time in over a
century. It was time for the longtime minority
to have its way on Jones St. and Republican
leadership wasted no time getting to their
decades-long pent-up agenda.
It was a foregone conclusion that North
Carolina would, at least, consider an anti-
LGBT constitutional amendment, a measure
that would ban recognition of marriage, civil
unions and domestic partnerships for samesex
couples. Republican legislators like the
late state Sen. James Forrester had worked
to convince the previously Democratic-led
leadership to take up his discriminatory
measure for the past seven years in a row.
He never had any luck and the bill never
moved. But, anti-gay sympathies among the
new Republican majority and its leadership
all but guaranteed the amendment’s hearing
in House and Senate chambers.
Forrester immediately jumped on his to-do
list soon after the General Assembly opened
for this year’s session. He filed his bill and
began pushing for the amendment. A month
later, the amendment was filed in the House.
The weeks went by with very little word
on the amendment’s progress. It hadn’t been
scheduled for a hearing and legislative leaders
like Senate President Pro Tempore Phil
Berger and House Speaker Thom Tillis were
staying quiet on the issue.
The silence was broken in May at a proamendment
rally staged on the grounds
of the legislature. In June, an open mic
(whether it was planned or mistakenly
left on, no one knows) caught Republican
House members discussing the proposed
“It’s important to the conservative groups
that we get this passed this year because
they need that to be able to get their ground
game working to get the maximum effect
to get out the vote,” Catawba County
Republican Mark Hilton said.
Hilton also thanked Tillis for his support
of the amendment, one of the first public
indications that the speaker would, in fact,
favor the measure.
“Speaker Tillis has assured us it will
happen this year,” Hilton said. “It may be in
a special session for constitutional amendments
but it will happen this year.”
Tillis’ support for the amendment was
confirmed a month later when the leader told
Asheville’s Citizen-Times that the measure
would “definitely be brought up in a special
Advocates and grassroots activists and
volunteers with Equality North Carolina
paid close attention
year as the legislative
along. In July, former
Ian Palmquist stepped
down from his role.
In his place, Interim
Alex Miller stood
in as an outspoken
leaders like Forsyth
and House Speaker
Pro Tempore Dale
the gauntlet was laid
down. The amendment
passed the House
75-42 on Sept. 12. One day later, the Senate
passed the measure 30-16, the slimmest of
The fight to keep discrimination out
of the state constitution was on. Equality
North Carolina and its members didn’t
hesitate. Fundraising challenges were
made and met, even before an official antiamendment
referendum committee was
announced in November.
Organizing against the impending anti-LGBT amendment spread across the
state like wildfire soon after the measure’s legislative approval.
Pictured, an Oct. 15 rally in Uptown Charlotte.
This year wasn’t the best for the LGBT
community. However, despite the challenges
faced by the amendment, community leaders
and members pulled together and united like
never before. It’s a trend organizers against
the amendment hope continues in the new
year, where the amendment’s ultimate fate
will be decided by voters on May 8, 2012. : :
more: Want more of our past and continuing
coverage of the amendment? Visit our
Legislative Watch at goqnotes.com/in/ncga/.
Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 11
Centers serve as rock-solid resource
Although diverse, each brings stability to communities they serve
by Lainey Millen :: email@example.com
Across the Carolinas, gay, lesbian, bisexual
and transgender individuals constantly
search for options for support and socializing.
Some enjoy the bar scene, while others would
prefer gathering together to do social action
projects. But, the one consistent theme that
they all share is a need for connecting with
Many of the smaller towns and hamlets
do not have a regular, growing meeting spot
that is specifically targeted to house the LGBT
community’s resources and more.
However, in places like Charlotte, Raleigh
and Columbia, as well as a unique option
in Wilmington, volunteers and paid staff
are working constantly on providing LGBT
seekers meeting rooms, classes, exhibits, resources
and a myriad of other items to satisfy
even the most demanding palette.
Of course, each of these resources
always welcome contributions to help them
sustain their work with the community. And,
when applicable, sponsorships are obtained
to assist in their selected efforts to champion
LGBT causes and more.
Coastal organization sets
Off with the old, on with the new. And, that’s
just what has happened. Out Wilmington has
a new name and a new direction. It is called
New Out Wilmington (NOW). It has set a new
course in working with the LGBT community
along the southern North Carolina coast. And,
more importantly, it’s the only center in the
Carolinas that operates totally virtually.
The non-profit’s new leadership says
it will play a more active role, supporting
Bowling is a favorite event for New Out
Photo Credit: OutWilmington
issues that go outside those concerning
LGBT initiatives. They target fundraising
events to support local and national charities,
as well as scholarship opportunities
for LGBT students enrolled at Cape Fear
Community College and the University of
Membership is available at three levels:
Gold, Silver and Bronze. Gold and Silver receive
a free Frank Card (a local discount card)
and discounts on events.
NOW is in the planning stages of implementing
a toll-free gay crisis helpline for
Southeastern North Carolina. According to
Tracy Holbrook, they are “in negotiations with
various groups such as [The] Trevor Project
and local businesses that are interested in
supporting this initiative. We definitely plan to
have a physical location for the Helpline when
it is implemented and this introduction will
also quickly allow our organization to have a
physical presence in our community.” The target
date to go live is in early 2012. According
to NOW, there are only around 50 across the
nation, surveys report. Contact Ben Rose,
organizer, at firstname.lastname@example.org to volunteer
or for more information.
On Oct. 21-23, NOW welcomed the
Leather History Conference 2011. The conference
is a project of the Carter/Johnson
Leather Library which is based out of Willow
Current activities include a bowling league,
wine tastings, film screenings and more. Family
Fest 2011 was held from Sept. 30-Oct. 2 with a
health fair, screening of “Gen Silent,” dinner
cruise, worship service and tea dance.
NOW held its Winter Ball on Dec. 10 at
Cameron Art Museum, 3201 S. 17th St. This
charity event supported the work of Good
On the horizon are a photo opportunity
with a male adult entertainment star to raise
money for scholarships for LGBT students, a
charity event fundraiser to support the local
homeless shelter and soup kitchen, monthly
film screenings and more.
The organization is always on the lookout
for committee members and volunteers.
Additionally, they are are open to working with
neighboring cities to strengthen their work and
that of other centers and initiatives.
Capital city heads call
To the northwest is the LGBT Center of
Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St.. This brickand-mortar
facility has established itself
in its brief history as a strong resource for
the Triangle area.
Its mission is to provide a safe, caring
place for all members of the LGBT community
and to provide services to it, as well,
said Linda Snyder, executive assistant.
Over its short history, the center has
grown from a single idea into a broad
organization that provides a rash of services.
It has not strayed from its original
direction, however, it may have had to
alter some things due to financial needs or
availability of funds.
“The LGBT Center of Raleigh was only an
idea three years ago, when two interested
groups [the center and Triangle Community
Works] came together and put their joint efforts
into making a physical center happen. Sharing
funds and plans, the groups merged into one
non-profit and took the step of renting a space,
hanging out our sign and sending emails all
over the area to friends and business friends,
seeking their input and financial help. We created
the Founders Triangle and have continued
to fundraise and provide events that have
drawn positive results. In one year we went
from an 800 square foot meeting space with a
small office, to a 1,700 square foot facility that
has meeting space, offices and a library that is
the largest LGBT library in the state outside of
the universities. Our calendar is continuously
full of events, meetings, and gatherings of outside
groups interested in the LGBT community
and we are a part of the larger community
through participation in such events as the First
Friday Art Walk run by the city of Raleigh. We
have also been approached this year by two
universities wishing to partner with us to have
their students intern at the Center, so we are
making an impact and becoming known for
the work we do and the people we support,”
Membership is not a function of the center.
It is open to the public.
It hosts the OutRaleigh Festival and
became the home to the M Club for young
gay and bisexual men. It also provides meeting
space and/or support for Silver Roses,
No Accidents in Life!, HIV testing, open
The LGBT Center of Raleigh constantly expands its
services on a community needs basis. Seen here is
a gathering of the Trans Initiative which started out
with 12 attendees and now boasts about 50.
Photo Credit: Center Archives
mic events, Transgender & Allies Support,
Primetimers and Gay and Gray, Rainbow
Reading Groups, game nights, potluck socials,
drag brunches, lesbian book club and more.
Additionally, it offers fitness-related activities
through Healthworks, which was originally a
Triangle Community Works program.
The center relies on contributions from
individual donors, plus several corporate
sponsors, such as Duke Medical, Workplace
Options and others, Synder added. It also
reaches out via its website to people all over
the country. And, it holds a variety of activities
across the Triangle to ensure inclusivity.
Queen City center
continues to grow
Moving to the southwest is the LGBT Center
of Charlotte at 820 Hamilton St., Suite B11.
Its basic mission of serving the LGBT community
through programs, services, events and
collaboration hasn’t changed over the years.
John Stotler, board chair, said that they
listen to the community. “We’ve asked the
community to tell us what they want from the
center. Some of this, we’ve been able to do.
But, every event requires resources and sometimes
those are scarce, whether that is money
or volunteers. We’ve worked hard this past
year to recognize the importance of both and
to make better efforts to recognize donors and
volunteers for their extraordinary contributions.
We need to continue to cultivate both to meet
the needs of the community,” he continued.
When the facility was on Central Ave.,
it ran a full-time schedule. Because of a
shortfall in monetary resources over recent
12 qnotes Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012
The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte host a
number of special events during the year, such
as gallery exhibits.
Photo Credit: Center Archives
years, the center was forced to downsize its
staff and volunteer hours. Stotler shared that
they hope to one day be able to be a full-time
center againand have increased their hours.
“In three years time, we fully expect that
the center will be hosting multiple events every
night of the week and be ‘the center’ of the
LGBT community in the region,” he said. He
indicated that the board even wants to expand
staff. They have one part-time employee now
and hope within the next few years to add a
full-time executive director. They would like
to occupy a larger space with the projected
growth for more events. On their wish list is to
see Pride Charlotte host 100,000 attendees In
five years. “The Pride Committee may laugh
about that, but Charlotte is a top 20 city. We can
host 100,000 people at Pride!” he concluded.
The center currently hosts free HIV/syphilis
testing, knitting classes, P90X shape up sessions,
art exhibits, men’s and women’s support
group, LezView Live (a radio show) and more.
Its website offers a comprehensive community
directory of goods and services across
a broad spectrum.
Of course, contributions are always
welcome to help sustain the center’s work, as
well as volunteers.
Palmetto State’s center
The Harriet Hancock Center for Gay,
Lesbian, Bisexual, & Transgender Community
of South Carolina, 1180 Woodrow St. in
Columbia, is the only one in the state.
Ryan Wilson, the foundation chair, said
that this center “has continued steadfastly
since opening its door in 1994.” Growth has
necessitated its expansion to meet the needs
of those it serves.
Unlike the other two facilities in North
Carolina, this center is an actual home. Under
its umbrella is SC Pride, which has netted
over 10,000 attendees in recent years.
Organizations, such as SC Black Pride,
the SC Gay + Lesbian Business Guild and the
Palmetto Transgender Association, make use
of the free meeting space. “Countless educational
forums, support groups, book clubs,
religious study groups and social events” take
place there, as well, Wilson continued.
He also said, “Our other project that gives
us a lot of Pride is the grant funded Youth
Empowered Against HIV! (YEAH!) — a project
that trains young, self-identified gay, bisexual
and queer males between the ages of 18-24
to be peer leaders and educators about HIV
risk and ways to protect yourself. The peers
of YEAH! have provided over 40,000 condoms
to the local community through free condom
dispensers. South Carolina and Columbia in
particular rank tragically high for new cases
of AIDS and HIV infections, so this project is a
direct response to local community’s need for
services that address HIV in a GLBT-affirming
project that boost’s the peers’ pride in who
they are while giving them skills to protect
themselves and teach others. YEAH! has been
funded for two years by the Central Carolina
AIDS Partnership, AIDS United and the AIDS
Benefit Foundation of South Carolina.”
In 2009, the center conducted an assessment
and found that there were a number of
programs that needed to be addressed in the
area of health. Lesbian health concerns will
be reviewed and expanded
services will be
made available once the
requirements are identified.
will focus on smoking
and substance abuse
and same-sex relationship
violence and need
volunteers to work on
these initiatives. They
are currently working
with local law enforcement
services and will have
information available in
the near future.
Anyone can use the
services of the center
for free. No memberships
Funds are always needed
to cover the cost
Celebrations are part of the normal
fare at The Harriet Hancock Center
for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, &
Transgender Community of South
Carolina. Seen here is center president
Ryan Wilson enjoying his birthday
party with other participants.
Photo Credit: Brock Henderson
of running ads in newspapers and online,
as well as on the radio. “We rely heavily on
email, Facebook and Google searches that
bring people to us when they are in need of
resources or support,” Wilson commented.
Partnerships are important to the
center. One major one is South Carolina
Pride Movement, which provides constant
and daily support and helps fund some
of the operations with monies from Pride
Festivals. Some of the Guild members
donate to the center, too. SC Equality and
South Carolina Black Pride are valuable
allies. Grant funding comes from the City of
Columbia Community Promotions.
“Thankfully, we also have a good relationship
with the GLBT students and staff at the
University of South Carolina.
We also work with Elke
Kennedy and the folks at Sean’s
Last Wish,” Wilson added.
He also said that they have
garnered great success from
their growth and financial
stability during the recent economic
he shared that they should
have made moves that would
have enabled them to hire paid
staff. Over the next few years,
their strategic plan is to hire
The Harriet Hancock Center
Foundation plans to launch
a new website with updated
logos and graphics, as well as
publish an annual report and
the South Carolina LGBT Needs
Assessment in early 2012.
Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 13
on being a
by brett webb-mitchell
An Unexpected Homecoming
College changes a person. I was an undergraduate and
graduate student for 13 years and I’ve been a faculty member
in colleges, universities and seminaries for over 17 years and
I’m not sure what it is that brings about the change. I’d like to
say the change occurs is the mysterious alchemy that takes
place between teacher and student in the classroom over a
semester. But, perhaps, transformations happen in the dorm
room, fraternity or sorority, in the middle of the hallways and
kitchens where people gather informally to discuss the “buzz”
about a class or issue on campus. Then again, it could be at
a big sports event, musical performance or off-campus party
that the real magic takes place and lives are forever changed.
Somewhere, somehow, with someone, the change occurs, in
which a new perception of life appears over the horizon and
the person is never the same.
This is what happened to my son after his first semester
in college. He is a changed person. And, I’m
not the only one who observed it. So did his
girlfriend, his mom, my partner and his sister.
The community of love noticed it. Note of the
change came when my partner and I picked
my son up from college. We drove all the way
to Miami, Fla., on a Saturday in mid-December
to gather my son and his belongings as he
makes a move to a new school in the spring.
On the way back home on Sunday, with a
12-hour ride before us, there was time for us to talk about his
first semester experience, otherwise known as “the good, the
bad, and the ugly” (with apologies to Clint Eastwood). It was
during one of the lulls of traveling that we talked about the
changes in his life, from his perspective. He said that having
a gay dad wasn’t that big a deal anymore. I was driving at the
time and about slammed on the brakes or drove off the road in
amazement. This from the young man who, during high school,
made it very clear that he didn’t want anyone knowing that he
had a gay dad with a partner. It was because of Parker’s vote
of “no” that I did not run for a place on the Chapel Hill-Carrboro
Community School board. It was because of his desire to keep
knowledge of my being gay hidden that I tried to keep a low
profile when it came to his school events, usually sitting in the
back row of sporting events or other ceremonies.
In hindsight, the change was evident when he introduced
us to his college friends around the dorm when he was moving
out. He hugged me openly, in public, when he came out of the
dorm. We met his roommate, his friends across the hall, and
the Resident Assistant, without him blinking an eye. “This is my
dad, Brett. This is his partner, Dean.” He said it just that easily
and naturally. We piled his stuff into the rented SUV for our long
excursion back and waved goodbye to his friends. And, off we
went, homeward bound to North Carolina. But, the young man
who left us four months earlier was not the same. Something
happened. Someone changed.
In the Christian scriptures, there is the story of the Prodigal
or Lost Son. It is a family system story of reconciliation among
many conflicting parties. In a nut shell, a parent celebrates the
return of the young child who went his own way, sowing his
“wild oats,” coming home finally, seeking reconciliation with
those who stayed home, namely the other child and parent
(Luke 15:11-32). While my daughter found it easier to acknowledge
that she had a gay dad, my son’s journey in conceding that
his dad is gay has been longer and far more, well, interesting.
I can empathize with my biblical forbear, who rejoiced at this
unexpected homecoming. I shall savor the day I could hear and
see the simple, public recognition of father and son, parent and
child, with “Yeah, that’s my dad and his partner, Brett and Dean.”
Such sweet words are truly a gift in this holiday season. : :
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Black-Eyed Pea Cakes and Garlic-Chive Sour Cream
by Robert Penry :: guest contributor
It’s that time of year — friends and family gather for reunions, dinners
and parties. And, no get-together is complete without a great dish. Robert
Penry is an admissions classroom presenter for the College of Culinary Arts at
Johnson & Wales University in Charlotte. He’s providing some great culinary
inspirations for your holiday gatherings this year. Log on to goqnotes.com/to/
arts-entertainment/cooking/ if you missed Robert’s holiday-inspired creations
in November and December.
Black-Eyed Pea Cakes
2 15 oz. cans Black-Eyed Peas, drained
1 T. Butter
1/2 Onion, minced
1/4 C. Green Pepper, minced
1/2 Jalapeño, seeds removed, minced
3 Cloves Garlic, minced
1 C. Coarse Breadcrumbs (Panko)
2 T. Parsley, chopped
1 t. Cumin, ground
1/2 t. Salt
1/2 t. Black Pepper
1/3 C. Cornmeal
Vegetable Oil for Frying
Method of Preparation:
1. In a medium bowl, mash half of the
peas with a sturdy spoon. Gently fold
in other half of the peas.
2. In a medium skillet, melt butter over
medium heat. Sauté onion, bell pepper,
jalapeño and garlic until softened,
about 7-8 minutes. Allow to cool.
3. Add breadcrumbs, eggs, parsley,
cumin, salt and pepper into pea
4. Fold in sautéed vegetable mixture.
5. If the mixture is too wet, add additional
breadcrumbs. If too dry, add 1
additional egg. Chill mixture for 20-30
6. Form pea mixture into cakes about 1/2
7. Heat a medium skillet over medium
heat. Add enough vegetable oil to
coat the pan.
8. Dredge each cake in cornmeal. Fry on
each side until golden brown, about
9. Serve with garlic-chive sour cream.
8 oz. Sour Cream
1/2 Lemon, juiced
1/4 C. Chives, chopped
3 Cloves Garlic, minced
1 t. Salt
1 t. Black Pepper
Method of Preparation:
1. In a small bowl, mix sour cream and lemon juice.
2. Add chives, garlic, salt and pepper. Stir well to
3. Serve with black-eyed pea cakes.
qomunity qonexions u
Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 15
I seem to be on an unlucky streak. I lost my job, my lover and
now I’m being evicted. The only thing good in my life is my
health and my cat. What do you do in times like these?
Dreading Tomorrow, Tulsa, OK
Dear Dreading Tomorrow,
Sleep lots, have faith and keep busy.
These three things always get me
through those awful trials. Everyone has
incredible highs and devastating lows,
how we deal with these lows are what
separates the enlightened ones from the
rest. In the book “Jonathan Livingston
Seagull,” Jonathan asks God, “Why are
there so few seagulls up here?” and God
replies, “Because you are but one in
You are one in a million
My lover and I of 13 years have never
cheated on each other. Although, occasionally
we enjoy having a third person
enter our lovemaking. No one gets jealous
and it works for us. But, some of our
friends think that we are compromising
our relationship. What’s your position?
Three’s Company, New York City, NY
Hey Three’s Company,
Every household, every couple and every relationship has its
“crazy, unbelievable” and even “scandalous” activities
that make it a one-of-a-kind relationship. Now, if you
must stuff yourself with a third entree that your friends
disapprove of, then why not just keep it to yourselves.
And, if you all end up in a “threesome relationship,”
then you may have to find more “compromising”
friends. (My cartoon sure shares how to accomplish
this with little drama.)
Why do you think you are such a fashion consultant? You never
worked at “Vogue!”
Fashion Alerter, Providence, RI
Dear Fashion Alerter,
Well! I never, I mean, I never worked at “Vogue” or any other
fashion house, but for years
I’ve stolen, I mean, snooped
around, I mean I’ve seen
some of the most glamorous
closets, from some of the
most notorious celebrities.
And, I’ve seen, felt and even
worn what does and does not
work! So, if I know too much
for you then, don’t wear what
I wear, but do look your best
and up-to-date always.
I have been working and
traveling so much the last
few years that I haven’t had
time or the desire to date.
Now, I have relocated and am
working a steady nine to five
job. For the first time in years I am able to date again. I have
no trouble meeting people, but getting through the first date is
where I realized I have gotten rusty. Any ideas?
Free At Last, Reno, NV
Hello Free At Last,
After a few years I’d get a little rusty, too, but there are ways to
restart your dating engine so that you can survive every, well,
almost every, first date, such as memorizing:
Trinity’s Poetic Tips For Surviving
A First Date
1. Good first impressions and a healthy drive makes any first
date flourish and thrive.
2. Putting too much energy into “this being the one” creates
unnecessary pressure and a night of no fun.
3. An early dinner, movie or even a show promises less
chance of you becoming a midnight ho!
4. Boasting, exaggerating or playing it way too cool makes you
look pretentious, with the nickname, “A Fool!”
5. Practice chivalry, charm or what some call grace, by
being present, disconnecting the cellphone and looking
face to face.
6. Integrity, wit, and keeping your calm means canceling or
being late may set off a bomb.
7. Club dancing, big parties or a crowded event makes for a
difficult first date and is not time well spent.
8. Waiting, before giving a dog it’s bone, keeps the dog eager
to call you on the phone.
9. Enjoy the date, have fun, be playful and at ease, but never
be so relaxed as to contact genital herpes!
10. And, lastly, remember a word from the wise: expectation is
disappointment, hidden in disguise. : :
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was
host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,
and now performs globally.
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out in the stars
by charlene lichtenstein
December 24 - January 6
The Sun enters Capricorn and conjuncts Pluto.
Ignite your engines and set off into outer space.
Whoosh! Keep an eye out for any heavenly body.
Anyone we know? Uh, Santa?
CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) You are a powerful
source of energy. Even shy and retiring types
are pushed into the epicenter of action. You
may find that your mere presence creates great
excitement. Your passing glance penetrates into
the very essence of others. Fan clubs sprout and
explode. You create havoc. Good. Things need to
be shaken up once in a while.
AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Don’t even try to keep
things under wraps. There is nothing you can
do to prevent your most sensitive secrets from
being revealed in very public ways. Don’t worry
— there is nothing to be embarrassed about.
Enjoy the liberation and freedom, Aqueerius. You
have been living in a prison of your own design.
It is high time to break out!
PISCES (02.20-03.20) You are apt to make some
startling and memorable impressions on friends
and certain acquaintances. If you are aching to
make a big splash, this is the time to dive into the
pool. But, you may displace more water than you
expect. Guppies are unusual and opinionated
most of the time. Now, you are the big mouth on
the front page. Okay, enjoy it.
ARIES (03.21-04.20) There is something exciting
in the air. Gay Rams are packed with confidence,
spit and fire. (What else is new?) What
are you waiting for? Use this jolt to push ahead
in your career. You have worked too hard and
too long not to take advantage of this newly
discovered power. So, get ready to enjoy your
just desserts, comrade. Hmm, is that a cherry
TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Cross all obligations
off your calendar and set a new course for
yourself. Expand your horizon through any
means possible: the internet, travel, education
or even just a new route home. You can make
your dreams come true queer Bull and become
a centrifugal force that emanates power and
allure. All orbs gravitate to you. Rubadub, you
GEMINI (05.22-06.21) It comes to me on good
authority that there are a number of folks who
desire you from afar. They notice your walk, your
talk and even every nuanced reaction. Do you
even notice, pink Twin? Well, you certainly will
right now. Your stock rises, among other things.
Strut it like you mean it. Order back-up security in
case the crowd becomes unruly.
CANCER (06.22-07.23) Don’t go it alone. You think
that every relationship requires compromise.
Gay Crabs foolishly try to maintain their independence,
but those who aspire for a merger and
acquisition have other ideas. Thank goodness.
Just like that, you are captured and caged. Don’t
struggle too hard, lover. Deep down you are
perfectly happy being a kept crab.
LEO (07.24-08.23) As you glance at yourself
sideways in the mirror there comes a moment of
truth. You sort of like what you see. Granted, you
may be a work in progress, but there appears
to be enough good raw material to work with.
Okay, so now what? This time period provides
the much needed energy you require to perfect
upon perfection. Release your inner deity as you
diet, proud Lion.
VIRGO (08.24-09.23) What is it about, queer
Virgins, that give them such magnetism now?
You are aching to be shaking, socializing and
shagging. You may not realize your limitations
now. So, pace yourself lest you dissipate and
dissolve in the sparkling scenes. Remember — a
drooping wallflower was never a favorite bloom
in your personal bouquet.
LIBRA (09.24-10.23) How long will it take you to
get to the bottom of things in any family matter?
Not too long. Proud Libras feel the rumblings
of discontent among the malcontents. Things
may just pop and good thing, too. Clear away
the barriers and use the rest of the time to enjoy
each others’ company. Okay, just be content to
SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) If there is something on
your mind, it may just find itself posited smack
in the middle of your conversation. This is not
a bad thing. These deeply felt words will move
mountains … and even level them. But, think and
weigh your words before you blurt them out. You
wear your heart on your sleeve now. Yuck. Take
it to the laundry, proud Scorp.
SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) You are apt to desire
more than just the basic elements of life. You
need glory, grandeur and some very expensive
accessories to feed your inner soul. Luckily there
is a possibility that you will come into a bit of extra
cash, especially if you have invested wisely.
Spend like there is no tomorrow, gay Archer. The
way you are going there won’t be. : :
© 2011 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights
info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for
e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My
book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For
Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is
available at bookstores and major booksites.
Dec. 24 . 2011 - Jan. 6 . 2012 qnotes 17
by miss della
Season’s greetings, boys and girls! Where
has the time gone? Here we are at the end of
another year of shows and pageants. What
will 2012 hold? Who’s to say? I think it will be a
fierce year of comebacks and maybe a good
new queen or two. Let’s hope for the best!
This one will be short and sweet as Miss
Della has had a lot of excitement going on
lately (for a change!) It’s all good!
I’ll start off by mentioning the next
state-level pageant I know about — Miss SC
U.S.ofA., taking place at Scorpio on Thursday,
Jan. 20. If memory serves me correctly, this
will be Luscious’ 4th prelim to the pageant
she won in Dallas back in May and we are
so proud of our girl. Come out and see who
will compete for this open regional. There are
always surprises, it seems.
Congrats are going out to Neely O’Hara
who recently won Miss CO2 in Winston-
Salem. The ole girl’s still got it! Also, congrats
are going out to the winners of the Miss and
Mr. Renaissance pageants just held in Atlanta
— Sunny Dee Lite of NYC won the Miss
and the new Mr. is Darryl Kent, formerly of
Asheville and now calling Atlanta home. Darryl
is also on staff with national U.S.ofA. pageants.
Last time, I was all about the Miss NC
All-American Goddess and At Large contests
that just took place here. What a fun time we
had, everyone meeting out to eat at places
Pageants and shows bring out the
best, past, present and future!
like Lupie’s, Mert’s, Azteca and then after the
shows, either IHOP or Skyland. Oh, and let’s
not forget the trip to Twin Tops with Dena Cass
then going to look at the lights in McAdenville!
Dena was in the show on Saturday night
down at the Hide-A-Way in Rock Thrill along
with India Ferrah and Alana Steele. They
were joined by our Miss NC America Jessica
Raynes Starr, Miss Hide-A-Way London Dior
and the hostess with the mostest, Makaylah
DuShot. Kelexis Davenport was at Scorpio
that same evening, hosted by Elaine Davis.
As you may know, the pageant was over
two nights. Other than being joined by Candi
Stratton and Lauren LaMoore, there was a
star-studded show to beat the band, including
Brooke Divine, Jessica Raynes Starr, Arionne
DeCardaza, Jennifer Warner, Chip Matthews,
Miss Tri-States America Tanisha Starr and Miss
U.S.ofA. Classic Catia Lee Love. I’m sure I’ve left
someone out — just write me then read me, ok?
The winner of the Miss was Asia O’Hara;
her runners-up are Arabia Knight-Addams
and Paris Cartier. For the At Large contest,
the amazing Alexis Nicole Whitney won and
her RUs were Extasy Grey and JoAnna Blue.
What’s this I hear about whispers of doing a
guy contest and calling it All-American God? I
wanna judge, I wanna judge!
Oh, where are my notes when I need
them? I do know the EOY calendar is filling
up for that gorgeous Aurora Sexton, Miss Gay
America Kirby Kolby has been to visit with her
bosses near Memphis for her workshop and
they have a new Mr. Gay USA and At Large,
GQ and Felix Correa. Keeping it national here,
okay? I just broke one of my own rules — do
It is with much regret that I mention a
show that I missed recently. They did an
Oleens reunion at Divas at Scorpio back
on Dec. 4. Brittany Gwynne (Miss Charlotte
U.S.ofA. 1997) hosted, and she and David
Moore, the former editor of qnotes, made
sure to invite me out. Too damned bad duty
called and I could not make it, as one of my
favorite queens of all times, Kelly Raye, made
an appearance. With her were legends of that
South Blvd. stage including Kasey King, Kerri
Nichols, Boom Boom LaTour, Tina Terrell, Linda
Locklear, Sasha Tate, Lady Day 2000, Gypsy
Starr, Tiffany Storm and Veronica Leigh. Some
of these were winners of the bar title, Miss
Oleens. Sounds like I missed one hell of an old
school show! At the end, I’m told they had a
memorial by placing ornaments on a tree to
honor great memories of our fallen sisters. I
know in my heart (surely), at least, one was
placed to honor one of the greatest queens
ever, Toni Lenoir.
In closing, it is with heavy heart that I
dedicate this column to Thom Guinn, a former
performer and mentor/pageant coach to
many a diva. Thom and I were from the same
hometown and I met him early in the days
after coming out. He was brilliant, talented
and had a wicked sense of humor. He was an
aficionado of the artform of female impersonation
and classic films/music. At one time, he
had a collection of movies and CDs that would
rival any retail specialty store. After performing
himself as Beehive back in the day, he
began designing talents for competitors in the
EOY, U.S.ofA. and Miss Gay America systems
and actually helped produce pageants and
pageant winners, including several Misses NC
and even a Miss Gay America or two. Thom
was the first person I ever knew from here
to go to Miss Continental (the year Chanel
Dupree won). I remember well the trip he
made with Renee Rollins and myself to Dayton,
Ohio, the year Maya Douglas won Miss Gay
U.S.of.A. For a time, he was show director at
Scorpio and once brought in his dear friend,
the late, great Tandi Andrews. Those were
the days. Thom also managed Elgin Kenna,
Charlotte’s famous Cher impersonator who
travelled with her doing her illusion. Thom was
influential in so many careers and lives…he
will be terribly missed. : :
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Dec. 25 • Charlotte
Boom Boom’s Christmas Carol
Scorpio hosts a special Christmas
night event featuring Boom Boom
LaTour, Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Luscious,
Big Shirli Stevens and hostess
Gypsy Starr. The Scorpio, 2301
Freedom Dr. 11:30 p.m.
Jan. 6 • Winston-Salem
TV Land Bingo
She’s back! Bebe Tea will be bringing
cash to gay bingo’s bank as
Equality Winston-Salem presents
TVLAND Bingo. Adult tickets $20
and $10 with student I.D. Available
at Camino Bakery, Whole Foods
Market, Washington Perk and
Provisions, The Screaming Rooster,
Caffe Prada and Pet Supplies Plus.
Online at equalitywinstonsalem.org.
Benton Convention Center, 301 W.
5th St. 7:30-10 p.m.
Jan. 8 • Winston-Salem
First Sunday Tea Dance
Winston-Salem’s montly Sunday
Tea Dance will be held on a
special New Year date on Jan.
8. No cover, free food, drink
specials and music by DJ Clash. A
percentage of the drink sales will
benefit Equality Winston-Salem.
Blue, 271 W. 4th St. 5-8 p.m.
Jan. 11-15 • Chapel Hill
Nilaja Sun brings her exuberant,
insightful, critically acclaimed
portrait of life at fictional Malcolm
X High School to the PRC2 stage.
“No Child…” has been showered
with awards, including the
Obie Award, Outer Critics Circle
Awards for Best New American
Play and Best Solo Performance
and the US Comedy Arts Festival
Award for Best Solo Show.
Elizabeth Price Kenan Theatre,
Center for Dramatic Art, 150
Country Club Rd.
Get your New Year’s Eve groove on at these local party spots
Bar at 316 • Charlotte
316 Rensselaer Ave. 8 p.m.
(includes new membership).
of champagne at arrival and
at midnight. Tickets can be
purchased in advance at
CO2 • Winston-Salem
4019 Country Club Rd. 9 p.m.
New Year’s Eve party and 1st
First Night Charlotte
Uptown at the Green, 8 p.m.
Alcohol-free and family-friendly
events including countdown
Hartigan’s Irish Pub • Charlotte
601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m.
$10. Free champagne toast
at midnight with balloon drop
with $250 cash and prizes.
Hide-A-Way • Rock Hill
405 E. Baskins Rd. 8 p.m.
Two shows at 11:15 p.m. and
12:30 a.m. with midnight champagne
toast, party favors and
balloon drop. Midnight buffet
with black-eyed peas, collard
greens and more.
Jan. 14 • Winston-Salem
OUT at the Movies Winston-
Salem screens “Goind Down in
La-La Land” on the campus of the
University of North Carolina School
of the Arts, 1533 S. Main St. 7-8:45
p.m. Ticket information call
Jan. 15 • Winston-Salem
Mr. Don’t H8
Celebrity Jason Dottley of “Sordid
Lives” will appear at the first national
Don’t H8 pageant. Featuring
Mr. Don’t H8 2011 Stone Parque and
Mr. Don’t H8 2010 Chip Matthews.
Club CO2, 4019 Country Club
Rd. 9 p.m. facebook.com/event.
Jan. 17 • Charlotte
Meet the Dunns
The Charlotte Business Guild
hosts a special monthly
meeting with local transgender
activist and civic leader
Rainbow In • Lake Wylie
4376 Charlotte Hwy. 8 p.m.
Featuring the Atlanta, Ga.,
Camp Drag troupe The
Armorettes, champagne toast
and party favors.
Sophisticated Lyfe • Charlotte
Ciroc LGBT New Years Eve
Toxic, 616 N. Tryon St.
Limited advance tickets for
$10. Event includes drink
specials, champagne toast,
balloon drop, breakfast buffet.
VIP tables available. For more
information, call 704-286-6SLE
or email sophisticatedlyfe@
Roberta Dunn and her wife,
Jay. LGBT Community Center
of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton
St., Suite B11. 5:30-8 p.m. $20
admission includes dinner.
Cash bar available.
Jan. 19 • Charlotte
Miss Gay South Carolina
The Miss Gay South Carolina
U.S.ofA. Pageant, themed
“Year of the Drag-On,” will be
held at Scorpio, 2301 Freedom
Dr. 6 p.m. 704-517-4009. info@
Jan. 19-22 • Blowing Rock
Gay Ski Weekend
The 4th Annual NC Gay Ski
Weekend takes over Blowing Rock.
Organizers say the event will be
bigger and better than ever with
arts. entertainment. news. views.
more host properties and more
events, including appearances
by Logo’s “A List New York” star
Rodiney Santiago and comedian
Fortune Feimster from “Chelsea
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