March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes

March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes

March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes

qnotes March 17-30 . 2012


March 17-30, 2012

Vol 26 No 023


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The 2012 Human Rights Campaign (HRC)

North Carolina Gala was a night filled with

speeches from advocates working for the

rights of LGBT people across the country and

fighting against discriminatory legislation in

North Carolina. For me, one of the most stirring

speeches of the evening came from CNN anchor

Don Lemon who was presented with the

HRC’s Visibility Award. According to the HRC’s

website, the award recognizes “LGBT individuals

who are living open and honest lives at

home, at work, in the media and in their greater

community.” Considering the fact that Lemon

is viewed by millions of people daily through

his work at CNN and that he chose to formally

come out following the release of his book

“Transparent” in May of 2011, I cannot think of

a better person to receive such an honor.

What really sold his message for me was

not the fact that he brought his partner up on

stage for a quick kiss, although that was simply

heart-warming, but rather his call to action in

the form of a quote from Martin Luther King.

“There comes a time when silence equals betrayal,”

Lemon quoted to the audience of over

1,400 captivated listeners. Of course, Lemon

wasn’t the only speaker to motivate the crowd

to speak out and be active in the fight for equality,

but his was the only speech that illustrated

the consequences of remaining silent. When

it comes to our equality I have to agree with

Lemon and Dr. King — silence equals betrayal.

Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx is the first

Charlotte mayor to publicly support HRC. Not

only did he participate in a welcome video

for the Gala, he was also a speaker at the

event. During his speech, Foxx stated publicly

that on May 8, he would be voting against

Amendment One.

Despite having a mayor who is against

Amendment One, Charlotte’s City Council

currently has no intention of entertaining a

resolution stating that Charlotte opposes the

amendment. Carrboro, Chapel Hill, Durham

and Raleigh have all passed resolutions opposing

this amendment and I think it is beyond

time that the Queen City follows suit.

During a public panel discussion in

February, Charlotte City Councilwoman

LaWana Mayfield was asked about a city resolution

opposing the amendment and responded

that historically Charlotte City Council has not

editor’s note

by o’neale atkinson

Silence = betrayal

taken a stance on anything that comes out of

Raleigh. While this may be the standpoint of the

City Council historically, there are a number of

reasons why this logic is absolutely flawed.

I truly cannot and do not want to imagine

a world where we simply responded to all

situations based on historical precedence.

Historically in this country women weren’t

given the right to vote, people were segregated

by race and individuals practicing occult

or non-Christian beliefs were tried unjustly.

There comes a time when a society has to

grow up and realize that doing things, or not

doing things, based on “the way it always has

been” is just plain stupid.

Following her statement, Mayfield did

encourage the audience to take action and

contact their City Council representatives and

let them know that this issue matters to the

people of Charlotte. I have no doubt Mayfield

is against the amendment and would support

a resolution, but I also understand that she

can’t be the only person on the council bringing

up the issue.

In my mind I imagine Mayfield must feel

like most of us that have ever been the only

gay person in their office or workplace. I have

worked in several businesses where I chose

to keep quiet about my sexual orientation,

at least for a time, not because I feared discrimination,

but because I did not want to be

qualified as “the gay one.” I am so much more

than just an openly gay man and Mayfield is

much more than an openly lesbian woman

serving on the City Council. If Mayfield is the

only person on the council bringing up the

issue I am sure it will be perceived as biased

or self-serving to the eyes of the rest of the

council, especially if no other councilperson

is receiving feedback from their constituents

about the issue on a regular basis.

Outspoken representatives like Mayor

Foxx and Councilwoman Mayfield deserve our

support in fighting for equality, however we

can’t leave it all up to them. We, as citizens,

need to approach our respective City Council

members directly and let them know the importance

of this issue and that we want them

to not only discuss, but adopt a resolution

opposing Amendment One. This amendment

is not just “something out of Raleigh,” this

amendment will impact all of us and we need

to take a stand. One seat on the City Council

speaking out will not a resolution make.

I ask that you no longer remain silent. If

you live in Charlotte and you don’t know your

district, go online and figure it out. Then identify


In the first two months of this year, samesex

marriage news has been as plentiful as

wedding guests around an open bar.

I need to pause. Catch my breath. Tot up

the wins and losses of January and February.

Analyze. Theorize. Chortle.

Starting on the left side of the country,

a three-judge panel of the Ninth U.S. Circuit

Court of Appeals ruled 2-1 that California’s

Proposition 8 is, to use the legal term, icky.

Supporters of the ban on gay marriage

responded by asking that all the judges of the

Ninth Circuit rehear the case. There’s no truth

to the rumor that all the judges threw their

robes over their faces and chanted, “Nyah,

nyah, we can’t hear you!”

In Washington state, Gov. Chris Gregoire

opened 2012 with a strong endorsement

of same-sex marriage, after wrestling her

Catholic doubts to the mat. The Democrat’s

backing seemed to be the oomph needed, as

the legislature passed a marriage-equality bill,

and she signed it with emotion.

Mere hours later, opponents of gay marriage

filed Referendum 73 to repeal the legislation.

Other foes are backing Initiative 1192,

which would reaffirm the definition of marriage

as between a man and a woman. I’m ready

to file Proposal 123, inventive suggestions for

what bigots can do with their fear-mongering.

Leap with me across the country to Maine,

where three years ago voters repealed a

same-sex marriage law, such a devastating

blow that I’m surprised gay-rights advocates

can speak in complete sentences, let alone

return to the fight.

But, return they are. Marriage-equality

supporters gathered signatures to put the

matter on the ballot and in late February

state officials certified their efforts. So, come

November, Maine voters can undo their error

of 2009. Lucky ducks.

In February Maine’s neighbor, New

Hampshire, displayed its intention to abandon

Yankee sense. At a statehouse rally in support

of a bill that would repeal same-sex marriage,

the City Council representative for your district

and send them an email, follow-up with a

phone call and show up for a meeting. Give our

supporters on the City Council the voice they

need to effectively debate and win this issue. : :

general gayety

by leslie robinson

qnotes contributor

The marriage whirlwind

the bill’s sponsor, Republican Rep. David

Bates, said, “I think it’s time to move back,

back to the true meaning of marriage.”

I think it’s time he moved forward. At least

to the Pleistocene era.

Leaving New England for the Mid-

Atlantic states, we land in New Jersey,

where in February the state Senate passed

a same-sex marriage bill, the state Assembly

did, too, but Gov. Chris Christie, as promised,

vetoed the measure.

“He won’t veto the bill because he’s

anti-gay,” said Steven Goldstein of Garden

State Equality before Republican Christie did

the deed. “He’ll veto the bill because the 2016

South Carolina presidential primary electorate

is anti-gay.”

Who knew South Carolina was part of

New Jersey?

Maryland had a better result. The House

of Delegates and the state Senate passed a

same-sex marriage bill and Democratic Gov.

Martin O’Malley, who sponsored the bill,

signed it into law before you can say “Nuts

to New Jersey.” Opponents, of course, have

plighted their troth to a referendum.

In federal marriage developments, U.S.

District Judge Jeffrey White of San Francisco

ruled that the Defense of Marriage Act is

unconstitutional. DOMA is discriminatory, the

judge decided, enacted by a 1996 Congress

hot to show its disapproval of homosexuality.

White’s ruling was quickly appealed to the

Ninth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, the court

with which I started this column. Between

Prop 8 and DOMA, that court has a lot on its

plate. Maybe the judges really did throw their

robes over their faces.

In January and February of 2012, two

states legalized same-sex marriage and two

courts ruled against same-sex marriage bans.

During this whirlwind period, we came out

ahead. I’m not ready to say the tide has turned

— but, it surely has budged some. : :

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20 Questions

by David Stout ::

Carlos Capps aka Angela Lopez, Charlotte

Carlos Capps, and his drag alter-ego

Angela Lopez in particular, are glam fixtures

on the Queen City club scene. Whether it’s a

bar show, a pageant or a circuit event, this

dynamic entertainer always turns it out. Here

at 20 Questions, we couldn’t help but wonder

if the real person behind the larger than life

persona matched our assumptions.

Naturally, we fired over our world

famous (is too!) one-of-a kind questionnaire

to find out. Have a look at

what we learned.

How many live plants are in your home?

None! I can’t keep a bamboo plant alive.

What is your favorite musical group with a

female lead singer?

En Vogue. Their harmonies were so smooth.

Do you more often wash dishes by hand or in

a dishwasher?

I believe dishwashers are here for a reason,

so my motto is “Rinse and load.”

What one piece of jewelry do you wear


I always wear my ring with a stone that

reminds me of the ocean.

How do these drag-themed films rank

based on the number of times you’ve

seen them: “The Adventures of Priscilla,

Queen of the Desert,”“The Birdcage,”“To

Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie

Newmar,”“Victor Victoria”?

Hmmm, I think it would have to be “To Wong

Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar,”

followed by “The Birdcage,” then “The

Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert,”

and “Victor Victoria” last.

Have you ever received a card or letter from a

secret admirer?

Yes, and it was kind of creepy. It was left on

my windshield and it only said, “I have been

watching you and I love you!” Call me…

Who is your all-time favorite talk show host?

Chelsea Handler. I love a woman with balls,

no pun intended.

What was your final trick-or-treating costume?

I was a Spartan from “300.”

How do you prefer your eggs cooked?

Sunny side up,

with buttered


Can you jump

rope double


I used to rule the

playground when

it came to double


Which of the

animated Disney

heroines landed

the best guy?

Princess Jasmine. Who wouldn’t want a

prince with a flying carpet and a monkey?!?

Would you rather play a round of golf, a round

of miniature golf or a round of Wii golf?

Wii golf, cause I don’t have to travel far and I

can have a cocktail.

What three foods do you always eat

with butter?

Pancakes, corn on the cob and biscuits,

of course.

Do you know for certain what color

aubergine is?

I do now! It is a dark purplish color (eggplant).

Which one of the “Friends” would make the

best friend?

I didn’t really watch the show that much, but

Phoebe seemed to be a good time.

What exotic animal would you most like to

have as a pet?

Growing up I had a spider monkey and I loved

it, so I would definitely have another one!

Have you ever been stung by a bee, hornet or


I’ve only been stung by a bee…and it

hurt plenty.

French fries, hushpuppies or onion rings?

Hushpuppies with ketchup all the way.

Which family would you rather be part of: The

Flintstones, The Jetsons or The Simpsons?

Duh, the Jetsons! Flying cars, instant food and

a robot maid!

How long does it take to completely transform

from Carlos to Angela?

In total from shaving to completion, one hour.

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news notes:

from the carolinas, nation and world

compiled by Lainey Millen :: | David Stout :: | O’Neale Atkinson ::

Wahls heads to Queen City

CHARLOTTE — The Third Annual “Believe

in Youth Awareness Event,” a partnership between

Campus Pride and Time Out Youth, will

be held on April 7, 5 p.m. at the Wells Fargo

Auditorium at Knight Theatre at Levine Center

for the Arts, 430 S. Tryon St.

National young adult leader and marriage

equality advocate Zach Wahls will be the

guest speaker. The YouTube “kid with two

moms” has testified before the Iowa General

Assembly about his opposition to an anti-

LGBT constitutional amendment there on Jan.

31, 2011, and continues to champion LGBT

causes in favor of marriage equality. He’s

Tar Heel State bound to share his views one

month shy of the May 8 primary.

The event is free and open to the public.

Donations will be accepted for Campus Pride

and Time Out Youth.

Wahls is also scheduled to keynote

at Camp Pride, Campus Pride’s Summer

Leadership Program slated for July 17-22

at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, Tenn.,

where he will receive Campus Pride’s honorary

National Voice & Action Leadership Award.

Pick up the next issue of qnotes to learn

more about Wahls and the upcoming Camp

Pride event.

For more information, visit campuspride.

org or

— L.M.


Observer wins awards

CHARLOTTE — The Charlotte Observer

netted 36 N.C. Press Association awards in its

recent competition.

Among those who were honored was

Peter St. Onge who had written a column

about gay marriage, as well as others. This

was in the Serious Column category with a

third place position.

St. Onge is an associate editor on

the Observer’s editorial board. He pens

a Sunday column, along with appearing

online on “O-pinion.”

The Observer and qnotes are in partnership

through the Charlotte News Alliance.

— L.M.

qnotes March 17-30 . 2012

Last call for Foundation deadline

CHARLOTTE — The Wesley Mancini

Foundation has announced a last call for

submissions for the 2012 grant season, due no

later than April 2.

Only federally-tax exempt organizations

or those with tax-qualified sponsors will be


Grants are awarded to fund specific projects

and are not awarded to cover general

operating expenses.

This year’s focus will be directed at raising

the profile of the LGBT community during the

Democratic National Convention to be held

Sept. 3-6. Applicants must also partner with at

least one non-LGBT organization to achieve

the project’s aims.

Interested parties who wish to receive a

grant application should contact Bob Scheer

at 704-335-5404, ext. 402, or by email to

— L.M.

Outreach initiative marks successes

CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth’s School

Outreach Program has hit the ground running

in 2012 with a plethora of activity to mark its

continued success.

In February, Charlotte-Mecklenburg

Schools (CMS) Board Member Dr. Joyce

Waddell attended a discussion group on

anti-LGBT bullying in schools. Time Out Youth

formed a new Education Advisory Board to

help facilitate a stronger partnership with

CMS. It is now working with 11 Gay/Straight

Alliances (GSA) and Diversity Clubs in three

school systems (CMS, Cabarrus County

Schools and Union County Schools) and will

be launching its first Skype group linking

GSAs across the region. Lastly, it is partnering

with GLSEN and Wells Fargo’s LGBT group to

implement Safe Zone programs in two CMS

high schools.

In other news, Time Out Youth is seeking

donations to support the center. They are currently

needing bus passes for to use to get to

and from group sessions; gift cards to grocery

stores, CVS, Target or Walmart to assist youth

in financial crisis; snacks, sodas or bottled

water for their lounge; and cleaning supplies

and trash bags.

For more information, visit

— L.M.


Runway designers sought


(ACS) has announce the return of its “Red

Ribbon Runway” annual design competition

and fashion show. In the style of “Project

Runway,” contestants are challenged to create

a high quality, wearable garment using 100

percent of the materials from three plain white

T-shirts provided by sponsor, HanesBrands,

Inc. Other materials used in the creation of

the garment must be repurposed or recycled.

A limited number of new items such as thread

may also be used. Several exciting changes to

the competition this year include the opening

of the contest to group entries and the inclusion

of men and children as models.

The top 15 designs will be featured on the

runway in a professionally produced fashion

show on April 21 at 8 p.m. at the Sundance

Plaza Hotel and Spa, 3050 University Pky.

that focuses on HIV/AIDS awareness. Brent

Campbell from Fox 8 WGHP will serve as the

emcee for the evening. The winning design

will be selected by a panel of local celebrity

judges and will be judged on its design integrity,

ingenuity and most importantly — inspiration!

The contest winner will receive a $250

cash prize and a gift basket.

Red Ribbon Runway is currently open to

the first 40 professional and amateur designers

who are 15-years-old and above. Deadline

to enter is March 30. A $15 fee is required.

Garments must be received by April 16.

For tickets and more information,

call Rivkah Meder at 336-777-0116, email or visit

— L.M.


Carolinians oppose Amendment One

RALEIGH — A poll conducted by Elon

University and released on March 9 reports

that a majority of North Carolinians oppose

Amendment One, according to The Coalition

to Protect North Carolina Families (CPNCF).

Revealed was that 54.2 percent surveyed

either oppose or strongly oppose

Amendment One, while 37.8 percent were in

any way supportive.

CPNCF’s Jeremy Kennedy says that as

“more people learn about this poorly written

amendment and its unintended consequences

the more the realize it will harm our children,

their families, unmarried women and seniors.”

Initiative organizers are raising money to

go toward television advertising to counter

the amendment’s proponents, such as the (headed by Tami

Fitzgerald and the North Carolina Values

Coalition) and Tony Perkin’s Washington,

D.C.-based Family Research Council (which

as been certified as a hate group by the

Southern Poverty Law Center) and others.

They are seeking contributions of $25, $50,

$100 or more.

Additionally, the organization has opened

up its online store so that supporters can

obtain campaign materials. Orders can be

placed for yard signs, button, stickers, T-shirts

and bumper stickers. Visit

to learn more.

A contribution of $18.99 or more gives

recipients an “I’m voting against Amendment

One. Ask Me Why” T-shirt.

For more information, visit

— L.M.

Coalition unveils video

RALEIGH — The Coalition to Protect

All NC Families released a new video,

“Momentum,” on March 1 detailing the

momentum that the grassroots campaign has

built up to this point.

Along with the release of this video,

the Coalition sent out a statement regarding

the work they have accomplished since

Amendment One was placed on the ballot

in September: 117 partners have joined the

coalition, including the NAACP, Southerners

on New Ground, the Libertarian Party of North

Carolina and numerous faith congregations;

they have 30 staff and seven field offices

across the state; have raised more than

$600,000, more than $150,000 of that has come

in online, with more than $80,000 of that number

coming in the last few weeks; they have

more than 2,000 donors who have given $92

on average, the grassroots donors are with

this campaign (Monies have raised in $10, 100,

250 and 1,000 chunks and they are ahead of

schedule with what they have raised from that

category.); they have more than 15,000 volunteers

at this point and are making 20,000 voter

calls per week; important validators such as

Sen. Kay Hagan, Lt. Governor Walter Dalton,

the conservative Carolina Review, libertarian

thinker Michael Munger, Myers Park Baptist

and others have come out in opposition to the

amendment in recent weeks; and Race to the

Ballot has held conversations in towns, large

and small, across the state which has generated

positive news coverage and momentum

around the state.

To view the video, visit protectallnc

— O.A.


Polls find marriage support

LOS ANGELES, Calif. — A new Field Poll

shows that support for same-sex marriage

in California has increased dramatically with

59 percent of residents favoring same-sex

unions to 34 percent who do not. The poll

showed that the largest increase in approval

since 2010 came from middle-aged voters,

nonpartisans and Republicans. Other significant

gains in support were from Catholics,

Latinos and older voters.

Jacobs’ view is supported by a new

Quinnipiac Poll that reveals 57 percent of New

Jersey voters now support allowing same-sex

couples to marry.

— D.S.

Harvard must right a wrong

BOSTON, Mass. — Dozens of students,

faculty, and staff from the Harvard community

rallied on campus Feb. 29 to call on

the university to award honorary degrees to

seven students who were persecuted and

expelled in 1920. The students were victimized

by a university-sanctioned body known as the

“Secret Court” that targeted students who

were gay or perceived to be gay.

At the rally, which took place outside an

event hosted by Lady Gaga and Oprah Winfrey

to launch the Born This Way Foundation, demonstrators

presented more than 5,000 petition

signatures to Harvard President Drew Gilpin

Faust, urging her to award these expelled

students honorary degrees.

The “Secret Court” was initially exposed

in 2002 after a reporter from Harvard’s student

newspaper, The Crimson, found archived materials

about the Court’s actions. Though the

university has apologized for the Court’s targeting

of students who were gay or perceived

to be gay, none of the students persecuted

or expelled have been awarded honorary

degrees, despite the fact that several were

very close to graduating.

— D.S.

Broadway stars, Bakker to be honored

NEW YORK, N.Y. — PFLAG National will

honor Broadway stars Audra McDonald (“The

Gershwins,” “Porgy And Bess,” Naomi on the

TV drama “Private Practice”) and Will Swenson

(“Priscilla, Queen Of The Desert,” “Hair”) with

the 2012 Straight for Equality in Entertainment

Award at the Fourth Annual Straight for Equality

Awards Gala. In addition, pastor Jay Bakker

will receive the inaugural Straight for Equality in

Faith Award at the April 2 event.

McDonald and Swenson, who became

engaged on New Year’s Eve 2012, are longtime

straight allies of the LGBT community and both

sit on the advisory board of the pro-marriage

equality organization Broadway Impact.

Bakker has taken a public stand on the

importance of creating welcoming communities

of faith for LGBT people and supports

marriage equality. In his book, “Fall to Grace: A

Revolution of God, Self and Society,” he talks

about his own family’s “fall from grace,” and

how it colored his personal understanding of

the need for God to be available to all people.

— D.S.

HRC names strategist as new prez

WASHINGTON, D.C. — Chad H. Griffin has

been named the next president of the Human

Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest LGBT civil

rights organization. He is a national communications

and policy strategist who is widely

credited for being the mastermind behind

the federal lawsuit to overturn California’s

Proposition 8, which has now been ruled

unconstitutional by two federal courts.

Griffin will assume his new duties on June

11. Current HRC President Joe Solmonese

will continue to lead the organization until

that time.

The founding partner of strategic communications

and campaign firm, Griffin|Schein,

Griffin has taken on entrenched, well-financed

interests like Big Tobacco, Big Oil and the

far right, and shaped national policy debates

around equal rights, clean energy, universal

health care, stem cell research and early

childhood education.

He is a founding board member of the

American Foundation for Equal Rights, the sole

sponsor of the Prop. 8 lawsuit. He is personally

responsible for recruiting the legal dream

team of Theodore Olson and David Boies to

successfully argue the case. Griffin will remain

on the board of directors of AFER.

— D.S.

Queer encyclopedia launched

ANN ARBOR, Mich. — WikiQueer, a

non-profit, free-content online encyclopedia

and resource project, has officially launched.

WikiQueer is based on an openly editable

model, specifically for and by the LGBT, questioning

and ally communities.

In a manner similar to Wikipedia,

WikiQueer is written collaboratively by

volunteers. Anyone with internet access can

write and make changes to WikiQueer articles

— except in certain cases where editing is

restricted to prevent disruption or vandalism.

However, unlike Wikipedia, contributors can

also include dynamic content from existing

online LGBT and wiki projects, content geared

toward activism, and information on the LGBT

communities that might not presently meet

Wikipedia’s notability standards.

While development of the website dates

back to 2010, WikiQueer has been in a soft

launch since July 25, 2011 preparing for the

official launch. WikiQueer can be accessed

online at

— D.S.

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One world, one tribe

Local artist using the human body as canvas to tell the human story

by O’Neale Atkinson ::

Since the start, The Human Canvas

Project has grown both in size, as well as in

its vision. One major shift has been that Croy

is drawing upon the individual stories of the

models to help guide his hand in painting

them and deciding on the locations for photo


“I send all of my models a questionnaire

to learn more about them and what they are

inspired by before designing the shoot,” Croy

explains. “For example, I have a guy that I am

using in my next photo shoot and the concept

is based on his experiences. He was in an

abusive relationship 10 years ago and he

took some severe physical damage and was

hospitalized. It was because of this relationship

that he had developed problems with his

self-esteem and you have to see where he is

now, it is just amazing. He has such a great

personality, always smiling. After hearing his

story, I designed this tribal phoenix design for

his photo shoot. It is more about him coming

back from something that was very traumatic

and rebuilding himself to greatness. He is

50-years-old and you would think he is 30

because of the way he takes care of himself

and his pride.”

Croy says that he has learned a lot

about the LGBT community and people in

general through his work with this project.

see Local on 18

The use of tattooing and piercing has long

been a means for cultures to represent

both their individual and group identity

outwardly to others. These markings and

body modifications serve to tell the story

of an individual in a way that is meaningful

to them. Local artist Gil Croy has taken his

own spin on this concept and is creating an

art movement within the community which

serves to tell the story of the LGBT community.

What started out as a fundraising

event for the 2011 AIDS Walk has blossomed

into a three-year initiative called The Human

Canvas Project which will include a host of

artists, models and ideas as Croy turns the

human form into the ultimate canvas.

Croy, a native of Montgomery Ala., studied

interior design and stage design in Mississippi

and Georgia before moving to Charlotte. He

began a career in visual design working for

Ivey’s department store in Charlotte and later

moving to New York to work with Macy’s and

Dillard’s designing large scale windows.

While in New York, Croy began working

with paint and entered several art shows. It

was at this time that he discovered his passion

for the medium and continued to paint

when he moved back to Charlotte. Croy has

dedicated much of his artistic energy working

within the LGBT community and using his

talents to support organizations and fundraising


In March 2011, Croy was working on an

art project for the AIDS Walk. He painted plus

signs along his body and modified the images

into colorful graphic photographs. Croy

began to consider doing more with the body

painting following this project and continued

with the concept for a photo shoot surrounding

the 2011 Pride Charlotte event. Croy created

a “pride tribe,” a mix of people from all

backgrounds in the LGBT community painted

head to toe in bright vibrant colors with tribal

designs. During Pride Charlotte, he also had

several of his pride tribe walking around the

event fully painted.

March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes


Adoring the human canvas

I ink, therefore I am

by David Stout ::

Humans have adorned their bodies since

the earliest recorded times. In some

ancient cultures these embellishments

were primarily temporary decorations, like

the use of make-up by the Egyptians (as early

as 3500 B.C. according to archaeological

evidence) or the art of mehndi, in which a

henna-derived ink is used to draw intricate

designs on the skin, in India.

For other societies, however, gilding the

body meant permanent modification of its

form. Examples of these alterations span from

the widespread practices of tattooing and

piercing to more exotic customs such as neck

stretching by the Kayan women of Burma,

Chinese foot-binding for girls, cranial shaping

within numerous Native American tribes and

much more.

Over the centuries the practice of body

modification has endured — and in the

case of tattooing and piercing has proliferated

— to become an increasingly common

component of present-day American culture.

However, the thinking that drives us to change

our bodies today is wholly distinct from the

notions that drove our forebears.

Ancient peoples transformed themselves

to appeal to the socially imposed beauty

standards of their time and place (e.g., having

an elongated neck, small feet or a conically

shaped head) or as an outward sign of

spiritual observance (tongue piercings, for

example, originated from an Aztec ritual in

which the tongue was pierced to draw blood

for the gods).

In contrast, the modern popularity of body

modification is anchored in its cultural redefinition

into a display of individual expression.

This viewpoint shift is clearly the engine that

powers its contemporaneous propagation.

In a post-everything society that seems

increasingly homogeneous and leaves more

and more people feeling nameless and faceless,

it’s perfectly understandable that the

idea of making one’s body unique from every

other person’s holds tremendous appeal.

Even so, not everyone approves of the

trend, of course.

Tattoo enthusiast Kevin Roussin, 34, was

reminded of this recently while riding in an

elevator with an elderly woman. After taking

note that both of his arms are sleeves of ink,

she remarked, “You won’t get into heaven with

all those tattoos.” Surprised, but not thrown off

his game, he snarkily replied, “You’re not going

to get there any faster being a bitch.”

The Fort Mill resident laughs about the

incident and explains that it’s not the first

time he’s faced disapproval due to his body

art. His first boyfriend “hated it when I got

my first tattoos. He was really upset.” He

adds that the ink didn’t split them, “but it

definitely didn’t help.”

Nonetheless, an old busybody and an

uptight ex notwithstanding, Roussin’s tats

are really a non-issue, he says.

“My partner now is pretty tattooed

himself. When we met he already had several

and that sort of drew me to him. He’s working

on a sleeve now. They just have to color it in,

all the outline and shading is done.”

What’s more, Roussin says his parents

don’t just tolerate his body art, they appreciate

it. “As I’ve gotten more and more tattoos, they

like to see them. The last time I went home to

visit my parents they loved my pin-up girl tattoo.

They just thought it was beautiful.”

Kevin Roussin, 34, loves the art displayed on his human canvas — and his boyfried does too.

The image of that 1950s sex kitten dominates

the whole of Roussin’s right forearm

while his upper arm sports a tribal design on

the outside and a Scooby-Doo tattoo tucked

on the inside. His left arm is draped with a

twisting dragon up top and a tiger below that

spans from his elbow to his wrist.

On Roussin’s stomach, his first name

is inked in large graffiti style lettering just

above his navel. On one side of that is his

name written with Japanese kanji, on the

other side is a similar rendering of his 16-

year-old son’s name.

Embedded in the tribal tattoo is the

Portuguese word for courage, while “Own

The Day” is written across the back of

Roussin’s neck. He says these ensigns were

extremely important to him during a past

battle with leukemia.

“I was diagnosed the same week I met my

current partner,” he recalls. “Those tattoos

got me through cancer and I’ve been cancerfree

for three years now.”

Because his body art has had such a definitive

impact on his life, qnotes asks Roussin

if he has any regrets about his ink.

“Just one,” he replies. “The one thing I’ve

always done is wait at least a year to make

sure a potential tattoo is exactly what I want.

After that long, if I still want it, I feel confident

it’s something I’ll always be happy with.

“Saying that, the regret I have is that I

went one time to an artist who…well, let’s say,

wasn’t the greatest and the tattoo didn’t come

out like I wanted it to. Since then I’ve made it a

point to find exceptional artists to do my work.”

Roussin makes an excellent point that

everyone should take into account when

they’re thinking of getting inked or pierced.

And, in addition to assessing the quality of

the practitioner’s work, there are also health

considerations that must be settled. Needles

and equipment must be properly sterilized and

cross-contamination guidelines must be strictly

observed to avoid blood-borne pathogens.

If you feel at all unsure about a particular

tattoo artist or piercer, trust your instincts and

look elsewhere. There are too many good

ones around for you to feel less than 100

percent confident.

In the end, always remember that it’s your

body. Decorate it. Personalize it. Accessorize

it. Just don’t ever forget to love it. : :

10 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012

on the map



Barbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316

free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.

Super Sundays with Aiesha Paris, Nickel Bar

starts at 8 p.m.

House Cast Show, The Scorpio

with DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.

Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshed

free dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.

karaoke, 9 p.m.


Movie Night, Bar at 316

starts at 9 p.m.

Monday Madness, Chasers

pool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prize

and $25 bar tab.

Boxing & Monday Night Football, Sidelines

Free Pool, The Woodshed

all day.


Karaoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316

starts at 9 p.m.

Pool Tournament, Central Station

Twisted Trivia, Chasers

with Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.

Showtime at 12:30 a.m.

Trivia Tuesdays, Marigny

hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.

Midwood Madness, Petra’s

half-price bottles of wine

Karaoke, The Woodshed

starts at 9 p.m.


Game Night, Bar at 316

Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’s

starts at 8 p.m.

’90s music night, Nickel Bar

Karaoke, Petra’s

hosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.

Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpio

featuring Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.

Pool Tournament, The Woodshed

starts at 10:30 p.m.


Thursday Night House Party, Bar at 316

Pool Tournament, Central Station

Rockin’ Well Thursdays, Chasers

with Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.

Free HIV Testing, Connections

the 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.

Karaoke Night, Hartigan’s

hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.

Team Boystown, Marigny

starts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.


Karaoke Night, The Rainbow In

free for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.

Underwear Night, The Woodshed


House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316

Free HIV Testing, Connections

the 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.

A-List Fridays, Marigny

hosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.

Live DJ, Nickel Bar

Live Performances, Petra’s

Roxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow In

starts at 11p.m.

Life’s a Drag, The Scorpio

with Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.


House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316

The Angela Lopez Show, Chasers

show starts at 12:30 a.m.

Live DJ, Hartigan’s

Krewe Saturdays, Marigny

Soul Music, Nickel Bar

Live Performances, Petra’s

Urban Variety Show, The Scorpio

with Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.


MCC Charlotte

Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.

Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,

7 p.m.

New Life MCC

Worship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.

Monthly covered dish dinner and

coffeehouse-style worship service on the first

Sunday of every month, 6 p.m.

Unity Fellowship Church of Charlotte

Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.

Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of every

month, 9 a.m.

Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,

7 p.m.


The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte

Promoting the diversity, acceptance and

visibility of the LGBT community through

programming and events.

White Rabbit

North Carolina’s LGBT everything store.

Complete line of Pride merchandise, plus

books, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwear

and more.

info: Don’t see your bar listed here?

Submit your regularly scheduled events to

March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 11


Sports: Playing the field

Balls out

by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor

[Ed. Note: qnotes is

proud to bring you our

new sports feature and

would like to introduce its

contributor, Jon Hoppel.

Hoppel is an active

member of the sports

community. He serves

on the Carolina Softball Alliance board and

the Charlotte Royals rugby team. Hoppel also

plays on a traveling softball team based out of

Knoxville. We are excited to have Hoppel’s contribution

to qnotes and look forward to bringing

you continuing LGBT sports coverage.]

As spring quickly approaches, the sports

leagues and teams of the Carolinas start to

prepare for their respective seasons. In this

section, we hope to bring you the recap of

games, tournaments and league results, as

well as previews of upcoming events that are

happening in or around the Southeast.


The Charlotte Royals Rugby

Football team started their season off

with a tough loss at home on Feb. 25

to Table Rock, 124-14. It was a hardfought

game and the Royals played

tough despite being down a man most

of the match. Royals President Thomas

Southerland had this to say after the

match: “Our first match of the season

is always the roughest for new and

returning players. It usually serves as

a crash course/refresher on the sport

of rugby. Although we did some good

things on the pitch, the match highlighted

some areas of improvement.”

Earning Man of the Match honors were

David June for the backs, who scored one of

the two tries for the Royals, and J.T. Wentz for

the forwards. The Royals look to bounce back

with two road games versus the Columbus

Coyotes on March 17 and against Davidson

College on March 24 before their rematch

with Table Rock on April 14. For more information

about the team, practice and game

locations check out their website by visiting

see Playing on 15


drag rag

by miss della

qnotes contributor

Sweeties, I took to the road and beheld royalty and stars galore!

12 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012

Hey everybody — here I am working on another late submission

of the Rag. Just as I promised before, we get a promo of Luscious, the

only Carolinian to win Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Too bad it’s 10 months into

her reign. Yes, I know I’m ruint. At least I can admit it. LOL! Luscious is

attending her last prelims before her big give-up in Dallas on Memorial

Day weekend. Hot times in the Big D. Literally!

Two recent prelims took place here in the Queen City. First was

Miss East Coast which Atlanta’s Mya Ross Monroe won with RU

Monica Lovett. Then Miss N.C. U.S.ofA.

was recently held in Hickory at Club

Cabaret and I, of all people, missed all

nights of competition. That’s a first in

a long time, but duties called. I did go

up with two friends to see the formers/

stars show on Saturday and damned if I

didn’t see a few stars. Of course, there

was the Lady of the Evening, Dy’Mond

Cartier, as well as Miss S.C. U.S.ofA.

Kristina DeeVine, Versage, Cierra

Nicole, Brooklyn Dior and one of my

all-time favorites, Kelly Raye. When I tell

you revival was brought to the house,

it is no lie. Kids were standing on the

sides of the stage cheering her on when

she would start her “cutting up.” It’s so

good to see a queen really work their

eyes and facial expressions. This queen

is top notch, for sure. Kelly, we need a

contestant for Miss NC America this

year, or maybe for Continental Elite next

year. You’d have hundreds behind you,

including moi!

February was a wonderful month, full of Continental-ness.

LOL! Miss Alyson Thomas brought me down to judge her Carolina

Continental pageants, along with that crazy Leslie Lain, the Mouth of

S.C. Our first night there, we had the pleasure of doing dinner with

Alexis Gabrielle Sherrington, the current Miss Continental, and Daesha

Richards, the reigning Miss Continental Elite (for about another month).

The next afternoon, I attended an afternoon drag show at the Wilton

Bier Garden on the patio. Hosting was former Charlottean Amanda

Austin of the Mythos days. Amanda has become quite the tea of “the

Drive” as they called that strip there near the bars in Wilton Manors.

Besides Amanda in the show, there was former Miss N.C. America

Sharde Ross (who is steady preparing for a return to Miss Gay U.S.ofA.

Classic), LaShawn Beyond of this season’s “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” and

Ruby Alexandria. Amanda is enjoying working with such local celebrities

as Noel Leon and Misty Eyez.

That evening, many of us attended Miss and Mr. State of Florida

Continental in Davie, FL. I got a chance to visit with Mr. Flint who was

there doing signings of his new book “The Boy from Peoria”

(chock full of Chicago history (drag and otherwise), especially

former titleholders and stars of the Baton Show Lounge, his

illusion club that has been open since 1969). The pictures alone

are worth your time, and oh, the tales. I also got a chance to

catch up with Ginger Grant, Miss State of FL Continental Elite

Diva, Samantha Perez, Franchesque Richards, hair-spinner “Q,”

Scott Holland, Derbis Aguilera and, yes, the ever-popular Miss

Tiffany Andretta Arieagus. OMG! Talk about old school stars,

baby! Anyway, too much excitement — an exquisite Fontasia

L’Amour from Cali won with RU Coco Chandelier. For the guys,

Kyle Ean won with RU Khalil Valentino Litter.

The next evening we had the Carolina Continental prelims

for all divisions. I got to visit with Miss Continental Gabby and

Miss PLUS, Chelsea Pearl, who had flown in earlier. What a joy

— those girls have tortured each other as they’ve travelled and

just made all kinds of good memories. Chelsea was so painted

that night you’d have thought she started beating at 7 and that

Gabby has the clothes of death. Such good queens and good

representatives. The winners that night for Miss were Stasha

Sanchez with RU Missey Miyake LePaige, for the Mr., Lewis

Nicholson, for PLUS, Jasmine Skiies and Elite, another old

Luscious of Charlotte, Miss Gay U.S.ofA.

school goddess who wrote the book, in my opinion — Dana

Photo Credit: The Studio, Orlando LLC

Douglas. I stand in awe of her every time I see her, to think of

what I behold before me. A pure legend, plain and simple.

That evening, I saw Florida pageantry celebs like Edward Nunez,

Sasha Sommers, Miss Nikki Adams, Electra, former Miss Universe

Kristina Grant, Gina DeAngelo, Erika Norell, Shanice Jackson, another

“Drag Race” contestant from this season Latrice Royale and two

newer girls in the pageant who were stunning, Jennifer Grant and

Justice Divine. What a trip! Talk about sensory overload. My thanks to

Alyson for keeping me on as head judge after all these years! : :

info: Drop me a line, OK?

Ask Dr. C…HIV and healthcare advice

Helping to keep you in the know with up-to-date information

by Frederick Cruickshank ~ Medical Director

After many installments of “Ask Dr.C,” this

is yet another opportunity to offer our readers

information about HIV from basic questions to

in-depth explanations. We are still receiving

many of your questions and are working hard

to provide responses to as many questions as

possible to provide information for you and

the community. The questions have provided

us a forum to debunk myths and remove

stigma from those living with HIV and AIDS.

It is important to educate yourself, get tested,

and protect yourself. We appreciate every

question we receive! Dr. C looks forward to

responding to as many emails as possible.

I recently got tested for HIV and it

came back negative. I am in a serious

relationship with my partner of 5

years. Since my test came back negative,

can I assume that my partner is

HIV negative as well?

— Stephen from Hickory

Stephen, I am glad to hear that your test

came back negative. However, you cannot

assume that your partner’s test would

also yield a negative result even if you are

sexually exclusive with each other. When

someone engages in sexual activity with an

HIV-positive partner, the virus is not always

transmitted. Because you have been in a

relationship for an extended period of time,

you have had more chances to spread the

virus if one of you were positive. So, more

than likely your partner is also negative. But,

the only way to know is to get tested! It is

very important to keep an open dialogue

with your partner about your HIV status and

STD status if you are sexually active. I would

encourage you to talk to your partner about

getting tested and even make it an activity to

do together.

Is it possible to get HIV or other STDs

from a public toilet seat?

— Ann Marie from Charlotte

Ann Marie, this is a good question. It is

always important to debunk the myth that

HIV/AIDS can be spread by everyday contact

and/or living with someone who is HIV positive.

You cannot get HIV/AIDS from sharing a

toilet because the virus does not survive very

long outside of the body. Similarly, you cannot

become infected with most STDs because they

also do no live outside the body long enough

to be passed to another person via the toilet

seat. I say “most STDs” because pubic lice

also referred to as “crabs” can live on a

surface for two days. If a person with pubic

lice used the public toilet right before you,

you could pick up the organisms. If you are

greatly concerned, most public restrooms do

provide paper seat covers to protect yourself.

Are all STDs curable? And, if so, why

are they such a big deal if they can

be treated easily?

— Nancy from Kannapolis

Many STDS can be effectively treated if found

early enough. These include chlamydia, gonorrhea,

syphilis, and trichomoniasis. While

most of these can be cleared up by a simple

dosage of medication, it is important for people

to take these diseases seriously. Without

treatment, STDs like syphilis can lead to

severe effects on the body including blindness,

paralysis, and death. In addition, there are

some STDs that are not “curable.” Herpes and

genital warts can lead to reoccurring flare-ups

throughout a person’s lifetime. Medication

can be given to treat the symptoms, but the

disease remains present within the body. Also,

to date there is no cure for HIV/AIDS which is

also sexually transmitted. It is important to get

tested for both STDs and HIV regularly in order

to effectively manage your sexual health.

It is also important to keep an open dialogue

about your HIV and STD status.

Always remember that this is an advice

column based upon your questions and the

best possible knowledge out there. We need

your questions to help educate the community,

so email them to and

be sure to include a first name and location.

All respondents will remain anonymous. We

will try to do our best to answer, educate and

inform from your responses to this column.

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March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 13


talkback: Amendment One

Continuing with our theme of speaking out against Amendment One, this issue we have a letter from Ashlei Blue, Regional Field Director for

The Coalition to Protect All NC Families.

On September 13, 2011, our North Carolina General

Assembly pushed Amendment One through the ranks and onto

the 2012 Primary ballots for you to vote

against. It goes without saying how many

times different versions of this bill have

been drafted up and shot down over the

past 100 years. What is more of an issue

for Charlotteans, however, is what are we

going to do to prevent it from passing on

May 8?

The truth of the matter is, that for

the first time in over a century, North

Carolina has decided to propose an amendment that takes

away your rights instead of guaranteeing and protecting them.

The Charlotte City Council has remained silent on the issue

while our Mayor Anthony Foxx has already come out staunchly

against it. It’s time to set fire to Amendment One in Charlotte

and we have to start now.

Everyday, my team of field organizers and interns wake up

and we commit ourselves to 12-hour days with the hopes of

knocking the wind out of this amendment. Encouraging friends

and family to vote against the amendment is the first step in

defeating Amendment One, but by no means is that all we’re

asking of you. To stop hate, it’s going require more from each

of us.

We’re asking you to climb outside of your comfort zone

and stand alongside of us as we take even bigger steps. That

means reaching out to your neighbors and telling them about

the benefits your family will lose if they stay home instead of

getting up and voting against this amendment. That means

reaching out to your church home and encouraging them to

put their faith into action and stand behind righteousness. That

means talking to students on one of the many campuses across

the Queen City and making sure they’re aware that the rights of

their friends are being infringed upon.

We are a coalition of supporters that have aligned with the

purpose of stopping discrimination in Mecklenburg County

dead in its tracks. It’s going take more than a yard sign in front

of your house, more than a bumper sticker on your car, more

than a T-shirt on your back. While all of those things are important

in spreading awareness, we have yet to see a yard sign

or bumper sticker have a valuable conversation. The Coalition

to Protect All NC Families has a goal to complete one million

conversations across the state of North Carolina. By the time

you read this article, Mecklenburg County will have clocked in

at over 1,500 conversations…how many of those conversations

were you a part of?

You can find our office on the corner of 28th St. and North

14 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012

Davidson at 617 East 28th St. We’re here,

Monday through Friday, getting the job

done. All we’re missing is you. Won’t you

join us?!

— Ashlei K. Blue

Regional Field Director

Protect NC Families

When I go into the ballot box in

May, I’m going to be voting against

Amendment One.

— Mayor Anthony Foxx


Amendment One is a direct challenge

to our ability to compete nationally

for jobs and economic growth. Large

corporations hate this kind of controversy.

They deal with diverse work populations

for whom issues like this aren’t

just important in terms of where it is that

they live, but are important indicators

of the diversity and meritocracy of the

companies where they want to work.

Many of the industries, most that

are important to our future success,

are also the industries most highly

sensitive to the passage of amendments

like Amendment One that significantly

signal that we are a backward looking


Amendment One has the potential to

have a disastrous effect on our abillity

to attract talent and keep talent in the

state of North Carolina. We know that

for economic growth and prosperity, the

ability to keep talent here and to attract

additional talent, not only from other

parts of the United States, but globally,

is critically important to fueling that


What Amendment One does is make

it look like we are a state that ignores

both the needs and the preferences of

the next generation of America’s and

the world’s workforce. We have got to

attract that generation. We have got to

vote no on Amendment One.

— Cathy Bessant

Bank of America

Playing the Field

continued from page 12


The Carolina Softball Alliance is gearing up for

their Spring 2012 season, which will begin Sunday,

April 15. This will be the 16th season of the only

LGBT slow-pitch softball league in the Queen

City with the “goal of providing a welcoming, but

competitive atmosphere for the community,” says

President Ron Tessner.

To get things started this season, two clinics

will be held on successive weekends, March 25

and April 1 at Veteran’s Park, for those players

wanting to join the league. It is recommended

that interested ball players attend one of these

two sessions in order to get a feel for the league,

be rated and placed with an appropriate team if

you do not have one already.

Also, the league will be sending a D-level

team to the Southern Shootout in Birmingham,

Ala., on Easter weekend, April 6-8, and the

Big Peach Softball tournament in Atlanta, Ga.,

Memorial Day weekend. Tryouts for this team

will be held at Ferguson Park in Gastonia, N.C.,

on March 18 from 2-5 p.m. If you cannot attend

this tryout or either of the two clinics, but are still

interested in joining CSA, the league asks that

you contact them directly through email at info@ or by visiting their website at


Queen City Tennis Club is an organization here

in Charlotte that promotes the game of tennis in

the LGBT community. They meet every Sunday

starting April 1, at Park Road Park (unless otherwise

noted on their website) from 10 a.m.-12 p.m.

They welcome all ages and skill levels, so check

out their website if you are interested in learning

more at

If you have an LGBT-friendly sport or tournament

you would like to have covered email : :

March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 15


Hey Trinity,

My best friend won’t talk to me anymore because I told

someone something about her that I swore I would never tell.

Don’t you think it’s wrong to give up a longtime friendship just

because someone slipped?

No Big Deal, Nashville, TN

Hey No Big Deal,

When Monica Lewinski

slipped to Linda Tripp look

what happened! When

Virginia Hill slipped to the

mob about her boyfriend,

Bugsy Seigel, the next day

he was shot in the head.

Sweetie, when someone

tells you something in secrecy,

you suddenly become

as important as a CIA agent.

Nobody, and I mean nobody,

wants to be friends with

someone who can’t take a

secret to their grave. If you

can’t keep a secret, let your

friends know. There’s no

shame in not being able to

keep a secret, but there is in

not keeping one. Just say no!

tell trinity

by trinity

qnotes contributor

Your secret’s not

safe with me

Dear Trinity,

After dating someone for two months, I told him that I wasn’t

interested anymore. Still, he constantly calls, comes by and is

now bothering my friends. I can’t shake him. Help?

Stalker Troubles, Brooklyn, NY

Dear Stalker Troubles,

Plan A, first, clearly tell him that you don’t want to see him.

Second, insist that he stop calling, coming by or bothering your

friends. “There is no two ways about it!” Third, be tough, stern

and aggressive, even if it’s not your nature. Lastly, if all this

fails, then go to plan B. Plan B, first go to his work and publicly

embarrass him. Make a big scene. Second, call his friends and

family and let them know what he’s doing, that they must stop

him or you’ll see them all in court. Finally, if he’s really freaking

you out, it’s time for a little vacation. Waiting down south for a

Key West martini, darling, is much healthier than waiting to be

stalked. Give ‘em hell.

Hello Trinity,

I’m looking for a real man. Not someone

who’s pretentious or constantly worried

about his looks. Not a party animal, but

a passionate beast. A man who lets

himself enjoy a relationship. Where can

I find him?

Looking, San Antonio, TX

Hello Looking,

First, you have to look long and hard.

Groups, ads, services and word-of-mouth

wouldn’t hurt. As Kahlil Gibran says,

“Before love finds you, you must be sifted,

kneaded, grinded and threshed.” Sounds

exciting to me! So, honey, allow yourself

to go on a journey rather than a drag race.

But, if that’s too much work, then turn on

an old WCW match, find the wrestler Bill

Goldberg and take a good long look at one man who is everything

one could ever dream of. Don’t touch, he’s mine! Even if it takes

me a lifetime! Back to work. (I know how to figure out if a guy is

manly enough. Check out my cartoon for my thought process.)

To Trinity,

I want to be like you: a singer, a writer an artist, but I don’t know

how to start. My life, job, friends, etc., are all set. How do I get

more creative?

Artist In Waiting, Boston, MA

To Artist In Waiting,

Nearly everyone who wants to be an artist already is, but,

pumpkin, before you sign up for that “artist within” retreat try


Trinity’s Helpful Tips For Finding

Your Creative Self

1. Do something dangerous. Facing one fear destroys many

other fears.

2. Deny yourself something you can’t. Stronger wills make

stronger artists.

3. Take different routes to work and other places. Challenge

what is constant.

4. Forgive someone you can’t. Resentment promises stagnation.

5. Visit new places. New environments bring new creative


6. Deny yourself one of your senses for a day, expanding your

other senses.

7. Invite unfamiliar or ridiculous conversations. Everyone is

a teacher.

8. Redecorate, even with the same furniture. Change your


9. Ask lots of questions. There are no stupid questions.

10. Start acting like an artist. Fake it ‘til you make it! But, do it.

Just get wet! : :

— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was

host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,

and now performs globally.

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out in the stars

by charlene lichtenstein

qnotes contributor

March 17 - 30

If you believe that actions speak louder (and

prouder) than words, imagine what happens

when retrograde Mars opposes dizzy Neptune.

Actions not only speak, they rant, rave and go off

on wild tangents. They also set off minor nuclear

chain reactions. Avoid after-shocks and fallout

by keeping petty tantrums to yourself…for now.

PISCES (02.20-03.20) There may be some nasty

contratemps with partners now. If you’re ready

to scuttle the Love Boat, you find an impetus and

any excuse. But, if there is still a bit of spark between

the two of you, why not wait a short while

before you try anything or anyone new. Guppies

feel the need to meet and greet, but will do so

with two left feet. Show ‘em how to dance later.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams may overdo it in

the exercise department. Why not relax and be

a bit lazy? You never know when your tail will get

caught in the treadmill or an arm gets hooked

in the weight rack. Exertion is not in the stars

— and that goes for the job too. Don’t expend

any extra energy wondering what you can do to

get ahead at work. Ah, so what else is new?

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) This time period provides

perky queer Bulls with far too much of a good

thing…or, so it will seem. Fun, creative endeavors

and even a possible romance can shift into

overdrive if you fail to pace and brace. However,

with all this delusional energy abounding, you may

fancy yourself to be quite the bon vivant in certain

select circles. Or, is that among certain squares?

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins are inspired to

do a little sprucing up at home. But, take it one

scrub at a time and don’t paint the house or tear

down a wall now. Commotion around the house

will conflict with career obligations and will not

progress smoothly. Why not just invite a few compadres

over for a nice evening? Keep the guest

list small and very intimate.

CANCER (06.22-07.23) Gay Crabs practically bellow

their opinions. If you enjoy creating a ruckus

that can run amok, the possibilities are endless.

Your rants are broadcast internationally. Prepare

for an incident; the mouthy anvil that you toss

today can crush your toes (or worse) tomorrow.

Sometimes it’s better to keep your petty

demands chez nous. So, nuh?

LEO (07.24-08.23) Prepare to dive into a deep pool

of pennies from heaven. But, it’s not for keeps,

so keep prying hands off and expectations in

check. Financial investment strategies should be

shelved if possible. Anything you covet probably

belongs to someone else and will cost far more

than expected with less value in the long run. I

know that proud Lions don’t like it that way.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Your unprincipled energy results

in a lurid public display if you’re not careful.

Queer Virgins should not rush into center stage

at this time. Your cargo pants will drop and your

underwear may be…ahem…drafty. No matter;

as long as you stay behind the scenes, no one

need see your shortcomings. Check for spinach

in your teeth before you meet anyone new.

LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Intuition is not generally your

strong suit, but so what? Just avoid acting on

any vague mental rumblings if at all possible. In

your attempt to dislodge hidden enemies, you

may miscalculate and open up your Achilles heel

to a swift kick. Ouch! Poor gay Libras should sit

this battle out and console themselves with a

pleasant, stress-reducing pastime. Oh, do tell!

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Don’t take on more tangos

than you can easily fit on your dance card.

Queer Scorps who take too much on socially

will more than likely need extra time to recuperate.

Friends may become especially needy now.

You’ll do them a better service if you remain on

the sidelines. Let them make their own mistakes

while you provide the tea and sympathy.

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Even politically

astute gay Archers may inadvertently mouth off

to the head honcho. Professional aspirations

may be jolted and set off course, so play any

corporate cards close to the vest and don’t take

any extreme action if you can avoid it. Of course,

there is something nice about sleeping late

before you pick up your unemployment check.

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps hanker for

far horizons, but it is tight for a bit right now. Travel

may become too difficult or too unwieldy or you

may find that exotic locales are too much trouble

to navigate. Also, avoid pushing the envelope on

lawsuits or any legal issues. Your words run amok

and can make mincemeat out of any carefully

planned attack. Take a short recess.

AQUARIUS(01.21-02.19) Aqueerians are too hot to

handle and too darn heady to care. Your embers

are poked into a raging fire that can soon burn

out of control. Before you singe your best assets

on a faulty match, take a good look at the object

of your desire and measure their true worth.

There is a good chance that you will spend on

a dreamboat and be left with only a leaky dingy.

Live and learn. : :

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Reserved. Entertainment.

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Local artist using human body as canvas

continued from page 9

“It has been fascinating to discover that

we all have the same issues” says Croy.

“No matter who we are, what we look like,

where we came from, our socio-economic

status, we all face the same human issues.

A lot of LGBT people have the same issues,

especially in my generation and older,

especially when looking at the fact that we

had to wait so much longer before we could

come out. Today’s youth are breaking down

the barrier and coming out and being who

they are at a younger age and I believe they

are carrying this movement forward.”

Being a part of the project has had an

impact on the models and artists involved,

as well. “I can take a group of people that

have never met one another, paint them and

witness the comradery that happens between

them. Black, White, Asian, Latino, we are

taking any nationality and there is a reason

for that” explains Croy. “Once you put that

paint on and you make the human form into

a sculpture of these bright colors, they really

come alive. There is this thing that clicks into

people’s mind and it is so much fun to see, it is

like watching them become a kid again. But,

at the same time, it is eliminating any barriers

because you have eliminated anything physically

that normally we would relate to.”

“People look at themselves in the mirror

after I paint them and say ‘this is so cool’ and I

tell them ‘it’s you.’ It is coming from within and

now even more since I am interviewing and

learning more about the models and interpreting

their story” says Croy.

Croy believes that the vision of the project

will evolve even more as it moves closer

to the halfway point of its three-year timespan.

He explains that “the last year and a

half of the project will be the point where I

can say ‘this is why I am doing this for the


When asked about his goal for the

culmination of the project, Croy states that

he would love to see all of the participants

in the individual shoots come back together

for one large photo shoot to possibly serve

as a fundraiser for the community; the entire

human canvas tribe together as one.

Croy is also currently designing a mural

that will wrap around the White Rabbit

building once approved by the city. Given

the location of the LGBT store, the mural

would be seen by all as they enter into

Plaza Midwood, an area of Charlotte known

for its LGBT friendly businesses and nightlife.

“I believe the moment we start working

on this mural it will help to pull the community

together” states Croy. “We, as a community,

have nothing here that really pulls

us together. I am hoping that this mural

will help to break down the barriers within

our own community and help build unity

amongst LGBT people here in Charlotte. We

need something that is uniquely ours and

I think this mural will bring attention to our

community in a positive light.”

For more information about Gil Croy

and The Human Canvas Project, visit : :

18 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012

Qqnotes events

arts. entertainment. news. views.

4th Annual


Film Festival


March 21-25 • Charlotte

The GayCharlotte Film Festival

brings over 1,000 moviegoers to

various venues in Charlotte to

watch LGBT films from all over

the world. The GayCharlotte Film

Festival is a project of The LGBT

Community Center of Charlotte.

Wednesday, March 21

Mint Museum Uptown

• ‘Circumstance’ (107 minutes)

7-8:50 p.m.

(Drama) This explosive drama

depicts a wealthy Iranian family

struggling to contain their lesbian

daughter living life in the fast lane

and their dangerous, religiously

fanatical son.

Thursday, March 22

Wells Fargo Auditorium

at the Knight Theater

• ‘Spin the Bible’

(22 minutes)

World Premiere!

7-7:22 p.m.

(Comedy) A hot,

hilarious lesbian

romance depicting

the dangers of politicians persuading

preachers to promote

anti-gay political agendas.

• ‘Leading Ladies’ (100 minutes)

7:25-9 p.m.

(Musical Comedy) A zany, warmhearted

musical comedy about

two sisters, their gay best friend,

and their over-zealous stage

mom mixes Broadway musical

“Gypsy” with TV hit “GLEE.”

Friday, March 23

Mint Museum Uptown

• ‘Hollywood To Dollywood’ (81


7-8:25 p.m. (post-movie: “Meet

the Lane Twins”)

(Documentary) Charlotte’s

favorite gay twins from Goldsboro

return to tell their story

of moving to Hollywood,

writing a screenplay

for Dolly Parton, renting

a van called “Jolene,”

and taking a road trip

from Hollywood to


• ‘Longhorns’ (75 minutes)

8:30-9:45 p.m.

(Comedy) For Mature Audiences:

Nudity! Beers, steers…and a

whole lot of queers!

Saturday, March 24

Mint Museum Uptown

• ‘Spin The Bible’ (23 minutes)

1:30-1:55 p.m.

See description from March 22.

•ub2 (5 minutes)

1:55-2 p.m.

(Short) Compelling short movie

about the impact of pejorative

language on HIV+ men.

• ‘The Grove’ (62 minutes)

2-3:05 p.m.

(Documentary) Poignant documentary,

which premiered in

November 2011, about National

AIDS Memorial Grove Act, a natural

refuge for many grief-stricken

survivors of HIV/AIDS and the

picketers who oppress them.

• ‘Wish Me Away’ (120 minutes)

3:30-5:30 p.m.

(Documentary) Country music

star Chely Wright tells her

compelling story of hiding in the

closet before ultimately becoming

the first commercial country

music singer to out herself.

• ‘Children Of God’ (104 minutes)

6-7:45 p.m.

(Drama) Gorgeous Bahama

beaches serve as the backdrop

for this tender, romantic drama

about a pair of start-crossed


• ‘Mississippi Damned’ (120


8-10 p.m.

(Drama) A gut-wrenching and

all-familiar story of African-

American lesbians and their

families facing multiple sets of

bigotry in the racist, homophobic


Sunday, March 25

UNC Charlotte Uptown Campus

• ‘Gun Hill Road’ (120 minutes)

6-8 p.m.

(Drama) Coming-of-age scorcher.

March 17 • Charlotte

Men of Petra’s — Season 3 Finale

It’s time for the Finale! The Final Four are

Buster Chairee, Tasha Salade, Madason

Marx and Shofonda Cox. One of these

contestants will win the $500 cash prize

decided by your votes! Hosted by Rachael

Houdek. Brought to you by Stephen Seay

Productions. 10 p.m. Petra’s Piano Bar. 1919

Commonwealth Ave.

March 18 • Raleigh

Crape Myrtle Drag Brunch

This Drag Brunch is set to be one of our best

yet with a tribute to iconic performers featuring

the theatrical talents of Amaya, Eunyce Raye,

Dorae Saunders, Stephanie Scott and Nation

Tyre. Hosted by Ebony Summers. Doors open

at noon. Show starts at 12:30 p.m. $10 admission

(does not include buffet/drinks). The Mint

restaurant, 219 Fayetteville St. 919-821-0011

for reservations.

March 20 • Durham

Speaker Series IV

Panel discussion on personal perspectives

by those affected by Amendment One. 6:30

p.m. Pilgrim United Church of Christ, 2011

Academy Rd. Child care will be provided.


March 20 • Charlotte

Charlotte Business Guild Dinner

Join the Charlotte Business Guild for dinner

and a meeting with local economic expert

Frank Warren. Cocktails at 5:30 p.m. Dinner

and program at 6:30 p.m. Wet Willie’s,

900 N.C. Music Factory Blvd. (formerly

Seaboard St.). 704-716-5650.

March 25 • Winston-Salem

Tea Dance/Winston-Salem

A portion of the drink proceeds benefits

Equality Winston-Salem. No cover. Free food.

Music by DJ Cash. Encore, 411 W. 4th St. 5-8

p.m. 336-918-0902.

March 27 • Durham

Speaker Series V

What People of Faith Can Do to Oppose

Amendment One. Ryan Rowe, Director of Faith

Outreach for the Coalition to Protect AllNorth

Carolina Families and Rev. Rollin Russell, retired

minister. 6:30 p.m. Pilgrim United Church

of Christ, 2011 Academy Rd. Child care will be

provided. 919-489-1381.

April 7 • Charlotte

‘Believe in Youth’ Annual Speaker Series

Campus Pride and Time Out Youth have

partnered to present their third annual

“Believe in Youth Awareness Event” with

national young adult leader and marriage

equality advocate Zach Wahls. Wahls, 20, is

known as “that kid from YouTube with two

moms.” His passionate testimony before the

Iowa General Assembly against a proposed

anti-LGBT constitutional amendment was the

number one YouTube “Political Video” of 2011.

Free. Open to the public. 5 p.m. Wells Fargo

Auditorium at Knight Theatre at Levine Center

for the Arts, 430 S. Tryon St.

April 8 • Winston-Salem

Tea Dance/Winston-Salem

A portion of the drink proceeds benefits AIDS

Care Service. No cover. Free food. Music by

DJ Cash. Encore, 411 W. 4th St.

5-8 p.m. 336-918-0902.

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