March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes
qnotes March 17-30 . 2012
March 17-30, 2012
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March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes
The 2012 Human Rights Campaign (HRC)
North Carolina Gala was a night filled with
speeches from advocates working for the
rights of LGBT people across the country and
fighting against discriminatory legislation in
North Carolina. For me, one of the most stirring
speeches of the evening came from CNN anchor
Don Lemon who was presented with the
HRC’s Visibility Award. According to the HRC’s
website, the award recognizes “LGBT individuals
who are living open and honest lives at
home, at work, in the media and in their greater
community.” Considering the fact that Lemon
is viewed by millions of people daily through
his work at CNN and that he chose to formally
come out following the release of his book
“Transparent” in May of 2011, I cannot think of
a better person to receive such an honor.
What really sold his message for me was
not the fact that he brought his partner up on
stage for a quick kiss, although that was simply
heart-warming, but rather his call to action in
the form of a quote from Martin Luther King.
“There comes a time when silence equals betrayal,”
Lemon quoted to the audience of over
1,400 captivated listeners. Of course, Lemon
wasn’t the only speaker to motivate the crowd
to speak out and be active in the fight for equality,
but his was the only speech that illustrated
the consequences of remaining silent. When
it comes to our equality I have to agree with
Lemon and Dr. King — silence equals betrayal.
Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx is the first
Charlotte mayor to publicly support HRC. Not
only did he participate in a welcome video
for the Gala, he was also a speaker at the
event. During his speech, Foxx stated publicly
that on May 8, he would be voting against
Despite having a mayor who is against
Amendment One, Charlotte’s City Council
currently has no intention of entertaining a
resolution stating that Charlotte opposes the
amendment. Carrboro, Chapel Hill, Durham
and Raleigh have all passed resolutions opposing
this amendment and I think it is beyond
time that the Queen City follows suit.
During a public panel discussion in
February, Charlotte City Councilwoman
LaWana Mayfield was asked about a city resolution
opposing the amendment and responded
that historically Charlotte City Council has not
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Silence = betrayal
taken a stance on anything that comes out of
Raleigh. While this may be the standpoint of the
City Council historically, there are a number of
reasons why this logic is absolutely flawed.
I truly cannot and do not want to imagine
a world where we simply responded to all
situations based on historical precedence.
Historically in this country women weren’t
given the right to vote, people were segregated
by race and individuals practicing occult
or non-Christian beliefs were tried unjustly.
There comes a time when a society has to
grow up and realize that doing things, or not
doing things, based on “the way it always has
been” is just plain stupid.
Following her statement, Mayfield did
encourage the audience to take action and
contact their City Council representatives and
let them know that this issue matters to the
people of Charlotte. I have no doubt Mayfield
is against the amendment and would support
a resolution, but I also understand that she
can’t be the only person on the council bringing
up the issue.
In my mind I imagine Mayfield must feel
like most of us that have ever been the only
gay person in their office or workplace. I have
worked in several businesses where I chose
to keep quiet about my sexual orientation,
at least for a time, not because I feared discrimination,
but because I did not want to be
qualified as “the gay one.” I am so much more
than just an openly gay man and Mayfield is
much more than an openly lesbian woman
serving on the City Council. If Mayfield is the
only person on the council bringing up the
issue I am sure it will be perceived as biased
or self-serving to the eyes of the rest of the
council, especially if no other councilperson
is receiving feedback from their constituents
about the issue on a regular basis.
Outspoken representatives like Mayor
Foxx and Councilwoman Mayfield deserve our
support in fighting for equality, however we
can’t leave it all up to them. We, as citizens,
need to approach our respective City Council
members directly and let them know the importance
of this issue and that we want them
to not only discuss, but adopt a resolution
opposing Amendment One. This amendment
is not just “something out of Raleigh,” this
amendment will impact all of us and we need
to take a stand. One seat on the City Council
speaking out will not a resolution make.
I ask that you no longer remain silent. If
you live in Charlotte and you don’t know your
district, go online and figure it out. Then identify
In the first two months of this year, samesex
marriage news has been as plentiful as
wedding guests around an open bar.
I need to pause. Catch my breath. Tot up
the wins and losses of January and February.
Analyze. Theorize. Chortle.
Starting on the left side of the country,
a three-judge panel of the Ninth U.S. Circuit
Court of Appeals ruled 2-1 that California’s
Proposition 8 is, to use the legal term, icky.
Supporters of the ban on gay marriage
responded by asking that all the judges of the
Ninth Circuit rehear the case. There’s no truth
to the rumor that all the judges threw their
robes over their faces and chanted, “Nyah,
nyah, we can’t hear you!”
In Washington state, Gov. Chris Gregoire
opened 2012 with a strong endorsement
of same-sex marriage, after wrestling her
Catholic doubts to the mat. The Democrat’s
backing seemed to be the oomph needed, as
the legislature passed a marriage-equality bill,
and she signed it with emotion.
Mere hours later, opponents of gay marriage
filed Referendum 73 to repeal the legislation.
Other foes are backing Initiative 1192,
which would reaffirm the definition of marriage
as between a man and a woman. I’m ready
to file Proposal 123, inventive suggestions for
what bigots can do with their fear-mongering.
Leap with me across the country to Maine,
where three years ago voters repealed a
same-sex marriage law, such a devastating
blow that I’m surprised gay-rights advocates
can speak in complete sentences, let alone
return to the fight.
But, return they are. Marriage-equality
supporters gathered signatures to put the
matter on the ballot and in late February
state officials certified their efforts. So, come
November, Maine voters can undo their error
of 2009. Lucky ducks.
In February Maine’s neighbor, New
Hampshire, displayed its intention to abandon
Yankee sense. At a statehouse rally in support
of a bill that would repeal same-sex marriage,
the City Council representative for your district
and send them an email, follow-up with a
phone call and show up for a meeting. Give our
supporters on the City Council the voice they
need to effectively debate and win this issue. : :
by leslie robinson
The marriage whirlwind
the bill’s sponsor, Republican Rep. David
Bates, said, “I think it’s time to move back,
back to the true meaning of marriage.”
I think it’s time he moved forward. At least
to the Pleistocene era.
Leaving New England for the Mid-
Atlantic states, we land in New Jersey,
where in February the state Senate passed
a same-sex marriage bill, the state Assembly
did, too, but Gov. Chris Christie, as promised,
vetoed the measure.
“He won’t veto the bill because he’s
anti-gay,” said Steven Goldstein of Garden
State Equality before Republican Christie did
the deed. “He’ll veto the bill because the 2016
South Carolina presidential primary electorate
Who knew South Carolina was part of
Maryland had a better result. The House
of Delegates and the state Senate passed a
same-sex marriage bill and Democratic Gov.
Martin O’Malley, who sponsored the bill,
signed it into law before you can say “Nuts
to New Jersey.” Opponents, of course, have
plighted their troth to a referendum.
In federal marriage developments, U.S.
District Judge Jeffrey White of San Francisco
ruled that the Defense of Marriage Act is
unconstitutional. DOMA is discriminatory, the
judge decided, enacted by a 1996 Congress
hot to show its disapproval of homosexuality.
White’s ruling was quickly appealed to the
Ninth U.S. Circuit Court of Appeals, the court
with which I started this column. Between
Prop 8 and DOMA, that court has a lot on its
plate. Maybe the judges really did throw their
robes over their faces.
In January and February of 2012, two
states legalized same-sex marriage and two
courts ruled against same-sex marriage bans.
During this whirlwind period, we came out
ahead. I’m not ready to say the tide has turned
— but, it surely has budged some. : :
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Carlos Capps aka Angela Lopez, Charlotte
Carlos Capps, and his drag alter-ego
Angela Lopez in particular, are glam fixtures
on the Queen City club scene. Whether it’s a
bar show, a pageant or a circuit event, this
dynamic entertainer always turns it out. Here
at 20 Questions, we couldn’t help but wonder
if the real person behind the larger than life
persona matched our assumptions.
Naturally, we fired over our world
famous (is too!) one-of-a kind questionnaire
to find out. Have a look at
what we learned.
How many live plants are in your home?
None! I can’t keep a bamboo plant alive.
What is your favorite musical group with a
female lead singer?
En Vogue. Their harmonies were so smooth.
Do you more often wash dishes by hand or in
I believe dishwashers are here for a reason,
so my motto is “Rinse and load.”
What one piece of jewelry do you wear
I always wear my ring with a stone that
reminds me of the ocean.
How do these drag-themed films rank
based on the number of times you’ve
seen them: “The Adventures of Priscilla,
Queen of the Desert,”“The Birdcage,”“To
Wong Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie
Hmmm, I think it would have to be “To Wong
Foo, Thanks for Everything! Julie Newmar,”
followed by “The Birdcage,” then “The
Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert,”
and “Victor Victoria” last.
Have you ever received a card or letter from a
Yes, and it was kind of creepy. It was left on
my windshield and it only said, “I have been
watching you and I love you!” Call me…
Who is your all-time favorite talk show host?
Chelsea Handler. I love a woman with balls,
no pun intended.
What was your final trick-or-treating costume?
I was a Spartan from “300.”
How do you prefer your eggs cooked?
Sunny side up,
Can you jump
I used to rule the
it came to double
Which of the
the best guy?
Princess Jasmine. Who wouldn’t want a
prince with a flying carpet and a monkey?!?
Would you rather play a round of golf, a round
of miniature golf or a round of Wii golf?
Wii golf, cause I don’t have to travel far and I
can have a cocktail.
What three foods do you always eat
Pancakes, corn on the cob and biscuits,
Do you know for certain what color
I do now! It is a dark purplish color (eggplant).
Which one of the “Friends” would make the
I didn’t really watch the show that much, but
Phoebe seemed to be a good time.
What exotic animal would you most like to
have as a pet?
Growing up I had a spider monkey and I loved
it, so I would definitely have another one!
Have you ever been stung by a bee, hornet or
I’ve only been stung by a bee…and it
French fries, hushpuppies or onion rings?
Hushpuppies with ketchup all the way.
Which family would you rather be part of: The
Flintstones, The Jetsons or The Simpsons?
Duh, the Jetsons! Flying cars, instant food and
a robot maid!
How long does it take to completely transform
from Carlos to Angela?
In total from shaving to completion, one hour.
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Wahls heads to Queen City
CHARLOTTE — The Third Annual “Believe
in Youth Awareness Event,” a partnership between
Campus Pride and Time Out Youth, will
be held on April 7, 5 p.m. at the Wells Fargo
Auditorium at Knight Theatre at Levine Center
for the Arts, 430 S. Tryon St.
National young adult leader and marriage
equality advocate Zach Wahls will be the
guest speaker. The YouTube “kid with two
moms” has testified before the Iowa General
Assembly about his opposition to an anti-
LGBT constitutional amendment there on Jan.
31, 2011, and continues to champion LGBT
causes in favor of marriage equality. He’s
Tar Heel State bound to share his views one
month shy of the May 8 primary.
The event is free and open to the public.
Donations will be accepted for Campus Pride
and Time Out Youth.
Wahls is also scheduled to keynote
at Camp Pride, Campus Pride’s Summer
Leadership Program slated for July 17-22
at Vanderbilt University in Nashville, Tenn.,
where he will receive Campus Pride’s honorary
National Voice & Action Leadership Award.
Pick up the next issue of qnotes to learn
more about Wahls and the upcoming Camp
For more information, visit campuspride.
org or timeoutyouth.org.
Observer wins awards
CHARLOTTE — The Charlotte Observer
netted 36 N.C. Press Association awards in its
Among those who were honored was
Peter St. Onge who had written a column
about gay marriage, as well as others. This
was in the Serious Column category with a
third place position.
St. Onge is an associate editor on
the Observer’s editorial board. He pens
a Sunday column, along with appearing
online on “O-pinion.”
The Observer and qnotes are in partnership
through the Charlotte News Alliance.
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Last call for Foundation deadline
CHARLOTTE — The Wesley Mancini
Foundation has announced a last call for
submissions for the 2012 grant season, due no
later than April 2.
Only federally-tax exempt organizations
or those with tax-qualified sponsors will be
Grants are awarded to fund specific projects
and are not awarded to cover general
This year’s focus will be directed at raising
the profile of the LGBT community during the
Democratic National Convention to be held
Sept. 3-6. Applicants must also partner with at
least one non-LGBT organization to achieve
the project’s aims.
Interested parties who wish to receive a
grant application should contact Bob Scheer
at 704-335-5404, ext. 402, or by email to
Outreach initiative marks successes
CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth’s School
Outreach Program has hit the ground running
in 2012 with a plethora of activity to mark its
In February, Charlotte-Mecklenburg
Schools (CMS) Board Member Dr. Joyce
Waddell attended a discussion group on
anti-LGBT bullying in schools. Time Out Youth
formed a new Education Advisory Board to
help facilitate a stronger partnership with
CMS. It is now working with 11 Gay/Straight
Alliances (GSA) and Diversity Clubs in three
school systems (CMS, Cabarrus County
Schools and Union County Schools) and will
be launching its first Skype group linking
GSAs across the region. Lastly, it is partnering
with GLSEN and Wells Fargo’s LGBT group to
implement Safe Zone programs in two CMS
In other news, Time Out Youth is seeking
donations to support the center. They are currently
needing bus passes for to use to get to
and from group sessions; gift cards to grocery
stores, CVS, Target or Walmart to assist youth
in financial crisis; snacks, sodas or bottled
water for their lounge; and cleaning supplies
and trash bags.
For more information, visit timeoutyouth.org.
Runway designers sought
WINSTON-SALEM — AIDS Care Service
(ACS) has announce the return of its “Red
Ribbon Runway” annual design competition
and fashion show. In the style of “Project
Runway,” contestants are challenged to create
a high quality, wearable garment using 100
percent of the materials from three plain white
T-shirts provided by sponsor, HanesBrands,
Inc. Other materials used in the creation of
the garment must be repurposed or recycled.
A limited number of new items such as thread
may also be used. Several exciting changes to
the competition this year include the opening
of the contest to group entries and the inclusion
of men and children as models.
The top 15 designs will be featured on the
runway in a professionally produced fashion
show on April 21 at 8 p.m. at the Sundance
Plaza Hotel and Spa, 3050 University Pky.
that focuses on HIV/AIDS awareness. Brent
Campbell from Fox 8 WGHP will serve as the
emcee for the evening. The winning design
will be selected by a panel of local celebrity
judges and will be judged on its design integrity,
ingenuity and most importantly — inspiration!
The contest winner will receive a $250
cash prize and a gift basket.
Red Ribbon Runway is currently open to
the first 40 professional and amateur designers
who are 15-years-old and above. Deadline
to enter is March 30. A $15 fee is required.
Garments must be received by April 16.
For tickets and more information,
call Rivkah Meder at 336-777-0116, email
firstname.lastname@example.org or visit
Carolinians oppose Amendment One
RALEIGH — A poll conducted by Elon
University and released on March 9 reports
that a majority of North Carolinians oppose
Amendment One, according to The Coalition
to Protect North Carolina Families (CPNCF).
Revealed was that 54.2 percent surveyed
either oppose or strongly oppose
Amendment One, while 37.8 percent were in
any way supportive.
CPNCF’s Jeremy Kennedy says that as
“more people learn about this poorly written
amendment and its unintended consequences
the more the realize it will harm our children,
their families, unmarried women and seniors.”
Initiative organizers are raising money to
go toward television advertising to counter
the amendment’s proponents, such as the
VoteFORMarriageNC.com (headed by Tami
Fitzgerald and the North Carolina Values
Coalition) and Tony Perkin’s Washington,
D.C.-based Family Research Council (which
as been certified as a hate group by the
Southern Poverty Law Center) and others.
They are seeking contributions of $25, $50,
$100 or more.
Additionally, the organization has opened
up its online store so that supporters can
obtain campaign materials. Orders can be
placed for yard signs, button, stickers, T-shirts
and bumper stickers. Visit co.store.com/pncf
to learn more.
A contribution of $18.99 or more gives
recipients an “I’m voting against Amendment
One. Ask Me Why” T-shirt.
For more information, visit
Coalition unveils video
RALEIGH — The Coalition to Protect
All NC Families released a new video,
“Momentum,” on March 1 detailing the
momentum that the grassroots campaign has
built up to this point.
Along with the release of this video,
the Coalition sent out a statement regarding
the work they have accomplished since
Amendment One was placed on the ballot
in September: 117 partners have joined the
coalition, including the NAACP, Southerners
on New Ground, the Libertarian Party of North
Carolina and numerous faith congregations;
they have 30 staff and seven field offices
across the state; have raised more than
$600,000, more than $150,000 of that has come
in online, with more than $80,000 of that number
coming in the last few weeks; they have
more than 2,000 donors who have given $92
on average, the grassroots donors are with
this campaign (Monies have raised in $10, 100,
250 and 1,000 chunks and they are ahead of
schedule with what they have raised from that
category.); they have more than 15,000 volunteers
at this point and are making 20,000 voter
calls per week; important validators such as
Sen. Kay Hagan, Lt. Governor Walter Dalton,
the conservative Carolina Review, libertarian
thinker Michael Munger, Myers Park Baptist
and others have come out in opposition to the
amendment in recent weeks; and Race to the
Ballot has held conversations in towns, large
and small, across the state which has generated
positive news coverage and momentum
around the state.
To view the video, visit protectallnc
Polls find marriage support
LOS ANGELES, Calif. — A new Field Poll
shows that support for same-sex marriage
in California has increased dramatically with
59 percent of residents favoring same-sex
unions to 34 percent who do not. The poll
showed that the largest increase in approval
since 2010 came from middle-aged voters,
nonpartisans and Republicans. Other significant
gains in support were from Catholics,
Latinos and older voters.
Jacobs’ view is supported by a new
Quinnipiac Poll that reveals 57 percent of New
Jersey voters now support allowing same-sex
couples to marry.
Harvard must right a wrong
BOSTON, Mass. — Dozens of students,
faculty, and staff from the Harvard community
rallied on campus Feb. 29 to call on
the university to award honorary degrees to
seven students who were persecuted and
expelled in 1920. The students were victimized
by a university-sanctioned body known as the
“Secret Court” that targeted students who
were gay or perceived to be gay.
At the rally, which took place outside an
event hosted by Lady Gaga and Oprah Winfrey
to launch the Born This Way Foundation, demonstrators
presented more than 5,000 petition
signatures to Harvard President Drew Gilpin
Faust, urging her to award these expelled
students honorary degrees.
The “Secret Court” was initially exposed
in 2002 after a reporter from Harvard’s student
newspaper, The Crimson, found archived materials
about the Court’s actions. Though the
university has apologized for the Court’s targeting
of students who were gay or perceived
to be gay, none of the students persecuted
or expelled have been awarded honorary
degrees, despite the fact that several were
very close to graduating.
Broadway stars, Bakker to be honored
NEW YORK, N.Y. — PFLAG National will
honor Broadway stars Audra McDonald (“The
Gershwins,” “Porgy And Bess,” Naomi on the
TV drama “Private Practice”) and Will Swenson
(“Priscilla, Queen Of The Desert,” “Hair”) with
the 2012 Straight for Equality in Entertainment
Award at the Fourth Annual Straight for Equality
Awards Gala. In addition, pastor Jay Bakker
will receive the inaugural Straight for Equality in
Faith Award at the April 2 event.
McDonald and Swenson, who became
engaged on New Year’s Eve 2012, are longtime
straight allies of the LGBT community and both
sit on the advisory board of the pro-marriage
equality organization Broadway Impact.
Bakker has taken a public stand on the
importance of creating welcoming communities
of faith for LGBT people and supports
marriage equality. In his book, “Fall to Grace: A
Revolution of God, Self and Society,” he talks
about his own family’s “fall from grace,” and
how it colored his personal understanding of
the need for God to be available to all people.
HRC names strategist as new prez
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Chad H. Griffin has
been named the next president of the Human
Rights Campaign, the nation’s largest LGBT civil
rights organization. He is a national communications
and policy strategist who is widely
credited for being the mastermind behind
the federal lawsuit to overturn California’s
Proposition 8, which has now been ruled
unconstitutional by two federal courts.
Griffin will assume his new duties on June
11. Current HRC President Joe Solmonese
will continue to lead the organization until
The founding partner of strategic communications
and campaign firm, Griffin|Schein,
Griffin has taken on entrenched, well-financed
interests like Big Tobacco, Big Oil and the
far right, and shaped national policy debates
around equal rights, clean energy, universal
health care, stem cell research and early
He is a founding board member of the
American Foundation for Equal Rights, the sole
sponsor of the Prop. 8 lawsuit. He is personally
responsible for recruiting the legal dream
team of Theodore Olson and David Boies to
successfully argue the case. Griffin will remain
on the board of directors of AFER.
Queer encyclopedia launched
ANN ARBOR, Mich. — WikiQueer, a
non-profit, free-content online encyclopedia
and resource project, has officially launched.
WikiQueer is based on an openly editable
model, specifically for and by the LGBT, questioning
and ally communities.
In a manner similar to Wikipedia,
WikiQueer is written collaboratively by
volunteers. Anyone with internet access can
write and make changes to WikiQueer articles
— except in certain cases where editing is
restricted to prevent disruption or vandalism.
However, unlike Wikipedia, contributors can
also include dynamic content from existing
online LGBT and wiki projects, content geared
toward activism, and information on the LGBT
communities that might not presently meet
Wikipedia’s notability standards.
While development of the website dates
back to 2010, WikiQueer has been in a soft
launch since July 25, 2011 preparing for the
official launch. WikiQueer can be accessed
online at www.wikiqueer.org.
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One world, one tribe
Local artist using the human body as canvas to tell the human story
by O’Neale Atkinson :: firstname.lastname@example.org
Since the start, The Human Canvas
Project has grown both in size, as well as in
its vision. One major shift has been that Croy
is drawing upon the individual stories of the
models to help guide his hand in painting
them and deciding on the locations for photo
“I send all of my models a questionnaire
to learn more about them and what they are
inspired by before designing the shoot,” Croy
explains. “For example, I have a guy that I am
using in my next photo shoot and the concept
is based on his experiences. He was in an
abusive relationship 10 years ago and he
took some severe physical damage and was
hospitalized. It was because of this relationship
that he had developed problems with his
self-esteem and you have to see where he is
now, it is just amazing. He has such a great
personality, always smiling. After hearing his
story, I designed this tribal phoenix design for
his photo shoot. It is more about him coming
back from something that was very traumatic
and rebuilding himself to greatness. He is
50-years-old and you would think he is 30
because of the way he takes care of himself
and his pride.”
Croy says that he has learned a lot
about the LGBT community and people in
general through his work with this project.
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The use of tattooing and piercing has long
been a means for cultures to represent
both their individual and group identity
outwardly to others. These markings and
body modifications serve to tell the story
of an individual in a way that is meaningful
to them. Local artist Gil Croy has taken his
own spin on this concept and is creating an
art movement within the community which
serves to tell the story of the LGBT community.
What started out as a fundraising
event for the 2011 AIDS Walk has blossomed
into a three-year initiative called The Human
Canvas Project which will include a host of
artists, models and ideas as Croy turns the
human form into the ultimate canvas.
Croy, a native of Montgomery Ala., studied
interior design and stage design in Mississippi
and Georgia before moving to Charlotte. He
began a career in visual design working for
Ivey’s department store in Charlotte and later
moving to New York to work with Macy’s and
Dillard’s designing large scale windows.
While in New York, Croy began working
with paint and entered several art shows. It
was at this time that he discovered his passion
for the medium and continued to paint
when he moved back to Charlotte. Croy has
dedicated much of his artistic energy working
within the LGBT community and using his
talents to support organizations and fundraising
In March 2011, Croy was working on an
art project for the AIDS Walk. He painted plus
signs along his body and modified the images
into colorful graphic photographs. Croy
began to consider doing more with the body
painting following this project and continued
with the concept for a photo shoot surrounding
the 2011 Pride Charlotte event. Croy created
a “pride tribe,” a mix of people from all
backgrounds in the LGBT community painted
head to toe in bright vibrant colors with tribal
designs. During Pride Charlotte, he also had
several of his pride tribe walking around the
event fully painted.
March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes
Adoring the human canvas
I ink, therefore I am
by David Stout :: email@example.com
Humans have adorned their bodies since
the earliest recorded times. In some
ancient cultures these embellishments
were primarily temporary decorations, like
the use of make-up by the Egyptians (as early
as 3500 B.C. according to archaeological
evidence) or the art of mehndi, in which a
henna-derived ink is used to draw intricate
designs on the skin, in India.
For other societies, however, gilding the
body meant permanent modification of its
form. Examples of these alterations span from
the widespread practices of tattooing and
piercing to more exotic customs such as neck
stretching by the Kayan women of Burma,
Chinese foot-binding for girls, cranial shaping
within numerous Native American tribes and
Over the centuries the practice of body
modification has endured — and in the
case of tattooing and piercing has proliferated
— to become an increasingly common
component of present-day American culture.
However, the thinking that drives us to change
our bodies today is wholly distinct from the
notions that drove our forebears.
Ancient peoples transformed themselves
to appeal to the socially imposed beauty
standards of their time and place (e.g., having
an elongated neck, small feet or a conically
shaped head) or as an outward sign of
spiritual observance (tongue piercings, for
example, originated from an Aztec ritual in
which the tongue was pierced to draw blood
for the gods).
In contrast, the modern popularity of body
modification is anchored in its cultural redefinition
into a display of individual expression.
This viewpoint shift is clearly the engine that
powers its contemporaneous propagation.
In a post-everything society that seems
increasingly homogeneous and leaves more
and more people feeling nameless and faceless,
it’s perfectly understandable that the
idea of making one’s body unique from every
other person’s holds tremendous appeal.
Even so, not everyone approves of the
trend, of course.
Tattoo enthusiast Kevin Roussin, 34, was
reminded of this recently while riding in an
elevator with an elderly woman. After taking
note that both of his arms are sleeves of ink,
she remarked, “You won’t get into heaven with
all those tattoos.” Surprised, but not thrown off
his game, he snarkily replied, “You’re not going
to get there any faster being a bitch.”
The Fort Mill resident laughs about the
incident and explains that it’s not the first
time he’s faced disapproval due to his body
art. His first boyfriend “hated it when I got
my first tattoos. He was really upset.” He
adds that the ink didn’t split them, “but it
definitely didn’t help.”
Nonetheless, an old busybody and an
uptight ex notwithstanding, Roussin’s tats
are really a non-issue, he says.
“My partner now is pretty tattooed
himself. When we met he already had several
and that sort of drew me to him. He’s working
on a sleeve now. They just have to color it in,
all the outline and shading is done.”
What’s more, Roussin says his parents
don’t just tolerate his body art, they appreciate
it. “As I’ve gotten more and more tattoos, they
like to see them. The last time I went home to
visit my parents they loved my pin-up girl tattoo.
They just thought it was beautiful.”
Kevin Roussin, 34, loves the art displayed on his human canvas — and his boyfried does too.
The image of that 1950s sex kitten dominates
the whole of Roussin’s right forearm
while his upper arm sports a tribal design on
the outside and a Scooby-Doo tattoo tucked
on the inside. His left arm is draped with a
twisting dragon up top and a tiger below that
spans from his elbow to his wrist.
On Roussin’s stomach, his first name
is inked in large graffiti style lettering just
above his navel. On one side of that is his
name written with Japanese kanji, on the
other side is a similar rendering of his 16-
year-old son’s name.
Embedded in the tribal tattoo is the
Portuguese word for courage, while “Own
The Day” is written across the back of
Roussin’s neck. He says these ensigns were
extremely important to him during a past
battle with leukemia.
“I was diagnosed the same week I met my
current partner,” he recalls. “Those tattoos
got me through cancer and I’ve been cancerfree
for three years now.”
Because his body art has had such a definitive
impact on his life, qnotes asks Roussin
if he has any regrets about his ink.
“Just one,” he replies. “The one thing I’ve
always done is wait at least a year to make
sure a potential tattoo is exactly what I want.
After that long, if I still want it, I feel confident
it’s something I’ll always be happy with.
“Saying that, the regret I have is that I
went one time to an artist who…well, let’s say,
wasn’t the greatest and the tattoo didn’t come
out like I wanted it to. Since then I’ve made it a
point to find exceptional artists to do my work.”
Roussin makes an excellent point that
everyone should take into account when
they’re thinking of getting inked or pierced.
And, in addition to assessing the quality of
the practitioner’s work, there are also health
considerations that must be settled. Needles
and equipment must be properly sterilized and
cross-contamination guidelines must be strictly
observed to avoid blood-borne pathogens.
If you feel at all unsure about a particular
tattoo artist or piercer, trust your instincts and
look elsewhere. There are too many good
ones around for you to feel less than 100
In the end, always remember that it’s your
body. Decorate it. Personalize it. Accessorize
it. Just don’t ever forget to love it. : :
10 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012
on the map
Barbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316
free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.
Super Sundays with Aiesha Paris, Nickel Bar
starts at 8 p.m.
House Cast Show, The Scorpio
with DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.
Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshed
free dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.
karaoke, 9 p.m.
Movie Night, Bar at 316
starts at 9 p.m.
Monday Madness, Chasers
pool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prize
and $25 bar tab.
Boxing & Monday Night Football, Sidelines
Free Pool, The Woodshed
Karaoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316
starts at 9 p.m.
Pool Tournament, Central Station
Twisted Trivia, Chasers
with Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.
Showtime at 12:30 a.m.
Trivia Tuesdays, Marigny
hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.
Midwood Madness, Petra’s
half-price bottles of wine
Karaoke, The Woodshed
starts at 9 p.m.
Game Night, Bar at 316
Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’s
starts at 8 p.m.
’90s music night, Nickel Bar
hosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.
Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpio
featuring Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.
Pool Tournament, The Woodshed
starts at 10:30 p.m.
Thursday Night House Party, Bar at 316
Pool Tournament, Central Station
Rockin’ Well Thursdays, Chasers
with Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.
Free HIV Testing, Connections
the 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.
Karaoke Night, Hartigan’s
hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.
Team Boystown, Marigny
starts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.
Karaoke Night, The Rainbow In
free for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.
Underwear Night, The Woodshed
House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316
Free HIV Testing, Connections
the 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.
A-List Fridays, Marigny
hosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.
Live DJ, Nickel Bar
Live Performances, Petra’s
Roxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow In
starts at 11p.m.
Life’s a Drag, The Scorpio
with Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.
House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316
The Angela Lopez Show, Chasers
show starts at 12:30 a.m.
Live DJ, Hartigan’s
Krewe Saturdays, Marigny
Soul Music, Nickel Bar
Live Performances, Petra’s
Urban Variety Show, The Scorpio
with Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.
Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.
Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,
New Life MCC
Worship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.
Monthly covered dish dinner and
coffeehouse-style worship service on the first
Sunday of every month, 6 p.m.
Unity Fellowship Church of Charlotte
Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.
Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of every
month, 9 a.m.
Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,
The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte
Promoting the diversity, acceptance and
visibility of the LGBT community through
programming and events.
North Carolina’s LGBT everything store.
Complete line of Pride merchandise, plus
books, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwear
info: Don’t see your bar listed here?
Submit your regularly scheduled events to
March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 11
Sports: Playing the field
by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor
[Ed. Note: qnotes is
proud to bring you our
new sports feature and
would like to introduce its
contributor, Jon Hoppel.
Hoppel is an active
member of the sports
community. He serves
on the Carolina Softball Alliance board and
the Charlotte Royals rugby team. Hoppel also
plays on a traveling softball team based out of
Knoxville. We are excited to have Hoppel’s contribution
to qnotes and look forward to bringing
you continuing LGBT sports coverage.]
As spring quickly approaches, the sports
leagues and teams of the Carolinas start to
prepare for their respective seasons. In this
section, we hope to bring you the recap of
games, tournaments and league results, as
well as previews of upcoming events that are
happening in or around the Southeast.
The Charlotte Royals Rugby
Football team started their season off
with a tough loss at home on Feb. 25
to Table Rock, 124-14. It was a hardfought
game and the Royals played
tough despite being down a man most
of the match. Royals President Thomas
Southerland had this to say after the
match: “Our first match of the season
is always the roughest for new and
returning players. It usually serves as
a crash course/refresher on the sport
of rugby. Although we did some good
things on the pitch, the match highlighted
some areas of improvement.”
Earning Man of the Match honors were
David June for the backs, who scored one of
the two tries for the Royals, and J.T. Wentz for
the forwards. The Royals look to bounce back
with two road games versus the Columbus
Coyotes on March 17 and against Davidson
College on March 24 before their rematch
with Table Rock on April 14. For more information
about the team, practice and game
locations check out their website by visiting
see Playing on 15
by miss della
Sweeties, I took to the road and beheld royalty and stars galore!
12 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012
Hey everybody — here I am working on another late submission
of the Rag. Just as I promised before, we get a promo of Luscious, the
only Carolinian to win Miss Gay U.S.ofA. Too bad it’s 10 months into
her reign. Yes, I know I’m ruint. At least I can admit it. LOL! Luscious is
attending her last prelims before her big give-up in Dallas on Memorial
Day weekend. Hot times in the Big D. Literally!
Two recent prelims took place here in the Queen City. First was
Miss East Coast which Atlanta’s Mya Ross Monroe won with RU
Monica Lovett. Then Miss N.C. U.S.ofA.
was recently held in Hickory at Club
Cabaret and I, of all people, missed all
nights of competition. That’s a first in
a long time, but duties called. I did go
up with two friends to see the formers/
stars show on Saturday and damned if I
didn’t see a few stars. Of course, there
was the Lady of the Evening, Dy’Mond
Cartier, as well as Miss S.C. U.S.ofA.
Kristina DeeVine, Versage, Cierra
Nicole, Brooklyn Dior and one of my
all-time favorites, Kelly Raye. When I tell
you revival was brought to the house,
it is no lie. Kids were standing on the
sides of the stage cheering her on when
she would start her “cutting up.” It’s so
good to see a queen really work their
eyes and facial expressions. This queen
is top notch, for sure. Kelly, we need a
contestant for Miss NC America this
year, or maybe for Continental Elite next
year. You’d have hundreds behind you,
February was a wonderful month, full of Continental-ness.
LOL! Miss Alyson Thomas brought me down to judge her Carolina
Continental pageants, along with that crazy Leslie Lain, the Mouth of
S.C. Our first night there, we had the pleasure of doing dinner with
Alexis Gabrielle Sherrington, the current Miss Continental, and Daesha
Richards, the reigning Miss Continental Elite (for about another month).
The next afternoon, I attended an afternoon drag show at the Wilton
Bier Garden on the patio. Hosting was former Charlottean Amanda
Austin of the Mythos days. Amanda has become quite the tea of “the
Drive” as they called that strip there near the bars in Wilton Manors.
Besides Amanda in the show, there was former Miss N.C. America
Sharde Ross (who is steady preparing for a return to Miss Gay U.S.ofA.
Classic), LaShawn Beyond of this season’s “RuPaul’s Drag Race,” and
Ruby Alexandria. Amanda is enjoying working with such local celebrities
as Noel Leon and Misty Eyez.
That evening, many of us attended Miss and Mr. State of Florida
Continental in Davie, FL. I got a chance to visit with Mr. Flint who was
there doing signings of his new book “The Boy from Peoria”
(chock full of Chicago history (drag and otherwise), especially
former titleholders and stars of the Baton Show Lounge, his
illusion club that has been open since 1969). The pictures alone
are worth your time, and oh, the tales. I also got a chance to
catch up with Ginger Grant, Miss State of FL Continental Elite
Diva, Samantha Perez, Franchesque Richards, hair-spinner “Q,”
Scott Holland, Derbis Aguilera and, yes, the ever-popular Miss
Tiffany Andretta Arieagus. OMG! Talk about old school stars,
baby! Anyway, too much excitement — an exquisite Fontasia
L’Amour from Cali won with RU Coco Chandelier. For the guys,
Kyle Ean won with RU Khalil Valentino Litter.
The next evening we had the Carolina Continental prelims
for all divisions. I got to visit with Miss Continental Gabby and
Miss PLUS, Chelsea Pearl, who had flown in earlier. What a joy
— those girls have tortured each other as they’ve travelled and
just made all kinds of good memories. Chelsea was so painted
that night you’d have thought she started beating at 7 and that
Gabby has the clothes of death. Such good queens and good
representatives. The winners that night for Miss were Stasha
Sanchez with RU Missey Miyake LePaige, for the Mr., Lewis
Nicholson, for PLUS, Jasmine Skiies and Elite, another old
Luscious of Charlotte, Miss Gay U.S.ofA.
school goddess who wrote the book, in my opinion — Dana
Photo Credit: The Studio, Orlando LLC
Douglas. I stand in awe of her every time I see her, to think of
what I behold before me. A pure legend, plain and simple.
That evening, I saw Florida pageantry celebs like Edward Nunez,
Sasha Sommers, Miss Nikki Adams, Electra, former Miss Universe
Kristina Grant, Gina DeAngelo, Erika Norell, Shanice Jackson, another
“Drag Race” contestant from this season Latrice Royale and two
newer girls in the pageant who were stunning, Jennifer Grant and
Justice Divine. What a trip! Talk about sensory overload. My thanks to
Alyson for keeping me on as head judge after all these years! : :
info: Drop me a line, OK? TheTeaMissD@yahoo.com
Ask Dr. C…HIV and healthcare advice
Helping to keep you in the know with up-to-date information
by Frederick Cruickshank ~ Medical Director
After many installments of “Ask Dr.C,” this
is yet another opportunity to offer our readers
information about HIV from basic questions to
in-depth explanations. We are still receiving
many of your questions and are working hard
to provide responses to as many questions as
possible to provide information for you and
the community. The questions have provided
us a forum to debunk myths and remove
stigma from those living with HIV and AIDS.
It is important to educate yourself, get tested,
and protect yourself. We appreciate every
question we receive! Dr. C looks forward to
responding to as many emails as possible.
I recently got tested for HIV and it
came back negative. I am in a serious
relationship with my partner of 5
years. Since my test came back negative,
can I assume that my partner is
HIV negative as well?
— Stephen from Hickory
Stephen, I am glad to hear that your test
came back negative. However, you cannot
assume that your partner’s test would
also yield a negative result even if you are
sexually exclusive with each other. When
someone engages in sexual activity with an
HIV-positive partner, the virus is not always
transmitted. Because you have been in a
relationship for an extended period of time,
you have had more chances to spread the
virus if one of you were positive. So, more
than likely your partner is also negative. But,
the only way to know is to get tested! It is
very important to keep an open dialogue
with your partner about your HIV status and
STD status if you are sexually active. I would
encourage you to talk to your partner about
getting tested and even make it an activity to
Is it possible to get HIV or other STDs
from a public toilet seat?
— Ann Marie from Charlotte
Ann Marie, this is a good question. It is
always important to debunk the myth that
HIV/AIDS can be spread by everyday contact
and/or living with someone who is HIV positive.
You cannot get HIV/AIDS from sharing a
toilet because the virus does not survive very
long outside of the body. Similarly, you cannot
become infected with most STDs because they
also do no live outside the body long enough
to be passed to another person via the toilet
seat. I say “most STDs” because pubic lice
also referred to as “crabs” can live on a
surface for two days. If a person with pubic
lice used the public toilet right before you,
you could pick up the organisms. If you are
greatly concerned, most public restrooms do
provide paper seat covers to protect yourself.
Are all STDs curable? And, if so, why
are they such a big deal if they can
be treated easily?
— Nancy from Kannapolis
Many STDS can be effectively treated if found
early enough. These include chlamydia, gonorrhea,
syphilis, and trichomoniasis. While
most of these can be cleared up by a simple
dosage of medication, it is important for people
to take these diseases seriously. Without
treatment, STDs like syphilis can lead to
severe effects on the body including blindness,
paralysis, and death. In addition, there are
some STDs that are not “curable.” Herpes and
genital warts can lead to reoccurring flare-ups
throughout a person’s lifetime. Medication
can be given to treat the symptoms, but the
disease remains present within the body. Also,
to date there is no cure for HIV/AIDS which is
also sexually transmitted. It is important to get
tested for both STDs and HIV regularly in order
to effectively manage your sexual health.
It is also important to keep an open dialogue
about your HIV and STD status.
Always remember that this is an advice
column based upon your questions and the
best possible knowledge out there. We need
your questions to help educate the community,
so email them to firstname.lastname@example.org and
be sure to include a first name and location.
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March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 13
talkback: Amendment One
Continuing with our theme of speaking out against Amendment One, this issue we have a letter from Ashlei Blue, Regional Field Director for
The Coalition to Protect All NC Families.
On September 13, 2011, our North Carolina General
Assembly pushed Amendment One through the ranks and onto
the 2012 Primary ballots for you to vote
against. It goes without saying how many
times different versions of this bill have
been drafted up and shot down over the
past 100 years. What is more of an issue
for Charlotteans, however, is what are we
going to do to prevent it from passing on
The truth of the matter is, that for
the first time in over a century, North
Carolina has decided to propose an amendment that takes
away your rights instead of guaranteeing and protecting them.
The Charlotte City Council has remained silent on the issue
while our Mayor Anthony Foxx has already come out staunchly
against it. It’s time to set fire to Amendment One in Charlotte
and we have to start now.
Everyday, my team of field organizers and interns wake up
and we commit ourselves to 12-hour days with the hopes of
knocking the wind out of this amendment. Encouraging friends
and family to vote against the amendment is the first step in
defeating Amendment One, but by no means is that all we’re
asking of you. To stop hate, it’s going require more from each
We’re asking you to climb outside of your comfort zone
and stand alongside of us as we take even bigger steps. That
means reaching out to your neighbors and telling them about
the benefits your family will lose if they stay home instead of
getting up and voting against this amendment. That means
reaching out to your church home and encouraging them to
put their faith into action and stand behind righteousness. That
means talking to students on one of the many campuses across
the Queen City and making sure they’re aware that the rights of
their friends are being infringed upon.
We are a coalition of supporters that have aligned with the
purpose of stopping discrimination in Mecklenburg County
dead in its tracks. It’s going take more than a yard sign in front
of your house, more than a bumper sticker on your car, more
than a T-shirt on your back. While all of those things are important
in spreading awareness, we have yet to see a yard sign
or bumper sticker have a valuable conversation. The Coalition
to Protect All NC Families has a goal to complete one million
conversations across the state of North Carolina. By the time
you read this article, Mecklenburg County will have clocked in
at over 1,500 conversations…how many of those conversations
were you a part of?
You can find our office on the corner of 28th St. and North
14 qnotes March 17-30 . 2012
Davidson at 617 East 28th St. We’re here,
Monday through Friday, getting the job
done. All we’re missing is you. Won’t you
— Ashlei K. Blue
Regional Field Director
Protect NC Families
When I go into the ballot box in
May, I’m going to be voting against
— Mayor Anthony Foxx
Amendment One is a direct challenge
to our ability to compete nationally
for jobs and economic growth. Large
corporations hate this kind of controversy.
They deal with diverse work populations
for whom issues like this aren’t
just important in terms of where it is that
they live, but are important indicators
of the diversity and meritocracy of the
companies where they want to work.
Many of the industries, most that
are important to our future success,
are also the industries most highly
sensitive to the passage of amendments
like Amendment One that significantly
signal that we are a backward looking
Amendment One has the potential to
have a disastrous effect on our abillity
to attract talent and keep talent in the
state of North Carolina. We know that
for economic growth and prosperity, the
ability to keep talent here and to attract
additional talent, not only from other
parts of the United States, but globally,
is critically important to fueling that
What Amendment One does is make
it look like we are a state that ignores
both the needs and the preferences of
the next generation of America’s and
the world’s workforce. We have got to
attract that generation. We have got to
vote no on Amendment One.
— Cathy Bessant
Bank of America
Playing the Field
continued from page 12
The Carolina Softball Alliance is gearing up for
their Spring 2012 season, which will begin Sunday,
April 15. This will be the 16th season of the only
LGBT slow-pitch softball league in the Queen
City with the “goal of providing a welcoming, but
competitive atmosphere for the community,” says
President Ron Tessner.
To get things started this season, two clinics
will be held on successive weekends, March 25
and April 1 at Veteran’s Park, for those players
wanting to join the league. It is recommended
that interested ball players attend one of these
two sessions in order to get a feel for the league,
be rated and placed with an appropriate team if
you do not have one already.
Also, the league will be sending a D-level
team to the Southern Shootout in Birmingham,
Ala., on Easter weekend, April 6-8, and the
Big Peach Softball tournament in Atlanta, Ga.,
Memorial Day weekend. Tryouts for this team
will be held at Ferguson Park in Gastonia, N.C.,
on March 18 from 2-5 p.m. If you cannot attend
this tryout or either of the two clinics, but are still
interested in joining CSA, the league asks that
you contact them directly through email at info@
carolinasoftball.org or by visiting their website at
Queen City Tennis Club is an organization here
in Charlotte that promotes the game of tennis in
the LGBT community. They meet every Sunday
starting April 1, at Park Road Park (unless otherwise
noted on their website) from 10 a.m.-12 p.m.
They welcome all ages and skill levels, so check
out their website if you are interested in learning
more at qctc.org.
If you have an LGBT-friendly sport or tournament
you would like to have covered email
email@example.com. : :
March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 15
My best friend won’t talk to me anymore because I told
someone something about her that I swore I would never tell.
Don’t you think it’s wrong to give up a longtime friendship just
because someone slipped?
No Big Deal, Nashville, TN
Hey No Big Deal,
When Monica Lewinski
slipped to Linda Tripp look
what happened! When
Virginia Hill slipped to the
mob about her boyfriend,
Bugsy Seigel, the next day
he was shot in the head.
Sweetie, when someone
tells you something in secrecy,
you suddenly become
as important as a CIA agent.
Nobody, and I mean nobody,
wants to be friends with
someone who can’t take a
secret to their grave. If you
can’t keep a secret, let your
friends know. There’s no
shame in not being able to
keep a secret, but there is in
not keeping one. Just say no!
Your secret’s not
safe with me
After dating someone for two months, I told him that I wasn’t
interested anymore. Still, he constantly calls, comes by and is
now bothering my friends. I can’t shake him. Help?
Stalker Troubles, Brooklyn, NY
Dear Stalker Troubles,
Plan A, first, clearly tell him that you don’t want to see him.
Second, insist that he stop calling, coming by or bothering your
friends. “There is no two ways about it!” Third, be tough, stern
and aggressive, even if it’s not your nature. Lastly, if all this
fails, then go to plan B. Plan B, first go to his work and publicly
embarrass him. Make a big scene. Second, call his friends and
family and let them know what he’s doing, that they must stop
him or you’ll see them all in court. Finally, if he’s really freaking
you out, it’s time for a little vacation. Waiting down south for a
Key West martini, darling, is much healthier than waiting to be
stalked. Give ‘em hell.
I’m looking for a real man. Not someone
who’s pretentious or constantly worried
about his looks. Not a party animal, but
a passionate beast. A man who lets
himself enjoy a relationship. Where can
I find him?
Looking, San Antonio, TX
First, you have to look long and hard.
Groups, ads, services and word-of-mouth
wouldn’t hurt. As Kahlil Gibran says,
“Before love finds you, you must be sifted,
kneaded, grinded and threshed.” Sounds
exciting to me! So, honey, allow yourself
to go on a journey rather than a drag race.
But, if that’s too much work, then turn on
an old WCW match, find the wrestler Bill
Goldberg and take a good long look at one man who is everything
one could ever dream of. Don’t touch, he’s mine! Even if it takes
me a lifetime! Back to work. (I know how to figure out if a guy is
manly enough. Check out my cartoon for my thought process.)
I want to be like you: a singer, a writer an artist, but I don’t know
how to start. My life, job, friends, etc., are all set. How do I get
Artist In Waiting, Boston, MA
To Artist In Waiting,
Nearly everyone who wants to be an artist already is, but,
pumpkin, before you sign up for that “artist within” retreat try
Trinity’s Helpful Tips For Finding
Your Creative Self
1. Do something dangerous. Facing one fear destroys many
2. Deny yourself something you can’t. Stronger wills make
3. Take different routes to work and other places. Challenge
what is constant.
4. Forgive someone you can’t. Resentment promises stagnation.
5. Visit new places. New environments bring new creative
6. Deny yourself one of your senses for a day, expanding your
7. Invite unfamiliar or ridiculous conversations. Everyone is
8. Redecorate, even with the same furniture. Change your
9. Ask lots of questions. There are no stupid questions.
10. Start acting like an artist. Fake it ‘til you make it! But, do it.
Just get wet! : :
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity was
host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,
and now performs globally.
info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com
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out in the stars
by charlene lichtenstein
March 17 - 30
If you believe that actions speak louder (and
prouder) than words, imagine what happens
when retrograde Mars opposes dizzy Neptune.
Actions not only speak, they rant, rave and go off
on wild tangents. They also set off minor nuclear
chain reactions. Avoid after-shocks and fallout
by keeping petty tantrums to yourself…for now.
PISCES (02.20-03.20) There may be some nasty
contratemps with partners now. If you’re ready
to scuttle the Love Boat, you find an impetus and
any excuse. But, if there is still a bit of spark between
the two of you, why not wait a short while
before you try anything or anyone new. Guppies
feel the need to meet and greet, but will do so
with two left feet. Show ‘em how to dance later.
ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams may overdo it in
the exercise department. Why not relax and be
a bit lazy? You never know when your tail will get
caught in the treadmill or an arm gets hooked
in the weight rack. Exertion is not in the stars
— and that goes for the job too. Don’t expend
any extra energy wondering what you can do to
get ahead at work. Ah, so what else is new?
TAURUS (04.21-05.21) This time period provides
perky queer Bulls with far too much of a good
thing…or, so it will seem. Fun, creative endeavors
and even a possible romance can shift into
overdrive if you fail to pace and brace. However,
with all this delusional energy abounding, you may
fancy yourself to be quite the bon vivant in certain
select circles. Or, is that among certain squares?
GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins are inspired to
do a little sprucing up at home. But, take it one
scrub at a time and don’t paint the house or tear
down a wall now. Commotion around the house
will conflict with career obligations and will not
progress smoothly. Why not just invite a few compadres
over for a nice evening? Keep the guest
list small and very intimate.
CANCER (06.22-07.23) Gay Crabs practically bellow
their opinions. If you enjoy creating a ruckus
that can run amok, the possibilities are endless.
Your rants are broadcast internationally. Prepare
for an incident; the mouthy anvil that you toss
today can crush your toes (or worse) tomorrow.
Sometimes it’s better to keep your petty
demands chez nous. So, nuh?
LEO (07.24-08.23) Prepare to dive into a deep pool
of pennies from heaven. But, it’s not for keeps,
so keep prying hands off and expectations in
check. Financial investment strategies should be
shelved if possible. Anything you covet probably
belongs to someone else and will cost far more
than expected with less value in the long run. I
know that proud Lions don’t like it that way.
VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Your unprincipled energy results
in a lurid public display if you’re not careful.
Queer Virgins should not rush into center stage
at this time. Your cargo pants will drop and your
underwear may be…ahem…drafty. No matter;
as long as you stay behind the scenes, no one
need see your shortcomings. Check for spinach
in your teeth before you meet anyone new.
LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Intuition is not generally your
strong suit, but so what? Just avoid acting on
any vague mental rumblings if at all possible. In
your attempt to dislodge hidden enemies, you
may miscalculate and open up your Achilles heel
to a swift kick. Ouch! Poor gay Libras should sit
this battle out and console themselves with a
pleasant, stress-reducing pastime. Oh, do tell!
SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Don’t take on more tangos
than you can easily fit on your dance card.
Queer Scorps who take too much on socially
will more than likely need extra time to recuperate.
Friends may become especially needy now.
You’ll do them a better service if you remain on
the sidelines. Let them make their own mistakes
while you provide the tea and sympathy.
SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Even politically
astute gay Archers may inadvertently mouth off
to the head honcho. Professional aspirations
may be jolted and set off course, so play any
corporate cards close to the vest and don’t take
any extreme action if you can avoid it. Of course,
there is something nice about sleeping late
before you pick up your unemployment check.
CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps hanker for
far horizons, but it is tight for a bit right now. Travel
may become too difficult or too unwieldy or you
may find that exotic locales are too much trouble
to navigate. Also, avoid pushing the envelope on
lawsuits or any legal issues. Your words run amok
and can make mincemeat out of any carefully
planned attack. Take a short recess.
AQUARIUS(01.21-02.19) Aqueerians are too hot to
handle and too darn heady to care. Your embers
are poked into a raging fire that can soon burn
out of control. Before you singe your best assets
on a faulty match, take a good look at the object
of your desire and measure their true worth.
There is a good chance that you will spend on
a dreamboat and be left with only a leaky dingy.
Live and learn. : :
© 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All Rights
info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for
e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My
book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For
Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is
available at bookstores and major booksites.
March 17-30 . 2012 qnotes 17
Local artist using human body as canvas
continued from page 9
“It has been fascinating to discover that
we all have the same issues” says Croy.
“No matter who we are, what we look like,
where we came from, our socio-economic
status, we all face the same human issues.
A lot of LGBT people have the same issues,
especially in my generation and older,
especially when looking at the fact that we
had to wait so much longer before we could
come out. Today’s youth are breaking down
the barrier and coming out and being who
they are at a younger age and I believe they
are carrying this movement forward.”
Being a part of the project has had an
impact on the models and artists involved,
as well. “I can take a group of people that
have never met one another, paint them and
witness the comradery that happens between
them. Black, White, Asian, Latino, we are
taking any nationality and there is a reason
for that” explains Croy. “Once you put that
paint on and you make the human form into
a sculpture of these bright colors, they really
come alive. There is this thing that clicks into
people’s mind and it is so much fun to see, it is
like watching them become a kid again. But,
at the same time, it is eliminating any barriers
because you have eliminated anything physically
that normally we would relate to.”
“People look at themselves in the mirror
after I paint them and say ‘this is so cool’ and I
tell them ‘it’s you.’ It is coming from within and
now even more since I am interviewing and
learning more about the models and interpreting
their story” says Croy.
Croy believes that the vision of the project
will evolve even more as it moves closer
to the halfway point of its three-year timespan.
He explains that “the last year and a
half of the project will be the point where I
can say ‘this is why I am doing this for the
When asked about his goal for the
culmination of the project, Croy states that
he would love to see all of the participants
in the individual shoots come back together
for one large photo shoot to possibly serve
as a fundraiser for the community; the entire
human canvas tribe together as one.
Croy is also currently designing a mural
that will wrap around the White Rabbit
building once approved by the city. Given
the location of the LGBT store, the mural
would be seen by all as they enter into
Plaza Midwood, an area of Charlotte known
for its LGBT friendly businesses and nightlife.
“I believe the moment we start working
on this mural it will help to pull the community
together” states Croy. “We, as a community,
have nothing here that really pulls
us together. I am hoping that this mural
will help to break down the barriers within
our own community and help build unity
amongst LGBT people here in Charlotte. We
need something that is uniquely ours and
I think this mural will bring attention to our
community in a positive light.”
For more information about Gil Croy
and The Human Canvas Project, visit
gilcroy.com. : :
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arts. entertainment. news. views.
March 21-25 • Charlotte
The GayCharlotte Film Festival
brings over 1,000 moviegoers to
various venues in Charlotte to
watch LGBT films from all over
the world. The GayCharlotte Film
Festival is a project of The LGBT
Community Center of Charlotte.
Wednesday, March 21
Mint Museum Uptown
• ‘Circumstance’ (107 minutes)
(Drama) This explosive drama
depicts a wealthy Iranian family
struggling to contain their lesbian
daughter living life in the fast lane
and their dangerous, religiously
Thursday, March 22
Wells Fargo Auditorium
at the Knight Theater
• ‘Spin the Bible’
(Comedy) A hot,
the dangers of politicians persuading
preachers to promote
anti-gay political agendas.
• ‘Leading Ladies’ (100 minutes)
(Musical Comedy) A zany, warmhearted
musical comedy about
two sisters, their gay best friend,
and their over-zealous stage
mom mixes Broadway musical
“Gypsy” with TV hit “GLEE.”
Friday, March 23
Mint Museum Uptown
• ‘Hollywood To Dollywood’ (81
7-8:25 p.m. (post-movie: “Meet
the Lane Twins”)
favorite gay twins from Goldsboro
return to tell their story
of moving to Hollywood,
writing a screenplay
for Dolly Parton, renting
a van called “Jolene,”
and taking a road trip
from Hollywood to
• ‘Longhorns’ (75 minutes)
(Comedy) For Mature Audiences:
Nudity! Beers, steers…and a
whole lot of queers!
Saturday, March 24
Mint Museum Uptown
• ‘Spin The Bible’ (23 minutes)
See description from March 22.
•ub2 (5 minutes)
(Short) Compelling short movie
about the impact of pejorative
language on HIV+ men.
• ‘The Grove’ (62 minutes)
(Documentary) Poignant documentary,
which premiered in
November 2011, about National
AIDS Memorial Grove Act, a natural
refuge for many grief-stricken
survivors of HIV/AIDS and the
picketers who oppress them.
• ‘Wish Me Away’ (120 minutes)
(Documentary) Country music
star Chely Wright tells her
compelling story of hiding in the
closet before ultimately becoming
the first commercial country
music singer to out herself.
• ‘Children Of God’ (104 minutes)
(Drama) Gorgeous Bahama
beaches serve as the backdrop
for this tender, romantic drama
about a pair of start-crossed
• ‘Mississippi Damned’ (120
(Drama) A gut-wrenching and
all-familiar story of African-
American lesbians and their
families facing multiple sets of
bigotry in the racist, homophobic
Sunday, March 25
UNC Charlotte Uptown Campus
• ‘Gun Hill Road’ (120 minutes)
(Drama) Coming-of-age scorcher.
March 17 • Charlotte
Men of Petra’s — Season 3 Finale
It’s time for the Finale! The Final Four are
Buster Chairee, Tasha Salade, Madason
Marx and Shofonda Cox. One of these
contestants will win the $500 cash prize
decided by your votes! Hosted by Rachael
Houdek. Brought to you by Stephen Seay
Productions. 10 p.m. Petra’s Piano Bar. 1919
March 18 • Raleigh
Crape Myrtle Drag Brunch
This Drag Brunch is set to be one of our best
yet with a tribute to iconic performers featuring
the theatrical talents of Amaya, Eunyce Raye,
Dorae Saunders, Stephanie Scott and Nation
Tyre. Hosted by Ebony Summers. Doors open
at noon. Show starts at 12:30 p.m. $10 admission
(does not include buffet/drinks). The Mint
restaurant, 219 Fayetteville St. 919-821-0011
March 20 • Durham
Speaker Series IV
Panel discussion on personal perspectives
by those affected by Amendment One. 6:30
p.m. Pilgrim United Church of Christ, 2011
Academy Rd. Child care will be provided.
March 20 • Charlotte
Charlotte Business Guild Dinner
Join the Charlotte Business Guild for dinner
and a meeting with local economic expert
Frank Warren. Cocktails at 5:30 p.m. Dinner
and program at 6:30 p.m. Wet Willie’s,
900 N.C. Music Factory Blvd. (formerly
Seaboard St.). 704-716-5650.
March 25 • Winston-Salem
A portion of the drink proceeds benefits
Equality Winston-Salem. No cover. Free food.
Music by DJ Cash. Encore, 411 W. 4th St. 5-8
March 27 • Durham
Speaker Series V
What People of Faith Can Do to Oppose
Amendment One. Ryan Rowe, Director of Faith
Outreach for the Coalition to Protect AllNorth
Carolina Families and Rev. Rollin Russell, retired
minister. 6:30 p.m. Pilgrim United Church
of Christ, 2011 Academy Rd. Child care will be
April 7 • Charlotte
‘Believe in Youth’ Annual Speaker Series
Campus Pride and Time Out Youth have
partnered to present their third annual
“Believe in Youth Awareness Event” with
national young adult leader and marriage
equality advocate Zach Wahls. Wahls, 20, is
known as “that kid from YouTube with two
moms.” His passionate testimony before the
Iowa General Assembly against a proposed
anti-LGBT constitutional amendment was the
number one YouTube “Political Video” of 2011.
Free. Open to the public. 5 p.m. Wells Fargo
Auditorium at Knight Theatre at Levine Center
for the Arts, 430 S. Tryon St. campuspride.org.
April 8 • Winston-Salem
A portion of the drink proceeds benefits AIDS
Care Service. No cover. Free food. Music by
DJ Cash. Encore, 411 W. 4th St.
5-8 p.m. 336-918-0902.
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