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May 10-23, 2013 Vol 28 No 01
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6 News Notes: Regional Briefs
14 Foxx tapped as new transporation secretary
18 Plaza Midwood Harris Teeter to reopen May 29
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10 Garden Party
12 Flip-Flop FAQ
16 Tell Trinity
17 Out in the Stars
18 Jane’s World
19 Q events calendar
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4 Editor’s Note
4 On Being a Gay Parent
5 Guest Commentary
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by Matt Comer
Mourning a media loss,
celebrating an anniversary
After 21 years of publishing, Greensboro’s
The Rhinoceros Times announced on April 30
that it was producing its last print edition.
“I wish we could continue to provide
you with the news, opinion and humor every
week that you have come to expect, but we
have simply run out of money,” Rhino Times
publisher John Hammer wrote. “Like a lot of
small businesses, we took a huge hit in 2008,
and although we have done everything we
could think of, we simply can no longer pay
Hammer says the newspaper will continue
to have a presence on the web “for
as long as possible,” as he seeks donations
and contributions to help pay down the
paper’s “hundreds of thousands of dollars
No matter where you stand on the political
spectrum, the demise of the conservative
paper’s print edition comes as a blow to North
Carolina’s strong, vibrant and diverse press
As a student at the University of North
Carolina-Greensboro, I often read Hammer’s
newspaper. I fondly remember sitting in
coffee shops, restaurants and bars along
Tate St. and reading the publication. An avid
reader of all sorts of news, I’d often devour
the local News & Record, YES! Weekly and
other publications. The Rhinoceros Times
gave me the opportunity to learn about
opposing points of view and to put local
news in the context of a wider, more diverse
community of thought and opinion. Though
I rarely agreed with the paper’s slant, I appreciated
the alternative voice they brought
to local media.
Statewide, the conservative Rhino Times
joined with progressive publications like
YES! Weekly, the Triangle’s Indy Week,
Asheville’s Mountain Xpress and Charlotte’s
Creative Loafing, as well as our own qnotes,
to bring diversity to public discourse. On
issues as wide-ranging as local zoning and
taxes to same-sex marriage and immigrant
rights, our state’s diverse media offer each
of us the opportunity to learn more about
important issues affecting our daily lives.
News about these issues are very rarely
one-sided. All of us have unique perspectives,
opinions and experiences. We bring
those perspectives with us when we debate
controversial decisions being made by local
or state government.
Diversity in media also helps to fill in the
gaps larger media like daily newspapers
or TV news stations might miss. If not for
alternative news publications, the lives, successes,
challenges and issues important to a
variety of minorities, neighborhoods and communities
might go unnoticed.
I believe wholeheartedly that having
access to a diverse media is essential to the
healthy, engaged involvement of citizens in
our republic. As citizens, we can’t engage in
healthy dialogue without listening to our opposition.
Though we may vehemently disagree,
we recognize that all people deserve to be
heard and to have their rights to free speech
and expression protected.
The Rhino Times, which once had a
Charlotte edition, will be missed by many,
I’m sure. Hopefully, its conservative thought
and opinion will be able to live on digitally.
We wish Hammer and his staff success with
building a new model online. And, here in
Charlotte, we wish continued success to
the staff of PunditHouse.com, an online-only
alternative, conservative news and commentary
publication. We may disagree from time
to time, but we stand united in our combined
efforts to diversify our public thought and
The staff here at qnotes, like all other
print media, are faced with our own set of
unique challenges as we publish this anniversary
issue marking the beginning of our
27th year of publishing. I confidently speak
on behalf of all of our staff, advertisers,
readers and supporters when I say that we
are humbled to be able to have the continued
privilege of serving a still-underrepresented
As we, with the rest of the media industry,
continue to rise to the challenges of publishing
in a digital age, I hope you will continue
to offer your contributions, input, feedback
and support — be it by penning contributions
to the newspaper, continuing your loyal
readership or by taking advantage of the print
and online advertising opportunities that keep
qnotes free and available to as wide an audience
With your continued support, we’ll be
here, as we always have, chronicling the
history and times of our LGBT community,
saving it for future generations and providing
you with the news and thought to keep our
community strong and engaged. : :
on being a
by Brett Webb-Mitchell
Hope in faiths
My “Religions and the World” class at
North Carolina Central University (NCCU) — an
historically black/college university (HBCU) —
has drawn to another close at semester’s end.
Like the previous semesters that I’ve taught the
class, I am the richer in terms of life experiences
and a deeper understanding of many of
the world’s faiths and philosophies. Much of this
learning does not take place solely through the
book we read together as a class or through
the various clips of music, rituals and prayers
found on other computer links, generated in
other parts of the world, those that assist in
learning the key points of the religions of the
world. What makes this class more than your
average, normal, usual campus class is the field
trips we make to the various temples, retreat
centers, synagogues, churches and mosques in
the area. It is the one-on-one meetings and discussions
between the religious leaders and representatives
of the major world faiths with the
students that has made all the difference. For
a few hours, the students immerse themselves
into the ritual practices, prayers, language and
music that may seem, at first, alien, but after a
while it all grows upon one’s very being: heart,
mind and body.
Unlike other years, this year I asked more
the various religious leaders and faith representatives
about the place and presence of LGBTQ
people in their respective faith communities. I
was greatly heartened by the response. At Sri
Venkateswara Hindu Temple in Cary, N.C., one
of the religious leaders said that there would
never be an objection of an LGBTQ person
coming to worship and pray to one of the gods.
At the Zen Buddhist Retreat Center in Chapel
Hill, N.C., LGBTQ people are welcome to come
and contemplate and participate in the life of
the community, with no sense of discrimination.
At Beth El Synagogue in Durham, N.C.,
the religious educator for this Conservative
Jewish community said there would be no
objections to an LGBTQ person joining in and
being a significant part of the community. One
of the associate pastors of First Presbyterian
Church, Durham, N.C., knows that many of the
Presbyteries of the Presbyterian Church (USA)
not only welcome LGBTQ people as members,
but as ordained leaders. And the Imam of Duke
University’s Muslim Life Center said that where
he struggles most with Islam and the teaching
of the Koran is in how women and LGBTQ
people are perceived, acknowledging that this
In other words, among all the world’s faiths,
represented in the Research Triangle of North
Carolina, there is a new great openness to
LGBTQ individuals, couples, families and allies.
While many of these religious communities and
their respective leaders would have balked
at welcoming LGBTQ people only a few years
ago, a new breeze — or dare I call it Spirit — is
blowing in the hearts, minds and bodies of these
gatherings of the faithful. There is, indeed, hope
in the faiths of the world. : :
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ACTing UP? Not so much in Charlotte
From the editor:
Launched in 1987 in New York City, the direct
action group ACT UP was at the forefront
of HIV/AIDS and LGBT awareness in the late
1980s and early 1990s. Demonstrators and
picketers took to the streets to demand federal,
state and local government action to end
the burgeoning AIDS epidemic ravaging the
gay community, as ACT UP’s organizing model
spread across the nation and globe. The
activists forced their agenda into the spotlight,
demanding that their lives and stories be told
and represented fairly and equally. “Silence =
Death” and an inverted pink triangle became
their ubiquitous calls to action.
In Charlotte, such efforts were met with
an astounding thud, according to one local
who’s been kind enough to share what he
remembers about Charlotte’s short-lived ACT
“Charlotte’s gay community was not an
activist community then and it is not one to
this day,” says the local, who has asked us not
to use his name publicly.
Read the local’s commentary below.
— Matt Comer
In the late ’80s early ’90s, an effort was
undertaken in Charlotte to form a chapter of
ACT UP, an activist organization bringing the
AIDS crisis to the attention of the public and
its elected officials. At the time, very little
encouragement was being received to find
a cure and promote prevention measures.
Part of the problem sat in the White
House. President Ronald Reagan
appeared to be doing everything in
his power to discredit the need for
any more effort on the AIDS front
because, to him, the epidemic was
a gay disease. And, that perception
was another part of the problem.
In Charlotte, the gay disease
concept was compounded. Metrolina
AIDS Project (MAP) was founded
by gay men to address the needs of
those in our community infected with
and affected by HIV/AIDS. And a large
amount of MAP’s funding also came
from the gay community. Therefore, the perception
of AIDS as a gay disease was doubly
When the idea of an ACT UP chapter was
first discussed, the need seemed obvious and
there was never any doubt that it would be
supported. The criteria for starting a chapter
was simple — just do it. There was no
national organization nor rigid guidelines as
to how the whole process was supposed to
work. ACT UP existed solely to bring attention
to the AIDS epidemic in an “in your face” style
so the message could not be ignored. It didn’t
take money; it took organizing.
The information about the chapter’s formation
was covered in a qnotes article and the
community’s response was underwhelming to
say the least. Three or four people contacted
the organizer and two of those were from
out of town. Hardly enough to present a
formidable demonstration. Other efforts were
made to garner more support and increase
the numbers. Nothing worked and the ACT UP
idea was eventually dropped.
Looking back on the ACT UP failure, it
seems clear that the problem lay squarely
in the lap of the gay community. At the time,
Charlotte was still a rather closeted place. A
large number of gays and lesbians were very
supportive of our organizations — financially
— but only as long as they could remain in
the background and be anonymous. ACT UP
was not asking for their money and it was
certainly not about being anonymous, so it
was impossible for many to support it had they
Charlotte’s gay community was not an activist
community then and it is not one to this
day. While a lot of closet doors have swung
open over the years, it isn’t often that you’ll
find a large group of us protesting or demonstrating
— whatever the issue might be. That
doesn’t mean the community is complacent;
we tend to give our support to state and
national groups that will do our fighting for us.
And, that is not a bad thing. That just doesn’t
bode well for forming a local activist organization
such as ACT UP. : :
Do you agree that Charlotte lacks a strong spirit or
history of direct action and grassroots activism that
can support organizations similar to ACT UP?
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compiled by Lainey Millen | Matt Comer
Community bazaar slated
CHARLOTTE — An LGBT community
bazaar will be held on May 18, 8 a.m.-12
p.m., at the LGBT Center of Charlotte, 2508 N.
This event occurs on the third Saturday
of each month from April through October.
Businesses, organizations and individuals
can sell new or slightly used goods.
Parking lot space is $15. Add $5 for
a table and two chairs. Indoor space is
$30 and includes a table and two chairs.
Electricity hookup is $25. Tent rental is $25.
Space is limited.
It’s homecoming time at TOY
CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth (TOY)
will hold its signature annual fundraiser and
awareness gala, Homecoming, on June 1,
6:30 p.m., at Extravaganza Depot, 1610 N.
Keynote speaker will be Krista Tillman,
with Loan Tran also addressing the audience
as the youth representative. Tillman
has served as chair for Straight Allies
Charlotte, MeckEd and Charlotte Center
City Partners. Tran is beginning his education
at Washington State University on a full
Attendees can enjoy cocktails, silent
auction, dining and dancing. Cocktail chic
attire is recommended.
Money raised through the gala goes to
provide daily safe space, support groups,
one-on-one counseling and social and community
service activities for LGBTQ youth in
the Charlotte region.
Tickets are $100.
Ally honored by PFLAG
ROCKY MOUNT — Parents, Families
and Friends of Lesbians and Gays Rocky
Mount recently awarded its first Straight
for Equality Award to Al LaRose, who is a
longtime member of the local organization.
The award will be presented annually
by the chapter to someone in the area who
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Duke to offer trans student
health insurance coverage
DURHAM — Duke University has
announced it will begin offering student
health insurance coverage for gender
confirmation surgery. The university joins
a handful of other institutions offering
similar coverage, though the University of
North Carolina System currently does not.
The new plan signed by Duke will
include up to $50,000 to cover gender
confirmation surgery, according to The
Duke Chronicle. The school’s insurance
vendor is Blue Cross Blue Shield of North
Carolina. Coverage will begin this fall.
“The addition of sexual reassignment
surgery with a $50,000 cap makes Duke’s
student health care plan one of the most, if
not the most, transgender-inclusive plans in
the country,” Sunny Frothingham told The
Chronicle. Frothingham is the incoming outreach
chair of Blue Devils United, a campus
LGBT undergraduate advocacy group. “This
is a huge step forward for Duke.”
Blue Devils United President Jacob
Tobia said Duke’s decision will help
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“This is really important symbolically for the Duke community,” said Tobia. “I hope that this will
help us remain really competitive as an institution when recruiting students, because I know that
in the past we have had transgendered students that have been extremely successful at Duke,
including merit scholars.”
The University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s Daily Tar Heel reports that campus officials at
the flagship state university have considered similar coverage in the past. It won’t be available
next year, but campus officials say they will advocate for changes in the future.
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has supported LGBT equality, according to the
Rocky Mount Telegram.
LaRose has been active in the chapter’s
educational programs and fundraising efforts.
He has also helped with the group’s advocacy
efforts. LaRose serves as a member of the local
PFLAG chapter’s board of directors, where
he volunteers as board secretary and is
responsible for providing resource materials
for the chapter’s monthly meetings.
“Al has been a key player in our mission
of support, education and advocacy,” chapter
President Susan Ayers told the Telegram.
“He’s a strong, straight voice for equality.”
LaRose is Professor Emeritus at N.C.
Wesleyan College and served as director of
the school’s library from 1989 until he retired
TPMC announces concert
GREENSBORO — Triad Pride Men’s
Chorus will hold its “Big Gay Sing!” concert
on June 8, 8 p.m., at Greensboro Day School,
Sloan Theatre, 5401 Lawndale Dr., and on
June 15, 8 p.m., at the University of North
Carolina School of the Arts, Watson Hall, 1533
S. Main St.
Featured will be songs like “Single
Ladies,” “Like a Prayer,” “Born This Way,”
“Dancing Queen,” “Fireworks” and more. The
evening’s fare includes a music extravaganza,
dancing and audience participation.
Tickets are $15/advance, $20/door. For
groups who purchase nine seats get the 10th
Youth group’s awards banquet nears
DURHAM — iNSIDEoUT will hold its
Seventh Annual Awards Banquet & Gaiety on
May 18, 5-7 p.m., at Francesca’s Dessert Cafe,
706 9th St.
iNSIDEoUT will honor youth, adults and
organizations who have taken outstanding
measures to support LGBTQ and allied youth.
Suggested donation is $3/youth and $30/
adult. Larger contributions are being accepted
in $30, $60 and $90 amounts or whatever
one wishes to donate.
For more information or to reserve a spot,
call 919-923-7884 or email insideoutamy@
Checks made out to iNSIDEoUT, 1303
Clarendon St., Apt. B, Durham, NC 27705.
In other news, the group is accepting
youth board applicants for 2013-2014.
Application is available online.
ENC receives award
RALEIGH — Statewide LGBT education
and advocacy group Equality North Carolina
was among five organizations and individuals
honored on May 9 at the Carolina Club at
the Watts Hill Alumni Center at the University
of North Carolina at Chapel Hill by the North
Carolina Justice Center at its Defenders of
Equality North Carolina was honored for
its policy research and advocacy efforts during
the anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment
campaign in 2012.
The North Carolina Justice Center said
the group stood “tall and strong in the face of
a tragic display of bigotry to build a statewide
advocacy movement, bringing together
people of diverse backgrounds and beliefs to
stand up for the rights of LGBT people.”
The event will honor North Carolina
Insurance Commissioner Wayne Goodwin,
Phil Lehman from the North Carolina Attorney
General’s office, the Mortgage Foreclosure
Unit of Legal AIDS of NC and the Philip
CMF raises funds
RALEIGH — Crape Myrtle Fest (CMF)
recently received $27,650 in fundraising at its
annual host party on April 6 at the home of
Jason and Amy Thurston.
Of the money raised, $1,800 went to
CMF says that it’s not too late to join them
as a host or benefactor. They hope to raise
$100,000 this year. A greater percentage of
funds raised go to local organizations. So far
they have raised $60,000.
CMF, one of the oldest non-profit organizations
in the nation dedicated to gay men’s
health, specifically HIV and AIDS, has grown
to support other endeavors as well for the
benefit of LGBT organizations.
A grant process enables recipients the
ability to utilize the funds raised to support
their efforts. Their application season is open
and any HIV/AIDS/LGBT group can apply.
Sponsorships and pledges are gratefully
accepted. For those who wish, a recurring
payment plan is available for as little as $12.50
Magazine to feature LGBT groups
RALEIGH — Shawn Long, a member of
the Triangle Families Yahoo group, reported
that Carolina Parent magazine is planning
to include their group, as well as the associated
Triangle LGBT Parents/Wannabe
Parents Meetup in their upcoming annual
The publication is slated to be released at
the end of May.
Long said that the publishers told him, “We’ll
be sure to include them in our Family Support
section of our guide which has been renamed
‘Carolina Parent GPS — Go. Play. See.’”
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NBA player comes out
NEW YORK CITY — NBA veteran center
Jason Collins has become the first active
male professional athlete in the major four
American sports leagues to come out as gay.
Collins wrote a first-person account
posted April 29 on Sports Illustrated’s website.
The 34-year-old Collins has played for six
NBA teams in 12 seasons. He finished this
past season with the Washington Wizards
and is now a free agent. He says he wants to
Collins writes: “I’m a 34-year-old NBA
center. I’m black. And I’m gay. I didn’t set out
to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a
major American team sport. But since I am, I’m
happy to start the conversation. I wish I wasn’t
the kid in the classroom raising his hand and
saying, ‘I’m different.’ If I had my way, someone
else would have already done this. Nobody has,
which is why I’m raising my hand.”
Collins said he quietly made a statement
for gay rights even while keeping his sexual
orientation a secret. He wore No. 98 with the
Celtics and Wizards — 1998 was the year that
Matthew Shepard, a gay college student in
Wyoming, was killed and the Trevor Project, a
suicide prevention organization, was founded.
His twin brother, Jarron, was also a longtime
NBA center. Jason said he came out to
his brother last summer.
“He’s my brother, he’s a great guy, and
I want him to be happy. I’ll love him and I’ll
support him and, if necessary, I’ll protect
him,” Jarron wrote, in his own Sports
The White House on April 29 joined the
chorus of praise by commending Collins for
becoming the first active male player in the
four major American professional sports to
come out as gay.
— LGBTQ Nation
Rhode Island approves marriage
PROVIDENCE, R.I. — Gov. Lincoln Chafee
signed Rhode Island’s marriage equality bill
into law on May 2. The state is the tenth to approve
recognition of same-sex marriages.
Hundreds of people who had gathered for
Chafee’s signing ceremony broke out singing
“Chapel of Love.”
“Now, at long last, you are free to marry
the person that you love,” Chafee said.
In Charlotte, local LGBT community leaders
also reacted positively to the news.
“I am extremely excited about the progress
that the country is making in terms of equality
for all of her citizens,” Bishop Tonyia Rawls
of Unity Fellowship Church Charlotte and the
Freedom Center for Social Justice said in a
statement. “I am also grateful for those states
that are now receiving marriage benefits and
hold hope for my own North Carolina as it
relates to our embrace of equality for all.”
Scott Coleman, chair of the LGBT
Community Center of Charlotte Board of
Trustees, also praised the move.
“The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte
is excited that Rhode Island has become
the tenth state to enact marriage equality
into law,” said Coleman. “This is yet another
step towards full equal rights for all LGBT
Americans. This also demonstrates that if we
unite together, there is nothing that our community
Rhode Island joins its neighbors
Massachusetts and Connecticut. Other states
that recognize same-sex marriage are Iowa,
Maine, Maryland, New Hampshire, New
York, Vermont and Washington, as well as the
District of Columbia.
North Carolina voters passed an anti-
LGBT state constitutional amendment banning
same-sex marriages last year. Advocates in
Raleigh had planned on marking one year of
the discriminatory amendment on May 8. Log
on to goqnotes.com for our extended feature
marking the anniversary.
Monthly Social and Dinner Combined with Presenter and Sponsor:
The Humane Society of Charlotte
Date: Tuesday, May 14
Time: Cocktails begin 6:00 pm/Dinner begins 7:00 pm
Place: Bar at 316, 316 Rensselear (near South Blvd.)
Admission: Free. Dinner (for purchase) by Roaming Fork!
Charlotte Business Guild Volunteer Event:
Saturday, May 18, 11:00 am-1:00 pm
Volunteer to take care of pet residents
Humane Society, 2700 Toomey Ave.
RSVP to CBG required by Monday, May 13 at 704-565-5075
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Spring showers bring out the summer sun fun
This spring has been a soaker. But, it will soon fade away. As the summer sun breaks in on
Carolina, there will be plenty of time to bare it all in this season’s hottest and most popular
swimwear brands. Whether you’re planning to head out to the pool or the lakeside, check
out these pieces — with some hot summertime skivvies thrown in for good measure.
Photos: Copyright Jimmie Cobb/JC Digital Photography Works.
Models: Bobby Kerschner, James Reeves, Aaron Selberg.
Location: Provided courtesy The Van Landingham Estate.
Swimwear and underwear: Provided courtesy White Rabbit.
1 Left: Andrew Christian FlashLift underwear boxer
2 Junk Underjeans Flash underwear briefs, $30.
3 Left: Pistol Pete swim briefs, $55. Right: Pistol Pete
swim trunks, $55.
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style, Rufskin Palermo, $47.)
5 Junk Underjeans Flash underwear briefs, $30.
6 Left: Barcode Shinie Shorts, workout shorts/swimwear,
$45. Right: Timoteo Matador swim briefs, $48.
7 Pipe underwear briefs, $26.
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It’s easy to understand why we all love flip-flops: They’re cute
and comfy, keep your feet cool in warm weather and are great
for showing off that fab pedicure you just got. But, no matter how
much you adore your flip-flops, they shouldn’t be all-occasion footwear.
Sometimes, they can lead to sore feet or even severe injury.
“Flip-flops are hugely popular, but it’s important to remember
they’re not appropriate for everyday wear or for all occasions,”
says Dr. Matthew Garoufalis, a podiatrist and president of the
American Podiatric Medical Association. “Every spring and summer,
podiatric offices see an influx of patients with injuries and
ailments directly related to wearing flip-flops at the wrong time
or wearing the wrong flip-flops altogether.”
The secret to safely enjoying flip-flops through summer is twofold,
Garoufalis says. Read his tips below.
How to choose...
Some styles of flip-flops may cause blistering and pain, and increase your risk of injury in
certain situations. It is possible to find a better flip-flop. The APMA offers some tips:
• Look for high-quality, soft leather, which will minimize the risk of blisters and other skin irritations.
Vinyl or rubber styles are more likely to rub your foot the wrong way. Check out the APMA
website for footwear products that have earned the organization’s Seal of Acceptance. The seal
indicates that a team of APMA podiatrists have evaluated the product to ensure it promotes
normal foot function and health.
• Choose a flip-flop with soles that bend at the ball of the foot. If you can bend the sole completely
in half or wring it like a wet rag, the sole will not provide proper support.
• The thong part of the flip-flop should fit comfortably, neither too loose nor too snug. Straps that
are too tight could rub and cause blisters. Too-loose straps may result in you losing the shoe at
a critical moment — resulting in injury. Consider a flip-flop with extra padding on the part of the
strap that fits between your toes.
• Your foot should fit perfectly. Your heel should not hang off the back, nor your toes off the front.
• Dispose of worn flip-flips, no matter how much you loved them last year. Old shoes lose their
ability to support and protect your feet, and it’s easy to find a new pair to replace old ones.
• Still not sure which is the right choice? Start with APMA Seal Accepted pairs at APMA.org/Seal.
When to wear...
A shoe style that was once
relegated to beach or poolside is
now considered acceptable in a
variety of settings. Deciding whether wearing flip-flops is socially appropriate for the occasion is
up to you, but there are some times when you should not wear them for safety reasons.
• When doing yard work it’s best to wear shoes that cover and protect your entire foot. Flip-flops
don’t offer sufficient support or protection.
• For long walks, opt for a good walking shoe. Even the sturdiest styles of flip-flops don’t offer sufficient
arch support and shock absorption for extended walking.
• Playing sports calls for the right footwear. Choose a shoe that is designed for the sport you’re
playing. Flip-flops don’t offer adequate support or protection for hard play and may come off
your foot at a crucial moment. They might lose you the game at best, and leave you with a
foot or ankle injury at worst.
• Finally, put away your flip-flops when the weather is bad. “This one may seem obvious,”
Garoufalis says, “but some people continue to wear their flip-flops even when the temperature
drops, rain falls, or snow is on the ground. Wearing flip-flops in bad weather puts you at
risk of injury if your foot slips out of a wet shoe or even frostbite if temperatures fall too low.”
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May 10-23 . 2013 qnotes 13
Foxx tapped as new
Foxx could take federal office as soon as July
by Matt Comer :: email@example.com
CHARLOTTE — President Barack Obama
announced he was nominating Charlotte
Mayor Anthony Foxx as his next transportation
secretary at a short ceremony at the White
House on April 29. Foxx, who has served as
the Queen City’s mayor since 2009, has already
announced he won’t be seeking a third term. If
confirmed by the Senate, Foxx could take his
Cabinet position as soon as July.
Foxx’s nomination to the post, being
vacated by current U.S. Department of
Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood, is seen
as an effort to increase the number of minorities
serving in Obama’s cabinet. Attorney
General Eric Holder is the only African-
American currently serving among Obama’s
The announcement comes after Foxx,
who led the Charlotte’s hosting of the 2012
Democratic National Convention, said this
month he would not seek a third term as mayor.
Obama and the White House have praised
Foxx’s experience in local government and
said he has firsthand knowledge of important
transportation issues and has proven his ability
to integrate local, state and federal resources to
build transportation in the Queen City. Officials
have praised Foxx’s support of Charlotte’s
streetcar project, the expansion of the
Charlotte-Douglas International Airport and the
planned extension of the city’s light-rail system.
Foxx was first elected to City Council in
2005, where he served until his election as
mayor in 2009. He was the first Democratic
mayor in over 20 years, the youngest Charlotte
mayor and the city’s second African-American
mayor. He was re-elected as mayor in 2011.
LGBT ally, but silent
In his time in office, Foxx has been seen as
supportive of LGBT equality initiatives, though
he has taken a largely silent role in efforts to
Foxx was in favor of personnel policy
changes protecting LGBT workers, instituted
by former City Manager Curt Walton in April
2010 and December 2012. The mayor also
supported the addition of domestic partner
benefits to the city’s budget in June 2012.
The mayor also made several historic firsts
with the LGBT community, becoming the first
Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx, left, with
Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood, right,
with President Barack Obama in the
White House on April 29.
see next page u
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sitting mayor to address LGBT constituents in
a public forum at the LGBT Community Center
of Charlotte in December 2010. He was also
the first mayor
to offer regular
to LGBT events in
spoke out against
the state constitutional
passed by voters
in May 2012 banning
recognition of same-sex marriages.
Yet, Foxx has not been outspoken on other
LGBT issues. He has offered no comment
on where he stands regarding full marriage
equality for same-sex couples. And, he has
‘Foxx seems almost saintly when
compared to his predecessor and
current Gov. Pat McCrory, but
Foxx has not been a true leader on
behalf of his LGBT constituents.’
— Read more in the editorial, ‘Foxx’s lack
of LGBT-inclusive leadership set top-down
example’ at goqnotes.com/22142/
not been a proponent of other local changes
that would require the vote of City Council,
including the addition of LGBT protections in
the city’s Commercial
Ordinance. The last time
the city council voted on
a stand-alone LGBT measure
was in November
1992, when it defeated an
inclusive public accommodations
If confirmed, Foxx
would oversee the
U.S. Department of
Transportation’s 60,000 employees and report
directly to President Obama, who announced
his support for full marriage equality last May. : :
— McClatchy Newspapers reporter
Franco Ordoñez contributed
queer insight. pure politics.
qnotes is your source for the best progressive and LGBT politics news and
commentary in Charlotte and the Carolinas. Read us daily: goqnotes.com
May 10-23 . 2013 qnotes 15
by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: firstname.lastname@example.org
Embracing the masculine side in all of us
I’m a lesbian who considers herself to be very
feminine, by most standards, but I have an
awful time dealing with other lesbians who
act overly butch. I just don’t get it! Why do
so many lesbians need to look and act like
Disappointed Fem., Harrisburg, PA
Dear Disappointed Fem.,
Everyone has a male and female side. Most
women, gay or straight, who act overly
masculine do it because of upbringing, environment
or, as unbelievable as it may seem,
because it’s natural. But, more importantly,
darling, the trouble you have with masculine
women may be in your acceptance of your
own masculinity. So, when that magic moment
comes and you start allowing yourself to see
“dykes” as part of the great female puzzle
instead of outcasts, then you might suddenly
embrace their masculinity as well as your
own. Now play ball!
You often write about relationships! What
makes you such the expert? Can you share
some of your relationship history?
Curious, Sydney, Australia
Um, my relationship history? I’ve been on
almost 200 dates and am working on a book
about it. I also read up on dating, as well
as have been writing about it for almost 15
years. So, pumpkin, you should feel comfortable
that I know a lot, maybe even too much.
[Observer’s Notes: Crying uncontrollably,
Trinity stops typing, runs to Ben & Jerry’s and
spends the rest of the day in drama therapy
workshops.] (You can see how I handle this
dilemma with my “wall of dates” when you
take a gander at my cartoon.)
I broke up with my boyfriend about two years
ago. Since then, I’ve only had a scattering of
intimate experiences. It seems to me that I get
obsessive or neurotic when a lot of time goes
by and I haven’t been intimate. Why is that?
Going Crazy, Des Moines, IA
Dearest Going Crazy,
You, I, everyone must be touched on a regular
basis in order to survive. Did you know that orphanages
in Manchester, England, at the turn
of the century reported an infant death rate
of 86 percent until one nurse started holding
the babies on a regular basis. It was then that
the infant death rate, in one year, dropped to
an incredible 14 percent. You see, when we’re
born the first sense we learn is touch. If we
don’t get touched at birth, we die, as adults
we just die slowly. I honestly think sex addiction
comes from not enough touch. So, when
you’re going crazy from not being touched,
start hugging everyone. Get a huggable pet,
get massaged, but, honey, get touched or
accept your doom! Big, fat, smothering hugs
I’m falling in love with someone I continually
see in my hometown. But, I’ve only ever
seen him from a distance. We’ve never
talked or even met briefly. Do you believe in
love at first sight?
Love At First Sight, Chicago, IL
Hello Love At
I believe in love at first
bite, not sight! Seeing is not enough! You
must sample the pudding to make sure it’s
not a plastic knock-off. Falling in love at
first sight is like losing yourself in a dream,
which, sweetie, makes you do crazy things
that you normally never do. Even better
Trinity’s Cautious Tips
For Falling In Love At
1. Hear his voice.
2. Hug her, touch her, and feel her.
3. Spend time with him privately and publicly.
4. Know that when you’re in love your “self”
gets carried away.
5. Ask lots of questions and listen clearly.
6. Search her name on the internet.
7. Don’t lend him your car, credit cards or
8. Ask friends to tell you the truth about her.
9. Be adventurous and free, but be smart
10. Don’t give so much that you can’t bounce
back quickly if it fails. : :
info:With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity
hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio
drama performed globally, and is now minister of
sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings,
wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.
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out in the stars
by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor
May 10 - 23
Love is sweeping the nation. Okay, maybe just
into the corners of our own hearts. But, as Venus
advances into flirtatious Gemini and squares romantic
Neptune, you can bet that this new broom
moves the dust around. Create a dust storm.
TAURUS (04.21-05.21) If money has been a
source of stress, be prepared to relax and
enjoy this respite. Careful planning pays off
and even spendthrifts can replenish as they go
along. Queer Bulls not only improve their fiscal
outlook, they can also enjoy their gotten gains
to the fullest. The secret is to share some of it
with some your best pals. Some, not all.
GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Bottle and sell your oozy
charisma before you slip on it. The fates deliver
more charm per square inch than is safe for
pink Twins to release. You attract a bevy of admirers
and are the center of attention. Spread
your influence in new social circles. Meet and
greet but be discreet. Soon there may be too
many exes and not enough whys.
CANCER (06.22-07.23) Easy-going gay Crabs
become more intense, mysterious and prescient
right now. They can divine the most divine
things and become a sought-after seer to
many would-be disciples. Weave your dreamy
charms while you can. Too, too soon the foggy
magic lifts and there you are exposed on the
international stage, warts, farts and all. Will
you catch a draft? Achoo!
LEO (07.24-08.23) Enjoy a plethora of pleasant
pastimes, courtesy of a posse of pals. Proud
Lions can’t escape the crowds. They increase
their popularity and become social directors
to the masses. But, don’t sit at home and wait
for the Pride parade to march to you. Get out
there and become involved in new groups and
organizations. Provide the party favors and
play, play, play.
VIRGO (08.24-09.23) You come off as a savvy,
ambitious corporate player now. Mold your
raw passion into a crafted (and crafty) charm.
Put your rising stock back into the career market
and get aggressive in how you invest your
professional assets. Planning a coup d’etat?
Be sure that you really want all that responsibility.
Sometimes it is better to be the power
behind the throne, queer Virgin.
LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Curiosity might have killed
the cat, but it will provide proud Libras with endless
and remarkable out-of-this-world adventures.
Don’t hang around the usual places waiting
for the usual players to sweep you off your
feet. Venture forth and take a risk. Who knows
who is waiting for you in some far corner of the
world? Let’s hope that it is not some square.
SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Queer Scorps may not
know what hit them romantically during this
time period. You are sexy, sultry, energetic and
ready for ha cha cha. But, how will you choose
your dance partner from all your many admirers?
I would not worry about any false starts
or phony hearts. You are in it for the chase and
if one target misfires, you can easily redirect
your ardor and try, try again.
SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Don’t be surprised
if you see a fresh new face staring at you from
across the breakfast table. The fates enliven
even the most static and boring relationships.
Gay Archers have new vigor in their trot, much
to the pleasure of their partners. And, if you are
on the hoof, this is a great time to run wild. Will
you be captured, hogtied and branded? Oh,
don’t you wish!
CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) If work has been one
long, miserable energy drain, expect a happy
jolt. Pink Caps feel more on their game and
can tackle even the most onerous project with
some great results. Put in the effort now. Of
course, if you can cajole others to actually do
the work for you while you splash around at the
water cooler and push your pencil, even better!
AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Aqueerians are
inspired to tap into their creativity. Suddenly
you are filled with great ideas, exquisite poetry
and masterpieces. See where your gay muse
leads you. Follow your passion and energy.
And, yet you also can be tempted to waste this
artistic genius on silly, fun pastimes, short-lived
romances and cheap tawdry times. Oh, how to
choose? How to choose?
PISCES (02.20-03.20) Even though you are
tempted to pick up and travel at a moment’s
notice, there is something about your home
that is cozy, comfortable and especially wonderful
now. You become a happy couch potato.
Guppies can enhance their surroundings with
fresh decorations or a few very fresh guests.
And, thankfully, they will spoil you rotten.
ARIES (03.21-04.20) Ask and you shall receive.
Ask for a lot and you receive it in large, creamy
dollops. Proud Rams can charm just about anyone
right now. How much can you handle and
how will this impact your social climb and circle
of powerful friends? Use this gift judiciously
lest one of your amours turns out to be a tell-all.
Unless, of course, you want your tail tattled. : :
© 2013 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC.
All Rights Reserved. Entertainment.
info: Visit TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings,
horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book
“HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For
Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available
at bookstores and major booksites.
May 10-23 . 2013 qnotes 17
Plaza Midwood Harris Teeter to reopen May 29
by Matt Comer :: email@example.com
CHARLOTTE — A newly-rebuilt Harris
Teeter in the Plaza Midwood neighborhood
will reopen on May 29, according to Harris
“The surrounding neighborhood and corporate
Harris Teeter’s passionate anticipation
for the first Harris Teeter grocery store site
fostered a quest for a truly distinctive design,”
Richard Barlett, partner at Bartlett Hartley &
Mulkey architects PA, said in a release. “The
area’s intense focus on the arts and numerous
Central Avenue corridor art deco styled
building inspired the industrial deco motif.
The building profile is unmistakably unique
with intricate details resulting in a rare yet
delightful venue for a grocery store.”
The Harris Teeter location’s grand
opening will be held on May 29 with a ribbon
cutting at 8 a.m. attended by relatives
of co-founder W.T. Harris. The location at
1704 Central Ave. was the iconic grocery
store’s second-ever location; Harris
moved the store there from a previous
location on Central Ave. originally opened
The new building replaces that building
with a new Art Deco style. Architects
and contractors were able to incorporate
reclaimed wood from the former building. Old
ceiling planks from the demolished building
were also incorporated into the new building’s
market hall and seating area.
The new building also includes several
mosaics by Charlotte-based painter Tom
Thoune. British-born artist Shaun Cassidy created
four sculptural bike racks matching the
building’s Art Deco style.
A Starbucks location will be located in the
new facility. : :
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It’s a ‘heel-acious’
May 18 • Charlotte
Queen City Drag Race
The fourth annual Queen City Drag Race heats up
putting the “fun” in “fundraising.” Grab your favorite
heels and head out to race for good causes. More
information on registering your racing teams can be
found online at qcdragrace.com. Hartigan’s, 601 S.
Cedar St. 1-6 p.m.
May 10-12 • Charlotte
Charlotte Fine Art Show
The 5th Annual Charlotte Fine Art Show
returns to the Charlotte Convention Center in
Uptown. qnotes is a sponsor. 501 S. College St.
May 10, 11 a.m.-7 p.m. May 11, 10 a.m.-5 p.m.
May 12, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. $10 admission good for
all three days. 12 and under, free. Tickets in
advance at ticketleap.com. hotworks.org.
May 11 • Charlotte
A demonstration for the Employment Non-
Discrimination Act will be held. Federal court
house, 401 W. Trade St. 10 a.m.-Noon.
May 11 • Charlotte
Annual Prom Dress Rugby Match
The Charlotte Royals hosts its annual prom
dress match and party. Team hosts the
Charleston Blockade at Tuckaseegee Park.
Memorial Day Weekend
May 23-27 • Charlotte
The 600 Festival and Food Lion Speed
Street, presented by Coca-Cola, return
to Uptown Charlotte, celebrating food,
fun, music and NASCAR. Three days
of revelry from May 23-25 featuring
vendors, appearances by NASCAR racers
and entertainment from Pradigy GT,
Sol Fusion, Jon B, SWV, Randy Houser,
Jamey Johnson, Chelsea Bain, Sister
Hazel and Survivor. 600festival.com.
Join Plaza Midwood’s Snug Harbor for
three nights of live bands and entertainment,
starting Friday and running
through Sunday. Featuring: Mike Strauss
Band, The Catch Fire, The Woggles,
Temperance League, Modern Primitives,
2013 Wolves, Poontanglers and Lazer/
Wulf. $5 each night at the door or
online-only $10 purchase for all three
nights. 18 and up ($5 surcharge for those
under 21). Snug Harbor, 1228 Gordon St.
For more information, visit charlotteroyals.org.
May 16 • Charlotte
Meeting weekly on Thursdays, the LGBTQ
Education and Discussion Group is a safe
place for the adult community to meet and
discuss important issues about health, relationships
and more. Email facilitator Heather
Vandell at firstname.lastname@example.org or call
704-975-3526 for more info. LGBT Community
Center of Charlotte, 2508 N. Davidson St. 6-8
p.m. 704-333-0144. gaycharlotte.com.
May 18 • Durham
iNSIDEoUT hosts its Seventh Annual Awards
Banquet and Gaiety honoring youth, adults
and organizations who have taken outstanding
measures to support LGBTQ and ally youth.
Francesca’s Dessert Cafe, 706 9th St. 5-7 p.m.
Suggested donations: $3/youth, $30/adults. For
more information, call 919-923-7884 or email
May 22 • Charlotte
The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund hosts its
6th Annual The Happening Luncheon. The
event raises awareness and support for the
Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund. This year’s
grant recipients will be announced. qnotes is
a sponsor. Omni Charlotte, 132 E. Trade St.
June 1 • Charlotte
Time Out Youth hosts its annual gala supporting
their work with LGBTQ youth.
Extravaganza Depot, 1610 N. Tryon St.
6:30-10:30 p.m. $100. 704-344-8335.
June 2 • Charlotte
Runway Fashion Show
Sophisticated Lyfe Entertainment presents
their third anniversary fashion show celebrating
fashion, diversity and inclusion. Grand
Central, 1000 Central Ave. 6 p.m., media and
VIP reception. 6:45 p.m., doors open. More
information and ticket purchases at sleevents.
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