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editor’s note

by Matt Comer

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Mourning a media loss,

celebrating an anniversary

After 21 years of publishing, Greensboro’s

The Rhinoceros Times announced on April 30

that it was producing its last print edition.

“I wish we could continue to provide

you with the news, opinion and humor every

week that you have come to expect, but we

have simply run out of money,” Rhino Times

publisher John Hammer wrote. “Like a lot of

small businesses, we took a huge hit in 2008,

and although we have done everything we

could think of, we simply can no longer pay

our bills.”

Hammer says the newspaper will continue

to have a presence on the web “for

as long as possible,” as he seeks donations

and contributions to help pay down the

paper’s “hundreds of thousands of dollars

in debt.”

No matter where you stand on the political

spectrum, the demise of the conservative

paper’s print edition comes as a blow to North

Carolina’s strong, vibrant and diverse press

community.

As a student at the University of North

Carolina-Greensboro, I often read Hammer’s

newspaper. I fondly remember sitting in

coffee shops, restaurants and bars along

Tate St. and reading the publication. An avid

reader of all sorts of news, I’d often devour

the local News & Record, YES! Weekly and

other publications. The Rhinoceros Times

gave me the opportunity to learn about

opposing points of view and to put local

news in the context of a wider, more diverse

community of thought and opinion. Though

I rarely agreed with the paper’s slant, I appreciated

the alternative voice they brought

to local media.

Statewide, the conservative Rhino Times

joined with progressive publications like

YES! Weekly, the Triangle’s Indy Week,

Asheville’s Mountain Xpress and Charlotte’s

Creative Loafing, as well as our own qnotes,

to bring diversity to public discourse. On

issues as wide-ranging as local zoning and

taxes to same-sex marriage and immigrant

rights, our state’s diverse media offer each

of us the opportunity to learn more about

important issues affecting our daily lives.

News about these issues are very rarely

one-sided. All of us have unique perspectives,

opinions and experiences. We bring

those perspectives with us when we debate

controversial decisions being made by local

or state government.

Diversity in media also helps to fill in the

gaps larger media like daily newspapers

or TV news stations might miss. If not for

alternative news publications, the lives, successes,

challenges and issues important to a

variety of minorities, neighborhoods and communities

might go unnoticed.

I believe wholeheartedly that having

access to a diverse media is essential to the

healthy, engaged involvement of citizens in

our republic. As citizens, we can’t engage in

healthy dialogue without listening to our opposition.

Though we may vehemently disagree,

we recognize that all people deserve to be

heard and to have their rights to free speech

and expression protected.

The Rhino Times, which once had a

Charlotte edition, will be missed by many,

I’m sure. Hopefully, its conservative thought

and opinion will be able to live on digitally.

We wish Hammer and his staff success with

building a new model online. And, here in

Charlotte, we wish continued success to

the staff of PunditHouse.com, an online-only

alternative, conservative news and commentary

publication. We may disagree from time

to time, but we stand united in our combined

efforts to diversify our public thought and

civic landscape.

The staff here at qnotes, like all other

print media, are faced with our own set of

unique challenges as we publish this anniversary

issue marking the beginning of our

27th year of publishing. I confidently speak

on behalf of all of our staff, advertisers,

readers and supporters when I say that we

are humbled to be able to have the continued

privilege of serving a still-underrepresented

LGBT community.

As we, with the rest of the media industry,

continue to rise to the challenges of publishing

in a digital age, I hope you will continue

to offer your contributions, input, feedback

and support — be it by penning contributions

to the newspaper, continuing your loyal

readership or by taking advantage of the print

and online advertising opportunities that keep

qnotes free and available to as wide an audience

as possible.

With your continued support, we’ll be

here, as we always have, chronicling the

history and times of our LGBT community,

saving it for future generations and providing

you with the news and thought to keep our

community strong and engaged. : :

on being a

gay parent

by Brett Webb-Mitchell

qnotes contributor

Hope in faiths

My “Religions and the World” class at

North Carolina Central University (NCCU) — an

historically black/college university (HBCU) —

has drawn to another close at semester’s end.

Like the previous semesters that I’ve taught the

class, I am the richer in terms of life experiences

and a deeper understanding of many of

the world’s faiths and philosophies. Much of this

learning does not take place solely through the

book we read together as a class or through

the various clips of music, rituals and prayers

found on other computer links, generated in

other parts of the world, those that assist in

learning the key points of the religions of the

world. What makes this class more than your

average, normal, usual campus class is the field

trips we make to the various temples, retreat

centers, synagogues, churches and mosques in

the area. It is the one-on-one meetings and discussions

between the religious leaders and representatives

of the major world faiths with the

students that has made all the difference. For

a few hours, the students immerse themselves

into the ritual practices, prayers, language and

music that may seem, at first, alien, but after a

while it all grows upon one’s very being: heart,

mind and body.

Unlike other years, this year I asked more

the various religious leaders and faith representatives

about the place and presence of LGBTQ

people in their respective faith communities. I

was greatly heartened by the response. At Sri

Venkateswara Hindu Temple in Cary, N.C., one

of the religious leaders said that there would

never be an objection of an LGBTQ person

coming to worship and pray to one of the gods.

At the Zen Buddhist Retreat Center in Chapel

Hill, N.C., LGBTQ people are welcome to come

and contemplate and participate in the life of

the community, with no sense of discrimination.

At Beth El Synagogue in Durham, N.C.,

the religious educator for this Conservative

Jewish community said there would be no

objections to an LGBTQ person joining in and

being a significant part of the community. One

of the associate pastors of First Presbyterian

Church, Durham, N.C., knows that many of the

Presbyteries of the Presbyterian Church (USA)

not only welcome LGBTQ people as members,

but as ordained leaders. And the Imam of Duke

University’s Muslim Life Center said that where

he struggles most with Islam and the teaching

of the Koran is in how women and LGBTQ

people are perceived, acknowledging that this

must change.

In other words, among all the world’s faiths,

represented in the Research Triangle of North

Carolina, there is a new great openness to

LGBTQ individuals, couples, families and allies.

While many of these religious communities and

their respective leaders would have balked

at welcoming LGBTQ people only a few years

ago, a new breeze — or dare I call it Spirit — is

blowing in the hearts, minds and bodies of these

gatherings of the faithful. There is, indeed, hope

in the faiths of the world. : :

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ACTing UP? Not so much in Charlotte

From the editor:

Launched in 1987 in New York City, the direct

action group ACT UP was at the forefront

of HIV/AIDS and LGBT awareness in the late

1980s and early 1990s. Demonstrators and

picketers took to the streets to demand federal,

state and local government action to end

the burgeoning AIDS epidemic ravaging the

gay community, as ACT UP’s organizing model

spread across the nation and globe. The

activists forced their agenda into the spotlight,

demanding that their lives and stories be told

and represented fairly and equally. “Silence =

Death” and an inverted pink triangle became

their ubiquitous calls to action.

In Charlotte, such efforts were met with

an astounding thud, according to one local

who’s been kind enough to share what he

remembers about Charlotte’s short-lived ACT

UP chapter.

“Charlotte’s gay community was not an

activist community then and it is not one to

this day,” says the local, who has asked us not

to use his name publicly.

Read the local’s commentary below.

— Matt Comer

In the late ’80s early ’90s, an effort was

undertaken in Charlotte to form a chapter of

ACT UP, an activist organization bringing the

AIDS crisis to the attention of the public and

its elected officials. At the time, very little

encouragement was being received to find

a cure and promote prevention measures.

Part of the problem sat in the White

House. President Ronald Reagan

appeared to be doing everything in

his power to discredit the need for

any more effort on the AIDS front

because, to him, the epidemic was

a gay disease. And, that perception

was another part of the problem.

In Charlotte, the gay disease

concept was compounded. Metrolina

AIDS Project (MAP) was founded

by gay men to address the needs of

those in our community infected with

and affected by HIV/AIDS. And a large

amount of MAP’s funding also came

from the gay community. Therefore, the perception

of AIDS as a gay disease was doubly

reinforced.

When the idea of an ACT UP chapter was

first discussed, the need seemed obvious and

there was never any doubt that it would be

supported. The criteria for starting a chapter

was simple — just do it. There was no

national organization nor rigid guidelines as

to how the whole process was supposed to

work. ACT UP existed solely to bring attention

to the AIDS epidemic in an “in your face” style

so the message could not be ignored. It didn’t

take money; it took organizing.

The information about the chapter’s formation

was covered in a qnotes article and the

community’s response was underwhelming to

say the least. Three or four people contacted

the organizer and two of those were from

out of town. Hardly enough to present a

formidable demonstration. Other efforts were

made to garner more support and increase

the numbers. Nothing worked and the ACT UP

idea was eventually dropped.

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Looking back on the ACT UP failure, it

seems clear that the problem lay squarely

in the lap of the gay community. At the time,

Charlotte was still a rather closeted place. A

large number of gays and lesbians were very

supportive of our organizations — financially

— but only as long as they could remain in

the background and be anonymous. ACT UP

was not asking for their money and it was

certainly not about being anonymous, so it

was impossible for many to support it had they

wanted to.

Charlotte’s gay community was not an activist

community then and it is not one to this

day. While a lot of closet doors have swung

open over the years, it isn’t often that you’ll

find a large group of us protesting or demonstrating

— whatever the issue might be. That

doesn’t mean the community is complacent;

we tend to give our support to state and

national groups that will do our fighting for us.

And, that is not a bad thing. That just doesn’t

bode well for forming a local activist organization

such as ACT UP. : :

Do you agree that Charlotte lacks a strong spirit or

history of direct action and grassroots activism that

can support organizations similar to ACT UP?

See the options and vote: goqnotes.com/to/qpoll

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Charlotte

Community bazaar slated

CHARLOTTE — An LGBT community

bazaar will be held on May 18, 8 a.m.-12

p.m., at the LGBT Center of Charlotte, 2508 N.

Davidson St.

This event occurs on the third Saturday

of each month from April through October.

Businesses, organizations and individuals

can sell new or slightly used goods.

Parking lot space is $15. Add $5 for

a table and two chairs. Indoor space is

$30 and includes a table and two chairs.

Electricity hookup is $25. Tent rental is $25.

Space is limited.

info: gaycharlotte.com.

— L.M.

It’s homecoming time at TOY

CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth (TOY)

will hold its signature annual fundraiser and

awareness gala, Homecoming, on June 1,

6:30 p.m., at Extravaganza Depot, 1610 N.

Tryon St.

Keynote speaker will be Krista Tillman,

with Loan Tran also addressing the audience

as the youth representative. Tillman

has served as chair for Straight Allies

Charlotte, MeckEd and Charlotte Center

City Partners. Tran is beginning his education

at Washington State University on a full

scholarship.

Attendees can enjoy cocktails, silent

auction, dining and dancing. Cocktail chic

attire is recommended.

Money raised through the gala goes to

provide daily safe space, support groups,

one-on-one counseling and social and community

service activities for LGBTQ youth in

the Charlotte region.

Tickets are $100.

tickets/info: timeoutyouth.org.

— L.M.

Eastern

Ally honored by PFLAG

ROCKY MOUNT — Parents, Families

and Friends of Lesbians and Gays Rocky

Mount recently awarded its first Straight

for Equality Award to Al LaRose, who is a

longtime member of the local organization.

The award will be presented annually

by the chapter to someone in the area who

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Duke to offer trans student

health insurance coverage

DURHAM — Duke University has

announced it will begin offering student

health insurance coverage for gender

confirmation surgery. The university joins

a handful of other institutions offering

similar coverage, though the University of

North Carolina System currently does not.

The new plan signed by Duke will

include up to $50,000 to cover gender

confirmation surgery, according to The

Duke Chronicle. The school’s insurance

vendor is Blue Cross Blue Shield of North

Carolina. Coverage will begin this fall.

“The addition of sexual reassignment

surgery with a $50,000 cap makes Duke’s

student health care plan one of the most, if

not the most, transgender-inclusive plans in

the country,” Sunny Frothingham told The

Chronicle. Frothingham is the incoming outreach

chair of Blue Devils United, a campus

LGBT undergraduate advocacy group. “This

is a huge step forward for Duke.”

Blue Devils United President Jacob

Tobia said Duke’s decision will help

recruit students.

Photo Credit:

Kobetsai via Flickr. Licensed under Creative Commons

“This is really important symbolically for the Duke community,” said Tobia. “I hope that this will

help us remain really competitive as an institution when recruiting students, because I know that

in the past we have had transgendered students that have been extremely successful at Duke,

including merit scholars.”

The University of North Carolina-Chapel Hill’s Daily Tar Heel reports that campus officials at

the flagship state university have considered similar coverage in the past. It won’t be available

next year, but campus officials say they will advocate for changes in the future.

— M.C.

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has supported LGBT equality, according to the

Rocky Mount Telegram.

LaRose has been active in the chapter’s

educational programs and fundraising efforts.

He has also helped with the group’s advocacy

efforts. LaRose serves as a member of the local

PFLAG chapter’s board of directors, where

he volunteers as board secretary and is

responsible for providing resource materials

for the chapter’s monthly meetings.

“Al has been a key player in our mission

of support, education and advocacy,” chapter

President Susan Ayers told the Telegram.

“He’s a strong, straight voice for equality.”

LaRose is Professor Emeritus at N.C.

Wesleyan College and served as director of

the school’s library from 1989 until he retired

in 1997.

— L.M.

Triad

TPMC announces concert

GREENSBORO — Triad Pride Men’s

Chorus will hold its “Big Gay Sing!” concert

on June 8, 8 p.m., at Greensboro Day School,

Sloan Theatre, 5401 Lawndale Dr., and on

June 15, 8 p.m., at the University of North

Carolina School of the Arts, Watson Hall, 1533

S. Main St.

Featured will be songs like “Single

Ladies,” “Like a Prayer,” “Born This Way,”

“Dancing Queen,” “Fireworks” and more. The

evening’s fare includes a music extravaganza,

dancing and audience participation.

Tickets are $15/advance, $20/door. For

groups who purchase nine seats get the 10th

one free.

tickets/info: triadpridemenschorus.org.

336-589-6267.

— L.M.

Triangle

Youth group’s awards banquet nears

DURHAM — iNSIDEoUT will hold its

Seventh Annual Awards Banquet & Gaiety on

May 18, 5-7 p.m., at Francesca’s Dessert Cafe,

706 9th St.

iNSIDEoUT will honor youth, adults and

organizations who have taken outstanding

measures to support LGBTQ and allied youth.

Suggested donation is $3/youth and $30/

adult. Larger contributions are being accepted

in $30, $60 and $90 amounts or whatever

one wishes to donate.

For more information or to reserve a spot,

call 919-923-7884 or email insideoutamy@

gmail.com.

Checks made out to iNSIDEoUT, 1303

Clarendon St., Apt. B, Durham, NC 27705.

In other news, the group is accepting

youth board applicants for 2013-2014.

Application is available online.

info: insideout180.org.

— L.M.

ENC receives award

RALEIGH — Statewide LGBT education

and advocacy group Equality North Carolina

was among five organizations and individuals

honored on May 9 at the Carolina Club at

the Watts Hill Alumni Center at the University

of North Carolina at Chapel Hill by the North

Carolina Justice Center at its Defenders of

Justice Awards.

Equality North Carolina was honored for

its policy research and advocacy efforts during

the anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment

campaign in 2012.

The North Carolina Justice Center said

the group stood “tall and strong in the face of

a tragic display of bigotry to build a statewide

advocacy movement, bringing together

people of diverse backgrounds and beliefs to

stand up for the rights of LGBT people.”

The event will honor North Carolina

Insurance Commissioner Wayne Goodwin,

Phil Lehman from the North Carolina Attorney

General’s office, the Mortgage Foreclosure

Unit of Legal AIDS of NC and the Philip

Randolph Institute.

info: ncjustice.org.

— M.C.

CMF raises funds

RALEIGH — Crape Myrtle Fest (CMF)

recently received $27,650 in fundraising at its

annual host party on April 6 at the home of

Jason and Amy Thurston.

Of the money raised, $1,800 went to

expenses.

CMF says that it’s not too late to join them

as a host or benefactor. They hope to raise

$100,000 this year. A greater percentage of

funds raised go to local organizations. So far

they have raised $60,000.

CMF, one of the oldest non-profit organizations

in the nation dedicated to gay men’s

health, specifically HIV and AIDS, has grown

to support other endeavors as well for the

benefit of LGBT organizations.

A grant process enables recipients the

ability to utilize the funds raised to support

their efforts. Their application season is open

and any HIV/AIDS/LGBT group can apply.

Sponsorships and pledges are gratefully

accepted. For those who wish, a recurring

payment plan is available for as little as $12.50

per month.

info: crapemyrtlefest.org.

— L.M.

Magazine to feature LGBT groups

RALEIGH — Shawn Long, a member of

the Triangle Families Yahoo group, reported

that Carolina Parent magazine is planning

to include their group, as well as the associated

Triangle LGBT Parents/Wannabe

Parents Meetup in their upcoming annual

resource guide.

The publication is slated to be released at

the end of May.

Long said that the publishers told him, “We’ll

be sure to include them in our Family Support

section of our guide which has been renamed

‘Carolina Parent GPS — Go. Play. See.’”

— L.M.

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National

NBA player comes out

NEW YORK CITY — NBA veteran center

Jason Collins has become the first active

male professional athlete in the major four

American sports leagues to come out as gay.

Collins wrote a first-person account

posted April 29 on Sports Illustrated’s website.

The 34-year-old Collins has played for six

NBA teams in 12 seasons. He finished this

past season with the Washington Wizards

and is now a free agent. He says he wants to

continue playing.

Collins writes: “I’m a 34-year-old NBA

center. I’m black. And I’m gay. I didn’t set out

to be the first openly gay athlete playing in a

major American team sport. But since I am, I’m

happy to start the conversation. I wish I wasn’t

the kid in the classroom raising his hand and

saying, ‘I’m different.’ If I had my way, someone

else would have already done this. Nobody has,

which is why I’m raising my hand.”

Collins said he quietly made a statement

for gay rights even while keeping his sexual

orientation a secret. He wore No. 98 with the

Celtics and Wizards — 1998 was the year that

Matthew Shepard, a gay college student in

Wyoming, was killed and the Trevor Project, a

suicide prevention organization, was founded.

His twin brother, Jarron, was also a longtime

NBA center. Jason said he came out to

his brother last summer.

“He’s my brother, he’s a great guy, and

I want him to be happy. I’ll love him and I’ll

support him and, if necessary, I’ll protect

him,” Jarron wrote, in his own Sports

Illustrated essay.

The White House on April 29 joined the

chorus of praise by commending Collins for

becoming the first active male player in the

four major American professional sports to

come out as gay.

— LGBTQ Nation

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Rhode Island approves marriage

PROVIDENCE, R.I. — Gov. Lincoln Chafee

signed Rhode Island’s marriage equality bill

into law on May 2. The state is the tenth to approve

recognition of same-sex marriages.

Hundreds of people who had gathered for

Chafee’s signing ceremony broke out singing

“Chapel of Love.”

“Now, at long last, you are free to marry

the person that you love,” Chafee said.

In Charlotte, local LGBT community leaders

also reacted positively to the news.

“I am extremely excited about the progress

that the country is making in terms of equality

for all of her citizens,” Bishop Tonyia Rawls

of Unity Fellowship Church Charlotte and the

Freedom Center for Social Justice said in a

statement. “I am also grateful for those states

that are now receiving marriage benefits and

hold hope for my own North Carolina as it

relates to our embrace of equality for all.”

Scott Coleman, chair of the LGBT

Community Center of Charlotte Board of

Trustees, also praised the move.

“The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte

is excited that Rhode Island has become

the tenth state to enact marriage equality

into law,” said Coleman. “This is yet another

step towards full equal rights for all LGBT

Americans. This also demonstrates that if we

unite together, there is nothing that our community

cannot accomplish!”

Rhode Island joins its neighbors

Massachusetts and Connecticut. Other states

that recognize same-sex marriage are Iowa,

Maine, Maryland, New Hampshire, New

York, Vermont and Washington, as well as the

District of Columbia.

North Carolina voters passed an anti-

LGBT state constitutional amendment banning

same-sex marriages last year. Advocates in

Raleigh had planned on marking one year of

the discriminatory amendment on May 8. Log

on to goqnotes.com for our extended feature

marking the anniversary.

— M.C.

Monthly Social and Dinner Combined with Presenter and Sponsor:

The Humane Society of Charlotte

Date: Tuesday, May 14

Time: Cocktails begin 6:00 pm/Dinner begins 7:00 pm

Place: Bar at 316, 316 Rensselear (near South Blvd.)

Admission: Free. Dinner (for purchase) by Roaming Fork!

Charlotte Business Guild Volunteer Event:

Saturday, May 18, 11:00 am-1:00 pm

Volunteer to take care of pet residents

Humane Society, 2700 Toomey Ave.

RSVP to CBG required by Monday, May 13 at 704-565-5075

or businessguild@yahoo.com

www.charlottebusinessguild.org

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Garden Party

Spring showers bring out the summer sun fun

This spring has been a soaker. But, it will soon fade away. As the summer sun breaks in on

Carolina, there will be plenty of time to bare it all in this season’s hottest and most popular

swimwear brands. Whether you’re planning to head out to the pool or the lakeside, check

out these pieces — with some hot summertime skivvies thrown in for good measure.

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Models: Bobby Kerschner, James Reeves, Aaron Selberg.

Location: Provided courtesy The Van Landingham Estate.

Swimwear and underwear: Provided courtesy White Rabbit.

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5 Junk Underjeans Flash underwear briefs, $30.

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Flip-Flop FAQ

It’s easy to understand why we all love flip-flops: They’re cute

and comfy, keep your feet cool in warm weather and are great

for showing off that fab pedicure you just got. But, no matter how

much you adore your flip-flops, they shouldn’t be all-occasion footwear.

Sometimes, they can lead to sore feet or even severe injury.

“Flip-flops are hugely popular, but it’s important to remember

they’re not appropriate for everyday wear or for all occasions,”

says Dr. Matthew Garoufalis, a podiatrist and president of the

American Podiatric Medical Association. “Every spring and summer,

podiatric offices see an influx of patients with injuries and

ailments directly related to wearing flip-flops at the wrong time

or wearing the wrong flip-flops altogether.”

The secret to safely enjoying flip-flops through summer is twofold,

Garoufalis says. Read his tips below.

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How to choose...

Some styles of flip-flops may cause blistering and pain, and increase your risk of injury in

certain situations. It is possible to find a better flip-flop. The APMA offers some tips:

• Look for high-quality, soft leather, which will minimize the risk of blisters and other skin irritations.

Vinyl or rubber styles are more likely to rub your foot the wrong way. Check out the APMA

website for footwear products that have earned the organization’s Seal of Acceptance. The seal

indicates that a team of APMA podiatrists have evaluated the product to ensure it promotes

normal foot function and health.

• Choose a flip-flop with soles that bend at the ball of the foot. If you can bend the sole completely

in half or wring it like a wet rag, the sole will not provide proper support.

• The thong part of the flip-flop should fit comfortably, neither too loose nor too snug. Straps that

are too tight could rub and cause blisters. Too-loose straps may result in you losing the shoe at

a critical moment — resulting in injury. Consider a flip-flop with extra padding on the part of the

strap that fits between your toes.

• Your foot should fit perfectly. Your heel should not hang off the back, nor your toes off the front.

• Dispose of worn flip-flips, no matter how much you loved them last year. Old shoes lose their

ability to support and protect your feet, and it’s easy to find a new pair to replace old ones.

• Still not sure which is the right choice? Start with APMA Seal Accepted pairs at APMA.org/Seal.

When to wear...

A shoe style that was once

relegated to beach or poolside is

now considered acceptable in a

— BrandPoint

variety of settings. Deciding whether wearing flip-flops is socially appropriate for the occasion is

up to you, but there are some times when you should not wear them for safety reasons.

• When doing yard work it’s best to wear shoes that cover and protect your entire foot. Flip-flops

don’t offer sufficient support or protection.

• For long walks, opt for a good walking shoe. Even the sturdiest styles of flip-flops don’t offer sufficient

arch support and shock absorption for extended walking.

• Playing sports calls for the right footwear. Choose a shoe that is designed for the sport you’re

playing. Flip-flops don’t offer adequate support or protection for hard play and may come off

your foot at a crucial moment. They might lose you the game at best, and leave you with a

foot or ankle injury at worst.

• Finally, put away your flip-flops when the weather is bad. “This one may seem obvious,”

Garoufalis says, “but some people continue to wear their flip-flops even when the temperature

drops, rain falls, or snow is on the ground. Wearing flip-flops in bad weather puts you at

risk of injury if your foot slips out of a wet shoe or even frostbite if temperatures fall too low.”

Marketplace Charlotte

Plaza Midwood

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May 10-23 . 2013 qnotes 13


Foxx tapped as new

transportation secretary

Foxx could take federal office as soon as July

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

CHARLOTTE — President Barack Obama

announced he was nominating Charlotte

Mayor Anthony Foxx as his next transportation

secretary at a short ceremony at the White

House on April 29. Foxx, who has served as

the Queen City’s mayor since 2009, has already

announced he won’t be seeking a third term. If

confirmed by the Senate, Foxx could take his

Cabinet position as soon as July.

Foxx’s nomination to the post, being

vacated by current U.S. Department of

Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood, is seen

as an effort to increase the number of minorities

serving in Obama’s cabinet. Attorney

General Eric Holder is the only African-

American currently serving among Obama’s

cabinet secretaries.

The announcement comes after Foxx,

who led the Charlotte’s hosting of the 2012

Democratic National Convention, said this

month he would not seek a third term as mayor.

Obama and the White House have praised

Foxx’s experience in local government and

said he has firsthand knowledge of important

transportation issues and has proven his ability

to integrate local, state and federal resources to

build transportation in the Queen City. Officials

have praised Foxx’s support of Charlotte’s

streetcar project, the expansion of the

Charlotte-Douglas International Airport and the

planned extension of the city’s light-rail system.

Foxx was first elected to City Council in

2005, where he served until his election as

mayor in 2009. He was the first Democratic

mayor in over 20 years, the youngest Charlotte

mayor and the city’s second African-American

mayor. He was re-elected as mayor in 2011.

LGBT ally, but silent

on marriage

In his time in office, Foxx has been seen as

supportive of LGBT equality initiatives, though

he has taken a largely silent role in efforts to

advance them.

Foxx was in favor of personnel policy

changes protecting LGBT workers, instituted

by former City Manager Curt Walton in April

2010 and December 2012. The mayor also

supported the addition of domestic partner

benefits to the city’s budget in June 2012.

The mayor also made several historic firsts

with the LGBT community, becoming the first

Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx, left, with

Transportation Secretary Ray LaHood, right,

with President Barack Obama in the

White House on April 29.

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sitting mayor to address LGBT constituents in

a public forum at the LGBT Community Center

of Charlotte in December 2010. He was also

the first mayor

to offer regular

welcome letters

to LGBT events in

the city.

Foxx also

spoke out against

Amendment One,

the state constitutional

amendment

passed by voters

in May 2012 banning

recognition of same-sex marriages.

Yet, Foxx has not been outspoken on other

LGBT issues. He has offered no comment

on where he stands regarding full marriage

equality for same-sex couples. And, he has

‘Foxx seems almost saintly when

compared to his predecessor and

current Gov. Pat McCrory, but

Foxx has not been a true leader on

behalf of his LGBT constituents.’

— Read more in the editorial, ‘Foxx’s lack

of LGBT-inclusive leadership set top-down

example’ at goqnotes.com/22142/

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not been a proponent of other local changes

that would require the vote of City Council,

including the addition of LGBT protections in

the city’s Commercial

Non-Discrimination

Ordinance. The last time

the city council voted on

a stand-alone LGBT measure

was in November

1992, when it defeated an

inclusive public accommodations

measure.

If confirmed, Foxx

would oversee the

U.S. Department of

Transportation’s 60,000 employees and report

directly to President Obama, who announced

his support for full marriage equality last May. : :

— McClatchy Newspapers reporter

Franco Ordoñez contributed

queer insight. pure politics.

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tell trinity

by Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.com

Embracing the masculine side in all of us

Dear Trinity,

I’m a lesbian who considers herself to be very

feminine, by most standards, but I have an

awful time dealing with other lesbians who

act overly butch. I just don’t get it! Why do

so many lesbians need to look and act like

“dykes”?

Disappointed Fem., Harrisburg, PA

Dear Disappointed Fem.,

Everyone has a male and female side. Most

women, gay or straight, who act overly

masculine do it because of upbringing, environment

or, as unbelievable as it may seem,

because it’s natural. But, more importantly,

darling, the trouble you have with masculine

women may be in your acceptance of your

own masculinity. So, when that magic moment

comes and you start allowing yourself to see

“dykes” as part of the great female puzzle

instead of outcasts, then you might suddenly

embrace their masculinity as well as your

own. Now play ball!

To Trinity,

You often write about relationships! What

makes you such the expert? Can you share

some of your relationship history?

Curious, Sydney, Australia

To Curious,

Um, my relationship history? I’ve been on

almost 200 dates and am working on a book

about it. I also read up on dating, as well

as have been writing about it for almost 15

years. So, pumpkin, you should feel comfortable

that I know a lot, maybe even too much.

[Observer’s Notes: Crying uncontrollably,

Trinity stops typing, runs to Ben & Jerry’s and

spends the rest of the day in drama therapy

workshops.] (You can see how I handle this

dilemma with my “wall of dates” when you

take a gander at my cartoon.)

Dearest Trinity,

I broke up with my boyfriend about two years

ago. Since then, I’ve only had a scattering of

intimate experiences. It seems to me that I get

obsessive or neurotic when a lot of time goes

by and I haven’t been intimate. Why is that?

Going Crazy, Des Moines, IA

Dearest Going Crazy,

You, I, everyone must be touched on a regular

basis in order to survive. Did you know that orphanages

in Manchester, England, at the turn

of the century reported an infant death rate

of 86 percent until one nurse started holding

the babies on a regular basis. It was then that

the infant death rate, in one year, dropped to

an incredible 14 percent. You see, when we’re

born the first sense we learn is touch. If we

don’t get touched at birth, we die, as adults

we just die slowly. I honestly think sex addiction

comes from not enough touch. So, when

you’re going crazy from not being touched,

start hugging everyone. Get a huggable pet,

get massaged, but, honey, get touched or

accept your doom! Big, fat, smothering hugs

to you!

Hello Trinity,

I’m falling in love with someone I continually

see in my hometown. But, I’ve only ever

seen him from a distance. We’ve never

talked or even met briefly. Do you believe in

love at first sight?

Love At First Sight, Chicago, IL

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Hello Love At

First Sight,

I believe in love at first

bite, not sight! Seeing is not enough! You

must sample the pudding to make sure it’s

not a plastic knock-off. Falling in love at

first sight is like losing yourself in a dream,

which, sweetie, makes you do crazy things

that you normally never do. Even better

here are:

Trinity’s Cautious Tips

For Falling In Love At

First Sight

1. Hear his voice.

2. Hug her, touch her, and feel her.

3. Spend time with him privately and publicly.

4. Know that when you’re in love your “self”

gets carried away.

5. Ask lots of questions and listen clearly.

6. Search her name on the internet.

7. Don’t lend him your car, credit cards or

internet password.

8. Ask friends to tell you the truth about her.

9. Be adventurous and free, but be smart

about it.

10. Don’t give so much that you can’t bounce

back quickly if it fails. : :

info:With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity

hosted “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio

drama performed globally, and is now minister of

sponsor, WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings,

wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.

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out in the stars

by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor

May 10 - 23

Love is sweeping the nation. Okay, maybe just

into the corners of our own hearts. But, as Venus

advances into flirtatious Gemini and squares romantic

Neptune, you can bet that this new broom

moves the dust around. Create a dust storm.

TAURUS (04.21-05.21) If money has been a

source of stress, be prepared to relax and

enjoy this respite. Careful planning pays off

and even spendthrifts can replenish as they go

along. Queer Bulls not only improve their fiscal

outlook, they can also enjoy their gotten gains

to the fullest. The secret is to share some of it

with some your best pals. Some, not all.

GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Bottle and sell your oozy

charisma before you slip on it. The fates deliver

more charm per square inch than is safe for

pink Twins to release. You attract a bevy of admirers

and are the center of attention. Spread

your influence in new social circles. Meet and

greet but be discreet. Soon there may be too

many exes and not enough whys.

CANCER (06.22-07.23) Easy-going gay Crabs

become more intense, mysterious and prescient

right now. They can divine the most divine

things and become a sought-after seer to

many would-be disciples. Weave your dreamy

charms while you can. Too, too soon the foggy

magic lifts and there you are exposed on the

international stage, warts, farts and all. Will

you catch a draft? Achoo!

LEO (07.24-08.23) Enjoy a plethora of pleasant

pastimes, courtesy of a posse of pals. Proud

Lions can’t escape the crowds. They increase

their popularity and become social directors

to the masses. But, don’t sit at home and wait

for the Pride parade to march to you. Get out

there and become involved in new groups and

organizations. Provide the party favors and

play, play, play.

VIRGO (08.24-09.23) You come off as a savvy,

ambitious corporate player now. Mold your

raw passion into a crafted (and crafty) charm.

Put your rising stock back into the career market

and get aggressive in how you invest your

professional assets. Planning a coup d’etat?

Be sure that you really want all that responsibility.

Sometimes it is better to be the power

behind the throne, queer Virgin.

LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Curiosity might have killed

the cat, but it will provide proud Libras with endless

and remarkable out-of-this-world adventures.

Don’t hang around the usual places waiting

for the usual players to sweep you off your

feet. Venture forth and take a risk. Who knows

who is waiting for you in some far corner of the

world? Let’s hope that it is not some square.

SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Queer Scorps may not

know what hit them romantically during this

time period. You are sexy, sultry, energetic and

ready for ha cha cha. But, how will you choose

your dance partner from all your many admirers?

I would not worry about any false starts

or phony hearts. You are in it for the chase and

if one target misfires, you can easily redirect

your ardor and try, try again.

SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Don’t be surprised

if you see a fresh new face staring at you from

across the breakfast table. The fates enliven

even the most static and boring relationships.

Gay Archers have new vigor in their trot, much

to the pleasure of their partners. And, if you are

on the hoof, this is a great time to run wild. Will

you be captured, hogtied and branded? Oh,

don’t you wish!

CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) If work has been one

long, miserable energy drain, expect a happy

jolt. Pink Caps feel more on their game and

can tackle even the most onerous project with

some great results. Put in the effort now. Of

course, if you can cajole others to actually do

the work for you while you splash around at the

water cooler and push your pencil, even better!

AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Aqueerians are

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inspired to tap into their creativity. Suddenly

you are filled with great ideas, exquisite poetry

and masterpieces. See where your gay muse

leads you. Follow your passion and energy.

And, yet you also can be tempted to waste this

artistic genius on silly, fun pastimes, short-lived

romances and cheap tawdry times. Oh, how to

choose? How to choose?

PISCES (02.20-03.20) Even though you are

tempted to pick up and travel at a moment’s

notice, there is something about your home

that is cozy, comfortable and especially wonderful

now. You become a happy couch potato.

Guppies can enhance their surroundings with

fresh decorations or a few very fresh guests.

And, thankfully, they will spoil you rotten.

ARIES (03.21-04.20) Ask and you shall receive.

Ask for a lot and you receive it in large, creamy

dollops. Proud Rams can charm just about anyone

right now. How much can you handle and

how will this impact your social climb and circle

of powerful friends? Use this gift judiciously

lest one of your amours turns out to be a tell-all.

Unless, of course, you want your tail tattled. : :

© 2013 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC.

All Rights Reserved. Entertainment.

info: Visit TheStarryEye.com for e-greetings,

horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My book

“HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For

Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available

at bookstores and major booksites.

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Plaza Midwood Harris Teeter to reopen May 29

by Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com

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CHARLOTTE — A newly-rebuilt Harris

Teeter in the Plaza Midwood neighborhood

will reopen on May 29, according to Harris

Teeter spokespeople.

“The surrounding neighborhood and corporate

Harris Teeter’s passionate anticipation

for the first Harris Teeter grocery store site

fostered a quest for a truly distinctive design,”

Richard Barlett, partner at Bartlett Hartley &

Mulkey architects PA, said in a release. “The

area’s intense focus on the arts and numerous

Central Avenue corridor art deco styled

building inspired the industrial deco motif.

The building profile is unmistakably unique

with intricate details resulting in a rare yet

delightful venue for a grocery store.”

The Harris Teeter location’s grand

opening will be held on May 29 with a ribbon

cutting at 8 a.m. attended by relatives

of co-founder W.T. Harris. The location at

1704 Central Ave. was the iconic grocery

store’s second-ever location; Harris

moved the store there from a previous

location on Central Ave. originally opened

in 1936.

The new building replaces that building

with a new Art Deco style. Architects

and contractors were able to incorporate

reclaimed wood from the former building. Old

ceiling planks from the demolished building

were also incorporated into the new building’s

market hall and seating area.

The new building also includes several

mosaics by Charlotte-based painter Tom

Thoune. British-born artist Shaun Cassidy created

four sculptural bike racks matching the

building’s Art Deco style.

A Starbucks location will be located in the

new facility. : :

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Qevents

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It’s a ‘heel-acious’

fun-draiser!

May 18 • Charlotte

Queen City Drag Race

The fourth annual Queen City Drag Race heats up

putting the “fun” in “fundraising.” Grab your favorite

heels and head out to race for good causes. More

information on registering your racing teams can be

found online at qcdragrace.com. Hartigan’s, 601 S.

Cedar St. 1-6 p.m.

May 10-12 • Charlotte


Charlotte Fine Art Show


The 5th Annual Charlotte Fine Art Show

returns to the Charlotte Convention Center in

Uptown. qnotes is a sponsor. 501 S. College St.

May 10, 11 a.m.-7 p.m. May 11, 10 a.m.-5 p.m.

May 12, 10 a.m.-5 p.m. $10 admission good for

all three days. 12 and under, free. Tickets in

advance at ticketleap.com. hotworks.org.

May 11 • Charlotte


ENDA protest


A demonstration for the Employment Non-

Discrimination Act will be held. Federal court

house, 401 W. Trade St. 10 a.m.-Noon.

May 11 • Charlotte


Annual Prom Dress Rugby Match


The Charlotte Royals hosts its annual prom

dress match and party. Team hosts the

Charleston Blockade at Tuckaseegee Park.

Memorial Day Weekend

May 23-27 • Charlotte

Speed Street

The 600 Festival and Food Lion Speed

Street, presented by Coca-Cola, return

to Uptown Charlotte, celebrating food,

fun, music and NASCAR. Three days

of revelry from May 23-25 featuring

vendors, appearances by NASCAR racers

and entertainment from Pradigy GT,

Sol Fusion, Jon B, SWV, Randy Houser,

Jamey Johnson, Chelsea Bain, Sister

Hazel and Survivor. 600festival.com.

Snug 600

Join Plaza Midwood’s Snug Harbor for

three nights of live bands and entertainment,

starting Friday and running

through Sunday. Featuring: Mike Strauss

Band, The Catch Fire, The Woggles,

Temperance League, Modern Primitives,

2013 Wolves, Poontanglers and Lazer/

Wulf. $5 each night at the door or

online-only $10 purchase for all three

nights. 18 and up ($5 surcharge for those

under 21). Snug Harbor, 1228 Gordon St.

snugrock.com.

For more information, visit charlotteroyals.org.

May 16 • Charlotte

Adult education

Meeting weekly on Thursdays, the LGBTQ

Education and Discussion Group is a safe

place for the adult community to meet and

discuss important issues about health, relationships

and more. Email facilitator Heather

Vandell at hlvandall@gmail.com or call

704-975-3526 for more info. LGBT Community

Center of Charlotte, 2508 N. Davidson St. 6-8

p.m. 704-333-0144. gaycharlotte.com.

May 18 • Durham

Youth awards

iNSIDEoUT hosts its Seventh Annual Awards

Banquet and Gaiety honoring youth, adults

and organizations who have taken outstanding

measures to support LGBTQ and ally youth.

Francesca’s Dessert Cafe, 706 9th St. 5-7 p.m.

Suggested donations: $3/youth, $30/adults. For

more information, call 919-923-7884 or email

insideoutamy@gmail.com. insideout180.org.

May 22 • Charlotte


The Happening


The Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund hosts its

6th Annual The Happening Luncheon. The

event raises awareness and support for the

Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund. This year’s

grant recipients will be announced. qnotes is

a sponsor. Omni Charlotte, 132 E. Trade St.

fftc.org/page.aspx?pid=953.

June 1 • Charlotte


Homecoming


Time Out Youth hosts its annual gala supporting

their work with LGBTQ youth.

Extravaganza Depot, 1610 N. Tryon St.

6:30-10:30 p.m. $100. 704-344-8335.

timeoutyouth.org/homecoming.

June 2 • Charlotte

Runway Fashion Show

Sophisticated Lyfe Entertainment presents

their third anniversary fashion show celebrating

fashion, diversity and inclusion. Grand

Central, 1000 Central Ave. 6 p.m., media and

VIP reception. 6:45 p.m., doors open. More

information and ticket purchases at sleevents.

ticketleap.com/2013Anniversary.

Submit your event to

our calendar!

You can now submit your event to a special comprehensive

community calendar presented by qnotes, the LGBT Community

Center of Charlotte and Visit Gay Charlotte. Submit your event at

goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/ and get a three-for-one entry. All Charlotte-area events

will appear on each of the three calendars at qnotes (goqnotes.com), the LGBT Center

(gaycharlotte.com) and Visit Gay Charlotte (visitgaycharlotte.com).

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