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Facing Pink: Unexpected<br />
Lessons From My Mother<br />
By Judith Eugene<br />
Pa g e 16<br />
Day One<br />
I am painting a room pink. Pink.<br />
Pink. Anyone who knows me knows<br />
that I am not a “pink person.” <strong>The</strong><br />
rest of my house is terra cotta, moss,<br />
rust, mocha … serious, sensible colors.<br />
Why pink? Pink was the color of<br />
my mother’s apartment. My mother<br />
died six months ago. I am painting<br />
the room where I will display her<br />
things. I am painstakingly recreating<br />
every detail – perhaps in the hope<br />
it will bring her back. Every detail.<br />
Even the pink.<br />
Pink. Silly pink. What in the world<br />
is really pink anyway? Bazooka<br />
bubble gum? Pepto Bismol? Barbie’s<br />
camper? Pink is the color of silly<br />
fantasy things: Pegasus wings, Cupid<br />
cheeks, a heart scribbled by a child.<br />
This color can’t possibly expect me<br />
to take it seriously.<br />
As I open the can and dip in my<br />
brush, I feel an uneasiness. What is it<br />
about this color that bothers me? It is<br />
too carefree. It is too eternally happy.<br />
It has no meaning, no substance. As I<br />
put my brush to the wall I am almost<br />
resentful. I decide I can’t face pink<br />
today and put the brush away.<br />
Day Two<br />
I reopen the can. I have been<br />
thinking about pink all day. It has<br />
me perplexed. I need to figure it out.<br />
Anyway, painting is meditative for<br />
me. I am a good painter because of<br />
my parents. My father was a painter<br />
and taught me how to hold a brush.<br />
My mother was a Montessori teacher<br />
and taught me to be thoughtful and<br />
deliberate in my actions. I love to<br />
work with my hands. I don’t need<br />
blue tape.<br />
My mother had cancer but she<br />
didn’t die from it. One day her heart<br />
just stopped. <strong>The</strong> truth is, the angels<br />
just couldn’t stand being away<br />
from her any longer, and they came<br />
and scooped her up. She had pink<br />
pajamas and pink slippers. She had<br />
a sparkly pink headband that she<br />
wore around her bald head. What<br />
was it about pink that made her so<br />
happy? I needed to know. I needed to<br />
understand. I started to paint.<br />
Day Three<br />
I am starting to figure out pink.<br />
Pink doesn’t care. It doesn’t answer<br />
to anyone. It is what it is. How can it<br />
be so daring? Because it is what it is,<br />
out of love. Pink doesn’t hurt anyone.<br />
Pink smiles and gives, smiles and<br />
gives. Pink purposely ignores politics<br />
and war. Pink doesn’t allow fear<br />
inside its cheerful envelope.<br />
Pink knows there are problems<br />
in the world, but lets someone<br />
else worry about them. Pink<br />
prefers to laugh rather than feel<br />
sorry for itself. Pink shines.<br />
As my hand sweeps rhythmically<br />
across the wall I am<br />
reminded of my mother rocking<br />
me on the porch swing when it<br />
rained. I love rain because of<br />
my mother. I remember how<br />
giving she was. I remember how<br />
As I open the<br />
can and dip in my<br />
brush, I feel an uneasiness.<br />
What is<br />
it about this color<br />
that bothers me?<br />
It is too carefree.<br />
It is too eternally<br />
happy. It has no<br />
meaning, no<br />
substance.<br />
steadfastly positive and cheerful she was, so that my siblings and I would<br />
never worry. Pink is that way. It provides a respite for people who need one,<br />
from whatever they need it from. Pink doesn’t judge. Like the Pied Piper, it<br />
sings, dances and says “Follow me!” to anyone who will listen. Pink is happy.<br />
I am almost finished painting.<br />
Day Four<br />
I’ll miss pink. I’ll miss our conversations, our debates. I’ll miss the way<br />
it challenges me, even though I’d never admit it out loud. I can’t believe I<br />
have a pink room. <strong>The</strong>n again, I can. My mother taught me to keep an open<br />
mind, to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, to remember that you can<br />
learn something from everyone – even pink. Pink has taught me to let go,<br />
laughing.<br />
Pink is the color of happiness, of personal freedom. Pink is the unapologetic<br />
color of love. My mother’s color. And yes, pink is the color of a heart<br />
scribbled by a child … a child whose soul is still open, before learning to censor<br />
Ja n u a r y • Fe b r u a r y 2012<br />
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