Cultivate Life! Magazine #21 - Trans4mind
more than one brain, the second one being in our intestine and the third one in our heart (both of these areas contain a vast number of neural cells that feed the brain with information, which the brain then processes in order to make decisions), we can say that our “gut” feelings, or our “heart” feelings told us to behave in a specific fashion. There is a beautiful quote by Jalal ad-Din Rumi that goes like this: Dr. Kortsch holds a d o c t o r a t e i n psychology and dedicates herself t o i n t e g r a l coaching, clinical h y p n o t h e r a p y, r e l a t i o n s h i p c o a c h i n g , a n d energy techniques. She is an author and professional speaker and broadcasts a live weekly radio show in English that is available on the Internet or for listening on her website, and has appeared in numerous television programs in English and Spanish. She can help you move towards greater personal and relationship success with her integral approach to life and offers training and workshops in the field of selfd e v e l o p m e n t a n d c h o o s i n g responsibility for the self. Visit Advanced Personal Therapy.com and sign up for her cutting-edge newsletter in English or Spanish, or visit her blog for more timely articles. When you do things from your soul, you feel a river moving in you, a joy. Isn't it true that when your soul is allowed to be your guide, you feel joy within? You almost don't even have to know what it is that your soul is guiding you towards, if you allow yourself to be steered by the joy you feel inside when you are moving in that direction. Somehow you know, if you ever listen to any of this type of dialogue with yourself (and I know that many people are not used to doing this, despite the fact that it is in actual fact very simple), when you are not on the right track, because you feel a twisting inside, a lack of joy, you feel that something is not right. We're not talking here about ethics or morals or doing charity work or anything at all in particular ... because the music of your soul - as Rumi refers to it - may let its melodies be felt in any kind of activity or thought or reaction or behaviour. What is important is that there are certain activities or modes of behaviour that make you realize that the river no longer moves within you, the joy no longer flows, just as there are other activities or behaviours that create precisely the opposite feeling. What if there is no joy within, what if you feel as though there is no connection to the moving of that inner river? If you are aware of it, you have already come a long way ... more than many. Even if all you are aware of is the lack of joy. So then you could start listening to your inner voice, your intuition, a small step at a time, exploring, searching, to find out what gives you joy. Perhaps you could try doing the opposite of some of the things that you do but that don't allow you to feel the river within. When you do things from your soul, when you have that connection, when you pay attention to the joy inside, you are on the road to the place you meant to go to when you came here. When you do things from your soul, your life has meaning, you feel a connection in your relationships, and you feel a river moving in you, a joy. ### sdfeirje89erfgfgdotrj54y0uerhiufgnrtt5ue098euffgeroig4509u45hm9dr zh4te4t78webfvnoirgdjret895rjgrdrdgjreuerjrgjgfdodfgjrjgfodirgd9erg9 8rerejrergeoif9h94jte4598rggrgfiofjrrdgprg09e5gengiuggergnrlkfdgtg0 89j4584t5renvgvfiuhg457745983ugegrrgejg5jgjfgdjgrdfngdfghgrdgrhg rgfnfgdhrgdreghregengrffdofgndguighre984554ngrendghe95egnegdfo egrh89e5hgtngfdntg98tgtgngeregr9egrjertrhmthrtrhi05jj345908nbdfnr gn9rgh549t54hgrgndrgege98et5he5onrd0rejtgn9s40940[j[3h8ffbnfzh8 fd9her[rhrretre809retjre809ererer0herrej45jdfgjju0fdzjg8hj8954h5rtntg hjwrt98tg5tj0tre98ur85y4jj0[ggtirjtrjth0j45y45jg0jggttrjr055gtjg098jgren greh5984585t5rgj8gjrgrejgre089jrte05rj0e44tgrergej0rgejergjregje[ger regj[rgj[rj85ejenmgrehg987ergh7t8345bf;gt89459872347gregdfnofjhrtj Cultivate Life! membership your key to The World of Inspiration eLibrary n9458h454ugtuhgtngrehj954tngtgt98554wp9rghmoirtrthrttro98hjtr54n og89grergnfdggfdhgregre9regorgergeogfhrgereooregreghrenrehrgefrr frehr9785th443threjfgrfeoifrehreofdrofroiuhfsrfhorfh9844ohrhoreo9erh rehrforehefwh98eeworewhrfohoerwheeroreorh4984rewhreoreforreopt 5jtrj[grttrjt[80trtgrhg559h54;reggrieb g54h945545ng54r984585t4r3t
Steve’s Blog Steve Wickham Eyes—The Best "Listening" Tools— What Are Your Eyes Doing? Listen to your partner with your eyes as well as your ears. Eyes are the doors to the heart. ~Janvrin & Selleck. It's no surprise really. We all know quite implicitly that our eyes are often the giveaway to what we're really thinking. Like the times we doubt our confidence and can't keep eye contact with the person we feel inferior to or threatened by. Body Language It is incredible how even the slightest difference in facial gestures can promote vastly different visual cues as to how others see us, and indeed, how we even see ourselves. Generally speaking, lots of conversational eye contact is associated with "liking" responses. It implies friendliness and trust. Attention and Listening - Do it for Mirroring But there's more regarding our attention and listening. If we actually look into the eyes of people we communicate with, especially as we listen, we engender success - we "see" what they're saying to us, and they see that we see. This inspires double confidence. And again, we know that we can pretty well accurately determine people's approaches to us via their eye contact with us; we know this when they "rate" our eye contact and then respond to us in their body language, instinctively, positively or negatively, according to how they believe we're responding. We mirror each other. Listening - the Tough "Heart" Skill Listening, I think we all know, is a tough skill to master. This is mostly because we do actually listen with our hearts - we either want to listen or we don't. There's hardly any middle ground. And when we don't want to listen - because we don't have the time, energy or inclination etc - we communicate subliminally in a myriad of ways our lack of interest. And because the 'eyes have it' as far as the heart to listening is concerned, if we want to communicate and we're serious about heeding what our partners are saying to us, we should listen very intently with our eyes. Practicing Eye Contact Fortunately, this can be trained into us manually, and with continual practice we can actually act ourselves into thinking differently, girding our hearts externally. Perhaps we need some prompts to remind ourselves. If we're wise though, we'll see the importance of what our mates are saying to us. Is there possibly a more important person to listen to? ### Steve Wickham is a Registered Safety Practitioner (BSc, FSIA, RSP[Australia]) and a qualified, unordained Christian minister (GradDipBib&Min). His blogs are at: http://epitemnein-epitomic.blogspot.com/ and http://inspiringbetterlife.blogspot.com/ and http://tribework.blogspot.com/. He ministers via Twitter and Facebook - http://www.facebook.com/ steve.j.wickham. Steve welcomes likeminded friends.