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2 qnotes Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012
news & features
5 Politicians refuse to condemn comments
6 News Notes: Regional Briefs
8 MeckPAC, others share endorsements
10 InFocus: Non-Profit Finances
11 InFocus: The arts are alive
12 InFocus: Successes and struggles
Oct. 27-Nov. 9, 2012 Vol 27 No 13
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18 20 Questions
22 Community Resources
22 Jane’s World
23 Q events calendar
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4 On Being a Gay Parent
4 Staff Commentary
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on being a
by Brett Webb-Mitchell
“Gay and Lesbian Parents are Perfectly
Normal,” screamed the headline on salon.
com. In an article by Katie McDonough, the
American Journal of Orthopsychiatry (another
social scientific study) reported that “’highrisk’
children adopted from foster care do just
as well when matched with gay, lesbian, or
straight parents.” To summarize, 60 foster children
were placed with straight parents, and 22
with gay or lesbian parents. At the second year
evaluation, there was little difference between
the cognitive growth and any behavior or social
problems were stabilized (Salon.com, Oct. 19).
According to this report, what was unusual was
that lesbian and gay parents were more prone
to adopt children with “heightened risk factors
— such as premature birth, prenatal substance
abuse or repeat placements in foster care.”
The conclusion of this report Gay and lesbian
parents are “ordinary parents.”
Every time I read a report like this, I simply
smile. The purpose of social science study is
to take something that seems ordinary and
common sense and see how common it is,
or determine why it is ordinary. Both those
who are pro-LGBTQ parenting and those who
are anti-LGBTQ parenting use these articles
to prove a point or establish social policy. If
memory serves me correctly, I believe that
most of the studies seem to come the same
conclusion: LGBTQ parents are pretty “normal,”
just like the “gold standard” of parenting:
straight parents. However, having been raised
by straight parents in middle-class America,
I can point to anecdotal experience, along
with enough Lifetime movies, family system
theory case studies and other social scientific
evidence that makes any impartial observer
question such a rating.
Like many other dads and moms who had
their children while being in a heterosexual
marriage, I would have to say I have been a
better dad out of the closet than when I was in
the closet. There were some family members
along with friends who cautioned me about
being out, warning me about what hardship
I would put upon my children as an out gay
dad in a southern city. Living truthfully means
that I can be a more honest, and thus more
earnest, parent. Throughout my children’s
growing and turbulent teenage years I was
free to ask them about what was going on in
their life because I was living more honestly
and openly. As a former special educator, it
is my hunch that the reason some out-LGBTQ
parents do so well as parents of foster-care
children, or with children living with behavioral
or social disabilities, is because these children
are in the presence of those who have had
their very mettle tested in simply coming and
being an out LGBTQ parent. There is something
about being in the company of those who
have been stigmatized in life, branded as an
“outsider,” marginalized, where others who
have been ostracized feel comfort and a sense
of belonging. I’ve witnessed a unique kind of
love among friends who are gay or lesbian
foster-parents with their children, or parents
who have adopted children with disabilities.
While the possible rants and tirades of a child
who may not know how to love or accept the
love of another person initially would scare
many others, I have watched as a gay dad or
lesbian mom simply waited until the storm was
over, never leaving the side of a child in pain,
always there to apply the medicine of a healing
touch of love. Such is the care and love of
a perfectly normal parent. : :
In our story “Soldier’s remains returned” in our News Notes briefs column, references were
made that were attributed to The Charlotte Observer. Those should have been credited to the
Associated Press. We regret the error.
by Lainey Millen :: email@example.com
Mayfield should say no to hate
After digesting all of the hoopla going on
about Charlotte City Councilperson LaWana
Mayfield attending an event that featured
Louis Farrakhan, I must tell you all that I am
totally outraged! As someone who is Jewish,
I take strong offense to what he stands for.
His rhetoric is totally anti-Semitic and that just
plain doesn’t jibe with me at all.
When I was growing up in a small southern
town, I was on the receiving end of anti-Semitism.
I had classmates who were not allowed to
hang with me because I bore the sign of the star.
And, it did not end there. My family and I were
routinely subjected to anti-Semitic verbal abuse
and social ostracism. In school, I also faced
physical abuse from my teachers and peers.
As a public servant, I can buy that Mayfield
may have to hear her constituent’s concerns,
including those with whom she may disagree.
That’s part of the territory when serving as a
public official. But, she does not have to agree
with them. She has to be open-minded and objective.
I equate the concept to this scenario: I’m
Jewish. I don’t eat pork and shellfish. If I go to
an event and they are served, I simply don’t eat.
I can’t tell you how many barbecues I have been
to where I’ve eaten coleslaw sandwiches.
Now, if Mayfield goes to an event with
someone like Farrakhan, she can listen, but she
does not have to participate, or even worse,
comment. She appeared to have agreed with
him, i.e., “doing G-d’s will.” Well, if someone is a
person who does G-d’s work, then that person
should never espouse hate speech. Farrakhan’s
distasteful views are well documented. How can
a lesbian, black woman who I am sure has undergone
some sort of discrimination during her
life, even begin to align herself with someone
who is so filled with hate How can she, in good
conscious, rally in any way with a person who
has such an anti-Semitic and anti-LGBT record
Hate led to the destruction of over six million
of my people and many others including gay
people at the hands of Adolf Hitler and his crew.
These monstrous atrocities began with mere
[Ed. Note — The commentary below was written by qnotes staff member Lainey Millen who, after learning
of the ongoing controversy regarding hate leader Louis Farrakhan and local officials’ responses to him, felt
a strong conviction to share her personal views on the matter. This newspaper and its staff stand strongly
in support of Millen, a Jewish woman of faith. Millen has had no role in the reporting of any recent news or
in any editorial decision-making processes regarding the controversy surrounding Farrakhan, Charlotte City
Councilmember LaWana Mayfield or other elected officials. — Matt Comer, editor]
words and rhetoric and were ended only by the
further killing of millions more in a world-wide
war. Yet, anti-Semitic hate still lives on. Since
then there has been a rise in neo-Nazi support
and the Ku Klux Klan has even adopted anti-
Jewish views. All this makes my skin crawl.
Personally, I think that just because she’s
invited to an event, Mayfield does not have
to agree to go. Nancy Reagan said it so right:
“Just say no.” Public servants don’t have to go
to everything they are asked to. At some point,
one has to exercise their stand on morality and
ethics. Mayfield, it seems to me, did neither. Her
mere presence at the event surrounding the
weekend in question violated her morals as a
diversity champion. And, on the ethical stance,
the award-winning Human Rights Campaign
and North Carolina Black Pride Movement
councilperson, seems to, as of press time,
still have trouble seeing that her actions and
statements have violated the trust of her LGBT
constituents and community. No one can have it
both ways. Either you stand up for and support
those whom you value or you don’t. Mayfield’s
moral obligation, as a human, to stand against
hate appeared to have come second to her
“duty” as a council representative.
All she had to say after the fact is, “I made
a mistake. I should not have publicly appeared
to have shown any support to Louis Farrakhan.
I realize that in doing so that I set off a firestorm
of negativity around my role as a government
official and a leader within my local
LGBT community. In retrospect, maintaining a
neutral stance would have been better.”
I’ve worked for the government, both on
the national and local levels. In that role, I am
instructed to be non-partisan and non-judgmental,
to listen and provide the information
that is requested of me. Mayfield didn’t immediately
do that. She was asked to distance
herself from hate. She repeatedly refused.
How hard is it to say no to hate By the time
this print edition hits newsstands, I pray that
Mayfield has changed her mind. : :
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Politicians refuse to
LaWana Mayfield, city’s first and only LGBT official,
tweets Farrakhan is ‘doing God’s will’
by Matt Comer :: firstname.lastname@example.org
[Ed. Note — This is a developing story. Some
of the information in this printed report might
have updates. Follow the latest and read
more in-depth reports online at goqnotes.com/
in/hate-watch/ or see a continually-updated
timeline of events for this story at goqnotes.
CHARLOTTE — Some local elected
officials and candidates have come under
scrutiny after attending events headlined by
hate group leader Louis Farrakhan, who has
a long history of anti-Semitic comments and
hostility toward the lesbian, gay, bisexual and
transgender (LGBT) community.
Among them is openly lesbian Charlotte
City Councilmember LaWana Mayfield, who
attended a Farrakhan speech on Oct. 13 and
has been questioned regarding an ambiguous
Twitter message in which she said the hate
leader was “doing God’s will.” At press time,
Mayfield had yet to respond to repeated requests
to condemn Farrakhan’s history of anti-
Semitic and anti-LGBT hate speech. Others,
including Mecklenburg County Commissioner
Chairman Harold Cogdell and Commissioner
Vilma Leake, had similarly refused to condemn
the hate comments.
Farrakhan is the long-time leader of the
Nation of Islam, an African-American Islamic
group described as a “black separatist” hate
group by the Southern Poverty Law Center, or
the SPLC. The Montgomery, Ala.-based SPLC
has long listed the Nation of Islam alongside
two other black separatist groups and hundreds
of other identified hate groups ranging from
neo-Nazis to right-wing anti-gay extremists.
Farrakhan ‘doing God’s will’
Mayfield, who in 2011 became the city’s
first openly gay or lesbian elected official,
attended an Oct. 13 Farrakhan speech at Little
Rock A.M.E. Zion Church. There, Mayfield
sent a message of supposed support for the
hate group leader on Twitter.
“Honorable Minister Louis Farrakhan at
Little Rock AME Zion Church doing God’s will
not his own,” Mayfield wrote with an accompanying
photograph of Farrakhan.
In an interview with qnotes on Oct. 18,
Mayfield said she attended the event as an
invited local elected official.
“Yes, I am aware of his comments. I’m
also aware that as an elected official, I am to
represent all the people in my community not
just some people in the community,” she told
qnotes. “I attended the event as an elected official
because we were invited to the event.”
Mayfield continued, “Me being in attendance
as well as others who were in attendance
wasn’t necessarily a show of support or condemnation.
As an elected [official] being invited,
there are a lot of events that I have attended and
that I will attend as an elected official representing
the entire city and specifically District 3.”
Mayfield declined to say whether she
thought anti-Semitism and anti-LGBT hostility
are “God’s will.” Her messages on Twitter
are common fare, she said.
“The tweet that I sent out was different comments
that he said during the event,” Mayfield
said. “Every event I attend I tweet out what’s going
on, what’s being said. There are some things
that he said that I agree with but that doesn’t
mean that I agree with everything he says.”
Mayfield refused to condemn Farrakhan’s
anti-Semitic and anti-LGBT hostility.
“No, I’m not going to condemn a man for
his past, just like I would not want anyone to try
to condemn me for my past,” she said. “Each
day that we live there is a hope that we are going
to learn and we’re going to grow and we’re
going to do something better than we did the
day before. So, why would I condemn because
that’s not my place. That’s the place of God.”
Pressed further to condemn Farrakhan’s
comments, rather than Farrakhan as a
person, Mayfield still declined. “It’s not my
place to condemn anything that someone
else does, whether it’s in the past or it’s in the
future,” she said. “That’s their pathway and
their road with their religious beliefs in getting
to greater enlightenment.”
In other public messages on Facebook following
the release of qnotes’ original story on
Oct. 19, Mayfield continued to say she would
not condemn Farrakhan’s comments.
Cogdell has said he had “no regrets”
after attending the Farrakhan event. He,
too, declined to condemn Farrakhan’s hate
speech. Leake, who attended both the Oct. 13
speech and Oct. 14 rally, declined to condemn
Farrakhan’s hate speech and said she
attended the events as an individual, not as an
official of Mecklenburg County.
Additionally, at least one other candidate
for the county commission also attended the
Little Rock event. Democrat Kim Ratliff, who
“retweeted” or shared Mayfield’s seemingly
laudatory Twitter message, told qnotes that
her attendance at the event was for a friend
and campaign volunteer.
Had she known about Farrakhan’s hate
speech prior to attending, Ratliff said she still
would have gone.
Other officials have condemned the hate.
Charlotte Mayor Anthony Foxx and
see Farrakhan on 9
qpoll Should local LGBT and friendly politicians condemn
Louis Farrakhan’s anti-LGBT and anti-Semitic comments
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Mancini opens up grant cycle apps
CHARLOTTE — A local LGBT charitable
foundation is seeking applicants for its 2013
grant year that will serve LGBT youth under
the age of 14 or LGBT seniors age 65 or older.
The Wesley Mancini Foundation will
accept grant proposals through Dec. 1. The
small grants will be awarded for programs
operating through 2013. The foundation says
it seeks to increase services for LGBT young
people and the elderly. Each LGBT organization
applying for funds must partner with a
non-LGBT organization and seek to fund a
program within the grant cycle’s theme.
“A possible topic could be partnering with
AARP to focus on LGBT elderly and the lack
of support systems in Assisted Care facilities,
forcing LGBT seniors back into the closet, as an
example,” the foundation said in a release.
Last year’s foundation theme centered
on the Democratic National Convention. Two
projects were funded last year.
Since its inception in 2000, the Wesley
Mancini Foundation has awarded small grants
to nearly two dozen local organizations. In that
time, the group says it has granted more than
$100,000. Groups receiving the most funds
have included the LGBT Community Center,
Actor’s Theater of Charlotte, the Charlotte
Coalition of Social Justice, Time Out Youth and
Wild Acres Initiative.
To apply, federally tax-exempt organizations
or those with tax-qualified sponsors should
contact Bob Scheer at 704-335-5404, ext. 402 or
via email at email@example.com.
New church enters Queen City
CHARLOTTE — ReBirth Church Charlotte
made its home at Metropolitan Community
Church of Charlotte’s campus at 1825 Eastway
Dr. in May 2012 and held it first service there
on July 29.
Schedule for study and prayer is: Worship,
3 p.m., Sunday; Bible study, 6:30 p.m., Tuesday,
at The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte,
820 Hamilton St., Suite B11; and prayer, 7:30
Senior pastors and founders are
Ra’Shawn and Kelvin Barlow-Flournoy. The
church is an LGBT-welcoming congregation,
regardless of race or socioeconomic status.
An online church is available to those
see next page u
Gala, conference shares award winners
RALEIGH — Equality North Carolina Foundation has announced its legislative and
champion awardees for 2012. They, along with keynote speaker Rev. William J. Barber,
who will receive a special award for his efforts against
Amendment One, will be honored at the Nov. 17 Gala
event held at the Empire Room, 203 S. Elm St., on Nov.
17, 6:30-10 p.m.
At press time the Student Leadership Award had not
The Legislative Leadership Award recipient is Rep. Larry Hall (Dist. 29), Durham, N.C. He
is considered to be one of the strongest opponents of Amendment One.
The Bob Page Equality Champions, awarded in five geographic regions are:
Charlotte Region: Chris McLeod and Krista Tillman, Charlotte, N.C. The two teamed
up to become what was known as Straight Allies Charlotte to fight against the anti-gay
Amendment One in May 2012.”
Eastern Region: Sherre Toler, Wilmington, N.C. She stepped down from her position
as director of elections in Harnett County so she could voice a partisan stance against
Triad Region: Rev. Julie Peeples, Greensboro, N.C. Since the amendment’s defeat, she
has worked with youth and adults to rid themselves of toxic faith community in the coming
Triangle Region: Pam Spaulding, Durham, N.C. She was a big editorial contributor in the
fight against Amendment One.
Western Region: Jasmine Beach-Ferrara, Asheville, N.C. She and her allies have been a
strong voice for LGBT equality.
Earlier in the day, from 8:30 a.m.-5:30 p.m., the Equality Conference will take place at the
University of North Carolina at Greensboro’s Elliott Center.
Workshops include, but are not limited to, “Using local grassroots efforts to build safer
learning communities in NC;” “Rural organizing in the south;” “Faith-based reconciliation:
reaching out and reaching in;” and “Overcoming diversity challenges in the LGBT community.”
For rates, registration and information, visit equalitync.org.
6 qnotes Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012
who are unable to attend a service in person.
Chats, private prayer with prayer partners,
worship and sermons are all part of the experience
via streaming live video.
For more information, call 855-216-8800 or
Town announces upcoming season
CHARLOTTE — Blumenthal Performing
Arts Center’s Out on the Town LGBT theater
social club has released its 2012-13-season
There are no dues to join the three-yearold
group. Members receive special discount
offers as well as free mixers before and/or
after selected performances.
The first soirée is “Jekyll & Hyde” on Nov.
8. A post-show party will follow the presentation
and will feature complimentary beer, wine
and hors d’oeuvres at Belk Theater, 130 N.
Tryon St. Members get $15 off the ticket price.
Other shows are: “Sister Act,” Jan. 10,
pre-show party; “Les Miserables,” Feb. 14,
pre-show party; “American Idiot,” March 8,
post-show party; “Wicked,” March 14, preshow
party; “Traces” May 9, post-show party;
“War Horse,” May 30, pre-show party; and
“Catch Me If You Can,” June 7, post-show
party. An additional event is in the planning
stages and will be announced later, as well as
venues for all shows.
For more information, email outonthetown
@ncbpac.org or visit blumenthalarts.org.
Food tops SCBP Sunday
COLUMBIA — South Carolina Black Pride
has announced its 4th Annual Soul Food
Sunday on Nov. 18, 6-9 p.m., at the Harriet
Hancock LGBT Center, 1108 Woodrow St.
Menu for the event includes: fried chicken,
ham, collard greens, macaroni cheese,
sweet potatoes, pasta salad, corn bread,
gumbo, leafy salad, spaghetti, soda, sweet
tea, lemonade, sweet potato pie, apple pie,
red velvet cake, brownies and other goodies.
This family affair is free and open to everyone.
Games, music and camaraderie help to
round out the festivities. A Sweet Potato Pie
Cookout will also take place with a $50 firstprize
gift award to the winner.
For more information, firstname.lastname@example.org.
Anti-hate training available
CHARLOTTE — Campus Pride, a non-profit
that works toward equality and safety for students
on college campuses, has shared that its
“Stop The Hate Training for Trainers” program
is available for campuses nationwide.
Over a period of three days and approximately
18-20 hours of training time, subject
matter experts help each participant become
skilled on 12 different training modules to
implement in combination or as separate
workshops and seminars. Campus officials can
obtain the tools to empower their campus to
create effective prevention and response programs
to ensure community safety with which
students can learn and staffs are able to work.
The program was developed in partnership
with the Anti-Defamation League, Association
of College Unions International, Campus Pride,
The Southern Poverty Law Center, Wilbron
Institute, Matthew Shepard Foundation, the
Center for the Prevention of Hate Violence and
the Higher Education Center for Alcohol and
Other Drug Abuse and Violence Prevention.
For more information on hosting and
pricing, call 888-537-4463, ext 2, email info@
stophate.org or visit stopthehate.org.
DOMA Pt. 1: Court sides with equality
NEW YORK, N.Y. — The U.S. Court of
Appeals for the Second Circuit in New York
ruled Oct. 18 that Section 3 of the so-called
Defense of Marriage Act is unconstitutional
because it discriminates against married
same-sex couples. N.Y. Attorney General
Eric T. Schneiderman (pictured) had filed a
with Vermont and
couples’ right to
under the U.S.
should be more
because it constitutes a sweeping intrusion
into the States’ regulation of marriage.
The Court agreed, holding that DOMA is
subject to intermediate scrutiny because it
discriminates based on sexual orientation,
and that DOMA’s defenders did not establish a
sufficiently strong federal interest in DOMA’s
rejection of same-sex marriages to pass
constitutional muster. The Court observed
that DOMA’s intrusion into the realm of State
regulation was cause “to look upon Section 3
of DOMA with a cold eye.”
DOMA Pt. 2: GOP has flushed $1.5M
WASHINGTON, D.C. — To date, House
Republicans have racked up a $1.5 million bill for
taxpayers in their perverse defense of DOMA.
The news is particularly galling given the facts
that a solid majority of Americans support marriage
equality, and the the GOP’s argument has
been soundly rejected in all six federal courts in
which it has been heard. House Speaker John
Boehner now faces the question of whether to
raise the previously approved $1.5 million cap so
the Republican Congress can waste even more
taxpayer money on this boondoggle.
Human Rights Campaign Legislative
Director Allison Herwitt issued the following
statement in response: “It’s unbelievable that
House Republicans continue to pour taxpayer
dollars into a case aimed solely at discriminating
against Americans. In poll after poll, we
see that voters do not view marriage equality
as a critical issue for lawmakers — likely because
a good majority of the country already
supports it. The American people need job
creation and infrastructure improvements.”
Catholic Church funding anti-gay fight
WASHINGTON, D.C. — A new report from
the Human Rights Campaign finds the Catholic
Church is funneling substantial dollar amounts
into the four states where marriage equality is
on the ballot this fall — Minnesota, Maryland,
Maine and Washington — and in many cases,
parishioners may not even be aware that their
donations are being used to fund discrimination.
The report shows that the Church has
spent at least $1.1 million to deny same-sex
couples the right to marry. A significant
portion of the money — more than $640,000
— comes from the Knights of Columbus, a
fraternal organization within the Church.
In addition, a close ally of the Church, the
anti-gay National Organization for Marriage,
has spent nearly $1.4 million on the four ballot
measures. The anti-LGBT activity of the
Church hierarchy stands in direct opposition
to the values of the majority of Catholics. A
2012 Public Religion Research Institute poll
found that nearly 60 percent of Catholics support
SLDN: Calls up since DADT repeal
WASHINGTON, D.C. — Servicemembers
Legal Defense Network, a free and confidential
organization for LGBT service members and
veterans seeking legal assistance, reports that
calls to its hotline have increased since the
repeal of “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” in September
2011. SLDN leaders say callers are seeking a
range of help that includes discharge upgrade
assistance; advice about serving openly; requests
from veterans discharged under DADT
who wish to serve again; information on issues
related to transgender service; and guidance
for gay and lesbian military families navigating
the unequal system of support and benefits
created by the Defense of Marriage Act.
Reportedly, more than 90,000 LGBT veterans
discharged under DADT and the prior
ban on gay and lesbian service may qualify to
have their discharge paperwork corrected.
In the last year, SLDN has assisted more than
200 veterans seeking to upgrade their discharge
paperwork. Others seeking assistance
may visit sldn.org/vetdischargechanges for
more information and to begin the process.
New law rights historic wrongs
LONDON, U.K. — Men with historic convictions
for consensual gay sex can now apply
to have them expunged thanks to Parliament’s
passage of the Protection of Freedoms Act
2012. Gay rights group Stonewall lobbied hard
for the measure. The new law also includes
amendments that will enable men maliciously
convicted of “loitering with intent” under
Section 4 of the Vagrancy Act 1824 to have
those convictions removed from their criminal
records as well.
Stonewall Chief Executive Ben
Summerskill said, “Thousands of men who’ve
been burdened with homophobic convictions
can clear their names, and Stonewall stands
ready to help them. We never forget that the
equality we enjoy today came too late for
many. By correcting these historic injustices
we can start to bring closure to a very sad
period of this country’s history.”
Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012 qnotes 7
Groups release local,
Three LGBT rights groups have released their endorsements for this fall’s general election
on Nov. 6. The statewide endorsements from Equality North Carolina are listed below, along with
Mecklenbug County Commission endorsements from the Mecklenburg LGBT Political Committee
(MeckPAC). Local endorsements for Guilford County races are also listed. For more information,
visit equalitync.org, meckpac.org or replacementsltdpac.org. It should be noted that MeckPAC’s
endorsements were questioned following recent controversy over Louis Farrakhan (see story on
page 4 or online at goqnotes.com/18174/ and goqnotes.com/in/hate-watch/).
From Equality NC
Walter Dalton (D)
Linda Coleman (D)
Secretary of State
Elaine Marshall (D)
Roy Cooper (D)
June Atkinson (D)
Janet Cowell (D)
Beth Wood (D)
Sam Ervin IV
Court of Appeals
Wanda G. Bryant
Mecklenburg Commission candidate
endorsements from MeckPAC
Jason Bateman, at-large (L)
Pat Cotham, at-large (D)
Trevor Fuller, at-large (D)
Kim Ratliff, at-large (D)
Keith Bradford, Dist. 1 (D)
Vilma Leake, Dist. 2 (D)
George Dunlap, Dist. 3 (D)
Paula Harvey, Dist. 5 (D)
Connie Green-Johnson, Dist. 6 (D)
Republican Dist. 1 candidate Karen
Bentley and Republican Dist. 6
candidate Bill James were given
warnings due to their anti-LGBT
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learn more about early voting and
election day at ncsbe.gov.
Local endorsements from
Replacements, Ltd. PAC.
For more information and
more endorsements, visit
Guilford County Commissioner
Kirk Perkins (D)
Guilford County Commissioner
Paul Gibson (D)
Guilford County Register
Jeff Thigpen (D)
High Point Mayor
Bernita Sims (D)
High Point City Council At-Large
Elijah Lovejoy (D)
High Point City Council At-Large
Rebecca R. (Becky) Smothers (D)
8 qnotes Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012
continued from page 5
Charlotte Councilmembers John Autry and
Claire Fallon each said they did not attend and
condemned Farrakhan’s remarks.
“I will always reject hate speech whether
it’s from the pulpit or in front of a women’s reproductive
health clinic,” Autry said. “We have
no place in our society for such rhetoric.”
“I condemn hate in any form,” said Foxx.
“I did not and would not attend any thing
he spoke at,” said Fallon. “As far as I am concerned
it would be like me sitting with David
Duke or Flip [Benham].”
Councilmember Beth Pickering and County
Commissioner Jennifer Roberts also spoke out
prior to press time. Other officials opted not
to respond to requests for comment by press
time, including County Commissioners Dumont
Clarke, George Dunlap and Jim Pendergraph,
and City Councilmembers Michael Barnes,
Patrick Cannon, Andy Dulin, David Howard,
Patsy Kinsey and Warren Cooksey.
The politicians’ attendance at the
Farrakhan events has prompted at least one
call that several endorsements from a local
LGBT rights group be rescinded.
Republican Wayne Powers, who is running
for an at-large seat on the county commission,
told qnotes that the Mecklenburg LGBT
Political Action Committee, or MeckPAC,
should strip Leake and Ratliff of their support.
“I would call upon MeckPAC to rescind the
endorsement of any candidate or elected official
who expresses or demonstrated support
for Mr. Farrakhan, and that would include Ms.
Mayfield,” Powers said.
Powers said the politicians did seem to
“There’s a difference between attendance
and enthusiastic support,” he said. “LaWana
tweeted and signaled to people who follow
her that she was in enthusiastic support of
Louis Farrakhan as did Kim Ratliff.”
Powers has been an outspoken advocate
of the LGBT community, both during his campaign
and his former tenure as a radio host
with the local news-talk radio station WBT. He
said his positions, including his opposition to
May’s anti-LGBT state constitutional amendment
and his support for domestic partner
benefits for public employees, has cost him
among some conservative voters.
Powers was not endorsed by MeckPAC
in the primary or in the general election.
He previously criticized the group for what
he calls “an overwhelming record of overt
“I stand up and do go on record and it
costs me when I do but I do it anyway,” he
said. “These other people like Kim Ratliff, they
go on record, it costs them nothing and they
don’t mean it because they’ll show up at a
MeckPAC Steering Committee Chair Scott
Bishop addressed concerns over Ratliff’s
appearance at the Farrakhan event and said
MeckPAC “feels confident” in Ratliff and
says she has been supportive of LGBT issues,
including her work on the anti-LGBT constitutional
amendment this year.
“Her willingness to want to reach out to us
when she is elected shows me that this one
event does not sway her opinion,” he said.
While there is no doubt Farrakhan is a hate
leader and his Nation of Islam is a hate group,
many still respect them for the positive ways
they have been able to influence the African-
Bishop Tonyia Rawls, founder and pastor of
the predominately LGBT and African-American
LGBT Unity Fellowship Church of Charlotte, told
qnotes that social justice work across varying
lines of difference is often sensitive. She said it
is important to view Farrakhan in context.
“Many of his positions I have not agreed
with and some of the positions I have supported,
in terms of empowerment of people of
color and even some of the ways he and the
Nation of Islam have made great strides in
fighting HIV and AIDS,” she said.
Farrakhan rose to power in the Nation
of Islam in 1977. He’s been credited with
providing an identity of solidarity within the
African-American community after centuries
of oppression and decades of tumultuous civil
The Southern Poverty Law Center even acknowledges
that racism, where it exists within
black separatist groups like the Nation of Islam,
“is, at least in part, a response to centuries of
white racism.” Still, the SPLC says “it believes
racism must be exposed in all its forms.”
“If a white group espoused similar beliefs
with the colors reversed, few would have
trouble describing it as racist and anti-Semitic,”
the group says on its website. “Although
the racism of a group like the Nation may be
relatively easy to understand, if we seek to
expose white hate groups, we cannot be in the
business of explaining away the black ones.”
Rawls is understanding of the concerns
and stands solidly opposed to hate.
“I stand strongly in support of the Jewish
community and against anti-Semitism and
stand strongly in support of gay, lesbian, bi
and trans and the right for gay couples to
marry,” she said. “I do not support the way
that anybody uses their power and a position
in any way to harm any population.”
Yet, given Farrakhan’s history within the
African-American community, it is hard to
dismiss him entirely.
Leaders like Powers remain unconvinced.
“The greatest hatemongers in the world always
have a positive message,” he said. “They
always talk about God. David Duke talks about
God. David Duke has positive things to say, as
does Louis Farrakhan. Benito Mussolini made
the trains run on time but he was still a fascist.
People cloak themselves in positive things but
the core of who they are and what their real
message is is rotten and putrid and repugnant.”
Powers said he is “shocked and repelled”
that an openly gay elected official and other
LGBT-friendly officials would support Farrakhan.
Rawls said she is confident in Mayfield’s
“I do know LaWana Mayfield is someone
who stands for justice and equality,” she said.
“I know her to be a woman of justice and
equality for her whole career. That’s what she
has fought for and paid high prices for.” : :
[Ed. Note — This writer served a brief term on
the MeckPAC steering committee during his
hiatus from the newspaper this past spring.
He no longer serves on the committee and
had no special knowledge of its general election
endorsements or endorsement process.]
Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012 qnotes 9
Community Non-Profits: Finances
Organizations’ financial data is presented below. Due to different reporting formats, organizations filing Forms 990-EZ, Forms 990 and Forms 990-N are listed separately (for an in-depth explanation of reporting requirements for non-profit organizations,
see our extended coverage online at goqnotes.com/infocus2012). Only one organization does not report to the Internal Revenue Service; its reports are listed under campaign finance. Unless otherwise specified, all figures below are
reported from 2010 Form 990-EZ, Form 990 or Form 990-N for calendar and tax year 2010 (Jan. 1-Dec. 31). Boards of directors chairs, presidents or other volunteer positions are listed for organizations without paid executive directors or CEOs.
Data is presented for groups that declined to participate in our annual Community Assessment Survey but had Forms 990 publicly available; please see story on page 12 for information on the survey.
Organizations filing Form 990-EZ
Organization Expenses Revenue Grants Paid Total Salaries Professional Fees Occupancy, Printing, Other Expenses Top Paid
& Benefits & Independent Rent Postage Officer/Employee
Contractors & Utilities & Shipping (title, salary + benefits,
Gay Men’s Chorus $77,283 $76,470 $ 4,991 a $ 0 $25,780 $13,813 $4,051 $28,648 b John Quillin
of Charlotte (director, volunteer)
LGBT Community $64,821 $52,999 $ 0 $13,405 $ 3,538 $38,298 $1,772 $7,808 John Stotler
Center of Charlotte c (board chair, volunteer)
Current: Scott Coleman
(board chair, volunteer)
Pride Charlotte 2010 d $48,673 $64,289 NA NA NA NA NA NA NA
One Voice Chorus $76,921 $74,486 $11,300 a $ 0 $ 410 $12,127 $389 $52,695 be Chad Mackie
(board president, volunteer)
Current: Liz Fitzgerald
(board president, volunteer)
Organizations filing Form 990-N
See our story on these smaller organizations in our
extended coverage online at goqnotes.com/infocus2012.
Organization Gross receipts not greater than
Charlotte Business Guild j $25,000
Charlotte Pride Band j $25,000
Southern Country Charlotte j $25,000
Campaign finance reports
Organization Expenses Revenue Operating
Equality NC PAC io $71,641 p $55,358 q $21,359.32
Organizations filing Form 990
Organization Expenses Revenue Program Management Fundraising Total Salaries Professional Fees Office Expenses Occupancy Top Paid Officer/Employee
Service & General Expenses f & Benefits & Independent (title, salary + benefits, if applicable)
Expenses f Expenses f Contractors
Campus Pride $ 329,094 $332,364 $323,549 $ 2,258 $ 3,287 $ 0 $ 44,087 $92,077 $ 0 Shane Windmeyer g (exec. dir./president, $39,500)
(Most recent: $55,800 h )
Equality North Carolina i $ 287,703 $287,816 $159,269 $ 72,360 $56,074 $176,526 $ 18,650 $ 6,393 $25,008 Ian Palmquist (exec. dir., $59,718)
Current: Stuart Campbell (exec. dir., not disclosed)
Equality North $ 221,121 $326,245 $155,575 $ 26,650 $38,896 $ 0 $ 2,105 $ 5,770 $ 0 Ian Palmquist i
Carolina Foundation i
Faith in America § $ 171,455 $164,474 $118,574 $ 30,268 $22,613 $ 0 $143,801 $ 8,495 $ 0 Brent Childers (exec. dir., $58,000)
LGBT Center $ 92,365 $105,530 $ 80,716 $ 6,633 $ 5,016 $ 0 $ 36,741 $13,917 $16,541 Glen Medders (board chair, volunteer)
of Raleigh j Current: James Miller (exec. dir., $45,000 k )
Regional AIDS $1,129,112 $958,634 $955,185 $112,661 $61,266 $795,981 $ 14,980 $78,980 l $42,793 Debbie Warren (CEO/president, $66,825)
Interfaith Network (Current: $66,700 m )
South Carolina Equality i $ 92,611 $ 72,453 $ 83,048 $ 9,563 $ 0 $ 43,375 $ 14,771 $ 4,330 $ 1,746 Christine Johnson (exec. dir., $40,000)
Coalition Foundation §
South Carolina $ 10,267 $ 13,190 $ 8,802 $ 1,464 $ 1 $ 0 $ 7,164 $ 173 $ 0 Christine Johnson (exec. dir.)
Equality Coalition §i
Time Out Youth n $ 145,696 $215,169 $106,756 $ 17,156 $21,784 $ 83,359 $ 0 $ 5,657 $ 6,000 Steve Bentley (exec. dir., $45,500)
Current: Rodney Tucker (exec. dir., not disclosed)
a Contribution from organization to another non-profit organization:
Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte to Susan G. Komen Race for the
Cure; One Voice Chorus to Susan G. Komen Race for the Cure
b For breakdowns of “other expenses” see individual Form 990-EZ,
c Filed under legal name, “The Lesbian & Gay Community Center of
d Reported as a fundraising event in LGBT Community Center of
Charlotte Form 990, Schedule G, Part II, Event #1. Expenses as reported:
$2,894, food and beverages; $22,845, entertainment; $22,934,
other direct expenses.
e Includes incorrectly identified professional fees and independent
contractor payment totals of $13,863 for accompanists, $14,000 for
artistic directors and $6,735 for stage managers and technicians.
f Organization expenses can be divided into program services,
management/general (administrative) and fundraising expenses. For
example, an employee’s salary, office expenses or occupancy fees
could be spit 70 percent/20 percent/10 percent between programming,
management and fundraising. For more detailed breakdowns
see individual Form 990, Part IX “Statement of Functional Expenses.”
g Payments to top paid officer/employee recorded as professional
fee to independent contractor.
h Most recent disclosed salary from Form 990 for tax/calendar year
i Both Equality North Carolina and South Carolina Equality operate
various legal entities which share staff, office space and other resources.
Equality North Carolina contracts with the Equality North
Carolina Foundation and the Equality NC Political Action Committee
for their share of staff salaries and other overhead costs based on
a cost-sharing agreement. Total amount of amount of contracted
services reported by Equality North Carolina Foundation is $177,042.
j 2010 Form 990 for tax year July 1, 2010 through June 30, 2011.
k Current salary as self-disclosed by Miller.
l Reported as “Maintenance” under “Other Expenses,” Form 990,
Part IX, Line 24a, Column A.
m Current salary as disclosed by Regional AIDS Interfaith Network.
n 2010 Form 990 for tax year Sept. 1, 2010 through Aug. 31, 2011.
o Compiled from calendar year 2010 campaign finance reports filed
with the North Carolina State Board of Elections.
p Includes disbursements to candidates and/or political committees
and operating expenses.
q Does not include $20,851 cash on-hand at the beginning of 2010.
§ Indicates organization that chose not to participate in this year’s
Community Assessment Survey.
10 qnotes Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012
The arts are alive
Queen City LGBT arts groups thrive
by Matt Comer :: email@example.com
• • •
Read more in-depth reports
on community non-profits, including
a collection of organizations’
wish lists, a story outlining IRS
filing requirements and extended
thoughts and interviews with arts
groups leaders at goqnotes.com/
Charlotte Pride Band Artistic Director M. David Wallace leads the band in a rehearsal in the fellowship
hall of Wedgewood Baptist Church.
CHARLOTTE — If is true that the hills are
always alive with the sound of music, it must
also be true that the City of Charlotte is among
that bountiful hill land. Here, where massive
arts groups like the Charlotte Symphony and
the Blumenthal Performing Arts Center often
get more than their fair share of attention and
funding, smaller arts groups are thriving and
providing LGBT and straight ally community
members the opportunity to be a part of a
harmoniously joyful experience.
For this year’s annual Community
Assessment Survey, qnotes staff decided
early on we wanted to take a special look at
Charlotte’s LGBT choral groups, One Voice
Chorus and the Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte
(GMCC). We also included the city’s still-fairlynew
These groups hold multiple concerts
and other performances each year, so the
outreach they have into both the LGBT and
mainstream communities is gargantuan.
Their budgets, especially those of One Voice
and Gay Men’s Chorus, mirror their outreach
capabilities, rivaling or even dwarfing the
budgets of many other community groups that
some might argue get far more attention.
“We do fly under the radar,” says GMCC
Director John Quillin. “We have a tough time
with the mainstream media in particular.”
Erin Ellenberg, the president of Charlotte
Pride Band, also feels as though queer arts
groups don’t get their due. The band, in
particular, faces its own unique struggle as a
“A lot of people don’t understand what
a concert band is about,” Ellenburg says.
“They know what a marching band is. They
know what a jazz band is, but they don’t really
know what a wind ensemble is and what
we do. I tell people it’s like an orchestra but
with no strings.”
Despite what seems like a lack of mainstream
attention, the community at large, says
the arts groups’ leaders, really do come out to
support the arts.
“Just look at the audiences for both
GMCC and One Voice,” Quillin said, adding
that many other performance and other
arts groups also exist in the city, including
Southern Country Charlotte, the LGBT Center’s
StillOut Photography Club, Queen City Theatre
Company and others.
A tight-knit arts community among both
LGBT and straight allies is important to supporting
arts causes, says Pride Band Artistic
Director M. David Wallace.
All three groups, though, say they want
to grow and find new opportunities. To do so,
will require more support. One Voice Chorus
Artistic Director Gerald Gurss says while
his group’s and other groups’ budgets have
grown, they still face fundraising challenges.
“The costs of doing what we do are rising.
If we want to continue doing what we do we
have to meet the challenge of rising costs,”
Gurss says, cognizant that quality should
never suffer due to budgetary constraints.
“When you are putting out a quality product,
I think people will see that and will want to
invest in something they see as getting a good
return on their money.”
The largest portion of the arts groups’
funds come from concert ticket sales. Other
funding sources include individual and corporate
donors, as well as non-profit grants.
Quillin foresees a day when all of the
arts groups band together to increase their
outreach and, ultimately, their funding. He
envisions group season ticket sales and other
possibilities under the direction of a “Queer
Arts Consortium,” whose mission would be
promotion of LGBT arts in the city.
“The gay and lesbian arts scene here
in Charlotte is probably the richest at least
between D.C. and Atlanta and maybe more so
than Atlanta,” Quillin says “We’ve just got a
lot of stuff going on. We have this opportunity
to form some relationships.”
Supporting each other and working
together, the directors agree, will be key to
their collective success and they hope the
community at large joins with them. : :
[On the cover — Pictured, bottom row left to
right: Mike Swartwood, auto saxophone; Ron
Follas, bassoon; Larry Washington, trumpet;
Mark Taylor, trumpet. Top row, left to right:
Anissa Aguero, clarinet; Emily Cox, French
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Local and regional non-profit groups
share needs, strengths and concerns in
CHARLOTTE — Nearly a dozen local
and regional LGBT non-profit organizations
in Charlotte and across the state are sharing
their concerns and needs in response to
qnotes’ third annual Community Assessment
Survey. The survey is a yearly check-up on
organization strength, financial well-being and
commitment to transparency.
This year’s responses marked a departure
from last year when more than half of the
groups asked to participate in the survey declined.
In 2012, 15 organizations were asked to
participate, with a total of 11 groups opting-in.
The survey also includes a review of each
organization’s year-end tax filings with the
Internal Revenue Service, as well as selfreported
current fiscal year fundraising and
expense data. Information from IRS tax filings
are included in an in-depth chart on page 10.
Several strengths and needs emerged as
clear trends among the groups who participated.
The majority of organizations said they
were strongest in community outreach efforts
and their communication with members and
donors. Half rated themseves strongly on
media relations and community advocacy
and education. Among their needs, 10 of the
11 groups reported needing new members,
donors and revenue streams. A significant
number of the organizations also reported
needing better community education strategies
and better leadership development and
Each of the groups were also given the
opportunity to elaborate on their needs. Their
edited responses are printed below.
LGBT Center of Raleigh
Two major issues:
• Post-Amendment One fallout. How can we
best serve those in the community who
are confused and angry. Not only was
Amendment One a huge financial drain, but
it also left a good number of us in a negative
• Linking state resources. Just like the LGBT
Center in Charlotte, the Center here fields
calls from all over the state. The LGBT Center
of Raleigh and LGBT Community Center of
Charlotte have been brainstorming, but we
need volunteer power to get it off the ground.
LGBT Community Center
We are always in need of impassioned
volunteers for our various committees and
to assist with our programming, events and
Southern Country Charlotte
Membership has been down the last few
years and we have no real strategy to attract
new members or maintain renewals.
• Finalizing and implementing our 3- to 5-year
strategic plan — locally and nationally —
which relates to volunteer management,
funding, staff growth, programming and
Charlotte Business Guild
While the membership’s gender ratio has
been fairly balanced for some time, its racial
diversity has historically been low. For that
reason, racial diversity of membership is on
the forefront of the Business Guild’s current
initiatives. Equally important, the Business
Guild is searching for a new, young group of
members who can breathe new life, energy
and ideas into our organization to maximize
our effectiveness at achieving our mission
which is to: Provide a diverse network of
professional, business and social connections
among lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and
Gay Men’s Chorus
• Broader knowledge regarding what we do
and accomplish in the community.
• To channel the energy and anger left over
from Amendment One into positive, proequality
change in the General Assembly.
Equality NC Foundation
• To channel the energy and anger around
Amendment One into supporting pro-equality
policies on the local and statewide level.
Time Out Youth
• Volunteers to monitor Safe Space (daily
• Emergency Housing Host Family Volunteers
(in seven county region)
• LGBT friendly teachers, counselors and
adminsitration available for referal program
• Adminsitrative office support (program
evaluation, data entry)
Regional AIDS Interfaith
• Preparing for upcoming changes in HIV
service reimbursement such as Affordable
• Sustaining critical services the community
relies on, such as case management
• Preparing for 2013 AIDS Walk: need volunteer
• Preparing for Twenty-twelve, RAIN’s 20th
Anniversary: need sponsors and ticket sales.
— compiled by qnotes staff
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14 qnotes Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012
by Miss Della
Passing the crown down
Well, kids, you know the drill — we’ve
been doing this for a long time and we’re here
to chat about pageants and the queens who
win them. And, those who almost win them,
too, I guess. I hope this finds everyone doing
well. We’ve got two exciting national contests
to discuss and all manner of tidbits, too.
Our promo this time is of a dear friend of
mine and also an old school diva who is still
relevant to this day — Miss Dana Douglas, a
former Miss Continental and the current Miss
Continental Elite. Sweet as the peaches in
Valdosta, Ga., where she’s from, but makes her
home now in Gainesville, Fla., Dana, of course,
competed as Miss Carolina Continental, which
makes her win even more special to me.
A huge Carolina
congrats goes out
to Dorae Sierra
Saunders of Columbia,
S.C., who just won
Miss Gay U.S.ofA. at
Large in sunny Florida.
The girl’s dream finally
came true and I, for
one, am so happy for
her! I knew she was
ready when I judged
her at Miss Scorpio At
Large and we chatted
afterwards. (I told
you your 40s would
be good to you, sis!)
Dorae won Evening
Gown and Interview.
(who won Talent),
Maria Garrison, Kayla
Krawford and Chanel
finalists, in order of placement, included
Jocelyn D. Summers, Beverly Hills, Valerie
Paris, our Miss NC Malaysia Black, Beth
Amphetamine, Ivana Black and Rochelle
D’Leight. Congrats also to Hickory’s Nancy
Newton who celebrated her 20th anniversary
as Miss U.S.ofA. at Large!
As I write this, Miss Gay America has just
taken place and Kirby Kolby has relinquished
her title after a wonderful year of realizing her
dream and having overseen 23 preliminaries.
The coveted Top 10 included Patti Lovelace,
our very own Miss NC Ariel Knight-Addams,
Roxy Brooks, Araya Sparxx, Chantel Reshae,
4th runner-up Deva Station (winner of one
preliminary award), 3rd RU Kofi (winner of two
preliminary awards), 2nd RU Jessica Jade
(winner of three preliminary awards), former
Miss NC Blair Williams was 1st RU (winner of
two preliminary awards) and the winner was
Sally Sparkles (whom I’m gonna nickname the
Texas Tea) who won two preliminary awards,
as well. I met Sally
when she competed
in Charlotte a couple
years ago at a regional
held at Scorpio. I hope
this year holds great
things for her. It’s like
I told Big Mama B in a
text that very night —
she’s from Texas and
we’ll make sure to love
Speaking of Texas,
Layla LaRue, our
Miss Classic U.S.ofA.,
recently held her Miss
Texas FFI at the Rose
Room in Dallas and
won! Her RUs included
Paige Van Wales.
Alexis Rayne was
Kourtney won Most
Beautiful. Best Talent went to Chanel and
Kennedy won Creative Presentation and
Fashion Wear (in this case, Gown!). Miss TX
FFI At Large will be on Nov. 4 in San Antonio.
Dana Douglas, Miss Continental Elite
Photo Credit: VVP, © G.L. Honaker
see Drag Rag on 21
Oct. 27-Nov. 9 . 2012 qnotes 15
out in the stars
by Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributor
October 27 - November 9
Cast your ballots for an exciting November as
a jumble of planets march through Scorpio,
Sagittarius and Capricorn. Will your words
move the masses or trip you up Are your
dreams destined to become reality or just a
mirage Anything is possible, so prepare for
SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) There is tremendous
energy swirling around you this November. You
are catapulted into center stage and are the unavoidable
life of the party. Begin new projects
immediately and get out there and meet new,
fabulous folks. Gay Scorps also need a complete
makeover. Yes, it is possible to improve on
perfection. Hint: Throw out those qiana shirts.
SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) If your intuition is
working overtime. Go with your inner voice
and see how far it takes you. You may be happily
surprised where it all leads. Gay Archers
are much more effective than usual in any
charitable enterprise, so be sure to give your
all for any worthy charitable cause. Become a
well-endowed benefactor and see who tries to
tap into your bank.
CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps are belles
of the ball in November. Surround yourself with
compadres and you’ll be guaranteed to have a
full dance card for the holidays. Schmooze and
socialize while you have the urge. Too, too soon
you will be awash in all sorts of spiritual heady
stuff. You’ll be on a mission and pink Caps are
hell on wheels when it comes to personal goals.
Or, they should be!
AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Aqueerians are ready
to polish the nameplates on their offices and why
not You’ve worked hard to get where you are
and now you should be able to enjoy the benefits.
Before you know it, friends are in on the action
and want to celebrate with you. Call the tune and
watch the group dynamic dance along. What’s on
your top 10 playlist Uh, klezmer
PISCES (02.20-03.20) Guppies undergo a change
of philosophy this November which can cause
you to reassess the underpinnings of your life.
Scan the playing field and be very observant
of the details. Later you’ll put all this mental
energy to good use in your career. Don’t be shy.
Get in your tank and plow through the professional
battlelines. Plant your flag in the ground
— not in your foot.
ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams are elected
to change the world this November. So, get your
stump speech ready, resolve to change some
hearts and minds and go forth. Try to gain a little
personal insight along the way as you set off to
scratch a travel itch and explore exotic, interesting
locales. The light of self knowledge can illuminate
even the darkest corners. Well, sometimes.
TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls find themselves
yearning for the perfect relationship. So,
take a hard look at where you are and improve
or reassess your current situation. If you haven’t
quite found nirvana yet, maybe the problem is
with you. How do you approach relationships
Do you need more excitement in a humdrum domestic
situation Juice things up, you squeezable
GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Go with the job flow, pink
Twin. This is no time to slack off and hope
others will fill in the gap. Exercise is also part
of the picture. Get that bod in shape for the
holidays. Your efforts can bring about excellent
results. As your self image improves, start to
concentrate more on partnerships. Try a little
mood music and the old red light bulb. Okay,
make it pink.
CANCER (06.22-07.23) November begins with
a bang and a good time, but as the month
progresses you must turn your attention to the
job. But, be creative and make the most of this
early oomph. Simple, creative pastimes have
potential monumental impact. Who knows, the
simple doodle you scribble today could lead
to a great masterpiece. Or, at least, something
worthy of hanging over the couch.
LEO (07.24-08.23) Proud Lions must deal with
family issues now. So, what if the chickens
come home to roost Haul out the frying pan
and serve fried chicken! Don’t avoid discussions
with certain relatives. Why should you
Ultimately, you need to do what you have to do
— with or without them. It may just be that as
you celebrate your successes, they might bring
VIRGO (08.24-09.23) The lines of communication
are humming. Queer Virgos should shout it
from the tops of the mountains and watch the
big reaction. Your words have impact and you
also have the innate diplomacy to pull off any
project you set your sights on to tackle. Later in
November, you’ll be content to schlep around
the house in your all togethers. So, start to get it
LIBRA (09.24-10.23) All that glitters is not gold,
or so you realize this November. It is time to
review your value system to see if it is in sync
with where you are going in life. Yes, money is
important, but money alone cannot buy you true
happiness (cheap thrills perhaps, but not true
happiness). It is a sad, proud Libra who only has
cold cash to cling to in the lonely winter nights.
Heat it up. : :
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by Trinity :: qnotes contributor
Men: mineral, vegetable or just plain horny
Why are men always so horny and
Horny To Know, Detroit, MI
Dear Horny To Know,
Men have a built-in,
primitive instinct to
spread their seed.
It’s natural. Whether
they like it or not,
they get horny and
end up doing crazy
things to fulfill that
instinct, which includes
And, honey, I’m not
sure if they’re aware
enough to know
after sex as much
as they do!
Not too long ago you expressed an appreciation
for the whole circuit party phenomenon.
Are you advocating drugs and sex
And, don’t you think circuit parties are
ruining gay culture
Circuit Wonders, LA, CA
Hey Circuit Wonders,
Circuit parties and drugs are not part of my
experience. So, while I pray we culturally
move away from drugs, I am aware they are
part of the party. I will admit that when I did
go to Montreal’s Black & Blue and Miami’s
Winter Party, the eye candy
was unbelievable and the
drugs made me feel bad for
my gay kin. Now, pumpkin, is
it ruining gay culture or is it
simply just a part of it That’s
yet to be determined. (Men
in their element are just plain
party animals as shown in my
I’m having an affair with a guy
who has confessed to having
a lover for the past seven
years whom he doesn’t live with, sees a guy
he calls his “boyfriend” and he’s an escort.
Am I crazy for having this affair
Man Crazy, Provincetown, MA
A lover, a boyfriend and you! I smell addiction
everywhere. If you’re thinking of him as
a future “anything,” then start tying the knot
around your neck, but if you’re simply having
an adventurous affair, then have fun and keep
plenty of bandages close by. And, pumpkin,
if on your 80th birthday you look back at this
affair and laugh yourself right out of your
wheelchair, then it’s worth it!
My girlfriend of 10 months is deeply in love
with me, but I don’t love her anymore. I’m
afraid to tell her to her face, so I’m thinking of
just vanishing. I know it’s cold, but I’m afraid.
Help! Vanishing Act, Tulsa, OK
Dearest Vanishing Act,
There are good ways to dump someone and
vanishing is not one of them! It’s evil. Unless
your life is in danger, then you must break up
in person. It’s only right after 10 months. But,
even better, darling, try reading:
Trinity’s Evil Scenarios
For Dumping Someone
1. After two months of internet dating, he flies
across country to finally meet you, but you
never pick him up and leave him stranded
at the airport.
2. Just as you’re starting to make love, you
blow out the candles and whisper, “I don’t
want to be with you anymore.”
3. It’s your third date. She gets out of the taxi
and you run away, for good!
4. Without communicating anything, you
answering his phone
calls, his emails or
your front door.
5. He throws a huge party so all his friends
can meet you. And, everyone shows up,
6. In the middle of Grand Central Station you
yell, “I hate you” and leave her crying!
7. You’re at your boyfriend’s family reunion
and everyone’s drunk. Suddenly, you stand
up to announce that you’re a lesbian!
8. Her dog just died and she got fired, but you
decide to sit her down anyway and tell her
that, “It’s not working out!”
9. You ask her to meet you at her favorite
restaurant for a surprise! But, the surprise
is a big bouquet of flowers with a card that
says, “It’s over!”
10. Lastly, you’re having an affair with your
date’s best friend. You’re all three at dinner
when you announce, “I want to live as a
threesome couple!” : :
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity
hosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio drama
performed globally and is now minister of WIG:
Wild Inspirational Gatherings.
telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com.
Sponsored by: WIG Ministries,
Gay Spirituality for the Next Generation!
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T. Randall Jones, Charlotte
by David Stout :: firstname.lastname@example.org
T. Randall Jones (Tia) is a writer, activist,
occasional poet and accidental songwriter.
She tells 20Qs, “I write to uplift, inspire and
celebrate LGBT people of faith and to affect
positive change by telling their stories.” She
lives with her wife and their three children,
and is currently working on novels three and
four of “TRUTH! the series” and prepping the
online re-launch of Lvolution magazine. Keep
reading for the tea on Miss T.
What’s your all-time favorite book series
Aw, gee, do I have to pick one Because
there’s the Bible, of course; and, well…my
own. LOL! Fine, Harry Potter! The battle of
good versus evil, a long, drawn out, love story,
and a band of unlikely misfit heroes…wait,
that’s not fiction. It’s happening now!
Is there a radio anywhere in your home
Yes. Even with all the digital technology, I still
have to have one to listen to regular radio.
I can’t function without NPR. And, I still try
to listen to traditional gospel stations; but I
wouldn’t dare listen anywhere other than my
car for fear I’ll throw something. The commentary
and “extras” make me kinda violent.
Do you own a “church lady” hat
No, but my wife does — or is it on loan from a
gay man I do have my “church lady” flower
clip. It’s a giant purple rose arrangement that I
found in honor of Miss Harriett Reddick Burch
Bell. I still wear it when I want to remember
her. My hair’s too big for hats now.
How do these films rank based on the number
of times you’ve seen them: “Butch Cassidy &
The Sundance Kid,” “Diary Of A Wimpy Kid,”
“Honey, I Blew Up The Kid,” “The Karate Kid”
“Karate,” “Blew Up,” “Diary” and “Sundance.”
Am I telling my age
Did you have a Cabbage Patch Doll as
I did not. I was an odd girl; I hated dolls,
except for my Baby Chrissy Doll whose
hair grew. I did, however, run out and buy a
Cabbage Patch Doll for my daughter the first
chance I got. She’s a toddler named Carmen
who looks just like our real baby.
How long since you’ve had a banana
A year ago And, only once. It was peanut
butter and banana. I prefer my PB with J, or
Which writer (living or dead) would you like
to be seated beside at a dinner party
Langston Hughes. I chose dead, and not Alice
Walker or J.K. Rowling, because they say
you should never meet your heroes and that
makes sense to me. Besides, I adore gay men
and Langston is my best friend in my head.
Have you ever attempted a cross-stitch
Yes, hated it! But, I tried because my mother
was an absolute artist at it.
Does Halloween rank high or low on your
personal list of holidays
Trick question. I hate Halloween, but my
Kyme loves it. And, if Kyme wants to dress
like a pirate (or Suga Mama from “The Proud
Family”) and hang out at a Halloween party
in Huntersville on my birthday (Saturday the
27th), that’s what we’re gonna do! So, “high”
by marriage, not by choice.
Who is your favorite current or past non-
American musical act
see 20 Questions on 21
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continued from page 15
I wanted to take this time to mention the
upcoming drag brunches by the Crape Myrtle
Festival gang in Raleigh. They’ve just moved to a
fancy-schmancy place called Solas on Glenwood
and the brunches are the organization’s fundraisers
for those living in the Triangle area with HIV/
AIDS. What a good cause and so much fun, I’m
sure. Miss Marilyn Merlot (a painted diva in her
own right) invited me up to come hang out with
her and the brunch housecast — Dana St. James,
that crazy Ebony Summers and Michelle Warren.
To my knowledge, three of these four serve on the
33rd Crape Myrtle Festival volunteer board. Every
third Sunday of the month is the plan! Road trip,
anyone Read more at crapemyrtlefest.org/, okay
As for local contests, I have to chuckle…
the two I know about had the same winner. Miss
Greenville (SC) at the Castle took place several
weeks ago and Brooke Storm-Divine LaReese
won; her RU was Daesha Richards. Then a couple
weeks later, London Dior crowned Brooke Miss
Hide-A-Way and her runners-up were Kylie Kay and
Amber Rochelle St. James. All right, Miss Brooke,
what’s next for you Come out and support Brooke
as she holds Miss NC All-American Goddess and
At Large at Scorpio on Oct. 29, with a special show
the night before that she’s in with NC All-American
Goddess at Large Emeritus Tiffany Storm, the All-
American Goddess Asia O’Hara from Dallas and the
All-American Goddess At-Large Whitney Paige from
Little Rock. I got my time off from work to be there,
mama, okay See y’all then! The Monday night
line-up includes many exciting performers, including
former All-American Goddess At Large Dena Cass
and last year’s winner of NC A-AG At Large Alexis
Nicole Whitney, who recently won Miss Unlimited.
And, silly me! Speaking of Unlimited, they recently
held Miss Classique Unlimited in Columbus and
my dear sister, Jessica Raye won and her RU was
Ginger Manchester. Congrats to the “painted-forthe-concession-stand”
Erica Martinez on relinquishing
In closing, I dedicate this column to two sweeties
who have gone on. The first, known as Miss Tillman,
was a staple in the Fayetteville, N.C., drag scene
years ago and did shows back in the day as Lavita
Love. Miss Tillman would always be at a pageant and
I met her through Victoria Parker. I’m thinking they
first met at Lynn’s Lounge where both did shows. At
one time, Miss Tillman owned Miss Emerald City. The
other, whom I never had the pleasure to meet, we
all knew from “RuPaul’s Drag Race” — Miss Sahara
Davenport. She passed a few weeks ago and was
the partner of Manila Luzon, who was second in line
the following season on the “Drag Race.” Reminds
me of an old saying: “Fallen stars, risen angels.” May
they rest in peace. : :
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Phil Collins, Sting, Elton John, George
Michael. Sorry, it’s a four-way tie.
Have you ever gotten stuck in an
elevator or other enclosed space
No, and trust me, if I had you’d have
heard about it because it would not
What newspaper comic strip have
you always loved
Peanuts. There are others, but
Which common salad ingredient do
you not like
Croutons! Whose idea was it to
make bread that hard
Can you ride a pogo stick
Probably, do you have one I can try
At what hour of the day are you at
your absolute best
7 a.m. It’s my favorite time to write,
especially if I’ve held onto the ideas
that rolled into my head in the middle
of the night.
Would you rather live beside the
men of “The Big Bang Theory,” “Full
House” or “Two And A Half Men”
No contest — “The Big Bang
Theory.” We call Leonard, Sheldon
and company “our kids” and I will
watch them for hours, regardless
of how many times I’ve seen an
episode. Yes, I know…
Ice cream, cake or ice cream
Chocolate cake…with chocolate
chunks…and chocolate icing —
please and thank you!
Who’s the sexiest “Mary” of
I don’t think I can answer that
question without going immediately
to Hell, so I’ll just pretend you
Have you ever purchased a product
from an infomercial
Yes, Zumba, which we love…and
none of your business.
Which do you own more of, books or
pairs of socks
I am proud to say books. And, in fact,
more people should as books are a lot
more useful than socks. Socks keep
your feet warm and dry, but books
warm your heart, give you hope,
enlighten or even enrage. Plus, when
strategically placed on shelves or coffee
tables, books can give the illusion
that you are more intelligent than you
actually are. Socks, when visible in
your home, just say you’re messy. : :
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Charlotte Atheists and Agnostics
1825 Eastway Dr., Charlotte NC 28205
Myers Park Baptist Church
1900 Queens Rd., Charlotte, NC 28207
Holy Covenant United Church of Christ
3501 W. WT Harris Blvd., Charlotte NC 28269
Holy Trinity Lutheran Church
1900 The Plaza, Charlotte, NC 28205
New Life MCC
1900 The Plaza, Charlotte, NC 28205
Piedmont Unitarian Universalist Church
9704 Mallard Creek Rd., Charlotte, NC 28262
Seigle Avenue Presbyterian Church
600 Seigle Ave., Charlotte, NC 28204
St. Martin’s Episcopal Church
1510 E. 7th St., Charlotte NC 28204
St. Peter’s Catholic Church
507 South Tryon St., Charlotte, NC 28202
Spiritual Living Center
1025 E. 35th St., Charlotte, NC 28205
Temple Beth El
5101 Providence Rd.
Charlotte, NC 28226
Unitarian Universalist Church of Charlotte
234 Sharon Amity Rd., Charlotte, NC 28211
Unity Fellowship Church
2127 Eastway Dr., Charlotte, NC 28205
Wedgewood Baptist Church
4800 Wedgewood Dr., Charlotte, NC 28210
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Oct. 28 • Charlotte
Halloween Drag Brunch
Buff Faye hosts a special
Halloween “Tramps and Vamps”
Drag Brunch with Kiana Lane,
Miley Virus, Detra Panucci,
Felicia Monet, Lita Alexander
Storm and Sierra Santana.
Hartigan’s Irish Pub, 601 S. Cedar
St. Noon. bufffaye.com.
to raise funds,
Rosedale ID, an HIV/AIDS medical
firm, will host their third annual Evening
of Hope and Inspiration to benefit their
Jeanne White Ginder Food Pantry on
Nov. 3, 7 p.m., at McGlohon Theater, 345
N. College St.
Rosedale ID’s Dale Pierce says the
event, which will feature musical performances
by Lynda Randle and Christy
Sutherland, will serve as opportunity to
highlight the work his firm is doing, but
more importantly the work their award
winners have done to benefit their
Recipients of the firm’s Hope and
Inspiration Awards this year include
radio hosts Matt Harris and Ramona
Holloway and young HIV/AIDS advocate
“[Harris and Holloway] are longtime
sponsors of [the Regional AIDS
Interfaith Network] and used to be big
advocates for the LGBT community
with Gay Bingo and the Human Rights
Campaign,” said Pierce. “Jordan has
raised over $45,000 with his efforts
each year with the AIDS Walk and was
named one of POZ magazine’s POZ 100.”
Their food pantry, Pierce said, has
served 76 families so far this year. Last
year’s concert fundraiser generated
$5,000 in funds to buy grocery store gift
cards for those in need.
For more information on the concert
or to purchase tickets ($20-$25) visit
caroliantix.org or call 704-372-1000.
Oct. 30 • Raleigh
A fundraiser will be held for
the LGBT-friendly state Sen.
Doug Berger in Wake County.
Experience a bit of Halloween
fun and light hors d’oeuvres
hosted at the home of former
Wake Democratic Party Chair
Mack Paul, 3705 Shadybrook
Dr. 5:30-8 p.m. $50 contribution.
Sponsorships avaliable from $100
to $1,000. Contact Tracy Hollister
at firstname.lastname@example.org or
919-610-8477 for more
Oct. 31 • Charlotte
Snug Harbor hosts seven bands
on two stages for this Halloween
party, including: Vulture, Joey,
Tadio, Bart and Travis; The
Poontanglers; Babyshaker; Andy
The Doorbum; and The Luciferian
Agenda. Snug Harbor, 1228
Gordon St. 9 p.m. Free.
Nov. 1 • Charlotte
Shiprocked: Dia de los Muertos
Snug Harbor’s weekly gay night,
Shiprocked, hosts a post-Halloween
“Day of the Dead” party.
Snug Harbor, 1228 Gordon St.
Nov. 1-17 • Charlotte
One of the most powerful and
provocative shows on the
tragedies of the Holocaust and
of its gay victims will be staged
by Queen City Theatre Company.
“Bent” is an inspiring, compelling
and powerful drama set in
Germany during WWII at the
time when homosexuals were
sent to concentration camps.
Considered worlwide a theatrical
masterpiece, BENT explores
love, hope and dreams in the
face of persecution and terror.
For mature audiences. Adult
content. Duke Energy Theatre
at Spirit Square, 345 N. COllege
St. Various dates. Various times.
$22-$24. Student and senior
Nov. 2 • Charlotte
Petra’s hosts magician Hannibal
for one night and three acts
with pure magic, mind reading
and surprises! Petra’s, 1919
Commonwealth Ave. 9 p.m.
Nov. 6 • Statewide
Head out to the polls and let
your vote be your voice! For
more information on your voter
registration, polling place and
other election information, visit
ncsbe.gov. On election night, turn
to goqnotes.com for the latest
election news and udpates.
Nov. 8 Charlotte
‘Jeckyll & Hyde’
As part of the Out on the
Town LGBT theater social
club 2012-13 season
Performing Arts Center
brings “Jeckyll & Hyde” to the
stage. Members receive a postshow
party with complimentary
beer, wine and hors d’oeuvres.
Belk Theatre, 130 N. Tryon St.
Members get $15 off ticket price.
Nov. 10 • Charlotte
Pride Band: Fact or Fiction
Join Charlotte Pride Band as
they use some of the most moving
and exciting music written
to discover whether events and
people we all know are Fact or
Fiction. They’ll use music to pay
tribute to monumental historic
events. Or are they With works
such as “A Movement For Rosa”
and “Vesuvius,”, they’ll take you
back through history to look at
people and events that have
shaped our world and inspired
change. And with pieces like
“Of Sailors and Whales” and
“Gandalf,” they’ll look at some
not-so-historical events that
have created a reality in the
minds of millions. Park Road
Baptist Church, 3900 Park Rd.
7 p.m. $13. Tickets available for
purchase at Paper Skyscraper,
White Rabbit, Sir Speedy Printing
(5th and Caswell), from band
members or online at
Nov. 17 • Greensboro
ENC Conference and Gala
Equality North Carolina hosts
their annual Equality Conference
and Gala in Greensboro. During
the day, attend workshops and
seminars to build your community
advocacy and outreach skills
hosted at the Elliott University
Center on the campus of the
University of North Carolina-
Greensboro. In the evening,
the annual Equality Gala will
honor several leaders across
the state with featured speaker,
the REv. Dr. William J. Barbar II,
president of the NAACP of North
Carolina. For more information or
to register, visit equalitync.org/
Nov. 18 • Columbia
Soul Food Sunday
South Carolina Black Pride hosts
its 4th Annual Soul Food Sunday
with a yummy table full of tasty
southern and soulful treats.
Family affair. Open to everyone.
Games. Music. Sweet Potato Pie
Cookout with $50 first-prize gift
award to winner.
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