March 31-April 13 . 2012 qnotes
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March 31-April 13 . 2012 qnotes
What happened to winter After living in
South Carolina for the past 10 years, I was
so excited at the prospect of a white winter
for a change. I know I am not too far from my
Columbia origin, but with being closer to the
mountains, I just figured that seeing more than
a dusting of snow was in my future. Oh, well,
maybe next year, because spring seems to be
here in full effect. Time to do some springcleaning,
break out the lighter clothing and
get out amongst the living!
Speaking of getting back out amongst
the living, this past weekend I returned to
Columbia to take part in the AIDS Benefit
Foundation of South Carolina’s Dining with
Friends Dessert Finale. The event was a
by o’neale atkinson
Winter isn’t coming
tremendous success. I have served on their
board for the past two years and it is one of
the few volunteer initiatives I was able to
remain active with when I lived in Columbia. I
have always enjoyed volunteering with organizations
I am passionate about, but in doing
my daily routine I often find myself unable to
make time to do so.
Now that I am no longer in Columbia, I
have begun looking at ways I can get involved
with organizations here in Charlotte.
There are many great organizations based
in North Carolina whose efforts are strongly
influenced by their volunteer force. Without
volunteers many non-profit and support agencies
do not have the manpower to reach their
maximum effectiveness. HIV outreach and
support is something that is important to me,
but there are many more organizations that
work in different fields that are always looking
for additional support.
It is easy to get caught up in our day-today
routine and with spring in full bloom, the
idea of sacrificing our precious free moments
to volunteer may seem like the last thing we
would want to do. The fact is volunteering can
be a fun and rewarding experience. You just
have to find an organization or cause that you
are passionate about. One thing I loved about
the AIDS Benefit Foundation was that I was
able to help a cause I was passionate about
while also having a great time! You don’t have
to make it a second job; organizations understand
that your time is precious and most only
ask of you what you are able to give.
Currently I am working to build a team for
the 2012 AIDS Walk Charlotte and I am looking
forward to us walking together in May to raise
money and awareness for RAIN. House of
Mercy also has an AIDS walk coming up in
April. Participating in outdoor campaigns such
as these is a great way to enjoy the beautiful
weather while doing something good for a
So, while you are getting into the spring
season, I encourage you to find something you
are passionate about and make a difference
in that area. Currently, the Coalition to Protect
All NC Families is working across the state to
fight Amendment One and they need volunteer
support to get the message out. The Coalition’s
work is extremely important and I hope that you
will support them however you can.
Also, remember that you don’t have to
focus on volunteering exclusively within the
Working with youth, volunteering at museums
or theaters and helping with homeless
resources are other ideas for ways to help
your community. Remember, you don’t have to
commit all of your free time to make a difference.
Perhaps, you and some friends can all
go in together and pick something you are all
passionate about and help out for a day. Find
something you love about your community
and help it grow! : :
The Olympic Games are a huge undertaking
for any country that hosts them. So many
things can go wrong, from terrorist attacks
to ticket snafus. Organizers of this summer’s
London games are determined not to fail in
one particular area: sensitivity.
The water polo players might drown each
other and the boxers will pound one another
into clotted cream, but visitors to the games
will be treated with civility and respect. Every
last bloody one of them.
Over 70,000 Olympic volunteers are
slated to take sensitivity training ahead of
the London games, which begin on July 27.
The Telegraph reported that during training
sessions at Wembley Arena, volunteers answered
six multiple-choice questions using
This “diversity and inclusion” quiz tested
how volunteers would handle “sensitive” situations
and I’m not talking about a situation like
an Israeli weightlifter dropping his barbell on
an Iranian competitor’s foot.
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The sensitivity games
Consider the first question, the “sexual
orientation” question: A spectator complains
to you that there are two men holding hands
sitting next to them — they feel very uncomfortable
and would like you to tell the couple
to stop. What do you do
You tell them to go watch badminton instead.
That isn’t one of the possible answers.
“You tell the person to stop being a homophobic
idiot” is. So is “politely ask the couple to
stop holding hands.”
The correct answer is, “You explain that
there is a huge diversity of people at the
London 2012 Games, which includes gay,
lesbian and bisexual couples.”
Wordy, but accurate. And, sensitive. The
homos can continue being themselves and
the complainers get their chance to be heard.
I’d like to know what the volunteer is supposed
to do if the complainer becomes testy.
Call in a supervisor, I suppose, or security. Or
that Israeli weightlifter.
The quiz also includes a “gender/gender
identity” question: A spectator approaches
you asking politely where the nearest toilets
are. You are not sure if the spectator is male
or female. What do you do
If the spectator is American, you watch with
amusement as he or she turns red at having
used the word “toilet” instead of “bathroom.”
Nope, that isn’t among the choices. The
options are ask the person “politely if they are
male or female,” or “panic” or “tell them where
the male, female and accessible toilets are.”
The latter is, of course, the correct
answer, although I’d give points for honesty to
anyone who went with panic.
The other questions on the quiz concern
“ethnicity/race,” “disability,” “age” and “belief.”
All the volunteers receive a handbook to
take home, in case anyone wants to do some
“I thought it was unnecessary and they
could have spent the money in other ways,”
said one volunteer from Manchester. “I know
they are trying to cater for everybody, but this
How much are you willing to volunteer to fight
against Amendment One
was a bit patronizing.”
This person felt London 2012 organizers
should have faith in the volunteers’ common
sense and pointed out that by the end of the
quiz, “people were choosing silly answers
That must’ve sent organizers into a panic.
They’re probably still having nightmares of a
volunteer snatching a Muslim’s hijab from her
head and tossing it into a passing kayak.
The diversity quiz may be over the top,
but it’s well intentioned and it certainly now
has people — Olympic volunteers and others
— thinking about how everybody should be
treated, when they’re not poking fun at the quiz.
I volunteer to see how well the sensitivity
training works. If the London organizers fly
my partner and me over, put us up and get us
tickets, we’ll hold hands during a basketball
game. Grueling work, but we’re willing to
make the sacrifice. : :
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Kristian Wedolowski, Charlotte
Actor Kristian Wedolowski grew up in
Uruguay. He came to Charlotte after studying
at the Universidad Católica del Uruguay to fulfill
his dream of appearing in 20 Questions. As
everyone knows, it can sometimes take years
to make a dream come true. Kudos to Kristian
for using his down time wisely — becoming
the Managing Director of Queen City Theatre
Company and acting in a host of stage productions,
including QCTC’s recent “The Most
Fabulous Story Ever Told.”
We are pleased to confirm that fickle
fate has smiled on Kristian at long last. Read
on, dear reader, to share in his moment of
Are you a morning person or a night owl
I’m definitely not a morning person. I go to bed
usually between 2 a.m. and 3 a.m. Yeah, I don’t
sleep much because I still wake up very early
— but very tired.
What’s the funniest stage play you’ve
I just love “Sordid Lives.” When we produced it,
I hadn’t seen the movie, but it grew on me. It has
so many cultural jokes that it took me literally 12
performances to fully get the humor in it. Then
we had to revive it for me to understand the last
couple of jokes. It’s just a big cultural shock. I
didn’t know those people existed!
What is your favorite era of Madonna’s
Why are you asking about my crazy obsession
It used to be Blond Ambition until I saw
the Girlie Show in Buenos Aires. (I still cannot
get over her coming down with the blond afro
riding that disco ball!) Then it was Reinvention,
but I left that for Confessions and it’s become
lately more Sticky and Sweet. On the 26th of
March for sure I’m going with MDNA! (I just
re-read this and I sound sick!)
Have you ever used a ribbed condom
I don’t think so…but it may have a different
name in Spanish! Lots of times you lose a lot of
good things in translation.
Are there any pickles in your pantry
Hell yeah! I love them — especially I like the
polish ones with dill. Next question
Who was your first celebrity crush
Well, I used to love a movie called “The Making
of a Male Model” with Jon-Erik Hexum. I think I
was 12 when it was on TV in Uruguay. I wanted
to be like him — he was perfection — and
like in the movie, I so wanted Joan Collins to
discover me! (Hmmm, maybe my crush was
actually on her. Oh, I met Joan three years ago
in Raleigh with Linda Evans!) [Ed. Note: The
movie is posted in full on YouTube if anyone
wants to check it out.]
Are you more likely to make a sandwich with
mayonnaise or mustard
Mayonnaise all the way. Mustard is fine, but
for hot dogs. I’m very structured and I know
which condiment to put with each meat.
Do you remember all of the multiplication
tables from 1 to 12
Yes, yes and yes! Try me.
Have you ever read a Jackie Collins novel
I have. I’ve read “The Bitch” and “The Stud.”
You can get the two of them for $17 on Amazon.
They are literary masterpieces. I also own the
movies starring Joan Collins…heaven!
Who’s the sexiest “Tom” of all time
I have to say Tom Ford. I think a man is sexy
when he can dress well, has style and the perfect
attitude in front of a camera. If he designs
his own suits, it’s a plus. I also loved “A Single
Man,” which he directed.
Which is the better “work” song: “9 To 5,”
“Manic Monday,” “She Works Hard For The
Money,” “Working For The Weekend”
“9 To 5.” I can relate to that one.
Have you ever had the wind knocked out
Yes. Two months ago I was invited to
Madonna’s “W.E.” premiere in New York.
I watched the movie with Madonna sitting
four rows behind me. After, I was leaving,
turned and there she was coming my way
with Lourdes. I didn’t know what to say, but
I got to tell her how much I loved the movie
and her. I ended up walking out of the theater
with Madonna, Lola, my friend and two big
bodyguards. Truly a breathtaking moment. Of
course, she entered her limo and I walked in
the rain to my hotel.
Are you good at any style of ballroom
Not at all, but I can dance Tango, Salsa and
Merengue. Oddly enough, I learned how to
dance these in Japan.
How do these films rank based on the
number of times you’ve seen them: “Mommie
Dearest,” “Showgirls,” “Valley Of The Dolls,”
“Whatever Happened To Baby Jane”
It’s a tie. Call it a sin, but I haven’t seen any of
them. Can you lend them to me or maybe some
reader can send me the DVDs care of qnotes
or Queen City Theatre Company Just in case,
I also want to see “Rise Of The Planet Of The
Apes” on Blu-ray.
Biscuits, yeast rolls or cornbread
So many carbs! I like cornbread. My favorite
is the skillet one they have at Halcyon, Flavors
from the Earth restaurant in the Mint Museum.
Not so high-end, but also good is the cornbread
at Boston Market. No yeast.
Which stage or film role would you most like
Have you seen the recent film “The Picture Of
Dorian Gray” with Ben Barnes I would love
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Party throws support to CPANCF
RALEIGH — The North Carolina
Libertarian Party has joined other opponents
of the upcoming
One on the ballot on
In a video statement
by party Chair
J.J. Summerell (pictured),
he said “We
One simply because
it’s badly designed.” The video was released
by the Coalition to Protect All NC Families.
He further stated that it was “fraught with
far-reaching, unintended consequences.”
Duke University Professor Mike Munger, a
gubernatorial candidate for the party in 2008,
said, “[the amendment] encumbers contract
arrangements between all sorts of other
people in ways we can’t even begin to imagine.”
He added that “government is making
a choice about which kinds of arrangements
families can raise children in.”
The party is joined by Democratic gubernatorial
candidates Lt. Gov. Walter Dalton,
Bob Etheridge and Rep. Bill Faison, lieutenant
gubernatorial candidates Linda Coleman
(head of the Office of State Personnel) and
Sen. Eric Mansfield. Previously Gov. Beverly
Purdue had announced her opposition to
President Barack Obama has also voiced
his opposition to the amendment.
A descendant of the state’s Constitution
author, Republican Russell Robinson of
Charlotte, said that North Carolina Supreme
Court Justice William B. Rodman in 1868
wanted a state that protected all North
Carolinians. Robinson felt that it was poorly
worded and did not take into account that
there were many family relationships that
were not defined by contract. Other state
Republicans have joined forces with Protect
All NC Families in their quest to thwart the
potentially harmful measure.
Ted Olson, a prominent Republican trial attorney,
is against Amendment One. He was on
a legal team in California that challenged the
constitutionality of Proposition 8. He is heading
to the Tar Heel State on April 1 to attend a
rally against Amendment One in Greensboro
organized by Faith Against Amendment One.
On March 22, the University of North
Carolina at Charlotte became the ninth university
to pass an anti-Amendment One resolution
by its senate. The are joined by the University
of North Carolina at Chapel Hill, East Carolina
University, the University of North Carolina
at Asheville, North Carolina State University,
North Carolina Central University, Guilford
College, the University of North Carolina at
Greensboro and Salem College.
Duke University reported in The Chronicle
that if the measure were to pass that it would
be harder for North Carolina to recruit LGBT
Both Durham and Greensboro city councils
have denounced the amendment.
A cornucopia of faith communities have
also jumped onboard the fight against passage
of the ballot measure.
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The Baptist Peace Fellowship of North
America Program Director LeDayne McLeese
Polaski put her voice to the debate, reported
the Associated Baptist Press. She asserted
that this was an issue of justice for the LGBT
community, that peace and justice went
hand-in-hand. Her organization joins the
Association of Welcoming and Affirming
Baptists and the Alliance of Baptists for its
Many Voices, One Love campaign.
Gay-ordained Presbyterian minister
Marvin Ellison spoke at Elon University’s
Center for the Study of Religion in February.
He asserted that while Christianity may
become welcoming and inclusive, that
transformation was better. He peppered in to
the dialogue that “faith leaders have not been
willing to translate their personal support into
public leadership,” The Pendulum reported.
Let’s bowl for equality
CHARLOTTE — The Human Rights
Campaign is kicking off its Spring season of
fun events with an afternoon of bowling on
April 15, 2-5 p.m., at AMF Centennial Lanes,
4501 South Blvd.
Enjoy the dance/disco/party lights, plus
Tickets are $35/singles; $25/student (ages
12-21 with ID); $15/youth; $150/lane captain
(up to five people); and $100/sponsors.
All ticket purchases include a one-year
membership to HRC.
Sponsors and volunteers should email
For more information, visit action.hrc.
TOY celebrates in duces
CHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth (TOY) is
embracing Spring with two events that both
honor the season and provide for ways for the
LGBT community to enjoy rights of passage.
A Celebration of the Arts will be held on
April 14 at Theatre Charlotte, 501 Queens Rd.
Doors open at 6:30 p.m. and the show starts at
This program is a presented by TOY and
producer/director Vito Abate (pictured) with
support from Drake Dentistry.
Abate, originally from New York, has been
bringing his “Just Do It” themed reading and
performance series to
Theatre Charlotte for a
number of years with
his sidekick Phoebe,
a Brussells Griffon
pooch. The series is
an all-inclusive event
that brings together a
plethora of theatrical
talent to the stage. Abate’s “Just Like You:
Stories and Inspiration from Time Out Youth”
won a 2011 Metrolina Theatre Award in the
Outstanding Original Short Work Special
Tickets are $25.
On April 28, Masquerade: An Alternative
Prom will be held from 7:30-10:30 p.m. at
Grand Central, 1000 Central Ave. This event is
open to youth between the ages of 13-23 and
is drug and alcohol free.
Advance tickets are $8/singles, $12/couples.
Participants may also purchase tickets
at the door for $10/singles, $15/couples.
Tickets may be obtained for both events by
Foundation deadline nears
WINSTON-SALEM — The Adam
Foundation, a 501(c)(3) tax-exempt organization,
is now accepting grant applications for
its Spring grant cycle through April 20.
The Foundation raises money in the community
and distributes those funds to local
agencies as grants in accordance with its
The Adam Foundation’s 22-year legacy is
steeped in addressing the health care needs
of those LGBT individuals who may not be on
the “normal radar screen” of the Triad community.
They have expanded its grant funding
reach over the past two decades to include
additional areas, such as some cutting-edge
arts performances, equality concerns, youth
safety issues such as bullying and homelessness
and critical education issues that impact
the Triad’s LGBT community.
For complete details on eligibility and
guidelines or for more information, email
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Faith organizations combine
RALEIGH — ECWR (formerly Evangelicals
Concerned Western Region) has recently
joined forces with the Gay Christian Network
(GCN). With this new effort now in play, ECWR
has undergone dissolution and their experience,
resources and ministry opportunities
will now be shared with GCN.
Though now having formally paired with
ECWR in the past, GCN has often worked with
the organization to expand its vision of “sharing
Christ’s light and love for all.”
A committee has been formed to find ways
to blend ECWR’s offerings into GCN’s existing
mission and structure. GCN welcomed ECWR’s
members into the fold and hoped that ECWR’s
work could continue under another entity.
Amendment wording gets explanation
RALEIGH — Secretary of State Elaine
Marshall, Legislative Services Officer George
Hall and Attorney General Roy Cooper were
the three-member panel selected to explain
the wording of Amendment One.
It seems that neither side found it favorable,
according to The [Smithfield] Herald.
The text reads: “Constitutional amendment
to provide that marriage between one man
and one woman is the only domestic legal
union that shall be valid or recognized in this
State.” It further states: “This section does
not prohibit a private party from entering into
contracts with another private party; nor does
this section prohibit courts from adjudicating
the rights of private parties pursuant to such
The difficult part was to define what a
“domestic legal union” was.
People on both sides of the issue have
stated that it failed to explain the measure’s
purpose and that it did not state what would
be at stake if it passed, the Herald added.
It’s now up to the voters of the state to
take a side and cast their preference come
Bipartisan vote affirms equality
CONCORD, N.H. — In a show of bipartisan
support for the freedom to marry, on March 21
the New Hampshire House of Representatives
voted 211 to 116 to reject a measure that
would repeal marriage equality in the New
England state. Except for those N.H. gay and
lesbian couples who have already married,
the bill would have replaced marriage with
the inferior status of “civil unions.”
The vote extends the national momentum
toward marriage equality for same-sex
couples. In February, the U.S. Court of Appeals
for the Ninth Circuit upheld the historic August
2010 ruling of the Federal District Court that
California’s Proposition 8 is unconstitutional.
The decision was followed by another
federal judge finding the so-called Defense of
Marriage Act unconstitutional, and bipartisan
legislative votes for marriage equality in
Washington State, New Jersey and Maryland.
“With today’s vote [in N.H.] it is crystal clear
that the momentum toward marriage equality
is truly unstoppable,” said Chad Griffin, board
president of the American Foundation for Equal
Rights, the sole sponsor of the legal challenge
to Prop. 8, and the incoming president of the
Human Rights Campaign. “As the courts affirm
the freedom to marry for all, so too do the
people and their representatives. The people of
New Hampshire, and of this entire nation, see
and understand that marriage equality is the
most fundamental of human freedoms.”
NOM under fire — again
ST. PAUL, Minn. — The Minnesota
Campaign Finance and Election Board is
moving forward with an investigation into the
campaign finance activities of Minnesota for
Marriage, the umbrella group co-founded by
the National Organization for Marriage that is
pushing a state constitutional amendment to
prohibit same-sex marriage.
Common Cause of Minnesota filed
complaints against Minnesota for Marriage
and the Minnesota Family Council, alleging that
both organizations violated state campaign
finance laws by hiding individual donors to
the ballot measure campaign and filing false
reports. Minnesota for Marriage raised more
than $1.2 million in contributions during 2011
but disclosed only seven individual contributors
responsible for just $2,000. The donations
were attributed to just three entities: NOM,
the Minnesota Catholic Conference and the
Minnesota Family Council.
NOM is already being investigated by
the Maine Ethics Commission for failing to
register with the state as a ballot question
committee and refusing to disclose the donors
to its 2009 campaign to overturn the state’s
marriage equality law.
Ex-Justices to be honored
BOSTON, Mass. — Three former Iowa
Supreme Court Justices who were part of
a unanimous decision to legalize same-sex
marriage in that state have been named
this year’s recipients of the John F. Kennedy
Profile in Courage Award. Former Iowa Chief
Justice Marsha Ternus and former justices
David Baker and Michael Streit were chosen
for setting aside popular opinion to uphold the
basic freedoms and security guaranteed to all
citizens under the Iowa constitution.
The award will be presented by Caroline
Kennedy at a ceremony at the John F. Kennedy
Presidential Library and Museum on May 7.
The John F. Kennedy Profile in Courage
Award is presented annually to public servants
who have made courageous decisions of
conscience without regard for the personal
or professional consequences. The award is
named for President Kennedy’s 1957 Pulitzer
Prize-winning book, “Profiles in Courage.”
Best workplaces recognized
NEW YORK, N.Y. — The Human Rights
Campaign Foundation, the educational arm of
HRC, honored 189 major U.S. employers as its
2012 “Best Places to Work for LGBT Equality”
at the Eighth Annual LGBT Workplace
Awards Seminar and Reception. Companies
receiving the “Best Places” distinction scored
100 percent on the HRC Foundation’s 2012
Corporate Equality Index.
The Index considers non-discrimination
policies, benefits, diversity training and other
internal resources for LGBT workers, as well
as external support for LGBT consumers
and job seekers. This year HRC raised the
bar, making the criteria to earn a 100 percent
score on the CEI more stringent, including
requiring companies to offer transgender
inclusive healthcare coverage.
Nine companies received special
recognition at the Mar. 13 ceremony for
earning a perfect 100 percent score on
the CEI for 10 consecutive years. These
companies have consistently demonstrated
a commitment to their LGBT employees
and diversity in the workplace. They are:
Aetna Inc., Alcatel-Lucent, AMR Corp.
(American Airlines), Apple Inc., Eastman
Kodak Co., JPMorgan Chase & Co., Nike Inc.,
Replacements Ltd., and Xerox Corp.
Omaha okays gay, trans protections
OMAHA, Neb. — On Mar. 13, the Omaha
City Council passed an ordinance banning
discrimination in employment and public
accommodations on the basis of sexual
orientation or gender identity. Already 123
cities and counties in the country have
HRC partnered with Equal Omaha in
advocating for the ordinance. The national
group provided data from its workplace
project that shows 86 percent of Fortune
500 companies have policies against sexual
orientation discrimination and nearly half offer
protection on the basis of gender identity.
Gay ‘gag order’ becomes law
ST. PETERSBURG, Russia — Despite
months of sustained international protests
led by global gay rights group AllOut.org
and their partners in Russia — ComingOut,
SidebySide and the Russian LGBT Federation
— St. Petersburg Gov. Georgiy Poltavchenko
signed the controversial law that criminalizes
reading, writing, speaking or reporting on
anything related to LGBT people.
Andre Banks, co-founder and executive
director of AllOut.org, said, “By validating a
new regime of censorship and intolerance, Gov.
Poltavchenko has diminished the reputation of
his city with the stroke of a pen. One hundred
thousand people have promised not to visit
the ‘new’ St. Petersburg after this law goes
into effect. Travel companies are considering
revising their scheduled trips to the city.”
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Making HIV Care and Healthcare Better at Rosedale ID
by Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager/Ryan White Program Director
This spring, we at Rosedale ID are investing
in the community by putting together changes that
we feel will not only impact the services we deliver,
but will, in turn, have an impact on the entire
HIV community here in our area and beyond.
The first major change you may soon notice
at Rosedale ID is the addition of new dedicated
staff members. In April of 2012, we will be adding
several new healthcare positions to our staff.
These will include the replacement of Nancy,
our dedicated Triage nurse who is opting for
retirement in May, and a new LPN being added
to our team that will be there to assist you in your
visits, focusing mainly on pharmacy needs. We
also are transitioning Steven Haynes into a full
time Benefits Advocate position to work with our
Director of Client Services, Laurie Youron. Ashley
Young has joined our staff as an administrative
assistant to our Practice Manager, as well as
being our new referral coordinator. Maysha
James is on staff now to assist the nursing staff as
a certified medical assistant.
Also signing on in April is our new PA, Wes
Thompson. Wes will be at Rosedale to serve the
HIV/AIDS populations, as well as bridging the
gap for Rosedale with facilitating a more primary
care role to our patients and new patients that
are looking for a family friendly practice. Wes
has practiced medicine for over 25 years and is
happy to be joining Rosedale Infectious Disease
in April 2012. He provides care to the HIV/AIDS
population of Mecklenburg County and surrounding
counties, as well as routine medical care
to the GLBT community. He is a board certified
physician assistant and the first physician assistant
to be certified as an HIV Specialist in the
state of North Carolina and one of the first in the
United States. Wes has co-investigated in over
60 clinical trials for new medications in the fight
against HIV. He has the honor to serve as guest
lecturer at Davidson University, Duke University,
UNCC, and CPCC, Wake Forest University and
an Adjunct Professor at Wingate University.
If staff changes were not enough for you
to grasp this year, Rosedale ID is also going
electronic with their patient records. Building
from Athenahealth, our current practice management
system, we have recently added their
clinical product. Aside from the necessary “evil”
of healthcare reform making all practices go
down this route, it is actually going to help your
healthcare with us. A portal will be provided
to you so that you will be able to access your
medical records and labs online 24/7. It will
also streamline the effectiveness of your visit and
prescription refills with the practice. Although it
will certainly be a learning curve for all involved,
in the end, we are excited that this system will
help enhance the service we provide to you as a
patient at Rosedale ID.
In 2012, Rosedale ID plans to stay involved
and encaged in our community. One way is
through this page with QNotes, which we are very
proud of. Rosedale ID has also helped already
in 2012 by supporting the NC HRC (Human
Rights Campaign). We plan to again sponsor the
Charlotte AIDSWALK, benefitting RAIN on May
5, 2012. In November we will again host our
annual Evening of Hope and Inspiration as well as
striving to serve as a good community partner in
healthcare throughout the year.
The lobby at Rosedale ID has a patient
library section; we periodically have free items
or informational handouts for our population,
a regular newsletter, constant updates on our
webpage and Facebook, and a new patient
information board in the lobby.
As practice manager I strive to make sure
that we are not only providing the highest quality
healthcare and patient services, but that we listen
to you as the patient/client in hopes that suggestions
you make can help to enhance your care
and your overall experience with us.
It is also nice to know that our work is at times
recognized. Athenahealth, our EMR provider
and data management system, holds an annual
conference in April in Boston. This year Ashley
Young and I will be in attendance to take advantage
of learning updates with you in mind. Today,
Athenahealth helps over 31,000 medical providers
nationwide enjoy faster payment, increased
collections, radically improved control over billing
and clinical operations, and more time for their
patients. This year at the conference they will be
handing out two Visionary Awards to individuals
that are “making a difference in healthcare.” I am
humbled and proud to say that I was selected as
a national recipient of this award this year. So,
at the conference, not only will I be honored, but
Rosedale ID and the work all of our staff does will
be highlighted in a video presentation and held
up as an extraordinary example of what true, caring
individuals can do when they work together
as a team for patient care.
Don’t forget to visit our website at
rosedaleid.com and friend us on
Facebook for community and clinical
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qnotes March 31-April 13 . 2012
by eva hayward
Must we be extraordinary
to be ordinary
Clacking away at my laptop, chunky Dior
glasses sliding to the end of my nose and lips
pursed in concentration, with a lifted finger, I
momentarily held off the doctor while I crafted
a last sentence. Surely a well-rendered sentence
matters as much as a steady heart rate.
I was writing my February opinion column for
the Indy on love, desire and the Roman holiday
Lupercalia, while receiving blood transfusions
in a Cincinnati hospital bed. Landing there was
my own bloody Valentine — ironic comeuppance
for downplaying the holiday’s savagery.
My gesture was not simply a power play,
Ph.D. versus M.D., but an insistence on being
respected. Because without exception, every
doctor who came into my room was fascinated
to distraction to learn that I am transsexual.
One doctor asked me if I were born female or
male and when I told him, he seemed perplexed
and asked if I had had sex reassignment
surgery and then asked about cosmetic surgeries
and then still seemed confused. But, the
most troubling issue was that I had wound up
in the hospital for reasons unrelated to my sex.
I needed care for pain and blood loss, but with
an IV in my arm and secured hospital floors, he
had me positioned to satisfy his curiosity.
Over the last two years, I have been in
three hospitals: University of New Mexico
Hospital, Duke University Hospital and University
of Cincinnati Hospital. At each institution, to
different degrees of unpleasantness, doctors
and nurses have demanded that I discuss my
transsexuality, whether I am in for pneumonia
or stomach disease. When I was admitted to
UNM Hospital, unable to breathe, an intake
nurse, after trying to flatter me with “I had no
idea you were transgender,” talked to me about
accepting his gay son and the challenges that
came with that decision in rural New Mexico,
while I gasped and shook my head empathetically.
While at Duke University Hospital, a senior
doctor brought 10 interns into my room to not
just discuss my sex change, but to eyeball my
very sex. Patience curdling into frustration, I
asked how this information mattered and why
it required an audience. Seemingly imperious,
he said, “It does matter.” Perhaps, it does, but I
could never get a good explanation as to exactly
how, nor why these sorts of encounters happened
so often during my stays.
My exasperation hardly ends with the medical
establishment. When people know about my
transition, there is an instant feeling of intimacy,
as if I have surrendered my privacy to them and
become a trusting friend. Acquaintances will
confide their dreams to me or make unwarranted
advances and otherwise feel overfamiliar with
me. And, even folks I generally adore have a
tendency to suppose something special or transgressive
about my identity. As it happens, a dear
friend and I have been engaged in an ongoing
debate about “queerness.” For her, to be queer
is the highest of accomplishments, an exalted
mode of existence. When I tell her that I am not
so queer, that my identity is rather commonplace,
she looks askance at me. But, it is true: I don’t
have remarkable insight into the numen of sex
systems. I am not liberated from the conventions
of gender, sex or sexuality. Nor do I represent the
body’s triumph over nature or godliness.
At one time in my life, not wanting to be
ensnared in my past, I celebrated an unhindered
present. I disowned who I had been for
who I had become. I withdrew from family and
old friendships and met new people without
discussing my transition. Later it dawned on
me that rather than dismissing my history, I was
denying it, which felt isolating and self-effacing.
Maybe we all have the feeling that we haven’t
quite lived our life until we have narrated it.
While I do not see sex change as extraordinary,
I understand that my experience gives
me a particular sensibility. And, since I do not
live in “stealth” — a word used by some to
describe a life in which no one knows you are
transgender — I have had to expect questions
about my transition, even if I don’t really want,
nor know how, to answer.
Grateful as I am by nature, reluctant to tell
it all and surprisingly lucky in other respects, I
find it difficult to dig through old miseries and
doubts. I do my best, though, to be honest in
discussions about transsexuality. I have written
about sex change for academic and journalistic
venues, but always my effort is to place
transsexuality within an unsurprising sphere
of experience. In this I share the sentiments
of a young man who wrote to the governor of
Washington State, explaining how marriage
equality matters to him: “No one should have to
be extraordinary to be ordinary.”
see Transillumunations on 18
March 31-April 13 . 2012 qnotes
Dwellings 2012: Home & Garden
Ways to beautify your garden
by StatePoint Media
Whether your garden is a source of food
for your family, a way to beautify your home’s
outdoor spaces or a gathering place for parties,
you already know how beneficial your
outdoor hobby can be.
But, a garden needn’t only be a human
habitat. If you cultivate it right, you can encourage
beautiful wildlife to become regular
visitors to your garden all season long.
Here are some tips to get started:
• Plant native flowers, shrubs and trees to give
local wildlife the proper sustenance they
10 qnotes March 31-April 13 . 2012
need to survive. Skip flowers bred strictly for
size and color and opt for high-nectar yielding
• Incorporate birdfeeders into your garden.
Not only will they look great, they are an
excellent supplemental food source for your
feathered friends. And, you can keep furry
friends at bay with a squirrel-proof feeder.
• If you build a water source, they will come
(and stay). A pond or birdbath will help prevent
birds from eating and going in search
• Birds need cover to protect themselves from
predators. Planting densely with a mix of
smaller trees, shrubs and beds of annuals
and perennials will do the trick.
• Avoid pesticides. These chemicals are potentially
harmful to you and your family and
the same goes for wildlife. Also, by killing
garden pests, you will eliminate a primary
source of protein for birds in search of nourishment
for their migration ahead.
Once you’ve invited all these creatures
to share your garden, you’re going to need to
take some steps to make it safe for them.
While a garden might be a safe haven,
your home can be a death trap. According
to Wyoming-based Western EcoSystems
Technology, an estimated 98 million birds are
killed annually in the U.S. from colliding with
glass windows. That is one bird fatality per
But you don’t need to be part of the
problem. Applying static-cling decals to your
windows will prevent birds from mistaking
your windows for thin air. And, you can apply
such a decal without affecting the appearance
of your home. For example, decals from
WindowAlert rely on a special ultravioletreflecting
coating that is invisible to humans,
but looks like a brilliant glow to birds. You can
learn more at WindowAlert.com.
“Your home needn’t pose a danger to
birds,” stresses Spencer Schock, founder of
If you spot an injured bird in your garden,
don’t rescue it. If it’s young, its parents are
likely nearby. If you want to take action, call
Dwellings 2012: Home & Garden
Boosting your home’s curb appeal
by StatePoint Media
You can’t judge a book by its cover, but you can judge
a home by its exterior. And, with warmer weather comes
thoughts of outdoor home improvement projects.
If you’re looking to boost your house’s curb appeal this
season, think about adding color from top to bottom.
“Homeowners shouldn’t be afraid of color. Contrasting
colors, complementary colors and color accents on a home,
when done right, can all add tremendously to the curb appeal
of a house,” says national color expert Kate Smith, CMG and
owner of Sensational Color.
This season Smith is offering some top-to-bottom tips to
homeowners ready for bold change:
If your roof appears old and dingy, is leaking or wearing
thin, it’s time to research replacement options. Consider
durable synthetic slate or shake tiles in a variety of hues.
For example, DaVinci Roofscapes offers 49 roof colors along
with 28 standard color blends.
“Selecting roofing colors that complement the rest of the
home helps your eye move from the top down,” says Smith. If
you’re overwhelmed by the choices, a free “Fresh Exteriors
Color” guide is available for download atsensationalcolor.com.
Whether you’re looking for low-maintenance vinyl replacement
or new construction windows, add a splash of color to
complement your home’s exterior and interior as well. A bold
color contrast, like red window frames against crisp white trim
pieces is a classic eye-catching look.
“A window is like a two-sided canvas,” says Smith. “The colors
on the frame exteriors enhance the home’s overall appearance
from the street. And, when you get inside and select stylish
woodgrain frame interiors, you’re adding beauty to the room
settings. That’s a ‘win-win’ experience for any homeowner.“
The Decorum collection by Simonton Windows for example,
provides a variety of custom
color options like brick, chocolate,
bronze and pine green.
The door to your house
should make a statement. A
door with a smooth paintable
surface, made with low-maintenance
you to make a new statement
as often as you’d like. For example,
Craft Canvas Collection has
these features, as well as
wide center panels and rich
embossment details that rival
high-end custom wood doors.
To further enhance the
entryway to your home,
consider installing decorative
glass inserts in the door. Then,
flank the door with a set of
easy-to-install Fypon urethane
pilasters, a stylish crosshead
and pediment. Resistant to
your wildlife office for information on licensed
With a few tweaks to your garden, you
can create an eco-friendly habitat for the
birds and the bees and everything in between.
After all, there’s nothing more beautiful than
a garden that is not only good to you and your
family, but to wildlife, as well. : :
Local tips for Spring
garden spruce up
Clean out all landscape beds of old
winter debris and leaves.
Cut back any perennials that you didn’t
get to in the Fall.
Hand prune all of your Southern
camellias right after they bloom.
Options for Southern gardens
I always love using native plant materials
and those tried and true to our region
as opposed to plants that have been over
Clethra “Crystalina” is a fabulous new
dwarf variety of our native deciduous
shrub that produces fragrant white panicles
in the late Summer when everything
else in the garden seems tired after a hard
hot Summer. This works great in our soils
in full sun or some shade; yellow Fall color
on the leaves is a plus, too.
Itea “Little Henry” is my favorite dwarf
variety of our native sweet-spire. Early
white flowers hang like a strand of pearls
on this plant that slowly spreads to colonize
an area without invasiveness in our
clay soils, sun or semi shade.
See many more more local tips
from Myron Greer online at goqnotes.
— Myron Greer, myrongreer.com
moisture, insects, rot and humidity, both the urethane trim and
fiberglass entry door are great low-maintenance solutions to
adding curb appeal for the home.
From top to bottom, color and detail can give your home a
bold, stylish makeover. : :
Low maintenance products can create a stunning home exterior.
on the map
Barbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316
free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.
Super Sundays with Aiesha Paris, Nickel Bar
starts at 8 p.m.
House Cast Show, The Scorpio
with DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.
Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshed
free dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.
karaoke, 9 p.m.
Movie Night, Bar at 316
starts at 9 p.m.
Monday Madness, Chasers
pool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prize
and $25 bar tab.
Boxing & Monday Night Football, Sidelines
Free Pool, The Woodshed
Karaoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316
starts at 9 p.m.
Pool Tournament, Central Station
Twisted Trivia, Chasers
with Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.
Showtime at 12:30 a.m.
Trivia Tuesdays, Marigny
hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.
Midwood Madness, Petra’s
half-price bottles of wine
Karaoke, The Woodshed
starts at 9 p.m.
Game Night, Bar at 316
Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’s
starts at 8 p.m.
’90s music night, Nickel Bar
hosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.
Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpio
featuring Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.
Pool Tournament, The Woodshed
starts at 10:30 p.m.
Thursday Night House Party, Bar at 316
Pool Tournament, Central Station
Rockin’ Well Thursdays, Chasers
with Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.
Free HIV Testing, Connections
the 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.
Karaoke Night, Hartigan’s
hosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.
Team Boystown, Marigny
starts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.
Karaoke Night, The Rainbow In
free for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.
Underwear Night, The Woodshed
House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316
Free HIV Testing, Connections
the 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.
A-List Fridays, Marigny
hosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.
Live DJ, Nickel Bar
Live Performances, Petra’s
Roxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow In
starts at 11p.m.
Life’s a Drag, The Scorpio
with Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.
House DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316
The Angela Lopez Show, Chasers
show starts at 12:30 a.m.
Live DJ, Hartigan’s
Krewe Saturdays, Marigny
Soul Music, Nickel Bar
Live Performances, Petra’s
Urban Variety Show, The Scorpio
with Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.
Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.
Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,
New Life MCC
Worship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.
Monthly covered dish dinner and
coffeehouse-style worship service on the first
Sunday of every month, 6 p.m.
Unity Fellowship Church of Charlotte
Worship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.
Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of every
month, 9 a.m.
Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,
The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte
Promoting the diversity, acceptance and
visibility of the LGBT community through
programming and events.
North Carolina’s LGBT everything store.
Complete line of Pride merchandise, plus
books, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwear
info: Don’t see your bar listed here
Submit your regularly scheduled events to
March 31-April 13 . 2012 qnotes 11
Playing the field
Spring season heats up
by Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributor
The first annual Duck Invitational
Tournament was held in Atlanta, Sunday,
March 11. The event was graciously hosted
by the Atlanta Ducks Softball Club in College
Park. Teams from Tennessee and Georgia
competed in C and D level divisions, in a
single elimination style tournament.
The number 1 overall seed, the Knoxville
Cyclones, won the C Division, outlasting the
number 2 overall seed, the Atlanta Assault, in
an extra inning thriller, 7-6. Despite the somewhat
soggy conditions, both teams played
phenomenal defense, making this a close one.
No team had more than a 3-run lead the entire
game. Led by Charlotte area players Jared
West and Quinton McNutt, the Cyclones were
able to defeat the Assault with two runs in the
bottom of the 8th to take the title.
In the D Division championship, the
Atlanta Titans handily defeated Knoxville
Good Times 17-9 to claim the title. The
Titans scored early, quickly had a lead and
never looked back by playing solid defense
throughout the game.
The next NAGAAA sanctioned tournament
will be the 30th Annual Southern Shootout,
held in Birmingham, Ala., Easter weekend. This
is one of the larger gay softball tournaments
in the Southeast and it will be hosting teams
from as far away as Louisiana, Texas and Ohio.
For more information about who will be there
and what park they will play at, check out their
Royals player David June rushes the ball
during a recent game.
The Charlotte Royals took their team
on the road for a St. Patrick’s Day clash in
Columbus, Ohio, to play the Coyotes. This was
the first of a home and home between the two
teams and each was looking to set the tone
for the late season match up on May 5.
The game was tight throughout, with
Columbus holding a one-try lead at the half,
12-5. But in the second half, the Royals
were unable to surmount the deficit and lost
29-12. Despite losing the close game, Coach
Amanda Vestal remained upbeat. “Overall it
was a good, competitive match…we got the
ball to the line, and made good passes. It will
be a good match for us later this season.”
Earning men of the match honors for the
Royals were forward Coty Webb, who scored
once during the game, and scrum half, BJ
Smith. Scoring the other try for the Royals
was inside centerback Zach Anderson. The
Coyotes were lead in scoring by Cordaro
Rogers (2), with Chase Kuhn, Lucas Herman,
and Matt Kretovics all finding the try zone.
The Charlotte Royals stayed on the road
the following weekend when they took on the
Davidson College Wildcats on March 24. This
was the first matchup between the two teams
after inclement weather forced a cancellation
of a previously scheduled match two years
ago. The Royals looked to bounce back from
consecutive losses and earn their first win of
After that, the Royals will head to St. Louis
where they are participating in the Spring
Fever Invitational, hosted by the St. Louis
Crusaders. This tournament will be played
April 2 involving teams from across the South
and Midwest. This will be a good experience
to have under their belt as they make preparations
to attend the largest gay rugby tournament,
the Bingham Cup in June. : :
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April 13 so you can
say no to
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Get your GIF on starting in April
Local consumer coupon program for LGBT goes live
by O’Neale Atkinson : : firstname.lastname@example.org
In October 2011, qnotes reported about
the upcoming launch of Gay It Forward (GIF),
a coupon-based website similar to Groupon
that will be focused on the LGBT community
in Charlotte. Different from sites like it, GIF will
not only offer coupons to LGBT friendly businesses,
but will also provide consumers the
opportunity to contribute some of their spending
to go to local and national LGBT organizations.
GIF’s launch was delayed in order to
ensure that everything would be ready to go
and that there would be plenty of great deals.
GIF is scheduled to go live with their first deal
on April 10.
GIF is the brainchild of co-founders Dan
Mauney and Mike Rusk. The two see this as
an opportunity to educate the community on
local LGBT friendly businesses, while at the
same time supporting local and national LGBT
organizations. “Now is a time that we have to
be extremely cognizant. This is a pivotal time
for our community and we can’t always just
go out and vote. We need to do more to make
sure that we rally around the people that rally
around us,” says Mauney.
GIF has selected two national organizations
and three local organizations to
benefit from the purchases of GIF certificates
once the program launches. Campus
Pride and the Human Rights Campaign will
be the national organization recipients
and Time Out Youth, The LGBT Community
Center of Charlotte and Regional AIDS
Interfaith Network will be the local organizations.
Individuals who purchase a GIF
certificate will have the option to select one
of these organizations during the checkout.
The selected organization will receive 10
percent of the revenues made by GIF from
the purchase. If no organization is selected
at checkout, the revenues will be divided
equally among the five organizations.
According to Mauney,
taking advantages of
the savings offered
by GIF will be a
Each time a new
deal is posted
to the website,
have signed up
will receive an
email with the
current deal. Most
deals will have a time
frame or cap and so each
deal will be time sensitive. To purchase a GIF
you simply go onto the website and use their
online checkout system. During checkout
you will be asked to select an organization
to benefit from your purchase. Once your
purchase is confirmed you will receive a GIF
certificate electronically that you can use at
the specified location.
For the month of April, GIF plans to offer
a new deal each week so people can get a
feel for the program and in May the number
of deals will expand. Ultimately there will be
several different types
of GIFs offered
change monthly and travel deals will be
quarterly. According to Mauney, businesses
are responding favorably to the idea of participating
in the program. “We have had a great
response from local businesses. They really
like that we have a targeted market and we
are working with each business so they can
create their own deal.”
In terms of the types of deals that will be
offered, Mauney says that they are aiming
to have a wide range of services participating
in the GIF program. “We’re talking about
doctors’ offices for cosmetic procedures,
mechanical things like oil changes, massages
and spa treatments and even down to things
like painting for home and, of course, great
shopping and dining deals.”
Mauney expects that GIF will be well
received by the Charlotte community and
is already working on plans to expand the
program to other cities. “It has taken us a little
bit of time to launch, but we wanted to make
sure that we had all of the bells and whistles
ready to replicate into other markets quickly
after GIF launches.” GIF is planning to target
Atlanta and Washington, D.C., once the program
takes off in Charlotte. As GIF expands,
each city will have their own page on the site
with three local organizations of their own as
beneficiaries of the purchases.
To help get the word out about GIF, there
will be a TakeOver launch party on April 6.
The launch party will be held at Vivace, 1100
Metropolitan Ave., Suite 100, a local contemporary
Italian restaurant that will be featured
as an upcoming GIF deal.
For more information about Gay It
Forward, visit gayitforwardcoupon.com. : :
March 31-April 13 . 2012 qnotes 13
talkback: Amendment One
by Ashlei Blue
Regional Field Director for the Coaliation to Protect
All NC Families
Faith into action
The opposition wants you to think they
have registered domain over faith and religion
while our Coalition to Protect NC Families has
proved them wrong every step of the way.
This amendment will affect unmarried families
that are Christian, Jewish, Muslim, Buddhist
and Agnostic, a fact they may have overlooked.
Charlotte voters, however, have not.
Many times, LGBT campaigns neglect to
reach out to faith organizations and include
them in conversations. Under the guiding
hand of our Regional Faith Field Organizer,
Kelly Berry, we’ve been able to gather the
signatures of 28 clergy making statements
against the amendment and now they’re putting
their faith into action.
Rev. Robin Tanner has led the charge
against the amendment on behalf of Piedmont
Unitarian Universalists, while Rev. Stephen
Shoemaker at Myers Park Baptist has delivered
powerful sermons on the subject. Rev.
Chris Ayers of Wedgewood Baptist has been
openly involved as well, turning their church
marquee into an “Against Amendment One”
billboard. Temple Beth-El has spearheaded
conversations, joining the ranks of Caldwell
Memorial Presbyterian, St. Martin’s Episcopal,
St. John’s Baptist, Holy Trinity, Charlotte
Friends, Sardis Baptist and Unity Fellowship
Church. We won’t stop there. We’re going up
and down the Beatties Ford Corridor and down
to South Charlotte to get even more support.
Vote No! Vote No! Vote No! Vote No! Vote No!
Amendment One • May 8
Learn More About The Anti-Gay Measure Here!
This is not an easy topic for any faith
to approach, but scripture teaches us to
“commit your way to the Lord…He will make
your righteousness shine like the dawn, the
justice of your cause like the noonday sun.”
With God at their right hand, supporters
have not been shaken by the condemnations
thrown their way in defense of LGBT rights.
We are thankful for every volunteer and
every clergy member that has stood in
front of their brothers and sisters against
As a person of faith, I’ve made it my
personal pleasure to show our opposition just
how good God is to all families. Please join me
in reaching out to your congregation. If you
are not sure where your place of faith stands
on the issue, make it your business to ask. As
a faithful tither, you deserve to know where
your rabbi, bishop, pastor and faith instructor
stands on Amendment One. Find your
congregation’s social justice committee and
put it on the agenda during their next meeting.
Hang around after Bible study, pull a clergy
member to the side and find out if they are
aware North Carolina’s constitution could be
amended to revoke the rights of too many of
God’s people in Charlotte. Ask them to stand
beside you and put their faith into action by
voting against Amendment One.
On Sunday, April 29 we are holding a Faith
to the Ballot Rally at the Hal Marshall Annex,
where supporters of all religious backgrounds
will join each other and vote against amendment
one. You can meet us there after church
at 1 p.m., 618 College St. : :
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Dwellings 2012: Home & Garden
Better home organization can save you money
by StatePoint Media
Did you know that a disorganized household
can cost your family money
From failing to make necessary repairs
before it’s too late, to mismanaging the
household budget, there can be a high price
to disorganization. Don’t accrue unnecessary
expenses that could be avoided by simply
streamlining your household.
“The key to running a happy home is
having a system to keep everything neat and
orderly,” says Elizabeth Dodson, co-founder of
HomeZada, a revolutionary home organization
online software application.
There’s no better time than Spring to do
some house cleaning and get your home life
in order. Here are some tips to get you started:
Each year, 15,600 dryer fires occur,
resulting in property damage exceeding $75
million. And, the leading cause is lack of
maintenance. Preserve the overall value of
your largest asset, your home, with regular
maintenance of your house and appliances.
An online program can secure documentation
and help you keep details straight, such
as when you last tested your smoke detectors
or replaced your air filters.
In this digital day and age, make paper
tracking of your families’ schedule and to-do
lists a thing of the past. By going digital, it will
be harder to make costly mistakes like missed
appointments and overdue bills.
Online organizational tools are replacing
the chore wheel, the calendar and the message
board, consolidating all this information
in one place. Opt for a safe and secure
service that sends alerts and reminders to
users about what tasks needs to get done.
For example, HomeZada makes it easy for a
family to create a plan, assign chores and get
on the same page.
Nobody likes to think about challenges like
burglaries, fires and floods. But, these things
can and do happen, so it’s best to be prepared
for anything. Unfortunately, most people have
incomplete records about their home and
possessions and often, this information is
scattered in multiple boxes, filing cabinets,
drawers and spreadsheets.
An online tracking tool can help you
maximize your insurance benefits in the event
of emergency, by storing the important details
of your possessions in one place. Look for a
service that even will let you track upcoming
warranty expiration dates, sending you
reminders to your phone or email. More tips
on what to look for in an online home management
tool can be found athomezada.com.
When it comes to running an organized
household, there are a lot of moving parts. But.
by getting them together today, you can save
your family money and headaches tomorrow. : :
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We are no April Fools especially with the march
of planets through strong constellations of Aries
and Taurus. Know where you are and where you
are going. When in doubt, pretend like you know
what you are doing and no one will question you.
ARIES (03.21-04.20) Even if money is a pressing
concern, it squeezes you a little less now. That is
because your charisma seems to generate the
generosity of benefactors. Milk it for all its worth,
proud Ram, and invest the spillage into clever and
well-researched equities. You never know when
you will need that extra fiscal oomph — and
exactly how much oomph you will really need.
TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Move with the big movers
and shakers, queer Bull. You need to find new
herds to join and new pastures in which to roam.
Not only can you spread your influence, your
ample, generous personality can command any
crowd. Use it for good and not for petty and selfish
purposes. Later on, you may need to rely on
the kindness of strangers and then what.
GEMINI (05.22-06.21) The gossip and scuttle is
that pink Twins are the ones to know. They have
powers of persuasion and are a link to everything
that is good. Is that true No matter what you think
and feel, you can glide on the wings of great press
and unforeseen lucky graces. Go with the flow and
don’t ask too many questions. All too soon you will
be back to grabbing anything you can get.
CANCER (06.22-07.23) Friends are working for your
benefit, so allow them some space and freedom to
do what they want and need to do for you. In fact,
use this time to expand your social circle beyond
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your clique. Join new organizations and elite
groups. You seem to have what it takes to take on
anything and anyone. There is someone in particular
who has big plans for you. How big is big
LEO (07.24-08.23) Even though you feel like a rat
in the middle of a big rat race, there is a payoff at
the finish line. Proud Lions think that all their hard
efforts have been ignored by the top executives,
but that is wrong. In fact, there may be some additions
to your responsibilities that can increase
your value to the company. Oh, goody. But where
is the money
VIRGO (08.24-09.23) You are currently an international
sensation. Immerse yourself with anything
regarding the internet and social media or do it
the old-fashioned way and just travel. Find any
excuse for a vacation. It has palliative benefits.
Queer Virgins yearn to expand their borders. Don’t
sit and wait for something to happen. Go for a
land grab and manifest your destiny.
LIBRA (09.24-10.23) You charmer you. Not only do
you ooze sexuality, you can maximize every deep
encounter — from business to pleasure — to
your personal benefit. Lovers are powerful figures
who enhance your life. Legal issues resolve to
your benefit based partially on your charm. Even
mundane projects become epicenters of creativity
and opportunity. May this time period last
forever for you.
SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Relationships improve
dramatically right now and not a moment too soon.
Queer Scorps who are looking for a special someone
can find them…if they get out there and look.
Those currently in a partnership find that romantic
delightful moments increase exponentially. Don’t
waste this time on dredging up the past. Look to the
future and any lovely present that you can offer.
SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Gay Archers seem
to have more pep and energy. Maybe that is
because you have found new ways to get rid of
all your excess “stuff,” whether that means jobs,
tasks, clutter or issues, that drain your energy
reserves. Good, because you will soon have other,
more enticing things to take up your time and
excess energies. No names please!
CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) You are feeling pretty
lucky. But, if you have the choice of being lucky in
cards or lucky in love, choose love. Gambling may
seem easy, but it has little long-term impact. Love
on the other hand, goes from light to heavy as time
progresses. Pink Caps with a penchant for drama
can ramp up their creativity. Body painting with
food is a thought.
AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) It feels so cozy at home it
may be hard for you to get out and mosey around
town. But, try to find time for both cocooning and
gadflying about. It might be a good time to plan for
some extensive home renovations or even a festive
basheroo or two. For those Aqueerians with
family issues, tackle them now. You are especially
diplomatic for a change.
PISCES (02.20-03.20) Even a stray thought can take
on monumental proportions. So, nurture any idea,
no matter how small or insignificant it may seem.
You have a wonderful way of expressing yourself
and hold boundless enthusiasm that is contagious.
Remember: Little acorns grow into big oaks and
tiny sparks of genius can light the world. Yes, even
you Guppie. : :
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info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com for
e-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. My
book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology For Lesbians”
from Simon & Schuster is
available at bookstores and major booksites.
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So your husband wants to do drag
Suddenly, out of nowhere, my partner wants
to do drag. Is there anything I can say to
change his mind
Drag Dramas, Austin, TX
Hello Drag Dramas,
It seems like every once in a while a gay or
straight guy wants to crossdress or do drag.
And, every once in a while that same guy later
on decides to become a drag artist. However,
this is as rare as someone wanting to be an
astronaut after being trapped in a bubble for
a week. So, if you must tell him something
tell him, “I’m ready if you are!” Darling, once
he takes two hours in make up, two hours
getting dressed, spends a night in heels and
is wrapped in hose and a girdle, don’t worry,
he’ll be worshipping high tops and carpenter
pants as quick as you can say, “Down in front,
soldier.” Not to worry.
I’m an affectionate guy, but my lover is overly
affectionate in public. We live in a small town
and I don’t feel safe as an openly gay couple.
What do I do
Suburbiaphobia, St. Louis, MO
I’m a true advocate of being out and living
fearlessly. Yet, I also believe in living safely
and strategically. While being affectionate
in public as a gay couple may not always be
safe, it may be executed strategically. Try
being affectionate in private spots in public
places. Spend time in gay friendly places like
P-town where holding hands is commonplace
and will help you feel better. And, if you’re
still nervous, then take self-defense classes.
Seriously. Eventually, pumpkin, we all must
face our fears in order to make them disappear!
Be safe but free.
I’m a respectable woman, but I’m in a disrespectable
situation. I’m dating two women
at once and it’s going to be a year. They both
live in different parts of the country. That’s
how I’ve kept it going. Now, they both want to
move in with me. Help!
Three’s Company, Detroit, MI
How thrilling and dangerous! How selfish and
crazy! I have two words for you: honesty and
decision. Tell the one you like the least what
you’ve done and see if she says, “I love you
anyway.” Then tell her you’ll call her right
back. Right after, quickly call the one you
really like and tell her the same thing. If she
dumps you, then your decision is made. If she
says, “I love you no matter what.” then get
rid of the first woman by either paying her off
or lovingly letting her go. Either way, sweetie,
you’re honest and left with one woman to love
and hold and, oh God, my head is still spinning.
(I’m caught in a spin cycle myself as you
can see from my cartoon.)
My husband started taking steroids. He wants
to be the Hulk. It’s making us fight more than
ever. He gets enraged so easily now. How do I
keep my marriage from exploding
Too Big Too Fast, Savannah, GA
Dear Too Big Too Fast,
Steroids: Looking like a beast and acting like
one too. He’s obviously reading too many
muscle mags or is in a mid-life crisis. Before
moving out, read:
Trinity’s Strong Tips For
Dealing With A Man Who Is
1. Move into your guest room until the cycle’s
2. Do impressions of him so he knows what
he acts like.
3. If he needs steroids, you need therapy.
4. Force yourself to be more understanding.
5. Destroy the alcohol. Alcohol with steroids
turns Dr. Jekyll into Mr. Hyde.
6. Love him for his needs, whether you agree
7. Try to support him. That’s your job.
8. Let him know how difficult it is for you.
9. Make him sign a will, in case you kill him.
10. And, lastly, when it’s over you may get a
big hulking surprise with some pimples. : :
— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity
was host of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly
radio drama, and now performs globally.
www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.com
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to play Dorian Gray, but on stage. I think it is
extremely sexy and a topic we all deal with:
the fear of growing older. Recently a fantastic
local artist made a huge painting of me as The
Arbiter in “Chess.” I like to think the painting
will grow old from now on instead of me! I also
think I would have loved to play WALL-E in the
Pixar movie. Why can only a talking cat have
an accent…and cool boots!
Can you ride a unicycle
In my mind I can ride it perfectly! Why not
Have you ever been elected to any position
What position Such an intimate question! Ah,
I know what you mean, and no, I haven’t.
Which is greater, your shoe size or the number
of times you’ve been in drag
My shoe size. I make an ugly woman.
Which pro athlete is the epitome of male
Probably David Beckham. I like his style, his
presence and the new H&M commercials. Not
to mention he has Posh Spice. : :
Several years ago I attended a show at the
Exit Theatre in San Francisco. Veronica Klaus
was performing her one-woman show, “Family
Jewels.” Veronica sums up frustrations and
sentiments when she ponders, “People ask me
if I feel like a woman. Do I feel like a woman
The truth is, I have no idea whether I feel like
any other woman. I have no idea whether I
ever felt like any other man. All I know is that
I feel like me, Veronica, a person whose existence
is partly innate, partly instinct, partly art,
the art of creating.”
As I tend to repeat, transsexuality is life
loving itself, loving its capacity for invention,
change and possibility. All that seems arcane
about transsexuality — hormone replacement
therapy, surgeries, name changes — can be
understood as marks of healing and of the desire
to live well. For me, and, perhaps, because
it is my experience, there is something simple
if undefinable about transsexuality, resisting
blunt definitions and analyses. It just is. I accepted
it as it happened, and am sure I did the
right thing. : :
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It’s time to ‘believe’
April 7 • Charlotte
‘Believe in Youth’ Annual Speaker Series
Campus Pride and Time Out Youth have partnered to present their third annual “Believe in Youth Awareness
Event” with national young adult leader and marriage equality advocate Zach Wahls. Wahls, 20, is known
as “that kid from YouTube with two moms.” His passionate testimony before the Iowa General Assembly
against a proposed anti-LGBT constitutional amendment was the number one YouTube “Political Video” of
2011. Read more about Wahl’s and other straight allies online at goqnotes.com. Free. Open to the public.
5 p.m. Wells Fargo Auditorium at Knight Theatre at Levine Center for the Arts, 430 S. Tryon St.
campuspride.org. timeoutyouth.org. (Pictured are Wahls with his family.)
April 1 • Charlotte
Day of Action with Young Democrats of NC
The Coalition to Protect All NC Families will
join forces with the Young Democrats of North
Carolina in an effort to educate voters across
Mecklenburg County. Volunteers will help
collect pledge cards against Amendment One
and canvas neighborhoods to encourage
voter turnout on May 8. 10 a.m.–4 p.m.
NCDP Headquarters, 301 E. 9th St.
For more information, contact RFD Ashlei K.
April 8 • Winston-Salem
A portion of the drink proceeds benefits AIDS
Care Service. No cover. Free food. Music by
DJ Cash. Encore, 411 W. 4th St. 5-8 p.m. 336-
April 9 • Chapel Hill
Reading of ‘8’
PlayMakers Repertory Company is proud to
announce a one-night-only staged reading of
“8,” a play chronicling the historic trial in the
federal constitutional challenge to California’s
Proposition 8, written by Academy Awardwinning
screenwriter and AFER Founding
Board Member Dustin Lance Black. 7:30 p.m.
Paul Green Theatre, Center for Dramatic Art,
Country Club Rd.
April 14 • Charlotte
Celebration of the Arts
Time Out Youth and Vito Abate, with support
from Drake Dentistry, present Celebration of
the Arts for one special night. Doors open at
6:30 p.m. Show starts at 7:30 p.m. $25. Theatre
Charlotte, 501 Queens Rd. Contact Time Out
Youth for more information and to purchase
tickets. 704-344-8335. Timeoutyouth.org.
April 14 • Raleigh
4th Annual Jack Crum Conference on
A gathering of people of all faiths to honor
the tradition of faith-based social justice by
coming together to worship, learn, share
meals and stories and get engaged in a social
justice issue immediately threatening our
communities. This year’s conference will focus
on mobilizing people of faith to defeat the
so called “marriage amendment” and protect
All NC families from the discriminatory harms
it would cause. All day event. Registration
required. Fairmont United Methodist Church,
2501 Clark Ave. For more information, contact
April 15 • Charlotte
‘Love Free or Die’ screening
Bishop Gene Robinson is a
man whose two defining passions
— his love for God and
for his partner Mark — are
considered to be in direct
conflict by some. “Love Free
or Die” focuses on those, like
Robinson, whose lives hang
in the balance as churches
and states battle for LGBT
equality. The film is relevant
and poignant and the hosts
are proud to host a Charlotte
viewing just weeks before the
NC Amendment One vote on
May 8. Dessert and conversation to follow the
screening. 4 p.m. Myer’s Park Baptist Church,
Heaton Hall, 1900 Queens Rd. mpbconline.org.
April 19 • Charlotte
‘The Bible: The complete word of God
Three actors are about to tell you the entire
(abridged) story from Genesis to Revelations
(and most of everything in between). Get
ready for a fast-paced, quick-witted comedy
… but most of all — a hilarious trip through
the greatest story ever accepted as fact.
Show will also play April 21, 22, 24, 26, 28
and 29. 7:30 p.m. Petra’s Piano Bar, 1919
Commonwealth Ave. petraspianobar.com.
April 21 • Cary
‘8’ by Dustin Lance Black
One-night-only staged reading of “8,” a play
chronicling the historic trial in the federal
constitutional challenge to California’s
Proposition 8. Based on the actual words of
the trial transcripts, first-hand observations of
the courtroom drama
and interviews with
the plaintiffs and the
families. Admission is
free but reservations
are required. 8 p.m.
Cary Academy’s Fine &
Performing Arts Center,
1500 North Harrison
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April 22 - 23 • Charlotte
reading of ‘8’
Actor’s Theatre of
Charlotte, with license
from the American
Foundation for Equal Rights (AFER) and
Broadway Impact, is proud to announce a
two-night-only reading of “8,” a play chronicling
the historic trial in the federal constitutional
challenge to California’s Proposition
8, written by Academy Award-winning
screenwriter and AFER Founding Board
Member Dustin Lance Black. $8 for tickets.
Performance starts at 8 p.m. Actor’s Theatre
of Charlotte, 650 E. Stonewall St.
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