QUICK START GUIDE CHEAT SHEET - Positive Parenting Solutions
QUICK START GUIDE CHEAT SHEET - Positive Parenting Solutions
QUICK START GUIDE CHEAT SHEET - Positive Parenting Solutions
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<strong>QUICK</strong> <strong>START</strong> <strong>GUIDE</strong> <strong>CHEAT</strong> <strong>SHEET</strong><br />
The ultimate parenting tool to get kids to take action the FIRST time you ask.<br />
The Vicious Cycle<br />
Does this sound familiar?<br />
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WHEN-THEN<br />
Discover the tool that parents hail as “magical” in it’s effectiveness.<br />
When it’s used:<br />
When you need your kids to do something – to take<br />
action NOW!<br />
• Clean the room<br />
• Get dressed for school<br />
• Do their homework<br />
• Insert your favorite here: _______________<br />
How it’s used:<br />
To delay or deny a privilege (Y) until the task (X) is<br />
done. It works for kids as young as 2.5 up through teens.<br />
• When you clean up your toys, then you can watch<br />
your show.<br />
• When you unload the dishwasher, then you can go<br />
outside and play with your friends.<br />
• When you finish your homework and I’ve checked it,<br />
then we’ll leave for soccer practice.<br />
• When you finish your family jobs, then we’ll leave<br />
for the mall.<br />
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© 2012 <strong>Positive</strong> <strong>Parenting</strong> <strong>Solutions</strong>, Inc. 1<br />
www.<strong>Positive</strong><strong>Parenting</strong><strong>Solutions</strong>.com
4 Essential Ground Rules & 1 CAUTION<br />
Don’t forget these vital elements of a successful When=Then<br />
When-Then Ground Rules<br />
1. The privilege must be something the child truly<br />
_______________________ to motive him to take action.<br />
2. Say the When-Then in your ____________ and<br />
emphasize the “When” and the “Then”.<br />
3. After saying the When-Then, you MUST walk away and<br />
disengage! It sends the message that:<br />
• I’m not going to argue or negotiate about this.<br />
• I have complete faith you’ll get it done.<br />
Walking away also allows your child to _______________<br />
and still do what you asked.<br />
4. Don’t give in!<br />
It’s NOT “IF-THEN”<br />
IF-Then…<br />
• Implies the child has a choice.<br />
• Feels like a bribe.<br />
WHEN-Then conveys full confidence she’ll do what you<br />
asked.<br />
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© 2012 <strong>Positive</strong> <strong>Parenting</strong> <strong>Solutions</strong>, Inc. 2<br />
www.<strong>Positive</strong><strong>Parenting</strong><strong>Solutions</strong>.com
Find the answers to your burning questions in the Interactive.<br />
What if my child keeps complaining or has a total meltdown?<br />
Or worse yet – what if he follows me around the house when I try to disengage?<br />
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How do I use When-Then to make morning and bedtime routines run like clockwork?<br />
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How do I get my kids to do their homework or practice their instruments?<br />
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What if I use a When-Then and my child still doesn’t do what I asked?<br />
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Even more tips…<br />
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Look for an email with an invitation to take the<br />
PARENT PERSONALITY ASSESSMENT<br />
To enroll in <strong>Positive</strong> <strong>Parenting</strong> <strong>Solutions</strong> Online, visit:<br />
www.<strong>Positive</strong><strong>Parenting</strong><strong>Solutions</strong>.com<br />
© 2012 <strong>Positive</strong> <strong>Parenting</strong> <strong>Solutions</strong>, Inc. 3<br />
www.<strong>Positive</strong><strong>Parenting</strong><strong>Solutions</strong>.com
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