November-December 2008 - Women's Press

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November-December 2008 - Women's Press

{ Volume XXIII, Number 6 } November & December 2008 A Publication of the Women’s Community Center of San Luis Obispo County

Janet Roberts: “My Inner Territory” mixed media on canvas, 48 x 96”

5

Nice Girl Syndrome

8

Interview with

Outgoing Editor

10

The Hormone

Dilemma

13

7

Voices Around

the Table

9

Introduction from

New Editor

11

Upcoming

Workshops


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Dear Readers,

I write this on the morning after the

election and my heart is full. I am hopeful.

We have elected a leader who says “we”

more he says “I.” Watching the variety of

faces in Grant Park during his speech, we

could see who the “we” are. All ages, all

colors—all moved by his call to hope—

and accepting that change will be possible

only if we work together. For me, Obama’s

appeal has always been his ability to speak

with an awareness of both the yin and the

yang—in a world in which there is way

too much yang. He was the only candidate

who appeared to embrace both his masculine

and feminine aspects. Yes, he showed

assertiveness, an ability to control and take

charge, but he also exhibited gentleness,

tenderness, patience, and receptiveness. He

has a grace, a serenity, a lightness of being—

and his message of hope has always been

one of inclusion, relationship. In a world

crying out for balance, he responded, and

we responded to him.

Our theme for the Women’s Press workshops

has been “Gather the Women – Save

the World,” which is another way to say

that honoring the feminine is necessary for

planetary salvation. The voices of women

in the Press have always reflected that wisdom—and

so does Obama’s. His election

is a confirmation that our country’s collective

energies are poised to find ways to heal

Mother Earth and serve the common good.

This is my last issue as editor. In January,

this column will be Courtney’s Quill and

Courtney Brogno will take over as managing

editor. She is as committed as I have

been to make sure that women’s voices are

heard and that women in our community

make connections with one another. She

introduces herself on page 9.

My life has been so enriched over the

last six years as editor as the women in the

county have entered my life in their words

and spirits. Some have become treasured

friends. I will continue to write for the Press,

support Courtney as she takes on her editorial

tasks, and work with many of you to

organize events that will bring us together

to make connections and build community.

Thank you to all of you who enable an

independent newspaper by, for, and about

women to exist in our county. In the challenging

times ahead, we will need your support,

especially financial support. Click

occasionally on the Donate button on

the Women’s Community Center website,

www.wccslo.org. Keep in people’s hands

our ideas and visions.

My best to you all in these “interesting”

times,

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By Francesca Bolognini

Drum Circle Magic

Part Four: The Heart Beat

Welcome back to the circle. In the first

three installments, I have shared with you

our universal rhythmic heritage, intimate

connection to rhythm, and various options

for exploration and shared experience. Part

four will connect you to the center of the

circle, the heart beat. Playing solo, the

heart beat may be your own. Try playing

to your own heart for a few minutes and

notice the difference in how you feel. This

practice is very centering and calming. It

will positively affect physiological processes

as well. You might offer to drum gently

for someone who is ill or severely stressed

and observe the changes which take place.

In the ancient world, women were trained

in great temples to use sophisticated forms

of this very principle to do healing work

throughout their communities. When we

drum, we resurrect and renew our rightful

powers to serve the greater good.

There are logical reasons for this transformational

effect of rhythm. Before a woman

is born, all the eggs she will produce are

formed while in her mother’s body. So the

first sound to which you are exposed, at cellular

level, is your grandmother’s heart beat,

then the polyrhythm created by the addition

of your mother’s heart and then your

own. Throughout prenatal development,

these fluctuating vibrations dominate. It is

no surprise how soothing the sensation of

resting ones’ head against the breast of our

beloved is.

Often in a drum circle, this centering

function is filled by a leader who plays what

is called, quite appropriately, the mother

drum. Frequently larger, louder, and deeper

than the other instruments, it should always

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predominate sufficiently to be heard, at

least slightly above all else, providing a clear

and steady pulse for all others to follow. The

mother drum is the reference point for time

and tempo as well as volume level and general

feel of the round being played. In some

cases, people will take turns beginning and

leading a round. Whoever has such responsibility

should be respectfully heeded. This

prevents chaos and cacophony and helps to

create that magical goal, the groove.

When the groove forms, it seems as

if you cannot make a mistake, as if some

higher power has entered your being and

guides your hands from one beat to the

next, connecting you in a beautifully intimate

way to all the other players as if you

play with one heart, a collective inspiration,

and pure spirit. As with all matters of

the heart, this requires a balance that allows

one’s ego to open to the connectedness of

all things, dissolve boundaries, and welcome

communication on an elevated level.

Even one such experience can be life changing,

a spiritual awakening. It is like falling

in love, in that once you have done it, you

will forever want to do it again. So create

and share a groove to heal our planet, and

until next time, keep the beat!

Drum Circle Keeps Growing!

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“With Arms Wide Open” Painting by Janet Roberts

A Word from

the Cover Artist

by Janet Roberts

Uncertainty is my welcomed comrade. Its

presence allows me to stand before a 6 x 7

foot piece of linen and discover who I am

and who I can become. That though I am a

50-year-old woman, a four-time cancer survivor,

a mother of four daughters, an accomplished

horsewoman... these things, though

intimately precious, are not what absolutely

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experiencing new fertile moments every day I

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Letters to the Editor

Hi,

I enjoyed your paper—it’s the first

time I saw it. I was interested in the

Avoiding Breast Cancer Article by Marleen

Walmsley and looked at the referenced

YouTube search on cell phones

and popcorn. Checked it out on Snopes

(http://www.snopes.com/science/cookegg.

asp) and it was found to be a hoax by someone

promoting Bluetooth sales. An editing

trick. Clever.

Thanks,

Lana Beatty

From Marleen:

Her information is incorrect. Bluetooth

devices, for one thing, act as antennas -

they do not protect from EMFs/RF. Snopes

has caused much confusion on a number of

topics.

From Kathleen:

Looks like we all need to do some careful

reading and research on this for ourselves!

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Women’s Community Center

Our mission is:

• TO maintain an accessible center to

collect and exchange information of

interest and concern to women

• TO organize and facilitate workshops,

clinics, seminars, classes, and

support groups on subjects of interest

and need

• TO engage in and facilitate interaction

among local, state, and national

agencies and organizations working

to benefit women

Call for Volunteers

Hear ye, hear ye! The Women’s Community

Center is looking for a few volunteers

to help with several projects. We

could use some help with general office

duties and to monitor family court proceedings

(Court Watch).

Family Law

Action Committee

Entitlement, or What Works?

By Robin Werderits

A frequently asked question, one I get as a

divorce mediator almost more than what

I charge for my services, is the question

that goes something like this: How will I

know what I’m legally entitled to?

The beauty of mediation is that you

can take entitlements and, to some

extent, disregard them. But, you might

say, “Wait, why shouldn’t I be concerned

about what I’m entitled to?” Some entitlements

are obvious: we live in a community

property state, so we know that

community property items should - more

or less - be divided equally. But I often

have clients who are willing to give up

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more than their fair share of assets, or pay

more than guidelines on support. Why

do they do this? Because there is a feeling

of fairness, negotiation, and compromise

that takes place within the walls of

mediation that does not occur on the battlefield

of litigation. My mediation clients

have an opportunity to sculpt their own

divorce with the imaginary block of clay

that is theirs to mold to their own personal

needs and wishes. What you might

be entitled to legally could be more than

you would want or less than what you

need. I encourage my clients to look

beyond the question of what you are or

are not entitled to, and ask yourselves

what works for you.

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Donating Blood, Saving a Life

Every two months, I drive to a pretty

building on Broad St in the Creekside

Center. As I enter the building, and then

Suite 100, I enter a clean, bright, and

friendly office, where 90% of employees

are women. Once I answer the questionnaire,

I am taken to a comfortable chair

where I lie down and a professional nurse

pinches my arm once, which hurts about

as much as having a simple blood test.

I am then connected to a little machine

that collects my precious blood, my gift of

Every three seconds, someone needs

blood. It could be an accident victim, a

person undergoing surgery, or a child

receiving cancer treatment. Your family

and friends are counting on us, and we’re

counting on you! Every day we need at

least 270 blood donors to care for those

in need in our community. And there

is only one source of blood: Volunteer

blood donors.

With your help, United Blood Services

supplies 100% of the blood and

blood components used in San Luis

Obispo, Santa Barbara, and Ventura

counties, and the communities of Salinas

and King City. Caring community members

such as you, donate the blood that

is transfused to local patients, including

those you love and know.

life, for 6 to 10 minutes. After the tube is

removed, I get to relax for about 15 minutes,

reading magazines, eating cookies,

and drinking juice. At the end of my 15

minutes, I say goodbye to all these great

sisters and leave feeling filled of goodwill

as I drive home. I invite you to donate

and tell your friends to donate as well.

Warmly,

Sonia Paz Baron-Vine

WCC Board Member

We need more blood donors.

United Blood Services

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(between Tank and Fiero Lane)

4119 Broad St, Suite 100

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Donate now.

People can’t live without it.

A blood donor must be 17 years of age,

weigh at least 110 pounds, and be in

general good health.

Women’s Press Says Farewell to the Outgoing Editor

Read an interview with Kathleen Deragon on page 8

And Welcomes a New Editor

Courtney Brogno introduces herself on page 9

Join the Staff of the Women’s Press

The new editor will be pulling together a team of interested

women to get the work of the paper done. Join a committee

to manage the monthly workshops, yearly women’s film festival,

and events yet to be planned! Or do one of these tasks

on your own or with other volunteers.

• Decide on themes and seek out content

• Oversee a section of the paper

• Edit and proofread

• Maintain the database

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• Develop relationships with local women’s organizations

• Prepare paper for mailing

• Distribute paper in your area of the county

• Market the Press

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Getting Unstuck: Tips for Overcoming “Decision Gridlock” (Part 1)

By Adele Sommers

Have you ever felt so stymied by your

choices that every time you stared down at

your “chessboard of life,” you weren’t sure

where you could possibly make a move?

If so, you’re in good company, since that’s

where many of us find ourselves at one time

or another.

And whether that feeling of being stuck

relates to your business, personal matters, or

both, it can serve to encumber your progress.

This article discusses the first of two

patterns of “decision gridlock,” and what to

do about it.

Pattern #1: Worrying Incessantly

about Making the Perfect Move

I call this pattern “pondering perfection”

because every possibility appears to have

potential yet none stands out as the best

candidate for action. You may want to be so

absolutely, positively sure that you’re heading

in the right direction that instead, you

experience “analysis paralysis.”

Take Anna’s situation, for instance.

She sees a myriad of possibilities for starting

a business. Yet without knowing how

to identify a business purpose that’s ideally

suited to her life passions and strengths, she

doesn’t have enough information to make a

selection. She’s uncertain of whether to simply

choose a direction because it could be

expensive to switch later if her first choice

doesn’t work.

Robert, on the other hand, dreads the

idea of failure if he picks any direction that

doesn’t produce immediate success. His parents

always insisted that he should decide

what he wanted to do in life before leaving

high school. But Robert is multi-talented

with many different interests. Ever since

high school, he’s been unable to pinpoint

any single direction.

For Anna’s and Robert’s situations, I

recommend breaking the situation into

much smaller pieces that present little or

no risk. The first step can involve gathering

more information -- an extremely powerful

action!

So, ask yourself the following:

• What steps can I take to investigate,

study, or “test drive” my interests?

Consider conducting some Internet

research to become more familiar with

the options. If you’re considering a new

business, start researching your target

audience and learn what competing or

comparable businesses have to offer.

• Whom can I interview, observe, or

assist to see what kindles my interest

and seems most aligned with my

strengths? Consider contacting some of

the subject matter experts whose information

you read online. Most people

would be flattered to answer sincere

inquiries about their areas of expertise.

Local experts might happily let

you observe them in action and may

even endorse your writing an article

about your findings. They, or members

of professional groups, could become

your most supportive advisors or mentors.

In Part 2 of this series, we’ll explore

another pattern that can keep us stuck!

Adele Sommers, Ph.D. is a business performance

consultant who helps entrepreneurs

align their life passions with their business

purpose. She also guides organizations through

“tactical tune-ups” and “strategic makeovers”

in individual or group sessions. Contact her

today for a free initial consultation at Adele@

LearnShareProsper.com, or 805-462-2199.

Speaking to Create and Attract What You Want, Part II

The Contagious Nature of Passion

By Dianne Legro

The power of speech, either spoken aloud or

voiced in our heads, combines sound and

purpose. Tone of voice, pitch, and choice

of words all come together to manifest your

reality. Hence, the power of speech is a

major factor in creation. Each word spoken

is a vibration of sound and since scientists

have proven that vibration is never lost, the

spoken word sets our intention in motion

and brings things we want to life.

The Law of Resonance determines what

you draw toward you using the Law of

Attraction. Scientists have long known that

every object, even those that seem solid, is

made up of particles that are moving. The

vibration of this movement - also referred

to as the vibratory pattern or frequency

- can be affected by your thoughts, beliefs,

and emotions. The frequency that you project

activates the Law of Attraction, since

this projected energy can only harmonize

with energies that vibrate or resonate at a

similar frequency. This harmony is what

determines the physical results that you create.

So how can you use these laws as a

speaker? Here is a place to start:

• Follow one of the four agreements that

Don Miguel Ruiz speaks of in his book

of that name “Be impeccable with

your word.” What you say reflects and

defines who you are and where you are

going.

• Tell yourself that you are wealth, you

are health, you are intelligence, you are

unbounded energy and you are love.

According to the Universal Laws, you

will become those things and draw like

people and energy toward you. However,

telling yourself you are wealthy

when you are not sets up a conflict

in your subconscious that could work

against you.

• Talk about what you want, not what

you don’t want. Pay attention to your

habits and stop each time you are talking

aloud or to yourself about what

you don’t want. Quickly revise the

thought so that it’s about what you

want to create.

• Choose to speak the language of your

brain. The language of the brain is

pictures, sounds, smells, and tastes.

The brain can’t process negative pictures

—images of “not doing” or “not

seeing”—it can only work with positive

information. Examine your personal

explanation style. Do you explain

things in a positive fashion or using

negative words?

Remember that your experiences

become words, your words become actions,

your actions become habits, your habits

become character, and it is your character

that becomes your destiny. What destiny

are you creating with the words you choose

to exchange in your daily habits of speaking

and thinking? Changing your words

can transform your life, your business, your

health and relationships, and the lives of

those around you. What you say is the single

biggest factor that determines your success

and your happiness in life. You can

learn to use the transformational power of

your words to skyrocket your success and

attract what you most want by encouraging

success every day with every person you

meet.

Dianne Legro is a national speech coach to

individuals and corporate groups. She is a keynote

speaker and will help you to speak like a

pro and increase your business. Contact her at

Dianne@diannelegro.com.

By Andrea Zeller

What actions inspire you and keep your

optimism flowing? How is your mood

affected by those around you? Think about

it for a moment.

We all face struggles during our lives.

And today, many are struggling through

the current economic downturn. Business

leaders have an inspirational effect on us,

especially during difficult times. Leaders are

likely very passionate about their work and

the people that work with them. Their passion

inspires and is contagious. A passionate

leader has a positive effect upon everyone

that comes into contact with her; it is hard

to stay down in the face of passion.

I see this demonstrated all the time at

our Women’s Business Partner’s Center.

Many of our clients have faced domestic

violence, serious setbacks from health issues,

divorce, financial crises, etc. The list is long

and daunting. Yet I consistently see our clients

synergizing and becoming inspired by

the confidence, successes, and passion of

our successful business owners and leaders.

Aspiring business women catch the

fever of passion through the stories of San

Luis Obispo accomplished business women

at our Roundtables. Mentors consistently

nurture protégés providing encouragement

to help the nascent business owners

grow, develop, thrive, and be successful.

And MCSC’s small business advisors and

instructors provide tools and engage innovative

minds, building hope and optimism

every day at the Center. Clients learn to

leave adversity behind them and focus on

growth and possibilities.

No doubt, these feelings of enthusiasm

and inspiration stay in their mind for a long

time, allowing passion to grow and deepen.

Our passion is contagious to those around

us: our families, friends, professional peers,

employees, customers, and suppliers. So

remember passion inspires others, stimulates

creativity and innovation, and can be

the seeds of hope for tomorrow.

With the current economic stresses, passion

is the solution for restoring our communities

– reach out support and inspire

one another! Wealth in spirit (as well as

our pocketbooks) sprouts from healthy surrounding

influences within close-knit communities.

This is a time to exude passion

and confidence, a time to believe in one

another, a time to reach out and support

one another. Sow seeds of hope today by

living your passion!

Andrea Zeller, Executive Director of Mission

Community Services (MCSC), coordinates

Women’s Business Partners (WBP) to ensure

all community resources are leveraged and

optimized to support entrepreneurial women.

WBP serves everyone interested in establishing

self-sufficiency through small business ownership.

WBP can take you step by step towards

success and can help those who speak only

Spanish. Visit www.MCSCorp.org or call

595-1357 to find out more.

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Unleashing Your Inner

Strength: Self Defense

By Ali Hatcher, SARP Center Education Services Coordinator

& Self Defense Instructor

When you think of self defense, what do you

envision? When you think of protecting yourself,

does that involve carrying a weapon?

It’s possible that what we consider self defense may

actually be putting us at greater risk for assault. The

reality is that carrying a gun, knife, pepper spray, or any

weapon makes us reliant upon that weapon, and then

what happens when we aren’t equipped? We no longer

feel safe. Experts agree that about 73% of all sexual

assaults are committed by someone the victim knows.

So, when we walk down a dark street with pepper spray

in hand, are we really protecting ourselves? Of course,

it is always important to be vigilant and aware when we

walk alone, especially at night, but what is most important

is to develop a few key skills and a deep belief that

at any moment, we can protect ourselves on our own.

The most powerful weapon that every woman has is

herself: her mind, her voice, her body and her spirit. We

must be aware and assertive: two traits we have been

taught to ignore.

Awareness includes awareness of the realities of sexual

assault. It also includes awareness of our body and

of our environment.

Consider your environment. How well do you know

your way around your house, your work, your town?

If you were cornered in your home, do you have an

escape plan? Consider the people in your life: do you

know them well? Do you trust them? Fortunately, our

body has a built in defense mechanism, our instincts.

Sometimes, an individual will set off those instincts. It

can take only a few seconds before we conclude that

someone makes us feel uncomfortable. Unfortunately,

as women, we may have been taught to be polite, and

this often conflicts with our gut feeling. Often we ignore

vital instincts that are our body’s way of telling us “danger.”

As we begin to acknowledge our own beauty

and our instincts, we naturally begin to take action to

protect ourselves. This may mean leaving an uncomfortable

situation or asking someone to leave us alone.

Regardless, when we honor our instincts we are perceived

as more confident and aware..

Assertiveness is the ability to exercise one’s own

rights while respecting the rights of others. Fortunately,

as much at 95% of sexual assaults can be stopped by

an assertive response. Unfortunately, in our culture

women are not taught to be assertive, but instead

passive, and are taught to place the needs and wants

of others over our own. But, just as we have learned

to be passive, we can unlearn it. Practicing assertiveness

requires commitment and time. Begin to listen to,

honor, and act on your own needs and desires.

Assertiveness is especially important because most

perpetrators test their victim. This may be in the form

of sexual harassment, suggestive offers, or just observation.

When we show strength and resiliency, a perpetrator

will most likely lose interest and seek a more

vulnerable target: someone who will not fight back.

Therefore, assertiveness becomes a far more important

skill than physical techniques.

Rarely is assertiveness not an option and a physical

attack unavoidable, but in this situation, you must trust

your body. Every woman has built in weapons: elbows,

fists, knees, and feet. These “hard parts” can be used

very effectively against a perpetrator’s “soft parts.” It is

not true that a woman who is smaller and weaker than

her attacker can’t protect herself. Perpetrators are not

looking for a fight. If we impose a few simple, instinctual

moves against an aggressor, we will create time

and space to escape – and that is the ultimate goal.

Research has shown that sexual assault is directly

related to perceived vulnerability. The higher one’s self

esteem and confidence, the less she is perceived as

an easy target or a potential victim. Every woman has

the ability to protect herself. To learn more about self

defense, please sign up for a community class, offered

the first Monday of every month.

For more information or to sign up for a self defense

class, contact the SARP Center at 805-545-8888 or

online at www.sarpcenter.org.

Are You Too Nice For Your Own Good? Or Are You

Raising Your Daughter To Be?

In this day and age, you would think that women

have learned enough about assertiveness, boundaries,

and codependency, that they would end any

attempt to be used and abused. There certainly are

enough books on the subjects. So why is it that women

continue to be victimized and taken advantage of by

lovers, partners, family members, friends, and coworkers?

The main reason these statistics exist certainly lies

in the fact that we still allow men to abuse women.

Although there has been some progress when it comes

to exposing and treating abusers, and we have come a

long way since the time when men believed that their

wives and daughters were their property and they had

the “right” to treat them any way they saw fit, there are

still far too many men who believe they have the right

to abuse “their” women, and there needs to be more

pressure put on abusive men to get the treatment they

need.

In addition to not enough being done to expose

and treat abusive men, I propose that another reason

women continue to be victimized is that women tend to

be too nice for their own good. This niceness attitude,

otherwise known as Nice Girl syndrome, attracts the

wrong kind of people and sends the message that they

are an easy target to be taken advantage of, controlled,

and even emotionally, physically, and sexually abused. It

also prevents women from standing up for themselves

and keeps them in relationships that are unhealthy or

abusive.

What characterizes Nice Girl behavior? Nice Girls

are more concerned about what others think of them

than they are about what they think of themselves.

Being a Nice Girl means that you are more concerned

about other people’s feelings than you are about your

own. And it means you are more concerned about giving

people the benefit of the doubt than you are about

trusting your own perceptions.

Nice Girls are also compliant. They do what they are

told. They’ve learned that it is easier to just do what

someone asks than to risk an argument. Nice girls are

passive. They are often too afraid to stand up for themselves

and therefore they are easily manipulated and

controlled. Nice Girls are wishy-washy. Because they are

so afraid of confrontation, they say one thing one time

and another thing another time. They want to please

everyone all the time and because of this they agree

with one person and then turn right around and agree

with someone else who has the exact opposite belief.

And because they are afraid of telling others how they

really feel, Nice Girls can be phony. They pretend a lot.

They pretend they like someone when they don’t. They

pretend they want to be somewhere when they don’t.

Nice Girls tend to put up with inappropriate or abusive

behavior, to minimize the damage they are experiencing,

and to make excuses for their partner.

The hard truth is that women cannot afford to be

Domestic violence is an epidemic that not only

affects our country as a whole, but also our

small San Luis Obispo community. Domestic

violence knows no boundaries or limitations; it affects

people from all socio-economic backgrounds, all ethnic

groups, and both the heterosexual and LGBTQ community.

Domestic violence is about one person in a

relationship using a pattern of behaviors to control the

other person. It can happen to people who are married,

divorced, separated, living together, or simply dating.

Many people believe that domestic abuse is only physical,

but in fact, it includes emotional, psychological,

verbal, sexual, and financial abuse as well. All types of

abuse are detrimental to the victim and catastrophic to

the children of these families.

The patterns of abuse within these different types of

relationships often follow a cyclical pattern called the

“Cycle of Violence” (shown on page 14).

Due to the prevalence and nature of domestic violence

there are many resources available, some of which

By Beverly Engel

Domestic Violence Services in Our Community

By Kelsey Kehoe, M.A.

Nice Girls. It simply is not safe.

Nice Girls are far more likely to become victimized—

emotionally, physically and sexually—than those who

are not so nice. While not every Nice Girl gets raped

or is emotionally, verbally, or physically abused in her

relationships, every Nice Girl is putting herself at risk by

continuing to believe and act as she does

Turning Nice Girls into Strong Women

Unfortunately, no matter how old a woman becomes,

she still may have some Nice Girl in her. Whether you still

have some Nice Girl left in you or you have a daughter that

you want to help avoid becoming a Nice Girl, the following

actions steps (taken from my new book, The Nice Girl Syndrome)

will help you on your way.

ɶɶStop playing sweet, gullible, and naïve. It’s out-

dated and it invites people, especially men, to take

advantage of you.

ɶɶStop giving people second (and third and fourth)

chances. If someone shows you who he or she is,

pay attention and act accordingly. Stop being “fair”

and start being strong. Women’s need for fairness

often gets them into trouble. Their tendency to

want to look at both sides of a situation often blurs

the real issue, and they can be easily manipulated.

ɶɶLearn that setting limits and boundaries and

expecting others to take care of their own needs

can be the greatest “act of kindness” you can

perform. You don’t do anyone a favor by allowing

them to take advantage of you.

ɶɶLet others know when they have hurt or angered

you. By not speaking up when someone insults or

mistreats you, you are inadvertently giving permission

for them to continue to treat you in the same

way in the future.

ɶɶConfront your own anger. Sometimes under all that

niceness lies a huge storage bin of repressed and

suppressed anger.

ɶɶAcknowledge that often the real reason you take

care of others is because you secretly want to be

taken care of. You hope the person you’ve been

taking care of will turn around and take care of you

in the same way.

ɶɶAcknowledge that sometimes it is easier to sacrifice

yourself for others than to focus on your own problems

or take the risk of going after your own goals.

ɶɶBe honest with yourself about your real reasons for

being a Nice Girl. When we look for the motive for

our “niceness” we often find guilt, shame, fear of

confrontation, fear of rejection, and an intense fear

of being alone.

ɶɶAllow yourself to be bad sometimes. It’s not only

okay to be bad, it is healthy. In fact, if you don’t

allow yourself to be bad at times you will continue

to attract people into your life who will act out your

“badness” for you.

are in our very community.

The Women’s Shelter Program of San Luis Obispo

County is a non-profit organization that promotes

healthy relationships and violence-free lives for adults

and children in our community.

The services provided within this organization

include:

ɶɶ24-hour hotline

ɶɶSafe house

ɶɶTransitional housing

ɶɶIndividual and group counseling services in both

San Luis Obispo and South County for adults and

children through our program called the Center for

Alternatives to Domestic Violence (CADV)

ɶɶCounseling services in many of the local schools

ɶɶLegal services that help with Temporary Restraining

Orders (TRO)

ɶɶCHAT- Child Abuse Treatment Program

Continued in DOMESTIC, page 14

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6 LocalPerspectives

Less Paper. More Happy

By Elizabeth McGregor

For years, I’ve been gradually drowning in

paper. I had fallen into the “I’ll deal with

it later,” and “I might need that someday”

traps, and the results were frightening. My

incoming mail file became a mailbox, then

a mail cabinet, and when it was in danger

of becoming a mailroom, I decided something

had to be done.

So I’m going paperless! Or, at least

paper less. I called all of the catalog companies,

credit card companies, and every other

business I could think of, and asked them

to take me off their lists. And best of all, I

have discovered the miracle of online banking

and bill paying.

Now, I know this isn’t exactly a new

resource. Many of my friends have been

doing it for years, but if you’re a latebloomer

like me, allow me to give you a

gentle shove off that fence upon which

you’ve been sitting.

I’m neither a computer expert nor a

financial whiz, but this online banking

thing is easy. Much easier, in fact, than

plowing through a stack of bills every couple

of weeks with a checkbook, a calculator

and fortune in stamps.

The biggest error I made when I began

the process was to try to set up online

accounts through all of the individual companies.

Huge mistake! Keep it simple – one

site. I found a bank that offers free checking

and online bill paying (most of them

do) and set up all of my accounts through

them.

Our Past Is Made Up of All Our Best Efforts

By Judy Guarnera

“He meant well,” said a friend defending

the behavior of an acquaintance. I was

instantly irritated. How could she excuse

his dreadful behavior? Next she would be

saying, “He did the best that he could.”

It has always aggravated me how we

excuse poor behavior. Isn’t it true that some

behaviors should not be tolerated? Doesn’t

tolerance beget more of the same insufferable

behavior?

After 30 years of marriage, my husband

and I began a painful divorce. I needed an

outlet, so I joined a divorce support group.

At one of the meetings, the speaker was

discussing the importance of forgiving our

spouses and ourselves for the demise of our

relationships. She stated that each of us had

done the very best we could in our marriage.

Most of us could accept that for ourselves.

The dilemma came when we tried to

apply that axiom to an ex-spouse.

The speaker surmised that once individuals

had gone through the grieving process

for the “loss of a dream,” getting on with

life is difficult if they can’t forgive the former

partners and/or themselves. Somehow,

in spite of the anger and disappointment I

was feeling, the idea that both my ex-husband

and I had done the best we could

appealed to me and helped me to move forward.

Two friends whose husbands had abused

their children were so outraged at what

they had discovered, so angry with themselves

for not recognizing what was happening,

that they refused to label such heinous

offenses as “the best.”

After I jumped through all the hoops

to prove I’m not a terrorist, they walked

me through the process of setting up my

bills, scheduling payments, and stopping

my paper statements. Oh, and I’m giving

myself bonus points for finding a bank with

a phone number requiring less than a threebutton

journey to speak with a human.

And, that’s it! I’m adding new bills as they

come in, and so far there have been no

major snafus.

It’s like having a staff. I feel like I have

this little virtual assistant dude living in my

computer who gently taps me on the shoulder

and says, “Um – excuse me, but your

car payment is due on Monday. May I send

it in for you?” All I need to do is give him

the OK and he sends the bill and adjusts

my balance accordingly. But that’s not all;

from this one magic place, I can check my

balance, transfer funds, and view old statements.

And I don’t have to do any math!

That’s huge, because I hate math. This is the

greatest thing since the self-adhesive stamp.

So I have entered the world of electronic

banking, and I’m never looking back.

What’s next – day trading? Online dating?

Who knows, but I am sorry I waited so long

to do this. And sure enough, there is more

room in my curbside mailbox, I spend a lot

less on postage, and I’m feeling pretty green

about all of the beautiful, oxygen-giving

trees I’m saving. But most of all, my mail

file is once again a mail file.

Elizabeth McGregor is a freelance

writer and marketing consultant. You

can reach her through her Web site at

www.finelineswriting.com

They seemed to equate accepting this

definition of behavior with approval. The

speaker pointed out that it was important

to separate the past from the future. The

horrible and painful past behavior, though

it was the best those individuals could do,

was not an excuse for future behavior. She

stressed that abusive behavior is criminal

and should be reported. She contended that

labeling behavior as criminal does not preclude

simultaneously labeling it “the best

that the person had been able to do.”

Sometimes my self-talk is negative –

“I can’t believe I did that; I should have

known better.” At times I wish I could

backspace, as I do on my computer, and

just delete certain behaviors. When I tell

myself that “I did the best I could,” I don’t

see it as an excuse for my behavior, but

rather an acknowledgement that, flawed as

my actions might have been, it was my best

for that moment.

Such thinking gives me the courage

to evaluate my actions and to plan how I

might act or respond differently in the

future. I am able to visualize a door opening

to a better future.

As we grow older, our past is full of

events and people who have enriched our

lives or caused us unhappiness. It is also

made up of our own actions and behaviors,

some of which bring joy and others

that bring sadness or regret. I don’t want to

squander what time is left to me, regretting

or resenting people or myself for past behavior.

Knowing it was the best that they and I

could do is a powerfully freeing belief.

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Home For The Holidays

By Jill Turnbow

While attempting to “be in the moment,”

I can’t help but look ahead to the future. I

would love to focus on nothing but now,

but Christmas will be here before we know

it and while things might change, right

now it doesn’t feel very merry. By nature,

I’m a fairly optimistic person, eager to wear

the rose-colored glasses, but I can’t recall a

time in my life where the prospects seemed

more bleak. Please note that I am writing

this prior to the election. So by the time

this issue is on the newsstands, my outlook

could be different. I could be either dancing

in the streets, filled with hope, or packing

for Canada.

How does our gross consumerism survive

this economic crisis? And by “gross

consumerism,” I mean Christmas. How do

you graciously give to charity, buy gifts for

the family, and overload the postal service

with Christmas cards when you are in danger

of losing your home?

Maybe we can finally do away with the

excessive gifts and guilt and get back to the

reason for the season. Back to the basics.

We should be able to say, “I’m sorry I didn’t

get you anything this year, but I love you!”

Or “I give you my friendship and wish you

nothing but happiness and joy”. Think how

Nurturing “Thank You” Moments

By Jeanie Greensfelder

I ran into a neighbor’s daughter, said,

“Hello! So good to see you.”

“So good to see you too!” she said with

equal enthusiasm. This genuine connection

reminded me of Elie Wiesel after his

concentration camp release. On a train to

France, he looked out the window. With

each person he saw, he said, “Thank you for

being alive. Thank you for being human.

Just thank you, thank you.”

After hearing Wiesel’s story, I looked

at people differently. When I’m at a stop

light and people are passing, I often say his

words. How fortunate we are to have each

other with all our diversity. We may be

passersbys, but we are fellow humans sharing

time on this amazing planet.

Thich Nhat Hanh taught me a mantra

I treasure: “Yes, yes, yes. Thank you, thank

much we can save on the wrapping alone.

Instead of using all of our gas traveling to

another county to prowl the malls, maybe

we could spend time caroling in a retirement

home, holding someone’s hand, hugging

a child, or doing something kind for a

stranger. It feels good, and it doesn’t cost a

thing.

As I review my bank account and contemplate

the ability to make my mortgage

payment, I refuse to grieve over the

holidays. I am pretty sure my friends will

understand as I know many of us are in the

same sinking ship. But know that I will give

what I can and share what I am able to. It

won’t be much, but my heart will be in it.

you, thank

you.” When I

remember, I

say it on walks,

noticing plants,

trees and views

that speak to

me. Sitting quietly I say it to center myself

and express gratitude for being alive.

This time of the year calls for appreciating

all we have, especially in a challenging

economy. Being grateful lifts our spirits and

actually supports our immune system.

What fresh ways can you imagine to

express thanks? Does looking at strangers

and wishing them well appeal to you?

Would you like an eye-to-eye moment with

family members for mutual appreciation?

Perhaps sit quietly, take a few deep breaths

and give yourself a hug for all you do.


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Voices Around the Table:

With the economy in turmoil, how do you plan to make this

holiday season memorable without spending money?

Sonia Paz Baron-Vine

In my family, we join forces. Everyone

cooperates with one area of the celebration,

and thus we can all get together and provide

the presents for the little ones, while

the adults enjoy each other’s company.

One idea for presents is

to make a video online,

using old family photos,

then make a DVD and

bring one copy for each

guest.

Lynne Levine

Yes, yes, yes, but

this year is not different

from any other

year. I think the holiday spending spree is a

uneeded sickness and we should all get over

it!!! Peace and love.

Karen Hale

Having time with friends and family

are my priority every year. Volunteering to

support others and enjoying this time of

year creates immeasurable and unforeseen

experiences, twists, and turns. We might

create an overnight camping experience for

friends in our yard.

Margaret Hennessy

As we approach the holiday season,

those near and dear to us will receive gifts to

show our love. What if some of the “gifts”

included our time? Time for ourselves is

hard to come by. When we offer it to others

there is no way to retrieve it. That is why

it is such a profound thing to give away. I

will make time this holiday season to spend

with my new granddaughter and be fully

present. I know that this will be more valuable

than any presents she will receive. I will

give us both the “gift” of precious memories,

which always “fit” and never need to

be returned!

Dorothy Segovia

Make my own presents! I’ve loved making

presents ever since I was a kid. Back

then, I’d start in the summer because I sew

or do embroidery. Now it’s fun to burn

songs onto CD’s and write liner notes

about why the song is special. It’s a

good way to share stories with my

friends/family.

Robin Rinzler

I am right up there with

Scrooge... I hate the holidays

mainly because I hate the pressure

of having to shop and not knowing

what to get. I typically wait

until the last minute and then wander

around aimlessly, picking through left

over items in all the wrong sizes. This year,

I am anxious to try out a new recipe that I

got from Sue McMean: it’s a cake in a cup

that is microwaved, and I’m looking forward

to making that with the kids.

Jeanie Greensfelder

Not to spend money at Christmas is the

best gift! The best present we can ever offer

is time, attention, and having fun together.

Stories of past holidays can be shared along

with olden days memories. My mother,

born in 1897, grew up on a farm in Kentucky

and she was thrilled Christmas

morning to receive an orange. We are so

wonderfully spoiled, but we have lost the

joy of simple pleasures. Shopping makes

holidays stressful when what we want is to

love and be loved. Tender notes of appreciation

to each family member will be a

lovely gift. Wrapping up items we already

have is another way to show thoughtfulness

and inviting family members to brainstorm

ideas together will be fun and fruitful.

Cynic’s Corner: It’s PROJECT AMEND Time!

By Jackie Turner

Wake up, folks! When you go to sleep at

night and peacefully dream that you are living

in paradise on the Central Coast, think

again. There is an insidious virus going

around our town. It is not on your computers,

and there are no flu shots or easy

fixes for this epidemic. The problem here is

drugs, and it is rampant, and it is affecting

your lives even though you do not think

so. Addiction is spoken about in whispers,

behind closed doors. People don’t want

to talk about it; they think that addiction

could never affect their personal lives; they

think that drugs are other peoples’ stories.

Well, think again! If drugs/alcohol do not

affect you at your home front, then look at

the large picture: tax money spent on prisons,

robberies to homes and businesses,

homelessness, families torn apart, abusive

situations, failures to protect our kids.

Fast forward to Project Amend: a men’s

sober living home, which is currently awaiting

licensing approval for residential detox/

treatment. It will house ten beds. Project

Amend counsels patients on their core

issues and encourages them to new levels of

understanding, acceptance, and a degree of

resolve. The project offers educational lectures

on various topics such as health and

nutrition, family dynamics, and life skills.

The Executive Director, Michael Axelrod,

is a state and internationally certified counselor,

and a state certified prevention specialist.

Project Amend is a hard-core, no-nonsense

charity... it doesn’t come with a pretty

pink ribbon, but it is fierce, important,

relevant, and significantly under-funded.

Project Amend is in crisis mode! Without

financial and social support, the only nonprofit

male drug facility in San Luis Obispo

County will not survive.

Wake up to the fact that drugs (methamphetamines)

and alcohol addictions are

killing families, destroying lives, and causing

unspeakable crimes to our SLO community.

Do we need a facility like Project

Amend? Yes, we desperately do. And we

need more facilities like Project Amend.

Start shouting your outrage! Our County

has one of the leading drug problems in

California, and we do not have even one

rehabilitation and treatment facility to help

restore addicts to society. Shame on us for

speaking in whispers about our addiction

problems here in San Luis Obispo.

Please, go out and do something! Offer

your financial support for Project Amend.

Let’s work to fund charities that are not

“designer” in nature, but necessary... charities

like Project Amend.

For more info or to learn how to help,

please contact Executive Director, Michael

Axelrod, at (805) 782-9600 or e-mail projectamend@charter.net

Mary Heacock

I believe the holidays can always be

memorable without being dependent on

spending money. The most important

thing is to be with the ones we love. Personally,

I plan on putting together more

gifts of food and taking the time to visit

those I love. Another great gift is the gift of

time. Babysitting for a busy mom, helping

a friend move or planting a vegetable garden...things

like that. I love it when my

kids make me coupon books for a neck rub,

foot massage, or pedicures.

MaryAine Cherry

This is a perfect time to remember the

ones less fortunate and spend a little money

on them. My grandson and I pick out a tag

at one of the many stores

to get something for a

child really needing it.

We both feel the gifting

is better than the

getting. Giving more

attention to elderly

neighbors or anyone

alone that you know

is a very rewarding gift

for them and for you.

For the family, we

draw names. The homemade

gifts are always the best.

Another very fun party idea is to have a

white elephant gift exchange. That is bringing

something of value, wrapped up and

each person gets to pick a package from the

wrapped packages or from someone else

that has already picked a gift. It’s great fun.

One year a brick with California stamped

in it was ‘the hot item’. Everyone wanted it.

Kathy Bond

“The best gifts are tied with heart

strings,” says Susan Branch in her Days

From the Heart of the Home. I opened

this book to remind myself to print out

my writing from the Cuesta course Bits &

Pieces and put it in notebooks for our children

last year. Our oldest said it was one of

the best gifts she’d received. I knit pink and

purple scarves for our granddaughters, buy

walnuts to make whiskey cakes, frame calligraphies

for friends, and may make jewelry

gifts after taking a bead class in a local

craft store. I enjoy doing these things and

hope they make loved ones feel cherished

and happy.

Jackie Turner

Christmas has never been a holiday

that I understood or enjoyed, so it is not a

big deal to me that I will not be spending

a lot of money... I never did anyway! The

holiday is supposed to be about spending

time with loving friends and family; eating

good comfort food; helping people who are

alone, hungry, or needy. Those things do

not change because of a bad economy and

cost very little money anyway—so I plan to

spend this year like all others ... in the company

of friends and strangers.

Mary McNally

My mother may be terminally ill. We’re

waiting for test results. So the money and

the material things are drastically unimportant.

I will make a point to spend time.

And that is something I will never regret

spending.

Nancy Lee Grantham

By spending it with the people that I love

the most.

Jill Turnbow

I really wish I had an inspiring answer, but

my holiday plans just recently fell through

and I have nuthin’. Probably just pull the

covers over my head and stay in bed most of

the day. That shouldn’t cost too much.

Diane Schuetz

On behalf of my family members

that are voting “Yes on 8” I will donate

to “No on 8” in their names. But then

again, that’s spending money isn’t it?

Francesca Bolognini

Since this is culturally a time when people

get together with family members at

Christmas or Hanukkah,

I organize an event

around the Winter

Solstice, an event

of planetary significance.

We usually

celebrate with

a pot luck, a drum

circle, a sharing of the

meaning of this time for

us, perhaps a bit of what we are

grateful for from the past Solar Season,

and our appreciation for each other.

There is often dancing , singing, and a bit of

flute and guitar. Fellowship is a more appropriate

way to express our love of each other

than any material item.

Renee Sante

I’ll be getting together with my family

and friends, enjoying good food, taking

walks, helping one another with projects we’d

like to get done as a gift or trade. In my family,

we used to do a Chautaqua at Christmas

time, which was especially fun and entertaining.

On snowy days in the mountains, we’d

sing, play instruments, dance, and put on

skits. We’d make snow-ice cream, sled, and

play fox and goose. Playing games and being

creative is very important. I like connecting

with my adult friends in that way still.

Doing things that warm the heart and soul is

a great way of spending time together. (I find

the less I shop, the more joy and peace I have

at this time of year, especially.)

Susan Howe

Thinking of gifts for the holiday, I know

I appreciate getting a promise of time from a

friend, to be spent in walking, talking, and

playing games. I’ll give statements of time

to be shared, helping with kid care, cleaning

house, or playing games. I’ll write notes of

appreciation to people, hopefully in the form

of poetry. Some yummy low-cost food items

will go to a few folk.

Michele Brooks

I will be spending money, but not so

much on gifts. I like to light the candles for

Hanukkah and have a lovely smelly Christmas

tree as well. The presents are in honoring

the change in seasons, thinking of rebirth

and miracles and keeping expectations low

and easy. A nice meal with friends and family.

Last year my son and I volunteered in

helping feed some of our homeless in the

community and that was such a gift. Really

helps put things in perspective...


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An Interview with Kathleen Deragon, Our Outgoing Editor

By Sonia Paz Baron-Vine,

WCC Board Member

I interviewed Women’s Press editor Kathleen

Deragon on the Day with Creative

Women 2008. We sat under the sycamores

and took a look back at her life and her

work with the Women’s Press, and in this,

the last issue she will be producing for us,

we give our thanks to Kathleen for a job

well done!

Kathleen was born in Albany New York,

moved around a lot growing up, and ended

up in Colorado, where she went to college,

married, had two daughters, and worked as

an editor and instructional designer for a

nonprofit educational organization. In 2001

she decided to move to California, where

her family had settled and where now

her daughters also lived. She found SLO

because one of her brothers lives here. Able

to bring her job with her, she knew this is

where she wanted to settle.

But working out of her home was isolating.

She wanted to meet other women,

do some creative writing and community

service. She called the Women’s Community

Center, and wouldn’t you know, they

needed an editor for the Women’s Press! So

she volunteered, got some guidance from

outgoing editor Sandra Pendell, and worked

with Judy Hastings, another new resident of

the county, who was able to do the desktop

publishing that Kathleen did not have the

skills to do. With Judy and later Rebecca

Brown, the paper got a new look, expanded

its variety of content, and increased distribution

from 2000 to 6000 copies. Further

visual improvements were made when Ben

Lawless took over from Rebecca two years

ago.

One of Kathleen’s talents has been to

find women in the community to help

her realize her vision for the paper. That

was especially important in 2006 when the

paper needed money to continue. One of

the regular columnists, Heather Mendel,

suggested a women’s retreat and worked

with a team of women to offer a day of

workshops titled “Gather the Women—

Save the World.” The signature event drew

75 women and brought in enough money

to keep the paper going. In 2007-2008, she

and the retreat committee decided to offer

monthly workshops instead of a one-day

retreat and the workshops will continue to

“gather the women” in 2008-2009.

But money was still needed and Margaret

Hennessy, who had run a small newspaper

in Colorado, volunteered to help

develop the business and advertising aspects

of the paper, pulling together an advertising

team and establishing the processes and

paperwork to support that activity. Our ad

revenue continues to increase (but we could

use more women on our team!).

Another project Kathleen and Women’s

Press volunteers have participated in for

both fundraising as well as intergenerational

community building is LUNAFEST, collaborating

with Cal Poly women. LUNAFEST,

put together by Luna Bars, offers independent

films by, for, and about women, and

its proceeds are divided between the nonprofits

that sponsor the event and the Breast

Cancer Fund. The event has been held on

campus for the past two years in March to

coincide with International Women’s Day.

Kathleen’s newest venture is drumming.

Wanting to learn hand drumming, she put a

call in the paper for other interested drummers,

met Francesca Bolognini, who was

willing to facilitate a group, and since April

this year, she and 5-15 women have been

meeting every other week, having fun and

building community. 82 women are now on

the list of interested women! I took a video

of the group who were the opening “act” at

Day With Creative Women. You can view

it at www.wccslo.blogspot.com.

Kathleen is retiring from managing the

Women’s Press to write a book about how

single middle-aged women can begin to

create options for their futures, finding likeminded

women, pooling their assets, and

building communities among themselves.

Recently a group of women, who write

and work with Kathleenand the Women’s

Press, got together at the SLO Country

Club and celebrated Kathleen with a farewell

dinner. The Board of Directors of the

Women’s Community Center presented her

with a crystal plaque that reads:

To Kathleen,

For the many dreams you made possible,

to the many women you guided

with your words and your deeds

and to the many dreams to come...

We are looking forward to reading her

book and wish Kathleen much luck! We

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An Introduction from

Courtney Brogno, Our New Editor

Dancing for America 2008

A couple of nights ago, just as I settled

down after putting both my kids to sleep,

the phone rang and a Gallup pollster asked

me to participate in their newest political

poll. Although tired from a long day, I

was excited to contribute. Little did I know

I would be answering questions for over

20 minutes, deeply trying to identify who

I was as a citizen, a voter, and ultimately I

realized, a woman.

The questions started off innocuous

enough: my age, gender, vocation, and

political leanings. All of this was easily

answered; I had no problem explaining that

I am a mother of two kids, one 9 years old,

the other 6 months old; that I am a writing

instructor at both local colleges; that I check

the age box of 30-34 years old; and that I am

liberal, though I do have some conservative

views. I did, however, have a more difficult

time answering the questions that had a

prescribed answer. I could tell you exactly

how I feel about our current economic situation,

but I could not find my answer in the

four choices I was given. I tried to explain

this dilemma, but the pollster gently urged

me to pick a choice. I hemmed and hawed,

and finally, the pollster declined asking me

any further questions.

At first I felt a little bit like a failure, but

then I realized that I just couldn’t fit my

views into a neat and tidy box. Trying to

answer questions about the environment,

the war, and education prompted me to

think about my children and my community,

and even my own little street. How do

my views on the environment help not only

myself and my family, but also my neighbor?

How about children living in China?

Or India? Or Guatemala? I realized, as I

frustrated the pollster with my questions

and ponderings, that this is one of the

unique attributes to me, to women, and to

Women’s Press. I, like many women, think

about every possible way I can constantly

give back to my community and the world

around me, which is why I am so drawn to

Women’s Press. This paper is more than just

an independent, local press; it’s a statement

about life, spirituality, and movement… a

statement about who women are and aspire

to be.

And so, in this political landscape, when

our country will herald in a new leader, we

here at Women’s Press are also heralding in

a new leader and saying goodbye to Kathleen,

the beloved editor of Women’s Press

for the past six years. I take the reins from

Kathleen with trepidation and excitement.

Although I will do a better job than I did

with the Gallup people, I can only hope to

do as good of a job as Kathleen. I hope to

further the goals of Women’s Press—to create

community, encourage positive change,

and spread a feminist worldview. I hope to

expand readership and organize more community

events. I hope to survive! And most

of all, I hope to get to know all of you.

Artist Josephine Crawford paints from her heart. Her theatrical canvases mirror her

love for music and dance, the excitement of crowds, cafés and nightlife. Her dancers

are earthy maidens at home in forests and fields as well as behind the footlights.

Josephine is a colorful expressionist painter using oils, acrylics, oil pastels and prints

to share her energy and love of life. She says she painted the dancer because of her

excitement over the possibility that Barack Obama might be president.

www.josephinecrawford.com

When One Door Closes, Another Door Opens

By MaryAine Cherry

Sometimes I feel like I’m sitting in the hallway

waiting for the next door to open.

And eventually it does. I’m finally getting

it! I have to close the first door – make the

choice to close it – before I find out which

other door is ready to open.

Here’s a recent example of that. I

moved into a beautiful and cozy two-bedroom

house with breathtaking views of the

coastline and the mountains. I moved for

the therapeutic value of the views, knowing

a roommate would ease the high-rent

amount.

The owners and I interviewed prospective

roommates and recently decided on

one because we know and love her boss.

She was asked to leave three days later by

the owners. This created a big disruption in

my life. Because of the unfortunate circumstance,

I realized a roommate was just not

possible and I decided to give my 30-day

notice to move myself. I was also trusting

that my gut instinct was accurate.

A month ago, I would have felt very

depressed about this conclusion to my

renter situation. Thankfully, as I closed

that door, a new and wonderful change

presented itself to me. I am moving to a

place that will be very comfortable for me

and decreases my mileage to my office and

grandson’s house. I see this experience as a

blessing and my week-long roommate as a

catalyst for my change in an easy and elegant

manner.

So when one door closes, yes, expect

wondrous and happy things are behind the

next door you will open.

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Faith-In-It As You Make It

By Laura Grace

One of my favorite workbook lessons in

A Course in Miracles affirms: “Love is the

way I walk in Gratitude.” Although the lesson

teaches, “You have been given everything,”

it acknowledges that it is difficult to

be grateful for all that we have been given

when we see the world “amiss.”

Exactly what does this mean?

It means that it is a matter of what

we choose to look at. The financial crisis

has been dominating the news and pummeling

our consciousness. When you see

your stocks dropping value, do you see a

financial calamity or a chance to practice

patience and faith? And if you really want

to tune into your inner abundance, do you

see it as a chance to tithe your time, talent,

and treasure? When you are given notice of

a layoff from your company, do you choose

to see it as a horrible disaster or an opportunity

to do something that you’ve been

wanting to do, but perhaps, have been too

afraid to try?

All possibilities exist at all times. Gratitude

is the dimension in which we can

clearly experience these infinite possibilities.

Gratitude is an aspect of love; we cannot

experience one without the other. As

we experience the winter months and the

season of giving, I invite you to take the

Gratitude Challenge, to be willing to see

the lesson, meaning, growth, and light in

every single situation in your life. This isn’t

merely about becoming conscious of the

good in your life, but being able to face the

areas of your life that you’d rather not look

at. Remember: not facing a situation gives it

power over you. And I’m not talking about

faking it until you make it. I’m talking

about faith-in-it as you make it. No less

than that will set you free. No less than that

will allow you to shift from fear to love. No

less than that will inspire feelings of gratitude

and abundance within you.

In my own life, I’ve been using a spiritual

practice for many years that has never

failed to create a radical shift in my perception—a

miracle.

#1 Notice the situation that disturbs

your inner peace, bothers you,

annoys you or irritates you in any

way.

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#2 Ask for guidance from your inner

Self to see the highest Truth within

the situation.

#3 Surrender your perception and

attachment to seeing the situation

a certain way based on past experiences.

Am I willing to release my

preconceived notions, doubts, cynicism,

and be willing to have a little

faith that I may not be seeing all of

the possibilities within the situation?

#4 Appreciate the shift in perception

that is on its way. This is a form of

pro-active gratitude which includes

being willing to see all of the good

in your life, especially those frequently

over-looked blessings that

are happening all day long.

The technology to transport man to the

moon had always been there; it just needed

the scientists from NASA to discover it—

and they did because they had faith in it

until they made it. The acronym for the

four steps I shared with you is N.A.S.A. It’s

a reminder that everything is also there for

you. You need only to have faith in IT as

you make it.

Laura Grace is the Spiritual Leader

of the Circle of Spiritual Enlightenment

in San Luis Obispo, CA:

www.spiritualcircle.org. Laura is also

the author of the books Gifts of the Soul

and The Intimate Soul. Visit Laura at:

www.lauragrace.net or call: (805) 748-7506

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The Hormone Dilemma

By Melody Pickell LAc, MSTOM

Many women facing or entering menopause

are confronted with what seems like

a dilemma without a solution. They must

tolerate the mood swings, sweats, insomnia,

and hot flashes of “The Change” or

risk hormone replacement therapy. Many

women assume the risk, while others just

suffer the symptoms. There is an alternative

however.

Thousands of years ago, Chinese doctors

started experimenting with hormones

derived from urine much like what Western

doctors currently prescribe with Premarin

(pregnant mares’ urine). In the case

of menopause, these Chinese doctors, like

their current Western counterparts, were

dissatisfied with the use of hormones alone

because it failed to address all of the symptoms

or imbalances they were seeing. Today

those imbalances have become even more

profound. Our lives are stressful and our

diets less than perfect. Girls reach puberty

early. Hormone levels are commonly imbalanced

by the time a woman reaches her

thirties, as demonstrated by increasing

complaints of PMS. Stress and diet play

an important role in menopause due to the

interrelationship between the adrenals, the

thyroid gland, and levels of hormones available.

Menopause symptoms are becoming

more common and more severe. Menopause

without adverse symptoms, otherwise

known as “ideal menopause”, is becoming

increasingly rare.

Menopause is not just about hot-flashes

and night sweats. For some, these symptoms

never occur. Instead, some women experience

depression, insomnia, memory loss,

anxiety, weight gain, and joint pain among

many others. Menopause may also increase

a women’s risk for osteoporosis and cardiovascular

disease. So what are your options?

Oriental Medicine works for menopause

by treating each woman as a unique

individual. The pattern of symptoms tells

us where to look for weakness in the body.

Other signs, like an individual’s pulses or

even tongue, show us where the body needs

to be strengthened and where things need

to be moved. Everyone is different. If stress

in your life has caused depletion of your

adrenals, it may not be able to make even

the small amount of hormones you need

for an ideal menopause. The same stress

affecting a different part of your body could

cause anxiety and mood swings. What you

eat may also cause problems. Caffeine can

cause hot flashes while sugar can be the

cause of your joint pain or memory loss. It

all depends on where your body is weak. In

my practice, I use Oriental Medicine, acupuncture,

and herbs to locate your body’s

weaknesses and treat them. Along the way

I can offer some healing alternatives for

menopause and its many symptoms.

Melody Pickell is a licensed acupuncturist

who practices a gentle form of Japanese acupuncture

at Healing Alternatives in San Luis

Obispo.

Want to know more about hormonal health from the

natural perspective?

Come hear Melody and four other local practitioners speak on Hormones 101.

November 15th

9am - 2pm

Ludwig Center,

864 Santa Rosa St., SLO

Registration is $49

(includes a light lunch)

For more information or to register

for the event, contact Fran Edwards at

544-6285.

Net proceeds will go to EOC’s

“Forty Wonderful” Program, which

provides no-cost preventive health

screening services for low-income,

under and un-insured women of SLO

County.


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Perchance to Dream

By Hilda Heifetz

In the late sixties, I used to go up to Esalen,

Big Sur, for their “Human Potential” weekend

seminars. Fritz Perls was a main attraction;

well-known Rollo May and Alan Watts

were also frequent presenters. There would

be encounter groups, soul-searching dialogue,

psychotherapy, and massage. When I

came home, my family and friends would

expect reports of what took place. I was

even sought out to speak on some of these

experiences. (In one case, I was invited by a

church group to tell about Buddhism, and

I observed that “only in America” would

Episcopalians ask a Jewish woman to talk

about Zen!)

It was during this period of Big Sur

activities that I had a dream that haunted

me for a long time:

I was in the Hollywood Bowl, seated

on the shell-shaped stage, a huge crowd

in attendance. I was obviously a guru

being bombarded with urgent questions. I

saw myself wave my arm dramatically for

silence, then spoke importantly: “Be mindful.

It’s all very simple. I can sum it up in

one word…” and I woke up….

As you would imagine, I tried every

which way to get back into that dream to

finish my sentence. I kept asking people to

help me, to suggest what that word might

be. The dream pursued me for months

without delivering the missing part. Then,

one night at a meeting of a local discussion

group (known as the San Luis Obispo

“SLO Thinkers”), the subject of my dream

came up, and I described it. A wise look

brightened the face of one of the members:

Member: “Ah, it speaks to me, but in

action not in a word.”

I: “It does?”

Member: “Yes. It’s so obvious that you

did finish your message. All teachings

are about this. You did better than speak

the word. You did the word… Awaken!

Awaken! do it!”

Well, to be or not be believed? I, for

one, accept his interpretation. It wraps up

my dream.

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Motherhood

Autumn Again...

November Workshop

December Workshop

By Patti Sullivan

A simple refusal to sign

would have made us a pair

But what does a teenage girl

know of signing anything

except a school year book

...have a great summer—

hope we get math together next fall...

...to a girl with the brightest smile...

I’d wish you luck, but I don’t think

you’ll need it...

I did sign

sending you one way

me another

...have a great life ... be careful out there...

now that you’re no longer mine.

Thin

By Dorothy Segovia

The last time I saw youyou

were unconscious,

gasping, wiggling and jerking,

tied to that hospital bed.

I lay down on you, spread eagle.

My arm straight out on your arms,

my legs pressed down against your legs

to hold you still.

Together we formed a weird human cross.

My tears streamed down our faces

in the terrible farewell of a

“beautiful baby sister”

to her oldest and favorite brother.

Though it has been over 12 years, even now

I feel your skeleton beneath me.

Your body had been ravaged

by a disease so cruel

that Mom is still too embarrassed

to name it out loud.

By Sonia Paz Baron-Vine

Outside my window I can see the lawn

covered with golden and red leaves

The houses in my town, are decorated

with pumpkins

and the little ones are getting ready

for Halloween...

It is Autumn again, time of cold mornings

and crisp night air

the hills are gold and slowly the trees

are changing colors..

Time to bring the logs inside, to

clean the fireplace,

to sit by my window with a

hot cup of apple cider

listening to soft music

and enjoy the colors mother nature brings...

Last night I dreamt that you were alive

but sick.

You were a secret that Mom kept from us

because you were ashamed of being

so damned skinny.

You were afraid that your bones

would poke anyone

brave enough to come close enough

to hold you.

I’ve dreamt this dream before

and I’m always pissed at Mom

for keeping you a secret-

(she is still so good at it, you know)

and I always wake up mad.

Then slowly, as I am pulled into morning

my anger dissolves into the

cold ache of astonishment

that you have grown so thin.

Thin enough to disappear from my life,

thin enough to slip into that wispy void

between consciousness and sleep.

Yoga Prepares the Receptacle.

Thursday, November 20

Eckhart Tolle’s teachings are transmitting

the wisdom of a new consciousness to

anyone receptive.

See how a balanced blend of basic

physical exercise, conscious breathing, eating,

and simple meditation can accelerate

the flow of consciousness into your life. A

video of Tolle followed by a short practice

of some of the exercises he recommends

will demonstrate how they shift one’s perspective.

Combining the practice of presence

with thoughtful exercise, breathing, eating,

and meditation can prepare us for whatever

life might hold in these times of change.

After nearly thirty years of practice, Eve

Neuhaus was writing a book on crea (kriya)

yoga and her guru, Ganesh Baba, when she

came across the teachings of Eckhart Tolle.

The receptacle was ready. Her book will be

published by Inner Traditions in the fall of

2009.

Dancing with Your Shadow

Thursday, January 15

Let 2009 be the year to feel less confused

and conflicted and more fulfilled and energetic.

By relating to your shadow, the disowned,

undeveloped, and denied aspects

of your personality, you can improve all

your relationships and make more satisfying

choices. Trip the light (and the dark)

fantastic to understand your hot buttons,

blind spots, and projections. Learn how

other people mirror our shadow elements,

thereby, becoming important teachers.

Through journaling, dialogue, awareness,

and reflection, we discover the sacred purpose

of the shadow, not as an enemy to be

vanquished or an enigma to be solved, but

as a fascinating partner in the rhythmic,

improvisational dance of life.

Will You Still Like Me If I Say NO?

Thursday, December 18

January Workshop

Are you a good girl that can be counted

on to say yes even when you mean NO!?

Together, we will redefine what good girls

do and say. At the completion of this interactive

workshop you will each establish

some new and comfortable boundaries.

Say yes to yourself.

• Learn, notice and listen to your own

inner guidance

• Recognize when you’ve heard it before

and use it

• Identify comfort zones past, present

and future

• Establish comfortable boundaries for

the coming season and New Year

MaryAine Cherry helped people believe

in themselves with self development coaching

for twelve years. She is a Rapid Eye

Technician-Trainer, Health Educator, Massage

Therapist and the founder of RETurn

to JOY! in Pismo Beach.

Berta Parrish, Ed.D, is a college educator,

writer, and workshop leader with a

strong background in Jungian and Archetypal

Psychology. She has published articles

on spiritual journaling, women’s issues, and

Cronings as well Wise Woman’s Way: A Guide

to Growing Older with Purpose and Passion,

a book that offers an initiatory experience

to a vibrant third stage of life. Berta

also offers Practical Jung, Dream Questing,

Elder Tales, and Myths Women Live

By workshops for civic organizations, worship

communities, Osher Lifelong Learning

Institutes, and Grandmother Gatherings.


12 Body&Soul

Women’s Press | November & December 2008 | womenspress.slo@gmail.com

Spiritual Awakening

for the Highly Sensitive,

Empathic Nature (HS/E),

Part II

Photo by Anne-Mette Jørsfeldt

By Barbara Atkinson

Resources and Tips

Tools: healing the trauma of stored emotion

• Therapy with Jungian and/or bodycentered

therapist

• Educate yourself (Myers-Briggs; Owning

Your Own Shadow; Resource list

books, et. al)

• Energy healers

• Use processes like The Work with

Byron Katie; The Journey or Focusing;

See life as a metaphor – any that resonate

with you

• Learn to come to a point of nonjudgment

and forgiveness (If judging

someone, ask yourself, “How am I like

that?”)

• Protect yourself with the image of a

2-way mirror – you see out, but nothing

comes in

• Check your cortisol and DHEA levels

and take amino acids and DHEA supplement

• Experiment with the MAP program

(self-healing energetically) as devised

by Machaelle Small Wright at Perelandra

farms

• Flower essences as proposed by Dr.

Mesich in her book (see resource listing)

• Food – protein and carbs can often

ground and soothe, but need to watch

food issues

• Writing/journaling

Flower essences as a tool

Essences are an alternative health remedy

that can specifically target emotional

healing. (They are not essential oils or aromatherapy.)

They can rebalance your empathic ability,

release years of painful overload (the

build-up) and help you feel more protected

and less overwhelmed by your sensitivity.

Reminder: empathy doesn’t go away; you

need to connect with its positive power

once build-up is dissipated.

Machaelle Small Wright, the expert in

flower essences, states, “Flower essences are

liquid pattern-infused solutions made from

individual plant flowers, each containing a

specific electrical imprint that responds in a

balancing, repairing, and rebuilding manner

to imbalances in humans on their physical,

emotional, mental and spiritual…levels.”

For the highly sensitive, empathic

nature’s emotional build-up, the following

essences are recommended:

• Yarrow

• ETS+ (only from Machaelle Small

Wright at www.perelandra-ltd.com)

Where to get flower essences

• Featherhawk Essences in Indiana

(877/226-7858) www.featherhawk.com

• Melinda Forbes in Garden Farms, SLO

County (805/438-5077)

• Star Essence in Santa Barbara for

“Strength of Achilles” (their name for

White Yarrow) www.staressence.com

(805/965-1619)

• Perelandra ETS+ when overwhelmed

and for trauma at www.perelandra-ltd.

com

Flower essences are traditionally put into

an alcohol base. You can request a non-alcohol

alternative. There are many more sites

listed in Kyra’s “...Survival Guide” book

listed above and on line.

Books:

• The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine

N. Aron, Ph.D. www.hsperson.com

• The Sensitive Person’s Survival Guide by

Kyra Mesich, Psy.D. www.kyramesich.

com

• You Are Psychic! by Pete A. Sanders, Jr.

www.freesoul.net or for an interview

with the author go to http://thirdmill.

com/html/pete.htm (This is an older

book that I include only because of

what he says about the “feeling” sense.)

• Please Understand Me by David Keirsey

and Marilyn Bates (Google “Myer

Briggs Test” and you’ll get a slew of

sites.)

• Owning Your Own Shadow by Robert

A. Johnson

• The Dream Book by Betty Bethards

• After the Ecstasy, the Laundry: How the

Heart Grows Wise on the Spiritual Path

by Jack Kornfield

These are just a few books I include as

essential reading for the HS/E nature. There

are many other wonderful books to which

you may be drawn.

Barbara Atkinson is a spiritual teacher with

a website that includes information on the

HS/E nature, www.theblisspapers.com

Spirituality Matters: In the Stars or Genetic Memory?

By Heather Mendel

Is it in the stars or far closer— in our own

genetic makeup? What shapes us and forms

the basis of our interests, likes and passions?

Like the answer to all paradoxical questions,

I guess the answer to the dilemma

is “yes.” Having had a detailed astrological

chart drawn up, we realize that in the interconnections

of the various constellations at

the time of our birth lies the blue print to

all that interests us. This came as an amazing

insight when I had my chart drawn up

several years ago. It was all there— from

my penchant to calligraphy to an abiding

call to investigate the mysteries in our lives

from the world of myth, mysticism, and in

particular, the meaning and influence of the

Sacred Feminine in human affairs.

Then I watched the movie “Signs Out of

Time” that tells the story of Marija Gimbutas,

amazing scholar, thinker, archeomythologist

and teacher who introduced a

novel way of viewing antiquities that makes

pre-patriarchal culture come alive. The

possibility that the patriarchal worldview

of hierarchy and separation (of ourselves

from Divinity, from one another and from

nature) was not always the way human

beings interacted, gives us great hope for

the future. Marija was born in Lithuania

and through her profound wisdom, she

was able to take the knowledge of the language,

the songs, the stories and mythology

of the region, and craft an intuitive vision

of the past. As I watched the movie, I realized

that my grandparents all came from

Lithuania. They were forced to flee at the

end of the 19th century because of rampant

anti-Semitism at the time. I have no idea of

how long my family roots connect back to

this geographic location as it is very difficult

to trace our genealogy. What struck me

was how deeply moved I was when I first

heard Riane Eisler talking about Gimbutas’

findings some 25 years ago and how it resonated

within me. I was very aware of being

in the midst of a paradox - history as it was

taught to me, or ‘herstory’ as felt real when

I started studying Gimbutas’ book Language

of the Goddess.

In the stars or our genetic memory? I

celebrate the dilemma and the result. In

December 2009 my book, Dancing in the

Footsteps of Eve: Retrieving the Healing

Gift of the Sacred Feminine for the Human

Family will be published and in anticipation,

I have started a blog, found at http://

sacredfemininematters.blogspot.com/that I

invite you to visit and share your thoughts.

Heather Mendel has focalized women’s

spirituality groups for the past 15 years.

She can be contacted through her website at

www.wordartist.com, and also e-mailed

at heathermendel@charter.net or called at

544-4933.

Where to find Women’s Press

All Libraries and the following exceptionally fine establishments!

• NORTH COUNTY: Atascadero – The Coffee House and Deli, Starbuck’s at Von’s

Plaza, Green Goods, Player’s Pizza, Harvest Health Food Store, North County

Connection, Senior Center, Women’s Resource Center/Shelter Office, Curves. Paso

Robles – Cuesta College North Campus, Café Vio, Curves, DK Donuts, Panolivo

French Cafe, NCI Village Thrift Shop, Paso Robles Health Foods; Templeton – Twin

Cities Hospital, Templeton Market & Deli, Affinity Chiropractic, Kinship Center,

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Shop, Linn’s, Donna’s Nail Salon, Cookie Crock, Rainbow Bean and Coffee Shop;

Cayucos – Cayucos Super Market, Kelley’s EsPresso & Dessert, Ocean Front Pizza,

Chevron Station, Mobile Balloons; Los Osos – Starbuck’s, Baywood Laundry, Cad’s,

Carlock’s Bakery, Chamber of Commerce, Copa de Oro, Garden Café, Los Osos Deli

Liquor, Volumes of Pleasure; Morro Bay – Backstage Salon, Coalesce Bookstore, Coffee

Pot Restaurant, The Rock, Southern Port Traders, Sunshine Health Foods, Two Dogs

Coffee, La Parisienne Bakery.

• SAN LUIS OBISPO: Broad St. Laundry, Cool Cats Café, La Crepes, Edna Market,

Art Café, Booboo Records, Creekside Center, GALA, Marigold Nails, Palm Theatre,

Susan Polk Insurance, Utopia Bakery, Unity Church, Zoe Wells, Naturopath, Cal

Poly Library and Women’s Center, Center for Alternatives to Violence, Chamber of

Commerce, Cuesta College Library, EOC Health Services Clinic, HealthWorks,

Healing Alternatives, Laguna Laundry, Linnaea’s, Monterey Express, Natural Foods

Coop, New Frontiers, Nautical Bean, Outspoken Beverage Bistro, Phoenix Books,

Planned Parenthood, Rudolph’s Coffee & Tea, San Luis Obispo Housing Authority

Office, SARP, The Secret Garden, SLO Perk Coffee, Spirit Winds Therapy, The Studio

Fitness for Women, Uptown Cafe, Yoga Centre, Ahshe Hair Salon, Apropos Clothing,

Soho Hair Salon, Hempshack, YMCA, KCBX, Fairchild Salon, Jaffa Café, Med Stop

(Madonna Plaza), World Rhythm and Motion, Steynberg Gallery, Correa Chiropractic,

High St. Deli, Sunset N. Car Wash, Jamaica You, United Blood Services.

• SOUTH COUNTY: Arroyo Grande – Mongo’s, Act II Boutique, Central Coast

Yoga, CJ’s Restaurant, Curves-AG, Cutting Edge, EOC Health Services Clinic, Girls

Restaurant, Grande Whole Foods, Kennedy Club Fitness, JJ’s Market, Chameleon,

Brave New Wares; Avila Beach– Avila Grocery, Custom House, Sycamore Hot

Springs, Inn at Avila, Joe Mamma’s; Grover Beach – Back Door Deli, Cindi’s Wash

House, Nan’s Pre-owned Books, Therapeutic Body Center, 30-minute Fitness;

Halcyon – Halcyon Store; Nipomo – Anna’s Creekside Coffee House, Healing Touch

Spa, Curves, La Placita Market, Healthy Inspirations, World Gym, Trendy Sister Salon,

Senior Centers; Pismo Beach – Honeymoon Café, Pismo Athletic Club, RETurn to

JOY!; Shell Beach – De Palo & Sons Deli, Seaside Cafe, Steaming Bean.

• SANTA MARIA: Café Monet, Hunter’s Landing, Library, Curves on Main and on

Broadway, Lassen’s.

• ORCUTT: Loading Dock, Oasis Spa.


November & December 2008 | www.womenspress-slo.org | Women’s Press NOWNews 13

This Page Presented by the National Organization for Women

Coordinator’s Corner

By Angie King

How did it get to be so late so fast? Can it

be the holidays already? For those of you

making up wish lists for presents this year,

let me wish you all good health and peaceful

hearts. We’ll need them next year if

things don’t get better.

This is the last issue of the year of the

Women’s Press, and of our newsletter. By the

time you read this, the world may be completely

different than it is when I’m writing

it! It’s hard to keep up with the news and

the impact on women. What’s happened in

2008?

Start with two undeclared wars, leaving

close to 5,000 US families mourning

the death of a service member; move to the

scandal, corruption and greed that brought

capitalism to its knees, worldwide impoverishing

our middle class in ways not seen

since 1929; and add the savage ravaging and

plundering of the earth without regard to

the consequences on our own continued

existence, to name only a few problems,

and the list goes on. And it’s not just the

deregulating anti-government Republicans

who are to blame. We are all complicit. As

they used to say in the civil rights movement,

if you are not part of the solution,

you are part of the problem.

It’s hard to remain optimistic, but we

must. Negative thinking only wears us

down and prevents creative energies from

bubbling up with new solutions. So, at this

year’s end, cherish your friends and family,

love Mother Earth, and keep your eyes on

the prize (another slogan from the 60’s).

On another topic, we print a calendar

in these pages each month, to mark

important milestones in feminist history as

well as publish our meeting dates. A lot of

the women mentioned are not household

names, although they should be. If you are

not familiar with who these women are, I

urge you to educate yourself. At least check

out Wikipedia and look up your feminist

heritage. You’ll be surprised at the rich,

diverse stories of our foremothers all over

the world.

Happy Holidays.

The purpose of NOW is to bring women into full participation in the mainstream of American society NOW!

NOW Chapter # CA 565

PO Box 1306, SLO, CA 93406

SLONOW @ kcbx.net

http://groups.myspace.com/~slonow

Calendar

November 8:

• Birthday of Margaret Mitchell, 1900

November 12:

• Birthday of Elizabeth Cady Stanton,

1815

November 18:

• NOW regular meeting, 6 PM

November 19:

• Birthday of Indira Gandhi, 1917

November 26:

• Death of Sojourner Truth, 1883

November 30:

• Birthday of Shirley Chisholm, 1924

December 14:

• Birthday of Margaret Chase Smith,

1897

December 16:

• Birthday of Margaret Mead, 1901

December 16:

• NOW regular meeting, 6 PM

December 23:

• Birthday of Madame C. J. Walker,

1869

December 25:

• Birthday of Clara Barton, 1821

Get Involved — Join NOW!

San Luis Obispo Chapter

National Organization for Women

Every woman doesn’t have to join NOW, just the 142 million who are

discriminated against!

• Support reproductive choice

• Work to eliminate ALL violence

against women

• Fight against sexual harassment

• Encourage tolerance and diversity

• Promote feminist issues

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Send your check and this form to

PO Box 1306

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Chapter # CA 565

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Goals

• Commemorate Roe v Wade (Jan 22)

• Celebrate Women’s Equality Day

(Aug 26)

• Participate in Farmer’s Market

• Support feminist politics

General Meetings

11573 Los Osos Valley Rd, #B, SLO

3rd Tuesday of every month

at 6:00 pm

NOW news

While the election is the big news, there are

still bills moving through Congress. Some

of the pending legislation NOW supports.

1. United States Cadet Nurse Corps

Equity Act (H.R. 3423), clarifies service

in the Cadet Nurse Corps as active military

service and recognizes the members as

veterans. This change in status would give

Cadet Nurse Corps members access to services

administered by both Federal and

State Veterans’ Affairs departments. Over

the past decade, numerous Cadet Nurse

Corps Equity Acts have been introduced

and sent to committees where they were

left to languish. 2008 marks the 60th anniversary

of the graduation of the last class of

Cadet Nurses, and the small, hearty band of

surviving nurses deserves our support! These

women are mostly in their 80s and 90s and

have waited long enough; we need to help

them achieve equal veteran status NOW!

2. There is bi-partisan support for the

Federal Employees Paid Parental Leave

Act (S.3140), which will guarantee four

weeks of paid leave for federal workers for

the birth or adoption of a child. The federal

government -- the nation’s largest employer,

with more than 1.8 million civilian employees

-- should set the example of workplace

policies that truly meet the needs of today’s

working families. When enacted, a paid

parental leave bill for federal workers will

serve as a critical benchmark for achieving

paid family and medical leave for all workers.

This legislation is a first step toward

providing economic support for new families,

because no worker should have to

Reproductive Rights Update

The assault on women’s bodies might be

coming to an end, at least in Congress.

There are a number of issues we hope will

move in a more progressive direction under

the new Congress. We’ll have more to say in

the January issue when the dust has settled.

But here is some of the damage of the last 8

years that could easily be undone:

#1 Repeal the global gag rule (Mexico

City policy), which prohibits any

US government funding overseas

for any organization that provides

(even with its own funds) or discusses

the option of abortion.

#2 Repeal the Hyde Amendment,

which forbids the use of US government

money for abortion services

here at home, for instance

service members, Indians on reservations,

prisoners, women on Medicaid

assistance, and others under

federal jurisdiction.

#3 Restore funding for UN population

fund. It’s part of our commitment

to the UN, yet Bush has refused to

make the money available.

#4 Increase money for family planning,

provide access to contraception,

and change the abstinence

only sex education concept. We all

need truthful factual information

about our reproductive systems

and access to quality health care in

order to make informed intelligent

choices and lower the unintended

pregnancy rates.

Here in California, of course, while the

legislature is solidly pro-choice, the people

choose between their paycheck and their

new child, especially in these tough economic

times.

In June, the House of Representatives

overwhelmingly passed their version of the

Federal Employees Paid Parental Leave Act

(H.R.5781), but the Senate has yet to pass

S.3140. If there is no vote before the Senate

adjourns, the bill will die when Congress

goes home this fall. Sen. Webb has said he

will reintroduce this bill next year if necessary.

3. A month after the Supreme Court

denied Lilly Ledbetter’s claim for pay discrimination

in May 2007, the House of

Representatives passed the Lilly Ledbetter

Fair Pay Act. The Senate version of the

bill, the Fair Pay Restoration Act (S.1843),

has been held up by partisan bickering. The

bill would fix the Court’s misinterpretation

of Title VII and ensure that pay discrimination

victims get their fair day in court.

This Act will simply return us to the longstanding

rule that treated each and every

discriminatory paycheck as a new act of discrimination.

It’s sad enough that women are still paid

only 77 cents or less to men’s dollar, even

though civil rights laws banned wage discrimination

more than four decades ago

unless redressed by this bill. The Supreme

Court’s decision could push back much of

the progress that women have been making

in closing the wage gap.

Check out NOW.org for more about

these bills, and about NOW’s activities in

the legislative arena.

are not. This is written before the fate of

Prop 4 is known, but it is the 3rd time in

4 years the right wing has tried to restrict

minor’s rights in California, this time using

deceptive tactics even the Tribune couldn’t

stomach. In an editorial it pointed out that

the backers have distorted and lied their

way to claim such a law is needed. See more

at NOW.org.

Roe v Wade will certainly continue to

be a topic of discussion next year. The next

president will nominate at least one, and

possibly more, new justices to the high

court. NOW will continue to monitor all

judicial nominees for their positions on this

issue. Has science outstripped the analysis

of the Supreme Court in 1972? What now?

When, if ever, can the state place restrictions

on that right? Yet the basic constitutionally

protected right to privacy, the right

to make personal decisions personally will

still remain.

Speaking of Roe v Wade, the San Luis

Obispo chapter of NOW is now planning

for its annual rally in January commemorating

the decision in Roe. Look for more

information in January, but save January 22,

2009 to help us keep this issue in peoples’

minds. As Ellen Goodman recently noted,

at least 1/3 of all American women will have

had an abortion by the time she is 45. Over

half of these women already have families

and are making their decision in that context.

This isn’t something that only happens

to “them”; your friends and neighbors, your

professional colleagues are likely to be in

that 33%. It could be you next. Keep abortion

legal!


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SLO Vocal Arts Ensemble 2008-2009

Concert Season Begins!

The SLO Vocal Arts Ensemble presents

a World in Harmony! beginning with their

holiday concert, “Christmas from Around

the World, Dec. 5th, 6th, and 7th. Then for

spring they will offer “Spring Into a New

World, April 24th, 25th, and 26th. And

this year they are expanding their venues to

include Cambria and Paso Robles. Coming

in June of 2009, the Vocal Arts Ensemble

will once again participate in the California

International Choral Festival and Competition.

These three performances are sure to

be glorious, so become a season ticket subscriber

to get first choice seating and special

discounts. Go to www.vocalarts.org to

order tickets or call 805-541-6797.

Houselights Theatre Has Gone to the Cats

Allied Arts presents Houselights Theatre’s

next production, INDOOR/OUTDOOR by

Kenny Finkle. Opening November 7th and

playing thru November 30th, this heartwarming

romantic comedy is being directed

by Adrian Balbontin and features Janet Stipicevitch,

Kelli Rodda, Thom Waldman,

and Tim McManus.

Showtimes are Friday and Saturday at

7:30pm and Sunday at 3pm. Tickets are $18

and a portion of the proceeds will benefit

HART (Homeless Animal Rescue Team).

Houselights Theatre is located at 1350 Main,

in TOGS (Theatre at the Old Grammar

School) in Cambria. Reservations can be

made by calling 805-927-4667 or by e-mail

at houselightstheatre@yahoo.com.

Annual SLO Poetry Festival

The Annual San Luis Obispo Poetry Festival,

Corners of the Mouth, will open November

7th and run thru November 16th at the

San Luis Obispo Art Center, 1010 Broad St.

Celebrating 25 years, the festival is sponsored

by the City of SLO, Cal Poly WriterSpeak,

Poets & Writers, Inc., and Glenna

Luschei.

All events begin at 7pm and tickets are

$5 for general admission, $3 for students or

seniors.

The festival also highlights the California

Poet Laureate Project with a photo

exhibit by Ronna Leon, which will hang at

Linnaea’s Café throughout November.

For more information, contact Kevin

Patrick Sullivan at 547-1318 or go to www.

languageofthesoul.org.

Boasting a host of Hollywood VIP personalities

and famous musicians, the Paso Robles

Digital Film Festival will not only be

webcast worldwide, but filmed for a special

DVD, showing an inside look at a film

festival and the film business itself in the

Digital Age. Scheduled for November 20

through 25, seasoned event director Benford

Standley will produce what promises

to be a first-class film festival.

The theme is “Music In Film,” meaning

there will be a number of outstanding Jazz,

Rock and Country performances, screenings,

a 3-D Indie Film Expo, an art show,

and panel discussions held at the Martin

& Weyrich Winery and in various locations

in Paso Robles, CA, in Cowboy Wine

Country just South and Sideways of Sundance.

For more info on schedules, screenings

and performances, go to PRDFF.com

The Institute of Noetic Sciences (IONS-

Central Coast Chapter) meets to address

the potentials and powers of consciousness,

including perceptions, beliefs, intention,

and intuition. New meeting date is the

fourth Sunday of every month at 1:30pm to

3:30 pm at Coast National Bank, 500 Marsh

Street, SLO, 93401.

Habitat for Humanity’s ReStores

are Bulging with Great Deals!

Open to Contractors and the Public

You can save money on your home improvement

project by shopping for building

materials at the Habitat for Humanity

ReStores. All proceeds from the ReStores

are used to build new Habitat homes in

San Luis Obispo County. Penny Rappa,

Executive Director, states “Since opening

the Templeton ReStore in 2005, and the

SLO ReStore in 2007, we estimate over two

tons of materials have been diverted from

the local landfills annually.”

Both locations are open Thursday thru

Saturday from 9am to 3pm. Visit the website

for location and more information.

www.hfhsloco.org

Habitat For Humanity To Build

Four Homes in Grover Beach

The City of Grover Beach has approved

plans to build four Habitat for Humanity

homes in 2009. Similar Habitat homes

have been built in Atascadero, Paso Robles,

and Cambria.

Habitat for Humanity uses donations

of funding, materials, professional services,

and volunteer labor to build simple, decent

homes, which are then sold to qualified,

low-income families. All home buyers must

complete 500 hours of volunteer labor on

their home.

All donations are greatly appreciated.

For information on how you can donate

or volunteer, visit www.hfhsloco.org or call

805-782-0687. You can make a difference!

Energy Balancing Sessions Free of Charge in

Templeton and Arroyo Grande

The Global Alliance for Balance and Healing

is offering free energy balancing sessions

on Saturday, November 15 and Saturday,

December 20 from 11am to 4pm. The free

clinic will be held in two locations to better

serve the community. In Templeton at

Dancing Deer Ranch, 2975 Vineyard Drive.

In Arroyo Grande, at Central Coast Yoga,

900 East Grand Avenue at the corner of

Halcyon . No appointment is necessary.

Visit www.globalalliance.ws or call 805-

438-4347 to learn about energy balancing

or other free clinics held by the Global Alliance

for Balance and Healing.

For more information or to coordinate

a clinic in your area, e-mail Wendy

McKenna at wendy@globalalliance.ws.

Noted Acivists Coming to the Central Coast

January 9-11, Joanna and Fran Macy (joannamacy.net)

will conduct a workshop entitled

“Guardians of the Future.” Sponsored

by the Mothers for Peace and the Terra

Foundation, this weekend will help local

activists deepen their commitment to the

world and future generations. This event is

being held at Dancing Deer Ranch in Templeton

(dancingdeer.org). For information

on registration and accommodations, contact

Linda Seeley at lindaseeley@gmail.com.

DOMESTIC

In addition to the intervention-based

resources that the Women’s Shelter Program

of SLO provides, prevention-based

programs are also in place. Our prevention

programs include:

Presentations or trainings are offered to

community groups and local agencies.

Peer counseling and groups offered in

the high schools.

Also, the Domestic Violence Task Force

(DVTF) of San Luis Obispo and many

other agencies, including the Women’s

Shelter Program, collaborate on a prevention

campaign called, “Beat the Punch.”

“Beat the Punch” is a prevention program

that focuses on young adults in

our community to give them knowledge,

resources, and tools to lead violence-free

lives. The focus is primarily on ending

dating violence, since relationships don’t

become abusive simply because of marriage,

but rather the violence most often begins

early on in dating relationships.

The types of campaigns that “Beat the

Punch” incorporates are dating violence

prevention curriculums within the local

high schools called Safe Dates, a media

campaign that includes radio commercials,

coasters with our logo on them distributed

at local bars, a “myspace” page, website,

and billboard, generously donated by Coast

National Bank, during the month of October

in SLO. You will also find “Beat the

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Continued from page 5

Punch” and the Women’s Shelter Program

at Farmer’s Market on Thursdays in October.

To seek our services or if you are in crisis

regarding domestic abuse here are the numbers

to call:

• Local Hotline (crisis line):

(805) 549-8989 or 211

• Out of the area call: (800) 799-SAFE

• Police: 911

• Counseling services through CADV:

(805) 473-6507

• Legal services: (805) 781-6418

• North County Women’s Resource

Center: (805) 461-1338

• To log-on to our Women’s Shelter

Program’s SLO website go to

http://www.womensshelterslo.org

• To log-on to the North County Women’s

Resource Center’s website go to

http://northcountywomensshelter.org

To log-on to the “Beat

the Punch” website go to

http://www.violencefreecommunity.com

or to visit the “myspace” page go to

http://www.myspace.com/beatthepunch

No one deserves to be abused.

Kelsey Kehoe is a Marriage and Family

Therapist Intern and Dating Violence Prevention

Coordinator for the Women’s Shelter Program

of SLO.

A subscription to the Women’s Press

would be a nice holiday gift!

Call 544-9313 for more information.


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ABUSE

Adults Molested as Children Support Group (AMAC)

545.8888

Center for Alternatives to Domestic Violence

781.6406

North County Women’s Shelter & Resource Center,

(inc. domestic violence support groups)

461.1338

Rape Survivors Support Group, SLO

545.8888

SARP (Sexual Assault Recovery & Prevention)

545.8888

Support Group for Sexual Assault Survivors

545.8888

Women’s Shelter Program of SLO

781.6400 www.womensshelterslo.org

ADDICTIONS

AA Meeting

541.3211

Adult Children of Alcoholics (ACA)

498.2176

Al-Anon

534.9204

Cambria Connection (12 step support)

927.1654

Casa Solana

Women’s Recovery Home 481.8555

Chemical Dependency intensive

outpatient program

541-9113

Compulsive eaters Anonymous, H.O.W.Concept

546.1178

Drug & Alcohol Services

781.4275

800.549.7730

Overeaters Anonymous

541.3164

SCA, SLAA & SAA (Sex, Love & Romance Addictions)

461.6084

TOPS (Take Off Pounds Sensibly)

929.1789

Women for Sobriety

http://www.womenforsobriety.org

215.536.8026

CHILDREN & FAMILIES

Birth and Baby Resource Center

546.3755 www.bbrn.org

Childcare Resource Connection

541.2272 or 800.727.2272

Court Appointed Special Advocates (CASA)

“A child’s voice in Court in SLO County”

541.6542

Children’s Services Network

781.1847

First 5: Children & Families Commission

781.4058; ask for Susan Hughs

Homeschooling in SLO County (HSC)

462.0726; ask for Barbara

La Clinica De Tolosa 238.5334

La Leche League

489.9128

Migrant Childcare Program

544.4355 and 466.3444

MOMS Club of South SLO county

473. 2548

Partnership for Children

541.8666; ask for Beth

Real F.A.C.T.S. (Forum on Abused Children)

460.9016

Social Services

781.1600

Support for Kids Coping with Domestic Violence

473.6507

EMERGENCY/CRISIS

Hotline

www.slohotline.org 800.549.8989

Sexual & Rape Prevention (SARP)

545.8888 or 800.656.HOPE (4673)

Temporary Restraining Order & Victim Witness

Program 781.5821

EMOTIONAL SUPPORT

A.D.A.P.T. (Aid in Divorce Adjustment Problems Today)

543.0388

Alzheimer/Dementia Resource Center

434.2081 or 534.9234 or 888.488.6555

CALL–Concerned Agoraphobics Learning to Live

543.3764

Co-Dependents Anonymous (CoDA)

542.0577 (SLO) 481.5093 (Grover Beach)

927.1654 (Cambria) 466.8600 (North County)

Community Counseling Center

543.7969

Dealing With Divorce

544.9313

Depresson and Bipolar Support Alliance Group

927.3703

Divorce Discussion Group

489.2990, saintbarnabas@sbcglobal.net

Eating Disorders Support Group

546-3774; free, meets weekly in SLO

Grief Awareness Group

489.2990, saintbarnabas@sbcglobal.net

Hospice of SLO County (inc. miscarriage/stillbirth

support) 544.2266 or 434.1164

Project Lifesaver

548.0909

Safe and Sober Support Group

473.6507

Senior Peer Counseling

Free, trained in-home counseling for 60+

547.7025, ext. 15

Talk/Listen - Emotional support

489.5481

Transformations Counseling Center

Free monthly workshops 541.7908

FINANCE/BUSINESS

Consumer Credit Counseling Services

800.540.2227

GAY & LESBIAN

Gay and Lesbian Alliance of the Central Coast

541.4252

PFLAG.Parents & Friends of Lesbians & Gays

438.3889

SOL (Single Older Lesbians)

Mostly socializing! Call 474.9405

HOSPICE

AIDS Bereavement Group (Hospice)

544.2266

Hospice of SLO County

544.2266 and 434.1164

Hospice Partners of the Central Coast

782.8608

JOBS/CAREERS

AARP

788.2643

Cal Poly Foundation

Jobline 756.7107

Cal Poly University

http://calpolyjobs.org 756.1533

Cuesta College

http://www.cuesta.edu Jobline 546.3127

The Creekside Career Center

www.slocareers.org 788.2631 or 788.2690

Department of Rehabilitation

549.3361

Mission Community Services Corporation

Women’s Business Partners

595.1356 www.mcscorp.org

Private Industry Council (PIC)

www.jobhunt.org 788.2601

LEGAL

Core Mediation Services

544.6334 medeee8@aol.com

District Attorney’s Office – Victim Witness Center

781.5821

Family Law Facilitator

546.3769

Lawyers Referral Services/Legal Aid Alternative

788.2099

Pro Per Divorce Workshop

544.9313

Senior Legal Services

543.5140

MEDICAL SUPPORT/SERVICES

ALS Support Group (Lou Gehrig’s Disease)

227.4785 or 674.4162

Alzheimer’s Support

534.9234 (LO); 547.3830 (SLO);

547.3830, 534.9234 (SLO/Los Osos)

888.488.6555

American Cancer Society

San Luis Obispo 543.1481

Templeton 434.3051

Anorexia Nervosa & Bulimia Support Group

541.9113

Arthritis Foundation

892.5556

Cancer/ Breast Cancer Support Groups

543.1481 ext. 3 for information

Caregivers of Aging Parents

547.3830 (AG); 927.4290 (Cambria);

227.7135 (PR); 547.3830 (SLO); 543.7969

Celiac Disease Support Group

226-9893

Endometriosis Association

www.endometriosisassn.org

Enhancement, Inc. (for breast cancer survivors)

771.8640 www.enhancementinc.com

EOC Health Services Clinics

no or low cost reproductive health services

544.2478 (SLO); 489.4026 (Arroyo Grande)

Healthworks of the Central Coast

No or low cost reproductive health services

542.0900

IC Interstitial Cystitis/Painful Bladder Syndrome

3rd Thursday, SLO, 7 -9 pm 464-0564

Long-term Care Ombudsman Services of SLO County

785.0132

Lymphedema Education & Support Group

2nd Monday, 4-5 pm, 782-9300

Parkinson’s Support Groups

466.7226 (Atascadero/Templeton)

481.7424 (Arroyo Grande)

541.8633 (SLO)

Planned Parenthood

SLO 549.9446

Stroke Support Group

471.8102 (SLO)

Caregivers of Stroke Survivors

544.2266 (SLO)

Women’s Support/Therapy v (general)

534.1101

Women’s Healthcare Specialists

544.4883

POLITICAL

Code Pink

ososousaville@aol.com

Commission on Status of Women

545.8412; Dawn Williams

Democratic Women United

541.4252

League of Women Voters

543.2220

NOW (National Organization for Women)

slonow@kcbx.net

READERS/WRITERS

Adult Literacy

541-4219

Creative Writing Group

748-2676; contact Gloria

Nightwriters

549.9656; contact Shirley Powell

Sisters in Crime

http://SinC-CCC.blogspot.com

SENIORS

Adult Day Care

489.8894 (Arroyo Grande);

434.2081 (Templeton); 927.4290 (Cambria)

Adult Protective Services

781.1790

Computerooters:

Computer help: 489.6230

Department of Social Services:

In-Home Support 781.1790

Nursing help for the terminally ill 781.5540

Elder and Dependent Adult Advocacy and Outreach –

Victim Witness Assistance Center

781-5821

Elder Law, Geraldine E. Champion, Attorney

473.4747

Foster Grandparents.Senior Companions

782.9200

Senior Ballroom Dance club

489.5481 dg17@juno.com

Senior Peer Counseling

Free, trained in.home counseling for 60+

547.7025 ext. 15

SPIRITUAL

Circle of Spiritual Enlightenment

995.1390; www.spiritualcircle.org

Awakening Interfaith Spiritual Community

Meditation Monday evenings 7-7:45 pm

Open to all. 772-0306 awakeninginterfaith.org

Hungry Hearts Spiritual Community

RC liturgy with womanpriest 546.8672

Meditation Group

Mondays, 7:30–8:30 PM; 772.0306

New Beginnings Church

Every Sunday, Coalesce Bookstore, MB

Self-Realization Fellowship

Sunday Services 995-1599

WOMEN’S CENTERS/SHELTERS

Homeless Shelter

781-3993

Housing Authority

543.4478

North County Women’s Resource Center, Shelter

461.1338

Prado Day Center (for the homeless)

786.0617

Women’s Community Center, SLO

544.9313

Women’s Shelter Program of SLO

549.8989 (crises), 781.6401 (business)

www.womensshelterslo.org

OTHER WOMEN’S ORGANIZATIONS

Altrusa International, Inc.

481.1039; Cici Wynn, President

American Association of University Women

781-0922; Karen

Camping Women

440.2723 www.campingwomen.org

Hadassah.SLO

543.9452

OTHER GROUPS & GATHERINGS

Central Coast Peace and Environmental Council

544.3399 or 783.2383

Compassion & Choices (or Final Exit)

800.247.7421 or 489-5481

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