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<strong>No</strong> <strong>Greater</strong> <strong>Joy</strong><br />

• Wanted: An Apple Tree like Me<br />

• We went West and came back Rejoicing<br />

CHILD TRAINING ● HOMESCHOOLING ● FAMILY RELATIONSHIPS ● BIBLE TEACHING


contents<br />

NOV. - DEC. 2004<br />

VOL. 10 NO. 6<br />

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5<br />

7<br />

22<br />

24<br />

Wanted: An Apple<br />

Tree like Me<br />

by Beka <strong>Joy</strong> (Pearl) Anast<br />

I believe <strong>the</strong> most convincing evidence<br />

of <strong>the</strong> truth of <strong>the</strong> gospel of Christ is<br />

to let your children see you speaking<br />

it to friends, neighbors, and absolute<br />

strangers.<br />

We went West and<br />

came back Rejoicing<br />

by Michael Pearl<br />

Everywhere we went it felt like a<br />

reunion. We met so many absolutely<br />

delightful Saints of God.<br />

Created to be his Help<br />

Meet<br />

by Debi Pearl<br />

Get a fi rst look at Debi’s new book for<br />

women. Read excerpts that address<br />

issues ranging from <strong>the</strong> power of a<br />

smile to how to understand your man.<br />

Scam artist Warning!!<br />

Daddy and King Neb<br />

by Beka <strong>Joy</strong> (Pearl) Anast<br />

Daddy’s drooling and carpet-grazing<br />

depiction of King Neb, changed into a<br />

beast, is so impressive that even threeyear-old<br />

Joe is convinced of <strong>the</strong> value<br />

of being thankful and ascribing to<br />

God <strong>the</strong> glory that is due Him.<br />

- On <strong>the</strong> Cover -<br />

Cover illustration was adapted from<br />

<strong>the</strong> cover of <strong>the</strong> Chinese translation of<br />

To Train Up A Child.<br />

Hearts & Hugs<br />

— From Susie —<br />

If your husband comes home cold, tired<br />

or even bearish, I’ve got a sure cure.<br />

Tell that big old man to lie down<br />

on <strong>the</strong> fl oor so you can give him a<br />

real ‘sugar-cured’ back rub. As I<br />

rub warm, sweetly scented oil into<br />

my man’s stiff, sore muscles, I also<br />

rub in love. I whisper endearments,<br />

and just a line or two brings a smile.<br />

Whispering wraps a normal word in<br />

intrigue and gives it a bit of mystery.<br />

The moment of secret is sweet. He is<br />

reminded how much we need him,<br />

appreciate him, and how fi ne we<br />

think he is. Of course, all <strong>the</strong> children<br />

want to bless Daddy, so <strong>the</strong>y rush to<br />

help with <strong>the</strong> back rub. This time of<br />

blessing Daddy has never failed to<br />

bring on a jolly, relaxed mood.<br />

It works on <strong>the</strong> little men in your life as well. My little<br />

boys have grown up highly appreciating <strong>the</strong> ‘moments<br />

with mom’. <strong>No</strong> matter what <strong>the</strong>y are doing, if I tell <strong>the</strong>m I<br />

will give <strong>the</strong>m a back rub, <strong>the</strong>y drop on <strong>the</strong> spot, <strong>the</strong>n say,<br />

“Will you put a secret in my ear?” Even <strong>the</strong> one-year-old<br />

plops down with great anticipation at a mere suggestion<br />

of a back rub.<br />

All in all, a good back rub is a sure winner. It gives<br />

Daddy physical comfort for his big, sore muscles, while it<br />

is an outward sign to our children of honor and reverence<br />

toward Dad. The ministering of love through my hands<br />

seems to prepare <strong>the</strong> heart-soil and gives <strong>the</strong> seeds of my<br />

words fertile ground in which to grow. On cold, rainy days<br />

when <strong>the</strong> boys are bouncing off <strong>the</strong> walls, <strong>the</strong> call of back<br />

rubs brings quiet, both to <strong>the</strong> house and to <strong>the</strong>ir little souls.<br />

So go bless <strong>the</strong> men in your family, pour on <strong>the</strong> oil, and<br />

see how much love, joy, and peace it brings. ☺<br />

All Scripture taken from<br />

<strong>the</strong> Authorized Version<br />

(King James) Holy Bible<br />

<strong>No</strong> <strong>Greater</strong> <strong>Joy</strong><br />

<strong>Ministries</strong> Inc.<br />

1000 Pearl Road<br />

Pleasantville, TN 37033<br />

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ministry<br />

WITH BEKA JOY (PEARL) ANAST<br />

Wanted:<br />

An<br />

Like Me<br />

An Apple Tree<br />

Dear Rebekah,<br />

I wanted to voice my earnest appreciation for <strong>the</strong> articles<br />

you write in <strong>the</strong> NGJ magazine. Though I always glean help<br />

and encouragement from all of <strong>the</strong> articles, it is refreshing to<br />

hear words of life and experience from ano<strong>the</strong>r young family<br />

that is in <strong>the</strong> thick of child-raising. My husband and I have<br />

been outside <strong>the</strong> conventional church system for years now and<br />

have struggled to find like-minded (not perfect, just like-minded)<br />

people to grow with in <strong>the</strong> Lord. . .<br />

We have prayed for four years for fellowship, friendship, sharing with o<strong>the</strong>rs of like mind – it is hard<br />

to not feel desperate sometimes. Yet we know o<strong>the</strong>rs do exist out <strong>the</strong>re from reading <strong>No</strong> <strong>Greater</strong> <strong>Joy</strong>. I<br />

have to trust and hope more in <strong>the</strong> Lord. I know this. But I must also admit that <strong>the</strong> feeling of Christian<br />

community and family that you all seem to have appears to be distant and evasive for us. We know we<br />

cannot compromise our children by joining ourselves to <strong>the</strong> lawless “church,” but we long for o<strong>the</strong>rs to<br />

fellowship with, even just one family who shares <strong>the</strong> same precious faith and child-raising principles that<br />

God has given us. Please forgive me for carrying on. Just needed to reach out toward someone who seems so<br />

much like myself.<br />

A young sister in Christ,<br />

Maranatha O.<br />

Dear Maranatha,<br />

As I read your letter aloud to my<br />

husband, he said “Man, I know how<br />

she feels... I wish people could see our<br />

church here in New Mexico. There’s<br />

not a person in it remotely like us...<br />

but that’s where folks are getting<br />

saved.” At Gabe’s words, my mind<br />

flooded with childhood memories<br />

– memories of being different, but not<br />

alone.<br />

“Have you ever met Jesus?” I<br />

heard my Dad say to a big black man<br />

who was climbing off of his backhoe<br />

at a city construction site. Dad had<br />

met <strong>the</strong> man once before, only briefly,<br />

just long enough to get his name<br />

and location in order to buy some<br />

cross ties from him. <strong>No</strong>w, Dad and I<br />

(nine years old at <strong>the</strong> time) had gone<br />

downtown to pick <strong>the</strong>m up.<br />

The big man smiled at Dad and<br />

nodded a gracious and shining bald<br />

head. “I shorely have, shorely have,<br />

hallelujah, I shorely have.”<br />

I remember being surprised at his<br />

happy sing-song response. I had heard<br />

Dad ask that question of strangers<br />

literally hundreds of times. He rarely<br />

(if ever) got a response so positive.<br />

But it never deterred him. Out of every<br />

20 or 30 people who got <strong>the</strong> question,<br />

one or two would be interested in<br />

talking about God. Dad always started<br />

off telling <strong>the</strong>m how good God had<br />

been to him, sometimes giving his<br />

testimony, sometimes telling <strong>the</strong>m<br />

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about <strong>the</strong> conversion of Peter, or <strong>the</strong><br />

Apostle Paul. He talked about <strong>the</strong><br />

man Jesus and <strong>the</strong> cross of Calvary,<br />

<strong>the</strong> blood that was shed to pay for our<br />

sins. When Dad was talking about<br />

Jesus, his eyes would shine and his<br />

biker-beard would wave around in <strong>the</strong><br />

breeze, parting right down <strong>the</strong> middle<br />

to reveal <strong>the</strong> blue T-shirt he’d silkscreened<br />

for himself, with <strong>the</strong> verse,<br />

“I am <strong>the</strong> righteousness of God,”<br />

on it. Pretty soon, <strong>the</strong> conversation<br />

would lead to plans to have a Bible<br />

study in <strong>the</strong> stranger’s house or in a<br />

park somewhere. “They’ll be more<br />

comfortable in <strong>the</strong>ir own house,” Dad<br />

would tell me, “and we won’t have to<br />

hope and pray <strong>the</strong>y’ll show up.”<br />

One of us kids (at least one)<br />

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always went along. Our presence<br />

seemed to help Dad’s 6 foot 4-inch,<br />

black-bearded figure appear a little<br />

less intimidating. Dad sat at kitchen<br />

tables, on porches, and in living<br />

rooms all over <strong>the</strong> place. The first<br />

Bible study was always spent just<br />

answering questions <strong>the</strong> people had.<br />

Sometimes <strong>the</strong> questions seemed<br />

dumb to me, but Dad never let on that<br />

he was thinking <strong>the</strong> same thing. He<br />

acted like every question was a good<br />

one, and showed <strong>the</strong> people right from<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir own Bible answers to things like<br />

“what was <strong>the</strong> unpardonable sin” and<br />

“was Satan Jesus’ bro<strong>the</strong>r”? And, he<br />

was always careful to never mention<br />

o<strong>the</strong>r religions, lest he confuse <strong>the</strong><br />

truth <strong>the</strong>y were hearing. Pretty soon<br />

<strong>the</strong>y would gain enough confidence<br />

in his practical “Here, I’ll-show-you<strong>the</strong>-answer-in-your-Bible”<br />

method.<br />

Finally, when he suggested teaching<br />

<strong>the</strong>m through <strong>the</strong> book of John, <strong>the</strong>y<br />

were happy to agree. It only took a<br />

few weeks from <strong>the</strong>re. Once a Bible<br />

study was established, <strong>the</strong> family<br />

almost always “got saved.” From<br />

<strong>the</strong>re, Dad would bring <strong>the</strong> whole<br />

family over – and Mom would bring<br />

dinner. We would play with <strong>the</strong>ir kids<br />

(properly cautioned as to <strong>the</strong> potential<br />

dangers) and witness to <strong>the</strong>m just as<br />

Dad had done with <strong>the</strong>ir parents. We<br />

were all aware, from <strong>the</strong> youngest on<br />

up, that this relationship between our<br />

families was for an eternal reason;<br />

<strong>the</strong>re was no place for foolishness<br />

or pretense in it. Mom would be in<br />

<strong>the</strong> kitchen with <strong>the</strong> lady, sharing her<br />

strength and joy about being a wife<br />

and mo<strong>the</strong>r. Tips about child-training<br />

and husband-wife issues were offered<br />

freely, and unreligiously, in an open<br />

and frank manner.<br />

Mom and Dad were careful not<br />

to be shocked or superpious about <strong>the</strong><br />

worldliness in a family, at <strong>the</strong> same<br />

time being open and uncompromising<br />

in <strong>the</strong>ir own lives. The new believers<br />

were always anxious to learn a new<br />

way of life, and it wouldn’t be long<br />

before <strong>the</strong>y were, more or less, like<br />

us in faith. Before <strong>the</strong> first family<br />

was ready to “fly on <strong>the</strong>ir own”, Dad<br />

would be taking <strong>the</strong> man with him<br />

to Bible studies with o<strong>the</strong>r people<br />

that he’d just met. The presence of<br />

<strong>the</strong> man who was now born again<br />

and learning to walk<br />

with <strong>the</strong> Lord was a<br />

testimony to <strong>the</strong> new<br />

listeners. And, so <strong>the</strong><br />

chain of believers was<br />

built.<br />

You see, what<br />

I’m trying to say<br />

in all of this is that<br />

we didn’t “move”<br />

to a community of<br />

people like us here<br />

in New Mexico. My<br />

husband says, “Apple<br />

trees don’t uproot<br />

<strong>the</strong>mselves and go<br />

find o<strong>the</strong>r apple trees<br />

to stand next to. They “cast” <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

apples, and new trees grow around<br />

<strong>the</strong>m.” Adam and Eve didn’t hike<br />

around <strong>the</strong> world till <strong>the</strong>y found more<br />

humans to live near. They had kids.<br />

I’ve often heard Mom and Dad say<br />

that “you’ll know <strong>the</strong>m by <strong>the</strong>ir fruit,”<br />

and that fruit is “after its own kind.”<br />

The fruit of a believer is ano<strong>the</strong>r<br />

believer.<br />

I understand <strong>the</strong> longing to<br />

be near people of like mind. Since<br />

marrying Gabe and moving to New<br />

Mexico, I have desperately missed<br />

<strong>the</strong> Cane Creek “community.” We<br />

go to a church here that reminds me<br />

of a downtown Mission. Although<br />

<strong>the</strong>re are many believers, it is mostly<br />

full of lost and needy people. Many<br />

of <strong>the</strong> children have been sexually<br />

abused; <strong>the</strong>re are unwed mo<strong>the</strong>rs and<br />

people still dealing with alcohol and<br />

drug addictions. <strong>No</strong>, I don’t leave<br />

my little ones in <strong>the</strong> nursery, or even<br />

let <strong>the</strong>m out of my sight. Instead, I<br />

teach <strong>the</strong>m to smile and shake hands<br />

with every man, woman, and child<br />

who stands before <strong>the</strong>m. I tell <strong>the</strong>m<br />

that <strong>the</strong>ir smile is a gift that people<br />

need to receive. We pray for people<br />

whom Daddy talks to about Christ,<br />

and we interact toge<strong>the</strong>r with o<strong>the</strong>r<br />

“Apple trees don’t<br />

uproot <strong>the</strong>mselves<br />

and go fi nd o<strong>the</strong>r<br />

apple trees to stand<br />

next to. They “cast”<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir apples, and<br />

new trees grow<br />

around <strong>the</strong>m.”<br />

children on <strong>the</strong> playground. At home,<br />

we turn up <strong>the</strong> music and sing to<br />

God as loud as we want, after Daddy<br />

tells us Bible stories with his own<br />

unique dramatization. As a family,<br />

we are still learning<br />

to “make our own<br />

community.”<br />

I believe <strong>the</strong><br />

most convincing<br />

evidence of <strong>the</strong> truth<br />

of <strong>the</strong> gospel of<br />

Christ is to let your<br />

children see you<br />

speaking it to<br />

friends, neighbors,<br />

and absolute<br />

strangers. I never<br />

doubted that God<br />

was real, because<br />

my parents freely<br />

and boldly spoke<br />

of Him to people <strong>the</strong>y might<br />

never meet again, and because<br />

<strong>the</strong>y often prayed for first-time<br />

acquaintances behind closed doors.<br />

What o<strong>the</strong>r reason would cause<br />

<strong>the</strong>m to do this, except that <strong>the</strong>y<br />

were convinced of Heaven and Hell<br />

and <strong>the</strong> God who made <strong>the</strong>m? Why<br />

should a child choose Christianity<br />

if it means spending his/her life<br />

hiding and dodging o<strong>the</strong>r people – as<br />

if <strong>the</strong> gospel were ineffectual to ei<strong>the</strong>r<br />

save or keep?<br />

There is a day yet coming when<br />

we will fellowship in safety with<br />

o<strong>the</strong>r believers who are united in<br />

spirit and truth. A day when it will<br />

be safe to let our children mingle<br />

with o<strong>the</strong>r children, when <strong>the</strong>re will<br />

be no tares among <strong>the</strong> wheat, and<br />

only truth will be spoken from <strong>the</strong><br />

“pulpit.” That day may not be in this<br />

present dispensation, but until <strong>the</strong>n,<br />

we will cast our fruit and pray for a<br />

great harvest. We will labor with our<br />

children side by side to build <strong>the</strong> body<br />

of Christ, believing in a community<br />

that will exist at <strong>the</strong> end of our<br />

journey. <br />

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lessings<br />

BY MICHAEL PEARL<br />

We went West<br />

and came back<br />

I don’t remember<br />

enjoying a set of<br />

Seminars as much as I<br />

did our recent trip out<br />

West, touring Idaho,<br />

Washington, Oregon,<br />

and California.<br />

Visit www.nogreaterjoy.org<br />

and listen to <strong>the</strong> cutest welcome<br />

<strong>the</strong> Pearls‛ have ever received.<br />

From <strong>the</strong> Haidet children.<br />

Rejoicing<br />

I<br />

have preached <strong>the</strong> gospel out that way<br />

from time to time, but have never done<br />

a Child Training and Family Seminar.<br />

Frankly, we didn’t know how <strong>the</strong> “liberal”<br />

West would receive this “hillbilly” entourage.<br />

We were wonderfully surprised to find<br />

overflowing crowds filled with enthusiasm,<br />

and ready to laugh, cry, and celebrate <strong>the</strong><br />

blessings <strong>the</strong>y have received from our God.<br />

I never cease to be amazed at how much<br />

those of us who know God through Jesus<br />

Christ have in common. It is as though we<br />

are all family, have known each o<strong>the</strong>r all our<br />

lives, but just haven’t had a chance to visit in<br />

<strong>the</strong> last year or so. Everywhere we went, it<br />

felt like a reunion. We met so many absolutely<br />

delightful Saints of God. We estimated that in<br />

<strong>the</strong> nine Seminars <strong>the</strong>re were about 6,000 in<br />

attendance. The children were fabulous. They<br />

were so full of joy and hope—well-trained.<br />

I love meeting <strong>the</strong> kids. It streng<strong>the</strong>ns me—<br />

gives me courage to go on. I have a collection<br />

of pictures <strong>the</strong>y drew for me, and I came<br />

home with a dozen portraits. My office walls<br />

now look like a first-grade art class.<br />

The kids inspire me and give me hope<br />

for America. Without <strong>the</strong> homeschooling<br />

movement and <strong>the</strong> revival of family nurturing<br />

that is ever growing in America, <strong>the</strong> rest of<br />

<strong>the</strong> country would scare me to death. I would<br />

be looking for a sparsely populated foreign<br />

country in which to establish a new Christian<br />

colony where we could once again build<br />

religious and social freedom. The people I<br />

met out West, and those like <strong>the</strong>m in every<br />

state of <strong>the</strong> Union, are <strong>the</strong> only reason God<br />

does not send us <strong>the</strong> way of Sodom and<br />

Gomorrha, under a hail of fire and brimstone.<br />

While <strong>the</strong> public schools are systematically<br />

destroying <strong>the</strong> children of America, <strong>the</strong>re are<br />

millions of children now being homeschooled<br />

and nurtured by godly parents imparting a<br />

Christian culture.<br />

We met hundreds of young couples<br />

just starting out, many of whom were<br />

homeschooled <strong>the</strong>mselves, who are now<br />

planning <strong>the</strong>ir own families and wanting to<br />

arm <strong>the</strong>mselves with knowledge before <strong>the</strong>y<br />

have children. They will have an advantage<br />

over <strong>the</strong>ir parents’ generation, for <strong>the</strong>y have<br />

been raised in a manner that will allow <strong>the</strong>m<br />

to start off with a proper worldview, whereas<br />

most of us pioneers in homeschooling,<br />

products of <strong>the</strong> public schools, have had to<br />

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devote a good deal of our energies to our own<br />

Christian walk.<br />

The sweet fruit is now bearing fruit. We are<br />

just beginning this second generation, and <strong>the</strong>y<br />

will do what we pioneers have longed for—<br />

reestablish Christian communities in a hostile<br />

culture. <strong>No</strong> doubt, <strong>the</strong>y will be surrounded<br />

by a world going to hell as fast as Hollywood<br />

and <strong>the</strong> Supreme Court can take <strong>the</strong>m, but <strong>the</strong><br />

second-generation homeschoolers will shine all<br />

<strong>the</strong> more and bring great glory to God. Blessed<br />

are <strong>the</strong> overcomers, for <strong>the</strong>y will eat from <strong>the</strong><br />

tree of life. “I have no greater joy than to hear<br />

that my children walk in truth.” ☺<br />

We were pleased to continually see large turn outs.<br />

I attended your seminar in Eugene,<br />

OR. I thoroughly enjoyed it. I<br />

genuinely want to change <strong>the</strong> way I<br />

parent my children. They attended<br />

<strong>the</strong> seminar also and said that <strong>the</strong>y<br />

want to change some things also.<br />

That surprised me.<br />

Sheri<br />

Thank you for touring <strong>the</strong> West<br />

Coast!<br />

Lori<br />

Thank you sincerely for making<br />

<strong>the</strong> trek to California... land of <strong>the</strong><br />

granola people (any of us who are<br />

not flakes or fruits, are nuts!) I<br />

can‛t begin to tell you how much you<br />

mean to us. It has been so rare for<br />

us to find those older blessed saints<br />

who can really mentor us in <strong>the</strong> way<br />

we should go, as saints ourselves,<br />

as parents, and as pilgrims. Thank<br />

you for walking a little while with<br />

us. I know it‛s not about you, and I<br />

know it‛s not about me. I thank God<br />

for <strong>the</strong> means he uses to get at our<br />

hearts.<br />

Chris<br />

I attended your seminar in Orange,<br />

California and thoroughly enjoyed it.<br />

Tina<br />

We were so delighted to meet<br />

<strong>the</strong> Pearls in person this month<br />

in Renton, WA. Thank you and<br />

your family for traveling so far to<br />

share God‛s plan for training up our<br />

children.<br />

Robert and Amy<br />

Saw you in Rohnert Park, CA.<br />

Refreshingly simple, yet so<br />

effectively obscured by <strong>the</strong> cultural<br />

haze in which we find ourselves<br />

existing. Thank you. Really. My wife<br />

and I (and by default, our children<br />

also) have been blessed by your<br />

message and ministry.<br />

Christopher<br />

Dear Pearls,<br />

Thank you for coming to Oregon to<br />

teach. We need you—o<strong>the</strong>rs may<br />

want you to come and teach <strong>the</strong>m,<br />

but here, we need you. My husband<br />

and I were so streng<strong>the</strong>ned, and a<br />

deeper vision for our family was set<br />

in our hearts (masters of joy).<br />

Your teaching is so clear;<br />

<strong>the</strong>re was none of this “Well,<br />

I‛m not sure…” stuff. It made it<br />

really special that you came out to<br />

talk with people. Some of <strong>the</strong>se<br />

preachers like to come out on a<br />

white cloud, high and lifted up.<br />

Our kids, 14, 12, and 9, really<br />

enjoyed it. My 9-year-old Ezra said,<br />

“I‛d like to go to Mr. Pearl‛s house so<br />

he can train me to throw knifes. I‛d<br />

pay him for his time.”<br />

I know you won‛t reward<br />

begging. How about pleading? Please<br />

come back as soon as possible.<br />

Bob, Brenda, Cassie, Levi, Ezra<br />

Dear Pearls,<br />

I just want to let you know what a<br />

blessing your ministry has been to<br />

my family, and what an awesome<br />

instrument of <strong>the</strong> Lord your<br />

family has been. I recently went<br />

to your seminar here in Orange,<br />

California, and was blessed to<br />

meet Shoshanna [youngest Pearl<br />

daughter]. Shoshanna exhorted me<br />

to continue to walk in joy regardless<br />

of <strong>the</strong> struggles I have in trying to<br />

provide for and nurture a family. I<br />

do have much reason to rejoice. God<br />

has delivered me from not only <strong>the</strong><br />

bondage of my sin, but also much<br />

of <strong>the</strong> consequences of my sin. How<br />

merciful is our God! I am writing, not<br />

with a question, but to say “thank<br />

you” to <strong>No</strong> <strong>Greater</strong> <strong>Joy</strong> <strong>Ministries</strong><br />

and, thank you, Shoshanna for your<br />

encouragement. You are truly <strong>the</strong><br />

fruit of your parents’ teaching.<br />

Michele<br />

Dear Mr. & Mrs. Pearl,<br />

We recently drove to Aloha,<br />

Oregon to hear you speak in person.<br />

It was a long drive (just ask <strong>the</strong> kids),<br />

but well worth it, not because we<br />

heard anything new, on <strong>the</strong> contrary,<br />

we have all of your child-training,<br />

marriage, and family relationships<br />

materials. What I wanted to thank<br />

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Created to be his Help Meet<br />

A look into a wonderful new book<br />

soon to be published by Debi Pearl<br />

It took four years, thousands of hours, many tears, revisions and<br />

distractions, but I finally finished my book. I had no idea God<br />

had so much to say to us ladies until I began going through God’s<br />

Word verse by verse, writing <strong>the</strong> different sections of Created<br />

to be His Help Meet. Many times as I read a passage, I would say<br />

to my husband, “I’m not going to include those verses in my book<br />

because if I do <strong>the</strong> ladies (of any religious group you can think of<br />

including my own) will not like my book or promote it.” My dear<br />

husband would say to me, “If God thought it was important enough to<br />

inspire it as part of his Word to us, <strong>the</strong>n you should include it.” And so<br />

I would cringe and add one more controversial subject after ano<strong>the</strong>r.<br />

So in obedience to Titus 2, where God commands <strong>the</strong> aged<br />

women to teach <strong>the</strong> younger women, I have obeyed and given you<br />

<strong>the</strong> very best I can do—27 chapters, 280 pages, including letters<br />

First 3,000 pre-orders receive “Wise<br />

from my readers, recounting counseling sessions, wisdom gleaned from Woman Builds her House” card set.<br />

my daughters, my own very personal stories, and, of course, <strong>the</strong> Word<br />

of God. It includes subjects as varied as planning meals to answering<br />

extremely intimate questions.<br />

Pre-order Sale! The book is now being formatted for print, with Spring Delivery planned. Until<br />

January 1, 2005, pre-order and get FREE shipping (USA only. Canada/Foreign-special S&H added).<br />

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warehouse.<br />

<strong>No</strong>w here is a short preview (Chapter 8, pages 72-87) of Created to be His Help Meet.<br />

Excerpt from Chapter 8 - Wisdom to Understand Your Man<br />

Three Kinds of Men<br />

Men are not all <strong>the</strong> same. I have become aware that<br />

<strong>the</strong>re are basically three types of men.<br />

The different types are just as marked in oneyear-olds<br />

as <strong>the</strong>y are in adult men. It seems that<br />

God made each male to express one side of his triad<br />

nature. <strong>No</strong> single man completely expresses <strong>the</strong><br />

well-rounded image of God. If a man were all three<br />

types at <strong>the</strong> same time, he would be <strong>the</strong> perfect<br />

man, but I have never met, heard of, or read in a<br />

book of history or fiction of a man who is a proper<br />

balance of all three. Certainly Jesus was <strong>the</strong> perfect<br />

balance. Most men are a little of all three, but tend<br />

to be dominant in one. And all <strong>the</strong> training and<br />

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experiences of life will never successfully make a<br />

man into a different type of man. There is nothing<br />

clumsier and more pa<strong>the</strong>tic than a man trying to<br />

act differently from who he is. Picture John Wayne<br />

and Mr. Rogers trying to trade places. As we review<br />

<strong>the</strong> types, you will probably readily identify your<br />

husband and be able to see where you have been a<br />

curse or a blessing to him.<br />

By <strong>the</strong> time a young woman gets married,<br />

she has developed a composite image of what her<br />

husband ought to be like. The men she has known<br />

and <strong>the</strong> characters in books and movies provide<br />

each woman with a concept of <strong>the</strong> perfect man.<br />

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Poor guys! Our preconceived ideas make it tough<br />

on <strong>the</strong>m. They are never perfect—far from it. God<br />

gave each one a nature that, in part, is like himself,<br />

but never complete. When you add in <strong>the</strong> factor<br />

that all men are fallen creatures, it makes a girl<br />

wonder why she would ever want to tie her life to<br />

one of <strong>the</strong>se sons of Adam. But God made us ladies<br />

to have this unreasonable desire to be needed by a<br />

man, and our hormones are working strenuously to<br />

bring us toge<strong>the</strong>r. When a girl suddenly finds herself<br />

permanently wed to a man<br />

who is not like she thinks<br />

he ought to be, ra<strong>the</strong>r than<br />

adapt to him, she usually<br />

spends <strong>the</strong> rest of <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

marriage—which may not<br />

be very long—trying to<br />

change him into what she<br />

thinks her man ought to<br />

be. Most young girls are<br />

married only a short time<br />

when <strong>the</strong>y make <strong>the</strong> awful<br />

discovery that <strong>the</strong>y may<br />

have gotten a lemon. Ra<strong>the</strong>r than to bemoan your<br />

“fate,” ask God for wisdom. Wisdom is knowing<br />

what you “bought” when you married that<br />

man, and learning to adapt to him as he is,<br />

not as you want him to be.<br />

Men are not alike. Your husband most likely<br />

will not be like your fa<strong>the</strong>r or bro<strong>the</strong>r or <strong>the</strong> man<br />

in your favorite romance novel. Our husbands are<br />

created in <strong>the</strong> image of God, and it takes all kinds<br />

of men to even come close to completing that<br />

image. <strong>No</strong> man is a perfect balance; if he were,<br />

he would be too divine to need you. God gives<br />

imperfect women to imperfect men so <strong>the</strong>y<br />

can be heirs toge<strong>the</strong>r of <strong>the</strong> grace of life and<br />

become something more toge<strong>the</strong>r than ei<strong>the</strong>r<br />

one of <strong>the</strong>m would ever be alone. If you fight<br />

his inadequacies or seek to be dominant where he<br />

is not, both of you will fail. If you love him and<br />

support him with his inadequacies and without<br />

taking charge, both of you will succeed and grow.<br />

Having hurt<br />

feelings and being<br />

angry are just<br />

different sides<br />

of <strong>the</strong> same old<br />

controlling coin.<br />

M<br />

r. Command Man<br />

God is dominant―a sovereign and allpowerful<br />

God. He is also visionary―omniscient<br />

and desirous of carrying out his plans. And, God is<br />

steady―<strong>the</strong> same yesterday, and today, and forever,<br />

our faithful high priest. Most men epitomize one of<br />

<strong>the</strong>se three aspects of God.<br />

A few men are born with more than <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

share of dominance and, on <strong>the</strong> surface, a deficit<br />

in gentleness. They often end up in positions<br />

that command o<strong>the</strong>r men. We will call <strong>the</strong>m<br />

Command Men. They are born leaders. They are<br />

chosen by o<strong>the</strong>r men to be military commanders,<br />

politicians, preachers, heads of corporations, and<br />

managers of businesses. Winston Churchill, George<br />

Patton, and Ronald Reagan are examples of dominant<br />

men. Since our world needs only a few leaders, God<br />

seems to limit <strong>the</strong> number of <strong>the</strong>se dominant men.<br />

They are known for expecting <strong>the</strong>ir wives to wait on<br />

<strong>the</strong>m hand and foot. Most of <strong>the</strong>m do not want <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

wives involved in any project that prevents <strong>the</strong>m<br />

from serving him. If you are blessed to be married<br />

to a strong, forceful, bossy man, as I am, <strong>the</strong>n it is<br />

very important for you learn how to make an appeal<br />

without challenging his authority. We will discuss<br />

how to make an appeal later in this book.<br />

We receive very few letters from wives of<br />

Command Men. These men have less tolerance, so<br />

<strong>the</strong>y will often walk off and leave <strong>the</strong>ir clamoring<br />

wife before she has a chance to realize that she is<br />

even close to losing her marriage. By <strong>the</strong> time she<br />

realizes that <strong>the</strong>re is a serious problem, she is already<br />

a divorced mo<strong>the</strong>r seeking help in how to raise her<br />

children alone. A woman can fight until she is blue<br />

in <strong>the</strong> face, yet <strong>the</strong> Command Man will not yield. He<br />

is not as intimate or vulnerable as are o<strong>the</strong>r men in<br />

sharing his personal feelings or vocation with his<br />

wife. He seems to be sufficient unto himself.<br />

It is awful being shut out. A woman married to<br />

a Command Man has to earn her place in his<br />

heart by proving that she will stand by her man,<br />

faithful, loyal, and obedient. When she has won his<br />

confidence, he will treasure her to <strong>the</strong> extreme.<br />

She is on call every minute of her day. Her man<br />

wants to know where she is, what she is doing, and<br />

why she is doing it. He corrects her without thought.<br />

For better or for worse, it is his nature to control.<br />

A woman married to a Command Man wears a<br />

heavier yoke than most women, but it can be a very<br />

rewarding yoke. In a way, her walk as his help meet<br />

is easier because <strong>the</strong>re is never any possibility<br />

of her being in control. There are no gray areas;<br />

she always knows exactly what is required of her,<br />

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<strong>the</strong>refore she has a calm sense of safety and rest.<br />

The Command Man feels it is his duty and<br />

responsibility to lead people, and so he does,<br />

whe<strong>the</strong>r <strong>the</strong>y think <strong>the</strong>y want him to lead or<br />

not. Amazingly, this is what <strong>the</strong> public is most<br />

comfortable with. Very few people have enough<br />

confidence to strike out on <strong>the</strong>ir own, plus, <strong>the</strong><br />

feeling of being blamed for mistakes holds <strong>the</strong>m<br />

back. The Command Man is willing to take <strong>the</strong> chance,<br />

and for that purpose God created <strong>the</strong>se king-like<br />

men. Their road is not easy, for James said, “My<br />

brethren, be not many masters, knowing that<br />

we shall receive <strong>the</strong> greater condemnation”<br />

(James 3:1).<br />

On 9-11, when <strong>the</strong> World Trade Center was<br />

destroyed, ano<strong>the</strong>r plane flying over Pennsylvania<br />

was being highjacked by o<strong>the</strong>r terrorists. Mr. Todd<br />

Beamer was on that plane. It was his voice we all<br />

heard saying <strong>the</strong> now-famous line, “Let’s roll.” He<br />

must have been a strong Mr. Command Man. He and<br />

o<strong>the</strong>rs like him took control of a desperate situation<br />

and saved many o<strong>the</strong>r lives while sacrificing <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

own. It could have been a terrible mistake, but Mr.<br />

Beamer evaluated <strong>the</strong> situation, made a decision,<br />

and <strong>the</strong>n acted upon it. He knew <strong>the</strong> lives of all<br />

those people were in his hands. It was a heavy<br />

responsibility, yet he was “willing to do what a man’s<br />

gotta do.”<br />

You will remember how strong and queenly his<br />

young widow seemed to be when we watched her<br />

on TV after <strong>the</strong> attacks. A good Mr. Command<br />

sees <strong>the</strong> bigger picture and strives to help<br />

<strong>the</strong> greatest number, even if it costs him his life<br />

and <strong>the</strong> lives of those he loves. If he is an honest<br />

man, he will take financial loss in order to help lead<br />

those who need him, but in <strong>the</strong> end he will usually<br />

come out on top. If he is not an honest man, he will<br />

be selfish and use <strong>the</strong> resources of o<strong>the</strong>rs to fur<strong>the</strong>r<br />

his own interests.<br />

A King wants a Queen, which is why a man in<br />

command wants a faithful wife to share his fame and<br />

glory. Without a woman’s admiration, his victories<br />

are muted. If a wife learns early to enjoy <strong>the</strong><br />

benefits of taking <strong>the</strong> second seat, and if<br />

she does not take offense to his headstrong<br />

aggressiveness, she will be <strong>the</strong> one sitting<br />

at his right side being adored, because this<br />

kind of man will totally adore his woman<br />

and exalt her. She will be his closest and<br />

sometimes his only confidante. Over <strong>the</strong> years, <strong>the</strong><br />

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COMMAND MAN<br />

Command Man can become more yielding and gentle.<br />

His wife will discover secret portals to his heart.<br />

If you are married to a king, honor and<br />

reverence is something you must give him on a daily<br />

basis if you want him to be a benevolent, honest,<br />

strong and fulfilled man of God. He has <strong>the</strong> potential<br />

to become an amazing leader. Never shame him, and<br />

do not belittle him or ignore his accomplishments.<br />

If <strong>the</strong> wife of a Command Man resists his control,<br />

he will readily move forward without her. If he is not<br />

a principled Christian, he will allow <strong>the</strong> marriage<br />

to come to divorce. Like King Ahasuerus of Persia,<br />

if she defies him, he will replace her and not look<br />

back. If his Christian convictions prevent him from<br />

divorcing, he will remain<br />

stubbornly in command,<br />

and she will be known as a<br />

miserable old wench.<br />

If a Command Man has not<br />

developed working skills and<br />

thus accomplishes little, he<br />

will have <strong>the</strong> tendency to tell<br />

stories about himself and brag<br />

until people are sick of him. If<br />

he has left his wife and lost his<br />

children, thus has no legitimate<br />

“kingdom” of his own, he will<br />

be obnoxiously garrulous.<br />

A Command Man who has<br />

gone bad is likely to be abusive. It is important to<br />

remember that much of how a Command man reacts<br />

depends on his wife’s reverence toward him. When<br />

a Command Man (lost or saved) is treated<br />

with honor and reverence, a good help meet<br />

will find that her man will be wonderfully<br />

protective and supportive. In most marriages,<br />

<strong>the</strong> strife is not because <strong>the</strong> man is cruel or evil; it is<br />

because he expects obedience, honor, and reverence,<br />

and is not getting it, and thus he reacts badly. When a<br />

wife plays her part as a help meet, <strong>the</strong> Command Man<br />

will respond differently. Of course, <strong>the</strong>re are a few<br />

men who are so cruel and violent that even when<br />

<strong>the</strong> wife is a proper help meet, he will still physically<br />

abuse her or <strong>the</strong> children. In such cases, it would be<br />

<strong>the</strong> duty of <strong>the</strong> wife to alert <strong>the</strong> authorities so that<br />

<strong>the</strong>y might become <strong>the</strong> arm of <strong>the</strong> Lord to do justice.<br />

* Mr. Command will not take <strong>the</strong> trash out, as<br />

a general rule, and he will not clean up <strong>the</strong><br />

mess at <strong>the</strong> trash area. He may organize and<br />

command someone else to do it. Any woman<br />

Never demand<br />

that a man love<br />

you and cherish<br />

you because he<br />

ought to. Earn<br />

every smile and<br />

shared moment.<br />

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trying to force Mr. Command into becoming a<br />

nice trash man will likely end up alone, trashed<br />

by her man.<br />

* Mr. Command will want to talk about his plans,<br />

ideas, and finished projects. He will be very<br />

objective, very unemotional, and he will not<br />

enjoy small talk. His vision is like a man<br />

looking from a high mountain; he sees<br />

<strong>the</strong> distant goal. He will expect his wife to<br />

help him remember individuals’ needs.<br />

* Mr. Command Man will be most uncomfortable<br />

and at a loss when dealing with <strong>the</strong> sick,<br />

helpless and dying. Where <strong>the</strong>re is no hope,<br />

<strong>the</strong>re will be no need for a Command Man.<br />

* A born leader is a man who can, when<br />

necessary, adapt principles or rules to<br />

circumstances, for <strong>the</strong> greater good of <strong>the</strong><br />

greatest number of people.<br />

M<br />

r. Visionary<br />

God is a Visionary, like <strong>the</strong> Holy Spirit.<br />

He made some men in <strong>the</strong> image of that part of<br />

his nature. Prophets, be <strong>the</strong>y true or false, are<br />

usually of this type. Some of you are married<br />

to men who are shakers, changers, and<br />

dreamers. These men get <strong>the</strong> entire family upset<br />

about peripheral issues,<br />

such as: do we believe in<br />

Christmas, should we use<br />

state marriage licenses,<br />

why a Christian should opt<br />

out of <strong>the</strong> Social Security<br />

system, etc. The issues may<br />

be serious and worthy of<br />

one’s commitment, but, in<br />

varying degrees, <strong>the</strong>se men<br />

have tunnel vision, tenaciously focusing on single<br />

issues. They will easily pick up and relocate without<br />

any idea of what <strong>the</strong>y are going to do for a living<br />

at <strong>the</strong>ir new location. They are often <strong>the</strong> church<br />

splitters and <strong>the</strong> ones who demand doctrinal purity,<br />

and proper dress and conduct. Like a prophet,<br />

<strong>the</strong>y call people to task for <strong>the</strong>ir inconsistencies. If<br />

<strong>the</strong>y are not wise, <strong>the</strong>y can be real jerks who push<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir agendas, forcing o<strong>the</strong>rs to go <strong>the</strong>ir way. One<br />

Visionary will campaign for <strong>the</strong> legalization of pot,<br />

while ano<strong>the</strong>r will be an activist to make abortions<br />

illegal. Most will just sit around <strong>the</strong> house and<br />

Greatness is a state<br />

of soul, not certain<br />

accomplishments.<br />

THE VISIONARY<br />

complain, but in <strong>the</strong>ir souls <strong>the</strong>y are Visionaries.<br />

They are often gifted men or inventors, and I<br />

am sure it was men of this caliber that conquered<br />

<strong>the</strong> Wild West, though <strong>the</strong>y would not have been<br />

<strong>the</strong> farmers who settled it. Today, Visionary men are<br />

street preachers, political activists, organizers and<br />

instigators of any front-line social issue. They love<br />

confrontation, and hate status quo. “Why leave it<br />

<strong>the</strong> way it is when you can change it?” They are <strong>the</strong><br />

men who keep <strong>the</strong> rest of <strong>the</strong> world from getting<br />

stagnant or dull. The Visionary is consumed<br />

with a need to communicate with his words,<br />

music, writing, voice, or actions. He is <strong>the</strong><br />

“Voice Crying out in <strong>the</strong> Wilderness” striving<br />

to change <strong>the</strong> way humanity is behaving or thinking.<br />

Good intentions don’t always keep Visionaries from<br />

causing great harm. They can stir up pudding and<br />

end up with toxic waste if <strong>the</strong>y are not wise. An<br />

unwise wife can add to <strong>the</strong> poison with negative<br />

words, or she can, with simple words of caution,<br />

bring attention to <strong>the</strong> goodness of <strong>the</strong> pudding and<br />

<strong>the</strong> wisdom in leaving it alone. Every Mr.Visionary<br />

needs a good, wise, prudent, stable wife who<br />

has a positive outlook on life.<br />

If you are married to one of <strong>the</strong>se fellows,<br />

expect to be rich, or poor, rarely middle class. He<br />

may invest everything in a chance, lose it all, or<br />

make a fortune, but he will not do well working<br />

8-5 in <strong>the</strong> same place for 30 years, and retire to<br />

live <strong>the</strong> good life. If he works a regular job, he may<br />

ei<strong>the</strong>r not show up half <strong>the</strong> time or he will work like<br />

a maniac 80 hours a week and love every minute.<br />

He may purchase an alligator farm in Florida or a<br />

ski resort in Colorado, or he may buy an old house<br />

trailer for $150.00 with hopes of fixing it up and<br />

selling it for $10,000.00, only to find out that it is<br />

so deteriorated that it can’t be moved. He will <strong>the</strong>n<br />

have <strong>the</strong> wife and all <strong>the</strong> kids help him tear <strong>the</strong> top<br />

off and carry <strong>the</strong> scraps to <strong>the</strong> dump, saving <strong>the</strong><br />

appliances in <strong>the</strong> already crowded garage, and <strong>the</strong>n<br />

making a farm trailer out of <strong>the</strong> axles. <strong>No</strong>w that<br />

he has a farm trailer and no animals, expect him to<br />

get a deal on three old sick cows, and…. He may<br />

never be rich in money, but he will be rich<br />

in experience.<br />

Come to think of it, maybe my husband is not<br />

a 100% Mr. Command Man, because he seems quite a<br />

bit like this Mr. Visionary. I remember on more than<br />

one occasion helping him tear down someone’s old<br />

barn in order to drag <strong>the</strong> junk home to fill up our<br />

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old barn. Remember, most men are a mixture of types,<br />

but usually stronger in one.<br />

The wife of Mr.Visionary should be just a little bit<br />

reckless and blind in one eye if she is going to enjoy <strong>the</strong><br />

ride. If this is your man, you need to learn two very<br />

important things (beyond how to make an appeal).<br />

Learn how to be flexible, and learn how to<br />

always be loyal to your man. You will be amazed<br />

at how much happier you will be and how much fun<br />

life can be if you learn to just go with <strong>the</strong> flow–his fl ow.<br />

Life will become an adventure. You will actually begin<br />

to feel sorry for <strong>the</strong> gals married to <strong>the</strong> stick-in-<strong>the</strong>mud,<br />

steady type. And once you get it into your head<br />

that your husband does not have to be “right” for you<br />

to follow him, you will FINALLY be able to say, “bye<br />

bye” to your overwrought parents, even when <strong>the</strong>y are<br />

screaming that you are married to a crazy man. People<br />

looking on will marvel that you are able to love and<br />

appreciate your husband, but you will know better<br />

because you will see his greatness.<br />

Greatness is a state of soul, not certain<br />

accomplishments. Thomas Edison, though not<br />

recognized as such, was great after his 999 th failure to<br />

make a light bulb. Were <strong>the</strong> Wright bro<strong>the</strong>rs great when<br />

<strong>the</strong>y neglected <strong>the</strong>ir lucrative occupation of fixing<br />

bicycles and “wasted time” trying to make one of <strong>the</strong>m<br />

fly? If <strong>the</strong> light bulb had never worked and <strong>the</strong> plane<br />

had never flown, and no one remembered <strong>the</strong>ir names<br />

today; <strong>the</strong>y would have been <strong>the</strong> same men, and <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

lives would have still been just as full and <strong>the</strong>ir days just<br />

as challenging. Did <strong>the</strong>ir wives think <strong>the</strong>m great when<br />

<strong>the</strong>y used <strong>the</strong>ir last dime on ano<strong>the</strong>r failed idea? If <strong>the</strong>y<br />

didn’t, just think what <strong>the</strong>y missed.<br />

The Visionary man needs his woman’s<br />

support, and he will appreciate it when it is freely<br />

given. Without her, he feels alone. This guy will be a<br />

little hard to live with at first. Big, wild fights are <strong>the</strong><br />

usual beginnings, if a nice normal girl (who had a Mr.<br />

Steady daddy) marries one of “<strong>the</strong> weird ones”. They<br />

will ei<strong>the</strong>r have a bitter divorce (she divorces him)<br />

in <strong>the</strong> first few years, or she will decide to learn to<br />

appreciate him, because he is really ra<strong>the</strong>r lovable. I<br />

get very few letters from wives married to <strong>the</strong>se highstrung,<br />

going-to-reinvent-<strong>the</strong>-wheel men. I do get lots<br />

of letters from <strong>the</strong>ir mo<strong>the</strong>rs-in-law, asking us to write<br />

and straighten out <strong>the</strong>ir sons-in-law.<br />

Some of <strong>the</strong>se guys talk with glowing enthusiasm<br />

and animation. If you are married to one, he loves<br />

to tell you about his newest idea, and he wants your<br />

enthusiastic support, not a critique of his idea. He<br />

will look at his idea more critically later, but for <strong>the</strong><br />

moment, <strong>the</strong> idea itself is invigorating to him. He will<br />

have a thousand ideas for every project he attempts,<br />

and he will try many that he will never finish, and he<br />

will finish some that are worthless, and you “knew it<br />

all along”. Remind him of that <strong>the</strong> next time he has<br />

an idea, and you will destroy your marriage, but you<br />

won’t change him. He will share his “dumb ideas” with<br />

someone else.<br />

L<br />

earn to Enjoy <strong>the</strong> Trip<br />

Several years back, a newlywed couple decided<br />

to take a bicycle road trip for <strong>the</strong>ir honeymoon. They<br />

had <strong>the</strong> map all worked out and <strong>the</strong> bikes and camping<br />

gear ready. After riding for a couple days, <strong>the</strong> young<br />

wife noticed that her good husband was going <strong>the</strong><br />

wrong way. She stopped him and tried to show him<br />

on <strong>the</strong> map that he had veered off <strong>the</strong> course. She had<br />

always been endowed with a natural ability to read<br />

maps and knew exactly where <strong>the</strong>y were. He was not<br />

so gifted and argued that she was dead wrong and<br />

insisted that <strong>the</strong>y were headed <strong>the</strong> right way. Later that<br />

day, when he did discover that he had indeed taken <strong>the</strong><br />

wrong road, he brushed it off and blamed <strong>the</strong> signs or<br />

gave some plausible reason. Again he took <strong>the</strong> wrong<br />

road, and she argued with him. He kept correcting<br />

<strong>the</strong>ir course, but <strong>the</strong>y were not getting anywhere by its<br />

shortest route. She let him know his error. That part<br />

of <strong>the</strong> honeymoon was not very “honeyed.” <strong>No</strong>thing<br />

would change his mind. He knew he was right, and<br />

if not exactly right, <strong>the</strong>n he was as right as could be<br />

expected under <strong>the</strong> circumstances, and criticism was<br />

not welcomed.<br />

What could she do? The young wife was not<br />

pleased with <strong>the</strong> way <strong>the</strong>y were relating, and she<br />

reasoned to herself that this could become <strong>the</strong> pattern<br />

for <strong>the</strong> rest of <strong>the</strong>ir lives. As she brooded on <strong>the</strong> matter,<br />

it occurred to her that it was very important to him to<br />

be right and to be in charge, and it really didn’t matter<br />

which road <strong>the</strong>y took. They were taking this trip to<br />

be toge<strong>the</strong>r, not to get somewhere in particular. God<br />

in his mercy and grace gave this sweet young wife a<br />

new heart. She decided to follow him down any road<br />

he chose, without question or second guessing. So she<br />

cheerfully began to enjoy <strong>the</strong> beautiful day and <strong>the</strong><br />

glory of being young and in love as she continued to<br />

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pedal her bike down a road that was taking <strong>the</strong>m to<br />

where every marriage ought to go, even though it<br />

was not according to <strong>the</strong> map.<br />

This little lady is married to a 100% Visionary<br />

Man. She started her marriage right, following him<br />

wherever he led, regardless of whe<strong>the</strong>r she thought it<br />

was <strong>the</strong> right direction or not. She has been flexible<br />

and is enjoying her ride. Someday, when her husband<br />

is assured that he can trust her with his heart, he will<br />

let her be his navigator—and still take <strong>the</strong> credit for<br />

it. The moral to this<br />

story is: <strong>the</strong> way you<br />

think determines how<br />

you will feel, and how<br />

you feel influences <strong>the</strong><br />

way you will act.<br />

If you are married<br />

to <strong>the</strong> Visionary Man,<br />

learn to enjoy <strong>the</strong><br />

trip, for if he ever does<br />

make a better light<br />

bulb, he will want you to be <strong>the</strong> one who turns it on<br />

for <strong>the</strong> first time in public. It will be your face he<br />

looks into to see <strong>the</strong> marvel of what a great thing he<br />

has done. You are his most important fan. When you<br />

know your man really needs you, you can be happy<br />

with just about anything.<br />

Over time, this type of man will become more<br />

practical. If you are a young wife married to a man<br />

whom your mama thinks is totally crazy—<strong>the</strong>n you<br />

may be married to Mr. Visionary. Right now, purpose<br />

in your heart to be loyal to him, and to be flexible;<br />

<strong>the</strong>n, let your dreamer dream. Lean back and enjoy<br />

<strong>the</strong> ride; it should prove interesting.<br />

The world needs <strong>the</strong> Visionary Man, for he is <strong>the</strong><br />

one who seeks out hypocrisy and injustice and slays<br />

<strong>the</strong> dragons. He calls himself and those around him<br />

to a higher standard. He knows how to do nearly<br />

everything and is readily willing to advise o<strong>the</strong>rs. In<br />

time, he will be quite accomplished in more than<br />

one thing.<br />

He is like deep, deep<br />

water. The very depth<br />

makes <strong>the</strong> movement<br />

almost imperceptible.<br />

M<br />

r. Steady<br />

God is as steady as an eternal rock, caring,<br />

providing, and faithful, like a priest—like Jesus<br />

Christ. He created many men in that image. We<br />

will call him Mr. Steady—“in <strong>the</strong> middle, not given<br />

to extremes.” The Steady Man does not make snap<br />

MR. STEADY<br />

decisions or spend his last dime on a new idea, and<br />

he doesn’t try to tell o<strong>the</strong>r people what to do. He<br />

avoids controversy. He doesn’t invent <strong>the</strong> light bulb<br />

like Mr.Visionary, but he will be <strong>the</strong> one to build <strong>the</strong><br />

factory and manage <strong>the</strong> assembly line that produces<br />

<strong>the</strong> light bulb and <strong>the</strong> airplane. He does not jump to<br />

<strong>the</strong> front of <strong>the</strong> plane to take a razor knife away from<br />

a terrorist, unless he is encouraged to do so by Mr.<br />

Command. He would never lead a revolution against<br />

<strong>the</strong> government or <strong>the</strong> church. He will quietly<br />

ignore hypocrisy in o<strong>the</strong>rs. He will selflessly fight<br />

<strong>the</strong> wars that Mr. Visionary starts and Mr. Command<br />

leads. He builds <strong>the</strong> oil tankers and farms <strong>the</strong> soil,<br />

quietly raises his family, content to let his wife do<br />

it her way. As a general rule, he will be faithful<br />

till <strong>the</strong> day he dies in <strong>the</strong> same bed he has slept in<br />

for <strong>the</strong> last 40 or 50 years. Older women who are<br />

divorced and have learned by <strong>the</strong>ir mistakes know<br />

<strong>the</strong> value of peace and safety and <strong>the</strong>y will<br />

long for a nice steady man of his stature, but<br />

<strong>the</strong>se men are rarely available—unless <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

foolish wife leaves <strong>the</strong>m. These men are content<br />

with <strong>the</strong> wife of <strong>the</strong>ir youth.<br />

<strong>Joy</strong>s and Tribulations<br />

Being married to him has its rewards and<br />

its trials. On <strong>the</strong> good side, your husband never<br />

puts undue pressure on you to perform miracles.<br />

He doesn’t expect you to be his servant. You do<br />

not spend your days putting out emotional fires,<br />

because he doesn’t create tension in <strong>the</strong> family. You<br />

rarely feel hurried, pushed, pressured, or forced.<br />

The women married to <strong>the</strong> Visionary Man look at you<br />

in wonder that your husband seems so balanced and<br />

stable. The wife of Command Man marvels at <strong>the</strong> free<br />

time you seem to have. If your dad happened to be<br />

a Steady Man, <strong>the</strong>n chances are you will appreciate<br />

your husband’s down-to-earth practical life for <strong>the</strong><br />

wonderful treasure it is.<br />

One of his weaknesses is <strong>the</strong> lack of pressure<br />

or expectations that exist in <strong>the</strong> family. Without<br />

expectations, goals, and new mountains to climb,<br />

a wife may not experience <strong>the</strong> thrill of victory or<br />

<strong>the</strong> agony of defeat. Everything is so-so, day-in and<br />

day-out.<br />

When you are married to a man who is<br />

steady and average, and you have a bit of <strong>the</strong><br />

romantic in you, you may not see his worth<br />

and readily honor him. You may be discontent<br />

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ecause he is slow and cautious to take authority<br />

and make firm decisions. Bossy women can see <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

husband’s lack of judgment and call <strong>the</strong>ir Steady<br />

husbands “wishy-washy”. His steadiness makes him <strong>the</strong><br />

last to change, so he seems to be a follower because<br />

he is seldom out front forming up <strong>the</strong> troops. There<br />

is no rapture in him, just a slow, steady climb, with<br />

no bells or whistles. You wish he would just make<br />

up his mind, and that he would take a stand in <strong>the</strong><br />

church, or that he would be firm in child discipline.<br />

He seems to just let people use him. There are times<br />

you wish he would boldly tell you what to do so you<br />

would not have to carry all <strong>the</strong> burden of decisionmaking.<br />

Some women equate <strong>the</strong>ir husband’s wise caution<br />

and lack of open passion as being unspiritual. His<br />

lack of spontaneity and open boldness may look like<br />

indifference to spiritual things. He is like deep, deep<br />

water. The very depth makes <strong>the</strong> movement almost<br />

imperceptible.<br />

He will be confused with your unhappiness and try<br />

to serve you more, which may fur<strong>the</strong>r diminish your<br />

respect for his masculinity. Disappointment and<br />

unthankfulness can make you wearier than<br />

any amount of duties. The trials he seems to cause<br />

you are really your discontented responses to what you<br />

consider to be his shortcomings. If you didn’t attempt<br />

to change him into something o<strong>the</strong>r than what God<br />

created him to be, he would not cause you any grief.<br />

His very steadiness keeps him on his middle-of-<strong>the</strong>road<br />

course, and it will drive a controlling woman<br />

crazy. This is why many disgruntled ladies<br />

married to Mr. Steadies fall victim to hormonal<br />

imbalance, physical illness, or emotional<br />

problems.<br />

When a woman is married to a bossy, dominant<br />

man, people marvel that she is willing to serve him<br />

without complaint, so she comes out looking like a<br />

wonderful woman of great patience and sacrifice. A<br />

woman married to <strong>the</strong> impulsive Visionary Man who<br />

puts <strong>the</strong> family through hardships, will stir amazement<br />

in everyone. “How can she tolerate his weird ideas<br />

with such peace and joy?” She comes out being a real<br />

saint, maybe even a martyr. But if you are married to a<br />

wonderful, kind, loving, serving man, and you are just<br />

a little bit selfish, <strong>the</strong>n you are likely to end up looking<br />

like an unthankful shrew. He helps you, adores you,<br />

protects you, and is careful to provide for you, and you<br />

are still not satisfied. Shame on you!<br />

KNOW YOUR MAN<br />

Know your man<br />

Wives are very much flesh and blood, and,<br />

as young women, we don’t come to marriage with all<br />

<strong>the</strong> skills needed to make it start out good, let alone<br />

perfect. When you come to know your man for whom<br />

God created him to be, you will stop trying to change<br />

him into what you think he should be. The key is to<br />

know your man. If he is Mr. Steady, you need<br />

to learn to be thankful and to honor him as<br />

<strong>the</strong> one created for you in <strong>the</strong> image of God.<br />

God’s word says in Hebrews 13:8, “Jesus Christ <strong>the</strong><br />

same yesterday, and to day, and for ever.” A man<br />

who is created steady brings peace and safety<br />

to a woman’s soul. Your husband’s gentleness is<br />

not a weakness; it is his strength. Your husband’s<br />

hesitation is not indecision; it is cautious wisdom. Your<br />

husband’s lack of deep<br />

spiritual conversation<br />

Disappointment and<br />

unthankfulness can<br />

make you wearier than<br />

any amount of duties.<br />

is not a lack of caring;<br />

it is simply <strong>the</strong> cap on<br />

a mountain of intense<br />

emotions. If he ever<br />

speaks of how he does<br />

feel, he will most<br />

likely tear up.<br />

He wants to<br />

please you. “Counsel<br />

in <strong>the</strong> heart of man is like deep water; but a<br />

man [a wife also] of understanding will draw it<br />

out” (Proverbs 20:5). You will not need to learn how to<br />

make an appeal to him, because your husband is all too<br />

willing to hear you.<br />

If this describes your man, you need to learn<br />

how to stand still and listen; <strong>the</strong>n let God move your<br />

husband in his own good time. Ask God for wisdom and<br />

patience. Seek to always have a gentle spirit. Look up<br />

“shamefacedness” in <strong>the</strong> Bible, and learn what it means.<br />

Pray for your husband to have wisdom. Stop expecting<br />

him to perform for you, to pray with <strong>the</strong> family, to speak<br />

out in witnessing, or take a bold stand at church. Stop<br />

trying to stir him up to anger toward <strong>the</strong> children<br />

in order to get him to feel as though he understands<br />

how badly you are being treated. Let him be <strong>the</strong><br />

one whom God made him to be: a still, quiet,<br />

thoughtful presence–for you! Command and Visionary<br />

Men understand and appreciate him, and <strong>the</strong>y, too,<br />

lean on this type man for stability. Learn to seek your<br />

husband’s advice on what to do, and <strong>the</strong>n give him<br />

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time to answer, even if it means days or weeks. Show<br />

respect by asking him in what areas he would like you<br />

to do some decision making.<br />

Many of <strong>the</strong>se ‘nice’ men prefer <strong>the</strong>ir wives<br />

to show some initiative. A Command Man tells you<br />

what to do and how to serve him, and a Visionary<br />

Man wants you to do what he is doing. But, a Steady<br />

Man likes a woman to walk beside him, yet<br />

grow in her own right<br />

before God and him.<br />

If you are married to a Mr.<br />

Steady, you need to get<br />

familiar with Proverbs 31 to<br />

know how to be an active<br />

help meet to your man.<br />

Your husband will enjoy<br />

and share your triumphs in<br />

business. He will be proud of<br />

your accomplishments. He<br />

will want you to use your<br />

natural skills, abilities, and<br />

drives. Your achievements<br />

will be an honor to him, but lazy slothfulness will<br />

greatly discourage him. Your wasting of time and<br />

spending money foolishly will weigh heavily on<br />

him, robbing him of his pride and pleasure in you.<br />

He needs a resourceful, hard-working woman with<br />

dignity and honor. At <strong>the</strong> end of <strong>the</strong> day, he enjoys<br />

weighing what he has accomplished with what you<br />

have accomplished and rejoices in <strong>the</strong> value of having<br />

a worthy partner in <strong>the</strong> grace of life. This gentle<br />

man gets more decisive and confident as he ages.<br />

He builds slowly into <strong>the</strong> good, strong man he was<br />

meant to be.<br />

These men can be some of <strong>the</strong> most important<br />

men in <strong>the</strong> church, because <strong>the</strong>ir steadfastness<br />

is sure, and <strong>the</strong>ir loyalty is strong. They make<br />

wise, well-thought-out decisions. They are<br />

rarely rash or foolish, although (to <strong>the</strong>ir discredit)<br />

<strong>the</strong>y will sometimes tolerate foolishness or error<br />

without dissent. Their children grow up to highly<br />

respect <strong>the</strong>ir gentle-speaking dad. If mo<strong>the</strong>r has been<br />

negative to Dad, <strong>the</strong> adult children will strongly<br />

resent her to <strong>the</strong> point of disliking her.<br />

Typically, Steady Men do not become as well<br />

known as Command or Visionary Men. They are not<br />

odd or stand-out men. They are not loud. They are<br />

nei<strong>the</strong>r irritating nor particularly magnificent. If<br />

<strong>the</strong>y do rise to public notice, it will be because of<br />

an enormity of achievement, or because <strong>the</strong>y are<br />

She was totally<br />

deceived into<br />

thinking that her<br />

female intuition,<br />

sensitivity, and<br />

passions were<br />

spirituality.<br />

trusted for <strong>the</strong>ir very visible traits of honesty and<br />

steadiness. Women and men alike envy and desire a<br />

command man. People are often drawn and compelled<br />

by <strong>the</strong> Visionary. But <strong>the</strong> Steady Man is taken for<br />

granted. He is seldom a campaigner. He is needed,<br />

but not flashy enough to win <strong>the</strong> spotlight. If you are<br />

married to a man like this, you must realize how vital<br />

your man is to <strong>the</strong> functioning of society. He is <strong>the</strong><br />

heart and <strong>the</strong> backbone of it.<br />

The vast majority of my letters are from women<br />

criticizing <strong>the</strong>ir laid-back, quiet, slow, unassuming,<br />

undemanding, hardworking husbands for <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

“carnal” habits. These wives have forgotten to have a<br />

life of <strong>the</strong>ir own, so <strong>the</strong>y spend <strong>the</strong>ir time trying to<br />

remake <strong>the</strong>ir husbands into dominant types because<br />

<strong>the</strong>y admire leadership, authority, and clout, but<br />

don’t have a clue about <strong>the</strong> demands that come from<br />

being married to a dominant, bossy man.<br />

Most of this book has been written to help<br />

young wives learn to honor, obey, and appreciate <strong>the</strong><br />

Steady Man just as he is. Chances are, you are married<br />

to a gentle, Steady Man, and it may be a real struggle<br />

for you, because he does not capture your attention<br />

as does <strong>the</strong> Command Man. And, he does not demand<br />

as much of you as <strong>the</strong> Visionary Man. If a man speaks<br />

with a voice of absolute authority and conviction,<br />

people just automatically tend to obey, whe<strong>the</strong>r he<br />

is right or wrong, but if a man speaks with a kind,<br />

hesitant voice, it is natural for a disobedient wife to<br />

question him. Therefore, <strong>the</strong> wife of Mr. Steady has to<br />

always be on guard lest she become a shrew. If a wife<br />

dishonors her gentle husband and takes control, he<br />

will most likely stay with her; <strong>the</strong>y probably will not<br />

divorce. But her dishonor will cause him to lack <strong>the</strong><br />

confidence to fur<strong>the</strong>r his business opportunities. He<br />

will become satisfied with <strong>the</strong> mediocre, because it<br />

involves no risk. He will know that he pulls <strong>the</strong> plow<br />

alone, that he has no helper. Yet, if that same man had<br />

married a thankful, creative woman who delighted<br />

in him, and thought he was <strong>the</strong> smartest, wisest,<br />

most important fellow around, <strong>the</strong>n he would have<br />

risen to <strong>the</strong> occasion in every area of his life. When<br />

a mediocre man marries a hard-working<br />

mediocre lady, <strong>the</strong>y can become a special<br />

couple that people revere for <strong>the</strong>ir steady<br />

love, joy, wisdom, and peace.<br />

Mr. Steady may take <strong>the</strong> trash out and always keep<br />

<strong>the</strong> area clean, yet his wife will be prone to take his<br />

goodness for granted or for trash.<br />

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* He will be in quiet contemplation much of <strong>the</strong><br />

time. It will drive his wife crazy, because she<br />

will long for him to share his deepest feelings<br />

and thoughts with her so she can ‘feel’ loved. He<br />

cannot, simply because he has not yet developed a<br />

way to communicate his thoughts and feelings to<br />

her, and because when he does try to share <strong>the</strong>m<br />

with her, he is uncomfortable. He might even cry<br />

during times of stress or intimacy. When he tries<br />

to express his love by serving her, she will feel<br />

that he is groveling for her favor. He is very, very<br />

slow to come to trust and open up to <strong>the</strong> woman<br />

he loves, because he does not understand her. He<br />

will enjoy <strong>the</strong> company of o<strong>the</strong>rs and be<br />

most comfortable spending time in small<br />

talk with whoever is around. Of <strong>the</strong> three<br />

types, he is <strong>the</strong> one that will be most liked<br />

by everyone.<br />

* Mr. Steady is always in demand. People everywhere<br />

need him to fix a car, build a house, set up <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

computer, figure out what’s wrong with <strong>the</strong>ir<br />

phone, heal <strong>the</strong>m of cancer, and <strong>the</strong> list goes on<br />

and on. You begin to wonder if you will ever have<br />

him all to yourself. The answer is, no. He belongs<br />

to people. When it is time, or past time, for some<br />

special time alone, take a vacation and leave <strong>the</strong><br />

cell phone at home.<br />

* The Steady Man is wonderful with those who are<br />

hurt, sick or dying. He loves to comfort, and<br />

seems to know what a person needs in times of<br />

great sorrow. His still, quiet presence brings<br />

peace. To <strong>the</strong> Command Man and <strong>the</strong> Visionary<br />

Man, this is nothing short of a miracle. A Steady<br />

Man thrust into a Command or Visionary Man’s<br />

position or job will be stressed and, in <strong>the</strong> end,<br />

unsuccessful. He is not meant to lead, but to<br />

support.<br />

* He does not focus on <strong>the</strong> eternal picture. He is<br />

not looking through a microscope at <strong>the</strong> details<br />

nor through a telescope at <strong>the</strong> promise of what can<br />

be, but he does respect both views as important.<br />

His vision is as a man seeing life just as it is.<br />

He can shift his sights to <strong>the</strong> sky and know <strong>the</strong>re<br />

is more up <strong>the</strong>re than he can see, and he wonders<br />

about it. Or, he can stare into a muddy pond and<br />

appreciate that <strong>the</strong>re is a whole world in <strong>the</strong>re<br />

that he knows nothing about. In most of life, he<br />

is a bridge between <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r two types of men.<br />

He is a very necessary expression of God’s image.<br />

His wisdom comes slowly and thoughtfully as he<br />

considers those around him. His wife may not<br />

see him as grand as Mr. Command or as spiritually<br />

motivated as Mr. Visionary, but she can help him by<br />

allowing him to grow without battering him with<br />

doubts and rebuffs. He only needs time and peace.<br />

These two are <strong>the</strong> hardest things for a woman to<br />

grant. Of <strong>the</strong> three different kinds of men, it<br />

is more important that Mr. Steady get a help<br />

meet who likes him just as he is.<br />

“Ruination” Wife’s Summary<br />

a) The wife of Mr. Command man can ruin her<br />

marriage by failing to honor, obey and<br />

reverence her husband’s authority and rule.<br />

b) The wife of Mr. Visionary can ruin her marriage<br />

by failing to follow, believe and participate<br />

as an enthusiast in her husband’s dreams and<br />

visions.<br />

c) The wife of Mr. Steady man can ruin her<br />

marriage by failing to appreciate, wait on,<br />

and be thankful for her husband’s pleasant<br />

qualities.<br />

Successful Wife’s Summary<br />

a) The wife of Mr.Command can heal her<br />

marriage by becoming his adoring Queen;<br />

honoring and obeying his every (reasonable<br />

and unreasonable) word. She will dress,<br />

act, and speak so as to bring him honor<br />

everywhere she goes.<br />

b) The wife of Mr.Visionary can heal her<br />

marriage by laying aside her own dreams and<br />

aspirations and embracing her role as help<br />

meet to her man, believing and being willing<br />

to follow <strong>the</strong> path he has chosen with joyful<br />

participation.<br />

c) The wife of Mr. Steady can heal her<br />

marriage by joyfully realizing what a<br />

friend, lover, and companion she has<br />

been given and living that gratitude<br />

verbally and actively. When she stops<br />

trying to change him, he will grow. She can,<br />

<strong>the</strong>n, willingly take up tasks that will fill her<br />

time and give her husband joy and satisfaction<br />

when he sees her productiveness.<br />

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you for is letting me finally<br />

see and understand<br />

joy! I have read and<br />

heard, but now I have<br />

seen! When Debi came<br />

up on <strong>the</strong> platform to<br />

answer a question about<br />

homeschooling, she<br />

beamed! She smiled, and<br />

that whole big sanctuary<br />

lit up at <strong>the</strong> radiance from<br />

her eyes and smile! I finally<br />

understood. Thanks for<br />

that.<br />

Thanks also for your<br />

ministry. It has made such<br />

a difference in our lives.<br />

We got ahold of your<br />

newsletter a few years<br />

ago. At <strong>the</strong> time, we were<br />

struggling to live what<br />

we saw in <strong>the</strong> Bible. Our<br />

marriage had been a very<br />

scary thing before we got<br />

saved, and was still not<br />

good years later. The usual<br />

stuff interfered; we were pressured to<br />

be at church all <strong>the</strong> time, and I was<br />

expected to teach Sunday School,<br />

be at or teach <strong>the</strong> ladies’ Bible<br />

studies every week, have our kids at<br />

every activity—nobody told us that<br />

a woman could stay at home and<br />

serve her family and still be godly.<br />

I was told to pray for my not-veryspiritual<br />

husband to be <strong>the</strong> leader of<br />

our home. I was told to put my infant<br />

on a feeding schedule and when I<br />

wouldn’t, was told how I was going to<br />

mess up my marriage by nursing my<br />

baby at night. They also told me how<br />

I should get out of <strong>the</strong> house and<br />

pursue some ministry of my own so I<br />

wouldn’t be wasting <strong>the</strong> talents <strong>the</strong><br />

Lord gave me, etc.<br />

I’m sure you have heard it all<br />

before—I guess I just wanted you to<br />

know that <strong>the</strong>re is ano<strong>the</strong>r couple,<br />

who, in spite of <strong>the</strong> modern beliefs<br />

of today’s “Christian” culture, live<br />

a contented and wonderful life in<br />

Jesus! (I read <strong>the</strong> “Jezebel [Profile]”<br />

article Debi wrote and about fell<br />

over! I made copies and gave it to<br />

every woman I could get to take it!)<br />

I love my husband, and he is now<br />

<strong>the</strong> spiritual leader of our home. I no<br />

longer teach or attend ladies’ Bible<br />

In a recent seminar in Chattanooga, Tennessee,<br />

Callie, about 3 or 4 years old, presented<br />

me with this lovely portrait of she and I. As you<br />

can see she is as cute as a ladybug :-)<br />

studies, which was to <strong>the</strong> detriment<br />

of my family; our kids are well-trained<br />

and are a pleasure to be around.<br />

When we have applied what<br />

you said about child-training,<br />

women’s roles as wives and mo<strong>the</strong>rs,<br />

marriage, homeschooling, and even<br />

nutrition, <strong>the</strong> results and fruit born<br />

from renewed thinking and changed<br />

living has been beautiful. We live<br />

creative and different lives. We are<br />

different from most all <strong>the</strong> o<strong>the</strong>r<br />

families we know. <strong>No</strong>, I don’t wear<br />

long denim dresses; we do not drive<br />

a 15-passenger car, and I hardly ever<br />

bake home-made wheat bread<br />

(and I have never used a grinder<br />

to make my own flour – gasp!). But,<br />

when my husband goes to work,<br />

he is asked sometimes by troubled<br />

men <strong>the</strong> “secret” of our great<br />

marriage. He’s asked how his wife<br />

manages to homeschool and still<br />

be cheerful, and how we manage<br />

to have such nice kids. When one<br />

of <strong>the</strong> men has problems in his<br />

marriage (it happens a lot in <strong>the</strong> fire<br />

department), my husband is usually<br />

<strong>the</strong> one he goes to. He’s honest and<br />

approachable, and <strong>the</strong>y know he<br />

loves Jesus, but he’s not religious<br />

and pious, like some o<strong>the</strong>r Christians<br />

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<strong>the</strong>y work with or know. My<br />

husband, whom I complained<br />

about, disrespected, and<br />

was bitter toward, has been<br />

changed by my love, respect,<br />

and reverence. He really<br />

does minister to o<strong>the</strong>r men<br />

casually—and weekly now. As<br />

Mr. Pearl would say, “Don’t be<br />

amazed at what God can do.”<br />

Sincerely,<br />

DW<br />

Dear Pearls,<br />

I’ve enjoyed <strong>the</strong> newsletter<br />

and <strong>the</strong> books and tapes I’ve<br />

ordered. You are a couple<br />

who don’t sugarcoat anything<br />

and really tell it like <strong>the</strong> Bible<br />

says. . . very refreshing! Your<br />

training issues are amazing<br />

and have changed our<br />

lives...I’m not angry anymore,<br />

thanks to your “Sin <strong>No</strong> More”<br />

tapes – wow – I do not struggle<br />

with anger anymore, because<br />

Christ died for that issue I have<br />

had...incredible and yet just like<br />

<strong>the</strong> scripture says, “My Burden Is<br />

Light...” I could go on and on, but you<br />

get <strong>the</strong> point.<br />

Dorothy<br />

Dear Mr. and Mrs. Pearl,<br />

I have 4 children, ages 5, 4, 2, and<br />

a newborn. I try to give out Gospel<br />

tracts everywhere I go. My 5- and<br />

4-year-olds have picked up <strong>the</strong> habit<br />

also. I love it, because many times<br />

people will say, “<strong>No</strong>, thank you.”<br />

The most important thing I believe<br />

<strong>the</strong>y learn from this is how to deal<br />

with rejection. I believe that had I<br />

been a soul winner earlier, many of<br />

my youth problems would have been<br />

solved just by learning how to deal<br />

with rejection. Many teenagers get<br />

suckered into peer pressure because<br />

<strong>the</strong>y don‛t want to get rejected.<br />

<strong>No</strong>w, my kids just plainly say, “Mom,<br />

she wouldn‛t take one. I guess she<br />

wants to go to Hell. But I know<br />

Jesus wants me to keep on giving<br />

<strong>the</strong>m to people and never stop.”<br />

They push me to pass out tracts.<br />

TL


three encounters<br />

I now know why I must go on, why <strong>the</strong> time I spend writing and teaching is<br />

so important. By MICHAEL PEARL<br />

California is a long way from<br />

Tennessee in more ways than<br />

miles. Deb and I live in <strong>the</strong><br />

poorest county in Tennessee, sporting<br />

only two towns, <strong>the</strong> largest with a<br />

population of about two thousand.<br />

Many of <strong>the</strong> roads are unpaved. We<br />

chose a spot in <strong>the</strong> county that is<br />

remote and out of <strong>the</strong> way, accessed<br />

by a one-lane wooden bridge. Our<br />

103-acre farm is at <strong>the</strong> end of a deadend<br />

road. We don’t have a television,<br />

do not receive a newspaper, nor do<br />

we listen to <strong>the</strong> radio. We get our<br />

news from a satellite web connection.<br />

The only outside contact we have is<br />

when we go out to minister. In <strong>the</strong><br />

community, few people know us as<br />

writers. We are just one of <strong>the</strong> “retired”<br />

would-be homesteaders. We have<br />

never held a Seminar in our area. I am<br />

not recommending our life style; but<br />

I am preparing you to understand and<br />

appreciate three experiences we had<br />

out West.<br />

Deb and I were sitting in a<br />

city park in Portland, Oregon when<br />

a woman sat down near us and<br />

recognized us. Where would we hide,<br />

if we wanted to?<br />

Two days later, we were driving<br />

through <strong>the</strong> redwood forest when<br />

<strong>the</strong> urge hit me. When I got to <strong>the</strong><br />

men’s room, <strong>the</strong>re was a long-haired<br />

“hippie” already waiting his turn.<br />

The fellow who lingered behind <strong>the</strong><br />

locked door must have had prostate<br />

trouble, so while we waited, I turned<br />

to <strong>the</strong> young man and started telling<br />

him about Jesus. He looked shocked<br />

and just stared. I thought I must<br />

surely be getting through to him. He<br />

just stood <strong>the</strong>re waiting for more, so<br />

I launched into my second round. I<br />

actually thought I might be able to<br />

lead this poor soul to Christ. Then<br />

he interrupted me, stammering and<br />

pointing, “You are Mike Pearl!” I was<br />

now <strong>the</strong> one who was shocked. How<br />

could this strange fellow in this sofar-away<br />

place know me, a recluse,<br />

confined to a little valley in a poor<br />

county in Tennessee? It seemed to need<br />

an explanation. “How do you know<br />

me?” I asked. “We listen to your Bible<br />

tapes at <strong>the</strong> ‘Just Jesus’ school located<br />

down <strong>the</strong> road in <strong>the</strong> forest. I read<br />

your publication; and I have seen your<br />

picture.” As I talked with him and went<br />

outside to meet his wife, I discovered<br />

that he was a fine believer, dedicated<br />

to spreading <strong>the</strong> gospel of Christ. After<br />

leaving him, about an hour later, we<br />

passed <strong>the</strong> “Just Jesus” school, and<br />

I wished so much that I had time to<br />

stop. If I am ever out that way again,<br />

I am going to give myself an extra<br />

day to stop off and visit those folks to<br />

whom I have been ministering while<br />

I am tending my garden and grading<br />

<strong>the</strong> driveway leading back to <strong>the</strong> little<br />

valley between <strong>the</strong> two ridges.<br />

Two days later, I was sitting in <strong>the</strong><br />

motel breakfast area when a business<br />

man walked up to me and said, “You<br />

are Mike Pearl, aren’t you?” He was<br />

just traveling through and happened<br />

to be staying at <strong>the</strong> same motel. He<br />

went on to tell me that for many years<br />

he had been a member of a Holiness<br />

church, but never had peace with God.<br />

He told me that about a year ago he<br />

purchased a set of my Romans tapes<br />

and <strong>the</strong> booklet “Baptism in Jesus’<br />

Name”. He said that for <strong>the</strong> first time<br />

he understood that salvation was<br />

by grace and faith, not works, not<br />

baptism, and not by <strong>the</strong> “gift of <strong>the</strong><br />

Holy Ghost with evidence of speaking<br />

in tongues.” For <strong>the</strong> first time in his<br />

life, he rested in <strong>the</strong> finished work of<br />

Christ and now has peace with God.<br />

When he walked away, I looked<br />

at my stale bagel coated with crumbly<br />

cream cheese, and wonder filled<br />

me. I thanked God for those three<br />

encounters. I now know why I must go<br />

on, why <strong>the</strong> time I spend writing and<br />

teaching is so much more important<br />

than my organic gardening and our<br />

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6170-40 My Favorite Homeschooling<br />

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1010-40 ABC Bible Verse Songs<br />

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1 tape<br />

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8610-10 To Train Up a Child - Book<br />

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8 - 99 Copies - each $3.00<br />

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4125-10 Holy Sex<br />

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2330-10 By Divine Design<br />

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7030-10 Pornography-Road to Hell - Booklet<br />

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1410-10 Baptism in Jesus’ Name - Booklet<br />

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4530-10 Biblical Chastisement - Booklet<br />

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8140-10 Romans - Commentary $8.00<br />

8130-10 Revelation Poster and<br />

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1330-40 Authority Praying - 1 tape $4.00<br />

7010-40 Panel of Five - 1 tape $4.00<br />

6650-40 Only Men - 1 tape $4.00<br />

2330-40 By Divine Design - 3 tapes $10.00<br />

8310-40 Sabbath Rest - 1 tape $4.00<br />

8310-45 Sabbath Rest - 1 CD $4.00<br />

3730-40 Generational Sins - 1 tape $4.00<br />

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8322-40 Security of <strong>the</strong> Believer<br />

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8322-45 Security of <strong>the</strong> Believer<br />

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3610-40 God’s Eternal Program<br />

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3610-45 God’s Eternal Program<br />

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8320-40 Sanctifi cation - 3 tapes $10.00<br />

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8315-40 Sin <strong>No</strong> More - 7 tapes $22.00<br />

8315-41 Sin <strong>No</strong> More - 9 CDs $28.00<br />

8330-40 Sinful Nature - 4 tapes $10.00<br />

8330-45 Sinful Nature - 4 CDs $12.00<br />

8140-40 Romans Chapters 1-16<br />

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8140-45 Romans Chapters 1-16<br />

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8135-40 Righteousness - 3 tapes $10.00<br />

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Daddy and King Neb<br />

over<br />

<strong>the</strong> top<br />

of <strong>the</strong><br />

covers.<br />

They’ve seen<br />

Daddy reenact so many Bible<br />

stories, you’d think <strong>the</strong>y’d be tired<br />

of <strong>the</strong>m. But <strong>the</strong> day isn’t complete<br />

without <strong>the</strong> spectacular finale of<br />

Daddy’s Bible story. And, I must<br />

confess, I sometimes hover in <strong>the</strong><br />

darkness of <strong>the</strong> hallway, caught<br />

in <strong>the</strong> excitement of <strong>the</strong> story, and<br />

unable to go to bed until I hear <strong>the</strong><br />

end.<br />

The all-time favorite is about<br />

King Nebuchadnezzar, <strong>the</strong><br />

greatest king on <strong>the</strong> earth since<br />

David and Solomon. God even<br />

told him so. But foolish Neb forgot<br />

who made him great, and took to<br />

himself <strong>the</strong> glory that belonged to<br />

God alone. Daddy’s drooling and<br />

carpet-grazing depiction of King<br />

Neb, changed into a beast, is so<br />

impressive that even three-year-old<br />

Joe is convinced of <strong>the</strong> value of<br />

being thankful and ascribing to God<br />

<strong>the</strong> glory that is due Him.<br />

The stories about Peter, Paul,<br />

John, and Luke in <strong>the</strong> Acts of <strong>the</strong><br />

Apostles have started a regular<br />

occurrence of Joe standing on<br />

<strong>the</strong> back of <strong>the</strong> sofa with his<br />

arms outstretched, preaching to<br />

a wide-eyed Rysha (18 months<br />

old), who shouts unintelligible<br />

encouragement from her<br />

designated spot as his audience.<br />

There is nothing somber or<br />

religious about “family devotions”<br />

in our house. Daddy’s Bible stories<br />

have given our children a healthy<br />

appreciation for God’s sense of<br />

humor, His justice, and His love.<br />

They know Him just as <strong>the</strong>y know<br />

us – in a very real way.<br />

I can’t imagine “homeschooling”<br />

without that vital little hour at <strong>the</strong><br />

end of every day. Teaching our<br />

children to read, write, and count<br />

to one hundred is minuscule in<br />

comparison to our desire that<br />

<strong>the</strong>y come to know <strong>the</strong> Living God<br />

– <strong>the</strong>ir God! I rejoice to say that I<br />

believe we are succeeding!<br />

-Beka <strong>Joy</strong> (Pearl) Anast<br />

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