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connectgoqnotes.cominsideQqnotesMarch 15-28, 2013 Vol 27 No 23arts. entertainment. news. views.twitter.com/qnotescarolinasfacebook.com/qnotescarolinascontributors this issuePaige Braddock, Rosendo Brown, MattComer, Kevin Grooms/Miss Della, CharleneLichtenstein, Lainey Millen, David Stout,Trinity, Brett Webb-Mitchellfront pageGraphic Design by Matt Comer &Lainey MillenPhoto Credit: Wilmington and Beaches CVB;Savannah Area Chamber of Commerce;JEB Images, via flickr, licensed CC;Graphics Factory CCnews & features6 News Notes: Regional Briefs8 New city manager progressive ally9 900,000 LGBT immigrants in U.S.a&e / life&style10 Southern sabbatical11 Asheville beckons non-coastal types12 20 Questions14 Drag Rag15 Gospel trio to perform16 Tell Trinity17 Out in the Stars18 Fabulance18 Jane’s World19 Q events calendaropinions & views4 Editor’s Note4 On Being a Gay Parent5 Staff Editorial5 TalkBack5 QPoll1015911Material in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2013 and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability —for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc., dba QNotesP.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x207 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.6863Editor: Matt Comerx202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stouteditor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millenx205 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.charlotteobserver.com/1166/a local news partner ofThe Charlotte ObserverMarch 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 3


editor’s noteby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comSpring renewal, rebirth and supportSpring is upon us. Or, at the very least,we’re hoping it is. Daylight Savings Time hascome. The days seem longer, as the sun shineslater into the evenings. The temperatures arerising, though one last freeze isn’t out of thequestion. As spring showers descend upon us,the dogwoods blossom and all that is greenand happy returns to this part of the world, weare reminded of rebirth and renewal.It’s fitting, then, that spring shouldalso bring so many community events andfundraisers here in the local LGBT community.Organizations a plenty are throwingfundraising parties and events and they’reasking for your much-needed support. Groupslike House of Mercy and the Regional AIDSInterfaith Network will soon hold their annualAIDS Walks. On April 6, RAIN kicks it off withthe Amazing Race Bar Crawl. On April 13,House of Mercy raises awareness and fundsin Belmont.Other groups, too, are readying themselvesfor the year ahead. Charlotte Pride, on whoseexecutive committee I’m privileged to serve, willhold its first fundraiser of the year on March 29at The Scorpio. On March 22, Southern CountryCharlotte holds a spaghetti dinner fundraiserat the LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, allleading up to their April 19-21 Queen City Stomp,an annual tradition that’s plenty of fun, but alsoan important fundraiser for the center, Time OutYouth and One Voice Chorus.These aren’t the only organizationspresenting events this spring season. Thereare many, many more. You’ll hear about themin later issues of the newspaper. Take a lookat this issue’s Q Events calendar and othersin forthcoming issues, as well as our onlinecalendar at goqnotes.com/calendar/ for moreon these events and others.What each of these organizations allhave in common are the people — just likeyou and me — who work tirelessly, mostlyas volunteers, to ensure our local LGBTcommunity continues to move forward andgrow. Each of the groups supports a widearray of other causes or provides muchneededservices to those in need. Yourgenerous support of the organizations thatmake the Queen City a truly LGBT-friendlyand welcoming place is important.viewsgoqnotes.com/to/viewsAs March fades away and the warmerApril and May months give way to the heatof summer, I hope you’ll mark these eventsand others on your social calendars. Thoughthe economy is improving, we all know it’sstill tough; so, if you can’t give financially, Iencourage you to volunteer a few hours hereand there where our community organizationsneed your person-power to keep theirservices and operations running smoothly.When we, collectively, speak of our“community,” we speak of a full spectrum ofindividuals, community groups, businessesand more which bring fun to our lives, stability,safety or healthcare. These people andorganizations are what make me proud to bethe editor of this newspaper, the chronicler ofLGBT life in Charlotte and North Carolina.Join with me this spring in dedicating yourtime — and, if possible, your money — insupporting our own local LGBT community. Asalways, we’re in this together, and, united, wewill all prosper. : :on being agay parentby Brett Webb-Mitchell :: qnotes contributorTaxes and death“Things as certain as death and taxes,can be more firmly believed” wrote the 18thcentury writer Daniel Dafoe. This truthfulstatement comes to mind once a year likeclockwork during February when I file myfederal and state taxes. I file early because,as a father, I usually get a tax credit for myson. The rest of the taxes I file as a singleman, though in reality I’m not a single man.I’m a divorced man. And, I’m a man with apartner of 17 years and counting. While weare not recognized as husband and husbandor in a civil union in the eyes of the federalor state government, there was the feelingof permanence to the relationship when webought our first house years ago. Becausewe’ve never lived in a state in which wecould celebrate a civil union or domesticpartnership, e.g., Oregon, or marry, e.g.,Massachusetts, we’ve never had a ritualisticceremony of union in which we exchangedrings; no jumping the broom; and no chuppahor canopy over us as one or both of usbroke a glass in a dainty napkin. Instead,we bought a house and every year I amreminded that it is the one thing that we didto more-or-less “cement” our relationshipin the eyes of the state and federal government.This is also especially true when Imark that I am the head of the household(I’m older, so there).As I filed my taxes, this is the reality that Imust tell you about: I am paying taxes to governments— federal and state — that treatmy partner and me as second class citizens.I pay into a social security system in which Iwill not be able to inherit my partner’s share ifhe were to die first (unlike my mom who stillgets my dad’s social security check). We donot get the option to file jointly as my brotherand his wife do in their state and federaltaxes, thus seeking any other tax credits. And,if he were to die first (God forbid), I would notdirectly inherit his share of the wealth wehave accrued, but would have to pay a taxfor it. I cannot check the box “married” oneither tax form, but mark “single,” when I amanything but single, tethered as I am into somany relationships.And, what don’t we get in return? Wedon’t get the right to marry. We don’t getthe right to share medical or joint retirementbenefits from our respective employer(we both work for the state of NorthCarolina as public employees).We don’t getto legally inherit each other’s earnings orbelongings. We don’t get the right to makemedical decisions at the hospital were oneof us sick. We are figuratively and literallytwo individuals who are treated as roommatesin the eyes of the federal governmentand the state of North Carolina.Nothing more and nothing less.qpollHow frequently do you donate volunteer time,financial resources or in-kind gifts to local orregional LGBT community organizations?See the options and vote: goqnotes.com/to/qpollThere is something within me that wantsto pull a Henry David Thoreau and mount anact of civil disobedience. Maybe I shouldwithhold my taxes until I can honestly reportwho and whose I am on my tax return.Maybe I should conduct a “sit in” at theN.C. Department of Revenue building asa protest, with a big sign simply saying“unfair!” by my Occupy Raleigh tent. Or, Icould perhaps lead a pilgrimage of protest,gathering other LGBTQ people who are notable to honestly mark who they are on theirtax returns from Chapel Hill and Durhamto Raleigh. Count on this: when DOMA isover-turned, we will be ready to mark ourtax returns just like my straight parents andstraight brother and sister-in-law do everyyear until the next sure thing in life finallyhits us both: death. : :SUBSCRIBE!These rates only cover a portion of our true cost,however, our goal is to serve our communityMailed 1st class from Charlotte, NC, in sealed envelope.Subscription Rates: ☐ 1 yr - 26 issues = $48 ☐ 1/2 yr - 13 issues = $34Mail to: P.O. 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staff editorialby qnotes staffA time of transitions and thanksgivingviewsgoqnotes.com/to/viewsThis issue marks a special moment oftransition for qnotes, our staff and our communityas we say goodbye to the years-longservice of two dedicated members of ourqnotes family.Both associate editor David Stout and“Drag Rag” columnist Miss Della give theirparting adieus with this issue.Hired as qnotes’ interim editor in Feb.1992, David took on the full reins of editorshipin June 1992, serving until December 1999.Since then, he’s served as associate editor,stepping in again occasionally as interim editorwhen needed.In his more than two decades with the paper,David has proven an invaluable resource,determined journalist and passionate advocatefor Charlotte’s and the Carolinas’ LGBTcommunities. His unique writing style andimmaculately-researched, in-depth featuresbrought substance to the newspaper andhelped mold and shape this publication duringsome of its most formative growth years duringthe mid-to-late 1990s.Though David is departing from hisregular role at the newspaper, where he willbe greatly missed, we hope to see his bylineagain from time-to-time for feature stories orother commentaries as he feels movedto contribute.Della, too, has been a dedicated memberof our qnotes family, providing us with insight,news and stories about the Carolinas’, andeven the national, drag community for nearlyas long as David has worked with us. Dellajoined the newspaper as a contributor duringDavid’s tenure and, since, has proven herselfthe all-knowing chronicler of all that is drag inNorth Carolina and South Carolina.It will be difficult, indeed, to forget Della’switty style, humorous asides and folksy, familiartone. Her contributions will be missed.The staff here at qnotes wishes David andDella the absolute best as they part ways withus and transition into the next part of theircareers and lives. Their fellowship has beenrewarding, their service and skills outstandingand their pure loyalty to the LGBT communityand all that is right and just and fair has beeninspiring.Good luck, good fortunes and happy travelson life’s path! : :— Publisher Jim Yarbrough,editor Matt Comer and production directorLainey Millen contributed.talkbackLetters to the editor and comments from goqnotes.com and facebook.com/qnotescarolinas. Web comments are not edited for grammar or punctuation.CIAA coverage lackingI am reading qnotesMarch 1-14, 2013 issue(Vol. 27, No. 22) and I am disappointed thatyou have no coverage of the CIAA 2013 andGay Black activities during the tournament inyour paper. How can we work together tochange that? I’ve seen your online CIAA coverageonline. I am new to Charlotte area, and Iwill continue to support your paper.— Anthony Newby, letter, March 8.(From editor Matt Comer: “We did includeone CIAA event in our events calendar forthe March 1 issue. We would have included asecond but organizers had yet to announce alocation by the time we had to send the printerto press. We appreciate your feedback andwill look toward doing more comprehensiveCIAA coverage next year. Thanks again forsharing; reader feedback makes us better.”)What southern progress?Call me a cynic, but I think you’re exaggeratingthe strength of the gay community in NorthCarolina. We’re talking about a state where,less than a year ago, two thirds of residentsvoted to amend the constitution to bar usfrom any form of legal relationship protection.There may have been no discussion of southernvictories because there haven’t been anyworth mentioning. I’ll grant that the nationalorganizations need to spend more time onthe southern states, but most of them haveconstitutional amendments in place and noindication of a desire to lift them. What reasonhave we given to indicate we would be a goodinvestment for these national organizations tosink money into?— Patrick, goqnotes.com, March 5, inresponse to Joshua Burford’s ‘CommunityVoices’ column, ‘Who’s left to Create Changein the South?’ at goqnotes.com/21306/.Change comes from the insideAs far as change in our state it will have tobe done with local people, not outsiders. Ifeel we can overcome the fears just througheducation and socializing.— Janice Covington, goqnotes.com, March 7,in response to Joshua Burford’s ‘CommunityVoices’ column, ‘Who’s left to Create Changein the South?’ at goqnotes.com/21306/.Want to see your comments or letters here?Participate in the discussion at our website atgoqnotes.com, on Facebook at facebook.com/qnotescarolinas or on Twitter at twitter.com/qnotescarolinas. You can also send lettersto the editor (200 words or less) to letters@goqnotes.com.join the discussionWe welcome your letters to the editor (200 or words or less)and guest commentaries (600 words or less).Submit them to letters@goqnotes.com.March 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 5


news notes:carolinas. nation. world.compiled by Lainey Millen | Matt ComerFestival now flying soloMarigny’s Peter Presta spins the tunes prior to headliner Trina’s performance at the 2012 Pridefestival in Uptown Charlotte. Photo Credit: CarlMillerPhotos.com.CHARLOTTE — Charlotte Pride (formerly called Pride Charlotte) has spread its wings andis now operating as an independent organization, it was announced earlier this year.Under the auspices of The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte for six years, it saw tremendousgrowth. However, as a project of a center and not as a self-governed entity, therewere limits. With the new organization steering its ship, it hopes to further the visibility andawareness of the Queen City’s LGBT community.The Executive Committee of Charlotte Pride, Inc., a non-profit organization incorporatedin the State of North Carolina and led by several volunteers responsible for past Pride festivitiesheld under the auspices of the Center since 2006, will endeavor to be supportive of awide range of LGBT community organizations.The center had taken on the mantle of the Pride celebration when its former steeringcommittee disbanded. It was formed as a response to the turbulence of the 2005 event,challenged by an “overwhelming presence of local anti-LGBT protesters,” Charlotte Pridesaid. The Pride event grew with a record-breaking attendance of 45,000 in August 2012 in theUptown Charlotte venue. Prior to that, the event was held in more private settings, like Bankof America-owned Gateway Village in Third Ward and the N.C. Music Factory.“Pride Charlotte has reached the point where the current Pride committee is ready to beindependent,” Scott Coleman, chair of the Board of Trustees for the LGBT Community Center,said in a release. “In order for the annual Pride event to continue its growth momentum, and betaken to the next level, it makes a lot of sense for it to be an independent organization focusedon delivering a consistently amazing annual festival. The LGBT Community Center Boardwishes the Pride event well, and is excited to see what the new organization, led by membersof the community that have helped to deliver the successes of past Pride events, will presentin 2013 and beyond. The Charlotte LGBT community is truly fortunate to have such a dedicatedgroup of Pride volunteers willing to assume such an undertaking each and every year.”The 2013 festivities have been slated for August 24-25 in Uptown Charlotte. It will be theculmination of a week-long slate of events highlighting the social, cultural, ethnic, artisticand political diversity of the Charlotte-Metro area’s LGBT communities.Charlotte Pride Co-Director Richard Grimstad shared, “We are building upon our astoundingsuccesses after our phenomenal year of public growth and recognition at our twodayfestival last year.…There can be no doubt that our community is making visible progressand change. Our festival is the largest LGBT Pride event between Atlanta and Washington,D.C. We are proud to call Charlotte home and proud the city has embraced its LGBT communitywith such fervor and acceptance.”After raising nearly $100,000 for the center, Charlotte Pride organizers are excited to extendtheir support to a wider array of community organizations. A new community grants programto assist local organizations’ programming and projects will be funded by proceeds from eachyear’s festival. Details for the new grants program will be made available later this year.On March 7, the organization announced its 30-day fundraising challenge. They are askingindividuals and small businesses to join in. They want to raise $5,500 for a variety of needs. .More information on sponsorship and vendor opportunities are available online atcharlottepride.org.info: charlottepride.org— L.M. and news releases[Ed. Note: This publication’s editor serves as a volunteer member of Charlotte Pride’s board.]6 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013CharlotteTwelve races to raise fundsCHARLOTTE — J.D. Lewis and his sons aretaking to the streets in a fundraising 12K raceto benefit their Twelve In Twelve Foundationon March 30 beginning at the U.S. WhitewaterCenter, 5000 Whitewater Center Pkwy.The immediate goal of the Twelve In TwelveFoundation is to raise awareness, funds andsupplies for 12 of the organizations that theLewis family worked with while on their recordbreakingjourney to all seven continents.On race day, a 1.2-mile fun run and Easteregg hunt will also take place.Prior to the race, a launch party will beheld on March 28, 7 p.m., at The Saloon, 900NC Music Factory Blvd.Participants should be at the race site at 8a.m. for registration. The 12K race begins at 9a.m., with the fun run/walk/bunny hop at 11:30a.m. Hunt for Easter eggs at 12:30 p.m.Registration fee is $50 for the 12K, $25 forthe fun run and Easter egg hunt. To register,visit runforyourlife.com/race-events.Race registration includes a T-shirt, giftbag and raffle tickets for door prizes andentrance into the Whitewater center.Fun run/hop registration includes a giftbag for children and Easter egg search,plus raffle prizes which include parking andentrance to the Whitewater center.info: twelveintwelve.org— L.M.Farewell party slatedCHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth has announcedthat a “Pretty in Pink Farewell toLaurie” will be held on March 22 at 1900 ThePlaza. Laurie Pitts, director of programs andservices, is leaving to assume another position.A drop in and hang out begins the festivitiesfrom 3-6:30 p.m., followed by a pot luckdinner from 6:30-7:15 p.m. A variety show beginsat 7:15 p.m. Attendees are encouraged towear pink or orange — Pitts’ favorite colors.info: timeoutyouth.org— L.M.Batter up for softball seasonCHARLOTTE — The Carolina SoftballAssociation’s Charlotte Softball League willhold its pre-season clinics on March 24 andApril 7 at 2 p.m. at Revolution Park, 2425Barringer Dr.New players to the association must attenda minimum of at least one clinic, but allplayers, both returning and new, are encouragedto be part of both.Registration is available online. Fee is $40per player and must be paid prior to hitting thefield for the first game on April 14 at 2 p.m.info: carolinasoftball.org— L.M.Wise songs brought by chorusCHARLOTTE — One Voice Chorus, alongwith the Charlotte Chapter of the AmericanGuild of Organists, will present its “Songsof Wisdom & More” concert on April 6, 7:30p.m., at First United Methodist Church, 501 N.Tryon St.Choral and organ works by British composersand “Song of Wisdom from Old Turtle”will be featured during the concert. “Turtle”is a children’s story with a message aboutpeace and will be narrated by Charlotte CityCouncilmember LaWana Mayfield.A special children’s show will precedethe main event at 6:45 p.m., as well as a craftshow at 1 p.m. and family matinee at 2 p.m.The matinee is free to families with childrenand supervised groups and churches.info/tickets: onevoicechorus.com— L.M.Walk teams formingCHARLOTTE — AIDS Walk 2013 to benefitthe Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN)is slated for May 4 from Gateway VillageAtrium, 800 W. Trade St.Already individuals and teams have begunto raise monies for this annual fundraisingevent. Goal this year is $175,000.In its 17th year, it is the largest HIV awarenessand fundraising event in the Carolinas.Organizers expect close to 3,000 to walk thetwo-mile route through historic Fourth Ward.Registration and check-in begins at 8 a.m.,followed by morning programs and awards.Participants hit the streets at 10 a.m., withclosing ceremonies beginning at 11 a.m.Matching gifts will be made by numerouscompanies and are listed online. Incentiveprograms are also available for participants.Registration, along with toolkits and othervaluable resources can be accessed throughRAIN’s website.info: aidswalkcharlotte.orgTriadGrant season in full swingWINSTON-SALEM — The AdamFoundation will hold a grant orientation sessionon March 26, 5:30-7 p.m., at New WinstonMuseum, 213 Marshall St.The informal event gives interested grantapplicants the opportunity to discuss theprocess, ask questions and obtain assistance.One person from each project shouldattend to interface with the foundation grantcommittee. Only qualified 501(c) 3 organizationsare eligible.Grant application deadline is April 19.Submit via mail to P.O. Box 21113, Winston-Salem, NC 27120-1113 or via email to grants@adamfoundation.org by the deadline date.In May the applications will be reviewedinternally and externally by a panel who willvisit sites and conduct interviews.On June 16, the foundation board will voteon their finalists. And, announcements will bemade at Martini Night on July 10 at 6th & Vine,6-9 p.m.info: adamfoundation.org— L.M.TriangleChurch celebrates anniversaryCHAPEL HILL — The Community Church ofChapel Hill Unitarian Universalist is celebratingtheir 10th anniversary as a welcomingcongregation with a concert, “Music Gayla:A Night OOUUT!” on March 16, 7 p.m., at 106Purefoy Rd.LGBT composers’ works across time willbe featured. Proceeds from the event will gotoward lighting and sound enhancements forthe church.Suggested donation is $20.info: c3huu.org— L.M.


National/GlobalClinton: I signed DOMA to prevent banWASHINGTON, D.C. — Writing in an op-edin The Washington Post on March 7, PresidentBill Clinton said he signed the federal Defenseof Marriage Act in 1996 in order to “defuse amovement to enact a constitutional amendmentbanning gay marriage, which would haveended the debate for a generation or more.”Clinton’s op-ed comes barely a monthbefore the U.S. Supreme Court is set to heararguments against DOMA.“On March 27, DOMA will come before theSupreme Court, and the justices must decidewhether it is consistent with the principles ofa nation that honors freedom, equality and justiceabove all, and is therefore constitutional,”wrote Clinton. “As the president who signedthe act into law, I have come to believe thatDOMA is contrary to those principles and, infact, incompatible with our Constitution.”Clinton also wrote that the bill he signed hasbecome a tool “providing an excuse for discrimination.”He wrote, “It should be overturned.”Log on to goqnotes.com/clintonmarriage/to read the full op-ed.— M.C.Gay councilmember electedCHATTANOOGA, Tenn. — Chris Andersonhas become Chattanooga’s first openly gaycity council person, winning an election onMarch 5. Anderson beat a two-term incumbentto represent the city’s seventh district.“We are thrilled for Chris and for thepeople of Chattanooga, who will benefit fromhis passion, drive and leadership skills. This isalso a huge victory for the LGBT communityin southeast Tennessee, who finally have anauthentic voice for equality in government,”said Chuck Wolfe, president and CEO of theVictory Fund.Anderson is one of only two openly LGBTelected officials in Tennessee.— M.C.Poll: Texas voters on marriageAUSTIN, Texas — Support for marriageequality continues to grow in Texas, as a newpoll of 1,000 voters shows a minor plurality ofPresident Barack Obama with former President Bill Clinton and Senior Advisor Valerie Jarrett, right,pictured here during a meeting on jobs in 2010. The Obama Administration has come out opposed tothe Defense of Marriage Act, which Clinton recently wrote should be overturned by the Supreme Court.Photo Credit: Pete Souza, The White House/Public Domain.newsgoqnotes.com/to/newsvoters now favor legalizing same-sex marriage.By a margin of 47.9 percent to 47.5 percent,Texas voters now support the freedom to marry,according to the poll, conducted by GlengariffGroup and commissioned by Equality Texas, astatewide LGBT advocacy organization.The percentage represents an increase of5.2 percent in support since September 2010.Support for the freedom to marry increasedby 11.3 percent among Independents,increased by 15.7 percent among AfricanAmericans, increased by 14.3 percent among18-29 year-olds and increased by 11.1 percentamong those over age 65.— LGBTQ NationMexico court: slurs not protectedMEXICO CITY — Mexico’s Supreme Courtruled on March 6 that two words commonlyused as anti-gay slurs in the nation are not aprotected form of freedom of expression. Thecourt ruled 3-2 in favor of a journalist who in2010 sued another reporter who had written acolumn in which the writer called the journalistand others a “puñal” and “maricones.” Thewords can be translated “fag” and “faggots,”respectively. The ruling will likely apply only tothe words’ use in media.— M.C., LGBTQ Nation contributedSome national and international newscontent provided courtesy of and reprintedin partnership with LGBTQ Nation. Reprintedwith permission. For the latest national andinternational news, visit lgbtqnation.com.March 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 7


Arlington official: New citymanager is progressive allyOpenly gay Virginia politician offers praise for new Charlotte City Manager Ron Carleeby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comCHARLOTTE – In April, Charlotte will have a new citymanager, replacing longtime city employeeCurt Walton, who served as city managerfrom 2007 until his retirement in December.His replacement, former Arlington County,Va., manager Ron Carlee, the first outsidecandidate to hold the post in 30 years, isa staunchly progressive ally, says oneVirginia politician who worked with Carlee.“You guys are really fortunate. Ron isfabulous. He’s an outstanding public servant,”said Arlington County, Va., Vice ChairJay Fisette, who in 1997 became the firstopenly LGBT person elected to any officein Virginia. “I read the position descriptionthat was put out by the city, what they werelooking for, and it’s like it was tailored tohim. If it’s true what they’re looking for andwhat they want to create in Charlotte andRon CarleePhoto Credit: Knight Foundation,via Flickr. Licensed CC.build on whatever they have, he’s just a perfect candidate foryou guys.”Fisette had served as the county board’s chairwhen Carlee was hired there in 2001.Carlee’s work in Arlington was marked by a commitmentand openness to LGBT issues, Fisette said.“In terms of gay issues, it’s a non-issue,” Fisettesaid. “He will embrace and completely respect thegay and lesbian community in Charlotte.”On other matters, too, Carlee was an ally. Inparticular, Carlee was instrumental in helpingArlington County navigate controversial immigrationproposals during his tenure.“Issues of immigration were huge between twoand four years ago,” Fisette said. “Republicans inMarketplace CharlotteRichmond must have put forward over 100 bills inthe legislature to rescind the rights of foreign bornresidents. Our community and our board leadershipmade some very strong public statements about therights of immigrants and the police chief and others in the communitywere trying to assuage some of the anxiety. Ron playeda very strong leadership role in ensuring we all handled thatwell and the staff of 3,600 people who work for this county wereall on the same page in terms of sending that same message.”Fisette said Carlee spoke at several community andregional forms. “He very strongly defended and explained whythe county felt as it did and why he felt as he did,” Fisette said.Diversity was a key ingredient in Arlington’s communityvalues — a standard Carlee not only respected, but helpedpromote.“It’s part of our mantra here,” Fisette said. “Our value systemis to tap into these differences as a source of communitystrength and not to allow it to be a divisive element.”Ultimately, Fisette believes Carlee will be a net-positive forthe Queen City.“It sounds like your council is at a place where they arereally ready to keep building on the progress they’ve been making,”Fisette said. : :Plaza Midwood8 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013


newsgoqnotes.com/to/newsStudy:900,000 LGBTimmigrants in U.S.Local immigrant youth protest family separation,new N.C. driver licensesby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comBUILDTHROUGHUSfree webpresencewitheveryprint adprintandonlineadvertisingsolutionswith qnotesandgoqnotes.comcall or email us today704.531.9988adsales@goqnotes.comOrganized by the Latin American Coalition and United 4 the Dream about 60 people gathered aroundthe statue of Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. in Marshall Park and then marched up 3rd St. to Tryon St. andthen to the Square at Trade and Tryon in uptown Charlotte Saturday March 9, 2013 where they ralliedfor immigration reform.Photo Credit: John D. Simmons/Charlotte Observer.A new study from the University ofCalifornia Los Angeles’ School of Law’sWilliams Institute has found that 900,000individuals within the adult immigrant populationin the U.S. identify as LGBT. The numberincludes approximately 267,000 LGBT peoplewho are undocumented.“An estimated 900,000 adults in this countryare LGBT immigrants, among whom morethan 48,000 are in a same-sex couple in whichone or both spouses or partners are not U.S.citizens,” researcher Dr. Gary Gates said in arelease. “Under current immigration policies,many of these couples, along with the 24,000children they are raising, may face separationif same-sex spouses or partners are not ableto sponsor each other for a work visa.”The report found that 3.1 percent of undocumentedimmigrant men identify as LGBTcompared to percent of women.The report further found that LGBTundocumented immigrants are younger thanthe broader undocumented population, with49 percent of LGBT undocumented immigrantsestimated to be 30 years old or younger.The new report came as a nationalcoalition of immigrant and LGBT groupsheld their “11 Million Coming Out Week ofAction” during the second week in March.Organized by the Washington, D.C.-basedQueer Undocumented Immigrant Project(QUIP) and United We Dream, the campaignseeks reform to current immigration laws.The campaign’s slogan is “Legislation MustRecognize Our Humanity.”“Undocuqueer leaders across thecountry are calling for a pathway for citizenshipthat doesn’t leave anyone behind. Wewill not choose one issue over the other,”Jorge Gutierrez, United We Dream’s QueerUndocumented Immigrant Project coordinator,said in a release. “Protecting the unity of ourimmigrant families and dignity of our LGBTQcommunities is at the center of our organizingand advocacy efforts.”Activism on the local level has beenbuilding, too, with youth and allies organizedby Charlotte’s Latin American Coalition. Thegroup has held several outreach activities,demonstrations and protests over the pastseveral years, including a recent 60-personmarch in Uptown Charlotte on March 9.Undocumented immigrant youth inNorth Carolina are protesting immigrationrules that could separate their families, aswell as new driver license requirementsfor those young people who have receiveddeferred action under an executive orderfrom President Barack Obama. The newNorth Carolina driver licenses are colorcodedin bright pink and include the words“No Lawful Status” printed largely along thebottom of the license.Advocates say the licenses could leadto confusion and discrimination againstyoung people living lawfully in the U.S. underObama’s recent deferred action program.National LGBT immigrant youth leaderssay their movement is working to bridge twounique yet allied struggles.“As a person of multiple identities, I wantto ensure that the different facets of my lifeno longer have to be divided and made to settle,”Alma Leyva, a QUIP leader from OrangeCounty, Calif., said in a release. “Winningimmigration reform that is not inclusive toLGBTQ community would uplift one identitywhile continuing to marginalize another. Iwant immigration reform to recognize all ofmy humanity.” : :March 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 9


SOUTHERNSABBATICALSpring and Summer Travel Guide:Events, Attractions, Dining, Nightlifeby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comCobblestone streets. Waterfront boardwalks. Riverboats.Spring and summer are just around the corner. We’re stillshaking off some chilly weather, but before we know it, springshowers will be giving way to warmer temperatures, longer daysand more opportunities for you to cast off your winter blues.Fortunately, those blessed to have made our way to theCarolinas have plenty of nearby options for quick and affordable,yet fun and captivating, getaways to some of the most charmingand romantic cities the South has ever made.Use this issue’s spring and summer guide as your introductorystarting point for exploring all that Wilmington, Charleston andSavannah have to offer in the months ahead.WILMINGTONSAVANNAHCHARLESTONPhoto Credit: Wilmington and Beaches CVBSet on the banks of the Cape Fear River, Wilmington’scharming and historic downtown provides the perfectsetting for early-evening strolls along Front St. or intimatemeals and drinks with friends or family. With more than60 bars, pubs and other entertainment venues, nearly130 different and unique stores and shops and morethan 70 restaurants, downtown Wilmington is the placeto be. Each Friday, the Downtown Sundown concertseries brings local and regional bands to Riverfront Parkalong Front St., a perfect evening delight after dinner andbefore heading out for the night.Starting early this year, Wilmington Pride kicks offtheir 2013 activities with a “Stash for Cash” fundraiserand yard sale on March 23, 8 a.m.-3 p.m. at RiverfrontPark. The main event takes over this riverside town June8-16, with the Wilmington Pride festival slated for June 16.In April, Wilmington hosts its annual North CarolinaAzalea Festival, a truly-southern celebration of springif there ever was one. Events this year, scheduled April10-14, feature art shows and a coin show, garden tours,home tours, a parade, street fair and more, includingfeatured concert performances by Lynyrd Skynyrdand the Avett Brothers. For more information, visitncazaleafestival.org.In the mood for some sun? Wrightsville Beach, KureBeach and Carolina Beach are just a short drive away. InMay, Kure Beach and Fort Fisher host the second annualPleasure Island Blugrass by the River. In June, the 28thannual Carolina Beach Music Festival brings the bestof beach music and more. For more on both events, visitpleasureislandnc.com.NightlifeIbiza Nightclub . 118 Market St.ibizawilmington.comCostello’s Piano Bar . 211 Princess St.costellospianobar.comThe Toolbox . 2325 Burnett Blvd.toolboxnc.com10 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013Photo Credit: Savannah Area Chamber of CommerceIf history is your thing and you think you’d likeCharleston, you’d better plan on making a trip toSavannah, too! Cobblestone streets, magnificent architectureand more awaits.Situated right on the Savannah River, this Georgiacoastal town is replete with fine shopping, entertainmentand wining and dining. The downtown historic districtfeatures dozens of restaurants, bars and other venues towhet your appetite and thirst.Early in the season, March 20-April 6, be sure tovisit the Savannah Music Festival, featuring performancesby Old Crow Medicine Show, Dr. John and theNite Trippers, the Atlanta Symphony Orchestra andmore (savannahmusicfestival.org).In May, be sure to check out Savannah Riverfront’sSeafood-fest on the River, with three days of exhilaratingseafood tastes (riverstreetsavannah.com). Also inMay, the 37th annual Savannah Scottish Games bringsout the best in Celtic culture and fun (savannahscottishgames.com).While you’re in town, you’d be remiss if you didn’tpay homage to the Lady Chamblis, performing May 4,June 1, July 6 and Aug. 3 this summer season at ClubOne,Savannah’s sole gay nightlife attraction. Though it standssolitary, Club One doesn’t leave you disappointed. Thethree-floor complex offers drag, cabaret and theatre performances,as well as some of the best clubbing around.NightlifeClub One . 1 Jefferson St.clubone-online.comOne of the oldest cities in the U.S., Charleston is ahistory-lover’s dream come true. Historic homes andsome of the nation’s oldest churches and other historicsites, including the famous Fort Sumter, await, as dining,nightlife, museums and more beckon.In July, Charleston Pride lights up this quaint southerntown with rainbows (charlestonpridefestival.org). Theannual Spoleto Festival, with the best in performance art,hits May 24-June 9 (spoletousa.org).Other events worth checking out this seasoninclude the French Quarter Art Walk on May 3, a freetour of Charleston’s French Quarter art galleries, withfine wine, food and amazing art (frenchquarterarts.com) and the June 1 Sweetgrass Cultural Arts Festivalcelebrating the Gullah Geechee culture and history(sweetgrassfestival.org).In downtown, fine restaurants dishing up the bestin southern cuisine await your tasting with a dizzyingarray of delectable seafood restaurants, including thosespecializing in oysters.Historic tours include those of Old Charleston, ghostand graveyard tours, the USS Yorktown, carriage toursand harbor tours. For more visit charleston.com/tours.aspx.Want the absolute best local info on music events andconcerts, restaurants, bars and other events? Check outCharleston City Paper at charlestoncitypaper.com.NightlifePhoto Credit: Muffet, via flickr. Licensed CC.Club Patrick’s . 1377 Ashley River Rd.clubpatricksofcharleston.blogspot.comDudley’s on Ann . 42 Ann St.dudleysonann.comClub Pantheon . 28 Ann St.clubpantheon.net


lifegoqnotes.com/to/lifeNot the coastal type?Asheville beckons: Website pitches LGBT-friendly travelby Lainey Millen :: lainey@goqnotes.comTourists and visitors pack into Bele Chere, an annual street, music and arts festival held in downtownAsheville each July. Photo Credit: anoldent, via Flickr. Licensed CC.In the mood for a spring or summer getaway,but not turned on by the sand and waterof the coast? Never fear, Asheville is here!This charming, LGBT-friendly city has much tooffer any traveler on any budget.According to RomanticAsheville.com, “thebeautiful mountain town is eclectic, artsy andvery diverse with so many things to do. Withina few blocks, visitors can dance with hippiesat the drum circle, browse galleries for exquisiteart, dine at world-class restaurants andsample 50 local craft beers. All of this could beafter a day of seeing waterfalls.” They sharetheir findings in a 600-page online travel guidewith photos, tips and more and provided a top10 favorite outings for gay and lesbian visitors.The Biltmore House is one of the many keyattractions that visitors flock to see and thearea has a host of bed and breakfast, mountaincabin, hotel and other accommodations tosatisfy almost every palette.Libations are aplenty from hometownbreweries to mountain wineries. To go alongwith that, live music and theatre provide acozy backdrop to this gay and lesbian friendlylocation. Club Hairspray, 38 N French BroadAve., and O.Henry’s , 237 Haywood St., providea spot for LGBT visitors to hang out.For those who enjoy the out of doors, thereare miles of hiking trails, zip lines, whitewaterrafting and more along the Blue RidgeMountains or nearby Great Smoky Mountains.The city also hosts a variety of unique antiqueshops and other shopping experiences,including more than 200 locally-owned stores.RomanticAsheville.com suggests Malaprops,a funky, alternative and LGBT-friendlybookstore named a “Best Bookstore in theSoutheast.” Thirty galleries in downtown arewithin walking distance.Full detail on the full top 10 list is availableon the RomanticAsheville site.Asheville Summer EventsBele ChereJuly 26-28Music and arts festival hosted annualy indowntown Asheville, featuring local, regionaland national entertainment, art and antiquevendors and more.belecherefestival.comGay 5KRainbow RompJuly 13Blue Ridge Pride presents a 5K competitivefundraising run and a non-competitive“Rainbow Romp.”blueridgepride.comAnnual PrideHosted each October, Blue Ridge Pride willbe held Oct. 5 in downtown Asheville’s PackSquare Park. For more information, visitblueridgepride.com.— Matt Comer contributedBUILDTHROUGHUSprintandonlineadvertisingsolutionswith qnotesandgoqnotes.comfree webpresencewitheveryprint adcall or email us today704.531.9988adsales@goqnotes.comMarch 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 11


20 QuestionsDavid Aaron Moore, Charlotteby David Stout :: david@goqnotes.comlifegoqnotes.com/to/life12 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013David Aaron Moore is the author of“Charlotte: Murder, Mystery and Mayhem.”From 2003-2007, he was the editor of qnotes.Since that time, his writings have appeared inmultiple publications throughout the U.S. andCanada.Regionally his workcan be found in the pagesof the Atlanta JournalConstitution, Charlottemagazine and CreativeLoafing, where he pensthe column “Question theQueen City.”Who’s DILFier: Mike Brady,Heathcliff Huxtable or RayBarone?I’m gonna have to opt fornone of the above, stepback a few decades into TV Land and chooseouter space dad John Robinson (played byGuy Williams) on the old “Lost In Space”series. Who wouldn’t wanna take a spin in theJupiter 2 with that dude?Which deep-fried carnival foods haveyou tried?That stuff scares me. Deep fried ice creamand snickers bars? Uh-uh. I guess the closestI’ve come to deep fried carnival food is a funnelcake.How many sides of a Rubik’s Cube canyou complete?None. I’m usually too busy chewing on aluminumfoil.Can you remember your first crush?I had two at the same time! There was a girlnamed Angela and a boy named Chuck in myfirst grade class. They were both funny andsmart with dark eyes, dark hair and reallyfair skin. Guess I liked that vampire look waybefore it was cool. It didn’t take long for meto figure out I preferred Chucks over Angelasand that there are a multitude of non-gothtypes that are cool, too. LOL.Have you ever completed a work of paint-bynumbersart?No. I was always too busy chewing on aluminumfoil.How do these films rank based on thenumber of times you’ve seen them: “HedwigAnd The Angry Inch,”“The Phantom OfThe Paradise,”“The Rocky Horror PictureShow,”“Xanadu”I’m almost embarrassed at how predictablethe answer to this one is for me: “The RockyHorror Picture Show,” “Hedwig and TheAngry Inch,” “Xanadu” and “The Phantom ofthe Paradise.” I think I preferred Paul Williamsas an orangutan scientist in “Battle for thePlanet of The Apes.”Are you currently any straight woman’s bestgay pal?I guess. My friend and assistant VictoriaWestbrook might say so. But, you’d reallyhave to ask her. I wouldn’t want to be sopresumptuous.How long do you typically wait betweenhaircuts?A couple of months, at most. Or, until mywidow’s peak looks like Eddie Munster. I usedto think that was cool until somebody pointedout it also looked like Paul Ryan.Would you rather spend an afternoon at acircus, a carnival, a fine art museum or a zoo?Stop with the limited choicesalready! I’d prefer a historiccemetery or a junkyard full ofrusty vintage cars, but museumsand carnivals are quite cool, too.Who’s the better TV vixen: JoanCollins, Heather Locklear orMorgan Fairchild?All three of those are good, butas actors they’re pretty gifted comedians,so it’s difficult for me tolabel them as vixens. Damn. I’mgonna step out of the box againand say Jeri Ryan, who playedthe rehumanized Borg Seven ofNine on “Star Trek Voyager.” One look at herand you knew resistance was futile.Do you think mimes are entertaining?Shields and Yarnell had great bowl cuts.If 8 is great and 9 is fine, what would 10 be?Exhausting? Who wants to date somebody sohot everybody else wants them all the time?Too tiresome.Which U.S. city that you haven’t been towould you most like to visit?I’ve traveled all over and been just about everywhereI’ve wanted to go, except for one inthe U.S: San Francisco. Why do you ask? Areyou giving away free trips? [Ed. Note: No.]What’s the sexiest non-sexual part of aman’s body?Eyes. They can tell you so much about a man.Grilled cheese, cheese pizza or pizza bites?Pizza bites. Not messy — especially when youhave a beard.Who is your all-time favorite femalemusic artist?Nina Hagen. In her younger years she had acrazy out-of-control vocal range. Today, shecontinues to address issues of global importanceand entertain in a way no one else can.Are there any bobby pins in your home?Yup. I live in a house that has been in my familyfor many years and every once in a whilean old bobby pin that belonged to an aunt ormy mom pops up in a corner somewhere. It’skinda freaky and funny, actually. The jury’sstill out for me on the existence of paranormalactivity, but I usually find ’em when the dustbunnies have gotten a little on the heavy side.It’s like mom’s letting me know I’m not keepingthe place as clean as she did.Which person (living or dead) would youmost like to interview?Difficult question. It’s too late now, but oneperson I wish I could have had the opportunityto interview is former Pakastani PrimeMinister Benazir Bhutto.Can you recite from memory the license platenumber of your current vehicle?I cannot.Have you ever given a sex toy as a gift?Hmmm. I picked up some cucumbers for afriend the other day, but I think she just usedthem in a salad. Does that count? : :


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a&egoqnotes.com/to/artsdrag ragby Miss Della :: qnotes contributorPageant results are overflowing everywhereacross America!Ah, my dear readers, we come together again and celebrateall that is good (and sometimes not so good) in the worldof drag pageantry. I’ve got so much damn information, there’sno time for idle chit-chatter!I’ll start off and tell you how happy I am that theContinental system is doing a great job on their website thesedays, updating it with prelim tea and such. Of course, just aweek or so after this comes out, they will hold Miss Elite andPLUS in Chicago and if you know me, you know I am hopingthat my baby Kelly Raye, the reigning Miss Heart and Soul Elite,will squat and become the new Miss Continental Elite. I amtrusting and believing that she will “go right” and remove alldoubt with those judges. She would be such an excellent representativefor them, and she’s such a fantastic person. I hopeher cheering crowd will be there from NC and Hawaii. Kelly,you know I am with you in spirit! I was almost brought to tearswhen my baby sis Brooke Divine told me about the sponsorshipshe gave Kelly to make the win a little easier.Kelly will compete against such lovely impersonatorsas Miss Carolina Elite Joanna James, Illusion (held in SanAntonio) Dina Jacobs (another queen with Hawaii ties), Illinois,Dominique Mahon and Chicago, Cee Cee LaRouge. Also thatweekend, as Tanisha Cassadine gives up her PLUS title/crown,there will be such fabulous illusionists competing like MissFlorida Icon Jasmine Pierce; Illusions,Layne Matthews; Illinois, SavannahSan’Teigo with alternate Terri DaMoore;Virginia, Sandra Lopez (there will be goodhair and make-up in the house on thisnight!); Chicago, Milena Lane Kier; NC,Ginger Minj; and SC, India Chanel Braxton.Later on in the year, for the Labor Dayex-dragga-ganza (my term, don’t try it!),we’ll see Miss NC Continental VictoriaGrantly compete, along with Miss SCStasha Sanchez and her alternate FontasiaL’Amour. They will be preceded in competitionby their guy counterparts, Mr. NC KhalilValentino and Mr. SC Jose Vega. Damn, itsounds like Miss Alyson Thomas had onemore bloodbath at Club Mekka in Miami thisgo ‘round!In other pageantry news, on the U.S.ofA.at Large scene, our national titleholder Miss Dorae Saundershas been to one more prelim, Miss Louisiana, which The LadyPhatKat won and her alternate was Starr Alexander. For theU.S.ofA. division, we have qualifiers ready to compete in Dallasover Memorial Day weekend, like Miss Iowa Chanel Savage(l-r) Tracy Morgan, Tiffany Bonet, Ashley Alexander, and Kerri Nichols.and alternate Chanel Cavalier Van Cartier; Pennsylvania, TiffanyRichards and alternate Jolie Starr; Tri-States, Alexyeus Paris;Lonestar, Loretta Armani and runner-up Armani Davenport;Oklahoma, Bebe Adams and RU Londenn Raine; and Misssee Drag Rag on 1814 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013


Gospel trio to performLesbian woman, transgender woman and gay manbreaking through Gospel barriersby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comMicah’s Rule, a Christian Gospel trio hailing from Wilmington, N.C., will perform at the Metropolitan CommunityChurch of Charlotte, 1825 Eastway Dr., on March 23, 7 p.m.The trio, which formed in January 2012, is breaking barriers, aided by the three members’ past musicalexperience.The group is comprised of Greg McCaw, Chasity Scott and Mary Ann Hewett. Each grew up singing in thechurch. McCaw performed bass with Southern Gospel stars like Bill and Gloria Gaither and the Gatlin Brothers.Scott has a doctorate in music education from Harvard. Hewett has enjoyed the inspiration of music her entire life.The group recently cut an album produced by Mark Moseley, a Nashville producer who has created albumsfor Dolly Parton, George Jones, Vince Gill, Patty Loveless and Willie Nelson.One of their singles, “Your Cries Have Awoken the Master,” in their new album, “Walk the Road,” is particularlypowerful, speaking to the struggles of LGBT people of faith.For more information on the vocal group and their upcoming performance, visit micahsrule.com. : :a&egoqnotes.com/to/artsPhoto Credit:Courtesy Micah’s Rule.March 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 15


tell trinityby Trinity :: qnotes contributor :: trinity@telltrinity.comI love her, I love her…knotDearest Trinity,I rented out my spare room to this great girland then started spending a lot of time withher. Now it’s time for her girlfriend to move inand I think I’m falling in love. Did I screw up?Renter’s Love, Des Moines, IADearest Renter’s Love,Yes, you did, and how! I assume you knewabout her girlfriend, which means you needto wake up and fast. First, stop allowing thesefeelings to take over you. You can’t changeyour feelings, but you can control whatyou do with them, i.e., stop acting on them.Second, go looking for other girls. You’ll lovea thousand times in your life, so don’t stopnow. Third, get over it, move on, about faceand forward march. Oh, and honey, if youdon’t stop you’ll end up living in a house full ofdrama and deception and that only makes fora good novel.Dear Trinity,If a man sleeps with 12 different menin one year, one a month, is he a slut?Moreover, if he sleeps with 12 differentmen in one month and no one else for therest of the year, is he also a slut? And,lastly, am I a slut?Slut Worries, Atlanta, GADear Slut Worries,To the first man I would say, what thehell are you doing for the rest of themonth, living off blow up dolls and Ben& Jerry’s? To the second man who’sspending 11 months on his knees prayingfor forgiveness, I’d say, get up andstart accepting your biological urges.Darling, one-night stands are acts ofsurvival and pleasure, not religiouspersecution! Feeling like a slut means notrespecting your instincts or your mates. So,respect both of them. Oh, and even thoughyou may not be a slut, you may be a hypochondriac.(My cartoon shows you how“visions of sugarplums” have danced in myhead when it comes to sex!)Hey Trinity,I’m about to break up with my boyfriend. It’smy first boyfriend and it’s going to kill him.Help!First Break, Pittsburg, PAHey First Break,This is so not fun so just accept that. This alsois very much part of life like a very cold winteror a very delayed plane flight. So, rememberbaby, be patient and kind, be direct and clearand for your own protection prepare financially,emotionally and physically in advancefor any backlash.Hello Trinity,The other day, this gorgeous guy started flirtingwith me, but for some reason I got a sensethat he wasn’t single. How do you know ifsomeone’s partnered?Flirting Woes, Kansas City, MOHello Flirting Woes,I know exactly what you went through, especiallyif you’re single and easy, I mean easilythrown by the kindness of strangers. Pumpkin,I think I can help with:a&egoqnotes.com/to/artsTrinity’sSly Tips ForFinding Out IfYou’re DatingA Married Or Single Man1. If he invites you to dinner 100 miles awayfrom where he lives, married!2. If he says, “I only have e-mail, I don’t havea cellphone,” married3. If he plays hard to get with an attitude,single.4. If he plays eager to get with a nervoustwitch, married.5. If his forth finger on his left hand has asun burn in the shape of ring, married anddeceptive!6. If he says, “I’d like to invite you to a party,”single.7. If he says, “I don’t like parties or I’m afraidof crowds,” married and/or psychotic!8. If he says, “I don’t talk about my relationshipsuntil after a few dates,” married oran FBI agent!9. If he says, “I’m married, but we’re notsleeping together, married and trouble!10. Lastly, if he says, “I live in the suburbs ina big house with two dogs,” married ormarriage material. You’ll have to find outfor yourself! : :info:With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinityhosted “Spiritually Speaking” a weekly radio dramaperformed globally and is now minister of sponsor,WIG: Wild Inspirational Gatherings, wigministries.org. Learn more at telltrinity.com.16 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013


out in the starsby Charlene Lichtenstein :: qnotes contributorMarch 15 - 28a&egoqnotes.com/to/artsThe Sun pushes into energetic Aries andeven the laziest of us can feel a caffeinated,creative spurt. The secret to your successis to keep focused on your goals. Rev yourengines as the energy ramps up over the nextfew weeks.ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams have a ratherunorthodox way of forging first impressionsand seem more exotic to others now. Maybeit’s the flowing scarves, maybe it’s yourtattooed head. Whatever fashion statementyou decide to make, wear it with confidence.Strangers will seem to understand your needto dress in cellophane and chiffon and willbring the scotch tape and stapler.TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Gay Bulls are inspiredto get involved in community outreach. Youwant to make your personal mark for a worthyspring fling. And now, everyone wants to getinto the act. Don’t consider it an infringement:The more the merrier! It is amazing whata little creative thinking and a brat pack ofvolunteers can achieve. Who will be the bestand who will be bratwurst?GEMINI (05.22-06.21) If you are suddenlythrust into the social epicenter, claim yourfame now. Everyone wants to include youin their plans. Survey the menu and takeyour choice. It all seems too good to be true.Compadres want to play, but balance off yourplatonic pastimes with partnership needs.Pink Twins may be pulled in two differentdirections. Hey, whatever turns you on.CANCER (06.22-07.23) This time period providesa bushel and a peck of strategic careermoves that are inspired and right on. You seewhat is happening above and below the surfaceand intuitively make the right decisionsat the right time. Add all of this to your careerplans and gay Crabs become a force withwhom to be reckoned. Grab the key to the corneroffice. Demand your rightful due.LEO (07.24-08.23) This is a perfect time forall proud Lions to escape to wild and woolyfaraway destinations. The question is just howwild and wooly do you want to get? You arehighly stressed now. How about somethingdreamily romantic and fabulously luxuriousinstead? Recharge and pamper both you andyour better half. Add cream and whip it up intoa frenzied froth.VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Sex holds you in itsspell and you are mesmerized. Is it safe forfresh queer Virgins to drift a few feet off theground? Only if they can avoid falling into theboiling cauldron and becoming just anotherquick snack. This time period brings all thiszesty activity to any creative enterprise.Resolve to add more fun to your life. We surecould use that.LIBRA (09.24-10.23) The fates add a hopelesslyromantic rose-colored tinge to all relationships.Proud Libras are in love with love. Butwill mere mortals measure up? Don’t rush totopple the applecart of domestic harmonybased on a careless offhand remark. Beforeyou find yourself yearning for applesauce,remember to let actions speak louder andprouder than words.SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Queer Scorps feel invinciblenow. Will you be tempted to over-eat,over-drink and generally over-indulge? Youmay not know when enough is enough andyou’re tempted to go for the gusto at every opportunity.Regulate and modulate. Even take iteasy in your exercise regimen. Many musclescan also be over-indulged. Most, but not all,of course.SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Fun has a wayof getting dreamy, creamy and totally out ofhand. Lucky you. A gay Archer parties witha vengeance and becomes the one to seeand the one to be seen. You may find yourselfplaced in lucky circumstances where you canmake even your wildest dreams come true.You add zip to your hard drive. But, are youworking with the latest operating system?CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Pink Caps won’t beable to contain themselves. Suddenly, you arean open book with all of your fears, secretsand hidden passions sprawled out therewhere everyone can see them. A weight hasbeen lifted! Catharsis! Make the most of thisfreedom, especially around family and closefriends. And, hurry — the planets will soonmove on and the world can’t wait.AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Seemingly small, offthe cuff comments cause a nuclear explosionand can forever alter your life course.Good thing. Frankly, your social life needs abit of jump start. Chalk up the ensuing chainof events to the fates which give Aqueeriansa combination of great confidence and prescience.Jump into the social swim, put yourbest moves into motion and don’t get seasick.PISCES (02.20-03.20) Money issues combinewith burning career needs now. If you feellike your bottom line doesn’t measure up, adda little zest to your conservative green salad.This is the time to do your fiscal homeworkand invest in gay-friendly ventures. As youamass your personal fortune, it will be easierto claw your way to the top of the professionalheap. Are you on top yet? : :© 2013 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC.All Rights Reserved. Entertainment.info: Visit TheStarryEye.com fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry.My book “HerScopes: A Guide To AstrologyFor Lesbians” from Simon & Schuster isavailable at bookstores and major booksites.daily news, blog postsand lgbt communityevent listingsSign up for our weeklye-newsletter: goqnotes.com/subsgoqnotes.comMarch 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 17


Drag Ragcontinued from page 14South Central Shae Shae LaReese with RUsSunny Dee Lite and Sasha Andrews. Saywhat? I guess Miss Shae Shae had reallyshowed out on that night. All right, sis! Also,the newest Miss NC is Macaria Rage and herRU is Aida (maybe Ieeta?) Addams. Congratsto Jamie Monroe on her relinquishing thecrown! Diva!Where the Classic prelims are concerned,my good sister Miss Layla LaRue is in and outof the airports these days, reigning elegantlyover prelims like Miss Pennsylvania, whichVictoria Lace won with RU Morgan Wells;Lonestar, Edna Jean Robinson and RU SybilAnn Storm; Arkansas, Adrian Keriocus andRU Lisa Laws; Arizona, Marina Del Rayand RU Lady Ashley; South Central, thelovely Denise Mykels and equally gorgeousAmy DeMilo; Kansas, TeeKee LaRue withrunners-up Mackenzie Carmichael andBrittney Brooks; and Oklahoma, former EOYRoxie Hart with RUs Martinique Bouvier andShantel Mandalay. Miss Layla, if Edna Jean iscompeting, I wanna judge! I’d like to see thattalent, damn!Finally, just a few qualifiers for the MissNewcomer U.S.ofA. contest: Arizona, AdrianaGalliano with RU Malina Rae; South CentralStates, Vivica Perry and RU Kai Lee Mykels;and Kansas, Aria Crawford with runners-upEartha Quake and Ginger Rose Carmichael.I’ll close with a few local tidbits. MissCharlotte America was held a few weeks agoat Scorpio and I must tell you how proud I wasof our Miss NC Ariel Knight-Addams. Evenwith a cast on her foot, she exuded class andsophistication and embodied our local “Symbolof Excellence.” I hear she may be planning a tripback to Miss Gay America in the near future.I certainly wish her the best. That night, theMouth of The South and one of the original goodtime girls Valarie Rockwell won and her RUwas Brittney O’Bryan. I am thrilled for Valariewho has come a long way in just a few shortyears and has really come into her own. To myknowledge, no one has held the Miss Scorpioand Miss Charlotte titles at the same time sinceRenee Rollins back in 1993. Way to go, girlfriend!I still say that Honey Boo Boo presentationat Miss Scorpio was a riot! Call your Aunta&egoqnotes.com/to/artsRee, gal — she wants to congratulate you!In closing, I dedicate this column to AshleyAlexander, a sweet queen from Hickory, NCwho performed and judged back in the dayand competed at Miss Gay America. She wonMiss East Coast America at Scorpio years agoand did “Baby, I Can Cook” complete with adiner counter on stage. It was fabulous! I willmiss this queen — she was a “good egg” asthe old saying goes. : :info: Drop me a line, OK?TheTeaMissD@yahoo.com18 qnotes March 15-28 . 2013


March 16 • CharlotteSt. Patrick’s DayJoin thousands of Charlotteans for annual St.Patrick’s Day festivities, including the paradeand Charlotte Goes Green Festival in UptownCharlotte. For more detailed information, visitcharlottestpatsday.com. If you’re in the moodfor some Irish-themed fun before officialfestivities kick off on Saturday, check out BuffFaye’s “Get Lucky?! St. Patty’s Day FridayNight Party Bus.” More details and tickets atallbuff.eventbrite.com.Stay tuned to goqnotes.com for more informationon upcoming St. Patrick’s Day events andactivities in the Queen City.March 16 • CharlotteSexy St. Patty’sL4 Lounge hosts a special St. Patrick’s Dayparty for the ladies. 2906 Central Ave. Freebefore 11 p.m. $5 after. Doors open at 9 p.m.March 16 • CharlottePINK Pre-PartyTakeover Friday hosts a pre-party welcomingPINK to Charlotte. Pop in for drinks and lightappetizers before the concert at Time WarnerCable Arena. Hyatt House Charlotte CenterCity, 435 E. Trade St. 6-8 p.m. Free.takeoverfriday.com.March 19 • CharlotteGreek NightThe Charlotte Business Guild hosts a night tomeet, chat and get to know more about Pan-Hellenic, collegiate and non-collegiate fraternitiesand sororities. Dinner provided by theRoaming Fork. The Bar at 316, 316 RensselaerAve. charlottebusinessguild.org.Sing it out!March 30 • CharlotteBig Gay SingThe Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte joins with over 100 performers from a variety of groups like theCharlotte Pride Band, Charlotte Roller Girls, Charlotte Royals Rugby Team, Southern Country Charlotte,Time Out Youth and others for “The Big Gay Sing.” Halton Theater, Central Piedmont CommunityCollege. 8:04 p.m. $20-30. gmccharlotte.org.March 20 • CharlotteHIV SupportDifferent Roads Home hosts a men’s HIV supportgroup with a goal to focus on individualsthat are HIV positive, how they can live a positivelifestyle and interact and connect withother positive people. Meetings will often betopic driven, encouraging healthy behaviorsfrom eating habits to dating. Different RoadsHome, 15905 Brookway Dr., Suite 4203. 6:30-7:30 p.m. 704-237-8793.differentroadshome.org.March 22 • CharlotteSpaghetti FundraiserSouthern Country Charlotte hosts a spaghettidinner fundraiser before their monthly barndance. Spaghetti, salad, bread, tea and waterserved. Wine available. $10 donation suggested.LGBT Community Center of Charlotte,2508 N. Davidson St. 8-9:30 p.m. Afterward,join the group for their monthly barn dance atHartigan’s Irish Pub, 601 S. Cedar St. 10 p.m.southerncountrycharlotte.com.March 22 • CharlotteColors ExhibitThe LGBT Community Center of Charlotteholds its opening reception for its exhibit,“The Colors Exhibit,” concluding the year-longphotography Colors Project sponsored by theCenter and Charlotte Gay & Lesbian Fund.LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 2508 N.Davidson St. 7-10 p.m. gaycharlotte.com.March 22 • CharlottePretty in Pink FarewellTime Out Youth hosts a variety show andpotluck to say farewell to departing youthservices director Laurie Pitts. Time Out Youth,1900 The Plaza. 6:30 p.m. timeoutyouth.org.March 23 • CharlotteMicah’s RuleChristian gospel vocal trio Micah’s Rule,comprised of a gay man, lesbian womanand transgender woman, hold a concert atMetropolitan Community Church of Charlotte,1825 Eastway Dr. 7 p.m. micahsrule.com.March 26 • CharlotteYouth Host Home ProgramTime Out Youth’s Host Home Program isdesigned to assist LGBTQ homeless anddisplaced youth. Shelters and other emergencyhousing options are not always safefor LGBTQ youth and space is limited, leavingyouth on the streets. Learn more about theprogram and how to get involved at thisinformation session. LGBT Community Centerof Charlotte, 2508 N. DavidsonSt. 7-8 p.m. Free.gaycharlotte.org. timeoutyouth.org.For more informationemail Sarah Alwran,Time Out Youth’s director ofyouth services, at salwran@timeoutyouth.org.March 29 • CharlotteWe Are PrideCharlotte Pride teams up withsponsor The Scorpio for a benefit night raisingfunds for this year’s 2013 Charlotte PrideFestival. A portion of entry fees and your donationswill benefit Charlotte Pride. Featuringshows from former Miss Charlotte Pride titleholders. The Scorpio, 2301 Freedom Dr. DoorsQeventsgoqnotes.com/qguide/events10 p.m., showtime Midnight. thescorpio.com.charlottepride.org.April 6 • CharlotteAmazing Race Bar CrawlSupporting AIDS Walk Charlotte. Cost is $150per team. For more information or to register,visit barsagainstaids.org.April 13 • CharlotteWalk for AIDSHouse of Mercy hosts its 20th annual Walk forAIDS, raising awareness and funds for Houseof Mercy’s services. For more information,entry and support, visit thehouseofmercy.org.April 19-21 • CharlotteQueen City StompSouthern CountryCharlotte presentsits annual QueenCity Stomp, withweekend dancelessons, eveningparties andtheir Saturday“Cattle CallBall” fundraiserfor the LGBTCommunity Centerof Charlotte, One Voice Chorus and Time OutYouth. Main events at Hartigan’s Irish Pub, 601S. Cedar St., and host hotel Residence Inn, 404S. Mint St.For registration and more information visit,queencitystomp.com.Submit your event toour new calendar!You can submit your event to a special comprehensive community calendar presented by qnotes, the LGBTCommunity Center of Charlotte and Visit Gay Charlotte. Submit your event at goqnotes.com/eventsubmit/ and get athree-for-one entry. All Charlotte-area events will appear on each of the three calendars at qnotes (goqnotes.com),the LGBT Center (gaycharlotte.com) and Visit Gay Charlotte (visitgaycharlotte.com).March 15-28 . 2013 qnotes 19


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