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insideJune 23-July 6, 2012Vol 27 No 04Photo Credit: Peter Salanki via flickr.Licensed under Creative Comons.connectgoqnotes.comtwitter.com/qnotescarolinasfacebook.com/qnotescarolinasSign up for our weekly emailnewsletter at goqnotes.com.contributors this issueO’Neale Atkinson, Paige Braddock,Rosendo Brown, Matt Comer, EvaHayward, Charlene Lichtenstein,Lainey Millen, Leslie Robinson,David Stout, Trinityfront pageGraphic Design by Lainey MillenIllustration Credit: Gil Croynews & features6 News Notes: Regional Briefs7 Mural project to hit Plaza-Midwoodopinions & views4 Editor’s Note4 General Gayety13 QPoll9 Transilluminationscharlotteobserver.com/1166/a local news partner ofThe Charlotte Observera&e / life&style5 20 Questions10 Love is love11 On the map12 Tell Trinity13 kuhl-er-fuhl language17 Out in the Stars18 Fabulance18 Jane’s World19 Q events calendar7Material in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2012 and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability —for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x207 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.68631013Editor: O’Neale Atkinsonx202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stouteditor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millenx205 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.June 23-July 6 . 2012 qnotes 3


VIEWSeditor’s noteTrust me, I will see you around!by o’neale atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comWell folks, this has been quite an experience getting to serve as editorfor qnotes. Even though it has only been five months, I have really enjoyedmy time here and want to thank all of you for putting up with me during myrun. I am thrilled to be a part of the North Carolina LGBT community andam so excited to continue my efforts with the LGBT Community Center ofCharlotte on a full-time basis.Trying to serve as both the part-time editor for qnotes and administrator for the Center hasbeen a rewarding, albeit exhausting, experience. In this short time, I have been able to makemany connections with people and groups that I know will strengthen my ability to better servethe LGBT community in Charlotte as I move forward. Having moved from South Carolina only ayear ago with the intention of focusing my career toward advocating for the LGBT community,this experience has been an incredible opportunity for me.I want to thank the staff of qnotes and White Rabbit for making me immediately feel rightat home and for supporting me as I learned (and still am learning) the ropes here at the paper.I also want to thank my board members at the Center for also supporting me and working withme. Over the past year they have put a lot of faith in me and I am grateful that they want meto be the person to run the Center on a full-time basis. I know with their support and with thesupport of the community, we can continue to increase the presence of the LGBT community inCharlotte and across the Carolinas.I would especially like to thank Matt Comer for being such an advocate for the North CarolinaLGBT community. Prior to my working at qnotes, Matt was a regular at the Center and worked withour Pride committee, as well as MeckPAC and other Center events. Throughout my time here atthe paper, Matt has continued to provide support and insight when I needed it. I appreciate all hehas done and know that he will continue to serve the community well with his return to qnotes.And so, I return the position of editor to the more-than-capable hands of Matt Comer. I lookforward to seeing qnotes, the Center and the LGBT community as a whole continue to grow aswe move forward.I encourage you to send me your thoughts and ideas on how the Center can expand its impactin the Charlotte community and be a well-rounded resource for programming, activities or events.Please feel free to reach out to me via email at centeradministrator@gaycharlotte.com. : :What was old is new againby matt comer :: matt@goqnotes.comIt was just five months ago that I wrote my last “Editor’s Note” for thisnewspaper. At the time, I found myself at a crossroads. I had served as editorof North Carolina’s LGBT community newspaper for nearly four-and-a-halfyears. A new opportunity had come my way; one I truly believed, at the time,was best for me and for the organization to which I would offer my service.In the short time since, I’ve had the utmost pleasure and distinct privilegeto work with Campus Pride, the Charlotte-based, leading national non-profit organizationfor student leaders and campus groups working to create safer and more inclusive college anduniversity campuses for LGBT students, faculty and staff. My time there gave me the opportunityto work with a wide and diverse variety of organizations, people and national media organizations.Yet, something was amiss. The deep, long yearning that I felt for community service andcommunity journalism was too strong a pull. And, so, here I am, penning yet another column foryou as both former and now-incoming editor of qnotes.My time away from this editor’s chair has been short, but it has been time enough to learnwhere I find my truest personal and professional passion. I am deeply committed to honest, objectiveand relevant community journalism. I hope you will welcome my second tenure as editorof your community newspaper, where I might strive to provide voice to the important issues thataffect each and every person in our LGBT community.I wish current editor O’Neale Atkinson well in his future endeavors at The LGBT CommunityCenter of Charlotte. I know that he will continue the work he did at this paper in uniting our localcommunity and bringing voice to a variety of diverse viewpoints and persons. I am humbledto return, as of June 18, to my former position as editor and follow in the footsteps of O’Neale.I look forward to continued partnerships with him and the Center in creating a stronger, moreunited local community.I hope you will wish O’Neale congratulations on this, his last issue as editor of qnotes. I alsourge you to continue your support of important community organizations like Campus Pride, whoserve our young people — the key to our community’s future growth and success.I look forward to what we can do together. As always, I am open to your comments,concerns and suggestions. This newspaper and the content in its printed and online pages areyours. I am proud to be, once more, at your service. : :general gayetyby leslie robinsonqnotes contributorAdding to theChristian splutterings‘Tis the season of ministerial ravings. The world has heardPastor Sean Harris urge parents to punch effeminate sons, PastorCharles Worley advocate putting gays in concentration campsand Pastor Curtis Knapp suggest the government kill gays.What the world hasn’t heard is an equivalent rant from theother side. Time to change that. What follows is a sermon I’vewhipped up for use by any Metropolitan Community Church(MCC) pastor.Friends, in the time allotted to me this morning I’m going topreach on an uncomfortable subject. It’s something we don’t wantto think about, let alone talk about. But, I would be abandoning myduty as your spiritual shepherd if I didn’t face it head on.Heterosexuality.Oh, I see you crinkling your noses in distaste. I get it,brothers and sisters, believe you me. But, we can’t hideour heads in the sand and pretend it doesn’t exist.Heterosexuality is all around us.Openly straight people are in the military. Openlystraight people are in the government. They’re all overHollywood. These days they think they can do anything.But, we won’t let them. And, you know why? It’s notjust because straights do icky things. Although that’sbad enough. George, can you imagine kissing a woman?Betty, can you imagine kissing a man? Yuck. And, whatstraight people do in bed makes me want to vomit.No, the reason we must stamp out heterosexuality is simple:It’s wrong. It’s immoral. It’s not God’s way. How do I know that?Jesus had only male disciples! If that’s not a clear message thatmen and women are supposed to stay apart, I don’t know what is.But, heterosexuals mock Jesus. They spit on God’s plan.They choose that abominable straight lifestyle instead. Theyopenly and wantonly cavort with each other. They hold 4th ofJuly parades and flaunt their seersucker shorts. They recruit!When I think of all the poor lesbian and gay children who’vebeen lured onto the sinful path of straightness, I cry.I tell you, one day God will turn Nantucket and Martha’sVineyard into pillars of salt! But, he will bless Provincetown!Brothers and sisters, what can we do to aid the Lord’swork? First, we must root out the devil in our midst. Some of youhave confessed to me that you are, yes, straight. Calm down,everyone. We are Christians, so we shall love the sinner.It’s our duty to help these sinners get right with God. So,I’m announcing today that this MCC church will launch exstraightgroups. We have plenty of former Catholic nuns to runthe women’s ex-straight group and the Sisters of PerpetualIndulgence have volunteered to facilitate the men’s group. Maythe spirit of the Lord be upon you all as you enter into this difficultand critical work.That’s not all that we have to tackle here on the home front.I now turn to the parents among us with a truth that must bespoken: Far too many of our beautiful children are turningstraight. I know you’ve tried your best and I know evil societalforces undermine you.But, you’re obviously doing something wrong.If you want to do God’s will, you must produce gay kids. It’sthat simple. Please, look at your parenting. Figure out whereyou’re going wrong. If your son starts to show an unhealthyinterest in girls, knock him into next week.If you don’t, he could wind up in a concentration camp forstraights. So, for his sake, your sake and the sake of this greatnation, model God’s love by whacking him silly.Go in peace. Amen. : :info: lesarobinson@gmail.com . generalgayety.comSUBSCRIBE!These rates only cover a portion of our true cost,however, our goal is to serve our communityMailed 1st class from Charlotte, NC, in sealed envelope.Subscription Rates: ☐ 1 yr - 26 issues = $48 ☐ 1/2 yr - 13 issues = $34Mail to: P.O. 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LIFE20 QuestionsJanice Covington, Charlotteby David Stout :: david@goqnotes.comJanice has been an out and proud transactivist for 42 of her 65 years. In the farshorter time that 20 Questions has knownher — did we mention far shorter? — wehave been admirers of both her involvementand her fashion sense (which, with all duerespect to the woman Janice claims as herpersonal style icon, we believe was mostheavily influenced by Mrs. Johnson of HarperValley). She has been a guest speaker atmany universities and Pride events acrossthe country through the years and is nowbecoming increasingly influential in the NorthCarolina Democratic Party. Get crossdressedto impress, boys and girls, and then read onto learn more about this amazing LGBT advocate.Take it away, ho…er, Janice.Do you own a rolling pin?Yes, I own four of them — three to throw andone to chase with. I keep them above mybuilt-in oven so they are handy to get at.What variety was the last piece of snail mailyou sent out?I guess it was my Christmas cards because Iam old-fashioned and still love to send them.To me, Christmas cards are a message of loveto friends and family. I think with the internetmany have lost this beautiful part of Christmas.Which one of these effeminate music superstarswould have made the prettiest woman:Little Richard, Michael Jackson, MickJagger or Prince?Hands down, Michael Jackson. His charismaand femininity radiated through in everythinghe did. I think he would have made a verypretty woman.What types of sports related balls are in yourhome right now?Only the softball signed by my team in 1997,the year we won the class AAAA NationalChampionship in Lakeland, Fla.Do you more enjoy crossword, word searchor sudoku puzzles?I very seldom play word games, to be honest,because I am writing all the time. It’s kind of likebeing a donut baker and eating donuts 24/7.What I do enjoy is feeding wild geese, playingwith my two dogs, music and bass fishing.How do these films, which all feature a transcharacter, rank based on the number of timesyou’ve seen them: “The Crying Game,” “DogDay Afternoon,” “Transamerica” “The WorldAccording To Garp”?Well, “Transamerica” is the only one of thoseI’ve seen and it was terrible because theyused a real woman rather than a transgenderto play the main character. I was very disappointed.I do love movies that I can fall asleepto, though. LOL!Which U.S. city that you haven’t been towould you most like to visit?New Orleans. Specifically, I would love toattend Mardi Gras just one time in my life.From what I’ve seen on television, it looks soexciting and I would love to be a part of it.What is your favorite perfume and yourfavorite cologne?It’s my signature Chanel in both cases. Whenwearing it I get many compliments and attentionfrom men. If any admirer is reading this,Chanel is the way to my heart.Do you know how to play chinese checkers?Not really, but I love chess and many otherboard games. Anything that I can be competitiveat, I’m willing to play. Oh, if you don’t liketo lose, don’t play me. LOL!How would you finish the sentence:“Pantyhose must surely have beeninvented by…”?I’d say “a man” because I don’t think therewas much thought given for comfort.When was the last time you washed yourvehicle by hand?About two weeks ago. I love to wear my onepiecebathing suit while washing my car. Iimagine the neighborhood husbands get beatby their wives when they get caught peepingover the fence. LOL!Would it be more fun to have a three-waywith Sam and Diane, Rebecca and Carla orNorm and Cliff?It would depend on my mood because I havean acquired taste for all. My philosophy iswhy just be one sided — try it all you mightlike it.M&M’s, Reese’s Pieces or Whoppers?I love M&M’s. Yummy!What is your most unusual source of fearor unease?I don’t really have any unusual ones. A realisticone would be two Bubbas looking at melike they wanted to beat me up. I have had thishappen, but I still stand my ground.How much of a flirt are you?Big time! I love to show my femininity throughmy style of dress — though I sometimesforget to cross my legs. I have been remindedmany times by my sisters, but they have finallygiven up. Janice is Janice. LOL!If you’re sitting on your couch relaxing, whatbeverage are you sipping on?A Rolling Rock. I’ve found with getting olderthat my taste has changed, but I still loveTiffany Storms and strawberry daiquiris, too.Who’s the sexiest “David” of all time?David Beckham, of course. His British accentdrives me nuts. I think he is a hottie!Were you a good hula hoop-er asa youngster?Yes. I grew up in the ’50s when hula hoopsfirst hit the block. I must say I was good atit. I did it last on stage at Triad Pride just fouryears ago but only got two times aroundbefore it fell to my ankles.Would you rather have a bird in your hand orhave two birds in your bush?I would rather have a bird in my hand. I amgetting up in my years so I’m afraid two birdsmight be confusing. ::June 23-July 6 . 2012 qnotes 5


NEWSLGBT Community Center art project to make itsmark at gateway to Plaza-MidwoodLocal LGBT artists’ work will cover White Rabbit with a message of love, equality and peace to celebrate diversityof the LGBT-friendly Plaza-Midwood neighborhoodby O’Neale Atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comThe LGBT Community Center of Charlotte and White Rabbitare working with local LGBT artists to create a landmark muralon Central Ave. at the forefront of Plaza-Midwood. With fundingfrom a Charlotte Lesbian & Gay Fund Community Connectionsgrant, the project entitled “Our Lives, Our Culture, Our Time” isscheduled to begin on June 30 following the anniversary of thehistoric 1969 Stonewall Riots in New York City.Local artist Gil Croy is responsible for the design of themural which focuses on a message of love, equality andpeace. The mural also seeks to bring visibility to the LGBTcommunity in Charlotte. Croy will work with other localLGBT artists and volunteers to complete the project whichis slated to be finished prior to the Democratic NationalConvention in September.“I am honored to be able to work with the LGBT CommunityCenter of Charlotte and White Rabbit in crafting this first pieceof public artwork by and for the city’s LGBT community,” saidCroy. “I know my vibrant and colorful mural will proudly representthe diversity of Charlotte’s LGBT community.”Croy was featured in the March 17 issue of qnotes as washis human canvas art project. The Charlotte Lesbian and GayFund recently awarded the Center a Community Connectionsgrant which will help to fund the continued works of Croy andthe LGBT art committee at the Center. The goal of Croy and hiswork is to bring the LGBT community out into the public eye aswell as offer local LGBT artists a means through which they canexpress themselves and support their community.Recently Croy and other local LGBT artists created smallermurals which are currently on display at the Center. Localartist Carlleena Person was involved with this project and hassince passed away. Person’s designs can be seen throughoutthe city and her artistic vision and compassionate spirit aregreatly missed by the local LGBT art committee since herpassing. In honor of her passion for the LGBT community andthe arts, Croy has decided to honor her in the painting of themural on White Rabbit.“I believe the moment we start working on this mural itwill help to pull the community together” states Croy. “We, asa community, have nothing here that really pulls us together. Iam hoping that this mural will help to break down the barrierswithin our own community and help build unity amongst LGBTpeople here in Charlotte. We need something that is uniquelyCarlleena Person’s mural on display at The LGBT Community Center of Charlotte.ours and I think this mural will bring attention to our communityin a positive light.”The mural will feature silhouettes of individuals, lesbian andgay couples, colorful divas and symbols to represent the LGBTcommunity, peace, equality and love. The palette for the mural?The whole rainbow of course!The location of the mural was selected for its significancewithin the local LGBT community. The mural will be paintedsee Mural on 18June 23-July 6 . 2012 qnotes 7


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VIEWStransilluminationsby eva haywardqnotes contributorNetworking marriage equalityWith the passing of Amendment 1, myFacebook feed has been flooded with reactions.Voter intimidation: One family held close asthey cast their ballot while protestors yelled,“homosexual marriage endangers children!”Fear about losing insurance: An unmarried,straight couple is unsure how they will pay theirmedical bills. Even a glance at Facebook tellsyou that heterosexual and same-sex couples,transgender and queer couples and childrenhave all been materially and emotionally affectedby the vote against equality.Through Facebook we share fragmentsfrom our lives: our likes, favorite pictures, politicalideals and whom we love. But, I don’t thinksocial media is a dystopian force that intensifiesour alienation. Facebook has made informationsticky by allowing us to trace the sources of thenews — connection, not disassociation.But, how has social media shaped our politicallives? Communication theorist MarshallMcLuhan famously taught us “the medium isthe message.” He meant that the devices weuse to get information — televisions, computers,iPhones — shape how we understandthat information. The “message,” for instance,of a newscast about same-sex marriage isless about the content than the change in attitudetoward gays and lesbians, because thestory is brought into the home.Hunched over my computer, fingeringa touchpad streaked with oily prints, I readabout President Barak Obama’s support of gaymarriage — Newsweek heralds him as “TheFirst Gay President” on the May cover. TheNewsweek cover troubles a Facebook friend;she reads it as conflating race and sexualityin order to mobilize racism and homophobia.Race has always been sexualized, andAfrican-American masculinity is often challenged.I “like” her comment.The Facebook “like” is a remarkabletechnology through which we become part ofthe production and dissemination of information.That tiny English word, “like,” builds outagreeable associations: How satisfying it feelswhen your post is liked, a part of the friendlyweb of updated statuses, “likes,” “shares”and “comments.”Another post questions the concentrationof political energy in support of marriage, aninstitution criticized by some LGBTQ communities.Attached to the post is Urvashi Vaid’s “StillAin’t Satisfied: The Limits of Equality,” in whichshe concludes that marriage equality will notgive gays and lesbians greater inclusion intocivic life — equality is not equivalent to justice.Just as racial and gender equalities have notresolved employment injustice or discrimination,nor will marriage solve homophobia andinstitutional heterosexism.I share, and add, “The rights and benefitsof marriage should be extended to all people,not only those who choose marriage. If rightsare not afforded to all citizens, then how ismarriage equality anything but a reinforcementof the regulatory power of the state tonormalize the form of family?”A friend comments, “Why should we prioritizemarriage equality over the urgent needs forreproductive rights, economic justice, anti-racistactivism, anti-imperialism, immigration rights,environmentalism and transgender equality?”That person attaches information fromthe 2009 National Transgender DiscriminationSurvey that finds 40 percent of transgenderpeople in the United States do not have healthinsurance and experience double the rateof unemployment as the general population.Transgender people face near universalharassment on the job and nearly half ofthose have come up against homelessnessand eviction. Why indeed should marriageequality be the prime concern of national LGBorganizations? I “like” this too.Some Facebook users remind their friendsthat North Carolina’s Amendment 1 is aboutmore than same-sex marriage. Sponsors ofthe amendment intended to strengthen theRepublican stronghold in North Carolina byforcing wedges between communities. In aswing state, the ability to fracture politicalalliances is necessary to win. Case in point.Predominately white pro-Amendment organizationshelped marshal stereotypes that African-American communities are disproportionatelyhomophobic, capitalizing on racial tensions.Nevertheless, Facebook blooms with videosof African-American pastors proclaiming theimmorality of same-sex marriage. Frustrationsmount and friends post angry reminders thatNorth Carolina law still allows first cousinsto marry and that the last time North Carolinaamended its constitution on the subject of marriagewas to ban interracial marriage. Acrossuser pages, North Carolina is described as anincestuous backwater populated by Klan members,serving only to reinforce class divides,particularly rural and urban divides, while veilingthe real forces behind the Amendment.The quick turnover of Facebook, its realtimeinvolvement and the shortness of tagsand messages affect our conversations aboutAmendment 1. We comment on issues we onlyhave a general feel for, or sometimes re-sharewithout reading. Time is social, as is the lackof it. The heavy flow of stories causes today’snews to hastily recede into history, archivedonly in our Facebook timelines.Friends describe Facebook as a “timesuck.” Updated newsfeeds are so addictivethat people place “Self Control” applicationson their computers. Time is a nonrenewableresource or so Facebook teaches us.Connections are intensified, and interactionsmove faster and faster. Starved for time, we allfeel we never have enough time.Time is certainly nonrenewable fortransgender people without health insuranceor homes, or for children in North Carolinaafraid that their family is threatened. Time isrunning out on the 2012 presidential election.Like twigs and sticks caught in a springcurrent, social media rafts us together intonew solidarities — holy and unholy — in therapidly emptying channels of its newsfeed.Virtual time overtakes clock time to meet thedemands of flexible accumulation — 24/7 hasbecome our greatest export.We are now focused on equal rights forLGBT communities, but it seems to me thatour next social justice movement has to betemporal justice: The right to unscheduledtime, down time and creative time.As for marriage equality, it is only a matterof time. : :June 23-July 6 . 2012 qnotes 9


LIFELove is loveA look at the history of the B in our LGBT communityby O’Neale Atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comAs we continue our celebration of LGBT Pride month,let’s take a closer look at one of the sub-groups withinour community that is often ignored, misunderstood orrejected. Despite their seemingly less visible presence,the bisexual community has been a part of the gay rightsmovement in the United States since its early historyin the 1960s and 1970s. Even though they share a longhistory within the LGBT community, there seems to bea visible disconnect between the B and the rest of ourcommunity.Historically, we see signs of the bi communitydistinguishing themselves as a sub-group of the LGBTcommunity in American media as early as the 1970swhen the “Ithaca Statement on Bisexuality” by theQuaker Committee of Friends on Bisexuality appearedin The Advocate in 1972. During this time, most mediafocus on the bi community remained on the club sceneand on bisexual celebrities and affiliated bisexuals withheterosexual swingers despite the bi community’s activeinvolvement with the gay rights movement.The need for bisexual specific organizations andresources grew throughout the late 1970s and 1980s asbisexual men and women were being isolated from thegay and lesbian communities, as well as the straight communityafter coming out. During the mid to late 1970s, organizationsand resources began to spring up across thecountry including the San Francisco Bisexual Center, theNational Bisexual Liberation Group and New York City’s BiForum. Bisexual organizations were influenced greatly bystrong female leaders who associated a bisexual identitywith feminist ideologies and can be seen in the creationof organizations like the Bisexual Women’s Network ofSeattle and Boston in the 1980s. During the 1987 march onWashington for gay and lesbian rights, the first nationalbisexual organization was formed named The NorthAmerican Bisexual Network.Despite their active history within the LGBT community,there tends to be a great deal of misunderstanding aboutwhat identifying as bisexual means to those who do not considerthemselves bi. These misunderstandings, and just general misinformationabout bisexuality, lead to social stigma placed uponbisexuals both from the straight and gay community.So, what exactly defines someone as a bisexual?Bisexuality refers to an individual who identifies as being attractedsexually and emotionally to both men and women. To bebisexual does not mean that you have to be equally attractedto both sexes, nor does it mean that you have to be attracted toboth sexes simultaneously.Words like greedy, indecisive and hypersexual often arewrongly associated with the bisexual community. While they maybe true for some members of the bi community, they can also betrue for anyone regardless of sexual orientation and should notbe used to generalize an entire portion of the LGBT community.Some of these misunderstandings can arise from the factthat no one can be recognized as being bisexual unless theyoutright identify as bi. Bisexual individuals, when viewed withtheir current partner, could be perceived as simply eitherstraight or gay if they do not state that they are bisexual. Thismakes understanding who is bi at-a-glance much more difficultand therefore can make identifying the bi community achallenge. This perception has allowed for members of the bicommunity to remain invisible if they choose, shifting betweenidentifying as either straight or gay as they enter into relationships.This inability to identify members of the bi community isfurther made evident by the lack of statistical data we haveabout bisexuality. A report from the National Center for HealthStatistics in 2002 reported that only 1.8 percent of men and2.8 percent women age 18-44 identified as being bisexual.Other studies indicate a range of percentages higherand lower than these numbers, but the data varies justas much as does each study’s definition of the wordbisexual. Also, as with the rest of the gay community,statistics are only able to reflect based on the numberof people who openly identify as LGBT and can not accuratelytake into account individuals who are closeted,unsure or questioning.According to a recent report from the Gay andLesbian Alliance Against Defamation (GLAAD), a reportin the Journal of Bisexuality indicates that stereotypesplaced upon the bisexual community can negativelyimpact the mental, physical and sexual health of anindividual. This causes some individuals to mirror theiridentified sexual orientation based on their most recentor current partner’s sex. In their article, GLAAD challengesmedia sources to be more inclusive of the bisexualcommunity and to more accurately reflect the voice ofbisexuals within the LGBT community.Much like the development of the transgendercommunity, the internet has served as an invaluableresource for members of the bisexual community tocommunicate with one another across the world andhas developed a thorough online bisexual community.In 1990 The North American Bisexual Network becameBi-Net, a non-profit organization which created a wayfor establishing a cohesive bi community across thecountry. Their website remains one of the most thoroughresources for bisexual individuals to find local bi organizationsand communities.While online resources like Bi-Net, Facebook andmessage boards offer a virtual way for the bisexualcommunity to link up with one another across the world,there is a small physical presence of the bisexual community,especially in North Carolina. When looking for localstate resources there are little to no physical groupswhich can be easily found to participate in and join.Even LGBT community centers in North Carolinaseem to lack groups or programming that specifically targetthe bi community. For example, The LGBT Community Center ofCharlotte hosts a male support group, a lesbian social organizationand two transgender support groups but currently hasno active bisexual organization or group which utilizes theirresources. The Center has attempted to develop a group for thebi community twice in the past year, but has been unsuccessfulin their attempts to solidify a meeting or event.By understanding how all of the LGBT community fitstogether through our beliefs, our history and our individualexperiences, we can better unify as a true community. Each ofthe subgroups which make up our community, when workingtogether and visible, make us stronger and allow us to moreeffectively work toward the goal of ending discrimination basedon who we love. : :Immigration Explained!The Guild’s very own “out”Immigration Law Judge Barry Pettinato on:President Obama’s New Deportion PolicyIts effect on your business/job searchDOMA/LGBT asylum updateTuesday, July 17, 2012Venue/Reservations: www.charlottebusinessguild.orgwww.charlottebusinessguild.org10 qnotes June 23-July 6 . 2012


on the mapnightlifeSundayBarbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.The Sunday Social Spades/Card Games &House Muzik, Nickel Barfrom 5 p.m.-MidnightHouse Cast Show, The Scorpiowith DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshedfree dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.karaoke, 9 p.m.MondayMovie Night, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Monday Madness, Chaserspool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prizeand $25 bar tab.Boxing & Monday Night Football, SidelinesFree Pool, The Woodshedall day.TuesdayKaraoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Pool Tournament, Central StationTwisted Trivia, Chaserswith Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.Showtime at 12:30 a.m.Trivia Tuesdays, Marignyhosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.Midwood Madness, Petra’shalf-price bottles of wineKaraoke, The Woodshedstarts at 9 p.m.WednesdayGame Night, Bar at 316Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’sstarts at 8 p.m.Karaoke, Petra’shosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpiofeaturing Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.Pool Tournament, The Woodshedstarts at 10:30 p.m.ThursdayThursday Night House Party, Bar at 316Pool Tournament, Central StationRockin’ Well Thursdays, Chaserswith Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.Karaoke Night, Hartigan’shosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.Team Boystown, Marignystarts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.Drink-n-drown.SpeakEasy Thursday Open Mic Night,Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Karaoke Night, The Rainbow Infree for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.Underwear Night, The WoodshedFridayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.A-List Fridays, Marignyhosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.Feel Good Fridays Dance Night, Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Live Performances, Petra’sRoxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow Instarts at 11p.m.Life’s a Drag, The Scorpiowith Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.SaturdayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316The Angela Lopez Show, Chasersshow starts at 12:30 a.m.Live DJ, Hartigan’sKrewe Saturdays, MarignySexy Saturdays Special Events, Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Live Performances, Petra’sUrban Variety Show, The Scorpiowith Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.CongregationsMCC CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,7 p.m.New Life MCCWorship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.Monthly covered dish dinner andcoffeehouse-style worship service on the firstSunday of every month, 6 p.m.Unity Fellowship Church of CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of everymonth, 9 a.m.Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,7 p.m.CommunityThe LGBT Community Center of CharlottePromoting the diversity, acceptance andvisibility of the LGBT community throughprogramming and events.gaycharlotte.comWhite RabbitNorth Carolina’s LGBT everything store.Complete line of Pride merchandise, plusbooks, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwearand more.info: Don’t see your bar listed here?Submit your regularly scheduled events toeditor@goqnotes.comJune 23-July 6 . 2012 qnotes 11

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