May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes
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May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012

insideMay 26-June 8, 2012Vol 27 No 02812a&e / life&style5 20 Questions8 Drag, not just for queens anymore9 Playing the field12 Drag resurrected14 Ready, set, drag!15 Tell Trinity16 Out in the Stars18 On the map22 Fabulance22 Jane’s World23 Q events calendaropinions & views4 Editor’s Note4 General Gayety13 TalkBack4 QPoll14news & features6 News Notes: Regional Briefs10 411 on the local news partner ofThe Charlotte up for our weekly emailnewsletter at this issueO’Neale Atkinson, Paige Braddock,Rosendo Brown, Janice Covington, Jon Hoppel,Charlene Lichtenstein, Lainey Millen,Leslie Robinson, David Stout, Trinityfront pageGraphic Design by Lainey MillenPhoto Credit: Mathu Andersen & Mike BlizzardPride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222, ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x207 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media, 212.242.6863Editor: O’Neale Atkinson, x202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stout, editor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millen, x205 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.Material in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2012 and may not be reproduced in any manner withoutwritten consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability — for securingreprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads. The sexual orientationof advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. The appearance of namesor photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumes liability for typographicalerror or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed in staff editorials and editorialnotations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guest columnists do not necessarilyrepresent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannot take responsibility for its return.Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

VIEWSeditor’s noteby o’neale atkinsononeale@goqnotes.comBreaking the habit, sort ofFinding a compromise I can live withVIEWSgeneral gayetyby leslie robinsonqnotes contributorEmotions after a lesbian court battleI love to smoke. The whole ritual of smokinga cigarette has always been incredible tome. From packing a fresh pack of cigarettesand peeling away the cellophane to sparkingthe lighter and taking that first glorious inhale;for years there really has been nothing betterto me. Smoking has been a part of my dailyroutine for over a decade and one I literallythought I would take to the grave.Sure I know all of the negative side effectsof smoking and I still choose to do itdaily. Frankly, I always get annoyed whenpeople take the time to tell me that smokingis bad for my health. Anyone with an ounceof common sense should not need to be toldthat lighting something on fire near your faceand inhaling the smoke from it is a bad ideafor your health. We all have vices and theyall have consequences. Like everyone else, Iconsidered the consequences and chose toroll the dice.Despite all of the many reasons I lovesmoking, I will admit there is plenty that I don’tlike. The fact that my clothes, my home andmy vehicle always smell like smoke isn’t aproblem so long as you are a smoker and hangout with people who smoke, but for anyonewith a sense of smell it can be overpowering.Ashtrays are always annoying to keep cleanedout and there is always the risk of collateraldamage when a cigarette rolls out of theashtray and onto the coffee table (or into thefloorboard of your truck while driving). Not tomention the fabulous breath most smokerswake up with no matter how much you brushyour teeth and rinse. Seriously, if you don’tknow what I am talking about, be grateful!With all of that said, I want to say that Iam so proud of me right now! Actually, I amproud of my boyfriend, my roommate andmyself. All three of us have recently donesomething that I honestly never thought Iwould be able to do. We all decided to giveup smoking, well sort of. Smoking in thetraditional sense at least.For a while I have seen e-cigarettes beingsold in gas stations and I never once gavethem a second glance. Surely the taste wouldbe inferior or it wouldn’t have the oomph! Iwas looking for. Being the tobacco purist thatI thought I was, I simply had no interest intrying them.I came home two weeks ago to find myboyfriend using one of these clunky disposablee-cigarettes and was surprised to hear himspeaking so favorably of them. Our mutual loveof smoking is one of the many little reasons Iadore him. We had both talked about quittingsmoking for our health when we first starteddating, but neither of us really wanted to so wehad not made much progress. I decided thatthe next day when my current pack of cigarettesran out I would get one myself and see ifI could go all day without a real smoke.I didn’t even wait for my pack to run outbefore I went to the store and picked up amenthol e-cigarette of my own. It kind of feltlike sucking on a hi-lighter because of theawkward size of the device, but it completelydid the trick. Not once the entire day did Iconsider going for one of my real cigarettestucked away in the center console of mytruck. When I got home that night I found thatmy roommate also decided to join in on thee-cigarette experience.After trying out the disposables for afew days, we all ended up purchasing reale-cigarettes that recharge and resemble amore traditional cigarette in size and weight.Despite a sizeable initial investment, theopportunity for financial savings alone in thelong run is reason enough for me to never lookback. Not to mention, I can now enjoy many ofthe aspects I love about smoking and not haveto deal with some of the less attractive sidesof being a smoker.Sure, I am still taking in nicotine, but Iam not ingesting smoke, tar and the carcinogensfound in traditional cigarettes. Thesmoke I blow out now is a water vapor, so itdoesn’t offend anyone around me nor doesit produce some of the harms caused bysecond-hand smoke, although you will getsome funny looks the first time you exhale ina restaurant or bar.I just wanted to share this experience tomy fellow smokers out there, not to tell youwhat to do or that you should quit. If you arelike me that would just make you smoke twiceas much! I have found a way to have my cakeand eat it too, so to speak, and wanted toshare this alternative. Having smoked roughlya pack a day for 10 years I have made theswitch and I don’t plan on looking back! : :News item: When two Canadian lesbiansbroke up in 2006 they divided all their assets,but forgot about the 13 tubes of sperm theyhad stored in a sperm bank. Later one ofthe women re-partnered and asked to usethe leftover sperm, but her ex wanted itdestroyed.The first woman went to court to fight forsperm ownership and recently a judge ruledthe women should divide the sperm, just asthey had everything else.Let’s listen in as two figures directlyinvolved in the case react to the decision.Ernie: Finally.Harold: Yes, all this waiting around wasgetting me down. I think I was even losing mywill to swim.Ernie: Don’t worry, boy. Soon as theyunfreeze us, you’ll be off like a shot.Harold: I do hope so. I hope my tail feathersremember which way to go.Ernie: They will, but I gotta tell you, oncewe’re let loose, it’s every gamete for himself.I’m on a mission.Harold: Roger that, Rambo. Isn’t it amazing,Ernie, the path we’ve traveled? Why, wewere brought into this world during the lastmillennium!Ernie: By a guy with a dirty magazine.Harold: Oh, I don’t like to think of it thatway. A nice, sterile environment. A goodcause.Ernie: A decent check for him.Harold: Well, it beat landing on hissheets. Death by Clorox.Ernie: Yeah.Harold: We were transported in regalstyle, moved from the U.S. to Canada. We’reworld travelers, Ernie!Ernie: I suppose.Harold: Set up in lovely Vancouver. Thenthe moment of truth. Our brethren got one ofthose women pregnant. Two years later, herqpollpartner was pregnant, too. We’re small, butmighty. And, then…Ernie: …they forgot us. That’s gratitudefor you. Left us here to freeze our flagella off.Harold: It is kind of hard to figure outhow they forgot about 13 tubes of us. But,the whole drama brought us before — metaphoricallyspeaking — a British ColumbiaSupreme Court justice, so I feel prettyspecial.Ernie: You won’t feel special if we windup with the gal who wants to flush us downthe john.Harold: I choose to believe we’re goingwith the other woman, the one who wants toget pregnant again. And, for her I promise toswim like Mark Spitz.Ernie: She sure as heck went through alot to get us back. You know why, don’t you?Harold: Because we make childrenwho are smart, beautiful and not allergic topeanuts?Ernie: Because she wants the biologicalconnection to her other child and our guyisn’t making any more donations.Harold: He’s retired?Ernie: If I know him, his hand won’t stoptill his heart does, but he’s not doing it for payanymore.Harold: Wow. We really are special. Thelast in a glorious line. At the very least, afertile one.Ernie: Some people, you know, say thejudge is whacky to think of us as propertyand divide us. They say there’s a moral issue.I say I don’t freaking care. Just get me outof this sperm bank! Get me unfrozen! I haveplaces to go and people to impregnate!Harold: Right, Ernie! Absolutely! Get usout of this vial and into a turkey baster likenature intended! : . generalgayety.comHow often do you attend a drag show or event?See the options and vote:!These rates only cover a portion of our true cost,however, our goal is to serve our communityMailed 1st class from Charlotte, NC, in sealed envelope.Subscription Rates: ☐ 1 yr - 26 issues = $48 ☐ 1/2 yr - 13 issues = $34Mail to: P.O. 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LIFE20 QuestionsKevin Grooms aka Miss Della, Charlotteby David Stout :: david@goqnotes.comIf someone calls Kevin Grooms by thatname, the person is probably either checkinghis ID at the airport or trying to sell him lifeinsurance over the phone, because everybodyelse knows his real name is Della. Everybodyalso knows that the venerable Miss Dellais the Hedda Hopper of Drag and when youneed the crossdressed tea, she’s the queenbee-yotch. Pageant contestants, fans andpromoters from coast to coast slavishly followDella’s long-running qnotes column “The DragRag” to catch up on the latest news — alwaysdelivered with that singular Miss Della flourish.(Droll, party of one!)20 Questions has been a fan since wewere only half that many queries, and withthis issue’s drag cover story there wasn’t evena second choice for us. We went all in withthe ole gal and boygirl are we glad we did. OK,enough introduction for a legend who needsnone. Make like Della herself and sop this oneup with a biscuit. Damn, that’s good!How old were you when you bought yourfirst wig?Bought or wore? Bought was probably notuntil my mid-20s. I wore my first as a churchlady for Halloween in fourth grade. Ole girlwas kinda cute!How would you finish this sentence:“If I’m going to a church service, it must be______.”A wedding, a funeral or a Holy Day as I am an“unchurched” Roman Catholic.Is your bed currently dressed with cottonsheets, flannel sheets or silk sheets?Cotton from Springmaid — white with winecoloredborders. Couldn’t find purple, myfavorite color. Bitter, party of one!Who would you rather have as your housekeeper:Mr. Belvedere, Mrs. Garrett, NellHarper or Florence Johnston?Probably Mrs. Garrett, although I did loveme some Nell. Nell and Florence would readyour ass and I’m past those days. I do thereading now.Do you know how to play tiddlywinks?I cannot be bothered, but the name is fun atleast. It sounds British to me. I can’t even tellyou the last time I played jacks or hopscotch,so…What food are you craving right now?Watermelon earlier and that was resolved.Usually it’s ice cream. I also joke that I’mSouthern, where ice cream and ketchup areseparate food groups. Think about it.Is your ideal man more likelyto wear wing tips, sneakers,flip flops or Timberlands?More like work boots, but notTimberlands. Maybe sneakersis a safer answer and flipflops on the weekends. Wait,what am I thinking? Soccercleats — Hell-O!From which musical act doyou own the most albums?Ms. Billie Holiday, followed bySarah Brightman, I’m thinking.Then a big ole collectionof ’80s stuff.Can you dial your closestrelative’s phone number frommemory?God yes! My mom lives withmy grandmother and she’s had the samenumber since Rover was a pup. Literally,when they first got that number you only hadto dial 5 digits! We’re talking late ’50s here,boys and girls.Regardless of whether the glass is half-full orhalf-empty, what do you want in it?Sweet tea — it is the house wine of the South(and my dentist is flipping out right now, too).As for alcohol, I’d say white wine or somevodka. Brown liquor makes me either giddy ormean. Take your pick. Really puts a differentperspective on “What’s your poison?”How do these “men in dresses” filmsrank based on the number of times you’veseen them: “Big Momma’s House,” “Mrs.Doubtfire,” “Some Like It Hot,” “Tootsie”?Well, I am about to have my gay card revoked,but I have never seen “Some Like It Hot” inits entirety. Nor have I seen “Big Momma’sHouse.” I saw “Tootsie” when I was a littlegirl, so I guess “Mrs. Doubtfire” wins. Thesalon scene with Fierstein is a holler, ya now?What was your favorite event on Field Day?We flew kites in fifth grade and I guess I did apretty good job because people are still tellingme to “go fly a kite!”Is living well really the best revenge?No doubt. Life is good. I’m still not where Iwant to be yet, but just within the last twoyears, I’ve experienced so much personalgrowth. I can honestly say I’m happy and Icould not have said that a few years ago.You have to get the negativity out of the way,appreciate what you have, share when youcan and cherish your family and close friends.Stop focusing on self! Seriously. (This comingfrom someone who enjoyed time on the stageback in the day!)Do you own any hats outside of the baseball/trucker variety?I do not. But true to form, my baseball capsays “The Pageant: Continental.” I hope Mr.Flint is proud of that answer. LOLOn a scale of 1-10 how would you rate yourability to use your non-dominant hand?I would say at least a 7. I can’t write too wellwith the left one but, oh, the other things I cando with it.Which is longer, your pinky finger or the highestheel in your drag shoe collection?Well, my wardrobe is limited these days, butdefinitely my cute heels are bigger than mysee 20 Questions on 22May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

BRIEFSnews notes:from the carolinas, nation and worldcompiled by Lainey Millen :: | David Stout :: | O’Neale Atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comA post-mortem on A1RALEIGH — It was a dark day on May 8for the LGBT community when over 60 percentof those who voted across the state saidyes to Amendment One, a piece of anti-gaylegislation that now recognizes only marriageas between one man and one woman.Reactions have been mixed through theTar Heel State and the nation.The day before the election, VicePresident Joe Biden gave a thumbs-up to gaymarriage. The day afterward, the first-eversitting leader of the U.S.,President Barak Obama,also came out in support ofgay marriage.Since then, outcriesfrom Hollywood andbeyond have come inlamenting the passage ofAmendment One.Native son, ClayAiken, runner-up on both“American Idol” and “TheCelebrity Apprentice,” toldEntertainment Weekly thatcoming out is not as biga deal as it was in 2003.He also stated that beinggay openly has had moreof a positive impact thannegative. Aiken added thathe felt that Obama’s announcement wouldnot damage his re-election efforts in NorthCarolina.“I think that we’d like to see politiciansspeak out on principle a little bit moreand not just make a political calculation.”Aiken appeared on CBS’s “Face the Nation”with anti-gay Family Research CouncilPresident Tony Perkins, Ted Olsen, an attorneywho is leading the charge on the federal caseto strike down California’s Proposition 8, MarkMcKinnon, a G.O.P strategist, Evan Wolfson,a same-sex marriage activist, and others.Aiken appeared to be polished and conductedhimself in a statesman-like manner.Meanwhile New York City Mayor MichaelBloomberg was present at the commencementexercises at the University of NorthCarolina at Chapel Hill on May 13. He was vocalabout post-Amendment One voting, tellingAP that it set back civil rights.Over at the capital, Gov. Beverly Purdueexpressed her disappointment after the votewas counted. She apologized to MississippiRepublican Gov. Phil Bryant and his statefor saying that the ban on gay marriagemade North Carolina “look like Mississippi,”Medialite reported.To the north on May 9 in Washington,D.C., the House of Representatives voted onthree anti-gay amendments: two, offeredin the House Armed Services Committee,amended the National Defense AuthorizationAct and the other was an amendment to theCommerce-Justice-Science AppropriationsAct. They all passed.Freedom to Marry’s Che Ruddell-Tabisolasaid that the latter would bar the use of fundsfor anything in contravention of the Defenseof Marriage Act. The actions relative to thefirst two have to do with the National Defense qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012Authorization Act of 2012 and the prohibitionof the Defense Department’s facilities beingused for private marriage ceremonies forsame-sex couples, even if state laws permit it.Additionally, the second item would be usedto discriminate against LGB service memberswith regard to religion. This goes contraryto the provisions brought forth in the FirstAmendment and the Military Equal Opportunityprogram. The amendment purports to ensurethat DADT repeal and open service does notinfringe upon the free exercise of religion by,and rights of conscience of, members of theArmed Forces, includingchaplains, Ruddell-Tabisola added. Shesaid that Freedom toMarry looked forward toworking with membersof the Respect forMarriage Coalition to ridthe three amendmentsduring conference.The Charlotte CityCouncil has put thebrakes on its plans forproviding domesticpartner benefits in viewof the statewide vote.They have referredthe matter to the stateattorney general “as towhether that would belegal after the passage of Amendment One,”The Charlotte Observer reported. A similarsituation took place in Winston-Salem, theWinston-Salem Journal said.The Charlotte Rainbow Action Networkfor Equality (CRANE) hung a banner on theHawthorne Ln. bridge on May 17 in protestof Amendment One’s passage. It read:“Equality Will Prevail.” The group plans onmore actions to “raise awareness and agitatetoward positive, LGBTQI-inclusive change inCharlotte and North Carolina.”The Huffington Post reported thatmusician Ben Folds (“America’s Best DanceCrew” judge), another North Carolina native,was embarrassed his home state passed theamendment. Huffington also said that comedianSeth Rogen, Ellen DeGeneres, modelBrooklyn Decker, Scissor Sisters’ Jake Sears,actor Neil Patrick Harris, actress Tori Spelling,actor Russell Brand, legendary actress MiaFarrow, Rev. Al Sharpton, comedian KathyGriffin, actor Alan Cumming, RuPaul, actorZach Braff, actress and comedian SandraBernhard, and others were disappointed.It seems that it’s not illegal to marry one’scousin in the state, but it is if they are of thesame sex, some commented. RoseanneBarr, an actress and activist, tweeted thatthere should be a boycott against the NorthCarolina counties that “voted for bigotry.” Shehas a gay brother and a lesbian sister.Now, the NAACP has voiced their supportfor gay marriage in the wake of PresidentObama’s announcement, having passed aresolution to the same. Politico 44 reported,“‘Civil marriage is a civil right and a matterof civil law,’ NAACP President and CEOBenjamin Todd Jealous said in the statement.‘The NAACP’s support for marriage equality isdeeply rooted in the Fourteenth Amendmentof the United States Constitution and equalprotection of all people.’”Meanwhile, couples have protestedthe marriage ban and headed out to obtainmarriage licenses as part of the Campaignfor Southern Equality’s “We Do” campaign.They went to eight towns and cities acrossNorth Carolina from May 8-15 which includedWilson, Durham, Winston-Salem, Bakersville,Marshall, Asheville, Asheboro and Charlotte.AP reported that Brent Morin and GeraldMorin tried to get one in Winston-Salem andwere denied. However, they were married inWashington, D.C., where the union is recognized.All told, nine couples attempted butwere refused licenses at the Register of Deedsoffice in Winston-Salem when they presentedcompleted forms and identification. MaryJamis of Mocksville was arrested when sheblocked the entrance to the marriage licenseoffice and refused to leave when the officesclosed. She said she would not leave until shecould obtain a license for her and her partnerStarr Johnson. Other arrests were madeacross the state, including eight in Asheville.The Daily Tar Heel added that the courtswould probably hear cases on the issue.Things like dependent partner benefits andother issues relative to companies couldcome under question and would have to beinterpreted. The language of the amendmenthas long been questioned.Meanwhile, since passage of AmendmentOne and Obama’s declaration, theDemocratic-leaning Public Policy Pollingreported that there is an uptick of black votersin North Carolina who are now supportive ofgay marriage, TPM Media said. It says that 55percent of black voters in the state “believesame-sex couples should either be allowed tomarry or form civil unions.”On June 5 in Charlotte, attorney andactivist Connie J.Vetter will lead a free legalpresentation at 7 p.m. at the LGBT CommunityCenter of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton St., SuiteB11. “Leading up to the vote there was alot of talk about what would happen if itpassed. Many people are now confused andscared about what is going to happen now.I want people to know what AmendmentOne really means and how they can protectthemselves,” Vetter said.So, for now, LGBT and allied Caroliniansmay be mourning the loss to Amendment One,but we will rise from the ashes to continue thefight for equality.— L.M.WesternKids focus on filmASHEVILLE — “Allies Matter,” a documentaryfilm produced largely at Clyde A.Erwin High School, is now available forviewing on YouTube.The focus of the 17-minute film shortis one LGBT teens and the school’s“advanced approach to the controversialissue,” WLOS-TV reported. The AlliedClub, created by students/teachers, “offerssafety and support” in combatting bullying.The film’s objective is to help better prepareadministrators and teachers in their effort tocreate a healthier environment at their schools.It is now part of “How to be an Ally” educatorworkshops across North Carolina.Other schools in the region were also involvedin the production done by ZealSourcefor NC Healthy Schools and the N.C.Department of Public Health.Contact Sherry Lehman, school consultantfor youth suicide prevention for the state,at to attend aworkshop or visit see the video, visit— L.M.National/GlobalDOJ tackles trans inmate abuseWASHINGTON, D.C. — The U.S.Department of Justice has issued the guidelineNational Standards to Prevent, Detect andRespond to Prison Rape. Building on recommendationsprovided by the National Center forTransgender Equality (NCTE) and many alliedadvocates, the policy includes critical provisionsfor the operation of prisons and the treatmentof transgender and gender nonconforminginmates, all aimed at ending sexual abuse.These standards represent nearly a decadeof study and effort to comprehensivelyaddress rampant sexual abuse in confinement.They address several problems transgenderand intersex people face, including:• Requiring a case-by-case consideration forhousing in a male or female facility that isnot based on genital status, meaning moretrans women will be housed with otherwomen.• Limiting the use of isolating “protectivecustody” that can amount to torture.• Limiting the use of segregated LGBTI unitsthat are often treated as a quick fix and canstigmatize individuals.• Requiring staff training for professional communicationwith and treatment of transgenderand gender nonconforming inmates and thosewith intersex conditions to aid in assessinginmate vulnerabilities to sexual abuse.• Banning the search or physical examinationof transgender inmates and those withintersex conditions solely for determiningtheir genital status.• Minimizing stigma and the threat of abusefrom staff by disallowing dedicated LGBTQIunits and facilities.• Requiring facilities to have multiple channelsfor reporting abuse without placing a timelimit on when inmates can file grievances.NCTE Executive Director Mara Keislingsaid, “We have an obligation as civilized

people to protect the people we incarcerate.That has always been an American promise,but one we have barely tried to keep. Thesenew standards, if fully implemented, have thepotential to help us keep that promise at leastin terms of sexual assault.”— D.S.Hate violence against gay menLOS ANGELES, Calif. — According to anew study from the Williams Institute, gaymen face higher rates of hate-motivatedphysical violence than lesbians, bisexualsor other federally protected groups withhigh rates of hate crimes. This revelation isespecially troubling since prior research hasshown that sexual orientation-motivated hatecrimes tend to be more violent.Among the research findings, 26 in 100,000gay men reported being victims of hate-motivatedcrimes against persons, compared to10 in 100,000 lesbians, 5 in 100,000 African-Americans and 5 in 100,000 Jewish Americans.Gay men also face the second highest risk ofbeing victims of hate-motivated property crime(9 in 100,000 gay men). Further, reporting ofsuch hate crimes is likely under-representedsince data reflect only those who report suchcrimes to local law enforcement, who thenchoose whether to report the data to the FBI.“These findings suggest that additionalresearch is needed to explore why gay menare more likely to experience and/or reportphysical victimization and crimes against theirproperty,” said the study’s author, Rebecca L.Stotzer, Associate Professor and the Directorof Distance Education at the University ofHawaii-Mnoa and Visiting Scholar at theWilliams Institute.— D.S.House victimizes abuse victimsWASHINGTON, D.C. — In a highly partisanvote, the U.S. House of Representatives passeda bill May 16 reauthorizing its watered downversion of the Violence Against Women Act(VAWA). Unlike the bipartisan and LGBT-inclusiveSenate version, the House bill fails to addressdiscrimination faced by LGBT victims ofdomestic violence. The House version passed222-205, with 216 GOP members in favor and 23opposed. Among Democrats, only 6 supportedthe measure while 182 voted against it.Rep. Judy Biggert (R-IL) wanted to offeran amendment to the bill that would haveincreased protections for LGBT victims, butthe House Republican leadership blocked herfrom even offering the amendment.Studies show that LGBT people facedomestic violence at the same rates as othercommunities: 25-33 percent. Yet, a 2011 surveyfound that nearly 85 percent of service providersworked with LGBT clients who reportedthat they had been turned away or deniedservices because of their sexual orientationor gender identity.— D.S.Senate bill for DP benefitsWASHINGTON, D.C. — LGBT leadershailed the approval of the DomesticPartnership Benefits and Obligations Act(DPBO) S.1910 in the U.S. Senate HomelandSecurity and Government Affairs Committee.The bill, sponsored by Sens. Joe Lieberman (I-CT) and Susan Collins (R-ME), would providebenefits for same-sex domestic partners offederal civilian employees on the same basisas spousal benefits. These benefits wouldinclude participation in retirement programs,life and health insurance benefits, and familyand medical leave. Activists are calling for afull Senate vote.“DPBO is about the basic concept of fairnessin the workplace,” said Human RightsCampaign President Joe Solmonese. “Thefederal government would be wise to followthe private sector in offering equal pay forequal work. America’s major corporationshave discovered that equality is not only theright thing to do, but good for business.”Currently, 60 percent of Fortune 500companies provide domestic partner benefitsto their employees. In addition, 24 states, theDistrict of Columbia and more than 100 localgovernments offer their public employeesthese benefits.— D.S.Study details gays and the lawGENEVA, Switzerland — A new reportreveals that 78 countries out of 193 still havelegislation criminalizing same-sex consensualacts between adults. Punishments range froma number of lashes (e.g. Iran) to two monthsin prison (e.g. Algeria) to life sentence (e.g.Bangladesh) or even death (Iran, Mauritania,Saudi Arabia, Sudan and Yemen). Among the113 countries where homosexuality is legal,55 have legislation against discrimination ongrounds of sexual orientation at the workplace,in 10 gays and lesbians enjoy full equalmarriage rights, in 12 they can adopt children.The findings are contained in the 6thedition of the State-Sponsored HomophobiaReport presented here May 16 by ILGA, theInternational Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Trans andIntersex Association, on the occasion of the 8thannual celebration of IDAHO, the InternationalDay Against Homophobia and Transphobia.— D.S.May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

LIFEDrag, not just forqueens anymoreA look at the drag king community and Hunter Downby O’Neale Atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comThe drag queen community seemsto have reached a new high with itsmainstream media breakthrough,thanks largely to drag long-timecelebrity figures such as RuPaul andthe attention her Logo shows havebrought to the art form. Their dragking counterparts are still in the earlystages of breaking into the forefrontof the community. Despite their lack ofmainstream presence, the drag kingcommunity can be found everywherewith a lot of local talent here in theCarolinas, as well as a rich history bothabroad and here in the U.S.Charlotte artist Kit Thomas is knownfor both her colorful punk style art, aswell as her alter ego, Hunter Down. TheNew York native is an Iroquois of theSt. Regis Mohawk tribe located partlyin upstate New York and Canada. Inthe past two years, along with delvingfurther into her artistic interests, Kit hasalso discovered a love of being a dragking performer.Thomas had not considered dragbefore until she was asked to fill in aspot for Men of Petra’s, a local annualamateur drag competition which isheld at Petra’s Piano Bar in Charlotte.During her initial performance asHunter Down, Thomas says she got into thePhoto Credit: Jennifer Hoganenergy and excitement of performing in frontof crowds and liked getting into the character.Drag queens seek to emulate the beautyand grace of the fairer sex while drag kingsdraw upon machismo and masculine energyto create their personas. According toThomas, Hunter Down is “the dirty, dark, mysterious,‘sexy-Mexi’, rock lovin’, lady lovin’,motorcycle ridin’, uber male side” of herself.When channeling Hunter Down, she drawsinspiration from rock music, especially classicrockabilly style. “Rock has always crossedinto that boundary of raw sexuality.”While a new or aspiring drag queen hasa plethora of resources to choose from to gettips and advice for developing a drag personaand breaking into the community, there is lessout there for novice drag kings. Unlike manyup and coming queens who find support fromlocal mentors, Thomas had to do her ownresearch and create her identity from scratch.When first looking for guidance, shesearched the internet and watched other dragking performances online. “I was looking forsomething I just couldn’t find,” says Thomas.“Nothing stuck out and then it hit me; I’m goingto just do my own thing. What do I want tosee when I go to a show? I want to be entertained.I want loud rock music, people havingfun, sexuality and to be taken away from thereality of stereotypes and gender.”According to Thomas, there are severalperformers from the Charlotte, Rock Hill andGastonia areas who make up the local dragking community. “It’s a small community andsometimes it’s overlooked, but there is somereally great talent out there.”While Hunter Down typically performsalone, the drag king collaborated with localtalents Landon Haze, Justin Durango andTyson Mack for last year’s Pride Charlottefestival. The four formed to create the qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012see Drag on 20

SPORTPlaying the fieldMatch-ups from across the Carolinas:Charlotte Royals prep for Bingham Cup, Roller Girlsfight hard and softball beginsby Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributorRugbyAll dressed up and someplace to go:The Charlotte Royals are playing tought on theirway to the Bingham Cup in England in June.Momentum. That’s what the CharlotteRoyals now have going into the Bingham Cupduring the first weekend of June, by avengingtwo early season losses. The mid-Aprilclash between the Royals and the NashvilleGrizzlies was a rematch of the third-placegame from the St. Louis Spring InvitationalTournament last month, which Nashville won35-22. This time around, however, the Royalswere able to get out to an early two-try leadand were able to maintain that advantageuntil the final whistle, winning 27-15. Scoringfor Charlotte were backs Thomas Southerlandand BJ Smith and for the forward, David June,who earned man of the match honors.On Cinco de Mayo, the Royals took onthe Columbus Coyotes for the second gameof their home series. Earlier this season, theRoyals traveled to Columbus and lost, givingthe Coyotes their first and only win of theseason. Determined to defend their home turf,Charlotte put the pressure on early, scoring6 tries in the first half to Columbus’ 1 try. Byforcing turnovers and aggressive tackling, theRoyals’ defense stood out, which limited theiropponents to only the one first-half try andnothing after. BJ Smith had an outstandinggame at scrum half, earning man of the matchhonors after racking up 4 tries and numerousassists. Also with multiple scores forthe backs were Zach Anderson and ThomasSoutherland. Scoring for the forwards wereCoty Webb and J.T. Wentz, who earned manof the match honors, as well.These two wins are a good sign that theRoyals might be peaking at just the right time,because up next for the team is the BinghamCup. The international tournament startsJune 3rd in Manchester, England. To showtheir gratitude for anyone and everyone whohelped make this trip possible, the CharlotteRoyals Rugby Football Club will be hosting anAuxiliary Appreciation/Bingham Cup Sendoffparty on May 19 at Sidelines Sports Bar.Check them out on Facebook at or visit for more information.Roller GirlsMay 5 was a big sports weekend herein the Queen City with the Charlotte RollerGirls All-Stars and B-Dazzlers also taking onformidable opponents. The evening startedwith B-Dazzlers going against Star City out ofRoanoke, Va. Star City was coming off a hardfought win in Greensboro and they maintainedthat determination by holding off a late rallyfrom Charlotte to win the bout 137-108.The All-Stars were more fortunate bygetting out to an early, but slim lead over theLittle City Roller Girls from Johnson City, Tenn.The slender advantage made for a very competitiveand tense match with the All-Starscoming out on top 147-118. Bomb Shelly fromthe LCRG had this to say after the bout, “Theentire evening was so exciting! Charlottedefinitely trains their girls to be some of thebest competitors around.” Be sure to comeout and see what she is talking about atCharlotte’s next home match on June 9 andcheck them out on Facebook at or visit for more information.SoftballThe Carolina Softball Alliance’s seasonhas gotten off to an exciting start with fiveteams vying for the league championship.see Playing on 22Meeting Date: Tuesday, June 19, 2012Program: Scott Bishop’s Path to the DNC Host CommitteeLGBT Community Center of CharlotteWant to maximize your exposure/involvement at the2012 DNC? Scott Bishop, longtime Charlotte LGBTactivist, HRC NC Board Member/Honoree, and MeckPACChair gives us the inside scoop on the upcomingConvention as he discusses his journey from bankemployee to Project Management Management.820 Hamilton St. @ the NC Music FactoryTime:5:30-8 p.m.Cost:$20 admission. Includes appetizer, dinner, dessert, tea.Reservations: email or reserve/pay inadvance online on www.charlottebusinessguild.orgwww.charlottebusinessguild.orgMay 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes

xuu on the DNCConvention isn’tgoing anywhereFollowing the passage of Amendment One in North Carolina,an outpouring of petitions have sprung up online in response tothe decision. The majority of these petitions have one focus, tomove the DNC out of Charlotte as a retaliation measure againstthe passage of the anti-LGBT amendment. Within 24 hours ofthe primary results on May 8, over 25,000 individuals had alreadysigned one petition like these. Despite the influx of petitions,there has been no report that the DNC is considering relocating.Taking a different approach on the issue, North Carolina mother and ally ShannonRitchie has created a petition through asking the DNC to add gay marriage tothe party platform. Her petition went live following President Barak Obama’s public supportof gay marriage and has received as much support as some of the petitions trying to movethe DNC out of Charlotte.DNC Chair Mayor Antonio Villaraigosa has already spoken out in support of adoptingmarriage equality to the Democratic platform in 2012, as have many others.Healthy children, healthy familiesA new effort is underway to promote healthy living for young people in Charlotte andMecklenburg County, as well as addressing childhood obesity. The Healthy Weight, HealthyChild initiative is part of a bigger community action plan called The Blueprint for a HealthierGeneration, 2020.The goal is to promote and encourage active living and healthy eating for all childrenand their families. The Host Committee for the 2012 Convention supports this importantissue by including it as one of its Legacy initiatives: Healthy Children; Healthy Families.On May 20, DVA Charlotte (DVA stands for donors, volunteers and ambassadors) duginto its third Legacy volunteer project. Green thumbs gathered at Winterfield Elementaryin East Charlotte to work in its community garden. Volunteers helped to weed, plant, paintgarden benches and donate gardening books for the students. This project supports one ofthe main Healthy Weight, Healthy Child goals, namely to create edible school gardens thatintegrate gardening and nutrition education while providing opportunities for physical activityand healthy eating.These events come following DVA Charlotte’s inaugural service events held on April15 when DVA members worked together to refurbish the Amay James Recreation Center— which will give neighbors and students at Reid Park Academy a place to go for physicalactivities — and teamed up with residents at Moore Place to build a community garden.It’s time you joined DVA Charlotte. Open to all area women, the non-partisan network isjoining together to support the Charlotte in 2012 Host Committee for the Democratic NationalConvention. The grassroots effort of Donors, Volunteers and Ambassadors — DVAs — providesopportunities for leadership, service, education, and celebration.Official BBQ sauces selectedSpeaking of healthy eating, the Charlotte in 2012 Convention Host Committee recentlyheld a contest to pick the Convention’s official BBQ sauces, the winners of which can bepurchased online. The Carolinas boast a proud rivalry in their different approaches to BBQsauces and preparation. BBQ in the Carolinas is usually pork and is served pulled, shreddedor chopped. The pork is slow-cooked and smoked, generally for a minimum of 16-18 hours ata very low temperature.Eastern Carolina BBQ typically uses the “whole hog,” where the entire pig is cooked andthe meat from all parts of the pig are chopped and mixed together. Eastern Carolina sauce isa thin, vinegar and pepper-based sauce and is used both as a “mop” (or baste) on the meatwhile it is cooking, and then as a finishing sauce at table side.Western North Carolina BBQ is typically made only from the pork shoulder and uses athicker, sweetened tomato-based sauce that is often called “dip.”South Carolina BBQ is often “whole hog” and typically uses a sauce made from a mix ofyellow mustard, vinegar, sugar and spices.In February, the Charlotte in 2012 Convention HostCommittee called upon BBQ sauce makers to competeto become the convention’s official mustardvinegar-and tomato-based BBQ sauces to showcasethe different BBQ styles from around the Carolinasand be sold in Charlotte in 2012’s online merchandisestore. Kathleen Purvis, food dditor for The CharlotteObserver, served as one of the judges deciding onthe winning sauces.The sales of the “Flavor of the Carolinas” saucesare part of a grassroots fundraising effort, theproceeds of which go toward funding the convention.Charlotte in 2012 is the first Host Committee in modern convention history to not acceptmonetary contributions from corporations, lobbyists or political action committees. Instead,monetary contributions now come from foundations and charitable organizations and individualslike those who purchase these winning sauces online.10 qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012

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LIFEDrag resurrectedThe queens are back and reigning once moreby David Stout :: david@goqnotes.com12 qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012Drag, i.e, men dressing in women’s clothing for entertainmentpurposes, is an age-old concept. It’s thought bysome that the word itself dates back to Elizabethan-eraEngland. At that time women were barred from the stage— acting was considered an unseemly pursuit for the fairersex — so men portrayed all the parts. It’s said that ye oldeplaybill used the term “dressed as girl” to credit a male playinga female role. Over time, dressed as girl simply became “drag.”In the gay community drag has a long and storied history.We can’t forget that the fight for LGBT rights began in earnestin 1969 when drag queens fought back against police duringa raid of New York’s Stonewall Inn. The establishment was apopular gathering place for black and latin queens, making ita frequent target of police harassment. In the early morninghours of June 28, Stonewall’s patrons had had enough andtheir physical resistance sparked three days of rioting that officiallybirthed our equality movement.The ensuing decades brought us Andy Warhol’sFactory girls (Holly Woodlawn, Candy Darling andJackie Curtis), “La Cage Aux Folles,” the proliferationof drag pageantry, Divine in a string of seminal JohnWaters films, “The Adventures of Priscilla, Queenof the Desert,” Sylvester, Wigstock, Candis Cayne,ballroom culture, RuPaul (more on her later) and much,much more.But, as the saying goes, familiarity breeds contempt.Over the last decade it felt like we were steadily moving towardthe tipping point where, to the post-”Ellen,” post-“Will &Grace” generation, drag was little more than a relic from thepast — an obsolete antiquity to be dismissed the same wayprevious generations rejected the touchstones of their forebears,e.g., “classic” gay films featuring tragic characters, theobsession with Judy Garland or rainbow colored everything.What a great surprise, then, to see that drag hasn’t gonethe way of Luke Sissyfag. (Who? Exactly.) In fact, drag has experienceda stunning resurgence over the last few years. Herein the Carolinas, the comeback appears to have been fueled bya trio of unique factors.Chief among these is the unanticipated cultural cachetof competitive reality show “RuPaul’s Drag Race.” After anunremarkable few seasons the show turned into must-see TVin its just-wrapped fourth cycle. The credit for which belongsto the season’s coterie of contestants, who couldn’t have beenany more compelling if their personalities, quips and catfightshad been scripted by Aaron Sorkin.When “Drag Race” debuted on little watched gay cablenetwork Logo, it was anamusing oddity, but notmuch more. Watchingthose first contestantspaint their faces, argue,compete in silly competitions,argue, model clothesand argue some more wasinteresting but nobody wasarranging their schedulearound the show.However, by the timeRuPaul, one of the mostsuccessful drag queensever at this point, namedPittsburgh’s spooky, kookySharon Needles “America’snext drag superstar” onApril 30, the program hadmorphed into a cult obsessionand redefined drag asedgy and hip — something ithadn’t been ages.The full power of “DragRace” was on display inCharlotte a few weeks priorto the finale when SharonNeedles performed at Scorpio. Even pre-crowning, the rapturousresponse she received from the standing-room-only crowdfelt more like a Lady Gaga concert than a bar drag show.Speaking of drag shows, the second key factor in drag’sbig comeback has to be the proliferation of top-drawer talentin North Carolina. These elite queens kept the standard forperforming here extremely high even when the artform overallwas in decline. This, in turn, has contributed to a recent and unprecedentedrun of success for our state on the national stage.In 2011, North Carolina-based performers heldthe crowns for both Miss Gay America and MissGay U.S.ofA., Coti Collins of Raleigh and Luscious ofCharlotte respectively. To make the domination complete,Collins handed the Miss Gay America 2012 title to Kirby Kolby,another Raleigh resident and Collins’ fellow housecast memberat Legends nightclub.These outcomes are highly motivational and create apositive feedback loop. Young queens are inspired to strive forthe success of Collins, Kirby and Luscious the same way thosethree were spurred by the national titles won by earlier NorthCarolina legends. The newcomers’ successes will, in turn, drivefuture performers and on and on it goes.Here’s a listing of the Tar Heel queens who have captureda national crown: Miss Gay America: 1986 Lauren Colby,Wilmington; 1992 Tiffany Bonet, Winston-Salem; 1996 KerriNichols, Charlotte; 2007 Luscious, Charlotte; 2011 Coti Collins,Raleigh; 2012 Kirby Kolby, Raleigh. Miss Gay U.S.ofA.: 2011Luscious, Charlotte. Miss Gay U.S.ofA. At Large: 1992 NancyNewton, Hickory. Miss Continental Plus: 2003 Victoria (PorkChop) Parker, Fayetteville.These titleholders — indeed all of North Carolina’s extendeddrag family — owe a massive debt of gratitude to a pair ofpioneering queens who carved out a glittering trail more thanfour decades ago: Boom Boom LaTour (of Charlotte) and BrandyAlexander (then of Jacksonville, now also living in Charlotte). Byanecdotal evidence at least, they were the state’s first professionaldrag entertainers. In their impossibly high heels andglittering sequins they tilled the soil and planted the seeds that,in the fullness of time, have yielded our current bounty.Alongside LaTour and Alexander’s pageant divas, a newbreed of star has emerged to complete drag’s resurrection trifecta.These queens aren’t focused on competition or joining ahousecast but are more likely to be found at community eventsserving as sparkling hosts, facilitators and fundraisers. Theyreach audiences at these events they might never encounter ina bar setting.The popularity of gay and AIDS-related bingo fundraisersin recent years has played a particularly important role in theascendance of drag figures like Mary K. Mart, who hosts DragBingo in Raleigh, Big Shirli Stevenz, who hosts Green QueenBingo in Greensboro, and Shelita Hamm, who hosted GayBingo in Charlotte during its long run.With Hamm’s retirement, Roxy C. Moorecox and Buff Fayehave assumed her marabou-feathered mantle as the go-todrag fundraisers and political/social issue promoters in theQueen City. Through their respective charitable work withPride Charlotte, the annual Drag Race, the Lesbian and GayCenter, Time Out Youth, Campus Pride and other worthycauses, the pair have amassed a loyal following andincreased both the standing and understanding ofdrag in the community.As you can see, theresurgence of drag is awin for the performers,a win for the fans andmost certainly a win forthe important causes thatbenefit from the support ofboth. It will be interestingto see if the upcoming allstaredition of “RuPaul’sDrag Race” captures thequeer zeitgeist like thelast season. If it does thisunlikely but most welcomerebirth of female impersonationcould, uhm, dragon and on. Lady fingerscrossed. : :(left to right) Drag mamaBoom Boom LaTour, trendySharon Needles andpageant winner Luscious.Photo Credit:Austin Young (Needles)

VIEWStalkbackIs Drag still a relevantand vital part ofthe LGBT community?Letters to the editor and comments comments are not edited forgrammar or punctuation.We asked qnotes readers to give us theirpersonal thoughts on the drag community andits impact on the LGBT community and the gaypride movement. Below is a response fromJanice Covington:The art of Drag is a very serious part of theLGBT community. Being a Drag Queen makesyou a member of a unique family that manyothers don’t understand. I hope this article willenlighten you in a way that will help you understandand give them the respect that manyof them deserve. Drag Queens have beenknown worldwide, like the renowned DragCompany Phenocio’s in San Francisco from1940 to 1991. Baton’s in downtown Chicago isalso a well-known nightspot since late 1968.Drag Queens have been known to bethe leaders of and staging protest like theCompton’s Cafeteria demonstration in 1967and the Stonewall neighborhood bar in NewYork City in 1969. If there is trouble the DragQueen is at the forefront of the problem tomake a stand and take action. Drag Queenspatrolled the streets in the tenderloin of SanFrancisco as the Lavender Panthers to protectthe gay community from assaults and murderduring 1970 to 1974.Drag Queens have been out and proud formany years before the Gay movement startedin Philadelphia or any organized equalitygroup such as HRC. The first organized DragQueen group was the Imperial Court in 1964.Many Drag Queens’ offer support to the communityin many ways, from Bingo’s to pridefestivals and to raise money for both the redand pink ribbons. I have never seen a prideevent without a Drag Queen riding on a float,displaying her crown or gracing the makeshiftstage to entertain you during the festival. DragQueens will be there when it counts.What makes a Drag Queen is true grit,dedication and a strong sense of pride. ADrag Queen has to be strong to take theridicule that many people even from our owncommunity dish out because of misunderstanding.They must be strong because manywill never have the chance of being a CEOof a bank or upper management of a largecorporation. Not because Drag Queens areuneducated, on the contrary they are veryintelligent and can hold a very educationalconversation. Many have college degrees andalso they advance their education through thecommunity college system. But because ofthe fact that most choose to wear their badgeof honor as a Drag Queen can only do. Thisouter pride causes many in our community tofeel a drag queen is to flamboyant and onlygood for a show on a Saturday night at theclub. I can relate because I am proud to be atransgender/drag queen myself. I have beenin meetings with some LGBT organizationsthat speak of drag queens as a lower partof our community. How easy they forget thesacrifices that Drag Queens have made inrecent history. Being a Drag Queen is not justwearing woman’s clothes but also is a state ofbeing who they are.Drag Queens have a sense of loyalty toeach other in the Drag community. Oh surethere is atamonsity and arguments amongeach other but never holding a grudge. I havesee Talkback on 20May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes 13

LIFEReady, set, DRAG!3rd Annual Queen City Drag Race works it out for charitiesby O’Neale Atkinson :: oneale@goqnotes.comPhoto Credit: Mike BlizzardIf you’re a NASCAR fan, this may not be the drag race you werelooking for, but, oh what fun it was! Teams of four gathered at Hartigan’sIrish Pub to take part in the 3rd Annual Queen City Drag Race on May12. The event is an annual fundraiser that benefits the Cystic FibrosisFoundation, as well as other charities selected by the contestants.Taking a nod from the success of shows like “RuPaul’s Drag Race,”the Queen City Drag Race puts competing teams against one another,not for personal glory or fame, but to financially support organizationsand causes. Contestants participate in a series of individual competitionsand team relay races and are scored on their performances todetermine the winners.Contests this year were scored on their performance in the DivaDash 100, an individual race, and the Pit Crew Challenge team race, aswell as their overall money raised prior to and during the event. Awardssee Drag on 2114 qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012

A&Etell trinityby trinityqnotes contributorWhen the vampire doesn’tbite hard enoughHey TrinityMy lover of six years who claimed to be gayleft me a month ago to marry a woman. Ikind of got over him, because he was sucha user. But, I miss him. Help!Perplexed, Albany, NYHey Perplexed,Let me get this gay problem straight. Yourgay-user-lover of six years left you for awoman and now you’re perplexed becauseyou’ve been released from a hex, by yourex. Haven’t you read any vampire novelswhere the blood-sucking vampire surprisinglyreleases his victim, before killing her?She joyously leaves Transylvania never tosee the vampire again. So, darling, unlesshe took your common sense, as well Isuggest you, celebrate your freedom andcatch the next boat out of Transylvania.Congratulations!Dearest Trinity,I have just begun doing drag and I love it.I have two problems? I don’t know how toperform drag well and I haven’t told mymother. It’s also creating tension betweenmy boyfriend and me. Any suggestions?A Confused Queen, Kansas City, MODearest Confused Queen,I have some tips in a cartoon style. Pleaseread it wisely. You know, pumpkin, mostdrag queens do drag a lot, then get tired ofit. Yet, some don’t. So, wait a while beforetelling her or him. Give it six months or onyour 25th night in drag let the MAC out ofthe bag. (Tips abound in my cartoon. Heedit’s advice if you are game.)To Trinity,Once a month my buddies get togetherand hit the bars to meet potential dates.Throughout the night we hit a preppyhangout, a mixed nightclub and a leatherbar. Most of the guys I meet are one ofthese types. I’m always confused on howto dress?Joe The Chameleon, Seattle, WATo Joe The Chameleon,By the end of these nights you must looklike an abused collection of Ken and GI Joedolls. Hey, that’s it! You need to look like amix of Ken and GI Joe. So, think: baseballhat or a nice hair or buzz cut, a neck chainand watch is plenty, a butch T-shirt, alwaysa belt, khakis or nice jeans, a pair of hightops or casual shoes. Remember, sweetie,no shiny club clothes, harnesses, oxfordshirts or cigars.Dearest Trinity,For the first time in years I went to a sexclub. I was shocked to see so much prehistoric,pre-AIDS activity doing. How doessomeone have sex club fun without worryingabout receiving any unwanted gifts?Sex Club Studies, Green Bay, WIDearest S.C.S.,I hear ya, honey! It does seem like everyone’sgetting so tired of wearing latex thatmore and more are willing to deal with theaffects of acid rain and protease inhibitors.Unsafe sex is like candy — you know it canmake you sick, but you can’t help packin’in all that deliciousness. For those timeswhen your blood sugar is out of controlhere are…Trinity’s Healthy TipsFor Attending A Sex Club1. When you meet the “sex club sex machine”rinse him clean, if you know whatI mean.2. Before letting yourself slut around, havedo’s and don’ts to keep you safe andsound.3. Assume everyone has something to give,that you may not want.4. Always wash your hands afterplaying with yourselfand/or others.5. You may not need a course inintercourse, but, of course, youneed to understand everythingabout risk!6. Sometimes, we have to be rude toa dude who’s forcing an uncomfortableinterlude.7. Always wash your private partsso you’re clean and tidy for yournext performing arts.8. Use instinct and intuition when onany adventurous mission.9. Sex club is beautiful. Sex clubis fun. Sex club is different foreveryone.10. Finally, relax or exercise, eventake a steam or a nap, but evenmore importantly, don’t leave withthe clap! : :— With a Masters of Divinity,Reverend Trinity was host of “SpirituallySpeaking,” a weekly radio drama,and now performs by: Provincetown Business Guild800-637-8696www.ptown.orgMay 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes 15

A&Eout in the starsby charlene lichtensteinqnotes contributorMay 26 - June 816 qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012June is busting out all over as lucky Jupiter advancesinto Gemini and all is right with the world.And, luck bursts out from the most unexpectedplaces. Keep your options (and your eyes) openfor opportunity.GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Your are the one to knowand the one to get to know. Pink Twins have aflash of charisma that outshines all competition.Plan on maneuvering into the center stage andwow the crowd with your talent and sheer nerve.Get going while your personal flame is hot, hot,hot. And, if a few moths venture too close andsinge their wings, that is their own fault.CANCER (06.22-07.23) How many secret admirersdo you have gay Crab? There may be too manyto count and you may be totally unaware of someof them. There are a lot of good vibes emanatingbehind the scenes that will guide you to luckyexperiences and life-changing connections. So,keep your confidence high and allow yourself amonth of flirtations and furtive romances.LEO (07.24-08.23) Find any excuse to get togetherwith friends. Seek interesting people and getinvolved in new social groups. Proud Leos arenaturally friendly and love to be in the epicenterof a crowd. This time the crowd may need someof your TLC, so know when to seek attention andwhen you give a warm hug to others. It may behard for you, but I know you can do it!VIRGO (08.24-09.23) How much can you get awaywith on the job? Quite a lot now. While hardworking, queer Virgins will be happily surprisedto find that even minimal effort will pay off. So,prioritize and don’t sweat the small stuff thisJune. Of course, still you have to schmooze thebig brass a bit and make it appear like you aremaking an effort. But, that is part of the fun.LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Proud Libras may be in a rut,but it is one that you can easily climb out of thisJune. Take a chance and do something totallynew or unexpected. It may pay off in ways thatyou do not expect. It is a particularly good monthto travel if you have the bucks and the time. If not,see what is happening around the corner. Youmay be surprised at what (and whom) you find.SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Sizzly, queer Scorpioscan turn on the charm and make some lucky andpowerful connections this June. And, these connectionswill run deep. Some may get downrightintimate and life-changing. See who is on themenu and get cooking. Your personal zest addsthe spice to any dish. Tuck in and gorge yourself.Err, how many desserts do you really need?SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Relationships takecenter stage this June. If you are currentlycultivating a one-on-one, you can discover somewonderful things about your partner, If you areon the prowl for the perfect person, this is thetime to scout about. Gay Archers could be luredinto multiple affairs as so many possibilitiescross your path. Sampling is the best way todecide. Ahem.CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) June is bursting out allover and so are you. So, as you make your entrance,be sure that you feel as good as you look.Check yourself in the mirror and assess who yousee. You might want to make some adjustmentsin your health regime — from diet to exercise toany form of stress reduction. Yoga? Meditation?Yawn. Let’s get really creative, pink Cap!AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Fun is highlighted allthrough June. Aqueerians will not only be able toplan, launch and toss a great party, they will alsoattract some of the most unusual and artistic folksaround to liven things up. Anything you do will beA-list level. So, don’t sit on your couch and waitfor the bell to ring. Get out there and schmooze,booze and carooze…or something like that.PISCES (02.20-03.20) Puttering around the housewill not only be relaxing for you this June, it willalso spark a range of great new re-decoratingideas. Focus on your domestic agenda from thedust under the rug to the back reaches of yourcloset. Air it out, sell it at a garage sale and startfresh. And, while you are at it, you can be a littlefresh yourself. There is no telling where thatmight lead you.ARIES (03.21-04.20) Not only are you especiallyclearheaded throughout June, you are also ableto figure out just what to say to get exactly whatyou want. You can be incredibly diplomatic. But,gay Rams want more out of life than just sweeteningthe air with their sugary bon mots. Resolveto tackle a long overdue project and enlist a bevyof helpers. All you have to do is ask.TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Money comes to youeasily now. And, not just because you have beenworking at carefully wrangling your loot. Even ifyou have been lax in your budget making, there issome transom money that seems to just fall intoyour lap. Don’t waste this largess on junk. Funnelit into a safe and secure nest egg. Then you canenjoy fluffy omelettes in your retirement years. : :© 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All RightsReserved. Visit fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. Mybook “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology ForLesbians” from Simon & Schuster isavailable at bookstores and major booksites.

Positive PostingsResponding to Latino health needsby Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager/Ryan White Program DirectorAccording to the U.S. Health Resources andServices Administration (HRSA) and the U.S.Centers for Disease Control and Prevention (CDC),Latinos in the U.S. have been disproportionately affectedby HIV since the epidemic began, and todayaccount for nearly 20 percent of all diagnosedHIV/AIDS cases. Nearly one-fourth of all RyanWhite HIV/AIDS Program clients are Latino. Here,at Rosedale I.D., our Ryan White Program strives toprovide the best care possible for Latino patients. Itis important that we, along with other providers inour area, focus on creating a familial atmosphereby having culturally competent staff.In Charlotte, the Latino population is steadilygrowing. According to the U.S. Census, the Latinopopulation has doubled in the past 10 years. Latinosnow account for nearly 13 percent of the Charlottepopulation. The Latino population is around 96,000people which is larger than the entire population ofAsheville, N.C. Living in a city that has such largeminority groups, it is important to embrace culturaldifferences. In healthcare specifically, it is importantto consider all cultural components of a populationto offer the best and most appropriate care plan. AtRosedale ID we work to make a difference in healthcareby doing just that.Latinos are a diverse population encompassingmany subgroups, each with slightly different risk factorsfor HIV. Latinos are the largest and fastest growingethnic group in the United States. Latinos arealso one of the most diverse groups. The subgroups,that speak a variety of Spanish dialects, includePuerto Ricans, Cubans, Mexicans, and SouthAmericans. English is often a second language forthis population. A growing number of U.S. Latinosfrom Central and South America are members ofindigenous communities and often speak only theirnative languages.Many Latinos share culture related to religion,family, gender, and health that can pose significantbarriers to HIV care. For example, Latinos often believein fatalismo, the idea that God ordains certainevents to occur. HIV infection is often considereda judgment that only God can heal, a belief thatcan complicate treatment adherence. Latinos alsopractice curanderismo, the practice of traditionalfolk healing carried out by curanderos, or spiritualhealers. Specific groups, including many Cubansand Puerto Ricans, may practice Santeria, a religionthat emphasizes holistic medicine and limpios(cleansings, where Mexicans often use herbs andtraditional remedies).Latinos diagnosed with HIV also face stigma— primarily because of the disease’s associationwith homosexuality, which runs counter to notionsof machismo, an exaggerated form of masculinitybased on sexual prowess, dominance, andaggression. One doctor explains, “In the Latinocommunity, [homosexuality] is not accepted andHIV has an even worse stigma associated with it.As a result, clients do not go and get care and theydo not want to be seen getting care.” Machismoalso can undermine the health outcomes of Latinawomen, who are expected to live up to the ideal ofmarianismo, which dictates that women be submissiveto men, particularly to those in their families andtheir husbands. Female HIV-positive Latina patientsdelay or fall out of care as a result of the demandsof familismo, the tradition of multiple generationsliving together, because their family’s needs are putabove their own.HRSA also reported that Latinos tend to wait, becauseof cultural stigma, until they are already ill beforeseeking HIV care, and they are often diagnosedwith AIDS. Many also struggle with other problemssuch as substance abuse and mental health issues,which carry a great deal of stigma as well. Despitetheir need for assistance, Latino patients often arewary of being seen at a clinic, fearful that they maybe spotted by people they know or that clinicalstaff will disclose their diagnoses to their family andfriends. Other barriers include the strict appointmentschedules found at many clinics. Latino clients oftenmiss appointments because they work long hoursand may not be accustomed to scheduling.Latino programs for HIV/AIDS care is becomingrecognized on a national level. Recently,Dayana Mendoza, former Miss Universe, was acontender on the “Celebrity Apprentice” fightingto raise money for her selected charity, The LatinoCommission on AIDS. She said that her goal wasto help the Latino community. She wanted to raiseawareness for a population that increasingly needshelp. Dayana, herself, grew up in a Latino homeand understands the need for specialty care.At Rosedale ID we strive to make a difference inhealthcare by creating a comfortable environmentfor our patients no matter their ethnicity, sexualorientation, gender, or race. We are educating ourclinical staff to become more culturally competentand actively discussing how we can overcome barriersto care for our patients. In addition, our providersare trained to work effectively with the Latinopopulation. If you are a Latino patient or you knowa Latino patient that is looking for care in a comfortableunderstanding environment, I encourage youto give us a call at 704-948-8582 or check out ourwebsite at retrieved from: www.hrsa.govDon’t forget to visit our website and friend us on Facebookfor community and clinical updates!— Sponsored Content —May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes 17

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on the mapnightlifeSundayBarbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.Super Sundays with Aiesha Paris, Nickel Barstarts at 8 p.m.House Cast Show, The Scorpiowith DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshedfree dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.karaoke, 9 p.m.MondayMovie Night, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Monday Madness, Chaserspool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prizeand $25 bar tab.Boxing & Monday Night Football, SidelinesFree Pool, The Woodshedall day.TuesdayKaraoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Pool Tournament, Central StationTwisted Trivia, Chaserswith Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.Showtime at 12:30 a.m.Trivia Tuesdays, Marignyhosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.Midwood Madness, Petra’shalf-price bottles of wineKaraoke, The Woodshedstarts at 9 p.m.WednesdayGame Night, Bar at 316Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’sstarts at 8 p.m.’90s music night, Nickel BarKaraoke, Petra’shosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpiofeaturing Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.Pool Tournament, The Woodshedstarts at 10:30 p.m.ThursdayThursday Night House Party, Bar at 316Pool Tournament, Central StationRockin’ Well Thursdays, Chaserswith Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.Karaoke Night, Hartigan’shosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.Team Boystown, Marignystarts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.Drink-n-drown.Karaoke Night, The Rainbow Infree for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.Underwear Night, The WoodshedFridayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.A-List Fridays, Marignyhosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.Live DJ, Nickel BarLive Performances, Petra’sRoxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow Instarts at 11p.m.Life’s a Drag, The Scorpiowith Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.SaturdayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316The Angela Lopez Show, Chasersshow starts at 12:30 a.m.Live DJ, Hartigan’sKrewe Saturdays, MarignySoul Music, Nickel BarLive Performances, Petra’sUrban Variety Show, The Scorpiowith Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.CongregationsMCC CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,7 p.m.New Life MCCWorship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.Monthly covered dish dinner andcoffeehouse-style worship service on the firstSunday of every month, 6 p.m.Unity Fellowship Church of CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of everymonth, 9 a.m.Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,7 p.m.CommunityThe LGBT Community Center of CharlottePromoting the diversity, acceptance andvisibility of the LGBT community throughprogramming and events.gaycharlotte.comWhite RabbitNorth Carolina’s LGBT everything store.Complete line of Pride merchandise, plusbooks, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwearand Don’t see your bar listed here?Submit your regularly scheduled events toeditor@goqnotes.comMay 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes 19

Photo Credit: Jennifer HoganDrag kings, too!continued from page 8Hartigan’s Harti Dolls and entertained during the festivities.“Our New Kids on the Block dance steps really wooed theladies,” recalls Thomas.The drag king phenomenon is not as new of one as it mayseem. Instances of women entertaining as male performersin popular culture have been documented since the1800’s. Annie Hindle was a London native born in 1847 whoadopted a male costume and style as her primary look whenentertaining. She appeared in New York in 1867 as the “firstout-and-out male impersonator New York’s stage had everseen.” Vesta Tilley was also a male impersonator in the late19th century and was British music hall performer.In the U.S., blues singer Gladys Bentley performedas a man across the country as early as the 1920s. StormDeLarverie was breaking racial and gender boundaries asearly as the 1950’s, performing in the Jewel Box Revue astheir only drag king. The Jewel Box Revue is noted as beingthe first racially integrated female impersonation showcase.DeLarverie was also a veteran of the Stonewall Riots and herstory has been documented in the film “Storme: The Lady ofthe Jewel Box.” : :Talkbackcontinued from page 13seen arguments and hard feelings, and thenin the next minute they are helping each otherthrough a crisis or with getting ready for a show.Never for one minute think you can get overon one without the whole lot of them jumpingback on you. Drag Queens’s stick together nomatter what city they travel they have friends offcommonality. Drag Queens are a unique peopleand are very family oriented, unlike others of theLGBT community.Doing Drag takes a very talented dedicatedperson to move from armature to professionalstatues. It takes a lot of financial support formakeup; material to make clothes if you knowhow, or like me buy some anywhere you can lol. Ittakes a lot of preparation whether just doing onenumber or doing a pageant. To a Drag Queen it isa privilege to entertain on stage, she never makesback what she spends. So the next time you see aDrag performer entertaining at the club, show yoursupport by tipping her. Give her, her honor due. : :20 qnotes May 26-June 8 . 2012

Drag event supports charitiescontinued from page 14were also given out for Team Spirit, Best-dressed Drag Team,Best Drag Makeup and the coveted Miss Congeniality.Spectators arrived early and celebrated in the Hartigan’sparking lot with music by DJLittle Betty and performances bylocal drag queens including BellaDior Jade, Brianna La’ShawnDavis, Jessica Raynes, KianaLayne, Lola Olivia Lovelace,Starla DaVinci and more.A representative fromNASCAR Team LaffertyMotorsports was present for theannual race and shared a messagefrom their team. During oneof the breaks between competitions,unsuspecting spectatorsdonned drag for the first time andworked the crowd to increase the total amount of funds raised.Each year 50 percent of funds raised go to the support ofthe Cystic Fibrosis Foundation. The remaining money is splitbetween the top three teams to go to theirselected cause or organization. This year, theQueen City Drag Race raised over $2,500 to besplit amongst the charities.At the end of the day first place wentto team Heel’s Angels who chose RegionalAIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN) as theirbeneficiary. RAIN was also selected asthe beneficiary of Team Toxic who camein second place. Third place went toreturning contestants Team Britney Gearswho were sponsoring Campus Pride.While the drag race was on May12, there were events leading up to andfollowing the big race. Prior to the fun,Marigny hosted a Pit Crew party on May10 in the evening and on May 11 a kick-offparty featuring Shangela from season two(…and three) of “RuPaul’s Drag Race” was held at Scorpio.After the race there was time for a victory lap with an afterparty at Marigny. Participants finished off the weekend with afull-throttle drag brunch hosted by the oneand only Buff Faye.Buff Faye, the Drag Diva and host of therace, was grateful for the turnout this yearand is looking forward to an even biggerdrag race next year. “Whew! Congrats tothe teams who won this year. Heels weresmoking! Plus, special thanks to all theteams who participated! It takes a lot to puton a wig and heels for the first time. As acommunity it is important to celebrate andhave fun raising money for local charities weall care about. My pit crew and I are proudof this annual tradition in the Queen City andlook forward to next year raising even moremoney. Buy some heels and join the race!”Will Heel’s Angels return next year todefend their title against this year’s competitors?Are you man enough to throw on a pair of heels and a wigand join in the competition? It’s never to early to start practicingand make sure to come out for next year’s drag race! : :May 26-June 8 . 2012 qnotes 21

The queens got it!May 29-June 3 • Charlotte“La Cage Aux Folles”Winner of three Tony Awards including the award for Best Musical Revival,this hilarious new production of “La Cage Aux Folles” was the biggest hit of the2010 Broadway season, leaving audiences in stitches night after night! StarringGeorge Hamilton and Christopher Sieber, “La Cage” tells the story of Georges(George Hamilton), the owner of a glitzy nightclub in lovely Saint-Tropez, and hispartner Albin (Christopher Sieber), who moonlights as the glamorous chanteuseZaza. When Georges’ son brings his fiancée’s conservative parents home tomeet the flashy pair, the bonds of family are put to the test as the feather boasfly! “La Cage” is a tuneful and touching tale of one family’s struggle to staytogether, stay fabulous, and above all else, stay true to themselves! Belt Theaterat Blumenthal Performing Arts Center, 130 North Tryon St. entertainment. news. views.May 27 • Winston-Salem2nd/4th Sunday Winston-Salem Tea DanceA portion of the proceeds will benefit EqualityWinston-Salem. Suggested $3 donation at thedoor. Music by DJ Clash featuring a dance offwith cash prizes. 5–9 p.m. Encore, 411 W. 4thSt. 30 • Winston SalemWednesday Tea EventOut at the Movies presents their Wednesdayevent which supports a variety of LGBT charitieswith a portion of the proceeds. There willbe an outside patio bar, tapas and fun timesfor everyone. Drink specials and guest pickedmusic. 6 p.m. Encore, 411 West 4th 1 • RaleighFirst Friday Art and WineThis month, The LGBT Center of Raleighfeatures the artwork of local residentRebecca Chapin. The LGBT Center is proudto be the only venue in the Triangle exclusivelyshowcasing emerging and establishedLGBT artists. For more information about TheLGBT Center of Raleigh and their events, visittheir website. 6-9 p.m. The LGBT Center ofRaleigh, 411 Hillsborough St.lgbtcenterofraleigh.comJune 2 • Rock HillPaint for the Cure benefiting RAINJoin Chi Psi Omega Fraternity as they holda unique event benefiting Regional AIDSInterfaith Network (RAIN). There will be musicto keep you entertained and food/drinks tokeep you energized and hydrated for play.Prizes to the winning team during tournamentplay, and door prize giveaways at random toplayers. Come out and help us raise money forRAIN.For more information and to purchasetickets, contact Chi Psi Omega Fraternity. 12-6p.m. Palmetto Hills Paintball Fields,1481 Anderson Rd. 1 • Myrtle BeachFirst Friday Happy HourFirst Friday is the after work happy hourdesigned for everyone to just have fun whenthe work day is over and to meet new friends.Join in for the gay professionals happy hourwhere everyone is welcome! To stay up todate with each month’s events make sure toforward your email address to This month’s happyhour will be at King Kong Sushi and will featurehalf off bottles of wine. King Kong Sushi,2120 Oakheart 5 • CharlotteWhat Does Amendment One MeanLearn what Amendment One really meansand find out how you can protect yourselfand your partner at a free legal presentationby attorney Connie J. Vetter. Vetter has beenin practice serving the legal needs of LGBTNorth Carolinians foralmost 20 years. Inaddition to her legalpractice, she is anactivist and volunteerfor LGBT causes. Theevent is co-sponsoredby MeckPAC. Thisevent is free and opento the public. 7 p.m.The LGBT CommunityCenter of Charlotte,820 Hamilton St., SuiteB11 (located in theNorth Carolina MusicFactory).gaycharlotte.comJune 14 • Columbia“Avenue Q” - Pride styleWinner of the Tony “Triple Crown” for BestMusical, Best Score and Best Book, “AvenueQ” is part flesh, part felt and packed withheart. “Avenue Q” is a laugh-out-loud musicalthat tells the timeless story of a recent collegegrad named Princeton who moves into ashabby New York apartment all the way outon Avenue Q. There, he meets Kate (the girlnext door), Rod (the Republican), Trekkie (theinternet sexpert), Lucy the Slut (need we saymore?), and other colorful types who helpPrinceton finally discover his purpose in life!Featuring puppets created by The ColumbiaMarionette Theatre! “Avenue Q” will leaveyou rolling in the aisles with the most originalexperience in the Midlands thissummer. Proceeds benefit SCPride and The Harriet HancockFoundation. Trustus Theatre,520 Lady 23 • Charlotte“Falsettos” — A musical byWilliam FinnQueen City Theatre Companybrings a night of music andtheatre to the McGlohonTheatre for two nights only withFalsettos, a musical comedyabout life, love, sex and loss.The characters renegotiatethe definitions of family andwhat it means to care for and about someone.The story revolves around Marvin, hisex-wife Trina, his psychiatrist Mendel, hisson Jason and his gay lover Whizzer Brown.We also meet Marvin’s lesbian neighbors, Dr.Charlotte, an internist and Cordelia, a koshercaterer. Winner of the Tony Award for BestBook and Best Original Score, and with anextraordinary cast of local artists, this is atheatrical event that you will not want to miss!Any donations and proceeds from this eventis part of the Queen’s Fab Fest and benefitCampus Pride for LGBT Youth. McGlohonTheater at Spirit Square, 345 N. 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