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insideong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong>, ong>2011ong>Vol 26 No 10connectgoong>qnotesong>.comtwitter.com/ong>qnotesong>carolinasfacebook.com/ong>qnotesong>carolinasSign up for our weekly emailnewsletter at goong>qnotesong>.com.contributors this issueRobbi Cohn, Matt Comer,Charlene Lichtenstein, LaineyMillen, Leslie Robinson, DavidStout, Terri Schlichenmeyer, Trinity,Rodney Tuckerfront pageGraphic Design byMatt Comer & Lainey MillenPhoto Credit:sALFA: Roger PlasterMadison: Tony Pearcenews & features1 Reaching ‘The Invisible Population’6 News Notes: Regional Briefs8 Tar Heel leads HRC exec search9 Preview: NC Pride ong>2011ong>12 Moving fast, building communityopinions & views4 Editor’s Note4 General Gayety4 QPoll5 T-NotesNot for Reproductiona&e / life&style10 Buzzin’ up the stage11 Out in Print14 Tell Trinity15 Out in the Starsong>17ong> Audiophile19 Q events calendar12Material in ong>qnotesong> is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © ong>2011ong> and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability— for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. ong>qnotesong> nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of ong>qnotesong> or its staff. ong>qnotesong> accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.On the cover:Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x207 adsales@goong>qnotesong>.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.686310ALFA staff members DavidZealy, left, and RodneyTucker have been leadingnew outreach efforts in abid to reduce HIV infectionrates among Northwest NorthCarolina’s gay and bisexualmen.Hillsborough’s Joni Madisonwill co-chair HRC executivesearch committee with LosAngeles’ Dana Perlman.Editor: Matt Comerx202 editor@goong>qnotesong>.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stouteditor2@goong>qnotesong>.comProduction: Lainey Millenx205 production@goong>qnotesong>.comPrinted on recycled paper.ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionVIEWSeditor’s noteby matt comermatt@goong>qnotesong>.comCan’t stop Pride, Can’t stop LibertyVIEWSgeneral gayetyby leslie robinsonong>qnotesong> contributorA touch of the Divine in FloridaYou can’t stop Pride. Don’t even try.Human dignity and determination of spiritcan’t be overshadowed by hate and prejudice.That’s exactly the message sent by thethousands who attended Pride Charlotte onAug. 27, the same day hundreds of anti-gayprotesters from Charlotte’s radical, religiousright made a show of desperate force in aneffort to stymie progress and turn back theclock on LGBT equality.As a member this year of Pride Charlotte’sorganizing committee, I had the overwhelminglypositive privilege of serving and volunteeringwith a phenomenal group of people.These folks, from all corners of our community,dedicated their time, talents and energyto a cause so much greater than themselves.It paid off.As the day wound down on S. TryonSt. and as the Duke Energy Center lit up inrainbow glory, it became immediately apparentthat something big had just happened— something the likes of which the QueenCity has never ong>seeong>n. Pride Charlotte’s festivalthis year was the largest, in both attendanceand physical space, ever produced by TheLGBT Community Center of Charlotte or anyother group that’s previously hosted Prideevents here in years past. The event had someof the most diverse entertainment local Pridefestivals have ever ong>seeong>n and a plethora ofdiverse vendors and participating organizations.To cap it all off, a full slate of Pride Weekactivities kept the Pride momentum flowingfor 10 days. At the festival itself, CharlotteMayor Anthony Foxx made history by becomingthe first mayor to ever speak at a localPride event; he was joined by Chairman of theMecklenburg County Board of CommissionersJennifer Roberts and several members of theCharlotte City Council.The success of this year’s Pride Charlottewas overwhelming, but it came at an unfortunatetime; LGBT North Carolinians findthemselves facing a challenge of unprecedentedimportance. As I write this column,state lawmakers are ramping up to hear,potentially, a draconian anti-LGBT constitutionalamendment that would forever write-offLGBT people as undeserving of the full rightsof citizenship naturally afforded them in thisgreat state. And, as you read, news of theamendment’s potential vote and its outcomewill have already unfolded.Whatever the outcome of the amendmentvote, there is an absolute constant that cannever be changed no matter the amount ofhate and bigotry spewed across airwavesand on the streets by radical religious bigotsor on the floor of our state’s hallowed legislaturefrom radical anti-gay lawmakers. Thatabsolute, my friends, is as solid as the groundupon which we walk and the ever-abidingtruths that have shaped our nation’s continualmarch toward more and equal justice:All people are created equal and endowedwith certain rights which can never really bestripped away.If by the time you’re reading this, theamendment has gained the approval of thelegislature and we now face a ballot campaign,take heart in the fact that truth alwaysprevails. There are slips and there are falls,but, ultimately, as MLK reminds us, the arcof the moral universe always bends towardjustice. LGBT people will have our day in thesun — anti-LGBT religious and legislativefoes know this, and that is why they fight sodesperately hard to stop our progress.Pride Charlotte showed the Queen City thesize, strength, value, diversity and courage ofour local, LGBT community; any impendinganti-LGBT ballot campaign will show the OldNorth State the same statewide. Whatever theoutcome, we will be made stronger, knowingthat attempts to strip away rights and freedomsnever last, always finding their ultimatedoom when the light of ever-prevailing libertyis cast upon them. : :“The mind of a bigot is like the pupil of theeye. The more light you shine on it, the more itwill contract.”— Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.,U.S. Supreme Court Justice (1902-1932)“The great ideals of liberty and equalityare preserved against the assaults of opportunism,the expediency of the passing hour,the erosion of small encroachments, the scornand derision of those who have no patiencewith general principles.”— Benjamin Cardozo,U.S. Supreme Court Justice (1932-1938)Whether or not you’ve heard of JerryBuell, in a few minutes you’re going to find ithard to forget him.Buell is a high school teacher in MountDora, Fla., who posted on Facebook that he“almost threw up” when he heard about NewYork’s legalization of gay marriage. He saidsame-sex unions were part of a “cesspool,”and called them a “sin.”In other words, he holds mild opinions onthe subject.A U.S. history instructor, Buell was suspendedfrom the classroom and reassigned,the Orlando Sentinel reported, while the schooldistrict investigated whether he violated anethics policy that calls for educators to valuethe “worth and dignity of every person.”Even those persons who make you want totoss your cookies.Buell said his gay students “know thatI don’t hate them. I love them.” He said hisFacebook post didn’t spring from hatred. “Itwas about the way I interpret things.”Indeed. He interpreted gay marriage rightsas cause for Dramamine.The ACLU stated Buell had the right tosay what he pleased. The mega-conservativeLiberty Counsel also argued for Buell’s right tooff-gas on Facebook.After a weeklong investigation, the LakeCounty Schools superintendent reinstated him.A “written directive” was put in his file, but sofar it’s unknown whether the directive is a reprimand,a warning or a recipe for sponge cake.A nanosecond after Buell was reinstated,a new controversy arose. The school districtturned its attention to whether he monkeyedaround with the constitutional separation ofchurch and state.On his syllabus, Buell included this headsup to students: “I teach God’s truth, I makevery few compromises. If you believe you mayhave a problem with that, get your schedulechanged, ‘cause I ain’t changing!’” And, on adifferent document, Buell labeled the classroomhis “mission field.”Call me crazy, but I think a wee bit of hisfaith has crept into the fella’s teaching.By way of another tiny hint, Buell wroteon his school webpage that he tries to “teachand lead my students as if Lake Co. Schoolshad hired Jesus Christ himself.”What does that mean? Does Buell handout loaves and fishes in the cafeteria? Is hegiven to healing the sick in the school nurse’soffice? Perhaps, he trots down to the biologyclass to raise dissected frogs from the dead.Or, when the swim team isn’t hogging it, hewalks on the pool.I would think God would command ahigher salary than the school system could afford.On the other hand, wouldn’t Jesus teachfor free? And have no need of a 401(k)?At any rate, I can report that last year Buellwas named Mount Dora High School’s Teacherof the Year. He wasn’t named Deity of the Year.A lawyer from the Liberty Counsel is representingBuell and the organization staged arally at which, fighting tears, Buell said, “I’ma social studies teacher and I knew what theheck I was doing.”I should hope so. If he wants to reek of divinity,being all-knowing is a basic requirement.“There’s a thing in this country called theFirst Amendment,” he told the crowd. “I firmlybelieve in the right to express my opinionspassionately.”Expressing his religious opinions so passionatelyin a public school might strike you asa clear violation of the separation of churchand state and you might think those opinionsare a threat to LGBT students, as well as othertypes of students.But, the rules are different for God’sstand-in. Buell’s position is stressful — hemust teach history, figure out who’s skippingclass and model holiness all at the same time.Uneasy lies the head that wears a halo. : :info:LesRobinson@aol.com . generalgayety.comqpollWhat did you think about this year’s Pride Charlotte Festival andPride Charlotte Week? 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VIEWSt-notesby robbi cohnong>qnotesong> contributorMuch has been written about the upcomingrevisions to the Diagnostic and StatisticalManual of Mental Disorders (DSM), thevolume often called the “psychiatrist’s bible.”This is the main tool wielded by allegedgatekeepers who so often smugly deign todiagnose those of us who have self-definedgender and/or sexuality. Not all clinicians fitinto this categorization, but enough do that thesituation remains problematic.The newest version, DSM V, contains littlechange. There has been a consistent emphasison the pathology of what they believeis non-normative gender identity, along withconvenient, but erroneous diagnoses such as“gender identity disorder” and “gender identitydysphoria.” Some “diagnosticians” haveeven invented pathologies out of thin air, suchas “autogynephilia,” or the purported love ofoneself as a woman.WPATH, the World ProfessionalAssociation for Transgender Health, is consideredthe foremost association of aforementionedclinicians. There are now manyprofessionals, including practicing physicians,psychologists and psychiatrists, who havecalled for gender issues to be classified asmedical rather than psychiatric. This yearWPATH holds its annual meeting in Atlanta,Ga., and it’s expected that DSM revisions willbe a hot topic.There are many reasons to abandonthe paradigm of pathologization for genderidentity, not the least of which is the evidenceof thousands of successfully-transitionedtranssexual individuals whose lives have beenrestored after coming to an understandingthat their medical status may be remediedthough a regimen endorsed by the majority ofclinicians now assisting them.Among the many reasons to re-evaluatehow gender should be treated, and the consequencesof not plotting such a path forwardsans pathologization, is the case that many inthe religious right have used DSM diagnosticsas a weapon against those who would affirmtheir individual diversity. Over the past yearsand months, I’ve collected a number of citationsfrom such groups. In my opinion, theyare representative of how such organizationsmobilize people and government entities tolegislate unfavorably by citing the DSM, aswell as those psychiatrists and diagnosticianswho insist upon promulgating the myth ofgender pathology.In 2007, Montgomery County, Md.,government had embarked on a path towardgender-inclusive anti-discrimination legislationwhich would include trans protections. InNovember of that year, the anti-gay “news”website “World Net Daily” (WND) reportedon the development and chatted with anti-gayleader Regina Griggs, director of “Parents andFriends of Gays and Ex-Gays.”“Gender identity disorders exist in the diagnosticstatistics manual,” Griggs said. “Whywould we want to promote cross-dressing,changing your sex. You’re not a man’s brain ina woman’s body and vice versa.”Griggs continued, saying the local governmentwas “trying to normalize mental illness.”In a related WND column, Robert Tyler,general counsel for the Advocates for FaithThe co-opting of diagnosis& Freedom, wrote, “The female residents ofMontgomery County clearly have a right ofprivacy that prohibits all persons of the oppositesex from using a restroom, locker room,or other similar facility designated for females;it is ridiculous to place the desires of personssuffering from gender identity disorder infront of the constitutional rights and safety of99 percent of the residents in MontgomeryCounty.” Others, including Ruth Jacobs ofCitizens for a Responsible Government, havemade similar allegations.In 2008 and 2009, Massachusetts wasdebating two bills which would have addedgender identity to the state’s already protected-classes.In a piece from “Queer Today,”Kris Mineau of the Massachusetts FamilyInstitute was quoted: “Transgenderism isclassified as a disorder by the AmericanPsychiatric Association in its Diagnosticand Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders.Under this bill, if a father and his youngdaughter went to a public accommodationand the young girl needed to use the ladiesroom, her own father could not go in withher, but a man claiming a gender identitydisorder could.”A year later, Brian Camenker ofMassResistance was cited in OneNewsNow.“Well, it’s a huge problem,” Camenker said.“Number one...it legitimizes the concept oftransgenderism among middle-school kids,which is completely absurd and offensive andmedically dangerous. The medical communityrecognizes gender-identity disorder as somethingthat needs psychological help, you know— not this politically correct pandering thatactually causes more self-destruction.”In New Hampshire, similar legislationdubbed “The Bathroom Bill” attemptedtrans-inclusion. It was met with just as muchhostility. State Rep. Joseph Hagan said genderissues were “one small facet of a muchbroader psychiatric illness.” CornerstonePolicy Research, a conservative and fundamentally-alignedthink tank, also weighed inwith ammunition, stretched though it may be,provided by the DSM.Space precludes the elaboration of otherinstances wherein the DSM has been subvertedto further an agenda which specificallydisenfranchises trans individuals. Citationsabound and I’d be happy to forward themto any and all interested parties. Venuesinclude Maine, Maryland, Oregon, Californiaand Michigan.And if you think being gay exempts youfrom accusations of mental illness, thisshould disabuse you of that notion: “Despiteall the rhetoric, here are the quick and accuratefacts about homosexuals and theirbehavior. There is no ‘gay gene,’ no innatetrait or brain distinction between heterosexualsand homosexuals. Homosexuality is nota ‘civil right’ as identified anywhere in ourConstitution or its amendments. Homosexualsexperience substantially higher instancesof mental illness. Homosexuals are, in fact,implicated far more often, per-capita, thanheterosexuals in cases of child sexual abuse.The number of ‘hate crimes’ directed atong>seeong> T-Notes on 9Not for ReproductionNot for ReproductionMeeting Date: Tuesday, ong>Septong>ember 20, ong>2011ong>Program: Wine Tasting/Art ExhibitGil Gallery109 West Morehead St.Time:Cash Bar Social/Heavy Hor d’oeuvres @ 5:ong>30ong> pmProgram starts @ 6:45 pmCost: $20To Reserve: Call 704.565.5075or email businessguild@yahoo.comfor more informationor pay online via PayPal atwww.charlottebusinessguild.orgwww.charlottebusinessguild.orgong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong>


Not for ReproductionBRIEFSnews notes:from the carolinas, nation and worldcompiled by Lainey Millen :: lainey@goong>qnotesong>.com | David Stout :: david@goong>qnotesong>.com | Matt Comer :: matt@goong>qnotesong>.comCharlottePride gets an A+CHARLOTTE — Sporting a brand newvenue and a breezy day produced by thefeeder bands from Hurricane Irene, PrideCharlotte ong>2011ong> became one of the mostsuccessful events to date for the LGBT andallied communities of the Queen City.During the week or so leading up to theday-long festival in the trendy, upscale S.Tryon St. area, attendees were able to enjoya plethora of activities. On Aug. 19, TheHuman Canvass Art Exhibit was held at theLGBT Community Center of Charlotte. Paintedmodels gave art a new 3-D perspective aswell as creations created by the center’sStillOut Photography Club. The following day,the Charlotte Royals RFC (rugby) team took onthe Columbus Coyotes. That evening Petra’shosted a “Got Talent” finale. An interfaith servicerounded out the weekend’s fare. Kickingoff the next week was a Rainbowlers bowlingnight with an after party at Sidelines. On Aug.23, a party was held at the Westin. More funfollowed the next day with a GayCharlotteFilm series showing of “Make the YuletideGay” at the Wells Fargo Auditorum in UptownCharlotte. A couple of days later there wasa Britney Spears pre-concert takeover anda bingo event to support Pride Charlotte, aswell as a concert by Charlotte Pride Band,Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte and OneVoice Chorus. Another takeover was heldat the Bechtler Museum of Modern Art and“RuPaul’s Drag Race” contestant, JessicaWild, rocked it out at Scorpio. Following thePride festival, brunches were held at SoulGastrolounge and Hartigan’s, as well as a funday at Independence Park.On the day of the festival, a record-setting27,000 people, according too organizers,assembled to enjoy the camaraderie, entertainmentand fun along Uptown Charlotte’s maindrag. Police made only one arrest — anti-gayprotestor Flip Benham. He refused to complywith their requests to turn down the volume onloudspeakers. His cohorts graced the streetsscreaming anti-gay rhetoric to passers-by andcarried signs that damned “the sinner” andmore. Although a nuisance to festival goers,the anti-gay participants were mostly ignoredas they tried to share their messages.As the festival came to and end, anyonewho was in eyesight of the Duke EnergyBuilding was able to enjoy the tower lit up inrainbow colors as a way to cap off a rousingsuccessful event.— L.M.Center expands hoursCHARLOTTE — The LGBT CommunityCenter of Charlotte, 820 Hamilton St., hasexpanded its hours to include longer hours onSaturday and being open on Monday.New hours are Monday-Thursday, 5-8p.m.; Friday, 10 a.m. - 1 p.m.; and Saturday: 10a.m.- 4 p.m.The center is closed on Sundays.Center Board Chair John Stotler said, “Ourcurrent board of directors has worked veryhard to improve every facet of our Community ong>qnotesong> ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong>Center’s operation, and we are on track toexpand programs, improve fund-raising andemploy a full-time executive director in thenear future. We are also poised to launch anew website.”— L.M.TriadMad Hatter to visit ballWINSTON-SALEM — The AdamFoundation (AF) will host its Adam inWonderland: A Mad Hatters Ball ong>2011ong> on Oct.8, 7 p.m.-1 p.m. at Gateway Gallery at TheEnrichment Center, 1006 S. Marshall St.This gala event will recognize Foundationgrant recipients.Enjoy great food, cash bar and dance thenight away with a guest DJ.Don’t stop there, bid on items at the silentand live auctions in support of the work thatAF does to champion the community. AFneeds to raise monies to provide for $35,000 ingrants to eight local projects.Cost is $ong>30ong> if purchased through boardmembers at AF monthly events or onlinethrough Oct. 7 or $35 at the door. Studenttickets are $15 either in advance or at the doorwith ID. All advance tickets can be mailed outor available at the door for pickup.Want to be a sponsor or partner? Thenfor a contribution of $250, recipient willreceive guest privileges at the Queen ofHearts/S&P Pre-Party on Oct. 7 at a greenhousevenue.Volunteers are being sought to assist withthe auctions and to distribute posters, prepareAdam Festival invitation mailing project and setup for the event. To learn more, email MichelleHannah at westend235@aol.com. She will alsobe taking names for those businesses whowish to donate items for the auctions.To purchase tickets or for more information,visit adamfoundation.org.— L.M.Discussions continueWINSTON-SALEM, N.C. — The fourth in aseries of community conversations on issuesimpacting the LGBT community will be heldat Wait Chapel at Wake Forest University onOct. 4 at 7 p.m. under sponsorship of InterfaithVoice and PFLAG Winston-Salem.Featured for the evening’s discussion willbe a focus on the language of bullying.For more information, call Janet Owenat 336-406-9771 or email interweaveuufws@gmail.com or Tim Sturgis at 336-978-3408 oremail timboilf@msn.com.— L.M.TriangleBearin’ it at the ballRALEIGH — The Carolina Bear Lodge willhold its Coming Out! Cotillion Ball on Oct. 1,7:ong>30ong>-11 p.m, at the Holiday Inn Raleigh North,2805 Highwoods Blvd.Enjoy dancing, refreshments and cash baralong with placing bids on silent auction itemsto benefit the LGBT Center of Raleigh. Prizeswill be awarded during the evening.Tickets are $25 single/$45 couples and areNot for ReproductionMitzel has made awonderous lifeCHARLOTTE — Jordan Mitzel, born in the spring of 1998to an alcoholic, HIV-infected and crack-addicted prostitute,has survived much in his short life. He battled the affects offetal alcohol syndrome and drug addiction from the momenthe arrived. Seems like a real horror tale, but he was luckybecause his mother left him at the hospital and he wasplaced with Beverly Mitzel and Sonja Austin at just five daysold. Eventually, they would become his new moms. (For thefull story, visit goong>qnotesong>.com/top2007/top01_042107.html.)Since 2007, participants at the annual Regional ong>AIDSong>Interfaith Network (RAIN) ong>AIDSong> Walk have ong>seeong>n him in fullforce, taking to the streets to help raise monies for HIV/ong>AIDSong> causes. In fact, he has been a top fundraiser and hasreceived awards for doing so. He’s got his own website andFacebook page that shares his story and his initiatives, inaddition to postings on YouTube. He has a recycling projectwhich helps to collect contribution dollars for the Walk.He’ll even secretly land a flock of flamingos on the lawn ofunknowing people whose friends have made contributionsto the Walk’s cause.His work recently caught the eye of POZ Magazine which showcased him in a featureinterview. He said that his greatest achievement was “helping change people’s ideas aboutHIV.” He goes on to say that Ryan White is his hero and was able to meet White’s motherwho shared that she was proud of him for raising so much money.For more information, visit jordanmitzel.me or poz.com.— L.M.available online at carolinabears.com, at thecenter at 411 Hillsborough St. from 12-6 p.m.or at the door.A pre-cotillion party kicks off the evening’sfestivities at the center at 6 p.m.To make contributions or for more information,visit lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.— L.M.Awards dinner slatedRALEIGH — The ong>2011ong> LGBT Center ofRaleigh’s Coming Out Awards Dinner willbe held on Oct. 7 from 7-10 p.m. at TheStockroom at 2ong>30ong>, Carolina Trust Building, 2ong>30ong>Fayetteville St.Outstanding individuals be recognized fortheir contributions to the community. A silentauction will help benefit the center. Co-chairsare Paul Coggins and Alan Scott.Space is limited, so make reservationsnow. Tickets are $100. Want to sit with a groupof your friends? Then let the center handlefilling your table which seats 10 with peopleon a list you provide.To make reservations, sponsor a specialguest or more for more information, visitlgbtcenterofraleigh.com.— L.M.Board member soughtRALEIGH — The Raleigh Business &Professional Network is ong>seeong>king names ofindividuals who would be able to fill a boardof director’s position which was recently vacatedby Keith Worley. His departure resultedfrom a relocation outside the Raleigh area.Applicants should be willing to serve untiland including elections in July 2012. A commitmentto attend monthly meetings, as well as activeparticipation in the planning and executionof Network events would be required.For more information, email info@raleighnetwork.org.Western— L.M.New bar owners announcedASHEVILLE — O’Henry’s, 237 HaywoodSt., is now under new ownership.Pete Moyle and Steve McCain sold it toKevin Austin and Jim Haggerty, after havingbeen its proprietors for 20 years. They tookover on Aug. ong>17ong>.Mountain Xpress reported that the newowners have been in Asheville for four yearssince their retirement. They plan on doingsome cosmetic changes to the place. Newhours are 4 p.m. to closing.“We are proud to be the torch bearers ofthis vital part of our Asheville Community,”Austin shared.— L.M.South CarolinaPalmetto State holds PrideCOLUMBIA — South Carolina Pride helda week-long slate of events leading up to theirong>Septong>. 3 march and festival in the state’s capital.An opening ceremony was held at theHarriet Hancock Community Center on Aug.28. The next day bowlers took to the lanes atAMF at Parkland Plaza. On Aug. ong>30ong>, a lectureand screening of the Santiago Echeverry film“The Legend of Leigh Bowery” was held atthe Columbia Museum of Art. Hot, Spicy & Fullof Pride! event sponsored by South CarolinaBlack Pride got folks past Hump Day. A pre-Pride party was held at PTs 1109 on ong>Septong>. 2with “RuPaul’s Drag Race” season three winnerAlexis Mateo entertaining on stage. At the


same time a ladies pre-party was held at TheL Word with Kristy Lee, a singer-songwriter,belting out tunes.The main festivities began at noon withthe Pride Parade on ong>Septong>. 3 which ended atthe festival site at Finlay Park. Mateo, Lee,along with Martha Wash and Amber, keptattendees entertained. Wiping brows and gettinga second wind, festival goers attended ablock party featuring Amber at PTs 1109.Highlight for the festival was RichlandCounty Councilman Seth Rose being awardedthe SC Pride Courage and LeadershipAward. “Rose was recognized for his workin proposing and helping to pass ordinancesthat include a person’s sexual orientation inthe county’s anti-discrimination policies,” TheState reported.— L.M.Care group highlights successROCK HILL — Catawba Care, an HIV/ong>AIDSong>service provider which handles casework inYork, Chester and Lancaster Counties, has alot to be proud of these days.First off, they have settled into their newhome at 500 Lakeshore Pkwy., having paid offthe mortgage, as well as celebrated their successfulannual fundraiser, Dazzle and Denim.Back on March 29, they were recognizedwith the ong>2011ong> Erin HardwickExcellence in Non-Profit ManagementAward at the South Carolina Associationof Non-Profit Organizations. They receivedthis for the category of non-profits withbudgets over $500,000.The organization offers free and confidentialHIV testing Monday-Thursday, 9 a.m.-4p.m. at their offices. Peer training is also available,The next date is Oct. 7. Email lbrafford@catawbacare.org for more details.For more information, call 803-909-6363 orvisit catawbacare.org.— L.M.NationalHospital visitation rules updatedWASHINGTON, D.C. — On ong>Septong>. 7,the U.S. Department of Health and HumanServices released new guidelines thatstrengthen the Nov. 2010 hospital visitationrules that protect patients’ rights tobe visited in the hospital by their familiesand loved ones. The guidance, which tookeffect immediately, makes several importantchanges to current policy and providessignificant protections for LGBT patients andtheir families.The new guidance requires that when apatient is competent to choose a representativeand surrogate decision-maker, hospitalsmust honor that request, even if the personhad previously designated someone else.In addition, when a patient is incapacitated,hospitals must recognize a patient’s selfidentifiedfamily members, regardless ofwhether they are related by blood or legallyrecognized. This rule specifically includessame-sex partners and de facto parent-childrelationships, and even prohibits a hospitalfrom requiring proof of a relationship in orderto respect that relationship.Where a patient is incapacitated andmore than one person claims to be thepatient’s representative, hospitals mustresolve the dispute by considering who thepatient would be most likely to choose. Thehospital must consider factors includingthe existence of a legally recognized marriage,domestic partnership or civil union, ashared household or any special factors thatshow that a person has a special familiaritywith the patient and the patient’s wishes.Importantly, the guidance does not requirethat the marriage, domestic partnership orcivil union be legally recognized by the statein which the patient is being treated.— D.S.Mistrial in case of 15 y.o. killerOXNARD, Calif. — On ong>Septong>. 1, VenturaCounty Superior Court Judge CharlesCampbell declared a mistrial in the BrandonMcInerney murder case because the jurycould not reach an agreement on whether tofind McInerney guilty of first-degree murder,second-degree murder or manslaughter.McInerney was 14 when he murdered 15-year-old Lawrence “Larry” King in class atE.O. Green Junior High School in Oxnard,Calif. Reportedly, McInerney was embarrassedby King’s public declaration of lovea few days earlier, which prompted him toshoot King in the head on Feb. 12, 2008.After the proceeding ended in deadlock,the prosecution vowed to immediately retryMcInerney. However, they indicated thedecision to try him as an adult as in the firsttrial might be reversed to better ensure aguilty verdict.GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byardstated, “The mistrial declared today is hardlya surprise. This was always destined to bea case with little resolution and no winners,whatever the verdict. The central facts remainthe same: homophobia killed Larry King anddestroyed Brandon McInerney’s life, andadults failed both young men because of theirown inability to deal forthrightly and compassionatelywith the multiple challenges theyeach faced. The jury’s indecision is a sadNot for ReproductionNot for Reproductionreflection of our collective inability to findcommon ground and invest in a better futurefor all youth and a culture of respect for all.”— D.S.College sued for hiring biasFORT WORTH, Texas — Lambda Legalhas filed a lawsuit in U.S. District Court for theNorthern District of Texas claiming TarrantCounty College officials violated the U.S.Constitution by preventing qualified candidateJacqueline Gill from interviewing for full-timeteaching positions because of their belief thatshe is a lesbian.“Jacqueline Gill’s qualifications match orexceed those of the other temporary instructorshired by Tarrant County College thatsummer. They were permitted to interviewfor those positions when they were madepermanent, but Gill was not,” said KennethUpton, Jr., Supervising Senior Staff Attorney inLambda Legal’s South Central Regional Officebased in Dallas.Gill received high praise from colleagues,superiors, parents and teachers while at TCC.However, she was also subjected to a lengthydiatribe about “homosexuals” and about how“Texas and Tarrant County College do not likehomosexuals” by English Department Chair EricDevlin after a former student who had been disciplinedfor academic dishonesty by Gill retaliatedby falsely claiming that Gill flirted with girlsduring class, a claim Gill denied. Then, in June2010, Gill alone of the contract teachers whoentered with her in the summer of 2009 was notpermitted even to interview for the teachingpositions when they were made permanent.— D.S.ong>seeong> News Notes on 16ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong>


Not for ReproductionA&EBuzzin’ up thestageA 2010 Tony Awardnominee for Best Playand Pulitzer Prize finalist,“In the Next Room,” tellsthe story of the inventionof our most cherishedbedroom toy. In the late1800s doctors inventeda new medical device totreat patients afflictedwith “female hysteria.” Acharming and insightfulstory of desire, frustration,and sympathy andunderstanding betweenthe sexes. With thesensibility of a play byGeorge Bernard Shawor Oscar Wilde as ong>seeong>nthrough the lyrical lens ofone of our finest modernplaywrights.It’s not too late tocatch “The Vibrator Play”at Charlotte’s Actor’s Theatre. And, great news: It’scoming to Chapel Hill as well.Photo Credit: Actor’s Theatre of CharlotteCharlotte :: Playing through Oct. 1 at Actor’s Theatre of Charlotte. Get more details and ticketsat actorstheatrecharlotte.org.Chapel Hill :: Presented by the PlayMakers Repertory Company, ong>Septong>. 21-Oct. 9.More information and tickets available at playmakersrep.org. : :10 ong>qnotesong> ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong>Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionA&Ejoined the National Guard.Five years later, on Jan. 20, 2003, his cellphone rang. Though he was months awayfrom getting out of his Guard obligation andwas “tired of it,” Lemerlearned that he was beingdeployed. His “horribledecision” to join theNational Guard was turninginto something he neverthought he’d have to worryabout: Lemer was a gaysoldier under a “Don’t Ask,Don’t Tell” policy.But, in going to Iraq,he knew he had to learn torely on his fellow soldiersand vice versa. So, he triedto relax as he traveledwith them to Coloradoand, later that spring, toKosovo, then to Iraq. Lemerwent along with the jokes,the girlfriend talk and the“adolescent” behavior.He participated in anything that banished theboredom of guard duty, building, cleaning dutyand outhouse duty. He emailed a former loveand longed for home.As a few months’ tour of duty stretchedinto a year, Lemer began to notice someoutin printby terri schlichenmeyer :: ong>qnotesong> contributorThe Last DeploymentThey’ve become as familiar to you asyour own living room: auditoriums filled withuniformed, spine-straight soldiers on theirway to deployment or smiling men and women,arms full of family,on their way home.And, no matter whatauditorium they’re in,no matter which smalltown or big city, you canbet that the first groupis wondering what thesecond group has ong>seeong>n.They may neverknow, though, becausemuch is buried and moreis classified. But, militarysecrets aren’t the onlyones kept in times ofwar. In the new book“The Last Deployment”by Bronson Lemer, you’lllearn one of them.Bronson Lemerwas “probably the lastperson anyone expected to join the military.”But, as the oldest of six children, he wantedto get away from North Dakota and “thearmy… happened to be at the right place atthe right time.”Lemer was still in high school when hething: deployment was taking its toll oneverybody. The men and women who left theStates were not the same people who camehome from Iraq.And, neither was Lemer.Over the past decade, you’ve undoubtedlyong>seeong>n lots of TV and read many words aboutthe War in Iraq. But just wait until you get yourhands on “The Last Deployment”…Author Lemer’s memoir of being a gayman in the military is half sass and half sadwith a few heart-pounding moments, but noblood-and-guts. His story moves betweenidyllic memories of his growing-up and warmfeelings for his bunkmates and co-soldiers,while readers are also placed in the centerof the boredom of waiting, the frustration ofnot knowing and the dismay of hiding in orderto be accepted. Lemer’s is a wonderfullydescriptive, wryly humorous, heart-crushingstory, and I couldn’t put it down.With the repeal this month of “Don’t AskDon’t Tell,” this is timely and definitely wortha read. If you love a soldier, your country orboth, “The Last Deployment” is a book you’llwant to tell everybody about. : :info:“The Last Deployment: How a Gay, Hammer-Swinging Twentysomething Survived a Year inIraq” by Bronson Lemerc. ong>2011ong>, University of Wisconsin Press$24.95 U.S. & Canada, 223 pagesong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> 11Not for Reproduction


NEWSNot for ReproductionMoving fast,building communityRaleigh’s LGBT Center continues growth, community unityby Matt Comer matt@goong>qnotesong>.com12 ong>qnotesong> ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong>RALEIGH — Not even five years old, theLGBT Center of Raleigh has nonetheless experiencedits fair share of milestones. Thoseinvolved credit the group’s leaders’ and volunteers’commitment for its accomplishments.“One of the great things I’ve noticed aboutthe Center is that everyone involved is no nonsenseand have a ‘get things done’ attitude,”says Alex Wall, the volunteer coordinator ofthe Center’s M Club program. “Things move ata fast pace here.”Wall couldn’t have said it more aptly.The LGBT Center of Raleigh started withits initial planning and fundraising in 2008. By2009, it made its official debut to the community.In February 2010, the Center found itsfirst home, joining with Triangle CommunityWorks to share office and programmingspace. Soon thereafter, the group hired itsfirst executive director, Bobby Hilburn, andlater announced a merger between it andTriangle Community Works.Since then, the Center has found a newhome on Hillsborough St. and has rolled outa series of successful programs, including itspopular Gay and Gray initiative and its first-everOutRaleigh Festival. The Pride-like event was afirst for the state capital, attracting thousands.This year, the Center faces new milestonesas Hilburn prepares to depart for newprofessional opportunities in October. That’sthe same month the group will host its firstNot for ReproductionRaleigh is Coming Out awards dinner.For the past three years, the Center hashosted some sort of event in October in recognitionof National Coming Out Day on Oct. 11.Last year, the group presented its first awards.“We decided to really make our event thisyear about the award winners,” Hilburn says.The event will be hosted on Oct. 7 (ong>seeong> ourQ Events Calendar on page 19 or local and regionalnews notes on page 6 for more details).Programs provide supportAmong the Center’s more popular programsis its M Club. Wall started the initiativeas an independent project in 2008. It eventuallybecame a project of Triangle CommunityWorks. When that group merged with theCenter, M Club came under its auspices.Wall says he started off with a simpleMyspace page.“I invited people to become friends onthat,” he says. “Then we started an emaillistserv and it grewthrough word of mouthand friends becominginterested through theinternet.”At the core of theprogram’s mission is itsfocus on providing healthy,community-building socialopportunities for younggay and bi men ages18-ong>30ong>. As an affiliate ofthe national MpowermentProject, the local programalso functions as an HIVawareness, preventionand education group.“We provide differentsocial, educationaland community serviceevents to provide peopleopportunities for makingfriends, meeting other guysand having an alternativethe bar scene,” Wall, 28,explains. “M Club events are also drug, alcoholand hookup free. That’s an important thingif you don’t want to be around that thing orhave to be in a meat-market atmosphere thathappens in the bars and also in some other gayorganizations or groups.”He adds, “Some people just want to bethemselves and have an environment werethey are accepted for who they are not onhow good they look or who you like or dislike.”M Club hosts several events each month.Those have included movie nights, discussiongroups, bowling and dinner parties. They’vealso worked together in community serviceand fundraising projects.“We do just about anything a normalgroup of friends would go out and do,” hesays. “We just do it as a bigger group.”Wall stresses that positive social environmentsand interactions can provide opportunitiesto empower young men.“It’s really important to have people supportingyou and building you up, instead oftearing you down or getting you involved indangerous activities,” he says.The M Club helps fulfill its HIV awarenessand prevention promise, Wall explains, byhelping young men not engage in self-destructivebehaviors.Hilburn thinks the M Club is importantfor both the Center and the greater Raleighcommunity.“It’s got a big focus on safe sex andhealthy lifestyles,” he says, crediting Wall forthe group’s continued growth. “Alex is doing aphenomenal job at growing it and advertisingit to its target audience and making it into adiverse group.”Hilburn says the Center is thinking aboutmirroring the concept in a group targetedtoward women.Community participationon riseHilburn says groups like M Club and theCenter’s other programs are constantly bringingnew people and new voices into the life ofthe organization.“Over the last year, the Center hasgrown phenomenally notonly through our programsbut through communityparticipation,” he says.“We’ve ong>seeong>n an increase inthe numbers and the diversityof people who attendour events.”Among the group’s othernew projects and programsis a nascent transgendertask force. Hilburn saysthe group will provide aspace for discussion andorganization for members ofRaleigh’s and the Triangle’strans community.“It’s an opportunity forindividuals to get togetherand figure out what theirneeds are, whether itssupport or social or a placewhere they can feel safe tocome out,” he says. “We’reexcited about reaching outand being inclusive of the trans community.”Several Center volunteers and boardmembers are already involved in trans communityoutreach, Hilburn adds.The Center will also soon open its newlibrary. They’ve collected over 1,000 books— all donated — and developed a true librarycheck-out system. “A real library,” Hilburnsays. “You even get a library card.”At their awards dinner this year, Hilburnwill help honor two worthy recipients: Formerpastor Jimmy Creech and Triangle BlackPride’s Akil Campbell. Then, sadly, he’ll saygoodbye and step down from his executivedirector’s role. He’s determined to make ita positive departure; in fact, he’s lookingforward to ong>seeong>ing even more growth and successin the Center’s future.“I can only ong>seeong> us continuing to growin the future as we keep developing ourprograms more and more so that we arereaching individuals and providing programsthat are both social and support,” he says. : :more: Get more details on the LGBT Centerof Raleigh’s upcoming events, its awards dinnerand its programs at lgbtcenterofraleigh.com. For more on M Club, visit mclubnc.com.


Not for ReproductionPositive PostingsPromoting hope and inspirationby Dale Pierce ~ Practice Manager/Ryan White Program DirectorIn a world where HIV and ong>AIDSong> is still on therise, couldn’t all of us with an ounce of compassionoffer a little hope and inspiration to others? Aclient told me the other day, “After my diagnosis, Ifelt at the lowest point in my life. I couldn’t believethat even my church family turned their back onme.” As someone who has worked in the fieldand battled this disease for over 15 years, it stillbreaks my heart to hear these stories of isolationand stigma.Have we not been able in the past ong>30ong> years todispel most of the myths? In case you are wondering,HIV can not be contracted by casual contact.HIV (in my humble opinion and most reasonablepeople) is not a punishment from God for sinning.Like Dixie Carter said in an episode of “DesigningWomen,” “If God were handing out sexuallytransmitted diseases as a punishment for sinning,then you would be at the free clinic all of the time,and so would the rest of us.”I find in talking to clients that we still battle ahigher rate of stigma in the South than other partsof the country and especially among minorities. Itmakes no sense to me how we can address andfix a problem if people are afraid to address it.That is why I applaud the work of organizationslike RAIN (Regional ong>AIDSong> Interfaith Network).Going out to try to educate, inform and shareunderstanding about HIV to our church communitiesis a great place to start. I was dear friendswith Tammy Faye Messner and she always toldme that it was her fervent belief that when Jesusreturns, this is exactly where He would be; in theHIV clinics and cancer centers, holding hands andoffering healing and support. So, why is it so hardfor us to follow those lessons?This year marks Rosedale Infectious Disease’ssecond annual Evening of Hope and Inspiration.Last year, we created this idea, simply because itwas the right thing to do. We enlisted the help ofGospel music greats, The Hoppers, to entertainour crowd at the McGlohon Theatre in Charlotteand Jeanne White, Ryan White’s mother sharedher and Ryan’s story of struggle and heartache.The money we raised from sponsor and ticketsales went to the Jeanne White Ginder FoodPantry at Rosedale ID. We use this “pantry” as anemergency service to offer local grocery gift cardsto HIV infected clients until they get on their feetand/or get to a more stable support service likeLoaves and Fishes or Second Harvest. It is wonderfulthat through the success of our event over 100families have been assisted this year through thegenerosity of others.On Nov.13, ong>2011ong>, at 7:ong>30ong> p.m., RosedaleID has again rented the McGlohon Theatre forthis amazing event. Last year, to be quite honest,all parties involved were a little nervous aboutthe “missing” of dynamics of the participants. Bythe time we all left the theater that evening, werealized that something magical and spiritual hadhappened. It no longer became about what churchyou attend, what you believe in, but there was agreater good at work in that room that put a spiritof understanding and compassion on every heartin the room.This year’s event will feature a headliningconcert by one of Country Gospels’ favorite familyacts, The Martins. Their last homerun took placeamidst years of winning seasons which took themfrom the regional church platforms of Arkansasto the major leagues of the Gaither Homecomingstages, Carnegie Hall, The Grand Ole Opry andthe White House. We last heard from the multipleDove decorated/Grammy-nominated trio ofsiblings on their career retrospective “Decade,”a homage to the trio’s unmistakable harmoniesand vast annals that have tastefully blurred thelines between Southern Gospel, Inspirationaland Contemporary Christian music. And eventhough it’s been several years since the groupreleased an all-new studio CD, this June’s brandnew album finds Arkansas natives and siblingsJoyce, Jonathan and Judy picking up right wherethey left off, complete with some surprise plays.One of those surprises includes their working withproducer and multi-platinum selling Rascal Flattsmember Jay DeMarcus (whose studio credits alsoinclude Rock luminaries Chicago, Country favoriteJo Dee Messina and vocal powerhouse/frequentMartins collaborator Michael English).Another exciting addition to this years’ event isthe fact that Rosedale ID is recognizing communityleaders with the Hope and Inspiration awards.These two very special awards will be given toindividuals who inspire hope and demonstratethrough their lives and careers a willingness togive back to others. Through their works they alsoinspire others to make a difference in our community.This years recipients are Reverend DebbieWarren of RAIN and former WBTV anchor andElevation Church Community Relations DirectorTonia Bendickson.This magical evening will hopefully inspire youto a platform of service this holiday season, whileit also warms your hart, entertains and maybeeven surprises you. Tickets for the event go on saleong>Septong>. 1, ong>2011ong>, and can be purchased for $15-$20 for reserved seating and all proceeds willbenefit the Jeanne White Ginder Food Pantry.You can call 704-372-1000 to get your ticketsor visit carolinatix.org in order to get the bestseats available.Don’t forget to visit our website atrosedaleid.com and friend us on Facebookfor community and clinical updates.— Sponsored Content —ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> 13Not for Reproduction


A&ETo Trinity,My boyfriend moved into a house with four other gay men.Now, he hardly wants to be with me anymore. He also won’ttalk about it. Help!Disappearing Boyfriend, Coral Springs, FLTo Disappeared,You got a big problem, yet an easy solution.Think gay algebra! When one manloves one man that equals one relationship,but when one man moves in withfour other men and wants to stop ong>seeong>ingyou that equals someone-screwingsomeone-behind-someone-else’s-back,whether it’s in that house or not. The possiblesolutions are a) let him know he canbe an animal and still be your boyfriend;b) let him know he cannot be your boyfriendif he doesn’t show more interest; orc) accept that he’s found a new boy toyand move on! But, sweetie, the equationis unsolvable unless you stay busy, go outwith friends, start dating if it’s over andaccept the challenges of life! This tooshall pass.tell trinityby trinityong>qnotesong> contributorWhen someone isscrewing someonebehind someone’s backDear Trinity,Men are dogs! They only want to eat and hump! They can’tkeep a steady relationship, nor do they want to. Is there sometraining course to take?Dog Tired, Kansas City, MONot for ReproductionDear Tired,Men, now that’s an animal in need of training, evenmore so than a dog. Remember, practice makes perfect.So, honey, keep training, keep trying and keep doggytreats in your pockets. (Check my cartoon out to ong>seeong>how I’d train ‘em!)Hey Trinity,When is it the right time to give flowers on a date?Wondering, Seattle, WAHey Wondering,A European lover once said, “It’s always the right timeto give flowers!” And, if anyone knows, it’s those damnEuropeans. However, I think receiving flowers on the firstdate is too much too soon or too serious too fast and appearslike a “red flag”towards obsessive-compulsive,codependent orstalker behavior! That’swhy, darling, I personallyfeel that everyone wouldbe more comfortablereceiving or giving flowerson the third or forthdate or anytime after that.The exceptions to thisrule include prom dates,prearranged dates orfunerals.Dearest Trinity,When my last lover brokeup with me I was devastated.Now, I have to dothe same to someone I amdating. I really want to break the news at the right moment. But,when is the right moment or better yet, when is it the wrongmoment?Stuck In A Hole, Santa Monica, CADearest Stuck,Similarly, the first big question Moses asked God was, “How doI get rid of this Pharaoh guy?” And, after hearing God’s answer,Moses escaped, but with a lot of trouble. But, pumpkin, itwould’ve been much easier if he read:Trinity’s Trusty Tales For(TWM) “The Wrong Moment”To Breakup1. You both just started your Middle East vacation. All hotelbookings, travelers’ checks and train reservations are in hername. She speaks eight languages and you none.2. You’re talking to him via cell phone, just after his carcrashes and he’s surrounded by paramedics.3. You just finished signing the papers for your new house,your new life insurance policy and your new adopted baby.4. Just after the doctor tells him, “I’m sorry, but you have anincurable disease!”5. You’re in a plane, the flight attendant announces, “Both captainsare dead!” And, your partner is the only pilot on board.6. While you’re both at, The Pistol & Rifle Shop, he’s testingthe new “Quick Kill Undetectable Handgun” and there is apower outage.7. While opening her acceptance letter she says, “It’s the happiestday of my life!”8. You’re in the middle, literally, of the most incredible sexualexperience of his and your relationship!9. While you’re on a month-long business trip, she is watchingover your very sick mother, financial assets and your threecats and she calls you to say “Hi!”10. When she hands you the winning, eighty-million-dollar lotteryticket and says, “Honey, look what we’ve won! : :— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity washost of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,and now performs globally.info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.comSponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild800-637-8696 . www.ptown.org14 ong>qnotesong> ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong>Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionA&Eout in the starsby charlene lichtensteinong>qnotesong> contributorong>Septong>ember ong>17ong> - ong>30ong>Start your engines, compadres. Mars entersglorious Leo and life rockets upward. We succeedat anything and everything…at least webelieve that we can. Repeat the mantra and lightthe fuse. Do I hear a sizzle and a pop?VIRGO (08.24-09.23) There is a great deal ofsecretive activity going on behind the scenes.Much of it has to do with unresolved issues thatyou preferred to push under the rug. Keep an earto the ground, queer Virgo. One of two scenariosappears to be in the cards. Either your hiddenenemies are finally vanquished or they rise upfor one last attempted coup. Prepare the guillotineand start the revolution.LIBRA (09.24-10.23) What is it about the eventsthat accelerates all gay Libras into overdrive?Your social swirl whips up into a lather and yourdance card fills to overflowing. Friends cometo you from all corners, from every nook andcranny, from under every rock — or so it ong>seeong>ms.Can you dance at two parties with only one tush?Well, you will certainly try.SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Queer Scorps find themselvesimbued with ambition and zest. This is thetime to put your best professional foot forwardand ong>seeong> how well you can impress those incharge. Confidence and calculated risks makethe difference between sitting among the upperclass and sulking in steerage. Have a great idea?Float it and ong>seeong> who gets carried away.SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Itchy feet must bescratched. Gay Archers feel confined by the usualand staid. They must break out and escape, damnthe cost. Choose some unusual destinations nowand ong>seeong> if there are some interesting distractionsafoot. If money is tight, expand your internationalreach with a combination of food, wine and exoticcompany — virtual or otherwise.CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Your sexual appetite ispiqued. The most uninspired pink Capricorn getsan urge to merge. You have great stamina andare primed for a marathon rather than a shortsprint. But, try to be a bit discriminating. Thereis the off chance that the short-term jolly canevolve into something much more serious. Or,are you just into getting your jollies? Ho ho ho.AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) There is something goingon in your relationships now. Do you feel moreof an emotional connection or are you findingthat the ties now bind? Aqueerians wander intoa crossroad of their own making and feel thatchanges need to be made immediately. There maybe something that you say that brings understandingto a new level. Uh, will that be higher or lower?PISCES (02.20-03.20) Are you taking vitamins?Are you exercising? It may ong>seeong>m that way evento lazy bones. Slothful Guppies feel robust andprimed for action. Use this burst of energy to geta number of long-standing tasks out of the wayand prepare for new ones. At least, if you aregoing to be a rat on a treadmill, you might as welluse it as aerobic fitness.ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams swell with prideand good thing too. Find numerous ways to havefun and let your emotions run wild. Open yourselfup to being giddy and fun-ong>seeong>king. Your giddinessand sense of fun knows no bounds (unless,of course, you are into it). There is the chancethat you will overdo, but do you really care?Recuperate in the autumn.TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Apparently, there are a fewthings that you would like to get off your chest.And, you cannot contain yourself any longer.Queer Bulls can make any excuse to get the familytogether and can mend or bend a few fencesin the process. You have your say, no matter whatyou think the outcome will be. Spruce up yoursurroundings to get ready for the hordes.GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Pink Twins are a bit full ofthemselves — and why not? You are quite theintellectual and are ready to share your insightfulopinions at every opportunity. A mighty windblows, a dust storm ensues. What you may findonce the air has cleared is that it didn’t matterwhether you were right or wrong. What really mattersis that you said it loud, proud and queer. Ahem.CANCER (06.22-07.23) Keep a watchful eye onyour bottom line, gay Crab. Your need for glamexceeds your capacity to pay. There are so manyalluring goodies that catch your eye that you aretempted to spend fast, feckless and furiously.But, before you whip out the wallet, be surethat the object of your desire can deliver on itspurported promise. Will you wind up with trash?Will you care?LEO (07.24-08.23) Proud Lions are prodded intotaking a more active role in implementing anylong-dormant plans. There are no more “whatifs” and “oh wells.” Those stale excuses will nolonger do. There is a short window of opportunity,so get going. You sparkle and shine aroundothers and can start a few social fires. Is it hot inhere or is it you? Nice ash. : :© ong>2011ong> Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All RightsReserved. Entertainment.info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. Mybook “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology ForLesbians” from Simon & Schuster isavailable at bookstores and major booksites.Not for Reproductionong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> 15


News Briefscontinued from page 7GlobalGhana churches sever U.S. tiesACCRA, Ghana — The PresbyterianChurch of Ghana (PCG) has voted to sever tieswith the Presbyterian Church (USA) becausethe latter now ordains open lesbians andgays. The PCG’s Facebook page details thedecisions from its 11th General Assembly. Item9 states, “The Assembly decided to sever relationshipwith any partner church that ordainedhomosexuals as ministers and allowed forsame-sex marriages.”The move is a response to the July 10 decisionof the PCUSA to allow gay and lesbianministers. In addition, the PCG is establishingcenters throughout Ghana to provide exgaytherapy. Right Rev. Emmanuel Martey,moderator of the PCG, told Joy News the planto offer counseling services to homosexualsdoes not mean the church is softening itsposition on homosexuality.Martey is staunchly anti-gay. He hasdescribed homosexuality as filthy, unbiblicaland un-African.— D.S.U.K. to allow gay blood donorsLONDON, England — Gay men will soonbe able to donate blood after the governmentmoved to lift donor restrictions across the U.K.A lifetime ban was put in place in Britain inthe 1980s as a response to the ong>AIDSong> epidemic.But the Department of Health has said menwho have not had homosexual sex within ayear will now be able to donate as of Nov. 7.The move comes after recommendationswere made to change the restrictionsfollowing a review by the AdvisoryCommittee on the Safety of Blood, Tissuesand Organs earlier this year. The committeehad considered the risk of infection beingtransmitted in blood, attitudes of potentialNot for Reproductiondonors in complying with selection criteriaand scientific improvements in the testing ofdonated blood.NHS Blood and Transplant medical and researchdirector Dr Lorna Williamson told SkyNews the advice was accepted by the healthministers in England, Scotland and Wales.She reassured the public that there werelimited risks under the new policy, likeningit to the “same sort of risks as being struckby lightning.”— D.S.Campus SceneHousing changes proposedCHAPEL HILL — The University of NorthCarolina at Chapel Hill may change its housingpolicies. On the table is a proposal to give menand women the chance to share rooms andapartments at the schools residence halls.The Daily Tar Heel reported that KevinClaybren, a sophomore, “began researchingthis housing option for a class projectlast spring — said the option would create amore inclusive and compatible environmenton campus, especially for gay students.” Itwould discourage harassment between oppositesex roommates. He thinks that genderneutralhousingwould be morecomfortable asan option.Claybrenhas sought thecounsel of TerriPhoenix, whoserves as directorof the Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender andQueer Center, on how best to devise the option.Duke University already has one of theseprograms in place, with the pilot program beginningthis fall. It was passed in October 2010.— L.M.info: Have news or other information? Sendyour press releases and updates for inclusionin our News Notes: editor@goong>qnotesong>.com.16 ong>qnotesong> ong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong>Not for Reproduction


A&Eaudiophileby david stoutdavid@goong>qnotesong>.comWhat makes a “real” singer long to be apop diva – the next Britney, Katy or Rihanna?If you asked vocalist Liz Primo that questionshe would probably give you one simple,straightforward answer: An irresistable lovefor the music.Primo grew up in an Austin, Texas homewhere rock ‘n roll was prohibited. She learnedabout and absorbed the influences of hergeneration when visiting the homes of herfriends. On those occasions she listened anddanced to the likes of Elvis Presley, MichaelJackson and MTV. Her journey to becoming apop/dance singer was underway.After graduating from high school at ong>17ong>,The creation of a pop artistPrimo left home for Nashville. She met anetwork of creative people, including her vocalcoach, and numerous industry “experts”who offered to help her develop her sound.Although excited to have professional guidanceshe felt the continued attempts to pushher toward Americana singer-songwriter territorywas an ill fit. On paper, everything wasperfect, but the music simply didn’t resonatewith her soul.While trying to sort things out, Primobefriended a local rapper who encouragedher to add hooks and vocals to some of his hiphop tracks. At the same time, she was turnedon to electronica and house music. SuddenlyNot for Reproductionher path ong>seeong>med clear: Primo moved to L.A. towrite and record dance music. She supportedherself by working as an extra on film andtelevision sets and promotional modeling.Unfortunately, she didn’t make any headwaymusically and money was becoming harderand harder to come by. At a point there wasno choice but to move home to Austin.Not long after her return Primo was askedto join a local band as lead vocalist. Theyplayed every kind of local gig imaginable andeventually landed a spot at the influentialSXSW music conference. Primo enjoyedperforming and the band was on the way up– but the desire to become a dance-pop artistwouldn’t go away and she left for L.A. to giveit another try.Once there, she took a leap of faith andconnected, via the internet, with songwriter/producer Rob Fusari (Lady Gaga, JessicaSimpson) and producer Justin Trugman (PussyCat Dolls, Eminem, “Step Up” soundtrack).From that collaboration, Primo’s first single“State Of Amazing” as well as a dozen othertracks flowed outof her like they hadbeen walled in andwere simply awaitingrelease.“When talent,raw creativeenergy and drivecome together inone package youknow that you havethe recipe for a starto happen,” Fusariobserves. “Liz is on that road to greatness.”We shall ong>seeong>: “State Of Amazing” is thefirst song taken from Prima’s new seven-trackEP, “Exposed” (out now on 444 Records). I’mnot gonna make the same mistake I made withLady Gaga’s “The Fame” and underestimateits potential for success. Given the currentpop scene anything is possible – especiallyfor someone with the drive of a Gaga or, obviously,Primo. Best of luck, diva. : :info: audiophile@goong>qnotesong>.comqomunity qonexions uong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> ong>17ong>Not for Reproduction


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Not for ReproductionHonoring those who serveOct. 7 • RaleighLGBT Center Awards DinnerThe LGBT Center of Raleigh presents their annual awards dinner, Raleigh is Coming Out ong>2011ong>. Space is limited.The Stockroom at 2ong>30ong>, Carolina Trust Building, 2ong>30ong> Fayetteville St. 7-10 p.m. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.ong>Septong>. ong>17ong> • CharlotteOff White PartySponsored by Charlotte Pocket Rocket andpresented by Just Twirl, this White Party afterparty features DJ Seth Cooper. Celebratewith this year’s theme, “Fire & Ice.” VisuliteTheatre, 1615 Elizabeth Ave. 10 p.m.-2:ong>30ong> a.m.$20. justtwirl.com.ong>Septong>. ong>17ong> • HickoryALFA Dining for Friends FinaleDining for Friends (DFF), traditionally heldin June, is now planned for the month ofong>Septong>ember. DFF is a combination of highenergyindividual parties and a communitycelebration benefiting ALFA. All of the proceedsfrom Dining for Friends support ALFA’smission to improve the lives and health ofthose affected by HIV/ong>AIDSong> while preventingtransmission through education and testing.Dining for Friends has two major fun factors:Individual parties and a community celebration,the Dining for Friends Finale. Market onMain, 335 Main Ave. SW. 8 p.m.-midnight.alfadiningforfriends.org.ong>Septong>. 20 • CharlotteCenter: Mara KeislingMara Keisling, executive director of theNational Center for Transgender Equality,hosts a reception and community forum atThe LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, 820Hamilton St. Suite B11. 6:ong>30ong> p.m. gaycharlotte.com. Sponsored by The Center, Campus Pride,Carolina Transgender Society and the HumanRights Campaign.ong>Septong>. 20 • CharlotteCBG Wine TastingThe Charlotte Business Guild hosts a specialwine tasting and art exhibit at the Gil Gallery,109 W. Morehead St. 5:ong>30ong>-8 p.m. $20.charlottebusinessguild.org.ong>Septong>. 20 • CharlotteGoodbye to ‘Don’t Ask’Join Charlotte’s LGBT community for a specialcelebration of the final and full implementationof “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” repeal.The Bar at 316, 316 Rensselaer Ave. 7-10 p.m.thebarat316.com.ong>Septong>. 21 • CharlotteWednesday Night OutWednesday Night Out is a happy hour typegathering for GLBT community membersand supporters in the Rock Hill/Fort Mill area.Come mix and mingle, meet new friends, andnetwork within our community. Sponsored byBud Light. Fatz of Rock Hill, 478 Herlong Rd.5:ong>30ong>-7:ong>30ong> p.m. wednesdaynightout@gmail.com.ong>Septong>. 24 • CharlotteMeet and Mingle” Bebe Zahara BenetCelebrate the 10th anniversary of theCharlotte-based, national non-profit CampusPride with BeBe Zahara Benet, winner inseason one of Logo’s “RuPaul’s Drag Race.”$50 minimum donation included a meet andgreet, hors d’oeuveres and drink specials.Blue Restaurant and Bar, Hearst Tower, 206 N.College St. campuspride.org.ong>Septong>. 24 • DallasPiedmont Pagan Pride DayCome out and enjoy foot races, children’s activities,music, workshops, rituals, divinations,demonstration altars and shrines, martial artsdemos, a roundtable discussion with leadersin the Piedmont area Pagan community, andtons of fun. The Piedmont Pagan Pride Daystrives to foster pride in Pagan identity througheducation, activism, charity and community.Biggerstaff/Dallas Park, 144 Leisure Ln. 10 a.m.-7 p.m. churchofwicca.org/ppd/index.htm.ong>Septong>. 24 • DurhamNC PrideThe annual NC Pride Fest and Parade takesover Duke University’s East Campus. Jointhousands of LGBT North Carolinians for theparade and hang out throughout the day withvendors from across the state. ncpride.org.ong>Septong>. ong>30ong> • RaleighConcert kick-offThe LGBT Center of Raleigh hosts a meet andgreet and kick-off social for Serenity’s Oct. 2Fall Foliage Bonanza Concert. LGBT Center ofRaleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. 6-9 p.m.lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.Oct. 1 • AshevilleBlue Ridge PrideTake a day trip or spend the weekend in beautifulAsheville for this year’s Blue Ridge Pride.A day festival is planned for downtown’s PackSquare from noon-6 p.m. Nightlife and otherevents are also slated. blueridgepride.org.Oct. 2 • CaryFall Foliage Benefit ConcertSerenity hosts a concert benefitting the NorthCarolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence,SWOOP, the LGBT Center of Raleigh andthe Susan G. Komen Foundation. FeaturingJennifer Corday, Monika James and VickieShaw. Koka Booth Amphiptheatre at RegencyPark, 8002 Regency Pkwy. Noon. $45-$75. Formore information, visit serenitygirlz.blogspot.com. Tickets available online atticketmaster.com.Oct. 4 • CharlotteSuzanne WestenhoeferQong>qnotesong> eventsgoong>qnotesong>.com/qguide/eventsThe Comedy arts. Zone, entertainment. LGBT Community news. Center views.of Charlotte and NC Music Factory presentcomedian Suzanne Westenhoefer for a special,one-night-only show. The Comedy Zone,900 Seaboard St., Suite B3. 8 p.m. $20-$25.cltcomedyzone.com.Oct. 8 • Winston-Salem‘Circumstance’ ScreeningOUT at the Movies, Winston-Salem and NorthCarolina’s GLBT film series will screen theong>2011ong> drama, “Circumstance.” UNCSA Schoolof Filmmaking, 1533 S. Main St. 7-8:ong>30ong> p.m. Formore info, visit OUTattheMoviesWinston.org.Oct. 12 • Raleigh‘Being Earnest’Oscar Wilde’s “The Importance of BeingEarnest,” the “Trivial Comedy for SeriousPeople,” is crammed full of memorable satiricalhumor and larger than life characters (infact, in all of theatre, is there one more delectablethan Lady Augusta Bracknell?). AquilaTheatre’s staging of Wilde’s masterpiecepromises to overflow with wit, elegance, andromantic comedy. Presented by N.C. StateUniversity Center Stage. Stewart Theatre,2610 Cates Ave. 8 p.m. ncsu.edu/centerstage/Oct. 15 • Winston-SalemWinston-Salem PRIDE ong>2011ong>Equality Winston-Salem presents its first-everWinston-Salem PRIDE ong>2011ong>, complete with afestival at Winston Square Park and a paradethrough downtown. Entertainment headlineris lesbian Gospel singer-songwriter JenniferKnapp. equalitywinstonsalem.org.we want your who/what/whereSubmitting an event for inclusion in our calendarhas never been easier:visit goong>qnotesong>.com/qguide/events/submitong>Septong>. ong>17ong>-ong>30ong> . ong>2011ong> ong>qnotesong> 19Not for Reproduction


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