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inMay 1-14, 2010Vol 24 No 26connectgoqnotes.comtwitter.com/qnotescarolinassidemyspace.com/qnotescarolinasyoutube.com/qnotescarolinasfacebook.com/qnotescarolinasSign up for our weekly emailnewsletter at goqnotes.com.contributors this issueRobbi Cohn, Matt Comer, CharleneLichtenstein, Andy Matthews,Lainey Millen, Deaidre Newby,Leslie Robinson, Marjorie Storch,David Stout, Trinityfront pageGraphic Design by Matt Comer &Lainey MillenSkyline by James Willamor.Image licensed under CCvia Flickr.news & features5 Students participate in Day of Silence6 ENC work cited in memo10 Former Obama staffer joins FIA11 Gaston paper shows ‘ex-gay’ bias12 Walk raises $20,00013 Blogger documents Senate races14 Murder prompts community concern16 Info sought in transgender murder20 D-UP! making an impact21 School official supports gay coupleqliving/arts & entertainment17 CLGF grants announced17 Gaston community emerging strong22 Out in the Stars23 Tell Trinity25 Audiophile27 Q events calendaropinions & views4 Editor’s Note8 General Gayety9 T-Notes15 QPollNot for Reproduction1020Material in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2010 and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability— for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x206 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.6863Editor: Matt Comerx202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stoutx210 editor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millenx209 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.May 1-14 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


NEW YORK, N.Y. — Hundreds of thousandsof students from every state and atleast 7,500 middle and high schools participatedin the Gay, Lesbian and Straight EducationNetwork’s (GLSEN) 15th annual Day of Silencetoday to bring attention to anti-LGBT namecalling,bullying and harassment.Students from hundreds of colleges alsoparticipated.Students typically participate by remainingsilent throughout the school day, unlessasked to speak in class. The Day of Silenceillustrates the silencing effect of anti-LGBTbullying and harassment on LGBT students,their allies and those like Carl Joseph Walker-Hoover, who did not identify as gay, but wasbullied with anti-gay slurs.Carl took his life a year ago this pastmonth after enduring constant harassment— he was 11 years old.“I’m participating in the Day of Silencebecause it’s very important to realize thesilence and pain many students bear,” textedDominique Walker, Carl’s sister, and a juniorfrom Springfield, Mass. “Bullying and harassmentin school is a huge problem that needsto be stopped, and by keeping silent we canfeel the agony of many students.”Two of the top three reasons studentssaid their peers were most often bulliedat school were actual or perceived sexualorientation and gender expression, accordingto “From Teasing to Torment: School Climatein America,” a 2005 Harris Interactive reportcommissioned by GLSEN. The top reason wasphysical appearance.Nearly 9 out of 10 LGBT youth (86.2 percent)reported being harassed at school in thepast year because of their sexual orientation,and 3 out of 5 LGBT youth (60.8 percent) feltunsafe at school because of their sexual orientation,according to GLSEN’s 2007 NationalSchool Climate Survey of more than 6,000LGBT students.”The Day of Silence means a lot to mebecause I know that I have been silenced bybullies,” texted Adrien Arnao, a junior fromWashburn, Wis. “A lot of my friends have, too.Bringing awareness to bullying is one of themost important things we can do.”The Day of Silence originated at theUniversity of Virginia in 1996 and has growneach year, with GLSEN coming on as nationalsponsor in 2001.“The Day of Silence makes visible theefforts of amazing student leaders all overthe country who are working to make theirschools safer and more welcoming for all students,”GLSEN Executive Director Eliza Byardsaid. “The courage of these students has builtthis event into a powerful annual reminderof the urgent need for action to address anti-LGBT behavior and bias in our schools.”To bring attention to this problem and explaintheir participation in the Day of Silence,students often hand out speaking cards on theDay of Silence that read:Please understand my reasons for notspeaking today. I am participating in the Dayof Silence (DOS), a national youth movementbringing attention to the silence faced bylesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender peopleand their allies. My deliberate silence echoesthat silence, which is caused by anti-LGBTbullying, name-calling and harassment.I believe that ending the silence is the firstNot for Reproductionnews notes: beyond the carolinasStudents don’t speak out to end bullyingstep toward building awareness and making acommitment to address these injustices. Thinkabout the voices you are not hearing today.u President Barack Obama issued amemo last month directing the Secretary ofHealth and Human Services to take steps toaddress hospital visitation and other healthcare issues affecting LGBT families. Thememorandum calls for HHS to promulgaterules for hospitals that receive Medicaid orMedicare funds that require them to respectthe rights of patients to designate visitors.HHS should also take steps to ensure thatsuch hospitals have adequate policies to respectthe legal documents that some patientshave designating who can make decisionsfor them if they are incapacitated. Finally, thePresident directs HHS to report back to himin 180 days with additional recommendationsabout actions it can take to address hospitalvisitation, medical decision-making and otherhealth care issues that affect LGBT patientsand their families.u Judge Christopher C. Piazza of thePulaski County Circuit Court has struck downa controversial law that bans any unmarriedperson who lives with a partner from servingas an adoptive or foster parent in the stateof Arkansas. The ACLU filed its complaintagainst the law, known as Act 1, in December2008. Judge Piazza held that the law casts anunreasonably broad net and did not “servethe State’s interest in determining what is inthe best interest of the child.” He also notedthat he was troubled by the fact that the lawtargeted gay people. The state of Arkansas isexpected to appeal the decision.by David Stoutdavid@goqnotes.comu Six military personnel handcuffedthemselves to the North Lawn fence at theWhite House April 20 to protest the military’s“Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” policy. One of theservice members, Army Lt. Dan Choi, calledon President Obama to “take bold action, toshow firm resolve and real leadership.” Choiprotested alongside Capt. Jim Pietrangelo II,Petty Officer Larry Whitt, Petty Officer AutumnSandeen, Cadet Mara Boyd and Cpl. EvelynThomas. Each of the 6 demonstrators weretaken into police custody. According to WhiteHouse press secretary Robert Gibbs, PresidentObama will wait for the results of a Pentagonstudy on DADT before pushing Congress tovote on a repeal. The study is due Dec. 1.u On April 21, more than 200 signatoriesincluding the nation’s leading LGBT organizations,along with allies in the faith, laborand civil rights communities, sent a letterto members of the U.S. Congress callingfor swift passage of the Employment Non-Discrimination Act. If enacted, ENDA wouldprohibit workplace discrimination based onsexual orientation or gender identity.u The National Center for Lesbian Rightshas filed a lawsuit in the U.S. District Court forthe Western District of Washington challengingthe discriminatory practices of the NorthAmerican Gay Amateur Athletic Association(NAGAAA). The lawsuit alleges that NAGAAAviolated Washington state laws governingdiscrimination in public accommodations andstate consumer protections by implementingand enforcing a “two heterosexuals perteam” cap during the 2008 Gay Softball WorldSeries. : :Not for ReproductionMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes


Not for Reproductionnews notes: carolinasENC’s work citedRALEIGH — In an April 15 White HouseMemorandum on the rights of LGBT hospitalpatients and partners, President BarackObama announced all Medicare andMedicaid hospitals nationwide will now berequired to allow visits by partners of LGBTpatients.The memo quoted North Carolina’sPatients’ Bill of Rights, which was amendedin 2008 to include rights for LGBT couples andfamilies.The memo reads: “Many States havetaken steps to try to put an end to theseproblems. North Carolina recently amendedits Patients’ Bill of Rights to give each patient‘the right to designate visitors who shallreceive the same visitation privileges asthe patient’s immediate family members,regardless of whether the visitors are legallyrelated to the patient’ — a right that appliesin every hospital in the State. Delaware,Nebraska, and Minnesota have adoptedsimilar laws.”Equality North Carolina (ENC) originally proposedthe change to North Carolina’s Patients’Bill of Rights and saw it through adoption.“We are thrilled to see that Equality NC’swork at the state level has provided a modelwhich the President is now taking nationwideto ensure that hospital patients get the careand companionship they deserve,” ENCExecutive Director Ian Palmquist said in anApril 16 release.To read the complete memorandum, visitby Lainey Millenlainey@goqnotes.comwhitehouse.gov/the-press-office/presidentialmemorandum-hospital-visitation.CharlotteRaise your hands!CHARLOTTE — The Lesbian & GayCommunity Center is seeking lesbian andbisexual volunteers. The administrator, FredBrazzell, wants the people who sit at the frontdesk to reflect the face of the LGBT community.So far, only guys volunteer, and Brazzell wantsa broader representation of the community.He is looking for women to sit at the frontdesk and assist with general greeting andphone answering.For more information or to volunteer, emailTeresa Davis at ethnicfoodjunkie@yahoo.com.Talk show to hold tapingCHARLOTTE — LezView, the Queen City’sfirst lesbian talk show, will have a live tapingon May 2 at Situations Lounge, 7801 UniversityCity Blvd., at 6 p.m.The L Network is the presenter. Admissionis $7. Complimentary food will be available(while it lasts!).This is open to the whole community.LezView is currently looking to fill theiraudience. Come on out and be a part of history.Once you pay your admission, they willask that you sign a waiver form to be a part ofthe studio audience. You do not have to be inthe audience in order to come out and showyour support. For more information or to signup early, email lezview@gmail.com, subjectline, Audience. Promoters will send you thedetailed time and date and recommendeddress attire.The Charlotte Gay and LesbianProfessionals Meetup Group will also be onhand at the May 2 event. Don’t forget to bringbusiness cards for the information table.LezView is currently looking for sponsorsfor their grand opening. If you would like tobe a featured sponsor send all emails to lezview@gmail.com,subject line, Sponsorship.Let LezView feature you. Are you currentlyworking on the next best idea or tryingto promote your business? Space is goingfast, so if you are trying to get your informationout to a large number of people, sign upnow. Email lezview@gmail.com, subject line,Promote Me.Triad qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Making it safeGREENSBORO — Nyasha Gibbs, presidentof the Acceptance Without Exceptions gaystraightalliance at North Carolina Agricultural& Technical State University, has her work cutout for her.She’s African-American and a lesbian.She’s also on a black university campus.Obstacles don’t deter her.She’s pushing to bring Safe Zones to herschool.According to The A&T Register, Gibbs said,“I would like to think that I had been smartenough or powerful enough to brainstormand implement the idea off Safe Zones on myown, but that is not true … Safe Zones areimplemented on grade school and collegecampuses across the nation. It was initiated byDr. Maria Palmer of the Multicultural StudentNot for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionCenter. I served on the planning committeefor Safe Zones and also the student panelsfeatured at the trainings. … A&T’s slow progressionin a changing world has caused otherorganizations and businesses to feel a certainway.” They are not as eager to understand theneed for Safe Zones or how they really work.For more information on this initiative,visit ncatregister.com/making-campus-safe-1.2207330.Enrichment seminar slatedWINSTON-SALEM — Church of the HolyFellowship, 1005 Burke St., Suite B (lowerlevel) will be conducting an LGBT relationshipdevelopment seminar on May 29-30from 9 a.m.- 5 p.m. Dr. Dina Bachelor of BreakThrough will be the presenter.Singles and heterosexual couples arewelcome.To sign up for this program or for moreinformation, call 336-631-1331 or visitdrdinaevan.com/seminar.php.TriangleOut, then oustedDURHAM — Justin Robinette wasimpeached on April 14 as chair of DukeUniversity’s College Republicans. This came onthe coattails of his re-election on March 16 andhis election as co-chair of the N.C. Federationof College Republicans.Carter Boyle, who replaced Robinettesaid that the impeachment proceedings weretaken on “‘conduct unbecoming of a personin a position or leadership’ among other reasons,”The Daily Tar Heel reported.Boyle said that the action was based uponRobinette’s not attending events, ignoringmembers and personal use of the organization’sfunds. Robinette said this happenedprior to his re-election.The Tar Heel article indicated thatRobinette felt sandbagged after an amendmentwas passed that would allow for a twothirdsvote of the executive board to vote forthe process and not the whole body.His sexuality appeared to have had a partin his impeachment, Cliff Satell told The DailyTar Heel.For the complete story, visit dailytarheel.com/content/leader-duke-collegerepublicans-forced-out.Films focus on supportRALEIGH — Community United Church ofChrist, 814 Dixie Trail, will show films that aresupportive to the LGBT community.On May 7 at 6:30 p.m., “Through My Eyes,”“Prayers for Bobby,” on May 21 at 6:30 p.m.and on June 6 at 12 p.m., “Call Me Malcolm”will focus on stories of faith from a Christianperspective for those with LGBT children.The June 6 event will be followed by apanel discussion and a Q&A session.For more information, visitcommunityucc.org.Take me out to the ballpark…RALEIGH/DURHAM — The Triangle AreaSoftball Association (TASA) is in full swing.Opening day was on April 11. The LGBTCenter of Raleigh was honored during theopening pitch ceremony and was presentedwith a check for $250 from TASA. JustineHollingshead, board secretary of the Centerthrew out the first pitch to open up the season.TASA attempts to contribute a percentage of itsannual revenues to local charities each year.The league, consisting of eight teams,plays during the spring and fall seasons. Theirspring season runs from mid-April throughJune and the fall season runs September–October. All games are currently played onSundays at Valley Springs Park in Durham andLions Park in Raleigh.Interested in joining the league as anindividual player for next season for $25, wantto put a team in the league or would like moreinformation on sponsoring the league or ateam? Then email info@trianglesoftball.com.For a full calendar of game play, visittrianglesoftball.com.It’s zoo-rific!RALEIGH — The Raleigh Area GayParents Meetup Group is taking a trip to theN.C. Zoological Park, 4401 Zoo Pkwy., on May16, leaving between 8-8:30 a.m.Carpooling will be available for those whowish to double up. Rendezvous point will be atthe North America Entrance.Cancellation will only take place if it rains,but not for a drizzle. Notification by the eventcoordinator will occur the evening before forthose who RSVP.Cost is $10 per adult, $6 per children age2-12, payable at the gate.For more information, visit gayparents.meetup.com.RegionalChallenge issuedRALEIGH — The North Carolina Legislatureheads back into session this year on May 12.When state House members and senators getto Raleigh, Equality North Carolina (ENC) willbe geared up and ready to raise awareness onLGBT issues. On the group’s agenda this year,as in the past six years, is keeping the state’sconstitution free of an anti-LGBT, anti-familymarriage amendment.The group also pans to keep our issues onthe forefront of campaign trails in this year’smid-term elections.ENC staff issued a challenge on April13 for its political action committee (PAC).Donors have pledged to match all donationsup to $20,000. The funds will be used to endorseand support pro-equality candidates forstate office. The ENC PAC hopes to raise anddistribute $80,000 this year.The challenge runs now through thegroup’s Legislative Reception on May 25, thesame days as its annual “Day of Action” lobbyingevent.For more information, visit equalitync.org.Exploring spiritualitySTATEWIDE — Dr. Carolyn Bradley, assistantprofessor of social work, and Laura Kelly,PhD, APN, associate professor of nursing andhealth studies, are looking for lesbians whoare in a committed relationship for at leastone year. They are exploring the meaning ofreligious/spiritual expression in the context oftheir relationships.The participants can fill out a mailedsurvey or opt for a phone interview. Thisstudy was approved by the IRB at MonmouthUniversity.For more information, call 732-263-5852 oremail lkelly@monmouth.edu or Dr.cbradley@monmouth.edu. : :info: Announce your community event inCarolinas News Notes.email: editor@goqnotes.com.May 1-14 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproductiongeneral gayetyby leslie robinson :: qnotes contributorGay news that’s fit to print“I’m doing your research for you.”Anne was all smiles, but her words hadmade me all nervous. Someone choosinga topic for me to write about is often aswelcome as someone choosing my clothes forthe day. I could wind up in paisley.My partner’s enthusiasm was undeniable.Each time she finished a section of TheSunday New York Times she uttered somethingbetween an exclamation and a squeak.We were on vacation in Florida, so for thefirst time in ages she’d been able to read thewhole paper.“There is something gay in every section,”she announced. “A plethora of poofters in thepaper!”That did it. I was hooked. Paisley here Icome.Anne pointed to the lead story in “Arts &Leisure” about Ellen DeGeneres holding herown as the newest judge on “American Idol.”Ellen’s efforts on the nation’s most popularprogram, according to the story, show “howdetermined she is to be openly but unthreateninglygay.”In the same section Anne spotted somethingthreateningly gay. The headline for around up of new albums read “Country Grief,Soulful Gospel and Gay Lust.” The latter referredto the group Hunx and His Punx and itsman-obsessed lyrics. This is not your father’sNew York Times. It’s not even your olderbrother’s New York Times.“Sunday Styles” led with a piece onAlexander McQueen, the gay British designerwho recently took his own life. The sectionalso examined Ricky Martin’s coming out onhis website rather than in a magazine likePeople. On the local gala page, a third of thephotos came from the Imperial Court of NewYork’s benefit drag ball. And, in the weddingpages, a couple of fellas got hitched.The only thing that would’ve made thesection gayer was rainbow-colored ink.Okay, I said to Anne, but that’s all the arty,styly stuff. You expect to find us there. Anne,giddy with gayness, declared there was moreahead.She highlighted the “Week in Review”story about President Obama building on thelegacy of President Clinton. DADT figuredprominently. She pointed to the front page ofthe paper and the news that a sequel to “TheOfficial Preppy Handbook” is forthcoming, thistime with an essay by Edmund White on gayprepsters.Your evidence is getting thinner, I warned.She heaved a sigh, muttered something rudeabout my ceaseless need for proof and wavedThe New York Times Magazine in my face.On the cover sat two bunnies and thewords “They Gay?” I now owe Anne dinner.The cover story with the marvelous title“The Love that Dare not Squawk its Name”tackled how scientifically and socially complicatedsame-sex animal couplings are.Anne hadn’t read the rest of the paper.“Shall we see if we show up in the ‘BookReview?’” she asked very rhetorically. Shespotted a novel about a bisexual young womanand on the next page a history of disco,which, the reviewer said, traces “how discohelped groom and commercialize a formidablenew gay identity.”Now Anne was possessed. She evencombed the “Sunday Business” section. Hereureka moment came when she saw that anessay on sabbaticals had been written bya professor working on a book about OscarWilde. “Close enough,” she pronounced.She looked through the sports, butcouldn’t find anything gay. “You’re in here! Wejust don’t know it yet!”I pried what little of the paper remainedfrom her hands. After she calmed down, Annesaid, “I don’t know if this is just our week, orwe’ve actually become mainstream.”We won’t know till our next vacation,when if The Times has a repeat performance,so will she. : :info:LesRobinson@aol.com . generalgayety.comwant more opinion & commentaryvisit goqnotes.com/to/blog for daily insights, rants,raves and news tidbits from qnotes staff and localand national voices from around the web. qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproductiont-notesby robbi cohn :: qnotes contributorPoint: CounterpointLast month’s column addressed suicideand the sense of victimization that is oftenassociated with it. This is not the only faceof being trans. There are many instances ofsuccess and many trans persons who haveescaped the despair which often accompaniesminimal survival. In most cases, thetaking of one’s own life stems from the disparitybetween an innate sense of who we areand the persona and collateral baggage withwhich society would like to burden us. Whenthat discord is removed, there is every reasonto expect life to be endurable and more!I hesitate to use the word “normal”— most of us are a little (or a lot) ambivalentabout what that elusive word means. Still,there is no reason to assume that any innateor lasting emotional or psychological infirmityaccompanies the actualization of expressingone’s true self.It is my opinion that therapy is and shouldbe a personal choice. My experience hasbeen that therapy did help me to alleviatesome of the dissonance I experienced resultingfrom years of denial, autopsychoanalysisand confusion. It was neither critical nor cathartic,certainly not indispensable, but it gaveme a sense of direction I might have lacked. Inno way do I consider gender diversity to be, inand of itself, pathological or problematic. Theinitial response I had to acknowledging beinggender diverse was a feeling of great relief.My shoulders actually felt like that burdenhad been removed. It’s amazing how we canexternalize our inner conflicts and how theseexternalizations manifest (or disappear) afterthe blockage has been removed. I think I evenstood a little straighter and taller! Have I fullyresolved the dissonance? Probably not. But, itfeels like most of the discord is an artifact offinding my place in a world which has a hardtime accepting differences and/or individuality.I have found happiness in the authenticityof learning about myself, yet sadness in dealingwith a world which does not accept.I think it’s critical to draw a distinction betweenwhat might be perceived as a “normal”life and a so-called assimilated life. This is oftena bone of contention which carries a lot ofemotional baggage and is furiously debated.Assimilation harkens back to a Mattachinemindset and I know very few activists oradvocates who would accept it as a viablecourse of action. There are others, however,who do choose to “blend” into whateverthey perceive to be their expressed gender’sworld. Neither choice is, in and of itself, rightor wrong. It depends on the person. Normal,to me, implies the condition of wanting to liveone’s life with friends, families, goals, healthand happiness — the kind of things we mightwish everyone would or could enjoy. Howwe do that is up to each of us — individualitymandates that each of us decides whichpath to walk. Regardless, it should never beforgotten that, in many cases, it has been thework of activists which has made the choiceof others easier should they opt to blend.Some might suggest that it takes moneyand the ability to “pass” to avoid culturalbigotry, and it would be ignorant and incorrectto deny that those with money and thosewho readily pass might conceivably havean advantage. It’s easier to survive whenhomelesssness is not staring you down, whenyou have a good job, a place to live and yourworld is not stress laden. This uncertainty isthe root of much of that trans despair.I would suggest that this is not always thecase and not always what it seems to be.It might not necessarily be easy, andit might not necessarily be right for eachindividual, but given a certain mindset, thedual obstacles of money and passability canbe overcome. Perhaps most important is asense of confidence and a feeling of being athome in one’s skin. The ease with which weproject ourselves into the world often playsa significant part in how we fare. Even thosewho pass but lack confidence may havedifficulties. Conversely, those who pass lessreadily but whose sense of self is secure willprobably be better prepared for success.Money is a more formidable obstacleand the one which is most onerous for me,and others, I suspect. And there is no goodanswer that can be readily dispensed toassuage the fear which arises when we areforced to confront monetary misfortune anddiscord, other than to work for workplaceequality. What I suggest to myself is that Icannot know what is around the corner in mylife. That, in and of itself, has had to sufficeto keep a flame of optimism alive even whendespair threatens to overwhelm me. I try to focuson the feeling that the tide is changing asseeds I planted previously find some root andstart to grow. At least this realization helps meto retain that sense of optimism.Lynn Conway’s website is, perhaps, themost valuable resource to the trans communityregarding success stories. She hasaccumulated stories of gender diverse individualswhose stories prove that we can havefulfilling lives, careers, partners and families.For more, visit ai.eecs.umich.edu/people/conway/TSsuccesses/TSsuccesses.html.I will continue to work for the day whenthe keys to success for trans persons aretheir abilities, their desires, and their training.When we can be treated with the same respectand judged by the same criteria whichothers receive and expect, then we can saythat equal opportunity and success are realities.Until that day, activists and advocates,as well as individuals themselves, will needto be vigilant to ensure that the list on LynnConway’s website continues to grow. The factthat success always seems to breed successis a good thought to hold onto! : :— Comments and corrections can besent to editor@goqnotes.com. To contactRobbi Cohn, emailrobbi_cohn108@yahoo.com.daily news, blog posts and lgbt community event listingsgoqnotes.comMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionFormer Obama stafferjoins Faith in AmericaSteve Hildebrand will work as advisor, strategistto Hickory-based groupby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comHICKORY, N.C. — A former campaignstaffer for President Barack Obama has beenhired by Faith in America, a group founded byNorth Carolina furniture maker and philanthropistMitchell Gold.Steve Hildebrand, who served as deputycampaign manager for the Obamacampaign, joins the organization asan advisor and strategist. He will assistthe organization in broadeningits outreach and impact.“Steve’s talent and experience— his record of success — inorganizational development andstrategic planning are tremendousassets as we position the organizationto exert leadership within themovement for equality,” Gold saidin a release. “We are very fortunateSteve has decided to assist us inmeeting that goal.”In the same release, Hildebrandsaid he hopes to engage moreAmericans on the issues of religionbasedbigotry and its impact onLGBT people, especially youth.“This work is what is going to have an impact,”Hildebrand said. “That is where I wantto put significant energy to achieve equality.This organization is doing the best work withchanging the hearts and minds of Americans.”Brent Childers, Faith in America executivedirector, told qnotes via phone heexpects Hildebrand’s talent will allow the organization“to reach an exponentially highernumber of Americans with our message andcreate a much more visible role within themovement for our work.”Gold’s Faith in America works to raiseawareness on issues of religion, homosexuality,bigotry, prejudice and oppression.Gold has spoken at events, workshops andseminars across the country and routinelyreaches out to religious and spiritual leaders.In 2008, he edited “CRISIS: 40 StoriesRevealing the Personal, Social, and ReligiousPain and Trauma of Growing Up Gay InAmerica,” with stories from the likes ofEpiscopal Bishop Gene Robinson, HumanRights Campaign President Joe Solmoneseand Congressmembers Tammy Baldwin andBarney Frank. : :[Ed. Note — This writer contributed a chapterto Gold’s book.]info: faithinamerica.info10 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010u u uHildebrand on his new positionLGBT journalist Karen Ocamb spoke withSteve Hildebrand via email shortly after it wasannounced he’d be joining Faith in America.At her blog, lgbtpov.com, Ocamb sharedHildebrand’s thoughts about joining thegroup, his upbringing and the reasons why hethinks Faith in America work is important. Hisremarks are below:In the research I’ve seen and the experiencesI’ve had in politics, I believe we will winmore battles if we can beat back those whouse religion as an excuse to keep us fromachieving full equality. Politicians use religionto mask their support or opposition to keylegislation. Voters use religion to say it’s okayto deny marriage and adoption rights to gaypeople. And some religious leaders and conservativepundits use religion to attack LGBTfolks as immoral. I believe we can reduce religion-basedbigotry by taking this conversationof hate and discrimination directly to them, lettingthem know of the tremendous harm theyare causing people, especially our youth.Every time we try to get a voter who opposesmarriage to switch their support ourway, most use their religion or their fear thatgay marriage will be taught to their children inschools. The opposition to teaching childrenin schools is most often based on theirreligious views. That has led me to believethat reducing religion-based bigotry towardsgay people will help us win these importantbattles. Until we get beyond religion, we willcontinue to struggle.The programs and dialogue developed byFaith in America are compelling. We will notchange every mind. This is a war we have towin before we can win each of the battles.I grew up the youngest of nine in a veryCatholic family, attending Catholic schoolsand never missing Sunday mass. I had a greatupbringing in a church that didn’t preachhatred against gay people. But the CatholicChurch has changed dramatically and isone of the worst abusers in their bigotry anddiscrimination towards gay people.I don’t belong to the church anymore— not because of who I am, but because ofwho they are. I don’t feel guilty. I feel right. Iknow that God is on my side and on the side ofall people, no matter who they are. Becausepeople are born with their sexuality, I firmlybelieve they are born in God’s eyes with God’sblessing for a good life. That is one of thethings we need to convince more people of.And it’s a big reason I joined Mitchell Gold atFaith in America. : :— Interview by Karen Ocamb.Originally published at lgbtpov.comon April 22. Reprinted with permission.For more, visit lgbtpov.com.Not for Reproduction


Newspaper’s biased‘ex-gay’ article draws ireGaston Gazette publishes PFLAG statementafter concerns raisedby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comGASTONIA, N.C. — Members of a localchapter of Parents, Families and Friends ofLesbians and Gays (PFLAG) are speaking outafter their local daily newspaper published abiased news article on an “ex-gay” ministry.On April 21, The Gaston Gazette’s AmandaMemrick wrote about the Charlotte-basedClean Heart Ministries, a group affiliatedwith reparative therapy proponents ExodusInternational, and the ministry’s plannedpresentation at a local church whose pastorwon The Gazette’s 2009 “Spirit of FreedomAward.” The article was entitled, “Ministryhopes to turn people away from gay lifestyle.”Memrick interviewed Clean HeartExecutive Director Jim Katsoudas andAssociate Director Larry Bell. Both men claimthey were once attracted to men and have“walked away from homosexuality.”Memrick’s article, apparently publishedin print and online, contained no opposingpoint of view and no facts regardingso-called “ex-gay” and reparative ministries.Several professional medical associationshave denounced the use ofreparative therapies, including the AmericanPsychological Association, AmericanPsychiatric Association and AmericanMedical Association. Further, the AmericanCounseling Association has permanentlyexcluded reparative therapist Richard Cohenfrom professional membership.Amy Sifford, president of PFLAG Gaston,said she had not had any conversations withMemrick or The Gazette’s editor, HunterBretzius. She did, however, email a statementfrom PFLAG regarding reparative therapy andasked that it be published. On April 22, the onlineedition of Memrick’s article was updatedand the PFLAG statement appended to thebottom. The article has attracted more than130 comments since its original publication.Sifford told qnotes she thought the articlecould be damaging.“I thought that some people who mightbe reading this, who are struggling with thecoming out process, in particular teenagers,that it would just reinforce that there was alack of support in the religious community forthem,” she said.Sifford, a licensed professional counselorwho holds a PhD and works at a local counselingagency, stopped short of condemningThe Gazette for their publication of thearticle.“I don’t know whether it was out of notknowing or it was intentional,” she said. “Idon’t know if it was the reporter’s lack ofawareness or her colluding with this wholemessage that it’s a ‘lifestyle’ and that it’ssomething to be ashamed of or somethingyou need to repent for.”Sifford said the original article was publishedin The Gazette’s April 21 print edition,but said no follow-up had been published inprint as of Saturday, April 24.qnotes contacted The Gazette’s Memrickand asked for comment. She said she’d beeninstructed not to comment by her editor.Several calls to both editor Bretzius and publisherJennie Lambert remained unreturnedat press time.The Gaston Gazette is ownedby the Irvine, Calif.-based FreedomCommunications, Inc., which owns dozens ofdaily and weekly newspapers and a handfulof television stations across the country. Inaddition to The Gaston Gazette, the companyoperates daily and weekly newspapers inseven other North Carolina towns. : :info: Read The Gaston Gazette’s article atgoqnotes.com/6415.Not for ReproductionMeeting Date: Tuesday, May 18, 2010Program: Tilden Haganson of the U.S. Senator Kay HaganCrowne Plaza, 201 S. McDowell St.Time: Cash Bar Social/Heavy Hor d’oeuvres @ 5:30 pmProgram starts @ 6:45 pmCost:$15 members, $25 non-membersTo Reserve: Call 704.565.5075 by 12 pmFriday, May 14, 2010or email businessguild@yahoo.comto request tickets for this eventwww.charlottebusinessguild.orggoqnotes.comdaily news,blog postsand lgbtcommunityeventlistingsSign up forour weeklye-newsletter:goqnotes.com/subsMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 11Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionWalk raises $20,000 for AIDS careHouse of Mercy AIDS Walk draws 300 participantsby Marjorie Storch :: Special to qnotesBELMONT, N.C. — House of Mercy, a nonprofitresidence serving low-income personsliving with advanced AIDS, held its 17th AnnualWalk for AIDS on Saturday, April 10. The eventdrew out 300 participants to raise AIDS awarenessand funds to benefit House of Mercy.Stan Patterson, president of House of Mercy,welcomed participants and honored guest JanetKirkpatrick before the walk. Kirkpatrick is aformer House of Mercy resident who recentlyreturned to independent living due to improvedhealth. She spoke to the crowd about how shewas able to turn her life around with the loveand support of House of Mercy staff.Following the three-mile walk through historicdowntown Belmont, walkers gathered on theHouse of Mercy grounds for a picnic lunch. DJBuddy Love provided music and inspiration fordancing. Stan Patterson announced over $20,000had been raised to support services at Houseof Mercy. Prizes were awarded to Our Ladyof Guadalupe Catholic Church, top fundraisingteam, and to Scott Cloninger, top individualfundraiser. Tania Marciano, captain of OurLady of Guadalupe team, set a record with 160members participating. Scott Cloninger has beena top Walk for AIDS fundraiser for several years.House of Mercy extends a heartfelt thanks to allwho helped in this fundraising effort.Sponsors providing financial support includeMCC-Charlotte, qnotes, WSGE 91.7 FM, Tibotec Therapeutics, GileadSciences, Sisters of Mercy of the Americas-South Central Community,Complete Wellness, BrookCare Pharmacy and St. Mark CatholicChurch. Friends supporting the Walk include Beam Electric Company,Environmental Diversified Services, ID Associates-CaroMont MedicalHonored guest Janet Kirkpatrick (right) and her daughter at the Walk for AIDS.Photo Credit: House of MercyGroup, Lucas Concrete Products, Merck & Co., St. Aloysius CatholicChurch, Tony’s Ice Cream Company, The Tradesmen, Wachovia-A WellsFargo Company and The Woodshed Lounge. : :— Marjorie Storch composed this piecefor House of Mercy and submitted it toqnotes for publication.12 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for Reproduction


Durham bloggerrelentless in SenatecoveragePam Spaulding takes on three Dem candidates,and doesn’t back downby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comDURHAM — In 2008, blogger PamSpaulding watched North Carolina’s U.S.Senate race closely. From the primary — whichincluded an openly gay candidate — to thegeneral election, Spaulding kept public tabs onthe campaigns, candidate positions and communityand voter reactions at her nationally-respectedblog, PamsHouseBlend.com.Keeping up with all the campaigns proveddifficult, as now-U.S. Sen. Kay Hagan practicallyignored LGBT issues, journalists andbloggers — qnotes included.“I watched in horror at what happenedin 2008, where you and many other journaliststried to get Kay Hagan on the record,”Spaulding, a Durham native, told qnotes.“Even just to put her positions out there, shevery deftly avoided spending any depth onLGBT issues.”Her experience with Hagan’s 2008 runfor Senate prompted her to up the ante asDemocratic primary campaigns swung intogear for this year’s mid-term elections.“I made a vow at the close of 2008 thatnext time around this wasn’t going to happen,”she said. “I was going to make sure wegot to the candidates from the outset.”As summer turned to fall in 2009, candidatesstepped up and began campaigning inthe Democratic primary — which takes placeMay 4. Spaulding has gotten three of the fourDemocratic candidates on the record, but notwithout a fight.Ken Lewis, Spaulding said, was “gung-ho”about the possibility of being interviewed inone of the blogger’s famous “liveblogs.” ElaineMarshall, who currently serves as NorthCarolina Secretary of State, was also easy towork with.But reaching out to former state Sen. CalCunningham was nothing short of a hassle, atleast according to Spaulding.Liveblogs with Lewis and Marshall hadalready been completed and both candidateshad put sections on civil rights and LGBTequality on their websites. With no interview(Spaulding said she’d interacted with thecampaign and candidate several times, to noavail) and no LGBT rights section on his site,Spaulding felt Cunningham was avoiding theissues. She didn’t want a repeat of 2008.So, in a lengthy blog post on April 12,Spaulding asked, “Where’s Cal Cunninghamon LGBT issues?” Spaulding recounted her attemptsto contact the Cunningham campaignand the candidate himself.After her blog post, complete with agraphic showing Cunningham’s face on a“missing” milk carton, staff with Cunningham’scampaign quickly reached out. The campaignpublished a section on equality issues onCunningham’s website and scheduled theircandidate’s interview with Spaulding.Cunningham, a Davidson County native, isconsidered by many to be the most “electable”against incumbent U.S. Sen. RichardBurr. Spaulding says Cunningham is favoredby the Democratic Senatorial CampaignCommittee (DSCC). Spaulding feels the likelyadvice given Cunningham and other DSCC-favoredcandidates — thatis, avoid controversialissues like LGBT equality— underestimates thevoters of North Carolinaand creates a disserviceto LGBT constituents.“It’s maybe a somewhatwarped point ofview from the Beltway[in Washington, D.C.],”she said. “They think theyknow North Carolina betterthan North Caroliniansdo. Their stay-away-fromthe-issueapproach onlyexacerbates the problem.”Spaulding believes issues of LGBT equalityare likely to come up anyway, and Democraticcandidates should play offense not defensiveby addressing the issues head-on.“If a candidate is not willing to take on theissues and always be on the defensive, theRepublicans will always win,” she said. “TheDSCC won’t think about handling it any otherway. But some voters will always think theDemocrat is pro-gay. Take the bigotry head-onbefore Burr chooses to bring it on.”She also sees an unfortunate hypocrisyinherent in how some candidates have addressedissues of importance to LGBT voters.“They are pretty much mum on our issues,but spend a lot of time courting gay endorsementsand gay money,” she said. “They areonly willing to discuss these issues behindclosed doors with people who have money togive when they put their hand out. That isn’tfair to the vast majority of LGBTs who don’thave the money and the access, who justwant to know where they stand.”In an emailed statement to qnotes,Cunningham Communications Director AngelaGuyadeen said Cunningham’s “schedule isvery busy but never too busy to speak with voters,”and that Cunningham had agreed to do aliveblog with Spaulding for just that purpose.“From an early age, Cal was taught thatprejudice of any type, whether it is based onrace, gender or sexual orientation, is wrong,”Guyadeen said. “If he is elected to the Senate,he will fight against inequalities and injusticeson behalf of all the people of North Carolina.” : :— Read Spaulding’s liveblogs withCal Cunningham, Ken Lewis and ElaineMarshall at pamshouseblend.com.Not for ReproductionMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 13Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproduction“Merely having this position sends a messagethat this is an issue the police departmenttakes seriously and is a community thepolice department values,” she said. “Thatcan be as important as any individual task theliaison officer might perform.”But Douglas-Brown also thinks the Atlantapolice have underutilized their LGBT liaisonposition and failed to fully integrate the stafferinto the affairs of the department.“It’s an excellent idea, but sometimes ithas not lived up to its potential here,” shesaid, pointing to last year’s raid of the AtlantaEagle. A federal civil rights lawsuit is pendingagainst the city for alleged abuses by policeofficers toward gay Eagle patrons. Somehave even called the Eagle raid “Atlanta’sStonewall.”Douglas-Brown said Atlanta’s LGBT policeliaison wasn’t involved in planning the raid,hadn’t been used to approach the businessto correct any possible violations before itoccurred, wasn’t present at the raid and onlyknew about the incident after being contactedby local media.“That’s not a criticism of the individual,”she said. “She can only be as good as thedepartment allows her to be.”Because of the scrutiny after the Eagleraid and its resulting lawsuit, Atlanta MayorKasim Reed has promised to expand theliaison unit from one to two people and fullyintegrate them within the department.“I believe in the approach of full integration,so the notion that an event like the Eagleraid would be done without [the LGBT liaison]being aware of it would be dealt with anappropriate level of severity,” Reed told TheGeorgia Voice in April. “That will not happenin my administration, and if it did, there wouldbe dire circumstances as a result.”Douglas-Brown believes Reed’s stepsto expand and integrate LGBT police liaisonpositions will result in new, positive outcomesfor Atlanta’s LGBT community.“Certainly there is a real potential herewith a new officer to head off these problemsat the pass, so you don’t have that kind ofstumbling [during and after the Eagle raid],”Douglas-Brown concluded.Denise Palm-Beck, chair of Charlotte’sLesbian & Gay Community Center, told qnotesshe has been working on behind-the-scenesconversations with CMPD staff regardinga possible LGBT police liaison position.Because those conversations are only preliminary,she declined to say which officersand staff she’s spoken with.“The first gentleman I talked to thoughtit was a good idea,” she said. “He was veryhelpful, but he was just not in the right departmentto be a true liaison.”Palm-Beck said she’s turned to severalexisting relationships with CMPD developedover the course of planning for the Center’sPride Charlotte festival. The annual eventworks closely with police each year.“They are helping to find the appropriatepeople to talk to at a high enough level so wedon’t have to wait forever for the possibilityof dialogue,” she said. “They are willing tofurther this idea along by finding the correctpeople to get the idea in front of. I wouldimagine this is something the police chiefwould have to sign off on.”Local attorney Connie Vetter, who onceworked closely with MeckPAC and stillkeeps tabs on local LGBT legal issues, metwith CMPD officials years ago after the 2003Supreme Court ruling in Lawrence v. Texas.She told qnotes those conversations werepositive and found that police officials weremore than willing to hear concerns from LGBTcommunity members.Vetter’s past positive experiences andPalm-Beck’s current conversations couldresult in tangible results. MeckPAC committeemember Dunn said the community is ready fora police liaison position.“The LGBT community here is very strongin Charlotte,” she said. “We have a greatCenter. We have lots of business establishmentsthat are supportive. We have a PACfor LGBT issues. I haven’t seen that in a lot ofother cities.”If an LGBT liaison is created for CMPD,Dunn said she’d like to see monthly meetingswith the community. Such meetings wouldhelp further her and MeckPAC chair Thomas’goals for community education. And, evenif the position isn’t permanent or full-time,Thomas said it will create a positive impact.“Whether or not we need something on apermanent basis depends on how well theseinitial actions take root,” he said. “I think thereis real value and importance in looking intosuch a liaison position. It will be interestingto talk to the police department and Sheriff’soffice to get feedback. An initial meeting withleaders would be valuable for takeaway as faras next steps.”In an April 20 email to about a dozen communityleaders, Palm-Beck said she wouldwork to keep community members up-to-dateon her conversations with police officials.“I will update all on the progress with theliaison, and there is progress,” she wrote. “Assoon as I learn of a definite person who willtake the lead for the Police Department, I willlet all know. I will pursue this with vigor.”Until then, Palm-Beck remains positiveand told qnotes the Center stands behindefforts to reach out to public officials. “We areclearly behind this education process. I reallythink, I believe, people want to know, try reallyhard to understand.” : :qpollDo you think Charlotte is ready for a CMPD LGBTpolice liaison position?See the options and vote: goqnotes.com/to/qpollMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 15Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionInfo sought in Charlottetransgender murderInvestigators working with community, looking intovictim’s correspondenceby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comNote: This is a developing story. As such,some information might have changed sincepress time. For the most up-to-date news, visitgoqnotes.com.CHARLOTTE — Police and family membersof a transgender Charlottean initiallyidentified by police as a “crossdresser” aresearching for information regarding the crimeand hope community members can aid in theirquest to solve the murder.Just after midnight on April 3, Toni Alston(birth name, Tony), 44, was shot in the frontdoor of her home on Minnesota Rd. inWest Charlotte. On April 13, the Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police Department, along withAlston’s family, held a pressconference reaching outfor information in the case.qnotes was not made awareof the press conference.During the press conference,Alston was identifiedby her birth name and informationregarding her femalename has only been reportedhere. qnotes has reachedout to investigators andpolice spokespeople — whohave responded positively— regarding their use of terminology such as“crossdresser” and “alternative lifestyle.”According to investigators, Alston haddressed as a woman since high school.“(People) knew he was a man, called him’she’ and respected his lifestyle,” investigatorBill Ward said, according to The CharlotteObserver.WCNC Newschannel 36 — which said intheir reports that Alston “lived an alternativelifestyle” and called him a “crossdresser”— said investigators were looking into cellphone records and believe Alston might haveknown his killer.“In that lifestyle, of course, you have thecell phones, you have the internet and allthose things we are still trying to sift through,”Ward said at the press conference.Police don’t have evidence Alston’sgender identity played a role in the crimeand think Alston’s murder might have beenan attempted robbery, but police say theinside of Alston’s home looked untouched.Investigators were able to collect some physicalevidence from the scene.In a telephone conversation with qnoteson April 21, Ward said Alston had spoken viaphone and text to several people before herdeath.“A number of folks were texting and talkingto him the night before,” he said. “Thoseare the folks I’m most interested in right now.”Ward said investigators are currently waitingon information from telephone carriers.“Unfortunately, some of the carriers arereal slow and can take up to 4 to 6 weeks orlonger for some carriers,” he said. “We’regetting subscriber information in slowly andgoing to these folks.”Ward also said investigators are lookinginto Alston’s computer activity. He said thevictim had been active on a social networkingsite.“The door is wide open for anything,” hesaid. “We thought initially it could be a robbery.But there was a lot of correspondence,a lot of texting back and forth with acquaintances.Once we have subscriber informationand names and addresses we can go to thesepeople and say, “Hey, what do you know?’”After Alston was shot, she was able to gethelp from a neighbor and give some informationto police before she died. Alston saidthe assailant was an African-American manwearing a gray T-shirt.Ward said no one in Alston’s neighborhoodheard anything. “The neighborhood isa quiet neighborhood and there’s very littleinformation surrounding the shooting itself,”he said. “The neighbor next door, when Alstongot out of his apartment for help, that’s thefirst he heard anything, which is a shame.”Ward said he has not counted out thepossibility of a hate crime. If evidence surfacesthat the shooting was motivated by hate, Wardsaid he’ll pursue whatever options he has.“Anything I can charge them with I willcharge them with,” he said. “That’s certainly apossibility. No question about it.”Alston’s sisters, Danielle Prophete andKimberly Pitter, said they were supportiveof their sibling. They are mourning the lossand begging those with information to comeforward.“It didn’t matter; we didn’t judge him,”Prophete said, according to The Observer.“Anybody, please, give us something. Thatwas my oldest brother.”Ward said he is working with and talkingto members of the LGBT community whoknew Alston, and is optimistic his investigationwill be aided by those conversations. “That’smy gut feeling of where it will be solved,” hesaid. “If I’m going to get help that’s where itwill come from.”Those with information about the case areasked to call and speak with a detective at704-432-TIPS (8477) or call Crime Stoppers at704-334-1600 for anonymous tips. : :— Stay tuned to goqnotes.com as thisstory develops. News tips can be sent toeditor@goqnotes.com.online uPerdue proposes ADAP increaseRaleigh Center appoints director2010 primary endorsements16 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for Reproduction


qlivingarts. entertainment.u D-UP makes impact in new homeu Official gives nod to prom attendanceu Audiophile: Sounds of summer0want more great features? visit goqnotes.com/to/qlivingCharlotte Fund announces grant recipientsChair Pete Bonneau excited about all programs, projectsby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comCHARLOTTE — In May, the CharlotteLesbian & Gay Fund (CLGF) will host its thirdannual “Happening,” a lunch-time gatheringof community members, leaders andsupporters across the city. There, the groupplans to honor those organizations receivinggrants from theFund this year.They’ll also hearfrom keynotespeaker, MayorAnthony Foxx.CLGF ChairPete Bonneau told qnotes he’s excited abouteach of the organizations, projects and programschosen for this year’s round of grantstotaling over $40,000. Bonneau said he’s proudto extend funding to unique programs likethose of the Lionel Lee Jr. Center for Wellness.The Lee Center serves those who areuninsured, underinsured or chronically ill,assisting them and their family members inmeeting immediate needs. The group focuseson those suffering from cancer, high bloodpressure, diabetes, heart disease, depressionand other physical and mental illnessesaffecting African-Americans.The Lee Center’s funds are providedthrough a “Community Connections” grantmeant for mainstream organizations workingGaston community emerging strongLocal PFLAG helps to raise awareness in small town Gastoniaby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comGASTONIA, N.C. — Not quite there yet.Growing, but still small. On its way.That’s what community leaders in GastonCounty say about their neighbors, the county’sand Gastonia’s climate for LGBT acceptanceand the beginnings of an organized progressiveand LGBT community.Located less than an hour’s drive fromCharlotte, Gastonia is home to over 70,000people. It isn’t the smallest city in the world,but it isn’t the largest either. Fortunately,Gastonia is close to Charlotte. For many LGBTGastonians, an escape to Charlotte providessocial, political and community involvementopportunities. But, at home in Gaston, someleaders are working to build up their localLGBT community.Robert Kellogg, vice president and cofounderof PFLAG Gaston, thinks the areaneeds some work, but isn’t quite willing tocount it out.“I wouldn’t say that we’re right wherewe need to be, but I definitely don’t want togive the impression that gays and lesbiansaren’t welcome or wouldn’t find a communityhere,” he said. “There is a growing community,and, of course, there are some issueshere and there, some residual homophobia,but like any large or small town, people arewith or reaching out to LGBT people.“They don’t just cater to LGBTs,” Bonneausaid. “It was really touching for me. When youlook at so many other groups, you think abouthow they got started — it’s all grassroots.Our grant will help them make a name forthemselves. It feltnice to be able tocreate funding forthe group and helpthem grow.”The CLGF’sHappening, takingplace May 13 at the Omni Hotel in UptownCharlotte, will include speakers from theFund’s board and keynoter, Mayor Foxx. Themayor’s appearance at the luncheon marksthe first time a local elected official has appearedat a Fund event and the first time asitting Charlotte mayor has spoken to an LGBTgroup in at least a decade.“The Happening is a very important eventthat helps us to understand our responsibilityin the community,” Bonneau said. “We’ll belooking for new support for the Fund, eitherthrough a donation or volunteer efforts, and,of course, a celebration of the successeswe’ve had.”Bonneau wouldn’t elaborate on the specificsof the Fund’s “successes,” but the grouplearning to accept one another.”Kellogg said he thinks most Gastonresidents have a “live and let live” attitude.He admits that kind of atmosphere can bedeceiving at times, but also lends potentialfor growth.Last spring, Kellogg had written a guesteditorial in the local newspaper and issued achallenge for straight allies to stand up andbe counted among those in support of LGBTequality. Amy Sifford, who’s always consideredherself an ally, but never spoken outpublicly, took up the gauntlet.In May, Kellog and Sifford co-founded thebeginnings of what would become PFLAGGaston. Sifford now serves as president of thechapter, which has been an official affiliate ofthe national group for about six months.“Becoming a chapter — that was a process,”she said. “We were able to do all that,get all the paperwork in and get our affiliatestatus. We also were able to get our nonprofitstatus with North Carolina.”The group has grown steadily over thepast few months. Kellogg said an average of25 people attend their monthly meetings andthe group has hosted guest speakers andsee PFLAG on 18Not for ReproductionNot for Reproductionhas been working feverishly for the past fewmonths to match a $100,000 challenge issuedby local philanthropist Sandy Berlin. Issuedat last year’s Happening, about $30,000 wascollected toward the challenge by the end ofthat event.Bonneau hopes the Fund continues togrow “exponentially” and said future growthwill ensure community strength.“It is a great long-term approach to solvinga problem that is evident today,” he said.“I would invite others to get involved and getexcited with us and help move forward so wecan fund more and more.” : :— Learn more about the fund and reserveyour space at The Happening by calling704-665-1888 or by visiting fftc.org/clgf.u u u2010 CLGF grant recipientsOperating grants ($47,000)Campus Pride ............................................................................................................................................ $ 7,000Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte ............................................................................................................. $ 7,500Lional Lee, Jr. Wellness Center ............................................................................................................. $ 5,000One Voice Chorus ..................................................................................................................................... $ 7,500Time Out Youth .......................................................................................................................................... $20,000Community Connections grants ($20,000)Campus Pride for a Charlotte, NC College Fair .................................................................................. $ 2,600Charlotte Pride Band start up ................................................................................................................ $ 2,500Gay Men’s Chorus of Charlotte for Community Choral Workshop Series ................................... $ 3,350Holy Covenant United Church of Christ for workshop with Michael Piazza ............................... $ 2,500Planned Parenthood Health Systems for new LGBTQA youthcurriculum development ......................................................................................................................... $ 2,300Theatre Charlotte for a new play about LGBTQ youth ..................................................................... $ 3,750Time out Youth for youth community service project ....................................................................... $ 3,000— Courtesy CLGF.Night Owls owners Ricky Burns II and Sabrina Love say ‘small town gay bars’ are important to thelocal LGBT life in Gastonia and other rural areas.Photo Credit: Ricky Burns II and MichaelMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 17


PFLAG helps raise awarenesscontinued from page 17screened LGBT-themed films and documentaries.And, in their short life thus far,PFLAG Gaston has managed to grab the localspotlight and to educate the public on issuesof equality in fairness.At the end of February, state Sen. JimForrester — a Republican who has been thedarling of anti-LGBT activists pushing for aconstitutional amendment banning marriagefor same-sex couples — told members ofthe Iredell County Young Republicans that“slick city lawyers and homosexual lobbiesand African-American lobbies are runningRaleigh.”Kellogg and PFLAG Gaston saw an opening.They publicly invited Forrester to a PFLAGmeeting and requested that he come andspeak to his LGBT constituents. The senatoreventually declined, saying he didn’t think themeeting would be positive.“I doubt I will go to the meeting, but Iappreciate the invitation anyhow,” Forrestertold The Gaston Gazette. “I don’t think it wouldbe a constructive meeting. I think it would justincrease animosity toward me, and I don’twant that.”While Forrester never showed for aPFLAG meeting, Kellogg and Sifford were ableto draw much needed attention to the stateof LGBT progress in small town Gastonia. It’sprogress that, while slow, is still happening.Mickey Sadler, human resources directorfor the City of Gastonia, told qnotes his departmentand the city manager are currentlyworking on creating a new policy handbook.The goal is to take specific operating policesout of the city’s code of ordinances and placeNot for Reproductionthem in a policy manual over which the citymanager has authority. Among the changesincluded in the draft is an equal employmentpolicy inclusive of sexual orientation.“The city is not going to tolerate [discriminationbased on sexual orientation],”Sadler said. “It would just be nice to havethat in writing.”For Gastonia, the move could be a big buteasy step toward a more equal and inclusivecommunity. After all, it took Charlotte, a citywith nearly three-quarters of a million people,almost a decade to get sexual orientation inits policies and regulations — a progressive,painfully obvious move made only a monthago. That Gastonia officials are consideringthe change without fanfare or controversy is avictory in and of itself.Small town gay barNo local gay community is completewithout the obligatory “small town gay bar.”It’s a meeting place, watering hole and socialhub. Or, at least it used be before the days ofthe internet. In many small towns, though, thegay bar still functions as a kind of make-shiftcommunity center. People meet (and maybefind love, even if for a night), people drinkand people have the opportunity to learn. Ifa small town has access to LGBT or friendlypublications, the gay bar is likely the onlyplace to find it.Gastonia’s one gay bar, Night Owls,recently changed ownership. Longtime dragperformer Sabrina Love and friend RickyBurns II bought the business from formerowner Teresa Bryant in February.Love said she felt it was important to keepthe bar open and operating for the folks whodon’t necessarily have the option to go toCharlotte.“You’ve got so many small towns aroundhere,” she said. “If they were to drive thatextra 30 or 40 minutes to go to Scorpio, thatwould be a stretch. In this area of the state,there are a lot of folks who have less money.They aren’t from a larger metropolitan area.They stick around the areas they know.”Burns believes any small town’s gay bar isa key component to local LGBT life.“Gastonia doesn’t have any other place.This is the only one they’ve got,” he said. “Itis important for the community because withouta place to go the community is hinderedin growth.”Like Kellogg and Sifford, though, Love andBurns aren’t willing to kid themselves on thestate of acceptance in Gaston County.“Gastonia is becoming more progressive,but I don’t believe it is there yet,” Burns said.Love is a bit more optimistic. “I’d sayGastonia is about where Charlotte was 10years ago. They are slowly breaking through.I think two men or women could easily go outout, meet at a restaurant or a coffee shop. Idon’t think there is a level of danger in thatleft anymore.”Protecting youthAmong Kellogg and Sifford’s continuedgoals is ensuring LGBT youth in GastonCounty are safe and have access to welcomingresources.“We just had a meeting and severalrepresentatives from the school system cameto our last meeting,” Kellogg said. “We reallywant to work closely with schools makingsure LGBT youth have the proper resourcesif they come out to a teacher or a counselor.If they are being bullied, we want to makesure that the teachers or faculty are properlytrained and know how to handle situationslike that.”PFLAG Gaston’s quest for safe schoolswill likely be aided by the School ViolencePrevention Act, a law passed by the state legislaturelast year requiring all school systemsto adopt LGBT-inclusive anti-bullying policiesand conduct comprehensive anti-bullying andanti-harassment training for school facultyand staff.The safety of youth is an issue near anddear to Sifford’s heart. As a young counselingprofessional in the 1980s, Sifford was facedwith a heartbreaking situation that solidifiedher role as a straight ally.“My first job was at a group home,”she recounted. “We housed adolescentsreferred or diverted from the courts. Duringtheir short-term placement they had to go tothe community school assigned to the grouphome. We had a 15-year-old young man whoidentified as gay and he liked to be a bit flamboyant.He wore a bit of make-up and paintedhis fingernails black.”When Sifford attempted to enroll him inthe community school, the principal and assistantprincipal refused.“’I’m not going to enroll him in my schoolbecause his appearance will create a disturbance,’the principal told us,” Sifford said.Sifford was eventually able to get theprincipal to back down, but the damage hadbeen done. The teen was enrolled in anotherschool and was eventually moved to a morepermanent home placement.“Six months later he committed suicide,”Sifford said. “From that moment on I was ableto understand on some deeper level just howdestructive this prejudice and this homophobiacan be. I still get emotional talking about it.That’s how powerful that experience was forme. I knew from that moment on I was goingto be an advocate.”Sifford hopes her work with PFLAGGaston will help move her community forward.When it does, she plans on steppingdown and handing leadership of the localLGBT community over to the people she’shelping to serve.“Our future leader will emerge from all ofthis,” she said. “I’ll hang in there until that personwhoever he or she may be emerges.” : :QList: Voting ends May 7We’ve returned with the seocnd annual QList, Best of the LGBT Carolinas — Readers’ Pick.Here’s your chance to have your say and give some kudos to some of your fave bars andclubs, restaurants and coffee shops, non-profits, AIDS service organizations, communityleaders and more! To participate, head to goqnotes.com/qlist. Fill in your name, email address,location and get to voting. When you’re done, click on “submit.” It’s that easy! Thisyear, you’ll notice The QList has been chopped down from its mammoth (or, you could say,overly ambitious) size. We’ve pared down the category and contest list, keeping only themost popular categories. Voting ends May 7, 11:59 p.m. QList results will be published in ourMay 29 print and online editions. : :18 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for Reproduction


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Not for ReproductionD-UP! making animpact at new orgAfter MAP closure, project targeting blackMSM moved to Consortiumby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.com20 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for ReproductionCHARLOTTE — Since 2006,Charlotte’s D-UP! project hasreached out in an effort to curbrising HIV/AIDS transmission andinfection rates among communitiesof color and young men whohave sex with men (MSM). Theproject has been largely successful,training dozens of peer leadersand educating youth and youngadults on the value of safer sexpractices.D-UP!, originally a similar but separateproject initiated by a grant from the Centersfor Disease Control and Prevention (CDC), hadbeen housed under Metrolina AIDS Project(MAP), the nearly 25-year-old AIDS service organizationthat shut down amidst concerns offinancial insolvency and leadership questionslast fall.That initial $1 million dollar grant helped D-UP! and other similar projects in Raleigh andGreensboro get off the ground and running.When MAP closed, however, the Charlotteprogram was left without a home.Darrin Johnson, D-UP!’s senior project coordinator,told qnotes the CDC was interestedin keeping the project going. The governmentagency scouted out a new home for D-UP!,and found one in theRegional HIV/AIDSConsortium.“Service withthe program wasinterrupted for abouta month, howeverwe did still do whatwe could to go outand talk to folks andkeep the projectrunning, making sureconversations werestill happening andwe kept our communityadvisory boardintact.” Johnson said.Although downin January, Johnsonsaid the project wasable to start again in February.It’s been full steam ahead since.“We hit the ground runningwithin about a week into being atthe Consortium,” Johnson said.“We started back our trainingand got back with the communityadvisory board to let them knowwe were here. We’ve startedplanning our annual reunion inJuly — the ball is our largestevent.”Among other projects this spring, D-UP!also recently completed a testing event inconjunction with Mt. Moriah Baptist Churchand Johnson and Wales University. More than145 people were tested at the March 9 event.Johnson said he feels the programcontinues to do good work. D-UP! will alsorelease their next round of “Prevention isSexy” awareness posters — featuring scantily-cladguys with safer sex messages — inthe summer. Johnson said such preventativemessages and strategies both speaks to andgets the attention of youth while reinforcingthe educational campaign.Johnson concluded, “It’s definitely makingan impact.” : :


Official supports policy to allow gaycouple to attend senior promYadkin County Board of Education member takes heat from community, constituentsby Andy Matthews :: YadkinValleyNews.comYADKINVILLE, N.C. — A Yadkin Countyschool official said Tuesday night that hebelieves a gay couple should be allowed toattend their senior prom.“This has been a really hot topic. I’ve gottenmore phone calls on this than anythingelse since I’ve been on the board,” LarryVestal said. “But to me, this was kinda a ‘nobrainer.’ I know people are upset, but theyjust need to get over it . . . I feel like the boardmade the right decision.”Vestal’s comments come on the heelsof the school board’s recent decision toallow Chase Wall, a Starmount High Schoolstudent, and his boyfriend, Jordan Beam, toattend the May 1 prom. At first, the school’sprincipal, Danyelle Parker, told Wall that hecouldn’t bring Beam to the prom.Beam’s mother, Lisa Nixon, was intent onher son and Wall attending the prom and toldParker she planned to contact the AmericanCivil Liberties Union and the media. SchoolSuperintendent James Bentled consultedwith the board’s attorney and was told thatthe school system must comply with its nondiscriminatorypolicy.Vestal said that Bentley made the rightdecision even though he said it might notbe a popular one, especially in a small, ruralcounty of 38,000 residents that is steepedin traditional conservative values. Many ofVestal’s constituents believe that homosexualityis a sin and that the school board shouldnot endorse gay rights.Vestal said officials can’t discriminateagainst a student or faculty because of theirsexual orientation.“We met with our attorney and he gaveus good advice and I’m glad we are followingthat,” Vestal said. “We were told that we hadto stick by our non-discrimination policy andthat meant allowing him (Wall) to bring hisfriend to the prom.”Vestal, who was elected to the boardtwo years ago, said that he and other boardmembers have fielded several angry phonecalls from county residents. One caller,Vestal said, said she wouldn’t support VestalNot for Reproductionin the next election.Vestal recalled a similar situation whenhe was a student at Jonesville High Schoolmore than 40 years ago. One of his students,who was gay, didn’t attend the school’sprom, fearing retribution from his classmates.“We’ve had gay students before,” Vestalsaid. “In that case, the student just chosenot to go to the prom and I think that was ashame. That is something a person only getsto do once or twice in their life.”Vestal said he wished all of the board’sdecisions generated the same kind of passionand interest from the community.“It’s a shame an issue like this gets moreattention than the actual education of astudent,” he said. : :— This article was originally published atYadkinValleyNews.com on April 21, 2010and was written by editor Andy Matthews,Amatthews@yadkinvalleynews.com.This article is reprinted with permission.we want your feedbackYour thoughts, concerns, suggestions and critiques help to make qnotes better foryou and other readers.Take our reader survey at goqnotes.com/5688May 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 21Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproductionout in the starsby charlene lichtenstein :: qnotes contributorMay 1-14This is a time of sun,fun, rebirth and growthas Venus sextilesMars. Love takes flight,goes into action andgracefully captures theobject of our desires. Use it or lose it. Time isa’wasting.TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Queer Bulls feel the loveespecially from relatives. Bridges can be builtand good times are had for all involved. Findactivities that get everyone together such asa family reunion. But, keep an eye on costs.Creating and maintaining budgets are nevermuch fun, but if you can focus on controllingyour monetary outlay, it leads to a cushier summerwhere you can sit pretty.GEMINI (05.22-06.21) Do you feel that you are ata crossroad in your life? Are you seeking somethingmore meaningful and deep? This may beyour chance to energize your current path orget yourself on a new and exciting direction.May is the time to formulate your personalmanifesto and see how it is received by themovers and shakers. Don’t be shy. Wallflowerswill not get enough light.CANCER (06.22-07.23) Secret admirers makethemselves known to you. And, some can bevery generous, not only with their affections,but also with their gifts. Lucky gay Crabs canafford to be choosy and should take their time.There is one particular someone who is muchmore than they seem at first glance. Feel themerchandise before you try anything on.LEO (07.24-08.23) Friends give you a leg up anda push into the limelight. They are especiallysupportive and ready to help, not only if youask, but even if you don’t ask. Proud Lions areusually full of self-confidence, but nothingbeats the accolades you get right now. Don’twaste time by procrastination. The door ofopportunity is open. Stop standing on thethreshold.VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Senior staff love everythingabout you on the job, which is great timing foryou. Take advantage of their blind devotion andmake a few behind-the-scenes political maneuversto help you solidify your position in thecoming months. Queer Virgins can build on theirexecutive acumen. Become the petty despot youalways dreamed you can be.LIBRA (09.24-10.23) If you are planning to travel,include some pals on your itinerary. Anythingwill be more fun with a crowd. And, if you areinterested in meeting new friends, now is thetime to try a range of new organizations, socialgroups or clubs. Proud Libras have extra charismato attract the best and the brightest. Adda bit of your own shine to dazzle the crowds.SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) You have some powerfuland wealthy backers who are ready to helpyou professionally. Proud Scorps with a greedyneed for power and prestige can acquire it.But, use your gains for good and not for purelypersonal enrichment. Before you know it, yourclimb to the top will reach lofty and precariousheights. Who will love you as you cling to thesmall branches?SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) Plan a romantic getawaywith your partner now. Not only will yoube able to choose the perfect spot to expressyour eternal love, it will be a good respite fromall the stress of daily life. If you are seekingyour soulmate, use the month to expand yourchoice of opportunities. Who knows who iswaiting for you at the other end of the world?CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) Strive to get alongwith co-workers. It will strengthen your baseof support for any furtive monetary gains. Youmay receive a raise or some type of promotionas the month progresses. Pink Caps are hardworkers, but hard work alone does not get youwhere you need to be. Sometimes success atwork is based on a personality test. Become amaster of ceremonies.AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Aqueerians wrestmore fun out of all types of relationships now.Whether for business or pleasure, find waysto spice up and maximize the value of yourpartnerships. Yes, it sounds a little mercenary,but you will be surprised at how responsiveothers will be to your overtures and how youcan eventually profit by them. Expect nothingand be surprised.PISCES (02.20-03.20) If you have been feelingstressed, you can find a calming refuge athome. Make your individual space your personaloasis by adding a variety of mellow activities.Candlelight baths, new age music, goodfood and wine will all help to bring you backdown to earth. By the time the summer getsfully underway, you will be ready for anything,everything and anyone.ARIES (03.21-04.20) Proud Rams are in the thickof things now as your presence is required atevery grand festivity. There will be plenty ofparties to choose. But, the best way to get intothe fun groove is to take matters into your ownhands and plan a few soirees yourself. Checkthe guest list twice. See who is naughty andwho is nice. Then load up on the naughties. : :© 2010 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All RightsReserved. Entertainment.info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. Mybook “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology ForLesbians” from Simon & Schuster isavailable at bookstores and major booksites.22 qnotes May 1-14 . 2010Not for Reproduction


tell trinityby trinity :: qnotes contributorCan straight men cheatwith other straight menDear Trinity,I’ve been married for seven years anddo not have sex with my wife. Irecently met a guy who is having thesame problem. Is it wrong if wehave sex with each other when both ofus are not getting pleasure fromour wives?Just For Sex, Bombay, MarrakechDear Just For Sex,Question: “If two heterosexual men havesex with each other purely for sex thenare they cheating on their wives as ifthey were cheating with another woman?” Answer:Yes, they are absolutely cheating! But, if you must havesex with someone other than your spouse, this may bea gay/happy alternative. In some African tribes, everynine months the women send the men off to the woodsto have sex with each other. When the men return theyare kinder to each other and to their spouses. So, neverforget your responsibilities at home. Oh, and, sweetie,send me the video!Hey Trinity,I borrowed something from my roommate and broke it.He doesn’t know I borrowed it and I feel guilty. I don’thave the money to replace it.Borrowed, Broken & Blue, Philadelphia, PAHey Borrowed, Broken & Blue,It’s so typical not to admit a mistake especially if thereNot for Reproductionare financial consequences. Our parents did it, we do itand courthouses are filled with guilty people who alsocan’t admit it. Now as for you, why not be a role modelfor yourself and all of (wo)mankind by coming clean withwhat you did. Listen, baby, if you ask any truly successfulbusinessperson what they do when they make a mistakethey’ll tell you, they admit it and deal with the consequences…well,most of the time! (See my cartoon for how Iset it right.)Dearest Trinity,It seems like after the first night of sex or the first big fightsomeone stops calling or wanting to date further. Either I’mguilty of dumping someone or innocent of getting dumped, butanyway it just never works. Is there a better way?Tired O’the Game, Des Moines, IADearest Tired O’the Game,You’re right dating is very painful. So, give up, stop trying, stoptaking chances, stop living. Or, why not try reinventing yourselflike Liz Taylorand I do everytime we walk outof divorce court.This means erasingin your headeverything you’velearned aboutdating and trying itall again, differentand new. It worksin Hollywood and itcan work for you.Also, releasingin you mind whatyou know, to startnew again, is anancient Buddhistpractice. Remember, pumpkin, when you stop trying, you startdying and the dying process is way more upsetting.Dearest Trinity,A friend of a friend told me that you had dinner with MargaretCho. Well what was she like?Cho Fan, Provincetown, MADearest Cho Fan,Yup, I dined with the “Notorious Cho.” She was very polite andkind. Actually, I learned so much that I had to write:What Trinity Learned From Dining OutWith Margaret Cho.1. Always be nice to anyone who says hello.2. Stop and take pictures with anyone who asks for a picturewith you.3. When you have to change your plans, give plenty of warning.4. When the waiter gets star struck don’t say anything to hurthis or her feelings, just be polite.5. If the chef sends over a complimentary piece of cake, atleast eat a bite, even if you don’t want to.6. And, you don’t have to eat everything you ordered.7. Work hard and enjoy your life in between shows.8. Talking about “pussy” is better done on stage.9. Say “yes” as often as you can.10. Lastly, always stop to appreciate drag queens, for they arethe core of many wonderful things. : :— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity washost of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,and now performs globally.info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.comTell Trinity, P.O. Box 23861 . Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33307Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild800-637-8696 . www.ptown.orgMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 23Not for Reproduction


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audiophileby david stout :: david@goqnotes.comThe sounds of summerWe’re now firmly ensconced intop-down, cruising the main drag,lying out by the pool weather whichmeans it’s time to break out thebright, shiny music to match. Here’sa sampling of albums from LGBTand allied artists that seem to gohand-in-hand with this time of year.The odds are pretty good youmight hear one of these recordingsblasting from my vehicle if you’re stopped next to me ata red light. The best summer tracks from each recording arelistedThe B-52s — “Cosmic Thing” (Reprise): “Love Shack,” “Roam,”“Channel Z”Christina Aguilera — Self-titled (RCA): “Genie In A Bottle,”“What A Girl Wants,” “Come On Over Baby”Cyndi Lauper — “She’s So Unusual” (Portrait): “Girls Just WantTo Have Fun,” “She Bop,” “When You Were Mine”Diana Ross — “Diana” (Motown): “Upside Down,”“I’m Coming Out”Not for ReproductionDonna Summer — “Bad Girls”(Casablanca): “Hot Stuff,” “Bad Girls,”“Dim All The Lights”George Michael — “Faith” (Columbia): “IWant Your Sex,” “Faith,” “Monkey”Janet Jackson — “Control” (A&M): “WhatHave You Done For Me Lately,” “Nasty,” “Control,” “WhenI Think Of You”Jody Watley — Self-titled (MCA): “Looking For A NewLove,” “Don’t You Want Me,” “Some Kind Of Lover”Lady Gaga — “The Fame” (Interscope): “Just Dance,”“Pokerface,” “Love Game,” “Papparazzi”Madonna — “Like A Prayer” (Sire/WB): “Like A Prayer,”“Express Yourself,” “Cherish”Michael Jackson — “Off The Wall” (Epic): “Rock WithYou,” “Don’t Stop Til You Get Enough,” “Off The Wall”Prince & The Revolution — “Parade” (Warner Bros):“Kiss,” “Mountains,” “Girls & Boys”REM — “Green” (Warner Bros): “Stand,” “Pop Song89,” “Get Up”RuPaul — “Supermodel Of The World” (Tommy Boy):“Supermodel (You Better Work),” “House Of Love,”“Back To My Roots”Savage Garden — Self-titled (Columbia): “I Want You,”“To The Moon And Back,” “Break Me Shake Me” : :info: audiophile@goqnotes.comMay 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 25Not for Reproduction


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Not for ReproductionRoll out the red carpetDFF to raise money for charityMay 8 • GreensboroRed PartyDining for Friends presents their Community Red Party, Greensboro’s biggest Dining for Friends party. Sponsorsinclude LeBauer HealthCare, Natty Greene’s, Heart in Sol, Custom Jewelers Gallery, TechTriad, Samuel B. Johnson,Ameriprise Financial, Triad Yoga, Total Wine and RomanticAsheville.com. Blandwood Mansion, 447 W. WashingtonSt. 6 p.m.-9 p.m. $20 suggested minimum donation. diningforfriends.com.May 1 • CharlotteAIDS Walk CharlotteThe Regional AIDS Interfaith Network(RAIN) hosts its AIDS Walk 2010, the largestHIV/AIDS awareness andfundraising event in theCarolinas. For sponsorshipor participant informationand sign-up, visitaidswalkcharlotte.org.May 1 • AshevilleBlue Ridge PromJoin Blue Ridge Pride fortheir adult prom, “Midnightin the Garden of Goodand Evil,” for the LGBTQcommunity and those whosupport us. Live music withVertigo Jazz Project, DJs Soulja Byrd andLTP, light food, spirits, dancing and crowningof King and Queen of the prom! Tickets atblueridgepride.com. Seven Star Factory, 191Lyman St. 8-11 p.m.May 1 • RaleighAIDS Walk+RideAlliance of AIDS Services-Carolina presentsits AIDS Walk+Ride, a day of celebration,awareness building and fundraising. For moreinformation, to become a sponsor, make adonation or register in the walk or cycle ridevisit aidswalkandride.org.May 1-2 • Charlotte‘Talk of the Town’In “Talk of the Town,” Johnny Hobson, an irrepressiblesmall-town Texan sissy-boy, fightsback from those who bully him at school.And, in the wake of his battles, finds workand worth, as well as love, lust and Lady BirdJohnson at his local Dairy Queen. Johnny’sstory unfolds in pure Southern fashion— alternately hilarious and poignant, thoughsimultaneously quick-witted and full of details.A portion of the proceeds will benefit TimeOut Youth, an organization providing support,advocacy, and education for LGBT youth inCharlotte and the surrounding areas. Petra’sPiano Bar, 1919 Commonwealth Ave. 8 p.m.stephenseayproductions.com.May 7 • RaleighCenter Grand OpeningFirst Friday takes a trip to the LGBT Center ofRaleigh for its grand opening! 316W. Cabarrus St. 6 p.m.-10 p.m.lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.May 8 • SpartanburgPoker RunJoin Upstate Pride for their PokerRun Scavenger Hunt, with proceedsbenefitting Piedmont Care.Follow the clues to win the run!Registration is $15 for singles,$25 for couples. Winner receives$100 in prizes! For more information,visit piedmontcare.org.May 8 • CharlotteHabitat For Humanity Women Build 2010Join a host of women who take up a hammerto help build homes. 8 a.m.-4 p.m. To volunteerand/or donations or for more infomation aboutthe build schedule, visit habitatcharlotte.org/women-build.May 13 • CharlotteBrian Sims meet and greetCampus Pride hosts Brian Sims, formercaptain of the Bloomsburg University footballteam. In the middle of his school’s greatestseason, Sims came out of the closet. In sodoing, he became the only openly gay collegefootball captain in NCAA history. Bar at 316,316 Rennsalaer Ave. 8:30 p.m.-10:30 p.m.campuspride.org.May 15 • CharlotteDrag RaceEveryone knows Charlotte has NASCAR.And, it also has the first-ever Queen City DragRace. Grab your heels and a wig and set outto win the Drag Race Trophy in three fun andexciting competitions: Diva Dash 100, HighHeel Run 4x4 Team Relay and Most MoneyRaised. Proceeds benefit the Human RightsCampaign. Get more information and registerat queencitydragrace.com.May 15 • CharlotteFinish LineAfter you’re done competing in the Queen CityDrag Race, head over to its official after partyat Hartigan’s Irish Pub, 601 S. Cedar St. 6-10p.m. queencitydragrace.com.May 15 • DurhamForces of NatureCommon Woman Chorus presents theirspring concert, “Forces of Nature.” From theirwebsite: “Forces of Nature shape our world,and we are each a Force of Nature. Come jointhe Common Woman Chorus in celebratingthrough music the powerful, awe-inspiring,subtle and persistent forces that moldour earth and shape our lives.” Tickets are$10 and available at Cameron’s, RegulatorBookshop, Quail Ridge Books in Raleigh andWhite Rabbit. Eno River Unitarian UniversalistFellowship, 4907 Garrett Rd. 8 p.m.commonwomanchorus.net.May 21 • Lake WylieMiss Rainbow In PageantThe Rainbow In hosts its first annual MissRainbow In Pageant. This year’s theme is“Masquerade, A Night of Painted Faces!”Drag entertainers interested in competingcan contact Roxy C. Moorecox at funnydragqueen@gmail.com.TheRainbow In, 4376 Charlotte Hwy.10 p.m.-1 a.m.May 21 • WilsonThe BotanistPeter Neofotis, a gay writer andauthor of the story collection“Concord, Virginia” (St. Martin’sPress, 2009), will be presentinghis story “The Botanist” for onenight only as part of Theater of the AmericanSouth. Drawn from the writer’s own experienceof growing up gay in the rural South andfrom an account of a 1960s sodomy trial, thisstory tells the tale of a young college studentwho is persecuted for his homosexuality.“The Botanist” is both heart-wrenching andhilarious. Lauren Kennedy and Alan CampbellTheatre, Barton College. 9:30-11 p.m.theateroftheamericansouth.org.May 23 • CharlotteDrag Yard SaleBuff Faye hosts her “Big Drag Queen FamilyQqnotes eventsgoqnotes.com/qguide/eventsarts. entertainment. news. views.Yard Sale” with wigs, sequin gowns, featherboas and more! A portion of proceedswill benefit the Haiti Relief Fund. For moreinformation visit bigdragqueenyardsale.comor email info@bufffaye.com. Bar at 316, 316Rennsalaer Ave. 1-5 p.m.May 25 • RaleighDay of ActionJoin Equality North Carolina for a day of actionat the North Carolina Legislature. Speakto your elected officials about issues importantto the LGBT community and help keep theTar Heel State free of an anti-LGBT, anti-familymarriage amendment. For more informationand to register, visit equalitync.org.May 28-30 • CharlotteTwirliciousJoin the boys of Just Twirl for a Memorial DayWeekend extravaganza, including a kickoff atThe Bar at 316, a “Three Hour Twirl” at LakeNorman, Centaur CD release party at Closetand Sunday Tea Dance at The Forum. Getmore information and buy individual tickets orweekend passes at twirlicious.com.May 29 • CharlotteCharlotte Pride BandFirst full-length concert of Charlotte’s newLGBT concert band. Tickets are $10 availableat White Rabbit, Paper Skyscraper, andband members. Reception to follow. UnitarianUniversalist Church of Charlotte, 234Sharon Amity Rd. 8 p.m.-10 p.m.charlotteprideband.org.May 1-14 . 2010 qnotes 27Not for Reproduction

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