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Not for Reproduction26-July 9, 2010Vol 25 No 04inJuneconnectgoqnotes.comtwitter.com/qnotescarolinassidemyspace.com/qnotescarolinasyoutube.com/qnotescarolinasfacebook.com/qnotescarolinasnews & features5 Out candidates elected6 Duke establishes network7 Carolinas Dems on Pride Month10 Gay artist tackles homophobia12 Gay through Z: LGBT Pride15 Susan Burgess remembered16 Couple blogs for equalityqliving/arts & entertainment9 Audiophile17 Putting ‘fun’ in fundraising18 Out in the Stars19 Tell Trinity1710Sign up for our weekly emailnewsletter at goqnotes.com.contributors this issueDyana Bagby, Robbi Cohn, MattComer, Tyler DeVere, CharleneLichtenstein, Lainey Millen, DeaidreNewby, Leslie Robinson, DavidStout, Trinity23 Q events calendaropinions & views4 Editor’s Note8 General Gayety22 T-Notes15front pageGraphic Design by Matt Comer &Lainey MillenBackground image courtesymoonlightbulb, licensed underCC via Flickr.Material in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2010 and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability— for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x206 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.6863Editor: Matt Comerx202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stoutx210 editor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millenx209 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.June 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


Openly LGBT candidates won politicalraces literally from coast to coast June 8,with key wins coming in California, Montanaand Maine. The Gay and Lesbian VictoryFund crowed that 17 of their 21 endorsedcandidates either won their races outright oradvanced to general elections.Among the highlights:• As expected, openly gay Palm SpringsMayor Steve Pougnet, a Democrat, will faceRepublican Congresswoman Mary BonoMack in the race to represent California’s45th Congressional District.• In California, the State Assembly is likely towelcome three new openly gay and lesbianlawmakers after key primary wins put themon the road to victory this November. ToniAtkins (District 76), Rich Gordon (District21) and Ricardo Lara (District 50) won theirDemocratic primaries in overwhelminglyDemocratic Assembly districts. With onegay lawmaker leaving the California Senatedue to term limits, the state is now likely tohave a total of seven openly gay and lesbianstate legislators in the next term, up from fivecurrently.• Also in California, Jill Ravitch won her racefor Sonoma County District Attorney, beatingan incumbent. She will become the state’ssecond openly lesbian District Attorney,joining San Diego District Attorney BonnieDumanis, a Republican who is unopposed inher reelection bid.• Openly transgender lawyer VictoriaKolakowski also advanced to the generalelection in her race for Superior Court Judgein Alameda County, Calif.• In Maine, out lesbian candidate Jill Barkleyis now the heavy favorite to win a seat inthe Maine State House after winning herprimary.• Montana is also likely to add at least oneopenly gay state lawmaker. Bryce Bennettwon his Democratic primary to advanceto the general election in November. He’srunning in a very Democratic district, so it’sexpected he’ll join Rep. Diane Sands, whowas unopposed in her reelection bid, in theMontana State House. Aaron Kampfe alsoadvanced in his Democratic primary for aseat in the Montana Senate.u The Department of Health and HumanServices’ Advisory Committee on BloodSafety and Availability voted June 11 againstrecommending a change to the current policyprohibiting blood donation from any man whohas had sex with another man since 1977.Members cited insufficient scientific datato support a change. The Committee did acknowledge,however, that the current policyis imperfect and recommended additionalresearch to craft a policy that would allow“low-risk” gay and bisexual men to donate.The Committee’s recommendations will nowbe considered by the Assistant Secretary forHealth.Not for Reproductionnews notes: beyond the carolinasLGBT candidates rock the voteu The Office of Personnel Management(OPM) has issued a final regulation extendingsick and bereavement leave programsto include the domestic partners of federalemployees. This change, set to take effectJuly 14, was first proposed last September inresponse to a June 2009 memorandum fromPresident Obama directing federal agenciesto identify benefits they could extend tothe same-sex partners of their employeesunder existing law. OPM has already finalizedregulations opening up the federal employees’long-term care insurance program todomestic partners.u A new Gallup Poll reveals that attitudestoward gay and lesbian relationships hasreached a major turning point — particularlyamong Catholics and men. For the first time,most Americans (53 percent of men and51 percent of women) say gay and lesbianrelationships are “morally acceptable.”Respondents between the ages of 18 and49 are particularly accepting (62 percent ofmales and 59 percent of females). In addition,62 percent of Catholics affirm gay relationships,compared with just 46 percent fouryears ago.by David Stoutdavid@goqnotes.comu The State Department has approved apolicy change that allows transgender peopleto adjust their passports to reflect their newgender by submitting certification from theirmedical doctor that they have received “appropriateclinical treatment” for gender transition.Previously, sex reassignment surgery was aprerequisite to making a change of gender ona passport, a requirement that was out-of-datebased on current medical and social understandingsof gender identity. The new standardbrings passport policies in line with many othertransgender-friendly state policies governingdriver’s licenses and other forms of ID.u On June 10, the U.S. Department ofJustice clarified that the criminal provisionsof the Violence Against Women Act covercrimes against victims of same-sex domesticviolence. The memorandum, which was producedby the Office of Legal Counsel, providesthat criminal provisions related to domestic violence,stalking and protection order violationsapply to conduct when the offender and victimare the same sex. According to a 2010 reportby the National Center for Victims of Crimeand the National Coalition of Anti-ViolencePrograms, intimate partner violence occurs inthe relationships of LGBT people at about thesame rate as in heterosexual relationships.u Since 2002, 25 gay and transgenderpeople have been murdered in Puerto Rico,with six of the slayings occurring since lastNovember. Puerto Rican LGBT activists saymost of the crimes were not investigatedby the local authorities as hate crimes andvery few of the killings have received mediacoverage. : :June 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


news notes: carolinasDuke launches networkDURHAM — On June 2, at the LehmannMaupin Gallery in New York City, DukeUniversity alumnus and former trustee TomClark, President Richard H. Brodhead andmore than 150 people helped launch thenew Duke LGBT Network (DLGBTN) withsponsorship by The Duke Alumni Association(DAA).DLGBTN is dedicated to the service ofthe LGBT community of the university andinvolves faculty, staff, students, alumni andfriends of Duke.The event included comments by Clark,a member of the LBGT Network SteeringCommittee and a past president of the DukeAlumni Association, and Janie Long, directorof Duke’s Center for LGBT Life.According to Duke Today, Clark receivedthe Charles A. Dukes Award one of the alumniassociation’s top awards for volunteer serviceand was honored for his work as DAA presidentand for efforts to established the DAA’sfirst Diversity Inclusion Committee, whichpromotes outreach to underserved groups ofalumni.Duke added, “This kick-off event is anextraordinary example of how Duke alumniwant to remain connected to each other, andto the campus community,” said Kyle Knight,communications chair for the Duke LGBTNetwork. “President Brodhead’s presenceat the event sends a strong message aboutthe priority that the University places onadvancing an inclusive and supportive Dukecommunity.”The event was underwritten by CreditSuisse through the effort of alumnus andsteering committee member Todd Sears.Brodhead encouraged the network to playa valuable role in Duke life through buildingconnections between students, alumni andothers and by serving as an advocate oncampus, Duke concluded.For more information, visitdukealumnicenter.com/LGBT.CharlotteGoing GaGa for TOYCHARLOTTE — Time Out Youth is going“Gaga for Dada” on July 11 at TheatreCharlotte, 501 Queens Rd.A DADA [dah-dah] -event is a celebrationof all things art, including culture, theme andperformance. The fourth annual soiree benefitsTime Out Youth while “exalting summer,on a canvas of white.”Cocktail culture begins at 5 p.m. and thecurtain call is set for 6:15 p.m. Cash bar available.Hosts are Vito Abate and Kerri Nichols.Want to win an iPad? There will be a giveawayto be awarded to an attendee during theevening.General admission is $45. VIP ticketsare available for $250 and includes a tablefor four onstage with the artists during theperformance. Parking is available at the RBCCentura lot at 3rd and Colonial around thecorner from the theater.For a list of performers, tickets or moreNot for Reproductioninformation, call 704-333-8335 or visittimeoutyouth.org.McCreesh Place given green lightCHARLOTTE — The Villa HeightsNeighborhood Organization gave it a bigthumbs up on May in support of of a $3.5 millionexpansion plan for McCreesh Place in theNorth Davidson Street area.The Charlotte Observer reported in Maythat this was a real turn around from whatwas experienced there eight years ago whenneighbors were strongly against building ofMcCreesh’s housing project for homeless addicts.They felt it would bring down propertyvalues and escalate crime.Many of the area’s meetings are heldat the center, as well as bingo games. Thehomeless men have become “endeared” toVilla Heights. They pick up trash and pass outnewsletters.The expansion will allow for 90 residentsto live there, up from 63.This housing unit, owned by St. Peter’sHomes, is named for the late Fr. GeneMcCreesh who was a champion for thehomeless and a tremendous supporter ofthe LGBT community. He was active withthe Diocesan Ministry for Gay & LesbianCatholics and was often found at the bedsideof many of Charlotte’s gay men and otherswho were dying from complications ofHIV/AIDS.For more information, visitstpetershomesinc.org.Easternby Lainey Millenlainey@goqnotes.comStudent calendar tells storyGREENVILLE — The East CarolinaUniversity’s Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual,Transgendered Student Union sports animpressive calendar, complete with historicaldates for readers to enjoy.Every day in June is marked as Gay PrideMonth.For instance, on June 27, the script tellsof the 1969 police preparation for the raidson the Stonewall Inn. Go to July 1 and readabout the 1975 California decriminalization ofprivate, consensual adult gay sex act.All of this is not complete without the postingof the Union’s monthly activities.Additionally, on the site is a listing ofresources and local support organizations.The Center’s president is Katy Ross whosays she is looking for someone to help herwith some website improvement. To reachher, email hullj06@ecu.edu.Alumni Chair and advisor is Aaron Lucier.For more information, visit ecu.edu/org/glbtsu.Church hold Pride observanceFAYETTEVILLE — The Blessed Family ofGod, 829 Gillespie St., has been holding Prideevents during the month of June according toPastor Micah Royal.A special Bible study has extended over afour to six week period on Sundays from 9:30- qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproduction10:15 a.m. and is entitled “Does God AcceptUs? The Bible’s Good News to GLBT People”which examines how Scripture deals withsexuality, sexual orientation and gender identity.Services folllow at 10:30 a.m. Wednesdaynight study begins at 7 p.m.To listen to the first installment, visitsermon.net/blessedfamilyofgod.A social event was held on June 19, completewith hamburgers, hot dogs and more.Minds were tested while playing gay trivia.Afterward, they viewed “Milk,” the AcademyAward-winning film on the life of Californiaactivist Harvey Milk.A fundraiser organized by a churchmember is being held to raffle off tickets forLilith Fair.For more information, email bfog@bfog.orgor visit bfog.org.TriangleCenter needs youRALEIGH — Volunteers are being soughtby the LGBT Center of Raleigh for the RaleighIs Coming Out event on Oct. 16. Organizershad their first meeting on June 4.Activities include the Coming Out 2010Fundraiser Dinner, the D.C. Cowboy performance,silent auction, corporate sponsorscommittee, marketing and ticketing committeeand logistics and programing.Interested parties should call 919-832-4484or email lgbtcenterofraleigh@gmail.com.Bowlers soughtRALEIGH — The Triangle RainbowBowling League (TRBL) has announced thatit is seeking community members to join themfor their fall/winter season on Sept. 8.League play consists of three games onWednesdays starting at 7:30 p.m. for 28 weeksat Pleasant Valley Lanes, 5501 CommercialAve. Cost is $15 per week and monies will beused for the end-of-season prize fund.TRBL was formed recently by a group ofLGBT Triangle Area individuals who love andenjoy the fun sport of bowling. Pleasant ValleyBowling Lanes was identified as a bowlingcenter that was open to the community andcould assist with forming this new league andmake it successful.The founding members of the league areBrian Mullis, Ron Leedy and Joe Lizana.“Our hope as a GLBT group is to providean environment where we can socializeand have fun bowling at the same time. Weare also working to identify local non-profitGLBT Organizations who we can co-op withthroughout the bowling season and make acharitable contribution to them at the end ofthe season. We invision having local GLBTgroups visit weekly to provide our bowlerswith information about their organization andalso help with our weekly drawings.”To reserve a spot on the fall/winter2010/2011 league, email trianglerainbowbowling@gmail.comRegionalPrime Timers around the CarolinasPrime Timers was founded globally in1987 by retired professor Woody Baldwin inBoston. Since its birth it has grown to over 73chapters worldwide spanning North America,Europe, Israel and Australia.Members consist of older gay and bisexualmen plus younger ones who admire the matureman. It is part of a world-wide organization thattouts volunteerism, as well as activities in thepolitical, activism, arts, entertainment arenasand more. Each person plays an active role incommunity involvement. Because membersare predominately in the fall of their years, theymay be retired or may still be working. Theymay be businessmen or entrepreneurs.The Carolinas sports three chapters,one in Raleigh/Durham/Chapel Hill, one inCharlotte (see goqnotes.com/2282/primetimers-at-16/)and another in South Carolinaon the Grand Strand. For more information,contact one of these groups listed below:RDU Prime Timers, P.O. Box 33306, Raleigh,NC 27636-3306, call 919-229-4482 or 919-834-3843 or email RDU_Primetimers@yahoo.com.Charlotte Prime Timers, P.O. Box 11202,Charlotte, NC 28220-1202, 704-561-2257 oremail primetimersclt@gmail.com.Prime Timers of Myrtle Beach, call 843-347-6885 or 843-357-4119 or email re5067@sccoast.netor visit primetimersww.org/ptmbsc.They meet every first Tuesday of the month forsocial gatherings, plus enjoy meals, outingsand more. : :info: Announce your community event inCarolinas News Notes.email: editor@goqnotes.com.Carolinas Democrats celebrate PrideThe North Carolina and South CarolinaDemocratic Parties both released statementsrecognizing LGBT Pride Month. PresidentBarack Obama also released a proclamationon May 28. You can read Obama’s statement atwhitehouse.gov/the-press-office/presidentialproclamation-lesbian-gay-bisexual-andtransgender-pride-month.The two state party statements arereprinted below:Carol FowlerSouth Carolina Democratic PartyThis month, Democrats across SouthCarolina and our nation join to celebrate PrideMonth and pay tribute to the LGBT community,a community which plays an integral role inthe fabric of our nation and our Party.Since taking office, President Obama hastaken great strides to better the lives of thosewho are a part of the LGBT community andtheir families — from signing the MatthewShepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate CrimesPrevention Act, to lifting the HIV Entry Ban andguaranteeing LGBT families the right to visitand make medical decisions for their partners.Just last week, the Senate ArmedServices Committee and the full House ofRepresentatives voted to end “Don’t Ask Don’tTell” — a policy that has kept thousands ofAmericans from serving their country becauseof their sexual orientation. I, along with fellowSouth Carolinians, look forward to Senatepassage and await the day it is completelyrepealed so that all Americans can serve thecountry they love, regardless of the personthey love.This month, while we celebrate the strideswe have made over the last few years, wealso recognizing that we still have a longway to go. While change does take time, thePresident and Democratic leaders remaincommitted to the LGBT community andequality for all Americans. In that spirit, I urgefellow South Carolina Democrats to join mein celebrating this Pride month and the LGBTcommunity.see Dems on 9June 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproductiongeneral gayetyby leslie robinson :: qnotes contributorLit and flicks sustain the newly outI asked my friend Louisa about her weekendplans. She said she intended to cozy upwith a lesbian romance.It’s not that Louisa doesn’t have anyonereal with whom to cozy up. She’s a year intoher first lesbian relationship and that’s thepoint. Because she’s in love, because she’snew at this Sapphic thing, she gets sustenancefrom LGBT books, publications andmovies.Even a trashy romance. Especially atrashy romance.Whether you’re in a relationship or not,when you’re in the process of coming out,gay books and such affirm that process. Theytell you, most basically, that you’re not alone.They help you make sense of what you’refeeling. It doesn’t matter if you’re 13 or 75.LGBT books offer clues for the clueless.I asked Louisa if her romance was a Naiadbook, referring to the defunct publisher ofall kinds of lesbian novels. She said yes. Ah,I said, Naiad helped many newbies throughtheir lesbian adolescence, including me. Goodthing the fruits of that company’s labor are stillaround, helping other, um, fruits.Louisa’s voice held only a tinge of embarrassmentfor reveling in a romance. For aprofessor, that’s pretty good. As an academicwho teaches literature, she’s practicallyrequired to dismiss romance as being asunworthy as rude limericks. I’m just glad shehas tenure.Of course, she also subscribes to thejournal The Gay & Lesbian Review, a fact shecan remind herself of should she start feelinga bit too plebeian.When my partner Anne served as theadvisor for a new lesbian support groupat Randolph-Macon Woman’s College inLynchburg, Va., in the late ‘80s, the first thingthe organizers did was head to a gay bookstorein Washington, D.C. Before returning toLynchburg, where Jerry Falwell ruled, theyloaded up on books that would’ve made hishair ignite.The topics of the fiction and nonfictionincluded relationships, sex, discrimination,coming out and other baby-dyke essentials.Anne says the students chose books thatprovided “a chance to see how others hadsurvived. And thrived.”My experience tells me that sometimesthe works we seize on in our early days arejust lousy. Take the lesbian movie “Claire ofthe Moon.” Hardly a soul in the film can act,lesser characters are achingly stereotypicaland did I mention hardly anyone can act?But, I watched that movie more often thanfilm buffs watch “Citizen Kane.” Because mylesbian celluloid options were limited. Andbecause of one hot sex scene, if I’m honest.And, absolutely because I could relate to theemotions and longings, despite their being sobadly packaged.That’s how desperate we can be as gaypeople to see ourselves on the screen or onthe page. We need to see our lives representedat any time, but when someone is newlyout, the need is especially primal. Gimme agay fix. Now.I’m thinking Lesbian Starter Kits might bea good idea. Buy one for the rookie lesbianin your life. Choose from a variety of books,magazines and movies. Suitable for housewarmings,birthdays, bat mitzvahs or anyoccasion.I can’t remember the last time I watched“Claire of the Moon” and I haven’t read aNaiad novel in a long while. I think for mostgay folks the hankering for gay books andfilms doesn’t evaporate, but it does becomeless acute. No longer do I yearn to acquirewritten or filmed lesbiana.But, I haven’t forgotten what it’s like to benewly out. I should write a book. : :info:LesRobinson@aol.com . generalgayety.com qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for Reproduction


After an 11-year hiatus, LilithFair, the groundbreakingfestivalthat celebrateswomen in music,is back for a36-city NorthAmericansummer tour.The festival boasts an impressive rotatingslate of 80 acts from which 11 will beassembled for each show. Only one act isperforming at every stop: Lilith co-founderSarah McLachlan is headlining the tour topromote “Laws Of Illusion,” her first newstudio album in seven years.Between 1997 and 1999, Lilith Fair drewover two million fans and raised more than$7 million for charitable causes. The 2010incarnation is scheduled to hit Raleigh’sTime Warner Cable Music Pavilion atWalnut Creek on Aug. 4 and Charlotte’sVerizon Wireless Amphitheatre on Aug. 6.The shows will be can’t-miss eventswith scheduled sets from Kelly Clarkson,Indigo Girls and my new musical obsession,Janelle Monae. Also on the billin Raleigh will be Erykah Badu, whileCharlotte gets Jill Scott. Tickets for bothstops are on sale now, available online andat the venue box offices.In a promo interview, McLachlanobserved, “This summer is gonna be fullon and fun.” Clearly, she’s at peace after aaudiophileby david stout :: david@goqnotes.comThe welcome return of Lilith Fairlong period of personal upheaval. Betweenthe release of “Laws Of Illusion” and 2003’s“Afterglow,” she’s been married, separatedand constantly devoted to raising twoyoung daughters. Rather than wallowingin the debris of her crumbled relationship,“Illusion” is a post-break-up record thatcelebrates the light at the end of the tunnel.The singer explained to Advocate.com,“My marriage collapsed a couple of yearsNot for Reproductionago, and it was a long, dark road. …Finallycoming through that knowing that life is goingto be okay, life will go on and that there’sactually a possiblility of love happeningagain is…just deliriously heady stuff.”“Laws Of Illusion” is out now on AristaRecords. Copies are available at WhiteRabbit.Sound bytesMelissa Etheridge brings her “FearlessLove” tour to Charlotte’s Ovens Auditoriumfor a July 22 performance and to theDurham Performing Arts Center on July 26.The groundbreaking gay icon is promotingthe release of her latest album of the samename. Tickets are available now…CyndiLauper has issued her 11th studio album,“Memphis Blues.” The set was recordedthis past March in Memphis with guestappearances by B.B. King, Jonny Lang,Allen Toussaint, Ann Peebles and CharlieMusselwhite…Regional artist Amy Broomehas issued “Let It Get You,” a 10-track CDthat she’s promoting with a flurry of performancesin and around the Charlotte metroarea. For details on dates and venues, visither website, www.reverbnation.com/amybroome. : :info: audiophile@goqnotes.comDems speakcontinued from page 7David YoungNorth Carolina Democratic PartyThe North Carolina Democratic Party isproud to join our friends in the LGBT communityin celebrating Pride Month.LGBT North Carolinians are an integralpart of our communities, our churches, and inmany cases our families. This month we honortheir innumerable contributions and mark theprogress we’ve made towards achieving theideals of equality and fairness upon which ourgreat nation was founded.This year there is indeed much to celebrate.President Obama has created newrules guaranteeing LGBT families the rightto visit and make medical decisions for theirpartners, while also lifting the HIV ban andsigning landmark hate crimes legislationnamed after Matthew Shepard. And just lastmonth, Congress took important steps towardsrepealing the “Don’t Ask Don’t Tell” policy thatprevents patriotic gay Americans from servingopenly in our Armed Forces.While these achievements are notable,there is still much work to be done. We mustcontinue to root out discrimination whereverit exists, and ensure that all Americansregardless of sexual orientation enjoy the fullfreedoms and liberties that make Americathe greatest nation in the world. As Dr. Kingfamously said, “Injustice anywhere is a threatto justice everywhere.” The North CarolinaDemocratic Party invites fellow Democratsand North Carolinians of all political backgroundsto join us in celebrating Pride Monthwith the LGBT community. : :June 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionGay artist tackleshomophobia inblack communityCharlotte native exhibits artwork at Atlanta galleryby Dyana Bagby :: The Georgia VoiceATLANTA — As a gay, black, HIV-positiveman, Michael Morgan finds solace inhis art.From his painting “In the Garden” thatdepicts the shame of being gay and resortingto finding sex in Piedmont Park, to his“Jack in the Box” series with dolls cagedbehind chicken wire to symbolize struggleswith drugs, sexuality and poverty, Morganwants the African-American communityto address taboo topics and not hide fromthem.“The last eight years I started focusingmy work on my environment, things thathave affected me for so long. I did a lot ofartwork on social commentary, civil rightsand the family,” he says.“Then I turned it around — I wanted tosee me projected, my life projected in whatI did. So I started focusing on more socialcommentary on gay life and being black anda minority.”Morgan’s work was recently on displayat the Hammonds House Museum with theworks of Daryl Harris, a straight artist whoalso tackles the social taboos of contemporaryAfrican-American culture, explainsHammonds House Museum curator KevinSipps. The exhibit was entitled “IncendiaryExposure: The Works of Daryl Harris &Michael Morgan.”‘Thug mentality’ and menhaving sex with menMorgan, 54, loved art as a boy growingup in the public school system of Charlotte,N.C. When he became a senior in high school,he wanted more, so he transferred to NorthCarolina School of Performing Arts in Winston-Salem. In 1976, he moved to Atlanta to study atthe Atlanta College of Art, now known as theSavannah College of Art & Design.The black men Morgan paints and drawsare often sad, angry and indifferent. Theyreflect the young men he says he sees on thestreets near his home on North Avenue — oftenmixed up in drugs and alcoholism as wellas having sex with men and women. But thesemen don’t want to be labeled gay or bisexual,Morgan says. They just don’t care who theyhave sex with.Oppression and repression contribute tothe malaise of many of Morgan’s characters,who are desperate for understanding and acceptancebut feel trapped in a culture wherethey cannot be who they truly are.Many of the men Morgan meets on thestreets, who have a “thug mentality,” are intelligentand compassionate, he says, but areafraid to show their true character because ofthe rough environment in which they live.The black church also makes appearancesin Morgan’s “Jack in the Box” series,where a pastor may be preaching damnationto homosexuals but in the background has hisown group of young men who are his lovers.10 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionGay artist and Charlotte native Michael Morgan, whose work was on display at the Hammonds HouseMuseum in Atlanta’s West End, depicts the struggle against homophobia among African-Americans inmany of his pieces.Photo Credit: Dyana Bagby.The hypocrisy is blatant, Morgan says, andcontributes to the confusion many young, gayblack men grapple with.Repression of desire lurksas dark figureIn Morgan’s painting “In the Garden,” adark figure hovers in the background whileanother shadowy figure stands to the side. Inthe foreground are men openly having sex.The shame and guilt of being gay, of wantingto love another man, lurks in the backgroundfor many as they seek to express their desires.“This piece ‘In the Garden’ is dealing withsexuality and shame around sexuality we, I, experiencedgrowing up as a gay male,” he says.Morgan, who used to live near PiedmontPark, recalls seeing men going in and out ofthe park seeking sex.“When you repress a lot of stuff, he [thedark figure] appears. I was thinking in thepark, meeting in the park, how some men don’tfeel safe, don’t have enough esteem to form arelationship in a so-called ‘normal’ way.”And while Morgan has been out to friendsand family for more than 30 years, he says“coming out” is still an ongoing process inhis life.“I’m still learning about myself as I go on,”he says.For Sipp, the curator, combining Morgan’swork with Harris’ work was meant to provokedialogue in the African-American communityas well as the community at large about howblack people express themselves in today’ssociety.The friction in the African-American communityabout homosexuality — how someblack people believe the gay rights movementis superceding the civil rights movement whilethe progressive black community is accepting— was something Sipp wanted to address.“In my opinion the gay rights movement isrooted in ancient scripture,” says Sipp, whois straight. “It is much older — it is one ofthe earliest civil rights movements. And bothartists are dealing with racism and sexism.They were both speaking to social taboos andconfronting them head on and not buryingthem under the rug.”With immigration phobia, homophobia andpeople believing we live in a post racial countrywith Barack Obama as president, there isstill plenty of discrimination and racism goingon that is causing people harm, Sipp says.“Of all the problems we have in the worldthe last thing we need to be doing is basicallydiscriminating against people who want tolove another. We have so many other problemsin the world,” he says. : :— This article was originally published in theJune 11 print issue of The Georgia Voice.It is reprinted with permission. See morenews and features at thegavoice.com.June 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 11Not for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionGay through Z … The people, the places, the topics: LGBT Pride in the Carolinasby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comaAIDS — The AIDS Crisis of the 1980s shaped and moldedour community in ways that continue to impact us today.Prejudice and stigma, political awareness and organizing andso much more can be traced to that mysterious, “baffling illness”that took the American community of gay men by storm.Heaven vs. Hell — If you’re from Charlotte and you’veever done any traveling across the nation, you know first-handhow many people still recognize and identify the Queen City:“Angels in America.” In March 1996, conservative pastor JoeChambers led the call to stop the performance of the landmarkplay. In the following two years, the debate continues as localelected officials vote to strip funding from arts programs, theLGBT community organizes to respond, anti-gay MecklenburgCounty commissioners are voted out of office and harmful decisionsare eventually repealed.bBaptist brouhahas — No one can doubt the influenceBaptists have had on the formation of the Carolinas’ LGBTcommunity. We’ve fought their anti-LGBT positions and views,actions and reactions. From gay pastors to gay weddings tofights for equality at Baptist schools — our community has bothbenefitted and been harmed by Carolinas Baptist churches,schools, religious groups and conventions. Yet, all the strugglehas only made us stronger. Today, dozens of Baptist churcheswelcome LGBT members with open arms. Baptist schools,such as Wake Forest University, are fully welcoming of LGBTstudents and staff. It only gets better from here.‘Bland’ he wasn’t — North Carolina native Bob Blanddeserves kudos. Just two years after Stonewall, Bland movedback to the Tar Heel State from New York and founded theTriangle Gay Alliance in 1971. He and others rented a homethat became the state’s de facto “community center,” as theAlliance grew as an early social, activist and support organizationfor LGBTs across the state.cChapel Hill — Jesse Helms (see our mini-feature, this page)once said Chapel Hill has a zoo, in need of a wall to keep NorthCarolinians from being “infected” by the “University of Negroesand Communists.” Any place liberal enough to garner the ire of“Senator No” is surely bound to be a place where LGBT peoplecan feel comfortable. And, yes, Chapel Hill is that kind of place.From the formation of the first LGBT student organization in thestate to the first openly gay elected official, the Town of ChapelHill and its university have led the way on LGBT progress.dThe Historian — Nationally recognized and respectedLGBT historian John D’Emilio spent many years in NorthCarolina. A professor at the University of North Carolina-Greensboro, D’Emilio was instrumental in local organizing onthe campus and in the surrounding city, helping to start localorganizations and maintain student organizations on campus.eDown East — In 1995, Greenville’s LGBT community wasas proud as ever. In September of that year, local communitymembers hosted their “Down East Pride,” the first-ever eventof its kind in Eastern North Carolina.f‘First’ in the QC — In 1988, LGBT leaders in Charlotte cametogether to form First Tuesday, one of the first major LGBT politicaland lobbying organizations in the city. First Tuesday’s legacywould lay the groundwork for the creation of several otherLGBT political groups, including Charlotte Pride Alliance forLGBT Equality and the Mecklenburg Gay and Lesbian PoliticalAction Committee.12 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010King of the anti-gay forest — For more than a decade,North Carolina’s LGBT politicos have fought Gaston CountyRepublican James Forrester. As a member of the state House,Forrester sponsored and successfully pushed through the 1996Defense of Marriage Act. Today, Forrester represents GastonCounty in the state Senate, where he continues his push tofurther discriminate against LGBT North Carolinians.g‘Gay? Fine by me’ — The iconic statement, emblazonedon T-shirts being worn by thousands, maybe even hundredsof thousands, across the nation all started out in little ol’ NorthCarolina. In response to an anti-LGBT campus climate, DukeUniversity students began their “Gay? Fine by me” T-shirtcampaign in 2003.GLASS shatters through — Greensboro’s Gay and LesbianAdolescent Support System (GLASS) made waves when it wasfounded to support the needs of local LGBT youth. Their uphillfight against the IRS — which had refused their non-profitstatus request in 1997 — was eventually won and the groupserved its local community for years to come. Today, its legacylives on in groups like Gay Straight Advocates for Educationand the local PFLAG Greensboro.h Jesse HelmsWhy on earth are you including this monster in yourlist of important LGBT topics, you ask? Well, unfortunately,Jesse Helms is important. And, he’s especiallyimportant to our community.A social commentator, radio and TV host and U.S.senator, Helms was a leading conservative activist andpolitician responsible for much of the anti-LGBT legacyour community still fights today. He was, no doubt,“Senator No,” putting a stop to progress using everythingfrom general, outright hate-filled rhetoric to real, lastinganti-gay damage (such as his fight against AIDS treatment,prevention and research funding).In many ways, Helms was also North Carolina’s“Stonewall.” His battle against our community and itshealth prompted us to step up and take action. In 1990,activists formed the North Carolina Pride PAC, the predecessorto today’s Equality North Carolina.Learn more in our 2008 story, “Helms created our‘Stonewall,’” at goqnotes.com/517/.— Matt Comeri“I” is for Irmo — Columbia’s Irmo High School has takenits place in Carolinas LGBT history. More than a decade ago itmade news when its principal canceled a performance by theIndigo Girls. In 2008, the fight over gay recognition at the highschool was re-ignited when its current principal refused toallow the formation of a gay-straight alliance. The district latervoted to allow the groups.jGang of One — Only one member of MecklenburgCounty’s original “Gang of Five” is still around causingtrouble these days. Commissioner Bill James has retained hisseat on the county board for years on end. And, despite allthat time to grow, he remains a thorn in the side of progress.Fortunately for us, he’s about the only outright bigot standingin our way anymore. His “Gang of One” is bound to lose,as our community makes progress in ways never imaginedpossible in ages past.Success story — As a child in Lewisville and Winston-Salem, Kevin Jennings bore the torment of his classmatesand hardships of growing up gay in the South. Decadeslater, Jennings founded the Gay, Lesbian, Straight EducationNetwork and now serves as director of the U.S. Departmentof Education’s Office of Safe and Drug Free Schools.Not for ReproductionkA “King”-ly legacy — The names of those who have helpedto form Charlotte’s LGBT community as we know it today are almosttoo many to count, but at least one always stands out fromthe crowd. Don King was involved in the leadership of almostevery LGBT organization in the Queen City. His legacy liveson through the Don King Awards, presented by the CharlotteBusiness Guild each year.lLaw and order — In April 1981, one man is killed and threeothers are injured in a gay bashing on the Little River nearDurham. The incident, one of the worst known anti-gay hatecrimes in the state’s history, garners media attention as thelocal law enforcement tracks down those responsible. Twomen are arrested and charged with murder. One is later foundguilty of second degree murder and the other pleads guilty toinvoluntary manslaughter.mThe bigger they are — In 1985, six gay men in Charlottefound Metrolina AIDS Project. Over the next nearly 25 yearsthe group becomes the largest AIDS service organization inthe Carolinas as it pioneers LGBT-inclusive HIV/AIDS preventionin and around the Queen City. In 2009, the group closesshop under financial uncertainty, scrutiny and suspicions ofmismanagement, although no charges or official accusationshave ever been filed.n News for us, by usThe Carolinas have had a strong, LGBT media presence fordecades. North Carolina’s first gay newspaper, The Free Press,was first published in 1975 in Charlotte. Although it didn’t stay inpublication, other LGBT news outlets have sprung up throughouttime helping to fill the void of fair, accurate and equitableLGBT news in the mainstream media.In 1976, students atthe University of NorthCarolina-Chapel Hill startedLambda, the oldest LGBTstudent publication stillin existence today. Othernotable LGBT media throughthe years have included:The Newsletter, Durham;Carolina Lesbian News,Charlotte; CommunityConnections, Asheville;and Out in Asheville/Stereotypd, Asheville.Established in1979, with its first issuepublished on Oct. 25,The Front Page servedNorth Carolina’s LGBT community for nearly 30 years. Basedin Raleigh, TFP was the first LGBT newspaper in Raleigh, thesecond in the state and the longest-running.Founder, editor and publisher Jim Baxter nursed the publicationto national prominence and local importance throughoutthe 1980s, doggedly covering local LGBT news, the rise of theAIDS Crisis and other issues.After 27 years of continuous publication, TFP and qnotesmerged in 2006. Today, qnotes — founded as a newsletter in1983 and a monthly print newspaper in June 1986 — carries


on the proud tradition of TFP’s community service as the onlyremaining Carolinas-wide LGBT news outlet, reporting on thelocal, regional and national LGBT news that matters to you andimpacts your life, your rights and your future.— Matt Comero Out politiciansOpenly gay politicians in the Carolinas go backto 1981, when N.C. State University graduate studentBob Hoy ran for Raleigh City Council. Thoughhe garnered a meager three percent of the vote, heserved the much more important task of being thefirst, paving the way for future candidacies of openlygay politicians. That same year, openly gay LightningBrown and his closeted partner Joe Herzenberg ranfor Chapel Hill Town Council. Both men were unsuccessful,but Herzenberg later came out and in 1987 heran again for the council and became the first openlygay elected official in the Carolinas.South Carolina’s first openly gay elected officialdidn’t arrive until more than two decades later, whenNick Shalosky was elected to the Charleston CountyConstituent School Board in 2008. The 21-year-old collegestudent organized a write-in campaign via Facebookwhich yielded 22 votes.In 1993, openly gay Mike Nelson was elected to theCarrboro Board of Aldermen and two years later, Nelsonbecame Carrboro’s mayor, an office he held for 10 years.Nelson is currently a member of the Orange CountyBoard of Commissioners.Last year, Mark Kleinschmidt was elected mayor ofChapel Hill. Though there were some anti-gay attacks inthe campaign, Kleinschmidt believes the attacks backfiredon his opponent in the liberal college town.The first openly gay man to run for office in Charlottewas Robert Sheets, who ran in a primary against fiveother Democrats for Charlotte CIty Council. More recently,Owen Sutkowski ran in the 2009 Democratic primaryagainst Patsy Kinsey for the District 1 council seat.Other openly gay politicians at the local level includeRan Lambe who ran for the Asheville City Council. GloriaFaley was elected to the Chapel Hill-Carrboro Board ofEducation in 1999. Faley is the first open lesbian electedto any office in North Carolina, followed by attorneySharon Thompson who is a former member of the N.C.General Assembly. State Senator Julia Boseman is thefirst and only openly lesbian or gay elected official inthe North Carolina Senate, representing New HanoverCounty.At the federal level, openly gay businessman JimNeal ran in 2008 for the Democratic nomination to theU.S. Senate. Though he lost to establishment-backedKay Hagan, he received 18 percent of the vote and wasendorsed by the Black Political Caucus of Charlotte-Mecklenburg and several other organizations.— Tyler DeVereNot for ReproductionqMaking it all work — Established in 1981 by activists DonKing and Billie Stickell, Charlotte’s Queen City Quordinatorstook up a daunting task: Bring the community together byorganizing events, media, political action and more. Thegroup’s leaders sought to bring a strong sense of communityamong Charlotte’s LGBT people and started the forebears tomany present-day organizations today, including qnotes. In1987, King, then the editor of qnotes, makes one of the firstpublic calls for a community center in Charlotte. His call wentunanswered until the establishment of the Lesbian and GayCommunity Center of Charlotte in 2000.rFaith can move mountains — Bishop Tonyia Rawls hasmade her mark on Charlotte, the Carolinas and the nation. She’shelped to spearhead a local LGBT-inclusive faith movement,founding Unity Fellowship Church of Charlotte in 2001. In 2003,she was named one of Charlotte’s 50 Most Interesting Peopleby Charlotte magazine.sPalmetto Pride — The South Carolina Pride Movement has,for 20 years, celebrated, promoted, educated and advocated forthe Palmetto State’s LGBT community. Folks like Bruce Converse,Harriett Hancock, Ed Madden, Ryan Wilson and so many othershave made their mark with SC Pride. More than an annual festival,SC Pride works with LGBT groups across the state, includingColumbia’s LGBT community center, named after Hancock.Students taking action — In 1976, students at theUniversity of North Carolina-Chapel Hill held the first-everSoutheastern Gay Conference, hosted by the campus CarolinaGay Association. Thirty years later, a similar conference — theSoutheastern Regional Unity Conference — is presented annuallyby Chapel Hill’s current LGBT student group, the GLBTSA.Across the Carolinas, LGBT students have been speaking outand standing up for decades: organizing Pride events on campus,challenging anti-LGBT campus policies, advocating for inclusivepolicy changes, electing out and vocal LGBT students to campusgovernment positions and more.see LGBT on 14p Pride in the CarolinasThe first gay Pride parade of the Carolinas was held inJune, 1981. “Our Day Out” took place in Durham, which thecity’s Republican mayor, Harry Rodenhizer, Jr. attended.Durham’s Pride event did not take place again until the TriangleLesbian & Gay Pride was held in 1986.In 1989, Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays(PFLAG) mother Harriet Hancock helped in organizing a gaymarch in Columbia. South Carolina’s first-ever Gay and LesbianPride March occurred the next year. Hancock was recognizedby the South Carolina Progressive Network in 2003 for heradvocacy.Though Pride events have been met with anti-gayrhetoric and demonstrations from such groups as OperationSave America, the festivals have not been stopped. Today,Pride events take place throughout the Carolinas, includingDurham, Raleigh, Charlotte, Asheville, Columbia, Charlestonand others. Even in these Southern states, Pride festivalshave spread and grown throughout the Carolinas. Tens ofthousands of gay, lesbian, bisexual and transgender peopleand their straight allies attend Pride events every year toshow the world they’re not ashamed, nor should they be.— Tyler DeVereNot for ReproductionJune 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 13


Not for ReproductionLGBT Pride in the Carolinascontinued from page 13tAll for the youth — In 1993, Tonda Taylorstarts Time Out Youth, an organizationintended to serve LGBT young people aged13-23. Taylor serves as the group’s executivedirector until October 2004. The group remainsamong some of the largest LGBT youth serviceorganizations in the South.u‘Unnatural affection’ -— Despite 2003’slandmark Supreme Court decision knockingdown anti-gay sodomy laws, so-called“Crimes Against Nature” statutes remain onthe books in both North Carolina and SouthCarolina. The statutes claim same-sex loveis “unnatural.” Often, police and prosecutorsstill use the laws to penalize otherwise lawabidingLGBT people. Repealing the statutesremains a work in progress.‘Union in Wait’ — The years-long dramaresulting from a simple request to use WakeForest University’s campus chapel for a samesexholy union drew statewide and nationalattention in the late 1990s and early 2000s.The debate, centering around two WakeForest Baptist Church members, nearly torethe campus apart. A documentary, “Unionin Wait,” told the story of Susan Parker andWendy Scott, and debuted in 2001. WakeForest Baptist Church, fully welcoming ofLGBT worshipers, still meets on the campusof the university — which has since made itsown journey toward LGBT inclusion.v‘Keep Singing’ — Eloise Vaughn and PatsyClarke mourned the deaths of their sons,victims of the AIDS Crisis, and found no helpor solace in their senator, Jesse Helms. Theirbook, “Keep Singing: Two Mothers, Two Sons,and their Fight Against Jesse Helms,” waspublished in 2001, and continues to inspire.wA place to call our own — Since 1982,White Rabbit Books has served the LGBTcommunities of Greensboro, Raleigh andCharlotte. Today, the store has locations inRaleigh and Charlotte. The reins of the operationwere handed over to qnotes publisher JimYarbrough in 2007, after years of dedicatedcare by former owner John Neal.x y zSo, we really can’t find anything for theselast, three beloved letters of the alphabet. Wetried. Really hard. Seriously. This is where youcome in: What did we leave out? What topics,people, places in the LGBT Carolinas are importantto you? Tell us online at goqnotes.com.Follow us: twitter.com/qnotescarolinas facebook.com/qnotescarolinas14 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for Reproduction


Burgess’ legacy rememberedFormer Charlotte councilmember Susan Burgess passes awayby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comCHARLOTTE — LGBT community membersare remembering the life and legacy ofSusan Burgess, a former Charlotte city councilmemberand mayor pro tem who passedaway on June 16.Burgess, 64, had battled terminal cancerafter having surgery for colorectal cancer in2007. This spring, she announced she washalting treatment and going into hospicecare. She died nine days after resigning herseat on council and requesting that her son,Jason, be appointed to finish her unexpiredterm. On June 14, the city council unanimouslyhonored that requested and voted toappoint Jason Burgess.First elected to the Charlotte-MecklenburgBoard of Education in 1990, Burgess, aDemocrat, served there until 1997. She waschair of the board from 1995-1997. She wasfirst elected to city council in 1999 and unsuccessfullyran for mayor in 2001. She returnedto the council in 2003, where she served untilher resignation on June 7.She is survived by her husband, fourchildren and six grandchildren.Throughout her tenure as a Queen Cityelected official, Burgess was often a friend tothe LGBT community.Roberta Dunn, a steering committee memberfor the Mecklenburg Gay and LesbianPolitical Action Committee (MeckPAC), saidshe found a personal friend in Burgess.In a card to Burgess before her death,Dunn told the councilmember that she “set ahigh standard for being a friend” and that shehoped that standard “will be a benchmark forthe rest of the community to follow.”A card from MeckPAC contained similarmessages of gratitude: “Dear Susan, Whenwe received the emails about the set backto your health, it was a surprise to us all, youhave always been a strong contributor andsupporter of MeckPAC and we hope to be thesame to you. You have always been a greatfriend of ours; please let us know how we canbe of assistance to you.”Phil Hargett, aformer MeckPACchair, also sharedhis thoughts onBurgess’ life andservice.“I can’t beginto thank you for allyour support overthe years to theLGBT community inCharlotte,” Hargettwrote to Burgess.“You stood by uswhen that was achallenging thingto do politically. Itmeans so much thatyou have alwaysSusan Burgess, right, with current Charlotte-Mecklenburg Board ofEducation member Richard McElrath at a 2009 MeckPAC reception.Photo Credit: MeckPACshown respectand commitmentto LGBT citizens’basic humanity anddesire for equality. Wishing you and yourfamily much peace and love.”Like Dunn, Hargett found a personal relationshipwith Burgess. During the 2008 presidentialcampaign, Burgess was a super-delegateto the Democratic National Convention.In that role, she supported Hillary Clinton.When former President Bill Clinton came toCharlotte during campaign season, Hargettsaid Burgess invited him to come along.“She invited me more or less as a representativeof the LGBT community,” Hargettsaid. “She had about 15 spaces to bring peoplebackstage to meet President Clinton and meand my 13-year-old son got to meet him and Iintroduced myself as chair of the local gay andlesbian political action committee. I’ll alwaysbe grateful for that and that sticks out in mymind — what she did for me and to have theLGBT community represented in that way.”Hargett also said he especially appreciatedall of the times Burgess stepped up towelcome and attend LGBT events. That shewas willing to take such a stand when MayorPat McCrory wasn’t said a lot about hercharacter.One of the events Burgess routinelywelcomed and attended was Pride Charlotte.Past and current members of the PrideCharlotte organizing committee also wrote toBurgess before her passing.“As members, both past and present, ofNot for Reproductionthe Pride Charlotte Committee we would liketo express our heartfelt appreciation for yourunwavering support of Pride Charlotte and theCharlotte area LGBT community,” the PrideCharlotte letter, written by former co-chairRaine Cole, said. “By speaking at our festivalor just writing a letter of welcome, your enthusiasticparticipation demonstrated to us thatwe had a very special friend in you.”The letter continued: “Thank you for supportingour event and our community whenothers in local government would not. Thankyou for caring enough to take time out fromyour busy schedule to celebrate with us. Mostof all thank you for being our friend.”The letter to Burgess, dated June 7,was signed by Cole, Jeff Schmehl, MichaelCurtis, John Quillin, Toryn Stark, MichaelWoods, Jonathan Hill, Hugh Hammond, DarrylHall, Riley Murray, Su Cummings and FrankStewart. This writer and qnotes publisher JimYarbrough, both former members of the PrideCharlotte Task Force, were also signatories.Owen Sutkowski, who ran for the council’sDistrict 1 seat in 2009 and was one of 24applicants seeking appointment to Burgess’seat, said he was “profoundly sad” to hearBurgess had passed. He praised her work forthe community.“I’ve never met someone who is more ofan advocate and a vocal leader on behalf oflocal communities,” he said. “I wish we hadmore of those in public service, and my hopeis she leaves a legacy for our generation to bethat kind of advocate.” : :Susan Burgess, center, takes the oath of office with other new members of city council in 2009.Photo Credit: Roberta DunnJune 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 15Not for Reproduction


BUILDT H R O U G HUScall or email us today704.531.9988adsales@goqnotes.comprint and online advertising solutionswith qnotes and goqnotes.comNot for ReproductionHigh Point couple blogsfor equalityTamara Boynton, Darnita Howard say theywant to be part of changeby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comHIGH POINT, N.C. — Tamara Boynton’sentry into the blogosphere came not as aresult of a need to speak out to a worldwideaudience, but rather as a need to speak topeople near and dear to her heart.Just two years ago, Boynton had onlycome out to her mother. One day, Boyntondiscovered her mother was working to helppass Florida’s Proposition 2, an anti-LGBT,anti-family marriage amendment in that state.In discussing the issue, and defending herposition on marriage, her mother turned toage-old anti-gay arguments.“For me it seemed like she was hidingbehind the fact that only she knew I was gay,”Boynton said. “Her ammunition against mewas that nobody else knows so ‘I can saywhat I want to say.’”That’s when Boynton decided: “Well, I’mgoing to tell everybody.”In September 2008, she wrote her thoughtsin a blog post she set up at Google’s Bloggerand sent it to her mother, friends and otherpeople close to them as her unique way ofcoming out.“I sent it out to just a few people, but theinternet has a mind of its own,” she said. “Itgot forwarded to a lot more people. At thatpoint, I couldn’t just not blog anymore. Peoplewere reading.”So, she continued. Boynton’s partner,Darnita Howard, noticed all the activity. Shedipped her toes into blogging a few monthslater.“I felt like I wasn’t confident enough totalk to people face-to-face about how I wasviewed as a lesbian or my experience beinga lesbian in North Carolina, but I am goodat writing letters — So, I thought, ‘I’ll start ablog,’” Howard said.After two years ofblogging — on personallikes and dislikes, religionand faith, politics andequality — both Howardand Boynton are now inthe top 10 finalists for acontest that could landthem free trips to thisyear’s Netroots Nation, anational convention forbloggers, citizen journalistsand other new mediatypes.Boynton said sheheard about the “Blog4 Equality” contest,sponsored by Freedomto Marry and OpenLeft.com, in May. She decidedto take a stab at it,and convinced Howardto go along for the ride.“At first I washesitant because when Ithink about this bloggingcontest, I was thinkingthat you had to have tenposts a day or something,” Howard said. “Iam a person who blogs only every once in awhile. Tamara, she said just give it a try and Isubmitted some of my posts.”The couple were surprised when theyboth learned they’d been accepted into thetop 10 finalists. But, how are they faring competingagainst each other?“We don’t look at it like that,” Boynton said.“We’re competing against everyone else.”The contest finalists were selected byjudges from Americablog.com, Bilerico.com, the Courage Campaign, DailyKos.com,OpenLeft.com and Rod 2.0 (rodonline.typepad.com) — At press time, final picks were beingmade through public voting online. Voting wasto end on June 25.The top three vote-getters will win thescholarship.“I’m really excited about it,” Howard said.“I don’t know what to expect.”Boynton and Howard are hopeful at leastone of them will be among the top three. It’llbe even better, they say, if both of them arechosen.Boynton looks forward to the opportunityto attend the convention. She said she wantsto learn more ways to continue to be involved.“Really, I’m just a blogger and I want tohelp do my part,” she said. “One of the thingsI can’t stand is for a cause to go on and onlya few people are working on it when everybodywill benefit from it. I don’t want marriagerights to come to North Carolina and I justjump at the front of the line to get married — Iwant to be helping in the process.” : :info: Visit Boynton online at thatgaygirltamara.blogspot.com. Howard’s blog islocated at ladybugsmile.wordpress.com.16 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for ReproductionDarnita Howard, left, andTamara Boynton hope towin scholarshipsto this year’s NetrootsNation in Las Vegas.


qlivingarts. entertainment.Putting the ‘fun’ in fundraisingCarolinas groups reach out with drinks, food, frivolityby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comMixing fun and philanthropy is nothingnew. In fact, LGBT folks have held fundraisersand other benefits at LGBT bars and clubs fordecades. Local Carolinas groups are continuingthe old trend, reaching out to potentialsupporters and donors with a mix of fun andfrivolity. Many times, they aren’t even askingfor money — donations and support are justa natural by-product of their events. Othertimes, they turn their efforts toward helpingothers.Raleigh’s LGBT Center has hosted several“QNights” events since spring. Their aim, accordingto executive director Bobby Hilburn,is to simply raise awareness.“It’s more social, but of course we havepeople who want to donate and we havea suggested donation instead of a covercharge,” he says of the monthly events hostedat gay and non-gay establishments across theTriangle. “We really just encourage people tocome out and learn more about the Center,meet each other and mingle. It’s an opportunityto bring the community together.”Similarly, Greensboro’s Guilford GreenFoundation (GGF) hosts about eight“Takeover” events throughout the year.“Initially it started as a way to show thecommunity who we are,” Luck Davidson, thefoundation’s executive director, says. “Now,it’s morphed into developing partnershipswith businesses and small business owners.We’ve started deriving more benefits than justthe exposure of just trying to get the word outthat GGF exists.”As community interest in GGF events havegrown, so too has interest in the organizationby the businesses who host their Takeovers.“Lots of places where we do ourTakeovers now want to do things down theroad, whether that’s sponsoring a [GreenQueen] Bingo game or possibly sponsoringsome other events,” she says.Shane Windmeyer, executive director ofthe Charlotte-based Campus Pride, also usesfun as a way to raise awareness and bringa positive lift to non-profits’ bottom lines.His drag persona, Buff Faye, hosts severalfundraising events including Buff Faye’s DragBrunch, a party bus and other activities. Hisrecent Queen City Drag Race raised funds forthe Human Rights Campaign.Windmeyer says mixing funand philanthropy can often serveas a good outreach to those whohaven’t ever contributed to anorganization.“I think for an organization,it requires them to think outsideof the box when it comes to outreachefforts, how they chooseto reach maybe a different audienceor a broader audience,” hesays.Windmeyer hopes his BuffFaye events are able to reachan audience of new, potential donorsoutside of the “typical gayaffluent” crowd.“Our goal is to reach a variedaudience,” he says. “For some,going to a drag brunch anddropping $20 or $30 in donationsthrough entertainment is a biteasier and is a good first step towardgiving to the organization.”In Charlotte, the state’s originalTakeover Friday first startedas a way to socialize, mix andmingle — nothing more, nothingless, no agenda and no ask forcash. Over time, organizer DanMauney says, the group hasrealized it’s potential to effectpositive change.“One thing that made me aware of whatwe had was the platform,” he says. “Wedefinitely have that: a mailing list, Facebook,stuff that a lot of organizations don’t have. Werealized we could actually do some good aswell and have fun, too.”Takeover Friday now routinely usesNot for ReproductionqguideNightlife, coffee shops,restaurants, community resourcesu and more…goqnotes.com/qguidewant more great features? visit goqnotes.com/to/qlivingtheir email list to encourage participationor attendance at local LGBT and HIV/AIDSorganizations’ events. Some of those have includedthe Regional AIDS Interfaith Network’s(RAIN) AIDS Walk and Gay Bingo. In addition,Takeover organizers have also put togetherseveral volunteer days at non-profits likeCrisis Assistance Ministries. Last year, theyheld “Brief!,” an underwear fashion showfundraiser for the Cystic Fibrosis Foundation— an event they plan to bring back this fall.“Anytime we can bring the communitytogether in a central location wherever thatmight be is a good thing,” Mauney says.“What I’m seeing is people are more apt tohelp spread the work that our community isgathering ‘here’ and we’re doing ‘that.’”Mauney also says Takeover attendeeshave leant their support to the arts, in particularmuseums. The group has hosted severalShane Windmeyer’s drag persona, Buff Faye, hosts fun-filled fundraising events for a slew of local and nationalorganizations. For more photos of Buff Faye’s last party bus and other local events, visit goqnotes.com/photos/events.Takeovers at local museums, including theMint and McColl.“We’re spreading our money around andhelping the arts community,” he says. “Whenpeople are there at the museums they aremaking donations. We’re cross-promoting.”see Carolinas on 21Win free tickets to see Melissa Etheridge live!Don’t miss your chance to see Melissa Etheridge LIVE at DurhamPerforming Arts Center on July 26. qnotes and DPAC are partneringto give one lucky winner two free tickets to the concert! Winningcouldn’t be any simpler: Just fill out this form, clip it out and mail backto us. We’ll do a drawing on July 13 and you might just be the one wechoose!Mail to: qnotes - Melissa Etheridge drawingP.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222All entires must be postmarked no later than July 10, 2010. Promotionperiod runs from June 26-July 9, 2010. One entry per person. 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Not for Reproductionout in the starsby charlene lichtenstein :: qnotes contributorJune 26 - July 9The sizzly summer getsus cooking on all fourburners. Not only doSun and Mercury inrandy Leo oppose retroNeptune in July, thereare also enough retrograde planetary pops tomake anything and anyone possible by August.Uh, oh!CANCER (06.22-07.23) Can money buy you love?You might think so this summer as your lustcomes with a price tag. Spend with abandon, ifyou can afford it. You never know where thingscan lead or who will soon take you under theirwings and support you. But, if you find that yourmoney doesn’t take you as far as you wouldlike, use the month to just bone up on yourfinances.LEO (07.24-08.23) Proud Lions are in the limelightand they can certainly make the most of it.Get out there and mingle. You are a platterof charisma with a special sauce added. Willyou present yourself like a blue plate specialor consign yourself to the open buffet? Thechoice is yours. Just be sure that you don’tbecome tomorrow’s leftovers before the dinneris done.VIRGO (08.24-09.23) Use your innate smartsand intuition to get one over at work. QueerVirgins work hard — almost too hard — on thejob. And, they often do so with little recognition.This is the time to do what you need to doand no more than that. See how things go asyou carefully parse out your time and efforts.Sometimes you need to leave them begging formore. Then toss them a nibble.LIBRA (09.24-10.23) Your social agenda undergoesa revamp now. Gay Libras love to be inthe center of the social swirl, but can extendthemselves to the point of diminishing returns.You don’t want to be too tired to fully enjoy theparty. So, supervise and delegate the choreswhere possible and leave some rest time in theschedule so you can be juiced and squeezedlater.SCORPIO (10.24-11.22) Professional opportunitiescontinue to make themselves available toyou. The challenge will be to figure out whatdeserves your greatest efforts and what willpay off the most in the future. Tough decisionswill have to be made. Only then can you installyourself as the leader of the corporate pack.Be kind to all the serfs who helped you onto thethrone.SAGITTARIUS (11.23-12.22) There is no bettertime to travel than right now. So, try to findways to expand your horizons and seek adventure.Gay Archers are always on the lookoutfor th unusual and interesting. Now, you candiscover it in distant lands or, with some creativegrit, you can extract it out of your usualneighborhood haunts. It depends on how scaryyou like your adventures.CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) If you find yourself tobe especially full of pep and pomp this summer,don’t ask why. Pink Caps feel like they can takeon the world. Just be sure that you maximizethe sexy energy and set your sights on yournext conquest. But, be discerning, if you can.The conquest of today can be the anchor oftomorrow. Or, maybe that is your ultimate plan?AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) There is an undercurrentgoing on within one of your relationshipsthat could prove to be surprising, impactful andtransformative. Take particular note of what isbeing said. Aqueerians who ignore the warningsigns could find themselves alone, adrift andconfused. But, there is nothing you like betterthan liberation and freedom…or so I am told.PISCES (02.20-03.20) This can be a time whenyou feel especially energetic. If so, find newoutlets for your energy, especially in the health,diet and exercise realm. Not only can youmake the most out of every healthy step, youare on track to a more productive look on lifeoverall. Collect the good karma through charity,volunteerism and spirituality and store it for thewinter months.ARIES (03.21-04.20) Rev up the music and makeyour best moves. Gay Rams should just join theconga line and dance. Seek ways to expandyour creativity and let your imagination call thetune. Friends pipe in with assorted suggestions,but you might want to march to your own drummerrather than follow others. You never knowwhere things could lead. Uh, or maybe you do?TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Professional opportunitiesseem to be ripe for picking. If you canmanage to find the balance between home andcareer, you could have both a productive andenjoyable summer. If you are like most queerBulls, however, you may concentrate on onearea and hope the other area waits for attention.Maybe that is the best course for now…ifyou make the right choice.GEMINI (04.22-06.21) Chatty, pink Twins may notknow when to edit their pithier and more controversialcomments. And, maybe it is a goodidea to do so. What you say can take on a crazylife of its own. If something leaks out, make themost of it. A little notoriety can help you breakthrough the doors of certain clubs. Or, is it betterto just use a club to break down the door? : :© 2010 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC. All RightsReserved. Entertainment.info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry. Mybook “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology ForLesbians” from Simon & Schuster isavailable at bookstores and major booksites.18 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Not for Reproduction


tell trinityby trinity :: qnotes contributorMy ex, his boyfriend andWorld War Three(some)Dear Trinity,A month ago I became friends withmy ex’s new boyfriend. It was justcoincidental. But, my ex has gottenreally stirred up and is trying todestroy the friendship. His boyfriendstill wants to be friends, butI’m stuck in World War Three. Help?Stuck, Albany, NYDear Stuck,“Just coincidental?”Come on, who wants anex-boyfriend becomingfriends with a new boyfriend, Satan? Honey,it’s time to spend your time dating and meetingnew men, not being involved in your ex’snew relationship. It’s called boundaries. Justput your friendship on hold for a bit, that’s alland leave them alone for a while. (And, that’sa period at the end of that sentence!)Hello Trinity,What do I have to do to get someone to goout with me? I have a good job, my ownhome and I’m very nice. What more shouldsomeone want?Is There More, St. Louis, MOHello Is There More,Sorry, but 200 years ago you could have a job, be nice andNot for Reproductionfind a mate. Today, you need a little somethingcalled sex appeal. So, check your hair, teeth,clothes, breath, body odor and body to see if it’sappealing enough for someone special to want toyank you out of bachelorhood. Pumpkin, if animals,plants and Paris Hilton need to use sex appeal…sodo you! (My cartoon shows you how it’s done.)Dearest Trinity,My boyfriend just broke up with me. Is there anything I cando to get him back?Return To Sender, Omaha, NEDearest Return To Sender,I wish men weren’t such stubborn creatures, but they are.You could try to spend time as friends, get him to talk aboutyour relationship problems and see if you both can work itout. With time, sweetie, he mayor may not come back and youmay or may not want him back.Yet, if you did something bad tryPlan B: flowers, apology letterand a fancy dinner. Give it time,yet don’t waste time!Hey Trinity,My other half wants to try anopen relationship. I’m confused.Is there anything goodthat can come out of such anagreement?Trying To Be Open, San Jose, CAHey Trying,Since open relationships are about agreements, you canagree or disagree on any part of it. Some open couples don’ttalk about it, some only have threeways, some do it a lot,some hardly do it at all, yet most just want the option. Stillconfused, baby? Then try reading:Trinity’s Positive Arguments ForStarting An Open Relationship1. The Frequency: You don’t have to do it every week. Youcan agree on it just once or just once a year.2. The Discussion: You don’t have to talk about it every timeyou do it, if you agree not to.3. The Cheating: You‘ll never get caught cheating or beingcheated on because of your new agreement.4. The Guilt: You never have to feel (that) guilty about itbecause you agreed it’s now OK.5. The Togetherness: You can agree to practice it strictlywith your partner or separately.6. The Threeways or Threesomes: You can agree to invite athird person home for one night (3way) or for one wholeyear (3some).7. The Smarter Sex: Once you’ve agreed to be open, you’reboth more likely to practice safer sex because the situationfeels less criminal.8. The Stimulation: If your relationship isn’t very sexual oradventurous, this agreement might put the flame backinto everything.9. The Off Button: It’s not a jail sentence. You can agree totry it or end it at any time.10. Lastly, The Respect: You no longer have to sneakaround. You can respect each other, your trysts and youragreements. : :— With a Masters of Divinity, Reverend Trinity washost of “Spiritually Speaking,” a weekly radio drama,and now performs globally.info: www.telltrinity.com . Trinity@telltrinity.comTell Trinity, P.O. Box 23861 . Ft. Lauderdale, FL 33307Sponsored by: Provincetown Business Guild800-637-8696 . www.ptown.orgJune 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 19Not for Reproduction


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Not for ReproductionCarolinas groups reach outcontinued from page 17Also in Charlotte, local Human Rights Campaign committeemembers and volunteers are taking their message tothe people. Randy Floyd manages HRC Charlotte’s “CharlotteConnection,” a monthly social gathering at Petra’s in Plaza-Midwood. Although Floyd and his fellow organizers don’t usethe event to directly solicit donations, it does help get the wordout.“The whole point is to give folks a place to come and findout what we do locally and who we are locally, answer questionspeople have about how they can get involved and justsocialize, talk to like-minded folks about local issues,” Floydsays.He says reaching out in new ways is simply a smartstrategy for organizational success. “One thing I’ve found thatrings true for any charity, especially an LGBT charity, is thatyou want to go where the people are,” he says. “If there are alot of members of our community who want to go out and havea beer and unwind after work, that might be a good place toreach them.”Still, Floyd says, outreach in and around the nightlife scenedoes leave out key constituencies. “The under-21 crowd, absolutely,”he says. “That’s why it is important to not make thatyour only means of reaching the public.”Charlotte’s Time Out Youth (TOY) helps fill that void with theiryouth-friendly events. Candice Langston, TOY’s developmentdirector, says the group is careful to plan events that adhere tostrict policies, especially as it concerns alcohol. But, she says,that doesn’t stop them from having fun.Langston says TOY has a “three-pronged approach” totheir event planning. “Obviously, we’re looking to increase ourfunding, raise the level of awareness of what Time Out Youth isand what we do and engage our donors and youth. We look athitting each of those points,” she says.TOY’s fourth annual Celebration of the Arts, themed “Gagafor Dada” this year, is set to fulfill the group’s event strategy.“It is a showcase of all the performing arts, from dance totheatre to singing,” Langston says. “The event is really aboutbringing everyone together and giving them a great evening outand raising awareness.” : :More info…Buff Faye, bufffaye.comCampus Pride, campuspride.orgGuilford Green Foundation, ggfnc.orgHRC Charlotte Connectionfacebook.com/group.php?gid=104058109625163LGBT Center of Raleigh, lgbtcenterofraleigh.comTakeover Friday, takeoverfriday.comqomunity qonexions uJune 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 21Not for Reproduction


Not for Reproductiont-notesby robbi cohn :: qnotes contributorNo ENDA in sightWhat’s happened to ENDA?Many had surmised that a Democraticpresident, Senate and House would meanmuch of the legislation, so long unaccomplished,would finally be a no brainer. We dohave hate crimes legislation (rather toothless),but a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” (DADT) repealappears to be succumbing to incrementalism.Repeal of DOMA is unsure and ENDA hasbeen relegated to 2011 or later. Many over atBilerico.com and Pam’s House Blend haveaddressed this apparent anomaly. So, what’shappened?Thoughts and theories abound. Most I’veread have significant validity. Bilerico.com’sRebecca Juro cited faltering media support,specifically MSNBC, and it’s obvious thisnetwork hasn’t been at the forefront of a callfor change. Much of the “political capital” the22 qnotes June 26-July 9 . 2010Obama administration had was spent in theeffort to pass health reform, resulting in a billwhich became politically expedient with limitedbenefits. It wasn’t a single payer systemand there’s been no positive effect on transhealth. Removal of pre-existing condition limitationsmeans nothing when insurance companiesrefuse coverage. It can be conjecturedthat MSNBC, too, was so invested in healthcare it lost sight of other important issues, butI won’t concede this because MSNBC hashad, with rare exception, a history of avoidingENDA and similar issues.Also at Bilerico.com, Joe Mirabella citedlack of leadership and poor messaging forENDA’s demise in this congressional sessionand there’s no doubt that our leadership hasbeen fractured and confused. The influencethe Human Rights Campaign (HRC) haswielded for so long now seems to be ebbingand, even if we are (much) better off withoutHRC leading the way, there is still disarray atthe top. The National Gay and Lesbian TaskForce (NGLTF) has always provided strongand thoughtful leadership, but appears to lackenough clout to effect significant congressionalaction. At the very least, it seems wehave neither consistency nor solidarity as apolitical movement.Dr. Jillian Weiss, whose determined effortsto make ENDA a reality have not flaggedonce in the past year, sees poor strategy as aroot cause for ENDA’s failure, and to a largeextent, she is correct. The desire to put marriageequality at the top of the list of legislativegoals has been viewed as a mistake bymost trans activists. It was seen as an issuewhich would quickly alienate so-called fencesitters and one which could have been (andshould have been) quickly discharged withthe realization that marriage belongs underthe jurisdiction of the church and that thegovernment’s sole interest should be in theconsummation of civil unions.There are those who have argued thatmarriage equality cost Democrats the 2004election. This might or might not be true — I’dgo a step further, however, and posit that weshould have made ENDA the primary piece oflegislation before hate crimes, DADT, DOMAand marriage equality, as a good friend suggestedto me several years ago. ENDA wasfirst proposed in 1994 and, since then, hassuffered at the hands of both foes and allegedallies. Who can forget the 2007 debacle withBarney Frank and HRC essentially throwingtrans equality “under the bus?” Well, as theexpression goes: same sh!t, different day.There has also been speculation thatENDA is no longer quite as critical for gay andlesbian communities as it is for trans individuals— companies seem to be more accommodatingfor the former and joblessness for themappears to be declining. This is definitely notthe case for trans people. All evidence seemsto show that under- and unemployment issoaring.These are four perspectives, and all makesense, but it’s my opinion that the bathroomissue always lurks as the subterfuge underpinningtrans discrimination and is always aroot cause for trans exclusion.Last month’s column focused on the “ickfactor” and how its effects are intrinsic to legislativenon-action. As we worked for ENDA2010, the politics of gut and dogma have beenfully displayed.The Traditional Value Coalition’s (TVC)Andrea Lafferty gave cultural bigots a platformto spread their fear and loathing in herMay Roll Call column. Again and again we areconfronted with bigotry of this ilk from thosewho hate us and, sadly, from those who allegedlysupport us. Lafferty falls in the formercategory, Barney Frank in the latter and NorthCarolina Democrat Heath Shuler somewherein between.In her column, Lafferty failed to directlyaddress the bathroom issue. Instead, shewent for the “trans teachers in schools” tact.“Most importantly, every public schoolin America will not be able to discriminatein hiring transgender teachers and it will beillegal to reassign them from the classroom,”she wrote.Yet, the TVC has consistently cited thebathroom issue as their underlying rationalefor continued discrimination. It’s difficult tobelieve that their hang-ups with transgenderpeople using the restroom aren’t somehow inextricablytied to their fear of trans teachers inschools, especially given that the TVC claimsbathrooms as a central tenant of the so-called“homosexual and trans agenda.”In July 2007, Lafferty lashed out at theTransgender Law Center’s “Peeing in Peace,”an attempt to address the bathroom head-on.Her column then summarized their rationale,and the main thrust of their push against transequality: “A San Francisco-based transgenderlaw center is promoting a ‘bathroom revolution’to overthrow the idea of ‘gender-segregated’restrooms,” Lafferty wrote.Lafferty continued, “Transgender madnessand the idea of ‘gender identity disorder’as being normal will be embedded in federallaw…if ENDA is passed … (ENDA) ‘is partof the transgender/ homosexual agenda tocreate federally-protected class status forthe behaviors of sodomy, cross-dressing andgender-confused individuals.’”There are dozens of hatefully-mindedpeople and organizations out there lined upright next to TVC.Long-time activist Gwen Smith, authorof the syndicated column “Transmissions,”has recapped Frank’s “support” for ENDA.see next page uNot for Reproduction


Not for ReproductionGaga for DadaTime Out Youth presents annual art festivalJuly 11 • CharlotteThis third annual fundraiser, Gaga for Dada: A Celebration of the Arts, is a festival of the best performers in Charlotte.Music, food, cocktails, mingling and of course, a fabulous show. Call us to purchase your tickets! Theatre Charlotte,501 Queens Rd. 5 p.m.-7:30 p.m. 704-344-8335. timeoutyouth.org.June 24-27 • ColumbiaSC Black PrideSouth Carolina Black Pride holds their fifthannual festival. This year’s theme: “NothingBut Love.” southcarolinablackpride.com.June 28 • CharlotteCommemorating StonewallThe Stonewall Riots of 1969 have become adefining event in LGBT history. Please jointhe Temple Beth El Keshet Committee for aremembrance of one of the most formativeevents in history of the movement. Keshetcreates programs for the congregation, aswell as unaffiliated Jews in Charlotte andCharlotte’s LGBT community. All are welcometo attend. Temple Beth El, 5101 Providence Rd.beth-el.com.June 30 • Winston-Salem8: The Mormon PropositionOUT at the Movies Winston-Salem screensthe new documentary, “8: The MormonProposition.” Narrated by acclaimed “Milk”screenwriter Dustin Lance Black, “8”explores how the Mormon Church playedan integral role in the passage of California’sProposition 8. Get more information about thefilm at mormonproposition.com.a/perture cinema, 311 W. Fourth St. 8 p.m.For more information about ticket prices andpurchasing, call Rex at 366-918-0902 or emailOUTattheMovies@triad.rr.com.July 10 • CharlotteMen of Petra’s finaleFor the last time, our staff straps on someheels and work for your dollar bills. TheFinal Four are Sal Garcia as Sal Manilla,Christopher Jones as Barbara Burning Bush,Davey Roberson as Moxy D’outfire and RyanStamey as Robyn O. Ladies. This will be thebest amateur drag night yet! So, come out andvote for your favorite performance. Someonewill be crowned Miss Man of Petra’s. Petra’s,1919 Commonwealth Ave. 10 p.m.petraspianobar.com.July 15-18 • CharlotteCharlotte Black PrideCharlotte Black Gay Pride hosts another slateof annual events filled with fun, education,networking and community. Events includean expo at the Grady Cole Center, workshops,entertainment and more. Host hotel is Aloftat the EpiCentre. For more details and aschedule of events, visitcharlotteblackgaypride.com.July 22 • CharlotteEtheridge in concertMelissa Etheridge performs live at OvensAuditorium, 2700 E. Independence Blvd. 8 p.m.Buy tickets online at ticketmaster.com.July 26 • DurhamEtheridge at DPACFour days after hitting the Queen City, MelissaEtheridge heads to Durham Performing ArtsCenter, 123 Vivian St. 8 p.m. Buy tickets onlineat ticketmaster.com or see page 17 for qnotes’special giveaway!July 28 • DurhamTom MendicinoTom Mendicino will read from and sign copiesQqnotes eventsgoqnotes.com/qguide/eventsof his debut arts. novel, entertainment. “Probation,” which news. tells views.the story of a North Carollina man arrested forsolicitation in a public restroom on Interstate85. Regulator Bookshop, 720 Ninth St. 7 p.m.-8p.m. regulatorbookshop.com.July 29-Aug. 1 • DurhamTriangle Black PrideShades of Pride hosts its inaugural BlackPride in the Raleigh, Durham and Chapel Hillarea. triangleblackpride.org.July 31 • AshevilleCommunity PicnicFree Community Picnic/BBQ to celebrateand thank public and businesses for supportingRainbows for Pride. WNC Nature CenterGazebo, 75 Gashes Creek Rd. Noon-2 p.m.blueridgepride.com.continued from previous pageOur alleged advocate has been quoted assaying “Never!” (quote supplied to Smith byMiranda Stevens-Miller) when questioned in2000 regarding trans inclusion in ENDA.Stevens-Miller continued, “His problemwas that until we could answer the questionof ‘people with penises in [women’s] showers,’there is no way that he would support it.The conversation got rather heated to say theleast. And, with Barney speaking very loudlyand repeatedly about ‘penises in showers,’ weattracted a lot of attention in the restaurant.”Smith wrote, “Likewise, he has indicatedthat transgender people with ‘one set of genitals’would not be able to go to a bathroom forpeople with another sex of genitals. Because,apparently, there will be someone at the doorwho will check what’s in your pants.”This Barney Frank gem was delivered severalmonths back. Does any of this languagesound familiar?And, only a month ago, Heath Shuler establishedhis position as 21st century BenedictArnold with this perspective on ENDA. He toldThe Washington Post that moderates have“walked the plank a lot around here on thingsthat never go anywhere in the Senate” andthat asking them to vote on a transgenderbill in this year’s political climate would be “amistake.” Asked whether he thought the billwould ever reach the floor, he said, “I can’timagine that it would.”There’s been no definitive disclosure ofexact language to be used had ENDA actuallymade it to committee, but there has beenspeculation that trans individuals could notbe forced to use the wrong bathroom. Neitherwould they also be guaranteed the right touse the proper bathroom. One Bilerico.comguest columnist, Renee, elaborated on whythis is a bad idea. Summarizing and paraphrasingher, these are the salient problemswith this language: unnecessary humiliation;not all retail stores and places of businesshave unisex bathrooms; many unisex bathroomsget heavy use and infrequent cleaning;reduced mobility may encourage non-promotion;all of the above encourage “outing”and possibly dangerous repercussions; and Iwould add that bathroom exclusion languagerepresents a codification of discriminationwithin an ENDA bill.Furthermore, there is unequivocally noindication that trans persons using appropriatebathroom facilities lead to either harassmentor violence to women and children, asthe TVC and others aver.Weiss undertook a research project (towhich I contributed) searching for instancesof trans predation in bathrooms and thereis absolutely no evidence in this regard. Myspecific area of research was New York Cityand, again, I found zero trans predation. Infour to five years of archiving trans media,I have found two instances of trans predation,and, in both cases, the victim was wellacquainted with the perpetrator. I can find nocases of trans predation in which the predatorknew the victim.To date, 12 states, and the District ofColumbia, as well as hundreds of localjurisdictions, have passed anti-discriminationbills, ordinances or policies with genderidentity protections, and no one has comeforward with complaints about trans predation.The truth is that there have been manymore instances of violence against transpersons, often occurring in these very samebathrooms. Unfortunately, most of these gounreported.We cannot let the dogma of fear win, andwe cannot settle for an incremental approachwhich will essentially codify discriminationwithin ENDA by stipulating bathroom uselanguage which separates, marginalizes andexcludes. : :— Comments and corrections canbe sent to editor@goqnotes.com.To contact Robbi Cohn, email robbi_cohn108@yahoo.com.Meeting Date: Saturday, July 17, 2010Program: Annual Lake PartyLake Norman House of a CBG MemberCost:Free members, $10 non-membersInfo: 704.565.5075email businessguild@yahoo.comto obtain directionswww.charlottebusinessguild.orgJune 26-July 9 . 2010 qnotes 23Not for Reproduction


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