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insideJuly 21-Aug. 3, 2012Vol 27 No 06526connectgoqnotes.comtwitter.com/qnotescarolinasfacebook.com/qnotescarolinasSign up for our weekly emailnewsletter at goqnotes.com.contributors this issueO’Neale Atkinson, Paige Braddock,Rosendo Brown, Michael Gordon,Jon Hoppel, Charlene Lichtenstein,Lainey Millen, Leslie Robinson,Sarah Shanks, David Stout,Lawrence Toppman, Trinityfront pageGraphic Design by Lainey MillenPhoto Credit: Jimmie Cobb/JC Digital Photography Worksa&e / life&style5 Queen Charlotte8 Counting the Queen City9 LGBT Community Center10 Trudging along11 Out on the map12 Community resources13 Playing the field23 Pride Charlotte pageantscharlotteobserver.com/1166/a local news partner ofThe Charlotte Observer24 Happy couple30 Tell Trinity31 Out in the Stars32 20 Questions34 New Orleans Decadence34 Fabulance34 Jane’s World05 Q events calendaropinions & views4 Editor’s Note4 General Gayety5 Guest Commentary29 QPollMaterial in qnotes is copyrighted by Pride Publishing & Typesetting © 2012 and may not be reproduced in any mannerwithout written consent of the editor or publisher. Advertisers assume full responsibility — and therefore, all liability —for securing reprint permission for copyrighted text, photographs and illustrations or trademarks published in their ads.The sexual orientation of advertisers, photographers, writers, cartoonists we publish is neither inferred nor implied. Theappearance of names or photographs does not indicate the subject’s sexual orientation. qnotes nor its publisher assumesliability for typographical error or omission, beyond offering to run a correction. Official editorial positions are expressed instaff editorials and editorial notations and are determined by editorial staff. The opinions of contributing writers and guestcolumnists do not necessarily represent the opinions of qnotes or its staff. qnotes accepts unsolicited editorial, but cannottake responsibility for its return. Editor reserves the right to accept and reject material as well as edit for clarity, brevity.news & features6 News Notes:Regional Briefs24 Carolina DNC videos24 411 on the DNC25 DNC prayer meeting14Pride Publishing & Typesetting, Inc.P.O. Box 221841, Charlotte, NC 28222ph 704.531.9988 fx 704.531.1361Publisher: Jim YarbroughSales: x207 adsales@goqnotes.comNat’l Sales: Rivendell Media212.242.6863Editor: Matt Comerx202 editor@goqnotes.comAssoc. Ed.: David Stouteditor2@goqnotes.comProduction: Lainey Millenx205 production@goqnotes.comPrinted on recycled paper.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 3

VIEWSIn this special issue, qnotes takes anin-depth look at our hometown as we rollout our “InFocus: Charlotte” edition taking aindepth look at the local diversity and flavorthat makes our city special and beautiful.Additionally, we’ve got community resourcelistings including everything from social andsupport groups to nightlife and faith congregations.Thanks to the generous support ofthe LGBT Community Center of Charlotte, weare able to bring you these exciting featureson our Queen City, kindly and sweetly bundledtogether for you in one nice package.One of these features is a slight follow-upon a story we published in March 2010 aheadof that year’s national census. At the time, wedelved into numbers from the census 10 yearsprior, finding that Charlotte’s 28205 ZIP codehad the highest number of same-sex couplesthan any other ZIP code across the state.Starting in 2000, the U.S. Census Bureaubegan tracking the number of householdswith unmarried same-sex partners. Thatsame data was tracked in 2010 and provideseditor’s noteby matt comermatt@goqnotes.comThe counting of LGBT Charlotteisn’t completea glimpse into the geography of LGBT life inthe U.S. and locally.Ten years after the 2000 census, EastCharlotte still leads the pack, but other parts ofthe city — portions of the South Blvd. corridor,the Steele Creek area and the Providence/Ballantyne area — also have high concentrationsof same-sex couple households, as well.The concentrations of same-sex householdsin Charlotte take on an interesting geographicshape. Stretching from East Charlotteup to NoDa, through Uptown and a slightmove into West Charlotte, the distribution ofgay families then spreads southward, movingdown and out along South Blvd. and I-485.Other cities have one “gayborhood.” Somehave two. Charlotte has many. NoDa, Plaza-Midwood and other parts of East Charlottemight come out on top, but other popular areasof the city are nipping at their heels. It all goesto show, at least in part, that gay folks aren’tnecessarily immune to changes in neighborhooddemographics and dynamics. Ten yearsago, East Charlotte still had some of its uniqueswagger left. The snapshot in time that wasthe 2000 census didn’t take into account thesweeping changes the Eastside would experiencein the short few years to follow. No doubt,gay folk were not immune to the changes,finding themselves culling new and more areasof the city “home.”But the census numbers don’t necessarilytell the whole story. In neither the censusnor their American Community Survey doesthe U.S. Census Bureau include demographicquestions on sexual orientation or genderidentity. Currently, there’s no way to trackhow many LGBT people actually live in theU.S. or track the places and neighborhoodsthey call home. It’s an unfortunate realitythat leaves people like me and a whole slewof friends uncounted when demographers,media and community members start talkingabout gayborhoods and gay demographics.Take, for instance, my own neighborhood.Windsor Park sits adjacent to Country ClubHeights, a neighborhood with one of the highestconcentrations of same-sex couples inthe city. Windsor Park itself has a fairly largenumber of same-sex couples. But, the currentcounting scheme will never do neighborhoodslike mine justice. They do not count me or atleast a dozen other single LGBT people whomI personally know live there.The U.S. government’s decision not tocount all self-identified LGBT people is aninjustice and disservice. The census bureau’scurrent policies must be changed andgroups like the National Gay & Lesbian TaskForce and their “Queer the Census” initiative(queerthecensus.org) are working to createa more LGBT-inclusive count of Americancitizens and residents.“Without data that identifies the LGBTcommunity, LGBT people are invisible in theeyes of our government,” the national groupsays. I agree.Just this past March, advocates testifiedbefore a House subcommittee on the importanceof adding LGBT demographic questionsto the U.S. Census and its annual communitysurveys. By 2013, the U.S. Departmentof Health and Human Services will beginasking about sexual orientation on its NationalHealth Interview Survey. What’s good for onegovernment agency should be good enoughfor another, but researchers like the WilliamsInstitute’s Gary Gates say the census bureaulikely won’t consider real changes until 2017.By the time our next decennial census rollsaround, odds are several more states will havelegalized marriage for same-sex couples. Itmight even be possible that marriage equalityis the law of the land for all Americans. And, if itall should come to pass, there’s no reason whythe government can’t count both married andunmarried queer folk. It’s the right thing to doand the only way LGBT people will ever truly bevisible. Simply put, unless we are counted, wedon’t really count. : :VIEWSI’m appalled that I’d never heard of GadBeck. Not only was he an important figure inLGBT history, he was a hoot.Until his recent death just shy of his 89thbirthday, Beck was the last known gay Jewishsurvivor of the Holocaust. Also a resistancefighter, Beck’s experiences during World WarII were such that he quipped, “Only StevenSpielberg can film my life — forgive me,forgive me.”He’s forgiven. Because he’s right.Consider his attempt to rescue his Jewishboyfriend. According to Wikipedia, Beckdonned a Hitler Youth uniform and entered adeportation center to free Manfred Lewin.Thereby setting a ridiculously high bar forstanding by your man.general gayetyby leslie robinsonqnotes contributorAuf wiedersehen little heroBeck asked the commanding officer to releaseLewin for use in a construction projectand he must’ve been convincing, because theofficer agreed.When they got outside, though, Lewinsaid, “Gad, I can’t go with you. My familyneeds me. If I abandon them now, I couldnever be free.”The two parted, not saying goodbye. “Inthose seconds, watching him go, I grew up,”recalled Beck.If you’re weepy already, don’t read thenext sentence. Lewin and his whole familyperished at Auschwitz. I warned you.Beck’s father was Jewish and his motherconverted to Judaism. Under the Nazi raciallaws, Beck was a half-breed and he and hisfather landed in a holding compound on theRosenstrasse in Berlin. He was released afterthe non-Jewish wives of inmates protested inthe street.They set a pretty high bar, too.Beck learned from those women. Hesaid, reported The Jerusalem Post, “TheRosenstrasse event made one thing absolutelyclear to me: I won’t wait until we get deported.”He joined a resistance youth group andhelped Jews in Berlin survive. Beck notedthat “as a homosexual, I was able to turn tomy trusted non-Jewish, homosexual acquaintancesto help supply food and hiding places.”It helps to have friends in homo places.A Jewish spy working for the Gestapobetrayed Beck shortly before the war endedand he was held at a Jewish transit camp.After the war, he assisted Jews emigrating toPalestine and he himself lived in Israel from1947 until 1979, when he returned to Germany.I don’t know why he returned. But at hisdeath, he was survived by Julius Laufer, hispartner of 35 years, which means the two mengot together in 1977, two years before Beckwent back to Europe. It would be gratifying tothink he returned to Germany for love, consideringhe left it for the opposite reason.But, if he returned just because he missedthe beer, that’s okay, too.As the director of the Jewish AdultEducation Center in Berlin, Beck organizedgatherings of gay singles at the center. “Hewas open, sweet and would speak witheverybody,” said the editor of Berlin’s Jewishmagazine, who also recalled Beck’s fondnessfor waving the Israeli flag at Berlin’s annualPride parade.He sounds like the kind of guy you’d wantto have at a party. If he could keep the flagwavingto a minimum.Beck’s heart-centeredness combinedwith a notable wit. On a German talk show, hesaid, “The Americans in New York called me agreat hero. I said no…I’m really a little hero.”Of his life as a homosexual Jew, Beckaverred, “God doesn’t punish for a life oflove.” He wasn’t the first to say that and hewon’t be the last, but it’s tough to imagine theline suiting anyone better. : :info:lesarobinson@gmail.com . generalgayety.comSUBSCRIBE!These rates only cover a portion of our true cost,however, our goal is to serve our communityMailed 1st class from Charlotte, NC, in sealed envelope.Subscription Rates: ☐ 1 yr - 26 issues = $48 ☐ 1/2 yr - 13 issues = $34Mail to: P.O. 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BRIEFSCharlottePride fest seeks ‘peacekeepers’CHARLOTTE — The LGBT CommunityCenter’s annual Pride Charlotte Festival is currentlyseeking volunteers for its “Partners inPeace” service. The group works with PrideCharlotte to ensure minimal disruption fromprotesters and anti-LGBT groups.The center will host informational andorientation sessions every Wednesday andFriday evening in July, 6-8 p.m., at the center,820 Hamilton St., Suite B11. The sessions includetrainings to handle situations that mightarise during the festival. The orientation lastsabout 30 minutes and interested volunteersare encouraged to drop-in at any time duringsession hours.Contact Rebecca Payne at rrpayne1026@gmail.com for more information or to scheduleanother orientation time if unable to make it tothe Wednesday and Friday meetings.The Pride Charlotte Festival is slated forSaturday, Aug. 25 and Sunday, Aug. 26. Formore information or volunteer opportunities,visit pridecharlotte.com.— M.C.Triadnews notes:carolinas. nation. world.compiled by Lainey Millen | David Stout | Matt ComerENC announces fall eventGREENSBORO — The Equality NCFoundation 2012 Equality Conference & Galawill be held on Nov. 17 in the Triad.The day begins with the conference at theUniversity of North Carolina at GreensboroElliott University Center and continues withthe gala at the Empire Room, 203 S. Elm St.The signature event will be especiallyimportant in the wake of the passage ofAmendment One in 2011. Organizers expectupwards of 500 attendees at each event.The foundation is currently seeking sponsors.Through this show of support, studentsare able to get subsidies to help with registration.“This year we will also extend specialadmission rates for those who qualify basedon income,” said Kay Flaminio, director ofdevelopment for Equality North Carolina.“The Equality Conference is designedto foster activism and leadership within theLGBT rights movement in North Carolina, andwe keep admission fees as low as possibleto encourage maximum attendance fromevery part of the LGBT community. Attendeesstart the day with our annual State of EqualityReport, attend their choice of hands-onworkshops covering a variety of topics, cometogether for lunch, learn more about our sponsorsthrough their exhibits, and wind up theday with our keynote speaker,” she added.The gala is the foundation’s annual fundraiser.It also serves as a way to celebrate thework that the foundation does with supportersfrom across the state.Awards are presented for legislativeleadership and for individual achievement.Originally called Equality Champion Awards,the named changed in 2011 and is now calledthe Bob Page Equality Champion Awardsto honor the vision and leadership of Page,chairman and CEO of Replacements, Ltd., onbehalf of LGBT North Carolinians.6 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012For more information, call 919-829-0342,ext. 112 or email kay@equalitync.org or visitequalitync.org.— L.M.TriangleLGBT art show seeks participantsDURHAM — The Durham Arts Place, 305E. Chapel Hill St., has announced that it willhold a juried LGBT art show from Aug. 10-Sept. 30 and are seeking pieces to include inthe presentation.Theme is “Love/Hate, Private/Public,Inside/Outside, Gay/Straight” and will beginduring the North Carolina Gay and LesbianFilm Festival run, as well as through the weekof the North Carolina Pride Festival.Deadline is July 23.Artwork can be two or three dimensionaland cannot exceed 36 inches in width and 60inches in height.Dan Ellison, Lindsay Gordon and JennieCarlisle, curators, will make the selections.For more information and to request anapplication, email entriesdurhamartsplace@gmail.com or visit durhamartsplacelgbtq.wordpress.com.— L.M.Gala on the horizonRALEIGH — The 32nd Annual CrapeMyrtle Festival Grand Gala will be held onJuly 28, 7-11 p.m., at the Memorial AuditoriumLobby, Progress Energy Center, 2 E. South St.The evening will feature a silent auction,as well as heavy hors d’oeurvres.Crape Myrtle Festival is constantly seekingcontributions to support the financialneeds of local HIV/LGBT organizations. Thisyear it has raised $50,000 with only about$3,000 in expenses. Ninety-four percent of donationsreceived are awarded to designatedrecipients.Chairs are Kurt Hurelbrink and DanWoodard. The court is comprised of KevinBarker, Ryan Blackwell, Burton Buffaloe, BradDeaton, Jill Donovan, Michael Evans, AndrewFarr, Paul Finger, Joshua Grice, T. L. Hall,Arthur Jordan, Steven Norris, Pink Persons,Gary Roundtree, Beren South, ColemanTemple, Melissa Williams, William “Rabbit”Wood and LiChun YoungTickets are $25, advance and $30, at thedoor. Students may attend for $20. Purchasesmay be obtained online at crapemyrtlefest.organd visit the website to learn more about sponsorship,pledge and volunteer opportunities.— L.M.Carolina researcher seeks subjectsCHAPEL HILL — Laurie Phillips, a Universityof North Carolina at Chapel Hill Ph.D. student, isconducting research with those who participatedin the It Gets Better Project.Any U.S.-based individual may participate.Video chat interviews will take place at a laterdate that is convenient to the study subject.A brief background survey which lastsless than five minutes will be used to assesscandidates.Visit unc.qualtrics.com/SE/?SID=SV_6RuR15AxxqH2zKA to complete the survey.Models strut their stuff for charityCHARLOTTE — BRIEF! A Fete for Fashion returns to the runway and the Queen City onAug. 11 at Extravaganza Depot, 1610 N. Tryon St. Doors open at 7 p.m.Over the past two years, it has raised more than $50,000 for the Cystic FibrosisFoundation (CFF). And, over 800 attendees watched models strut their stuff for charity.In his third year, BRIEF! will partner with the foundation and will add another beneficiary,Regional AIDS Interfaith Network (RAIN), a local HIV/AIDS non-profit.Dan Mauney, who created the event,was inspired to action in 2009 by Oliver,the son of a close friend. Oliver, age 2,was born with Cystic Fibrosis, a lifethreateninggenetic disease.Mauney says, “We have created anincredible runway to educate and raiseFor more information, email laph@email.unc.edu.— L.M.Group launches new siteRALEIGH — Reconciling UnitedMethodists of North Carolina (RUM) hasrecently launched its new website.RUM is an affiliate of the ReconcilingMinistries Network, based in Chicago, a nationalorganization promoting fuller inclusionof LGBT members and people of color in theUnited Methodist Church.The organization meets to discuss issuesand concerns at various conferences andworship services, shares personal stories, aswell as provides support to the LGBT community,families, pastors, and congregations.On a national level, it is seeking applicantsfor two positions, regional organizers and acommunications and technology coordinator.For job descriptions and instructions on howto apply, visit rmnetwork.org/jobs. They arealso launching in the fall a new organizationplan that will utilize process coaches to trainlocal volunteers to shepherd a prospectivereconciling communities through a ReconcilingMethodist process. They will work directlywith congregations, classes and campusministries to offer support, encouragement andexperience within the Reconciling community.Training for process coaches will be facilitatedby regional organizers and the Institute forWelcoming Resources. Send a cover letter,resume and list of references by July 23 tocareers@rmnetwork.org.For more information, visit rum-nc.org.— L.M.Photo Credit: Jon Mullenthe awareness of CFF and RAIN whilesending the area’s hottest male modelsdown the catwalk.” They don underwearand swimwear from a host of topdesigners.Tickets are now available: VIP tableof four, $600; VIP single, $125; generaladmission seated, $50; and generaladmission standing, $25. VIPs receivepreferred seating, five drink ticketseach, light appetizers and a free BRIEF!calendar. General admission attendeesreceive cash bar, free calendar whilesupplies last. Promoters expect a sellout, so secure a spot now.Sponsorships are also being sought.Presenting sponsors who contribute$5,000 will have their logo/name appearon all marketing materials for one year,receive 10 VIP tickets to the event, five drink tickets to each person, a free 2013 calendarand best placement of tables at the end of the runway. Gold sponsors ($2,500) receive asimilar package, but only receive six VIP tickets and preferred placement on the floor. Silversponsors ($1,000) get four VIP tickets. And, bronze sponsors receive two reserved ticketsand three drink tickets to each person and a calendar. Email Mauney at danmauney@gmail.com or call him at 704-906-6531.For more information, to be a sponsor or to purchase tickets, visit briefafeteforfashion.org.— L.M.WesternALFA presents gospel festivalHICKORY — AIDS Leadership FoothillsareaAlliance will hold its 1st Annual JoyfulNoise Gospel Festival, United Voiceswith a Vision, on July 21 at 4 p.m. at FirstPresbyterian Church, 237 2nd St., N.W.Church choirs and gospel groups willperform music to lift voices, hand and hearts.Attendees are asked to donate at least twonon-perishable food items at the door whichwill help to restock the agency’s food pantry.ALFA is a United Way Partner Agencyserving Alexander, Allegahany, Ashe, Burke,Caldwell, Catawba, Lincoln, Watauga andWilkes counties.For more information, visit alfainfo.org.— L.M.Legal seminar slatedHENDERSONVILLE — A legal andfinancial seminar will be held on Aug. 30, 7-9p.m., at MCC Sacred Journey, 135 SugarloafRd., 2nd floor. Guest speakers will be MaryHart, The Hart Law Group, and AmoreenaPatrick, MetLife. It is presented in partnershipbetween MCC Sacred Journey’s Board ofDirectors and Stella’s Place.Admission is free but seating is limited andis already filling up quickly.The informative session will offer attendeesinsight and professional expertise in the areasof estate planning, advanced healthcare directives,durable power of attorney and more.Questions specific to the LGBT communitywill be answered and addressed during theevening.

Refreshments will be served.For more information or to secure a spot,email stellasplace143@gmail.com.— L.M.National/GlobalSLDN, OutServe plan to mergeNEW YORK, N.Y. — The boards of directorsof Servicemembers Legal Defense Network(SLDN) and OutServe have announced plansto merge the two organizations by October2012 with a new name and a newly configuredboard of directors led by a representative fromeach existing organization. In the interveningperiod, the boards and staff of both organizationswill focus on unifying the two administratively,financially and organizationally.SLDN provides free and direct legal assistanceto service members and veterans affectedby the repealed “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” lawand the prior regulatory ban on open service,as well as those currently serving. OutServebegan as an underground network of LGBTservice members connected via Facebook thatnow boasts more than 5,500 members worldwide.Just a few weeks after DADT repeal,OutServe hosted the first-ever conference ofactive duty LGBT service members.The merger is expected to be finalizedat the next board meetings of the twogroups, scheduled to take place Oct. 26-28in Orlando, Fla.— D.S.Episcopal Church votes for inclusionINDIANAPOLIS, Ind. — At the EpiscopalChurch’s General Convention, held hereearlier this month, attendees approved a newliturgy for blessing same-sex unions, twoproposals adding gender identity and expressionto the Church’s nondiscrimination canonsfor ordained ministry and in the “life, worship,and governance of the Church,” and a resolutionsupporting legislation for equal immigrationrights for same-sex couples.The votes were a long time in the making.Since the 1960s, many Episcopal clergy haveprovided private blessings to gay and lesbiancouples, but the Church had no official practice.Following the 2009 General Convention,the Church said bishops may provide “generouspastoral response” to gay couples, especiallyin states that allow civil unions or gaymarriages. The Church has been relativelysilent on issues related to transgender clergyuntil this gathering.Despite the gains, progressives of faithsay there is still more work to be done. Forexample, they point out that the Canons ofthe Church still define “marriage” as a unionbetween a man and a woman.— D.S.Pride in uniformSAN DIEGO, Calif. — San Diego Prideofficials say active duty service membershave received approval from the Office of theSecretary of Defense and their commandingofficers to march in the city’s America’s PrideParade Military Contingent while wearingtheir uniforms. Veterans have long been allowedto wear their uniforms and now theiractive duty brothers and sisters will be able tomarch in uniform alongside them.In a videotaped message released inJune, Defense Secretary Leon Panetta stated:“Before the repeal of ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell,’ youfaithfully served your country with professionalismand courage. And just like your fellowservice members,you put your countrybefore yourself.And now — afterrepeal, you can beproud of servingyour country, andbe proud of whoyou are when inuniform.”In 2011, SanDiego made newsby being the firstcity in the U.S. tohave an active dutymilitary contingentin a Pride Parade.With this year’stheme of America’sPride, San DiegoPride organizers say they are looking to pusheven further in honoring service members,veterans and their families. Servicememberswanting to walk in the military contingent canregister at sdpride.org/military.— D.S.Text for global gay rightsWASHINGTON, D.C. — The U.S. StateDepartment has launched a donation campaignthat allows Americans to help fundprograms and initiatives aimed at advancinghuman rights for LGBT people around theworld just by sending a text message.The Global Equality Fund was launched byU.S Secretary of State Hillary Rodham ClintonA contingent of OutServe members at Tokyo Pride in April 2012.Photo Credit: decayoftheangel, via Flickr. Licensed under CC.on Human Rights Day in December 2011 inGeneva, Switzerland, where she reaffirmed,“Human rights are gay rights and gay rightsare human rights.”While providing tangible assistance toLGBT civil society groups around the world,the Fund also serves to underscore the StateDepartment’s commitment to ensuring LGBTpeople worldwide are able to exercise theirhuman rights with dignity. You can donate $10to the Global Equality Fund by texting the wordPRIDE to 80000.— D.S.info: Have news or other information? Sendyour press releases and updates for inclusionin our News Notes: editor@goqnotes.com.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 7

INFOCUSBe a part of yourcommunity centerThe LGBT Community Center of Charlotte is here for youby O’Neale Atkinson :: centeradministrator@gaycharlotte.comThe LGBT Community Center of Charlotte isproud to serve the local LGBT community andto increase our visibility to the greater Charlottecommunity. The center strives to promotediversity, acceptance and visibility of the LGBTcommunity through original and collaborativeprogramming and events and by providing aninclusive, welcoming and affordable environmentfor all. In the past year, The center hasbeen able to expand its hours and availabilityto the community to six days a week and isconstantly seeking feedback on how we canbetter serve the Charlotte community.Currently, there are a number of waysthat you can get involved with the center.Each month, the center hosts ongoing groups,including support and social groups for theLGBT community, recreational activities, communityforums and special events. The centerencourages new groups and ally organizationsto reach out and utilize our facility toensure that events are able to be conductedin an environment that is inclusive and supportiveof the LGBT community in Charlotte.If you are new to the Charlotte communityor a longtime resident looking to get moreinvolved, the center can help connect youwith events, organizations and causes thatneed volunteer support and leadership. Thecenter can also help you connect with localresources to ensure that your experience inCharlotte is one in which you are treated withrespect and dignity.As the center continues to grow, we wantto know how we can better serve the localcommunity and need your feedback in orderto accurately reflect your needs. If you havean idea for a group, program or event that youthink would be of benefit to the local LGBTcommunity, we want to hear about it! If youare a local LGBT organization or business andhave not worked with us in the past, we hopethat you will work with us in the future as wemove to solidify and empower the CharlotteLGBT community.The center is open Monday throughThursday from 5-8 p.m., Friday from 10 a.m.to 1 p.m. and Saturday from 10 a.m. until 4p.m. During these hours anyone is welcometo stop by and we encourage you to do so.Staff is also available to be reached outsideof hours of operation. For more informationabout the center, visit our website atgaycharlotte.com, call us at 704-333-0144 oremail info@gaycharlotte.com. : :Queen City Countcontinued from page 8younger. We really enjoyed the active nightlifethere, too.”Kibiloski says she and her partner havebeen welcomed in their current neighborhood,just a stone’s throw from the South Blvd.corridor. During the anti-LGBT amendmentcampaign, they saw only one anti-gay sign.Ferri and Pettinato say their neighbors inPlaza Midwood have also been open and welcoming.The couple socializes regularly withgay and straight neighbors and are membersof the neighborhood association.“I think our neighborhood has a certainlittle funk about it,” Pettinato says. “It’s certainlynot yuppified. It’s eclectic and earthy. Itadds a dynamic to the neighborhood.”Ginger Brock, her partner Katherine Booneand their three-month old son Colin also livenear Plaza Midwood. Their Commonwealthneighborhood is home to populations asdiverse LGBT singles and couples, Latinos andVietnamese and other immigrants.“You get to see something different outsideof your window every day,” Brock says.“It’s such a mix of cultures.”The hubbub and activity of the more urbanPlaza Midwood area is exciting for youngsingles and families, Brock says. A move tomore suburban settings might be in the worksas Colin grows older, but any new home won’tbe in-state.“It’s going to be out of North Carolina,” shesays about a potential future move. “We haveour son and with the passage of AmendmentOne it doesn’t feel as comfortable as it usedto. We’d move to the suburbs — just not thesuburbs of Charlotte.”Until that day comes, Brock and her familywill relax and enjoy the relative welcome andease that comes with living in Charlotte’s gayestand hippest hood.Yet, don’t be fooled, Pettinato warns. PlazaMidwood is no Castro.“We see a lot of gay people, but it’s certainlynot a little gay ghetto by any means,” hesays. “The neighborhood association is mostlystraight people and their families but we’venever had one bit of homophobia coming fromneighbors.”Despite the absence of a true “gayborhood”the size of those in larger cities,Pettinato says he and Ferri have managed tofind a special niche.“We lived in San Francisco andWashington, D.C., so we’ve progressivelymoved into more conservative places butthis is a really comfortable place for us tobe,” he says. : :July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 9

INFOCUSTrudging along: Charlotte’s path toLGBT equalityMore than a decade of local advocacy is shaping new LGBT-inclusive political culture ascity leaders move to protect LGBT workers, offer benefits to employees’ partnersby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comWhen Democrats from across the equality here. Ask 10 people, you’ll get 10country come to Charlotte thisdifferent responses — many as equally validSeptember, they will experience as the other. Two facts are immediately clear:a city that is increasingly moving in the right The affirming political environment today isdirection on matters of LGBT equality. After relatively new and years of dedicated andyears of stalled progress, the city now protectstireless advocacy work has made it possible.employees on the basis of sexual orien-In the early 2000s, local attorney Connietation. In June, the council included domestic Vetter and others with the Mecklenburgpartner benefits in their 2012-2013 budget. LGBT Political Action Committee (MeckPAC),These inclusive changes might seem like established in 1998, attempted to have nondiscriminationsmall potatoes to some. Arguably, they are.policy changes and domesticWhen other states are debating and approving partner benefits adopted by city council.same-sex marriage and the nation is ending its Meetings, press conferences, a study groupanti-gay military policies, one might think a city and competing legal memos abounded, butas large as Charlotte would have already protectedthe requested changes never materialized.its LGBT public employees. Yet, the City “The city manager wasn’t completelyof Charlotte has reliably taken its own unique behind it,” Vetter says of former manager Pampath to progressive change throughout its history,Syfert. “The argument was that [domesticmatters of queer equality not excluded. partner benefits] are useful to retain and at-Progress has come easier at the county tract employees. My sense was that she feltlevel. Mecklenburg County commissioners Charlotte was doing okay without it.”added “sexual orientation” to their nondiscriminationThe lack of substantial LGBT employeepolicy in 2005. They adopted interaction was another concern.domestic partner benefits in 2009. In 2008, the “I also recall hearing at the time thatcounty-wide Charlotte-Mecklenburg Schools there wasn’t any feedback coming from cityadopted a fully-LGBT-inclusive anti-bullying employees that they wanted domestic partnerpolicy a full year before the state Schoolbenefits,” she says. “Of course people wouldn’tViolence Prevention Act mandated similar speak out either because they may not havepolicies for school systems statewide.known it was possible or because of fear ofWhile county leaders forged ahead,outing themselves and losing their jobs.”Charlotte remained dutifully obstinate.Tom Warshaur has worked for the cityDemocrats held a majority on council, but since 1990. Today, he’s a manager in the city’sthey consistently faced a veto threat from neighborhood and business services division,former Republican Mayor Pat McCrory, rarely but he began in the city’s economic developmenta friend to Charlotte’s LGBT citizens.unit, where he worked at the time of theSince McCrory’s departure just three original domestic partner benefits discussion.years ago, Charlotte has become more comfortableHe was among those invited to participate inwith the LGBT community, making the study group, tasked to research industrymore inclusive changes under Democratic standards, legal questions, analyze costs andMayor Anthony Foxx than any other mayor in other matters. The committee included participantsthe city’s history. There’s a variety of explanationsfrom other city departments like hu-behind the slow movement toward legall man resources and staff from large Charlottecompanies like Duke Energy, Bank of Americaand Wachovia.“That study committee helped peoplerealize it wasn’t hard to do this, that it is not ahard thing or a costly thing for a large employerto offer these benefits to their workforce,”Warshaur says.But, the study group never issued a recommendation.“Other organizations felt it was inappropriateto recommend to another organizationwhat they should or should not do,” Warshaurrecounts. “Of course, that was disappointingto me.”After the study group completed its task,the domestic partner discussion faded. Thecity, Warshaur says, just wasn’t ready. A revisionto human resources policies was not thedifficult part — waiting on a change in peopleand their heats and minds was.“What required changing was the peoplerealizing that changes were happening insociety and that [offering the benefits] wasjust the right thing to do,” he says. “Thattook some time for people to realizewhat they really wanted as a municipalitywas to make sure they weretreating all their employees fairly.”A change in culture and attitude,says Vetter, was also required of thecity’s LGBT community. Activists’ conversationswith city leaders and othersalways went smoothly, but only because,“with the wisdom of hindsight,” she says,“our expectations were low.”“One of the things I’m happy to see nowis how much more we respect ourselves as acommunity,” says Vetter. “I think we still havework to do today, but we expect to be treatedfairly and equally rather than kind of asking‘please.’ There’s a different mindset. We’vegrown up as a community and have starteddemanding instead of asking.”As the LGBT community grew up, so didits elected officials. Groups like MeckPAC andindividual citizens continued their relationship-buildingwith city council members.Comfort with LGBT issues grew tremendously.Inclusive and progressive change becameincreasingly possible.Flash forward to 2009 when then-CouncilmanFoxx was running for mayor. In candidateinterviews with MeckPAC, he threw his supportbehind protecting employees on the basis ofsexual orientation. As mayor-elect, Foxx madethe same commitment publicly in a post-electioninterview with qnotes.Despite the public support from Foxx, thenon-discrimination matter would never comesee Advocacy on 1310 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

on the mapnightlifeSundayBarbeque & Bloody Marys, Bar at 316free BBQ from 3-6 p.m.The Sunday Social Spades/Card Games &House Muzik, Nickel Barfrom 5 p.m.-MidnightHouse Cast Show, The Scorpiowith DJ 4Real. 11:30 p.m.Woodshed Sundays, The Woodshedfree dinner buffet served at 6:30 p.m.karaoke, 9 p.m.MondayMovie Night, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Monday Madness, Chaserspool tournament at 11:30 p.m. $25 cash prizeand $25 bar tab.Boxing & Monday Night Football, SidelinesFree Pool, The Woodshedall day.TuesdayKaraoke with Metro Mike, Bar at 316starts at 9 p.m.Pool Tournament, Central StationTwisted Trivia, Chaserswith Tiffany Storm & Brooklyn Dior.Showtime at 12:30 a.m.Trivia Tuesdays, Marignyhosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox 7 p.m.Midwood Madness, Petra’shalf-price bottles of wineKaraoke, The Woodshedstarts at 9 p.m.WednesdayGame Night, Bar at 316Team Trivia and Line Dancing, Hartigan’sstarts at 8 p.m.Karaoke, Petra’shosted by Rachel Houdek. 9 p.m.Wicked and Wild Wednesdays, The Scorpiofeaturing Tiffany Storm with DJ 4Real. 11 p.m.Pool Tournament, The Woodshedstarts at 10:30 p.m.ThursdayThursday Night House Party, Bar at 316Pool Tournament, Central StationRockin’ Well Thursdays, Chaserswith Valerie Rockwell. Show starts at 12:30 a.m.Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 2nd Thursday of every month. 8-10 p.m.Karaoke Night, Hartigan’shosted by Roxxy C. Moorecox. 9 p.m.Team Boystown, Marignystarts at 10 p.m. $10 cover after 11 p.m.Drink-n-drown.SpeakEasy Thursday Open Mic Night,Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Karaoke Night, The Rainbow Infree for members. $5 guests. $6 under 21.Underwear Night, The WoodshedFridayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316Free HIV Testing, Connectionsthe 4th Friday of every month. 8-10 p.m.A-List Fridays, Marignyhosted by SugaWalls Entertainment. 10 p.m.Feel Good Fridays Dance Night, Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Live Performances, Petra’sRoxy’s Rainbow Review, The Rainbow Instarts at 11p.m.Life’s a Drag, The Scorpiowith Tiffany Storm. 11:30 p.m.SaturdayHouse DJ and Dancing, Bar at 316The Angela Lopez Show, Chasersshow starts at 12:30 a.m.Live DJ, Hartigan’sKrewe Saturdays, MarignySexy Saturdays Special Events, Nickel Barfrom 9 p.m.-2:30 a.m.Live Performances, Petra’sUrban Variety Show, The Scorpiowith Elaine Davis. Midnight showtime.CongregationsMCC CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible study every Tuesday and Wednesday,7 p.m.New Life MCCWorship service every Sunday, 7 p.m.Monthly covered dish dinner andcoffeehouse-style worship service on the firstSunday of every month, 6 p.m.Unity Fellowship Church of CharlotteWorship service every Sunday, 10:45 a.m.Bible 101: second and fourth Sunday of everymonth, 9 a.m.Wednesday night Bible study and discussion,7 p.m.CommunityThe LGBT Community Center of CharlottePromoting the diversity, acceptance andvisibility of the LGBT community throughprogramming and events.gaycharlotte.comWhite RabbitNorth Carolina’s LGBT everything store.Complete line of Pride merchandise, plusbooks, magazines, DVDs, T-shirts, underwearand more.info: Don’t see your bar listed here?Submit your regularly scheduled events toeditor@goqnotes.comJuly 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 11

INFOCUSCharlotte LGBTCommunity ResourcesAdvocacyCampus Pride704-277-6710campuspride.orgCharlotte Rainbow ActionNetwork for Equalityrainbowaction.orgEquality North Carolinaequalitync.orgHRC Carolinanorthcarolina.hrc.orgMecklenburg LGBTPolitical Action Committee(MeckPAC)meckpac.orgArtsActor’s Theatreof Charlotte704-342-2251atcharlotte.orgCarolina ActorsStudio Theatre704-455-8542nccast.comCharlotte Pride Bandcharlotteprideband.orgGay Men’s Chorusof Charlotte704-549-9202gmccharlotte.orgOne Voice Chorus704-529-2951onevoicechorus.comQueen CityTheatre Companyqueencitytheatre.comMediaCreative Loafingclclt.comCharlotte Observercharlotteobserver.comPocket Rocket Guidepocketrocketguide.comQNotesgoqnotes.comVisit Gay Charlottevisitgaycharlotte.comFaithCharlotte Atheists andAgnosticscharlotteatheists.comMCC Charlotte1825 Eastway Dr.Charlotte NC 28205704-563-5810office@mcccharlotte.orgmcccharlotte.orgMyers Park Baptist Church1900 Queens Rd.Charlotte, NC 28207704-334-7232mpbconline.orgHavurat Tikvah980-225-5330havurattikvah.orgLGBT Community Centerof Charlotte820 Hamilton St., Suite B11Charlotte, NC 28206704-333-0144gaycharlotte.comGay Charlotte Film Festival & Seriesgaycharlottefilmfestival.comLOAFERSSocial and support group for adult lesbians. Meetssecond Friday of each month, 6:30 p.m., atThe Center.OASISFacilitated monthly support group for gay, bisexualand questioning men. Meets third Tuesday of eachmonth, 6:30 p.m., at The Center.Pride Charlottepridecharlotte.comHoly Covenant UnitedChurch of Christ3501 W. WT Harris Blvd.Charlotte NC 28269704-599-9810holycovenantucc.orgHoly TrinityLutheran Church1900 The PlazaCharlotte, NC 28205704-377-5439htlccharlotte.org/New Life MCC1900 The PlazaCharlotte, NC 28205704-334-0350newlifemcc@bellsouth.netnewlifemccnc.orgPiedmont UnitarianUniversalist Church9704 Mallard Creek Rd.Charlotte, NC 28262704-510-0008puuc.orgSeigle AvenuePresbyterian Church600 Seigle Ave.Charlotte, NC 28204704-338-1914seigleavenue.orgSt. Martin’sEpiscopal Church1510 E. 7th St.Charlotte NC 28204704-376-8441stmartins-charlotte.orgSt. Peter’s Catholic Church507 South Tryon St.Charlotte, NC 28202704-332-2901stpeterscatholic.org/gay_lesbian_ministrySpiritual Living Center1025 E. 35th St.Charlotte, NC 28205704-665-1886slccharlotte.comTemple Beth El5101 Providence Rd.Charlotte, NC 28226704-366-1948keshet@beth-el.combeth-el.comUnitarian UniversalistChurch of Charlotte234 Sharon Amity Rd.Charlotte, NC 28211704-366-8623uuccharlotte.orgUnity Fellowship Church2127 Eastway Dr.Charlotte, NC 28205704-567-5007ufccharlottenc.orgWedgewoodBaptist Church4800 Wedgewood Dr.Charlotte, NC 28210704-523-6108wedgewoodbaptist.comGivingCharlotte Gay andLesbian Fund704-973-4500fftc.org/Page.aspx?pid=953Southern Country CharlotteQueen City Stompsoutherncountrycharlotte.comWesley ManciniFoundation704-375-4275, ext. 11HIV/AIDSCarolinas Care Partnership7510 E. Independence Blvd.Suite 105Charlotte, NC 28227704-531-2467carolinascare.orgHouse of Mercy701 Mercy Dr.Belmont, NC 28012704-825-4711thehouseofmercy.orgMecklenburg CountyDepartment of Health704-432-TEST (8378)Pozitively Speakingpozitivelyspeaking.comRegional AIDS Interfaith Network501 N. Tryon St.4th FloorCharlotte, NC 28237704-372-7246carolinarain.orgRosedale InfectiousDisease103 Commerce Centre Dr.Suite 103Huntersville, NC 28078704-948-8582rosedaleid.comSportsCarolina Softball Alliancecarolinasoftball.orgCharlotte Front Runnerscharlottefrontrunners.comCharlotte Nude Yogacharlottenudeyoga.comCharlotte Royals Rugbycharlotteroyals.orgQueen City Rollersfacebook.com/groups/41825881558/Queen City Tennis Clubqctc.orgSocial &SupportCarolina Bear Lodgecarolinabears.comCarolina TransgenderSocietycarolinatransgendersociety.comCharlotte Bearscharlottebears.comCharlotte Black Gay Pridecharlotteblackgaypride.comCharlotte Business Guild704-565-5075charlottebusinessguild.orgCharlotte Gender Alliancecharlottegenderalliance.infoCharlotte Tradesmencharlottetradesmen.orgChi Psi Omega Fraternitychipsiomegafraternity.orgPFLAG Charlottepflagcharlotte.orgPrime Timersprimetimersww.org/charlotte/Time Out Youth704-344-8335timeoutyouth.orgTransFaith In ColorConferencetransfaithincolor.orgStillOut LGBT Photography Clubstillout.orgResource listings courtesy:12 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

INFOCUSAdvocacy shapes political culturecontinued from page 10to a full vote of council. Advocatesat the time were unsure if they hadthe votes and a quieter strategywas proposed. In March 2010, CityManager Curt Walton announcedvia memo that he had amended his personnelpolicies to include “sexual orientation” in thecity’s non-discrimination practices. With narya substantial glance from local mainstreammedia, some community members didn’tknow about the change for weeks. Some cityemployees were also kept out of the loop.The behind-the-scenes maneuveringrankled many including this newspaper, whicheditorialized against the move and for a morepublic and proactive approach. Those who hadcome to expect a council vote pointed out thatsuch a public tally of elected officials’ supportwould have been an historic step for the city,which only once, in 1992, voted on, thoughultimately rejected, a gay-inclusive policy.The city’s lack of public, on-the-recordLGBT inclusion would take center stage insome activist circles when Democrats announcedthey would hold their 2012 conventionhere. Charlotte, trudging slowly along itsown path, ranked dead last when comparedto other past convention host cities and 2012finalists. Cities like Minneapolis, Cleveland, St.Louis, Los Angeles, Boston and Denver eachhad fully-LGBT-inclusive non-discriminationpolicies or ordinances. Most already haddomestic partner plans in place.North Carolina furniture-maker and philanthropistMitchell Gold was determined to holdelected officials’ feet to the fire. So, last June,Gold invited Foxx and a dozen local LGBT communityleaders, including this writer, to dinner.“The mayor had been calling me to supporthis election and the Democratic NationalConvention,” says Gold. “I took advantage ofthat opportunity. I said we can’t have this conventioncome to a city that doesn’t extend fullequality to LGBT people. [Foxx] was very openand willing to talk about it and have dinner.”Current MeckPAC Chair Scott Bishop,who was at the dinner with Foxx and Gold,says progressive changes were already ontheir way, though the DNC created a newsense of urgency.“I don’t think that dinner was primarilysparked by the DNC, but I don’t think that meetingwould have happened in that way and atthat time if the DNC were not coming,” he says.That night’s dinner served as a sort of rallyingpoint for those who attended. The challengehad been set. In the weeks following, representativesof a variety of organizations set out uponthe work needed to lobby council membersand secure the votes needed for fully-inclusiveordinances and domestic partner benefits.“The community really got together,” saysGold. “I was thrilled with all the people whocame to that dinner and then afterward takingthe ball and running with it. It says a lot aboutCharlotte and its leadership that they couldtake one dinner and make it into something.”Community members’ advocacy workwould continue on for the next year, evenin the face of an anti-LGBT constitutionalamendment threat. Meetings were set. Apoll was commissioned; conducted by theDurham, N.C.-based Public Policy Polling, itwas funded by a variety of private citizens andthe Denver, N.C., security risk mitigation firmThe Threadstone Group.The results were positive. Fifty-six percentof those Charlotte voters surveyed favored extendingdomestic partner benefits to employees’same-sex partners. An astonishing 83percent of those in favor of the benefits saidthey would support the use of taxpayer fundsto pay for the benefits extension.More meetings followed as citizens andcity employees alike shared the polling results,their personal stories and their desire tosee their city move forward. Finally, a strategyfor adopting the benefits was crafted andMeckPAC’s action alert was issued.On May 29, MeckPAC members, citizensand several LGBT and straight ally city, policeand fire department employees asked councilto approve their 2012-2013 budget completewith the included domestic partner benefits.The partner plan also garnered the public supportof the Charlotte Fire Fighters Association,a local affiliate of the AFL-CIO InternationalFire Fighters Association.On June 25, the years of advocacy workfinally paid off, as council approved theirnew budget and extended authority to CityManager Curt Walton to develop and implementa domestic partner benefits plan.“The city manager has supported thisfor a long time and I think it was a stroke ofgenius to just build it into the budget,” saysCouncilmember Patsy Kinsey (D-District 1).The decision not to hold a separate, up-ordownvote on the partner plan was strategic,says Bishop.“Not risking controversy was the rightdecision,” he says. “There are some policychanges you want enacted publicly in order toshed a light on a situation that is unjust. If thatwas our primary or only objective this time,we might have taken a different approach.What I had in mind was the people it wouldmost benefit and that was the city workers.Our strategy to get it enacted needed to havethat end in mind.”Others agree that it worked.“I think that sort of kept it out of thelimelight,” Kinsey says, noting the relativelylittle controversy stirred up by the proposedmeasure. “Some people would have liked aseparate vote, but I think the important partwas to get it passed.”Now that the measure is enacted, defendingthe new benefits from potential threatscaused by the recently-passed anti-LGBTamendment will take dedication and resolve.At press time, Charlotte and other municipaland county governments across the statewere awaiting an official advisory from NorthCarolina Attorney GeneralRoy Cooper.Councilmember JohnAutry (D-District 5) and LaWana Mayfield(D-District 3) have both said they’d be willing todefend the plan if legal challenges should arise.“We should stand up for what is right andjust and fair,” Autry says.Though policies and practices are becomingmore inclusive, Charlotte City Councilstill has yet to take a public vote on anLGBT-inclusive measure. MeckPAC SteeringCommittee member Roberta Dunn says a focuson strategy, rather than results, is misplaced.“There’s always a tremendous amountof effort behind the scenes to get everyoneto agree,” she says. “Going through thecity manager and adding [the domesticpartner plan] to the budget was a lot easier.Sometimes the path of least resistance is bestto get the job done. And, in reality there was amotion to exclude domestic partner benefits[in a budget meeting]. It never got a second.”If that motion had been seconded, Kinseysays the plan still would have passed.“We had the votes even if someone hadbeen able to pull it out,” she says. “We hadthe votes to make it happen. We knew we had[the mayor’s] support. The community cameforward and they did a phenomenal job talkingto council members and to the leadership ofthe community.”With protections for gay workers andpartner benefits complete, MeckPAC saysvote-counting, strategy-making and communityconversations must continue. More workis left, like employment non-discriminationprotections for transgender workers.Bishop expects future goals will comemore easily than in the past. The relationshipsbuilt over the past several years are strong.“What I’ve found is that each [elected official]is very open to meet with citizens and heartheir concerns,” he says.As a longtime city employee, Warshaurfinds the recent progress comforting. Moreopenly LGBT city employees are creating aculture change. Straight allies are speakingup. The city, he says, is moving forward.“The important thing for people toremember is that change takes time,” hesays. “People have worked on this for years.This has been a revolution. There will alwaysbe setbacks but we will continue to moveforward as we create a better society.”Years after the first volley toward localLGBT equality was made, Vetter, too, is relishingthe progressive momentum.“I don’t buy the whole ‘Charlotte is thebuckle of the Bible Belt’ bit,” she says.“Charlotte has many open-minded, progressivepeople. We might not march in the streetsor hold signs in city council meetings, butthere is growth and as we’re more open andout and we welcome more straight allies intoour movement, we will grow together.” : :July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 13

INFOCUSPlaying the field:Brits welcome RoyalsCharlotte Royals visit UK for international Bingham Cup tourney and rugby matchesby Jon Hoppel :: qnotes contributorThe Bingham Cup is the largest amateur internationalrugby tournament in the world. That’s right, in the world.And, this year, the Charlotte Royals joined in on the funand went to Manchester for a cold, wet weekend of rugby,camaraderie, brotherhood and Queen Elizabeth II’s diamondjubilee in jolly ol’ England.The biennial gay tournament has been held since 2002, whenSan Francisco hosted the first cup with a total of eight teamscompeting. In 2012, 39 teams, in three tiers, fought for their respectivetrophies. That’s 11 countries, three continents and 1,000players, coaches and supporters from all over the world.The Royals competed in the second tier of the tournament,made up of 16 teams with mostly moderate experience.Round-robin play began on Friday, June 1, with two 40-minuteround-robin games. That morning, Charlotte met five players,from the U.S., Denmark, Canada and Australia, who had beenassigned to them from the tournament’s board to give themsome substitutions for the three-day event. New players, newcountries — no problem.First up for Charlotte was Straffe Ketten (SK) from Belguim. Arelatively new team, SK provided a good opening game match upfor the Royals, looking to get their feet wet in their first internationalgame, let alone tournament. The game started a littlesluggishly, with both teams trying to get a feel for the other. Thenabout 10 minutes into the first half, the backs for Charlotte brokethrough after a couple of penalties lead to the flyhalf and captainof SK to be sent off with a yellow card. Less than a minute laterfullback, Phillip Butterfield slashed up field and scored on ahandoff from flyhalf Thomas Southerland. Then flood gatesopened, with Belgium not crossing midfield for the rest of thegame. At the end, the Royals walked away with a 26-0 win and abig boost of confidence for the rest of the tournament.Box Score: Butterfield (7 pts.), Southerland (5 pts.),Hoppel (14 pts.).Man of the Match: Jon HoppelNext up for Charlotte was the tier 2 tourney favorite, King’sCross B side of London. It was a much tougher test and it wouldtell whether the Royals’ first game performance was for real orjust a fluke. Both teams came out ready and played to a stalematethe first 10 minutes. Charlotte got on the board first with apenalty kick conversion from 35 meters out, 3-0. But right beforeFrom left to right: Coty Webb, Matt Soden, Zachary Anderson, and Thomas Southerlandmaking the tacklehalf, King’s Cross took control ofthe ball and pushed down fieldfor a long methodical drive thatended in a try. In the secondhalf, the teams traded scoringtries, leading to a 12-8 with 7minutes left in the game. TheRoyals gained momentum thelonger the game continued,but ran out of time before theycould score again and takethe game. It was a tough loss,but if any loss could give youconfidence heading into thenext match, it was one like that.A physical, hard-fought gameagainst one of the better gayrugby teams in the world thatcame down to the very endbefore it was decided.Box Score: Southerland (5pts.), Joseph Boswell (3 pts.).Man of the Match: Phillip ButterfieldDay two saw the Royals facing off against their third andfinal team from the round-robin section, the Newcastle Ravensfrom England. The top two teams, in each of the four groups,advanced to the winner’s division of the tournament. Thismeant Charlotte needed a win after going 1-1 the day before.Newcastle, coming off two losses, was playing for pride. And,that they did. Most of the game was spent in Newcastle’s halfof the field, but they were resolute in their defense and theRoyals couldn’t get on the board. The game went to half withthe teams tied at half, 0-0. Ten minutes in the second half,Charlotte finally got on the board with a try and then a penaltyconversion. That would prove to be all the Royals needed, winningtheir second game 8-0.Box Score: Coty Webb (5 pts.), Butterfield (3 pts.).Man of the Match: Coty Webb.Charlotte entered the elimination phase that afternoon asa number-two seed, after King’s Cross won the group withthree wins and earned the top spot. They drewLos Valents from Montpellier, France, the winnerof group two. This game would provide a differenttype of match for the Royals since the LCF played amuch more finesse/kicking style game rather thanthe rough, plodding style of the other Europeansquads. It took the Royals a little over half, to finallyfigure out how to attack the French team with atry coming from inside center, Zachary Anderson.When the final whistle blew, Charlotte had pulledout another 8-0 nailbiter, proving they can winclose games against high caliber competition.The next game in the semifinals, Sunday morning,the Royals would play the only team to beat them,King’s Cross.Box Score: Anderson (5 pts.), Butterfield (3 pts.).Man of the Match: Joseph BoswellSunday morning was a dreadful day weatherwise.Forty-degree weather and downpours ofFrom left to rightL Coty Webb and Alex Mauldinrain made for muddy fields and miserable conditions to playhigh caliber rugby. But, both King’s Cross and Charlotte wereready and played one of the best games of a long three-daytournament. King’s Cross had the early advantage — beingfrom the U.K., they were used to the weather. Unfortunately inCharlotte, the parks and recreation department forbid anyonefrom using their fields if there is even a drizzle, so most of theRoyals had never played in conditions like that. KC scoredin the first five minutes, making it 5-0. They continued to putthe pressure on the Royals, keeping the ball firmly planted inCharlotte’s end. But, the Royals showed tremendous heartand will in keeping the London squad out of the try zone, evenas they threatened on the door step, for a straight 10-minutestretch right before half.Both teams carried over their intensity of the first half,with game ebbing and flowing between both ends of thepitch. Players from each side were making game-savingtackles on nearly every play since one mistake in theserainy conditions could easily make a score. Finally, after38 minutes of playing to a stalemate, the King’s Cross teamwas able to put one more try up on the scoreboard, effectivelyputting the game out of reach. 10-0 was the finalscore, which meant the Royals ended their tournament inthird place. King’s Cross, who were the only team to scoreagainst Charlotte the entire tournament and was only scoredon by Charlotte, went on win tier 2 over the MelbourneChargers fairly easily 16-0.Man of Match: Phillip ButterfieldMan of the Tournament: Brian HenriksenAll in all, the Charlotte Royals exceeded all expectations,as did the tournament, and the city of Manchester. It was aphenomenal opportunity that led to earning the respect of ourfellow rugby players, bonding with others from around theworld over a great sport and representing the city of Charlotteto the best of their ability on the international stage. I am damnproud to have been a part of it. : :14 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

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NEWSPride Charlottecrowns its newqueen and kingThe Queen City has a new queenand king. Miss Pride Charlotte 2012London Dior was crowned at TheScorpio on July 11 after beating outthree other contestants. The nextnight, My’Kel Knight Addams wascrowned Mr. Pride Charlotte 2012.The pageants were hosted this yearby The Scorpio and Chasers. Theannual Pride Charlotte festival isslated this year for Saturday, Aug.25 and Sunday, Aug. 26. Learn moreat pridecharlotte.com.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 23

NEWSVideos highlightlocal hotspotsCollection of 30 videos meant to introduceCharlotte to Dem Convention visitorsby Matt Comer :: matt@goqnotes.comCHARLOTTE — Community members fromthree local production crews have unveiledtheir collection of 30 two-minute-long videosdocumenting the Charlotte region’s diversity,entrepreneurship and quality of life.The videos, available for viewing atcharlottein2012.com/charlotte/stories/, aremeant to highlight Charlotte’s uniqueness asthe Democratic National Convention preparesto roll into the Queen City this September.Three teams of two videographers workedtogether to create the videos. The teams includeCharlotte Video Project’s Scott Lazes andKevin Beaty, CLTBlog.com’s Justin Ruckmanand Matt Tyndall and Darling Media Group’sTonya Jameson and Lashawnda Becoats.Tracy Russ, marketing director for theCharlotte in 2012 Host Committee, said thevideos “showcase the culture of Charlotte.”Jameson, a former reporter for TheCharlotte Observer, told the daily newspaperthat she learned a great deal from the project.Working with the Latin American Women’sAssociation and their dance lessons in localschools was particularly memorable.“It’s an opportunity to highlight local peopleand individuals who are coming togetheroutside the typical media spotlight,” Jamesontold The Observer.Ruckman said he enjoyed profiling the localstartup scene, including an interview withIgor Jablokov of automated speech recognitiondeveloper Yap.“Third Places,” a highlight of local coffeeshops and other hang outs, is among the videoson currently available. The video profilesseveral LGBT-friendly hotspots across the cityincluding the South End and Plaza MidwoodCommon Markets, Caribou on East Blvd.,NoDa’s Amelie’s and Plaza Midwood’s CentralCoffee Co. Watch the video at goqnotes.com/15907/ or visit the Carolina Stories websitefor more. : :xuu on the DNCLaw enforcement agencies makesecurity preparationsAs the days draw ever closer to the DNC, law enforcement agenciesfrom the local to the national levels are taking steps to prepare forthe security the city will need to keep convention-goers, demonstrators,businesses and citizens safe.“The city is going to be open,” Charlotte-Mecklenburg Police ChiefRodney Monroe told the Charlotte Chamber in a video interview postedon YouTube. “There will be very few things that will be closed down. The closer you areto one of the venues [such as Bank of America Stadium or the Time Warner Cable Arena]expect some delays as it relates to going through checkpoints.”Monroe said he is asking all citizens for patience. “We’re going to facilitate everyone,”he said. “In some cases, it might take some time, but for most pedestrians that are movingabout they’ll see little-to-no affect.”Law enforcement agencies are also encouraging businesses in and around Uptown toundertake their own security measures, including keeping tabs on who is coming and goingfrom their buildings and premises.Overall, Monroe said he expects few problems and says Charlotte police are workinghard to make this year’s convention the best it can be.“First and foremost, this is our city,” he said. “A city we’re all very proud of.”You can watch Monroe’s full video interview on YouTube at youtu.be/Hn5gK3SaF-w.— Compiled by Matt Comer from press releases and other reports.Support your local LGBTmedia during the DemocraticNational ConventionBusinesses, non-profits and individualscan sponsor QNotes’ DNC coveragefor as little as $50.Learn more atgoqnotes.com/dncsponsor/24 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

NEWSFast and prayermeeting to precede DNCOrganizers say event meant to lead city,country back to Godby Michael Gordon :: mgordon@charlotteobserver.comIn what they call a nonpartisan, nonjudgmentaleffort to turn their city and countryback to God, a group of business and religiousleaders has called for a 40-day fast leading upto the Democratic National Convention thatwill culminate with a prayer meeting the nightbefore the convention begins.“Charlotte714,” is the brainstorm of brothersDavid and Jason Benham. It gets its namefrom Scripture: In 2 Chronicles 7:14, God sayshe will forgive hispeople’s sins and“heal their land” ifthey “shall humblethemselves, andpray, and seek myface, and turn fromtheir wicked ways.”At a July 10 press conference at VerizonAmphitheater, where the Sept. 2 prayer andmusic worship will take place, David Benhamsaid the Democrats, though they supportabortion rights and may add a same-sex marriageplank to their convention platform, arenot the target.Rather, he said, the convention offersorganizers a national stage for their message:that churches and individual Christians takepersonal responsibility for the “desperatefinancial, political and spiritual condition” of thecountry. Restoring the city’s and the country’srelationship with Jesus Christ, the Benhamssay, is the first step toward recovery.“We as Christians must admit that our nationis hemorrhaging morally and spiritually,”David Benham said. “Although blaming thepresident and either political party is the popularthing to do, Christians must understandthat the blame for the spiritual and moraldecay … rests solely on our shoulders.”About a dozen ministers and otherchurch leaders stood with the Benhams. Apress release lists about 20 congregations— including Hickory Grove Baptist, thecounty’s largest Protestant church — thathave agreed to take part.The fast is to begin July 25. It can takemany forms, David Benham said, withparticipants sacrificing anything from foodto, say, texting. The prayer service is open toresidents and convention visitors alike.The Benhams, both former professionalbaseball players, are the twin sons of FlipBenham, the controversial minister and antiabortionactivist headquartered in Concord.Benham Companies, which the brothersrun, specializes in foreclosure liquidations,real estate and financial consulting.According to its website, the businesses arerun from a Christian point of view.Their foundation, they say, is underwritingCharlotte714. According to the company website,the foundation is designed “to impact localcommunities and the world for the purposes ofProtecting Life, Rescuing the Abused, Feedingthe Hungry, and Loving the Afflicted.”Flip Benham is the national director of“Operation Save America.” Last year, he wasconvicted of stalking a Charlotte doctor. Hereportedly was part of a group that interruptedservices at St. Martin’s Episcopal Churchin Charlotte when openly gay Bishop GeneRoberts spoke there in February.An item on the Operation Save Americawebsite called for a three-day fast in earlyJuly “to prepare the way” for the Democraticconvention and what is later described as “itsculture of death.”Flip Benham also put this headline on hisrecent post about Charlotte714. “The DNC’sbiggest nightmare — North Carolina is turningto Christ.”“The DNC felt that it would be shoring up itsvictory in North Carolina by selecting Charlotteas its convention city. Big mistake!God is shaking North Carolina to itscore – turning it right-side-up in Jesus’magnificent name.”When asked by email if his fatherhad any role in Charlotte714, JasonBenham replied: “My dad is not involvedwith this event in any way otherthan supporting his sons in something Godhas called us to do.”Charlotte714 is one of several religiousevents that will take place while theDemocrats are in town.A national Muslim group plans to holda public midafternoon prayer in MarshallPark on the Friday before the convention.During the convention’s stay in Charlotte, theMuslims hope to hold a series of activitiesthroughout the city. : :— Originally published by The CharlotteObserver on July 10, 2012. Reprinted via theCharlotte News Alliance.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 25

LIFEHerb Cohen and José Fumero celebratelong, happy lifeMint Museum of Art celebrates underappreciated talentby Lawrence Toppman :: ltoppman@charlotteobserver.comThe white Hebrew letters march aroundthe rim of the elegant brown bowl in adeclaration never to be refuted: “I WillBe What I Will Be.”The ceramicist didn’t mean that as apersonal manifesto: It’s a slight alteration ofthe words Moses heard God speak from theburning bush. Yet “Sophisticated Surfaces:The Pottery of Herb Cohen” proves Cohenwas destined to produce the complex anddeceptively simple art in this seven-decaderetrospective at the Mint Museum of Art.And in a larger sense, Cohen has been destinedto spend the last 56 of those years withfellow artist José Augustín Fumero, while theirpersonal and professional lives intertwined likecolorful fibers in a Fumero painting.Together they worked in the 1960s and’70s at the Mint’s Golden Circle Theatre.Together they abandoned well-paying whitecollarjobs to bolt for Blowing Rock, committingthemselves to uncertain (if eventuallysuccessful) lives as artists. There, they helpedjump-start the Blowing Rock Art and HistoryMuseum, on whose board they still serve as“founders emeritus.”Together they returned to Charlottetwo years ago, filling a condominium inCotswold with pots and paintings andbonhomie. (An interview is likely to leadto lunch, perhaps with a Fumero pâté orhandmade Cohen ice cream.)And together, in their 80s, they havelaunched careers inspired by obstacles.A hand tremor prevents Cohen fromcontrolling clay on a wheel, so he builds uppieces by hand. (You’ll see a few in the Mintshow, through Jan. 8.) The design-orientedFumero, whose vision has deterioratedthroughout his life, aims to create a simple,multiple-use computer keyboard for peoplewho have similar conditions.They have distinct identities. Cohen isthe introvert who created subtle glazes andsays without false modesty that he’s not surehe merits a solo show at the Mint. Fumero isthe extrovert whose bold paintings grab yourlapels: His portrait of a nun, a work his friendscovet, reveals a woman who has guessedall your secrets. But you can understandwhy those friends almost speak of them as“HerbandJosé.”“I’ve often told them they’re my uncles ofchoice,” says June Watts-Mistry, who (withhusband Adi Mistry) has bought pieces byboth. “I didn’t have any real uncles I liked thatmuch. I have never heard Herb and José saya negative thing about another person, andthat makes them a joy to be around.“Their generosity is astounding in everyway, whether having people over for dinneror having an artist stop by for a critique. Itseems you can’t ask them anything and geta ‘no.’ ”Herb Cohen, left, and José Fumero in their condominium in Charlotte. On the wall are Fumero’s paintings‘Misty Mountains,’ left, and ‘Phoenix.’ On the table are pottery pieces of Cohen.Photo Credit: Deidra Laird, dlaird@charlotteobserver.comsee Couple on 2826 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

Ask Dr. C…HIV and healthcare adviceHelping to keep you in the know with up-to-date informationby Frederick Cruickshank ~ Medical DirectorAfter many installments of “Ask Dr. C,” this is yetanother opportunity to offer our readers informationabout HIV from basic questions to more in-depthexplanations. We are still receiving many of yourquestions and are working to provide responses toas many questions as possible to provide answers foryou and the community. The questions have providedus with a forum to debunk myths and remove stigmafrom those living with HIV and AIDS. It is important toeducate yourself, get tested and protect yourself. Weappreciate every question we receive! Dr. C looksforward to responding to as many emails as possible.I have heard there are some new hepatitisC drugs that may interfere with HIV medications,is this true?— Andrew from CharlotteAndrew, your question brings up an important issuewith two of the new hepatitis C drugs. Two drugs,Victrelis and Incivek, work as hepatitis C virusprotease inhibitors and are not recommended withsome HIV medications. The FDA and respectivepharmaceutical companies making the drugs haveannounced interactions between these hepatitis Cdrugs and some types of HIV treatments. Althoughthe FDA does not recommend patients who areco-infected with HIV and hepatitis C who are takingdrugs for both infections stop any of their medications,they do recommend patients consult their physicians.So, in answer to your question, yes the newhepatitis C drugs may interfere with some HIV drugs.The medications may work too well and causedamage to healthy cells or they my not work wellenough by allowing one or both viruses to remainunregulated. The only way to be sure if it is an issuewith your current treatment plan is to speak withyour health care provider. If you have any questionsregarding your medication plan, providers here atRosedale would be more than happy to set up anappointment to discuss the best plan of treatment forHIV and hepatitis C positive patients.Do all male condoms protect you from HIV,I have heard certain types may be less effectiveand I want to be sure I am protectingmyself.— -Rory from Mint HillRory, I am glad to hear you are doing everythingyou can to take control of your sexual health. This isa great question; all condoms are not created equaland it is important to know which it the most effective!Latex condoms can prevent HIV, while male condomsmade from natural animal materials have small poresthat can allow for HIV to be transmitted. Anotherimportant consideration when you are using condomsis the type of lubricant used. Water-based lubricantsshould always be used with latex condoms; oil-basedlubricants, like petroleum jelly, can lead to condomfailure by weakening the latex. Storing condoms ina cool, dry place can also help to prevent condomfailure. Although no method, other than sexualabstinence, is 100 percent effective against HIV andsexually transmitted infections (STIs), it is important toalways use a condom when engaging in any type ofsexual activity in order to reduce your risk. Finally, it isalso vital to make sure that both you and your partnerget tested for HIV and other STIs. Free, latex condomscan be received from your local health department,free clinic or here at Rosedale ID.There are so many HIV drugs offered,can you explain how the different drugswork?— Sarah from ConcordSarah, with all of the different drugs now available,HIV has become more manageable, but may beconfusing for patients. Treatment plans should bediscussed with a physician to determine what is bestfor each patient. The main goals of treatment are tolower the HIV viral count for as long as possible andto keep CD4 count as high as possible. Differentdrugs and combination of drugs will be more effectivefor some patients than others. Important factors yourdoctor may use to determine a treatment plan includeyour overall health, viral load, CD4 count, anyresistance to drugs your virus may have, medicationsyou’re currently taking and other medical conditionsyou may have. There are five classes of HIV drugs,each of which block a certain step in the life cycle ofthe virus. The first CCR5 co-receptor antagonist helpsto block HIV from entering CD4 cells; another, thefusion inhibitor, helps prevent HIV from fusing with theCD4 cells. Nucleoside and non-nucleoside reversetranscriptase inhibitor work to help to keep HIV fromchanging into a form that is able to harm humancells. Protease inhibitors (PIs) help to stop HIV frommaking more copies of itself that can then infect cells.The final type of drug is called integration inhibitorand helps prevent HIV from taking over the CD4’scell command center. Your doctor will prescribe acombination of different types of drugs to fight yourinfection the most effective way possible.Always remember that this is an advice columnbased on your questions and the best possibleknowledge out there. We need your questions tohelp educate the community, so email them to info@rosedaleid.com and be sure to include a first nameand location. All respondents will remain anonymous.We will try to do our best to answer, educated andinform from your responses to this column.Visit us at Facebook or our websiteat rosedaleid.com for updates on theconference.— Sponsored Content —July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 27

Couple overflowing with love, talentcontinued from page 26Of course, without one loud “No!” toconformity, Cohen and Fumero would not bewhere they are today.Different paths, one goalThe two men arrived in the South — andeach other’s lives — quite by accident, morethan half a century ago.Cohen, a pottery prodigy, commanded awheel at the famed Henry Street Settlementon Manhattan’s Lower East Side at age 6. (TheMint show includes sophisticated flour andsugar bowls he made for his mother at 9.)He graduated from Alfred University(home of the New York State College ofCeramics), served two years in Korea in theU.S. Army, got a master’s degree in ceramicsfrom Alfred and took a job designing piecesfor Hyalyn Porcelain Co. in Hickory.Fumero emigrated from Cuba with hisfamily just months before his fifth birthday andthe start of The Depression. They didn’t speakEnglish, so he was the family translator — “tomy benefit,” he laughingly recalls — afterlearning the language from movies, oftenhearing British actors who left a faint impressionon the accent he has today.He graduated from Cooper Union for theAdvancement of Science and Art in New Yorkand took a job designing car and airplanefabrics for Collins & Aikman, which sent himto its plant in Albemarle.“I thought ‘Where am I?’ ” he says. “Theyrolled up the streets at 6. But Spanish peopleate pork and rice and beans, and so didSoutherners.”A mutual friend introduced them in 1956.They were a couple at once. For about 15years, Fumero commuted 45 minutes a day,while Cohen joined the Mint’s staff: first as apart-time worker, then as exhibitions director— where he shined a light on the regionalpottery movement — and as acting director.Charlotte, more conservative then thannow, made the pair comfortable.“We were never flagrant, but we neverthought of (our relationship) as unusual,”says Fumero. Adds Cohen, “I came intocontact with the Belks and Iveys throughthe Mint, and José was always invited toevents with me. We were always thought ofas coming together.”But they weren’t comfortable in a worldwhere other creative people made mostof the art. So in 1972, they quit their jobssimultaneously and moved to Blowing Rock,to live on a property bought from painterPhilip Moose.A voyage into the void“We were a couple of middle-aged dropouts,”says Cohen, who was 40. “We didn’tstart from scratch: I had acquired a wheeland kiln. But we had to make a living throughour art.”Says Fumero, who was 47, “It was a hardchoice, but we couldn’t do both things at thesame time. I had always supported my family— my parents, my sister and her child — andwe were very close. Now I had to tell them,‘The golden goose has died.’ ”Herb CohenAge: 80Artistic debut: Making pottery atManhattan’s Henry Street Settlementat age 6. A Henry Street publicationyears later shows the 14-year-old Herbturning the wheel for a fascinated littlegirl with the caption, “He will become aceramic artist.”Most utilitarian job: Developing itemssold in gift markets and florists’ shopsfor Hyalyn Porcelain Company in mid-1950s. (He also designed ashtrays andlamp bases.)As his own toughest critic: “I look atall my pots and think, ‘If I did this overagain, I’d do it all differently.’ ”José FumeroAge: 87Artistic debut: In third grade, to avoidwriting a long report on Africa, hedrew the animals instead. His teacherencouraged him; after a false start inbusiness courses, he studied professionaldesign.Most utilitarian job: Designing seat fabricsfor Collins & Aikman. He sometimeshad to work three years ahead, yetsupply design decisions in one day. Heonce moved into a textile mill to showweavers how to work faster.As his own toughest critic: “When artistswork on something for a long time,they can’t see it anymore. If I leave apainting for a while and then come backto it, I see these glaring errors.”The Exhibit“Sophisticated Surfaces: The Pottery ofHerb Cohen” runs at the Mint Museumof Art, 2730 Randolph Rd., throughJan. 6.Hours: 10 a.m. to 9 p.m. Tuesdays,10 a.m. to 6 p.m. Wednesdays throughSaturdays, 1-5 p.m. Sunday.Admission: $10 ($8 college students andseniors 65 and older, $5 ages 5 to 17,free for children younger than 5 and 5-9p.m. Tuesdays.)Details: 704-337-2000 ormintmuseum.org.28 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

But they mined a different kind of gold.Cohen alternated between mainstays of thepotter’s trade, utilitarian mugs and plates, andmore elaborate bowls and intricate objectsmeant for display. Fumero painted and woveand created pieces realistic and fantastic.Their studios stood on a lane called ArtistsAlley; a staircase split the downstairs level,with Fumero’s workspace on the right andCohen’s on the left. (“We designed it so wewouldn’t get on each other’s nerves,” Cohenonce said.) Occasionally, they gave eachother advice.“Herbert would work on a design andsay, ‘This doesn’t look right,’ ” Fumero recalls.(Only he calls his partner Herbert. Cohenusually goes by Herb.) “I can see flat designsimmediately, much more quickly than I do inthree dimensions, so I’d say, ‘Maybe a repetitionof this pattern will work.’“Then I’d ask Herbert about my piece:‘Does this give you a sense of space?’ Andhe’d talk about lightening or darkening anarea to do that.”“I don’t know that they influenced thephysical ethic of each other’s work,” saysAmber Smith, the curatorial assistant whowrote the catalog to accompany the Mintexhibit. “It’s more how supportive they are ofeach other.”“They complement each other,” saysBrian Gallagher, the Mint’s curator of decorativearts. “José works in two dimensions,Herb in three. With the (Mint) Drama Guild,Herb worked behind the scenes; José wentonstage. José is outgoing; Herb’s private buteloquent.”Their fine work could sometimes beoverlooked. When Gallagher was planning theexhibit “A Thriving Tradition,” which openedin October and broadly covers 75 years ofNorth Carolina pottery, he expected only toborrow a few pieces from Cohen and Fumero.Better acquaintance with Cohen convincedGallagher he needed his own show.“Herb should have had a solo exhibitionlong before this,” Gallagher says. “His workhas an immediate appeal, whether you knowanything about pottery or not. But anotherpotter would marvel at the beautiful glazes,the time-consuming work of … making theincised lines in a bowl resemble a leaf.”Adds Smith, “Herb doesn’t talk about theway he affected other potters, but he did.Michael Sherrill, a wonderful ceramic artist,considers him an influence.” (Sherrill recallsin Smith’s catalog that his first exposure tocontemporary craft came when Cohen organizeda Mint show. Cohen later gave him hisfirst solo outing.)Looking to the futureIn their own quiet ways, both were just abit revolutionary. Cohen made his own glazes,exploiting a dark color palette from noble redsto rich umbers.Fumero had lost an eye as a teenagerand suffered a failed cataract operationon the other eye in his 80s. So he found anew way to paint: He scanned images intoPhotoshop, magnifying them to examinesmall portions. He painted these imageswith digital brushes, then painted themagain on canvas with acrylics or oils andhandheld brushes, keeping his face a footfrom the canvas.“I’m proud to have one of his last bigwoven pictures,” says Charlotte dermatologistJohn Thompson, who owns works by both.“It’s a double panel of Grandfather Mountain,called ‘The Ultimate Grandfather,’ and it’sa collage of multiple photographs he took,printed on strips and then wove together. I’dnever seen this technique before.“When José pulls out sketches he didmany years ago, they’re traditional. Theymake you think of … Toulouse-Lautrec, maybe.I think a lot of really good artists changeover time: They experiment with things, andhe has always done that.”Fumero says he “can’t see the pieces I’vepainted” anymore, including large, potentswaths of color hanging behind the couch.So he is working on that computer in hishome studio, trying to create a keyboard thatcan be operated with one hand by a visuallyimpaired person.And Cohen? He used to go through twotons of clay each year on the wheel and says,“During these last two years, when I haven’thad a studio — when I haven’t even had myhand in clay — I’ve felt guilty. But I took mytools over to Clayworks (on Monroe Road),and I look forward to getting into it. We can’tsee a time when we won’t make art.” : :— Originally published by The CharlotteObserver on July 13, 2012. Reprinted via theCharlotte News Alliance.qpollWhat neighborhood inCharlotte do you live in? Isit your favorite neighborhood?Which is? Why?Share your thoughts andopinions at goqnotes.com/to/qpoll/For the most up-to-datecoverage, visit us online atgoqnotes.comSupport yourlocal LGBTmedia duringthe DemocraticNationalConventionBusinesses,non-profits andindividualscan sponsor QNotes’DNC coveragefor as little as $50.Learn more atgoqnotes.com/dncsponsor/July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 29

A&Etell trinityby trinityqnotes contributorWhat helps grown-upsgrow upHey Trinity,I slept with my best friend’s partner. It justhappened! Now, the partner wants to do itagain and is being very persistent. Help!Caught In A TriangleMiami, FLHey Caught In A Triangle,Here’s a little tale called, “How Grown-UpsDeal with Life.” Grown-ups mess up, makebad investments and sometimes drive too fast.And, occasionally, they have an extramaritalaffair. But, grown-ups do one thing differentthan little children, they learn from theirmistakes! That’s what helps grown-ups, growup! So, darling, if a married person asks you tobe part of their extramarital affair, a one-wordanswer is all you need, “No!”Dearest Trinity,I really like this girl, so I call her and she callsme. But, then she says, “You sometimes calltoo much.” So, I stopped. And, then she says,“You don’t call enough!” What is too much ornot enough?ConfusedDetroit, MIDearest Confused,She sounds like an air sign to me. Alwaysremember, in relationships no one wins orloses, it’s about playing the game. The bestthing to do is follow your instincts, practicebeing secure in your thoughts, tell her sheconfuses you when she does, and don’tstart taking pills to control your anxiety. Oh,and lastly, pumpkin, never call when youhave nothing to say, you’re in a hurry orit’s very early in the morning. (Some reallysmart advice can be gathered when youtake a look at my cartoon.)Hello Trinity,I just started going to the gym with a newguy I started dating, but it seems like what Iwear is different than everyone else. I alsothink I’m being stared at. What’s up?Gym 101District of ColumbiaHello Gym 101,If you’re forgetting that styles change andwe must keep up with the times, then here’show to win. Sneakers, socks, shorts, or sweatpants and a T-shirt will fit you right in. Unlessthose socks are rolled up to your knees, (outof style since the ’90s), your T-shirt is morelike a muumuu (out of style since the ’80s),your shorts are way to tight (out of style sincethe ’70s), or you smell like a deodorant commercial(out of style since the ’60s). Got thepicture, honey?Dear Trinity,Now that I’m single once again, I find thathaving one-night stands is not so uncommon.But, I’m out of practice.Any ideas?One Night StandPlymouth, MADear One Night Stand,I haven’t experienced a one-night stand inyears, well, months, alright weeks. OK, it’sbeen at least two sunsets and a booze cruise.So, sweetie here are:Trinity’s Fast Tips ForBeing An ExcellentOne-Night Stand1. Be prepared for an overnight guest, just incase this one’s not like the rest.2. You may be “Romeo of the Night,” but,please, in the morning be just as polite!3. If at 12 a.m. you suddenly start a crush, at 2a.m. you may have to rush.4. Soft music, candles and a clean, comfortablebed promises more than a just peckon the forehead.5. If on their skin you must leave a mess, usea hot towel to wipe them off. They deservenothing less.6. Keeping lubricants, contraceptives andhand towels close by, leaves a lot moretime to moan and sigh.7. If caught with a screamer, a moaner oreven a yeller, use pillows, loud music ordo it in the cellar!8. If ever you’re thinking, “I’m not goodenough,” act proud, have fun, even fake itjust this once.9. If it’s late at night and she’s too drunk todrive, her safety and well being must bepart of your sex drive.10. When the bumping and grindinghas reached a home run,a little hugging and caressingmakes the evening muchmore fun. : :— With a Masters of Divinity,Reverend Trinity hosted“Spiritually Speaking” a weeklyradio drama performed globallyand is now minister ofWIG: Wild InspirationalGatherings.30 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012info:www.telltrinity.comTrinity@telltrinity.comSponsored by: WIG MinistriesGay Spirituality for the NextGeneration!www.wigministries.org

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Itwould be a shame to have your suitcase relaxing inRome while you cool your tootsies in Podunk.CAPRICORN (12.23-01.20) There is now anotherway to leave your lover — with lots of miscommunication.No matter how much you would like towax poetic and declare your love, it is best to letyour actions speak louder and prouder than yourwords. Pink Caps are apt to inadvertently say justthe thing to scuttle their love boat. Better keep allhands on deck…among other places.AQUARIUS (01.21-02.19) Ever politic Aqueerianscan come down with a case of foot-in-mouth.This will be especially true in any one-on-oneconversation that is intended to help solidify andstrengthen relationships. You are just not gettingyour point across. Nor are you listening. Perhapsthis is a good time to let things simmer quietly. Letit become a potboiler next month.PISCES (02.20-03.20) What a great time to catch upon backlogged projects! Guppies are infused withenergy and determination. However, as you tackleeverything with verve, you stray from your initialintent and wind up with results far different fromwhat you need or expect. Read all instructions,carefully listen to advice and take copious notesnow. Or, just relax and let things pile up.ARIES (03.21-04.20) One could say that you cannever have too much fun. Usually, that is true, buttoo much fun can indeed be too too much. GayRams pile so much on their plates that things beginto spill. Be discerning and enjoy in moderation,as difficult as that may be. Gluttony is often yourfall back position, but now you should savor onething at a time. And, no names please!TAURUS (04.21-05.21) Leave yourself plenty of “todo” reminders on sticky notes around the house.You may forget to do things. Queer Bulls find thattheir domestic agenda does not make sense (Soundfamiliar?). Confusion reigns and details get lost inthe general melee. The next couple of weeks willteach you to handle and harness an array of looseends. Loosey gets goosey, so don’t get cooked.GEMINI (05.22-06.21) You talking to me, pink Twins?Your more outrageous opinions are blasted acrossthe cyberspace. This may not be a bad thing. It canbring change and attention. But, will it have lastingpower? You can’t move a big boat on a gust of hotwind alone. Turn up the motor mouth and be surethat your propeller doesn’t get caught in a buoy…unless that is your thing. : :© 2012 Madam Lichtenstein, LLC.All Rights Reserved. Entertainment.info: Visit www.TheStarryEye.com fore-greetings, horoscopes and Pride jewelry.My book “HerScopes: A Guide To Astrology ForLesbians” from Simon & Schuster is available atbookstores and major booksites.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 31

LIFE20 QuestionsDavid Stout, Charlotteby David Stout :: david@goqnotes.comSince I started this column, a few regularreaders (hush your mouth, they exist!) haveasked me when I plan to feature myself. I’mreally not one to demand attentio…Hey! Sitdown, sister! You’re blocking my spotlight! …Like I was saying, I’m most comfortable behindthe scenes, but if this is something my adoringfans want, how can I say no? I’m a peoplepleaser. Plus, this is column number 13, somaybe the time has come. Okay, fine, I’ll doit. Keep reading, dear reader, while I bare mynaked soul.Do you like candy corn?I can eat it, but it’s waaay down on the candylist for me — somewhere between wax lipsand marshmallow peeps.What type of underwear do you have onright now?I’m not wearing any. I always go commandounless there’s a specific reason not to.If your life was a TV show would it be asitcom or a drama?My life is a Mexican telenovela. Where’s thatoption?What variety of bug freaks you out the most?Centipedes! I stayed in a cheap motel onceand found one in thebed with me. I’ve hatedthem ever since.Are you accomplishedat any form of skating?No. I’ve never evenworn a pair of iceskates, so that’sdefinitely out. I owneda skateboard as a kidand roller blades inmy 20s, but was neverbetter than passablewith either.Photo Credit: Peephole Photographers32 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

How do these films rank based on the numberof times you’ve seen them:“Carrie,” “Misery,” “The Shining,”“Stand By Me”?I love Stephen King, so I’ve seen them all,probably in this order based on number ofviewings: “Stand By Me,” “The Shining,”“Carrie” and then “Misery.”Have you ever shaved your body?I’ve never shaved my arms and legs, but Ikeep my chest and pubic hair shaved all thetime. I don’t have much, so it’s pretty easy.What’s your earliest memory?I can recall fragments of my third birthdayparty. I got a red bowling set that had aplastic grapefruit-sized ball and five pins.I have no memories of ever playing with it,however.Do you know which color family puce is in?No. I know it’s a color, but have no idea whatit looks like.What is your all-time favorite video game?It’s probably Galaga, with Donkey Kong as aclose second.Which cartoon boss would you leastlike to work for: Mr. Slate, Mr. Spacely orMr. Burns?The dinosaurs do the real work at the quarry,so Mr. Slate shouldn’t be too hard to please.Mr. Spacely apparently pays his employees topush buttons all day, so that’s not bad either. Iguess that leaves Mr. Burns.How many albums do you own by MichaelJackson, Madonna and Prince, addedtogether?Collectively, 57 — 6 by Michael Jackson, 14 byMadonna and 37 by my all-time fave Prince.What household appliance do you own thatyou’ve never used?I have a very nice juicer that I’ve never evenplugged in. If I pulled it out from the back ofthe pantry, I might think to use it sometime.Can you still sing your school song from highschool?Hang on…Yep, still know every word.What is your favorite song that has a person’sname in the title?I can think of several great tracks that fit —“Oh Sherrie” and “Sister Christian” amongthem — but I’ll go with “Darling Nikki.”Which reality show would you most like tobe part of?“American Ninja Warrior.” The athleticism ofthe guys who compete on the show is insane.I’d love to get a crack at the course and seehow I do.Do you know how to dip snap?Growing up, I had a redneck neighbor whodid it all the time, so I basically know how it’sdone, but I can’t do it.Ketchup, mustard or mayonnaise?I don’t like mayo, so it’s out. I love mustard,but don’t eat many things that call for it. Onthe other hand, I use ketchup all the time, soit wins.Who is the sexiest “Ryan” of all time?OMG, how does one choose between RyanReynolds and Ryan Gosling? Oh, I know…theycan flip me for it!Have you ever visited a nude beach?No, but I’ve been to a naked Christmas party.Does that make me a Ho Ho Ho?— – — – — – — – — – — – — – — –We want you to be the subject of a future “20Questions.” If you’re interested, send yourname, city and a few sentences about yourselfto editor2@goqnotes.com. You’ll be askedto supply a photo of yourself suitable forpublication later in the process. If you’d like tosee a particular person featured here or havequestions for us to use, drop us an email.July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012 qnotes 33

LIFENew Orleans prepares forDecadenceLess than two months from now the streets of old NewOrleans’ French Quarter will be full of happy revelers celebratingthe craziness that comes with each year’s Southern Decadence.Bourbon Pub & Parade, a New Orleans landmark named oneof the world’s Top 10 Gay Bars and Clubs by GayTravel.com, is atthe epicenter of the Labor Day Weekend excursion, slated thisyear for Wednesday, Aug. 29 through Monday, Sept. 3.The annual “Gay Mardi Gras” is a draw for people across thecountry and world, including folks like Kannapolis’ Tony Baker.“It’s one of the best parties in New Orleans, other thanMardi Gras,” Baker says. “The men, music and awesome foodmake for a great weekend. I have been three times and had ablast each and every time.”In standard fare, Bourbon Pub & Parade will be offeringweekend passes and VIP passes.The tickets, affordably priced between$60 and $100, are alreadyon sale at bourbonpub.com.For more information aboutSouthern Decadence or BourbonPub events and offerings,visit southerndecadence.net andbourbonpub.com.— Matt Comer34 qnotes July 21-Aug. 3 . 2012

Crape Myrtle Grand GalaJuly 28 • Raleigh32nd Annual Crape Myrtle Fest GalaThe Crape Myrtle Fest hosts their gala with silent auction, heavy hor’s d’oeurves and more at the MemorialAuditorium Lobby, Progress Energy Center, 2 E. South St. Tickets are $25 in advance online at crapemyrtlefest.organd $30 at the door. Student tickets are $20. Proceeds from the annual event benefit local HIV/AIDS and LGBT communityorganizations.QJuly 19-22 • CharlotteCharlotte Black Gay PrideAnnual celebration at various venues acrossthe Queen City. Festivities include a town hall,reception and workshops. For more information,visit charlotteblackgaypride.com.July 20 • RaleighHIV educationCrape Myrtle Festival, Gilead Sciences andthe LGBT Center of Raleigh’s Gay & GrayInitiative offer an educational program on HIVand aging. Discussion topics include treatingHIV as a manageable chronic disease andhow care providers can integrate care foraging populations. 11 a.m.-Noon. Free.919-832-4484. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.July 20 • RaleighSingles MixerThe LGBT Center of Raleigh presents “Singleand the City,” a non-intimidating, comfortablesocial mixer and networking event with adultand non-adult beverages, snacks and mingling.Be prepared for social ice-breakers! LGBTCenter of Raleigh, 411 Hillsborough St. 8-10 p.m.919-832-4484. lgbtcenterofraleigh.com.July 20-29 • Winston-Salem‘Spring Awakening’The Winston-Salem Theatre Alliance presents2007 Tony Award winner for Best Musical,“Spring Awakening,” a classic coming-of-agetale intertwined with themes of adolescentsexuality, teen pregnancy, abortion andtrauma. Features full-frontal nudity; 18 and uponly. 1047 W. Northwest Blvd. Various Times.$14-$16. 800-838-3006. wstheatrealliance.org.July 25 • Chapel HillTrans Discussion GroupA twice-monthly meeting for people whoidentify as transgender, gender-queer orgender-questioning, co-hosted by the NCHarm Reduction Coalition and InternationalistBooks, 405 W. Franklin St. 8-10 p.m. Free.919-370-0671. nchrc.org.July 26-29 • RaleighTriangle Black Gay PrideAnnual celebration across the Triangle areawith event venues in Raleigh and Chapel Hill,including receptions, workshops, communityexp and more. For more information, visittriangleblackpride.org.July 27 • CharlotteCommunity Law WorkshopJoin the Coalition for Southern Equality for afree legal workshop about what AmendmentOne does and doesn’t mean now that it’s goneinto effect. Led by Asheville attorneys DianeWalton and Meghann Burke and Charlotte’sConnie Vetter. Free childcare provided.ReBirth Church Charlotte/MCC Charlotte, 1825Eastway Dr. Free. southernequality.org.Aug. 11 • Winston-SalemFilm ScreeningOUT at the Movies Winston-Salempresents the German film “Echte Kerle”(“Regular Guys”). German with Englishsubtitles. Admission is $5. Proceedsbenefit the UNC School of Arts’ School ofFilmmaking. ACE Theatre Complex, 1533 S.Main St. 336-918-0902.outatthemovieswinston.org.Aug. 9-12 • CharlottenuVoices play festivalActor’s Theatre of Charlotte presents itsinaugural New Play Festival, nuVoices for anuGeneration, showcasing four new playswith each receiving two staged readings.Submitting an event for inclusion in our calendarhas never been easier:visit goqnotes.com/qguide/events/submitProductions include “Summer on Fire” byMike Bencivenga, “Cygnus” by Susan SoonHe Stanton, “Narrow Daylight” by SevanKaloustian Greene and “Scenes of DreamsBar and Grill, NoLa” by James Marlow.Tickets currently on sale via 704-342-2251, ext.21, or online at actorstheatrecharlotte.org.Actor’s Theatre of Charlotte, 650 E. StonewallSt. Various times. $10 per performance.Aug. 16-25 • CharlotteHonest Abe get his groove onQueen City Theatre Company presents Aaroneventsgoqnotes.com/qguide/eventsLoeb’s comedy, “Abraham Lincoln’s Big, GayDance Party.” The production follows Illinoisschoolteacher Harmony Green after she tellsher fourth-grade class that Menard County’smost famous native, Abraham Lincoln, wasgay. Tickets on sale soon at queencitytheatre.com.Performance times and locationsto be announced.Register to win a pair of tickets toDralion by Cirque du SoleilCirque du Soleil will present Dralion in Raleigh from Aug. 15-19, 2012.QNotes has partnered with the PNC Arena to give away a PAIR of FREE tickets to ourreaders. Fill out the ticket giveaway submission form below and mail it back to usto enter for your chance to win two, free tickets to the show. All entries must bepostmarked by Aug. 3, 2012. Winners will be notified by email and/or phone.Just complete the form below and mail to: QNotes. PO Box 221841. Charlotte, NC 28222.______________________________________________________name:______________________________________________________address:______________________________________________________city: state: zip:______________________________________________________phone______________________________________________________email address______________________________________________________Win FREE tickets to seeKathy Griffin in DurhamComedian Kathy Griffin will perform in Durham during the N.C. Gay & LesbianFilm Festival on Aug. 10, 2012. qnotes has partnered with the Durham PerformingArts Center to give away FIVE pairs of FREE tickets to our readers. Fill out the ticketgiveaway submission form below and mail it back to us to enter for your chance towin two, free tickets to the show. All entries must be postmarked by Aug. 1, 2012.Winners will be notified by email and/or phone.Just complete the form below and mail to: QNotes. PO Box 221841. 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