The Final Countdown… A Guide for Parents

PREPARING FOR THEIR HOMECOMING
Adjust your expectations
Ask your spouse what he/she wishes upon his/her return to Canada. You may have an idea of what you would like to do; however, your
spouse will also have some expectations regarding his/her return home. We will look at the importance of communication and how to
tackle this topic. For some spouses they will be exhausted and want to be alone; however for others it may not bother them as much.
It is important to keep the time change in mind as it can contribute to the stress.
The most effective way to alleviate unrealistic expectations is to talk to your spouse about how he/she is feeling.
Be patient
Upon the return of a deployed family member they may require a period of adjustment. Similar to when they left there will be a period
of change within the family. This adjustment period may vary from a few weeks to a few months, each family is unique with how they
adapt.
If you are having a difficult time adjusting there are experts available to assist you. You can find all the contact information in the
appendix.
How to Relearn to Function as a Family
It is important to recognize the changes in your families routine when your spouse was deployed and upon their arrival home. The
deployed family member will experience a period of adjustment while relearning the new schedule and routine of the family. This
adjustment will take time and patience.
In addition, it is also important to remember that when your spouse returns home, he/she has experienced some very difficult living
conditions and situations and it can cause added stress. It is very important to be patient with all family members.
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