Upbringing of Children

name which was my right, but my father did not discharge his
responsibility towards me.
“The third is the right of religious education, which they did not give
me at all. Now whatever decision you give, I will accept it."
At this `Umar t said to the boy’s father: "You, first of all, have been
neglectful regarding the boy's rights which you did not discharge and
now you tell me that your son does not obey you. Get out! It is you who
has been disobedient and oppressive."
From the stance taken by `Umar t and the truth spoken by him, one
can see that it is an imperative duty for the parent to prepare for a child
by considering the child’s rights prior to having a child. The stance that
many people take saying that they will end all their bad traits when
they become parents is wrong and may also be a massive compromise
in regards to the child’s upbringing.
At The Time Of Sexual Intercourse
Ras[lull\h r has said:
‘Whenever any of you makes love with his wife (i.e. before he starts), he
should say:
ALLHUMMA JANNIBNASH-SHAY£NA
WA JANNIBISH-SHAY£NA M RAZAKTAN
O All\h! Do not give Shay{\n a share
in what You have bestowed upon us.’
Shay{\n will not be able to harm any child conceived from this union.'
al-Bukh\r|
It is advisable that the wife too makes this du`\’.
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