Marriage - A Form of Ibadah

sought in a manner that portrays dislike of the in-laws. In the majority
of cases, it is best if couples do separate their residence from parents,
but on good terms.
THE ETIQUETTES OF MUSLIM SEXUAL BEHAVIOUR
Ras[lull\h r is reported to have said, ‘Do not have intercourse with
your wife until she is as aroused as you are,’ and explained that this was
to be achieved through ‘kissing, fondling and caressing her.’
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Ras[lull\h r has stated, ‘In the fulfilling of your sexual desires there is a
]adaqah (i.e. the reward of charity).’
The %a#\bah y (surprised) asked, ‘Is one of us to come to his lusts and
have a reward in it?’
Ras[lull\h r replied, ‘Tell me, if he were to place his lusts in *ar\m
would he be sinful? So accordingly, when he places his urges in *al\l
there is for him a reward in it.'
M u s l i m
ETIQUETTES OF THE FIRST NIGHT
With the arrival of the bride at her husband's home, both will meet for
the first time. This should be at the husband's own residence or that of a
very close sensible relative. There is no need for expensive hotels and
pocket breaking holidays, as this is unnecessary and extravagant.
If one does wish to go some place, acknowledging and upholding
Shar`| limitations then it is not wrong. Here Shar`| limitation not only
covers expenses involved (that they be reasonable), but also the
appropriateness of the chosen venue/destination.
`ISH¬’ %AL¬H AND THANKING ALL¬H I
`Ish\’ %al\h and, according to the *anaf| madh-hab, Witr are both
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