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26<br />
Talking to Mom<br />
About an Assisted<br />
Living Residence<br />
Chuck Bongiovanni, MSW, MBA, CSA- CarePatrol<br />
Talking to Mom About Assisted Living<br />
Very few seniors want to leave the homes where<br />
they may have been living for decades, but as their<br />
age advances, the necessity of doing so may increase<br />
until the issue can no longer be ignored. Household<br />
matriarchs may be extremely reluctant to leave<br />
the family home and all of its associated memories.<br />
However, when it is time to have that heartfelt talk<br />
with mom, a few words of advice can help to alleviate<br />
any difficulties.<br />
Consider the Need<br />
The first step in talking to mom about a possible<br />
move to an assisted living residence, is to consider the<br />
need for it. Make a list of the pros and cons associated<br />
with moving. If the advantages are overwhelming,<br />
then the talk cannot be avoided. However, it is also<br />
necessary to consider what type of facility is required.<br />
Large, apartment-type buildings may be ideal,<br />
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but small, family-based facilities and nursing homes<br />
should also be considered.<br />
Ease Into the Topic<br />
Before initiating a deep discussion, it is helpful to<br />
nonchalantly bring up the idea a few times several<br />
months beforehand. This can take the form of a simple<br />
mention of other options after mom has experienced<br />
a difficult situation, but you will want to wait a day or<br />
two after an incident occurs.<br />
Timing is Important<br />
The best time to talk to mom about assisted living is<br />
when she is comfortable and her mind naturally takes<br />
her to some of the factors that are making her life sad,<br />
difficult or lonely. Gently bringing up the topic at such<br />
a time may be received as practical advice instead of<br />
as an attack.<br />
Discussion Ideas<br />
The discussion about moving may be helped by<br />
gathering information about her friends, who are<br />
already living in an assisted living community. Mom<br />
will be more open about visiting a community, where<br />
she will have one or more instant friends.<br />
Other topics, which may help in the discussion,<br />
include reviewing the safety features of the assisted<br />
living community and engaging her in discussing the<br />
ease of upkeep to the living spaces, the level of privacy<br />
in personal quarters, and the daily social activities<br />
available in the pubic areas.<br />
Finally, give mom some time to consider the information<br />
you have given to her. If she is still reluctant<br />
after a few days, ask for help from friends and family<br />
members.<br />
If the incidents prompting a discussion regarding<br />
assisted living are severe or if they occur frequently,<br />
a simple mention should be upgraded to touring a<br />
facility. In non-emergency situations, you can take<br />
no for an answer the first few times.<br />
Jane Hart, CSA . janeh@carepatrol.com . 912-438-1036 (mobile)