Day 21 Write Your Own Eulogy It’s something all of us have imagined at one time or another. What would it be like to die and attend our own funeral? Who would be there? How many people would come? Will the woman who spurned our love be devastated and finally realize how great we were? Will someone you thought you were close with be surprisingly composed? And of course the thing we wonder about most is this: What will people say about me? What will people remember about my life and how I treated them? How will I be eulogized? Today we’re going to take these imagined musings one step farther. We’re going to write our own eulogies. It may at first blush sound a little morbid, but we all must confront our mortality from time to time. Our society does a bang up job of hiding death from our view and many of us live in a state of denial about the fact that we’ll one day be pushing up daisies. But we all will. Acknowledging this fact can help us concentrate on living each day with purpose. Even if we live until we’re 90, that day will arrive faster they we can imagine. Life is short: carpe diem! How to Write Your Own Eulogy Of course you can’t come up with your own eulogy without knowing how to write one in general. Many of us probably don’t have much or any experience in eulogy writing. So let’s go over some basic guidelines. There are several different formats a eulogy can take, and were we writing a real eulogy, you would want to take some time to come up with memories and humorous stories to weave into your speech. But for our purposes today, we’re going to keep our DIY eulogies simple and straightforward.
30 Days to a better man The easiest kind of eulogy to write is a “chronological eulogy.” Basically your start from the beginning of the person’s life, and give a run down of where they lived, their education, marriage, family, kids, career, accomplishments, and so on. Here’s how to get started: Step 1: Write an outline. Sit down and imagine that you lived until you were 90 and then passed away. Now picture what you did during your 9 decades of life. Where you lived, who you loved, how you acted. This is your life as you hope to have lived it. Jot down some “memories” of yourself in answer to the following questions. • Where did you live? Did you stay in the town you were born in? Did you live in a far-flung land? Did you move every few years? Where did you retire? • What were you hobbies? What did you enjoy doing in your 20s and 30s? What did you enjoy doing with your family? What kept you busy in retirement? • What kind of relationships did you have? Did you get married? How many kids did you have? How many friends did you have? Many? A few really good ones? • Where did you go to school? What did you study? • What did you do for work? Did you stay with one company or job your whole life or did you change careers many times? • Did you win any awards or accomplish any noteworthy feats? • What was most memorable about you? Your zany sense of humor? Your delicious cooking? Your insatiable love for adventure? Your passion for the outdoors? Your unshakable faith? • What was it about you that people admired most? Your unwavering loyalty to your friends? Your honesty? Your work ethic? Your love for you family? Your patience? Your leadership? 132