Durham Chronicle Volume XLIV, Issue 11
8 The Chronicle April 10 - 16, 2018 chronicle.durhamcollege.ca Advice Balancing school and relationships can be very challenging but there's a way to make it work Sound Advice The Chronicle and campus experts answer your questions on student-related issues. Life Falling Apart has a problem with relationships and social life. Student counsellor Jennifer Kavanaugh says: The topic of relationships are difficult and complex as there is no one-quick fix which speaks to the complexity of relationships, regardless of the type of relationship. Each person brings into a relationship their own experience and their own emotion. The safest way to experience healthy relationships is that BOTH people have an open and respectful dialogue which means communication. This requires dropping personal walls and allowing vulnerability to be part of the relationship because of course there is vulnerability when we are talking about human emotion. As I said, it is very complex and not every relationship is healthy. The most important relationship a person will ever have is the relationship with oneself. When a person is comfortable and confident in their own truth and self, the better they can communicate with another person but also the better they can recognize what is a healthy relationship and when to exit an unhealthy relationship. To focus specifically on how to communicate in healthy relationships it is about allowing yourself to listen to the other person and be respectful of where they are coming from because a relationship is a two-way street: being open to speaking your truth in a respectful way. It is important to always acknowledge another person’s feelings, they and you are entitled to your feeling because there is no feeling that is wrong rather it is what you do with that feeling that becomes destructive or healthy. Knowing that each relationship consists of at least two people you want to be able to identify what role you play when there is a problem and acknowledge that. In summary, to a complex issue, is that to maintain a healthy relationship communication is a key factor. In a time when so much happens online I challenge you to keep your problems out of the social media and texting but rather arrange to connect with an individual face to face. Durham College Journalism Student says: My advice to you is relationships can be the best, and it’s rare for them to never at one time or another feel like the worst. Having a girlfriend or boyfriend can easily send a whoosh of irreplaceable happiness. You’ll feel like you have your whole future planned out, a future of embracement and a family so when something comes up that wrinkles that relationship, you’ll probably feel angry at the world. You might even think love is garbage. You might worry every time you think about anything even closely related to your ex, you’ll dive all over again into the depression. You might feel advice can’t fix a bruised relationship. As for family relationships, I’ve been through several instances where I feel my parents don’t understand me, or keep giving me advice on everything like I don’t know 2 from 8. Sometimes I feel like no one is worth trusting with information and I should live under a rock. If you let your family know you feel your relationship with them isn’t going right, they might try to make things better for you. If you have a relationship problem that’s very severe, I can’t tell you if it will get better or not. I would take some time to relax. Sleep in if you can. Make your favourite hot drink and watch some TV. As for problems with your social life, I’d do one of two things. One is don’t worry. If you’re the nice person you are, the friends you have won’t leave you, and they’ll still talk to you. They just might be too busy at the moment. Two is maybe you could have them over for a visit. You wouldn’t have to have an all-out party with beer and, well, you know. And even if most can’t make it, some will. It’s not unusual. If they’re your real friends, they won’t abandon you. Desired to Have a Say is stressing about things he has no control over. Melissa Bosomworth, Durham College Wellness Coach says: It is very stressful being in a situation where you feel you don’t have any control. However, you always have choices about how you manage yourself during that time. For example, we can’t control when it rains and may need to be standing at the bus stop when it is pouring. But we have many choices we can make about this situation. We can use an umbrella, bring a change of clothes, ask a friend if they can drive us, rearrange our plans/ schedule and many other options. Even when we feel the most stuck in the most difficult situations, we get to choose our response to it. Take some quiet time to reflect on the situation and see what you can do to make it feel less stressful for you. It is important to remember that you can always choose if you will react to a situation, or if you want to use your internal resources to respond to it in the way that feels best for you. No one should ever feel that they are being controlled by another person and that their voice is not heard. If you find yourself feeling that you don’t have options or that you unable to reduce your stress of a situation, it is important to reach out for help. You are always welcome to explore this more with a Wellness Coach in SW116. Durham College Journalism Student says: I understand that kind of stress. When I feel like something could be better or is simply not working for me and according to everyone else I can’t do anything about it, the world feels unfair. I would suggest thinking more about the things you do have control over. If you feel like something really is unfair, then you could talk to a family member or teacher who you know would give you support. Many people feel letting out their anger to someone else can prevent it from bottling up.
Campus chronicle.durhamcollege.ca April 10 - 16, 2018 The Chronicle 9 What's happening with E.P. Taylor’s? Pub on campus closed last year could re-open in September of 2018 Shana Fillatrau and John Cook The Chronicle Durham College’s once popular on-campus pub, E.P. Taylor’s, is closed and the small cafeteria beside it isn’t operational either. The pub closed last year but students are still paying for a half-empty building. Barbara MacCheyne, chief financial officer at Durham College, says the college provides DC Students Inc. (DCSI) with two allocations of money. The first is meant for the health plan, and the second goes towards operational costs. In previous years, the student union would use some of that money to pay on the mortgage, but now DCSI and the UOIT Student Union (USU) pay the school to rent their offices in the upstairs of the building. “Recently, with the new arrangement, they’re paying a lease cost,” she says. Students are charged $60.01 yearly to go towards the student centre. They also have to pay $95.45 for DCSI. Some of these funds go towards leasing their space in the student centre. Compounding the issue, students also find it a mystery as to why E.P. Taylor’s is still closed. “E.P. Taylor’s closed” is a top search when you type the pub’s name into Google. “E.P. Taylor’s, as it was in its previous life, no longer exists,” says MacCheyne. The last person to run E.P. Taylor’s, MacCheyne says, was the previous DC-UOIT Student Association. The ban started making us lose money. MacCheyne says there were issues with the liquor license, so there was a provision on the license that stipulated how much liquor was served and how it was served. For instance, pitchers of beer The sign for on-campus pub, E.P. Taylor's, on the Student Centre. were no longer sold, so bottled and canned beer was sold instead. MacCheyne says her understanding is that when Durham College and UOIT split into two student unions, neither party wanted to take on the pub and small cafeteria. In recent years, E.P. Taylor’s was losing money, she says. The pub wasn’t profitable and the new unions didn’t want to take on a “deficit organization given they were so new,” she says. “That may change as time goes on.” MacCheyne says she isn’t surprised the pub wasn’t making money. “It is very difficult to earn money on a restaurant type business. There isn’t a lot of profit in that usually.” The college is also looking to redesign the space to make it more “loungey” for students, rather than looking like a restaurant. “Somewhere where the students can sit down, touch down and study. Bringing back the pool tables and the gaming so that students have somewhere where they can socialize,” says MacCheyne. The college also wants somewhere for events to be held, like a “party room,” she says. MacCheyne says the pub and grill may be open by September of 2018. Jennifer McHugh, DCSI’s general manager, says, “there’s a big element of E.P. Taylor’s not being in production that is missing.” McHugh looks after DCSI’s operations, including the student health plan, Riot Radio, Outreach Services and office management. She also works with the student executives transition team and the financial controller. She started in October of last year. McHugh says the building will likely be undergoing renovations in two or three years. “We want the student centre to be for students,” she says. Like MacCheyne, she hopes there will be some type of restaurant or pub in place by this fall. McHugh wants to tell students that “we understand and we hear you. We want it too.” A source connected to the previous student association said the liquor license was suspended before Photograph by Shana Fillatrau he got involved. “Yeah, so that’s why everything was served in cans,” he says. He says liquor sales were checked to ensure the SA was following the rules. He speculated the restrictions may have to do with a case of a student dying at a different post-secondary pub in previous years, so the restrictions became tougher on school bars like E.P. Taylor’s. He also says a student came to E.P. Taylor’s already intoxicated, passed out at the pub and that “slapped us with a ban for a few years.” At the time, there were other competitors around, says the source, ones who could serve draft beer. “The ban started making us lose money.” He says the ban was supposed to be lifted in August of 2016, and then they had to reapply. He left before any decisions were made. It was important for the pub to make money. “We’re accountable to the students. We don’t want to lose money,” he says. How does the sun shine on Durham, UOIT and Oshawa? Aly Beach and Cassidy McMullen The Chronicle The president of Durham College hasn’t had a raise in five years, yet he is the highest paid employee at the school. Don Lovisa made $277,323.96 in 2017 – the exact number he made on in 2013. The financials are released by the Ontario government on its public salary disclosure list, commonly known as the Sunshine list. Lovisa is the only employee in Durham College to earn $200,000 or more annually. The Sunshine list contains the names, positions and income of top earners in the Ontario public sector who make more than $100,000. There were 108 employees at Durham College on the Sunshine list in 2017, which is almost a 50 per cent decrease from 2016, when 217 employees were on it. One reason for the drop was the faculty strike last fall in which many employees went five weeks without regular pay. At the University of Ontario of Technology (UOIT), 2017’s top earner was former president and vice chancellor, Timothy McTiernan, who made $323.455.96. Mc- Tiernan stepped down from his post earlier this month and was replaced by Dr. Steven Murphy. UOIT had 236 employees on the Sunshine list in 2017. Among the educational, municipal government and public health sectors, the highest paid employee in 2017 was Matthew Anderson, CEO of Lakeridge Health, with an income of $491,755.90. Here are some of Durham Region’s top entries on the Sunshine list in 2017 with comparable numbers from five years ago, on the 2013 Sunshine list: Region of Durham • Chief Administrative Officer (CAO) Gary H. Cubitt made $342,975.58 in 2017, compared to $320,000.04 in 2013. • 1,284 employees made more than $100,000 in 2017, compared to 805 five years ago. City of Oshawa • City manager Jag Sharma was top earner with $263,381.75. In 2013, then-city manager Robert Scott made $276,412.55. • In 2017, 255 employees were on the Sunshine list, compared to 2013’s 117 employees. Durham Catholic School Board (DCSB) • Catherine Anne O’Brien, director of education, was the top earner in 2017 with $216,793. Former director of education, Paul Pulla, was top earner in 2013 with $208,485. • There were 240 employees making more than $100,000 at the DCSB in 2017 compared to 188 in 2013. Durham District School Board (DDSB) • Associate director and treasurer of the board David Visser had the highest income with $201,888 in 2017. • There were 615 employees on the Sunshine list in 2017. In 2013, there were 347. Lakeridge Health • The top earner of 2017 was Matthew Anderson, CEO, with an income of $492,755.90. The top earner in 2013 was then- CEO, Kevin Empey with an income of $428,049.47. • In 2017, 342 employees at Lakeridge Health made more than $100,000 compared to 136 in 2013. With files from Austin Andru, John Cook, Tiago de Oliveira, Shana Fillatrau, Kirsten Jerry, William McGinn, Conner McTague, Shanelle Somers, Tracy Wright.