Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 381 – August 22, 2018

THOMAS
TALKS
ABOUT: YOUR BEST
we hooked up. I
don’t want anything
with his brother,
but should I tell my
friend?
- Male, Gay, 23
FRIEND’S
BROTHER
I always laugh when I
hear gay guys make
comments about how
they want to date a
“straight guy.” Mostly,
I laugh because I grew
up in the Midwest
surrounded by “straight
guys,” and they’re not
the same ones you see in
movies. I do wonder how
much of the attraction
has to do with the idea
of being the “first” or
“only” to the “straight”
person, thus leading to a
feeling of being special.
Either way, most of us
know of a “straight hot
brother,” and y’all got
stories.
Last weekend I went a
beach house in Jersey
with my best friend to
stay with his family. One
night his hot “straight”
brother and I stayed
up chatting, and then
eventually I went to
sleep on the living
room couch. A few
hours later, he woke
me up with his hard on
in my face. Of course,
Congrats on living
the plotline of a porno—
we’re all very jealous and
a little turned on. No, I
don’t think you should
tell your friend unless
you have a real reason
to—and it doesn’t sound
like you do. Most people
don’t want to hear about
their family members
hooking up, even if it’s
their attractive brother.
Your friend probably
doesn’t view him as hot.
Also, you don’t know his
brother’s story, and there
is no reason for you to
“out” him, especially if
you don’t want to pursue
anything with him. I say
keep it for your spank
bank or the next time you
visit his family. No reason
to start drama.
My best friend and
his brother share an
apartment in HK, and
there’s a running joke
that his brother is gay.
Honestly, I think he
might be, or at least
curious. Also, if he is,
I’d love to break him in,
ya know what I mean?
Sometimes he jokes
back with us about
being gay, but I can’t
tell if he’s flirting or just
comfortable. Any tips
on how I can tell if his
brother is gay? - Male,
Gay, 22
Read the above question,
and wait for him to wake
you up with his hard on.
Just kidding, obviously.
It’s funny, because when
you’re in your 20s, I think
you spend a lot more
time trying to figure out
each other’s sexuality,
whereas when you’re a bit
older, it just becomes too
much work and energy
to care. I understand the
curiosity, but you can
also rest assured that if
he wants you to know
he’s gay—especially if he
wants to have sex with
you—he’s going to make
it clear. When, if ever,
has one gay guy said to
another, “I wanted to
have sex with you, but I
just didn’t know how to
tell you”? If anything, it’s
more so, “OK, I get the
point, you want to fuck?”
His brother sounds like a
nice guy, so the best way
to find out is probably
not to have an agenda
and attempt to be his
genuine friend.
Sex/Love/Relationship advice? Send your questions to: ThomasTalksAbout@gmail.com
@ThomasWhitfield84