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family support and mental health/illnesses
unreal men on the rise- woes of porn videos
why you need psychoterapy
you have got a friend in me
who are you and why are you here?
will socialising be helpful?
Fashion and Style:
put smile on the
face of adversity
a Poem for parents with child
who have additional
J U N I O R W A L K E
needs
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am delighted to let you know that we will be 1 year old since inception, on
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24th of November. The assignment is huge but the efforts will be well
the
it ultimately. Passion is what did and will still keep doing it for us
worth
we will ever be consumed with it. Interestingly, our network is
because
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RUNAWAY...
I am a London based
Gospel rap artist and I’ve
just released my first
single of the year,
entitled ‘Runaway.’ On
my journey through life I
have had to encounter
pain. Some pain is unavoidable and finds
itself categorized as part of the human
experience; sickness, the death of a loved
one or simply the cringe worthy nature of a
public embarrassment ...Read more...
YOU HAVE GOT A
FRIEND IN ME
Over the years I have
had friends come and
go. It was never easy for
me to make friends in
the first place, I was shy
when I was a child and it
took a while for me to be myself and to not
be shy with people.
Once I got past my shyness I was known as
the funny one, the one that was a little crazy
but a great friend to people.Read more...
so exciting to learn that you are always there for us every time. It's yet
It's
Issue and this time featuring JWalker of (TLD) the CEO of Lion's
another
a UK organisation making an awesome difference in the
Den:
industry. His think piece- Runaway from...Runaway to will
entertainment
make an interesting read.
community of columnists is still as excited as you are, doing what they
Our
how to do best. There is no better time to release this publication. We
know
still running with our vision- to see a Mental Wellness culture driven
are
a commision we are so passionately held so close to our heart.
society,
FAMILY SUPPORT
I was on the verge of a
nervous breakdowns.
My mum and my auntie
knew before me that i
was falling unwell. I knew
something was different
in regards to how i was
feeling. I started feeling scared, anxious and
very jumpy at every little sound. I was
starting to have panic attacks and I was
extremely emotional, crying for every little
thing I just couldn't cope with life. For me
my problems felt so big. Read more....
readership expanding by the day; our website getting more leads
growing,
others. Achieving these feats, so far, was not at all a walk in the
among
But we know it's just a first step: a stepping stone towards something
park.
and worth making a history on.
remarkable
I will leave you, for now, to enjoy your stay in this space, see you later.
Thanks
Seyi Adebowale a.k.a Seyi O'Deb
Seyi Adebowale
On behalf of MHMUK Team
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cont
ents
04 Runaway
from...Runaway to
08
What is the worst thing that could
happen to you?
Welcome to Holland
A poem for parents with child who have
additional needs
09 You Have Got A
Friend In Me
But stand up in the storm when it all
feels like it is crashing down.
12 Unreal Men on the
Rise
Woes of porn videos.
16 Psychotherapy
Why I Reccomend Psychotherapy
20 Socialising and
Mental Health
Interacting with family and friends
might do the trick
22
Family Support
A true and personal story
28
Motivational
Who are you and why are you here?
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SPECIAL FEATURE
RUNAWAY FROM...RUNAWAY TO
by JWalker of (TLD)
A special feature from someone who has seen it all
JWalker of TLD is the
CEO of the Lion's
Den. A rap artist and
music producer. He
has just released his
single titled
'RUNAWAY'. He's
also involved in
some community
projects.
What is the worst thing that
could happen to you?
am a London based Gospel rap
artist and I’ve just released my
first single of the year, entitled
‘Runaway.’ On my journey through
life I have had to encounter
I
pain.
Some pain is unavoidable and
finds itself categorized as part of
the human experience; sickness,
the death of a loved one or simply
the cringe worthy nature of a
public embarrassment.
How each of these things would
affect us would differ which must
mean we process these things
differently internally. What I would
Runaway from, you might
Runaway to.
How Trivial?
I have seen colleagues
spontaneously combust in the
morning after realizing there is no
milk to make coffee. All this while
wading past the surplus amounts
of food (just to make sure) and
tiptoeing to gain an extra inch in
their high heels. The term ‘First
World Problems’ comes to mind,
the Internet is full of memes that
mock those of us, myself included,
who seem to break when
confronted with trivial or benign
problems.
My favourite one of these is ‘I have
no home, I have no control, I don’t
have any space and I can’t see any
escape…I think I need to buy a
new keyboard.’ Let’s take a
moment to discuss my friend
having black coffee this morning
though.
Black Coffee
Firstly we have to go back to the
evening before. After working late
in an attempt to have her
my journey
On
life I have
through
to encounter
had
pain.
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often had to learn the hard way to value the
I’ve
of others in whatever form it comes.
pain
”
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unappreciative boss appreciate
her she goes home to her
relationship that she already
knows is over but it’s really just a
bad time to break up with rent
prices being so high in London.
They argue through the night as
they often do and she falls asleep
around 2.37 a.m. At least, that’s
the last time that she remembers
looking at the clock. She wakes up
to the room looking brighter than
expected and feels relatively well
rested given the time she went to
sleep. Looking at her phone her
heart stops as she realises that of
course her luck isn’t that good
since the universe hates her, and
she’s overslept by 20 mins. As her
boyfriend sleeps she escapes to
work and does some make up to
make her face smoother on the
train (Sorry I can’t remember the
proper name for it she told me)
and arrives at work to find there
is no coffee.
Problem Tax
I do find that although we have
our ranks from big problems to
little problems it is often the
accumulation of multiple
problems that tax us physically,
mentally and spiritually taking us
into mental debt. To stay out of
mental debt we must therefore
heal at a faster rate than we
hurt. Having more wins than
losses as we navigate through
weeks and days to build up our
currency as we go out into the
world. What I find interesting is
that we decide how much we are
taxed. We can decide when we
want to invest in making
lemonade. We can decide what
problems we choose to Runaway
from and which problems we
choose to run to.
Why so serious?
I’ve often had to learn the hard
way to value the pain of others in
whatever form it comes. I’ve often
found public speaking
paralyzingly difficult, which is
especially unfortunate given that
I’m a rapper. I can recall having to
give a presentation in college and
the anxiety I felt while sitting
waiting my turn. I could feel my
heart thudding in my chest as I
tried to mentally recite my talking
points for ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’. A
bubbly character called Joanna
was called up before me and in
the spirit of camaraderie I wished
her...contd in next page
I’m a London based Gospel rap artist and I’ve
just released my first single of the year, entitled
‘Runaway.’
OF (TLD)
“
JWALKER
Look for more details here www.tldmusic.com
Click icons above to follow J. Walker

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FEATURE
good luck as I tucked in my chair
to let her pass. Her response has
stuck with me ever since, “It’s not
that serious is it?” How dare she!
How very dare she! In that
moment I was full of shock and
confusion.
She had unknowingly mocked my
pain and anxiety and somehow
dwarfed all my fears. It’s as if I felt
I had no right to be anxious after
this and she has exposed my
fears as wild exaggerations.
Relating in relationships
Here’s the part where I need to be
critical of myself. For a long time I
placed a high value on
intelligence. I’m curious by nature
and love to pursue a wide array of
interests. What it took me a long
time to realise was that
intelligence can be a major
insecurity for people and while I
felt I was sharing knowledge and
engaging in stimulating debates I
was actually exposing anxiety
and insecurity in others.
This would only become
apparent to me as part of the
debrief at the end of a
relationship or a swift change in
conversation topic to something
lighter like ‘What do you want to
eat?’ This was when I first learned
we all have a different list of
things we want to run away from
and often nowhere to run away
to.
Where is the love?
As we all hurt differently it
becomes more difficult to
understand the hurt of others. An
ex-addict is often the best person
to sponsor, mentor and help
someone currently suffering from
addiction. Groups currently
assemble on sites such as
Facebook so victims of shared
suffering such as abuse can
support each other and they
refuse to let anyone in who hasn’t
shared their pain. This even
extends to male victims of
domestic violence not being
allowed in female centred
domestic violence support
groups.
Our challenge is therefore to
support and love each other
equally even though we have
different types of pain and
anxiety. Our individualized
As we all hurt differently it becomes more difficult to
internalized suffering makes it
harder for us to relate to one
another but if we don’t then we
will continue to hurt each other.
“
As you read this take a moment to
contemplate that there are
multiple teenagers leaving their
houses carrying knives because
they have a fear of being stabbed
by someone with a knife.
They fail to see the fear and
anxiety in one another and
instead see an enemy. Someone
to Runaway from or more
commonly someone to run
towards and kill in an attempt to
cure their own fear.
The Cure
Remember earlier on I asked,
“What’s the worst thing that could
understand the hurt of others.
happen to you?” Chances are it’s
something deep that your
imagination alone could turn into
tangible pain. Mix that in with all
the problems and issues you’ve
overcome in your life and you
have every reason to resemble
fine china broken and glued
together again with the best
intentions but missing a couple
pieces that would make you
whole nonetheless. All of these
things happen internally yet we
usually try to treat our pain
externally with the 5 Ps. We run
away to:
People – Relying on our
relationship with people to cure
us
Places – Relying on nostalgia or
taking a holiday to escape to a
better life
Possessions – Buying things to
make ourselves feel better about
life
Prescriptions – Attempting to
manage the imbalance within us
with prescription drugs
Paraphernalia – Using illegal
drugs to make ourselves feel
better
I reached a point in my life where
my pain was so deep it couldn’t be
quantified as physical pain, it was
my soul that needed a cure. I
mastered how to appear whole
and even happy externally but I
was covering up something deep
and dark, not too far below the
surface. I needed change from
within and I ran to God to solve it
as the only plausible option to
take on a job of such magnitude.
There was no quick fix to relieve
the internal pain but a daily
renewing from within. The end
result is feeling you have nothing
to runaway from because of who
you runaway to.
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WELCOME TO HOLLAND
When you're going to hove a baby. it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip to Italy. You buy a bunch
of guide books and make your wonderful plans.The Coliseum.The Michelangelo David.The gondolas in
Venice.You may learn some handy phrases in Italian.It's all very exciting.
After months of eager anticipation. the day finally arrives.You pack your bags and off you go. Several
hours later, the plane lands.The stewardess comes in and says,"Welcome to Holland."
"Holland!!!" you soy. "What do you mean Holland? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy.
All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."
But there's been a change in the flight plan.. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.
The important thing is that they haven't token you to a horrible, disgusting. filthy place. full of
pestilence. famine and disease.It's just a different place.
So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you
will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.
It's just a different place.It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there
for a while and you catch your breath, you look around. and you begin to notice that Holland has
windmill and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.
But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy.. And for the rest of your life .you will
say "Yes. that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."
But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy. you
may never be free to enjoy the very special. the very lovely things about
Holland.
by Emily Perl Kingsley

the years I have had friends
Over
and go.
come
was never easy for me to make
It
in the first place, I was shy
friends
I was a child and it took a
when
for me to be myself and to
while
I got past my shyness I was
Once
as the funny one, the one
known
was a little crazy but a great
that
to people.
friend
know in friendship groups I have
I
always said the right thing or
not
the right thing, but people
done
always mattered to me, and
have
a friend has always been
being
to me.
important
is the perfect friend? The
What
who can make you laugh? the
one
who has 100s of friends
person
is popular? The one you can
and
to?
of us has a different ideal
Each
and they can vary from
friend
to person.
person
is hard to find a really good friend
It
days, In hard times I have
these
friends leave me and betrayed
had
Some people want to gain
me.
friendship, what they can get
from
the friendship, this can
from
be a company or
simply
in maybe to get the
sometimes
I think of friendship, I think
When
relationship with someone that
of
so special. Its a bond of trust a
is
of love. Yet in this world we
bond
the name of friendship.
damage
become selfish, we forget the
We
who have nothing to offer
people
and we forget the the real
us
You Have Got A Friend In Me
This is because we are all unique.
not be shy with people.
R U T H A L L E N
But stand up in
the storm when it
all feels like it is
crashing down.
latest gossip.
cry .
meaning of friendship and love.

fashion
&
Style
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me I find it now hard to let
For
get close to me because of
people
I have been through, but
things
how God still worked in my
some
and gave me unexpected
live
friends.
have had new friends come into
I
life that I can trust to lean on
my
I know I am having a bad day
when
even good days.
and
brings people into your life
God
you never expect, and for me
that
but real friends have
friendships
and loved me through
understood
taken me along time to find
it..Its
friends, that I feel I can be
the
with and one of them I
honest
a wonderful friendship, even
have
he lives in another country
though
connects well with me and my
he
and has helped me out of a
illness
state. bad
is why Ability Joe is such a
This
writer for this website, and I
good
thank him enough for being
can’t
for me.
there
the Director of MHM, has
Seyi
my family, he looks out for
become
and sends his greetings often.
me
we live few miles apart, he
Though
kindness more than people
shows
me. around
thing is never loss hope of
The
alone and with no friends.
feeling
of last year I felt broken with
End
friends and lost, but God
no
Even if I have never met them
Ilife.
person. in
stand up in the storm when it
But
feels like it is crashing down.
all
pain is for a season and true
This
will show themselves.
friends
loss hope.
Never
is still good people out there
There
like to be a good friend to people,
I
we can treat people how we
if
to be treated the world will
want
a little better. If you can't find a
be
Mind Health Music is not just
Team
website of empty words we are
a
people who really care, so slip
all
a message and make a friend in
us
us.
friend is always loyal,
A
a brother is born to help in
and
of need. Proverbs 17:17
time
in this world.
it been the team of MHM.
The secret is that
need someone who will
We all
there is no listen real
and support us but who is
secret to getting a
by us on bad
also able to stand cope with harsh
days and able to
vehicle last a
words.
health issues my chronic
With my
long time. The
and
fatigue and depression
out come can words my anxiety
difference is
damage
can this harsh, and mean
maintenance.
brought amazing people into my
good friend be a good one.

UNREAL
ON THE
MEN
LIKELY THAN
MORE
TO DROP OUT OF
GIRLS
ARE 5 TIMES
BOYS
LIKELY TO
MORE
LABELED AS
BE
HAVING
REFERENCES .
QUOTED
PHILIP ZIMBARDO
DR
THE MHMUK MAGAZINE
BOYS ARE
30%
SCHOOL
ADHD
RISE
WRITTEN BY SEYI O'DEB
WOES OF PORN VIDEO
A WAKE UP CALL TO PARENTS
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REAL

would not have come at a
This
time as this when every
better
of media available to man is
form
censored, and gives its
hardly
to all excluding no
accessibility
even as far as age limit is
one
putting a whole set of
concerned,
at the lower rung of age
people
in vulnerable situation,
ladder
their perspectives about
tinting
in general and relationships
life
opposite sex in particular.
with
young male population of this
The
are the most affected.
statistics
Phillip Zimbardo sounded an
Dr
as a result of findings
alarm
from various researches
generated
young boys, all
involving
on young boys ultimate
bordering
compared to their
performance
counterpart at every
female
of life. A trend was noticed:
sphere
the boys;
performing
are 30% more likely
boys
drop out of school
to
girls; boy are 5
than
more likely to be
times
as having ADHD
labelled
more statistics
and
the girls over
favouring
people have been
Young
to be distracted
noticed
virtual reality devices
by
products in which
or
are the most users.
boys
average time spent
The
boys in virtual world is
by
higher than
significantly
The most damaging
girls.
this virtual world
of
reality is
imitating
a.k.a porn
pornography
our young ones live in
Unfortunately,
present world where digital
the
are hardly censored, and the
products
world now makes this type of
internet
easy to access. The
product
consequences are fast
unintended
their bearing on the lives and
taking
of these kids whose core values
future
modeled after personality they
are
while consuming this products.
meet
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JUST BECAUSE A GIRL
IS FRIENDLY WITH YOU
THAT DOESN'T MEAN
SHE'S INTERESTED IN
YOU
the boys.
video.
girls are found to be out
RELATIONSHIPS / 13

ONE
MHMUK IS ONE YEAR OLD NOVEMBER 24TH
MindHealthMusic, a new brand in the mainstream of Mental Health
awareness and education. At MHM, we are saddled with the task of
helping to take you from where you are to where you ought and long
to be as far as your mental health is concerned. Our vision is to see a
Mental Wellness culture driven society

videos are full of distorted
Porn
They contain male values
reality.
domination, aggressiveness,
like
violence which are
competition,
the brain of boys away
rewiring
what is reality to the unreal.
from
boys view about relationship
Young
been impacted such that now
has
with female friends is
connection
that which is graced with
hardly
honor, passion or empathy
respect,
now replaced by aggression,
but
selfishness, lack of
domination,
these are values
empathy:
imputed from
unconsciously
value graphics such as
distorted
video they spend their time
porn
consuming.
watched with keen interest
I
presentation titled
Zimbardo’s
of boys’. He said, boys
‘demise
of these types of digital
choice
with significant amount
production
time of engagement due to
of
addiction, is placing boys
arousal
of sync with their classes
out
for falling behind the girls),
(reason
also out of sync with
and
wants real men in their
Women
who they can talk to, take
lives,
on a proper date; husbands
them
can dance, make love slowly;
who
have every sense of
who
both present and
responsibility
in view. However, more and
future
damages are done by these
more
is a wake up call to every
This
educator, media person,
parent,
maker, speaker at every level,
film
be responsive to this
to
trend turning our
unfortunate
into time bombs.
societies
want my boy to view the world
I
a different perspective
from
by healthy illustrations
informed
graphics which are primary
and
through which core values
channel
developed. I want my girls to
are
respected, dignified, have
feel
date ( at the appropriate
proper
one in which is not motivated
age)
selfishness and sensual
by
and, also feel safe
pleasure,
they find themselves.
wherever
conclusion, every attempt should
In
made to put these undesired
be
on a reverse mode.
outcome
activities solely
Checkmate
by irregularities,
characterised
and obscenity causing
abnormalities
regulations are needed to curb
More
activities, more parental
such
in our kids activities
involvement
infringing on their age
without
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our young ones their lives and future.
multi billion worth industries .
privacy is also highly
related
. recommended.
Seyi is the founder/Director of MHMUK. He is also
a singer/song writer. He has a PhD (online
program) in view with special interest in Mental
Health and Society
relationships.

P S Y C H O T H E R A P Y
Why I Recommend Choosing
Psychotherapy
Jason Needs is a registered Psychotherapist with hands-on
experience. He has helped many clients realised their desires
and goals.
began to counsel people privately and
mostly voluntary while working full time
as a personal trainer at a local gym, to
gain experience and see the results of
my counselling methods which were very
well received by clients and proven to be
effective in practice. Since 2005, I have
continued to keep up-to date with the
world of psychology and I have even
added to my studies-neuroscience and
neuroplasticity, understanding body
language and facial expressions from fbi
professionals to increase my skills as a
psychotherapist.
I have total confidence in my skills and
knowledge of psychotherapy and the
areas of study I continue to do. As a
psychotherapist I know that there is no
miracle cure outside of divine
intervention that will get rid of a persons
problems regarding Mental Health,
mainly because Mental Health isn't
simply "all in the mind" and can be
...Read more in PAGE 18
He is also a personal trainer, and also
recording artiste.He is the CEO of
Worldwide Gospel Crew. He and his
family live in Essex, UK.
Hello, my name is Json Needs, I am
46 years old and a commited
Christian living in Westcliff On Sea,
Essex England. I am married to
Joanna with 7 children ranging from
the ages of 6 to 25 years old, I am
also a psychotherapist, personal
trainer, song writer and recording
artist. I began my studies in
psychology and especially
psychotherapy back in 2005.After
struggling with PTSD and panic
attacks, my goal was to understand
the why, how and what of the mind
and brain and how it worked and
especially how it effects the body in
psychosomatic ways, I was
personally mentored by a
psychotherapist friend who worked
for Bupa and was a sister at a
Psychiatric hospital.
Upon completion of my study
course in Psychotherapy via Open
College and receiving my diploma, I
Jason is a volunteer
Psychotherapist on MHMUK
platform. If you want help, you
can contact him by filling out the
contact form on our website. Ask
for a free counselling session with
Jason
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Seyi Adebowale a.k.a Seyi O'Deb
Founder/Director
Member/ Editor Wemy Adebowale
Team
Relation /Columnist Ruth Allen
Public
Member/Counselor Ronke Uboh
Team
Member/Columnist Ability Joe
Team
Member/Columnist Christina Da Silva
Team
Contributors
VIP
Page,
Mellonie
LOCATIONS
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Hertfordshire,
Our Team
Team Member/Psychotherapist Jason Needs
Independent Editor Rebecca Bristow
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Folashade Olupitan
The Punch Nigeria
JWalker of TLD
Lions Den UK
...YOUR MIND'S HEALTH, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY
MHMUK
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P S Y C H O T H E R A P Y
"gotten over" it is much deeper and
is not only a psychological matter
but a neurological matter, whether
it was a genetic defect to start with
or through an accident or illness
involving the brain etc. Mental
Health is very much part of a
person and includes everyone in
the world.
Psychotherapy was the choice of
course I decided to follow because I
see much failure in the field of
Psychiatry and in the methods of
Psychiatrists. Psychotherapy
despite using the word psycho is
not limited to the area of
psychopathic behaviour, rather it is
a practical method of retraining the
thoughts and neurological patterns
and behaviours of the mind and
brain.Psychotherapy unlike
Psychiatry doesn't "brand a person
with a condemning diagnosis" and
try to treat the symptoms of Mental
Illness with pharmaceuticals alone
and leave you to accept a life of no
purpose and condemned to suffer
as a non functional member of
society,Psychotherapy provides the
means and methods to change the
effect of Mental Illness in our lives
and help us to change our way of
thinking, thereby changing the
effects of psychological disorders
and making them manageable and
possibly overcoming in some cases
psychological limitations.
Psychotherapy encourages
cognitive changes, and positive
thinking based on scientific facts
and methods, it does support
medication being used, but seeks
to eventually release a person from
psychoactive drugs and help them
to stand on their own two feet and
gain a substantial degree of control
and power in a persons life to live
beyond the limitations that have
been imposed on them by Mental
Health problems and traumatic
experiences. the service I can
provide is one of excellence,
professionalism, deep
understanding of not only years of
psychological and scientific studies
but personal experience with PTSD,
Panic Attacks and Agoraphobia, as
well as loss of loved ones and
suicidal thoughts.
I provide empathy as well as
sympathy, confidentiality, faith
based and non faith based therapy
and counselling. And a
determination to see clients
succeed and reach goals they never
thought or believed possible. I
personally use the methods and
techniques I have developed over
the past 13 years and have seen
changes and goals reached in my
life that I did not think possible.
Am I completely free from my
PTSD? Panic Attacks etc? no not 100
percent but enough to be a
functional and loving, caring dad,
husband, friend and therapist and
Christian, all of which can be
confirmed by my wife and children
and church family and friends. This
is the hope and service I offer to
those who want it. The Mental
Health and music platform enables
me to provide a free counselling
service and work as part of a team
whereby I have accountability and
input from other professionals.
FOR HELP CONTACT JASON
MINDHEALTHMUSIC.COM
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T E C H N O L O G Y

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Socialising and Mental Health
Social interaction reduces stress and
builds trust. Oxytocin and dopamine
levels rise when time is spent with
friends and family.

INTERACTING WITH FAMILY & FRIENDS MIGHT DO THE TRICK
By Mellonie Page
Mellonie Page has a BA Honours in Performing Arts. A Singer, Writer, Performing Artist and Mental Wealth
Workshop Facilitator. She organises singing classes where participants are also thought good mental
health boosting exercises.
One of the problems a decline in Mental
Health can bring is isolation. The last
thing you may feel like doing is going
anywhere. Closing the curtains,
wrapping up and going to bed is often
more appealing. Some people cut
themselves off from friends and family
for months on end which can be
damaging to relationships. It can be
very difficult to carry out basic day to
day tasks whilst feeling under a cloud
of depression or other mental illness.
Going out, even to the local shops at
first can help your mental state to
improve and give you the courage to
venture out further.
You don’t need lots of money to get
yourself out there. You could meet
someone at a cafe, library or park.
Going to the cinema can help a great
deal, because it can be entertaining but
you don’t have to worry too much
about having a lot to say, if you aren’t
feeling very talkative.
Group activities could be beneficial.
Self help groups and church can prove
to be supportive.
“Interacting with others boosts
feelings of well-being and decreases
feelings of depression. Research has
shown that one sure way of improving
your mood is to work on building
social connections. You may even
lower your risk of dementia.” 30 Jun
2016 Psychology Today.
Social interaction reduces stress and
builds trust. Oxytocin and dopamine
levels rise when time is spent with
friends and family.
Oxytocin is sometimes known as the
"cuddle hormone" or the "love
hormone," because it is released
when people snuggle up or bond
socially.
Dopamine is released at pleasurable
moments, when eating food you
enjoy, doing things you love and in
company you enjoy.
Spending money on experiences
instead of material things, brings us
more joy.
Community and voluntary work will
give you new skills and new friends.
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CHRISTINA
DA SILVA
Christina is a gospel singer and
songwriter. A Best Reggae Singer
award nominee. She is a strong Mental
Health Advocate. A cause she holds
dearly by virtue of her experience as
far as the Mental Health issue is
concerned. She is a survivor and so
she tells her story in a most
compassionate way.
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FAMILY
&
SUPPORT
I was on the verge of a
nervous breakdowns. My
mum and my auntie knew
before me that I was falling
unwell. I knew something
was different in regards to
how I was feeling. I started
feeling scared, anxious and
very jumpy at every little
sound. I was starting to
have panic attacks and
extremely emotional. Crying
for every little thing I just
could n't cope with life. For
me my problems felt so big.
I remember that my mum
would say to me, "Christina
you're making the problem
bigger than what it is". "The
problem is this small but
your mind is blowing it up
like its this big". Talking to
my mum about how I was
feeling always seemed to
give me comfort.
My mum was also a
manager for youth work in
London Hackney. She was a
very good listener and gave
back very helpful advice.
I was 17 years old the first
time I fell unwell. Just after
having my first son. It
stemmed from post natal
depression and then led into
full blown depression. It
further progressed into
Mental Health complications.
So when my mum and
auntie noticed a change in
my personality, they had let
me know that they were
worried about me because
they feel that i am falling
unwell & that they are book
an appointment for me to
see a psychiatrist. My
response to what they had
said was "I don't need to see
a doctor i am not mad,
everyone else is mad".
I was no longer thinking
rational because at this stage
i had started to develop
psychosis. This was triggered
by not being able to sleep for
weeks on end as thoughts
was racing through my mind.
From a professional
psychiatrist
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F A M I L Y & F R I E N D S S U P P O R T S
PAGE 87
point of view, physcosis is when
your thoughts and emotions are
impaired that contact is lost with
external reality. Symptoms are;
A high mood, talking and thinking too
much or to quickly, a low mood that
can cause loss of appetite, troubles
sleeping, difficulty concentrating, a
depressed mood, and it can also
cause you to sleep too much or not
enough. It causes anxiety,
suspeciousness, withdrawal from
family and friends,
delusions/hallucinations. I had
started to fall out with my close
loved , ones one by one I was
pushing them away from me as I
started not to trust no one at all.
I became extremely scared to be
alone, I believed that I was
possessed, which 19 years later
when i gave my life to Jesus Christ,
i found out that I was possessed
which I have now received
deliverance from in Jesus name.
When I was having a breakdown
my mum and auntie kept ringing the
Mental Health out-patients to book
an appointment for me to be seen by
a doctor. At this stage I still thought
there was nothing wrong with
me. When I was eventually seen by a
doctor for the first time extremely
scared that the doctor would say
that I had to stay in a Mental Health
hospital so when the Psychiatric
Doctor asked me questions about my
mental state I was not honest at all.
So after my appointment with the
Doctor he let me to go back home
with my mum and aunt. They were
extremely annoyed with the doctor
for not prescribing me any
medication to help me sleep and feel
more stable.
REVIEWS
Because my mum and auntie had
spent much more time with me than
the doctor had done they knew i
needed medication quickly because
they knew I was heading for a huge
nervous breakdown. I eventually
ended up in hospital. My family and
friends came to see me, even
though I still trusted no one. Once
the medication started to take
effect I began to feel more stable.
The downside was i felt numb and
like a zombie.
Everything around me seemed to
be going in slow motion. The
medication only suppressed the
symptoms, it never cured me. Some
of the symptoms was still there but
at least the medication stopped my
thoughts from racing. My mind was
still tormented by fear. Fear is not of
God, it is of the devil. God is love.
1 John 4:18 "There is no fear in love
but perfect love cast out all fear
because fear has torment, he that
fears is not made perfect in love"
I definitely wasn't made perfect in
love as I never knew Jesus at that
point in my life I never knew much
about Jesus and I definitely did not
have a relationship with Jesus at this
stage.
2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not
given us a spirit of fear, but of power
and of love and of a sound mind".
Now that i am a follower of Jesus ,
looking back now with a much better
spiritual understanding, i thank God
for, I now know the spirit world is
very much so real and I believe when
a person has a mental breakdown,
when they are in a psychosis state
because they have allowed the spirit
of fear to enter them. Fear opens up
many doors and allows spirits to
enter ones mind and torment them.
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F A M I L Y & S U P P O R T S
As we know people who suffer
from Mental Health disorder wether its on
the lower scale, for instance, depression or
wether its on a major scale, for example,
schizophrenia. People with Mental Health
are in a extremely dark place mentally
and I believe that there eyes have been
spiritually opened into the kingdom of
darkness into the spirit world from when
the spirit of fear entered them. I believe this
100%. I am speaking from my own personal
experience and from witnessing a similar
situation from a very close loved one. The
physicist specialist would refer to a spiritual
attack as a nervous breakdown and they
would say that it is caused from a chemical
imbalance in the brain.
The role that a family member or friends
play in supporting someone who is suffering
from mental health is extremely important. I
cant emphasize enough how crucial it is to
have family and friends to support us
through these extremely dark and
challenging times in our life. It isnt easy for
any carer to look after someone who is in a
psychosis state or who has long
term Mental Health problems. It can be
extremely scary at times worrying if they're
ever gonna get better and it can be
extremely tiring for the carers.
Its extremely sad to say that there are many
people who have had a nervous breakdown
who have no support network and in a lot of
these cases they have completely lost there
mind and have never manage to recover
because there is no one around them to
show them love, comfort, or even talk
positive things to them or to let them no
that they are not well and let them know
that they will get through the challenging
times through people praying for them and
for them praying for themsevles through
medication, counselling and love shown
towards them from family and friends.
Many times friends and even family
members turn there backs on there loved
ones and give up on them because they are
scared of them and don't understand what
is happening to them, they have a lack of
understanding, they are embarrased of
them and there thinking is a lot of the time
very shallow.
So its so crucial to have loving and
supporting family and friends around your
unwell loved one even if they are saying
hurtful things to you, or shouting at you or
breaking down crying all the time or even
pushing you away from them with what
they're saying that may offend you. They
don't mean to do this, its because the
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darkness in there mind has taken over them
and there only acting this way towards you
because that's how they are feeling
inside they cant behave any better. So
Please just remember not to take it
personal, the more love and support they
have around them, the more quicker there
recovery stage will be.
So it is very important as a loving concerned
family member or friend that if you see even
the slightest of change in your loved ones or
your friends character. Please don't delay,
act quickly. Spend time talking to them and
find out what's going on in their minds. You
may notice that they have become more
withdrawn and not speaking as much as
they usually are or they have become
maniac or they are extremely tearful and
emotional. Not smiling or laughing as much.
You need to personally ask them what they
are thinking about because in some cases
they are too scared to say things to you like,
they are hearing voices or they are seeing
spirits or they feel depressed and lack
motivation. Because they don't want you to
think that they might be losing their mind.
So you have to be their eyes , ears and
voices and keep talking to them. Eventually
in most cases they will tell you what is
going on in their head, especially if they feel
they can trust you and you are a person who
would show compassion towards them and
not judge them. If you are a Christian please
pray for them or pray with them and read
healing scriptures over them
ISAIAH 53:5 "and by His stripes we are
healed".
Thank you Jesus for the many storms, the
rain and the sunshine I have faced, because
without the beating, the shaking and the
pressing that God has allowed me to go
through I would never be the women
that I am today and to know that all my help
comes from the Lord who has made the
heavens and the earth. Do remember don't
regret your past because without the mess,
there is no message. The bigger the test, the
greater the testimony.
If you feel all hope is lost, try calling on
Jesus the Name above all names . He is
our Saviour, our only hope and He came to
set the captives free. He brought me from
darkness into the great and marvelous
light.
2 Corinthians 12:9 "And He said unto me, My
Grace is sufficient for you for my strength is
made perfect in weakness. Therefore most
gladly I would rather boast in my infirmities
that the power of Christ may rest upon me.
Be blessed, stay blessed and be encouraged.
I love you all with the love of Jesus Christ.
Let's put an end to the stigma
of Mental Health.
Dont suffer in silence!!
God has blessed you with a voice so please
talk to some one about how you are feeling
mentally so you can recieve the help and
care you deserve !!
God bless you all
I pray that this has blessed each and
everyone who reads this. If you suffer from
a Mental Health disorder please, please,
please DON'T GIVE UP!!!
There is hope in Jesus Christ. He has freed
me from the spirit of depression and I have
faith in Him that he will also free me from
my other Mental Health disorder
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Motivational
We look around us for things that will
help us define who we are. In fact, the
majority of people have no sense of
identity apart from the clothes they wear,
the car they drive, where they live,
whom they are married to and so on.
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Who am I
by Ability Joe
Joe is a musician/producer and a songwriter. He has many singles to his
credit. A graduate of Adeyemi College of Education, Ondo state Nigeria. A
dynamic young prolific motivational writer and information Tech expert. He
is in a relationship.
It may seem like a straightforward question. Most
would answer by giving their name without
giving it much thought. However, on deeper
reflection, do you really understand who you are?
Our world today has one great irony that is mindboggling:
the majority of people in the world
are trying very hard to conform to what someone
else wants them to be. It is often so subtle that
we fail to realise that that is what we are doing. As
Sarah McLachlan points out: “We’re
constantly being told what other people think we
are, and that’s why it is so important to know
yourself.”
It happens at many levels. For instance, television
bombards us with images of how we should
look and dress, what we should eat and drink, what
car we should drive and even what kind of
person we should marry. Some even go as far as
telling us how to fall in love!
We look around us for things that will help us
define who we are. In fact the majority of people
have no sense of identity apart from the clothes
they wear, the car they drive, where they live,
whom they are married to and so on.
If we had to strip you of everything you own and
leave you on some island away from everything
you think defines you, would you still have a clear
sense of who you are? What defines you?
Some would think of themselves in terms of their
body. The image of their face and body
defines who they are. If we were to remove you
from your body, would you still know who you
are? It sounds weird, I know, but understand that
man is a spirit; he lives in a body and has a
soul. Your body is simply a means of expressing
yourself and interacting with your physical
environment.
So your body is not really who you are. At the core
of it, you are more than that.
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In fact, that is why it is so hard for people to fully
understand and appreciate who they are. Who you
are cannot be seen, touched, smelt, heard or tasted.
Your senses cannot tell you who you are.
the world's woe comes from people not knowing
themselves, their abilities, their frailties, and even
their real virtues. Most of us go almost all the way
through life as complete strangers to ourselves.”
The concept of self in the true form is something
beyond the grasp of our physical bodies and
senses. We are complex beings. We cannot be defined
by the things around us, but by the things within us. I
believe that in essence, we are what we think.
Physically as human beings, we are all essentially the
same. It is our thoughts and experiences that
differentiate us.
It may seem like an overstatement, but it is so. Many
lack an understanding of who they are,
without which they are unable to know what they are
capable of achieving in life. In the days of
slavery in Europe and America, this was well
understood. Black people were forced to change
their names to Western names so they would not
remember who they really were.
Our true identity, then, lies within us, not outside of
us. We should define whom we are based on
our thoughts, our values, principles, and beliefs. It’s
okay to have material things and all, but they
should not be our sense of self. They are just things
that are there to make our lives easier. If
you were suddenly homeless today that would not
change who you are as a person. You would
still be you.
What is the importance of all this, you might
ask? Ralph Waldo Emerson warns that “The greatest
difficulty is that men do not think enough of
themselves, do not consider what it is that they are
sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they
cater for their establishment.”
So you are sacrificing something when you go
through life blindly conforming to everything. You
sacrifice your true potential and purpose, which you
can only fulfill when you truly understand
yourself. Look within yourself, not without. For
everything begins and ends with your thoughts.
Sidney J. Harris adds that “Ninety percent of
Furthermore, they were banned from knowing how
to read or write. That should make the lights
flash in someone’s head. The reason this was done
was that their masters knew that if they
knew how to read they would discover many things,
not only about the world around them but
about themselves. Their minds would be stretched to
new levels of understanding.
Choose not to live in ignorance about who you are
and what you can do. Decide today to
discover more about yourself and to start on the
journey of self-discovery. My best
recommendation – read your Bible. Without it, you
may never know who you really are.
In the words of James Allen, “Only by much searching
and mining are gold and diamonds obtained, and
man can find every truth connected with his being if
he will dig deep into the mine of his soul.”
My name is Joseph, and I am a living proof of God's
awesomeness!!!
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We look around us for things
that will help us define who
we are. In-fact the majority
of people
have no sense of identity
apart from the clothes they
wear, the car they drive,
where they live,
whom they are married to
and so on.