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family support and mental health/illnesses

unreal men on the rise- woes of porn videos

why you need psychoterapy

you have got a friend in me

who are you and why are you here?

will socialising be helpful?

Fashion and Style:

put smile on the

face of adversity

a Poem for parents with child

who have additional

J U N I O R W A L K E

needs

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am delighted to let you know that we will be 1 year old since inception, on

I

24th of November. The assignment is huge but the efforts will be well

the

it ultimately. Passion is what did and will still keep doing it for us

worth

we will ever be consumed with it. Interestingly, our network is

because

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TOP FEATURES

RUNAWAY...

I am a London based

Gospel rap artist and I’ve

just released my first

single of the year,

entitled ‘Runaway.’ On

my journey through life I

have had to encounter

pain. Some pain is unavoidable and finds

itself categorized as part of the human

experience; sickness, the death of a loved

one or simply the cringe worthy nature of a

public embarrassment ...Read more...

YOU HAVE GOT A

FRIEND IN ME

Over the years I have

had friends come and

go. It was never easy for

me to make friends in

the first place, I was shy

when I was a child and it

took a while for me to be myself and to not

be shy with people.

Once I got past my shyness I was known as

the funny one, the one that was a little crazy

but a great friend to people.Read more...

so exciting to learn that you are always there for us every time. It's yet

It's

Issue and this time featuring JWalker of (TLD) the CEO of Lion's

another

a UK organisation making an awesome difference in the

Den:

industry. His think piece- Runaway from...Runaway to will

entertainment

make an interesting read.

community of columnists is still as excited as you are, doing what they

Our

how to do best. There is no better time to release this publication. We

know

still running with our vision- to see a Mental Wellness culture driven

are

a commision we are so passionately held so close to our heart.

society,

FAMILY SUPPORT

I was on the verge of a

nervous breakdowns.

My mum and my auntie

knew before me that i

was falling unwell. I knew

something was different

in regards to how i was

feeling. I started feeling scared, anxious and

very jumpy at every little sound. I was

starting to have panic attacks and I was

extremely emotional, crying for every little

thing I just couldn't cope with life. For me

my problems felt so big. Read more....

readership expanding by the day; our website getting more leads

growing,

others. Achieving these feats, so far, was not at all a walk in the

among

But we know it's just a first step: a stepping stone towards something

park.

and worth making a history on.

remarkable

I will leave you, for now, to enjoy your stay in this space, see you later.

Thanks

Seyi Adebowale a.k.a Seyi O'Deb

Seyi Adebowale

On behalf of MHMUK Team

SEPT/OCT 2018 | ISSUE 04


cont

ents

04 Runaway

from...Runaway to

08

What is the worst thing that could

happen to you?

Welcome to Holland

A poem for parents with child who have

additional needs

09 You Have Got A

Friend In Me

But stand up in the storm when it all

feels like it is crashing down.

12 Unreal Men on the

Rise

Woes of porn videos.

16 Psychotherapy

Why I Reccomend Psychotherapy

20 Socialising and

Mental Health

Interacting with family and friends

might do the trick

22

Family Support

A true and personal story

28

Motivational

Who are you and why are you here?

T H E M H M U K M A G A Z I N E | P A G E 0 3


SPECIAL FEATURE

RUNAWAY FROM...RUNAWAY TO

by JWalker of (TLD)

A special feature from someone who has seen it all

JWalker of TLD is the

CEO of the Lion's

Den. A rap artist and

music producer. He

has just released his

single titled

'RUNAWAY'. He's

also involved in

some community

projects.

What is the worst thing that

could happen to you?

am a London based Gospel rap

artist and I’ve just released my

first single of the year, entitled

‘Runaway.’ On my journey through

life I have had to encounter

I

pain.

Some pain is unavoidable and

finds itself categorized as part of

the human experience; sickness,

the death of a loved one or simply

the cringe worthy nature of a

public embarrassment.

How each of these things would

affect us would differ which must

mean we process these things

differently internally. What I would

Runaway from, you might

Runaway to.

How Trivial?

I have seen colleagues

spontaneously combust in the

morning after realizing there is no

milk to make coffee. All this while

wading past the surplus amounts

of food (just to make sure) and

tiptoeing to gain an extra inch in

their high heels. The term ‘First

World Problems’ comes to mind,

the Internet is full of memes that

mock those of us, myself included,

who seem to break when

confronted with trivial or benign

problems.

My favourite one of these is ‘I have

no home, I have no control, I don’t

have any space and I can’t see any

escape…I think I need to buy a

new keyboard.’ Let’s take a

moment to discuss my friend

having black coffee this morning

though.

Black Coffee

Firstly we have to go back to the

evening before. After working late

in an attempt to have her

my journey

On

life I have

through

to encounter

had

pain.

T H E M H M U K M A G A Z I N E | 0 4


often had to learn the hard way to value the

I’ve

of others in whatever form it comes.

pain


T H E M H M U K M A G A Z I N E | 0 6

SPECIAL FEATURE

unappreciative boss appreciate

her she goes home to her

relationship that she already

knows is over but it’s really just a

bad time to break up with rent

prices being so high in London.

They argue through the night as

they often do and she falls asleep

around 2.37 a.m. At least, that’s

the last time that she remembers

looking at the clock. She wakes up

to the room looking brighter than

expected and feels relatively well

rested given the time she went to

sleep. Looking at her phone her

heart stops as she realises that of

course her luck isn’t that good

since the universe hates her, and

she’s overslept by 20 mins. As her

boyfriend sleeps she escapes to

work and does some make up to

make her face smoother on the

train (Sorry I can’t remember the

proper name for it she told me)

and arrives at work to find there

is no coffee.

Problem Tax

I do find that although we have

our ranks from big problems to

little problems it is often the

accumulation of multiple

problems that tax us physically,

mentally and spiritually taking us

into mental debt. To stay out of

mental debt we must therefore

heal at a faster rate than we

hurt. Having more wins than

losses as we navigate through

weeks and days to build up our

currency as we go out into the

world. What I find interesting is

that we decide how much we are

taxed. We can decide when we

want to invest in making

lemonade. We can decide what

problems we choose to Runaway

from and which problems we

choose to run to.

Why so serious?

I’ve often had to learn the hard

way to value the pain of others in

whatever form it comes. I’ve often

found public speaking

paralyzingly difficult, which is

especially unfortunate given that

I’m a rapper. I can recall having to

give a presentation in college and

the anxiety I felt while sitting

waiting my turn. I could feel my

heart thudding in my chest as I

tried to mentally recite my talking

points for ‘The Handmaid’s Tale’. A

bubbly character called Joanna

was called up before me and in

the spirit of camaraderie I wished

her...contd in next page

I’m a London based Gospel rap artist and I’ve

just released my first single of the year, entitled

‘Runaway.’

OF (TLD)


JWALKER

Look for more details here www.tldmusic.com

Click icons above to follow J. Walker


SPECIAL

FEATURE

good luck as I tucked in my chair

to let her pass. Her response has

stuck with me ever since, “It’s not

that serious is it?” How dare she!

How very dare she! In that

moment I was full of shock and

confusion.

She had unknowingly mocked my

pain and anxiety and somehow

dwarfed all my fears. It’s as if I felt

I had no right to be anxious after

this and she has exposed my

fears as wild exaggerations.

Relating in relationships

Here’s the part where I need to be

critical of myself. For a long time I

placed a high value on

intelligence. I’m curious by nature

and love to pursue a wide array of

interests. What it took me a long

time to realise was that

intelligence can be a major

insecurity for people and while I

felt I was sharing knowledge and

engaging in stimulating debates I

was actually exposing anxiety

and insecurity in others.

This would only become

apparent to me as part of the

debrief at the end of a

relationship or a swift change in

conversation topic to something

lighter like ‘What do you want to

eat?’ This was when I first learned

we all have a different list of

things we want to run away from

and often nowhere to run away

to.

Where is the love?

As we all hurt differently it

becomes more difficult to

understand the hurt of others. An

ex-addict is often the best person

to sponsor, mentor and help

someone currently suffering from

addiction. Groups currently

assemble on sites such as

Facebook so victims of shared

suffering such as abuse can

support each other and they

refuse to let anyone in who hasn’t

shared their pain. This even

extends to male victims of

domestic violence not being

allowed in female centred

domestic violence support

groups.

Our challenge is therefore to

support and love each other

equally even though we have

different types of pain and

anxiety. Our individualized

As we all hurt differently it becomes more difficult to

internalized suffering makes it

harder for us to relate to one

another but if we don’t then we

will continue to hurt each other.


As you read this take a moment to

contemplate that there are

multiple teenagers leaving their

houses carrying knives because

they have a fear of being stabbed

by someone with a knife.

They fail to see the fear and

anxiety in one another and

instead see an enemy. Someone

to Runaway from or more

commonly someone to run

towards and kill in an attempt to

cure their own fear.

The Cure

Remember earlier on I asked,

“What’s the worst thing that could

understand the hurt of others.

happen to you?” Chances are it’s

something deep that your

imagination alone could turn into

tangible pain. Mix that in with all

the problems and issues you’ve

overcome in your life and you

have every reason to resemble

fine china broken and glued

together again with the best

intentions but missing a couple

pieces that would make you

whole nonetheless. All of these

things happen internally yet we

usually try to treat our pain

externally with the 5 Ps. We run

away to:

People – Relying on our

relationship with people to cure

us

Places – Relying on nostalgia or

taking a holiday to escape to a

better life

Possessions – Buying things to

make ourselves feel better about

life

Prescriptions – Attempting to

manage the imbalance within us

with prescription drugs

Paraphernalia – Using illegal

drugs to make ourselves feel

better

I reached a point in my life where

my pain was so deep it couldn’t be

quantified as physical pain, it was

my soul that needed a cure. I

mastered how to appear whole

and even happy externally but I

was covering up something deep

and dark, not too far below the

surface. I needed change from

within and I ran to God to solve it

as the only plausible option to

take on a job of such magnitude.

There was no quick fix to relieve

the internal pain but a daily

renewing from within. The end

result is feeling you have nothing

to runaway from because of who

you runaway to.

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WELCOME TO HOLLAND

When you're going to hove a baby. it's like planning a fabulous vacation trip to Italy. You buy a bunch

of guide books and make your wonderful plans.The Coliseum.The Michelangelo David.The gondolas in

Venice.You may learn some handy phrases in Italian.It's all very exciting.

After months of eager anticipation. the day finally arrives.You pack your bags and off you go. Several

hours later, the plane lands.The stewardess comes in and says,"Welcome to Holland."

"Holland!!!" you soy. "What do you mean Holland? I signed up for Italy! I'm supposed to be in Italy.

All my life I've dreamed of going to Italy."

But there's been a change in the flight plan.. They've landed in Holland and there you must stay.

The important thing is that they haven't token you to a horrible, disgusting. filthy place. full of

pestilence. famine and disease.It's just a different place.

So you must go out and buy new guide books. And you must learn a whole new language. And you

will meet a whole new group of people you would never have met.

It's just a different place.It's slower-paced than Italy, less flashy than Italy. But after you've been there

for a while and you catch your breath, you look around. and you begin to notice that Holland has

windmill and Holland has tulips. Holland even has Rembrandts.

But everyone you know is busy coming and going from Italy.. And for the rest of your life .you will

say "Yes. that's where I was supposed to go. That's what I had planned."

But if you spend your life mourning the fact that you didn't get to Italy. you

may never be free to enjoy the very special. the very lovely things about

Holland.

by Emily Perl Kingsley


the years I have had friends

Over

and go.

come

was never easy for me to make

It

in the first place, I was shy

friends

I was a child and it took a

when

for me to be myself and to

while

I got past my shyness I was

Once

as the funny one, the one

known

was a little crazy but a great

that

to people.

friend

know in friendship groups I have

I

always said the right thing or

not

the right thing, but people

done

always mattered to me, and

have

a friend has always been

being

to me.

important

is the perfect friend? The

What

who can make you laugh? the

one

who has 100s of friends

person

is popular? The one you can

and

to?

of us has a different ideal

Each

and they can vary from

friend

to person.

person

is hard to find a really good friend

It

days, In hard times I have

these

friends leave me and betrayed

had

Some people want to gain

me.

friendship, what they can get

from

the friendship, this can

from

be a company or

simply

in maybe to get the

sometimes

I think of friendship, I think

When

relationship with someone that

of

so special. Its a bond of trust a

is

of love. Yet in this world we

bond

the name of friendship.

damage

become selfish, we forget the

We

who have nothing to offer

people

and we forget the the real

us

You Have Got A Friend In Me

This is because we are all unique.

not be shy with people.

R U T H A L L E N

But stand up in

the storm when it

all feels like it is

crashing down.

latest gossip.

cry .

meaning of friendship and love.


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&

Style

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me I find it now hard to let

For

get close to me because of

people

I have been through, but

things

how God still worked in my

some

and gave me unexpected

live

friends.

have had new friends come into

I

life that I can trust to lean on

my

I know I am having a bad day

when

even good days.

and

brings people into your life

God

you never expect, and for me

that

but real friends have

friendships

and loved me through

understood

taken me along time to find

it..Its

friends, that I feel I can be

the

with and one of them I

honest

a wonderful friendship, even

have

he lives in another country

though

connects well with me and my

he

and has helped me out of a

illness

state. bad

is why Ability Joe is such a

This

writer for this website, and I

good

thank him enough for being

can’t

for me.

there

the Director of MHM, has

Seyi

my family, he looks out for

become

and sends his greetings often.

me

we live few miles apart, he

Though

kindness more than people

shows

me. around

thing is never loss hope of

The

alone and with no friends.

feeling

of last year I felt broken with

End

friends and lost, but God

no

Even if I have never met them

Ilife.

person. in

stand up in the storm when it

But

feels like it is crashing down.

all

pain is for a season and true

This

will show themselves.

friends

loss hope.

Never

is still good people out there

There

like to be a good friend to people,

I

we can treat people how we

if

to be treated the world will

want

a little better. If you can't find a

be

Mind Health Music is not just

Team

website of empty words we are

a

people who really care, so slip

all

a message and make a friend in

us

us.

friend is always loyal,

A

a brother is born to help in

and

of need. Proverbs 17:17

time

in this world.

it been the team of MHM.

The secret is that

need someone who will

We all

there is no listen real

and support us but who is

secret to getting a

by us on bad

also able to stand cope with harsh

days and able to

vehicle last a

words.

health issues my chronic

With my

long time. The

and

fatigue and depression

out come can words my anxiety

difference is

damage

can this harsh, and mean

maintenance.

brought amazing people into my

good friend be a good one.


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MEN

LIKELY THAN

MORE

TO DROP OUT OF

GIRLS

ARE 5 TIMES

BOYS

LIKELY TO

MORE

LABELED AS

BE

HAVING

REFERENCES .

QUOTED

PHILIP ZIMBARDO

DR

THE MHMUK MAGAZINE

BOYS ARE

30%

SCHOOL

ADHD

RISE

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A WAKE UP CALL TO PARENTS

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REAL


would not have come at a

This

time as this when every

better

of media available to man is

form

censored, and gives its

hardly

to all excluding no

accessibility

even as far as age limit is

one

putting a whole set of

concerned,

at the lower rung of age

people

in vulnerable situation,

ladder

their perspectives about

tinting

in general and relationships

life

opposite sex in particular.

with

young male population of this

The

are the most affected.

statistics

Phillip Zimbardo sounded an

Dr

as a result of findings

alarm

from various researches

generated

young boys, all

involving

on young boys ultimate

bordering

compared to their

performance

counterpart at every

female

of life. A trend was noticed:

sphere

the boys;

performing

are 30% more likely

boys

drop out of school

to

girls; boy are 5

than

more likely to be

times

as having ADHD

labelled

more statistics

and

the girls over

favouring

people have been

Young

to be distracted

noticed

virtual reality devices

by

products in which

or

are the most users.

boys

average time spent

The

boys in virtual world is

by

higher than

significantly

The most damaging

girls.

this virtual world

of

reality is

imitating

a.k.a porn

pornography

our young ones live in

Unfortunately,

present world where digital

the

are hardly censored, and the

products

world now makes this type of

internet

easy to access. The

product

consequences are fast

unintended

their bearing on the lives and

taking

of these kids whose core values

future

modeled after personality they

are

while consuming this products.

meet

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JUST BECAUSE A GIRL

IS FRIENDLY WITH YOU

THAT DOESN'T MEAN

SHE'S INTERESTED IN

YOU

the boys.

video.

girls are found to be out

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ONE

MHMUK IS ONE YEAR OLD NOVEMBER 24TH

MindHealthMusic, a new brand in the mainstream of Mental Health

awareness and education. At MHM, we are saddled with the task of

helping to take you from where you are to where you ought and long

to be as far as your mental health is concerned. Our vision is to see a

Mental Wellness culture driven society


videos are full of distorted

Porn

They contain male values

reality.

domination, aggressiveness,

like

violence which are

competition,

the brain of boys away

rewiring

what is reality to the unreal.

from

boys view about relationship

Young

been impacted such that now

has

with female friends is

connection

that which is graced with

hardly

honor, passion or empathy

respect,

now replaced by aggression,

but

selfishness, lack of

domination,

these are values

empathy:

imputed from

unconsciously

value graphics such as

distorted

video they spend their time

porn

consuming.

watched with keen interest

I

presentation titled

Zimbardo’s

of boys’. He said, boys

‘demise

of these types of digital

choice

with significant amount

production

time of engagement due to

of

addiction, is placing boys

arousal

of sync with their classes

out

for falling behind the girls),

(reason

also out of sync with

and

wants real men in their

Women

who they can talk to, take

lives,

on a proper date; husbands

them

can dance, make love slowly;

who

have every sense of

who

both present and

responsibility

in view. However, more and

future

damages are done by these

more

is a wake up call to every

This

educator, media person,

parent,

maker, speaker at every level,

film

be responsive to this

to

trend turning our

unfortunate

into time bombs.

societies

want my boy to view the world

I

a different perspective

from

by healthy illustrations

informed

graphics which are primary

and

through which core values

channel

developed. I want my girls to

are

respected, dignified, have

feel

date ( at the appropriate

proper

one in which is not motivated

age)

selfishness and sensual

by

and, also feel safe

pleasure,

they find themselves.

wherever

conclusion, every attempt should

In

made to put these undesired

be

on a reverse mode.

outcome

activities solely

Checkmate

by irregularities,

characterised

and obscenity causing

abnormalities

regulations are needed to curb

More

activities, more parental

such

in our kids activities

involvement

infringing on their age

without

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our young ones their lives and future.

multi billion worth industries .

privacy is also highly

related

. recommended.

Seyi is the founder/Director of MHMUK. He is also

a singer/song writer. He has a PhD (online

program) in view with special interest in Mental

Health and Society

relationships.


P S Y C H O T H E R A P Y

Why I Recommend Choosing

Psychotherapy

Jason Needs is a registered Psychotherapist with hands-on

experience. He has helped many clients realised their desires

and goals.

began to counsel people privately and

mostly voluntary while working full time

as a personal trainer at a local gym, to

gain experience and see the results of

my counselling methods which were very

well received by clients and proven to be

effective in practice. Since 2005, I have

continued to keep up-to date with the

world of psychology and I have even

added to my studies-neuroscience and

neuroplasticity, understanding body

language and facial expressions from fbi

professionals to increase my skills as a

psychotherapist.

I have total confidence in my skills and

knowledge of psychotherapy and the

areas of study I continue to do. As a

psychotherapist I know that there is no

miracle cure outside of divine

intervention that will get rid of a persons

problems regarding Mental Health,

mainly because Mental Health isn't

simply "all in the mind" and can be

...Read more in PAGE 18

He is also a personal trainer, and also

recording artiste.He is the CEO of

Worldwide Gospel Crew. He and his

family live in Essex, UK.

Hello, my name is Json Needs, I am

46 years old and a commited

Christian living in Westcliff On Sea,

Essex England. I am married to

Joanna with 7 children ranging from

the ages of 6 to 25 years old, I am

also a psychotherapist, personal

trainer, song writer and recording

artist. I began my studies in

psychology and especially

psychotherapy back in 2005.After

struggling with PTSD and panic

attacks, my goal was to understand

the why, how and what of the mind

and brain and how it worked and

especially how it effects the body in

psychosomatic ways, I was

personally mentored by a

psychotherapist friend who worked

for Bupa and was a sister at a

Psychiatric hospital.

Upon completion of my study

course in Psychotherapy via Open

College and receiving my diploma, I

Jason is a volunteer

Psychotherapist on MHMUK

platform. If you want help, you

can contact him by filling out the

contact form on our website. Ask

for a free counselling session with

Jason

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Seyi Adebowale a.k.a Seyi O'Deb

Founder/Director

Member/ Editor Wemy Adebowale

Team

Relation /Columnist Ruth Allen

Public

Member/Counselor Ronke Uboh

Team

Member/Columnist Ability Joe

Team

Member/Columnist Christina Da Silva

Team

Contributors

VIP

Page,

Mellonie

LOCATIONS

United Kingdom

Hertfordshire,

Our Team

Team Member/Psychotherapist Jason Needs

Independent Editor Rebecca Bristow

Mellonie Page Music UK

Folashade Olupitan

The Punch Nigeria

JWalker of TLD

Lions Den UK

...YOUR MIND'S HEALTH, YOUR RESPONSIBILITY

MHMUK

...an online platform for Mental Health awareness and education

P H O T O G R A P H Y C R E D I T

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P S Y C H O T H E R A P Y

"gotten over" it is much deeper and

is not only a psychological matter

but a neurological matter, whether

it was a genetic defect to start with

or through an accident or illness

involving the brain etc. Mental

Health is very much part of a

person and includes everyone in

the world.

Psychotherapy was the choice of

course I decided to follow because I

see much failure in the field of

Psychiatry and in the methods of

Psychiatrists. Psychotherapy

despite using the word psycho is

not limited to the area of

psychopathic behaviour, rather it is

a practical method of retraining the

thoughts and neurological patterns

and behaviours of the mind and

brain.Psychotherapy unlike

Psychiatry doesn't "brand a person

with a condemning diagnosis" and

try to treat the symptoms of Mental

Illness with pharmaceuticals alone

and leave you to accept a life of no

purpose and condemned to suffer

as a non functional member of

society,Psychotherapy provides the

means and methods to change the

effect of Mental Illness in our lives

and help us to change our way of

thinking, thereby changing the

effects of psychological disorders

and making them manageable and

possibly overcoming in some cases

psychological limitations.

Psychotherapy encourages

cognitive changes, and positive

thinking based on scientific facts

and methods, it does support

medication being used, but seeks

to eventually release a person from

psychoactive drugs and help them

to stand on their own two feet and

gain a substantial degree of control

and power in a persons life to live

beyond the limitations that have

been imposed on them by Mental

Health problems and traumatic

experiences. the service I can

provide is one of excellence,

professionalism, deep

understanding of not only years of

psychological and scientific studies

but personal experience with PTSD,

Panic Attacks and Agoraphobia, as

well as loss of loved ones and

suicidal thoughts.

I provide empathy as well as

sympathy, confidentiality, faith

based and non faith based therapy

and counselling. And a

determination to see clients

succeed and reach goals they never

thought or believed possible. I

personally use the methods and

techniques I have developed over

the past 13 years and have seen

changes and goals reached in my

life that I did not think possible.

Am I completely free from my

PTSD? Panic Attacks etc? no not 100

percent but enough to be a

functional and loving, caring dad,

husband, friend and therapist and

Christian, all of which can be

confirmed by my wife and children

and church family and friends. This

is the hope and service I offer to

those who want it. The Mental

Health and music platform enables

me to provide a free counselling

service and work as part of a team

whereby I have accountability and

input from other professionals.

FOR HELP CONTACT JASON

MINDHEALTHMUSIC.COM

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T E C H N O L O G Y


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Socialising and Mental Health

Social interaction reduces stress and

builds trust. Oxytocin and dopamine

levels rise when time is spent with

friends and family.


INTERACTING WITH FAMILY & FRIENDS MIGHT DO THE TRICK

By Mellonie Page

Mellonie Page has a BA Honours in Performing Arts. A Singer, Writer, Performing Artist and Mental Wealth

Workshop Facilitator. She organises singing classes where participants are also thought good mental

health boosting exercises.

One of the problems a decline in Mental

Health can bring is isolation. The last

thing you may feel like doing is going

anywhere. Closing the curtains,

wrapping up and going to bed is often

more appealing. Some people cut

themselves off from friends and family

for months on end which can be

damaging to relationships. It can be

very difficult to carry out basic day to

day tasks whilst feeling under a cloud

of depression or other mental illness.

Going out, even to the local shops at

first can help your mental state to

improve and give you the courage to

venture out further.

You don’t need lots of money to get

yourself out there. You could meet

someone at a cafe, library or park.

Going to the cinema can help a great

deal, because it can be entertaining but

you don’t have to worry too much

about having a lot to say, if you aren’t

feeling very talkative.

Group activities could be beneficial.

Self help groups and church can prove

to be supportive.

“Interacting with others boosts

feelings of well-being and decreases

feelings of depression. Research has

shown that one sure way of improving

your mood is to work on building

social connections. You may even

lower your risk of dementia.” 30 Jun

2016 Psychology Today.

Social interaction reduces stress and

builds trust. Oxytocin and dopamine

levels rise when time is spent with

friends and family.

Oxytocin is sometimes known as the

"cuddle hormone" or the "love

hormone," because it is released

when people snuggle up or bond

socially.

Dopamine is released at pleasurable

moments, when eating food you

enjoy, doing things you love and in

company you enjoy.

Spending money on experiences

instead of material things, brings us

more joy.

Community and voluntary work will

give you new skills and new friends.

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CHRISTINA

DA SILVA

Christina is a gospel singer and

songwriter. A Best Reggae Singer

award nominee. She is a strong Mental

Health Advocate. A cause she holds

dearly by virtue of her experience as

far as the Mental Health issue is

concerned. She is a survivor and so

she tells her story in a most

compassionate way.

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FAMILY

&

SUPPORT

I was on the verge of a

nervous breakdowns. My

mum and my auntie knew

before me that I was falling

unwell. I knew something

was different in regards to

how I was feeling. I started

feeling scared, anxious and

very jumpy at every little

sound. I was starting to

have panic attacks and

extremely emotional. Crying

for every little thing I just

could n't cope with life. For

me my problems felt so big.

I remember that my mum

would say to me, "Christina

you're making the problem

bigger than what it is". "The

problem is this small but

your mind is blowing it up

like its this big". Talking to

my mum about how I was

feeling always seemed to

give me comfort.

My mum was also a

manager for youth work in

London Hackney. She was a

very good listener and gave

back very helpful advice.

I was 17 years old the first

time I fell unwell. Just after

having my first son. It

stemmed from post natal

depression and then led into

full blown depression. It

further progressed into

Mental Health complications.

So when my mum and

auntie noticed a change in

my personality, they had let

me know that they were

worried about me because

they feel that i am falling

unwell & that they are book

an appointment for me to

see a psychiatrist. My

response to what they had

said was "I don't need to see

a doctor i am not mad,

everyone else is mad".

I was no longer thinking

rational because at this stage

i had started to develop

psychosis. This was triggered

by not being able to sleep for

weeks on end as thoughts

was racing through my mind.

From a professional

psychiatrist

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ANNOUCEMENT

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November

Our Vision is to see a

Mental Wellness culture

driven society

The Journey started on the

24th November 2017 at

Welham Green UK

MindHealthMusic, a new brand in the mainstream of mental

health awareness. At MHM UK, we are saddled with the task

of helping to take you from where you are to where you ought

and long to be as far as your mental health is concerned. We

aim to achieve this through a mix of innovation, effective

plannings, action, and evaluations with the help of

professionals.

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F A M I L Y & F R I E N D S S U P P O R T S

PAGE 87

point of view, physcosis is when

your thoughts and emotions are

impaired that contact is lost with

external reality. Symptoms are;

A high mood, talking and thinking too

much or to quickly, a low mood that

can cause loss of appetite, troubles

sleeping, difficulty concentrating, a

depressed mood, and it can also

cause you to sleep too much or not

enough. It causes anxiety,

suspeciousness, withdrawal from

family and friends,

delusions/hallucinations. I had

started to fall out with my close

loved , ones one by one I was

pushing them away from me as I

started not to trust no one at all.

I became extremely scared to be

alone, I believed that I was

possessed, which 19 years later

when i gave my life to Jesus Christ,

i found out that I was possessed

which I have now received

deliverance from in Jesus name.

When I was having a breakdown

my mum and auntie kept ringing the

Mental Health out-patients to book

an appointment for me to be seen by

a doctor. At this stage I still thought

there was nothing wrong with

me. When I was eventually seen by a

doctor for the first time extremely

scared that the doctor would say

that I had to stay in a Mental Health

hospital so when the Psychiatric

Doctor asked me questions about my

mental state I was not honest at all.

So after my appointment with the

Doctor he let me to go back home

with my mum and aunt. They were

extremely annoyed with the doctor

for not prescribing me any

medication to help me sleep and feel

more stable.

REVIEWS

Because my mum and auntie had

spent much more time with me than

the doctor had done they knew i

needed medication quickly because

they knew I was heading for a huge

nervous breakdown. I eventually

ended up in hospital. My family and

friends came to see me, even

though I still trusted no one. Once

the medication started to take

effect I began to feel more stable.

The downside was i felt numb and

like a zombie.

Everything around me seemed to

be going in slow motion. The

medication only suppressed the

symptoms, it never cured me. Some

of the symptoms was still there but

at least the medication stopped my

thoughts from racing. My mind was

still tormented by fear. Fear is not of

God, it is of the devil. God is love.

1 John 4:18 "There is no fear in love

but perfect love cast out all fear

because fear has torment, he that

fears is not made perfect in love"

I definitely wasn't made perfect in

love as I never knew Jesus at that

point in my life I never knew much

about Jesus and I definitely did not

have a relationship with Jesus at this

stage.

2 Timothy 1:7 "For God has not

given us a spirit of fear, but of power

and of love and of a sound mind".

Now that i am a follower of Jesus ,

looking back now with a much better

spiritual understanding, i thank God

for, I now know the spirit world is

very much so real and I believe when

a person has a mental breakdown,

when they are in a psychosis state

because they have allowed the spirit

of fear to enter them. Fear opens up

many doors and allows spirits to

enter ones mind and torment them.

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F A M I L Y & S U P P O R T S

As we know people who suffer

from Mental Health disorder wether its on

the lower scale, for instance, depression or

wether its on a major scale, for example,

schizophrenia. People with Mental Health

are in a extremely dark place mentally

and I believe that there eyes have been

spiritually opened into the kingdom of

darkness into the spirit world from when

the spirit of fear entered them. I believe this

100%. I am speaking from my own personal

experience and from witnessing a similar

situation from a very close loved one. The

physicist specialist would refer to a spiritual

attack as a nervous breakdown and they

would say that it is caused from a chemical

imbalance in the brain.

The role that a family member or friends

play in supporting someone who is suffering

from mental health is extremely important. I

cant emphasize enough how crucial it is to

have family and friends to support us

through these extremely dark and

challenging times in our life. It isnt easy for

any carer to look after someone who is in a

psychosis state or who has long

term Mental Health problems. It can be

extremely scary at times worrying if they're

ever gonna get better and it can be

extremely tiring for the carers.

Its extremely sad to say that there are many

people who have had a nervous breakdown

who have no support network and in a lot of

these cases they have completely lost there

mind and have never manage to recover

because there is no one around them to

show them love, comfort, or even talk

positive things to them or to let them no

that they are not well and let them know

that they will get through the challenging

times through people praying for them and

for them praying for themsevles through

medication, counselling and love shown

towards them from family and friends.

Many times friends and even family

members turn there backs on there loved

ones and give up on them because they are

scared of them and don't understand what

is happening to them, they have a lack of

understanding, they are embarrased of

them and there thinking is a lot of the time

very shallow.

So its so crucial to have loving and

supporting family and friends around your

unwell loved one even if they are saying

hurtful things to you, or shouting at you or

breaking down crying all the time or even

pushing you away from them with what

they're saying that may offend you. They

don't mean to do this, its because the

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darkness in there mind has taken over them

and there only acting this way towards you

because that's how they are feeling

inside they cant behave any better. So

Please just remember not to take it

personal, the more love and support they

have around them, the more quicker there

recovery stage will be.

So it is very important as a loving concerned

family member or friend that if you see even

the slightest of change in your loved ones or

your friends character. Please don't delay,

act quickly. Spend time talking to them and

find out what's going on in their minds. You

may notice that they have become more

withdrawn and not speaking as much as

they usually are or they have become

maniac or they are extremely tearful and

emotional. Not smiling or laughing as much.

You need to personally ask them what they

are thinking about because in some cases

they are too scared to say things to you like,

they are hearing voices or they are seeing

spirits or they feel depressed and lack

motivation. Because they don't want you to

think that they might be losing their mind.

So you have to be their eyes , ears and

voices and keep talking to them. Eventually

in most cases they will tell you what is

going on in their head, especially if they feel

they can trust you and you are a person who

would show compassion towards them and

not judge them. If you are a Christian please

pray for them or pray with them and read

healing scriptures over them

ISAIAH 53:5 "and by His stripes we are

healed".

Thank you Jesus for the many storms, the

rain and the sunshine I have faced, because

without the beating, the shaking and the

pressing that God has allowed me to go

through I would never be the women

that I am today and to know that all my help

comes from the Lord who has made the

heavens and the earth. Do remember don't

regret your past because without the mess,

there is no message. The bigger the test, the

greater the testimony.

If you feel all hope is lost, try calling on

Jesus the Name above all names . He is

our Saviour, our only hope and He came to

set the captives free. He brought me from

darkness into the great and marvelous

light.

2 Corinthians 12:9 "And He said unto me, My

Grace is sufficient for you for my strength is

made perfect in weakness. Therefore most

gladly I would rather boast in my infirmities

that the power of Christ may rest upon me.

Be blessed, stay blessed and be encouraged.

I love you all with the love of Jesus Christ.

Let's put an end to the stigma

of Mental Health.

Dont suffer in silence!!

God has blessed you with a voice so please

talk to some one about how you are feeling

mentally so you can recieve the help and

care you deserve !!

God bless you all

I pray that this has blessed each and

everyone who reads this. If you suffer from

a Mental Health disorder please, please,

please DON'T GIVE UP!!!

There is hope in Jesus Christ. He has freed

me from the spirit of depression and I have

faith in Him that he will also free me from

my other Mental Health disorder

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Motivational

We look around us for things that will

help us define who we are. In fact, the

majority of people have no sense of

identity apart from the clothes they wear,

the car they drive, where they live,

whom they are married to and so on.

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Who am I

by Ability Joe

Joe is a musician/producer and a songwriter. He has many singles to his

credit. A graduate of Adeyemi College of Education, Ondo state Nigeria. A

dynamic young prolific motivational writer and information Tech expert. He

is in a relationship.

It may seem like a straightforward question. Most

would answer by giving their name without

giving it much thought. However, on deeper

reflection, do you really understand who you are?

Our world today has one great irony that is mindboggling:

the majority of people in the world

are trying very hard to conform to what someone

else wants them to be. It is often so subtle that

we fail to realise that that is what we are doing. As

Sarah McLachlan points out: “We’re

constantly being told what other people think we

are, and that’s why it is so important to know

yourself.”

It happens at many levels. For instance, television

bombards us with images of how we should

look and dress, what we should eat and drink, what

car we should drive and even what kind of

person we should marry. Some even go as far as

telling us how to fall in love!

We look around us for things that will help us

define who we are. In fact the majority of people

have no sense of identity apart from the clothes

they wear, the car they drive, where they live,

whom they are married to and so on.

If we had to strip you of everything you own and

leave you on some island away from everything

you think defines you, would you still have a clear

sense of who you are? What defines you?

Some would think of themselves in terms of their

body. The image of their face and body

defines who they are. If we were to remove you

from your body, would you still know who you

are? It sounds weird, I know, but understand that

man is a spirit; he lives in a body and has a

soul. Your body is simply a means of expressing

yourself and interacting with your physical

environment.

So your body is not really who you are. At the core

of it, you are more than that.

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In fact, that is why it is so hard for people to fully

understand and appreciate who they are. Who you

are cannot be seen, touched, smelt, heard or tasted.

Your senses cannot tell you who you are.

the world's woe comes from people not knowing

themselves, their abilities, their frailties, and even

their real virtues. Most of us go almost all the way

through life as complete strangers to ourselves.”

The concept of self in the true form is something

beyond the grasp of our physical bodies and

senses. We are complex beings. We cannot be defined

by the things around us, but by the things within us. I

believe that in essence, we are what we think.

Physically as human beings, we are all essentially the

same. It is our thoughts and experiences that

differentiate us.

It may seem like an overstatement, but it is so. Many

lack an understanding of who they are,

without which they are unable to know what they are

capable of achieving in life. In the days of

slavery in Europe and America, this was well

understood. Black people were forced to change

their names to Western names so they would not

remember who they really were.

Our true identity, then, lies within us, not outside of

us. We should define whom we are based on

our thoughts, our values, principles, and beliefs. It’s

okay to have material things and all, but they

should not be our sense of self. They are just things

that are there to make our lives easier. If

you were suddenly homeless today that would not

change who you are as a person. You would

still be you.

What is the importance of all this, you might

ask? Ralph Waldo Emerson warns that “The greatest

difficulty is that men do not think enough of

themselves, do not consider what it is that they are

sacrificing when they follow in a herd, or when they

cater for their establishment.”

So you are sacrificing something when you go

through life blindly conforming to everything. You

sacrifice your true potential and purpose, which you

can only fulfill when you truly understand

yourself. Look within yourself, not without. For

everything begins and ends with your thoughts.

Sidney J. Harris adds that “Ninety percent of

Furthermore, they were banned from knowing how

to read or write. That should make the lights

flash in someone’s head. The reason this was done

was that their masters knew that if they

knew how to read they would discover many things,

not only about the world around them but

about themselves. Their minds would be stretched to

new levels of understanding.

Choose not to live in ignorance about who you are

and what you can do. Decide today to

discover more about yourself and to start on the

journey of self-discovery. My best

recommendation – read your Bible. Without it, you

may never know who you really are.

In the words of James Allen, “Only by much searching

and mining are gold and diamonds obtained, and

man can find every truth connected with his being if

he will dig deep into the mine of his soul.”

My name is Joseph, and I am a living proof of God's

awesomeness!!!

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We look around us for things

that will help us define who

we are. In-fact the majority

of people

have no sense of identity

apart from the clothes they

wear, the car they drive,

where they live,

whom they are married to

and so on.

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