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THECONTENTS

FEATURES

18 WE’RE HERE, WE’RE BI, GET USED TO IT

EMBRACING BISEXUALS WITHIN THE COMMUNITY

22 TRANS WORK

TRANSGENDER JOB AND RESOURCES FAIR

24 MODELS OF PRIDE

THE CENTER’S LGBTQ YOUTH CONFERENCE

26 THE MAN IN THE MIRROR

BODY DYSMORPHIC DISORDER

28 BE THE CHANGE

ACTIVIST, MUSICIAN MADAME GANDHI

32 IN LOVING MEMORY

ARTIST, PHOTOGRAPHER ISAURO CAIRO

34 FASHION AS ACTIVISM

A MESSAGE OF DIVERSITY INCLUSION

36 A FOREVER HOME

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DEPARTMENTS

08 THE TALK

10 THE CITY

14 THE TRANSACTION

16 THE ROSTOW REPORT

30 THE SHARE

40 THE ART

42 THE MUSIC

44 THE EPIDEMIC

46 THE EVENT

48 THE CALENDAR

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Models Of

PRIDE

The world’s largest free conference

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for the first time at the California State University, Los Angeles (Cal State LA)

Held campus, more than 1,500 lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender and questioning

youth (LGBTQ) and their allies from 150 cities and more than 200 schools nationwide

attended the Los Angeles LGBT Center’s 26th annual Models of Pride conference last

month. This year’s theme was “Our Time Is Now!”

As the world’s largest free conference of its kind, Models of Pride offered a full day of lifeenriching

programming designed to help young people build confidence and self-esteem and

develop valuable life skills. Organized through the Center’s LifeWorks youth development and

mentoring program, the day included more than 100 workshops and presentations, lunch and

dinner, an outdoor dance party, and live entertainment for all youth ages 24 and under.

This year’s conference included performances by VINCINT, Gizzle, DJ InfaRed, DJ

OAK-E, and dance groups MarInspired and Dance LA Entertainment. Photographer and

activist Maxwell Poth hosted the Entertainment Hour.

“In the midst of the daunting and scary political times we are living, now more than ever is the

time for us to unite and rise in our celebration of our diversity. We are strong, powerful, and resilient,”

said Center Associate Director of Education and Youth Development Kevin McCloskey.

“Our young communities have overcome tremendous challenges and—no matter what

the obstacles—our time to stand up, be heard, and speak up is NOW.”

In addition to the youth portion of the

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After the three workshop sessions

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BETHECHANGE

Queer, feminist, activist, musician Madame Gandhi on misogynist rappers,

inclusive diversity and inducing the vibration of your own humanity.

Madame Gandhi,

headline performer at this month’s Palm

Springs Pride festival, is the music and

activism project helmed by drummer and

Harvard graduate, Kiran Gandhi.

Gandhi rose to fame as a drummer for

M.I.A. and also as the radical activist who

free bled during the London Marathon

in 2015 to bring attention to the global

stigma surrounding menstruation. In 2016

she released Madame Gandhi’s debut EP,

Voices to great acclaim.

In an interview with THE FIGHT Ghandi

talks about misogynist rappers, inclusive

diversity and inducing the vibration of your

own humanity.

Your music has such a strong

social justice core to it—do you

consider your music an essential

part of your practice as an activist?

Or, do you you see them as two

distinct aspects of your work?

I often say music is the medium through

which I chose to convey my message. And,

unlike other artists, my activism really came

[before my music] in the sense that I ran the

London marathon in 2015 bleeding freely on

my cycle and that story went viral. I ran to

combat the global stigma that women face

when they are on their periods and when

the story went viral I was asked to speak at

a couple different events, and universities,

and conferences. At these events some of

the hosts would say: “you’re a musician—

why don’t you play us a couple songs after

you give your talk?” But I was like, I’ve only

ever drummed for other people. I had never

made my own music. So then a lot of folks

who I cherish dearly in my life were like:

well, you better start. Because I did have a

message and I did have something to say,

music was the most sort of obvious way for

me to put my body of work in one cohesive

location. So that’s really what happened. I

would say that my music and my activism

are certainly intertwined.

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In horrific political times like we

once again find ourselves in—how

does your practice as an artist

reflect the state of politics? Is your

work the space you are able to process

and work through the events

of the news? Or, do you find that

music is the place where you can go

to escape the weight of the world?

That’s a good question. As a consumer of

music I definitely use music as a place to escape

and less as a place to participate, which

is ironic because I don’t make music that is

about escaping. I definitely make music that

is about confronting the world head on. I think

the artists that have inspired me the most are

the ones who sort of allow me to empathize

with an experience I would not otherwise

have. [For example] I grew up listening to

Eminem—who is one of the most violently

misogynist rappers there are. But, the difference

with him is that he also raps about

how his mother abandoned and abused

him. There’s something powerful about [that

dichotomy which creates] some understanding

as to where a part of his misogyny and

mistrust of women comes from—especially

as opposed to the kind of redundant

misogyny that we hear on the airwaves today

that doesn’t really have any grounding beyond

cultural sexism. In the same way, I want

to make music that has empathy and love

energy—but also is critical of things that are

problematic in society. I want someone who

might have a different upbringing than I do, or

someone who doesn’t support or understand

feminism to be able to listen to my music and

come away with a little bit more of a perspective

into a femme or female experience.

Your music focuses on inclusive,

femme diversity—was that always

a key tenant to your practice or

has that developed as a reaction to

working in the music industry?

It’s a mixture. I think I always understood

the principles of femme, inclusive diversity

but didn’t necessarily have the tools or the language

to explain it until recently. The need to

celebrate the femme and elevate the femme

has become more apparent because of who’s

in the White House and with classic sexism

that I see all the time in the music industry. So

yes, it has become an intentional choice to address

these issues head on with intelligence,

education, and peacefulness so that I can be

the change that I wish to see in the world.

Growing up in New York and traveling

extensively on tour—what about

LA made you want to set roots here?

LA inspires me. Not every crack, crevice,

and corner is filled in with graffiti, art, or advertisements.

When I grew up in New York

city I felt like every last building had somebody

else’s art on it. There was no room for

my brain to create. When I drive around LA,

especially the industrial part of downtown

that I live in, there’s so much space for my

brain to be massaged and stimulated. I

always feel like I’m creating. I’m not thinking

about what a billboard or advertisement

wants me to see, instead I’m able to think

clearly and introspectively. I often find

myself pulling my iPhone out and recording

lyrics when I’m here. I also like living in

LA because I feel like the city has a strong

connection to wellness. I think people here

understand the value of a good eight hours

of sleep, not drinking super heavily, going on

hikes, and doing meditation LA allows me to

be a more healthy version of myself.

Your work focuses on intersectional

feminism and puts particular

spotlight on mindfulness as a form

of self care. Do you have any tips

for self care that you wish you’d

known when you were younger?

I’d recommend incorporating a twice daily

meditation practice that my mom taught

me. It’s a mixture of hip opening exercises,

breathing exercise, and a loving kindness

meditation where I imagine two people in

my life joyfully laughing and I send them

positivity for their day. Then I think about

three things that would be great if they

happened that day, like a to do list, and I

visualize myself actually doing those things.

And then I close the meditation by chanting

a hindu prayer of “om shanti.” Meditation

and chanting is literally a bath for your cells.

You’re literally inducing the vibration of your

own humanity, and your own flesh, and your

own chest cavity—just like singing does. It’s

really powerful. Doing something loving for

myself everyday builds my self-confidence

and self-trust, and allows me to have a clear

focus and gratitude for the day.

Madame Gandhi’s follow up EP is expected to be

released in the next year. For more information visit

her website: www.madamegandhi.com.

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A Forever Home

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bodies into works of art,” he says. “It takes incredible skill and knowledge to form human

tissue to near perfection. Photographing their work is quite gratifying to me.”

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Casey Christopher. Collectively, they have hundreds of thousands of followers on social

media. They also are all passionate about animal rescue.

Mike Ruiz, too, is a pit bull rescuer and this year’s calendar is in special tribute to Oliver,

his beloved canine, who passed away last month. Mike and Oliver shared six wonderful

years together. It was Oliver who inspired Mike to fuse his two passions—photography

and pit bulls—together into a calendar that would benefit dogs in need of rescue.

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of those in need. “This is a very sad time to be in rescue,” explains Carla Mohan of the New

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She hopes the calendar will open people’s

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“Every pit bull deserves a forever home.”

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