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Dawn Wells garnered widespread fame for<br />
playing Mary Ann Summers in the longestrunning<br />
sitcom of all time, “Gilligan’s<br />
Island.” Over the last five decades, she<br />
has also been a producer, author and a<br />
champion for many causes and charities.<br />
But despite her many achievements and<br />
recognition for her talent, intellect and<br />
generosity, she has a sense of humor about<br />
being a sex symbol. She is being featured<br />
at the 1st Annual Palm Springs International<br />
Comedy Festival and took time to discuss<br />
her celebrated career.<br />
How does it feel to be a featured<br />
celebrity at the 1st Annual Palm Springs<br />
International Comedy Festival?<br />
I am honored to be included in the 1st<br />
Annual Palm Springs International Comedy<br />
Festival! I have been acting in comedies my<br />
entire career, and it is nice to know that my<br />
work in comedy is appreciated!<br />
Your illustrious career has included<br />
acting in television, film and theater, as<br />
well as authoring self-help and a cooking<br />
book. Also, you have had a one-woman<br />
show at MGM, produced many projects<br />
and spearheaded several humanitarian<br />
causes and charities. What do you enjoy<br />
doing most at this point in your career?<br />
Whatever the next project happens to be.<br />
I always look to the future—that is where<br />
my enthusiasm goes. It is lovely to enjoy<br />
the past, but my energy goes into the next<br />
thing.<br />
After all these years, how do you reflect<br />
on your iconic role playing Mary Ann<br />
Summers on “Gilligan’s Island”?<br />
How can I not be enormously grateful to<br />
have done work that so many people have<br />
loved for five decades? No one could have<br />
known that this sitcom would survive into<br />
the 21st Century and still have such an<br />
enormous fan base. I loved playing Mary<br />
Ann, and I wish there were more women<br />
like her in the world. She was honest,<br />
resourceful, hard-working, level-headed,<br />
supportive and generous.<br />
Do you ever resent being exclusively<br />
associated with Mary Ann and not the<br />
numerous other characters you have<br />
played in film and television?<br />
But you see, I have done all of these other<br />
roles—hundreds of them. I have played<br />
tragedy, high-drama, slapstick, situational<br />
comedy. Playing Mary Ann opened the<br />
door for me to play just about every kind<br />
of character that writers create for women.<br />
How can I resent the opportunity that<br />
playing Mary Ann brought me?
In 2005, you were one of TV Guide’s “50<br />
Sexiest Stars of All Time.” Do you enjoy<br />
your sex symbol status in addition to<br />
accolades you receive for your work?<br />
I don’t know how any person, no matter<br />
what they look like, could answer that<br />
question with a straight face. I am glad<br />
people feel I am sexy. I was given good<br />
genes at birth, and I have taken good care<br />
of myself. Who does not want to hear a<br />
compliment? But I do not dwell on it. I know<br />
there has been talk for years: Who would<br />
you prefer, Mary Ann or Ginger? I heard it<br />
then, and I hear it now. Of course, it pleases<br />
me that so many people pick Mary Ann!<br />
What changes in show business stand<br />
out for you since your early days in<br />
Hollywood?<br />
The end of the studio system in films<br />
and the ending of the dominance of the<br />
three networks in television (CBS, NBC,<br />
ABC). Back then, when you were a hit on<br />
television, 40 million people saw your<br />
work. Today, one is lucky if five million see<br />
them. Many more choices, but much less<br />
viewership per show.<br />
What advice do you have for young<br />
comedians trying to make it in the<br />
entertainment industry?<br />
Learn how to be a professional. Be prepared<br />
to work very hard. Don’t be afraid that they<br />
won’t laugh. That’s how you learn. The only<br />
failure is not trying. Also, be on time, and be<br />
dependable!<br />
You run Wishing Wells Collections,<br />
making clothing for people with limited<br />
mobility, and are the founder of the<br />
Idaho Film and Television Institute, a<br />
not-for-profit educational organization.<br />
Also, you organized SpudFest, a regional<br />
annual family movie festival, and have<br />
been the chairwoman of the Terry Lee<br />
Wells Foundation. What other causes and<br />
charities are important to you?<br />
Obviously, the upcoming Palm Springs<br />
International Comedy Festival, or I wouldn’t<br />
be going!<br />
Tell me about your fans when they<br />
recognize you.<br />
I have the sweetest fans in the world. They<br />
feel like they know me. They grew up with<br />
me watching at night, or they grew up with<br />
me watching me every day after school, or<br />
they grew up with me watching me on cable<br />
or on DVD and now on the Internet. They<br />
keep growing up, and I remain the same<br />
age!<br />
Tell me a secret—a good one!<br />
If the professor and I had both been single<br />
when we made “Gilligan’s Island,” their<br />
story would have ended much differently!!<br />
For more information about Dawn Wells,<br />
please visit DawnWells.com.<br />
For more information about the Palm<br />
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BY EILEEN SHAPIRO<br />
CELEBRITY CORRESPONDENT<br />
JOHN GRANT<br />
BROOKLYN BOUND WITH ‘LOVE IS MAGIC’<br />
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On <strong>November</strong> 30, American,<br />
European assimilated singer, John<br />
Grant will be at Warsaw in Brooklyn.<br />
This is one performance that you<br />
really need to attend. His music<br />
is filled with twists and turns and<br />
prophetic messages, with hints of<br />
insanity in the best possible way.<br />
Grant is a brilliant singersongwriter.<br />
He was formerly a<br />
member of the Denver-based<br />
alternative rock band Czars, but<br />
left to pursue a solo career. He has<br />
recently released his fourth studio<br />
album, “Love Is Magic.” I spoke<br />
with him and found him to be<br />
completely amazing, matching his<br />
songs and music.<br />
So you’re heading to<br />
Brooklyn?<br />
Yes, I’m excited!<br />
Tell me about “Love Is<br />
Magic.”<br />
It’s basically just another<br />
step towards me finding<br />
my own voice, expressing<br />
myself in the purest way<br />
I know how. Up until this<br />
point what I like to do<br />
is tell it like it is, all the<br />
ugliness and the beauty<br />
of everyday existence. I<br />
just feel like it’s all valid<br />
moments, snapshots of<br />
everyday life. You, living in<br />
New York—I’ve lived there<br />
myself as well. No matter<br />
what you have planned on<br />
any given day is but a tiny<br />
fraction of what makes its<br />
way into your brain. You<br />
make your way around<br />
the city, make your way<br />
through the streets with<br />
snippets of conversations,<br />
and are bombarded by<br />
advertisements, dealing<br />
with whatever you were<br />
dealing with inside of<br />
your own head, not to<br />
mention what’s going on<br />
in your subconscious. To<br />
me it’s just about everyday<br />
existence. Pretty much you<br />
can have anything happen<br />
on any given day. You never<br />
know what you’re going to<br />
get. I mean, you can plan<br />
to a certain extent, but<br />
you have very little control.<br />
At least I find that there is<br />
quite a bit of an illusion as<br />
far as how much control we<br />
think we have.<br />
The lyrics to your songs<br />
are interesting and deep.<br />
If there is any one artist<br />
whose head I could get<br />
into, I would choose<br />
yours.<br />
I’m not sure you would like<br />
it too much.
So you tour quite a bit—in<br />
fact, you are on a massive<br />
tour right now. If you<br />
could have your ultimate<br />
stage fantasy, what would<br />
you need to happen?<br />
Yeah, that’s a great idea.<br />
You know, I really love trees.<br />
I wouldn’t mind having a<br />
forest scenario. Do you<br />
remember “The Princess<br />
Bride”?<br />
I do.<br />
Do you remember when<br />
they had to go through that<br />
swamp? Just like one of<br />
those dark, fantasy forests<br />
with some of those bare,<br />
scary-looking, crooked<br />
trees and a harvest moon<br />
tangled up in the branches<br />
of the trees. That’s sort of<br />
a scenario I would really<br />
love. I suppose I love those<br />
old horror sets. The fog<br />
hugging the forest floor, just<br />
sort of creeping over the<br />
forest floor. It doesn’t really<br />
sound too terribly difficult<br />
to achieve.<br />
It doesn’t actually.<br />
I’d like to have a troop of<br />
really sexy men dressed in<br />
their preppy best, doing<br />
like a chorus-line type thing<br />
along with “Preppy Boy”<br />
on stage. You know that<br />
song? I’d love to have male<br />
dancers.<br />
I’m coming to that<br />
concert!<br />
Just really hot, gorgeous<br />
men dancers, especially<br />
doing all kinds of popping<br />
and rocking, like the<br />
incredible popping and<br />
rocking that goes on in<br />
hip-hop dancing. I’m totally<br />
fascinated by that.<br />
I don’t think that would<br />
be too difficult to achieve<br />
either.<br />
Also, that’s a really difficult<br />
question, because I can<br />
imagine so many things.<br />
Being inside of a Tempest<br />
board. Or having the stage<br />
look like a 3D version of<br />
Centipede. Having video<br />
mapping over the stage<br />
so it looks like you’ve<br />
emerged inside one of<br />
those video games, like<br />
Atari. I think that would<br />
really be fabulous. Oh,<br />
one more that just popped<br />
into my head. I loved to<br />
do string art when I was a<br />
kid. It would be amazing to<br />
have really incredible 3D<br />
string art—actually having it<br />
done across the stage. A<br />
really intricate, cool string<br />
art pattern. One of those<br />
really cool mathematical,<br />
teardrop patterns. Also,<br />
to have video mapping on<br />
the stage so that the entire<br />
stage looks like it’s a paint<br />
by number.<br />
I love that. We can have<br />
the hot boys paint it as<br />
you sing.<br />
I’m going to have to get<br />
somebody on it.<br />
What are you most<br />
looking forward to on this<br />
tour?<br />
I love being in the States. I<br />
especially love being on<br />
the road in the<br />
States: driving<br />
through small-town<br />
America, stopping at<br />
the gas stations with<br />
people just sort of<br />
watching. New York is a<br />
little bit overwhelming,<br />
because I have clusters<br />
of friends everywhere.
I lived in New York for a<br />
while, so I have too many<br />
people to see. It could be a<br />
little bit overwhelming and<br />
frustrating in that I don’t<br />
get to see all the people<br />
that I want to see. There is<br />
always this tension that you<br />
have when you know that<br />
you are working, when you<br />
are in that frame of mind<br />
and it’s hard to get out of<br />
that because your body has<br />
to stay tense and ready. It’s<br />
almost like being in a fight<br />
or flight holding pattern.<br />
I think you can probably<br />
imagine.<br />
Yes.<br />
So New York can be<br />
overwhelming. There is<br />
so much you want to do.<br />
I love being there, and I<br />
have great friends, but also<br />
I need some space to get<br />
ready to do my thing on<br />
stage. I want to be able to<br />
prepare mentally for the<br />
show. But I am looking<br />
forward to the show and my<br />
people. I spend a lot of my<br />
life living in other countries.<br />
I’ve lived in Germany, I’ve<br />
lived in Sweden a little<br />
bit, I spent a lot of time<br />
in England, and I’ve been<br />
living in Iceland the last<br />
seven years. I’ve spent time<br />
in the Ukraine and Russia,<br />
and I’ve spent 25 years<br />
learning foreign languages:<br />
German, Russian, Spanish,<br />
Icelandic. So I do a lot of<br />
the “getting out into the<br />
world” thing. I absolutely<br />
love it, and I think I will<br />
spend the rest of my life<br />
doing that. But going<br />
back home to your own<br />
people and just feeling that<br />
context, where you don’t<br />
have to explain yourself<br />
with a lot of references—<br />
you know how it is. It just<br />
fits, and it’s comfortable.<br />
There are so many cultural<br />
differences.<br />
Yes, there are. It’s like a<br />
never-ending story. I love<br />
discovering new cultures<br />
and attacking the languages<br />
and stuff, but my music is<br />
just chock-full of American<br />
references. My whole life<br />
people have said to me,<br />
“You’re very European.”<br />
I’m always thinking, “What<br />
the fuck does that mean?”<br />
I couldn’t possibly be<br />
more American. Yes, I<br />
am fascinated with other<br />
cultures, and I have spent<br />
a lot of time in Europe, but<br />
still, on any given evening,<br />
I’m still going to choose to<br />
watch Lindsay Wagner and<br />
the Bionic Woman with the<br />
Fembots and everything<br />
over Fellini.<br />
If you could say anything<br />
to your fans and followers,<br />
what is it that you would<br />
want to say?<br />
I think I say everything that<br />
I want to say in my music.<br />
One of the things that I<br />
think that I am learning<br />
or achieving, one of the<br />
gifts you get from going<br />
through a lot in your life,<br />
is compassion for other<br />
stories and other people’s<br />
experiences. So I guess<br />
what I would want to say<br />
to my audience is that I am<br />
interested in you and your<br />
stories. I’m bringing you my<br />
story, which is my way of<br />
finding my own community<br />
in a world where I didn’t<br />
necessarily feel like I fit.<br />
So if you don’t commit<br />
suicide, you go out and you<br />
find your own community.<br />
So I guess that’s what I’m<br />
trying to do with my music.<br />
It’s definitely not all about<br />
me. Maybe my filter, my<br />
thought, is that I’m an<br />
individual and everything,<br />
but it’s about connecting<br />
with other people and<br />
hearing their stories. I am<br />
grateful for support from<br />
people. I am grateful when<br />
people come out and stand<br />
there and watch me sing.<br />
I would want people to<br />
know that I appreciate their<br />
support. Let’s face it, there<br />
is a lot of fucking talent out<br />
there. There is a lot of shit<br />
going on out there. So the<br />
fact that people choose<br />
to interrupt their day and<br />
make plans to come and<br />
see you, that’s a huge deal.<br />
I have one last question.<br />
You’re a new crayon in a<br />
box of 64 crayons. What<br />
color are you?<br />
I think my color would be<br />
moonbeam. Sort of like a<br />
silvery periwinkle.
BY EILEEN SHAPIRO<br />
CELEBRITY CORRESPONDENT<br />
B R E N N A N<br />
V I L L I N E S<br />
‘I Am a Living Example That Someone Can Overcome<br />
Some Great Obstacles and Still Live Their Dream’<br />
Emerging new musician, singer-songwriter and<br />
recording artist Brennan Villines has aced it with<br />
his brand new EP, “Make It Work,” as well as<br />
celebrating national adoration from his appearance<br />
on Fox Network’s “The Four.”<br />
Villines’ superior vocal ability, range and talent is<br />
destined to set him apart from most current new<br />
artists. With looks and personality, he’s got the<br />
whole package. Brand new to New York City, Villines<br />
is also an accomplished keyboard artist, learning the<br />
piano from age three.<br />
Openly out, he speaks freely about challenges that<br />
have plagued his career, including addiction and<br />
his being HIV-positive. Despite this, he is five years<br />
sober, an ambassador for Sobercity and is raring to<br />
follow his dreams and be an inspiration to others.<br />
>>> INTERVIEW
Or you get recommended.<br />
So I have auditioned for<br />
“The Voice,” “American<br />
Idol,” “America’s Got<br />
Talent,” and I happen to<br />
have a friend of mine who<br />
was on the first season<br />
of “The Four.” She kind<br />
of let the produces know<br />
that they should call<br />
me. It kind of went from<br />
there. I auditioned, they<br />
accepted and that’s how it<br />
happened.<br />
full record now, and also<br />
releasing a few singles in<br />
between. I am definitely<br />
looking forward to that.<br />
The plan right now is to<br />
just keep making music.<br />
This is kind of like the last<br />
two years of my life’s work,<br />
doing the EP and trying to<br />
really hone in on a sound<br />
that I wanted to put out.<br />
Before putting the EP out<br />
I put some records out.<br />
They were a little more<br />
takes a lot to get set up in<br />
a new place.<br />
If there were one thing<br />
that you could tell fans<br />
and followers about you<br />
that you’d want them to<br />
know, what would that<br />
be?<br />
I am a very positive<br />
person. I try to reflect<br />
positivity in my music, in<br />
my career and my lifestyle.<br />
I am five years sober from<br />
So you have a new EP<br />
coming out?<br />
It just came out.<br />
Do you write your own<br />
music?<br />
Yeah, I do.<br />
Do you plan on touring<br />
to support the EP?<br />
The EP, of course, has just<br />
gotten released, so what<br />
my goal is to maybe tour<br />
a little bit. Perhaps open<br />
for someone. Then I’m<br />
going to be working on a<br />
off the pop spectrum, like<br />
jazz and singer-songwriter<br />
music, whereas this record<br />
is a little more focused on<br />
getting it out there to a<br />
wider audience.<br />
Do you ever gig in New<br />
York? We can we find<br />
you?<br />
I just moved here in June,<br />
so I am very new. I had<br />
my first New York show in<br />
September at Rockwood<br />
Music Hall. That went<br />
well. I plan to continue to<br />
perform in the city, but it<br />
a methamphetamine<br />
addiction, and my<br />
message would be that I<br />
am a living example that<br />
someone can overcome<br />
some great obstacles and<br />
still live their dreams.<br />
Is there anything that<br />
you’d like to add?<br />
Yeah. Look out for more of<br />
my music in 2019, and that<br />
I hope to be touring with<br />
my sound, and I’d love for<br />
people to follow me on<br />
social media.
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Ian Frost<br />
I had a heart to heart<br />
with cover boy and New<br />
York-based adult film<br />
star Ian Frost. Hailing<br />
from Argentina, Frost<br />
worked hard to learn our<br />
language and hoped<br />
to make it in New York<br />
City. Originally a Go-go<br />
dancer, he soon realized<br />
that the competition<br />
was too great, and when<br />
asked to make movies he<br />
decided to try.<br />
This is his story.<br />
What made you<br />
decide to do porn?<br />
To be honest, I came<br />
here to New York and<br />
started dancing. There<br />
are over 1,000 dancers<br />
here in Manhattan, so<br />
you can imagine the<br />
competition. Every<br />
now and then a porn<br />
star would appear at<br />
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that he was a porn star<br />
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the gym every day,<br />
took care of our image,<br />
our face. It’s just<br />
because they were in<br />
a movie that they got<br />
a lot more attention.<br />
So then a guy who<br />
saw my pictures on<br />
Grindr asked me if I<br />
ever thought about<br />
doing porn. I told him<br />
yes, but I didn’t want<br />
to do it. I didn’t have<br />
interest actually. He<br />
turned out to be a<br />
very famous agent and<br />
good at his job, and I<br />
could tell that it would<br />
make a difference. I<br />
told him that it wasn’t<br />
about the money, but<br />
that it had to be a very<br />
good studio and good<br />
co-stars. He did that,<br />
and it turned out very<br />
good. It worked.
And then?<br />
I kept working in some other<br />
gigs, like on Fire Island, and using<br />
the image of Ian Frost. It was<br />
profitable, I have to admit. There<br />
were a few movies with good<br />
quality and good co-stars, which<br />
gave me enough material to keep<br />
working. Lately I have to admit that<br />
I like it. Many people refer to me<br />
as a porn star, and I tell them I am<br />
not a porn star...at least not yet.<br />
I’ve been thinking about making a<br />
career of it—not for the profit, but<br />
I’m the kind of person that when I<br />
do something I do it well.<br />
Do you do just gay porn?<br />
Yes.<br />
How old are you ?<br />
I’m 29. I still can say it!<br />
What if you have to have sex with<br />
someone that’s not a turn on?<br />
Being professional. I can do it. It has<br />
a lot to do with the chemistry.<br />
I’m a size queen, so I have to ask:<br />
How big, in inches?<br />
About 7.5.<br />
Is there anything else that you<br />
would like to say?<br />
What I’d like to say is that people,<br />
when watching porn, never think<br />
that we have lives. We have friends,<br />
family, many of us even have children.<br />
Nobody stops to think about that.<br />
I had to tell my sister and my family<br />
and my niece who’s 19 years old. It’s<br />
just a moment to think that these film<br />
stars have a mother and a father.<br />
Well, if you like doing it I’m glad<br />
for you that you are making a<br />
career of it.<br />
Everyone is so serious: the<br />
producers, the photographers, the<br />
directors. It’s a very professional<br />
business. You think it’s just fun,<br />
fucking, sex, but that has almost<br />
nothing to do with it.<br />
I actually know that having<br />
interviewed many people in the<br />
business. I kind of look at it as<br />
an art form.<br />
I don’t know if I would call it art. I<br />
relate art with fashion. I would like<br />
to be a fashion designer. In the<br />
society that we live in, it seems<br />
that everything that has to do with<br />
sex is taboo. So maybe porn is<br />
hard to classify as art. There is a lot<br />
of creativity in the stories that they<br />
plan.<br />
Are you nervous about catching<br />
STDs?<br />
No. I’m on PrEP, so I’m protected<br />
from the biggest thing that could<br />
happen. I always, anyway, prefer<br />
to use a condom. To me it’s more<br />
hygienic. Whatever happens<br />
there’s a treatment and a cure.<br />
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ABOUT: REVENGE OF<br />
Sextortion is the act of<br />
blackmailing in which<br />
sexual information or<br />
images are used to<br />
extort favors, money, or<br />
sexual acts from another<br />
person. A recent survey<br />
from Cyber Civil Rights<br />
revealed that about 13%<br />
of smartphone users had<br />
experienced someone<br />
threatening to distribute<br />
their sexual materials<br />
online or to their friends<br />
and family. Sure, taking<br />
naked photos is common,<br />
but what happens to<br />
them after?<br />
I work in a small office<br />
of maybe 40 people,<br />
and someone I work<br />
with found images from<br />
a couple porn films I<br />
did years ago. They’ve<br />
been showing them off<br />
to other people around<br />
work, and I hate it. I’m<br />
not ashamed about<br />
doing porn, it’s just not<br />
who I am anymore. I also<br />
just don’t want all of my<br />
co-workers seeing me<br />
naked. I haven’t talked<br />
to my boss—IDK if he<br />
knows—and I don’t want<br />
to draw more attention<br />
to it. What should I do? -<br />
Male, Gay, 27<br />
This is not OK and clearly<br />
a form of workplace<br />
harassment. Since you’ve<br />
said you want to keep<br />
it as quiet as possible,<br />
I’d recommend you go<br />
directly to the person<br />
you know is doing it. Be<br />
open and honest about<br />
how you’re feeling; it’s<br />
upsetting and you want<br />
it to stop. I would refrain<br />
from yelling, screaming or<br />
threatening the person,<br />
because those things<br />
might end up getting<br />
YOU in trouble. If they<br />
don’t stop, go to HR and<br />
then your boss. Document<br />
EVERYTHING. If you<br />
haven’t already, start a<br />
collection of Word docs<br />
that are dated and detail<br />
what has happened.<br />
My “ex” has tons of<br />
videos/photos of us<br />
together, and he’s<br />
threatening to share<br />
them online if I don’t get<br />
back with him. I’ve been<br />
hanging out and having<br />
sex with him, because I<br />
don’t want the photos<br />
to get out. I’ve been<br />
telling myself that he’ll<br />
stop or just get bored<br />
and break it off with me<br />
again, but that hasn’t<br />
happened. I thought<br />
about deleting<br />
THE PIXELS<br />
everything from his<br />
phone, but I’m guessing<br />
it’s backed up. This<br />
feels like a worst-case<br />
scenario, and I don’t<br />
know how to get out of<br />
it. - Male, Gay, 24<br />
Look, f* this dude. This is<br />
insane, and you shouldn’t<br />
be putting up with it.<br />
I know you don’t want<br />
the materials to get out,<br />
but it might happen.<br />
This sounds like the type<br />
of guy who’s going to<br />
release them during a<br />
fight or because he’s mad.<br />
In New York state there<br />
are no laws stopping<br />
revenge porn specifically,<br />
but there are laws against<br />
extortion and coercion.<br />
First, let him know what<br />
he’s doing is wrong and<br />
how it’s illegal. Second,<br />
get ahead of this. Let the<br />
people you’re closest<br />
with know that he is trying<br />
to use this against you,<br />
and they should ignore<br />
any messages or emails<br />
from him. And again,<br />
document everything. A<br />
few years ago, someone<br />
broke into my Facebook<br />
and email; they posted<br />
messages and pics<br />
between an ex and I all<br />
over my wall. It was pretty<br />
bad, but I got over it.<br />
Worst-case scenario, you<br />
can get through this.<br />
Sex/Love/Relationship advice? Send your questions to: ThomasTalksAbout@gmail.com<br />
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