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Editors Corner<br />

Tonya?s Talk<br />

Trailblazers in Business<br />

Featured Story - Tisha Davis<br />

The Barbershop Talk<br />

Don?t Let Your Past Determine Your Future<br />

Healthy Her<br />

I See Love in the Mirror<br />

Water- It is Essential for Life<br />

Author?s Spotlight<br />


Tisha Davis<br />

Image Special Events, LLC<br />

Transitioning for Change<br />

Events<br />

Business Directory<br />

Edit or-in- Chief Tonya D. Lat ney<br />

Graph Designer Andrea Smith, SAS Web & Graphic Design<br />

Cover - Random<br />

Cont ribut ing Writ ers<br />

Colena Brown, Jeermal Sylvester, Tracee Sigler, Tisha Davis, Andrea Smith,<br />

Tanisha Carter, Bridget Holmes<br />


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From t he Edit or<br />

from the editor<br />

T O N YA<br />

L AT N EY<br />


As the month of October wrapped up and I reflected on<br />

breast cancer awareness and domestic violence<br />

awareness, the one thing that popped in my mind was<br />

self-love. I started to reflect on what self-love really<br />

means to us as women.<br />

?How you love yourself is how you teach others to love<br />

you.?<br />

? Rupi Kaur, Milk and Honey<br />

I do not think we will ever understand why a person is<br />

diagnosed with breast cancer or why a woman ends up in<br />

an abusive relationship, whether mental or physical.<br />

?We can never predict who will be diagnosed or how one<br />

will end up in an abusive relationship, nor may we<br />

understand the causes of breast cancer or what causes<br />

people to abuse others.?<br />

No matter whether your situation is breast cancer or<br />

abuse, I believe that in those tragedies, learning to love<br />

who you are is important. We need to learn how to look in<br />

the mirror and say, ?I love me, no matter what.?<br />

?When a woman becomes her own best friend, life is<br />

easier.?<br />

Self-love is something I believe every woman must learn<br />

over time. Self-love may be different for each woman, but<br />

the key is to find that place of inner peace and to learn<br />

how to exhale.<br />

Self-love is:<br />

- Understanding what makes you happy<br />

- Being able to remove negativity from your life<br />

- Finding your purpose<br />

- Being able to laugh more than you cry<br />

?To love yourself right now, just as you are, is to give<br />

yourself heaven. Don't wait until you die. If you wait, you<br />

die now. If you love, you live now.?<br />

? Alan Cohen<br />

Tonya Latney, MS, BSN, RN, CWP<br />

Email: sowbo12@gmail.com<br />

Twitter: @sowbo12<br />

Instagram: sowbo12<br />

? Diane Von Furstenberg<br />


Three-Legged Stool<br />

The Ideal Ret irem ent Model?<br />

Florence Norville-Cheek, MBA<br />


With people living longer than ever, it?s<br />

important to make sure the money you have set<br />

aside will last the rest of your life. While Social<br />

Security provides a lifetime supply of income, it<br />

may not be enough to support your desired<br />

lifestyle. If you think you?ll need additional<br />

income and do not have a pension, a lifetime<br />

income annuity can be an excellent way to make<br />

up the difference.<br />

Florence Norville-Cheek<br />

Have you ever heard of the ?three-legged stool?<br />

of retirement? If you have, it probably was a<br />

while ago. Once considered the ideal retirement<br />

model, the three-legged stool has fallen out of<br />

favor because one of the legs? defined benefit<br />

pensions? is not as stable as it once was, and<br />

the future of Social Security is often wound up in<br />

political maneuvering in Washington. Consider<br />

the following:<br />

According to the Bureau of Labor Statistics, just<br />

48% of private sector employers offer defined<br />

contribution or defined benefit pension plans,<br />

and only 8% offer traditional defined benefit<br />

plans,1 thereby eliminating a guaranteed source<br />

of lifetime income.<br />

? Social Security benefits replace about 40% of<br />

the average worker?s salary.2 What?s more, the<br />

Social Security trust fund is expected to deplete<br />

its reserves by 2034, and will be able to fund<br />

approximately 75% of benefits after that.3<br />

Fortunately, there are ways to reinforce the third<br />

leg of the stool? retirement savings and other<br />

personal assets? so that you can still enjoy a<br />

long and fulfilling retirement. Here are two<br />

proven funding sources you may want to<br />

consider if you need to compensate for any<br />

shortcomings:<br />

Although the primary purpose of life insurance<br />

is to deliver death benefit protection, many<br />

permanent life policies accumulate cash value. If<br />

your need for protection decreases over time,<br />

you can borrow against this cash value? tax-free<br />

in most cases? and use the money to<br />

supplement your retirement lifestyle. (Loans<br />

against your policy accrue interest and decrease<br />

the death benefit and cash value by the amount<br />

of the outstanding loan and interest.)<br />

While the three-legged stool of retirement may<br />

be a bit wobbly, the good news is that a secure<br />

future is still within reach. The main difference<br />

these days is that you will most likely have to<br />

build it yourself.<br />

Florence Norville-Cheek, MBA Agent /<br />

Regist ered Represent at ive, New York Life<br />

Insurance Company/NYLIFE Securities 555 East<br />

City Avenue, Bala Cynwyd, Suite 800, PA 19004<br />

1 ?Employee Benefits Survey: Retirement<br />

Benefits,? Bureau of Labor Statistics, March<br />

2017.<br />

2 ?Retirement Planner: Learn About Social<br />

Security Programs,? Social Security.<br />

3 ?Status of the Social Security and Medicare<br />

Programs: A Summary of the 2017 Annual<br />

Reports.? U.S. Department of the Treasury.<br />


Vanessa Jackson, Owner<br />

The Cheesecake Lady<br />

Telephone: 267.575.3952<br />

Facebook @cheesecakelady.org<br />

Inst agram @philacheesecake<br />


Booking: m gm t @kryst algarner.com<br />

Media Inquiries: pr@kryst algarner.com<br />

718-759-8672<br />



Featured Story<br />

Tisha Davis<br />

Anvil, Bella + Canvas, and Next Level. I also am<br />

proud to boast that our printers use the latest DTG<br />

print technology. Our goal is for customers to<br />

receive a quality product with their message with<br />

every order.<br />

Our cust om ers have t hree opt ions:<br />

Meet Tisha Davis, the Principal of Image Special<br />

Events, LLC. She recently launched a custom T-shirt<br />

design company, Design Junkie Tees under the<br />

umbrella of the LLC. DJT is a 100% e-commerce<br />

store.<br />

Design Junkie Tees is a custom T-shirt design<br />

company. But it?s so much more! Design Junkie Tees<br />

is a movement. It is a vehicle for women and men to<br />

have a voice and say whatever they're feeling and<br />

look good too! We offer a tremendous selection of<br />

high-quality shirts: tanktops, crop tops, short and<br />

long sleeve T-shirts, jerseys, Polos, hoodies,<br />

sweatshirts and even sweat pants, mugs, tote-bags,<br />

jackets, hats, pillows, and canvas portraits! We also<br />

make embroidered shirts. We offer a wide selection<br />

of custom designs with options for our customers to<br />

upload their own design or request a specific<br />

custom design for themselves, their families, their<br />

companies or organizations. We use the top shirt<br />

companies to include American Apparel, Gildan,<br />

1. Go to the online store at<br />

www.designjunkietees.com and choose a<br />

product they like and purchase it.<br />

2. Send us a message on the site - they have a<br />

picture or design they want to put on a shirt.<br />

3. Send us a message on the site - they have an<br />

idea for a design and they want me to create<br />

a custom design.<br />

I?ve always been an entrepreneur at heart. My father<br />

and his mother were business owners so I got it<br />

honest. I remember working the register on some<br />

Saturdays at my grandmother and grandfather?s<br />

bodega in Harlem. My father was a clothes<br />

designer and a photographer. When I was a<br />

little girl, I would hold my arms out and he<br />

would make a dress right on me. Then, do a<br />

photo shoot. I remember him working in the<br />

middle of the night, drawing, sewing, and<br />

developing prints. I was fascinated by his<br />

talent. This is not my first entrepreneurial<br />

venture; I've had many.<br />


I?ve been thinking about designing T-shirts for<br />

about two years. In addition to my bachelor?s<br />

degree in Accounting, master?s degree in<br />

Nonprofit Management, and certification in<br />

Event Leadership, I have a certification in<br />

Graphic Design and a nice loan to go with it. I?m<br />

both analytical and creative and need to use<br />

both skills. I don?t fare well in the corporate<br />

box/coffin. I wanted to do something with my<br />

talent to change my financial portrait and to<br />

provide a vehicle in which I can help others.<br />

Back in May or June of this year, while on<br />

Facebook I saw an ad for Shopify. It seemed like<br />

a great way to have an e-commerce store<br />

without much monetary outlay. So I looked into<br />

it and took the leap!<br />

I realized at the on start that I didn?t know how<br />

to run Facebook ads, didn?t know how to find<br />

my custom audience, wasn?t clear on who I<br />

wanted to serve, didn?t know how to create the<br />

systems that bring in consistent income, didn?t<br />

know anything about the print companies, the<br />

DTG print technology or anything. So, while I<br />

was busy spreading the word, I?ve been<br />

learning. Reading everything in sight. Listening<br />

to videos. Facebook has guides on how to set<br />

up your ads. Shopify has a plethora of<br />

information and even an academy to learn how<br />

to do exactly what I do. Further, there are<br />

thousands of business owners who sell shirts<br />

and apparel. I spoke to a few of them. And<br />

probably the most important thing I?ve done is<br />

invest in a business coach.<br />

Now, I create e-mails and landing pages. I<br />

promote my business on LinkedIn every day.<br />

LinkedIn is my friend! And I promote on<br />

Facebook several days a week. I have a full-time<br />

job and two small granddaughters. So, time is<br />

critical. I account for every minute of my day. I<br />

plan every hour ? during the workday and after<br />

work. I schedule calls during my lunchtime.<br />

I check my e-mails about four times a day<br />

before 5:00 pm. I respond to customers and<br />

inquiries with a swiftness. Customer service is<br />

huge and I have to be available for their needs.<br />

I also walk every day for exercise; it also allows<br />

me to think.<br />

For me having a business is critical. I?ve done a<br />

lot of consulting and I?ve been unemployed<br />

several times. My mortgage lender doesn?t<br />

lower or suspend my monthly payments<br />

because I haven?t gotten paid. It?s important to<br />

generate a consistent income for financial<br />

stability. Although African American women are<br />

the most educated demographic in the United<br />

States, we are the lowest paid. Further, almost<br />

80% of African American families are headed by<br />

women. So, the sad reality is if I stay on my<br />

current job and maintain that as my only<br />

source of income, I would struggle for the rest<br />

of my life. For me, entrepreneurship is the<br />

vehicle to financial independence. It?s a vehicle<br />

to helping my daughter, paying for my<br />

granddaughter?s dance lessons, soccer leagues,<br />

birthday parties, Christmas gifts, vacations, hair<br />

appointments, graduation gifts, etc. It?s a<br />

vehicle to assist other people and women in<br />

need. It?s a vehicle to travel and see the world.<br />

My life depends on this, so I must grind if I want<br />

to succeed. God gives us the power to create<br />

wealth. I?m not doing anything that hasn?t been<br />

done before. I?m just doing it my way and<br />

serving my niche population in a unique way.<br />

Hmmm, the one word that defines me: rebel. I<br />

don?t follow the rules. I create them.<br />

To women who want to start a business, I say<br />

write the vision and make it plain. Don?t say I?m<br />

going to be a business owner. Say that thing as<br />

if it was, say I AM a business owner. Speak it!<br />

Walk it! Eat it for dinner. Write your business<br />

plan and work your dream. Just do it! Doesn?t<br />

matter if it?s not perfect. You will learn as you<br />

go along. Seek wise counsel. Meet with<br />

business owners who are already doing what<br />

you want to do. Go to SBA and wherever else<br />

you have to go. You?re going to have to be<br />

responsible. That means dropping those social<br />

media friends who say and do things that<br />

would compromise your reputation. The things<br />

you do in your personal life affect your<br />

business so be mindful of that. The road will<br />

not be easy but is very gratifying and<br />

worthwhile. Whether you transition to launch a<br />

full-time business or a side hustle, it will afford<br />

you the opportunity to accomplish your goals.<br />

Don?t wait for an employer to define your value.<br />

You are worth your weight in gold! Own it! Walk<br />

in it! If you can believe it, you absolute can<br />

achieve it!<br />




WATER<br />

Is Essent ial For Life<br />

Here is the video: Masaru Emoto - Water<br />

Tracee Sigler<br />

Wat er ? It is Essent ial for Life<br />

What I am about to tell you is probably nothing<br />

new ? especially about water but how many of us<br />

really understand the power of water. I want to<br />

give you, the reader, and basic principles of how<br />

water works and how influencing the water<br />

around us can make a calmer environment.<br />

Here is what we understand about water is?<br />

1. Water is the main component of the Earth that<br />

we know.<br />

2. Water covers 75% of the earth.<br />

3. Water also comprises 70+% of the Human<br />

Body.<br />

So if these statements are true, then water has a<br />

profound effect on us and the world around us.<br />

Vibrations or sound, heard by the eardrum or<br />

not; has most profound effects on our<br />

environment as well as our bodies.<br />

The studies of Dr. Masaru Emoto are most<br />

impressive, to say the very least and most<br />

informative on a much higher note.<br />

Crystals.<br />

It is my hope to bring understanding to you by<br />

simply saying this. We CAN change t he w orld<br />

w it h t he m ost subt le pow er of w at er for t he<br />

bet t erm ent of all hum anit y st art ing w it h<br />

ourselves. The words we speak are powerful, so<br />

powerful they (words and intent) change water<br />

molecules in a glass, jar, or beaker to show these<br />

imprints (frozen). Imagine if the water was<br />

flowing ? how powerful is that? Unimaginable<br />

power! Once you, the reader understands that;<br />

what MORE POWER do we have SPEAKING<br />

gent le t hings t o ourselves? Understanding<br />

then this unimaginable, unlimited power as our<br />

resource; exposing ourselves to the powerful<br />

vibrations of this type of positivity that are all<br />

around us; is a sudden and beginning awakening<br />

of the consciousness. Think about that for a<br />

moment.<br />

That is t ruly POWERFUL t hinking! So much so<br />

that the more positive experiences you thrive on;<br />

the more you feel good? the higher your<br />

vibration; connecting that consciousness, your<br />

true intent. I can assure you that what manifests<br />

before you is and will be truly great! A picture<br />

speaks more than words.<br />


WATER<br />

Is Essent ial For Life<br />

Instead of a negative ripple in the pond; have a<br />

positive ripple in the pond. It starts with self, your<br />

true self, and the nature of your thoughts and<br />

intent (consciousness). A shift in the way you<br />

think has profound impressions that ripple<br />

through the molecules in your body. The pictures<br />

above don?t lie.<br />

I encourage you to try this change with yourself?<br />

I am not going to tell you to that positive<br />

intentions do not work because they do. But<br />

would you rather live in a world of unnecessary<br />

intentions; full of unnecessary things; or would<br />

you rather live in a world of expected realizations.<br />

For most people to unlock consciousness and<br />

understand the theories of quantum physics takes<br />

simple concepts like water. In water we can see<br />

ourselves ever growing, ever learning, ever rippling?<br />

like water.<br />

It is not my intent to give any unscientifically proven<br />

theories here without trying them myself and<br />

obviously conducting my own unbiased experiments.<br />

This is how we should look at the universe with ever<br />

wonder like a child. But back at the ranch (Earth); we<br />

MUST first deeply understand the forces around us.<br />

How they operate around us and in us to continue to<br />

push our boundaries in a MOST POSITIVE and a<br />

MOST EXCELLENT way to show our unwavering<br />

gratitude to the Creator of our universe!<br />

I hope you found this article refreshing. I also<br />

hope you have a better understanding of this<br />

basic and most important principle of water.<br />

I drink water without fail every day. I put good<br />

things in the water I drink, wash and cook with. In<br />

essence, I KNOW what is in my water and the<br />

positivity I interact with daily. Do you know what is<br />

in your water?<br />

Always interested in feedback, comments, and<br />

criticisms.<br />

Tracee Sigler, M.EVS., P.G.<br />

Mobile: 505.506.6060


Supporting His<br />

Q U EEN<br />


Barbershop Talk<br />

Don't Let Your Past Det erm ine Your Fut ure<br />

Jeerm al Sylvest er<br />

My name is Jeermal Sylvester and I am the CEO<br />

of Beauty 4 Ashes Inc. I work with the youth of<br />

the Indianapolis and surrounding areas as an<br />

Influencer, Motivational Speaker, Life Coach and<br />

Mentor. The purpose of my organization is to<br />

address the needs of youth and adults by<br />

providing character building, life skills, and<br />

etiquette training in hopes to prepare them for a<br />

successful and sustainable life.<br />

Today I want to share a story about a young<br />

bright-eyed and vibrant boy who grew up on the<br />

westside of Chicago without his father in a single<br />

parent home. My life goals as a young boy was<br />

to find out who I was, what I could excel at to<br />

change my circumstances. After many trials and<br />

errors, I was able to discover that I had natural a<br />

ability to play basketball and it didn?t take long<br />

before I was one of the BEST. It?s funny to think<br />

back on what it was like growing up and the role<br />

models we had. Growing up in Chicago,<br />

Basketball was not my sport of choice. The sport<br />

I was skilled in was Football. Every young boy in<br />

Chicago at that time wanted to be like the late<br />

great Chicago Bear Walter ?Sweetness? Payton.<br />

Growing up in Chicago I saw a lot of violence,<br />

drugs, gangs, and death. Because of this I<br />

needed something and someone to believe in to<br />

help get me through the tough days. Like a lot of<br />

kids back then and even today, I dealt with living<br />

in a broken home, struggling in school, absentee<br />

father, while trying to survive day to day.<br />

Growing up in Chicago in the area where I lived<br />

there weren?t many options for me or my future.<br />

Life was tough, and my surroundings were not<br />

meant for a promising future. I had two choices,<br />

either be a statistical victim of my environment<br />

or change the narrative by raising a standard for<br />

myself and change my environment.<br />

Life continued as I knew it. In the conditions me<br />

and my family were facing, I found solace in the<br />

game of basketball. While drugs and violence<br />

increased in my neighborhood daily my mother<br />

knew she had to do something for me to have a<br />

chance at life. As most concerned mothers<br />

would do when faced with these options, she<br />

sent me to South Bend, Indiana to live with a<br />

family member in hopes for a better future for<br />

me. Not fond of the change, I was very resentful<br />

and was not responsive because the move<br />

landed me on the south-east side of South Bend,<br />

Indiana a far cry from home. While South Bend<br />

wasn?t Chicago, the south-east side or the ?hood?<br />

as we called it had some of the same obstacles I<br />

faced back home.<br />

I ended up attending James Whitcomb Riley High<br />

School located in South Bend, Indiana. It was<br />

there where my talent of basketball was<br />

discovered. It didn?t take long for me to get<br />

noticed all over the city and eventually the<br />

country. From the years 1988 to 1990, I excelled<br />

in basketball which allowed me to separate<br />

myself from the rest of the pact. Making several<br />

all-star teams, breaking records, and outplaying<br />

my competition. I was ultimately chosen as one<br />

of twelve players to be on the prestigious<br />

Indiana All-Star team. Next to being named Mr.<br />

Indiana this is one of the highest honors a player<br />

can receive in the state of Indiana for Basketball.<br />

This opportunity opened several doors for me to<br />

garner attention from several Division 1 schools.<br />

I eventually accept a full ride scholarship to<br />

attend Ball State University in Muncie Indiana.<br />


During my time playing at Ball State University I<br />

was able to once again separate myself from the<br />

rest of the pact by making the All-Freshman<br />

Team. I was also named 1st Team All<br />

Mid-American Conference my junior and senior<br />

season. During my four years at Ball State I went<br />

through quite a few major ups and<br />

heart-breaking downs. Those challenges had me<br />

wondering if things would be the same or if it<br />

would cause me to go back to the hard life I once<br />

knew. While I was ready to go to college. I would<br />

have to say that I wasn?t prepared there to be or<br />

stay in college. Because of this, I made some<br />

very costly decisions that would change my life.<br />

Nothing would be costlier than what I had to<br />

face during my senior year. I will admit that I<br />

made some pretty dumb decision during my first<br />

three years in college but there was one decision<br />

that would change the course of my life. I<br />

remember it like it was yesterday because on<br />

December 15, 1993, I was in the NCAA News for<br />

being ranked 27 th nationally in scoring points. I<br />

was feeling good about myself and my chances<br />

to be drafted into the NBA. But? December 19,<br />

1993; four days later while in practice I let my<br />

emotions get the best of me. While I was happy<br />

about my national ranking, I felt horrible<br />

because we were getting our butts kicked. I was<br />

used to winning all the time so losing was new to<br />

me and out of my frustration I punched my<br />

teammate. We had just got a new coach and he<br />

was very upset with me. He his senior captain<br />

averaging twenty-four points and seven<br />

rebounds a game could throw it all away. It<br />

happened fast and before I knew it, I went from<br />

being team captain and leading scorer to kicked<br />

off the team for disciplinary reasons. Once again,<br />

another self-inflicted wound that placed my<br />

dream of playing professional basketball was<br />

now in jeopardy. Thank God for community<br />

activist like the late Charles E. Martin Sr. (RIP) for<br />

advocating for me to be returned to school and<br />

ultimately back on the team. Whew? thank God<br />

for second chances and the ability of others to<br />

overlook my faults to allow me to purse my<br />

dream of becoming a professional basketball<br />

player. I put all my eggs in one basket believing I<br />

would make it to the NBA Draft like a lot of guys<br />

from the hood think. That dream was beginning<br />

to look a lot like a nightmare for me. I found<br />

myself in a very low place and I was angry.<br />

When you mix depression and anger together<br />

it?s a recipe for disaster. You would think that I<br />

had learned my lesson by now wouldn?t you?<br />

Nope? a few months later, I was in the gym<br />

playing ball with some friends trying to clear my<br />

head. The problem was that no one knew but<br />

me that I was a ticking time bomb. While we<br />

were playing I attempted to dunk the basketball<br />

for my friends and the student who was very<br />

competitive down the court and fouled me to<br />

prevent me from dunking. We had words, I told<br />

him to ?Chill out before I get hurt because I?m on<br />

the school basketball team.? The game continues<br />

and I got another fast break. As I was going to<br />

attempt another dunk, the same student comes<br />

down and undercuts me. Now we have a<br />

problem because I am on ten and he has no clue<br />

that I am not in a good place mentally. I shoved<br />

him and said, ?Man I told you to chill out? and he<br />

says ?I don?t care who you are I?m not just going<br />

to let you score.? While shaking my head I began<br />

to think to myself, here we go again. My<br />

tolerance for what I perceived as disrespect<br />

would be tested and once again. Without<br />

hesitation I did it again? wham I punched the<br />

student. Not fully realizing what I had done and<br />

the potential consequences of my actions, I<br />

continued to play ball as if nothing happened. I<br />

finished out the season, but it didn?t turn out as I<br />

planned. Because of my bad decisions, not only<br />

did my play suffer but so did my academics.<br />

Here I was this angry young man that didn?t<br />

know up from down. I was trying to balance<br />

going to the NBA and maintaining my grades<br />

while not really knowing what the outcome<br />

would be from me punching the second student.<br />

I did what most immature and scared kids<br />

would do? I ran. I had my cousin pick me up in<br />

the middle of the night without any notice I<br />

disappeared. I was so afraid that I would get<br />

locked up for my actions. I left school in the<br />


middle of night and never looked back. The<br />

problem with that was not only did I forfeit my<br />

scholarship, I also left a full load of classes on my<br />

records. Because I didn?t withdraw from any of<br />

the classes, this caused me to fail every class I<br />

was enrolled in at the time. Instead of<br />

graduating in June my decisions forced me to<br />

leave school without fulfilling my degree<br />

completion requirements due to my ignorance<br />

and fear.<br />

Now I am at home and I don?t have a plan, nor<br />

do I know what I am going to do as far as<br />

basketball was concern. I reached out to a few<br />

people to try to see what was going on. I was<br />

paranoid that they were still looking for me<br />

which led me to cut all lines of communication<br />

off from the University and my former<br />

teammates. I know what you?re thinking? it<br />

doesn?t look good for this kid. Guess what? For a<br />

little over a year thing?s were bad. Luckily, I had a<br />

good enough senior season that a few agents<br />

were still willing to work with me and got invited<br />

to an overseas camp. I took full advantage of the<br />

opportunity and was able to secure a contract to<br />

play overseas in Bordeaux, France for Basketball<br />

in 1995. I ended up leading the league in scoring<br />

and due to my skills and abilities, I was able to<br />

get another offer to play in Tucuman, Argentina.<br />

This opened the door for me to play in<br />

Singapore. In Singapore I would lead the team in<br />

scoring and rebounding. Based on my skills on<br />

the court, one of the players on another team<br />

asked me if I wanted to play in Taiwan. My<br />

answer was ?YES and how much does the job<br />

pay?? the guy said ?$100,000 dollars? I was<br />

floored! I asked him again and he repeated<br />

himself ?$100,000 dollars?. I was so excited and<br />

felt overwhelmed with joy because this was<br />

enough money to change me and my family<br />

lives. I finally felt like my professional career was<br />

well on its way. I signed a contract for $100,000<br />

to play in Taiwan and things were going well.<br />

Nope? once again my life would take another<br />

turn for the worst. While waiting to go back<br />

overseas to keep myself in shape, I played in a<br />

Pro Basketball league in Benton Harbor,<br />

Michigan. It was here that I would break my<br />

kneecap ultimately ending my playing career just<br />

two weeks before it was time for to report to<br />

Taiwan. Once again, my life was in shambles but<br />

this time it would be the hardest thing I would<br />

ever have to endure. All I ever wanted to do was<br />

play basketball and now that was taken away<br />

from me. I was in state of shock and unbelief, I<br />

worked so hard. Now I must push the stop<br />

button on all that I had worked for and once<br />

again I had to figure out? WHAT?S NEXT?<br />

Here I was with a girlfriend whom I had two<br />

children with and she was pregnant with our<br />

third child, yet I wasn?t bringing in any INCOME!<br />

Now my back was against the wall and my head<br />

is spinning because I had to figure out<br />

something to do to take care of my kids. After<br />

my injury I had to decide what would become of<br />

my life after basketball? I began to think about<br />

what I could do that would bring me the joy and<br />

satisfaction I felt playing basketball. Lo and<br />

behold while I was chasing my hoop dream at<br />

Ball State, I took some Secondary Ed. and<br />

Criminal Justice classes that I really liked. I had<br />

no idea that those classes. The fact that my<br />

academic advisor Linda Hall noticed that my<br />

smile was brighter and had a pep in my step<br />

whenever I was working with kids. I found my<br />

niche in working with young people and it was<br />

without a doubt the only thing that gave me the<br />

same joy that I had when I was played<br />

basketball. Having the opportunity to help youth<br />

that had or were going through the same things<br />

that I did growing up gave me a sense of<br />

fulfillment and self-worth. It was at this time that<br />

I started my career in human services working<br />

with adolescent boys and girls. I never missed<br />

the opportunity to stress that your<br />

demographics doesn?t determine your destiny. I<br />

also stressed the importance of getting a college<br />

diploma. I was a model of what the persistent<br />

pursuit of your potential should look like<br />

because the reality is that nothing is over until<br />

you say it?s over. I didn?t get my degree before I<br />


left Ball State in 1994, I knew my background<br />

and the challenges I faced as a youth equipped<br />

me with the skills to communicate with the<br />

youth who had experienced the same things. My<br />

passion, hard-work and ability to be a team<br />

player allows me to be an asset to any<br />

organization and I don?t take that responsibility<br />

lightly. I am a firm believer that you can<br />

accomplish anything you want to in life as long<br />

you are willing to do the work. In my job as a<br />

Youth Recruitment & Business Engagement<br />

Manager as well as my business of speaking and<br />

coaching, I always share my story. I want to show<br />

people that when you don?t take advantage of<br />

the opportunities presented to you, they can<br />

sometimes have a long-term effect on your life. I<br />

often catch myself laughing when I think of some<br />

of the conversations I have had with the youth<br />

and adults I have worked with because as they<br />

would share their issues with me, I often found<br />

myself saying guess what? ?ME TOO?!<br />

That is where the name Mr. Me Too was created.<br />

I am able to relate to youth and adults alike by<br />

letting them know that I have gone through the<br />

same things and I overcame the obstacle? so<br />

can YOU. My slogan is ?I?ve been there, I?ve done<br />

that, now let me help you get H.Y.P.E.D (Helping<br />

You Pursue Excellence Daily) I let them know that<br />

anyone that wants to be a part of this life<br />

changing movement can do it and get H.Y.P.E.D. I<br />

have failed repeatedly in my life and made bad<br />

decision after bad decision, but one thing is<br />

certain I never gave up. In basketball, in life, and<br />

even in my educational endeavors I didn?t quit. I<br />

applied for a Division I Degree Completion<br />

scholarship to complete my degree and by the<br />

grace of God I received the award. If you recall a<br />

little way back I said that it isn?t over until you say<br />

it?s over and because I am committed to the<br />

people I serve I stopped making excuses. I went<br />

back to school after 24 years and completed my<br />

requirements to graduate while I worked a<br />

full-time job maintaining a 4.0 GPA both<br />

semesters. I am the epitome of what mind over<br />

matter truly means because against the odds I<br />

fought through and finished what I started. Who<br />

would have ever thought that a former<br />

three-time college dropout (94, 05, 11) and<br />

three-time suspended from his college<br />

basketball team could turn it all around to<br />

become a college graduate. If you don?t mind, it<br />

DON?T MATTER! There is nothing more powerful<br />

than a made-up mind. I have had many<br />

opportunities to speak to the youth all over the<br />

world and conducted workshops as well as<br />

seminars reflecting on this very important<br />

subject on being mentally tough no matter the<br />

obstacle.<br />

Humbly submitted,<br />

Jeermal Mr. ?Me Too? Sylvester<br />

Jeerm al Sylvest er<br />

Yout h Recruit m ent & Business Engagem ent<br />

Manager<br />

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Author's Spotlight<br />

Tanisha Car ter<br />

Mor e Than A Conquer or !<br />

My name is Tanisha Carter. I would like to take<br />

the time to introduce myself to you and share a<br />

little about myself.<br />

I am 35 years old and a native of Philadelphia.<br />

As an infant, I was severely burned in a fatal house<br />

fire where I suffered 1st, 2nd and 3rd degree<br />

burns over 98% of my body, resulting in facial and<br />

body disfigurement. Surpassing all of the<br />

statistical odds of someone sustaining injuries so<br />

grave, I am blessed to have lived to share my<br />

testimony. Throughout my life, what helped me<br />

find my authenticity and strength to cope with the<br />

suffering and hardships experienced, was having a<br />

deeper sense of self and purpose.<br />

I received a Masters Degree from Chestnut Hill<br />

College in Clinical counseling psychology. My field<br />

related experience includes: In 2012, interning at<br />

Eagleville Hospital on the female Co-occurring<br />

unit, counseling inpatients with dual diagnoses. I<br />

then instructed classes for those suffering from<br />

addiction, focusing on self esteem and<br />

empowerment. In 2013, I facilitated a parenting<br />

education group for mothers housed in a shelter<br />

program called Interfaith Hospitality Network of<br />

the Northwest. In 2015, I worked as an Outcome<br />

Specialist for the Community Umbrella Agency 6,<br />

Tabor Community Partners, working to reunify<br />

children and families with active DHS involvement.<br />

I attended a 13 week Parent Action Network (PAN)<br />

facilitator training course through DHS, becoming<br />

certified as a PAN group facilitator. I was also<br />

recognized by DHS for my outstanding work as an<br />

Outcome Specialist.<br />

As an undergrad, I co-founded a nonprofit<br />

organization for burn survivors, where I<br />

discovered my passion for helping people. My<br />

greatest passion is sharing my story as an<br />

inspirational/ motivational speaker. I have been<br />

sharing my story since the age of 11. I was a<br />

featured guest on both the Maury Pouvich Show,<br />

and Dr. Drew Lapinsky and have traveled<br />

internationally sharing my story.<br />

With the countless struggles and adversities I<br />

have faced, including years in foster care, and<br />

trauma related to a parent?s addiction to drugs<br />

and alcohol, I remained determined to live in my<br />

purpose. As an adult I have struggled financially<br />

because of constant employment discrimination;<br />

lack of support and resources, which resulted in<br />

experiencing chronic homelessness with my 3<br />

boys. What many would consider hardships; I saw<br />

the difficult events in my life as experiences<br />

necessary to understand and walk in my purpose.<br />

Holding on to my spirituality to see me through<br />

hard and unjust times, encouraged me to never<br />

lose sight of why my life had been spared; which is<br />

to be a model of hope and strength for others.<br />

I am currently working on stating Authentic<br />

Gems a support group for youth ages 4 to 17, and<br />

will be conducting a 9 week summer program with<br />

the Village, a residential facility for young at risk<br />

girls. I am also so pleased to announce that I am<br />

now an author of my first book, an autobiography<br />

entitled ?More Than A Conqueror: Confessions of<br />

A True Testimony, is available now.<br />

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Colena Br ow n, Licensed Pr ofessional Counselor (LPC)<br />

I See Love<br />

I n The Mirror!<br />

We hear the term ?self -love? all the time, almost<br />

everywhere we turn. However, how many of us<br />

have never stopped to really examine what<br />

self-love means to us? In this examination, we<br />

would first have need to have a very clear<br />

definition of what love is. ?Love,? is a word that is<br />

frequently used? and, in my opinion, miss used?<br />

in today?s society. As we examine self-love, I think<br />

we need to be clear on how and why we respond<br />

to certain stimulus in the way we do. I have a met<br />

several people whose definition of self-love was a<br />

bit skewed. Not to get too clinical, however,but I?d<br />

like to share information about recognizing trauma<br />

in your life, most commonly especially trauma in<br />

your early childhood. This trauma is usually goes<br />

unrecognized and goes unresolved. However, left<br />

in this unresolved space, trauma , shows up in our<br />

definition of self-love. I?m not going use the<br />

precious time that we have to talk about what<br />

kinds of trauma might influence trauma could<br />

possibly look like in a person?s definition of<br />

self-love; I will just talk about what I perceive<br />

believe a healthy sense of self-love should look<br />

like.<br />

Readers, you can decide how close or how distant<br />

you are from what I think a healthy sense of<br />

self-love looks like. With a healthy level of self-love,<br />

you have the ability to introspectively assess your<br />

life. Introspection, deals with looking inside<br />

yourself for your answers, and determining<br />

whether then you are being defined by external<br />

influences. When self-love is in place, you are<br />

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comfortable with your face, your hips, the length<br />

and color of your hair, and what the scale says. For<br />

anything that you are not comfortable with, you<br />

are ready to make the changes that are with in<br />

your ability to change. You eat right;, you exercise;,<br />

if you are in school, you study to make good<br />

grades; if you?re at work, you, love what you do for<br />

a living. If you are not happy with what you do for<br />

a living; you sit and figure it out; then you go after<br />

what you are passionate about. You are not driven<br />

by money, instead, you are driven by your<br />

commitment to what you can do for others, and<br />

you are excited that someone is paying you for<br />

that. Self-love allows you to relax in the truth of<br />

who you are, without having to have anyone else<br />

to sign off on it. Once we are able to recognize our<br />

childhood traumas and work on resolving them,<br />

the purity of self-love emerges. As we continue to<br />

mature, we realize that words are just<br />

that? ,words. We learn to pay attention to<br />

behavior, because it?s in our behavior is where<br />

self-esteem and /self-love lives.<br />

Remember, there is professional support available,<br />

that can help you better understand your level of<br />

self-love. With this start, you can bring begin to<br />

work on resolving the unresolved trauma and<br />

begin fostering a healthier sense of self/ and<br />

increased self-love.<br />

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learn to save something for ourselves so that we<br />

are strong enough to enjoy the rewards of our<br />

struggles of success. I am Bridgette Martin-Holmes<br />

and I am a giver. My passion is people especially<br />

women. "Why especially women?", because life<br />

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Andrea M. Smith, the process coach<br />

As the new year approaches, some are still not sure<br />

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you forw ard.<br />

Your moment is awaiting your arrival! It?s waiting<br />

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