FREE TO A GOOD HOME
FATHERS | MR. FULL-TIME DAD
WRITTEN BY: BEN HANSON
PHOTOS BY: URBAN TOAD MEDIA
Ahh, New Year’s. What a wonderfully two-faced time of year. Sure, we
get one more chance to party (if you can find a sitter) with friends and
family, but it’s also the end. Literally. Not just the end of the year, but the
end of the most joyous, merry-filled time of the year. And to celebrate, we
embark on a ruthless examination of our personal failings and character
I’m of course talking about the yearly self-hazing ritual known as the
New Year’s resolution. Lose weight, stop smoking, eat a little healthier,
transcend time and space, finally write that children’s book you’ve been
talking about for the past two years… we all know the obvious ones.
This year, I’m giving up before I start, not even bothering to pick up the
towel before throwing it in. But I’m a sucker for tradition and couldn’t
stop myself from still making a list. Not for me, however, but for Macklin,
my above average three-year-old son. I put together a pretty universal
toddler resolutions list I’d like to believe he might choose to tackle in
I won’t lose my mind every morning when the
cartoons get turned off.
Routines are routines because they’re routine, right? My morning routine
goes off with atomic clock precision. Mack crawls into “the big bed,” we
watch cartoons, I destroy his life by turning the TV off in order to get him
dressed for school. I’d like to think he learns to anticipate the inevitable
and at some point in 2019 we make it to school without a fight.
2 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
I’ll stop referring to the people I love as “poopy.”
My wife, Emily, is a therapist. A damn good one, too. But it took a
psychiatrist coworker of hers to help us put this one into perspective.
“Poop is his favorite word,” she said. “It’s therefore a sign
of affection.” Sure, but it’s still poop, and the rest of the
literate world isn’t going to understand that when he calls
me poopy in front of the poor server who’s just trying to
take our order at B-dubs that he’s really just saying “I love
you, Daddy, I’d like some white milk, please.”
I won’t sprint into the middle of the
You only get so many chances to get this one right, so
please don’t give me any looks if I happen to lose my cool
while strongly supporting my son in achieving this very
I’ll remember it’s winter and my wagon’s
in the shed.
Time is a tough concept to grasp. I get it. I still get confused
about what day it is after a hard night’s sleep. I also get
that his favorite thing to do is walk to the park and drag
along his wagon in case he’s too tired to make the walk
home. But it’s been months since we last took a wagon
walk to the park. Months since he’s seen any hint of green
grass. Let’s connect the dots in our heads, eh son?
I’ll look down when I pee.
Whether standing up or sitting down. Walking, running or
riding. Driving, chipping or putting… watching your aim is
a valuable, versatile life skill. He’s pretty much mastered
every other aspect of potty training, so here’s hoping he
can dial in that midstream focus and keep it all in the pot.
I’ll make friends with the dog, finally.
Just be nice to the dog already. Please? She’s old and was
here first. And she’s really pretty awesome, even if she’s
got some concerning lumps and blotches of baldness. I’d
hate to one day have to blame you for those, son, so please
don’t put me in that position. I love you both.
I’ll break the world record for volume
of surface area touched in public in a
It’s amazing to me how infrequently Mack gets sick. I
think he’s only had to stay home from daycare twice in
his life, which is almost record-breaking by itself. It’s
amazing because of the sheer amount of public-facing
stuff he touches. He’s put his hands on more goods
than a Hornbacher’s stock boy. Considering his strong
constitution, I’m quite curious to see how far he can take
this one. Surprisingly, he’s got my full support.
As for me, I’ve already succeeded with my New Year’s
resolution. Wildly so, in fact. No one has ever given up
faster or more effortlessly than I! But with all this free
time, I suppose I could resolve to be more patient when
morning tantrums delay our departure or when he can’t
keep his grubby little hands inside the shopping cart. We
only have 15 years before he probably moves out… I really
should enjoy them all as much as possible. •
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 3
6 • ISSUE 4
FATHERS / MR. FULL-TIME DAD
A TODDLER'S NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTION
GRAVEYARD SHIFT WALLEYES
THE RISE OF LIVE EDGE SLABS
12 BUFFALO COULEE WOOD PRODUCTS 24
JEWELRY BUYING TIPS FOR MEN
16 5 TIPS TO FIND THE PERFECT GIFT 28
ON THE COVER / THE MEYERS'
BERT, LISA AND KLAUS
4 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
HAVING A BEER WITH / NICK BROADWAY
WEEKEND ANCHOR AND REPORTER
ASK 30 WOMEN / WHAT IS THE BEST/WORST
PICKUP LINE YOU HAVE HEARD?
LOCAL HERO / YOUTHWORKS
YOUR FRIENDLY SUPERHERO SOCIAL WORKER
Urban Toad Media LLP
OWNER / PHOTOGRAPHER
OWNER / GRAPHIC DESIGNER
READ A PAST ISSUE
FOLLOW US ON FACEBOOK
FOLLOW US TWITTER
The Good Life Men’s Magazine is distributed six times
a year by Urban Toad Media LLP. Material may not be
reproduced without permission. The Good Life Men’s
Magazine accepts no liability for reader dissatisfaction
arising from content in this publication. The opinions
expressed, or advice given, are the views of individual
writers or advertisers and do not necessarily represent
the views or policies of The Good Life Men’s Magazine.
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 5
WRITTEN BY: JASON MITCHELL | JASON MITCHELL OUTDOORS
o many fisheries come
to mind where after dark
patterns offer some of
the best opportunities for
catching fish. After dark strategies
and locations however can vary
dramatically from where we might
find fish during daylight or twilight
What happens so often to us as
anglers is that we simply figure out
one window or movement of fish and
when that window ends, we assume
that the bite is over. Could be setting
up on a classic point anticipating the
sunset bite. A classic pattern might
start in deeper water and as the day
progresses to where the sun hits the
horizon, we find an intense window
of fish activity on top of the point
that might last half an hour. What
so often happens is that after this
intense flurry, we quit marking fish
and assume that the bite is over. The
bite might indeed be over if we don’t
make any adjustments but the reality
is that we can prolong the bite and
keep catching fish if we move with the
fish. Of course there are also basin
and transition bites as well like what
we often see on Red Lake and Mille
Lacs after dark. Perhaps the toughest
aspect of catching walleye well after
dark is forgetting some of the lessons
we tend to learn during the day.
So often, finding and catching
walleyes is all about reading
structure and focusing on edges.
After dark however, you can throw
that edge mentality out the window.
We often find walleyes roaming away
from structure well after dark. Large
expansive flats in shallow water are a
6 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
Walleye after dark
play by a different set of rules.
MAKE THE RIGHT ADJUSTMENTS TO
CAPITALIZE ON SOME OF THE MOST
INTENSE WALLEYE BITES.
favorite location. That four to six-foot
sand flat that is several acres might
be void of walleye activity during the
day where even sunrise and sunset
patterns seem to revolve around
structure that breaks into deeper
water. In the middle of the night
however, walleyes will often push up
and roam much shallower water than
what some anglers would envision.
On some fisheries, walleye will also
be more apt to eat much higher in
the water column well after dark. We
have seen many scenarios where we
caught more walleye after dark by
fishing halfway down in the water
column, especially for big fish. This is
particularly true for set rods and tip
ups with big bait.
Like any other time of year, full moon
periods can make some after dark
patterns better but there will often
be feeding windows that happen in
intense flurries through the night.
Don’t expect activity all night long,
wait out the windows because ninety
percent of the activity will happen
during ten percent of the time.
My favorite after dark locations and
patterns are not necessarily classic
walleye structure or breaklines that
are close to deeper water. Typically,
large flats or even basins and large
shelves shine after dark. I use the
whitetail deer analogy a lot when
describing walleye patterns and
movements. During the day, deer
might follow an edge but come middle
of the night, they might be more apt
to be standing out in the middle of a
soybean field that is several hundred
acres. Walleyes can also be just as
random after dark.
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 7
Because the exact location of fish can be so
random on large flats and shelves, fishing these
locations takes a certain kind of mentality. You
can spread out tip ups to increase the chances
of contacting these roaming fish or you can fish
out of a shelter but in this situation, you have to
realize that the fish are going to find you. This
isn’t a situation where you can necessarily move
around to find these random fish, set up so that at
some point during the night… these fish find you.
The beauty of fishing well after dark is that these
fish will be looking for you. What makes after dark
patterns for walleye so much fun is that these fish
are typically much more aggressive and these fish
are looking for a meal. The bites are often much
more intense. These fish will peel off much more
line off a tip up for example or hit a lure repeatedly.
PHOTOS SUBMITTED BY: JASON MITCHELL
AFTER DARK PATTERNS
FOR WALLEYE SO FUN
IS THESE FISH ARE
8 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
When fishing after dark, I am a big
proponent of using glow finishes on
lures. Not always necessary but I
have seen so many situations where
we almost immediately caught a fish
after charging a lure. When using
live bait on tip ups, don’t hesitate
to use larger baits that are up to
eight inches long. Clip the tails of
rambunctious chubs and suckers
so that they can’t trip flags or pull
the roller around the spool. Strike
indicators are nice to have on tip ups.
Other nice tools for the graveyard
shift include head lamps and LED
lights for inside shelters. LED light
sources have about replaced a lot of
traditional propane lanterns.
What can make the after dark period
so fun is the intensity of the mayhem.
You can have an hour or two of
complete silence interrupted by the
most intense feeding windows. The
bite is often a full on blitz where it
seems like every line has a fish.
Where every tip up is out of the
water and there are fish flopping all
over the ice. Realistically, this after
a dark window is what can make
spending the night in a fish house
so appealing. Tangled rattle reels
and chaos. On so many fisheries, the
period between sunset and sunrise
offers some of ice fishing’s most
exciting walleye fishing. •
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 9
AVAILABLE AT RETAIL LOCATIONS ACROSS THE AREA
10 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
414 4TH AVE N - DOWNTOWN FARGO
PLEASE DRINK RESPONSIBLY.
TO LEARN MORE ABOUT OUR OTHER SPIRITS, PLEASE VISIT: PROOFDISTILLERS.COM
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 11
THE RISE OF
LIVE EDGE SLABS
BUFFALO COULEE WOOD PRODUCTS
Woodworkers know one of the most important decisions
of any woodworking project is selecting the type and size
of wood necessary to get the job done. Whether building
custom furniture or a designing the perfect bar for your man
cave, each project is unique and deserves the highest quality
material which often can’t always be found at chain stores.
That’s where Buffalo Coulee Wood Products comes in. As a
go-to when gathering wood materials, Buffalo Coulee Wood
Products offers a variety of materials including reclaimed
lumber and beams, wood discs, and live edge slabs.
The men behind Buffalo Coulee Wood Products are Jared
Johnson and Matthew Weaver, who forged a friendship while
working as arborists. While their business partnership began
in the spring of 2016 after purchasing a Howell Model 0
circular sawmill from the early 1900’s, the company didn’t
come to fruition until late the following year when the duo
received their first load of live edge slabs. Shortly after, the
partners purchased a full-blown sawmill operation just a few
miles east of the Buffalo Coulee in Cummings, North Dakota
which provided the inspiration behind their business name.
From there, business took off quickly.
Live edges have
since the dawn of
time...or at least
first attempt at
12 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
WRITTEN BY: KATIE JENISON • PHOTOS BY: URBAN TOAD MEDIA
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 13
Within the first few months, Johnson and Weaver noticed
one product in particular seemed to be a hot commodity
among their clientele – live edge slabs. While live edge
slabs aren’t an entirely new concept on the woodworking
scene, they’ve begun to increase in popularity in recent
years. The rise in popularity is more than likely due to
home renovation and design shows such as HGTV’s
beloved Fixer Upper, Pinterest DIYers, and specialty
If you’ve missed out on this trend, you’re probably
scratching your head and wondering what a live edge is.
Live edges have been around since the dawn of time...or at
least since humankind’s first attempt at creating furniture.
Most commonly utilized in woodworking projects to create
tables, shelving, and fireplace mantles, a live edge refers to
leaving at least one side of wood slab completely raw.
Rather than paring down the slabs to create uniformed
planks, the natural shape and edge of the slab is displayed
in all its glory. In fact, most woodworkers design their
pieces around the shape of the slab, resulting in a truly
unique finished product. Live edge slabs can come from
a large variety of wood species including walnut and oak,
and woodworkers have the option of leaving the bark as is
or removing it to create a smoother edge while maintaining
the original shape.
14 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
Imperfections in the slab? No problem! Rather
than seeing cracks, knots, and voids in the wood as
problematic, woodworkers choose to showcase them
because they add to the uniqueness of each project. If a
smooth surface is desired or the bark is left on, an epoxy
mixture can be used to fill in the voids while preserving
the characteristics of the wood.
Since the first load of wide edge slabs arrived at the
Buffalo Coulee Wood Products sawmill, customers
can’t seem to get enough, and the slabs continue to be
a bestseller. Recognizing just how in-demand live edge
slabs are, Johnson and Weaver go the extra mile to bring
in different species of wood from all over the United
States to create the ultimate customer experience. If they
don’t have a desired species of slab on hand, customers
can rest easy knowing they’ll do what they can to locate
it and bring it to the sawmill.
The process behind cutting down logs may not be
totally unique, but for the guys at Buffalo Coulee Wood
Products, it’s a labor of love. Once logs are brought to
the sawmill, each one is cut into slabs using either the
bandsaw or chainsaw mill. Johnson says this is one of
their favorite parts of the process because each log is
different. He equates it to Christmas morning because
“you never know what you’re going to get!” After the logs
have been cut into slabs, they’re moved into the mill’s
solar kiln where they’re dried down. When the moisture
content is at about 10%, the slabs are removed from the
kiln and ready for purchase.
While Buffalo Coulee Wood Products celebrated its
one-year anniversary in November, Johnson and Weaver
have seen so much success with their fledgling business.
So much success, in fact, they’re already looking to
the future. First up is expanding their operation to cut
wide width slabs. At the moment, the mill is able to cut
materials up to a 54” width but hopes to accommodate
larger slabs in the future. The duo is also open to
setting up a woodworking shop to sell finished products
like custom wood furniture down the line. Until then,
their number one goal is to be the premier source for
woodworkers in the region. •
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 15
5 TIPS TO FIND THE PERFECT GIFT
WRITTEN BY: KATIE JENISON
Between the holidays and the upcoming Valentine’s Day, it is definitely jewelry buying season!
While jewelry makes a great gift this time of year, it’s perfect for other occasions, too.
From anniversaries to birthdays, a beautiful piece of jewelry is a wonderful way
to show her you care. Here are five tips to help you do just that.
1. BE PREPARED
When buying jewelry for a woman,
it’s important to have an idea of what
she does and does not like. Helpful
things to know include what kind
of stones and metal she prefers, as
well as if there’s a specific shape of
stone she likes. With just a little basic
information, picking out jewelry will
be that much easier.
To avoid ruining the surprise by
asking her questions, there are a
couple options to determine her
preferences. First, take a peek at
the jewelry she already has. What
does she wear the most? Is there an
overall style she seems to like? Next,
ask those close to her what she likes.
If you’re still struggling to figure out
what she likes, go with a classicdiamonds!
16 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
2. BUY MATCHING ITEMS
Purchasing jewelry from a collection
is a great way to create a theme
and will provide several options
the next time you buy her jewelry.
Most collections include a necklace,
earrings, ring, and bracelets. Or,
if she’s the type to mix and match
consider purchasing a piece that
complements her existing jewelry.
3. PERSONALIZE IT
One way to add a special touch to
your selection is to make it personal.
Choose a piece showcasing her
birthstone or get her a charm bracelet
featuring items significant to your
relationship. Take it one step further
and have a message engraved on it.
Personalized touches to her jewelry
will make the gift even more unique.
4. MAKE IT MEMORABLE
Once you’ve found the right piece of jewelry, it’s time
to go the extra mile. Have it gift-wrapped and make
a special plan to surprise her with it. By making the
first time she sees it a memorable experience, the
gift is even more meaningful, and she’ll have a great
story to share with friends and loved ones. Plan a
romantic dinner out or take her to a place that has a
special meaning to both of you. Do it right and she’ll
be gushing about it for years to come!
5. KNOW THE RETURN POLICY AND
It’s important to understand what kind of warranty is
included with a jewelry purchase. Jewelry repair and
replacement can be costly, so it may be necessary to
invest in an extended service plan. Regular cleanings
and inspections are usually required to keep up the
warranty, but they often cover things like sizing, repairs
to damaged stones, and replacing missing stones.
While these tips will be a big help when picking out
jewelry for your significant other, there’s no guarantee
she’ll absolutely love it. The best way to be prepared
for that situation is to know the store’s return policy
before making the final purchase. Neither of you
wants to be stuck with an expensive piece of jewelry
she doesn’t like!
Luckily, jewelry store staff are well versed in helping
men find the perfect piece of jewelry for the women
in their lives. So, if you’re still struggling with what
kind of jewelry she’d like, you can count on jewelry
consultants to steer you in the right direction.
Regardless of what kind of jewelry you pick, she’ll love
the care and thought you put into the gift! •
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 17
ON THE COVER | THE MEYERS
18 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
WRITTEN BY: BRITTNEY GOODMAN • PHOTOS BY: URBAN TOAD MEDIA
The Good Life sat down for a cocktail and conversation
with Bert, Lisa, and Klaus Meyers, proprietors of
Dempsey’s, Würst Bier Hall and the upcoming Beerfish
to talk about beginnings and the future.
Bert and Klaus Meyers are twin brothers born on the
north side of Chicago who grew up from the age of six in
Nashwauk in the Minnesota Iron Range. Bert’s wife and
partner of 18 years, Lisa Meyers, spent her childhood in
Verndale, Minnesota on a dairy farm.
Bert and Klaus’s father was an ironworker and their mom
was a cook and restaurant owner. “Our neighborhood in
Nashwauk was pretty fun. We would go cliff diving, ride
our bikes all over and raise hell every day,” described Bert.
Klaus added, “We learned how to party up there.” Lisa
said, “My neighborhood was fields.”
Bert, always social, said, “In Nashwauk, I was one who
had the keg parties. It is a different world now; nobody
does keg parties. But I was, ‘two bucks, or go home.’”
Perhaps this was foreshadowing of his entrepreneurship
and ownership of successful bars.
Klaus moved to Fargo in 1988 for college. Bert came
the following year. Lisa came in 1994. Bert and Klaus
met Lisa in 1995 when they all worked at what was
then the Doublewood Inn.
One of Bert’s first entrepreneurial adventures was
a window washing business, Lenny and Squeegee’s
Window Washing. Klaus owned a landscaping
Lisa and Bert married in 2000 and started the first
location for Bertrosa’s Chicago Café in an old gas
station on South University Drive in Fargo. The name
“confused people,” said Bert, but it is a combination
of Bert with his mother’s name, Rosa. Lisa said,
“Bertlisa’s just didn’t have the same ring to it.” Klaus
explained, “In Chicago, there was a restaurant we liked
called Manjovens which came from the three owners’
names: Manny, Joe and Vinnie. We liked that idea.”
Bert said, “We started with four items on our menu. We
made $600 our first day, and after that, we did $25 a
day for four months.” Lisa added, “It was a long haul.”
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 19
ON THE COVER | THE MEYERS
They continued the idea of Chicagostyle
street food at a location on
45th Street next to J.T. Cigarro’s.
Bert said, “It was successful. We
made money but we could have
Most people discovered Bertrosa’s
in its final location in downtown
Fargo in the lower level of The Black
Building opening in July 2002. Bert
asserted, “Downtown was where we
got our footing — where Bertrosa’s
took off. But it did take a while for
people to understand what we were.”
Lisa said, “Because we had Chicago
in the title, people would confuse
us with the chain restaurant, Old
The Bertrosa’s menu came from the
food Bert and Klaus grew up eating,
such as Italian beef sandwiches and
Chicago-style hot dogs. Klaus added,
“We moved from Chicago when we
were kids but we stayed connected.”
Bert asserted, “It is the greatest city
in the country.” They visit Chicago
at least once a year and have a big
connection to the Windy City.
They then sought something
different, and their chance came
when a new type of liquor license
came out in Fargo – the Z License.
Bert explained, “When the new
Z licenses came out, Klaus and
I, along with my cousin, Ron said
‘let’s do this.’ We put a $200 check
down at the City of Fargo and we
were chosen. We borrowed money
from family, sold Bertrosa’s, sold
20 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
our house and Klaus sold his
landscaping business. We basically
sold everything to do it.”
They bought the building “for a
reasonable amount of money,”
said Bert. As downtown Fargo
has boomed, the building’s value
has increased so much that it has
helped them be able to open their
Dempsey’s has become a downtown
hub for music. Most nights of the
week there is activity on each level,
drawing national and regional acts.
Dempsey’s and The Aquarium are
celebrating their 13th anniversary
in March of 2019. On March 11th,
there will “definitely be a party to
celebrate” according to all three.
If you have been to Dempsey’s
or The Aquarium, you know that
music is an important part of the
atmosphere. Bert’s favorite artists at
the venue have included Langhorne
Slim, The Black Keys, and The Iron
Horse Band. Lisa really has enjoyed
Halestorm, 2 Live Crue, Mark
Mallman and Band of Horses. Klaus
mentioned Two Gallants and Future
The Irish-themed bar’s name
originates from the last name of
their great-grandparents in Mudfork,
Logan County, West Virginia. They
recently traveled to a family funeral
in Kentucky and got to sample
some moonshine from family in
West Virginia, staying true to their
roots. The twins definitely have Irish
heritage. According to a DNA test,
their father is 52 percent Irish. Klaus
added, “A lot of our family is Scottish,
Irish and English.”
Klaus has the distinction of being
a Kentucky Colonel, an honorary
commission given by the state to
a person noted for public service.
He explained, “I was in the hotel
business for a long time. There was
a high maintenance customer in the
hotel, but we took care of him well.
The man told me that the Governor
of Kentucky, Paul Patton, was a
friend of his. So he took care of me
and now I am a Kentucky Colonel,”
proudly showing us the official,
framed certificate hanging in the
office at Dempsey’s along with his
updated membership card from his
Bert said, “Dempsey’s is fun to have.
We spend a ton of time here. If we
ever go out, we always end up here –
seeing all of these bands that become
somewhat famous. It’s just plain fun.”
Klaus replied, “My favorite part is
all of the music we get here and also
all of the friends that we have made
here. We have met a lot of people
over the years.”
The furniture and interior design
are due to Klaus’s artistry and skill.
He and the general contractor
worked together. Klaus did all of
peppers + onions,
and báhn mì
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 21
ON THE COVER | THE MEYERS
the tiling, stone and bathrooms.
Bert complimented, “Klaus’s
craftsmanship is amazing.”
Dempsey’s was not enough. In
January 2014 the crew opened Würst
Bier Hall on 1st Avenue. The idea
of sausage and beer hall came after
exploring several concepts. Bert
explained, “We all chose the idea
of a sausage place with communal
seating. We wanted the long benches
and communal feel, but we did not
know how that would fly in Fargo. But
the concept has been gangbusters.
It was initially supposed to be more
European but local media kept
reporting on it as German, and we
went with it. In the end, it has worked
out for the best.” Lisa added, “And
we were taking a chance – being
off-Broadway at the time, we were
Würst is Lisa’s focus. She is the
President and does the accounting,
payroll, and day-to-day operations.
Lisa explained, “I am a firefighter
putting out fires – literally and
figuratively. I have had to learn
general maintenance, plumbing and
electrical. I am a handyman in many
ways.” Bert chimed in, “Not me.
When something needs fixing, I call
Klaus, just like with Dempsey’s, is
the artist behind Würst’s look and
feel. He made all of the tables and
benches and much of the artistic
touches are his.
As for the food, Lisa said, “I have
only been cooking since opening
Bertrosa’s downtown. We opened
22 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
Bertrosa’s and I learned as I went.” Bert smiled
and added, “I taught her.” He learned how to cook
from his mother “and a lot of it on my own.” He
gave this advice: “Always become friends with the
chef where you work. They are the most important
persons to know.”
The staff at both Dempsey’s and Würst are very
important to the Meyers and are “family.” Klaus
asserted, “We care about the employees. We’re
pretty easy going.” Bert added, “We don’t try to be
a**holes at all.”
Bert explained, “We have been through deaths,
kids, marriages and divorces. And, heck, we
actually have real, blood-related family members
working with us too.” Lisa added, “We have many
employees who have been with us since day one.”
The most recent venture is the new Würst Bier
Hall in West Fargo. Klaus described it as the
“same concept” as the downtown Würst, but “less
industrial. It is decorated in the Würst look with a
lot of art by Punchgut.” As always, Klaus built the
tables and benches. Lisa explained, “We have 36
taps, wine on tap and an amazing patio.”
And the adventurous three are not done yet.
Another concept, Beerfish, is on the horizon. It will
be a fish and chips restaurant with more, including
an oyster bar and will be located directly behind
Dempsey’s in Roberts’ Alley. Bert emphasized,
“Located across from the greatest bar in the city
Beerfish will have a variety of fish and chips with
heavy appetizers, pasta and tiki drinks. Bert said,
“But we don’t want people to think it is going to be
English style fish and chips. It will literally be Iron
Range style fish and chips – a highfalutin fish and
All three described what “the good life” means to
Klaus said, “Good food. Good friends. Good booze.
And family is the most important.”
Lisa is thankful for being fortunate and “being
Bert said, “Life is good. It is living comfortably and
helping others who are less fortunate. We work
hard and we are lucky to have a good life.”
Success could not happen to three more fun and
deserving people at the heart of downtown Fargo,
and now West Fargo. Cheers to Klaus, Bert and
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 23
HAVING A BEER WITH
WRITTEN BY: MEGHAN FEIR • PHOTOS BY: URBAN TOAD MEDIA
24 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
PEOPLE DON'T BELIEVE "BROADWAY" IS ANYTHING MORE THAN A STAGE NAME
For WDAY weekend anchor and reporter, Nick Broadway,
interviewing and sharing stories is, of course, his job.
During a chilly weeknight in November, the tables were
turned as I got the lowdown on our youngest beer-featureboy
yet. What came up were details that don’t usually get
mentioned on the nightly news, such as his obsession with
Oreos and how various people don’t believe “Broadway”
is anything more than a stage name (he showed me all his
ID and credit cards, so I think I’m ready to believe it’s his
As he sipped a beer without judgment from any beer snobs
at Brewhalla, he told me how his career started a few years
ago with an internship-turned-job at KVRR before stepping
foot in the WDAY studio. Yet, as it goes with news anchors,
he’s already a household name, as proven by my parents
who knew who he was when I mentioned this interview at
our Thanksgiving dinner.
Good Life: Take a sip. Prepare yourself… Are you the type
of person who, in coming to the end of the toothpaste tube,
gets everything out of the tube before you throw it away, or
do you just give up?
Nick Broadway: I thought I was the get-everything-out-ofthe-toothpaste-tube
type, until I met my wife. I never do the
roll-up method. Don’t do it. It’s crap. One time, I was going
to throw it away, and Kate grabbed it and said, “No, you
still have a good 30 days left in that.” Challenge accepted.
She made it happen. I don’t know how she did it. Thirty
days went by and she kept using it.
GL: What song is your most common earworm?
NB: For the longest time it was “Gratitude” by Beastie
Boys. The second is “How Many More Times” by Led
Zeppelin. I’m not particularly fond of either of these songs.
Great bands, great albums, right? But, for some reason,
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 25
OREOS. I'M NOTORIOUS FOR EATING THEM.
those particular songs have a knack for getting stuck in
GL: Do you know what song always gets stuck in my
head? The Tim McGraw one that goes, “I’m an Indian
outlaw, half Cherokee and Choktaw.” Yeah, that one.
GL: If you could be any video game character, which
character would you be?
NB: That’s a tough one. I’m a big video game guy. If I were
going to go with someone who originated in a video game,
I’d probably go with Captain Falcon. He’s my favorite
Smash Bros. character, and it would mean I’d get to drive
lightning-fast, futuristic cars in space.
GL: What’s the most annoying, cliché thing to say or love
these days? For example: people past the age of 15 who
are still obsessed with unicorns, or people who always
brag about their coffee addiction.
NB: I would say the most annoying thing would be — and
maybe this is bad because we’re in a place of business
that sells it — but something about the beer-snobbery
culture. It’s like, “Ohhhh, this tastes a little too hoppy.” I
enjoy a good craft beer. That being said, the people who
make fun of me for liking a particular beverage or not is
probably the most annoying thing people have taken up
GL: What’s your favorite movie to watch in the winter
when you’re cold and sad from a lack of vitamin D?
NB: I really like the movie “Black Dynamite.” It’s great.
It makes fun of 1970s action films. It’s a parody of itself.
A lot of people I’ve recommended it to do not like it, but
that’s always a classic for me.
GL: Do you have a special food that you’re known for
NB: Oreos. I’m notorious for eating them.
GL: So do you split them apart and dunk, dunk the whole
thing, or not dunk at all?
NB: I’m versatile. I switch it up. Either I’ll dunk the whole
thing and let it sit for a minute and enjoy the soft cookie,
or I’ll split it in half, eat the non-frosting half first — to
get that little palette cleanser — and then eat the rest of
it. Double stuff is probably my favorite. There’s a cookie
dough flavor that came out that was pretty good, too. I
don’t understand the Swedish Fish flavor.
26 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
GL: If aliens took over WDAY,
what would their main message
NB: They’d probably say
something along the lines of, “We
picked North Dakota because in
every alien invasion movie where
they show a map of all the places
the aliens are invading, North
Dakota and Minnesota are never
on the map, so surprise! Please
become enslaved by our alien
race and give us all your money.”
GL: I love that they’d say please.
“We’re forcing you, but we’re also
NB: They’re in the Midwest! They
have to be kind about it.
GL: What are your thoughts on
NB: Valentine’s Day is pretty
great because I get to spend time
with my wife. We usually make it
a point to do something special,
and it’s an excuse to get her
GL: So the societal pressures
don’t burden you?
NB: No, no.
GL: Thank you! I don’t understand
why guys usually hate it so much
and get so stressed about it.
Darren Losee: People that hate it
are bad at it.
GL: Have you ever tripped on live
NB: No, but I did rip my pants. I
was shooting my own footage that
day. I did a little squat to get the
camera down and they ripped.
There was a reporter on the way
to relieve me, regardless of the
condition of my pants, so I got to
run away pretty quickly.
GL: What does living the good life
mean to you?
NB: Living the good life is doing
what you can to be happy and
make others happy. If you're able
to enjoy a fulfilling life without
hurting yourself or others, and
while surrounding yourself with
positive people, you're doing it
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 27
ASK 30 WOMEN
WHAT IS THE BEST/WORST PICKUP LINE
YOU HAVE HEARD?
As Valentine’s Day approaches, you may find yourself desperately searching for a date. While pickup
lines may grab her attention, we are here to advise you – the information below probably won’t help you
achieve your goal.
Unless her sense of humor is off the charts, then by all means…
go for it! We hope you find your perfect match!
The Good Life Men’s Magazine is not responsible for the results of any
pickup line directed at or in the presence of other humans. Shame on
you for thinking any of these would work. •
1. Is that a real ring, or just
something you wear to keep
guys like me away?
2. I want to drink your
3. If beauty where a sin,
you wouldn’t deserve God’s
4. Are your parents gardeners?
Because they have raised a
truly beautiful flower in your
5. Do you believe in love at first
sight or should I walk by again?
6. Do you live in an igloo?
Because you’re a pretty cool
7. I should call you Google,
because you have everything
I’m looking for.
8. If I told you you had a nice
body, would you hold it against
9. I got more moves than
10. Hey, girl. Is your name
Wi-Fi? Because we have a
28 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
11. Did you have Lucky Charms for
breakfast? Because you look magically
12. If you were a Transformer, you’d be
13. Did it hurt when you fell from Heaven?
14. If you were a fruit, you’d be a fineapple.
15. You’re so beautiful that you made me
forget my pickup line.
16. Hello. Cupid called. He says to tell you
that he needs my heart back.
17. If you were words on a page, you’d be
what they call "fine print".
18. I must be a snowflake, because I’ve
fallen for you.
19. Looks at my shirt tag and says, "just
what I thought - made in heaven."
20. Your dad must be a thief. He stole all
the stars from the sky and put them in
21. You look like my future ex-wife.
22. "I can see the moonlight in your eyes.”
(We were in a lower level bar – Inside.)
23. "I have some Jack Daniels at my house.
Want to come over?” It apparently worked,
we are still together after 33 years!
24. There is something wrong with my cell
phone. It doesn't have your number in it.
25. You spend so much time in my mind,
I should charge you rent.
26. We're not socks. But I think we'd make
a great pair.
27. How much does a polar bear weigh?
Enough to break the ice!
28. On a scale from 1 to 10, you're a 9...
And I'm the 1 you need.
29. Are you a camera? Because every time I
look at you, I smile.
30. Did you swallow magnets? Cause
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 29
LOCAL HERO | YOUTHWORKS
SUPERHERO SOCIAL WORKER
YOUTHWORKS HELPS STRUGGLING TEENS DEFINE THEIR OWN SUCCESS
WRITTEN BY: BEN HANSON • PHOTOS BY: URBAN TOAD MEDIA
Tucked behind towering trees that line South University
Drive near downtown Fargo in a grand 90-year-old home,
a growing nonprofit organization called Youthworks is
helping homeless, runaway, trafficked and struggling teens
and young adults find direction in their lives. The agency
has been providing direct services since 1991 in Fargo,
where they partner with the United Way, as well as several
local, state and federal programs for funding and support.
Leading the way from his cozy third-floor office decorated
with local art, vintage lighting and a round gathering table
set in the middle, Program Director Ethan Hoepfner — not
far removed from his teen years — drives the mission with
“I started at Youthworks when I was just 15 years old
knowing that I wanted to help people,” Hoepfner said with
a conviction in his voice that betrays his young exterior. “I
didn’t want to flip burgers or do dishes. I wanted to help
At 27, he’s not much older than the young men and women
he’s committed his life to help, and you get the sense that he
sees himself in many of the kids with whom he works.
“My clients changed my life. Every single story of a youth
that sits in that chair,” Hoepfner said, pointing across the
table, “reminds me of how truly lucky I am. I got my degree
from the University of Mary, but my profession was inspired
from my clients.”
30 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
HAVE CHANGED MY LIFE.
EVERY SINGLE STORY OF A YOUTH THAT SITS
IN THAT CHAIR, REMINDS ME OF HOW TRULY
LUCKY I AM.
A Strengths-Based Approach
From anger management programs to street outreach and
traditional family counseling services, the organization meets
kids — and their families when possible and appropriate —
wherever they are in life.
“Most of the youth we serve really just have adverse childhood
experiences,” Hoepfner explained. “They’ve either experienced
abuse or neglect, grown up with parents who are separated or
may be in and out of jail or struggling with substance abuse.
These childhood experiences threaten brain development and
lead to negative long-term health conditions and ultimately
As Hoepfner speaks, rattling off statistics and anecdotal
evidence from the latest research into child and human
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 31
LOCAL HERO | YOUTHWORKS
THESE KIDS I WORK WITH
ARE THE MOST RESILIENT
MENTALLY TOUGH SURVIVORS I KNOW.
development, it’s like listening to a well-rehearsed, yet very
impassioned TED Talk. Once again, it’s easy to forget he’s
three years shy of his thirtieth birthday.
“These kids I work with are the most resilient, mentally
tough survivors I know. They just need one person, one
consistent, caring, non-judgemental adult that just doesn’t
give up on them to make the necessary impact on their
lives,” Hoepfner said. “That’s how we approach what we
do… we have this positive, strengths-based model where we
take anything negative and turn it into a positive.”
It sounds easy and simplistic. But the reality is it’s much
easier to label these kids as troublemakers and lost causes
than it is to lend them your ear and give them a chance to
tell their stories. While the rest of us might see a teenager in
handcuffs — arrested for selling a bag of weed to his friend
— and rush to judgement about his character, Hoepfner
sees a kid with untapped potential as a future accountant.
“Think about it…” he started. “That kid has to know his
math in order to survive on the streets selling drugs. He
has to be good with money, almost shrewd. We take that
negative life choice and highlight the skills involved to turn
it into a positive.”
And that right there is the secret superpower of the
Youthworks mission. Part friendly neighborhood
Spiderman, part social activist Superman always seeking
to find the good in others.
“We are experts in youth,” Hoepfner said. “We are experts in
best practices of trauma-informed care and positive youth
development. We believe in young people; we don’t think of
them as delinquent or runaways or addicts. Rather, we help
them discover what their strengths and skill sets are.”
All good superheroes have an origin story — something
that sets them on the virtuous path of helping others, often
at great personal risk. For Hoepfner, yes, he may join the
street outreach crew that seeks runaways under bridges
and in mini-tent cities unseen to most F-M residents, but
the greater risk of working with struggling teens is more
mental than physical. To that end, he speaks carefully and
32 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
TRANSITIONAL LIVING &
The Transitional Living and Parenting Pathways
programs provide transitional housing and support
services to young adults and young parents
transitioning out of homelessness, with the goal of
increasing core life skills and empowering youth
to reach sustainable independence. The programs
provide housing, education, independent living and
parenting skills, and employment support.
Through its Street Outreach and Drop-In Center
programs, Youthworks provides low to no-barrier
access to survival needs and support to homeless
youth. Youthworks staff are present in the Fargo/
Moorhead community, meeting homeless youth on
their turf and providing information on critical services
and support that can help these youth take the first
steps out of homelessness.
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 33
LOCAL HERO | YOUTHWORKS
“I’ve also struggled with some of those adverse childhood
experiences that I now see on a daily basis with the kids I
work with,” Hoepfner said. “It’s what inspired me to call up
a homeless shelter and ask if I could help in the kitchen.
They said I had to be 18, so call Youthworks instead. And
here I am all those years later.”
Some origin stories are richer because of the secrets they
hold back. For Hoepfner, you get the feeling there’s more
to that initial inspiration that drove him to seek out others
in need of help — others who are perhaps more like him
than he cares to reveal. That air of mystery is also what
may permit others to open up, as they see a glimpse of
themselves in him and find the trust they need to listen
to his guidance. Whatever the truth may be, it is a shared
truth between him and his clients. It’s a truth that not only
brought him to Youthworks as a teen, but is also keeping
him here as a purpose-driven program manager.
“My clients keep me here and this great amazing team
that we have,” Hoepfner said. “Not a day goes by where I
don’t learn from my clients or from this amazing staff that
I supervise and the people above me who’ve mentored me.
It’s all about that relationship… I want to leave a legacy of
relationships, with the people I work with and the clients I
What Does Success Look Like?
It’s an easy question for most of us. We measure success
by deadlines met and goals achieved at work or home. We
balance our checkbooks and find satisfaction in a growing
bottom line. For the kids Hoepfner works with on a daily
basis, success isn’t just hard to find, it’s hard to define…
often because no one has ever asked.
MY CLIENTS KEEP ME HERE
AND THIS GREAT AMAZING TEAM
THAT WE HAVE.
34 / THE GOOD LIFE / urbantoadmedia.com
“Most of these kids haven’t had any guidance in their lives,”
Hoepfner explained. “These kids literally have no one. Their
parents are in and out of prison or inconsistent; they’re used
to street life. Youthworks — we are the ones who are there
to make an impact and be with them on the journey. They
will struggle, but it’s not a failure with us. We regroup and
figure it out tomorrow.”
Ultimately, success at Youthworks is whatever the young
people define for themselves — with a little guidance from
the team. Success is also different for all of the different
programs offered, each with their own complex challenges.
“It might be reuniting with their family. It might be getting
youth off the streets and getting their basic needs met that
night. It might be not dropping out of school. Ultimately,”
Hoepfner pauses… “Ultimately, it’s not our life. It's their life
and we try to help them strive for their own goals.”
Focusing on relationships has been a hallmark of Hoepfner’s
short, but highly impactful career. It seems instinctual, but
he also has the science to back it up.
“I think just believing and valuing young people is where we
all need to start,” he said. “A study came out recently that
polled a bunch of North Dakota students and found that
only 1 in 3 young people reported they had someone who
valued them in their life. Hearing young people, listening to
what they need and what they want is so important. If we
can find strengths in them and respond in a new way not
based on labels, it’s so much more effective.”
Listen to kids. Value them and their stories. Focus on their
strengths and avoid rushing to judgement. It sounds so
easy that it makes you wonder how it can feel so hard to do.
Perhaps it’s hard for the same reason it’s successful — longterm
relationships are hard to forge, but harder to break.
“We get so frustrated with our clients who relapse maybe
50 times…” Hoepfner said, trailing off for a moment. “But
what if the 51st time works?” •
FOR MORE INFORMATION VISIT:
urbantoadmedia.com / THE GOOD LIFE / 35