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10 UPFRONT & PERSONAL

Started modeling at the age of (8). My

parents enrolled me into a modelling school

where I learnt the tricks and trades of this

competitive industry.

20 YOUR BEAUTY TUTORIAL

As always, the beauty world can be a

complex one, so you are certainly not alone

if you feel bombarded and overwhelmed

by the range of choices you have when it

comes to products.

34 HOW TO

If you have ever received an invitation to a

cocktail party, you may know how tough

the preparation process can be, especially

when you're trying to decipher what "cocktail

attire" actually consists of. By learning

how to narrow down the list of possibilities,

you can save all of your energy for socializing

and snacking.

38 LIFESTYLE

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Ensure that you have smaller portions when

consuming high-calorie foods. Making use

of smaller plates or side plates will be very

useful in this regard.

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Keep you and your

family’s health on track

with these easy tips!

38 7 HEALTHY LIFESTYLE TIPS

The best types of activities are the ones you

will actually do. Remember to get at least

60 minutes of physical activity each day.

Here are some of the benefits from regular

activity:

»p.40 »

40 EDU-TUTOR

How to Study Smart: did you ever stop to

wonder what sets apart the really successful

students from the average ones? Why do

some students who appear to study all the

time just get by, while others who don’t

appear to put in as much time and effort do

well?

»p.42 »

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UPFRONT & PERSONAL

Nitisha Shanice

Arujun (23)

yrs old and

currently

completing

her degree

in BSc health

and social

science psychology Striving

for success and love spending

quality time with her family and

her son.

I am a bubbly person and I love

spending time with my family

and my son. For me a fun day

is spending time indoors and

playing with my son then

ending of the day

with a movie

and popcorn.

started modeling at the age

of (8). My parents enrolled me

into a modelling school where

I learnt the tricks and trades

of this competitive industry.

However as I got older school

became my number one

priority and I decided to give

my modelling a break. When I

turned 22 I decided to revive my

modelling career and embrace

the gift i have in me. then i joined

the Just You agency in

Johannesburg

as a

commercial

model. However I

have started building my

portfolio as a fashion model with

many well-known photographers

and look forward to Pursuing that

part of the modelling career. The

highlights of my career thus far has

been acting in the New Edgar’s

commercial with rapper Shoma

jozi and featuring in my favorite TV

soapie and getting to meet the

cast of isidingo made me realise

were my career is destined to. I’ve

also featured in other TVCs such

as meat world, Nedbank, Getroud

met rugby and FNB that enhance

my modeling skills.

THE MODELLING

INDUSTRY is definitely

not a walk in the park. It is a very

competitive industry and u have

to give it your all if you want to

succeed. There is always going to

be people who are going to try to

bring

you

down because of

pure jealousy

but as you model you need

to stand your ground and never

let your guard down. Do what you

feel is right and you will be happy

and succeed.

MODEL I LOOK

UP TO & LOVE TO

WORK WITH

I would love to work with actress

and model.

She inspires me as she is a model

Naomi Campbell, actress and

businesswomen. All the things I

am working towards.

MY MOTIVATION comes from my parents

and my son. Seeing the smile and knowing

that I’m making him proud makes me want

to go out there and make myself successful

more and more. I want to look back one

day and say I’ve made it because I wasn’t

afraid to follow my heart.

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Everything you need to know about the

5TYPES

OF

EYESHADOW

and how to use them

by Tamlyn Cumings

1. POWDER EYESHADOW

Also known as pressed powder

since the pigment is pressed and

compacted into containers, this is

probably the most common of the

types of eyeshadow, and the one

everyone is familiar with.

Pressed eyeshadow is great for

beginners and those a bit more

cautious when it comes to make-up

as they are super forgiving, easy to

blend, and come in various palette

sizes and combinations, giving you

the perfect shades to use together.

Opt for a matte or shimmery finish

(we recommend that more mature

ladies stay away from ones that are

super shimmery, as these highlight

fine lines) and apply with your

favorite make-up brush or your

finger. Just remember to be gentle

and not pull on the skin – and

blend, blend, blend.

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2. LIQUID EYESHADOW

You’d be forgiven for mistaking

liquid eyeshadow for lip gloss, as the

packaging and consistency is pretty

much identical. While they may

seem scary, they’re actually great

for those without a flair for make-up

as they are so easy to apply; simply

swish the wand over the lid, and

voila!

Just be warned that it does dry

pretty quickly, so you need to

move fast. A great use for liquid

eyeshadow is as the base for

powder or pigments as they will

stick to it, giving you a bolder look.

WATCH: How to clean your make-up

brushes

3. CREAM EYESHADOW

This versatile formula is a pretty

great one as it offers bold hues that

are super easy to blend – just get

your finger out and go wild.

Cream eyeshadow does tend to

crease, so you need to be careful

with where you place it on the lid.

If you’re worried about this, apply a

primer first.

Again, they make a great base for

your powder shadows, but you may

want to avoid cream shadows in

very hot weather, as they can melt

– and make-up running down your

face is certainly not a good look!

As always, the beauty world

can be a complex one, so

you are certainly not alone

if you feel bombarded and

overwhelmed by the range

of choices you have when it

comes to products.

4. STICK OR CRAYON

EYESHADOW

These are ideal for keeping in your

handbag for touchups throughout

the day, as you don’t need a brush

to apply them, and they go on

super easily. They’re generally super

pigmented so the colour will really

pop, and they can even double up

as an eyeliner if you’re looking for

just a small pop of colour. Genius!

Just have a look at the eyeshadows out

there; not only are you having to select the

colours and brand you want, but they’ve also

decided to make eyeshadow in a variety of

consistencies, just to confuse us! Well, not

quite – there actually are some valid uses for

the different types of eyeshadow, and we’re

here to tell you about them and how to use

them. You’re welcome!

Photography by

Emmy

5. EYESHADOW

PIGMENTS

These are fantastic for their colour

range and boldness, but can be a

bit trickier and messier to apply. This

is similar to powder shadow, but is

far looser, so you definitely need a

primer for it to stick. Alternatively,

wet your brush before applying.

If you’re wanting to really stand

out, pigments will give you the best

colour intensity of the lot, but just

be careful not to drop pigment all

over the rest of your face!

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BEAUTY CORNER

GET AHEAD OF THE PACK

BY FINDING OUT THE TOP

BEAUTY TRENDS FOR 2019

STRANGEST

BEAUTY

TRENDS THAT

CAME OUT OF

2018

T

urn around,

bright eyes

After a few years of

minimal, subtle or bronze and gold

shades on the

eyes, it’s time

to let out your

inner child

and embrace

the more-ismore

ideal.

Bright neon

shades made

a splash on

just about all

the runways

in the run-up

to 2019, with

anything from

green eyeliner

and hot-pink

mascara

to orange

and blue

eyeshadow

trending.

2019 is

definitely

about having

fun with your

make-up

looks.

shimmery bronze make-up and

fake it.

All that glitters Love it or hate

it, glitter make-up isn’t going

anywhere just yet! Glitter

eyeshadow is still going to be

trending up a storm and so is

making a hair statement with glitter

– for those of us who are brave

enough.

The trend has evolved slightly,

coming out in more jewel tones –

especially emerald – and is even

set to make appearances with foil

the one that best suits your skin

tone; you don’t want to look ill, but

rather bright and beautiful.

Heavenly hair

Those grey and light pink washes

are not going anywhere in 2019,

but both are getting a bit of a

Smokey make-over, giving the

colours a slightly more grown-up

look.

And if colourful hair is your thing,

balayage techniques will be seen

with all sorts of colourful tips, so

let your imagination run wild. For

those wanting to

stay more natural,

make sure your

hair looks ultraglossy

to stay ontrend.

Nutty nails

Nail art will still

be trending up

a storm, with an

added twist of

nail jewellery.

Yip, if loads of

accessories is

part of your look,

add a little jewel

or two to dangle

off of the tip of

your nail. If this

sounds a bit OTT

for you, just stick

to the fab nail

art you’ve been

getting.

It goes without saying that the new year always brings

with it a range of new trends – and we all know

HOW MUCH THE BEAUTY WORLD LOVES A NEW TREND!

We love the chance to try out some new looks and products, and we love a fresh new rush of inspiration

to get our creative juices flowing. Just remember: these trends generally come straight off

the runway, so you’re going to need to tweak and tailor them to suit normal day-to-day life.

Here are some of our favorite beauty trends for 2019

Embrace the heat following the

rising temperatures, beauty trends

for 2019 are set to make things a bit

easier for us, with sun-kissed and

glowing skin and wind-swept, justshowered

hair being all the rage.

Known as ‘heatwave beauty’, this

is all about natural, warm tones

that make it look like you’ve just

stepped off the beach… which

is perfect, since this is true for

many of us in January! No beach?

No problem! Simply get out

that bronzer, sea-salt spray and

finishes on the likes of lips and

eyes.

Mellow yellow

If you’ve been paying attention,

you’ll notice that yellow make-up

has been slowly sneaking into our

lives. From nails to eyes, and even

cheeks, yellow will certainly be

around in a big way in 2019.

Yellow can be a tricky make-up

colour to master, so be sure to play

around with various shades to find

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KITCHEN CORNER

Eat SMART PLCAE

YOUR AD

HERE

Eat smaller

ONLY FOR R85 pm

portions of high-calorie foods

INCLUDING PROTEIN-RICH

FOODS IN YOUR SALAD

CAN HELP YOU ACHIEVE YOUR

WEIGHT-LOSS GOALS.

You can keep yourself trim

and still enjoy high-calorie

foods by having smaller

portions of it.

It will help you to control how

much food you are consuming.

In addition, choose not to go for

seconds as this may defeat the

purpose of using smaller plates

in the first place.

Consult a professional

Always consult a dietician if you

require assistance in putting a

meal plan together. In addition,

you should always check with

your doctor before making

any drastic changes to your

diet, especially if you are under

medication or suffer from any

medical condition that has an

effect on your diet.

WHO enjoy

says you

can’t

have high-calorie foods at all,

if you are weight watching? It

may in fact not make much of a

difference, providing that it does

not get out of control and you

don’t do it too often!

Remember that it is okay to

treat yourself once in a while

and if it’s something delicious

that you simply can’t resist, enjoy

it. Just have smaller portions.

Use smaller plates for

high-calorie foods

Ensure that you have smaller

portions when consuming highcalorie

foods. Making use of

smaller plates or side plates will

be very useful in this regard.

Protein and

weight loss

Adding protein to your salad

can not only make it more appetising

and flavoursome, but it

will also help you to build more

muscle. Building muscle is great

for weight loss as it can help you

to burn more calories.

Which protein-rich

foods to add to salads?

Consider adding thinly sliced

pieces of roast chicken or

perhaps even little blocks of

smoked chicken to your salad.

You can alternatively add some

boiled eggs, salmon, tuna or

even shrimp to your salad. You

will be pleasantly surprised at

how delicious these ingredients

can taste in a salad if you have

never tried them before!

Vegetarian?

If you are a vegetarian, don’t

worry – there are options for you

too! Simply try adding some

cooked beans or perhaps even

some tofu to your salad. You will

not be able to resist the taste,

absolutely delicious!

Added bonus

Apart from helping you to build

muscle, protein will also help

you to stay full for longer. This

is great for weight loss as it will

help keep cravings at bay.

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HOW TO

DRESS FOR

a Cocktail Party

Co-authored by wikiHow Staff |23 References

Parties scheduled during the

day allow for a more relaxed, casual

look. If the event is at night,

you may want a more upscale

garment and include more ornate

accessories.[5]

o For men, a white dress shirt

under a solid-colored blazer

gives off a more daytime feel.[6]

o Wearing too much formal

black outside during the day

can often give off a solemn vibe.

Wear a knee-length

cocktail dress. Opt for one

that is flattering to you. Since

there is an overwhelming number

of styles, a good rule of

thumb is to choose simple, elegant

styles over revealing ones.

[7]

Wear a suit. The best

outfit will showcase

your personality and

confidence, and

sometimes dresses

don’t do that. Opt for

a slimmer suit with a

womenswear jacket,

which will hit at your

waist instead of below

it. For a less fitted

style, choose a relaxed,

slouchy style instead of

boxy.[13]

o Alternatively, wear tailored

pants with a detailed top, but

avoid fabrics like jersey and

denim, which can be too casual.

Choose shoes for style and

comfort. Unless the shoes are

used to highlight or accent

something, choose heels or

boots that don’t distract from

your outfit.[14]

o If you don’t wear heels,

try ballet flats, but don’t wear

sneakers.[15]

o If your outfit is black, choose

colorful shoes for a pop of

personality.

Choose a minimal handbag.

You should only bring the

essentials to a cocktail party.

Large purses packed full can

both feel and look weighty.[16]

Go easy on yourself and lighten

your load.

HOW TO

Pick one standout

accessory.

Avoid over-accessorizing since

it can be too distracting for

people you’re talking to. Choose

something that complements

your clothing choices and your

personality.[17] It could start a

conversation.

o Cocktail rings have colorful

precious jewels (either real or

reproductions) that make a bold

statement. However, the size of

the stone can look gaudy when

combined with a necklace,

earrings, and a bracelet.[18]

In this Article:Following the General Cocktail EtiquetteChoosing an

Outfit (for Women)Choosing an Outfit (for Men)Community Q&A23

References

If you have ever received an invitation to a cocktail party, you may

know how tough the preparation process can be, especially when

you're trying to decipher what "cocktail attire" actually consists of.

By learning how to narrow down the list of possibilities, you can

save all of your energy for socializing and snacking.

Method 1

Following the General Cocktail

Etiquette

Read the invite. Consider

the details around the event itself,

like where it’s located and

who is hosting it. You can suss

out proper attire by judging how

upscale the event is, or by how

well you know the host.[1]

Dress for the season. Pastel

colors and floral prints, which

fit in with the spring, don’t have

as much of a place in the fall.

Likewise, consider the practicality

of certain items from season

to season. Open-toes shoes in

the summer will have an entirely

different feeling, both in comfort

and style, in the winter.[3]

o The little black dress (LBD)

is usually a safe bet for cocktail

parties due to its timeless look

and conservative aesthetic.[8]

Save the minidress for

less formal parties. Before

choosing a minidress, consider

the event you are attending.

Have you been acquainted

with everyone? If not, you might

opt for something longer.[9]

o If you do choose a mini, pay

attention that the hemline is not

too short by standing straight

up with your arms at your side.

If your fingers pass the hemline,

you should reconsider if it’s appropriate.[10]

The meaning of "cocktail party"

can change from city to city, so

do some research if you’re traveling.[2]

You may find that your

prep is easier than you thought.

Contact the host for details

or recommendations.

If you know who the host is, you

may already know their aesthetic

and can gear yours to what

you know they would appreciate.

If you still aren't sure, reach

out to the host for clarification.

o Keep in mind how adding

layers might change what your

original outfit says about you. If

you add layers, add it for style

and functionality.

o If you’re traveling for an

event during the wet season,

bring along extra shoes.

o For example, opt for booties

over open-toe stilettos in the

winter.[4]

Dress for the time of day.

Choose a midi dress as

a longer option. Be careful

with this dress because its hem,

which sits between the ankle

and knee, can appear unflattering

on some people. To break

the long lines up, add dressier

accessories, like a large necklace.

[11]

o Dresses that drop below

the ankles become gowns and

should be saved for very formal

events, like white tie parties.[12]

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UPFRONT & PERSONAL


7 HEALTHY

Lifestyle Tips

EVERYDAY!

Children who eat a

breakfast that contain

foods from at least 3

food groups:

Have more energy

Think better

Get more nutrients

Burn more calories

7 Healthy

Lifestyle

Tips

Keep you and your

family’s health on track

with these easy tips!

servings a day.

A serving of fruit is:

Cup canned or cut up

fruit Piece of whole

fruit (about the size of

a tennis ball) up dried

fruit

A serving of vegetables

is: up of raw vegetables

Cup cooked vegetables

Make sure to eat lots of

different colors of

fruit and vegetables

each day to be strong

and healthy!

6. Decrease screen

LIFESTYLE

active. So turn off

the TV or computer and

get out and play!

7. Get plenty of sleep

Sleep is your body’s time

to rest and recover.

Your mind needs that

rest time to help you

solve problems. Children

who do not get

at least 9 hours of sleep

each night usually

have the following

problems: Irritability

Problems focusing in

school Higher chance of

accidents & injury

Keep

you and your

family’s health

on track with

these easy tips!

Limit sugary drinks

Drink More: Water

% or Fat Free (Skim) Milk

Drink Less:

Soda or Pop

Sports drinks (like

GatoradeTM)

Juice drinks & Kool-Aid

TM

Soda, sports drinks, and

even juice have

a lot of extra sugar. This

is extra sugar

that your body does not

need!

Eat more meals at home

as a family.

When families

eat together

Meals are more

nutritious

You eat more fruits and

vegetables the portion

sizes are smaller It costs

less money more time

to spend with each

other & talk.

Be more active

The best types of

activities are the ones

you will

actually do. Remember

to get at least 60

minutes

of physical activity each

day. Here are some of

the

benefits from regular

activity:

Better sleep at night

Strong bones/muscles

More energy Decrease

in weight

Healthier heart & lungs

Better mood

EAT A HEALTHY

BREAKFAST

5. Eat more fruits &

vegetables

Fruits and vegetables

are high in vitamins,

minerals, and fiber. They

are also very low in

fat, making them

important to every diet

no

matter the age.

Try and eat at least 5

time to less than 2

hours a day.

What counts as screen

time?

Watching TV

aying video games

pending time on the

computer

Time spent in front of a

screen is time not

spent being physically

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EDU-TUTOR

HOW TO

STUDY

SMART

YOUR LEARNING

PREFERENCE

Knowing how you learn

best is the first step in

developing effective study

habits.

Every student approaches

the task of learning

differently. Every student

has a

unique and personal

learning style or a

preferred channel

through which learning

comes more easily.

studying

-use color in your

notes (colored pens,

highlighters, etc.)

-visualize what the

instructor is lecturing

about

-draw pictures and

diagrams

- use mind maps in your

notes

-use picture and graphics

to reinforce learning

- learn from videos

TO IMPROVE AS AN

AUDITORY LEARNER

Did you ever stop

to wonder what

sets apart the really

successful students

from the average ones?

Why do some students who

appear to study all the time

just get by, while others who

don’t appear to put in as much

time and effort do well?

Is it all related to IQ and

genetics or are some other

factors involved? The truth

is that success in school is

not so much determined

by

sheer intelligence as

knowing how to study.

Studying is a skill. Being

successful in school

requires a high level of

study

skills. Students must first

learn these skills, practice

them and develop

effective study habits in

order to be successful. Very

often the study habits

and practices developed

and used in high school do

not work for students in

college.

Good study habits

include many different

skills: time management,

selfdiscipline,

concentration,

memorization,

organization, and effort.

Desire

to succeed is important,

too.

In this module you will

discover your areas of

strength and identify your

weaknesses pertaining to

studying.

You will learn about your

preferred

learning channel, tips to

organize your studies, and

ways to help you

remember what you study.

The skills you will learn

about in this module can

be applied in other areas

of your life as well: your job,

your career, or any

activity that requires

thought, planning,

information processing,

and selfdiscipline.

You’ll find that once you

develop effective study

habits, the job of studying

and learning will become

easier. Instead of working

harder, you’ll be

working smarter.

Exercise: Discover your

approach to studying.

Circle the responses that

apply to

you.

1. My study habits are...

good fair poor

2. For every hour in class,

I study… a little 1 hr. 2 hrs.

more than 2 hrs.

3. I have an organized plan

and schedule for study...

true false

4. I have a quiet place in

which I study... true false

5. I usually approach

studying with a positive

attitude. true false

In what ways could you

improve your study habits?

_________________________

_________________________

_________________________

_________________

ASK YOURSELF

THE FOLLOWING:

Am I more inclined to

remember something better

when I see it, when I hear it,

or when I experience it or do

something active with it?

Depending on how you

learned the activity or game,

you will have a fair idea of

what learning channel –

visual (by sight), auditory (by

hearing), or hands on (by

doing)—you prefer to use.

We all use all three learning

channels. In fact, we use all

our senses in learning about

the world around us, but

each of us has a tendency to

lean more heavily on one of

the three learning channels

– visual, auditory, or hands

on. You can improve your

study habits by developing

all three learning channels.

TO IMPROVE AS A VISUAL

LEARNER

-visualize what you are

-listen to tapes of

recorded assignments

- tape record your own

textbook reading

- read out loud

-talk over ideas from

class and what you are

studying with other

students

- participate in class

discussions

- listen to audiotapes on

the subject

TO IMPROVE AS A HANDS ON

LEARNER

-stand up and move around

while you are studying

- take frequent breaks while

studying

- make use of your hands

and write things down as you

study

- use the computer to

reinforce learning

- be physically active;

experiment with objects

- memorize or drill while

walking or exercising

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RELATIONSHIPS

When we talk about affairs, we often categorize them as

emotional, physical, or both. That’s helpful to some extent. Yet

nowadays, there’s another category that we can loosely call the

TEXTING AFFAIR.

Unfortunately, there is no

formula to determine when

texting crosses the line into

betrayal. In fact, those who are

behaving in inappropriate ways

quickly learn how to blur this

line so that they can deflect and

continue to do what they’re

doing.In the end, you must

learn to trust your gut.

After all, no one knows your

marriage or your spouse better

communications strictly workrelated,

being transparent

in terms of cell phones and

computers (those who have

nothing to hide, hide nothing),

and working together to

improve your own marriage are

all reasonable requests.

To prevent and overcome

infidelity, couples must learn to

build a loving, respectful and

protective “fortress” around

that they have formed a deep

bond. Too often what begins

as a cautious “hi...was thinking

of u” turns into “i miss u”

and then “can you meet again

tomorrow?” And when it gets to

that point, well, the whole thing

becomes a lot harder to “delete.”

Visit Debra Macleod’s private

practice at MarriageSOS.com

there is a reasonable expectation

of privacy in marriage. Of

An like this: Your

oversimplified

scenario goes

spouse strikes up an oppositesex

friendship with a person

at work, spin or yoga class, the

gym, or through your child’s

school or extra-curricular

activities. For some reason,

they feel compelled to exchange

phone numbers. There’s no real

need for this, although your

spouse tells you that they need

to stay in touch because of work

or to coordinate fitness class,

the kid’s activities, etc.

Soon, their innocent texting

about work or scheduling

begins to escalate into personal,

ever more intimate texting.

Your spouse starts guarding

their cellphone and going into

the next room to text. They

lock their phone, change their

password and delete their text

history.

For a while, you bite your

tongue. After all, nobody

wants to be “that wife” or “that

husband.” You look the other

way and pretend not to notice

or be bothered. You force

yourself to not ask who your

spouse is texting and not show

how worried or hurt you are.

You lay awake and stare at your

partner’s phone, wishing you

could look through it but not

wanting to cross that line.

Finally, you crack.

Choosing your words

carefully, you ask your

partner who he or she

is texting. If you already know

who it is, you might tell your

partner that you are concerned

or feeling second-place. Or

perhaps you wait until your

partner is in the shower and

give in to the urge to scroll

through his or her phone. Either

way, you hear or see something

that makes your stomach sink.

More from Debra Macleod:

• Is A ‘Partner Predator’

Circling Your Husband Or

Wife?

• 10 Proactive Ways To Fix

The Cracks Forming In Your

Marriage

• Your Marriage Will Fail For

The Same Reasons Celebrity

Couples Split Up

Here’s where anything can

happen. Your spouse may

downplay the relationship and

shrug off your concerns, saying

“We’re just friends. You have to

trust me.” Or your spouse may

react with an angry, inflated

display of wounded indignation

by saying, “Oh, so I’m not

allowed to have ANY friends?”

He or she may turn the situation

around so that it’s you who

finds yourself explaining your

behavior. He or she may make

you feel paranoid, jealous,

controlling, or pathetic. “You

went through my phone! You’re

crazy. That’s private!”

Of course there are spouses who

are unreasonably jealous and

suspicious, and who behave in

controlling ways. Of course

than you do. Texting affairs are

the gateway to emotional and

physical affairs. Of the infidelity

cases I’ve dealt with in the past

several years, the vast majority

started out as “innocent” texting

between opposite-sex friends

or acquaintances. You are

not over-reacting by insisting

that a spouse end a texting

relationship that you feel in

your heart is undermining your

marriage, and you are not overreacting

by treating it as a form

of infidelity.

Blocking the other

person’s number, keeping

their marriage, which includes

insulating it from the invasive

effects of technology. That’s

something I talk a lot about in

my Couples in Crisis book.

Continued inaction or letting

the texting continue -- perhaps

out of fear of your partner’s

reaction -- only increases the

chances that your partner will

begin to see you as a nagging

barrier to the exciting and

fresh-faced relationship that he

or she enjoys via text messages.

Texting creates a false sense

of intimacy between texters.

Within weeks, they may feel

course some co-workers and

friends need to communicate

after-hours. Of course there

are unhappy marriages that

have deep problems. But that’s

not always the case. Suspicions

are often warranted. Anger,

defensiveness and indignation

may be covers for betrayal.

Explanations may be just

excuses. And all too often, a

texting affair steals so much

time, energy and emotion from

a marriage that a rift forms -- or

widens -- between spouses that

otherwise would have worked

through their marriage troubles.

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HASHTAG CELEB

“I’M HAPPY FOR HER!”

– Future backtracks on negative

comments about ex Ciara

Future has “no problems” with Ciara

and her husband Russell Wilson

The 35-year-old rapper – who has

a four-year-old son, also called Future,

with his former partner – has

claimed he’s “happy” for the lovedup

duo, despite recently accusing

the NFL player of failing to act “like

a man” in their relationship, but

admitted he had a problem relating

to his child.

He said: “We don’t have no problems.

It’s a social media problem.

No, I don’t hate him. Totally not

the deal. It was just the way we

were carrying it, as far as being

handled with baby Future.”

Future added that, despite of his

recent remarks, he doesn’t have

any negative feelings towards Russell,

who married Ciara in 2016 and

has a 20-month-old daughter Sienna

with her

He told the Durtty Boyz Show: “I

don’t have nothing against him,

and I’m happy for them.”

By contrast, Future previously

slammed Russell for allowing himself

to be dictated to by his wife.

The rapper also argued that the

NFL star ought to ban Ciara from

mentioning her ex-fiancé on her

social media accounts.

He said: “He do exactly what she

tell him to do. He’s not being a

man in that position. He not tellin’

her, ‘Chill out with that on the internet.

Don’t even talk to him, I’m

your husband! You better not even

bring Future’s name up!'”

The Fine China hitmaker – who

was engaged to Ciara at one point

during their relationship – went

on to say that if the situation were

reversed and he were married to

the singer, he would stop her from

“bringing her exes’ names up”.

He explained: “If that was me, she

couldn’t even bring his name up.

She know that. She couldn’t even

bring her exes’ names up. Don’t

give that s**t no energy.”

Author: BANG Showbiz

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