to Autumn - the time when, in the Southern
at least, we intuitively know it's time to slow down
time to rest, repair, review and get ready to regenerate. The
when night can feel endless is the time to recharge. A
of reflection - what needs to fall away, what have I fallen
what needs to change, what has become complex or
Ancestors are always looking out for us, feeding us
and wisdom and this time of the year is a good time
reflect on how you work with them in daily life. And if you
give them a second thought, perhaps it's time to keep
eyes and ears open and see how they are communicating
and honouring can be as simple as taking an
meditative walk in Nature near you and collecting a
things to decorate your home or special space; lighting a
in memory of your Ancestors/family members and gently
their names; sharing family stories; making a feast and
it in silence; siting in quiet reflection about the past few
and where you're heading; making a mini-bonfire casting
outdated patterns into it; connecting with a community or
theme of Autumn is it's all about keeping life slow and
In this edition of TN Mag, I've got some ideas to help you
or forever fix?
loss is the
that make life
WELCOME TO AUTUMN
and start going inward.
confusing - and of honouring the cycle of life and the Ancestors.
doing something that you love.
do just that...
WHY IT ISN'T ABOUT A LUXURY
making an alter full of special items
reading your favourite book or writing a little
taking an intention walk around your backyard or
and deeply listening on your balcony
closing the blinds, selecting evocative music and just
your body find it's own movement
eating nutritious raw salad
~ creating your own ritual to honour yourself
~ listening to a guided meditation or two
~ creating a circle of candles with you in the middle
~ setting an intention & sleeping and dreaming into it
~ waking to write down what you learned
A Retreat can be this simple and lightly structured, so
your imagination and intuition flow you gently from one
activity to another.
Often Retreats have a specific purpose and you'll want
to take time to plan it out. There may be special items
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specific purpose, take the time to plan it out - even if
or resources you need. If you want to Retreat for a
the plan changes along the way - and get everything
you need beforehand.
IF a spiritual getaway is calling but the numbers just
don't add up, then why not make DIY an option?
Plan an opening and closing ritual - when I'm retreating I
make this simple and very intentional. I reflect deeply
We all have times when we yearn for rest, to dream,
on what I'm retreating for, what I want at the end. I
listen, grieve, celebrate or be. When we simply just
think about where I'll do it - at home, closeby or maybe
want our own company for a while, doing stuff we
somewhere far away and secluded.
like to do, self-caring and nourishing ourselves in a
way that feeds our soul.
I plan my activities to facilitate the outcome I want but
leave enough room for Spirit to guide me as I go. Often
What might a DIY Retreat look like? Well it can be
other opportunities and ideas will present themselves
one hour, two hours, half a day, full day or even
when I'm actually in the Retreat and so I embrace them
several days depending on how much time you've
as gifts from Spirit and go with it.
got and where you are.
In the days leading up to my Retreat, I mindfully gather
Luxury retreats with someone else taking care of
any bits and pieces I'll need: music, journal, books,
you sound exotic and lovely but getting there can
instruments, craft items, food, clothing, crystals,
require exhausting maneuvering.
water. I continually ask "what do I need on this
retreat?" and I let it all come to me.
A DIY retreat can be simple and lovely and designed
completely with you in mind. Structured retreats
My own Retreats always involve Nature at different
rely on a schedule of services, whereas with the DIY
times of the day - from pre-dawn to pre-dawn. I'll bask
option you're completely in charge of how you spend
in the sun and dance under moonlight, even if it's very
cold. I'll drum, chant, sing, pray and sit, lay or walk
barefoot (and sometimes bare bodied) on the Earth as
~ maybe it starts with a long bath
much as I can. I'll scream, laugh, get mad and cry a lot.
~ taking time to dress slowly and mindfully
~ sipping warm tea
There are some activities I'll do at certain times each
day of my Retreat because I'm working for something
AND, HOW YOU CAN LEARN TO
ENJOY BEING ALONE
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that's really important to me.
next make it tactile; I might construct mindfulness
activities as I go - how far into the distance can I hear
I usually make an alter or special space - it's here
or how many shades of green can I see.
that I honour who I am, my past, my present, my
The Retreat space is alive with Spirit once you open it
future. It contains my imagining, my dreaming, my
hopes, my desires; those who I love, those who
with your Ritual and Ceremony - and that's another
reason why I'm careful with what I plan to do and what I
have passed and those who are yet to come.
actually do. I want to make sure to what and to whom
My Retreats involve exploring my fears, anger,
I'm opening the spiritual door to. Sensing into the
elements around you, staying mindful and prayerful are
curiosity and the inane thoughts I might have about
this or that. I do whatever I need to do to nourish
essential in any Retreat, even those in luxury locations.
my Spiritual Self and break through anything that
prevents me from being in close and clear
Prayer is our communication with Spirit and the
Ancestors and so praying throughout the day and
communication and relationship with Spirit and the
before and after activities is good practice. It affirms
your Retreat Intention as well as making sure your lines
I'll do whatever occurs to me - hugging a tree,
of communication are clear and open.
annoiting myself, calling out, talking to animals -
Prayer takes you deeper into conversation with your
whatever it takes, however it presents if my inner
guidance calls me to it, I'll engage it with gusto (of
Spiritual family and as you retreat you can feel this
level of conversation opening up as naturally as you
course, I'm also careful on Retreats and don't put
myself in danger or comprising situations and you
would speak with someone in the physical realm.
Painting, drawing, writing are all necessary for you to be
Phones, outside communication - all of that ceases
able to record your conversations with Spirit and what
you are learning about yourself. Writing in a free and
to exist. For safety, if I'm going out in the bush, I
make sure someone knows where I'm going and
spontaneous way without reading it back to yourself
can often bring you to a depth of insight you didn't
when I'm expecting to be back. It's just good DIY
know you were capable of achieving.
Whether your Retreat is one hour, one day or one week,
Everything in the Retreat space is done with
absolute reverance and mindfullness. Even
plan it out for maximum benefit and always finish with a
simple closing ceremony to close the space. May your
spontaneous "mindless" activities like dancing
Retreat open your heart to your grace.
outdoors have a mindful element to them. I might
make my mindfulness walk silent one day and the
Hales - Counsellor & Psychotherapist - works extensively with Grief & Loss, Relationships,
Stress, Depression & Anxiety. As a Holistic Counsellor he's interested in helping people be at
best Spiritually, Mentally, Physically. He sees Counselling as a spiritual process where the whole
is acknowledged and cared for. In his work he ensures the Spirit is not left wanting.
often mistake Counselling as a Talk Therapy and not as a Spiritual Healing Practice - but as
of Holistic Counselling both Julia and Mark are examples of how care for the soul can propel
life change. In their understanding and application, Counselling is what you might call
- viewing life and life experiences as part of the larger process of spiritual development,
also works with organisations as their specialist Counsellor. He publishes short, insightful, self-help
like this one on Grief & Loss, regularly on his Facebook Page and Website...
more fully understand the experience of loss, it is helpful to understand it’s universality in
life. In a sense, we lose something along each step of life’s journey, from the concrete
of people, places and objects we have come to cherish, to the more immaterial but
significant loss of our youth, dreams or ideals as we navigate life’s twists and turns,
the inescapable transitions we undergo from childhood to old age diminish as well as
us, it is important to recognise that all change involves loss, just as all loss requires
is something we do as a natural response to loss. There is no ‘right’ or ‘wrong’ way to
with grief; everyone experiences it in different ways. Often a person who is grieving will
a wide array of emotions. The process isn’t linear, and doesn’t have a set time limit
grieving process is crucial to future happiness, emotional and social well-being and is part
the human experience, it is a journey through darkness that needs to happen. The pain
vital you prioritise looking after yourself. Give yourself the space to reflect and to explore
thoughts and feelings. Allow time to heal without setting unrealistic goals and deadlines
delay making major life decisions or changes. Being patient with the grieving process and
yourself to feel without the need to “get over it” or “move on” as time will inevitably
your level of distress. Seek support from friends and family, keep a journal or exercise
creativity through painting, story writing. poetry or cooking.
you continue to struggle with grief and loss and the displacement that comes with it, it's
to your wellbeing to work with a Helper so you can find ways to express your grief and
LOSS IS THE SHADOW
OF ALL POSSESSIONS.
living creatively and in alignment and resonance with your Soul and therefore Spirit.
ups and downs.
subsides and the soul is stronger when you allow grieving to take its course, however painful.
work with your pain. Let Mark help you or visit www.counsellinginmanly.com.au
HOW HEALING WORKS
HARD WORK DOESN'T HAVE TO MAKE YOU MISERABLE
THIS IS HARD WORK...says just about everyone who is
If you are experiencing a life problem or physical ailment,
doing their inner work. Yes, it takes time, patience,
the Spiritual Understanding is that it is already happening
courage, love, self-belief and stamina to go the
at the Spiritual Level. And it is at the Spiritual Level that
distance, but when you do, nothing will be the same
we work first - to bring what is out of Spiritual Alignment
back into Lokahi or Unity with the Higher Being. If
anything is preventing this alignment, it needs to be
The Kupuna, the old people, will tell you that healing is
resolved and removed.
both a spiritual & a mental discipline. We must have the
mental discipline to say 'NO' to the old habits, patterns,
What you do AFTER a healing session is PART of the
hurts and grudges that we've carried for years and
Healing Process. When healing has ocurred at the
sometimes a lifetime.
Spiritual Level it also has to be brought into the physical
level, or realm, because that's where you are right now.
Whenever someone comes to healing it's because
You have to make the healing tangible in your own world
they've reached that point, where intuitively they know
so that you are living the Healing and not the Wounding.
something's got to change. Taking the steps necessary
This is a critical step in the process.
to put an end to it once and for all takes a lot of
courage, that's for sure. None of us know where it will
Often after sessions, like Lomi Lomi or Ho'oponopono, a
take us once we leap of the cliff into the "not knowing".
recommendation is given for exactly this purpose. These
after session tasks are the physical resolution to the
But, even in the "not knowing' there's an inkling of
problem and are designed to fortify your mental
absolutely knowing that this is the thing you need to be
discipline as well as be a container for Spirit and the
doing. It's that level of self-trust that prompts you to
Ancestors to continue guiding and working with you.
follow your inner guidance. And that inner guidance is
Think of it as your homework.
evidence of your willingness to work with Spirit.
Living the Healing takes practice because you have no
Just about all Indigenous Cultures understand the
experience of life without the pain or suffering you've
SPIRIT, MIND, BODY process at great depth. They
healed. And it takes courage as well to action the after
understand how the Universe works and the interplay
session tasks and resolutions, which show you what to
of Universal Factors in the resolution of life problems
do so that you have the greatest chance of success. The
and the evolution of you as a Spiritual Energy - that's
people who experience life change are the ones who do
why all life problems are Spiritual Problems.
the after work consistently and that's why they're the
ones who get the results and rediscover their True Self.
HEALING always occurs on the Spiritual Level first. It's
Spirit and the Ancestors that are doing the healing
So if you're not getting the traction you want after
work. The Healer is the physical connection with them -
healing, are you doing your homework?
like a power cord into a socket.
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