Get Out! GAY Magazine – Issue 423 June 19, 2019

BY IAN-MICHAEL BERGERON
@ianmichaelinwonderland
I am someone
who is
constantly late
for everything.
I truly don’t
mean to be, and
it’s never super
late—think 10 to
15 minutes late—
but consistently.
Because I’m
perpetually
running behind, I
often skip dinner,
so when people ask
what bar I want to
meet at, I wonder:
Which bar has the best food?
My first choice is typically Boxers: They
have three locations (Chelsea, Hell’s
Kitchen, and Washington Heights), one
which is a hop, skip and jump away
from my apartment, and I get to look
at half-naked men serving me in their
bright red boxers. The nachos, my
choice when I missed dinner on my
way to a “Drag Race” viewing party,
are perfect if you’re sharing (and even
if you’re not), and their new burger is
the best thing to eat while your friends
talk about how they had time for dinner
before and weren’t 15 minutes late.
(Not to mention their happy hour drink
specials!)
And speaking of burgers: The
cheeseburger and fries at Julius’ bar
(159 West 10th Street, aka New York
City’s oldest gay bar) is to die for. I
feel like a burger is hard to master:
Everyone in New York has one on their
menu, and it has to be exceptional
With Sprinkles on Top
to be
remembered
above the
rest. You’ll
remember this
one—well,
if you don’t
have it with
too many
margaritas
on the side.
(Which, let’s
be honest, I
always do.)
I do
have to mention, if you
leave the bar early or happen to have
the time before grabbing a drink,
my favorite place isn’t a bar, but it is
basically across the street from Duplex
and down the street from Stonewall:
Big Gay Ice Cream. I’m honestly not
a big sweets person, but damn good
ice cream is damn good ice cream.
They have quirky names (which I LOVE)
like The Dorothy (vanilla core injected
with dulce de leche), The Salty Pimp
(chocolate crunch injected with dulce
de leche) and American Globs (ice
cream with dark pretzels smashed
into it). Last time I went with my
boyfriend, I got The Sally V Trucker (ice
cream sandwich), and he got Rocky
Roadhouse—which I made him share.
When you’re out and about for Pride,
especially if you’re drinking, don’t skip
a meal—just find a place where you can
have it all!
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BY EILEEN SHAPIRO
CELEBRITY CORRESPONDENT
CHRIS FREDERICK
Talks About WorldPride
2019: New York City
WorldPride 2019 is quickly
approaching, and New York City will be
hosting the largest Pride celebration on
the planet, marking the 50th anniversary
of the Stonewall Uprising. Pride Month
events begin on June 1 and will end with
the Pride March grand finale on June 30.
Global and domestic visitors and New
Yorkers will gather together as friends
and family supporting parties, rallies, arts,
culture, history, equality and laughter,
tears and hopes as one.
The colorful anticipation of WorldPride
grows more vivid and vibrant everyday.
Pride in itself is a unique experience for
the masses and for each individual. The journey for equality has been
an empowering venture. Stonewall50 & WorldPride 2019 is themed
“Millions of Moments of Pride.” It represents “the invaluable and countless
experiences every person encounters during annual celebrations and
commemorations around the world.”
Each year Get Out! magazine turns to Chris Frederick, Executive Director
of NYC Pride, for a first-hand preview of the events surrounding Pride. On
this special year of WorldPride, he certainly has this journey mapped out.
INTERVIEW
With WorldPride rapidly in our
midst, are you nervous?
I think every year there is a certain
amount of nervousness. I think given
the nature of what we’re creating, the
world is looking indirectly at these
events to commemorate this really
important moment. Yeah, I think it’s
natural to be nervous and to want to
ensure that all of these events are as
amazing as they possibly can be.
This year you’re responsible for
Pride Month, which I’m sure is a lot
of extra work and stress. What is
your own personal inspiration for all
that you do for Pride?
My personal story is, I came out to my
mom when I was 17.

Being from rural Ohio, brought up in
the countryside, I just happened to
have stumbled upon the Pride March
during a visit to New York with my
mom when I was 17. It was kind of like
that singular moment where I realized
that I was part of a thing much larger
than anything I ever anticipated. That
singular moment is what continues
to drive me in the fact that there are
millions of people on the sidelines
that are experiencing Pride for the
first time, and the impact it leaves on
a person for the rest of their lives is
truly life-changing. The fact that we
can create a dialogue on this sort of
scale where the entire city is in this
idea of love and acceptance is really
what is such a driving force for me. So I
think every year is different, every year
has its own unique challenges, and I’m
really excited to be a part of it.
Rumor has it that there will be two
marches. Can you comment on that?
We are planning the best event
possible. I think there are going to be
other events and programs happening
for that entire month of June, but we
know that our event is going to be the
largest and most visited. We have over
700 groups that are participating, and
150,000 different marchers at the
moment that are participating. Most
of our participants are from nonprofit
organizations, so I think that this event
is still very much community driven,
with the community in mind, and we’re
focused on [doing] the best we can for
our diverse community.
Facebook is passing around an article
stating that ABC is covering Pride for
the first time. Is that correct?
I saw that. Actually, ABC has been
broadcasting it since 2017. We are
very happy to have them covering it
for the third year in a row. I think that
we have a very great relationship with
them. For me it was really important
to have the Pride March on television,
because there are so many kids out
there or people out there that don’t
feel comfortable coming to Pride
because they may be afraid, or they
may not know anyone. To have it in
people’s living room is really important,
because one of Pride’s big pillars as an
organization is to provide visibility on
a mountainous scale. So we are really
excited that ABC is continuing to be a
strong partner in this regard.
Will the march be following the same
route as last year?
It’s kind of the same route. It starts
around 26th and 5th Avenue, it goes
down 5th Avenue, goes east on 8th
Street, cuts across on Christopher and
then goes north on 7th and ends at
23rd and 7th.
If the media is interested in joining,
what should they do?
There’s an application online. They go
to worldpride.org and check out the
media, which will explain how to get
credentials.
I consider you the Pride leader, so
if you could say anything regarding
WorldPride, what would you want
the world to know?
That’s a great question. At the end
of the day what we’re really trying to
showcase here is that you’re not alone.
You have a big community behind you
that loves you and supports you no
matter how you identify or who you
are.
Is there any one particular event that
you think everyone should absolutely
participate in?
We are really excited about the
opening ceremony at the Barclays
Center. It’s the first time that it will be
done on a mass scale at the Barclays
Center on June 26 with some really big
names, including Chaka Khan, Whoopi
Goldberg and Cyndi Lauper and more.
We are really excited about it, because
it is also going to be a fundraiser for
three great organizations: Ali Forney
Center, Immigration Equality and
SAGE. So not only is it a really amazing
arena show, but on a large scale we will
be giving back to the community.

Is there anything else that
you’d like to say that I haven’t
covered?
Check out our website at
worldpride.org for any
information about what we
are doing. Our key plan is to
be giving $250,000 to other
LGBT nonprofit organizations,
or more depending on how
we land. At a minimum we
will be giving away $250,000.
We are producing 25 events,
and we have about 70 to 80
official partner events that
are online in our calendar. We
think that it’s going to be the
biggest event in the history
of the community, and we’re
expecting about 4.5 million
people.
How many usually come to
New York Pride?
We usually have about 2.5
million people on any given
year. There will be about 2
million more than we normally
see.
I have to ask you this for Mike
Todd, publisher of Get Out!
Can we expect Madonna?
YES! We’re excited to be able
to announce that Madonna will
be performing at Pride Island
Sunday and joining an amazing
roster of artists at that event
over the two days, including
Grace Jones, Teyana Taylor, Kim
Petras and more. They join a
long history of legendary artists
that have performed at official
NYC Pride events on the pier,
including Cher, Ariana Grande,
Whitney Houston, Jennifer
Lopez, Janet Jackson and
more. We could not think of a
better artist to help close out
WorldPride for this important
anniversary for our community.
Cover: Frankie Grande
Photo by Chris Shelley
Cover by Carlos Aguayo
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Frankie Grande Collaborates
With Fifth & Ninth for Pride Event
at The Phluid Project June 24
Singer, actor, dancer, producer,
TV personality, social media
marvel and Broadway sensation
Frankie Grande has partnered
with the fashion accessory
brand Fifth & Ninth, creating an
exclusive line of phone cases
designed for Pride. Join Grande
in a pop-up event hosted by Fifth
& Ninth on June 24 from 6 to 8
p.m. at The Phluid Project at 684
Broadway in NYC. The event will
include music, drinks and a meet
and greet with Grande.
I spoke to Grande regarding
World Pride, the event, the exclusive phone cover designs, The Phluid
Project, creators of the coolest clothes on the planet and what’s next.
Shedding light and positivity on everything he touches, aside from
his celebrity status, Grande involves himself with countless charities
and advocacies. Having co-founded Broadway in South Africa, he
eventually partnered with buildOn and helped build a school in
Malawi. He was honored for that with the Global Impact Award. He
has also been involved in helping Broadway Cares/Equity Fights
AIDS and has raised money for AIDS/LifeCycle. Grande has been on
Broadway and has appeared on “Celebrity Big Brother,” “RuPaul’s
Drag Race,” the American Music Awards and a long list of others.
INTERVIEW
What is Fifth & Ninth?
Fifth & Ninth is a
company that I decided
to collaborate with for
my phone cover line.
They do a lot of different
items, but phone covers
seem to be very popular.
For me, right when the
iPhone X was coming
out I wanted to be one
of the first people that
had a cute, customized
iPhone cover. It always
takes forever to come
out with new ones, and
the ones we came out
with together, I really like
the selection.
So you’re doing an
event with Fifth & Ninth
on June 24 at a pop-up
location?
Do you know about
The Phluid Project,
the Phluid store? I’m
a huge supporter of
them. I think that it is
so important for us to
have clothing that is
non-binary, that is not
associated with gender
in any way, shape
or form. It’s the first
gender-free clothing
store in the world. It is
absolutely zero gender
when you walk through
the door. Immediately,
the first time I sat down
with them I thought it
was such a wonderful
idea, and you will
definitely see me dress
in Phluid for all of Pride.

PHOTO CREDIT: CHRIS SHELLEY

So we were talking
about what my event
would look like, if I
should have one during
Pride, because Pride
is like my Christmas,
my Halloween, it’s
my everything. So we
decided to collaborate
and do this wonderful
event. When I came out
with the phone cases,
it was a very symbiotic.
It was very beneficial
to celebrate the phone
cases, and sell phone
cases with Fifth & Ninth,
and then have a very
fun, fabulous influencer,
with all of my cute
influencer friends and
dear, dear friends to
come and celebrate
with me.
With World Pride
quickly approaching,
aside from your event,
what else do you have
planned?
I’m literally doing as
much as I possibly can,
especially because it is
World Pride. I usually do
an event here and there
during Pride, but now
I’m going to do as many
as humanly possible.
I am very honored
to be a Stonewall
ambassador this year
for the 50th anniversary
of the Stonewall riots.
I think that it’s time
that the LGBT speak up
as proudly as we did
50 years ago, all over
again. We’ve got a crazy
administration; people
are trying to make us
go backwards, so we
have to be just as loud
as we were 50 years
ago. It’s not like things
are getting better, so
let’s be quiet; it’s [that]
things are getting
better, so we better
stay loud. So I’m doing
everything I possibly
can during World Pride,
everything.
Well said. I know what
World Pride means
to you, because you
just told me, but for
somebody that’s going
to experience Pride
for the very first time,
what would your advice
be to them?
This is the time when
you need to embrace
your true, authentic
self. It’s not about
becoming something
for someone else, it’s
not about going to
parties. All those things
are inherently available
during Pride, but what
I encourage someone
to do is just really tap
into your authentic
self and celebrate it.
Be unapologetic for
yourself, and let this be
the thing that catapults
you every single day.
I am fortunate where
I am in a place in
my life where I don’t
have to deal with the
corporate structure of
America. I am allowed
to wear makeup and
glitter and sparkle
and shine. I know that
it’s unfortunate that
people don’t get to be
themselves, so I want
this to be like someone’s
big production and be
what it’s like to be able
to celebrate yourself
every single day. I hope
that one day we get to
a point that it is actually
the norm.
That’s a great answer,
Frankie. So can you
describe these phone
cases that you are
coming out with?
Basically, I always had
like a black, ordinary
phone case. It was kind
of depressing to look
at my phone with that
case. So of course my
phone case has a neon
rainbow on it. It says
“Shine Bright” with
beautiful neon letters. If
you look at your phone,
you will be reminded
that you are fabulous.
You are going to see
“Shine Bright” when
you make a phone call,
“Shine Bright” when you
go on social media and
“Shine Bright” when
someone calls you.
Unfortunately, in today’s
society, there is so much
negativity going on on
your phone, and you just
get stuck in that viral,
controlling people on
the internet, and to pick
up the phone and see
“Shine Bright,” we can
approach the world with
a little more love and
happiness, and that’s
what I want to inspire
everyone to do.
I don’t know anyone
who doesn’t carry their
phone 24/7.
24/7, and this one
actually protects the
phone. I dropped my
phone with the cover
a million times, and
there was no damage.
That was my one
requirement.
Will this be for all
phones?
There are certain ones
that it’s available for.

So Frankie, aside from
Pride, what are you up to?
I’m proud to be
announcing that I will be in
the Henry Danger Musical,
which is appearing on
Nickelodeon on July 27. I
am one of the stars, and I
get to sing and dance, and
this character, let me tell
you, is a beautiful, overthe-top,
glittery, fairy of a
man.
I get to be very free, very
loving, and it’s so good
that it’s on Nickelodeon
for kids to see. I’m wearing
glasses and glittering
stones, and it’s just so
unbelievably fabulous
that I get to do this for
kids. I’m so excited. It’s
going to be so over
the top.
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Carrying with him the spirit of
positivity, a confident smile and
a colorfully flamboyant jacket, I
met Yuval David on the streets of
The Village, in front of the historic
Bitter End. With a larger-than-life
persona, Yuval became an instant
life-long friend.
Using his talent, creativity and
his phenomenal career, the
Israeli-American actor, advocate,
producer, content creator and
speaker directs his efforts to
evoke social change. With
a kaleidoscope of television
appearances, including CBS’
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Our Lives,” “The Michael J. Fox
Show” and the primetime series “What Would You Do?”, as well as
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You’re a busy guy.
I have this new HBO mini
series that I was cast in.
I have this indie film I
was cast in, which has
conflicting schedules, so
that has to be figured
out. I’m doing voiceovers
for two documentaries.
I’m producing almost a
dozen of my Web series,
three of which are filming
concurrently now, because
I thought maybe I didn’t
have enough going on.
I’m also a producer on
a documentary feature,
and in the meantime I’m
auditioning and doing my
speaking engagements.
I have advocacy work,
a film that I’m doing for
the National LGBTQ Task
Force… everything is
happening now.
I’m exhausted just
listening to your
schedule. What are you
going to do for World
Pride?
During World Pride
month, I have multiple
speaking engagements,
and I also have a dozen
Web series that I am
producing. Whenever
I have a moment to
create content, I’ll
create content. So that’s
whenever I am not in
a film or a TV show or
producing or directing. I
have this one Web series
called “One Actor Short.”
It’s probably one of my
favorites of my content.
I go out onto the streets
of New York, and I ask
random strangers to
play a role in a short film.
In under 10 minutes I
improvise a scene with
them, direct them, so
that it’s guided improv,
and they have a role in
a movie. So the last one
I filmed had a whole
LGBTQ twist. I really
was hoping that it could
happen, but with improv
I just have to be OK
with whatever happens.
I don’t know who I’m
going to interview. Then
magic happened. I had
this amazing trans black
woman who was one of
the random actors that
joined (they are not real
actors, just people off the
street). I’m doing all of my
speaking engagements
and speaking on Capitol
Hill and speaking in
events here for World
Pride, but my own artistic
content got to have this
whole LGBTQ theme. So
I’m really excited about
that.
You say that you
identify with the trans
community. Why?
There is something so
inspiring about being
trans and embracing
the concept of being
in transition, because
ultimately we are all in
transition. I just think we
need more trans leaders,
like people to be political
leaders, to be the heads
of organizations. They
have created that safe
space around them, they
created that brave space
around them, which is
bigger than safe space, to
be themselves openly, no
matter what. Trans people
face many challenges
in our society, yet they
continue to move forward
on their path. That is very
inspiring to us all.
You were on one of
the most popular soap
operas, “Days of Our
Lives.” What kind of
character did you play?
I played the French guy.
When people saw me in
the street, they would
say “George!”, and all of
a sudden people would
start speaking to me
in French. I don’t really
speak French. I speak a
little French; I can get
by in the streets of Paris,
but not when people
speak to me with full-on
French. All of a sudden
I became one of the top
young French actors in
LA. Melora Hardin and
Joely Fisher was doing a
movie, and she needed
a young French guy for
the love interest. So, I
went in to audition with
a French accent. I had
four callbacks, and then
I got cast in the movie!
They still didn’t know I
wasn’t French. But that’s
how I approach all of my
characters. I live them, I
love them. It’s the same
with advocacy work:
You’ve got to live it.
You take acting and turn
it inside out, creating
advocacy work?
I have the platform. The
more successful I am as an
actor, the more successful
I am as an advocate.

The more successful I am
as an advocate, the more
success I hope to have
as an actor. People used
to tell me to change my
name, because it’s too
ethnic, but I would say,
“That’s who I am.” Then
when people found out I
was gay, I started acting
at a time when people
said I had to fight that,
because I wouldn’t be
mainstream enough if
I was out and proud. I
struggled with that. It was
a very challenging thing
at first, in LA especially. I
would only talk about it
if I became friends with
someone or if I felt the
flow. If I didn’t feel the
flow, I just wouldn’t. That
was my foray into acting.
I would hide everything.
I used to consider myself
the actor who could play
anything. I speak many
languages, I do every
accent, and I would
do these one-person
shows where I would
play completely different
characters. It’s still
wonderfully exciting. But I
learned to embrace more
and more who I am and
what I bring to the world,
why I should be cast
in this role, why I bring
something unique to the
table because of who I
am as a unique individual,
and to proud be of that.
Most of the roles you
play are straight roles?
I never thought about
that. I did turn one of my
roles gay. It’s in postproduction
now. I play
the arch nemesis in this
movie. His character is a
lone wolf, he’s a hitman,
but he does everything
in a very stealth way, so
nobody ever finds him.
The lead role was played
by this gorgeous, big,
muscular guy, 6’4”, and
here I am, 5’9”, and his
hitman partner in the
movie is this other giant
guy. There is a part of this
film where my character
gets captured by these
guys. The director was
chatting with me while
we were doing this
whole prepping for the
scene when he told me
that they decided to
add a scene, because I
was killing each scene.
He told me I took the
character to a place
that they didn’t expect
and that the character
became bigger than they
expected. As an actor I
thought, “Great, more
screen time.” As an artist,
I enjoyed the creative
process of delving so
deep into this
character. They
told me they
wanted to have
a scene where
my girlfriend
was captured.
I told him that
I really saw my
character as
gay. I told him
I can change
him, but I really
saw him as gay.
I saw a great
opportunity,
because so
many gay
characters are
depicted as
comedic or the sidekick,
or like the woman who
has the gay best friend.
So I thought here is an
opportunity where you
have a character who you
can enjoy already, and
there’s nothing about his
character that you enjoy
because he’s gay. You
can now ride the wave
of what’s happening in
the industry in terms of
representation with a
character who’s gay, but
it’s not about him being
gay. I totally pitched them
on this, and they agreed.
Then they cast a guy to
be my boyfriend, and it
was amazing to see how
that was my character’s
vulnerability. As tough
as this character was, he
still had love in his heart
for his boyfriend. It made
the character even more
approachable, more
likable, more lovable.
And, I got to play a gay
character.
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ABOUT: EXTRAS
Research has shown
that between 40-
50% of gay men in
relationships report
being in some form
of non-monogamous
relationship. That doesn’t
always mean everyone is
satisfied, though.
My boyfriend and I
had a foursome with
another couple we’re
very close with. It
seemed like a good
idea at the time. They
are both attractive,
and we’ve known them
for years, but the sex
was TERRIBLE. We
were both surprised,
because they come off
as such a sexy couple.
So, we just don’t have
sex with them again, no
big deal, right? Well,
they keep bringing it
up when we hang out.
We’ve been making
up excuses, but now
they’ve starting being
passive aggressive and
making jokes about
being rejected. We
don’t want to have sex
with them again, but
we also don’t want to
lose the friendship.
What should we do?
–Male, Gay Couple,
31/33
If you were planning to
date them, I would say
you should work on it
and see if you can make
the sex work, but you’re
not. You could keep
deflecting and hope they
stop asking, but that
could just make things
more awkward. I would
recommend you guys
tell them that you’ve
decided it isn’t the best
for you all to have sex
again, because you
don’t want to complicate
the friendship. And,
this isn’t a lie. Based
on what you’ve said, if
you have sex again it
might complicate the
friendship, because
you may not want
to continue being
friends with them if it’s
contingent on sex. If
they become upset or
insist on asking, then you
have to ask yourself if the
friendship is worth it. Are
they still respecting your
wishes?
I’ve been messaging
back and forth with a
couple about having
a threesome for a
couple months, but it
never actually happens.
They’re always asking
for photos of my butt,
they send me videos
of them together and
always talk about the
IN BED
things they want to do
to me. Then we set a
date, and they cancel,
apologize, and attempt
to make another date.
I really want this to
happen, but they’ve
cancelled six times!
Am I doing something
wrong or wasting my
time? I feel like I’m
missing something
here, because they
keep saying they want
it, but maybe they
don’t? –Male, Gay, 22
My guess would be that
part of what this couple
gets off on is knowing
they could have you if
they wanted you, but
going through with it
isn’t something they’re
ready for. A lot of guys
write me about similar
situations, but it’s usually
with someone they chat
with on an app that
never actually wants
to meet. It’s the same
game. It would be nice
if they were open with
you about this being
their thing, but that
would probably defeat
the purpose for them.
If you’re fine with never
actually hooking up, then
enjoy the photo and
video exchange. If you
want more from them,
you should probably
accept it may never
happen, and then be
pleasantly surprised if it
does.
Sex/Love/Relationship advice? Send your questions to: ThomasTalksAbout@gmail.com
@ThomasWhitfield84

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> By John Stein
Guillermo Diaz and Honey
Davenport Take Flight...
AT IMPULSE NYC’S WORLDPRIDE PARTY ABOARD THE INTREPID
“Knowing our status is important
so we can keep ourselves and
those we choose to be intimate
with healthy and aware,” declares
Guillermo Diaz. “Knowledge and
honesty is key, as scary as that
might be sometimes.”
The actor, best known for his role
as Huck on TV’s “Scandal,” will
be in NYC on Thursday, June 27,
to host Impulse NYC’s Take Flight
Pride Kickoff party aboard The
Intrepid.
He was excited to accept Impulse
NYC’s invitation to host their
Pride event, because he calls the
organization “fearless in their
message, and that is inspiring.”
“Impulse NYC works to equip our
community with the tools and
resources needed for living a
healthier and safer life,” explains
Impulse NYC President Rasheed
Gonga. “We save more lives by
knowing our status, accepting it
and openly sharing and
discussing it with friends and
lovers.”
“Living in an era of easy
connectivity comes with a great
responsibility,” adds Impulse
NYC’s Events Director Dwight
Allen O’Neal. “We each have a
responsibility to every person
with whom we connect, and
this responsibility begins with
knowing our status.”
Now in its fifth year, Impulse NYC
is shifting focus in 2019 toward
sexual health, sexual violence,
mental health and substance use.
Their new Take Flight campaign
will work to empower the LGBTQ
community to spread its wings,
enjoy their individual life journey
and discover their best versions
of themselves sexually, mentally
and physically.

“We live in times where
something as beautiful as the
human sexual experience is still
being demonized depending
on practices and preferences,”
says Honey Davenport, who will
perform at the Take Flight Pride
Kickoff party. “It is important
to celebrate organizations
that encourage healthy sexual
expression.”
The event will feature several
activations throughout the
Intrepid, including a “Duty Free
Shop” sponsored by Aneros, all
designed to lead guests on an
inspiring path toward making
consciously healthier choices.
Following the kickoff event,
Impulse NYC will host a Saturday
luncheon at a private townhouse
on Manhattan’s Upper West Side.
It will be a more intimate affair,
allowing guests an opportunity
to reflect on where the LGBTQ
community has been, where it
aims to go and the best route in
getting there. Tickets for both
events are available online now.
Impulse NYC will finish the
weekend walking in the
WorldPride March.
Impulse NYC’s Pride Kickoff
takes place Thursday, June 27,
from 7 to 10 p.m. aboard The
Intrepid. Impulse NYC will also
host its Table for 7: The Layover
luncheon on Saturday, June
29, from 1 to 4 p.m. at a private
townhouse on Manhattan’s
Upper West Side. Tickets for
both events are available now
at WWW.TAKEFLIGHT.NYC.

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