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Hi everyone! The summer is over and this issue highlights
the amazing crowds that showed up in Downtown Edmond to
enjoy the July and August Heard on Hurd events!
The July event hosted the DeadCenter Filmfest Shorts
and what an amazing group of filmmakers to be highlighted
this year. The crowd was larger than the last two years, and
everyone sat through the entire 8 short films. I am so glad
everyone showed up, because we need more events like this
in Edmond!
The August Heard on Hurd was heavily attended celebrating
back to school city wide. Hoping all of you attend September
21, 2019 to celebrate one of the brightest events in our City.
As I write this, it is September 10, and I am left to remember
9/11, and that it has been 18 years since that event unfolded,
and it leaves me speechless every year.
One thing that offers solace is the remembrance ceremonies
and flags placed around campus’ at UCO and Oklahoma
Christian University. Both a little different, with OCU
placing 168 Oklahoma flags, and 168 US flags to specifically
remember the effects of terrorism, and UCO places a flag
for every person who passed on 9/11 by the students of each
University. It is a fact that as of now, there are classes at these
University’s who weren’t born when this event happened, and
so the lesson for these students immeasurable.
In this issue, we have three features for Local Edmond this
month, Jill Castilla was awarded the position of Civilian Aide
to the Secretary of the Army, Bunee Tomlinson has released
a new award winning film and we feature Kristy Payne of
Fostering Sweet Dreams and the good she is doing all around
Edmond!
In Local Flavor, there is a new Peach Bourbon cocktail
recipe that is sure to extend your summer patio time just a
little further and is easy to prepare.
And last in this issue, Life Happens is somber but timely as
this month is National Mental Health Month. Chad McCoy
M.A., LPC of Edmond Family Counseling gives a talk about
our own responsibility to rectify our past traumas to achieve
healing. It’s a phenomenal article and well worth the read.
As I am preparing for upcoming Holiday issues, please
take some time to visit our ShopEdmond retailers listed in
the magazine. They are some of the communities best, and
deserve your support, in light of so many closing their doors
in what appears community choice to shop mostly online.
Shopping at our local brick and mortar retailers keeps the
unique connection of local business and residents that makes
Edmond so special.
I just want to extend my thanks to every single one of you
who has ever picked up my small community magazine, or
visited one of our advertiser’s because of something you saw
in the magazine, online or at our social feeds over the last ten
years. EdmondActive is my why, and offering a different take
on what’s happening within our community gives me so much
joy that I can’t imagine not doing this for my living.
Here’s to another ten years, and thank you for your support,
participation and connection all of these years. It has truly
been my pleasure.
See you all around Edmond!
Sherri
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Peachy Keen Bourbon Cocktail
(Shop spirits at Edmond Wine Shop at 15th & Boulevard)
Summertime is winding down, but this cocktail will extend
summer with each and every batch. With the combo of simple
syrup and your favorite bourbon, this recipe is quick, tasty and
cool!
I would recommend chilling all of the ingredients as cold
as possible, so that the ice doesn’t melt too much and water it
down.
Add everything to a shaker with some ice, and shake heartily.
Pour over a large ice cube, garnish with a piece of peach and
mint, and you’ll be good to go!
Enjoy!
Ingredients
Peach Simple Syrup
• 4 peaches
• 1 cup of sugar
• ½ cup fresh mint, lightly packed
• 1 cup of water
Cocktail Ingredients
• 2 oz lemon juice
• 3 oz bourbon
• 4 oz Peach Simple Syrup
Instructions
Peach Simple Syrup
1. Cut the peaches into eighths and discard the pit. Place the
sliced peaches into a medium saucepan and add 1 cup of water.
2. Once you have allowed the water to simmer and cook for
7 minutes and the peaches have started to break down, add the
sugar and allow the sugar to break down and dissolve, then
remove from heat.
3. Let the syrup sit for 30 minutes at room temperature.
4. Strain the syrup through a fine mesh strainer and store in an
airtight container in the refrigerator.
Assembling the cocktail
1. In a cocktail shaker, combine the lemon juice, bourbon and
peach simple syrup with ice, shake well then strain into a glass
with a single cube of ice, garnish with peach slices and mint.
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Fostering Sweet Dreams
Helping Families In And Around Edmond
By Sherri Hultner
With the State seeing the highest
rate of children entering into the foster
care system, sometimes an immediate
placement with extended family cannot
occur because of the inability of the
caretaker to be able to summon the
resources necessary to purchase specific
items, sometimes with only 36 hours
notice.
According to local non profit Fostering
Sweet Dreams director Kristy Payne,
sometimes caretaker’s who are related
to the children in need of immediate
placement are required to immediately
have items in place such as car seats,
highchairs, beds & bedding and more
directly in place before State approval of
kinship placement.
As a foster mom herself, Kristy
Payne understands that all families, who
otherwise qualify for immediate kinship
child placement, and other non-traditional
foster-care placements, do not always
have the immediate resources in place
to purchase these items instantly, and so
Fostering Sweet Dreams was born out of
this need.
Here is my conversation with Kristy
Payne, who was on her way to surprise
and help the pictured single mom residing
in Downtown Edmond with beds for her
and her children.
If you’d like more information about
donations that go direct to families, or
research other ways you can provide
assistance, please visit online at Facebook
or Instagram at @Fosteringsweetdreams,
or visit the website at www.
Fosteringsweetdreams.com
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EA: When did you create Fostering
Sweet Dreams?
Kristy Payne: We started in March
2016.
EA: What caused you to start the
foundation up?
Kristy Payne: We had started fostering
about 13 years ago after we had already
had a biological son and daughter, and to
which that process took about six months.
After we adopted our son, we adopted our
daughter who is now nine, my husband
felt we were done, with two daughters and
two sons, and could not adopt or foster
any more kids. Nevertheless, once it is in
your heart, you cannot just walk away, and
I feel this is my passion and my calling.
I had helped other non-profits out and
saw how other non-profits operated, and
have helped Citizen’s for Children, Foster
Wishes, Casa and other organizations. For
me, this niche in Foster care help only
made sense, as kinship placement could
occur within 24 hours, and these families
couldn’t just go out and acquire a bed and
bedroom set, car seat or other items which
to some is super easy to acquire, but it is
not so easy for so many out there to just go
out and spend $500 to $600, and where I
had the luxury of shopping by any means
possible including amazing garage sales
and more over a six month period.
EA: What are the qualifications that
DHS requires for immediate kinship
placement?
Kristy Payne: Kinship placement can be
approved in as little as 24 hours, by doing
a quick background check, but you have
to have the bed, the dresser, the car seat
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in place for the child to be placed in your
home. There is currently no State help
with these expenditures, and if the home
is a good home but making it paycheck
to paycheck, this is a huge gap, and the
reimbursement for these items takes
as long as six to twelve months until
they have completed the program to be
reimbursed for these tangible items.
EA: Do you serve only kinship
placements?
Kristy Payne: We started with kinship
placements, but after four years, we are
now working with child reunification
placements, where children are being
reintroduced into the family and are
visiting for weekend visits, but the parents
must have the bed in place, and removal
prevention to help parents who are seeking
help to not have their children removed. It
is really rewarding because these parents
are working really hard to keep their kids
in place or to get their kids back.
EA: Does Fostering Sweet Dreams
offer families more than just beds?
Kristy Payne: We do! Our primary item
to offer families is the bed, dressers when
we get them in, car seats, bouncy seats,
high chairs, things like this.
EA: What happens if the donated items
aren’t provided to families?
Kristy Payne: This happens sometimes,
so there is another Edmond non-profit
named All Things Baby that we donate
excess items we may have in stock.
EA: Are donors able to deduct any
giving to Fostering Sweet Dreams?
Kristy Payne: Absolutely! We are a
501(c)(3) and provide receipts with our
EIN number necessary to claim as a tax
deduction with the IRS.
EA: Are you located on Edmond Rd?
Kristy Payne: Yes! We are located for
drop off donations just west of Broadway
in Downtown Edmond at 529 West
Edmond Rd (2nd Street) and we are
hoping to move to a larger location soon!
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playing lead riffs. Basically, I tried to be a one-man band.”
Music great Lyle Lovett is featured in the film and is certainly
impressed with Bill’s musical skill.
According to Lovett, Bill and his late wife Bonnie Hearne
"used to play a place called Corky’s in the Montrose area of
Houston. I would get a seat right up next to the stage and sit in
front of Bill and try to figure out all his guitar licks.”
New Mexico Rain
The Blue Door at 2805 N. McKinley Avenue is the site of the
Oklahoma City premiere of the award-winning short documentary
New Mexico Rain: The Story of Bill and Bonnie Hearne. The
film is the work of OKC-raised director and producer, Bunee
Tomlinson.
New Mexico Rain is a story of the love, tenacity, and talent
of Bill and Bonnie Hearne. Bill was legally blind from birth
and Bonnie was totally blind, yet they were able to parlay their
musical talent into a successful musical career and their love and
tenacity into a marriage that stood the test of time. Their unique
style of music made them essential acts in the venues around
Austin and northern New Mexico. Lyle Lovett, Robert Earl Keen,
Michael Martin Murphey, and others, give glimpses of Bill and
Bonnie’s influence on them personally and on this style of music
even today.
Bunee was born in Romania and lived in an orphanage until
he was adopted by an Oklahoma City couple at six years of age.
He has been producing film and video content in Oklahoma and
beyond for over 10 years. His current film, New Mexico Rain,
has shown in multiple film festivals and won the Judges Choice
Award at Doc Sunback Film Festival and Best Documentary and
Best Music Score at Sunny Side Up Film Festival.
“It’s great to be back in Oklahoma City and I’m excited for
New Mexico Rain’s premiere in my hometown,” says Tomlinson.
“We hope to see many in the community out for the screening and
for what’s sure to be a fantastic concert by the great Bill Hearne.”
Bill's greatness lies in his interpretive skills. His husky Texas
baritone finds its way into a song’s interior with the mellowness
of fine bourbon and the warmth of a Sunday picnic. And of
course, there’s his pickin’, a style he calls ‘cross picking.’ He
picked up the guitar when he was seven years old.
According to Hearne, “Since I didn’t have people to play with,
I developed a style that incorporated a percussion rhythm while
Citizens Bank of Edmond Named
2019 Beacon Award Finalist
Citizens Bank of Edmond was incredibly honored to be named
one of the Journal Record’s 2019 Beacon Award honorees in the
category of “Charitable Influence”.
On July 11, 2019, The Journal Record’s Beacon Awards
recognized 23 businesses and organizations for their contributions
to their community in three categories, including “Charitable
Influence”, “Philanthropic Impact”, and “Nonprofits Serving
Nonprofits”.
The organizations recognized in the “Charitable Influence”
category demonstrate a company culture that encourages
and supports volunteerism, charitable giving and community
involvement by its members, as described by the Journal Record.
Founded in 1901, Citizens Bank of Edmond has been an integral
part of the Edmond community since before statehood. Over the
last six years the bank has increased its community involvement
by implementing several major initiatives to increase economic
development in downtown Edmond, including its seasonal Heard
on Hurd street festival and its regular “Cash Mob” events at local
businesses.
“We were so thrilled to even be considered as one of the
finalists for this prestigious community leadership award,” said
Citizens Bank of Edmond’s President & CEO, Jill Castilla. “Just
to be listed among the likes of the other honorees in our category
is incredibly special and we are so grateful.”
Citizens wants to say a huge congratulations to all the overall
winners of the categories, but most specifically to Cancer
Treatment Centers of America, who was the overall 2019 winner
for “Charitable Influence”.
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Jill Castilla To Represent
Oklahoma As A New Civilian Aide
To The Secretary Of The Army
The U.S. Army appointed an Edmond resident as a new
Civilian Aide to the Secretary of the Army during an investiture
ceremony Aug. 16 at the Pentagon.
The Honorable Ryan D. McCarthy, Acting Secretary of the
Army, selected Jill A. Castilla to represent Oklahoma (North).
“Jill, you are joining a very elite group of CASAs. Your services
are needed now more than ever as the number of Americans
serving in the military continues to decrease,” McCarthy said.
“CASAs are having a significant impact in their communities.
Last year, we were unable to reach our recruiting marks across
the United States, but with the help of the CASAs and their
community connections, they are growing. I am confident we
will make our recruiting targets in these priority cities.”
“My early experience as an enlisted member of the Army
and Oklahoma Army National Guard provided the structure
and opportunities that led to my later personal and professional
achievements,” Castilla said. “I’m honored to share the unique
benefits of Army service and engage with the patriotic spirit of
Oklahomans.
“As a CASA, I look forward to connecting the community with
my experience as an enlisted soldier, an Army spouse, a military
mom and a community leader, while amplifying the support and
message of Secretary McCarthy.”
Castilla leads Citizens Bank of Edmond, Edmond, Oklahoma,
as president and chief executive officer and as chairwoman of
its bank holding company. Castilla joined Citizens in 2009,
transforming the struggling small institution into the most
innovative community bank in the nation. She is a described as
a visionary, inventor, financial industry social media influencer,
and is a frequent keynote speaker on leadership, banking and
technology. She also serves as dean, Southwest Graduate School
of Banking, Southern Methodist University, and as a presidential
advisor, University of Central Oklahoma.
Prior to her career in community banking, Castilla served in
management roles, Federal Reserve Bank of Kansas City, and
was an Oklahoma National Guard enlisted member. She and
her husband of 25 years, Lt. Col. Marcus Castilla, serve as copresidents,
West Point Parents Club of Central Oklahoma. She
holds a master’s degree in economics, University of Oklahoma,
a bachelor’s degree in finance, Hawaii Pacific University. She is
a graduate of both the University of Wisconsin Graduate School
of Banking and the Wharton School, University of Pennsylvania
Executive Leadership Program.
CASAs are a vital part of the Army, promoting good relations
between the Army and the public and advising the Secretary
about regional issues.
Each state, the District of Columbia and the five U.S. territories
have one or more CASAs appointed to provide a vital link
between the Army and the communities for which they serve.
CASAs are usually business or civic leaders who possess a keen
interest in the welfare of the Army and their communities.
CASAs serve a two-year term without compensation. Terms
may be extended to a total of 10 years of service. The secretary
may recognize a civilian aide as a CASA Emeritus after 10 years
of service with distinguished service.
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3rd Annual Heard On Hurd Film
Festival
The 3rd annual Heard on Hurd film festival was hosted in the
Citizens Bank of Edmond lobby, and featured seven different
short independent films from local filmmakers. During the film
festival, each director had the chance to introduce their film and
answer questions from the audience. The 3rd annual film fest
was organized in partnership with deadCenter Film and included
popcorn from Oklahoma Gourmet Popcorn and specially
designed cookies from Eileen’s Cookies.
“deadCenter Film is excited to partner with Heard on Hurd to
showcase the voices of seven talented Oklahoma filmmakers.”
Said the deadCenter Film Festival Director of Programming,
Sara Thompson. “As past deadCenter films, these titles get our
stamp of approval and we are thrilled to share these stories with a
larger audience. One of deadCenter’s biggest loves is to promote
Oklahoma film and we couldn’t be happier that Heard on Hurd
wants to share this experience”.
The 3rd annual film festival lineup included:
• The Third - director Kyle Bell
• Swinging on a Star - director Charlotte Suttee
• Means of Transportation – director Jacob Keen
• Impaired – director LaRonn Marzett
• Ain’t Nobody – director The Nghiems
• Bunee: The Boy from Constanta -director Bunee Tomlinson
• The Grave – director Kyle Roberts
Heard on Hurd will return to the corner of Broadway and Hurd
in downtown Edmond twice more this season on September 21st
and October 19th with an exciting and fresh lineup of music and
vendors.
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January 2019
Carrie the Musical
Thu, January 10 – Sun, January
13
Upstage Theatre Blackbox
Edmond
Kicker Arenacross
Fri, January 11 – Sat, January
12
Lazy E Arena
Family Fun Weekend Blitz
Sat, January 12
Mercy Fitness Edmond I-35
Parent’s Night Out - Vision
Board Party for Kids
Sat, January 12
Heart Studios
Mac Barnett Book Signing at
Best of Books on Jan. 15
Tue, January 15
Best of Books
Simon Bucking Stock Sale
Tue, January 15 – Wed, January
16
Lazy E Arena
Nitty Gritty! Opening Reception
Thu, January 17
University of Central Oklahoma
Grown Ups Paint Night
Fri, January 18
Unpluggits Paint & Play
YA Author Kiersten White
Coming to Best of Books
Fri, January 18
Best of Books
Vigils
Fri, January 18 – Sun, January
20
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Broncho Pep Band Days
Sat, January 19
UCO - Athletic Fields
UCO Broadway Tonight:
Voctave
Sat, January 19
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
January Double Page Layout
Class
Thu, January 24 – Fri, January
25
Paper Arts
Jewelry Design Class for Kids
Fri, January 25
Heart Studios
Valentine Gnome & Sign Class
Fri, January 25
Paper Arts
Transcendence: Contemporary
Op Art by Jason Wilson
Mon, January 28 – Fri, March 1
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Swan Lake
Tue, January 29
Armstrong Auditorium
Constance Squires Signing on
Jan. 31
Thu, January 31
Best of Books
February 2019
April Henry Book Signing on
Feb. 1
Fri, February 1
Best of Books
Oklahoma Secondary School
Activities Association Swim
Regionals
Fri, February 1 – Sat, February
2
Mitch Park YMCA/Edmond
1920’s Tea at the Rodkey House
Sat, February 2
Rodkey House Event and
Education Annex
Bad Kitty Author Nick Bruel at
Best of Books on Feb. 2
Sat, February 2
Best of Books
Brushes & Bon Bons
Sat, February 2
Heart Studios
History Speaks with Andrew
Young
Mon, February 4
Oklahoma Christian University
Hair
Wed, February 6 – Sun,
February 10
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Symbiotic: Opening Reception
Thu, February 7
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
The Great Board Game Swap
of 2019
Thu, February 7
Denny’s
1920’s Tea at the Rodkey House
Sat, February 9
Rodkey House Event and
Education Annex
Gifts for Mom: Jewelry Design
Class (Valentine’s Day Edition)
Sat, February 9
Heart Studios
Pawfectly in Love Celebration
Sat, February 9
Best of Books
Ties & Tiaras Daddy Daughter
Dance
Sat, February 9
Hilton Garden Inn & Edmond
Conference Center
Lazy E Red Dirt Classic - World
Series of Team Roping
Sat, February 9 – Sun, February
10
Lazy E Arena
Cabaret-A Taste of Broadway
Tue, February 12 – Sat,
February 16
Oklahoma Christian University
- Judd Theater
Lance Graves International
Championship Barrel Race
Wed, February 13 – Sun,
February 17
Lazy E Arena
Julian Bliss Septet
Thu, February 14
Armstrong Auditorium
Oklahoma State Swimming
Championships
Fri, February 15 – Sat, February
16
Mitch Park YMCA/Edmond
UCO Broadway Tonight: Ailey
II
Sat, February 16
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Complex Dialogues with Bryan
Stevenson
Mon, February 18
Oklahoma Christian University
- Hardeman Auditorium
BALTO 5K
Wed, February 20
Mitch Park
Watercolor Workshop for Kids
Fri, February 22
Heart Studios
Shanghai Opera Symphony
Orchestra
Sun, February 24
Armstrong Auditorium
Chamber Orchestra Concert
Mon, February 25
UCO - Radke Fine Arts Theatre
Mark Greaney Book Signing on
Feb. 26
Tue, February 26
Best of Books
UCO Symphonic Band Concert
Thu, February 28
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
March 2019
Spring Sing 2019
Fri, March 1 – Sat, March 2
Oklahoma Christian University
- Hardeman Auditorium
UCO Symphony Orchestra
Mon, March 4
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
UCO Wind Symphony:
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Fantastic Circuitry, and Sounds
Thu, March 7
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
2019 Cinch Timed Event and Jr.
Ironman Championship
Fri, March 8 – Sun, March 10
Lazy E Arena
Kim Ventrella, Brad McLelland,
& Melanie Sumrow Book
Signing
Sat, March 9
Best of Books
Andy Griffiths Coming to Best
of Books on March 10
Sun, March 10
Best of Books
Celtic Nights
Mon, March 11
Armstrong Auditorium
Art in Public Places Tour
Thu, March 14
MAC in Mitch Park
USTRC Oklahoma Winter
Championships Team Roping
Fri, March 15 – Sun, March 17
Lazy E Arena
Lazy E Mounted Shooting
Classic
Fri, March 22 – Sun, March 24
Lazy E Arena
Jason C. Wagner Foundation
Golf Tournament
Fri, March 29
Oak Tree National
Kaleidoscope Dance Company
Spring Concert
Fri, March 29 – Sun, March 31
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Oklahoma/Kanas Border Bash
Rodeo
Fri, March 29 – Sun, March 31
Lazy E Arena
Art in Public Places Tour
Sat, March 30
MAC in Mitch Park
April 2019
Canadian Brass
Tue, April 2
Armstrong Auditorium
Book Signing & Live Music
with Robert Hunter
Thu, April 4
Best of Books
Trojan Woman
Thu, April 4 – Sat, April 6
UCO - Radke Fine Arts Theatre
Art in Public Places Tour
Tue, April 9
MAC in Mitch Park
Barrel Bash
Fri, April 12 – Sun, April 14
Lazy E Arena
UCO Opera: Cosi Fan Tutte
Fri, April 12 – Sun, April 14
UCO - Mitchell Hall Theater
Farmer’s Market Opening Day
Sat, April 13
Festival Market Place & Plaza
Central Theatre Short Play
Festival
Fri, April 19 – Sat, April 20
UCO - Radke Fine Arts Theatre
USTPA Spring Round Up
Fri, April 19 – Sun, April 21
Lazy E Arena
Miss Latina UCO Scholarship
Pageant
Sat, April 20
University of Central Oklahoma
Art in Public Places Tour
Thu, April 25
MAC in Mitch Park
May 2019TOP
Lazy E Red Dirt Reining
Thu, May 2 – Sun, May 5
Lazy E Arena
Greater Oklahoma Hunter
Jumper Association
Thu, May 9 – Sun, May 12
Lazy E Arena
RED Day 5K Run
Sat, May 11
Downtown Edmond
Chris Neal’s Future Stars Calf
Roping
Fri, May 24 – Mon, May 27
Lazy E Arena
June 2019
Oklahoma Route 66 Corvette
Round Up
Sat, June 1
Hafer Park
CMSA Mid Central Regional
Sat, June 1 – Sun, June 2
Lazy E Arena
CMSA Central U.S.
Championship
Wed, June 5 – Sat, June 8
Lazy E Arena
20th Annual UCO Endeavor
Games
Thu, June 6 – Sun, June 9
University of Central Oklahoma
Zoetis AQHA Versatility Ranch
Horse World Show
Tue, June 18 – Sun, June 23
Lazy E Arena
LibertyFest 2019
Sat, June 22 – Thu, July 4
USTRC Oklahoma
Championship
Thu, June 27 – Sun, June 30
Lazy E Arena
July 2019
National Little Britches Rodeo
Association Finals
Tue, July 2 – Sun, July 7
Lazy E Arena
Bonus Barrel Race Regionals
Fri, July 26 – Sun, July 28
Lazy E Arena
August 2019TOP
Lazy E Red Dirt Classic - World
Series of Team Roping
Sat, August 3 – Sun, August 4
Lazy E Arena
OCA 35th Annual Ranch Rodeo
Fri, August 23 – Sat, August 24
Lazy E Arena
Jared Lesh Truck and Trailer
Sorting
Fri, August 30 – Sun,
September 1
Lazy E Arena
September 2019TOP
All Star Team Roping Finals
Fri, September 6 – Mon,
September 9
Lazy E Arena
Conquer Youth Obstacle Course
Sat, September 7
Mitch Park
Greater Oklahoma Hunter
Jumper Association
Thu, September 19 – Fri,
September 20
Lazy E Arena
Oklahoma Department of
Wildlife Conservation Expo
Sat, September 28 – Sun,
September 29
Lazy E Arena
October 2019
Western Dressage Association
World Finals
Wed, October 2 – Sun, October
6
Lazy E Arena
Hearts Open Team Roping
Fri, October 25
Lazy E Arena
USTRC Guthrie Shoot-Out
Team Roping
Sat, October 26 – Fri,
November 1
Lazy E Arena
November 2019TOP
BFA World Championships
Fri, November 15 – Sat,
November 23
Lazy E Arena
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with a fantastic selection of new high end to affordable pieces for
your entire home, very unique home accessories, including a full
line of Company C and Norwalk Furniture, Thibaut fine fabrics,
wallpaper and custom furniture. and more!
Emory Anne’s also offers fabric by the yard and design services
in store. Be sure to stop by to visit this store first
when redecorating on any budget.
You can find Emory Anne Interiors at 150th & Santa Fe
Open M-F 10 am to 6 pm and Sat. 10-5 pm.
Be sure to follow at Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, and Pinterest
for sales & inspiration and online at www.Emoryanneinteriors.com!
If you have any questions, you can call the store at 405-753-4466.
Tis the Season to save on something new
with Edmond Wine Shop’s Employee Picks!
Cases are discounted, too!
Be sure to follow Edmond Wine Shop
on social networks at Twitter, Instagram &
Facebook @EdmondWineShop!
Located on 15th & Boulevard
Hours: Mon– Sat. from 10 am until 9 pm!
You can also call in any order at 405-341-3122 for a later pick
up, visit Edmond Wine Shop online at EdmondWine.com.
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Enjoy the arrival of Fall in the country at
any one of the 5 cozy cottages at Arcadian
Getaways, formerly Aaron’s Gate, in Guthrie!
Located just a few minutes north of Edmond,
on a beautiful wooded 10 acre property, you
can relax with the outdoor jacuzzi’s or just
relax indoors in front of the fireplace and wake
up to a beautiful candlelit breakfast of pumpkin
pancakes and Martha’s World Famous Vanilla Butter Sauce.
Be sure to check out the 4 and 7 day packages online at www.
Aaronsgate.com to discover the cottages & to reserve your getaway,
or call 405-282-0613.
2 Doors Down Furniture Consignment is now
accepting select gently used brand name quality
furniture and accessories.
If you’re looking to make a change in your home,
this store is the place to check first as their stock is
unique, trendy, and affordable, but you have to check
in often as their inventory changes daily.
Be sure to stop in to 2 Doors Down, located at 15020 Bristol
Park Blvd Ste 400, off 33rd Street, between Kelly & Santa Fe, and
take a look around, great owners and great pieces!
You can also find them at Facebook & Instagram at
2DoorsDownEdmond or by calling them at 405-254-5175 if you
see something you’d like to place on hold!
Store hours are M-F 10-6 and Sat. 10-5
Paper Arts is a scrapbook and art boutique
that provides top of the line supplies for
scrapbooking, card making and other fun
projects, classes and one-on-one instruction,
as well as, ready to buy gifts. We love
scrapbooking, card making and all things
paper crafting. We also love to share our
creations and the products that we find with our customers. There
is nothing more satisfying to us than to hear the joy in a customer’s
voice as they learn a new technique or find the perfect product for
their projects.
Paper Arts 632 W. Edmond Rd. Edmond, OK 73003
(405) 330-2055
Store hours are T-F 10-6 Sat. 10-4
Oops I Arted offers art classes to those of all ages.
We create masterpieces in clay, acrylics, watercolor, mixed
media and other child friendly mediums. We also offer classes in
cardboard weaving, cardboard sculpture and a multitude of other
creative and fun endeavors. oops i arted is centrally located iat
15200 Traditions Blvd. in the Traditions Business Centre, which is
easily accessible to Edmond , OKC and surrounding areas.
You can visit online at OopsIArted.com for more information or to
schedule a class call or text Risa at 405-476-9211.
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LifeHappens
Trauma And The
Responsibility Of
Change
Chad McCoy, M.A., LPC
Traumatic events are horrible.
Often they are the extreme closing of
the gap between the malevolence of
what I know can happen within the
world and what has happened to me
within my life. For instance: Many
of us won’t maybe say this aloud,
but your loved ones are one car ride
away from never seeing you again;
and you living the rest of your life
without them. If that doesn’t stop
you for a moment, I’m not sure what
could. That would be trauma.
Trauma, especially some of the
more heinous events (e.g. sexual
abuse, traumatic medical injury,
etc.) often happen and turn our lives
upside down. How you lived before
is a dreamlike aspiration dreamt up
by Pixar, in some circumstances,
and a new goal you never thought
you’d have. Your life becomes much
more difficult mentally, physically,
and often times financially. When
horrible events happen, they are not
linear in nature. It’s not as though
when you experience a trauma
everything else in your life continues
on and you’re ONLY changed
physically, or mentally, or financially.
Often times, these traumas ripple and
are exponential in their effect. That
singular event, ripples through your
life making all levels of your being a
struggle. You disengage from family,
friends, and other social connections.
You lack the motivation to engage in
what was a simple task like brushing
your teeth, or even getting out of bed.
Making it through another day, is the
best you can muster.
It’s the best you can muster, and
it’s all you need; for today. Accept
your lack of responsibility for what
happened to you, and accept that
your life, MY life, OUR lives, are
anything but fair. Anything horrible
that can happen in this world, to
anyone, at any time, can happen to
you. This, as best I can tell, is a great
place to start the healing.
Accepting the responsibility for
this unfair hand you’ve been dealt,
and the challenge of overcoming
it is an arduous task, indeed. This,
I’m sure might be a controversial
statement for some who are
struggling with experienced traumas.
“Accept responsibility for THIS?!?!
I didn’t want this!” Of course you
didn’t; however, the past is to never
change, the future is still to be
written, and all you have is right
here, right now. I can find no better
place to start. A trauma narrative is
a great way to reprocess the events
you unfortunately have in your past,
but most recent literature suggests at
least 18-months before reprocessing,
otherwise this may exacerbate the
effects of the trauma and additionally
traumatize the individual. There
is no changing or taking away of
what happened. There is; however,
a different way of looking at it, and
harnessing that perspective to create
a more productive life for yourself,
your family, and the people lucky
enough to know you in the future.
One way I encourage people to
think about trauma is to ask them
how their life could have, or would
have, been different if that event had
never taken place. This is a way of
me being able to have them express
the goals they have for themselves.
We process why that was important
for them, to build motivation, and
problem solve with them how they
can still have those things. This
also achieves another smaller goal:
Integral steps we can take, here and
now, to get to where we want to
go. With trauma, we often have to
shorten our reference with regard
to time. Like I said earlier, after a
severe trauma, just getting through
the day is enough. That is the best
you can give; but it can’t be all that
you ever give, for the rest of your
life. You have to be willing to engage
in smaller steps to set your life back
in order. Each day progress, no
matter how small the step, or task.
After enough time, those small steps
will climb that mountain of trauma.
With each step forward, we can grow
and expand our reference in time to
something a couple days out, then a
week, a month, and so forth. This all
starts with you. Today. Doing the best
you can. It’s going to take some time,
and be the most excruciating thing
you’ll probably ever experience, but
I guarantee you it is worth it.
If you or somebody you know
are struggling with trauma, or other
debilitating mental health issues,
please do not hesitate to reach out
to us at Edmond Family Counseling
at 405-341-3554 or go to www.
EdmondFamily.org.
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