Style Magazine: February 2020
Fortunately, there’s no passport required to reap the relaxing, romance-inducing benefits of a solid soak. Our backyard is brimming with thermal baths—and they’re the primo place to bring your beloved. Flip to this month’s Travel article on page 75 for five local places to make a splash. From an off-the-beaten-path pool that’s sans signage, and easier-to-get-to offerings that sit amid ritzy resorts, there’s bound to be one that’ll float your boat and get your heart a-fluttering. If, post-soak, your relationship is still in need of some rejuvenation, turn to our cover story, “Head Over Heels,” on page 42. It’s dedicated to dates, particularly local outings that’ll push you to step outside of your couple comfort zone and do something different. Whether it’s a first date or your five-hundreth, and whether you’re into wine or working out, there’s an activity for all. Remember, when it comes to courtship, creativity counts. Local therapists also share some words of wisdom for duos who’ve been together for decades and singles breaking back into the scene. Now that I’m a working mom, making time for my marriage (let alone myself) is a struggle some days, but this article is a good reminder of just how important date night really is. When it comes to literal hearts, we have you covered, too. In Health & Wellness (page 67), med pros spill their top tips for keeping your ticker ticking, which is essential considering heart disease is the number one cause of death for both men and women in the U.S. Not surprising, exercise is essential; in fact, the National Institutes of Health recommends at least two and a half hours of moderate activity each week (or 30 minutes, five days a week). Check out Take a Hike (page 22) for a scenic way to sneak in one of those workouts, then reward yourself with a swoon-worthy spa treatment (see page 20 for 10 we love), cold craft brew (“Beer My Valentine,” page 90), or carefully crafted confection (“For the Love of Chocolate,” page 87). As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the magazine. If there’s a particular piece of editorial you adore and find yourself flipping to every month, or another department you despise, tell me! In the meantime, grab a loved one, set a date, and make it a month—and a Valentine’s Day—to remember. Cheers!
Fortunately, there’s no passport required to reap the relaxing, romance-inducing benefits of a solid soak. Our backyard is brimming with thermal baths—and they’re the primo place to bring your beloved. Flip to this month’s Travel article on page 75 for five local places to make a splash. From an off-the-beaten-path pool that’s sans signage, and easier-to-get-to offerings that sit amid ritzy resorts, there’s bound to be one that’ll float your boat and get your heart a-fluttering.
If, post-soak, your relationship is still in need of some rejuvenation, turn to our cover story, “Head Over Heels,” on page 42. It’s dedicated to dates, particularly local outings that’ll push you to step outside of your couple comfort zone and do something different. Whether it’s a first date or your five-hundreth, and whether you’re into wine or working out, there’s an activity for all. Remember, when it comes to courtship, creativity counts. Local therapists also share some words of wisdom for duos who’ve been together for decades and singles breaking back into the scene. Now that I’m a working mom, making time for my marriage (let alone myself) is a struggle some days, but this article is a good reminder of just how important date night really is.
When it comes to literal hearts, we have you covered, too. In Health & Wellness (page 67), med pros spill their top tips for keeping your ticker ticking, which is essential considering heart disease is the number one cause of death for both men and women in the U.S. Not surprising, exercise is essential; in fact, the National Institutes of Health recommends at least two and a half hours of moderate activity each week (or 30 minutes, five days a week). Check out Take a Hike (page 22) for a scenic way to sneak in one of those workouts, then reward yourself with a swoon-worthy spa treatment (see page 20 for 10 we love), cold craft brew (“Beer My Valentine,” page 90), or carefully crafted confection (“For the Love of Chocolate,” page 87).
As always, I’d love to hear your thoughts on the magazine. If there’s a particular piece of editorial you adore and find yourself flipping to every month, or another department you despise, tell me! In the meantime, grab a loved one, set a date, and make it a month—and a Valentine’s Day—to remember. Cheers!
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with someone—to face some challenges and see how you really<br />
interact with each other.”—Nancy Ryan, MA, LMFT<br />
“When in a new relationship, take time to get to know the<br />
person. Don’t rush into moving in together or making a long-term<br />
commitment too soon. Rushing into a relationship is the biggest<br />
mistake people make. It takes time to see how people respond<br />
to disagreements or stressors in life. Initially, everyone is wearing<br />
their peacock suit to impress, but you may be surprised when<br />
that person isn’t who you originally thought they were. Never<br />
choose someone based on their potential thinking that you will<br />
change them. You won’t. What you see is what you get.”—Therese<br />
Sorrentino, LMFT<br />
IF YOU’RE IN A LONG-TERM PARTNERSHIP:<br />
“Remember that neither one of you is the same person that you<br />
were when you first started dating. Make sure you stay curious<br />
about each other and constantly update your information about<br />
your partner’s inner world: their hopes, dreams, fears, and life<br />
outside of your relationship.”—Yasmine Binghalib, LMFT<br />
“Keeping the spark alive can be challenging in the various<br />
seasons of life. We have a tendency to fill our schedules with<br />
things that feel important to us in the moment, but we don’t<br />
always prioritize our relationships. The first indication is feeling<br />
distant or disconnected in our relationships. Be intentional with<br />
your time—date nights are wonderful, but not always realistic, so<br />
[remember to take] time to connect at some point throughout<br />
the day without distractions.”—Ashlee Janzen, MS, LMFT<br />
“Many people tend to live parallel lives instead of connected lives<br />
and have surface conversations about the logistics in life—work,<br />
kids, and chores—rather than deeper, more interesting topics.<br />
Building the level of closeness, friendship, and intimacy takes<br />
continued effort. A great resource is the Gottman Card Decks<br />
app, which has a whole list of questions you can ask your partner<br />
on a date to talk about something new. If there have been<br />
problems in the relationship that have become stuck, it often<br />
requires help from a therapist with advanced training in couples<br />
to learn how to have successful conflict resolution.” —Nancy<br />
Ryan, MA, LMFT<br />
“Couples who have been together for a long time can drift<br />
apart, and they may have taken the relationship for granted.<br />
You have to keep dating your partner and keep doing romantic,<br />
thoughtful things to keep the fire burning. Couples often make<br />
the mistake of putting too much focus on the children and ignore<br />
the relationship, but the couple should be the core of the family.<br />
The kids will survive with a little less time and won’t suffer if you<br />
have date nights. The best gift you can give your children is to be<br />
happy with yourself and in your relationship. They will learn from<br />
seeing you take care of yourself and make time for each other.”—<br />
Therese Sorrentino, LMFT<br />
The Experts<br />
sYasmine Binghalib, LMFT, 6692 Merchandise Way Drive,<br />
Diamond Springs, 530-303-2348, eldoradocountytherapy.com<br />
Nancy Ryan, MA, LMFT, 300 Harding Boulevard, Suite 211,<br />
Roseville; 10235 Fair Oaks Boulevard, Suite 203, Fair Oaks, 916-<br />
426-2757, therelationshiptherapycenter.com<br />
Therese Sorrentino, LMFT, 1568 Creekside Drive, Suite 206,<br />
Folsom, 916-396-4688, theresesorrentinomft.com<br />
Ashlee Janzen, MS, LMFT, 1430 Blue Oaks Boulevard, Suite 120,<br />
Roseville, 916- 705-5147, ashleejanzenlmft.com<br />
Fat's Asia Bistro<br />
Modern Asian cuisine from the award-winning Fat family in<br />
a stunning dining room is the way to go for satisfying dim<br />
sum cravings and generous noodle plates fresh from the<br />
wok, plus a daily happy hour. 1500 Eureka Road, Roseville,<br />
916-787-3287; 2585 Iron Point Road, Folsom, 916-983-1133,<br />
fatsasiabistro.com<br />
Tahoe Tastings<br />
The only thing better than having a boat is having a friend<br />
with a boat. Meet your new best friend: Tahoe Tastings, and<br />
the “Golden Rose,” a one-of-a-kind 1953 Chris Craft Venetian<br />
water taxi. You’ll glide across stunning Lake Tahoe during<br />
your two-hour cruise while tasting eight different wines<br />
from Northern California wineries and snacking from a<br />
charcuterie platter curated by South Lake Tahoe’s The Cork<br />
& More. 2435 Venice Drive, South Lake Tahoe, 530-494-9222,<br />
tahoetastings.com<br />
Fat's Asia Bistro photo by Ray Burgess. Tahoe Tastings photo by Lauren Lindley Photography.<br />
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