Issue 15 -The Messenger - 28th June 2020



St James

June 28 th 2020


Issue 15

Stop Complaining

Lamenting well






Unfortunately for some people

complaining or whingeing and

whining is a way of life and when I

think about this I’m reminded of

that old TV sitcom ‘One foot in the

Grave’, with the short-tempered

Victor Meldrew and his endless

saga of negativity and complaints.

Whether you believe it or not (pardon the pun) unfortunately

complaining isn’t just a laughing matter as it was in the sitcom, but

something that can lead to much more than having a laugh on TV.

It’s about a state of mind and general outlook on life and quite often

it needs someone to snap us out of that thinking.

In Philippians 4 Paul says this: - “Rejoice in the Lord always; again I

will say, rejoice. Let your reasonableness be known to everyone.

The Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in

everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving, let your

requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which

surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds

in Christ Jesus. Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is

honourable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely,

whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is

anything worthy of praise, think about these things.”



Maybe you could discuss these questions with a family member,

friend, or member of your lyfe Group. Use a communication method

that works best for your situation.

Start talking. Find a conversation starter for your group. Have you

felt like complaining about anything recently? If so, what?

What’s something you’re grateful for right now?

Start thinking. How do you think complaining or negative thinking

affects you?

Have you ever personally experienced any benefits of gratitude?

What kind of difference did gratitude make in your life?

Read Philippians 4:4-7. How would your life be different if your heart

and mind were always guarded by God’s peace?

Start sharing.

Choose a question to create openness. How can you start practicing

gratitude this week? What are some ways you can share your

gratefulness with others?

Start Looking praying. forward to Easter



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with power.Father, thank You for all the ways in

which Update You from bless the us Church and support Planting us. TeamIn good times and hard times,

we pray that You’ll remind us of the work You’re doing in our lives.

Give us the thankful hearts we need to express the gratitude You

deserve. In Jesus’ name, amen.

Start doing. Commit to a step and live it out this week.

Consider the ways God has been at work in your life.

Then take time to thank God and worship Him for all He’s done.






You could say Lament without Complaining is another oxymoron,

because the definition of lamenting is ‘to have a passionate

expression of grief or sorrow’, but I think theres much more to it than


Lamenting is what king David did in 70% of the Psalms, expressing

deep sorrow for the travails of a nation asking for God's blessing and


Lament Looking is forward uniquely to Christian Easter and the book of Lamentations weeps

over News the about destruction our Foodbank of Jerusalem. Jesus also lamented in the final

hours Update of his from life. the But Church lamenting Planting is Team not just weeping or venting our

anger over a situation, It’s more than that, it’s a form of prayer.

Lament talks to God about pain and has a unique purpose: trust. It is

a divinely-given invitation to pour out our fears, frustrations, and

sorrows for the purpose of helping us to renew our confidence in


Often a lament begins by an address to God: “How long, O Lord?

Will you forget me forever? How long will you hide your face from

me?” (Psalm 13:1) The point is that the person in pain chooses to

talk to God about what’s happening.




Every lament features some kind of

questioning: “How long must I take

counsel in my soul and have sorrow in

my heart all the day? How long shall

my enemy be exalted over me?” (v2).

This is more than a sinful rehearsing

of our anger, biblical lament humbly

and honestly identifies the pain,

questions, and frustrations raging in

our souls.

Seeking God’s help while in pain is an act of faith: “Consider and

answer me, O Lord my God; light up my eyes, lest I sleep the sleep

of death, lest my enemy say, ‘I have prevailed over him,’ lest my foes

rejoice because I am shaken” (v3-4). Unremitting sorrow can create a

deadly silence as we give in to despair (“there’s no hope”) or denial

Looking forward to Easter

(“everything’s fine”). But lament invites us to dare to hope in God’s

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promises as we ask for his help.

Update from the Church Planting Team

Choosing to trust is the purpose for our laments. All roads lead here:

“But I have trusted in your steadfast love; my heart shall rejoice in

your salvation. I will sing to the Lord, because he has dealt bountifully

with me” (v5-6). More than the stages of grief, this prayer language

moves us to renew our commitment to trust in God as we navigate

the brokenness of life.

Lament is the prayer language for God’s people as they live in a

world marred by sin. It’s how we talk to God about our sorrows as we

renew our hope in his sovereign care.

To cry is human, but to lament is Christian.


of Lament



A reflection on last week

After Father's Day last weekend, a number of men have been

Looking forward to Easter

reflecting on what it really means to be a father / dad and I suppose

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a lot of that applies to being a grandad too.

Update from the Church Planting Team

Fatherhood's an incredible privilege, one that we should thank God

for every day, but which too easily we grow accustomed to and take

for granted and, if we're not careful, occasionally resent (for

instance, after weeks without having a good sleep!)

When we consider our Father's sacrifice for us, any sacrifices we

can make for our children are small. When you're worn out,

remember the people who can't have children or who have lost a

child, who long every day for the opportunity to be run ragged by

these precious little inconveniences.

Some passages for you to look-up: -

1 Kings 2:1-10 1 Timothy 2:2

2 Corinthians Acts 20:35

Ephesians 5 John 15

Psalm 112:1 Psalm 37:26

Parenthood is a

calling, far more

important than any


Our children and

grandchildren are an

ongoing investment, a gift

we leave to a world we

won't be part of, but which

we will impact for eternity

through the generations that

follow us. It will at times

seem long and difficult, but

when your children are

grown-up you'll look back in

wonder at how quickly the

time went by...

“Even when I am old and grey,

do not forsake me, my God, till I declare your

power to the next generation,

your mighty acts to all who are to come.”

Psalm 71:18




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Stop complaining

Phil. 4:4-7

Looking forward to Easter

News about our Foodbank

Update from the Church Planting Team

Next Week

5 th July

Mavis Rouse

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