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Mindful<br />
kids<br />
Meltdowns, temper tantrums or hissy fits … Sounds familiar? Well, what if you can<br />
avoid it in the first place by teaching your kids to be mindful?<br />
Compiled by: RIALIEN FURSTENBERG<br />
Pure Health Centre’s Dr Bianca De Canha and mom of<br />
two boys shares her 5 tips:<br />
1. Even parents make mistakes and children can learn<br />
from this<br />
In a world where the emphasis is placed on perfection<br />
and ‘getting it right’ it’s important for children to be aware<br />
of the fact that even parents make mistakes. Whether it<br />
is a recent one or a time in your life that you can reflect<br />
on where a mistake was made and a lesson learnt, this is<br />
a wonderful opportunity to teach children that we learn<br />
from these mistakes. It’s important to share these mistakes<br />
with your children, explain how you navigated the problem<br />
and ultimately how a resolution came about. Most<br />
importantly, share with them what you learned as a<br />
result and how you carry that lesson with you through<br />
your life today.<br />
2. Feelings are there to be felt and shared<br />
No one feels as intensely, as suddenly and as fully as a<br />
child. Children experience emotions fully and as they grow<br />
and learn, are then taught to control these emotions. I<br />
have, on many occasions wondered whether this learned<br />
control is a good or a bad thing. Feelings are meant to be<br />
felt. When we teach children that certain emotions are bad,<br />
‘boys don’t cry’, being angry is bad etc. we warp their perception<br />
of how one should or should not experience these<br />
emotions. It’s important to remember that they are neither<br />
good nor bad, and rather that they form part of the human<br />
experience. As a parent, I have found much value in sharing<br />
my laughter, my happiness and my sadness with my<br />
children. In so doing they have seen me laugh, cry and fly<br />
off the handle. All these emotions have been made normal<br />
and neither one nor the other makes me a good or a bad<br />
person. It’s just how I feel at that moment in time before<br />
the next emotion takes over.<br />
3. Always keep your word – even if it’s inconvenient<br />
Nothing is more important, in my family legacy than the<br />
importance of keeping your word. And no one can find<br />
a more inopportune time to call you out on it than your<br />
child. I have shared wonderful moments of connection<br />
with my son when I kept my word with him and as a result,<br />
I could clearly see him grow to trust me. His reassurance<br />
that the next time would be no different has solidified his<br />
understanding of our verbal agreements. The tricky part<br />
comes when you are held to this at an inconvenient time.<br />
This is when it counts the most! At these times when you<br />
are overworked, pressed for time, about to sit down to<br />
your first meal of the day at 7pm, exhausted or in a crowd<br />
... keep your word! Teach them the meaning of trust, show<br />
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