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You can email Vanessa via<br />
contact@bluebellcoaching.co.uk or<br />
visit her website bluebellcoaching.co.uk<br />
I cleaned up my diet,<br />
took courses in nutrition,<br />
and started to meditate<br />
and exercise more. I felt<br />
I had a shot at a more<br />
authentic life and to be<br />
genuinely happy, so I took<br />
the opportunity to start<br />
again. I learned that it is<br />
never too late.<br />
I enrolled at a business<br />
school to study for a<br />
professional certificate<br />
in executive coaching,<br />
graduated in 2014, and<br />
started my own business.<br />
Deep down I knew this<br />
was my calling, that I had<br />
to give back to society in<br />
some way, and that the<br />
trauma I had been through<br />
had prepared me for this.<br />
My work as a coach<br />
means that by helping<br />
others, I am also helping<br />
myself. Growing up in<br />
a toxic environment<br />
means you can easily<br />
take on negative thought<br />
patterns, but it takes a<br />
Deep down I knew this was<br />
my calling, that I had to<br />
give back to society<br />
true willingness to change<br />
to break that cycle. Even<br />
though I had anxiety and<br />
depression, there was a<br />
part of my soul that still<br />
wanted to grow and break<br />
free from what I perceived<br />
as a mental prison.<br />
This type of abuse can<br />
make you feel as if you<br />
are not worthy of great<br />
achievements. I try to<br />
communicate to others<br />
that they are worthy, and<br />
that success is defined by<br />
you, not others. You are<br />
not alone in this journey,<br />
even though it may feel like<br />
that at times.<br />
At almost 40, I’m running<br />
a professional coaching<br />
business (called Bluebell<br />
Coaching, as bluebells<br />
represent new beginnings)<br />
and hope to continue<br />
helping others with their<br />
challenges. You can always<br />
start again, no matter how<br />
hard life gets. I feel that if<br />
I can succeed through all<br />
this chaos then others, with<br />
the right support, can too.<br />
OUR EXPERT SAYS<br />
Vanessa’s story is one<br />
of transformation<br />
and renewal. The<br />
incongruence she felt<br />
between her inner and<br />
outer self is something<br />
many of us will recognise.<br />
Having to deal with such<br />
complex situations meant<br />
she went into survival<br />
mode, striving to break<br />
free of the world she was<br />
trapped in. When this<br />
happens, it is hard for<br />
our brain to process our<br />
experiences.<br />
As Vanessa grew in<br />
her self-knowledge,<br />
she realised she had a<br />
different life ahead. We<br />
all have this ability<br />
to change and to<br />
create a future that<br />
fits with who we<br />
really are – both<br />
inside and out.<br />
Rachel Coffey | BA MA NLP Mstr<br />
Life coach<br />
<strong>September</strong> <strong>2020</strong> • happiful.com • 39
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