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EDITOR IN CHIEF

Joan Herrmann

ASSOCIATE EDITOR

Lindsay Pearson

CREATIVE DIRECTOR

Matt Herrmann

GRAPHIC DESIGNERS

Chris Giordano

Andrea Valentie

Oliver Pane

CONTRIBUTORS

Suzanne Falter

Guy Finley

Lorie Gardner, RN, NBC-HWC

Gayle Gruenberg, CPO-CD, CVO

Rick Hanson, PhD

Joan Herrmann

Mark Hyman, MD

Linda Mitchell, CPC


FROM THE EDITOR

A tragedy is defined as “an event causing

great suffering, destruction, and distress.”

We understand the meaning of those

words, however, I believe the important

component is how we view the situation.

What may be a “tragedy” to one person, is

nothing more than a “bump in the road”

to another.

While we can agree that death, divorce,

illness, financial insecurity, a job loss,

create less than desirable circumstances,

each can be viewed and handled differently

from one person to the next. The key is

that person’s outlook.

I recently spoke with FOX LA’s morning

meteorologist, Maria Quiban Whitesell,

who is the author of the new book, You

Can’t Do It Alone: A Widow’s Journey

Through Loss, Grief, and Life After. Maria,

when faced with her husband Sean’s

terminal brain cancer diagnosis, found

herself in a position she could not have

imagined. There were many challenges

for which she was unprepared. But Maria

learned to deal with illness, death and

grief, all while caring for her son and

wearing a smile every day in front of

millions on LA’s morning show, Good Day

LA. To survive, she combined her faith

with an appreciation of her blessings.

She stressed the importance of a positive

attitude.

Listen to my conversation with Maria:

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— Joan Herrmann


MARIA QUIBAN WHITESELL

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INSIDE THIS

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WHAT NOT TO EAT

BY MARK HYMAN, MD

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FIND YOUR OWN WAY

BY RICK HANSON, PHD

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IT’S TIME TO FACE YOUR FEARS: 4 STEPS

TO STEPPING OUT OF YOUR COMFORT ZONE

BY JOAN HERRMANN

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ON THIS MONTH’S

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WHEN FACED WITH HER HUSBAND SEAN’S TERMINAL

BRAIN CANCER DIAGNOSIS, FOXLA’S MORNING

METEOROLOGIST, MARIA QUIBAN WHITESELL,

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ILLNESS, DEATH AND GRIEF, ALL WHILE CARING

FOR HER SON AND WEARING A SMILE EVERY DAY

IN FRONT OF MILLIONS ON LA’S MORNING SHOW,

GOOD DAY LA. MARIA SHARES HER JOURNEY AND

OFFERS ACTIONABLE INSIGHTS THAT CAN HELP

NAVIGATE CHANGE. MARIA, HER LATE HUSBAND,

SEAN, AND HIS BROTHER, PATRICK, ARE AMONG

THE BIG ENTERTAINMENT FAMILIES IN HOLLYWOOD.

SEAN WAS A WRITER AND PRODUCER FOR TELEVISION

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LAUREN SCHNEIDER, CO-AUTHORED THE BOOK, YOU

CAN’T DO IT ALONE: A WIDOW’S JOURNEY THROUGH

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ISSUE

NO.119

SEPTEMBER

2020

WHAT NOT

TO EAT

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the food-like substances, chemicals, food additives,

preservatives, food dyes, and artificial sweeteners that

food companies add to their food. But if you don’t have

stearoyl lactylate in your cupboard, then you probably

shouldn’t eat it in the food that you buy either.

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For so long, most people were unaware of the chemicals

added to our foods and how the hormones, plastics, and

toxins that we congest on a day to day basis are harming

our bodies. Now, many of us conscious consumers have

learned to avoid breads containing yoga mats and french

fries with Silly Putty in them. But sometimes processed

foods still find their way into our kitchens.

I’m not saying that ALL processed and packaged foods

are all bad. People have been processing food virtually

from day one. Until refrigeration, it was the only way

we had of preserving perishables to eat later. Cooking

is a form of processing, so are curing, drying, smoking,

fermenting — the list goes on and on.

Whole foods processed using traditional methods and

ingredients are not something we need to avoid. Some

processing actually improves food by making its nutrients

more available or potent. We just have to understand

which processed foods we can safely eat and which ones

we should avoid.

In this article I want to walk you through what

processed foods to avoid so that when you do find yourself

deciding on whether or not to buy that box of goodies you

can make better choices.

Avoid the following:

Anything with ingredients that are difficult to

pronounce. These products surely contain substances

that belong in a chemistry set, not in your body. Try saying

stearoyl lactylate or butylated hydroxytoluene with ease.

Not so easy. Skip those questionable ingredients.

Anything that didn’t exist in your grandmother’s day—

maybe even your great-grandmother’s day, depending on

how old you are. I know this is kind of a trendy approach

to eating right now, but it completely makes sense. One

hundred years ago we didn’t need a label to tell us that

our food was local, organic, and grass-fed; all food was

whole, real, unadulterated, traditional food. Fortunately,

there is a desire to get back to this way of eating.

Anything containing soybean oil. Americans now

get almost 10 percent of their calories from refined

soybean oil, which is one of the most abundant sources

of omega-6 fatty acids. Plus, it often contains high levels

of glyphosate, or Roundup, the toxic herbicide used by

Monsanto. It’s not that Americans are drinking soybean

oil by the cup; most people aren’t even aware they’re

eating it. But it’s lurking everywhere. If you eat fast food,

grains, desserts, packaged snacks, potato chips, muffins,

or conventionally raised meat, or buy almost anything

cooked in oil at a cafeteria, diner, or restaurant, then

you’re almost certainly consuming lots of soybean oil

and other oils rich in omega-6 fatty acids without even

knowing it. This stuff is toxic and inflammatory. Stay

away.

Anything containing high-fructose corn syrup. When

used in moderation, it is a major cause of heart disease,

obesity, cancer, dementia, liver failure, tooth decay, and

more.

Anything with the word “hydrogenated” in its name.

Since most people don’t know that hydrogenated fat and

trans fat are the same thing, food makers have been able

to hide the trans fat content in plain sight using this little

trick.

Anything advertised on TV. Have you seen a commercial

for broccoli or sardines during the Super Bowl? The

worst foods get the most airtime on television.

Anything with a cute name. Froot Loops are not a good

source of fruit.

Anything you can buy at a drive-through window. This

one is a no-brainer.

Anything with monosodium glutamate (otherwise

known as MSG), even though the FDA says it is safe.

It’s an excitotoxin—a neurotransmitter that is known

to kill brain cells. We associate it with Chinese cuisine,

but food companies use it in many items without our

knowledge. They even try to hide its presence, calling

it “hydrolyzed vegetable protein,” “vegetable protein,”

“natural flavorings,” and even simply “spices.” Spices?

Tricky, right? And the worst news—it induces hunger

and carb cravings, so you’ll eat more of it. It’s what they

give to lab rats in experiments to fatten them up

Any food in an aerosol can.

Anything called “cheese food” (which is neither cheese

nor food).

Anything with artificial sweeteners. The evidence

is catching up. Recent studies have not been kind to

artificial sweeteners, claiming among other problems


they adversely affect gut health and glucose tolerance.

I recommend giving up aspartame, sucralose, sugar

alcohols such as maltitol, and all of the other heavily used

and marketed sweeteners unless you want to slow down

your metabolism, gain weight, and become an addict. Use

a little stevia if you must, but skip out on the others.

Anything with any type of additives, preservatives, or

dyes (of which we eat about 2 1⁄2 pounds per person per

year).

Any food with more than five ingredients on the label,

unless they are all things you recognize, such as tomatoes,

water, basil, oregano, salt.

I know this might seem like a long list, but you can

avoid all of these items by sticking with real, whole foods,

and brands that you trust.

I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again, food is literally

the most powerful medicine you have available to control

your health. I want you to think of your kitchen as your

pharmacy. It all starts with taking out the junk, and

putting in the good stuff.

About The Author

MARK HYMAN

Mark Hyman MD is the Director of Cleveland Clinic’s Center

for Functional Medicine, the Founder of The UltraWellness

Center, and a ten-time #1 New York Times Bestselling author.

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Own Way

Written by Rick Hanson, PhD

T

The human body has about

100 trillion cells (plus another ten quadrillion

microscopic critters hitching a ride, most of them

beneficial or harmless). Each one of your cells

has aims – goals, in a sense – controlled by its

DNA: cells conduct processes aimed at particular

functions, like building bones or gobbling up

harmful invaders. Cells also work together in

larger and larger assemblies in pursuit of broader

goals, such as the 100 billion neurons in your brain

that run the nervous system, which as a whole is

itself the master regulator of the body.

In effect, there are layers, hierarchies, of goals

in the body – and a similar architecture of aims

in the mind. For example, operating right now is

the goal of moving your eyes over these words,


which serves the goal of

understanding them, which

serves larger goals such as

desires to learn new things,

new skills, and to be truly

happy.

In short, whether in the

body or the mind, there is

no life without goals. Trying

to “transcend” goals is itself

a goal. The only question is:

Are your goals good ones? In

other words, do they lead to

happiness and benefits for

you and others rather than

suffering and harms?

To choose good goals we

must balance the influences of

the world and the murmurings

of the heart. Some counsel

from others is good; I wish I’d

listened to my parents’ advice

to start saving in my 20’s

(rather than in my 50’s when I

finally got around to it).

But often we get nudged, cowed, persuaded,

bullied, seduced, enveloped, swept along, or

otherwise drawn into values, priorities, gender or

culture roles, perspectives on life, assumptions,

addictions, career choices, marriages, spiritual

practices or orientations, etc. etc. etc. that in ways

large or small are not really, not deeply, right for

us. And sometimes we are an active participant

in this process. For example, it was a combination

of external hype and internal laziness that led me

to try to take a shortcut in my early 30’s with my

training as a psychologist, which then cost me a

couple years of effort to get back on the right path.

In effect, a thousand little threads tug at us

this way and that, many of them originating from

within, internalized voices and faces from the past

and “shoulds” and “musts” from the present.

When these threads pull you from your

true course – the one that is authentic, at the

intersection of your talents and joys and values,

appropriate to your temperament and nature, and

filled with heart – you end up feeling sidetracked,

caught in a backwater, unfulfilled, unused, adrift,

trapped, even alienated from your own life. Do

you have any sense of this, yourself?

So it’s important to find your own way.

As a frame, know that you can follow your

course while also fulfilling your responsibilities.

With intention and practice, an inner freedom

is available while being externally engaged. You

From The Story

“You can follow

your course

while also

fulfilling your

responsibilities.”

make these responsibilities part of your course,

an honorable expression of it, informed by it, an

opportunity for growth in your own way.

Consider how you are not living your own life

as much as you could. In relationships, do you

make more room for the other person’s needs

than your own? What aren’t you saying? Whose

shoulds or plans or taboos are you living out?

(Especially the ones from childhood.) How might

you be conforming, even in subtle ways, to scripts

or teachings or group-think or cultural programs?

When you get those other voices out of your

head, what’s left that’s true? What silence might be

speaking to you?

Take a look at parts of your life, such as family or

career or a particular relationship. Have you drifted

from your own truth in any of these situations?

What specific course corrections could you make?

What would help you stick with them?

Open to guidance outside the box. Draw on (for

most people) the right side of your brain for images

of your current path and where it could be better to

go. Listen to your heart: What in your life is truly

working for you that you could strengthen, and

what is calling to you to lean more toward? Step

out of your normal routine for an hour or longer:

go for a long drive or walk, take a workshop, spend

a day with a dear friend – and look at your life from

a bird’s-eye view, with a sense of possibility and

freedom: Alright, no praise or blame, but where to

head from here?

The shift in course could be tiny. It could be

simply a matter of adjusting an attitude or spending

20 minutes a day in a new way. But extended

forward over the rest of your life, and meanwhile

knowing in your heart that it is true for you, will

make all the difference in the world.

We make a life a minute at a time. In this minute,

you can lean as much as possible toward your own

true way.

As they say in Tibet, if you take care of the

minutes, the years will take care of themselves.

About The Author

RICK HANSON, PHD

Rick Hanson, PhD, is a psychologist, Senior

Fellow of the Greater Good Science Center

at UYC Berkeley, and a New York Times bestselling

author. His books have been published

in 29 languages and include Neurodharma,

Resilient, and Hardwiring Happiness.

To Learn More Visit:

www.RickHanson.net


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September 2020 Issue

It’s Time to Face Your Fears:

4 Steps to Stepping Out of

Your Comfort Zone

Written by Joan Herrmann

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Do you allow fear to stop you

dead in your tracks whenever you think about trying

something new? Does that voice in your head conjure up

a list of reasons to be inactive, why you shouldn’t try to

accomplish a goal?

For most of my life, I was that person, too afraid to take

a chance, self-sabotaging myself at every turn. I had a

reason for every roadblock that I built; I allowed fear to

govern my life.

It took a major life upheaval and a lot of soul searching

to get me to change my ways. And when I did, I realized

that I hadn’t really lived - I played it safe and simply

survived.

Over the course of the past decade, I have had the

opportunity to interview people that have inspired and

challenged me to step outside of the comfort zone I called

life. I met warriors who have overcome tremendous

challenges and displayed courage that most can only

imagine They changed my way of thinking!

Some of these people were born without arms and legs,

or feet, or hands; others have lost their vision or the ability

to walk; and others have survived horrific trauma and now

live their life in service to others.

Every one of these people had every right to live in fear

as they faced unfathomable challenges, but they all chose

to confront their limitations and achieve what many

would consider to be “impossible”. They understood that

fear is nothing more than a mindset, a perception, False

Evidence Appearing Real. They taught me that each time

we face our fear, we gain strength, courage and confidence

in the doing.

So, the next time you’re faced with an overwhelming

challenge, an opportunity to try something new, or the

chance to step out of your comfort zone, how do you push

fear aside and take action?

1. Evaluate the driving force behind your fear. Is it a

real consideration or something that you have created in

your mind?

2. Make a list of your concerns and attack them one

by one. Ask yourself, “What is the worst thing that can

happen?” (btw…it usually doesn’t).

3. Develop a plan of action. What is your goal and how

will you achieve it? Empower yourself with knowledge.

4. Muster up the courage and take a chance. The best

plans are meaningless without action. As the explorer

Christopher Columbus said, “You can never cross the

ocean until you have the courage to lose sight of the

shore.”

Remember, it isn’t the end result that matters … it’s the

journey. You may just enjoy the ride!

About The Author

JOAN HERRMANN

Joan Herrmann, creator of the Change Your Attitude…Change

Your life brand, is the host of the radio show, Conversations with

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September 2020 Issue

How to Overcome Insomnia

When You’re Too Stressed Out

Written by Suzanne Falter

For five

grueling years,

I had chronic

insomnia, night

after night. It

was triggered

by an unstable

relationship

followed by the

sudden death

of my daughter, both of which collided with menopause.

OB/GYN’s say insomnia is the most common

complaint of the menopausal women they treat. Yet,

chronic insomnia can also be set off by intense PTSD

and grief. A recent NPR report indicates more than 60

million Americans suffer from insomnia. Only now,

several years after my crises, do I sleep peacefully.

Here’s what my insomnia looks like. I wake up three to

four hours after I fall asleep. I’m so wide awake I could

play a hand of cards, compose a business letter, or go

organize my closets. It takes hours to fall back to sleep.

I’ve tried nearly every remedy and read every book

out there, some of which work better than others. I even

took a seminar for health professionals about insomnia

and the over stimulated brain.

I’m not one to turn to sleeping pills, sedatives or even

medical marijuana as they only mask the problem. Once

you stop taking them, your insomnia is still there …

waiting patiently for you.

To that end, here’s the drug-free list of alternatives

that have worked for me so far.


Keep a sleep log at night. This helps you

track just how your behavior affects your sleep.

Make columns for date and sleep percentage,

time to bed, time you fell asleep, number of times

you woke, total time awake, final time awake,

time you got out of bed, and quality of sleep from

one to five. At the end leave a column for notes

on what varied from day to day.

Update your sleep log each morning. Then

calculate this: # of minutes slept ÷ # of minutes

in bed. Keep your log for a while, then track that

sleep percentage each day relative to how your

behavior varies. When you get at least five days of

sleep over 90 percent you’ll know what’s working.

Wear blue light blocking glasses. Mounting

evidence says the blue light from phone and

computer screens can keep you awake. The

light tricks the brain into thinking it’s daytime,

even when it’s not. However, blue light blocking

glasses (available on places like Amazon) remove

the blue light from your phone, computer or

television. This actually works!

No simple carbs at night. Simple carbs like

cookies, candy, cereal, potatoes, white bread and

baked goods can wake you up in the middle of

the night when consumed in the afternoon or

evening. “Reverse meals,” advised one doctor.

Eat a big lunch and just some light protein and

veggies, soup or fruit for dinner.

Create a dark cozy sanctuary with an

eye pillow. Removing light pollution from your

bedroom is often a key to a good night’s sleep.

The best way I’ve found is with a small silk bag

that’s like a beanbag filled with flax seeds. Eye

pillows lay across your eyes keeping the light out

from, say, a partner who likes to read after you go

to sleep, or light pollution from the street.

Write down your worries. Keep a worry log

and you’ll find out just how worried you actually

are. If you write these thoughts down in a place

other than your bedroom in the early evening

and then put them away, you will naturally move

concerns through your brain more easily at

night. It also helps to schedule a time when you

will resolve some of these issues.

Exercise daily. Even a 20-minute walk can

help, but don’t work out just before bed. I find

exercise takes the edge off of my natural anxiety

and helps me chill out. Then I’m truly tired by

bedtime.

Avoid alcohol. Yeah, we all know this one.

Personally I find it very true that when I have a

glass of wine it will revisit me in the middle of the

night and mess with my sleep.

Eliminate caffeine completely. One doctor

From The Story

“More than

60 million

Americans

suffer from

insomnia.”

told me that we become more sensitive to caffeine

as we get into mid-life. Furthermore, caffeine has

been found to have a ‘half life’ that stays in your

body an average of 5.7 hours after the buzz is gone.

Certain genetic variants can keep the buzz going

far longer so you sleep far more fitfully.

Keep your window open at night and use

ear plugs if you need to. Simple but true. The

body rests more deeply if slightly chilled. If you

have ambient noise outside, silicone ear plugs are

actually very effective.

Practice sleep restraint and keep a

consistent sleep schedule. This is the single

most effective remedy I have found for my

insomnia. By keeping a sleep log you will come

to learn how much sleep you actually need to

feel good. Note: by mid-life, most of us tend to

need less sleep than when we were younger. The

average for people over 50 is actually 6.5 hours.

Sleep restraint is modifying how long you stay

in bed each night. It means getting up within

three minutes of naturally waking up, whether

you want to or not. So if you go to bed at 10 PM

and you wake up at 5:30 or 6 AM, you get up, turn

on the lights and start your day instead of rolling

over. By the same turn, keep yourself awake at

night until your consistent bedtime arrives. If you

have trouble staying awake, go for a brief walk.

This will be uncomfortable at first but give it a few

days and your body will adjust — and you’ll begin

to stay more consistently.

Much of good sleep has to do with learned habit

and association. So this teaches the body to use

more of its time in bed actually sleeping.

Methodically relax your mind. When my

mind is racing in the middle of the night, I lie in

bed and quietly calm each part of my head, jaw,

face, neck, shoulders, moving on through the body.

It’s basically a way to methodically still the mind

and relax the body. And it’s often the last thing I

remember when trying to fall back to sleep.

May you find something helpful here in your

quest for a good night’s sleep. Sweet dreams!

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September 2020 Issue

Live With Intention To

Create A Life You Love

Written by Linda Mitchell, CPC

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Want an effective way

to bring positive changes into your life?

Use the proven power of intention. From

the Wright Brothers intention to fly, to

yesterday’s intention to reach a personal

goal, ideas and intentions create your

physical reality and determine outcomes.

When we tune into this field of pure

potentiality, we are limitless. Intentions

manifest into reality when you feed them

by consistently focusing your attention on

them.

Make clear intentions and anchor them

in by spending time visualizing what you

desire. Many studies show those who

visualize what they intend to bring forth

have much greater success! See and feel

yourself in the scenario you want to bring

about; use all five senses to marinate in it.

It’s time well invested.

It’s critical to align your thoughts with

your intentions. Do you outwardly intend

for something wonderful but quietly fret

about it or hold anxious thoughts and fears

that it won’t happen? This contradictory

and constricting energy makes it much

harder to achieve the end result. Reluctance,

resistance or doubt all lower your vibration

and create roadblocks to realizing your

intention. It’s much tougher to manifest

your intentions when your inner critic has

control of your thoughts whispering, “Who

do you think you are - you’ll never achieve

that!”

Be sure you’re not creating intentions

from a place of angst, worry or disbelief.

You’ll just boomerang that negative energy

back to you, frustrate yourself and stall the

process. Fear, apprehension and struggle

lower your vibration and your energy. If you

believe it has to be hard, it will be!

Surrender control and trust there’s more

than one good way to get there. Be open

to unexpected ways of creating the result

without attachment to any one particular

path to success. Your intention must be

line with your empowered beliefs, faith

in yourself and the conviction that you

deserve what you intend for. Align your

intentions with your hero self, the part of

you that truly believes you can create it and

that you’re worthy of it.

You can create a new reality by

concentrating on your intentions. Beliefs

and intentions determine outcome.

Success is achieved when the intention

is clear, specific and you’re willing to take

inspired actions which move you closer to

the desired event. Get focused and connect

with why you’ve created a particular

intention. Be sure it’s in alignment with

your values and your vision.

State your intentions in present tense

rather than terms that leave you in a state of

wanting. For example, saying, my intention

is to secure a fulfilling well-paying job, beats

saying I want a fulfilling well-paying job.

The later statement signals that you expect

to remain in a state of wanting versus

believing you’ll secure that job. There’s a big

difference in the energy of these statements

so be sure to create intentions which mirror

your true desires using words that reflect

belief and trust that the change is already

beginning to manifest. You’ll see it when

you believe it!

About The Author

LINDA MITCHELL

Linda Mitchell, a board certified executive

and personal coach, speaker and reinvention

expert empowers people who are

stuck, overwhelmed or ready for change to

confidently transition into their next meaningful

role with clarity, purpose and ease

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Be Proactive

and Be Ready

for an Emergency

Hospitalization

Written by Lorie Gardner, RN, NBC-HWC

As we start to

gain some insights

on the

COVID-19

pandemic,

it has become clear that the need to be prepared

for an emergency hospitalization is very important.

Equally important, is to have a conversation

with your loved one, friend, or private patient

advocate who will be your main contact person

during the hospitalization. Think hard about who

you want that to be. It should be someone who

is committed to assisting you in understanding

what is going on in the hospital, is not afraid to

ask the important questions, and will challenge

the situation and completely understand what

your wishes are.

Being prepared legally is an important step.

Liaise with your attorney and have a Power of

Attorney and a Healthcare Proxy document set up.

This will protect you in circumstances when you

are unable to make decisions for yourself. Also,

have an Advance Health Care Directive compiled


so it is clear to your person

who is making decisions for

you, when you can’t, what your

wishes are.

It is wise to ensure which

hospitals in your area are

in your health insurance

network ahead of time. You

can also check the hospital(s)

ratings. Some hospitals are

safer than others. You can

check the LeapFrog Hospital

Safety Grade website, and if

you are having surgery, you

can check your surgeon’s

ratings at Propublica’s Surgeon

Scorecard site.

This pandemic has made

very clear the need to have a

communication plan while

in the hospital. You may

have many family members

or friends that want to be

involved in your status and

recovery. It is essential to have one person who is

dedicated to liaising with the nursing staff, social

workers, and medical team to stay on top of the

plan of care and test results.

It is wise to set up a patient portal for the

hospital so certain data can be monitored. This

person needs to introduce him/herself to the

medical team as the person to be directly involved

in every detail of the hospitalization. Ask each

member of the medical and hospital team for a

business card/contact information and the best

times to get updates.

Always be aware of what the daily treatment

plan is for the day. Frequently, the plan of care and/

or goals are written on a whiteboard in the patient’s

room. Understand what all of your medications

are indicated for and their possible side effects. If

a new medication is started while in the hospital,

make sure you know who prescribed it and why.

Ask what the potential benefits and side effects are.

If you have any imaging tests, ask the reason

for the test. Request the results as soon as they are

available and if the results require any additional

treatment. Understand the lab results they are

collecting and what they mean.

This may all be too much for you as the patient

since you may want to concentrate on healing.

Have your loved one, friend, or private patient

advocate maintain a notebook and keep detailed

notes on your progress and actions taken while in

the hospital.

From The Story

“Negativity

just has a

bigger impact

on our brains

than positivity.”

Hospital Tool Kit

It can be helpful to have a bag containing

vital information should you have an emergent

hospitalization. This could include the following:

• Fact sheet – contains your name, address,

phone number, date of birth and any allergies

• Emergency contact person – name, phone

number, email and text information

• Medication list – list all the prescribed drugs,

over the counter drugs and supplements you take

• Medical conditions – list any chronic or acute

diseases

• Past surgeries and hospitalizations – a list of

any surgeries or hospitalizations you have had

listed in date order

• Insurance information – a copy of the front and

back of your insurance card

• HIPAA or Healthcare Proxy document

• Advance directive

• POLST or MOLST form, if available

• Power of Attorney

• Patient portal information

• Overnight bag with your cell phone and

charger, 24 hours of medications, hearing aid,

glasses, notebook and pen, toiletries.

• Other – a note about anything special the

hospital staff or emergency responders should

know about you if you are not able to communicate

yourself.

There were many people during this pandemic

that were admitted to the hospital in an emergency

and there was unavoidable stress due to no

visitation for family members. Being prepared with

a plan, a contact person, and the above information

can increase the ability to communicate and lessen

the stress.

About The Author

LORIE GARDNER

Lorie Gardner RN, BSN, NBC-HWC, founded

Healthlink Advocates, Inc., to assist people

with all aspects of their healthcare. As private

nurse patient advocates and board certified

health and wellness coaches, they partner

with clients seeking assistance navigating the

complex healthcare system and those seeking

self-directed, lasting health improvements

aligned with their values.

To Learn More Visit:

www.healthlinkadvocates.com


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September 2020 Issue

Organizing Technique – Friends,

Acquaintances, and Strangers

Written by Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVO

A

Are there some things

in your home that are so important

to you that you just can’t imagine life

without them? Are there other things

that you wonder how they got in the door

in the first place? Do some things fall in

the middle?

When I work onsite with clients, one

of the challenges I sometimes face is

helping them decide if they should keep

or purge something. Clients sometimes

own very large collections of things (think

hundreds of pairs of shoes), to which

they become attached. When collections

threaten to take over the house, it’s time

to pare down. This can be very difficult,

and clients can become paralyzed. Every

item seems to be unique.

Many clients process their decisions

according to their emotions and

how they feel about things. They

call in a professional because the

organizing process can be easier when

it’s social. Using a technique that

anthropomorphizes inanimate objects

helps to tap into their emotional

processing preference.

One of my organizing colleagues,

Judith Kolberg, created a game to play

with her clients. She calls it Friends,

Acquaintances, and Strangers. She

shares it in her book, Conquering Chronic

Disorganization, and it has become one

of my favorite organizing techniques.

The process can be used for anything:

business cards, Tupperware, clothes,

papers, time commitments, or anything

that has accumulated in a client’s life.

Thinking of their collection in terms

of how close an item is to clients’ hearts,

whether an item is a Friend - that

is, especially important, valuable, or

loved; which is a Stranger that has long

overstayed its welcome; and which is a

mere Acquaintance, which hasn’t yet put

down roots, can make it easier to decide

what to keep and what to purge.

About The Author

GAYLE M. GRUENBERG

Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVO is the

chief executive organizer of Let’s Get Organized,

LLC, an organizer coach, and the creator

of the Make Space for Blessings system.

To Learn More Visit:

www.LGOrganized.com



WRITTEN BY GUY FINLEY

STOP SEEKING

APPROVAL AND START

LIVING IN REAL FREEDOM

S

SEEKING APPROVAL IS A POWERFUL MOTIVATING FORCE IN

MOST OF US. OUR UNENDING SEARCH FOR THE CONFIRMATION

OF OTHERS RUNS DEEP WITHIN US. WE ARE UNKNOWINGLY

DRIVEN BY THE IDEA THAT IF WE COULD JUST BE ACCEPTED,

THAT WOULD BE THE KEY TO FINALLY KNOWING WHO WE ARE.


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Most of us share the mistaken

belief that if we could get enough people to approve of us, then

we would feel some relief from the ache in our soul that is always

trying to figure out who we should be.

As a result, we are kept in a secret form of captivity. But we

can break free of its bonds, and this liberating process starts

by asking ourselves: What happens to someone who is always

looking for approval?

The answer is clear: We sell ourselves! This unconscious,

self-destructive behavior has become so habitual to us we don’t

catch it. But if we’re paying attention, we can see it when we

watch other people.

Just listen to a group of people talking over lunch and you

can see that the casual conversations of human beings are really

fencing competitions — one person saying something and then

another person trying to top it. There is this continual tug of

war, a real competition going on. Lunches in a social situation

can be exhausting!

Then there are our families. At a family dinner, all the old

business is brought up, with everyone competing and trying to

prove they did better in life than we did.

If we can see this is so, it raises some important questions:

• Why does this go on? Why do we take part in it? What is

taking place within us when there is a continual longing for

acceptance? Why do we feel that if we’re approved we’ll finally

find our real self?

• Why is it that anyone can look at us askew, or someone can

say the smallest thing and all the king’s horses and all the king’s

men can’t put us back together again!

• What is the root of the endless compromise where we want

to be accepted, but to be accepted we have to gain approval –

and we’ll sell ourselves to get that approval, no matter how we

must do it?

• Why is that even if we are actually confirmed by someone,

we need two “someones” to confirm us after that? Why is it

never enough? Why is it that there are there never enough

possessions, never enough power, never enough authority, etc.?

The root within us of our endless search for acceptance and

approval is a part of us that is forever telling us that we are

unacceptable as we are. Something lives in us that actually

causes, by its very nature, a feeling in us that as we are, we are

just not enough.

And then, ironically, doing what that part of us says to do

actually makes us more vulnerable.

For example, perhaps you think to yourself, “I’m not enough.

I need more money.” So you go out and make more money. But

then maybe you lose the money you had defined yourself by,

and what happens then? You go straight down. You crash. And

now you have to find something new to define yourself by!

We must understand that no definition of anything, including

ourselves, exists without having its root in comparison.

Comparison is fine when it comes to practical thought, to hot

vs. cold, to knowing what route to take to get home, etc.

But it isn’t right when it comes to questions like “who am I?”

or “what’s my life about?” If I try to know who I am, what my

true nature is, by comparing myself to some external measure,

then I’ve made myself dependent on the thing I’ve compared

myself to.

We want to be free, and to be free means to understand what

the path of freedom is really about. The path of freedom is not

about winning acceptance from the world around us; in fact

the path of freedom, of coming to possess our own life, cannot

be gained by anything we might imagine.

If we are to be free, we must begin with discovering what it

is within us that causes us to see ourselves as needful of those

things we now sell our souls to win.

If we will agree to let go of whatever we find that binds us to

the false idea that we are somehow incomplete – then freedom

follows naturally. It is done for us. And we will know that Life

and Liberty for which our heart longs.

About The Author

GUY FINLEY

Guy Finley is an internationally renowned spiritual teacher

and bestselling self-help author. He is the founder and

director of Life of Learning Foundation, a nonprofit center for

transcendent self-study located in Merlin, Oregon.

To Learn More Visit:

www.guyfinley.org/online



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