allure 03012021

January 3, 2021
Sorting Out
Your Wardrobe
In The New
Year
New Year
Playful &
Fun Sex
NKEM OFFONABO
On Starting Afresh

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HAPPINESS
4 Cover: Nkem Offonabo;
On Starting Afresh
6 Sexmatics: New Year Playful
And Fun Sex
CELEBRATION
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Fashion : Sorting Out Your Wardrobe
in the New Year
People : Adebola Williams Seeks
Kehinde Daniel’s Hand In Marriage
03 JANUARY 2021
• Nollywood Stepped Out For Funke
Akindele’s Omo Ghetto
8 Instagram Moments
WELCOME...
Having gone through the
experiences of the last year and
survived, I guess congratulations is in
order for every one who survived the
pandemic, #EndSARS and all the
violent killings that rocked the nation.
This is aside the losses that
individuals suffered; job, business, all
trauma and emotional down turn. In
spite of all these, we survived. So I
raise my glass to toast to you our
esteemed readers for making it to
2021.
Starting afresh after the blow dealt by the pandemic can be
daunting . For some people, starting afresh means leaving old
ways behind. This can be daunting and scary; especially if they
have mastered a coping mechanism by living a certain way.
But change we must and start we must. Although things
won’t change overnight, putting in some effort to improve ones
lot won’t harm.
A good way to start is by accept the truth that last year was
a terrible year, and be thankful that in spite of all that negativity,
you survived.
Aside distancing yourself from negativity, start with cleaning
up the space you live in. See how you can sort out your
wardrobe, separating what you need from those clustering
your space. Pg 3
Do this not only with your clothes and space. Weed out
everything not adding peace or value. Have a fresh start, write
down your goals and pursue them the rest of the year until you
achieve.
When you need to create a work-life balance, you may
need a life-coach like our cover
personality Nkem Offonabo. Read up J . E
her interview Pg 4-5.
Jemi Ekunkunbor
Enjoy your new beginning.
lookposh2017@gmail.com
Happy New Year!
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Quotes
“Man is least himself
when he talks in his
own person. Give him
a mask, and he will
tell you the truth”.
- Oscar Wilde
“Never make a decision
when you are angry,
never make a promise
when you are happy”.
- Unknown
“Laziness may appear
attractive, but work
gives satisfaction”.
- Anne Frank
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FASHION
Colour-code your wardrobe.
Organizing your clothes by colours can be
tedious, but the end result will make picking
out an outfit so much easier, beautiful to
behold and easy to navigate.
Sorting Out
Your Wardrobe
in the New Year
Use coordinating hangers.
Nothing screams closet chaos quite like a collection
of wire and neon plastic hangers trying to peacefully
coexist alongside one another. Limit the visual clutter
and give your closet a sleek, streamlined look by using
matching hangers for your clothes.
By - Yemisi Suleiman
Looking to starting off the New Year with a resolution
to be more organized? What better way than to begin with
reorganizing your closet.
There is no better time than the start of a brand New
Year, to sort out your closet and decide what you want to
keep, throw out or give to charity.
To help you get started, we have some handy tips that will
help you keep the insides of your closet neat and tidy, and
have it stay that way in the New Year and beyond.
Some clothes are best folded
When it comes to organising your wardrobe, not everything
should be hung. Some types of clothes are best folded. Your
jeans, Ankara dresses and lace for instance are best folded
and stored in shelves or drawers. This way, you’ll be able to
see each item in a stack clearly, making it that much easier to
find what you’re looking for.
Sort
out your
clothes
Before everything else, purge
first. Take everything out of your
closet and sort them in terms of
what you want to keep and what
you don’t. In the pile that you
don’t wish to keep, sell what
you can, throw what cannot
be kept, and donate the
rest.
Clean out your closet
Remove everything from the closet,
including hangers, and anything else that
might be on the floor or shelves. Do a
proper clean out of your wardrobe, to take
out all unwanted insects or ants lurking
around. You need a clear, clean space to
plan and visualize how you are going to
re-organize your closet.
Store your clothes by category
Put back the selected items in the wardrobe, keeping like
items together--dresses, shirts, and party clothes sorted
differently. Keep everything you wear on a regular basis in
the middle of your closet at eye level so it’s easy to find and
grab in your early morning rush.
January 3 , 2021 / 3

INTERVIEW
Nkem Offonabo:
On Starting Afresh
Words By - Josephine Agbonkhese
Until Thursday 31st December, 2020, Nkem Offonabo was Business Development Manager at First
City Monument Bank, FCMB. With the start of the New Year, the purpose-driven woman is now
fully focused on her passion—to help busy professionals and entrepreneurs achieve work-life
harmony. The graduate of Psychology with an Executive MBA from the Metropolitan School of Business
and Management, UK is a human resources management consultant, trained life coach and neurolinguistic
programming professional. In the cause of her over ten-year career, spanning across
recruitment, selection and on-boarding, employee relations, organisation development/change
management, and product/business development in the financial services industry, she fervently provided
organisations and individuals with coaching and training on employee wellness, work-life harmony,
personal and organisational effectiveness, as well as human resource advisory.
The burning desire to carry-on this mission on a more impactful scale, led to the establishment of the
Work-Life Organisation Global Limited a couple of years ago by the bestselling author of The Harmonised
Life, a personal leadership and organisational transformation book.
The award-winning Social Media Influencer who was in May 2020 recognised as one of the Top 50
Leading Ladies in Corporate Nigeria by Leading Ladies Africa, and who is the convener of Work-Life
Conversation, a group coaching community of working professionals and entrepreneurs, in this interview,
speaks on exiting paid employment and beginning life afresh.
Welcome to a New Year. How would you describe 2020?
What a year 2020 had been! From a global pandemic
that forced us to rethink how we live and work, to the sudden
disruption of our lifestyle by lockdowns, travel bans and social
distancing measures, necessitating widespread adoption of
remote working, virtual meetings and greater consumption of
online learning; to the #ENDSARS protests and its resultant
effects in some parts of Nigeria and even across the globe.
The year brought about the introduction of new terms and
phrases such as quarantine, social distancing, Zoom parties,
palliatives, soro soke (speak out), etc., into our everyday
conversation. Describing 2020 seems like a daunting task.
It was a different kettle of fish for different people. Did
you prosper or suffer losses?
Despite the numerous challenges of 2020, I can
confidently say that it was a year in which I thrived;
personally, and professionally, with respect to the aspirations
and goals I mapped out for myself at the beginning of the
year.
In retrospect, I really do not think that I would have
achieved so much if things were just the way they were
(normal). I embraced the new normal and maximised its
upside.
How does it feel to be exiting FCMB as a Business
Development Manager and starting work afresh?
Naturally, the decision to leave something steady and
predictable was not easy. However, I am glad I took that
decision; it feels completely empowering.
It feels like the perfect timing (smiles). I don’t know how
I knew, I just knew. You know that conviction that it was all
meant to be and there is no better time than now.
What’s next for you?
Interestingly, while trying to write my resignation letter
sometime in November 2020, I saw two previous resignation
letters that I had written earlier, dated 2018 and 2019
respectively, as well as an exit plan that I worked on late
2019. As from 2018 (which was about 10 years into my
professional journey), I had clearly defined and mapped
out my career path and had begun retraining and building
up my toolkits behind the scenes. Within those years, I
began writing my first book, working with professionals
and organisations through my carefully-curated niche
coaching, training and speaking engagements, as well as
other skill-based services such as content writing, corporate
communications design, personal branding and professional
profile optimisation, recruitment and human resource
advisory for (M)SMEs, startups and NGOs, to name a few.
In July 2020, I published and launched my first book,
The Harmonised Life, which received rave reviews and
is fast becoming a favourite among professionals within
the corporate space; with the first batch of printed copies,
completely sold-out. I have been inundated with loads of
testimonials from readers of the book. The Harmonised
Life is therefore, not just a book. It has metamorphosed
into several things, one of which is The Harmonised Life
Academy. The academy runs a 12-week intensive coaching
and accountability programme for goal-seeking individuals
who are burned out and unable to prioritise, but want
to be armed with the requisite personal leadership and
transformational tools to take control of their lives across the
critical areas of life in other to achieve optimum performance,
productivity and profitability.
In what precise ways will years spent as a Business
Development Manager come in handy?
The years I spent as a Business Development Manager
exposed me to the fundamentals of business management—
the principle of need identification, the power of value
creation, the financial and operational systems, the need for
personal and corporate branding, the people side of business
and above all, the discipline of execution. All of these will
come in handy in the running of my personal businesses.
My redeployment from the Human Resources
department in 2013, to the role of a Business Development
Manager in the Transaction Banking department, was a
rewarding practical experience in embracing change and
making the most out of it.
Do you have any fears starting afresh on your own?
Fear is a natural feeling which we amplify when we lose
faith in ourselves and our abilities.
If there is anything I am convinced of, it is the fact that
I will succeed, given the clarity of what I stand for, what
my business is positioned to do for busy professionals,
entrepreneurs and corporate businesses; as well as the
numerous benefits that will be derived by people and
businesses who will work with me.
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INTERVIEW
What makes the centre of your new full time job a critical
issue?
How can any employer or organisation really achieve
the best results when its core assets—its people—are not
living fully-optimised lives? The focal point of my brand and
business, is to provide holistic wellness initiatives that will
give employees greater control over their lives, to improve
performance, productivity and profitability while guiding
organisations on the need to build a great place to work,
and a sustainable environment where people and business
thrive.
My experience in helping individuals win in life and
at work as a work-life balance coach, has shown that the
workplace, and, by extension, our society, is getting more
complex and fast-paced. There is the ever-changing nature
of work, coupled with the employers’ unending quest for
competitive advantage, increased market share, maximum
revenue and profit, the increasing pressure on employees
to meet and exceed expectations, and more. Majority of
working professionals have also neglected or relegated to
the background other vital dimensions of their lives, such
as, their emotional well-being, proper health care, family,
passion, friendships, finance, rest, spirituality and peace of
mind.
What’s your description of a harmonised day?
I’ve realised, through personal experience and years
of working with busy professionals, that one cannot truly
live a meaningful and productive life by investing only in
one aspect of life. Success is multi-dimensional; and if any
area of the critical area suffers, the impact on other areas
becomes obvious.
Identifying those critical areas (health, relationships,
family, passion, career, finance, faith, friendships, rest, self,
success and peace of mind) and daily investing time and
energy to see those areas work harmoniously, according to
your version of success, is what makes you truly satisfied;
that’s a truly harmonised life.
It’s a New Year and many wish to have a whole new
beginning just like you; how did you prepare yourself for
this step?
My path is unique to me and so should each individual’s
be. However, the first and most important step I took was
to prioritise gaining clarity. Next was to put a plan in place. I
built my business website in 2018 and began articulating my
ideas on what the business stands for, who to serve and how
to efficiently run the business even while still working 9-to-5.
I got the company registered in 2019. I began acquiring the
needed toolkits and skills; getting trained and certified in
human resources, business management, coaching, etc.
Another step was being deliberate about building a personal
and business brand that resonates with my target audience.
Finally, I was able to run the business by the side, using
income from my paid employment to fund it until I felt inspired
enough to make the leap of faith of starting off on my own.
We are again in a recession. What should anyone
looking at exiting paid employment this year be mindful
of?
Individuals looking to exit paid employment should be
cautious, and ensure that they have in place a financial
backup plan (for both business and personal finances). If
one fails to hit initial revenue projections, focus on a niche
market and build a winning business plan. Also, have a
competitive edge over their competitors in terms of products,
pricing, marketing techniques, etc., so you can differentiate
yourself and gain market share. You can adopt technology to
reduce operational costs and increase profits; think of how
to utilise the internet, automated social media marketing,
cloud storage and remote communications, virtual or flexible
working, etc. Lastly, bear in mind the God-factor because
wisdom emanating from the directives of the divine cannot
not be equated with human understanding.
Finally, check your gut and your bank balance to make
sure you’re ready to start your new venture.
What could possibly be the risk of venturing out in a
recession?
Entrepreneurship is synonymous with risk-taking and
entrepreneurs have been described as risk-takers or risk
bearers. However, there are key risks elements to be mindful
of. Due to the resultant effect of the recession, there is
difficulty in accessing funding from government and financial
institutions to increase working capital. There is also reduced
cash in circulation as businesses or individuals, will want to
hoard their reserve while focusing on other business drivers,
in order to maximise profits.
From all that has happened since COVID-19 and the
hijacked #EndSARS protest last year, what sectors will
be best to invest in as we start anew?
Despite the current economic recession and high
inflation, virtually all sectors of the economy remain open
and attractive for investments. However, agriculture and
agro commodity export stand out, due to huge and largely
untapped potentials. This is also a good time to invest in
the technology and digital sector, to upscale businesses,
especially in the financial, e-commerce, commodity,
education and health. Increased investment in human
capital development by organisations, through training of
their workforce to acquire the necessary skills required
for improved productivity in today’s fast-paced business
environment, is also highly recommended.
Who inspires your new journey internationally?
I have been inspired by great men and women out there
changing the world, but one person stands out for me and
that is John .C. Maxwell; my number one leadership and
management expert, speaker, author and pastor.
What excites you the most about your new journey?
The results basically—the joy of seeing a transformed
life, people who are living wholesome lives at work, at home,
in the community and within self.
Above all, seeing organisations (the work and the
workplace) flourish as a result of a wholesome and
harmonised worker who is empowered to drive performance,
productivity and profitability.
What won’t you skip in a year as part of personal care
routine?
Definitely a vacation. If I am not taking the plunge to visit
a new country or a vacation spot, I am taking some days off
work to rest, recreate, reassess and recharge.
Describe your personal style?
I would say that my style is polished, classy and
professional. I am neither an extremist nor a conformist.
Success is multidimensional;
and if
any area of the
critical area
suffers, the impact
on other areas
becomes obvious.
Photography: Bamiyo Emina
Makeup: Debbysez
January 3, 2021 / 5

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New Year Playful And Fun Sex
I
t’s that time of the year once again when
you make all your New Year resolutions
that will make for life. While sex may be
good for lovers, indulging in it constantly
is even better because of its health
benefits.
You are not alone when it comes to boosting
action in your bedroom; a number of lovers
actually want to make their sex lives more fun
and playful. Take your sexual life from not too
impressive, to amazing level with these pointers:
Never fake it - you don’t have to pretend in the
bedroom especially if you want more mindblowing
sex, you don’t have to lie about what
does not thrill you. ‘’You should never fake an
orgasm’’, says relationship expert Wendy Walsh,
Ph.D., of the 30-Day Love Detox. ‘’That thing he
was doing wrong, he’s now going to keep doing
it.’’ Instead, let him know when something feels
amazing, either by speaking up or engaging in
some pretty obvious body language. That way,
there is no confusion about what you really like in
bed. Also worth knowing, great sex can exist
without an orgasm.
Disregard that old conception that only men
crave something new in bed. Research has
shown women are even more likely to desire
sexual novelty says Walsh. Satisfy the urge by
doing something totally outside your sexual script.
Match your position with your mood - the same
way your dates range from romantic to passionate,
your hob-nobbing should too. Depending on the
mood you are in, get creative with your sex style,
craving emotional intimacy and eye contact, then
settle for missionary style and if you want to rip off
each other’s clothes the minute you close the
door, go for upstanding citizen style. Want to
be in charge, hop on top for reverse cowgirl
style.
Make sex fun by taking turns to give and
receive. Agree on how much time each
person should use and take turns doing
whatever it is your spouse wants, then
switch. Pleasing your mate can put you in the
mood even more. Take the reins, ‘’If you’re a
woman wanting more novelty, it’s great to be
a little bold and assertive’’.
Host a quickie- this can just be for a few
minutes, be sure to slip an invitation into your
spouse’s back pocket or dinner napkin
saying, ‘’Your presence is needed in the
bedroom from 7:30-7:45 pm.’’
Light some scented candles with a chilled
wine on standby, and wear nothing but high
heels, and a clean fragrant skin under your
bathrobe. He will be surprised when he finally
gets to the room to see you with your hostess
skills that the party will be rocking in no time.
Make your regular night out extra exciting,
by letting your inner bad girl run the show.
Wear slinky lingerie to dinner, give him
unexpectedly, bare thighs, or give him your
panties on the way back from the
restroom. He’ll love it and according
to seductive sources, you will too.
Couples who share good sex lives
are creative- what is that new sex
position, approach, or sex toy you
would really like to try? It might be
amazing what you might learn.
Get on it as you can always start
tonight!
HAPPY NEW
YEAR!
THINGS IN YOUR
BEDROOM THAT MAKE
YOU SICK
Do you wake up feeling more tired than when you went to bed the night
before? Are headaches, nasal congestion or sore throats just part of your
morning routine? Is it hard to remember the last time you slept well or
woke up without feeling stiff and sore? If you find yourself nodding, “Yes,”
to these questions, it’s possible that your bedroom is making you sick.
These are things that can make you sick:
PILLOW AND MATTRESS:
After a long, hard day, you probably let out a sigh of relief when your head hits
the pillow and lay on your mattress. Unfortunately, pillows and mattress quickly
build up excessive amounts of health busters such as bacteria, spores, and
dust mites, leading to allergy symptoms such as, sore throat, headache,
and congestion.
Pillows should be replaced at least once every year while mattress
should not be more than 5 years.
PETS:
Yes, your pets are beloved family members, but when it comes to
bedtime, they are better off in their own cosy beds, not sharing yours.
Not only are pets likely to disrupt your sleep, but their fur is full of
allergens such as dander, dust, pollen, mold spores and bacteria. Give
your four-footed friends their own beds next to yours, and you are all
likely to sleep better.
WINDOW:
If your bedroom window is permanently shut, you’re sealing in a wide
range of pollutants, including dust, pollen, fumes from cleaning products;
off-gassing from carpets, furniture and paint; and chemicals from
toiletries like hairspray, deodorant, and nail polish. When weather are
safety permit, open your bedroom windows and let fresh air circulate
through the room.
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/ January 3, 2021

Adebola Williams
seeks Kehinde
Daniel’s hand in
marriage
P EO PLE
“ONE PARTY AT A TIME!”
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Stoties By Oscar Ochiogu
Mr and Mrs Williams
- Groom’s parent
Dr Oby Ezekwesili
Rotimi Amaechi
The Couple - Adebola Williams and Kehinde Daniel
otunba & Mrs Gbenga Daniel & the groom Adebola Williams
Mrs Ngozi Jideonwo, Couple & Mrs. Adeola Azeez
Adebola Williams, the CEO RED for Africa,
last Sunday led members of his family to meet
former Governor of Ogun State, Gbenga Daniel, to
officially seek his daughter Kehinde Daniel’s hand in
marriage.
Adebola Williams was escorted to the colourful
introduction ceremony which took place in Lagos,
by two-time Governor and current Transportation
Minister, Rotimi Amaechi; former Education
Minister and Vice-President of the World Bank, Oby
Ezekwesili, and other notable personalities.
Father of the bride, Gbenga Daniel and his wife,
Yeye Olufunke Daniel played the quintessential
hosts to guests from across the country who came to
celebrate with them.
The event was attended by the cream of of the
society including; wife of Ogun State Governor,
Bamidele Abiodun; former Governorship Aspirant,
Gboyega Isiaka; Banker and WIMBIZ board
member, Adeola Azeez; Actor, OmotolaJalade-
Ekeinde and Singer, Omawumi to mention but a few.
Nollywood stepped out
for Funke Akindele’s Omo
Ghetto
After months of filming and
dropping attention-grabbing
teasers on social media, Nollywood
actress and filmmaker, Funke
Akindele-Bello finally had a
private screening for her muchanticipated
movie, Omo Ghetto
(The Saga).
The event was attended by
several colleagues in the movie
industrywho turned up in the
“Ghetto Fabulous” theme of the
day. Akindele who was the center of
attention, showed up looking extra
flashy in a pair of ripped jeans
matched with a colourful denim
jacket. She also dyed her hair to a
bold blonde colour.
The latest instalment in the
‘Omo Ghetto’ film franchise, is the
first project that Funke Akindele
will officially co-direct with her
music executive husband, JJC
Skillz.
DJ Spinall and Funke Akindele-Bello
Chioma Akpotha
AY and Mabel Makun
Eniola Badmus Mo Abudu Richard Mofe-Damijo
Toke Makinwa & Don Jazzy
January 3, 2021 / 7

INSTAGRAM
MOMENTS
With Yemisi Suleiman
In case you missed, these were the most Interesting pictures and stories
on Instagram last week as posted by your favourite celebrities.
Richard Mofe Damijo celebrates
20th wedding anniversary with wife
Nigerian movie veteran, Richard Mofe Damijo and his wife
Jumobi, celebrated their 20th wedding anniversary during
the week.
In a short note shared via his Instagram page on Tuesday,
December 29, the movie veteran wrote:
“It’s our 20 years anniversary! Hmmmm, Like they say, 20
years nor be beans o! At the centre of it all, it has just been
God. Thankful. Grateful. Blessed. Graced.”
In another post later on his Instagram handle, the actor
celebrated his wife with the sweetest words. He wrote: 20
years later, you still crack me up my WinterRose. Thank
you my Abk , my Aabike, my Dejumo, my Abiks.”
Alaafin of
Oyo marks
50th year
on throne
Eighty two year
old Alaafin of
Oyo, marked his
50th Coronation
anniversary last
week.
Celebrating with
him were two of
his wives, Olori
Omoh and Olori
Folashade, who
posted this photo
on her page, while
congratulating the
Monarch on his 50th
anniversary.
Nectar Beauty Hub Lekki opens in
style
Nectar Beauty Hub, a one stop outlet for “All things
Beauty” had its grand opening and mega sales recently
at one of its 5 outlets in Lagos located at Admiralty Road
lekki Phase 1, Lagos.
Celebrities, Lifestyle and Beauty leaders like Mo Abudu,
Lanre Da Silva Ajayi, Adesuwa Onyenokwe, Dr Vivian
Oputa, Linda Edozien, CEO of Barazahi Spa, and more,
graced the exclusive outlet which is packed with some of
the best beauty brands in the industry.
Managing Director
Beatrice Eneh stated that, “Nectar beauty hub promises to
redefine Beauty by showcasing the fusion between beauty
and wellness, education, empowerment, fashion, branding
and a lot more to ensure that everyone is beautifully
empowered inside out!”
Behold Mr and
Mrs Ekpata!
Big Brother Naija 2019 stars,
Khafi Kareem and Gedoni
Ekpata are officially married.
While Khafi shared the good
news with fans on her page,
Gedoni on his part, confirmed
the news with beautiful pictures
from the wedding, as well as a
love note to his new wife on his
Instagram handle. He wrote:
“A year ago, she said “YES”
and some months later, she
said “YES” again, this time to
FOREVER.
It’s not been an easy year
especially for you. You
lost your(our) brother and
Covid19 happened. Amidst
all these heaviness and
heartbreaks, you still love and
LOVE DEEPLY.
I don’t take you for granted
IYAWO MI @acupofkhafi and
I’ll love you forever.”
Congratulations to the couple.