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EDITOR IN CHIEF

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ASSOCIATE EDITOR

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CONTRIBUTORS

Lawrence Doochin

Lorie Gardner, RN, NBC-HWC

Sean Grover, LCSW

Gayle Gruenberg, CPO-CD, CVPO

Mark Hyman, MD

Joan Herrmann

Linda Mitchell, CPC


FROM THE EDITOR

It has been reported that the divorce rate

in America is 50 percent for first marriages,

67 percent for second marriages, and 73

percent for third marriages. These numbers

indicate that many people repeat the same

mistakes over and over again. While a new

relationship may look different at first,

before long we are right back where we

started, dealing with the same issues again,

repeating the same patterns.

I recently had the opportunity to speak

with Allana Pratt, a relationship coach and

intimacy expert, who is the author of six

books on love and relationships. We talked

about why these repeating patterns occur

and what we can do to create a healthy,

lasting love.

According to Allana, people repeat the

same mistakes when they don’t evolve from

the previous relationships – when they don’t

take the time to integrate the life lessons

and they don’t sit in the fire to heal their

wounded hearts. She says that we play a huge

rule in the creation of our bad relationships,

and therefore, we have the power to change

the patterns.

Allana believes that the biggest mistake

people make after a breakup is rushing

back into a relationship to to try to soothe

the emptiness inside. She advises that we

turn towards the pain and our wounded

parts in order to learn the lessons that were

presented by the relationship that didn’t

work out.

She adds that it takes bravery and humility

to face our pain, and she cautions that we

should seek support from someone who

doesn’t judge and who can ask reflective

questions that teach us to take responsibility

for the choices we make.

Allana’s advice to help us create a lasting

relationship:

Be mindful of thoughts and actions.

Understand that vibration is everything and

that it is important to create the vibration

you want to attract. When a person comes

from a place of desperation, he or she will

attract that kind of person. Be a whole,

healthy person to find a whole, healthy

person.

Find your tribe. Be with communities that

align with your values and beliefs. Within

“your people” you will meet potential

partners who are up for meaningful, deep,

conscious communication that lasts. Stop

dating numerous people from apps and build

relationships within aligned communities.

Let go of the results. Don’t be attached

to an outcome. Live your life and stop

desperately searching for “the one”. Become

the one to find the one. Let go of the

neediness and watch what happens!

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— Joan Herrmann


ALLANA PRATT

ISSUE NO.125


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DO YOU NEED A DIGITAL DETOX?

BY MARK HYMAN, MD

PAGE 12

STOP SELLING YOURSELF SHORT:

3 STRATEGIES TO BEAT SELF DOUBT

BY JOAN HERRMANN

PAGE 20

ALLANA PRATT SHARES HER TIPS ON HOW TO

FIND LOVE SUCCESSFULLY AFTER DIVORCE. SHE IS

A RELATIONSHIP COACH AND INTIMACY EXPERT

WHO IS THE AUTHOR OF SIX BOOKS ON LOVE

AND RELATIONSHIPS. SHE HAS BEEN FEATURED IN

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A SURVIVOR’S 5 STEPS TO OVERCOMING FEAR

BY LAWRENCE DOOCHIN

PAGE 24

3 TYPES OF PEOPLE MOST LIKELY TO LIE TO YOU

BY SEAN GROVER

PAGE 28

ORGANIZE TO AGE IN PLACE

BY GAYLE GRUENBERG

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SQUASH YOUR FEAR OF FAILURE

BY LINDA MITCHELL

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THE IMPORTANCE OF COMMUNICATING

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BY LORIE GARDNER

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MARCH

2021

DO YOU

NEED A

DIGITAL

DETOX?

I visited a tech company once in San Francisco, and I walked

into a lunch area and saw everyone sitting on couches and

at tables, all on their computers. I asked, “Is this the silent

lunch room?” and was surprised when I was told no.

Written by Mark Hyman, MD


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Far too often, I find myself on

my phone or computer for most of my day – often missing

the people and live events that are all around me. This

is why it is important to do a complete “digital detox” –

something I do at least a few times a year so that I can get

back to just being.

More and more studies have been coming out showing

the link between too much internet usage and screen time

and mental and mood disorders (like ADHD, anxiety,

depression etc.). In a recent study, people who reported

excessive internet use also reported social anxiety

disorders, loneliness, social isolation and lower quality of

life. The study also showed that Internet addiction was

associated with reduced immune function.

That’s right, too much Internet and screen time can

actually make you sick!

How is this possible? Your addiction to your screen

prevents you from the habits that make you a healthier

person. People who are addicted to their screens often

live very sedentary lifestyles. They don’t make enough

time for exercise, movement, community and play. These

are important factors in achieving optimal health. People

who habitually sit have as much risk of dying as people

who have bad diets or smoke. Being sedentary also

increases risk of cancer, heart disease and diabetes. If you

think about it, sitting is the new smoking.

Also, more time in front of your screen means less time

for face-to-face contact with other humans, which not

only increases stress but also feelings of isolation and

social anxiety. Too much FaceTime and Facebook, and

not enough real face-to-face time.

And there’s more. Too much screen time, especially

before bed disrupts our circadian rhythms, affecting our

hormones, our sleep and our energy. This artificial light

coming from our screens delays melatonin secretion

(needed for sleep); and we now know, that inadequate

sleep can quickly sabotage our efforts at getting healthy

and losing weight.

Sleep is a major cornerstone for an energetic, joyful,

healthy life.

One problem that’s been proven is that not getting

enough sleep or getting poor-quality sleep adversely

affects the hormones that make you hungry and store fat.

One study found that just one partial night’s sleep could

create insulin resistance. Ever wonder why you get bad

carb and sugar cravings after sleep deprivation? This is

why!

Other studies show that poor sleep contributes

to cardiovascular disease, mood disorders, poor immune

function and lower life expectancy. So, banish your phone

from your bedroom or at least switch it to airplane mode.

Downtime Linked to Healthier Habits

So many of us are used to slaving away in front of our

computers, pushing ourselves to get more work done

and be more efficient. However, a Stanford University

study found that creative output increased by an average

of 60 percent in people who took regular walks. In fact,

the more fun we have, the more we move, the more we

get out in nature and away from our devices, the more

productive we become and the healthier we are.

Attention and focus are hard to come by. Psychiatrists

increasingly diagnose “adult attention deficit disorder”

and prescribe Ritalin for grown-ups who can’t focus or

pay attention. A lot of this is caused by our distraction

by email and the ping of a new text message. Our bodies’

break down under the onslaught of stress – insomnia,

anxiety, depression and all chronic disease are made

worse by the unending stress from being constantly

plugged in.

In order to manage all of this stress, we need to unplug

and have fun. I love to incorporate play and fun in my

daily life: horseback riding, playing basketball, biking,

doing yoga, and decompressing with friends over a good

meal. These are all things that keep me happy and allow

me to recharge so I can perform well at all of my jobs –

and I have a lot of them!

Play is not just for kids, it’s for adults, too. Playing gives

us the chance to unplug, de-stress, find joy, challenge our

brain in different ways and connect with new and old

friends. It also keeps our immune systems healthy and

elevates our energy level.

I know it sounds impossible, but I suggest you

give it a try today. Here are my tips for unplugging for a

successful digital detox:


First, use a timer. Commit to only a certain amount of

screen time per day. I like to set a timer to stay focused

on the task at hand and when the timer goes off, I get up,

take a walk, stretch or take a yoga break. This keeps me

from being sedentary even on days where I have to do a

ton of work on the computer.

Next, silence your cell phone. Unplugging does not

mean going for a walk while scrolling through Facebook

and Instagram. Put your phone and your notifications on

silent so that your unplugged time isn’t interrupted by

noise. Carve out specific times to do emails, answer texts,

do social media or surf the Internet, and leave blocks of

time where your technology is turned off so you can focus,

play, read or just be.

Next, quit TV. Try going without TV for a week.

Television is a serious time suck that prevents us from

doing things we actually love to do and it keeps us from

accomplishing our goals. Quit TV for a week and watch

how much more time you have to cook and stay active.

And, finally, when it comes to exercise, find something

you love. When you don’t feel excited about going

to the gym, Netflix and that game on your smart

phone become very attractive. It’s important to find an

activity that you love. You won’t find me at the gym. I

love sports and adventurous activities that challenge

my body and my mind. Find what works for you. Find

something that you love so much, you’d rather do it than

sit in front of a screen.

About The Author

MARK HYMAN

Mark Hyman MD is the Director of Cleveland Clinic’s Center

for Functional Medicine, the Founder of The UltraWellness

Center, and a ten-time #1 New York Times Bestselling author.

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March 2021 Issue

Stop Selling Yourself Short:

3 Strategies to Beat Self Doubt

Written by Joan Herrmann

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Last week a friend called me to

share the story of something that happened to her, which she

described as ‘horrible’. While in a meeting at work, she was

put in the difficult position of having to make a quick decision

that could have serious ramifications. She said that she was

presented with two possible choices, each valid, but each with

a downside. Without much time, she weighed the options,

acknowledged the potential problems, and made her decision.

In public, she remained confident and self assured, but in

private, she was anxious, unsure, and scared.

By the time she called me, she had worked herself up into

a frenzy, having spent many hours beating herself up. She

wondered if she had made the right choice. She questioned

her decision making skills and if she had what it took to stay

in the job. She questioned her judgement. She allowed her self

doubts to take over and belittle her capabilities. My friend is an

intelligent, educated woman with many years on the job, and

yet, she doubted herself.

Does this story sound familiar? Have you ever allowed the

voice inside your head to question your abilities and cloud how

you viewed yourself?

Self doubt is part of the human experience. While it is good

to self examine and analyze action, the problem arises when

you allow the fear that fuels your doubt to consume you. When

that happens, it’s easy to become over cautious and inactive.

Self doubt makes many sell themselves short!

We’ve all been there at one time or another. Whether on

the job, managing children, or handling a personal situation,

it’s easy to question our abilities. The key is to not allow the

questioning to keep you stuck. When in doubt, try these

strategies:

Doubt your doubts. Understand that having doubts is part

of being human and that they are not the truth, but rather

stories you create about yourself. Stop writing the story. The

voice within is skilled at telling you what is wrong. Doubts

are fear driven and most of what we fear never materializes.

Before running with the fear, evaluate its legitimacy. Challenge

the doubt and call out your inner critic. Ask yourself: What if

you are more than prepared for the promotion? What if you

had everything needed to launch a business? What if your

advice was right on point?

Surround yourself with support. The people you hang out

with will either fuel your doubts or fuel your confidence. Build

a tribe of supporters. When you surround yourself with the

right people, you can be more, achieve more, and give more.

Choose wisely.

Be brave. The best way to overcome doubt is to take action.

With baby steps the more action you take, the less fear will

govern your life. When you dare to do the very thing you

doubt you can do, you will realize how little you needed to

doubt yourself. As Dale Carnegie said, “Inaction breeds doubt

and fear. Action breeds confidence and courage. If you want

to conquer fear, do not sit home and think about it. Go out

and get busy.”

It doesn’t take much to go down the black hole of self doubt.

And there will always be situations in which you will question

a decision or your ability to make it. The important thing to

remember is that as long as you use your best judgement

and do what you believe to be the right thing with the right

intention, that’s all anyone can ask of you.

Doubt kills more dreams than failure ever will. Don’t allow

it to kill yours!

About The Author

JOAN HERRMANN

Joan Herrmann is the creator of the Change Your Attitude…

Change Your life brand and host of the radio show and podcast,

Conversations with Joan. She is a motivational speaker and the

publisher of 24 Seven magazine.

To Learn More Visit:

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March 2021 Issue

A Survivor’s 5 Steps To

Overcoming Fear

Written by Lawrence Doochin

I

I was sexually abused by my mother during puberty.

As you can imagine, this had significant consequences

for my self-worth. I came out of that experience with a

certain set of colored beliefs. We are each conditioned by

childhood, whether we have undergone obvious trauma

or not.

Not only did my abuse create a lot of guilt, shame, and

anger in me, but it also created tremendous fear and a need

to control. When we have been physically, emotionally,

mentally, or sexually abused, we try to control situations

and other people to keep ourselves safe. Certainly, I did

not recognize any of the underlying effects of my abuse

well into my twenties. I was just an angry person, which

is how most people react when they are in fear.

I realized around age 30 that I had a large amount of

dysfunction, which was inherited from my abuse and

which was creating unhappiness within myself and

my relationships, especially with my wife and children.

Something pushed me to start individual therapy as I

knew that life could be much better than living as the

angry and depressed person that I was. I also entered into

a spiritual path at the same time.

My thirties and into my forties held some difficult

times for me and my family as I worked to unwind many

false beliefs I held about myself, but I was grateful for

the positive changes occurring in me. I have always

viewed this process as peeling an onion — you take off

one layer of beliefs to discover a deeper layer underneath

it. Being willing to look at our unhealthy patterns is the

key to growth and eventually getting out of fear for good.

Once we start to shine the light of awareness on what is

supporting it, our fear dissipates.

One thing I learned early on and could apply in every


situation was to watch my emotions and reactions

and ask what the belief was that was behind them.

For instance, I often was angry because I could

not control a person or situation, which stemmed

from fear. This pointed me back to the abuse. I

also realized that my judgment of others was just

my self-judgment being projected out.

Carl Jung, the father of analytical psychology,

said, “Projection is one of the commonest psychic

phenomena. Everything that is unconscious in

ourselves we discover in our neighbor and treat

him accordingly.” So my task was to pull my

judgments and projections back in, realizing this

was how I felt about myself. Every time I made an

awareness on the above situations and others, I

healed a little more.

Additionally, I recognized that there were

numerous personal and business situations where

I saw myself as a victim and gave away my power

to others. These were some hard lessons — as I

had to learn that power resides in me, and in my

knowing and trusting in who I am. Giving our

power away to others or even authorities in the

hope or expectation that they will take care of us

is actually disempowering, and causes a lot of fear.

As I released those false beliefs, my fear would

increasingly dissipate as what was true began to

be revealed. What I had previously believed about

myself came only from my experiences, but my

emotional work and spiritual journey helped me

to see that my identity was not my experiences.

My spiritual journey also helped me to trust in

something outside of myself, which I call God, and

to believe that this benevolent force “had my back”

so to speak. I felt that love and support, and I was

slowly able to release the need for control.

My spiritual revelations also helped me to

understand that there was much more than this

narrow ego lens of my experiences on this planet.

We are all here for a purpose, and we can take

comfort that we are individually and collectively

being guided, loved, and supported, and that there

is much we cannot understand. This was huge in

my releasing fear, and these realizations have been

my bedrock during the turbulent times we have

been living in.

Take these five essential steps to release yourself

from fear:

Acknowledge it. You can’t solve something if

you are in denial about it.

Ask for help. Asking for help is a type of

surrender. Even if you don’t have any type of

spiritual or religious belief, there are many human

helpers you can turn to.

Watch your emotional reactions. If you are

From The Story

“Projection

is one of the

commonest

psychic

phenomena.

Everything

that is

unconscious

in ourselves

we discover

in our

neighbor and

treat him

accordingly.”

angry, ask what belief you are angry about — usually

it’s a fear over something. If you are blaming (that’s

been big lately!) or being judgmental, and feeling

unwilling to forgive, pull that projection back and

ask what belief is supporting that judgment. You

will notice that as you do this, your judgments

soften. Those who are most trapped in fear are

the least willing to release judgment and let their

beliefs evolve. We see this manifested in all the

polarization around us.

Don’t be judgmental of yourself — as this is

a process. Be kind and especially compassionate

to yourself. We are all being pushed to evolve and

grow, both individually and collectively.

Be willing and be hungry for positive change!

It won’t always be easy, but you have to follow the

steps you are shown. Your choice is to stay in the

prison cell of your fear, or to be a warrior and take

the steps to release yourself from that cell. You

are your own jailer. But you are also much more

powerful than you know. And you are meant to live

a joy-filled life.

About The Author

LAWRENCE DOOCHIN

Lawrence Doochin is an author, entrepreneur, and

devoted husband and father. A survivor of harrowing

childhood sexual abuse, he traveled a long

journey of emotional and spiritual healing and

developed an in-depth understanding of how our

beliefs create our reality. In the business world, he

has worked for or been associated with enterprises

from small startups to multinational corporations.

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To Lie To You

Written by Sean Grover, LCSW

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You don’t want someone to lie to you; no one

does. Yet, eventually, someone will hurt with a lie.

Whether you see it coming or not, it doesn’t matter.

You still feel devastated. Sometimes the hurt is so

bad, you wonder if you will be the same again.

I used to think “feeling heartbroken” was just

an expression, even a tad dramatic and over the

top. It wasn’t until I was lied to by someone I

loved that I understood heartbreak to be a genuine

phenomenon. No other expression better captures

the essence of hurt.

I had a dull pain in the center of my chest.

Sometimes it faded during the day, but at night

it returned with a vengeance, a phantom that

delighted in my sleeplessness tortured me with

unanswered questions.


Why did this happen?

Was it my fault?

Why didn’t I see it coming?

It’s natural to feel flooded

with questions after someone

has misled you. Behind

every question is a yearning

for relief, the hope that

understanding will relieve

the pain of the lie. Yet even

with knowledge, the hurt is

likely to endure.

Certain people are more

inclined to lie and deceive

than others. Of course, this

is an oversimplification;

people don’t fit into neat

categories, but after 25 years

of practicing psychotherapy,

I’ve noticed three personality

types that are more likely to

lie to you. And, chances are,

you won’t see it coming.

Narcissists

Narcissists are frequently charismatic and

engaging. As long as they’re the center of your

attention, they shine. Unfortunately, you get

caught up in their glow. The moment you start

to question or challenge their views, they’ll

turn on you. For narcissists, love always has an

expiration date.

Substance Abusers

Oftentimes, those who are addicted to

substances become frequent liars. They may

say anything to maintain their addiction and

deceive others in their life. Too often, out of

love, you may deceive yourself and believe

them; even when their lies are blatant, you

may remain blind to reality. It may seem to

some that no one is greater skilled at lying and

manipulation than someone with a substance

use disorder who is seeking a fix.

Individuals with Bipolar or Borderline

Personality Disorders

Though there are 12 different personality

disorders, I have personally found bipolar and

borderline disorders to be among the most

destructive. In relationships, they can provide

you with a roller coaster ride of excitement.

For instance, when they love you, they love you

unconditionally. But when the tide changes,

it may be best to watch out. Their love may

From The Story

“Sometimes

the hurt is

so bad, you

wonder if you

will be the

same again.”

evaporate, and you may find yourself alone

and abandoned. A failed relationship with

someone with these diagnoses may hurt you so

badly that you may feel like you lost a piece of

yourself.

Of course, it would be difficult to find a person

who hasn’t lied to someone. Everyone is capable

of it. Yet there is a big difference between small

lies - I’m busy Saturday night - and lies that

wound - I would never cheat on you. Are there

acceptable lies in a relationship? That’s for you

to decide.

About The Author

SEAN GROVER

Sean Grover, LCSW, is a psychotherapist

and the author of When Kids Call the Shots:

How to Seize Control from Your Darling Bully and

Enjoy Being a Parent Again.

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Organize to Age in Place

Written by Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO

I

Imagine how you would react if

you were 85 years old, you’ve lived in your home for 50

years, and then your family told you that you have to move

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in an intergenerational environment.

Organizing to age in place yields the need to organize

for safety. Using the acronym DEAR, a few simple

modifications can make it easier for an older adult to

continue living comfortably and safely at home.

D - Delegate what the older adult can no longer do.

Activities like mowing the lawn, grocery shopping and food

prep, maintaining organizing systems, house cleaning,

personal care, or even driving can be outsourced. Having

help can also be a source of companionship for an older

adult who lives alone.

E – Eliminate safety hazards in the home. Move furniture

to accommodate a senior’s changing mobility and create

unobstructed access throughout the home. Tack down or

remove area rugs and electrical cords that may create a

tripping hazard. Relocate often-used items to within reach

to avoid the need to climb or bend. Keep things off stairs;

corral them in a basket used to transport things up and

down. If using the stairs is an issue, eliminate their need

by closing off upper or lower levels and moving living

areas to one floor.

A – Automate repetitive tasks that can be time and

energy drains. As we age, things “seem” to take longer

to do than they used to, and time feels more precious.

Older adults may want to spend that time in meaningful

ways. Technology allows us to schedule automatic grocery

or food delivery, bill paying, and laundry pickup. Home

automation, like security systems, lighting, thermostats,

and medical alerts, enhance an older adult’s feeling of

safety, comfort, and peace of mind.

R – Re-evaluate systems and spaces as the older adult’s

needs change. Different furniture, fixtures, and equipment

may be needed for easier mobility. There are chairs

designed for easier sitting and standing, door handles and

appliance knobs made for arthritic hands, grab bars and

handrails in attractive styles, clocks that speak or have

high-contrast illuminated larger numbers, doorbells with

modified tones, and smoke alarms with strobe lights.

About The Author

GAYLE GRUENBERG

Gayle M. Gruenberg, CPO-CD ® , CVPO is the chief executive

organizer of Let’s Get Organized, LLC, an organizer coach, and the

creator of the Make Space for Blessings system.

To Learn More Visit:

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ISSUE NO.125 MARCH 2021

SQUASH

YOUR

FEAR

OF

FAILURE

Written by Linda Mitchell


Could fear be holding you back from evolving to your

full potential? Fear can hold you back from stepping into

your power and from living your soul’s true purpose. Fear

creates resistance to the natural flow of events and blocks

blessings. It can even prevent you from overcoming

obstacles and recognizing your true strength. Fear can

stop you in your tracks even when you’re on the right

path. It can keep you from pursuing your dreams, from

rewarding opportunities and relationships because fear

squashes courage. Simply stated, fear keeps you stuck.

Overtime, fear leads to feeling unfulfilled, sad,

confused and even settles into the body creating illness,

anxiety, imbalance and dis-ease. Humans are emotional

creatures and need to be able to express, not repress

emotions. Holding emotions inside means they’ll emerge

elsewhere. Unprocessed emotional energy like fear gets

stored in muscles, organs, tissues and bones. It leads to

inflammation, chronic health problems and compromised

health. Often, I see fear stuck in the mid and low back, the

kidneys and abdomen. Yes, your unresolved emotions and

issues land in your tissues. It’s essential to acknowledge

the fear, accept it and feel it fully - without judgment.

This is the key to healing and conquering fear. Feel it to

heal it!

The good news is you can choose to grow from your

fear in a way that catapults you into a field of opportunity,

adventure and liberation! Fear is a normal and often

healthy human emotion. It’s what we choose to do with it

that makes all the difference.

Rather than letting fear run the show, tune in to your

body and listen to the fear. Is it a healthy signal of a

potential threat to your safety or is it a chronic emotion

fed by your ego-brain trying to keep you from trying

something new? Are you drowning in a sea of fear; fear

of failure, rejection, embarrassment or simply fear of not

feeling good enough? You can get slapped by a wave of

discontent and boredom in one moment and in the next

get knocked over by fear of moving beyond the comfort of

the familiar. So how do you navigate these choppy waters

and choose to ride the wave of opportunity rather than

then get stuck in the undercurrent of status quo?

First, discern the source of your anxiety and then put

your objective glasses on to see if your fears are real or

mostly speculative. Some people tend to catastrophize

and look only at the worst-case scenarios. If so, your fears

could be keeping you stuck. One of the best definitions

I’ve seen for fear is this: False Evidence Appearing Real.

False evidence keeps you comfortable and safe.

Stagnant in fear, you’ll be most comfortable when you

rationalize (I call them rational-lies) all the reasons why

you can’t move forward. I have a sign in my office that I

look at daily; it says, everything you want is on the other

side of fear. This propels me forward, ever expanding

my comfort zone and keeping me keenly aware of the

excuses I create when fear sneaks in.

If you find yourself mired in fear, recognize this human

condition, give yourself some compassion and then a

gentle nudge forward. Trying and failing is so much less

painful than settling and regretting never having tried.

Don’t let fear take control. Fear stagnation, not failure!

There isn’t a single person who hasn’t met with

failure, disappointment and the sting of defeat. Along

this journey, failure is inevitable. When you look at it as

simply part of the process, you’re more accepting. My kids

used to think I was crazy when I congratulated them for

their little failures along the way. As young adults they

see the wisdom in that encouragement. The greatest gift

you can give yourself is to recognize that your journey

toward realizing your dreams is never a straight path,

but one dotted with hurdles, fears and valuable lessons.

Conquering fear makes you fierce, wise and free.

When fear rises up, pause, breathe and choose one

small step that will move you beyond the current obstacle.

Running from your fear is more painful than facing it.

Don’t fight fear; it’s an opportunity to grow into a better

version of yourself. That’s liberating and so much more

fulfilling than staying stuck in dissatisfaction. When you

face your fears, you’ll uncover the courage to overcome

them and find the fulfillment and peace you desire and

deserve.

About The Author

LINDA MITCHELL

Linda Mitchell is a board-certified transition coach, speaker,

reinvention expert and LMT. She empowers people who are stuck,

overwhelmed or ready for change to release the struggle, gain

clarity, balance and radiant health as they move through life’s

challenges and transitions and step into their highest purpose.

To Learn More Visit:

www.LivingInspiredCoaching.com




March 2021 Issue

The Importance of

Communicating Your Wishes

Written by Lorie Gardner, RN

Do you feel you are important enough to let others know

your goals, preferences, and wishes? Have you spent the time

deciding what matters to you most about your life? What

are your values when it comes to making hard healthcare

decisions?

These are all important questions to address as you

make decisions regarding your end of life wishes. I know we

all don’t want to have to think about this, let alone discuss

it with a loved one and write up a document about it. As a

nurse advocate, I can agree with these feelings of wanting to

avoid this difficult subject, but I can assure you that once it is

done there is a sense of freedom. I have been involved in many

healthcare situations where this matter was not addressed

and there were tragic and costly consequences that you would

want to avoid. Not to mention, plenty of guilt to go around

because a crisis occurred, and you were not prepared.

I remember a complicated case where the client sustained

a stroke and was hospitalized for an extended period of time.

The client did start the recovery process but experienced

a cardiac arrest and was placed on life support. The patient

never regained consciousness and was cared for in the hospital

and then at long term care facilities for two years. There were

complicated family issues and due to this and not having a

clear advance directive it was not clear what this client would

have wanted.

There are so many online resources that can make this

conversation easier and more effective. There are wonderful

checklists and booklets you can complete and answer questions

so that all of the pertinent information you want to share is in

a clear and concise booklet.

Picking Your Healthcare Person

It is important to select a person to be your Healthcare

Proxy or Power of Attorney. That is the person who should

know your end of life wishes. This the person you designate

and ideally have a legal document drawn up. If before you

have a legal document written up, you can informally have that

conversation about your end of life wishes and that can be very

helpful as well.

On the subject of legal documents, listed below are all of the

documents and considerations that should be addressed that

involves your end of life wishes.

• Advance Directive (Living Will) so you can be specific

about what your end of life wishes are.

• Healthcare POA - a person you choose to discuss your

end of life wishes and your chosen quality of life. This person

makes medical decisions for you when you can’t. Take some

time and counsel choosing this person. It is not always a family

member. It should be someone you think has the strength and

integrity to follow through with your wishes.

•Durable POA - a person that is designated to act on your

behalf regarding financial matters if you become incapacitated.

There is a difference between a general POA and a durable and

that is the general is effective until someone is incapacitated

while the durable POA continues to death.

• POLST - Physician orders for life-sustaining treatment -

decide with your physician what end of life orders will be put

in place. This is frequently kept on a refrigerator in a home

which instructs any EMT personnel on what to do. Without

that the EMTs are required to perform all available lifesustaining

treatment.

• DNR/DNI orders – Do not resuscitate, no CPR, cardiac

drugs, or placement of a breathing tube otherwise called

intubation. DNI – do not intubate, but CPR and cardiac drugs

can be used.

• Organ donor designation

Although this is a difficult discussion and one that most of

us don’t want to ever think about, once you do, there is a sense

of accomplishment and freedom. When you do this planning,

you show your loved ones that you are providing them some

peace of mind for a time in the future that would be more

difficult without this information.

About The Author

LORIE GARDNER

Lorie Gardner RN, BSN, NBC-HWC, founded Healthlink

Advocates, Inc., to assist clients with all aspects of their

healthcare. As nurse advocates, they help clients navigate the

very complex healthcare system. Also, as nationally boardcertified

health and wellness coaches, they partner with clients

seeking more balance, less stress, increased energy, and

improved health outcomes.

To Learn More Visit:

www.healthlinkadvocates.com





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